Following just the way you are, instead of the “ordinary” set by others | Hinae Niori | TEDxSapporo

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I am surprised when I am a university first grader

We launched the organization called ‘ Three years to develop family centered studies’

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Something in the family study Utte say when the family

I think that there are also people who seem to go abroad to learn foreign countries

This is not going abroad to study abroad

Young people go to study abroad in domestic parenting families

That is such a business

Students who joined the family study abroad with a couple on the left after the right side accepted

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I will go to study abroad in close contact with my child care family like this

It is such a career program that rethinks his own way of life through it

Real Is Ne This I know the left side of the two of you couple

I wanted to think about their future together With such feeling I participated in a family study abroad together

When I was told that I would like to study a couple first

I thought it would be better to stop this

He speaks frankly about each other’s view of life so if you have not met you will break up due to family study abroad

Was

I thought I was going to do what I was supposed to do, but even these two people also participated in each other’s

Life hardly talks about their future in the future

The couple who talked about each other’s future and joined so far got along well with each other

Not that farewell you doing lightly study abroad while always also hope and I wish I want followed if

What I am going to do for my family study is pretty simple

It together and play with the children doing this does not is not a special thing

I will make lunch .

And I will continue to hear what you do not understand on the spot

What happens when the child cries, or a student in front of you with this couple talking

I’m listening

For example, the widely always do you are making making Which Toka Why did you marry this person

Or the Is

I wonder if the child has also been torn apart

I can not ask you quite what I want to take 20 Private people to 20 schools

I can not easily ask

But since I entered that person’s house I just heard the true figure of that person and listen to the real story

can do

Based on a lot of hints obtained in that, rethink my life again to the future

I want you to be positive

That is a plan for family study abroad

I ‘m pretty sure I will work at the timing of job hunting, but at that moment

Many people who start to become aware of the future of marriage raising work are coming out to college students

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In such a case actually enter the parenting family and listen to the story

Think about your own career through that experience and Hirai wants you to be positive in the summer

That is a family study program

Today I will talk about my own project family study abroad in front of you

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Also it has come out today to say a little

But in fact the summer of the first year students

I had a windy diagnosis that I was not normal

Have you ever been told by hospital Fu that personality disorder and adhd

I think that it is quite unfamiliar words to hear personality disorder

Personality disorder is that person’s personality is the social rule of the present era

And

It refers to such a state that does not match the sign

For example, long ago there is your lord

I do not know there was a time when was taking a lot bride

But when I do it in this era

I’m getting a little funny guy

The difference will society of rule by the era that way

And there is a part that does not fit the part that fits that rule

There are people who do not match each other

It does not suit the rules of society as such

I will call a personality disorder

I myself can not organize that feeling well when I thought that I am awfully sad

I was not good at telling you to wake up or organize my feelings

I had a personality

There was something that blamed himself as well as himself and herself

So there was such a thing, which is the diagnosis, such as Tteyuu personality disorder

Much if not become normal not accustomed to normal I was conflict

At the beginning I did not have a name for disease

When four years ago I had come just by now travel here to Sapporo

Because of your disposition to your personality

You had better go to the hospital.

So I was told by my best friend that time

Hmm

It was awfully shocking but with that word being stolen

Let’s go to the hospital once and say that way so I went to the hospital and made this diagnosis

It was done.

At first it was really shocking that the disease name was very shocking.

What I was accused of close friends was also awful shock and anyway it was a shock first

I really was relieved but more than anything else

Up until now I am not normal I have to be normal Because I am not ordinary Someone

I am hurting

I always thought so

I accused myself that I can not change even though I always try hard

But Oh that was diagnosed

I could not be normal.

I was trying hard and not getting anyhow managed

When I thought so, I felt that the shoulder load was going down

In the first place, I was asking for a lot I wonder what was normal

I came to think so

Even if I do something disgusting I have to do Hello I wish I could feel sad.

Absent

In the world I think that there are people who think many ordinary other than me

If you do not want to be cute, you must be smart If you buy a communication law and you have a lot of friends

But such a normal fact is actually someone’s decision and there is not any substance

I came to think so

Then little by little I will be unleashed from feelings that I should not be normal

I felt like that

I took this Shinran and in high school

It is not unusual little by little that I met npo called npo catalyba

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I feel like I seem to be thinking

npo Catalina is for high school students

It is npo who is doing education program

I have plenty of college students here

And I met seniors of society people

I enter in a big company after graduating to stand painter say year

I thought that was normal

But seniors who met to talk about the

People who have lost their physical condition and have been going to college for about 6 years

The first to enter the oral There were also people who had quit without match

It was a bit different people I knew from normal

But

Just because is not that the people are through something

People who are not ordinary are very beautiful and looks like a lot of fun and it looked very attractive

I do not have to chase the normal which I was desperately pursuing until now

It became a comprehensive so we decide their own life on their own

I feel I got a lot of such hints

But people who met with the word park is the only that of study that your work be of career

Beneath taught me

But there have been things I ‘ve been worried about for a long time ago

I wanted to make a warm family in the future I always thought so

But been a like a Shinran while ago

But relationship with people Slur I could not make it well

It may not be possible for me to spend my entire life to make a warm family

I thought so

But I got hints of my way of living by meeting lots of people in a storytelling place and it is not normal

Good

I was able to know various ways of thinking

If it is over

At the same myself Once I got a hint from a lot of the family met the same a lot of family

Would not it be something that will make that dream come true

I would like to meet various families

I began to think like that

But at the time I did not like talking in public at all

Experience Toka new things like take the chairman Toka Director Toka so I say Do not leadership

I had never experienced

For me, I take appointments to various families and go to see them and listen to stories

It seemed quite a high hurdle

Even this way

Having such a feeling that my dream may not last forever

Kizuke not well the relationship of time close to Good luck also good luck

To death to try to new things than being in the real bunch that does not Kaware even if luck

Luckless

I guess that who is mortifying to death is still much better

I have come to think like that

Might be changing this now of spicy do the painful too spicy now

I decided to set up an organization called Manami with such thought

I had never done anything

In anyway such a thought I want to hear the story from many moms that want to see a lot of family

I challenged a lot of projects

I interviewed my working mothers

And such a place to ask them to go to intern in the Child Care support what you say family

I went to see it .

I tried various things for one year and found the result

It was a family study.

It is important that you actually experience the lives of those people and listen to the real voices of those people on the spot

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Now the interesting fur is the investment has spread to the prefectural nationwide 22

I also learned so much through this family study abroad

Dad mothers are also exploring their way of life very much

Raising parents is not something to be done by themselves but by involving their families and surroundings and doing with the team

I got lots of tips from a lot of parenting households

With that child

Went I wrote large how to contact with my thinking and people

And above all

It is same as the way of life and there is no ordinary way of family

You can buy yourselves like yourself

I was taught such a thing

I got such a diagnosis that is not normal once

But after that I went around various hospitals

I went asking for various opinions

Then at the beginning I was told that personality disorder

After that it is then told adhd

Well, in a broad sense, there may be a mild developmental disorder

Well there were also teachers say so I do not have’m that enough to worry about

In other words I am somewhat I am normal or not

It can not be decided by the doctor or anyone

It began to think more and more like that

I wanted ordinary I want to be normal all the time

But the doctor does not usually know

The more you meet a person, the less ordinary you are

It began to think in such a way

It is not ordinary not to be able to forgive myself, is not it normal

Went so I think so

Then gradually getting easier feelings

What I can not do I can accept my weak point

For example, if I stay alone for a while I ‘m OK and my future is surely fun

It is sometimes difficult to keep living with hope in such a way

Its my short But if that time Hina if some people who think all right so

Not a little piece by piece

I can be a little forward stored

Ten men are now about 10 teams

But I can not understand the feelings of everyone in the wind

There are companions who are good at talking to everyone at such times and are good at thinking about everyone’s feelings

We will support you.

Before you want to be normal

I have to get to know everyone’s feelings more

I feel bad I can not feel it

I must be more positive and I can not challenge so much

He accused me of himself very much by counting myself who can not be ordinary

But as soon as I thought that I could not do it I could forgive the line by myself

Many people have come to help us knowing that

As it is, it will spread all over the country and collaborate with various companies and with universities

I collaborated and deployed to where I had never thought of myself

And I got taught by accepting family people

Sometimes it is the most important

My family is a team

I was taught so

Only one decades of life

We as a team in order to continue walking together this life is to have a family

There are lots of places we can not do where everyone can do

Because there is a place we can not do, we will create a team by ties to nature

People are not bound together because they are not ordinary people

It’s pretty ordinary It’s a wonderful thing I came to think so

I do not want to pursue ordinary things that someone has decided on without permission

Just being able to do as one person can not do it

And since you can not do it please help me to help you

Go each other leads to you each other

Such families and organizations

If such a supporting team continues to increase more and more, our future will be more

I think that it is going to be bright and wonderful

Thank you for your time today

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