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can you raise your hand if you’re

can you raise your hand if you’re familiar with the island of Guam I sell

familiar with the island of Guam I sell

familiar with the island of Guam I sell out more people that I expected yeah so

out more people that I expected yeah so

out more people that I expected yeah so Guam is the Pacific island I was born

Guam is the Pacific island I was born

Guam is the Pacific island I was born and raised in it’s an unincorporated

and raised in it’s an unincorporated

and raised in it’s an unincorporated territory of the United States and it’s

territory of the United States and it’s

territory of the United States and it’s located in Micronesia which is the

located in Micronesia which is the

located in Micronesia which is the smallest of all denita’s you know

smallest of all denita’s you know

smallest of all denita’s you know Polynesia

Polynesia

Polynesia there’s Polynesia there’s Melanesia and

there’s Polynesia there’s Melanesia and

there’s Polynesia there’s Melanesia and enters Micronesia and one of the first

enters Micronesia and one of the first

enters Micronesia and one of the first things I learned in kindergarten was

things I learned in kindergarten was

things I learned in kindergarten was that you couldn’t find Guam on a globe

that you couldn’t find Guam on a globe

that you couldn’t find Guam on a globe without using a magnifying glass

without using a magnifying glass

without using a magnifying glass imagine a half grown child standing on

imagine a half grown child standing on

imagine a half grown child standing on shore staring at the expansive horizon

shore staring at the expansive horizon

shore staring at the expansive horizon and realizing a single grain of sand is

and realizing a single grain of sand is

and realizing a single grain of sand is bigger than his home on a map now I’m

bigger than his home on a map now I’m

bigger than his home on a map now I’m not that half grown child anymore I’m

not that half grown child anymore I’m

not that half grown child anymore I’m more like half grown adult I’m like five

more like half grown adult I’m like five

more like half grown adult I’m like five five when I got my shoes on but uh when

five when I got my shoes on but uh when

five when I got my shoes on but uh when you’re a tiny kid who grows up in a tiny

you’re a tiny kid who grows up in a tiny

you’re a tiny kid who grows up in a tiny house in a very small island you

house in a very small island you

house in a very small island you naturally start to fear how big the rest

naturally start to fear how big the rest

naturally start to fear how big the rest of the world really is in a society that

of the world really is in a society that

of the world really is in a society that emphasizes the enormity of things being

emphasizes the enormity of things being

emphasizes the enormity of things being little is a huge hurdle at school the

little is a huge hurdle at school the

little is a huge hurdle at school the bigger kids started roughing me up

bigger kids started roughing me up

bigger kids started roughing me up because they could when I started coming

because they could when I started coming

because they could when I started coming home with cuts and bruises my dad

home with cuts and bruises my dad

home with cuts and bruises my dad instead of wanting to talk to the

instead of wanting to talk to the

instead of wanting to talk to the principal decided to teach me how to

principal decided to teach me how to

principal decided to teach me how to fight this guy he always said though

fight this guy he always said though

fight this guy he always said though whatever you do don’t start the fight

whatever you do don’t start the fight

whatever you do don’t start the fight just make sure you end it

just make sure you end it

just make sure you end it a bunch of my fights ended with me face

a bunch of my fights ended with me face

a bunch of my fights ended with me face flat in the dirt everything I learned

flat in the dirt everything I learned

flat in the dirt everything I learned growing up taught me that size will

growing up taught me that size will

growing up taught me that size will always be the final measurements of

always be the final measurements of

always be the final measurements of strength so how could little old me ever

strength so how could little old me ever

strength so how could little old me ever be strong I carried that question with

be strong I carried that question with

be strong I carried that question with me for almost all my life and at every

me for almost all my life and at every

me for almost all my life and at every turn it was the same answer a voice

turn it was the same answer a voice

turn it was the same answer a voice saying you’re too weak

saying you’re too weak

saying you’re too weak eventually that voice started screaming

eventually that voice started screaming

eventually that voice started screaming you will never be good enough for anyone

you will never be good enough for anyone

you will never be good enough for anyone or anything and I believed it and it all

or anything and I believed it and it all

or anything and I believed it and it all started out innocently enough didn’t it

started out innocently enough didn’t it

started out innocently enough didn’t it can’t get on the roller coaster because

can’t get on the roller coaster because

can’t get on the roller coaster because I’m too short can’t join my division in

I’m too short can’t join my division in

I’m too short can’t join my division in football because I’m too light can’t

football because I’m too light can’t

football because I’m too light can’t date girls in heels but then life got a

date girls in heels but then life got a

date girls in heels but then life got a little more complicated can’t defend the

little more complicated can’t defend the

little more complicated can’t defend the people I love can’t speak my mind

people I love can’t speak my mind

people I love can’t speak my mind because I’m too afraid can’t compete

because I’m too afraid can’t compete

because I’m too afraid can’t compete with others in my field of work on a

with others in my field of work on a

with others in my field of work on a global scale

global scale

global scale you see smallness is a state of mind

you see smallness is a state of mind

you see smallness is a state of mind that breeds feelings of weakness and

that breeds feelings of weakness and

that breeds feelings of weakness and inadequacy that smallness is often

inadequacy that smallness is often

inadequacy that smallness is often shaped by the physical interactions we

shaped by the physical interactions we

shaped by the physical interactions we have within our immediate environment we

have within our immediate environment we

have within our immediate environment we live in a world that teaches young boys

live in a world that teaches young boys

live in a world that teaches young boys bigger is better bigger means stronger I

bigger is better bigger means stronger I

bigger is better bigger means stronger I was a tiny kid from a virtually

was a tiny kid from a virtually

was a tiny kid from a virtually invisible place so I naturally felt

invisible place so I naturally felt

invisible place so I naturally felt hopelessly weak for a very long time

hopelessly weak for a very long time

hopelessly weak for a very long time until my sister gave birth to her first

until my sister gave birth to her first

until my sister gave birth to her first son Elijah my eldest nephew everyone in

son Elijah my eldest nephew everyone in

son Elijah my eldest nephew everyone in my family says he reminds them of me

my family says he reminds them of me

my family says he reminds them of me he’s musically inclined he loves to read

he’s musically inclined he loves to read

he’s musically inclined he loves to read he’s emotionally intelligent and he’s

he’s emotionally intelligent and he’s

he’s emotionally intelligent and he’s also really small

also really small

also really small so when I started seeing myself in him

so when I started seeing myself in him

so when I started seeing myself in him I grew worried I didn’t want him to

I grew worried I didn’t want him to

I grew worried I didn’t want him to harbor the same self-doubt or ever feel

harbor the same self-doubt or ever feel

harbor the same self-doubt or ever feel hopelessly weak but I knew it was

hopelessly weak but I knew it was

hopelessly weak but I knew it was inevitable and I wanted to be that super

inevitable and I wanted to be that super

inevitable and I wanted to be that super awesome uncle who could help him through

awesome uncle who could help him through

awesome uncle who could help him through it all but how could I do that if I was

it all but how could I do that if I was

it all but how could I do that if I was stuck in the same place

stuck in the same place

stuck in the same place Eli was my motivation to figure things

Eli was my motivation to figure things

Eli was my motivation to figure things out one of the most important things I

out one of the most important things I

out one of the most important things I did was ask myself in what other ways am

did was ask myself in what other ways am

did was ask myself in what other ways am i strong and I realized we need to stop

i strong and I realized we need to stop

i strong and I realized we need to stop portraying strength in such a limited

portraying strength in such a limited

portraying strength in such a limited scope if our physical locale affects how

scope if our physical locale affects how

scope if our physical locale affects how we view ourselves in relation to the

we view ourselves in relation to the

we view ourselves in relation to the rest of the world then we need to stop

rest of the world then we need to stop

rest of the world then we need to stop focusing on mass alone the extent of one

focusing on mass alone the extent of one

focusing on mass alone the extent of one strength should not be determined solely

strength should not be determined solely

strength should not be determined solely by their size

by their size

by their size why because we are so much more than a

why because we are so much more than a

why because we are so much more than a push or a pull or a fist and a body if

push or a pull or a fist and a body if

push or a pull or a fist and a body if we can teach young boys at an early age

we can teach young boys at an early age

we can teach young boys at an early age to go beyond their physical attributes

to go beyond their physical attributes

to go beyond their physical attributes to look inward to reflect on their

to look inward to reflect on their

to look inward to reflect on their abilities their values their passions

abilities their values their passions

abilities their values their passions and their knowledge we might have a

and their knowledge we might have a

and their knowledge we might have a world full of young boys who are less

world full of young boys who are less

world full of young boys who are less obsessed with proving strength through

obsessed with proving strength through

obsessed with proving strength through how much space they occupy or control or

how much space they occupy or control or

how much space they occupy or control or destroy I viewed myself as this tiny kid

destroy I viewed myself as this tiny kid

destroy I viewed myself as this tiny kid from this tiny island when I should have

from this tiny island when I should have

from this tiny island when I should have been viewing myself as a young man from

been viewing myself as a young man from

been viewing myself as a young man from Micronesia an entire region rich with

Micronesia an entire region rich with

Micronesia an entire region rich with culture and talent and perseverance I

culture and talent and perseverance I

culture and talent and perseverance I should have seen that right next to Guam

should have seen that right next to Guam

should have seen that right next to Guam is the Marianas Trench our trench is the

is the Marianas Trench our trench is the

is the Marianas Trench our trench is the deepest place on this planet it’s a

deepest place on this planet it’s a

deepest place on this planet it’s a world so submerged and unexplored we’re

world so submerged and unexplored we’re

world so submerged and unexplored we’re only just beginning to understand what’s

only just beginning to understand what’s

only just beginning to understand what’s inside of it and I think that’s how we

inside of it and I think that’s how we

inside of it and I think that’s how we should view strength

should view strength

should view strength size is not the final measurement true

size is not the final measurement true

size is not the final measurement true strength is defined by the depth of our

strength is defined by the depth of our

strength is defined by the depth of our character and of our potential I didn’t

character and of our potential I didn’t

character and of our potential I didn’t fully grasp this concept until I wrote

fully grasp this concept until I wrote

fully grasp this concept until I wrote Elijah a letter which eventually turned

Elijah a letter which eventually turned

Elijah a letter which eventually turned into a poem he’s a little too young to

into a poem he’s a little too young to

into a poem he’s a little too young to get any of it but I’d like to perform

get any of it but I’d like to perform

get any of it but I’d like to perform that poem for you tonight

that poem for you tonight

that poem for you tonight [Applause]

dear Eli I know how heavy it gets being

dear Eli I know how heavy it gets being so small you feel the weight one day

so small you feel the weight one day

so small you feel the weight one day when he breaks your nose and tells the

when he breaks your nose and tells the

when he breaks your nose and tells the principal you fell when everybody

principal you fell when everybody

principal you fell when everybody watches but nobody helps and I wish

watches but nobody helps and I wish

watches but nobody helps and I wish others would stop believing violence is

others would stop believing violence is

others would stop believing violence is the only proof of strength but the world

the only proof of strength but the world

the only proof of strength but the world we live in isn’t always so kind I’d

we live in isn’t always so kind I’d

we live in isn’t always so kind I’d rather you be prepared than broken

rather you be prepared than broken

rather you be prepared than broken that’s why I’m teaching you how to throw

that’s why I’m teaching you how to throw

that’s why I’m teaching you how to throw a punch now coz for small kids like us

a punch now coz for small kids like us

a punch now coz for small kids like us poetry will never stop a fist or a bat

poetry will never stop a fist or a bat

poetry will never stop a fist or a bat or a bullet they’ll make you feel like

or a bullet they’ll make you feel like

or a bullet they’ll make you feel like your body is a heavy regret but don’t be

your body is a heavy regret but don’t be

your body is a heavy regret but don’t be sorry for the size of your bones save

sorry for the size of your bones save

sorry for the size of your bones save your apologies for real mistakes you’re

your apologies for real mistakes you’re

your apologies for real mistakes you’re not God’s accident your hands are more

not God’s accident your hands are more

not God’s accident your hands are more than white flags your voice is more than

than white flags your voice is more than

than white flags your voice is more than a helpless plea don’t let anyone tell

a helpless plea don’t let anyone tell

a helpless plea don’t let anyone tell you that you are too small to be

you that you are too small to be

you that you are too small to be powerful

powerful

powerful remember your blood is my blood and our

remember your blood is my blood and our

remember your blood is my blood and our blood is a history of overcoming

blood is a history of overcoming

blood is a history of overcoming conquest

conquest

conquest so enjoins think to rule you like a

so enjoins think to rule you like a

so enjoins think to rule you like a village you call on the fight in your

village you call on the fight in your

village you call on the fight in your veins you bare your knuckles like teeth

veins you bare your knuckles like teeth

veins you bare your knuckles like teeth you defend that valley in your heart you

you defend that valley in your heart you

you defend that valley in your heart you teach them being big as nothing to do

teach them being big as nothing to do

teach them being big as nothing to do with how close we stand to the sky but

with how close we stand to the sky but

with how close we stand to the sky but remember eli there is more to fighting

remember eli there is more to fighting

remember eli there is more to fighting than bruises or blood more to defend

than bruises or blood more to defend

than bruises or blood more to defend than pride and body there is more to

than pride and body there is more to

than pride and body there is more to strength than muscle breaking bone or

strength than muscle breaking bone or

strength than muscle breaking bone or the glory of destruction strength is

the glory of destruction strength is

the glory of destruction strength is love to the capacity to accept others

love to the capacity to accept others

love to the capacity to accept others for who they are the ability to create

for who they are the ability to create

for who they are the ability to create meaning out of thin air

meaning out of thin air

meaning out of thin air remember strength is being a good eldest

remember strength is being a good eldest

remember strength is being a good eldest brother

brother

brother teaching family how to make music from

teaching family how to make music from

teaching family how to make music from all the world Silas

all the world Silas

all the world Silas so you shed your tears Eli but you give

so you shed your tears Eli but you give

so you shed your tears Eli but you give them back to the ocean and don’t you

them back to the ocean and don’t you

them back to the ocean and don’t you ever forget the depth of your fighting

ever forget the depth of your fighting

ever forget the depth of your fighting spirit cannot be caged by the

spirit cannot be caged by the

spirit cannot be caged by the measurements of math thank you

measurements of math thank you

measurements of math thank you [Applause]

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