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Finding My Happily Ever After | Archana Somasegar | TEDxYouth@Redmond


um thank you so much for being here

um thank you so much for being here today my name is Archana 7se her I’m a

today my name is Archana 7se her I’m a

today my name is Archana 7se her I’m a junior a rising because I’m a junior now

junior a rising because I’m a junior now

junior a rising because I’m a junior now at Harvard University and I am I’m Shane

at Harvard University and I am I’m Shane

at Harvard University and I am I’m Shane as we obsessed with Disney Princesses

as we obsessed with Disney Princesses

as we obsessed with Disney Princesses just by a show of hands here who here

just by a show of hands here who here

just by a show of hands here who here has ever wished that they could be a

has ever wished that they could be a

has ever wished that they could be a disney prince or princess well there’s

disney prince or princess well there’s

disney prince or princess well there’s no shame at that I grew up swimming

no shame at that I grew up swimming

no shame at that I grew up swimming alongside Ariel

alongside Ariel

alongside Ariel reading about faraway kingdoms with Val

reading about faraway kingdoms with Val

reading about faraway kingdoms with Val and perhaps most importantly learning to

and perhaps most importantly learning to

and perhaps most importantly learning to love sleep which is basically all that

love sleep which is basically all that

love sleep which is basically all that Sleeping Beauty did for the entirety of

Sleeping Beauty did for the entirety of

Sleeping Beauty did for the entirety of her hour and a half long film it was

her hour and a half long film it was

her hour and a half long film it was just a Laura or the crystal tiaras the

just a Laura or the crystal tiaras the

just a Laura or the crystal tiaras the beautiful ball gowns and very bottom

beautiful ball gowns and very bottom

beautiful ball gowns and very bottom ended up with just grant your every wish

ended up with just grant your every wish

ended up with just grant your every wish and of course we can’t forget about the

and of course we can’t forget about the

and of course we can’t forget about the handsome often nondescript prince that

handsome often nondescript prince that

handsome often nondescript prince that somehow guaranteed a happily ever after

somehow guaranteed a happily ever after

somehow guaranteed a happily ever after so imagine my surprise also really quick

so imagine my surprise also really quick

so imagine my surprise also really quick [Music]

um so imagine my surprise when my

um so imagine my surprise when my parents told me that the two things that

parents told me that the two things that

parents told me that the two things that were most important in determining my

were most important in determining my

were most important in determining my happily ever after was first my

happily ever after was first my

happily ever after was first my education and second the ability to give

education and second the ability to give

education and second the ability to give back to the community that I would call

back to the community that I would call

back to the community that I would call my own education and philanthropy

my own education and philanthropy

my own education and philanthropy Princess Jasmine spent her time taking

Princess Jasmine spent her time taking

Princess Jasmine spent her time taking long walks with her pet tiger or flying

long walks with her pet tiger or flying

long walks with her pet tiger or flying on a magic carpet

on a magic carpet

on a magic carpet she was definitely not concerned about

she was definitely not concerned about

she was definitely not concerned about getting over old class education or

getting over old class education or

getting over old class education or giving back to our community so why

giving back to our community so why

giving back to our community so why didn’t I have to

in classic princess fashion I grew up

in classic princess fashion I grew up right thing about standardized tests

right thing about standardized tests

right thing about standardized tests concerned about how difficult school

concerned about how difficult school

concerned about how difficult school could be at times and really wishing

could be at times and really wishing

could be at times and really wishing that for once the woodland animals would

that for once the woodland animals would

that for once the woodland animals would rally towards a cause that I cared about

rally towards a cause that I cared about

rally towards a cause that I cared about but sadly none of that ever happened I

but sadly none of that ever happened I

but sadly none of that ever happened I thought about how easy it would be to

thought about how easy it would be to

thought about how easy it would be to put a crown on my head and never have to

put a crown on my head and never have to

put a crown on my head and never have to worry about the outside world ever again

every summer my family and I would take

every summer my family and I would take a trip to India and in this every day or

a trip to India and in this every day or

a trip to India and in this every day or every summer on August 15th which is

every summer on August 15th which is

every summer on August 15th which is India’s Independence Day but also my

India’s Independence Day but also my

India’s Independence Day but also my birthday we would pile into a van that

birthday we would pile into a van that

birthday we would pile into a van that would take us to a nearby orphanage

would take us to a nearby orphanage

would take us to a nearby orphanage called with a monk on a bed and we would

called with a monk on a bed and we would

called with a monk on a bed and we would spend what I like to think of as my

spend what I like to think of as my

spend what I like to think of as my special day

special day

special day serving and making food for the

serving and making food for the

serving and making food for the ordinance man the Sun would scorch me

ordinance man the Sun would scorch me

ordinance man the Sun would scorch me the mosquitoes would bite me and I would

the mosquitoes would bite me and I would

the mosquitoes would bite me and I would ask myself over and over again why I was

ask myself over and over again why I was

ask myself over and over again why I was there but year after year we would see

there but year after year we would see

there but year after year we would see the same girls we would braid each

the same girls we would braid each

the same girls we would braid each other’s hair as the same sticky fingers

other’s hair as the same sticky fingers

other’s hair as the same sticky fingers and we would tell each other about our

and we would tell each other about our

and we would tell each other about our lives about our worlds that were so

lives about our worlds that were so

lives about our worlds that were so different from one of them they were so

different from one of them they were so

different from one of them they were so different from one another but the more

different from one another but the more

different from one another but the more I began to think about it the more I

I began to think about it the more I

I began to think about it the more I began to realize that maybe we weren’t

began to realize that maybe we weren’t

began to realize that maybe we weren’t subject right after all we both had

subject right after all we both had

subject right after all we both had goals we both had dreams and we both had

goals we both had dreams and we both had

goals we both had dreams and we both had the potential to make those dreams come

the potential to make those dreams come

the potential to make those dreams come true from police people to tailors to

true from police people to tailors to

true from police people to tailors to seems your sister pure engineers to

seems your sister pure engineers to

seems your sister pure engineers to doctorate these girls represented a

doctorate these girls represented a

doctorate these girls represented a spectrum

spectrum

spectrum when the next generation was going to

when the next generation was going to

when the next generation was going to look like the only difference between me

look like the only difference between me

look like the only difference between me and them was the fact that we were born

and them was the fact that we were born

and them was the fact that we were born in two different circumstances I had

in two different circumstances I had

in two different circumstances I had been given access to knowledge to

been given access to knowledge to

been given access to knowledge to resources and most importantly to an

resources and most importantly to an

resources and most importantly to an unwavering support system that told me

unwavering support system that told me

unwavering support system that told me time and time again that the sky was my

time and time again that the sky was my

time and time again that the sky was my limit and I don’t think I realized it at

limit and I don’t think I realized it at

limit and I don’t think I realized it at the time but it was this very support

the time but it was this very support

the time but it was this very support system that gave me the strength to

system that gave me the strength to

system that gave me the strength to break ceilings that people’s that I

break ceilings that people’s that I

break ceilings that people’s that I couldn’t break and open doors that I

couldn’t break and open doors that I

couldn’t break and open doors that I didn’t even realize were closed and the

didn’t even realize were closed and the

didn’t even realize were closed and the more I thought about this the more I

more I thought about this the more I

more I thought about this the more I began to realize that this circumstance

began to realize that this circumstance

began to realize that this circumstance this twist of fate this coin would

this twist of fate this coin would

this twist of fate this coin would determine who was born where and when

determine who was born where and when

determine who was born where and when was not an excuse to deprive anyone of

was not an excuse to deprive anyone of

was not an excuse to deprive anyone of the right to craft their own future when

the right to craft their own future when

the right to craft their own future when I returned home from India I returned to

I returned home from India I returned to

I returned home from India I returned to my life of privilege – air conditioning

my life of privilege – air conditioning

my life of privilege – air conditioning – guaranteed meals my biggest concern

– guaranteed meals my biggest concern

– guaranteed meals my biggest concern turned into my biology test that I had

turned into my biology test that I had

turned into my biology test that I had the next day or the essay that I had

the next day or the essay that I had

the next day or the essay that I had written or read the materials or what I

written or read the materials or what I

written or read the materials or what I was not worried about was what was going

was not worried about was what was going

was not worried about was what was going to happen when I turned 18

to happen when I turned 18

to happen when I turned 18 and no orphanage would take me in

and no orphanage would take me in

and no orphanage would take me in anymore I was not worried about where or

anymore I was not worried about where or

anymore I was not worried about where or when my next meal was going to come from

when my next meal was going to come from

when my next meal was going to come from and I’m just certainly not thinking

and I’m just certainly not thinking

and I’m just certainly not thinking about my future saying I want to be

about my future saying I want to be

about my future saying I want to be economically independent but I was never

economically independent but I was never

economically independent but I was never given the skills to do so now it was

given the skills to do so now it was

given the skills to do so now it was this that really just made me decide

this that really just made me decide

this that really just made me decide that

that

that maybe I would get one of the via try

maybe I would get one of the via try

maybe I would get one of the via try maybe I would try to make a change and I

maybe I would try to make a change and I

maybe I would try to make a change and I joined an organization called the circle

joined an organization called the circle

joined an organization called the circle of women which is a nonprofit

of women which is a nonprofit

of women which is a nonprofit organization that builds schools in

organization that builds schools in

organization that builds schools in developing countries for girls now

developing countries for girls now

developing countries for girls now through this organization I got the

through this organization I got the

through this organization I got the first opportunity that I think really

first opportunity that I think really

first opportunity that I think really changed my life which was the

changed my life which was the

changed my life which was the opportunity to visit an orphanage in

opportunity to visit an orphanage in

opportunity to visit an orphanage in a different one called the Rhema garden

a different one called the Rhema garden

a different one called the Rhema garden and stay there and help out for a week

and stay there and help out for a week

and stay there and help out for a week and get to know the girls there and from

and get to know the girls there and from

and get to know the girls there and from this experience one story really stands

this experience one story really stands

this experience one story really stands out to me every day the girls aboard the

out to me every day the girls aboard the

out to me every day the girls aboard the public bus to ride to the government

public bus to ride to the government

public bus to ride to the government school that was nearby in the afternoon

school that was nearby in the afternoon

school that was nearby in the afternoon I would board the same bus and I would

I would board the same bus and I would

I would board the same bus and I would go pick up the girls and I would talk to

go pick up the girls and I would talk to

go pick up the girls and I would talk to them they would be so excited to tell me

them they would be so excited to tell me

them they would be so excited to tell me about their days is what they have

about their days is what they have

about their days is what they have learned since the last time they’d seen

learned since the last time they’d seen

learned since the last time they’d seen each other on this particular day I was

each other on this particular day I was

each other on this particular day I was sitting beside a girl who might seek

sitting beside a girl who might seek

sitting beside a girl who might seek before and – I had talked to but it

before and – I had talked to but it

before and – I had talked to but it never spent like a whole lot of time

never spent like a whole lot of time

never spent like a whole lot of time getting to know as I sat down next to

getting to know as I sat down next to

getting to know as I sat down next to her she began to rummage through her old

her she began to rummage through her old

her she began to rummage through her old bag that she used to carry her books and

bag that she used to carry her books and

bag that she used to carry her books and for what seems like a pretty long time

for what seems like a pretty long time

for what seems like a pretty long time and so naturally I was a little curious

and so naturally I was a little curious

and so naturally I was a little curious as to what she was looking for and

as to what she was looking for and

as to what she was looking for and finally she seemed to have found it and

finally she seemed to have found it and

finally she seemed to have found it and there it was she took it out

there it was she took it out

there it was she took it out she looked at it for a second and Nikol

she looked at it for a second and Nikol

she looked at it for a second and Nikol chair it was old small hobros of being

chair it was old small hobros of being

chair it was old small hobros of being honest but an old piece of candy she

honest but an old piece of candy she

honest but an old piece of candy she catch me with a big smile on her face

catch me with a big smile on her face

catch me with a big smile on her face and she said this is for you I think

and she said this is for you I think

and she said this is for you I think about that for a moment for these girls

about that for a moment for these girls

about that for a moment for these girls getting three meals a day wasn’t

getting three meals a day wasn’t

getting three meals a day wasn’t guaranteed let alone a piece of candy it

guaranteed let alone a piece of candy it

guaranteed let alone a piece of candy it was clear that she had been saving this

was clear that she had been saving this

was clear that she had been saving this for such a long time that it was

for such a long time that it was

for such a long time that it was important to her but she was willing to

important to her but she was willing to

important to her but she was willing to turn and give it to me a relative

turn and give it to me a relative

turn and give it to me a relative stranger someone who came from such a

stranger someone who came from such a

stranger someone who came from such a privileged background but she was

privileged background but she was

privileged background but she was willing to share with me everything she

willing to share with me everything she

willing to share with me everything she had her prized possession now for me

had her prized possession now for me

had her prized possession now for me with all the resources I have at my

with all the resources I have at my

with all the resources I have at my disposal I’m so reluctant to part with

disposal I’m so reluctant to part with

disposal I’m so reluctant to part with any of it if my sister asks for half of

any of it if my sister asks for half of

any of it if my sister asks for half of my cookie I will tell her off there is

my cookie I will tell her off there is

my cookie I will tell her off there is no nothing it’s not sharing what it

no nothing it’s not sharing what it

no nothing it’s not sharing what it comes it doesn’t come as easily and then

comes it doesn’t come as easily and then

comes it doesn’t come as easily and then this is when I realized that getting

this is when I realized that getting

this is when I realized that getting back that lambda V is

back that lambda V is

back that lambda V is on a side thing that you do with snot

on a side thing that you do with snot

on a side thing that you do with snot something you try out it’s a

something you try out it’s a

something you try out it’s a responsibility and it’s an obligation to

responsibility and it’s an obligation to

responsibility and it’s an obligation to give back to the community that has

give back to the community that has

give back to the community that has given you so much to make sure that the

given you so much to make sure that the

given you so much to make sure that the forward cycle continues and that is what

forward cycle continues and that is what

forward cycle continues and that is what inspired me to build a sewing studio in

inspired me to build a sewing studio in

inspired me to build a sewing studio in a computer lab for that orphanage in

a computer lab for that orphanage in

a computer lab for that orphanage in India I decided that I was going to be a

India I decided that I was going to be a

India I decided that I was going to be a part of the structural change that was

part of the structural change that was

part of the structural change that was going to make things better and I

going to make things better and I

going to make things better and I realized that this kind of change

realized that this kind of change

realized that this kind of change doesn’t come from the outside it comes

doesn’t come from the outside it comes

doesn’t come from the outside it comes from the community itself driven by a

from the community itself driven by a

from the community itself driven by a desire for something more my sophomore

desire for something more my sophomore

desire for something more my sophomore year I was privileged enough to get the

year I was privileged enough to get the

year I was privileged enough to get the opportunity to join the Teen Advisory

opportunity to join the Teen Advisory

opportunity to join the Teen Advisory Board for the United Nations Foundation

Board for the United Nations Foundation

Board for the United Nations Foundation because people were finally beginning to

because people were finally beginning to

because people were finally beginning to realize that if you want to change the

realize that if you want to change the

realize that if you want to change the lives of girls around the world it was

lives of girls around the world it was

lives of girls around the world it was time you stopped talking about girls and

time you stopped talking about girls and

time you stopped talking about girls and started talking with them for a change

started talking with them for a change

started talking with them for a change it was opportunities like this that gave

it was opportunities like this that gave

it was opportunities like this that gave us a chance to raise our voices to begin

us a chance to raise our voices to begin

us a chance to raise our voices to begin to be a part of that conversation and

to be a part of that conversation and

to be a part of that conversation and it’s not about waiting for an invitation

it’s not about waiting for an invitation

it’s not about waiting for an invitation to the table we don’t need to wait for

to the table we don’t need to wait for

to the table we don’t need to wait for that it’s about realizing that when we

that it’s about realizing that when we

that it’s about realizing that when we contribute and speak on what we believe

contribute and speak on what we believe

contribute and speak on what we believe in and the ideas that emerge our line

in and the ideas that emerge our line

in and the ideas that emerge our line paralleled and we and I got to

paralleled and we and I got to

paralleled and we and I got to experience this very phenomena this past

experience this very phenomena this past

experience this very phenomena this past year my sophomore year at Harvard

year my sophomore year at Harvard

year my sophomore year at Harvard University or I was elected to be the

University or I was elected to be the

University or I was elected to be the sole representative for the United

sole representative for the United

sole representative for the United States at the girl’s 20s on it and

States at the girl’s 20s on it and

States at the girl’s 20s on it and Turkey such as a little bit of that

Turkey such as a little bit of that

Turkey such as a little bit of that ground on this summit is it takes one

ground on this summit is it takes one

ground on this summit is it takes one girl from each of the g20 countries and

girl from each of the g20 countries and

girl from each of the g20 countries and we come together to in a summit that

we come together to in a summit that

we come together to in a summit that happens during the g20 to create a

happens during the g20 to create a

happens during the g20 to create a communique on how we the women of g20

communique on how we the women of g20

communique on how we the women of g20 countries we’re going to hold our

countries we’re going to hold our

countries we’re going to hold our leaders responsible for the promise that

leaders responsible for the promise that

leaders responsible for the promise that they made to increase female labor force

they made to increase female labor force

they made to increase female labor force and participation by 100 million by year

and participation by 100 million by year

and participation by 100 million by year 2025 and in presenting this communicate

2025 and in presenting this communicate

2025 and in presenting this communicate to our g20

to our g20

to our g20 years we affirmed that our voices

years we affirmed that our voices

years we affirmed that our voices weren’t going only going to draw

weren’t going only going to draw

weren’t going only going to draw attention to the problems but be

attention to the problems but be

attention to the problems but be instrumental in creating the solutions

and we were going to fight for things

and we were going to fight for things like paid maternity leave and equal pay

like paid maternity leave and equal pay

like paid maternity leave and equal pay for equal work ideas that have been

for equal work ideas that have been

for equal work ideas that have been repeated over and over again so many

repeated over and over again so many

repeated over and over again so many times that they seem stale but somehow

times that they seem stale but somehow

times that they seem stale but somehow the world has yet to listen but what of

the world has yet to listen but what of

the world has yet to listen but what of us say is that the more as I’ve grown

us say is that the more as I’ve grown

us say is that the more as I’ve grown older and as I’ve gotten more involved

older and as I’ve gotten more involved

older and as I’ve gotten more involved in this work the voices that contribute

in this work the voices that contribute

in this work the voices that contribute to this cause have multiplied at a groan

to this cause have multiplied at a groan

to this cause have multiplied at a groan and strength and that is what I realized

and strength and that is what I realized

and strength and that is what I realized this past May when I was invited to be

this past May when I was invited to be

this past May when I was invited to be speaker at v– anything agent at being

speaker at v– anything agent at being

speaker at v– anything agent at being women deliver conference in Copenhagen I

women deliver conference in Copenhagen I

women deliver conference in Copenhagen I will travel to me and I realized the

will travel to me and I realized the

will travel to me and I realized the people were finally beginning to

people were finally beginning to

people were finally beginning to understand that you the voices were so

understand that you the voices were so

understand that you the voices were so powerful it’s so strong that we are not

powerful it’s so strong that we are not

powerful it’s so strong that we are not the leaders of tomorrow but louder the

the leaders of tomorrow but louder the

the leaders of tomorrow but louder the leaders of right now we were the ones

leaders of right now we were the ones

leaders of right now we were the ones who are going to draw attention to the

who are going to draw attention to the

who are going to draw attention to the problems that we care about we were the

problems that we care about we were the

problems that we care about we were the ones who are going to create those

ones who are going to create those

ones who are going to create those solutions together our voices we’re

solutions together our voices we’re

solutions together our voices we’re going to be what made the difference I’m

going to be what made the difference I’m

going to be what made the difference I’m sure there were times along the way

sure there were times along the way

sure there were times along the way where people said no no you can’t do it

where people said no no you can’t do it

where people said no no you can’t do it No maybe when you’re older

No maybe when you’re older

No maybe when you’re older no what you have more experience but I

no what you have more experience but I

no what you have more experience but I was beginning to realize that my impact

was beginning to realize that my impact

was beginning to realize that my impact was not going to be defined by what

was not going to be defined by what

was not going to be defined by what someone told me I could or could it do

someone told me I could or could it do

someone told me I could or could it do but rather movements that I’m going to

but rather movements that I’m going to

but rather movements that I’m going to change the world start from us and that

change the world start from us and that

change the world start from us and that we are the ones who are going to have to

we are the ones who are going to have to

we are the ones who are going to have to leave to raise our voices to make a

leave to raise our voices to make a

leave to raise our voices to make a change happen so yes Disney Princesses

change happen so yes Disney Princesses

change happen so yes Disney Princesses will always be a part of me I will never

will always be a part of me I will never

will always be a part of me I will never give up my childhood of wishing I could

give up my childhood of wishing I could

give up my childhood of wishing I could talk to animals or that my life was set

talk to animals or that my life was set

talk to animals or that my life was set to

to

to soundrack I still wish that believe me

soundrack I still wish that believe me

soundrack I still wish that believe me but I would never trade my future for

but I would never trade my future for

but I would never trade my future for Prince Charming’s happily ever after

Prince Charming’s happily ever after

Prince Charming’s happily ever after never would I to give up the opportunity

never would I to give up the opportunity

never would I to give up the opportunity to use my voice to create the change

to use my voice to create the change

to use my voice to create the change that I want to see in this world because

that I want to see in this world because

that I want to see in this world because regardless of what expectations there

regardless of what expectations there

regardless of what expectations there are or what people have to say my happy

are or what people have to say my happy

are or what people have to say my happy ending is going to be exactly that my

ending is going to be exactly that my

ending is going to be exactly that my own thank you very much

own thank you very much

own thank you very much [Applause]

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