Eu não planejei, mas ser mãe mudou a minha vida! | Pâmela Ghilardi | TEDxUnisinos

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I never had a life plan I never

I wanted to be a medical dance teacher.

Whatever it is

I also never wanted to marry I have one

son and I have been letting life take me

You know and it was more or less in that style.

village king that I ended up

pregnant a person I do not

had a stable relationship

and I did not want to be a mother and the only one

thing that I thought I did not want

have that child and will stop

My pregnancy and my parents are

discovering and I remember to this day

look at my father’s disappointment but mine

parents hugged me and we follow in

front and beyond having to deal with everything

what was going on in my life with

all internal issues and still

had to deal with people myself

looking ugly on the street

they did not look like the poor guy finished

with her life I thought so

also thought that it had ended with the

my life because to me motherhood

it was still what happens in commercials

disposable diapers in that

maternity where you will fall in love

for the first time when your child

born

william or that from that moment

to make sense but for me it was not

like this

My name is my son the moment I

I saw him I did not cry the moment I

I saw him and hey I’m a butter

melted but I did not cry I found

that’s why I could not be

a good mother

I thought I could not love my

son as every mother should love his

son to me

motherhood was to know what her son

you need to know what the

I cried and I did not know which was the

cry of my son when he cried

I do not know if it was full of hunger will

Sleep history for me is more or

less like a college entrance examination

When we do not know any question

mark all there is any we will

hit and for me always in doubt

put my son to breastfeed and

breastfeeding was something else that

It was very complicated for me and you.

produces milk and it is strange that no

talk on sleepless nights and

even making me almost a zombie of the

ok idea or feeling like a cow

milkmaid suckling my son

or by making an

to find out what was the cry I have not yet

I feel like a mother but I could not stop

I had to keep trying and I

find continue

doing what he was doing even not

knowing what he’s doing and has days

love me and fuck we have others that I

I’m sure I was not born for

that

I ‘m not that gil mother.

You guys come around what you do is dishes

with vegetables and graces I am much more

A team is here today and I do not do it.

like my son left home armed

but I already let him sleep without taking

shower

Do you remember that mother you know?

because she’s fiddling with the phone

her son is lying on the floor

Photo taken on the internet

this morning he looks and the bike was in

atlanta united states

and she had her flight canceled and the

airline did not have more chic

so she could sleep in the hotel and

she is her daughter two months out that

sleeping on the airport floor

a lot of people played them or know

Her story and I’ve also been to

your mother

I was also tried without the people

You know what was happening and I already

I left my son moving his cell phone

watching the drawings on youtube so that

I could eat a still hot girl

or else I just do not do

nothing but no problem

many people think I’m going to be the one

We were already the mother of the world, but

No matter, no one is perfect and in

maternity

we still are not perfect but

that the incident to its perfection of the

Motherhood, we can not

every mother fails and has no

problem in this and some people may

to think that I will not be a good mother

because my son does not have a family

dictated as traditional but whatever it says

it is a family that is talking to

It’s a family because my son does not

has the presence of his father inside the

our house but my daughter we are in

a family a small family but

full of love and not to mention

comments from people when they

They discover that I did not date my father.

of my son

they talk like that but never wanted to try

relationship with him and also has

people who also said so ah

Relax will soon find someone but

I need to have someone in my life is

I need to have a partner someone who

play the role of father inside my

My house my son has a father but he is

gift

I do not need anyone from my house.

to play the role of father and many

people think that mothers

single

in search of a father for their son more

that’s not it, I have my house and I

paid my bills sometimes and I do not

paid my bills

but my son has a great education

and I’m sure that something of

good is doing and as the

years I was realizing that I needed

take care of the woman who had become

woman who had been born along with my

son and when I had your son had more

less a year and a half I started dating

was a three-year relationship where

I was discovering myself a new person and

I became a much better mother.

people think they will forget the

But I ‘m not going to become a

Much better mother because she was happy.

with myself and I a woman who

motherhood has made me a woman who

Do you know what you want?

sometimes I do not know but most of the

Sometimes I know I want to see where I

I want to arrive

I work to respond to these mothers.

so they can take a shower

tranquil

or so that they do not need to

bathroom with company who’s mother knows

this happens we always have a

company right?

and that’s why I work so hard for

to learn other mothers we are more

Real people are not just the mother of

So we love our children, but

We want to be a woman too.

We want to be able and in the boat our friends.

because we can not take a

beer with friends, right?

I once posted this photo on

social networks

drinking a beer and my readers

they adored them side our people

almost does not see it on the blogs of

maternity and but I came across

Someone in my family is asking me

The wrong of the post is not wrong either .

is drinking beer since it is a

maternity soda

but because I can not the people

they end up half thinking that mothers

are immaculate beings are pure beings

But why do we do this too?

and woman we can not do not need

fail to do and I work and

empowerment of social networks so that

women can say yes I am

tired I need help I go

choose the type of delivery I want

I’m going to breastfeed, I’m not going back to

the job market then goals then

I’m going to drop everything to stay at home.

taking care of my son

No problem, and beyond

all these internal processes and

external

We still have to deal with the body.

that we have and after motherhood

and I confess to you that she sees i

almost five years to accept my

body I ‘m not saying I like

but it’s the body that I have that is the

my body and when I decided to vent

I did a more test report of the networks

social

It was the one I gave myself the most where I

I said no this is me and accept the

society that this only me and this story

and liberalized and I ended the stage of

Do not forget to talk a little.

more about this planning

I’m the best name for my son.

not my neighbor on the side was not

My friend I was never a mother and my

son never had one so I ‘m the one

best mother wanting or not we

I’m learning he’s learning and

As things went on

Here I was transforming myself I realized

That I had to open my head.

for other issues such as abortion as

gender issues and racism and when

I was invited to join the team

of computers in the Atlantean network by

Afghan blog

I realized that I needed for me was

one more about feminism and people

for some people it was even him

is a lesbian connected to a woman who

walks by the armpits or else the two

things together and for some people

still feminism unlike

machismo but feminism on the street

contrary to machismo feminism is a

fight for equal rights

an x in the system of domination and

wanting or not but I have a list

so present in our lives that we

nor does it realize the machismo is present in

maternity also it is present

when school tickets come

only for mothers

he is present when parents

ovated for changing a diaper

weinmann mother dyná change diaper to see

it is also present when a

job interview only mothers

have to answer if they have a child

no

China is present in the maternity

when the exchanger is – female

or when the mother has to

breastfeed her child in public she has

to be ashamed because people

They think she’s doing something

wrong

only forget that in the carnival but

they think they were beautiful, they were not happy, right?

And one day my son asked me to

I cook for him and I bought only

When I went to the store, I came across this

Get pink and get pissed

because it was a pink thing because

just a toy but because the

society directing all

toys only two girls and had a

another day he asked me to paint

his nails because he is going through

lines he asked to paint him and I

I said that I was not going to paint because

bad for his health on account of

all the products they have and not because

it was not a boy thing

You understand the difference, I took the

side of the situation and speak

on these issues and empowerment

female racism any of these

things are not mine is that the

people say they do not need

support the causes

they do not have to be

flag of these issues is only

respect and that’s what we expect

these days a friend of mine told me

Note an awakening of the best

people and I realized how much I am

grateful to be able to use my life as

instrument to improve the lives of others

people

It’s the blog mother gossip he was born by

tell me this so I could

help and as a result ends

helping others

There are days that I share and I received

a plan comment was all that

needed to hear today was just that

or simplan then by exactly the

same thing

what a crazy thing and people come and

incredible feedbacks come to me

help and I’m surprised how

digital influencers have this power

we have a power that we do not

have a notion that people reach people who

people can not see people

meet on the street and say everything has changed

my life as a leader

I’m not anyone else, I’m

doing my part here I’m doing

something that makes me good

I’m doing something that they do.

next when I help the other ends

helping me too

sometimes when I give advice to

one of my readers and ends up

learning also with the situation

her or with me

I behaved in front of it and I am a

influence of the edict with great pride

and I discovered myself in this profession and it’s a

option that should be taken very

seriously because people do not

tried to have us have a

smile or for us to form her

some way then I have a lot

proud to be able to say that I can

change people’s lives

and those people who get ugly

street that they thought I was going to end up

with my life is no longer a surprise

for me and I did not have a

life

Today I want to change the world, thank you.

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