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El motor más importante de tu vida | David Salomón | TEDxCancún


Translator: Zeeva Livshitz Reviewer: Ido Dekkers

I thought of being a transvestite

(Laughter)

Why are you laughing?

You imagine me as a minister

Or pakita de la brio?

No, I was thinking of being a transvestite or a dentist,

Or being an air steward,

That was what I told my father

I was going to be what I wanted to be

Fortunately, I grew up in a family

In which, though between me and my parents

There was a huge generation gap,

Because my mother gave birth to me at the age of 40

So they say that I was born not really normal

But … I do not think it was all her fault

They always supported me unconditionally,

Unconditionally, whatever I decide.

It is very important to me to talk about this issue today.

How the strongest driving force,

My parents gave me

He loved unconditionally.

And why am I talking about it today?

How many parents are here today?

Parents of you, raise your hand.

Or those who want to be parents someday.

Yes? Good

Well, I have news for you.

You’ve had a lot of trouble

(Laughter)

Really, I tell you

Because I just remembered

In a sentence my friend told me here in Cancún,

Although it is not very beautiful it is very true,

And the mothers would agree. The trial says,

Mothers, doing what we do, we messed up big time.

In itself, raising children is a very complicated thing

Because it’s a huge responsibility

Imagine all that implies

Once they are born, diapers, doctors, then schools,

In other words, all the usual things.

In the case of people who think we are successful

Or, for example, in the case of celebrities,

People never seem to think of parents.

They’re used to all the other parents,

Who work in regular jobs,

And they have regular struggles,

There is a point that parents always forget

And that I always emphasize.

We are always asked the same question,

We are particularly asked in interviews

When people recognize us on the street,

“Hey David, how did you win?”

“How does it work with so famous people and celebrities?”

Well, everything is normal.

“How did you succeed?”

Well, work, work and a lot of effort

But in fact, for me the secret formula

Is the work that parents do.

The parents, father and mother, are the characters

That we carry with us throughout our lives,

In our personal, professional, and in all respects.

So I tell them that they have a heavy burden.

Because what they do with their sons and daughters

Will remain with them throughout their lives.

In the cases of successful people and in cases of problematic people

And certainly in cases of serial killers and even politicians,

Or worse than we can imagine

(Laughter)

why?

Because really, all the time

We carry with us the teachings of the parents.

So when a person has a chance

Work if great personalities

With great celebrities,

He notices when a person has received a proper education

And proper education, as the tedious sentence says,

It’s something you get from infancy.

Education is something you bring home

Training is the responsibility of the schools

But education, no.

Education is the fruit of the parents’ struggle.

And understand it

When you work, for example,

With Oscar de la Renta, I had a wonderful time

Get to know him, work with him and spend time with him,

Watch it work.

You notice when a person has a remarkably good education.

– If only my mother would hear me say those words.

But one notices when a man is manly and manners,

How he relates to others,

How does this manifest when he is in contact with others?

Understand that it is important to work in a team

The importance of the one standing here

Equals those standing behind.

And the same thing on the track,

Everyone thinks it’s the designer

And it’s not, that’s the whole team of people behind the scenes.

And this is very much related to the parents’ behavior.

That’s why I’m always very upset

Because they invite me a lot to university conferences.

Now it is very fashionable to be a fashion designer.

These girls do not really know what they are doing.

(Laughter)

It’s true that parents have some kind of commitment

Which I think they never thought of

Apart from satisfying their needs, there are other issues

One of them is that there needs to be discernment

Excellent discernment, to understand if your son or daughter

There is a knack for doing what you want them to do.

Because I spent 45 minutes looking at the bottom of the barrel,

When I talk to a father who tells me he has a daughter,

For 45 minutes he told me

That the daughter wants to be a model and that she has everything she needs from a model.

How tall is your daughter?

1.20 [meters] (Laughter.)

In other words, it is not someone who has a good distinction

Good distinction

It’s like in the case of parents of successful people,

Like Rommel Pacheco’s

Who at the age of 11 Rommel’s mother could recognize

If I am not mistaken at age,

She could tell that Romel had the ability

And a passion for jumping into the water.

And as in many cases of mothers

Of famous supermodels,

Who I worked with, and spoke with some of them,

The parents were always there.

So this is not a magic formula,

It is no coincidence that parents are part of us.

They are part of us in a very important way.

Because we always carry our parents with us throughout our lives.

It’s not that easy to think about.

It’s not easy to accept.

And it’s even harder when you have children.

Because now I have the difficulties

And now I have to solve them and see what they tell me,

In conversations I conduct with students

One of the problems I often encounter

Is the lack of passion.

Today’s generation, which is the generation of “touch.”

They want everything “now.”

They want everything fast

Just like it works on the iPhone

“Bing Tan, Tan” and that’s it.

This only happens on the iPhone,

Bing works only on your iPhone. (Laughter)

Outside your iPhone you eat it big

And anyone who says otherwise deceives you

It’s true, it’s a lie.

And I can tell you

Because even people we criticize for having no talent

When we talk about something, like singers who have no voice

“That, he does not have it,

David, Adriana Lima is not really worth it

Man! (Laughter)

And Adriana in this case

We all know who Adriana Lima is

Adriana and many others, left us with an outstanding lesson

Now when I read this book

I liked to discover the sentence he was saying

This life has a lot to offer us,

Me, you, everyone

But it does not come for free,

It’s not free.

Nothing is free.

Life encapsulates great things for everyone,

I tell you this from the bottom of my heart,

But it’s not free.

It takes a lot of work,

A lot of effort

But there is a huge credit point in your favor,

There is one thing that is free

And that’s what you have for free

And what we all have for free

This is our potential.

You have the potential to do something

Whether it be to be a great scientist

Or to be an important mafia member,

Or whatever else you can

We will not enter questions of intimacy about sex

Because even that requires ability

And money.

But you have the potential.

You are the ones who decide,

If you want the potential to take you

Where you want to be.

But it’s not free,

Only through hard work and effort,

With a lot of effort and work.

So you say, what’s that for and about the parents?

That contemporary generations,

In these conversations,

Which always bothers me a lot

To see the heads of these children in the clouds

This generation of children worried me

Until I understand

Not the generation in trouble

It’s my generation of trouble

Your generation, your parents

And those who want to be parents

Because there is hopelessness

It is so disproportionate to give them everything

And to ease them all

That we are really creating a useless generation

Of bullies and drinkers

As I said on my networks

And if we do not notice, you will not notice

Remember when I told you that being parents is trouble?

It’s even worse if you do not pay attention

Because it happened and it happens

So you have to learn to pass it on to your children

To break through these paths of distinction,

These channels of interest to their children,

Who really speak, analyze, watch,

To be near them like policemen,

Discreet, but always close to them

To know what decisions their children are making,

Which are very important to me.

Toward the end, I would like to leave a sentence that fascinated me

He is also from a book that came to me

at the right time; Who says,

This concerns me personally because my parents are no longer with me

Your parents may still be with you and this is a blessing

Or maybe you are the parents.

Parents die, die,

And it hurts when they die,

But even when they are gone

A man is never separated from his parents

The children never separate from their parents.

Thank you.

(Applause)

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