the depression is a choice not necessarily a result of the chemical
necessarily a result of the chemical
necessarily a result of the chemical imbalance now let that sink in permit
imbalance now let that sink in permit
imbalance now let that sink in permit so it’s not a choice like when you’re
so it’s not a choice like when you’re
so it’s not a choice like when you’re going in to order a latte rather it is
going in to order a latte rather it is
going in to order a latte rather it is an unconscious creative solution that
an unconscious creative solution that
an unconscious creative solution that your mind comes up with to solve her
your mind comes up with to solve her
your mind comes up with to solve her impossible life situations that the
impossible life situations that the
impossible life situations that the person may come across so how is it
person may come across so how is it
person may come across so how is it possible well humans are some of the
possible well humans are some of the
possible well humans are some of the most creative individuals anywhere if
most creative individuals anywhere if
most creative individuals anywhere if you look at it we have been able to
you look at it we have been able to
you look at it we have been able to master and conquer and land anywhere in
master and conquer and land anywhere in
master and conquer and land anywhere in the world we’ve been able to go to the
the world we’ve been able to go to the
the world we’ve been able to go to the moon we’ve been able to explore the
moon we’ve been able to explore the
moon we’ve been able to explore the deepest things it’s there our
deepest things it’s there our
deepest things it’s there our unbelievable creativity that we generate
unbelievable creativity that we generate
unbelievable creativity that we generate random choices in order to meet our
random choices in order to meet our
random choices in order to meet our needs and it’s your this ability to
needs and it’s your this ability to
needs and it’s your this ability to generate these creative choices that we
generate these creative choices that we
generate these creative choices that we can solve some amazing dilemmas that
can solve some amazing dilemmas that
can solve some amazing dilemmas that come up in our lives either individually
come up in our lives either individually
come up in our lives either individually from within a community you know think
from within a community you know think
from within a community you know think about the Wright brothers it was through
about the Wright brothers it was through
about the Wright brothers it was through their imagination and their relentless
their imagination and their relentless
their imagination and their relentless creativity and trial and error that they
creativity and trial and error that they
creativity and trial and error that they were able to figure out how to fly when
were able to figure out how to fly when
were able to figure out how to fly when everybody kept telling them it was
everybody kept telling them it was
everybody kept telling them it was impossible or watch it baby who has
impossible or watch it baby who has
impossible or watch it baby who has needs to in a toy or to get your
needs to in a toy or to get your
needs to in a toy or to get your attention and the amount of creativity
attention and the amount of creativity
attention and the amount of creativity and randomness that they will generate
and randomness that they will generate
and randomness that they will generate to solve and meet their needs or
to solve and meet their needs or
to solve and meet their needs or probably the last time you went into a
probably the last time you went into a
probably the last time you went into a hotel room and you were trying to figure
hotel room and you were trying to figure
hotel room and you were trying to figure out how to turn on the lights or make
out how to turn on the lights or make
out how to turn on the lights or make the TV work you know you’re walking in
the TV work you know you’re walking in
the TV work you know you’re walking in there you start randomly pushing buttons
there you start randomly pushing buttons
there you start randomly pushing buttons and figuring things out it’s this
and figuring things out it’s this
and figuring things out it’s this creativity to come up with solutions
creativity to come up with solutions
creativity to come up with solutions where there are no clear answers that
where there are no clear answers that
where there are no clear answers that allows us to solve for things and it is
allows us to solve for things and it is
allows us to solve for things and it is also part of our minds creativity that
also part of our minds creativity that
also part of our minds creativity that were generating depression as a solution
were generating depression as a solution
were generating depression as a solution to really difficult decisions
to really difficult decisions
to really difficult decisions or situations that may appear in our
or situations that may appear in our
or situations that may appear in our life so life is incredibly complex with
life so life is incredibly complex with
life so life is incredibly complex with very difficult situations where
very difficult situations where
very difficult situations where oftentimes there may not be a clear win
oftentimes there may not be a clear win
oftentimes there may not be a clear win and these are existential in nature that
and these are existential in nature that
and these are existential in nature that have to do with the meaning of life or
have to do with the meaning of life or
have to do with the meaning of life or trying to address the purposelessness of
trying to address the purposelessness of
trying to address the purposelessness of life and finding purpose and meaning
life and finding purpose and meaning
life and finding purpose and meaning another common existential issue is the
another common existential issue is the
another common existential issue is the reality of our own death and what this
reality of our own death and what this
reality of our own death and what this means above limits to do-overs that we
means above limits to do-overs that we
means above limits to do-overs that we don’t have forever and the more we
don’t have forever and the more we
don’t have forever and the more we become aware of this often in ermine
become aware of this often in ermine
become aware of this often in ermine light we face new situations and lastly
light we face new situations and lastly
light we face new situations and lastly is the fear of being wrong everybody to
is the fear of being wrong everybody to
is the fear of being wrong everybody to a certain extent is living in denial of
a certain extent is living in denial of
a certain extent is living in denial of their fear of being alone and this is
their fear of being alone and this is
their fear of being alone and this is what would keep us in bad relationships
what would keep us in bad relationships
what would keep us in bad relationships and bad jobs it’s the fear of being
and bad jobs it’s the fear of being
and bad jobs it’s the fear of being alone and these existential issues in
alone and these existential issues in
alone and these existential issues in which does not experiment present huge
which does not experiment present huge
which does not experiment present huge dilemmas for us and women and human
dilemmas for us and women and human
dilemmas for us and women and human beings we are motivated by who wins we
beings we are motivated by who wins we
beings we are motivated by who wins we need something to move towards we need a
need something to move towards we need a
need something to move towards we need a win and when we can’t friend you in we
win and when we can’t friend you in we
win and when we can’t friend you in we start doing loss management we’ll try to
start doing loss management we’ll try to
start doing loss management we’ll try to motivate ourselves by scaring ourselves
motivate ourselves by scaring ourselves
motivate ourselves by scaring ourselves a common example on this in the case of
a common example on this in the case of
a common example on this in the case of a marriage somebody who no longer wants
a marriage somebody who no longer wants
a marriage somebody who no longer wants to be married but they they don’t want
to be married but they they don’t want
to be married but they they don’t want to divorce this presents a huge dilemma
to divorce this presents a huge dilemma
to divorce this presents a huge dilemma and you will see people scaring them of
and you will see people scaring them of
and you will see people scaring them of all the bad things that will happen to
all the bad things that will happen to
all the bad things that will happen to them and the marriage you know you’ll
them and the marriage you know you’ll
them and the marriage you know you’ll you’ll never meet somebody again they’ll
you’ll never meet somebody again they’ll
you’ll never meet somebody again they’ll be alone you can financially ruined it
be alone you can financially ruined it
be alone you can financially ruined it will be terrible for the kids
will be terrible for the kids
will be terrible for the kids it’s horrible things and people get
it’s horrible things and people get
it’s horrible things and people get stuck because nobody’s able to tell them
stuck because nobody’s able to tell them
stuck because nobody’s able to tell them what the wind is for staying in the
what the wind is for staying in the
what the wind is for staying in the marriage and when we can’t motivate
marriage and when we can’t motivate
marriage and when we can’t motivate ourselves to find a win when we can’t
ourselves to find a win when we can’t
ourselves to find a win when we can’t scare ourselves into doing something
scare ourselves into doing something
scare ourselves into doing something depression can be a creative solution to
depression can be a creative solution to
depression can be a creative solution to a really difficult situation so what’s
a really difficult situation so what’s
a really difficult situation so what’s the setup for depression
the setup for depression
the setup for depression well what if them is regret regret is a
well what if them is regret regret is a
well what if them is regret regret is a decision that we make at one point in
decision that we make at one point in
decision that we make at one point in their life an earlier version of ourself
their life an earlier version of ourself
their life an earlier version of ourself our 2015 version of ourselves makes the
our 2015 version of ourselves makes the
our 2015 version of ourselves makes the decision that today are the 2017 version
decision that today are the 2017 version
decision that today are the 2017 version is painting the consequences for so it’s
is painting the consequences for so it’s
is painting the consequences for so it’s a decision that’s locked in the past
a decision that’s locked in the past
a decision that’s locked in the past that has negative consequences in the
that has negative consequences in the
that has negative consequences in the future and that we can’t change and many
future and that we can’t change and many
future and that we can’t change and many times people will be obsessed with if
times people will be obsessed with if
times people will be obsessed with if only they would have done something
only they would have done something
only they would have done something different and so regret is a common
different and so regret is a common
different and so regret is a common setup for potential or depression
setup for potential or depression
setup for potential or depression another one is poor human relationships
another one is poor human relationships
another one is poor human relationships human beings we have hurt very social
human beings we have hurt very social
human beings we have hurt very social animals it is through the power of our
animals it is through the power of our
animals it is through the power of our relationships and the communities that
relationships and the communities that
relationships and the communities that was formed that are both healing think
was formed that are both healing think
was formed that are both healing think about it we form friendships we get
about it we form friendships we get
about it we form friendships we get married we have families we have larger
married we have families we have larger
married we have families we have larger communities it’s our strength and
communities it’s our strength and
communities it’s our strength and forming relationships that is healing
forming relationships that is healing
forming relationships that is healing think about the last time when you are
think about the last time when you are
think about the last time when you are feeling really sad what was the most
feeling really sad what was the most
feeling really sad what was the most healing a new experience was talking to
healing a new experience was talking to
healing a new experience was talking to somebody who cared about you and
somebody who cared about you and
somebody who cared about you and understood you and you fellas understood
understood you and you fellas understood
understood you and you fellas understood that feels powerful or when you’ve gone
that feels powerful or when you’ve gone
that feels powerful or when you’ve gone on up on a romantic day and you feel
on up on a romantic day and you feel
on up on a romantic day and you feel connected and feel special these human
connected and feel special these human
connected and feel special these human relationships are powerful and when we
relationships are powerful and when we
relationships are powerful and when we have poor relationships this can be a
have poor relationships this can be a
have poor relationships this can be a setup for depression and then in other
setup for depression and then in other
setup for depression and then in other cases
cases
cases again as I mentioned earlier where we
again as I mentioned earlier where we
again as I mentioned earlier where we cannot find them in classic examples our
cannot find them in classic examples our
cannot find them in classic examples our own I don’t want to be married but I
own I don’t want to be married but I
own I don’t want to be married but I don’t want a divorce
don’t want a divorce
don’t want a divorce I’m being asked to move to a new
I’m being asked to move to a new
I’m being asked to move to a new location which I don’t want to go film
location which I don’t want to go film
location which I don’t want to go film leave my friends but if I don’t go
leave my friends but if I don’t go
leave my friends but if I don’t go they’ll fire me so a lot of times life
they’ll fire me so a lot of times life
they’ll fire me so a lot of times life gives us very difficult situations and
gives us very difficult situations and
gives us very difficult situations and some of these existential issues that
some of these existential issues that
some of these existential issues that can get set up or an aggression are
can get set up or an aggression are
can get set up or an aggression are things like childbirth childbirth is a
things like childbirth childbirth is a
things like childbirth childbirth is a massive transformation in terms of which
massive transformation in terms of which
massive transformation in terms of which people are having to deal with massive
people are having to deal with massive
people are having to deal with massive changes in their personal freedom
changes in their personal freedom
changes in their personal freedom getting a brand new identity becoming a
getting a brand new identity becoming a
getting a brand new identity becoming a parent and at the same time you do take
parent and at the same time you do take
parent and at the same time you do take an old identity another one is the loss
an old identity another one is the loss
an old identity another one is the loss of job losing a job targets our purpose
of job losing a job targets our purpose
of job losing a job targets our purpose and meaning and addresses our sense of
and meaning and addresses our sense of
and meaning and addresses our sense of security and it is a very difficult and
security and it is a very difficult and
security and it is a very difficult and scary time when somebody loses their job
scary time when somebody loses their job
scary time when somebody loses their job another one is marriage family or any
another one is marriage family or any
another one is marriage family or any significant relationship ending this is
significant relationship ending this is
significant relationship ending this is really tackling our fear of being alone
really tackling our fear of being alone
really tackling our fear of being alone our connectedness another person and
our connectedness another person and
our connectedness another person and makes us aware of our mortality and how
makes us aware of our mortality and how
makes us aware of our mortality and how vulnerable we can be we don’t have our
vulnerable we can be we don’t have our
vulnerable we can be we don’t have our community major illness the loss of the
community major illness the loss of the
community major illness the loss of the functioning of your body or aging in
functioning of your body or aging in
functioning of your body or aging in which we can no longer move or do the
which we can no longer move or do the
which we can no longer move or do the things that we used to do this again
things that we used to do this again
things that we used to do this again targets these existential issues around
targets these existential issues around
targets these existential issues around mortality our freedom and her ability to
mortality our freedom and her ability to
mortality our freedom and her ability to take care of ourselves and another big
take care of ourselves and another big
take care of ourselves and another big one is death that doesn’t want to change
one is death that doesn’t want to change
one is death that doesn’t want to change when we lose somebody it is powerful
when we lose somebody it is powerful
when we lose somebody it is powerful this person’s absences felt and again it
this person’s absences felt and again it
this person’s absences felt and again it makes us aware of our own mortality so
makes us aware of our own mortality so
makes us aware of our own mortality so anyone in these existential situation
anyone in these existential situation
anyone in these existential situation present is huge like dilemmas in which
present is huge like dilemmas in which
present is huge like dilemmas in which there are not easy choices to figure out
there are not easy choices to figure out
there are not easy choices to figure out how to move forward how to make things
how to move forward how to make things
how to move forward how to make things better these communal setups or
better these communal setups or
better these communal setups or depression so you may have in your life
depression so you may have in your life
depression so you may have in your life how much depression a creative solution
how much depression a creative solution
how much depression a creative solution again it’s a solution in which were
again it’s a solution in which were
again it’s a solution in which were trained
trained
trained when it is unconsciously solving for
when it is unconsciously solving for
when it is unconsciously solving for problems and wants us to keep us alive
problems and wants us to keep us alive
problems and wants us to keep us alive who wants to protect us who use it in
who wants to protect us who use it in
who wants to protect us who use it in the creative unconscious way and one of
the creative unconscious way and one of
the creative unconscious way and one of the common ways that depression can be
the common ways that depression can be
the common ways that depression can be used as a way to indirectly ask for help
used as a way to indirectly ask for help
used as a way to indirectly ask for help packing for house one of the most
packing for house one of the most
packing for house one of the most difficult things many people think right
difficult things many people think right
difficult things many people think right next of public speaking because when you
next of public speaking because when you
next of public speaking because when you answer how many people perceive that
answer how many people perceive that
answer how many people perceive that they are weak or that they’re
they are weak or that they’re
they are weak or that they’re incompetent or they shouldn’t know
incompetent or they shouldn’t know
incompetent or they shouldn’t know veterans so ask them directly for help
veterans so ask them directly for help
veterans so ask them directly for help is filled with shame and embarrassment
is filled with shame and embarrassment
is filled with shame and embarrassment and so a common way people may ask for
and so a common way people may ask for
and so a common way people may ask for help one example is a marriage ending
help one example is a marriage ending
help one example is a marriage ending and one the partner lips and the husband
and one the partner lips and the husband
and one the partner lips and the husband decides he really is done with the
decides he really is done with the
decides he really is done with the marriage she wants to leave and the wife
marriage she wants to leave and the wife
marriage she wants to leave and the wife doesn’t want this then she’s devastated
doesn’t want this then she’s devastated
doesn’t want this then she’s devastated she’s financially afraid she’s afraid of
she’s financially afraid she’s afraid of
she’s financially afraid she’s afraid of being alone she is afraid of her loss of
being alone she is afraid of her loss of
being alone she is afraid of her loss of social status and no matter what begging
social status and no matter what begging
social status and no matter what begging and pleading and attempts to save the
and pleading and attempts to save the
and pleading and attempts to save the marriage the husband won’t listen and
marriage the husband won’t listen and
marriage the husband won’t listen and she goes into depression
she goes into depression
she goes into depression deep depression where she can’t eat you
deep depression where she can’t eat you
deep depression where she can’t eat you losing weight she’s sleeping and
losing weight she’s sleeping and
losing weight she’s sleeping and unconsciously people around her start to
unconsciously people around her start to
unconsciously people around her start to respond depending to her and including
respond depending to her and including
respond depending to her and including the the party husband who initially
the the party husband who initially
the the party husband who initially comes to her concerned about her and
comes to her concerned about her and
comes to her concerned about her and give her attention so in the short term
give her attention so in the short term
give her attention so in the short term depression worked it got her what she
depression worked it got her what she
depression worked it got her what she wanted this person’s attention but in an
wanted this person’s attention but in an
wanted this person’s attention but in an unconscious way it doesn’t solve the
unconscious way it doesn’t solve the
unconscious way it doesn’t solve the bigger issue she doesn’t save the
bigger issue she doesn’t save the
bigger issue she doesn’t save the marriage so here’s a situation with
marriage so here’s a situation with
marriage so here’s a situation with depression and a creative way get
depression and a creative way get
depression and a creative way get somebody unconsciously what they want
somebody unconsciously what they want
somebody unconsciously what they want again another example is when there’s no
again another example is when there’s no
again another example is when there’s no clear
clear
clear there no clear win again I feel that
there no clear win again I feel that
there no clear win again I feel that with relationships though in a marriage
with relationships though in a marriage
with relationships though in a marriage I don’t want to end in the marriage
I don’t want to end in the marriage
I don’t want to end in the marriage I don’t want what goes with this
I don’t want what goes with this
I don’t want what goes with this marriage I can’t figure out a way to say
marriage I can’t figure out a way to say
marriage I can’t figure out a way to say that but I really don’t want to divorce
that but I really don’t want to divorce
that but I really don’t want to divorce I don’t want the social stigma financial
I don’t want the social stigma financial
I don’t want the social stigma financial ramifications I cannot find a win so
ramifications I cannot find a win so
ramifications I cannot find a win so depression and an unconscious level
depression and an unconscious level
depression and an unconscious level that’s we you shut down you even
that’s we you shut down you even
that’s we you shut down you even immobilized it allows you to not choose
immobilized it allows you to not choose
immobilized it allows you to not choose it allows you to choose the status quo
it allows you to choose the status quo
it allows you to choose the status quo and endure although it is a short-term
and endure although it is a short-term
and endure although it is a short-term solution with heavy-duty price tags it
solution with heavy-duty price tags it
solution with heavy-duty price tags it is a person’s creative solution is their
is a person’s creative solution is their
is a person’s creative solution is their best attempt and that woman to solve her
best attempt and that woman to solve her
best attempt and that woman to solve her situation where they can friend
situation where they can friend
situation where they can friend depression can also be a ways you
depression can also be a ways you
depression can also be a ways you control another person’s behavior and/or
control another person’s behavior and/or
control another person’s behavior and/or commute responds to controlling behavior
commute responds to controlling behavior
commute responds to controlling behavior when somebody is constantly angry and
when somebody is constantly angry and
when somebody is constantly angry and they’re abusive and critical people will
they’re abusive and critical people will
they’re abusive and critical people will depress will shut down and unconsciously
depress will shut down and unconsciously
depress will shut down and unconsciously the behavior of you’re hurting me
the behavior of you’re hurting me
the behavior of you’re hurting me interest either stop stop the depression
interest either stop stop the depression
interest either stop stop the depression sends out a message often it gets lost
sends out a message often it gets lost
sends out a message often it gets lost and people ignore it but if the person’s
and people ignore it but if the person’s
and people ignore it but if the person’s bus to town another one is a respond to
bus to town another one is a respond to
bus to town another one is a respond to try and show somebody that you need to
try and show somebody that you need to
try and show somebody that you need to change because your behavior I can’t
change because your behavior I can’t
change because your behavior I can’t live with it a common example is where
live with it a common example is where
live with it a common example is where somebody will choose to date somebody
somebody will choose to date somebody
somebody will choose to date somebody who’s the smoker and there are non
who’s the smoker and there are non
who’s the smoker and there are non smoker and they will collude on the idea
smoker and they will collude on the idea
smoker and they will collude on the idea that the smoker will give up smoking
that the smoker will give up smoking
that the smoker will give up smoking once they get married and then they get
once they get married and then they get
once they get married and then they get married and longer continue to discover
married and longer continue to discover
married and longer continue to discover and the person that gets angry and
and the person that gets angry and
and the person that gets angry and frustrated and they start to depressed
frustrated and they start to depressed
frustrated and they start to depressed showing them your smoking hurts me I’m
showing them your smoking hurts me I’m
showing them your smoking hurts me I’m so unhappy can’t you change them and of
so unhappy can’t you change them and of
so unhappy can’t you change them and of course it gets the person
course it gets the person
course it gets the person attention but it doesn’t solve the
attention but it doesn’t solve the
attention but it doesn’t solve the problem that creates other problems
problem that creates other problems
problem that creates other problems so again depression is a reaction or a
so again depression is a reaction or a
so again depression is a reaction or a creative unconscious solution to solve a
creative unconscious solution to solve a
creative unconscious solution to solve a really difficult situation where there’s
really difficult situation where there’s
really difficult situation where there’s no parallel and the last one is it isn’t
no parallel and the last one is it isn’t
no parallel and the last one is it isn’t a dress it’s a way to mana to protect
a dress it’s a way to mana to protect
a dress it’s a way to mana to protect the body intense murderous rage or when
the body intense murderous rage or when
the body intense murderous rage or when people are suicidal or they want to act
people are suicidal or they want to act
people are suicidal or they want to act out they’re so angry when we become so
out they’re so angry when we become so
out they’re so angry when we become so angry and suicidal where we lose hope
angry and suicidal where we lose hope
angry and suicidal where we lose hope depression shuts us down it immobilize
depression shuts us down it immobilize
depression shuts us down it immobilize us and it actually protects us from
us and it actually protects us from
us and it actually protects us from killing ourselves in fact people who are
killing ourselves in fact people who are
killing ourselves in fact people who are suicidal the most dangerous kind of when
suicidal the most dangerous kind of when
suicidal the most dangerous kind of when they’re just coming out of their
they’re just coming out of their
they’re just coming out of their depression and they’re able to act on
depression and they’re able to act on
depression and they’re able to act on their suicidal ideation so again
their suicidal ideation so again
their suicidal ideation so again depression has the unique way of helping
depression has the unique way of helping
depression has the unique way of helping people cope with difficult life
people cope with difficult life
people cope with difficult life situations
situations
situations there’s the dsm model or the medical
there’s the dsm model or the medical
there’s the dsm model or the medical model towards depression there’s the
model towards depression there’s the
model towards depression there’s the medical model abused depression as
medical model abused depression as
medical model abused depression as something that is coming outside we
something that is coming outside we
something that is coming outside we often hear this talk about chemical
often hear this talk about chemical
often hear this talk about chemical imbalance that there’s something broken
imbalance that there’s something broken
imbalance that there’s something broken or impaired and you have to fix it or
or impaired and you have to fix it or
or impaired and you have to fix it or replace the part it’s external and the
replace the part it’s external and the
replace the part it’s external and the medical model uses it as you treat it
medical model uses it as you treat it
medical model uses it as you treat it with medicine to treat depression with
with medicine to treat depression with
with medicine to treat depression with drugs and this is actually quite true if
drugs and this is actually quite true if
drugs and this is actually quite true if you go in search there are actually no
you go in search there are actually no
you go in search there are actually no clinical studies that validate this
clinical studies that validate this
clinical studies that validate this chemical imbalance is sort of a
chemical imbalance is sort of a
chemical imbalance is sort of a hypothesis explain how drugs work and
hypothesis explain how drugs work and
hypothesis explain how drugs work and while drugs do help people it’s not the
while drugs do help people it’s not the
while drugs do help people it’s not the total story that you’d actually go into
total story that you’d actually go into
total story that you’d actually go into your documents they can I have a blood
your documents they can I have a blood
your documents they can I have a blood test to see if I’m chemically imbalanced
test to see if I’m chemically imbalanced
test to see if I’m chemically imbalanced there’s none that exist it’s more by
there’s none that exist it’s more by
there’s none that exist it’s more by accomplices
accomplices
accomplices now the holistic model we’re looking at
now the holistic model we’re looking at
now the holistic model we’re looking at depression as a
depression as a
depression as a the choice not necessarily a conscious
the choice not necessarily a conscious
the choice not necessarily a conscious choice this isn’t to minimize the
choice this isn’t to minimize the
choice this isn’t to minimize the seriousness of depression especially
seriousness of depression especially
seriousness of depression especially when it’s long ongoing and chronic
when it’s long ongoing and chronic
when it’s long ongoing and chronic traumatic the person’s best attempts of
traumatic the person’s best attempts of
traumatic the person’s best attempts of softer and we in need or problem in that
softer and we in need or problem in that
softer and we in need or problem in that woman with the swoop the tools and
woman with the swoop the tools and
woman with the swoop the tools and mental health skills and life skills
mental health skills and life skills
mental health skills and life skills that they have at that time and behavior
that they have at that time and behavior
that they have at that time and behavior is a total depression of the total
is a total depression of the total
is a total depression of the total behavior when you just can’t there’s
behavior when you just can’t there’s
behavior when you just can’t there’s nothing actually physically wrong with
nothing actually physically wrong with
nothing actually physically wrong with the brain the brain may be firing off
the brain the brain may be firing off
the brain the brain may be firing off differently but it doesn’t care our
differently but it doesn’t care our
differently but it doesn’t care our thinking it impairs our behavior it
thinking it impairs our behavior it
thinking it impairs our behavior it impairs our feelings and it impairs our
impairs our feelings and it impairs our
impairs our feelings and it impairs our physiology what is the total
physiology what is the total
physiology what is the total encompassing behavior or action and
encompassing behavior or action and
encompassing behavior or action and depression definitely affects
depression definitely affects
depression definitely affects relationships so from a holistic model
relationships so from a holistic model
relationships so from a holistic model we are looking at treating it through
we are looking at treating it through
we are looking at treating it through relationships by connecting with people
relationships by connecting with people
relationships by connecting with people in fact sometimes when people come into
in fact sometimes when people come into
in fact sometimes when people come into my office they’re so depressed the only
my office they’re so depressed the only
my office they’re so depressed the only thing I can do is try and connect with
thing I can do is try and connect with
thing I can do is try and connect with them and form a relationship and this is
them and form a relationship and this is
them and form a relationship and this is often healing it’s the beginning to
often healing it’s the beginning to
often healing it’s the beginning to healing in which we can stop start to
healing in which we can stop start to
healing in which we can stop start to now help people find the choices and see
now help people find the choices and see
now help people find the choices and see their situation differently because we
their situation differently because we
their situation differently because we always have choices
always have choices
always have choices and it’s by empowering people that they
and it’s by empowering people that they
and it’s by empowering people that they can heal and get better even when they
can heal and get better even when they
can heal and get better even when they feel like there are no real win-win
feel like there are no real win-win
feel like there are no real win-win choices so as sort of people instead of
choices so as sort of people instead of
choices so as sort of people instead of the pills although we sometimes may be
the pills although we sometimes may be
the pills although we sometimes may be both people are both secure and the
both people are both secure and the
both people are both secure and the cause to and about depression because we
cause to and about depression because we
cause to and about depression because we are such social creatures we do need to
are such social creatures we do need to
are such social creatures we do need to learn to live with people but at the
learn to live with people but at the
learn to live with people but at the same time it’s really hard to live with
same time it’s really hard to live with
same time it’s really hard to live with people because the number one thing I
people because the number one thing I
people because the number one thing I think coming into my office is people
think coming into my office is people
think coming into my office is people are always asking me how can I change my
are always asking me how can I change my
are always asking me how can I change my spouse how can I change my mother-in-law
spouse how can I change my mother-in-law
spouse how can I change my mother-in-law how can I change my partner everybody
how can I change my partner everybody
how can I change my partner everybody wants to look
wants to look
wants to look you’ve changed somebody else and so this
you’ve changed somebody else and so this
you’ve changed somebody else and so this is really difficult because we can’t
is really difficult because we can’t
is really difficult because we can’t change under people nothing causes
change under people nothing causes
change under people nothing causes somebody to do something
somebody to do something
somebody to do something people are decision-making we see
people are decision-making we see
people are decision-making we see information in our world and we’ll
information in our world and we’ll
information in our world and we’ll generate random choices to solve or or
generate random choices to solve or or
generate random choices to solve or or adjust the current situation
adjust the current situation
adjust the current situation so part of what learning to live with
so part of what learning to live with
so part of what learning to live with other people requires is acceptance
other people requires is acceptance
other people requires is acceptance both of yourself and who you are and of
both of yourself and who you are and of
both of yourself and who you are and of other people yet if you’re going on data
other people yet if you’re going on data
other people yet if you’re going on data smoker and Marion smoker to better
smoker and Marion smoker to better
smoker and Marion smoker to better understand effect that’s a very
understand effect that’s a very
understand effect that’s a very experienced addiction and maybe not be
experienced addiction and maybe not be
experienced addiction and maybe not be able to give it up so it’s really
able to give it up so it’s really
able to give it up so it’s really understanding what you’re signing out or
understanding what you’re signing out or
understanding what you’re signing out or what you’re choosing and so we really
what you’re choosing and so we really
what you’re choosing and so we really need to learn how to assess what we want
need to learn how to assess what we want
need to learn how to assess what we want and make sure what we wanted is
and make sure what we wanted is
and make sure what we wanted is realistic and what what we want is we’re
realistic and what what we want is we’re
realistic and what what we want is we’re going to be willing to do what’s
going to be willing to do what’s
going to be willing to do what’s required to get it so sometimes
required to get it so sometimes
required to get it so sometimes depression can come about but we’re not
depression can come about but we’re not
depression can come about but we’re not realistic and assessing our situation or
realistic and assessing our situation or
realistic and assessing our situation or something things as they are another
something things as they are another
something things as they are another thing is to really learn how to control
thing is to really learn how to control
thing is to really learn how to control ourselves again so many people are
ourselves again so many people are
ourselves again so many people are looking at ways to try and control
looking at ways to try and control
looking at ways to try and control another person or change another person
another person or change another person
another person or change another person and and this is really difficult because
and and this is really difficult because
and and this is really difficult because while we love people we have a child we
while we love people we have a child we
while we love people we have a child we have our parents and we have an in-law
have our parents and we have an in-law
have our parents and we have an in-law that we have to be with there’s certain
that we have to be with there’s certain
that we have to be with there’s certain beliefs or behaviors that may make it
beliefs or behaviors that may make it
beliefs or behaviors that may make it really difficult for us to get along
really difficult for us to get along
really difficult for us to get along with them or be around them and this
with them or be around them and this
with them or be around them and this presents challenges so the more we can
presents challenges so the more we can
presents challenges so the more we can learn to accept others and internally
learn to accept others and internally
learn to accept others and internally just make our choices rather than trying
just make our choices rather than trying
just make our choices rather than trying to force others
to force others
to force others this improves really
this improves really
this improves really and self-acceptance and acceptance
and self-acceptance and acceptance
and self-acceptance and acceptance within a community is very empowering
within a community is very empowering
within a community is very empowering and lastly is understanding the
and lastly is understanding the
and lastly is understanding the difference between happiness and
difference between happiness and
difference between happiness and pleasure happiness is actually quite
pleasure happiness is actually quite
pleasure happiness is actually quite effortful and no one thing makes you
effortful and no one thing makes you
effortful and no one thing makes you happy happiness is about meaning that we
happy happiness is about meaning that we
happy happiness is about meaning that we give two things in her life and as many
give two things in her life and as many
give two things in her life and as many times people confuse happiness with
times people confuse happiness with
times people confuse happiness with pleasure pleasure is external
pleasure pleasure is external
pleasure pleasure is external it is short-term we often buy it and we
it is short-term we often buy it and we
it is short-term we often buy it and we don’t want to don’t want to share it
don’t want to don’t want to share it
don’t want to don’t want to share it where’s happiness is something we share
where’s happiness is something we share
where’s happiness is something we share but you have to generate it yourself and
but you have to generate it yourself and
but you have to generate it yourself and then a dr. William Glasser who was the
then a dr. William Glasser who was the
then a dr. William Glasser who was the founder of mine which way psychology and
founder of mine which way psychology and
founder of mine which way psychology and choice theory I’ve got a really great
choice theory I’ve got a really great
choice theory I’ve got a really great definition of happiness which is
definition of happiness which is
definition of happiness which is happiness or mental health is enjoying
happiness or mental health is enjoying
happiness or mental health is enjoying the light or choosing to live getting
the light or choosing to live getting
the light or choosing to live getting along with people near and dear to you
along with people near and dear to you
along with people near and dear to you doing something with your life do you
doing something with your life do you
doing something with your life do you believe is worthwhile and not doing
believe is worthwhile and not doing
believe is worthwhile and not doing anything to deprive any other human
anything to deprive any other human
anything to deprive any other human being about this opportunity to pursue
being about this opportunity to pursue
being about this opportunity to pursue happiness so the more we compared to
happiness so the more we compared to
happiness so the more we compared to live together the happier we’ll be
live together the happier we’ll be
live together the happier we’ll be so again treatment for depression really
so again treatment for depression really
so again treatment for depression really it’s about improving relationships and
it’s about improving relationships and
it’s about improving relationships and this is no easy task
this is no easy task
this is no easy task learning how to live with others who
learning how to live with others who
learning how to live with others who don’t listen really think the way you
don’t listen really think the way you
don’t listen really think the way you think or believe the way you believe and
think or believe the way you believe and
think or believe the way you believe and learning how to internally control
learning how to internally control
learning how to internally control yourself so one of the biggest things of
yourself so one of the biggest things of
yourself so one of the biggest things of helping people to do is help them shift
helping people to do is help them shift
helping people to do is help them shift from and becoming aware of choices that
from and becoming aware of choices that
from and becoming aware of choices that they actually have and sometimes their
they actually have and sometimes their
they actually have and sometimes their choices are not about doing thing but
choices are not about doing thing but
choices are not about doing thing but are a reframing thing and shifting from
are a reframing thing and shifting from
are a reframing thing and shifting from moving from have to – I want to if you
moving from have to – I want to if you
moving from have to – I want to if you think about it when you have
think about it when you have
think about it when you have do something what’s the attitude that
do something what’s the attitude that
do something what’s the attitude that you bring I have to do this I have to go
you bring I have to do this I have to go
you bring I have to do this I have to go to school I have to watch my kids it’s
to school I have to watch my kids it’s
to school I have to watch my kids it’s putting a loaded gun to your head and
putting a loaded gun to your head and
putting a loaded gun to your head and the energy that you bring is bad it’s
the energy that you bring is bad it’s
the energy that you bring is bad it’s effortful versus learning how to do I
effortful versus learning how to do I
effortful versus learning how to do I want to the next one is really
want to the next one is really
want to the next one is really understanding the acceptance acceptance
understanding the acceptance acceptance
understanding the acceptance acceptance is about not giving in or giving up it’s
is about not giving in or giving up it’s
is about not giving in or giving up it’s about coming to terms with what is and
about coming to terms with what is and
about coming to terms with what is and based on what is who you are your
based on what is who you are your
based on what is who you are your situation whether it’s economic
situation whether it’s economic
situation whether it’s economic financial religious racial making
financial religious racial making
financial religious racial making decisions within there and lastly it’s
decisions within there and lastly it’s
decisions within there and lastly it’s addressing regret you get into choices
addressing regret you get into choices
addressing regret you get into choices so the next time you want to choose
so the next time you want to choose
so the next time you want to choose depression consider that it’s really the
depression consider that it’s really the
depression consider that it’s really the bad choice if there’s a significant
bad choice if there’s a significant
bad choice if there’s a significant relationship you may look to improve or
relationship you may look to improve or
relationship you may look to improve or if there’s some new choice but it may
if there’s some new choice but it may
if there’s some new choice but it may not have seen that you can have and
not have seen that you can have and
not have seen that you can have and lastly it’s so important to reach out
lastly it’s so important to reach out
lastly it’s so important to reach out and get help
and get help
and get help Thanks
Thanks
Thanks [Applause]
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