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Deconstructing Compassion Fatigue | Nikita Amir | TEDxAlYasminaAcademy


um before we get into the nebulous

um before we get into the nebulous realms of compassion and morality and

realms of compassion and morality and

realms of compassion and morality and all those other human complications that

all those other human complications that

all those other human complications that seem far too large to contemplate and

seem far too large to contemplate and

seem far too large to contemplate and actually just like to pause for a second

actually just like to pause for a second

actually just like to pause for a second on something more semantic because my

on something more semantic because my

on something more semantic because my talk started out as a question and does

talk started out as a question and does

talk started out as a question and does moral fatigue dilute compassion and the

moral fatigue dilute compassion and the

moral fatigue dilute compassion and the nature of questions implies that there

nature of questions implies that there

nature of questions implies that there are one or a number of specific reasons

are one or a number of specific reasons

are one or a number of specific reasons to elicit an answer and given that I

to elicit an answer and given that I

to elicit an answer and given that I can’t really say that I on to these huge

can’t really say that I on to these huge

can’t really say that I on to these huge questions about morality so instead

questions about morality so instead

questions about morality so instead you’re going to have to bear with me

you’re going to have to bear with me

you’re going to have to bear with me while I call this a deconstruction so

while I call this a deconstruction so

while I call this a deconstruction so that’s the framework we’re working under

that’s the framework we’re working under

that’s the framework we’re working under it’s really just me sorting through my

it’s really just me sorting through my

it’s really just me sorting through my own emotional conflict um and also just

own emotional conflict um and also just

own emotional conflict um and also just a quick thing when I say media I’m

a quick thing when I say media I’m

a quick thing when I say media I’m largely referring to news coverage and

largely referring to news coverage and

largely referring to news coverage and broadcasting on both traditional and new

broadcasting on both traditional and new

broadcasting on both traditional and new mediums so here we actually go you see

mediums so here we actually go you see

mediums so here we actually go you see morality has defined is the principles

morality has defined is the principles

morality has defined is the principles concerning the distinction between right

concerning the distinction between right

concerning the distinction between right and wrong

and wrong

and wrong it’s the differentiation of intentions

it’s the differentiation of intentions

it’s the differentiation of intentions decisions and actions and moral dilemmas

decisions and actions and moral dilemmas

decisions and actions and moral dilemmas manifests themselves all around us they

manifests themselves all around us they

manifests themselves all around us they they wreak havoc whether it’s you know

they wreak havoc whether it’s you know

they wreak havoc whether it’s you know stopping yourself a meeting that last

stopping yourself a meeting that last

stopping yourself a meeting that last slice of pizza or avoiding that

slice of pizza or avoiding that

slice of pizza or avoiding that convenient coffee shop down the road

convenient coffee shop down the road

convenient coffee shop down the road that you know donates to causes that you

that you know donates to causes that you

that you know donates to causes that you just can’t get behind or maybe it’s

just can’t get behind or maybe it’s

just can’t get behind or maybe it’s confessing to something that’s going to

confessing to something that’s going to

confessing to something that’s going to send your best friend off to prison for

send your best friend off to prison for

send your best friend off to prison for the next 10 years the last one’s

the next 10 years the last one’s

the next 10 years the last one’s actually famous it’s called the

actually famous it’s called the

actually famous it’s called the prisoner’s dilemma and I use it in game

prisoner’s dilemma and I use it in game

prisoner’s dilemma and I use it in game theory the point is is that all of these

theory the point is is that all of these

theory the point is is that all of these examples rely on this conflict between

examples rely on this conflict between

examples rely on this conflict between self-preservation and self-interest and

self-preservation and self-interest and

self-preservation and self-interest and goodwill for others and so when I was

goodwill for others and so when I was

goodwill for others and so when I was thinking about these things what struck

thinking about these things what struck

thinking about these things what struck me is that doing the right thing seems

me is that doing the right thing seems

me is that doing the right thing seems to have an inherent connotation of doing

to have an inherent connotation of doing

to have an inherent connotation of doing justice by other people it’s something

justice by other people it’s something

justice by other people it’s something to bear in mind on the other hand

to bear in mind on the other hand

to bear in mind on the other hand we have immorality which is the active

we have immorality which is the active

we have immorality which is the active opposition to any moral principles the

opposition to any moral principles the

opposition to any moral principles the bad people I actually like to say the

bad people I actually like to say the

bad people I actually like to say the bad decisions because I think that’s an

bad decisions because I think that’s an

bad decisions because I think that’s an important distinction to make and I’ll

important distinction to make and I’ll

important distinction to make and I’ll leave that with you but what I think is

leave that with you but what I think is

leave that with you but what I think is more interestingly well like of course I

more interestingly well like of course I

more interestingly well like of course I do is a morality especially at this

do is a morality especially at this

do is a morality especially at this point in time and a morality is the

point in time and a morality is the

point in time and a morality is the indifference to any moral principles you

indifference to any moral principles you

indifference to any moral principles you see it’s like being thrown into a rink

see it’s like being thrown into a rink

see it’s like being thrown into a rink is how I think of it because we’ve been

is how I think of it because we’ve been

is how I think of it because we’ve been asked to deflect these punches from both

asked to deflect these punches from both

asked to deflect these punches from both the Augmented nature of tragedy and the

the Augmented nature of tragedy and the

the Augmented nature of tragedy and the media at the same time and this has

media at the same time and this has

media at the same time and this has edged us closer and closer to it simply

edged us closer and closer to it simply

edged us closer and closer to it simply not caring to be indifferent to be

not caring to be indifferent to be

not caring to be indifferent to be unaffected by the plight of others and

unaffected by the plight of others and

unaffected by the plight of others and this this is dangerous our collective

this this is dangerous our collective

this this is dangerous our collective morality is on this slippery slope

morality is on this slippery slope

morality is on this slippery slope towards this indifference we’ve gone

towards this indifference we’ve gone

towards this indifference we’ve gone from questioning these infinite shades

from questioning these infinite shades

from questioning these infinite shades of grey’ to not even caring if black

of grey’ to not even caring if black

of grey’ to not even caring if black white or grey exist and so this morality

white or grey exist and so this morality

white or grey exist and so this morality I think exists not for being mall but

I think exists not for being mall but

I think exists not for being mall but for the sake of appearances to appear

for the sake of appearances to appear

for the sake of appearances to appear moral and I think it’s actually quite

moral and I think it’s actually quite

moral and I think it’s actually quite redundant most of the time because it’s

redundant most of the time because it’s

redundant most of the time because it’s really just a reflection of my phone

really just a reflection of my phone

really just a reflection of my phone screen or my laptop or my well my mobile

screen or my laptop or my well my mobile

screen or my laptop or my well my mobile is my phone and so it really doesn’t

is my phone and so it really doesn’t

is my phone and so it really doesn’t exist in its own right we are operating

exist in its own right we are operating

exist in its own right we are operating at its most basic threshold of what it

at its most basic threshold of what it

at its most basic threshold of what it takes to be moral and that’s because the

takes to be moral and that’s because the

takes to be moral and that’s because the weight of making a decision weighs heavy

weight of making a decision weighs heavy

weight of making a decision weighs heavy it is literally exhausting and it’s

it is literally exhausting and it’s

it is literally exhausting and it’s force us to reach a state of compassion

force us to reach a state of compassion

force us to reach a state of compassion fatigue it’s also the reason why I as an

fatigue it’s also the reason why I as an

fatigue it’s also the reason why I as an 18 year old take have literally taken a

18 year old take have literally taken a

18 year old take have literally taken a nap every single day for the past two

nap every single day for the past two

nap every single day for the past two years but that’s a different

years but that’s a different

years but that’s a different conversation and it’s because these

conversation and it’s because these

conversation and it’s because these images and these stories we see have a

images and these stories we see have a

images and these stories we see have a profound impact we’re emotional beings

profound impact we’re emotional beings

profound impact we’re emotional beings it’s easier to sit there and put on that

it’s easier to sit there and put on that

it’s easier to sit there and put on that Facebook filter to avoid that difficult

Facebook filter to avoid that difficult

Facebook filter to avoid that difficult conversation in the morning the

conversation in the morning the

conversation in the morning the to feel that blunt-force of empathy one

to feel that blunt-force of empathy one

to feel that blunt-force of empathy one of my one of my personal I con Susan

of my one of my personal I con Susan

of my one of my personal I con Susan Sontag said this about one of her

Sontag said this about one of her

Sontag said this about one of her experiences with photography and she

experiences with photography and she

experiences with photography and she said that some limit had been reached

said that some limit had been reached

said that some limit had been reached not not just that of horror

not not just that of horror

not not just that of horror I felt irrevocably grieved wounded

I felt irrevocably grieved wounded

I felt irrevocably grieved wounded something went dead something is still

something went dead something is still

something went dead something is still crying and I think we’ve all been there

crying and I think we’ve all been there

crying and I think we’ve all been there I know I have and for that very reason I

I know I have and for that very reason I

I know I have and for that very reason I feel like my own morality sometimes

feel like my own morality sometimes

feel like my own morality sometimes thunders within my head but can’t seem

thunders within my head but can’t seem

thunders within my head but can’t seem to break out of my own mind you see now

to break out of my own mind you see now

to break out of my own mind you see now more so than ever we all here consume

more so than ever we all here consume

more so than ever we all here consume media vociferously and it affects how we

media vociferously and it affects how we

media vociferously and it affects how we think and we act and more crucially

think and we act and more crucially

think and we act and more crucially don’t so I’m not asking any of you to go

don’t so I’m not asking any of you to go

don’t so I’m not asking any of you to go out into the streets and beat your chest

out into the streets and beat your chest

out into the streets and beat your chest I’m just saying that you need to be

I’m just saying that you need to be

I’m just saying that you need to be cognizant about the fact that your

cognizant about the fact that your

cognizant about the fact that your apathy is dangerous right I’m sorry

apathy is dangerous right I’m sorry

apathy is dangerous right I’m sorry and that’s just so important because

and that’s just so important because

and that’s just so important because what’s actually interesting is that when

what’s actually interesting is that when

what’s actually interesting is that when I sat down to write this since you’re

I sat down to write this since you’re

I sat down to write this since you’re actually delivering it today I’ve seen a

actually delivering it today I’ve seen a

actually delivering it today I’ve seen a completely new side of this argument

completely new side of this argument

completely new side of this argument emerge cataclysmic political decisions

emerge cataclysmic political decisions

emerge cataclysmic political decisions have taken place in the last few months

have taken place in the last few months

have taken place in the last few months and as I watch my world change rapidly

and as I watch my world change rapidly

and as I watch my world change rapidly and absolutely terrifyingly I’ve also

and absolutely terrifyingly I’ve also

and absolutely terrifyingly I’ve also seen people mobilize like never before

seen people mobilize like never before

seen people mobilize like never before because great hardship always gives

because great hardship always gives

because great hardship always gives birth to great movements I’ve seen the

birth to great movements I’ve seen the

birth to great movements I’ve seen the power of the press and the media as a

power of the press and the media as a

power of the press and the media as a collective as the voice of morality and

collective as the voice of morality and

collective as the voice of morality and it’s been and it’s because and sorry and

it’s been and it’s because and sorry and

it’s been and it’s because and sorry and it’s it’s emboldened people it’s because

it’s it’s emboldened people it’s because

it’s it’s emboldened people it’s because representation matters and in emboldened

representation matters and in emboldened

representation matters and in emboldened and that is the media at its most

and that is the media at its most

and that is the media at its most quixotic sidestepping my little bit of

quixotic sidestepping my little bit of

quixotic sidestepping my little bit of optimism there for a second your apathy

optimism there for a second your apathy

optimism there for a second your apathy has still done the damage we’ve

has still done the damage we’ve

has still done the damage we’ve cultivated an empathy gap and I

cultivated an empathy gap and I

cultivated an empathy gap and I completely understand this because

completely understand this because

completely understand this because distance provides escape

distance provides escape

distance provides escape from emotionally and mentally it

from emotionally and mentally it

from emotionally and mentally it provides shelter from that absolutely

provides shelter from that absolutely

provides shelter from that absolutely assaulting truth but what I’ve taken

assaulting truth but what I’ve taken

assaulting truth but what I’ve taken from that is that and I think we all

from that is that and I think we all

from that is that and I think we all know this is that there’s no point in

know this is that there’s no point in

know this is that there’s no point in finding shelter under a house of cards I

finding shelter under a house of cards I

finding shelter under a house of cards I think at some level we all do you know

think at some level we all do you know

think at some level we all do you know this for me personally it’s rooted in

this for me personally it’s rooted in

this for me personally it’s rooted in the belief that the human condition is a

the belief that the human condition is a

the belief that the human condition is a shared one and in our finer moments that

shared one and in our finer moments that

shared one and in our finer moments that shared humanity echoes louder than

shared humanity echoes louder than

shared humanity echoes louder than anything else but then when I was

anything else but then when I was

anything else but then when I was reading up about this I my belief was

reading up about this I my belief was

reading up about this I my belief was confirmed in the Golden Rule which is

confirmed in the Golden Rule which is

confirmed in the Golden Rule which is it’s part of normative moral philosophy

it’s part of normative moral philosophy

it’s part of normative moral philosophy it’s a it’s a moral Maxim that’s

it’s a it’s a moral Maxim that’s

it’s a it’s a moral Maxim that’s concerned it’s prevalent in nearly every

concerned it’s prevalent in nearly every

concerned it’s prevalent in nearly every single human culture and religion which

single human culture and religion which

single human culture and religion which to me suggests that it’s a fundamental

to me suggests that it’s a fundamental

to me suggests that it’s a fundamental part of human nature you see it’s an

part of human nature you see it’s an

part of human nature you see it’s an ethic concerned with reciprocity to

ethic concerned with reciprocity to

ethic concerned with reciprocity to treat others as you would want to be

treat others as you would want to be

treat others as you would want to be treated yourself and this demands that

treated yourself and this demands that

treated yourself and this demands that an active decision is made one of my

an active decision is made one of my

an active decision is made one of my favorite existential philosophers

favorite existential philosophers

favorite existential philosophers because I have many jean-paul Sartre

because I have many jean-paul Sartre

because I have many jean-paul Sartre once said that when we say that man

once said that when we say that man

once said that when we say that man chooses for himself we do mean that

chooses for himself we do mean that

chooses for himself we do mean that every man must choose for himself but by

every man must choose for himself but by

every man must choose for himself but by that we also mean that in choosing for

that we also mean that in choosing for

that we also mean that in choosing for himself he chooses for all men mankind

himself he chooses for all men mankind

himself he chooses for all men mankind women um in essence it operates on the

women um in essence it operates on the

women um in essence it operates on the foundations of compassion there is an

foundations of compassion there is an

foundations of compassion there is an implied unbreakable connection between

implied unbreakable connection between

implied unbreakable connection between the individual and the society a

the individual and the society a

the individual and the society a connection through which each action

connection through which each action

connection through which each action takes on an additional responsibility

takes on an additional responsibility

takes on an additional responsibility and when I looked into this honor that’s

and when I looked into this honor that’s

and when I looked into this honor that’s that’s the metaphorical level and when I

that’s the metaphorical level and when I

that’s the metaphorical level and when I looked into this on a more on the word

looked into this on a more on the word

looked into this on a more on the word level the etymology of compassion in

level the etymology of compassion in

level the etymology of compassion in Latin is actually Co suffering it’s

Latin is actually Co suffering it’s

Latin is actually Co suffering it’s cognate to the Greek noun pathos to

cognate to the Greek noun pathos to

cognate to the Greek noun pathos to evoke sympathy and I think that that’s

evoke sympathy and I think that that’s

evoke sympathy and I think that that’s so absolutely beautifully tragic to

so absolutely beautifully tragic to

so absolutely beautifully tragic to suffer together as if all of human

suffer together as if all of human

suffer together as if all of human understanding isn’t based on what we

understanding isn’t based on what we

understanding isn’t based on what we have in common but rather on our ability

have in common but rather on our ability

have in common but rather on our ability to sit down and take with one another

to sit down and take with one another

to sit down and take with one another for one another there’s no doubt that

for one another there’s no doubt that

for one another there’s no doubt that it’s hard to feel morale all the time

it’s hard to feel morale all the time

it’s hard to feel morale all the time because if we felt every ounce of pain

because if we felt every ounce of pain

because if we felt every ounce of pain in the world we would implode quite

in the world we would implode quite

in the world we would implode quite simply our emotions would be obliterated

simply our emotions would be obliterated

simply our emotions would be obliterated and we would cease to remain

and we would cease to remain

and we would cease to remain compassionate but because if I have to

compassionate but because if I have to

compassionate but because if I have to make a moral decision on one thing do I

make a moral decision on one thing do I

make a moral decision on one thing do I really need to make a moral decision on

really need to make a moral decision on

really need to make a moral decision on everything while it’s helpful in me

everything while it’s helpful in me

everything while it’s helpful in me yearns for this capacity I am a cynical

yearns for this capacity I am a cynical

yearns for this capacity I am a cynical idealist at best and even I know that I

idealist at best and even I know that I

idealist at best and even I know that I cannot encapsulate the pain of the world

cannot encapsulate the pain of the world

cannot encapsulate the pain of the world but I can choose to not be blind by it

but I can choose to not be blind by it

but I can choose to not be blind by it to it rather um the reason I decided

to it rather um the reason I decided

to it rather um the reason I decided that I needed to talk about this today

that I needed to talk about this today

that I needed to talk about this today is because I read something that really

is because I read something that really

is because I read something that really it hit home and it kind of borrowed

it hit home and it kind of borrowed

it hit home and it kind of borrowed itself inside um and it was this quote

itself inside um and it was this quote

itself inside um and it was this quote by Andrew Boyd who I actually anyway and

by Andrew Boyd who I actually anyway and

by Andrew Boyd who I actually anyway and so so Andrew Boyd said compassion hurts

so so Andrew Boyd said compassion hurts

so so Andrew Boyd said compassion hurts when you feel connected to everything

when you feel connected to everything

when you feel connected to everything you feel responsible for everything and

you feel responsible for everything and

you feel responsible for everything and you cannot turn away your destiny is

you cannot turn away your destiny is

you cannot turn away your destiny is bound with the destiny of others you

bound with the destiny of others you

bound with the destiny of others you must either learn to carry the universe

must either learn to carry the universe

must either learn to carry the universe or be crushed by it you must be able to

or be crushed by it you must be able to

or be crushed by it you must be able to love the world and sit down and let stay

love the world and sit down and let stay

love the world and sit down and let stay at the table with its worst horrors I do

at the table with its worst horrors I do

at the table with its worst horrors I do not know how to solve our growing

not know how to solve our growing

not know how to solve our growing aversion to compassion I cannot answer

aversion to compassion I cannot answer

aversion to compassion I cannot answer those huge questions about morality but

those huge questions about morality but

those huge questions about morality but I know that we have to be compassionate

I know that we have to be compassionate

I know that we have to be compassionate none of us here can escape the tragedy

none of us here can escape the tragedy

none of us here can escape the tragedy of the world that’s just how it is but

of the world that’s just how it is but

of the world that’s just how it is but you can choose to change the way you

you can choose to change the way you

you can choose to change the way you process what you consume I’m a sucker

process what you consume I’m a sucker

process what you consume I’m a sucker for metaphor but I think this analogy

for metaphor but I think this analogy

for metaphor but I think this analogy actually sums that up better compassion

actually sums that up better compassion

actually sums that up better compassion fatigue has had me hinged on the balance

fatigue has had me hinged on the balance

fatigue has had me hinged on the balance between wanting to be like a completely

between wanting to be like a completely

between wanting to be like a completely exposed nerve and not having any nerve

exposed nerve and not having any nerve

exposed nerve and not having any nerve endings at all to be numb and while

endings at all to be numb and while

endings at all to be numb and while compassion breeds pain I would always

compassion breeds pain I would always

compassion breeds pain I would always like to pick the former and I’d hoped

like to pick the former and I’d hoped

like to pick the former and I’d hoped that you’d commit that also essentially

that you’d commit that also essentially

that you’d commit that also essentially this dog has stemmed from a disease

this dog has stemmed from a disease

this dog has stemmed from a disease to talk about something that has felt so

to talk about something that has felt so

to talk about something that has felt so overwhelming for so very long to

overwhelming for so very long to

overwhelming for so very long to acknowledge that the struggle for

acknowledge that the struggle for

acknowledge that the struggle for morality is a struggle in the face of

morality is a struggle in the face of

morality is a struggle in the face of adversity with its teeth to allow myself

adversity with its teeth to allow myself

adversity with its teeth to allow myself to sit down and be scared of sitting

to sit down and be scared of sitting

to sit down and be scared of sitting down with the world’s Horrors to remind

down with the world’s Horrors to remind

down with the world’s Horrors to remind myself that I can and will become strong

myself that I can and will become strong

myself that I can and will become strong enough one day because we cannot live

enough one day because we cannot live

enough one day because we cannot live and be submerged by waves of apathy

and be submerged by waves of apathy

and be submerged by waves of apathy instead we must learn to live against

instead we must learn to live against

instead we must learn to live against the current constantly seeking out

the current constantly seeking out

the current constantly seeking out compassion thank you very much

compassion thank you very much

compassion thank you very much [Applause]

[Applause]

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