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yes right stay with me

yes right stay with me yes yes is where the fun is yes is where

yes yes is where the fun is yes is where

yes yes is where the fun is yes is where the adventure is yes is where the story

the adventure is yes is where the story

the adventure is yes is where the story is if you say no the story ends okay I

is if you say no the story ends okay I

is if you say no the story ends okay I didn’t always look like this that was me

didn’t always look like this that was me

didn’t always look like this that was me back in 1895 maybe 1995 I was fresh out

back in 1895 maybe 1995 I was fresh out

back in 1895 maybe 1995 I was fresh out of business school working at the

of business school working at the

of business school working at the Vanderbilt plans in Nashville and for

Vanderbilt plans in Nashville and for

Vanderbilt plans in Nashville and for most of my adult life I was that guy the

most of my adult life I was that guy the

most of my adult life I was that guy the suit-wearing guy then I went to this

suit-wearing guy then I went to this

suit-wearing guy then I went to this thing called Burning Man yeah so in 2010

thing called Burning Man yeah so in 2010

thing called Burning Man yeah so in 2010 I had been with my dad watched him die

I had been with my dad watched him die

I had been with my dad watched him die from cancer and I said you know there’s

from cancer and I said you know there’s

from cancer and I said you know there’s I’m ready to say yes to life life is

I’m ready to say yes to life life is

I’m ready to say yes to life life is happening right now right here don’t

happening right now right here don’t

happening right now right here don’t miss it you know what if we all gave

miss it you know what if we all gave

miss it you know what if we all gave ourselves the opportunity the permission

ourselves the opportunity the permission

ourselves the opportunity the permission the self space to say yes right just say

the self space to say yes right just say

the self space to say yes right just say yes I went to Burning Man for well you

yes I went to Burning Man for well you

yes I went to Burning Man for well you know people go to Burning Man for lots

know people go to Burning Man for lots

know people go to Burning Man for lots of reasons they go for the music they go

of reasons they go for the music they go

of reasons they go for the music they go for the art just I went to disconnect I

for the art just I went to disconnect I

for the art just I went to disconnect I needed to unplug I was a really crazy

needed to unplug I was a really crazy

needed to unplug I was a really crazy time of my life busy hectic and I wanted

time of my life busy hectic and I wanted

time of my life busy hectic and I wanted to just unplug do you nothing what I

to just unplug do you nothing what I

to just unplug do you nothing what I found by going out there is I met people

found by going out there is I met people

found by going out there is I met people who are living in heart space just full

who are living in heart space just full

who are living in heart space just full open just boom being able to let go of

open just boom being able to let go of

open just boom being able to let go of expectations prejudices biases old tapes

expectations prejudices biases old tapes

expectations prejudices biases old tapes running in their head and what I found

running in their head and what I found

running in their head and what I found by disconnecting is I meet some of the

by disconnecting is I meet some of the

by disconnecting is I meet some of the best connections ever what if we gave

best connections ever what if we gave

best connections ever what if we gave ourselves that permission to really see

ourselves that permission to really see

ourselves that permission to really see each other to really listen to feel the

each other to really listen to feel the

each other to really listen to feel the stories well that’s really what’s at the

stories well that’s really what’s at the

stories well that’s really what’s at the heart of what’s become the pink socks

heart of what’s become the pink socks

heart of what’s become the pink socks movement

this is my friend dick he gave me this

this is my friend dick he gave me this belt buckle pink socks look what happens

belt buckle pink socks look what happens

belt buckle pink socks look what happens at Burning Man there’s a lot of burners

at Burning Man there’s a lot of burners

at Burning Man there’s a lot of burners in the room oh not gonna have to tell

in the room oh not gonna have to tell

in the room oh not gonna have to tell you all about Burning Man but the city

you all about Burning Man but the city

you all about Burning Man but the city operates on ten principles the most

operates on ten principles the most

operates on ten principles the most important one that I came away with is

important one that I came away with is

important one that I came away with is gifting right you know the other ones

gifting right you know the other ones

gifting right you know the other ones radical self-expression write our

radical self-expression write our

radical self-expression write our conclusion Leave No Trace

conclusion Leave No Trace

conclusion Leave No Trace decommodification which means there’s no

decommodification which means there’s no

decommodification which means there’s no branding no logos no corporate

branding no logos no corporate

branding no logos no corporate sponsorships when I came away of was

sponsorships when I came away of was

sponsorships when I came away of was gifting was the one that was most

gifting was the one that was most

gifting was the one that was most important and gifting at Burning Man as

important and gifting at Burning Man as

important and gifting at Burning Man as I loved you know it doesn’t require any

I loved you know it doesn’t require any

I loved you know it doesn’t require any reciprocity there’s no quid pro quo

reciprocity there’s no quid pro quo

reciprocity there’s no quid pro quo someone just gives you a gift it could

someone just gives you a gift it could

someone just gives you a gift it could be a bracelet it could be a cold PBR

be a bracelet it could be a cold PBR

be a bracelet it could be a cold PBR could be a back rub it could be some

could be a back rub it could be some

could be a back rub it could be some bacon your gift is simply accepting

bacon your gift is simply accepting

bacon your gift is simply accepting their gift sitting in that moment and

their gift sitting in that moment and

their gift sitting in that moment and saying yes to accepting their gift and

saying yes to accepting their gift and

saying yes to accepting their gift and that’s really at the heart of the pink

that’s really at the heart of the pink

that’s really at the heart of the pink socks movement it’s all about a gift all

socks movement it’s all about a gift all

socks movement it’s all about a gift all right how it started was a little were

right how it started was a little were

right how it started was a little were two years ago I was I live in Portland

two years ago I was I live in Portland

two years ago I was I live in Portland well over two years ago I was down here

well over two years ago I was down here

well over two years ago I was down here trying to raise money for a start-up I

trying to raise money for a start-up I

trying to raise money for a start-up I was involved in and staying at this

was involved in and staying at this

was involved in and staying at this hotel over off the Tenderloin because it

hotel over off the Tenderloin because it

hotel over off the Tenderloin because it didn’t have a lot of money so that we’re

didn’t have a lot of money so that we’re

didn’t have a lot of money so that we’re gonna startup budget so Stan Lane and

gonna startup budget so Stan Lane and

gonna startup budget so Stan Lane and mean and I wasn’t wearing pink socks at

mean and I wasn’t wearing pink socks at

mean and I wasn’t wearing pink socks at that moment I was wearing these really

that moment I was wearing these really

that moment I was wearing these really cool funky robot heart monkey socks and

cool funky robot heart monkey socks and

cool funky robot heart monkey socks and my friend and I were sitting out by the

my friend and I were sitting out by the

my friend and I were sitting out by the pool one morning having coffee and we

pool one morning having coffee and we

pool one morning having coffee and we met this older couple from Israel and

met this older couple from Israel and

met this older couple from Israel and this guy’s named a slo-mo and he had

this guy’s named a slo-mo and he had

this guy’s named a slo-mo and he had this the most awesome infectious smile

this the most awesome infectious smile

this the most awesome infectious smile ever and he was really grooving on my

ever and he was really grooving on my

ever and he was really grooving on my socks and I said mmm you know I’ve got

socks and I said mmm you know I’ve got

socks and I said mmm you know I’ve got some of those back in the room some

some of those back in the room some

some of those back in the room some brand new ones I think I’ll just go up

brand new ones I think I’ll just go up

brand new ones I think I’ll just go up to my room and grab them came back so um

to my room and grab them came back so um

to my room and grab them came back so um when his wife or sitting there I said

when his wife or sitting there I said

when his wife or sitting there I said she might like to give you these and in

she might like to give you these and in

she might like to give you these and in that moment that instant when I saw his

that moment that instant when I saw his

that moment that instant when I saw his smile it reminded me of what gifting was

smile it reminded me of what gifting was

smile it reminded me of what gifting was like at Burning Man and I said well what

like at Burning Man and I said well what

like at Burning Man and I said well what if

if

if I could do this at scale what if I could

I could do this at scale what if I could

I could do this at scale what if I could keep gifting if a simple pair of socks

keep gifting if a simple pair of socks

keep gifting if a simple pair of socks could cause such a great moment between

could cause such a great moment between

could cause such a great moment between two people just something so simple

two people just something so simple

two people just something so simple could I create that and scale it up so I

could I create that and scale it up so I

could I create that and scale it up so I went to this conference in Chicago a

went to this conference in Chicago a

went to this conference in Chicago a bunch of healthcare executives you know

bunch of healthcare executives you know

bunch of healthcare executives you know 42,000 people in suits and I decided I

42,000 people in suits and I decided I

42,000 people in suits and I decided I would pick the the socks that I thought

would pick the the socks that I thought

would pick the the socks that I thought were the coolest and the funnest no once

were the coolest and the funnest no once

were the coolest and the funnest no once I got the most comments on my every time

I got the most comments on my every time

I got the most comments on my every time I wore them and there were these pink

I wore them and there were these pink

I wore them and there were these pink socks with the mustaches and so we went

socks with the mustaches and so we went

socks with the mustaches and so we went and started giving away socks and you

and started giving away socks and you

and started giving away socks and you know people would come up and they’d say

know people would come up and they’d say

know people would come up and they’d say hey what’s your story and I say hey I’m

hey what’s your story and I say hey I’m

hey what’s your story and I say hey I’m Nick what’s your name and we’d talk and

Nick what’s your name and we’d talk and

Nick what’s your name and we’d talk and then I would say you know I’ve got

then I would say you know I’ve got

then I would say you know I’ve got something in my bag for you I had

something in my bag for you I had

something in my bag for you I had reached I’ve given a pair of these pink

reached I’ve given a pair of these pink

reached I’ve given a pair of these pink socks didn’t give up business cards just

socks didn’t give up business cards just

socks didn’t give up business cards just just gave out socks and we started using

just gave out socks and we started using

just gave out socks and we started using this hashtag pink socks at that

this hashtag pink socks at that

this hashtag pink socks at that conference and it kind of took over the

conference and it kind of took over the

conference and it kind of took over the conference it went viral and people were

conference it went viral and people were

conference it went viral and people were like okay what is the pink socks what is

like okay what is the pink socks what is

like okay what is the pink socks what is this thing you know we kept going to

this thing you know we kept going to

this thing you know we kept going to conferences and doing this for like a

conferences and doing this for like a

conferences and doing this for like a year just give them away socks and after

year just give them away socks and after

year just give them away socks and after about a year it was like okay that’s fun

about a year it was like okay that’s fun

about a year it was like okay that’s fun but remember like Elvis you know I was

but remember like Elvis you know I was

but remember like Elvis you know I was there’s young Elvis and there’s fat old

there’s young Elvis and there’s fat old

there’s young Elvis and there’s fat old of us I was ready for the Sox to die as

of us I was ready for the Sox to die as

of us I was ready for the Sox to die as young Elvis I just be done with it but

young Elvis I just be done with it but

young Elvis I just be done with it but then I got this message somebody in me

then I got this message somebody in me

then I got this message somebody in me on Twitter and said hey did did you send

on Twitter and said hey did did you send

on Twitter and said hey did did you send some socks over to Europe I like what

some socks over to Europe I like what

some socks over to Europe I like what and like yeah there’s go look at this

and like yeah there’s go look at this

and like yeah there’s go look at this there’s a group in the Netherlands that

there’s a group in the Netherlands that

there’s a group in the Netherlands that is giving away socks pink socks to help

is giving away socks pink socks to help

is giving away socks pink socks to help drive awareness for what they’re doing

drive awareness for what they’re doing

drive awareness for what they’re doing with Alzheimer and dementia care I was

with Alzheimer and dementia care I was

with Alzheimer and dementia care I was like what

like what

like what and then about the time I said what

and then about the time I said what

and then about the time I said what there was a group in Wales that popped

there was a group in Wales that popped

there was a group in Wales that popped up on Twitter that was giving away pink

up on Twitter that was giving away pink

up on Twitter that was giving away pink socks to help drive awareness for ataxia

socks to help drive awareness for ataxia

socks to help drive awareness for ataxia which is a rare disease it’s at that

which is a rare disease it’s at that

which is a rare disease it’s at that moment we said okay the things going

moment we said okay the things going

moment we said okay the things going organic you know where people are

organic you know where people are

organic you know where people are gifting pink socks on their own at will

gifting pink socks on their own at will

gifting pink socks on their own at will and now over a little over two years

and now over a little over two years

and now over a little over two years later that’s really grown

later that’s really grown

later that’s really grown I mean people give socks away for all

I mean people give socks away for all

I mean people give socks away for all kinds of things they give them away at

kinds of things they give them away at

kinds of things they give them away at med schools they given away at hospitals

med schools they given away at hospitals

med schools they given away at hospitals they give them away just for fun there’s

they give them away just for fun there’s

they give them away just for fun there’s a man that you may gave socks to Deepak

a man that you may gave socks to Deepak

a man that you may gave socks to Deepak Chopra there’s the Minister of Health

Chopra there’s the Minister of Health

Chopra there’s the Minister of Health from the Netherlands I mean it it’s

from the Netherlands I mean it it’s

from the Netherlands I mean it it’s there’s a group in North Carolina that’s

there’s a group in North Carolina that’s

there’s a group in North Carolina that’s using it to help promote the work

using it to help promote the work

using it to help promote the work they’re doing with feed feeding hungry

they’re doing with feed feeding hungry

they’re doing with feed feeding hungry children in Chapel Hill North Carolina

children in Chapel Hill North Carolina

children in Chapel Hill North Carolina there’s a group in India that’s using it

there’s a group in India that’s using it

there’s a group in India that’s using it to help drive awareness for the work

to help drive awareness for the work

to help drive awareness for the work they’re doing for breast cancer

they’re doing for breast cancer

they’re doing for breast cancer screening for women in India my favorite

screening for women in India my favorite

screening for women in India my favorite is this astronaut he’s has pink socks

is this astronaut he’s has pink socks

is this astronaut he’s has pink socks Captain John McBride

Captain John McBride

Captain John McBride he was the captain pilot of the space

he was the captain pilot of the space

he was the captain pilot of the space shuttle Atlantis on two missions he

shuttle Atlantis on two missions he

shuttle Atlantis on two missions he actually deployed the Hubble telescope

actually deployed the Hubble telescope

actually deployed the Hubble telescope on that mission big socks yeah and so

on that mission big socks yeah and so

on that mission big socks yeah and so this conversation has started and it’s

this conversation has started and it’s

this conversation has started and it’s still going on it’s all over the world

still going on it’s all over the world

still going on it’s all over the world and so I wake up every morning and look

and so I wake up every morning and look

and so I wake up every morning and look at the hash tag and you can see where

at the hash tag and you can see where

at the hash tag and you can see where people are giving socks away just for

people are giving socks away just for

people are giving socks away just for fun right it doesn’t really have to be

fun right it doesn’t really have to be

fun right it doesn’t really have to be that difficult

that difficult

that difficult if you just think about all the good

if you just think about all the good

if you just think about all the good that’s in the world and focus on that

that’s in the world and focus on that

that’s in the world and focus on that yeah in health care where there’s a lot

yeah in health care where there’s a lot

yeah in health care where there’s a lot of talk about empathy what is empathy

of talk about empathy what is empathy

of talk about empathy what is empathy really it’s stopping your mind it’s

really it’s stopping your mind it’s

really it’s stopping your mind it’s really seeing someone it’s allowing

really seeing someone it’s allowing

really seeing someone it’s allowing yourself to be seen it’s listening to

yourself to be seen it’s listening to

yourself to be seen it’s listening to their story

their story

their story it’s feeling their story

we’re gonna do something everybody stand

we’re gonna do something everybody stand up let’s try a little

yeah yeah okay so here’s what I want you

yeah yeah okay so here’s what I want you to do we’re gonna just follow my

to do we’re gonna just follow my

to do we’re gonna just follow my directions and don’t say anything right

directions and don’t say anything right

directions and don’t say anything right now

now

now but what I want you to do is I want you

but what I want you to do is I want you

but what I want you to do is I want you to face the person next to you hopefully

to face the person next to you hopefully

to face the person next to you hopefully it’s somebody you didn’t come with if if

it’s somebody you didn’t come with if if

it’s somebody you didn’t come with if if you did come with them that’s fine but

you did come with them that’s fine but

you did come with them that’s fine but try to try to look at a stranger maybe

try to try to look at a stranger maybe

try to try to look at a stranger maybe that person’s behind you in front of you

that person’s behind you in front of you

that person’s behind you in front of you okay so so so let’s listen listen let’s

okay so so so let’s listen listen let’s

okay so so so let’s listen listen let’s be silent now what I want you to do is

be silent now what I want you to do is

be silent now what I want you to do is just look at each other yeah so I want

just look at each other yeah so I want

just look at each other yeah so I want you to be silent I want you to look at

you to be silent I want you to look at

you to be silent I want you to look at each other in the eye and you just get a

each other in the eye and you just get a

each other in the eye and you just get a little closer you know this though where

little closer you know this though where

little closer you know this though where we’re gonna be any HR violations here

we’re gonna be any HR violations here

we’re gonna be any HR violations here just I want you I want you to look at

just I want you I want you to look at

just I want you I want you to look at each other with intent with intent and

each other with intent with intent and

each other with intent with intent and when I tell you to say these words I

when I tell you to say these words I

when I tell you to say these words I want you to say the words I’m about to

want you to say the words I’m about to

want you to say the words I’m about to tell you look at the other person in the

tell you look at the other person in the

tell you look at the other person in the eyes and say these words okay Shh

eyes and say these words okay Shh

eyes and say these words okay Shh ready I see you

yeah congratulations Yeah right

yeah congratulations Yeah right hugs yeah all right yeah yeah okay

hugs yeah all right yeah yeah okay

hugs yeah all right yeah yeah okay you’ve just you’ve just listened you’ve

you’ve just you’ve just listened you’ve

you’ve just you’ve just listened you’ve just heard and felt what some people

just heard and felt what some people

just heard and felt what some people will go through this whole time this

will go through this whole time this

will go through this whole time this whole dimension their whole life never

whole dimension their whole life never

whole dimension their whole life never having someone say that to them never

having someone say that to them never

having someone say that to them never feeling that never being seen yeah

feeling that never being seen yeah

feeling that never being seen yeah can we keep doing that so for the pink

can we keep doing that so for the pink

can we keep doing that so for the pink socks tribe it’s the pink socks you know

socks tribe it’s the pink socks you know

socks tribe it’s the pink socks you know we’ve we’ve chosen this to be the thing

we’ve we’ve chosen this to be the thing

we’ve we’ve chosen this to be the thing that we engage people with maybe for you

that we engage people with maybe for you

that we engage people with maybe for you it’s a fun hat it’s a flower it’s a fun

it’s a fun hat it’s a flower it’s a fun

it’s a fun hat it’s a flower it’s a fun button it’s something what causes people

button it’s something what causes people

button it’s something what causes people to engage what connects you there are

to engage what connects you there are

to engage what connects you there are people here that have pink socks there’s

people here that have pink socks there’s

people here that have pink socks there’s people here that want to give you socks

people here that want to give you socks

people here that want to give you socks if you want some so during the break go

if you want some so during the break go

if you want some so during the break go find the people to have the pink socks

find the people to have the pink socks

find the people to have the pink socks have that connection they want to give

have that connection they want to give

have that connection they want to give them to you when you wear your pink

them to you when you wear your pink

them to you when you wear your pink socks or whatever your pink socks thing

socks or whatever your pink socks thing

socks or whatever your pink socks thing is right every time you wear them you’re

is right every time you wear them you’re

is right every time you wear them you’re gonna make people smile

and someone’s going to comment on your

and someone’s going to comment on your socks and they’re gonna say hey I like

socks and they’re gonna say hey I like

socks and they’re gonna say hey I like those socks that’s the universe tapping

those socks that’s the universe tapping

those socks that’s the universe tapping you on the shoulder providing an

you on the shoulder providing an

you on the shoulder providing an opportunity for you to connect with

opportunity for you to connect with

opportunity for you to connect with someone that day that had you not been

someone that day that had you not been

someone that day that had you not been wearing the pink socks the two of you

wearing the pink socks the two of you

wearing the pink socks the two of you would have missed each other stop what

would have missed each other stop what

would have missed each other stop what you’re doing get off your phone

you’re doing get off your phone

you’re doing get off your phone stay on the bark for another stop get

stay on the bark for another stop get

stay on the bark for another stop get off your bike stay on the train and say

off your bike stay on the train and say

off your bike stay on the train and say hey I’m Nick what’s your name it’s good

hey I’m Nick what’s your name it’s good

hey I’m Nick what’s your name it’s good to meet you it’s good to see you there

to meet you it’s good to see you there

to meet you it’s good to see you there are stories waiting to be told stories

are stories waiting to be told stories

are stories waiting to be told stories waiting to be heard hear them don’t miss

waiting to be heard hear them don’t miss

waiting to be heard hear them don’t miss all of those

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