my god I feel so nervous my palms are sweating and my heart is beating so fast
sweating and my heart is beating so fast
sweating and my heart is beating so fast I feel like it’s about to fall on the
I feel like it’s about to fall on the
I feel like it’s about to fall on the floor expose for y’all to see all the
floor expose for y’all to see all the
floor expose for y’all to see all the while I’m thinking say the right thing
while I’m thinking say the right thing
while I’m thinking say the right thing the right move the right amount of
the right move the right amount of
the right move the right amount of self-sacrifice oh really this all feels
self-sacrifice oh really this all feels
self-sacrifice oh really this all feels just like the anxiety of her first date
just like the anxiety of her first date
just like the anxiety of her first date man I wonder what my tinder profile
man I wonder what my tinder profile
man I wonder what my tinder profile might say about me oh wow I’m Dylan I’m
might say about me oh wow I’m Dylan I’m
might say about me oh wow I’m Dylan I’m actually 30 years old and I am less than
actually 30 years old and I am less than
actually 30 years old and I am less than a kilometer away from you I am a social
a kilometer away from you I am a social
a kilometer away from you I am a social worker meets media maker and I’m also
worker meets media maker and I’m also
worker meets media maker and I’m also violence against women advocate
violence against women advocate
violence against women advocate currently working at the ottawa
currently working at the ottawa
currently working at the ottawa coalition to end violence against women
coalition to end violence against women
coalition to end violence against women or a tiny yet mighty organization here
or a tiny yet mighty organization here
or a tiny yet mighty organization here in ottawa recently i was appointed to
in ottawa recently i was appointed to
in ottawa recently i was appointed to the minister SAS women’s advisory
the minister SAS women’s advisory
the minister SAS women’s advisory committee to help shape the federal
committee to help shape the federal
committee to help shape the federal strategy to end gender-based violence in
strategy to end gender-based violence in
strategy to end gender-based violence in canada as the LGBTQ expert and cyber
canada as the LGBTQ expert and cyber
canada as the LGBTQ expert and cyber violence expert but mostly my tinder
violence expert but mostly my tinder
violence expert but mostly my tinder profile might tell you that I’m awkward
profile might tell you that I’m awkward
profile might tell you that I’m awkward my best pick-up line is do you want to
my best pick-up line is do you want to
my best pick-up line is do you want to play Scrabble it might tell you that I’m
play Scrabble it might tell you that I’m
play Scrabble it might tell you that I’m gender non-conforming which means I use
gender non-conforming which means I use
gender non-conforming which means I use the pronouns day in them that I like
the pronouns day in them that I like
the pronouns day in them that I like long walks on the beach that I have
long walks on the beach that I have
long walks on the beach that I have three tamagachi children and that my
three tamagachi children and that my
three tamagachi children and that my life is an excruciating a torturous push
life is an excruciating a torturous push
life is an excruciating a torturous push and pull between my feminist identity
and pull between my feminist identity
and pull between my feminist identity and my undying love for the bachelor
and my undying love for the bachelor
and my undying love for the bachelor I know I know there really is no hope
I know I know there really is no hope
I know I know there really is no hope for me but I guess in a way our lives
for me but I guess in a way our lives
for me but I guess in a way our lives are all one swipe right away from
are all one swipe right away from
are all one swipe right away from something and that something isn’t
something and that something isn’t
something and that something isn’t always a perfect match or happily ever
always a perfect match or happily ever
always a perfect match or happily ever after sometimes we can’t always see
after sometimes we can’t always see
after sometimes we can’t always see what’s in the depths of people’s lives
what’s in the depths of people’s lives
what’s in the depths of people’s lives in the glow of our iphone screens or
in the glow of our iphone screens or
in the glow of our iphone screens or honor tinder profiles you know I have a
honor tinder profiles you know I have a
honor tinder profiles you know I have a hard time telling my story I was 20 then
hard time telling my story I was 20 then
hard time telling my story I was 20 then and I’m 30 now and some things don’t
and I’m 30 now and some things don’t
and I’m 30 now and some things don’t necessarily change but I know that I
necessarily change but I know that I
necessarily change but I know that I have you see late one night I was
have you see late one night I was
have you see late one night I was walking to my car after class in my
walking to my car after class in my
walking to my car after class in my first year of university and my car was
first year of university and my car was
first year of university and my car was located in one of the furthest loss and
located in one of the furthest loss and
located in one of the furthest loss and they are i was raped by three men huh
they are i was raped by three men huh
they are i was raped by three men huh there I said it it doesn’t get any
there I said it it doesn’t get any
there I said it it doesn’t get any easier but I think you get stronger I
easier but I think you get stronger I
easier but I think you get stronger I cannot begin to express you the enormity
cannot begin to express you the enormity
cannot begin to express you the enormity of that night as survivors I think we
of that night as survivors I think we
of that night as survivors I think we spend a lot of our time running running
spend a lot of our time running running
spend a lot of our time running running from something or trying to find
from something or trying to find
from something or trying to find somewhere desperately to run from and
somewhere desperately to run from and
somewhere desperately to run from and you run from it for as long as you can
you run from it for as long as you can
you run from it for as long as you can until you finally have to face it and
until you finally have to face it and
until you finally have to face it and facing it is through no choice or no
facing it is through no choice or no
facing it is through no choice or no fault of your own but sometimes it’s
fault of your own but sometimes it’s
fault of your own but sometimes it’s impaled upon you and you have to carry
impaled upon you and you have to carry
impaled upon you and you have to carry it with you wherever you go along every
it with you wherever you go along every
it with you wherever you go along every crack and crevice along every edge and
crack and crevice along every edge and
crack and crevice along every edge and cliff you always contemplate the jump
cliff you always contemplate the jump
cliff you always contemplate the jump but you don’t want to fall off
I couldn’t get out of bed for weeks my
I couldn’t get out of bed for weeks my body hurt all the time sometimes I had
body hurt all the time sometimes I had
body hurt all the time sometimes I had to shower six times a day just to scrape
to shower six times a day just to scrape
to shower six times a day just to scrape them off me like salvation I quit school
them off me like salvation I quit school
them off me like salvation I quit school I lost a scholarship my parents couldn’t
I lost a scholarship my parents couldn’t
I lost a scholarship my parents couldn’t figure out what was happening to me how
figure out what was happening to me how
figure out what was happening to me how I could go from being an honor roll
I could go from being an honor roll
I could go from being an honor roll student to just never going back to
student to just never going back to
student to just never going back to school the thing but I didn’t know would
school the thing but I didn’t know would
school the thing but I didn’t know would be the hardest was the amount of friends
be the hardest was the amount of friends
be the hardest was the amount of friends I didn’t know I would lose I still feel
I didn’t know I would lose I still feel
I didn’t know I would lose I still feel like I lost parts of myself that night
like I lost parts of myself that night
like I lost parts of myself that night parts that I’m not sure you ever give
parts that I’m not sure you ever give
parts that I’m not sure you ever give back so you try to pick up the pieces
back so you try to pick up the pieces
back so you try to pick up the pieces over and over again you try to gather up
over and over again you try to gather up
over and over again you try to gather up enough courage to go on why would anyone
enough courage to go on why would anyone
enough courage to go on why would anyone want to rape someone who looks like you
every day reminds me of that day in some
every day reminds me of that day in some small irrelevant way whether it’s I see
small irrelevant way whether it’s I see
small irrelevant way whether it’s I see a car that reminds me of that night or I
a car that reminds me of that night or I
a car that reminds me of that night or I wear perfume or smell perfume that
wear perfume or smell perfume that
wear perfume or smell perfume that reminds me of that night these are my
reminds me of that night these are my
reminds me of that night these are my daily reminders but don’t worry I’m not
daily reminders but don’t worry I’m not
daily reminders but don’t worry I’m not just a survivor I’m not just broken I’m
just a survivor I’m not just broken I’m
just a survivor I’m not just broken I’m not tragic I’m surviving I’m here and
not tragic I’m surviving I’m here and
not tragic I’m surviving I’m here and I’m amazingly alive and I might be one
I’m amazingly alive and I might be one
I’m amazingly alive and I might be one in three but I know that these
in three but I know that these
in three but I know that these statistics are actually people’s lives
statistics are actually people’s lives
statistics are actually people’s lives the real life experiences and they’re
the real life experiences and they’re
the real life experiences and they’re trying to tell us something sexual
trying to tell us something sexual
trying to tell us something sexual violence doesn’t just happen at night it
violence doesn’t just happen at night it
violence doesn’t just happen at night it doesn’t just happen when strangers
doesn’t just happen when strangers
doesn’t just happen when strangers decide they want to attack her harass
decide they want to attack her harass
decide they want to attack her harass women it happens in our communities and
women it happens in our communities and
women it happens in our communities and our families it happens with our friends
our families it happens with our friends
our families it happens with our friends it happens at our schools it happens on
it happens at our schools it happens on
it happens at our schools it happens on the internet it happens when we live in
the internet it happens when we live in
the internet it happens when we live in a society built on racism and
a society built on racism and
a society built on racism and colonialism and homophobia and
colonialism and homophobia and
colonialism and homophobia and transphobia and ableism it happens when
transphobia and ableism it happens when
transphobia and ableism it happens when we live in a culture that blame
we live in a culture that blame
we live in a culture that blame survivors for their actions and doesn’t
survivors for their actions and doesn’t
survivors for their actions and doesn’t hold people who hurt others accountable
hold people who hurt others accountable
hold people who hurt others accountable it happens when we live in a society
it happens when we live in a society
it happens when we live in a society where of the sexual assaults that are
where of the sexual assaults that are
where of the sexual assaults that are reported so many of them are ever
reported so many of them are ever
reported so many of them are ever recorded as a crime and even less of
recorded as a crime and even less of
recorded as a crime and even less of those are prosecuted sexual violence is
those are prosecuted sexual violence is
those are prosecuted sexual violence is all around us this issue is so much
all around us this issue is so much
all around us this issue is so much bigger than you or me so I came to this
bigger than you or me so I came to this
bigger than you or me so I came to this work not by a coincidence and not by
work not by a coincidence and not by
work not by a coincidence and not by cliche but because so many of us have
cliche but because so many of us have
cliche but because so many of us have our daily reminders this is rehtaeh
our daily reminders this is rehtaeh
our daily reminders this is rehtaeh rehtaeh group and how facts she was like
rehtaeh group and how facts she was like
rehtaeh group and how facts she was like a lot of other young people young
a lot of other young people young
a lot of other young people young teenagers her father once told me that
teenagers her father once told me that
teenagers her father once told me that she was the kind of person who was
she was the kind of person who was
she was the kind of person who was willing to help anyone or any animal she
willing to help anyone or any animal she
willing to help anyone or any animal she was tender-hearted and fun-loving and
was tender-hearted and fun-loving and
was tender-hearted and fun-loving and then in just three short days her whole
then in just three short days her whole
then in just three short days her whole life changed in November of 2011 at the
life changed in November of 2011 at the
life changed in November of 2011 at the age of 15 rehtaeh Parsons went with a
age of 15 rehtaeh Parsons went with a
age of 15 rehtaeh Parsons went with a friend to a party like most teenagers do
friend to a party like most teenagers do
friend to a party like most teenagers do and they were drinking and there she was
and they were drinking and there she was
and they were drinking and there she was raped by for teenage boys rehtaeh
raped by for teenage boys rehtaeh
raped by for teenage boys rehtaeh couldn’t remember a lot of what happened
couldn’t remember a lot of what happened
couldn’t remember a lot of what happened that night except for the fact that at
that night except for the fact that at
that night except for the fact that at one point she woke up vomiting while
one point she woke up vomiting while
one point she woke up vomiting while someone was sexually assaulting her but
someone was sexually assaulting her but
someone was sexually assaulting her but what she didn’t know was that a
what she didn’t know was that a
what she didn’t know was that a photograph was taken of the incident and
photograph was taken of the incident and
photograph was taken of the incident and that photograph became widespread within
that photograph became widespread within
that photograph became widespread within the school and town in three days she
the school and town in three days she
the school and town in three days she was blamed she was slut-shamed in the
was blamed she was slut-shamed in the
was blamed she was slut-shamed in the town nobody would help her in her
town nobody would help her in her
town nobody would help her in her community the school would not intervene
community the school would not intervene
community the school would not intervene the police when they finally decided to
the police when they finally decided to
the police when they finally decided to get involved they thought there wasn’t
get involved they thought there wasn’t
get involved they thought there wasn’t enough credible evidence to be able to
enough credible evidence to be able to
enough credible evidence to be able to lay a charge he said she said
in three whole days her whole life
in three whole days her whole life changed on April 7th at eleven-fifteen
changed on April 7th at eleven-fifteen
changed on April 7th at eleven-fifteen p.m. rehtaeh Parsons died by suicide she
p.m. rehtaeh Parsons died by suicide she
p.m. rehtaeh Parsons died by suicide she died struggling to live like she spent
died struggling to live like she spent
died struggling to live like she spent the last 18 months of her life her case
the last 18 months of her life her case
the last 18 months of her life her case is reopened in light of new credible
is reopened in light of new credible
is reopened in light of new credible information and there’s a charge of
information and there’s a charge of
information and there’s a charge of distribution and protection of child
distribution and protection of child
distribution and protection of child pornography but in a lot of ways there
pornography but in a lot of ways there
pornography but in a lot of ways there really was no justice for rehtaeh
really was no justice for rehtaeh
really was no justice for rehtaeh Parsons because we’re still not talking
Parsons because we’re still not talking
Parsons because we’re still not talking about what happened to her that she was
about what happened to her that she was
about what happened to her that she was sexually assaulted or that she
sexually assaulted or that she
sexually assaulted or that she experienced online gender-based violence
experienced online gender-based violence
experienced online gender-based violence and at the end of the day she’s still
and at the end of the day she’s still
and at the end of the day she’s still gone how are we all doing I know that’s
gone how are we all doing I know that’s
gone how are we all doing I know that’s tough just remember that we’re all in
tough just remember that we’re all in
tough just remember that we’re all in this together and take a moment to
this together and take a moment to
this together and take a moment to breathe and we can hold each other up
but its banks a bigger question is the
but its banks a bigger question is the internet a wild wild west that can’t be
internet a wild wild west that can’t be
internet a wild wild west that can’t be tamed the problem violence and abuse is
tamed the problem violence and abuse is
tamed the problem violence and abuse is the greatest challenge the internet
the greatest challenge the internet
the greatest challenge the internet faces today in a recent report with the
faces today in a recent report with the
faces today in a recent report with the UN / seventy-three percent of women
UN / seventy-three percent of women
UN / seventy-three percent of women reported experiencing some form of
reported experiencing some form of
reported experiencing some form of online gender-based violence what we
online gender-based violence what we
online gender-based violence what we know about gender based violence locally
know about gender based violence locally
know about gender based violence locally is that in a research study over with
is that in a research study over with
is that in a research study over with young women in high schools a hundred
young women in high schools a hundred
young women in high schools a hundred percent of the respondents said that
percent of the respondents said that
percent of the respondents said that there’s a vibe they have experienced
there’s a vibe they have experienced
there’s a vibe they have experienced gender-based violence but the thing is
gender-based violence but the thing is
gender-based violence but the thing is is that technology is always changing
is that technology is always changing
is that technology is always changing and we can’t keep up I know a lot of us
and we can’t keep up I know a lot of us
and we can’t keep up I know a lot of us the internet is kind of just this weird
the internet is kind of just this weird
the internet is kind of just this weird experience that we have but for a lot of
experience that we have but for a lot of
experience that we have but for a lot of young people it’s a place where they
young people it’s a place where they
young people it’s a place where they find community and empowerment but it’s
find community and empowerment but it’s
find community and empowerment but it’s also quite dangerous from what we know
also quite dangerous from what we know
also quite dangerous from what we know in talking with young women and looking
in talking with young women and looking
in talking with young women and looking at the issues is that this is so much
at the issues is that this is so much
at the issues is that this is so much bigger than just mean tweets or comments
bigger than just mean tweets or comments
bigger than just mean tweets or comments on articles there’s the issue of online
on articles there’s the issue of online
on articles there’s the issue of online harassment which I mean we talk about
harassment which I mean we talk about
harassment which I mean we talk about trolls and I’m not talking about the
trolls and I’m not talking about the
trolls and I’m not talking about the cute rolls with the hair and the the
cute rolls with the hair and the the
cute rolls with the hair and the the jewelry I’m talking about p
jewelry I’m talking about p
jewelry I’m talking about p who are on the internet harming people
who are on the internet harming people
who are on the internet harming people and oftentimes his harm is aimed at
and oftentimes his harm is aimed at
and oftentimes his harm is aimed at women I have a friend who is a feminist
women I have a friend who is a feminist
women I have a friend who is a feminist blogger in Toronto and just because she
blogger in Toronto and just because she
blogger in Toronto and just because she uses a platform to talk about
uses a platform to talk about
uses a platform to talk about experiences and what it’s like to be a
experiences and what it’s like to be a
experiences and what it’s like to be a woman she’s had people seek out her
woman she’s had people seek out her
woman she’s had people seek out her private information and release it
private information and release it
private information and release it publicly where her child goes to school
publicly where her child goes to school
publicly where her child goes to school where she works her banking information
where she works her banking information
where she works her banking information this is what’s happening to women just
this is what’s happening to women just
this is what’s happening to women just for the sake of having a voice online
for the sake of having a voice online
for the sake of having a voice online the issue of non-consensual distribution
the issue of non-consensual distribution
the issue of non-consensual distribution of intimate images also we sometimes
of intimate images also we sometimes
of intimate images also we sometimes talk to it talk about it as revenge porn
talk to it talk about it as revenge porn
talk to it talk about it as revenge porn or sexting while it’s not porn because
or sexting while it’s not porn because
or sexting while it’s not porn because it’s not consensual and it’s not revenge
it’s not consensual and it’s not revenge
it’s not consensual and it’s not revenge because we shouldn’t feel entitled to
because we shouldn’t feel entitled to
because we shouldn’t feel entitled to those things to begin with but we saw
those things to begin with but we saw
those things to begin with but we saw this with the case of Jennifer Lawrence
this with the case of Jennifer Lawrence
this with the case of Jennifer Lawrence in her / iCloud leak with all of her
in her / iCloud leak with all of her
in her / iCloud leak with all of her intimate images we saw this with Amanda
intimate images we saw this with Amanda
intimate images we saw this with Amanda Todd who was a young person in bc who
Todd who was a young person in bc who
Todd who was a young person in bc who had her photos go viral and she was
had her photos go viral and she was
had her photos go viral and she was slut-shamed she had to change schools at
slut-shamed she had to change schools at
slut-shamed she had to change schools at least three times before she committed
least three times before she committed
least three times before she committed suicide we see this in the issues of
suicide we see this in the issues of
suicide we see this in the issues of recordings of sexual assaults like with
recordings of sexual assaults like with
recordings of sexual assaults like with what happened to rehtaeh Parsons and so
what happened to rehtaeh Parsons and so
what happened to rehtaeh Parsons and so many other young women on the internet
many other young women on the internet
many other young women on the internet there’s a recent Netflix documentary
there’s a recent Netflix documentary
there’s a recent Netflix documentary about Audrey and Daisy and what it means
about Audrey and Daisy and what it means
about Audrey and Daisy and what it means to be a victim online and how victims
to be a victim online and how victims
to be a victim online and how victims are demonized and perpetrators aren’t
are demonized and perpetrators aren’t
are demonized and perpetrators aren’t held accountable digital dating abuse I
held accountable digital dating abuse I
held accountable digital dating abuse I can go on the Google App Store and find
can go on the Google App Store and find
can go on the Google App Store and find things like a girlfriend tracker I can
things like a girlfriend tracker I can
things like a girlfriend tracker I can go on tinder and use GPS location and
go on tinder and use GPS location and
go on tinder and use GPS location and geo-mapping just to figure out where
geo-mapping just to figure out where
geo-mapping just to figure out where people are these are things that happen
people are these are things that happen
people are these are things that happen on the internet people talk about black
on the internet people talk about black
on the internet people talk about black mirrors being this kind of technological
mirrors being this kind of technological
mirrors being this kind of technological future but we’re actually leaving that
future but we’re actually leaving that
future but we’re actually leaving that right now I know right it’s terrifying
right now I know right it’s terrifying
right now I know right it’s terrifying but don’t worry I have some hope for you
but don’t worry I have some hope for you
but don’t worry I have some hope for you there’s young people in canada in ottawa
there’s young people in canada in ottawa
there’s young people in canada in ottawa who are doing such amazing work around
who are doing such amazing work around
who are doing such amazing work around these issues and there’s some things
these issues and there’s some things
these issues and there’s some things that they want you to know for example
that they want you to know for example
that they want you to know for example cyberbullying please stop using that
cyberbullying please stop using that
cyberbullying please stop using that term it’s overused
term it’s overused
term it’s overused it doesn’t make any sense it doesn’t
it doesn’t make any sense it doesn’t
it doesn’t make any sense it doesn’t actually get at what we’re talking about
actually get at what we’re talking about
actually get at what we’re talking about this is violence this is also a gender
this is violence this is also a gender
this is violence this is also a gender issue it affects mostly young women and
issue it affects mostly young women and
issue it affects mostly young women and LGBTQ people young people of color it’s
LGBTQ people young people of color it’s
LGBTQ people young people of color it’s relentless and inescapable oftentimes
relentless and inescapable oftentimes
relentless and inescapable oftentimes because you can’t escape it even if you
because you can’t escape it even if you
because you can’t escape it even if you go home at night it’s a systemic issue
go home at night it’s a systemic issue
go home at night it’s a systemic issue but also that adults focus too much on
but also that adults focus too much on
but also that adults focus too much on the negative sides of online life you
the negative sides of online life you
the negative sides of online life you can have to talk telling young people to
can have to talk telling young people to
can have to talk telling young people to get off the internet because this is
get off the internet because this is
get off the internet because this is where their communities are this is
where their communities are this is
where their communities are this is where they find their friendships and
where they find their friendships and
where they find their friendships and support and it’s not consent if you can
support and it’s not consent if you can
support and it’s not consent if you can understand these long terms and
understand these long terms and
understand these long terms and conditions community policies that
conditions community policies that
conditions community policies that people can understand legal jargon young
people can understand legal jargon young
people can understand legal jargon young people they say hey if we can’t
people they say hey if we can’t
people they say hey if we can’t understand it then we don’t consent to
understand it then we don’t consent to
understand it then we don’t consent to it it’s like being on a powder keg
it it’s like being on a powder keg
it it’s like being on a powder keg that’s about to explode and surveillance
that’s about to explode and surveillance
that’s about to explode and surveillance is actually a problem it’s not a
is actually a problem it’s not a
is actually a problem it’s not a solution we should stop policing young
solution we should stop policing young
solution we should stop policing young people we should help them because they
people we should help them because they
people we should help them because they are the experts of their own lives but
are the experts of their own lives but
are the experts of their own lives but you put all these things together it
you put all these things together it
you put all these things together it really is a perfect storm how many of
really is a perfect storm how many of
really is a perfect storm how many of you have made a mistake when you are a
you have made a mistake when you are a
you have made a mistake when you are a teenager most of us imagine never being
teenager most of us imagine never being
teenager most of us imagine never being able to escape that mistake imagine
able to escape that mistake imagine
able to escape that mistake imagine never being able to have the right to be
never being able to have the right to be
never being able to have the right to be forgotten do you really want to live in
forgotten do you really want to live in
forgotten do you really want to live in that world young women in ottawa are
that world young women in ottawa are
that world young women in ottawa are changemakers but we need a paradigm
changemakers but we need a paradigm
changemakers but we need a paradigm shift because this is not just a women’s
shift because this is not just a women’s
shift because this is not just a women’s issue it’s everybody’s issue we need to
issue it’s everybody’s issue we need to
issue it’s everybody’s issue we need to be building communities of care
be building communities of care
be building communities of care community that requires critical
community that requires critical
community that requires critical awareness of all the things we must
awareness of all the things we must
awareness of all the things we must continue to do and build on and work to
continue to do and build on and work to
continue to do and build on and work to unlearn all the ways in which we engage
unlearn all the ways in which we engage
unlearn all the ways in which we engage and behave that actually sustain
and behave that actually sustain
and behave that actually sustain gender-based violence we need a culture
gender-based violence we need a culture
gender-based violence we need a culture change we need for young people to be
change we need for young people to be
change we need for young people to be able to come up up to us and say hey I’m
able to come up up to us and say hey I’m
able to come up up to us and say hey I’m in it really deep right now I’m in a
in it really deep right now I’m in a
in it really deep right now I’m in a mess I’m in trouble and I could really
mess I’m in trouble and I could really
mess I’m in trouble and I could really use your help mom and dad they need to
use your help mom and dad they need to
use your help mom and dad they need to be able to go to trusted adults for
be able to go to trusted adults for
be able to go to trusted adults for support they need you to list
support they need you to list
support they need you to list they need you to stop blaming them and
they need you to stop blaming them and
they need you to stop blaming them and shaming them and telling them don’t
shaming them and telling them don’t
shaming them and telling them don’t share your pictures don’t text we need
share your pictures don’t text we need
share your pictures don’t text we need to have these conversations with young
to have these conversations with young
to have these conversations with young people we need to tell them that they’re
people we need to tell them that they’re
people we need to tell them that they’re not alone and there’s other things that
not alone and there’s other things that
not alone and there’s other things that we need to think about too we need to
we need to think about too we need to
we need to think about too we need to start asking ourselves hard questions
start asking ourselves hard questions
start asking ourselves hard questions like for people that are developing
like for people that are developing
like for people that are developing these technologies are we developing
these technologies are we developing
these technologies are we developing them with young people in mind and with
them with young people in mind and with
them with young people in mind and with women in mind where’s your corporate
women in mind where’s your corporate
women in mind where’s your corporate social responsibility when you’re
social responsibility when you’re
social responsibility when you’re creating these kinds of platforms the
creating these kinds of platforms the
creating these kinds of platforms the issue for example is free speech free
issue for example is free speech free
issue for example is free speech free speech for whom we need to work together
speech for whom we need to work together
speech for whom we need to work together to do this whether you’re a parent or an
to do this whether you’re a parent or an
to do this whether you’re a parent or an educator or an advocate or your person
educator or an advocate or your person
educator or an advocate or your person working in the technology sector because
working in the technology sector because
working in the technology sector because building safer digital spaces means the
building safer digital spaces means the
building safer digital spaces means the ability for all users of all genders
ability for all users of all genders
ability for all users of all genders sexualities races abilities to be able
sexualities races abilities to be able
sexualities races abilities to be able to come and participate meaningfully in
to come and participate meaningfully in
to come and participate meaningfully in these online spaces because not
these online spaces because not
these online spaces because not everything is a disaster and even when
everything is a disaster and even when
everything is a disaster and even when it is we’ll be able to know what to do
it is we’ll be able to know what to do
it is we’ll be able to know what to do with it and I’m talking about real power
with it and I’m talking about real power
with it and I’m talking about real power not just empowerment and if I could
not just empowerment and if I could
not just empowerment and if I could leave you with just one thing today is
leave you with just one thing today is
leave you with just one thing today is this if a person in your life comes to
this if a person in your life comes to
this if a person in your life comes to you and they trust you enough to tell
you and they trust you enough to tell
you and they trust you enough to tell you the hardest thing that’s ever
you the hardest thing that’s ever
you the hardest thing that’s ever happened to them believe them
in doing this you have the power to help
in doing this you have the power to help remake the world in the next 150 years
remake the world in the next 150 years
remake the world in the next 150 years thank you
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