primary education
the school psychologist called my
parents to meet with them were
one of those solemn meetings dispatch
from the director many color graphics
I was walking around like the thing was going
with me not and told them we’ve been
watching your son during all these
years we have seen that he has a talent
innate for science
it would be good to study for example
an engineering
yes, apart from everything that
have to do with caring for others
because the kid is a little different
I think the word asperger exploded
four years after that
conversation in which the psychologist
I had told them mostly my doctor
I master myself I enrolled in the
medical school
I do not think the psychologist that was a
very intelligent and dedicated person will
you will make a mistake
I prefer to think that something today
have learned along the way and
I would talk about that when
you finish your medical studies and you have
to start attending to your first
patients
you realize that little of what you
have taught before it has to do with what
that you find yourself after I do not know if
have ever had to call the
phone company to complain
that internet is slow I see faces of yes
the person who attends you telemarketer
on the other side of the line do the
timely checks and tells you then
everything seems to be going well can help you in
something more personal that came five
minutes of clock trying to load
the home page of the browser and not
they are cheating is that they are points
from view different to me happens what
same my heart the lungs of
my patients france works at
perfection but the person was drowning
so the first thing that I had to
learn was to stop looking at the
people only with the eyes of the
science and start getting into their
brains
to be able to understand what was
happening to change the goal of makro
by the wide-angle to be able to understand
their points of view
when we get it and we tell the
another one I understand what we call it
empathy something for what was supposed
that I was not very well endowed
but what can be learned and what happens
you start to empathize the thing changes the
people start to explain things to you
as eavesdropping itches escuece
it hurts, it hurts all day
doctor pain also wakes me up from
doctor night hurts me so much that I no longer
I can not even go out to the street that I do not
I hold up to cook that my
husband has to help me get on
author panties we do not know what to do
with our son doctor my wife no longer
the doctor recognizes me I’m so sad
that I would like to die guardian I do not
I want to die but this is the end
true when he came home and we commented
that such a day with my wife and I that
respond intense
There is no doubt that seeing the world with
eyes of the other that helps understand by
what is drowned and creates a bond that is
therapeutic in itself but the
empathy has a price
when I’m seeing all those things
bad when you establish a link with
that pain causes suffering
when he emphasized the pain of the other and
they connect me to a resonance device
functional magnetic
researchers can see how it
they light the pain areas of my
own brain is clear that also
could put a wall between the person
who suffers and I who take care of it so that
that does not affect me
but we go back to the beginning if I do not
whole movie could get the
there and this great brother saying
minimum nonmaleficence ethics what
first is not to hurt
so you have to travel to the
Brains of people we love
help but we can not stay there
it is necessary to make a return trip
from the brain of mine to the other to
integrate the experience of the person with
my technical knowledge in a
help relationship to this trip of
return
we call it with passion and compassion is
yes sensitivity to understand but about
everything with passions will help
solve when we see how the
brain
researchers can see that the
Compassion is able to reverse the pain
of empathy and not only that
many studies show benefits
for people who have an attitude
compassionate in your life especially in
relationship with emotional well-being
but also for example have better
defenses when you spend all day
suffering with your patients getting
in their brains and seeing all that pain
you know of sad and tired work but
when I was already leaving the blood in the
sand to help other loads
batteries
You may have been sharing
really dramatic situations but
if you could throw a cable
you feel good about the exercise of
Compassion implies nonetheless a
acceptance attitude
sometimes we do everything possible by
help others but does not work out
because not everything depends on us
because materially it is impossible to help
to accept that although we want to be
here to move the world
the world moves despite our
contrary the will to help
results in a heroic attitude that ends
deriving in frustration what
we call fatigue for compassion that in
reality is a fatigue due to lack of
acceptance is a tad of empathy and
the world does not need an army of
martyrs because the martyrs do not
solve nothing been investigating the
clinical relationship for about fifteen
years has had the privilege of power
look this time with the goal of makro
what happens in a medical consultation of
can analyze it to be able to share it
with companions and traveling companions
the scientific literature talks a lot
about how we complicate life the
that we help others but it is scarce
the literary production that he offers us
solutions on how to prevent or
solve the suffering of the
professionals
it has helped us in that sense
look at the navel, stripping the suede
the rest of us do it by analyzing videos
real recordings of the query
we have learned to detect the
objective indicators of discomfort
emotional of the patient as when
you are exercising and you notice
the pulsations in time in the
travel and we have also learned to
trust our instinct when
it seems that the data is fine but
Something tells you that if you do not
dosificas you do not finish the consultation of a
definitive piece we have learned to
take care of yourself because taking care of yourself is essential
to be able to take care after someone
I will confess something at first I did
case to and color
I continued my studies in the branch of
sciences and at a given moment I had to
deciding on a career like I did not have
no idea I went to see my tutor
so he was a professor of philosophy
and I told Jose Luis to me what I
I like art and I do not want to be
engineer
and now what do I do well my son studies
medicine
I assure you that by then my
ability to empathize was still
very painful the difference between the
philosophy professor and psychologist
is that he believed in me and no longer
empathy and compassion with passion but
accepting that is an ethical duty to
health professionals to the
others invited them to join the
telemarketers we also need them
one piece
if they want to help others and not
die trying
I invite you to stop being partidas
so that they take care that they believe in
others because they are compassionate and that
they are going to do that, it is also before many
thank you very much thank you
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