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I like to think about the world of
emotions and feelings like
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there is a part up in life in the
that we all see that sunlight gives
joy and enthusiasm love the
generosity
We are all happy with the
emotions but then we all have a
dark side that is much more on top
large than the bulky one and that is
down there that we do not want to recognize
the anger the fear the insecurity the
greed for jealousy
There are many emotions it calls the
shadow
Miriam game when it calls the emotions
dark and why dark and for
differentiate the dehesas luminous that
they are up there that we can see them
and that we love
within those dark emotions I
would like to talk to you about anger is the
Anger Anger is an emotion of
survival
what does this mean if I do not get angry
I take care of myself if I turn off the anger
it’s as if to pay the alarms to the
quarry when it turns off and then the
career ends up exploding
It is very important that we connect with
that necessary indispensable human anger
and not only with ours but with that of
our children because if I’m not
well connected with my dark emotions
in particular the anger a lot less I’m going to
to be able to connect my children with their anger
and this happens more to women than to
men because men arrive a
little bit more of permission than us
get angry and it is within anger that
I defend I like to call it good
eye or healthy aggression is to say here
the anger that leads me to solve the
situations in my benefit in benefit
of the other without trying not to harm
nobody an excellent representative of
aggression is healthy is the mother
Theresa of Calcutta
this lady is sisters who did the
Order of the Sisters of Charity
who made orphanages and whose infinity of
children in india and that extended his
homework around the world
If I had not had a bit of
connection with his aggressive
rosana would have been a nun
closure will be kept in a small room
pray pray
I need this and because he confirmed that
I had a lot more connection, more aggressive
healthy because his biography says she siso
exorcise twice because what a
Psychologist calls healthy aggressiveness
she felt it was being possessed by
the devil and that is not healthy aggression
because with my anger put a bomb not
is healthy aggression for working in
konin on roof for my country or in
any other on axis of any place
of the world is not healthy aggression the
violence
impulsivity physical aggression
Emotional aggression is not aggressiveness
It’s also okay to blame someone else
because sometimes it happens that I got angry and
blamed the other because I do not want
be angry then if you do not have the
guilt is fine that I’m angry and
Zana also that aggressiveness many
times when he used anger as
replacement of another emotion weaken t
sometimes I’m scared and I get angry other
Sometimes I feel very sensitive to a
situation and I get angry or feel
embarrassment and I get angry because when
I’m angry I feel strong and in
change where many others I feel
fragile and it is more beautiful to feel strong
but that is not an anger that leads is
an anger that or public and the other issue
What we have with anger is that we
we can not direct hormones
our body and our body we
send this alarm signal anger angry
anger and ways you do not want to do it
disappear the angry steam rhizome low and
it runs and appears by the least
thought-out
was going to appear exploding like a
volcano in an unexpected situation or
will appear diseases in
irritability in bad mood in anxiety
we have an epidemic of anxiety today in
day has to do with do not connect with
these dark emotions and we do with
all this I’m saying because if
here you do not have to get mad you have to
connect with anger as we do
first of all to look with him
it’s worth what I feel is not
do I can feel something without doing anything
about
once miami the feeling came
in me my friend the session with my son and
I’m going to do a process that I like
to think about is how to unravel whether I’m going
Arming by disassembling a knot to weave and
when one forgets the wool the
only way to disarm that knot is
open it
if there will not be one, you can not put it together
Then anger also has to be
open it and unravel it is in tangle
does not mean having the right to
protest complain to start looking
ridiculous solutions because again
sense to think is not to make me have
want to put a bomb does not mean
put that promise gives permission
feel like putting on the face that stops
that at some point after all
this process I say and what is a good
answer for this that is happening to me
I give you two examples to delineate
what has happened to me on a trip and I’m
angry because he’s going on a trip I’m
jealous angry and jealous because she goes from
trip I do not connect with this I’m going to
say this guy that cretin is going on
trip that can do it with this
first I will say nothing stole the
passage that good note after I can
saying is not done
I keep the money for an interview
every day not about less when from me
same
maybe at the end of the year I can also
go on a trip those are good or the
healthy aggression misuse of
healthy need would lead me to say
when I want it in my brother he
he deserves it and then back off with the
high and broke the car’s lamp
of my brother because I’m angry
because he goes on a trip and we go with the
children that is also very important that
my son is mad because his sister
invited a friend and send us and of
these only what is it for me
I would say hump ‘the boss’ is nothing but
a friend the auction helps him say more
to tell you if I do not realize how
you would have liked guest and rage
what gives you being alone and after that
we look for solutions and I do with
this
we thought about inviting a little earlier the
next week
maybe he invited because another one happens
thing
maybe it was limited to like four guys
none wanted to come then part of
this process is to grieve that what
that can not be can not be and I think that
many times we get angry because what
we do not want to get sad because
first I got angry and then accepted with
pain and things can not always be
how I want
and hand in hand with this and another duel that
do when I live damage and I have 50 left
leaves of a novel that has me
passionate and my husband invites me to the cinema
to see an action movie
I can say so much if honey we go and
find very good reasons
to get angry with him or can I tell him
‘We will not see your action movie
let me stay here finishing
my novel and I went back home to eat and I
I pay you rich
the Sevillian and it’s good that he’s
angry but he will come back happy and I
will find happy and that is a good
use of healthy electricity
so it is important also this
mourning what can and what is not
can
we understand that in the eye it is not the opposite
of love the opposite of love is the
indifference anger with people who
I want and when I get angry
I have the energy available to
defend and borders my country space
vital
my children and when I do not get angry they spend
a lot of energy in reaching and repressing and
the other tremendous dilemma that the
anger is of little children we learned to
that our parents are happy with
We make beautiful and loving and
responsible and divine we sold a
impeccable product and psychologists
we call about adaptation or false
Sheriff is impossible to have self-esteem
high if I do not really connect with
what I feel because by product that I
sell I know that inside there is
someone who does not want to set the table
do not want to help is very important about
all this process to recover the
energy that gives me the anger is naphtha
super 98
‘ how we read wheat the mother Teresa
the best energy comes from anger well
channeled I could not be here to
giving this talk
if I did not have a good dose of
healthy aggression integrates within me
because as it says it rules in letters to a
young poet without my demons I
they abandon fear that my angels too
they take flight after
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the cans
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