so why do you think the rich should pay more in taxes why did you buy the latest
more in taxes why did you buy the latest
more in taxes why did you buy the latest iPhone why did you pick your current
iPhone why did you pick your current
iPhone why did you pick your current partner and why did so many people vote
partner and why did so many people vote
partner and why did so many people vote for Donald Trump
for Donald Trump
for Donald Trump what were the reasons why did I do it so
what were the reasons why did I do it so
what were the reasons why did I do it so we always kind of question all the time
we always kind of question all the time
we always kind of question all the time and we expected to get an answer and
and we expected to get an answer and
and we expected to get an answer and when being asked we expect ourselves to
when being asked we expect ourselves to
when being asked we expect ourselves to know the answer to simply tell why we
know the answer to simply tell why we
know the answer to simply tell why we did as we did but do we really know why
did as we did but do we really know why
did as we did but do we really know why so when you say that you prefer George
so when you say that you prefer George
so when you say that you prefer George Clooney to Tom Hanks due to his concern
Clooney to Tom Hanks due to his concern
Clooney to Tom Hanks due to his concern for the environment is that really true
for the environment is that really true
for the environment is that really true so you can be perfectly sincere and
so you can be perfectly sincere and
so you can be perfectly sincere and generally believe that this is the
generally believe that this is the
generally believe that this is the reason to drive your choice but to me it
reason to drive your choice but to me it
reason to drive your choice but to me it may still feel like something is missing
may still feel like something is missing
may still feel like something is missing as it stands due to the nature of
as it stands due to the nature of
as it stands due to the nature of subjectivity it is actually very hard to
subjectivity it is actually very hard to
subjectivity it is actually very hard to ever prove that people are wrong about
ever prove that people are wrong about
ever prove that people are wrong about themselves so I am an experimental
themselves so I am an experimental
themselves so I am an experimental psychologists and this is the problem we
psychologists and this is the problem we
psychologists and this is the problem we were trying to solve in our lab so we
were trying to solve in our lab so we
were trying to solve in our lab so we wanted to create an experiment that
wanted to create an experiment that
wanted to create an experiment that would allow us to challenge what people
would allow us to challenge what people
would allow us to challenge what people say about themselves regardless of how
say about themselves regardless of how
say about themselves regardless of how certain they may seem but tricking
certain they may seem but tricking
certain they may seem but tricking people about our own mind is hard so we
people about our own mind is hard so we
people about our own mind is hard so we turned to the professionals the
turned to the professionals the
turned to the professionals the magicians so they’re experts at creating
magicians so they’re experts at creating
magicians so they’re experts at creating the illusion of a free choice so when
the illusion of a free choice so when
the illusion of a free choice so when they say pick a card any card
they say pick a card any card
they say pick a card any card the only thing you know is that your
the only thing you know is that your
the only thing you know is that your choice is no longer free so add a few
choice is no longer free so add a few
choice is no longer free so add a few fantastic brainstorming sessions with a
fantastic brainstorming sessions with a
fantastic brainstorming sessions with a group of Swedish magicians and helped us
group of Swedish magicians and helped us
group of Swedish magicians and helped us create a method in which we would be
create a method in which we would be
create a method in which we would be able to manipulate the outcome of
able to manipulate the outcome of
able to manipulate the outcome of people’s choices this way we would know
people’s choices this way we would know
people’s choices this way we would know when people are wrong about themselves
when people are wrong about themselves
when people are wrong about themselves even if they don’t know this themselves
so I will now show you a short movie
so I will now show you a short movie showing this manipulation so it’s quite
showing this manipulation so it’s quite
showing this manipulation so it’s quite simple so the participants make a choice
simple so the participants make a choice
simple so the participants make a choice but I end up giving him the opposite and
but I end up giving him the opposite and
but I end up giving him the opposite and then we want to see how do they react
then we want to see how do they react
then we want to see how do they react and what did I say so it’s quite simple
and what did I say so it’s quite simple
and what did I say so it’s quite simple but see if you can spot the magic going
but see if you can spot the magic going
but see if you can spot the magic going on and this was shot with real
on and this was shot with real
on and this was shot with real participants so they don’t know what’s
participants so they don’t know what’s
participants so they don’t know what’s going on
going on
going on hi my name is Betty hi Becky
hi my name is Betty hi Becky
hi my name is Betty hi Becky I’m gonna show you pictures like this
I’m gonna show you pictures like this
I’m gonna show you pictures like this and you’ll have to decide which one you
and you’ll have to decide which one you
and you’ll have to decide which one you find more attractive okay and then
find more attractive okay and then
find more attractive okay and then sometimes I will ask you why you’ve
sometimes I will ask you why you’ve
sometimes I will ask you why you’ve preferred that face okay ready
preferred that face okay ready
preferred that face okay ready yep and why did you prefer that one
yep and why did you prefer that one
yep and why did you prefer that one smile again this one just struck me
smile again this one just struck me
smile again this one just struck me interesting shot since I’m a
interesting shot since I’m a
interesting shot since I’m a photographer I like the waiting slate
photographer I like the waiting slate
photographer I like the waiting slate and looks but now it comes to trick this
and looks but now it comes to trick this
and looks but now it comes to trick this one
left you know I like her smile and
left you know I like her smile and contour of the nose and face so it’s the
contour of the nose and face so it’s the
contour of the nose and face so it’s the more interesting to me inner haircut
this one what made you choose him I
this one what made you choose him I don’t know he looks a little bit like
don’t know he looks a little bit like
don’t know he looks a little bit like The Hobbit and what happens in the end
The Hobbit and what happens in the end
The Hobbit and what happens in the end when I tell them the true nature of the
when I tell them the true nature of the
when I tell them the true nature of the experiments yeah that’s it i steped ask
experiments yeah that’s it i steped ask
experiments yeah that’s it i steped ask a few questions
a few questions
a few questions what did you think of this experiment
what did you think of this experiment
what did you think of this experiment was it easy or hard oh it was easy easy
was it easy or hard oh it was easy easy
was it easy or hard oh it was easy easy during the experiments I actually
during the experiments I actually
during the experiments I actually switched the pictures three times was
switched the pictures three times was
switched the pictures three times was this anything you noticed no I didn’t
this anything you noticed no I didn’t
this anything you noticed no I didn’t notice anything
notice anything
notice anything no no switching the pictures as far as
no no switching the pictures as far as
no no switching the pictures as far as yeah you were pointing at one of them
yeah you were pointing at one of them
yeah you were pointing at one of them but I actually gave you the opposite the
but I actually gave you the opposite the
but I actually gave you the opposite the opposite one okay when you know shows
opposite one okay when you know shows
opposite one okay when you know shows you how much my intentions being lesson
you how much my intentions being lesson
you how much my intentions being lesson and did you notice that sometimes during
and did you notice that sometimes during
and did you notice that sometimes during the experiment I switch the pictures
the experiment I switch the pictures
the experiment I switch the pictures yeah I did not notice that so you were
yeah I did not notice that so you were
yeah I did not notice that so you were pointing at one but then I gave you the
pointing at one but then I gave you the
pointing at one but then I gave you the other one no inclination of that
other one no inclination of that
other one no inclination of that happening yeah thank you okay so as you
happening yeah thank you okay so as you
happening yeah thank you okay so as you probably figure out now the trick is
probably figure out now the trick is
probably figure out now the trick is that I have two cards in each hand and
that I have two cards in each hand and
that I have two cards in each hand and when I hand one of them over the black
when I hand one of them over the black
when I hand one of them over the black one kind of disappears into the black
one kind of disappears into the black
one kind of disappears into the black surface on the table so using pictures
surface on the table so using pictures
surface on the table so using pictures like this normally not more than 20% of
like this normally not more than 20% of
like this normally not more than 20% of the participants detect these drawings
the participants detect these drawings
the participants detect these drawings and as we saw in the movie when in the
and as we saw in the movie when in the
and as we saw in the movie when in the end
end
end we explain what’s going on they were
we explain what’s going on they were
we explain what’s going on they were surprised and often refused to believe
surprised and often refused to believe
surprised and often refused to believe that the trick has been made so this
that the trick has been made so this
that the trick has been made so this shows that this effect is quite robust
shows that this effect is quite robust
shows that this effect is quite robust and a genuine effect if you’re
and a genuine effect if you’re
and a genuine effect if you’re interested in salt self-knowledge as I
interested in salt self-knowledge as I
interested in salt self-knowledge as I am the more interesting bit is okay so
am the more interesting bit is okay so
am the more interesting bit is okay so what did I say when I explained these
what did I say when I explained these
what did I say when I explained these choices so we’ve done a lot of analysis
choices so we’ve done a lot of analysis
choices so we’ve done a lot of analysis of the verbal reports in these
of the verbal reports in these
of the verbal reports in these experiments and this graph simply shows
experiments and this graph simply shows
experiments and this graph simply shows that if you compare what they say in a
that if you compare what they say in a
that if you compare what they say in a manipulated trial and with a non
manipulated trial and with a non
manipulated trial and with a non manipulated trial that is going to
manipulated trial that is going to
manipulated trial that is going to explain a choice
explain a choice
explain a choice a normal choice I’ve made and one where
a normal choice I’ve made and one where
a normal choice I’ve made and one where we manipulated the outcome we find that
we manipulated the outcome we find that
we manipulated the outcome we find that they are remarkably similar so they are
they are remarkably similar so they are
they are remarkably similar so they are just as emotional just as specific and
just as emotional just as specific and
just as emotional just as specific and they are expressed with the same level
they are expressed with the same level
they are expressed with the same level of certainty so the strong conclusion to
of certainty so the strong conclusion to
of certainty so the strong conclusion to draw from this that if there are no
draw from this that if there are no
draw from this that if there are no differences between real choice and a
differences between real choice and a
differences between real choice and a manipulated choice perhaps we make
manipulated choice perhaps we make
manipulated choice perhaps we make things up all the time but we also done
things up all the time but we also done
things up all the time but we also done studies where we try to match what they
studies where we try to match what they
studies where we try to match what they say with the actual faces and then we
say with the actual faces and then we
say with the actual faces and then we find things like this so here this male
find things like this so here this male
find things like this so here this male participant he preferred the girl to the
participant he preferred the girl to the
participant he preferred the girl to the left he ended up with the one to the
left he ended up with the one to the
left he ended up with the one to the right and then he explained his choice
right and then he explained his choice
right and then he explained his choice like this so she’s radiant I would
like this so she’s radiant I would
like this so she’s radiant I would rather have approached her at about and
rather have approached her at about and
rather have approached her at about and the other one and I like earrings and
the other one and I like earrings and
the other one and I like earrings and whatever made him choose the girl and
whatever made him choose the girl and
whatever made him choose the girl and left to begin with it can’t have been
left to begin with it can’t have been
left to begin with it can’t have been the earrings because they were actually
the earrings because they were actually
the earrings because they were actually sitting on the girl to the right so this
sitting on the girl to the right so this
sitting on the girl to the right so this is a clear example of a post-hoc
is a clear example of a post-hoc
is a clear example of a post-hoc constructions so they just explained the
constructions so they just explained the
constructions so they just explained the choice afterwards so what this
choice afterwards so what this
choice afterwards so what this experiment show is okay so we fail if we
experiment show is okay so we fail if we
experiment show is okay so we fail if we fail to detect that our choices have
fail to detect that our choices have
fail to detect that our choices have been changed we will immediately start
been changed we will immediately start
been changed we will immediately start to explain them in another way and what
to explain them in another way and what
to explain them in another way and what we also found is that the participant
we also found is that the participant
we also found is that the participant often come to prefer the alternative
often come to prefer the alternative
often come to prefer the alternative that they were led to believe they liked
that they were led to believe they liked
that they were led to believe they liked so if we let them do the choice again
so if we let them do the choice again
so if we let them do the choice again they will now choose the face they had
they will now choose the face they had
they will now choose the face they had previously rejected so this is the fact
previously rejected so this is the fact
previously rejected so this is the fact we call choice blindness and we’ve done
we call choice blindness and we’ve done
we call choice blindness and we’ve done a number of different studies we’ve
a number of different studies we’ve
a number of different studies we’ve tried consumer choices choices based on
tried consumer choices choices based on
tried consumer choices choices based on taste and smell and even reasoning
taste and smell and even reasoning
taste and smell and even reasoning problems
problems
problems but what we all want to know is of
but what we all want to know is of
but what we all want to know is of course does this extend also to more
course does this extend also to more
course does this extend also to more complex more meaningful choices like
complex more meaningful choices like
complex more meaningful choices like those concerning moral and political
those concerning moral and political
those concerning moral and political issues so the next experiment it needs a
issues so the next experiment it needs a
issues so the next experiment it needs a little bit of background so in Sweden
little bit of background so in Sweden
little bit of background so in Sweden the political landscape is dominated by
the political landscape is dominated by
the political landscape is dominated by left-wing and a right-wing coalition and
left-wing and a right-wing coalition and
left-wing and a right-wing coalition and the voters may move a little bit between
the voters may move a little bit between
the voters may move a little bit between the parties within each coalition but
the parties within each coalition but
the parties within each coalition but there’s very little movement between the
there’s very little movement between the
there’s very little movement between the coalition’s and before each elections
coalition’s and before each elections
coalition’s and before each elections the the newspapers and the polling
the the newspapers and the polling
the the newspapers and the polling institutes they put together what they
institutes they put together what they
institutes they put together what they call an election compass which consists
call an election compass which consists
call an election compass which consists of a number of dividing issues that sort
of a number of dividing issues that sort
of a number of dividing issues that sort of separates the two coalition’s things
of separates the two coalition’s things
of separates the two coalition’s things like if tax on gasoline should be
like if tax on gasoline should be
like if tax on gasoline should be increased or if the 13 months of paid
increased or if the 13 months of paid
increased or if the 13 months of paid parental leave should be split equally
parental leave should be split equally
parental leave should be split equally between the two parents in order to
between the two parents in order to
between the two parents in order to increase gender equality so before the
increase gender equality so before the
increase gender equality so before the last Swedish election we created an
last Swedish election we created an
last Swedish election we created an election compass of our own so we walked
election compass of our own so we walked
election compass of our own so we walked up to people in the streets and I’ll see
up to people in the streets and I’ll see
up to people in the streets and I’ll see if they wanted to do a quick political
if they wanted to do a quick political
if they wanted to do a quick political survey so first we had them state the
survey so first we had them state the
survey so first we had them state the voting in tension between the two
voting in tension between the two
voting in tension between the two coalition’s then we asked them to answer
coalition’s then we asked them to answer
coalition’s then we asked them to answer 12 of these questions and they would
12 of these questions and they would
12 of these questions and they would fill in their answers and then we would
fill in their answers and then we would
fill in their answers and then we would ask them to discuss so okay so why do
ask them to discuss so okay so why do
ask them to discuss so okay so why do you think tax on gas should be increased
you think tax on gas should be increased
you think tax on gas should be increased and we go through the questions then we
and we go through the questions then we
and we go through the questions then we had color-coded templates that would
had color-coded templates that would
had color-coded templates that would allow us to tally their overall score so
allow us to tally their overall score so
allow us to tally their overall score so this person would have one two three
this person would have one two three
this person would have one two three four five six seven eight nine scores to
four five six seven eight nine scores to
four five six seven eight nine scores to the left so he would lean to the left
the left so he would lean to the left
the left so he would lean to the left basically an Indian we also had them
basically an Indian we also had them
basically an Indian we also had them fill in their voting intention once more
fill in their voting intention once more
fill in their voting intention once more but of course there was also a trick
but of course there was also a trick
but of course there was also a trick involved so first we walked up to people
involved so first we walked up to people
involved so first we walked up to people we asked him about the voting intention
we asked him about the voting intention
we asked him about the voting intention and then when they started fill in we
and then when they started fill in we
and then when they started fill in we would fill in a set of log answers going
would fill in a set of log answers going
would fill in a set of log answers going in the opposite direction we will put it
in the opposite direction we will put it
in the opposite direction we will put it under the notepad and when we get the
under the notepad and when we get the
under the notepad and when we get the questionnaire we would
questionnaire we would
questionnaire we would we glue it on top of the participant
we glue it on top of the participant
we glue it on top of the participant zone answer so there it’s gone and then
zone answer so there it’s gone and then
zone answer so there it’s gone and then we would ask about each of the questions
we would ask about each of the questions
we would ask about each of the questions so how did you recent air and they’ll
so how did you recent air and they’ll
so how did you recent air and they’ll state the reasons together we will sum
state the reasons together we will sum
state the reasons together we will sum up their overall score and in the end
up their overall score and in the end
up their overall score and in the end they will state their voting intention
they will state their voting intention
they will state their voting intention again so what we find first of all here
again so what we find first of all here
again so what we find first of all here is that very few of these manipulations
is that very few of these manipulations
is that very few of these manipulations are detected and they’re not detected in
are detected and they’re not detected in
are detected and they’re not detected in the sense that they realized ok you must
the sense that they realized ok you must
the sense that they realized ok you must have changed my answer it was more the
have changed my answer it was more the
have changed my answer it was more the case that ok I must have misunderstood
case that ok I must have misunderstood
case that ok I must have misunderstood the question the first time I read it
the question the first time I read it
the question the first time I read it can I please change it and even if a few
can I please change it and even if a few
can I please change it and even if a few of these manipulations were changed the
of these manipulations were changed the
of these manipulations were changed the overall majority was missed so we
overall majority was missed so we
overall majority was missed so we managed this with 90% of the
managed this with 90% of the
managed this with 90% of the participants answers from left to right
participants answers from left to right
participants answers from left to right the right left their overall profile and
the right left their overall profile and
the right left their overall profile and what happens then when they are asked to
what happens then when they are asked to
what happens then when they are asked to motivate their choices and here we find
motivate their choices and here we find
motivate their choices and here we find much more interesting verbal reports
much more interesting verbal reports
much more interesting verbal reports than compared to the faces people say
than compared to the faces people say
than compared to the faces people say things like this I’ll read it to you so
things like this I’ll read it to you so
things like this I’ll read it to you so large-scale governmental surveillance of
large-scale governmental surveillance of
large-scale governmental surveillance of email and Internet traffic ought to be
email and Internet traffic ought to be
email and Internet traffic ought to be permissible as means to combat
permissible as means to combat
permissible as means to combat international crime and terrorism
international crime and terrorism
international crime and terrorism so you agree to some extent with this
so you agree to some extent with this
so you agree to some extent with this statement yes so how did you recently
statement yes so how did you recently
statement yes so how did you recently well like as it is so hard to get at
well like as it is so hard to get at
well like as it is so hard to get at international crime and terrorism I
international crime and terrorism I
international crime and terrorism I think there should be those kinds of
think there should be those kinds of
think there should be those kinds of tools and then the person remembers an
tools and then the person remembers an
tools and then the person remembers an argument from the newspaper in the
argument from the newspaper in the
argument from the newspaper in the morning like in the newspaper today it
morning like in the newspaper today it
morning like in the newspaper today it said they can like listen to mobile
said they can like listen to mobile
said they can like listen to mobile phones from prison if a gang leader
phones from prison if a gang leader
phones from prison if a gang leader tries to continue scream from inside and
tries to continue scream from inside and
tries to continue scream from inside and I think it’s a madness that we have so
I think it’s a madness that we have so
I think it’s a madness that we have so little power to that we can’t stop those
little power to that we can’t stop those
little power to that we can’t stop those things when we actually have the
things when we actually have the
things when we actually have the possibility to do so and then it’s a
possibility to do so and then it’s a
possibility to do so and then it’s a little bit back and forth in the end so
little bit back and forth in the end so
little bit back and forth in the end so I don’t like that I have access to
I don’t like that I have access to
I don’t like that I have access to everything I do but I still think it’s
everything I do but I still think it’s
everything I do but I still think it’s worth it in the long run so if this
worth it in the long run so if this
worth it in the long run so if this person if you didn’t know that this
person if you didn’t know that this
person if you didn’t know that this person just took part in a choice –
person just took part in a choice –
person just took part in a choice – experiment I don’t think you would have
experiment I don’t think you would have
experiment I don’t think you would have quest
quest
quest that this is the true sort of attitude
that this is the true sort of attitude
that this is the true sort of attitude of that person and what happens in the
of that person and what happens in the
of that person and what happens in the end with the voting intention what we
end with the voting intention what we
end with the voting intention what we find a Dhawan is also clearly affected
find a Dhawan is also clearly affected
find a Dhawan is also clearly affected by the questionnaire so we have ten
by the questionnaire so we have ten
by the questionnaire so we have ten participants shifting from left to right
participants shifting from left to right
participants shifting from left to right or from right to left we have another 19
or from right to left we have another 19
or from right to left we have another 19 that go from clay voting intention to
that go from clay voting intention to
that go from clay voting intention to being uncertain some go from being
being uncertain some go from being
being uncertain some go from being uncertain to clear voting intention and
uncertain to clear voting intention and
uncertain to clear voting intention and then there is a number of participants
then there is a number of participants
then there is a number of participants staying uncertain throughout and that
staying uncertain throughout and that
staying uncertain throughout and that number is interesting because if you
number is interesting because if you
number is interesting because if you look at what the polling institutes say
look at what the polling institutes say
look at what the polling institutes say at the close you get to an election the
at the close you get to an election the
at the close you get to an election the only people that are sort of in play are
only people that are sort of in play are
only people that are sort of in play are the ones that are considered uncertain
the ones that are considered uncertain
the ones that are considered uncertain but we show that is a lard much larger
but we show that is a lard much larger
but we show that is a lard much larger number that would actually consider
number that would actually consider
number that would actually consider shifting their attitudes and here I must
shifting their attitudes and here I must
shifting their attitudes and here I must point out of course that you are not
point out of course that you are not
point out of course that you are not allowed to use this as an actual method
allowed to use this as an actual method
allowed to use this as an actual method to change people’s votes before an
to change people’s votes before an
to change people’s votes before an election and that we clearly sort of we
election and that we clearly sort of we
election and that we clearly sort of we debriefed them afterwards and give them
debriefed them afterwards and give them
debriefed them afterwards and give them every opportunity to change back to
every opportunity to change back to
every opportunity to change back to whatever they thought first the what is
whatever they thought first the what is
whatever they thought first the what is chose this that if you can get people to
chose this that if you can get people to
chose this that if you can get people to see the opposite view and engage in a
see the opposite view and engage in a
see the opposite view and engage in a sort of conversation with themselves
sort of conversation with themselves
sort of conversation with themselves that could actually make them change
that could actually make them change
that could actually make them change their views okay so what does it all
their views okay so what does it all
their views okay so what does it all mean what do I think is going on here so
mean what do I think is going on here so
mean what do I think is going on here so first of all a lot of what we call self
first of all a lot of what we call self
first of all a lot of what we call self knowledge is actually self
knowledge is actually self
knowledge is actually self interpretation so I see myself make a
interpretation so I see myself make a
interpretation so I see myself make a choice and then I try to when I’m asked
choice and then I try to when I’m asked
choice and then I try to when I’m asked why I just try to make as much sense of
why I just try to make as much sense of
why I just try to make as much sense of it as possible when I make an
it as possible when I make an
it as possible when I make an explanation but we do this so quick and
explanation but we do this so quick and
explanation but we do this so quick and with such ease that we think we actually
with such ease that we think we actually
with such ease that we think we actually know the answer when we ask why when we
know the answer when we ask why when we
know the answer when we ask why when we answer why and as it is an
answer why and as it is an
answer why and as it is an interpretation of course we sometimes
interpretation of course we sometimes
interpretation of course we sometimes make mistakes the same way we do we make
make mistakes the same way we do we make
make mistakes the same way we do we make mistakes when we try to understand other
mistakes when we try to understand other
mistakes when we try to understand other people so beware when you ask people the
people so beware when you ask people the
people so beware when you ask people the question why because what may happen is
question why because what may happen is
question why because what may happen is that if you ask them sort of so why do
that if you ask them sort of so why do
that if you ask them sort of so why do you support this at this issue
you support this at this issue
you support this at this issue why do
why do
why do stay in this job or in this relationship
stay in this job or in this relationship
stay in this job or in this relationship what may happen when you ask why is that
what may happen when you ask why is that
what may happen when you ask why is that you actually create an attitude there
you actually create an attitude there
you actually create an attitude there wasn’t there before you of the question
wasn’t there before you of the question
wasn’t there before you of the question and this is of course important in your
and this is of course important in your
and this is of course important in your professional life as well
professional life as well
professional life as well what could be if say you design
what could be if say you design
what could be if say you design something then you ask people so why do
something then you ask people so why do
something then you ask people so why do you think this is good or bad
you think this is good or bad
you think this is good or bad or if we if you’re a journalist are
or if we if you’re a journalist are
or if we if you’re a journalist are asking a politician so why did you make
asking a politician so why did you make
asking a politician so why did you make this decision or if indeed you are a
this decision or if indeed you are a
this decision or if indeed you are a politician and try to explain why a
politician and try to explain why a
politician and try to explain why a certain decision was made so this may
certain decision was made so this may
certain decision was made so this may all seem a bit disturbing but if you
all seem a bit disturbing but if you
all seem a bit disturbing but if you want to look at it from a positive in
want to look at it from a positive in
want to look at it from a positive in the direction it could be seen as
the direction it could be seen as
the direction it could be seen as showing okay so we’re actually a little
showing okay so we’re actually a little
showing okay so we’re actually a little bit more flexible than we think we can
bit more flexible than we think we can
bit more flexible than we think we can change our minds our attitudes are not
change our minds our attitudes are not
change our minds our attitudes are not set in stone and we can also also change
set in stone and we can also also change
set in stone and we can also also change the minds of others if we can only get
the minds of others if we can only get
the minds of others if we can only get them to engage with the issue and see it
them to engage with the issue and see it
them to engage with the issue and see it from the opposite view and in my own
from the opposite view and in my own
from the opposite view and in my own personal life since starting with this
personal life since starting with this
personal life since starting with this research so my partner and I we’ve
research so my partner and I we’ve
research so my partner and I we’ve always had the rule that you’re allowed
always had the rule that you’re allowed
always had the rule that you’re allowed to take things back yes because I said I
to take things back yes because I said I
to take things back yes because I said I liked something a year ago it doesn’t
liked something a year ago it doesn’t
liked something a year ago it doesn’t mean I have to like it still and getting
mean I have to like it still and getting
mean I have to like it still and getting rid of the need to stay consistent is
rid of the need to stay consistent is
rid of the need to stay consistent is actually a huge relief and makes
actually a huge relief and makes
actually a huge relief and makes relational life so much easier to live
relational life so much easier to live
relational life so much easier to live anyway
anyway
anyway so the conclusion must be know that you
so the conclusion must be know that you
so the conclusion must be know that you don’t know yourself or at least not as
don’t know yourself or at least not as
don’t know yourself or at least not as well as you think you do Thanks
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