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[Applause] good morning so we are gonna talk about
good morning so we are gonna talk about
good morning so we are gonna talk about something that most people never really
something that most people never really
something that most people never really want to think about but I’m gonna ask
want to think about but I’m gonna ask
want to think about but I’m gonna ask you to think about it I’m gonna ask you
you to think about it I’m gonna ask you
you to think about it I’m gonna ask you to talk about it and I mean I can ask
to talk about it and I mean I can ask
to talk about it and I mean I can ask you to do something one in 10 children
you to do something one in 10 children
you to do something one in 10 children by the time they turn 18 will suffer
by the time they turn 18 will suffer
by the time they turn 18 will suffer some form of sexual abuse yet less than
some form of sexual abuse yet less than
some form of sexual abuse yet less than one in ten of those kids will disclose
one in ten of those kids will disclose
one in ten of those kids will disclose sexual abuse as a child because 90% of
sexual abuse as a child because 90% of
sexual abuse as a child because 90% of kids are sexually abused by someone that
kids are sexually abused by someone that
kids are sexually abused by someone that they know love and trust and every day
they know love and trust and every day
they know love and trust and every day in our country almost five kids die from
in our country almost five kids die from
in our country almost five kids die from child abuse and neglect five kids don’t
child abuse and neglect five kids don’t
child abuse and neglect five kids don’t die in our country every day from
die in our country every day from
die in our country every day from juvenile diabetes or MS or cystic
juvenile diabetes or MS or cystic
juvenile diabetes or MS or cystic fibrosis five kids don’t die in our
fibrosis five kids don’t die in our
fibrosis five kids don’t die in our country every day from cancer but you
country every day from cancer but you
country every day from cancer but you know the difference is between those
know the difference is between those
know the difference is between those diseases and child abuse child abuse is
diseases and child abuse child abuse is
diseases and child abuse child abuse is a hundred percent preventable you don’t
a hundred percent preventable you don’t
a hundred percent preventable you don’t need to beat or rape or sodomized your
need to beat or rape or sodomized your
need to beat or rape or sodomized your kids you don’t need to do that to give
kids you don’t need to do that to give
kids you don’t need to do that to give you a perspective if you have a daughter
you a perspective if you have a daughter
you a perspective if you have a daughter your daughter is just as likely to be
your daughter is just as likely to be
your daughter is just as likely to be sexually abused as a child if she is to
sexually abused as a child if she is to
sexually abused as a child if she is to get breast cancer as an adult wrap your
get breast cancer as an adult wrap your
get breast cancer as an adult wrap your head around that fact for a minute think
head around that fact for a minute think
head around that fact for a minute think about what we know and how far we have
about what we know and how far we have
about what we know and how far we have come when it comes to breast cancer the
come when it comes to breast cancer the
come when it comes to breast cancer the fact that we can say the word breast and
fact that we can say the word breast and
fact that we can say the word breast and people not go oh but we’re worried about
people not go oh but we’re worried about
people not go oh but we’re worried about saying vagina or penis think about that
saying vagina or penis think about that
saying vagina or penis think about that think about the fact that there is not a
think about the fact that there is not a
think about the fact that there is not a soul in this country that doesn’t know
soul in this country that doesn’t know
soul in this country that doesn’t know what the pink ribbon stands for but do
what the pink ribbon stands for but do
what the pink ribbon stands for but do people know what the blue ribbon stands
people know what the blue ribbon stands
people know what the blue ribbon stands for you all have one in your bag
for you all have one in your bag
for you all have one in your bag the Blue Ribbon is the symbol for child
the Blue Ribbon is the symbol for child
the Blue Ribbon is the symbol for child abuse awareness and education and
abuse awareness and education and
abuse awareness and education and prevention I have a twelve-year-old son
prevention I have a twelve-year-old son
prevention I have a twelve-year-old son he’s a sports freak what’s Jonah that’s
he’s a sports freak what’s Jonah that’s
he’s a sports freak what’s Jonah that’s his name
his name
his name what did Jonas favorite color it’s hot
what did Jonas favorite color it’s hot
what did Jonas favorite color it’s hot pink why is that because Jonah loves
pink why is that because Jonah loves
pink why is that because Jonah loves football
football
football Jonah every Sunday watches football and
Jonah every Sunday watches football and
Jonah every Sunday watches football and if allowed to stay up Monday nights or
if allowed to stay up Monday nights or
if allowed to stay up Monday nights or Thursday nights he’s always trying to
Thursday nights he’s always trying to
Thursday nights he’s always trying to negotiate that but every Sunday he’s
negotiate that but every Sunday he’s
negotiate that but every Sunday he’s watching football in an October guess
watching football in an October guess
watching football in an October guess what every football player is wearing
what every football player is wearing
what every football player is wearing hot pink imagine a world imagine us if
hot pink imagine a world imagine us if
hot pink imagine a world imagine us if in April every major league baseball
in April every major league baseball
in April every major league baseball player was wearing a blue ribbon or
player was wearing a blue ribbon or
player was wearing a blue ribbon or highlighted their uniforms in navy blue
highlighted their uniforms in navy blue
highlighted their uniforms in navy blue to show us show the world how prevalent
to show us show the world how prevalent
to show us show the world how prevalent this issue is because once we know about
this issue is because once we know about
this issue is because once we know about it once we educate ourselves then we can
it once we educate ourselves then we can
it once we educate ourselves then we can start taking action that really is what
start taking action that really is what
start taking action that really is what this is about we have got to get to a
this is about we have got to get to a
this is about we have got to get to a point where we talk about it we have to
point where we talk about it we have to
point where we talk about it we have to be able to say to our friends and our
be able to say to our friends and our
be able to say to our friends and our families and our colleagues and our
families and our colleagues and our
families and our colleagues and our neighbors and our people that we go to
neighbors and our people that we go to
neighbors and our people that we go to worship with we’ve got to talk about
worship with we’ve got to talk about
worship with we’ve got to talk about this issue openly we can’t be
this issue openly we can’t be
this issue openly we can’t be embarrassed in shape ashamed we can’t
embarrassed in shape ashamed we can’t
embarrassed in shape ashamed we can’t continue to bury our heads in the sand
continue to bury our heads in the sand
continue to bury our heads in the sand or sweep it under the rug I told you
or sweep it under the rug I told you
or sweep it under the rug I told you earlier 1 in 10 that means there’s about
earlier 1 in 10 that means there’s about
earlier 1 in 10 that means there’s about 15 people sitting in this audience this
15 people sitting in this audience this
15 people sitting in this audience this is very personal for and if I had to
is very personal for and if I had to
is very personal for and if I had to take a guess it’s more than 15 and if I
take a guess it’s more than 15 and if I
take a guess it’s more than 15 and if I had to take another guess there are
had to take another guess there are
had to take another guess there are people sitting in this audience that
people sitting in this audience that
people sitting in this audience that they’ve never told a soul and the
they’ve never told a soul and the
they’ve never told a soul and the reality is this I would also take a
reality is this I would also take a
reality is this I would also take a guess that while this is personal for 15
guess that while this is personal for 15
guess that while this is personal for 15 of you or maybe more I’ll bet you
of you or maybe more I’ll bet you
of you or maybe more I’ll bet you everybody in this room knows someone who
everybody in this room knows someone who
everybody in this room knows someone who spent sexually abused you just don’t
spent sexually abused you just don’t
spent sexually abused you just don’t know it because people don’t go with a
know it because people don’t go with a
know it because people don’t go with a stamp on their forehead talking about it
stamp on their forehead talking about it
stamp on their forehead talking about it we have got to talk about it and when we
we have got to talk about it and when we
we have got to talk about it and when we talk about it we have to talk to our
talk about it we have to talk to our
talk about it we have to talk to our children right
children right
children right what we can’t be doing is being ashamed
what we can’t be doing is being ashamed
what we can’t be doing is being ashamed or Oh use those words we have to be able
or Oh use those words we have to be able
or Oh use those words we have to be able to say penis and vagina penis and vagina
to say penis and vagina penis and vagina
to say penis and vagina penis and vagina and know that that’s okay because how
and know that that’s okay because how
and know that that’s okay because how are we going to expect kids to talk to
are we going to expect kids to talk to
are we going to expect kids to talk to us if something happens to them and they
us if something happens to them and they
us if something happens to them and they don’t even know how to articulate it how
don’t even know how to articulate it how
don’t even know how to articulate it how are we gonna do that
are we gonna do that
are we gonna do that the other thing we can all do is we’re
the other thing we can all do is we’re
the other thing we can all do is we’re gonna educate ourselves there’s an
gonna educate ourselves there’s an
gonna educate ourselves there’s an organization called darkness to light
organization called darkness to light
organization called darkness to light it’s based out of South Carolina they
it’s based out of South Carolina they
it’s based out of South Carolina they have what we call the stewards of
have what we call the stewards of
have what we call the stewards of children curriculum it’s two hours it is
children curriculum it’s two hours it is
children curriculum it’s two hours it is the most nationally recognized child
the most nationally recognized child
the most nationally recognized child sexual abuse curriculum in the country
sexual abuse curriculum in the country
sexual abuse curriculum in the country two hours of your time to learn about
two hours of your time to learn about
two hours of your time to learn about the signs and symptoms of sexual abuse
the signs and symptoms of sexual abuse
the signs and symptoms of sexual abuse how to report it how to identify it how
how to report it how to identify it how
how to report it how to identify it how to prevent it from begin with that is so
to prevent it from begin with that is so
to prevent it from begin with that is so empowering not a scare tactic something
empowering not a scare tactic something
empowering not a scare tactic something that we can all really take action on
that we can all really take action on
that we can all really take action on and actually do something and possibly
and actually do something and possibly
and actually do something and possibly prevent a child from being sexually
prevent a child from being sexually
prevent a child from being sexually abused two hours of our time think about
abused two hours of our time think about
abused two hours of our time think about that the other thing is in our country
that the other thing is in our country
that the other thing is in our country there are organizations called child
there are organizations called child
there are organizations called child advocacy centers see ACS and those
advocacy centers see ACS and those
advocacy centers see ACS and those organizations work with lots of
organizations work with lots of
organizations work with lots of different partner agencies to have all
different partner agencies to have all
different partner agencies to have all of a child’s investigation evaluation
of a child’s investigation evaluation
of a child’s investigation evaluation and treatment services in one place
and treatment services in one place
and treatment services in one place so that children are not having to tell
so that children are not having to tell
so that children are not having to tell their victimization over and over and
their victimization over and over and
their victimization over and over and over again so that they’re not going to
over again so that they’re not going to
over again so that they’re not going to the emergency room or social services or
the emergency room or social services or
the emergency room or social services or the police station and having to tell
the police station and having to tell
the police station and having to tell what happened locally here in Rochester
what happened locally here in Rochester
what happened locally here in Rochester New York that Child Advocacy Center is
New York that Child Advocacy Center is
New York that Child Advocacy Center is Bivona Child Advocacy Center we’ve been
Bivona Child Advocacy Center we’ve been
Bivona Child Advocacy Center we’ve been around for 12 and 1/2 years we have
around for 12 and 1/2 years we have
around for 12 and 1/2 years we have evaluated over 16,000 children 40% of
evaluated over 16,000 children 40% of
evaluated over 16,000 children 40% of those kids are under the age of 7 35% of
those kids are under the age of 7 35% of
those kids are under the age of 7 35% of those kids are boys and 40% of the
those kids are boys and 40% of the
those kids are boys and 40% of the children that we evaluated Bivona Child
children that we evaluated Bivona Child
children that we evaluated Bivona Child Advocacy Center here in Rochester New
Advocacy Center here in Rochester New
Advocacy Center here in Rochester New York are from the suburbs so if you’re
York are from the suburbs so if you’re
York are from the suburbs so if you’re sitting there
sitting there
sitting there thinking this is not my problem this is
thinking this is not my problem this is
thinking this is not my problem this is only an inner-city problem this is just
only an inner-city problem this is just
only an inner-city problem this is just rural community problem this is
rural community problem this is
rural community problem this is happening in our neighborhoods and our
happening in our neighborhoods and our
happening in our neighborhoods and our schools and our places of worship on the
schools and our places of worship on the
schools and our places of worship on the sports fields this is our problem but we
sports fields this is our problem but we
sports fields this is our problem but we have the power to do something because
have the power to do something because
have the power to do something because we have the power to be able to educate
we have the power to be able to educate
we have the power to be able to educate ourselves talk openly about it we can do
ourselves talk openly about it we can do
ourselves talk openly about it we can do that the other thing I want you to do of
that the other thing I want you to do of
that the other thing I want you to do of course I want you to take the class of
course I want you to take the class of
course I want you to take the class of course I want you to talk about it I
course I want you to talk about it I
course I want you to talk about it I want you to leave here today after
want you to leave here today after
want you to leave here today after you’ve heard wonderful speakers and I
you’ve heard wonderful speakers and I
you’ve heard wonderful speakers and I want you to tell three people what you
want you to tell three people what you
want you to tell three people what you learned I want you to tell three people
learned I want you to tell three people
learned I want you to tell three people that the issue of child abuse is
that the issue of child abuse is
that the issue of child abuse is prevalent and what is it that you can do
prevalent and what is it that you can do
prevalent and what is it that you can do get involved volunteer advocate educate
get involved volunteer advocate educate
get involved volunteer advocate educate donate do something and if you’re one of
donate do something and if you’re one of
donate do something and if you’re one of the ones here sitting in suffering in
the ones here sitting in suffering in
the ones here sitting in suffering in silence we are here for you so I want
silence we are here for you so I want
silence we are here for you so I want you to think about it I want you to talk
you to think about it I want you to talk
you to think about it I want you to talk about it and I sure as heck want you to
about it and I sure as heck want you to
about it and I sure as heck want you to do something thank you
do something thank you
do something thank you [Applause]
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