Thank.
Since I was a teenager, I dreamed of being a therapist.
I never hesitated.
I walked the long way, of course, parked to experience many of the adventures of life,
But when she finally got a master’s degree and qualified to work,
I thought my way was ready.
For someone who is as introverted as I am,
I thought that the area where I chose where I deal with individuals, the opportunity to distinguish.
I want to tell you how to plan my stomach carefully,
Like so many life plans, I turned upside down,
I ended up here,
As a mental health promoter and software developer.
I was working in a school in China seven years ago,
Such as psychotherapy in an internal school,
She visited me every Tuesday,
They were intervening
She spoke to me about her grief, her loneliness,
And for all the overwhelming feelings that come with being young.
Her condition improved with treatment,
As for me, I felt better
But the treatment session is only an hour of the week,
I began to worry about her condition outside the treatment room.
So, I started her latest about others in her life, as I learned,
When she began talking about her close friend,
I could tell from the tone of her voice that there was an intimacy between them.
I thought I found my problem.
I told her, “You have to try talking to her.”
She shook her head violently, saying, “No”
“You do not have to tell her everything that’s going on in this room,
But inspired her if your day is bad,
When you feel upset. “
Tears rose to her eyes, she said,
“She will not understand me.
She does not want to listen to the bad events in my life. “
I did not press the matter any more because I was annoyed,
But I was determined to return to this issue.
Meanwhile, another 11th-grader dropped me off on Wednesday.
She spoke to me about her grief and loneliness.
Once again, she was worried about the latest in her life,
Her conversation began by listing all the reasons why she would make her close friend unintelligible.
“It’s popular”
“They are also in the volleyball team”
“She does not want to listen to the bad things in my life.”
I tried to convince her, but she was stubborn, “no”
After many sessions where weeks went by,
I began to feel that these two situations may be related.
One day, as I was walking down the aisles,
On Tuesday and Wednesday I saw their arms tangled and laughing.
My heart beats.
I thought of all possibilities,
How can they talk to each other,
How they can support each other,
How can they restrain their unity?
I wanted to shout,
“Talk to each other, I promise you that you will understand!”
For McKenna I knew I would not say anything.
As a treatment, I was bound by laws I could not breach to preserve the privacy of the auditor.
I began to wonder: This is my profession?
To keep the secrets of human beings,
Then I hope that what I do during an hour a week is enough?
And that I hope they are in good shape of silence outside my walls
After this incident, something changed in my career.
On Tuesday and Wednesday I began to have a large part of my thinking.
How they can come to treatment and can not talk to each other.
The word “stain” began to dominate my thoughts.
I began to conclude that
Conversations about mental health are severely stigmatized,
We can not even talk to those close to us:
Oxford Dictionary defines shame as;
“A hint of shame is associated with a certain attribute,
Or a particular person or situation. “
But this definition was not included
Rejection, isolation, and dishonesty associated with stigma.
The best definition I found says:
“Stigma is when people start linking the problem,
And dealing with the person as if the problem is,
Rather than dealing with something that is the problem. “
The Center for Disease Control and Prevention says:
Nine out of 10 people with a psychological problem have some form of stigma.
But I wanted to understand how this was happening in my environment,
And how it affects the ability of Tuesday and Wednesday to talk.
I began to go to my share in psychological education,
She began by asking, “Do you have psychological health?”
Responses ranged from confusion, silence, and “no”
And “No, not me!” But the answer “yes” was rare.
I did not ask them,
“Are you psychologically healthy? Do you suffer from any psychiatric illness?”,
Questions have a completely different meaning for me.
But I realized that this question provoked others.
Because the terms “mental health” and “psychiatric illness” are synonymous.
To the extent that no longer mental patients
They are the only ones,
But this talk is generally stigmatized.
So I decided that I wanted to try to change this reality.
Complete my piece by saying, “Do you have a heart?”
I hope they will say yes.
“Do you have a brain?”
They will say yes, with looks suggesting they probably are not doing.
“If you have psychological health.”
In the simplest definitions,
“Mental health is everything you think, feel, and do.
When we begin to understand mental health as such,
It will be easy to understand that everyone has.
It is our feelings, our feelings, and our actions.
It’s how we handle things, whether big or small.
It’s how we communicate with each other.
And how to look at the world.
I decided from this moment to start building programs
Based on this positive definition, rather than passive custom.
I decided to start a club
For everyone who is interested in mental health.
Managers thought this was a bad idea.
I wasted my time.
But I am stubborn.
When twenty-seven out of a thousand students attended, I was delighted.
We began to learn about mental health in entertaining and interactive ways,
And slowly, we were building a movement.
They have become my army of positive mental health.
They were talking about our message to everyone who wanted to listen.
Our message was:
Mental health is sequential.
Go up and down,
Oscillating according to the experiences of your life.
As is physical health,
Where we have pain in the stomach, or nominated, or a foreign descent,
We all passed through these bad days, we felt sad, tired, and we were wrong.
These are periods of relapse of mental health, which are normal to occur completely.
But the difference is that if we get a cold,
People will say, “Drink hot water” “Relax”, and maybe give you medicine.
But if you get a “cold shot” for your mental health, people will say (usually)
“Behold, keep up your activity” “progress” “go beyond this obstacle” “be happy”
Mental health is not happy and confident at all times.
Trust me, there is no one like that.
But mental health does not neglect our problems.
It is the face of our problems.
And to know when to ask for help.
I have always asked people,
“If one of your loved ones gets cancer, do I take him to the doctor?”
The answer I hope, “Yes”.
Is not psychological distress different?
If this room has 100 people, do you believe me if I say so?
Twenty-five of us will suffer from mental disorder
In a period of our lives?
it’s the truth.
WHO tells us that one in four people,
They will have a mental disorder in one lifetime.
But contrary to the common stereotype
For a person with a psychiatric illness in popular culture,
The psychological illness goes beyond the boundaries of race, sex, social and economic status.
May appear in different forms depending on the person, the country you live in,
But he does not really discriminate.
But we still continue to discriminate.
The aftershocks may not be terribly helpful.
Suicide is one of the leading causes of the death of young people
In every country around the world.
Here in Mongolia, UNICEF published a study
Says that 20 percent of young people between the ages of 13 and 15,
Think seriously about suicide,
And nine percent have committed suicides in the past 12 months.
The frustrating part for me,
Is that people die, but we do not address this issue in our conversations.
And assistance exists and is effective.
But two-thirds of those with known mental disorder
They will not seek help from a specialist.
Partly because they do not want to appear as “madmen”.
I want to teach people not to ask for help “mad.”
The only way to change this perception in my opinion,
Is to restore mental health as a positive and fundamental part of life.
Just as the stigma does not arise overnight,
But adopted through fear and common stereotyping,
Breaking it will take time as well.
But we have to start from somewhere.
This club, my 27-member army,
So far, 500 members have left.
And became the first program for today is a successful mental health center
In the school itself.
The first of its kind in China.
We still need more work.
My job now is to travel around China,
To try to convince schools to repeat the experience of this center
Based on a positive form of mental health.
It does not have to be a mental health factor to make a difference.
You can start today. start now.
Not to be Tuesday and Wednesday.
Not to say “I’m in good shape” if not.
To talk to each other, to talk together.
To hear one of them when he says he is upset.
To be honest.
If I thought it was something more serious,
Ask for help for yourself or for those you love.
In the spirit of honesty, I am one of the four.
I suffer from mental illness.
I have a sick depression.
In fact, that is why I wanted to be a psychotherapist.
I could not always say that.
In fact, today is the first time he has disclosed this to an audience.
(clap)
Thank.
When I prepared for this conversation, there was something that worried me
Then I realized that I did not want to try to hide the truth myself anymore,
And found that no better way for an introverted person to express himself
Than to do so in a TEDx conversation that might end up on YouTube.
My mother always said, “Play till you win or go home.” And here I am,
I was diagnosed with depression for the first time when I was nine.
But it did not come to me until I was in her thirties – revealed my age –
To start changing conversations about mental health in general,
I begin to change the conversation with myself.
You see, I spent years, despite my training and my ability to govern,
Try to escape my mind.
I take my medication and sometimes go to treatment,
But I was not able to accept myself.
There was a battle going on between
The prescribed version of a person with depression
Which I have seen in society, which I have retained within me,
And the person you actually are.
The battle was as follows:
The person with depression will not be happy with his marriage, but I am;
The person with depression can not get high grades in the master’s program,
But I did, twice;
(Cheers)
The person with depression is not a successful social guide, but I am;
A person with depression can not fight for others,
But I do this every day.
I did not realize what I was doing until I sat down one day to my therapist
“Amy, when are you sure you are?”
“I do not know,” I said, my tears falling.
I realized at that moment that my way of dealing with things,
Will not make me a self-sufficient day,
Because the disease was controlling my conversation with myself.
My defense mechanisms limited me to being the best and the most complete,
Because that meant I was getting better.
But I have to change the conversation.
I have repeatedly passed all that I see as a failure
So I said, “Stop, I’m still here, I’m still standing.”
I realized that I had never celebrated my achievements.
All I did was build a wall full of achievements that no one could penetrate,
To cover the humiliation of the person I thought.
May, as you know, spend and spend,
But when I changed the conversation, I began to accept myself.
I began to realize I was.
I have allowed you to enter behind two rivers,
I have allowed you today.
I did it for my little mom.
To tell her, “Do not be afraid, everything is fine.
One day you’ll talk about a TEDx conversation.
And you are as precious as all those you would like to help. “
I do this for you. To tell you that you are not alone.
You are the people of that.
If someone told me this when I was your age,
Maybe my trip to self acceptance was different.
From now on, you should look at mental health as a natural thing
As part of everyday life you should take care of it.
Be honest with yourself.
And with others.
And to listen, you really listen.
To change the conversation about mental health,
To become as ordinary as talking about physical health.
I do that today to tell you I’m depressed.
But I also have a daughter, a sister, a wife, a girlfriend,
A mentor, a trainer, a lady and a boss.
I am all this
(clap)
All these parts of me.
And I do not want to know as one of these alone.
I’m all this, and that’s a good thing
Thank
(Applause) (Cheers)
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