first Thank You Valparaiso University Thank You TEDx for this opportunity my
Thank You TEDx for this opportunity my
Thank You TEDx for this opportunity my name is Charles Carter I was born and
name is Charles Carter I was born and
name is Charles Carter I was born and raised on the south side of Chicago grew
raised on the south side of Chicago grew
raised on the south side of Chicago grew up right down the road in Gary Indiana
up right down the road in Gary Indiana
up right down the road in Gary Indiana and I am a 2015 alumni of our prese
and I am a 2015 alumni of our prese
and I am a 2015 alumni of our prese University and a co-founder of a greater
University and a co-founder of a greater
University and a co-founder of a greater good foundation and this is my brother
good foundation and this is my brother
good foundation and this is my brother and business partner Cody Kahn I am also
and business partner Cody Kahn I am also
and business partner Cody Kahn I am also alone with Apple 2016 I’m born and
alone with Apple 2016 I’m born and
alone with Apple 2016 I’m born and raised Maywood Illinois to be exact and
raised Maywood Illinois to be exact and
raised Maywood Illinois to be exact and also I am a co-founder of a greater good
also I am a co-founder of a greater good
also I am a co-founder of a greater good foundation not long after we graduated
foundation not long after we graduated
foundation not long after we graduated from these hallways we started an
from these hallways we started an
from these hallways we started an organization by the name of a greater
organization by the name of a greater
organization by the name of a greater good Foundation and our focus in this
good Foundation and our focus in this
good Foundation and our focus in this organization is serving high-risk
organization is serving high-risk
organization is serving high-risk underperforming youth across the
underperforming youth across the
underperforming youth across the Chicagoland area and what we teach them
Chicagoland area and what we teach them
Chicagoland area and what we teach them is exactly what we’ll be introducing to
is exactly what we’ll be introducing to
is exactly what we’ll be introducing to you today and that is how your thoughts
you today and that is how your thoughts
you today and that is how your thoughts create your behavior and how your
create your behavior and how your
create your behavior and how your behavior create the results that you
behavior create the results that you
behavior create the results that you have in your life and we started to
have in your life and we started to
have in your life and we started to learn this information right in these
learn this information right in these
learn this information right in these hallways of Valparaiso University this
hallways of Valparaiso University this
hallways of Valparaiso University this information Chuck is talking about
information Chuck is talking about
information Chuck is talking about personal development what is personal
personal development what is personal
personal development what is personal development personal development is the
development personal development is the
development personal development is the ability to self assess your thoughts
ability to self assess your thoughts
ability to self assess your thoughts your behaviors your actions but not only
your behaviors your actions but not only
your behaviors your actions but not only for yourself or for other people so we
for yourself or for other people so we
for yourself or for other people so we got engaged in personal development it
got engaged in personal development it
got engaged in personal development it wasn’t your typical way we’re not at the
wasn’t your typical way we’re not at the
wasn’t your typical way we’re not at the library about ball searching in the
library about ball searching in the
library about ball searching in the self-help section but we got introduced
self-help section but we got introduced
self-help section but we got introduced to it through a business and to be more
to it through a business and to be more
to it through a business and to be more specific multi-level marketing dual
specific multi-level marketing dual
specific multi-level marketing dual multi-level marketing it was a strong
multi-level marketing it was a strong
multi-level marketing it was a strong business with personal development
business with personal development
business with personal development attached to it but why do we care about
attached to it but why do we care about
attached to it but why do we care about that it was our first time here be
that it was our first time here be
that it was our first time here be introduced from kids from the age of 17
introduced from kids from the age of 17
introduced from kids from the age of 17 and 25 making success ever figures from
and 25 making success ever figures from
and 25 making success ever figures from that sign of Walker
that sign of Walker
that sign of Walker like wow so that’s all we got involved
like wow so that’s all we got involved
like wow so that’s all we got involved in person development that’s what we
in person development that’s what we
in person development that’s what we still stick to it today we were
still stick to it today we were
still stick to it today we were introduced to the gym roams the zig
introduced to the gym roams the zig
introduced to the gym roams the zig ziglar is the les browns and Eric
ziglar is the les browns and Eric
ziglar is the les browns and Eric Thomas’s of the world it was the first
Thomas’s of the world it was the first
Thomas’s of the world it was the first time in our lives as Kody said we self
time in our lives as Kody said we self
time in our lives as Kody said we self assess we suffered self assess against
assess we suffered self assess against
assess we suffered self assess against something outside of our households it
something outside of our households it
something outside of our households it was the first time we had a benchmark
was the first time we had a benchmark
was the first time we had a benchmark that was counter to our environments so
that was counter to our environments so
that was counter to our environments so it expanded our vision for our lives I
it expanded our vision for our lives I
it expanded our vision for our lives I want to create a perfect picture for you
want to create a perfect picture for you
want to create a perfect picture for you imagine seeing 18 19 and 20 year olds
imagine seeing 18 19 and 20 year olds
imagine seeing 18 19 and 20 year olds making 10 and 20 thousand dollars a
making 10 and 20 thousand dollars a
making 10 and 20 thousand dollars a month and it wasn’t that we thought we
month and it wasn’t that we thought we
month and it wasn’t that we thought we could make that type of money it was the
could make that type of money it was the
could make that type of money it was the fact that it was a possibility that
fact that it was a possibility that
fact that it was a possibility that opened our eyes we began to walk
opened our eyes we began to walk
opened our eyes we began to walk different we began to talk different we
different we began to talk different we
different we began to talk different we began to demand more of ourselves but
began to demand more of ourselves but
began to demand more of ourselves but was more about what was more exciting
was more about what was more exciting
was more about what was more exciting than seeing the growth in ourselves was
than seeing the growth in ourselves was
than seeing the growth in ourselves was seeing the growth in our peer group our
seeing the growth in our peer group our
seeing the growth in our peer group our peer group imagine this 12 different
peer group imagine this 12 different
peer group imagine this 12 different states
states
states three different countries Chicago
three different countries Chicago
three different countries Chicago Westside Southside inner city suburbs we
Westside Southside inner city suburbs we
Westside Southside inner city suburbs we began to see people around us grow I
began to see people around us grow I
began to see people around us grow I mean I love talking about myself but as
mean I love talking about myself but as
mean I love talking about myself but as much as I love that it’s amazing being
much as I love that it’s amazing being
much as I love that it’s amazing being able to see people that you care about
able to see people that you care about
able to see people that you care about you invest on the insulin but it wasn’t
you invest on the insulin but it wasn’t
you invest on the insulin but it wasn’t just that they were walking different
just that they were walking different
just that they were walking different it’s talking different it was kids that
it’s talking different it was kids that
it’s talking different it was kids that never began to stand in front of a room
never began to stand in front of a room
never began to stand in front of a room and speak they get a chance to really
and speak they get a chance to really
and speak they get a chance to really hear their own voice they understood
hear their own voice they understood
hear their own voice they understood that words were power and what we knew
that words were power and what we knew
that words were power and what we knew at the time what our parents didn’t know
at the time what our parents didn’t know
at the time what our parents didn’t know they just thought was part of us
they just thought was part of us
they just thought was part of us maturity getting older but the way that
maturity getting older but the way that
maturity getting older but the way that they they were dressing different it’s
they they were dressing different it’s
they they were dressing different it’s talking differently walking different we
talking differently walking different we
talking differently walking different we understood that everything that was
understood that everything that was
understood that everything that was going on on the outside was a direct
going on on the outside was a direct
going on on the outside was a direct reflection of the growth that was
reflection of the growth that was
reflection of the growth that was happening on the inside it was the first
happening on the inside it was the first
happening on the inside it was the first time that we discovered that most people
time that we discovered that most people
time that we discovered that most people let alone young people don’t have a
let alone young people don’t have a
let alone young people don’t have a problem of intellect we have a problem
problem of intellect we have a problem
problem of intellect we have a problem of interest as Cody mentioned we didn’t
of interest as Cody mentioned we didn’t
of interest as Cody mentioned we didn’t join the network marketing business for
join the network marketing business for
join the network marketing business for the personal development but we continue
the personal development but we continue
the personal development but we continue to study personal development
to study personal development
to study personal development way after the business had dissolved so
way after the business had dissolved so
way after the business had dissolved so from that point on it inspired us to
from that point on it inspired us to
from that point on it inspired us to take this information back to our
take this information back to our
take this information back to our communities we made a promise at 20 and
communities we made a promise at 20 and
communities we made a promise at 20 and 21 years old at that point in time that
21 years old at that point in time that
21 years old at that point in time that once we made our Millions we made our
once we made our Millions we made our
once we made our Millions we made our Millions a lot faster than we thought
Millions a lot faster than we thought
Millions a lot faster than we thought mentally at least and that we would take
mentally at least and that we would take
mentally at least and that we would take this information back to our communities
this information back to our communities
this information back to our communities post-graduation we began to
post-graduation we began to
post-graduation we began to reverse-engineer the growth that we have
reverse-engineer the growth that we have
reverse-engineer the growth that we have made over this time we began to reflect
made over this time we began to reflect
made over this time we began to reflect on why we had become so confident why
on why we had become so confident why
on why we had become so confident why our perspective had shifted so much why
our perspective had shifted so much why
our perspective had shifted so much why our expectations for ourselves had
our expectations for ourselves had
our expectations for ourselves had heightened set to such extent and what
heightened set to such extent and what
heightened set to such extent and what we realized was our programming had
we realized was our programming had
we realized was our programming had changed what do we leave our programming
changed what do we leave our programming
changed what do we leave our programming it’s everything we mean your habits the
it’s everything we mean your habits the
it’s everything we mean your habits the reason why you walk the way you do we
reason why you walk the way you do we
reason why you walk the way you do we keep saying it the reason why you talk
keep saying it the reason why you talk
keep saying it the reason why you talk the way you do everything around you is
the way you do everything around you is
the way you do everything around you is your programming why do you like the
your programming why do you like the
your programming why do you like the fool you like why do you like the music
fool you like why do you like the music
fool you like why do you like the music you like why do you talk to yourself a
you like why do you talk to yourself a
you like why do you talk to yourself a certain side the way chances are it was
certain side the way chances are it was
certain side the way chances are it was programmed that you had from ages zero
programmed that you had from ages zero
programmed that you had from ages zero in about five what Chuck is doing right
in about five what Chuck is doing right
in about five what Chuck is doing right now something extremely important so
now something extremely important so
now something extremely important so after graduation we continue to ask
after graduation we continue to ask
after graduation we continue to ask ourselves ask ourselves what changed us
ourselves ask ourselves what changed us
ourselves ask ourselves what changed us and we stumbled across this image of the
and we stumbled across this image of the
and we stumbled across this image of the mind it was actually introduced us
mind it was actually introduced us
mind it was actually introduced us introduced us by a mentor of ours named
introduced us by a mentor of ours named
introduced us by a mentor of ours named Bob Proctor and what this represents is
Bob Proctor and what this represents is
Bob Proctor and what this represents is your conscious mind
your conscious mind
your conscious mind it’s your thinking mind your educated
it’s your thinking mind your educated
it’s your thinking mind your educated mind this is where you store information
mind this is where you store information
mind this is where you store information this bottom half is your subconscious
this bottom half is your subconscious
this bottom half is your subconscious mind this is the part of your mind that
mind this is the part of your mind that
mind this is the part of your mind that you don’t have control over but what’s
you don’t have control over but what’s
you don’t have control over but what’s most important about your subconscious
most important about your subconscious
most important about your subconscious mind this is where your programming lies
mind this is where your programming lies
mind this is where your programming lies this is where your behavior comes from
this is where your behavior comes from
this is where your behavior comes from and your programming begins from the
and your programming begins from the
and your programming begins from the time you conceive to about five or six
time you conceive to about five or six
time you conceive to about five or six years old everything you see everything
years old everything you see everything
years old everything you see everything you hear we say kids soak up everything
you hear we say kids soak up everything
you hear we say kids soak up everything right it’s because they have no ability
right it’s because they have no ability
right it’s because they have no ability to reject information so everything they
to reject information so everything they
to reject information so everything they see everything they see their parents
see everything they see their parents
see everything they see their parents behave
behave
behave everything that they touch it becomes a
everything that they touch it becomes a
everything that they touch it becomes a part of their programming so the goals
part of their programming so the goals
part of their programming so the goals that we have for ourselves the
that we have for ourselves the
that we have for ourselves the expectations that we set our finances
expectations that we set our finances
expectations that we set our finances how we how we act and behave in our
how we how we act and behave in our
how we how we act and behave in our relationships are great it’s all a part
relationships are great it’s all a part
relationships are great it’s all a part of what we learn from the ages of about
of what we learn from the ages of about
of what we learn from the ages of about zero to about five years old so your
zero to about five years old so your
zero to about five years old so your programming how they created is two ways
programming how they created is two ways
programming how they created is two ways knowing a man how the program is created
knowing a man how the program is created
knowing a man how the program is created the first way DNA genetics that’s why we
the first way DNA genetics that’s why we
the first way DNA genetics that’s why we look like our parents that’s why we have
look like our parents that’s why we have
look like our parents that’s why we have the same color eyes that’s all we sound
the same color eyes that’s all we sound
the same color eyes that’s all we sound like that’s how we do stuff and you look
like that’s how we do stuff and you look
like that’s how we do stuff and you look at it like man I hate with my dad do
at it like man I hate with my dad do
at it like man I hate with my dad do that but I still do that it’s
that but I still do that it’s
that but I still do that it’s programming you can’t help me whether
programming you can’t help me whether
programming you can’t help me whether you want to or not the second way is
you want to or not the second way is
you want to or not the second way is environment the environment is honestly
environment the environment is honestly
environment the environment is honestly nature versus nurture as I learned from
nature versus nurture as I learned from
nature versus nurture as I learned from a good friend the environment is the
a good friend the environment is the
a good friend the environment is the nurture part of it it’s what you’re
nurture part of it it’s what you’re
nurture part of it it’s what you’re exposed to if your mom’s a teacher or
exposed to if your mom’s a teacher or
exposed to if your mom’s a teacher or your dad’s a fighter fighter it’s likely
your dad’s a fighter fighter it’s likely
your dad’s a fighter fighter it’s likely that those would be things that you’re
that those would be things that you’re
that those would be things that you’re interested in if your father watches
interested in if your father watches
interested in if your father watches football every single Sunday when you’re
football every single Sunday when you’re
football every single Sunday when you’re a child it’s likely that you’ll watch
a child it’s likely that you’ll watch
a child it’s likely that you’ll watch football as you grow up these are the
football as you grow up these are the
football as you grow up these are the things that shape our belief system
things that shape our belief system
things that shape our belief system these are the things that shape our
these are the things that shape our
these are the things that shape our expectations but more importantly these
expectations but more importantly these
expectations but more importantly these are the things that shape our results
are the things that shape our results
are the things that shape our results that we have in our lives so our
that we have in our lives so our
that we have in our lives so our programming is set we want to make sure
programming is set we want to make sure
programming is set we want to make sure we emphasize it by our DNA that’s why we
we emphasize it by our DNA that’s why we
we emphasize it by our DNA that’s why we look the way we look in our environment
look the way we look in our environment
look the way we look in our environment Kota you have a great example about
Kota you have a great example about
Kota you have a great example about environment and the language that we
environment and the language that we
environment and the language that we speak it’s two ways that this
speak it’s two ways that this
speak it’s two ways that this programming is created and to create
programming is created and to create
programming is created and to create about a pitcher before we talk about
about a pitcher before we talk about
about a pitcher before we talk about that asthma Chuck said we want to paint
that asthma Chuck said we want to paint
that asthma Chuck said we want to paint the perfect picture with the type of
the perfect picture with the type of
the perfect picture with the type of youth we work with imagine this a
youth we work with imagine this a
youth we work with imagine this a community where 13% of the city
community where 13% of the city
community where 13% of the city graduates from college 57% of the city
graduates from college 57% of the city
graduates from college 57% of the city has a high school diploma
has a high school diploma
has a high school diploma so imagine type of paradigm there
so imagine type of paradigm there
so imagine type of paradigm there do you get the beliefs the expectations
do you get the beliefs the expectations
do you get the beliefs the expectations what you believe you guys catch answers
what you believe you guys catch answers
what you believe you guys catch answers or if your parents went all the way
or if your parents went all the way
or if your parents went all the way through school you believe you could go
through school you believe you could go
through school you believe you could go all the way through school if your
all the way through school if your
all the way through school if your parents ain’t graduate high school the
parents ain’t graduate high school the
parents ain’t graduate high school the reflection you have you see them you
reflection you have you see them you
reflection you have you see them you understand that you can’t be what you
understand that you can’t be what you
understand that you can’t be what you can’t see so these are the limited
can’t see so these are the limited
can’t see so these are the limited program leads that eliminate
program leads that eliminate
program leads that eliminate expectations we’re talking about in the
expectations we’re talking about in the
expectations we’re talking about in the first way you change it and this is what
first way you change it and this is what
first way you change it and this is what we learned here on campus the
we learned here on campus the
we learned here on campus the operational University to be exact
operational University to be exact
operational University to be exact repetition can you imagine this Chuck
repetition can you imagine this Chuck
repetition can you imagine this Chuck I’m gonna tell you this one time one
I’m gonna tell you this one time one
I’m gonna tell you this one time one time only you’re about one or two years
time only you’re about one or two years
time only you’re about one or two years old I’m his mom or dad whatever
old I’m his mom or dad whatever
old I’m his mom or dad whatever preference you want to make I wanna tell
preference you want to make I wanna tell
preference you want to make I wanna tell you this one time one time only once you
you this one time one time only once you
you this one time one time only once you listen closely I’m not gonna tell you
listen closely I’m not gonna tell you
listen closely I’m not gonna tell you again yes sir your name is Chuck can you
again yes sir your name is Chuck can you
again yes sir your name is Chuck can you imagine that how many times that our mom
imagine that how many times that our mom
imagine that how many times that our mom and dad tell us your name is Chuck your
and dad tell us your name is Chuck your
and dad tell us your name is Chuck your name is Chuck what’s your name what’s
name is Chuck what’s your name what’s
name is Chuck what’s your name what’s your name how old are you wish ABCs was
your name how old are you wish ABCs was
your name how old are you wish ABCs was showing two threes over and over over
showing two threes over and over over
showing two threes over and over over again we have to repeat it so we can get
again we have to repeat it so we can get
again we have to repeat it so we can get it in Grain that’s our programming in
it in Grain that’s our programming in
it in Grain that’s our programming in the second way I kind of want to dive
the second way I kind of want to dive
the second way I kind of want to dive into that a little bit more Cody because
into that a little bit more Cody because
into that a little bit more Cody because one of the things that we learned
one of the things that we learned
one of the things that we learned through our experience here a little
through our experience here a little
through our experience here a little Wayne is quoted as saying repetition is
Wayne is quoted as saying repetition is
Wayne is quoted as saying repetition is the mother of learning right Derek Jeter
the mother of learning right Derek Jeter
the mother of learning right Derek Jeter is Derek Jeter
is Derek Jeter
is Derek Jeter not because he came out of the wounds as
not because he came out of the wounds as
not because he came out of the wounds as the most talented baseball player on the
the most talented baseball player on the
the most talented baseball player on the planet but because he swung the baseball
planet but because he swung the baseball
planet but because he swung the baseball bat more than anyone else after practice
bat more than anyone else after practice
bat more than anyone else after practice through middle school to high school to
through middle school to high school to
through middle school to high school to college Serena Williams and Venus
college Serena Williams and Venus
college Serena Williams and Venus Williams a lot of people are familiar
Williams a lot of people are familiar
Williams a lot of people are familiar with their story their father drilled
with their story their father drilled
with their story their father drilled into them that they were great that they
into them that they were great that they
into them that they were great that they would be special that they would be the
would be special that they would be the
would be special that they would be the world’s best tennis players despite what
world’s best tennis players despite what
world’s best tennis players despite what society said it was how many times they
society said it was how many times they
society said it was how many times they repeated the behavior that they knew to
repeated the behavior that they knew to
repeated the behavior that they knew to be successful so that’s what’s important
be successful so that’s what’s important
be successful so that’s what’s important about repetition that’s why what we
about repetition that’s why what we
about repetition that’s why what we affirm to ourselves matter that’s why
affirm to ourselves matter that’s why
affirm to ourselves matter that’s why when you tell yourself I’m broke when
when you tell yourself I’m broke when
when you tell yourself I’m broke when you tell yourself I’m not smart when you
you tell yourself I’m not smart when you
you tell yourself I’m not smart when you tell yourself I’m unhealthy your are
tell yourself I’m unhealthy your are
tell yourself I’m unhealthy your are unconsciously programming it was on the
unconsciously programming it was on the
unconsciously programming it was on the other page
other page
other page programming yourself with negative ideas
programming yourself with negative ideas
programming yourself with negative ideas in a negative belief system and the
in a negative belief system and the
in a negative belief system and the second way that you change the paradigm
second way that you change the paradigm
second way that you change the paradigm is emotional impact typically the
is emotional impact typically the
is emotional impact typically the emotional impact affects us in a
emotional impact affects us in a
emotional impact affects us in a negative manner we tend to stop drinking
negative manner we tend to stop drinking
negative manner we tend to stop drinking and driving because we get a DUI which
and driving because we get a DUI which
and driving because we get a DUI which we begin to eat healthier because
we begin to eat healthier because
we begin to eat healthier because they’ll miss calm upon us we begin
they’ll miss calm upon us we begin
they’ll miss calm upon us we begin studying because we fail a class but
studying because we fail a class but
studying because we fail a class but there is a equal and polar opposite to
there is a equal and polar opposite to
there is a equal and polar opposite to everything when there’s a positive
everything when there’s a positive
everything when there’s a positive there’s a when there’s a negative
there’s a when there’s a negative
there’s a when there’s a negative there’s a positive so we chose to
there’s a positive so we chose to
there’s a positive so we chose to reverse engineer what things happen to
reverse engineer what things happen to
reverse engineer what things happen to us while we were in college that
us while we were in college that
us while we were in college that positively impacted our belief system in
positively impacted our belief system in
positively impacted our belief system in our programming well for us it was
our programming well for us it was
our programming well for us it was seeing young people making a lot of
seeing young people making a lot of
seeing young people making a lot of money and taking their future serious
money and taking their future serious
money and taking their future serious right now not after they graduated from
right now not after they graduated from
right now not after they graduated from college not 10 years into their career
college not 10 years into their career
college not 10 years into their career but immediately but to paint a more
but immediately but to paint a more
but immediately but to paint a more clear picture
clear picture
clear picture Kody I would love you to dive into some
Kody I would love you to dive into some
Kody I would love you to dive into some some of the things we do within the
some of the things we do within the
some of the things we do within the foundation with the foundation he said
foundation with the foundation he said
foundation with the foundation he said emotional impact he gave you the
emotional impact he gave you the
emotional impact he gave you the negative things but what about the
negative things but what about the
negative things but what about the positive things well this past summer
positive things well this past summer
positive things well this past summer who were blessed and highly privileged
who were blessed and highly privileged
who were blessed and highly privileged to be able to take a group of 14 kids
to be able to take a group of 14 kids
to be able to take a group of 14 kids from may will bill with different places
from may will bill with different places
from may will bill with different places on West Side Chicago living all over to
on West Side Chicago living all over to
on West Side Chicago living all over to Niagara Falls the Canada side not just
Niagara Falls the Canada side not just
Niagara Falls the Canada side not just what was amazing about that can you
what was amazing about that can you
what was amazing about that can you imagine the emotional impact you created
imagine the emotional impact you created
imagine the emotional impact you created the kids that usually don’t get a chance
the kids that usually don’t get a chance
the kids that usually don’t get a chance to travel inside the city outside the
to travel inside the city outside the
to travel inside the city outside the state from the Midwest crossing the
state from the Midwest crossing the
state from the Midwest crossing the border getting their passports the
border getting their passports the
border getting their passports the effect that happened because the child
effect that happened because the child
effect that happened because the child don’t know they don’t know as we
don’t know they don’t know as we
don’t know they don’t know as we mentioned before a child can’t be what
mentioned before a child can’t be what
mentioned before a child can’t be what they can’t see but we had the belief
they can’t see but we had the belief
they can’t see but we had the belief that the more we could build their
that the more we could build their
that the more we could build their awareness of things around them the more
awareness of things around them the more
awareness of things around them the more they can learn about things around they
they can learn about things around they
they can learn about things around they could correlate for themselves we took
could correlate for themselves we took
could correlate for themselves we took these two principles we took emotional
these two principles we took emotional
these two principles we took emotional impact and repetition and created an
impact and repetition and created an
impact and repetition and created an entire foundation on what we knew that
entire foundation on what we knew that
entire foundation on what we knew that changed us and these two principles we
changed us and these two principles we
changed us and these two principles we built off these two principles we built
built off these two principles we built
built off these two principles we built three pillars there were they are
three pillars there were they are
three pillars there were they are personal development unique experiences
personal development unique experiences
personal development unique experiences and community service I’ll dive into
and community service I’ll dive into
and community service I’ll dive into unique experiences so unique experiences
unique experiences so unique experiences
unique experiences so unique experiences meet the criteria of emotional impact as
meet the criteria of emotional impact as
meet the criteria of emotional impact as Cody mentioned we don’t know what we
Cody mentioned we don’t know what we
Cody mentioned we don’t know what we don’t know so one thing that we do in
don’t know so one thing that we do in
don’t know so one thing that we do in our program is on a repetitious basis we
our program is on a repetitious basis we
our program is on a repetitious basis we consistently expose our young people to
consistently expose our young people to
consistently expose our young people to environments counter to their
environments counter to their
environments counter to their neighborhoods or their hometowns
neighborhoods or their hometowns
neighborhoods or their hometowns for instance we took a group of about 13
for instance we took a group of about 13
for instance we took a group of about 13 high school alternative youth to Fogo de
high school alternative youth to Fogo de
high school alternative youth to Fogo de Chao that’s a brilliant Brazilian
Chao that’s a brilliant Brazilian
Chao that’s a brilliant Brazilian steakhouse I’ve never even been there
steakhouse I’ve never even been there
steakhouse I’ve never even been there and the meal was fine dining they were
and the meal was fine dining they were
and the meal was fine dining they were served they were treated well we wanted
served they were treated well we wanted
served they were treated well we wanted to treat them like royalty we wanted to
to treat them like royalty we wanted to
to treat them like royalty we wanted to be a we wanted to allow them to see that
be a we wanted to allow them to see that
be a we wanted to allow them to see that they deserve this and that they could
they deserve this and that they could
they deserve this and that they could attain this if they put their mind to it
attain this if they put their mind to it
attain this if they put their mind to it we even gave them the money to pay for
we even gave them the money to pay for
we even gave them the money to pay for their meals and let them choose what
their meals and let them choose what
their meals and let them choose what they wanted to took our thought process
they wanted to took our thought process
they wanted to took our thought process behind this was it was one opportunity
behind this was it was one opportunity
behind this was it was one opportunity for them to take a step back and
for them to take a step back and
for them to take a step back and evaluate what they wanted for the rest
evaluate what they wanted for the rest
evaluate what they wanted for the rest of their lives and this is one of the
of their lives and this is one of the
of their lives and this is one of the ways that we introduced emotional impact
ways that we introduced emotional impact
ways that we introduced emotional impact on a consistent basis to our young man
on a consistent basis to our young man
on a consistent basis to our young man the second one personal development how
the second one personal development how
the second one personal development how we got started with this in the
we got started with this in the
we got started with this in the beginning as we mentioned
beginning as we mentioned
beginning as we mentioned we’re not in the self-help section at
we’re not in the self-help section at
we’re not in the self-help section at the library we got evolved a person
the library we got evolved a person
the library we got evolved a person development because it was attached to a
development because it was attached to a
development because it was attached to a business model that’s what we were
business model that’s what we were
business model that’s what we were interested in so for our kids we treat
interested in so for our kids we treat
interested in so for our kids we treat it the same way whether they like
it the same way whether they like
it the same way whether they like science art music basketball give them
science art music basketball give them
science art music basketball give them that too
that too
that too but that’s personal development you have
but that’s personal development you have
but that’s personal development you have to meet the kid where they’re at meet
to meet the kid where they’re at meet
to meet the kid where they’re at meet him halfway and by meeting them halfway
him halfway and by meeting them halfway
him halfway and by meeting them halfway you can engage them more and understand
you can engage them more and understand
you can engage them more and understand that they will learn more about
that they will learn more about
that they will learn more about themselves through the process and the
themselves through the process and the
themselves through the process and the final piece community service once a
final piece community service once a
final piece community service once a month we take our mentees we
month we take our mentees we
month we take our mentees we intentionally create an opportunity for
intentionally create an opportunity for
intentionally create an opportunity for them to contribute to someone else’s
them to contribute to someone else’s
them to contribute to someone else’s circumstance and we believe that this
circumstance and we believe that this
circumstance and we believe that this does two things first it empowers them
does two things first it empowers them
does two things first it empowers them to believe that they have something to
to believe that they have something to
to believe that they have something to offer the world most people reflect on
offer the world most people reflect on
offer the world most people reflect on their circumstance and believe they’re
their circumstance and believe they’re
their circumstance and believe they’re the only one going through what they’re
the only one going through what they’re
the only one going through what they’re going through not understanding that
going through not understanding that
going through not understanding that people are going to very similar things
people are going to very similar things
people are going to very similar things we believe that most people are going
we believe that most people are going
we believe that most people are going through something it’s the same pain
through something it’s the same pain
through something it’s the same pain painted in a different color is what we
painted in a different color is what we
painted in a different color is what we say so it empowers them in the second it
say so it empowers them in the second it
say so it empowers them in the second it gives them an opportunity to gain
gives them an opportunity to gain
gives them an opportunity to gain compassion for not only other struggles
compassion for not only other struggles
compassion for not only other struggles but other cultures and what other people
but other cultures and what other people
but other cultures and what other people are going through so we created an event
are going through so we created an event
are going through so we created an event call service I give credit where credit
call service I give credit where credit
call service I give credit where credit is due
is due
is due Cody created the event Cody created an
Cody created the event Cody created an
Cody created the event Cody created an event labeled service misconnection we
event labeled service misconnection we
event labeled service misconnection we brought together a group of young
brought together a group of young
brought together a group of young professionals of different ethnicities
professionals of different ethnicities
professionals of different ethnicities cultures and backgrounds of different
cultures and backgrounds of different
cultures and backgrounds of different professions invited them to a high-rise
professions invited them to a high-rise
professions invited them to a high-rise in downtown Chicago we reserved the
in downtown Chicago we reserved the
in downtown Chicago we reserved the party room and we packed 300 bag lunches
party room and we packed 300 bag lunches
party room and we packed 300 bag lunches for homeless for the homeless in the
for homeless for the homeless in the
for homeless for the homeless in the city of Chicago and we brought our young
city of Chicago and we brought our young
city of Chicago and we brought our young people there and let them organically
people there and let them organically
people there and let them organically create conversation and dialogue about
create conversation and dialogue about
create conversation and dialogue about whatever their interest was or whatever
whatever their interest was or whatever
whatever their interest was or whatever came to mind one thing we knew was it
came to mind one thing we knew was it
came to mind one thing we knew was it would give our young our young men a
would give our young our young men a
would give our young our young men a different image of what success looked
different image of what success looked
different image of what success looked like it would also give them an
like it would also give them an
like it would also give them an opportunity to see that people are all
opportunity to see that people are all
opportunity to see that people are all the same we all just want to be loved
the same we all just want to be loved
the same we all just want to be loved that we want to contribute to something
that we want to contribute to something
that we want to contribute to something bigger than ourselves
bigger than ourselves
bigger than ourselves and we want to have a good time while
and we want to have a good time while
and we want to have a good time while are doing it so to review it so we could
are doing it so to review it so we could
are doing it so to review it so we could tie everything better so you understand
tie everything better so you understand
tie everything better so you understand exactly what we’re talking about we
exactly what we’re talking about we
exactly what we’re talking about we mentioned here at Valpo we got engaged
mentioned here at Valpo we got engaged
mentioned here at Valpo we got engaged the personal development the business
the personal development the business
the personal development the business because we were interested in this while
because we were interested in this while
because we were interested in this while we were here we used to get in front of
we were here we used to get in front of
we were here we used to get in front of a room speak get uncomfortable force
a room speak get uncomfortable force
a room speak get uncomfortable force himself to stretch and grow the same
himself to stretch and grow the same
himself to stretch and grow the same model we created into the foundation
model we created into the foundation
model we created into the foundation repetition emotional impact over and
repetition emotional impact over and
repetition emotional impact over and over and over again
over and over again
over and over again the personal development unique
the personal development unique
the personal development unique experiences because we know when the
experiences because we know when the
experiences because we know when the child see more they can become more
child see more they can become more
child see more they can become more Alaskan not least chef just mentioned
Alaskan not least chef just mentioned
Alaskan not least chef just mentioned community service bill compassion
community service bill compassion
community service bill compassion understand that the problems you’re
understand that the problems you’re
understand that the problems you’re going through is really not that big
going through is really not that big
going through is really not that big it’s always relative and when you’re
it’s always relative and when you’re
it’s always relative and when you’re able to contribute to something more
able to contribute to something more
able to contribute to something more than yourself you’re always able to
than yourself you’re always able to
than yourself you’re always able to bring the attention away from yourself
bring the attention away from yourself
bring the attention away from yourself until we recognize what our programming
until we recognize what our programming
until we recognize what our programming is how its created and how you can
is how its created and how you can
is how its created and how you can intentionally change it a lot of the
intentionally change it a lot of the
intentionally change it a lot of the things that we do in terms of our
things that we do in terms of our
things that we do in terms of our behavior is very short time we have
behavior is very short time we have
behavior is very short time we have something programmed in us called a
something programmed in us called a
something programmed in us called a cybernetic system our Paraiso is an
cybernetic system our Paraiso is an
cybernetic system our Paraiso is an engineering school so this may resonate
engineering school so this may resonate
engineering school so this may resonate with you a cybernetic system is a part
with you a cybernetic system is a part
with you a cybernetic system is a part of a thermostat it’s a part of the
of a thermostat it’s a part of the
of a thermostat it’s a part of the autopilot system in an airplane when you
autopilot system in an airplane when you
autopilot system in an airplane when you set your thermostat 270 degrees in your
set your thermostat 270 degrees in your
set your thermostat 270 degrees in your home anytime it gets warmer than 70
home anytime it gets warmer than 70
home anytime it gets warmer than 70 degrees your air kicks on it brings it
degrees your air kicks on it brings it
degrees your air kicks on it brings it back down because that thermostat is
back down because that thermostat is
back down because that thermostat is programmed for 70 degrees so in your
programmed for 70 degrees so in your
programmed for 70 degrees so in your life when your program for unhealthy
life when your program for unhealthy
life when your program for unhealthy eating when your program for getting a C
eating when your program for getting a C
eating when your program for getting a C in class when your program for waking up
in class when your program for waking up
in class when your program for waking up late there’s some things that you must
late there’s some things that you must
late there’s some things that you must intentionally do either by repetition or
intentionally do either by repetition or
intentionally do either by repetition or by emotional impact to change that
by emotional impact to change that
by emotional impact to change that program because no matter what action
program because no matter what action
program because no matter what action you take that programming will kick back
you take that programming will kick back
you take that programming will kick back in recalibrate and bring you back to
in recalibrate and bring you back to
in recalibrate and bring you back to where you’re set
where you’re set
where you’re set so today we come to you talking no pun
so today we come to you talking no pun
so today we come to you talking no pun intended but with the hope that we will
intended but with the hope that we will
intended but with the hope that we will inspire you to think beyond your
inspire you to think beyond your
inspire you to think beyond your limitations to take these conversations
limitations to take these conversations
limitations to take these conversations that we’re having in this room to take
that we’re having in this room to take
that we’re having in this room to take the conversation conversations that you
the conversation conversations that you
the conversation conversations that you have outside of this room and inspire
have outside of this room and inspire
have outside of this room and inspire you to take action not tomorrow not
you to take action not tomorrow not
you to take action not tomorrow not Wednesday
Wednesday
Wednesday not someday which is not a day but today
not someday which is not a day but today
not someday which is not a day but today thank you so much Valparaiso University
thank you so much Valparaiso University
thank you so much Valparaiso University for this opportunity
for this opportunity
for this opportunity [Applause]
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