you may have noticed my slight limp did it get your attention yes okay glad that
it get your attention yes okay glad that
it get your attention yes okay glad that joke work just kidding I’m actually
joke work just kidding I’m actually
joke work just kidding I’m actually injured um and also i’m not sure who
injured um and also i’m not sure who
injured um and also i’m not sure who stole my dance moves earlier I did not
stole my dance moves earlier I did not
stole my dance moves earlier I did not give permission to show that video but
give permission to show that video but
give permission to show that video but that’s another problem as soon as we
that’s another problem as soon as we
that’s another problem as soon as we crossed from Peru into Bolivia I look
crossed from Peru into Bolivia I look
crossed from Peru into Bolivia I look down at my cell phone and I realized it
down at my cell phone and I realized it
down at my cell phone and I realized it lost service and I thought oh crap we
lost service and I thought oh crap we
lost service and I thought oh crap we kept going we got to the dock when we
kept going we got to the dock when we
kept going we got to the dock when we boarded the boat we were set sail we
boarded the boat we were set sail we
boarded the boat we were set sail we were setting sail on to Lake Titicaca
were setting sail on to Lake Titicaca
were setting sail on to Lake Titicaca which yes is a real place and it borders
which yes is a real place and it borders
which yes is a real place and it borders both Peru and Bolivia and when I say
both Peru and Bolivia and when I say
both Peru and Bolivia and when I say that we were going to go visit one of
that we were going to go visit one of
that we were going to go visit one of the islands on the lake if you’re
the islands on the lake if you’re
the islands on the lake if you’re thinking Hawaii kind of lower your
thinking Hawaii kind of lower your
thinking Hawaii kind of lower your standards by about 100 so we’re out on
standards by about 100 so we’re out on
standards by about 100 so we’re out on the boat this Lake looks like an ocean
the boat this Lake looks like an ocean
the boat this Lake looks like an ocean it’s huge its massive about halfway out
it’s huge its massive about halfway out
it’s huge its massive about halfway out we realized this is the last boat out
we realized this is the last boat out
we realized this is the last boat out there’s no other boats coming back we’re
there’s no other boats coming back we’re
there’s no other boats coming back we’re going to spend the night on the island
going to spend the night on the island
going to spend the night on the island and that’s when I thought oh crap
and that’s when I thought oh crap
and that’s when I thought oh crap because see I had told my mom that we
because see I had told my mom that we
because see I had told my mom that we were going to leave our place in Peru
were going to leave our place in Peru
were going to leave our place in Peru we’re gonna go to Bolivia for the day
we’re gonna go to Bolivia for the day
we’re gonna go to Bolivia for the day and we were going to come back and now I
and we were going to come back and now I
and we were going to come back and now I knew I screwed everything up and my mom
knew I screwed everything up and my mom
knew I screwed everything up and my mom had a 22 year old son wandering
had a 22 year old son wandering
had a 22 year old son wandering aimlessly in South America me being that
aimlessly in South America me being that
aimlessly in South America me being that son and we get to the island and like
son and we get to the island and like
son and we get to the island and like okay now I got to put some sort of plan
okay now I got to put some sort of plan
okay now I got to put some sort of plan in place here so I started asking around
in place here so I started asking around
in place here so I started asking around is there any place on this island that
is there any place on this island that
is there any place on this island that has cell phone service they’re like yeah
has cell phone service they’re like yeah
has cell phone service they’re like yeah you can hike about 30 minutes that way
you can hike about 30 minutes that way
you can hike about 30 minutes that way maybe get some service so I hike schlep
maybe get some service so I hike schlep
maybe get some service so I hike schlep over 30 minutes get a little bit of cell
over 30 minutes get a little bit of cell
over 30 minutes get a little bit of cell phone service enough to call my local
phone service enough to call my local
phone service enough to call my local boss back in Peru I say Javier you got
boss back in Peru I say Javier you got
boss back in Peru I say Javier you got to email my mom our plans have changed
to email my mom our plans have changed
to email my mom our plans have changed it’s we’re going to spend the night here
it’s we’re going to spend the night here
it’s we’re going to spend the night here obvious is okay okay what’s your email
obvious is okay okay what’s your email
obvious is okay okay what’s your email address I spell out my mom’s email
address I spell out my mom’s email
address I spell out my mom’s email address he says okay i’ll email i’ll
address he says okay i’ll email i’ll
address he says okay i’ll email i’ll tell her your plans have changed hang up
tell her your plans have changed hang up
tell her your plans have changed hang up i feel a little better at this point go
i feel a little better at this point go
i feel a little better at this point go see the island have a good time go to
see the island have a good time go to
see the island have a good time go to bed take the first boat back finally get
bed take the first boat back finally get
bed take the first boat back finally get back to town and i get cell phone
back to town and i get cell phone
back to town and i get cell phone service and this is when I realized all
service and this is when I realized all
service and this is when I realized all hell had broken loose I had calls emails
hell had broken loose I had calls emails
hell had broken loose I had calls emails texts voicemails and I knew I was in
texts voicemails and I knew I was in
texts voicemails and I knew I was in trouble because my mom basically thought
trouble because my mom basically thought
trouble because my mom basically thought we died in Bolivia that night day and so
we died in Bolivia that night day and so
we died in Bolivia that night day and so I said okay oh boy so I called my mom
I said okay oh boy so I called my mom
I said okay oh boy so I called my mom got in touch with I was like we’re okay
got in touch with I was like we’re okay
got in touch with I was like we’re okay I’m so sorry or change our plans have
I’m so sorry or change our plans have
I’m so sorry or change our plans have changed and so forth and later it came
changed and so forth and later it came
changed and so forth and later it came to find out that she had literally kept
to find out that she had literally kept
to find out that she had literally kept herself worried sick up all night I also
herself worried sick up all night I also
herself worried sick up all night I also came to find out that my boss misspelled
came to find out that my boss misspelled
came to find out that my boss misspelled her email address by one letter there’s
her email address by one letter there’s
her email address by one letter there’s two ends in Wiseman whoops so this story
two ends in Wiseman whoops so this story
two ends in Wiseman whoops so this story this evolution of this sort of journey
this evolution of this sort of journey
this evolution of this sort of journey and getting in trouble in Peru is
and getting in trouble in Peru is
and getting in trouble in Peru is important to me because I was am and
important to me because I was am and
important to me because I was am and always will be a mama’s boy are you
always will be a mama’s boy are you
always will be a mama’s boy are you laughing great maybe when you hear a
laughing great maybe when you hear a
laughing great maybe when you hear a grown man on stage say that he’s a
grown man on stage say that he’s a
grown man on stage say that he’s a mama’s boy a certain image comes to your
mama’s boy a certain image comes to your
mama’s boy a certain image comes to your head right you thinking like I all the
head right you thinking like I all the
head right you thinking like I all the men in the audience I got guys not tough
men in the audience I got guys not tough
men in the audience I got guys not tough well I’ve done some pretty tough things
well I’ve done some pretty tough things
well I’ve done some pretty tough things in my life I’ve swam in the Amazon which
in my life I’ve swam in the Amazon which
in my life I’ve swam in the Amazon which I’m convinced years later gave me a full
I’m convinced years later gave me a full
I’m convinced years later gave me a full body rash I’ve gone piranha fishing I
body rash I’ve gone piranha fishing I
body rash I’ve gone piranha fishing I played college basketball I tore my
played college basketball I tore my
played college basketball I tore my Achilles real tough is a real injury and
Achilles real tough is a real injury and
Achilles real tough is a real injury and I even found a smoking hot wife who’s
I even found a smoking hot wife who’s
I even found a smoking hot wife who’s here tonight and I’m so glad she decided
here tonight and I’m so glad she decided
here tonight and I’m so glad she decided to put a bra on
now maybe now maybe everybody in the
now maybe now maybe everybody in the room is thinking okay well he’s not
room is thinking okay well he’s not
room is thinking okay well he’s not manly enough right he’s a mama’s boy
manly enough right he’s a mama’s boy
manly enough right he’s a mama’s boy well for my brother and I actually
well for my brother and I actually
well for my brother and I actually started when we were quite young because
started when we were quite young because
started when we were quite young because my dad invented a little game called
my dad invented a little game called
my dad invented a little game called dump and run like any good dad he had a
dump and run like any good dad he had a
dump and run like any good dad he had a huge pile of dirt delivered to the front
huge pile of dirt delivered to the front
huge pile of dirt delivered to the front of our house and we’d move said pile of
of our house and we’d move said pile of
of our house and we’d move said pile of dirt from the front of the house to the
dirt from the front of the house to the
dirt from the front of the house to the back of the house so my dad came up with
back of the house so my dad came up with
back of the house so my dad came up with a game called dump and run my brother
a game called dump and run my brother
a game called dump and run my brother and I we got our little fisher-price
and I we got our little fisher-price
and I we got our little fisher-price wheel barrels we loaded them up and we
wheel barrels we loaded them up and we
wheel barrels we loaded them up and we were guys guys right we probably only
were guys guys right we probably only
were guys guys right we probably only hold about two cups with a dirt and my
hold about two cups with a dirt and my
hold about two cups with a dirt and my dad would yell dump and run and we go
dad would yell dump and run and we go
dad would yell dump and run and we go running off to the backyard as fast as
running off to the backyard as fast as
running off to the backyard as fast as we could we dump the little dirt and we
we could we dump the little dirt and we
we could we dump the little dirt and we come running back now as I don’t know
come running back now as I don’t know
come running back now as I don’t know four six seven year olds this was great
four six seven year olds this was great
four six seven year olds this was great pretty sure falls under some sort of
pretty sure falls under some sort of
pretty sure falls under some sort of wheel weird child labor laws but that’s
wheel weird child labor laws but that’s
wheel weird child labor laws but that’s another story now maybe for you women in
another story now maybe for you women in
another story now maybe for you women in the audience when you hear a man say
the audience when you hear a man say
the audience when you hear a man say he’s a mama’s boy maybe you think I’m
he’s a mama’s boy maybe you think I’m
he’s a mama’s boy maybe you think I’m not independent can’t take care of
not independent can’t take care of
not independent can’t take care of myself well I’m here to tell you I can
myself well I’m here to tell you I can
myself well I’m here to tell you I can make a mean stir-fry I went away to
make a mean stir-fry I went away to
make a mean stir-fry I went away to college as you know I lived in South
college as you know I lived in South
college as you know I lived in South America and I’ve even am so independent
America and I’ve even am so independent
America and I’ve even am so independent that I once got lost in a grocery store
that I once got lost in a grocery store
that I once got lost in a grocery store and a Best Buy Now it interests me about
and a Best Buy Now it interests me about
and a Best Buy Now it interests me about this term mama’s boy having been one and
this term mama’s boy having been one and
this term mama’s boy having been one and move em one is its evolution over time
move em one is its evolution over time
move em one is its evolution over time if you think about it any man who comes
if you think about it any man who comes
if you think about it any man who comes into this world attachment theory
into this world attachment theory
into this world attachment theory teaches us that you are actually
teaches us that you are actually
teaches us that you are actually literally attached to the person
literally attached to the person
literally attached to the person providing care for you that’s why we cry
providing care for you that’s why we cry
providing care for you that’s why we cry when we need food as infants because
when we need food as infants because
when we need food as infants because somebody has to provide that nourishment
somebody has to provide that nourishment
somebody has to provide that nourishment for you nature’s hard at work to ensure
for you nature’s hard at work to ensure
for you nature’s hard at work to ensure you receive proper nurture then over
you receive proper nurture then over
you receive proper nurture then over time as a boy kind of comes into
time as a boy kind of comes into
time as a boy kind of comes into childhood middle-aged this notion of
childhood middle-aged this notion of
childhood middle-aged this notion of Mama’s voice shifts
Mama’s voice shifts
Mama’s voice shifts and you start to understand it’s got a
and you start to understand it’s got a
and you start to understand it’s got a negative connotation to it I can
negative connotation to it I can
negative connotation to it I can remember in the third grade being called
remember in the third grade being called
remember in the third grade being called a mama’s boy for the first time one of
a mama’s boy for the first time one of
a mama’s boy for the first time one of many and I thought so I like my mom it’s
many and I thought so I like my mom it’s
many and I thought so I like my mom it’s pretty funny and we spent a lot of time
pretty funny and we spent a lot of time
pretty funny and we spent a lot of time together I don’t get it then I realized
together I don’t get it then I realized
together I don’t get it then I realized oh they mean I’m not tough enough I’m
oh they mean I’m not tough enough I’m
oh they mean I’m not tough enough I’m not cool to have this close relationship
not cool to have this close relationship
not cool to have this close relationship with my mom at the same time the third
with my mom at the same time the third
with my mom at the same time the third grader and me is thinking if I come to
grader and me is thinking if I come to
grader and me is thinking if I come to school with pants on its shoes tied it’s
school with pants on its shoes tied it’s
school with pants on its shoes tied it’s a win and so you start to realize that
a win and so you start to realize that
a win and so you start to realize that we’re teaching our young boys to
we’re teaching our young boys to
we’re teaching our young boys to distance themselves from the women in
distance themselves from the women in
distance themselves from the women in their relationship society culture it’s
their relationship society culture it’s
their relationship society culture it’s not cool they’re not tough enough then
not cool they’re not tough enough then
not cool they’re not tough enough then later in life Mama’s voice continues to
later in life Mama’s voice continues to
later in life Mama’s voice continues to evolve you hear about women and men who
evolve you hear about women and men who
evolve you hear about women and men who seek out manners partners who have
seek out manners partners who have
seek out manners partners who have strong relationships with the women in
strong relationships with the women in
strong relationships with the women in their lives we admire them we think they
their lives we admire them we think they
their lives we admire them we think they make better husbands and could make
make better husbands and could make
make better husbands and could make better fathers and you even see pop
better fathers and you even see pop
better fathers and you even see pop culture and society change to you here
culture and society change to you here
culture and society change to you here mba players get up on stage and give
mba players get up on stage and give
mba players get up on stage and give wonderful award speech is thanking and
wonderful award speech is thanking and
wonderful award speech is thanking and saying you know we came through this
saying you know we came through this
saying you know we came through this together mom we did it and we love that
together mom we did it and we love that
together mom we did it and we love that we eat it up we’re like oh my gosh what
we eat it up we’re like oh my gosh what
we eat it up we’re like oh my gosh what a great guy he and his mom got through
a great guy he and his mom got through
a great guy he and his mom got through the mama’s boy is almost coming full
the mama’s boy is almost coming full
the mama’s boy is almost coming full circle that was pretty fortunate to have
circle that was pretty fortunate to have
circle that was pretty fortunate to have a really special relationship with my
a really special relationship with my
a really special relationship with my mom so special in fact that one time I
mom so special in fact that one time I
mom so special in fact that one time I convince her to watch some robin
convince her to watch some robin
convince her to watch some robin williams stand up with me most of you
williams stand up with me most of you
williams stand up with me most of you probably know Robin Williams he’s a
probably know Robin Williams he’s a
probably know Robin Williams he’s a little vulgar but in this particular bit
little vulgar but in this particular bit
little vulgar but in this particular bit that I want to show my mom was Robin
that I want to show my mom was Robin
that I want to show my mom was Robin Williams describing the building of the
Williams describing the building of the
Williams describing the building of the male and female reproductive systems by
male and female reproductive systems by
male and female reproductive systems by committee and he is said committee if
committee and he is said committee if
committee and he is said committee if you haven’t watched it please go home
you haven’t watched it please go home
you haven’t watched it please go home and YouTube it the best takes you learn
and YouTube it the best takes you learn
and YouTube it the best takes you learn here tonight and so my moms like fine
here tonight and so my moms like fine
here tonight and so my moms like fine Zack we can watch it I’m like okay we’ll
Zack we can watch it I’m like okay we’ll
Zack we can watch it I’m like okay we’ll put it on your iPad will put in
put it on your iPad will put in
put it on your iPad will put in headphones no one can see no one can
headphones no one can see no one can
headphones no one can see no one can hear just finally agrees sure but you
hear just finally agrees sure but you
hear just finally agrees sure but you can’t laugh was it aside anyway
can’t laugh was it aside anyway
can’t laugh was it aside anyway who knows me I’m the guy who if I’m
who knows me I’m the guy who if I’m
who knows me I’m the guy who if I’m alone in the hotel room I’m laughing out
alone in the hotel room I’m laughing out
alone in the hotel room I’m laughing out loud watching TV this is a pretty
loud watching TV this is a pretty
loud watching TV this is a pretty impossible task I’m sure oh yeah I won’t
impossible task I’m sure oh yeah I won’t
impossible task I’m sure oh yeah I won’t laugh we start playing the video and of
laugh we start playing the video and of
laugh we start playing the video and of course 10 seconds in I’m laughing I’m
course 10 seconds in I’m laughing I’m
course 10 seconds in I’m laughing I’m smiling you know spitting up and my
smiling you know spitting up and my
smiling you know spitting up and my mom’s poking me like Shh started like
mom’s poking me like Shh started like
mom’s poking me like Shh started like she did thousands and thousands of time
she did thousands and thousands of time
she did thousands and thousands of time filing you through the video it was
filing you through the video it was
filing you through the video it was hilarious but it was at this exact
hilarious but it was at this exact
hilarious but it was at this exact moment that I realized things were a
moment that I realized things were a
moment that I realized things were a little different my mom my dad and I
little different my mom my dad and I
little different my mom my dad and I were sitting in the cancer center at MD
were sitting in the cancer center at MD
were sitting in the cancer center at MD Anderson about a month earlier my mom
Anderson about a month earlier my mom
Anderson about a month earlier my mom had been diagnosed with Stage four
had been diagnosed with Stage four
had been diagnosed with Stage four pancreatic cancer so I realized I was a
pancreatic cancer so I realized I was a
pancreatic cancer so I realized I was a mama’s boy but was at this exact moment
mama’s boy but was at this exact moment
mama’s boy but was at this exact moment I realized i was now a caregiver whole
I realized i was now a caregiver whole
I realized i was now a caregiver whole different beast how many of you tonight
different beast how many of you tonight
different beast how many of you tonight have ever cared for a loved one I’m sure
have ever cared for a loved one I’m sure
have ever cared for a loved one I’m sure I’m not the only one caregiving kind of
I’m not the only one caregiving kind of
I’m not the only one caregiving kind of similar to mama’s boy has this journey
similar to mama’s boy has this journey
similar to mama’s boy has this journey in evolution over our lives again
in evolution over our lives again
in evolution over our lives again attachment theory teaches us that we
attachment theory teaches us that we
attachment theory teaches us that we come into this world and we need care we
come into this world and we need care we
come into this world and we need care we are dependent on someone else to provide
are dependent on someone else to provide
are dependent on someone else to provide care for us it is fundamental to our
care for us it is fundamental to our
care for us it is fundamental to our survival then in sort of the middle
survival then in sort of the middle
survival then in sort of the middle stages of our life at different times
stages of our life at different times
stages of our life at different times for everybody or offered chances to
for everybody or offered chances to
for everybody or offered chances to provide care for somebody else and so
provide care for somebody else and so
provide care for somebody else and so then later in life somewhat if we’re
then later in life somewhat if we’re
then later in life somewhat if we’re lucky enough we’re going to need care
lucky enough we’re going to need care
lucky enough we’re going to need care ourselves and so you start out needing
ourselves and so you start out needing
ourselves and so you start out needing care you’re presented with chances to
care you’re presented with chances to
care you’re presented with chances to give care and then you ultimately need
give care and then you ultimately need
give care and then you ultimately need it yourself comes full circle again now
it yourself comes full circle again now
it yourself comes full circle again now caregiving tough caregiving is
caregiving tough caregiving is
caregiving tough caregiving is disruptive caregiving doesn’t give a
disruptive caregiving doesn’t give a
disruptive caregiving doesn’t give a crap what day of the week it is how much
crap what day of the week it is how much
crap what day of the week it is how much money you have in your bank account
money you have in your bank account
money you have in your bank account where you think you are in your
where you think you are in your
where you think you are in your professional or personal journeys
professional or personal journeys
professional or personal journeys caregiving takes mortality that we like
caregiving takes mortality that we like
caregiving takes mortality that we like to keep next door and brings it in the
to keep next door and brings it in the
to keep next door and brings it in the room and there’s no road map to
room and there’s no road map to
room and there’s no road map to caregiving I have a good friend who’s
caregiving I have a good friend who’s
caregiving I have a good friend who’s here tonight and he likes to tell a
here tonight and he likes to tell a
here tonight and he likes to tell a famous story that I think summer I
famous story that I think summer I
famous story that I think summer I some of the difficult decisions that
some of the difficult decisions that
some of the difficult decisions that caregiving can thrust us into when we’re
caregiving can thrust us into when we’re
caregiving can thrust us into when we’re never ready he was on a train platform
never ready he was on a train platform
never ready he was on a train platform in New York standing with his boss and
in New York standing with his boss and
in New York standing with his boss and his boss said Richard I know you’re
his boss said Richard I know you’re
his boss said Richard I know you’re caring for your mom you’ve got two
caring for your mom you’ve got two
caring for your mom you’ve got two choices you can either keep working or
choices you can either keep working or
choices you can either keep working or you can go care for your mom and that’s
you can go care for your mom and that’s
you can go care for your mom and that’s a pretty difficult decision right and he
a pretty difficult decision right and he
a pretty difficult decision right and he chose to care for his mom and he went on
chose to care for his mom and he went on
chose to care for his mom and he went on to care for his mom and his since
to care for his mom and his since
to care for his mom and his since published a book on caregiving to help
published a book on caregiving to help
published a book on caregiving to help us navigate and to help start building
us navigate and to help start building
us navigate and to help start building this roadmap at the same time with
this roadmap at the same time with
this roadmap at the same time with caregiving there’s lots of different
caregiving there’s lots of different
caregiving there’s lots of different roles that we can fill and maybe some of
roles that we can fill and maybe some of
roles that we can fill and maybe some of you have experience with that in our
you have experience with that in our
you have experience with that in our family’s example you know I was able to
family’s example you know I was able to
family’s example you know I was able to come be by my mom’s side my brother and
come be by my mom’s side my brother and
come be by my mom’s side my brother and I tried to make things light and fun and
I tried to make things light and fun and
I tried to make things light and fun and that’s us wearing our mom’s wigs he came
that’s us wearing our mom’s wigs he came
that’s us wearing our mom’s wigs he came in in and out of town he lived elsewhere
in in and out of town he lived elsewhere
in in and out of town he lived elsewhere my dad kept the family business afloat
my dad kept the family business afloat
my dad kept the family business afloat and carried on nights and weekends and
and carried on nights and weekends and
and carried on nights and weekends and everything in between we had family
everything in between we had family
everything in between we had family friends come over constantly we’re all
friends come over constantly we’re all
friends come over constantly we’re all filling these different roles similarly
filling these different roles similarly
filling these different roles similarly I learned that as a millennial as much
I learned that as a millennial as much
I learned that as a millennial as much as I like to die that I’m a millennial
as I like to die that I’m a millennial
as I like to die that I’m a millennial that that that we grew up as second hand
that that that we grew up as second hand
that that that we grew up as second hand caregivers my wife and I when we started
caregivers my wife and I when we started
caregivers my wife and I when we started dating we had six grandparents all in
dating we had six grandparents all in
dating we had six grandparents all in the ages of 80 and above pretty
the ages of 80 and above pretty
the ages of 80 and above pretty fortunate on that front but we spent a
fortunate on that front but we spent a
fortunate on that front but we spent a lot of time in assisted living
lot of time in assisted living
lot of time in assisted living facilities nursing homes watching our
facilities nursing homes watching our
facilities nursing homes watching our parents care for their parents and
parents care for their parents and
parents care for their parents and learning and helping where we could and
learning and helping where we could and
learning and helping where we could and at the same time you have of course an
at the same time you have of course an
at the same time you have of course an aging baby boomer population this
aging baby boomer population this
aging baby boomer population this population of course is going to make
population of course is going to make
population of course is going to make many of us caregivers if not already so
many of us caregivers if not already so
many of us caregivers if not already so it’s on the horizon it’s here if not
it’s on the horizon it’s here if not
it’s on the horizon it’s here if not again already now for me being a mama’s
again already now for me being a mama’s
again already now for me being a mama’s boy made the transition to caregiver a
boy made the transition to caregiver a
boy made the transition to caregiver a no-brainer I had a close healthy
no-brainer I had a close healthy
no-brainer I had a close healthy relationship with my mom so watching her
relationship with my mom so watching her
relationship with my mom so watching her give care for her family and others it
give care for her family and others it
give care for her family and others it was like of course I’ll be there I’ll do
was like of course I’ll be there I’ll do
was like of course I’ll be there I’ll do what I can but again if you think about
what I can but again if you think about
what I can but again if you think about the differences and the similarities
the differences and the similarities
the differences and the similarities between being a mama’s boy being close
between being a mama’s boy being close
between being a mama’s boy being close with people in this case women and
with people in this case women and
with people in this case women and caregiving they have these similar
caregiving they have these similar
caregiving they have these similar evolutions that we just discussed
evolutions that we just discussed
evolutions that we just discussed but they also have negative social and
but they also have negative social and
but they also have negative social and society context we don’t think of
society context we don’t think of
society context we don’t think of caregiving as a cool fun thing to do we
caregiving as a cool fun thing to do we
caregiving as a cool fun thing to do we think of it often as a burden and so I’m
think of it often as a burden and so I’m
think of it often as a burden and so I’m interested and have been looking at the
interested and have been looking at the
interested and have been looking at the impacts that this has on our young boys
impacts that this has on our young boys
impacts that this has on our young boys teaching them what are we teaching them
teaching them what are we teaching them
teaching them what are we teaching them about distancing themselves at an early
about distancing themselves at an early
about distancing themselves at an early age from the women in their lives from
age from the women in their lives from
age from the women in their lives from love from empathy from compassion so
love from empathy from compassion so
love from empathy from compassion so what if we start to redefine what it
what if we start to redefine what it
what if we start to redefine what it means to be a mama’s boy to be a man to
means to be a mama’s boy to be a man to
means to be a mama’s boy to be a man to be tough to give care what if we
be tough to give care what if we
be tough to give care what if we redefine how we view as a culture in a
redefine how we view as a culture in a
redefine how we view as a culture in a society toughness and courage and
society toughness and courage and
society toughness and courage and masculinity my mom had four months and
masculinity my mom had four months and
masculinity my mom had four months and passed away at the age of 60 and
passed away at the age of 60 and
passed away at the age of 60 and watching what she did and how she fought
watching what she did and how she fought
watching what she did and how she fought that’s toughness that’s courage and so
that’s toughness that’s courage and so
that’s toughness that’s courage and so I’m asking all of us tonight let’s not
I’m asking all of us tonight let’s not
I’m asking all of us tonight let’s not stop at loss let’s continue on let’s
stop at loss let’s continue on let’s
stop at loss let’s continue on let’s come together and pick each other up and
come together and pick each other up and
come together and pick each other up and build off of past experiences watching
build off of past experiences watching
build off of past experiences watching my father carry on our family business
my father carry on our family business
my father carry on our family business day in and day out that’s toughness
day in and day out that’s toughness
day in and day out that’s toughness that’s courage not swimming in the
that’s courage not swimming in the
that’s courage not swimming in the Amazon and so I’m extremely interested
Amazon and so I’m extremely interested
Amazon and so I’m extremely interested in how we carry on these different
in how we carry on these different
in how we carry on these different legacies and fight social pressures and
legacies and fight social pressures and
legacies and fight social pressures and social constructs that we’ve created so
social constructs that we’ve created so
social constructs that we’ve created so I want us to raise young boys who are
I want us to raise young boys who are
I want us to raise young boys who are close with the women in their life and
close with the women in their life and
close with the women in their life and let them know that that’s okay they can
let them know that that’s okay they can
let them know that that’s okay they can still be tough they can still do some
still be tough they can still do some
still be tough they can still do some fun cool things close to their moms
fun cool things close to their moms
fun cool things close to their moms close to their sisters they have two
close to their sisters they have two
close to their sisters they have two daddies close to them too because I
daddies close to them too because I
daddies close to them too because I think if we all start to raise these
think if we all start to raise these
think if we all start to raise these young Mama’s boys healthy strong
young Mama’s boys healthy strong
young Mama’s boys healthy strong relationships what we’re also going to
relationships what we’re also going to
relationships what we’re also going to be doing is we’re going to be creating
be doing is we’re going to be creating
be doing is we’re going to be creating the next generation of amazing
the next generation of amazing
the next generation of amazing caregivers men who are able to step up
caregivers men who are able to step up
caregivers men who are able to step up to the plate when caregiving comes
to the plate when caregiving comes
to the plate when caregiving comes calling at any time I’ll never forget it
calling at any time I’ll never forget it
calling at any time I’ll never forget it was I think it was my first haircut but
was I think it was my first haircut but
was I think it was my first haircut but that seems a little too young so it’s an
that seems a little too young so it’s an
that seems a little too young so it’s an early haircut and my mom took me to a
early haircut and my mom took me to a
early haircut and my mom took me to a place called
place called
place called colon sons that’s I was pretty well
colon sons that’s I was pretty well
colon sons that’s I was pretty well known in the in the Metroplex and I was
known in the in the Metroplex and I was
known in the in the Metroplex and I was a pain in the ass I cried the whole time
a pain in the ass I cried the whole time
a pain in the ass I cried the whole time I was kicking and screaming the people
I was kicking and screaming the people
I was kicking and screaming the people of coal own sons at some point told my
of coal own sons at some point told my
of coal own sons at some point told my mom don’t ever bring this kid back he’s
mom don’t ever bring this kid back he’s
mom don’t ever bring this kid back he’s banned for life and we get in the car
banned for life and we get in the car
banned for life and we get in the car and my mom says to me I’m sure I’m
and my mom says to me I’m sure I’m
and my mom says to me I’m sure I’m crying and like eating a lollipop says
crying and like eating a lollipop says
crying and like eating a lollipop says you know what Z they’re not worthy of
you know what Z they’re not worthy of
you know what Z they’re not worthy of cutting your hair and to this day I have
cutting your hair and to this day I have
cutting your hair and to this day I have never stepped foot in a coal wellin sons
never stepped foot in a coal wellin sons
never stepped foot in a coal wellin sons and I never will because I’m a mama’s
and I never will because I’m a mama’s
and I never will because I’m a mama’s boy thank you
boy thank you
boy thank you [Applause]
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