[Music] today’s theme is heroes of tomorrow and
today’s theme is heroes of tomorrow and
today’s theme is heroes of tomorrow and I want to talk about a topic that I
I want to talk about a topic that I
I want to talk about a topic that I believe so integral in our life a topic
believe so integral in our life a topic
believe so integral in our life a topic that has been at the heart of our
that has been at the heart of our
that has been at the heart of our suffering yesterday today and tomorrow
suffering yesterday today and tomorrow
suffering yesterday today and tomorrow and that topic is love see my work is
and that topic is love see my work is
and that topic is love see my work is relationship coaching what that mean is
relationship coaching what that mean is
relationship coaching what that mean is that when I introduce myself at a
that when I introduce myself at a
that when I introduce myself at a networking event people ask me either
networking event people ask me either
networking event people ask me either can you help me a hookup
can you help me a hookup
can you help me a hookup or can you help me to get better in my
or can you help me to get better in my
or can you help me to get better in my sex life and I was like no that’s not
sex life and I was like no that’s not
sex life and I was like no that’s not what I do so what is a relationship
what I do so what is a relationship
what I do so what is a relationship coach do my goal is to help people build
coach do my goal is to help people build
coach do my goal is to help people build real love that takes their life forward
real love that takes their life forward
real love that takes their life forward and what I do is I help people
and what I do is I help people
and what I do is I help people essentially to change the story that
essentially to change the story that
essentially to change the story that they tell themselves about love about
they tell themselves about love about
they tell themselves about love about relationships about marriage and that
relationships about marriage and that
relationships about marriage and that means I work with people hearts and mind
means I work with people hearts and mind
means I work with people hearts and mind it’s a very interesting place to be in
it’s a very interesting place to be in
it’s a very interesting place to be in some time I want to bang my head in the
some time I want to bang my head in the
some time I want to bang my head in the world wit but I love my work most of the
world wit but I love my work most of the
world wit but I love my work most of the people who come and seek my help they’re
people who come and seek my help they’re
people who come and seek my help they’re women
women
women I love women and men too and I want to
I love women and men too and I want to
I love women and men too and I want to tell you the story of women name’s
tell you the story of women name’s
tell you the story of women name’s Amanda know amanda has the letter A not
Amanda know amanda has the letter A not
Amanda know amanda has the letter A not only in her name but also in her type
only in her name but also in her type
only in her name but also in her type she’s a Type A women which that means is
she’s a Type A women which that means is
she’s a Type A women which that means is that she has the letter A in her test
that she has the letter A in her test
that she has the letter A in her test core in her performing review as she
core in her performing review as she
core in her performing review as she tried her best she tried to be on the to
tried her best she tried to be on the to
tried her best she tried to be on the to be in the a team
be in the a team
be in the a team bring on the a game in everything she
bring on the a game in everything she
bring on the a game in everything she does she said Bish’s in her career she
does she said Bish’s in her career she
does she said Bish’s in her career she tried to be as acute as possible in her
tried to be as acute as possible in her
tried to be as acute as possible in her crew in her expertise and she’s she’s
crew in her expertise and she’s she’s
crew in her expertise and she’s she’s amazing
amazing
amazing but Amanda has another letter a so
but Amanda has another letter a so
but Amanda has another letter a so secret so hidden that many times she
secret so hidden that many times she
secret so hidden that many times she would not admit to herself she’s anxious
would not admit to herself she’s anxious
would not admit to herself she’s anxious she’s anxious because even though she
she’s anxious because even though she
she’s anxious because even though she seems to be on the fast track in her
seems to be on the fast track in her
seems to be on the fast track in her education and in her career she somehow
education and in her career she somehow
education and in her career she somehow lost track in her relationships and love
lost track in her relationships and love
lost track in her relationships and love and as Amanda is at the second half of
and as Amanda is at the second half of
and as Amanda is at the second half of Earth twenties the more she approached
Earth twenties the more she approached
Earth twenties the more she approached her 30s the more confused she feel about
her 30s the more confused she feel about
her 30s the more confused she feel about relationship marriage and motherhood
relationship marriage and motherhood
relationship marriage and motherhood a man who seems to live in this dual
a man who seems to live in this dual
a man who seems to live in this dual reality striving in her work struggling
reality striving in her work struggling
reality striving in her work struggling suffering in the relationship and on one
suffering in the relationship and on one
suffering in the relationship and on one hand she’s so clear about what she
hand she’s so clear about what she
hand she’s so clear about what she wanted with her career she is confused
wanted with her career she is confused
wanted with her career she is confused with marriage committed relationship and
with marriage committed relationship and
with marriage committed relationship and motherhood now Amanda represent a
motherhood now Amanda represent a
motherhood now Amanda represent a growing population of Millennials women
growing population of Millennials women
growing population of Millennials women women who are born between 1980 and 1999
women who are born between 1980 and 1999
women who are born between 1980 and 1999 you’re all Millennials most of you right
you’re all Millennials most of you right
you’re all Millennials most of you right she’s driven she’s educated she wanted
she’s driven she’s educated she wanted
she’s driven she’s educated she wanted to great things with her life but even
to great things with her life but even
to great things with her life but even though she seems to be on the fast track
though she seems to be on the fast track
though she seems to be on the fast track in her career she’s feel lost in her
in her career she’s feel lost in her
in her career she’s feel lost in her relationship
so I love her I love Amanda love love
so I love her I love Amanda love love love woman’s like Amanda and I know many
love woman’s like Amanda and I know many
love woman’s like Amanda and I know many of you does the same here because I see
of you does the same here because I see
of you does the same here because I see her in my closest friend I see her in my
her in my closest friend I see her in my
her in my closest friend I see her in my client and I see her most of all in
client and I see her most of all in
client and I see her most of all in myself
myself
myself and I know you at least know one Amanda
and I know you at least know one Amanda
and I know you at least know one Amanda and care for at least one a man in your
and care for at least one a man in your
and care for at least one a man in your life can be your daughter can be your
life can be your daughter can be your
life can be your daughter can be your friends your girlfriend can be even
friends your girlfriend can be even
friends your girlfriend can be even yourself so it is my intention today to
yourself so it is my intention today to
yourself so it is my intention today to bring clarity to her struggle so that
bring clarity to her struggle so that
bring clarity to her struggle so that she Amanda driven Millennials women can
she Amanda driven Millennials women can
she Amanda driven Millennials women can feel empowered not only in the boardroom
feel empowered not only in the boardroom
feel empowered not only in the boardroom but also in the bedroom can feel excited
but also in the bedroom can feel excited
but also in the bedroom can feel excited and alive not only in the morning when
and alive not only in the morning when
and alive not only in the morning when they walk to the office but also at
they walk to the office but also at
they walk to the office but also at night
night
night when they open the door of her home as I
when they open the door of her home as I
when they open the door of her home as I work with many Amanda’s many women’s
work with many Amanda’s many women’s
work with many Amanda’s many women’s like Amanda and as a dig deeper I found
like Amanda and as a dig deeper I found
like Amanda and as a dig deeper I found that they are similar ladies with
that they are similar ladies with
that they are similar ladies with similar problem telling themselves
similar problem telling themselves
similar problem telling themselves similar stories what are stories stories
similar stories what are stories stories
similar stories what are stories stories a believes assumption dialogue is that
a believes assumption dialogue is that
a believes assumption dialogue is that true that essentially tell us who we are
true that essentially tell us who we are
true that essentially tell us who we are what reality is and what it should be I
what reality is and what it should be I
what reality is and what it should be I think is safe to say that there are two
think is safe to say that there are two
think is safe to say that there are two big types of story the social story
big types of story the social story
big types of story the social story story that society tell us and the
story that society tell us and the
story that society tell us and the individual story story that we tell
individual story story that we tell
individual story story that we tell ourselves and they are influenced each
ourselves and they are influenced each
ourselves and they are influenced each other when we listen to the story the
other when we listen to the story the
other when we listen to the story the society tells us we then up to us to
society tells us we then up to us to
society tells us we then up to us to internalize it and adopt it as our
internalize it and adopt it as our
internalize it and adopt it as our individual story and a lot of the time
individual story and a lot of the time
individual story and a lot of the time in fact most of the
in fact most of the
in fact most of the and this add an unconscious process
and this add an unconscious process
and this add an unconscious process you see story determines what you see
you see story determines what you see
you see story determines what you see yourself
yourself
yourself story shapes how you show up in the
story shapes how you show up in the
story shapes how you show up in the world story then result in what you
world story then result in what you
world story then result in what you experience and what to get out of your
experience and what to get out of your
experience and what to get out of your life
life
life so I want to help the Amanda’s in that
so I want to help the Amanda’s in that
so I want to help the Amanda’s in that we know then that lives inside us to
we know then that lives inside us to
we know then that lives inside us to know these three big story the three big
know these three big story the three big
know these three big story the three big social story that shaped her individual
social story that shaped her individual
social story that shaped her individual story and how did that lead through all
story and how did that lead through all
story and how did that lead through all the struggles that she bring to her life
the struggles that she bring to her life
the struggles that she bring to her life her love life and I hope that by doing
her love life and I hope that by doing
her love life and I hope that by doing so I help her to stop asking herself
so I help her to stop asking herself
so I help her to stop asking herself what’s wrong with me what’s wrong with
what’s wrong with me what’s wrong with
what’s wrong with me what’s wrong with me and begin to take small steps towards
me and begin to take small steps towards
me and begin to take small steps towards a future that I believe has more love
a future that I believe has more love
a future that I believe has more love and joy shall we begin this is the first
and joy shall we begin this is the first
and joy shall we begin this is the first story hmm Amanda and I we grow up at the
story hmm Amanda and I we grow up at the
story hmm Amanda and I we grow up at the turn of the century
turn of the century
turn of the century we are Millennials right we brought at
we are Millennials right we brought at
we are Millennials right we brought at the turn of the century and in the two
the turn of the century and in the two
the turn of the century and in the two opposing forces the first force is the
opposing forces the first force is the
opposing forces the first force is the remain of patriarchy when mothers
remain of patriarchy when mothers
remain of patriarchy when mothers especially Nigel ladies when mothers
especially Nigel ladies when mothers
especially Nigel ladies when mothers tell daughters to find a good man but
tell daughters to find a good man but
tell daughters to find a good man but I’m Ken would provide to you get married
I’m Ken would provide to you get married
I’m Ken would provide to you get married have kids and settle and be submissive
have kids and settle and be submissive
have kids and settle and be submissive you know for good measure my mother
you know for good measure my mother
you know for good measure my mother certainly did tell me with all her love
certainly did tell me with all her love
certainly did tell me with all her love and as rebel as I always was and as I am
and as rebel as I always was and as I am
and as rebel as I always was and as I am I push back and as emmerich immature as
I push back and as emmerich immature as
I push back and as emmerich immature as I was when I was a teenager I equate
I was when I was a teenager I equate
I was when I was a teenager I equate marriage with Oh school you know
marriage with Oh school you know
marriage with Oh school you know children is something that I look at but
children is something that I look at but
children is something that I look at but not look after and finding a man to
not look after and finding a man to
not look after and finding a man to provide for me
provide for me
provide for me what a joke no freakin way that is one
what a joke no freakin way that is one
what a joke no freakin way that is one thing second thing yeah I can do it I
thing second thing yeah I can do it I
thing second thing yeah I can do it I was fascinated women like men and I was
was fascinated women like men and I was
was fascinated women like men and I was fascinated with the new wave of
fascinated with the new wave of
fascinated with the new wave of feminism’s and the lean in movement that
feminism’s and the lean in movement that
feminism’s and the lean in movement that encouraged us to get in the workforce
encouraged us to get in the workforce
encouraged us to get in the workforce and climb up the letters and I remember
and climb up the letters and I remember
and climb up the letters and I remember seeing in the magazine portraits of
seeing in the magazine portraits of
seeing in the magazine portraits of women CEO and all these great women who
women CEO and all these great women who
women CEO and all these great women who make great monies and you know all these
make great monies and you know all these
make great monies and you know all these things and I bought into that dream
things and I bought into that dream
things and I bought into that dream without stop and wonder whether it is my
without stop and wonder whether it is my
without stop and wonder whether it is my own and so with this portion pool with
own and so with this portion pool with
own and so with this portion pool with this whole push and pull confusion
this whole push and pull confusion
this whole push and pull confusion something interesting happen a very
something interesting happen a very
something interesting happen a very interesting individual story happen
interesting individual story happen
interesting individual story happen eventually for me marriage committed
eventually for me marriage committed
eventually for me marriage committed relationship fighting a man and
relationship fighting a man and
relationship fighting a man and motherhood were somehow a less so worthy
motherhood were somehow a less so worthy
motherhood were somehow a less so worthy goal than changing the world be great in
goal than changing the world be great in
goal than changing the world be great in business be successful it also I start
business be successful it also I start
business be successful it also I start telling myself that relationship and
telling myself that relationship and
telling myself that relationship and career are mutually exclusive and that
career are mutually exclusive and that
career are mutually exclusive and that even my if being in a relationship and
even my if being in a relationship and
even my if being in a relationship and having marriage is what was table
having marriage is what was table
having marriage is what was table attached to my career and that’s where
attached to my career and that’s where
attached to my career and that’s where I’m going to be in the cage and that’s
I’m going to be in the cage and that’s
I’m going to be in the cage and that’s it of me and when I do that I will
it of me and when I do that I will
it of me and when I do that I will betrayed my feminism I betrayed my
betrayed my feminism I betrayed my
betrayed my feminism I betrayed my education and I’ll betray the great
education and I’ll betray the great
education and I’ll betray the great thing that I want to do with my life
thing that I want to do with my life
thing that I want to do with my life what a story and then in that process
what a story and then in that process
what a story and then in that process I do not know that women like a man and
I do not know that women like a man and
I do not know that women like a man and I created for ourselves what I call the
I created for ourselves what I call the
I created for ourselves what I call the new taboo for traditional women being
new taboo for traditional women being
new taboo for traditional women being independent making money having a great
independent making money having a great
independent making money having a great career with a double for us motherhood
career with a double for us motherhood
career with a double for us motherhood committed relationship marriage is the
committed relationship marriage is the
committed relationship marriage is the new taboo
this is that was the first story and
this is that was the first story and what the first story did was that it
what the first story did was that it
what the first story did was that it makes me to tell myself his individual
makes me to tell myself his individual
makes me to tell myself his individual story and then do something that I did
story and then do something that I did
story and then do something that I did not know I did for so many years that
not know I did for so many years that
not know I did for so many years that his unconscious avoided I would
his unconscious avoided I would
his unconscious avoided I would unconsciously avoid I would unconscious
unconsciously avoid I would unconscious
unconsciously avoid I would unconscious be afraid of love and want to delay this
be afraid of love and want to delay this
be afraid of love and want to delay this process welcome to the second story now
process welcome to the second story now
process welcome to the second story now a man and I we grow up also we grow up
a man and I we grow up also we grow up
a man and I we grow up also we grow up and it whiskey given birth to by a
and it whiskey given birth to by a
and it whiskey given birth to by a generation of either baby boomer or
generation of either baby boomer or
generation of either baby boomer or Generation X now our parents generation
Generation X now our parents generation
Generation X now our parents generation witnessed things like the post work
witnessed things like the post work
witnessed things like the post work Depression industrialization the
Depression industrialization the
Depression industrialization the Information Age and all these technology
Information Age and all these technology
Information Age and all these technology advancement and what they won all for us
advancement and what they won all for us
advancement and what they won all for us is to get a better life for ourselves
is to get a better life for ourselves
is to get a better life for ourselves they have a better life of them they did
they have a better life of them they did
they have a better life of them they did but they do not know that also giver is
but they do not know that also giver is
but they do not know that also giver is something else that’s tremendous amount
something else that’s tremendous amount
something else that’s tremendous amount of pressure and expectation I know you
of pressure and expectation I know you
of pressure and expectation I know you know how it feel that’s one thing at the
know how it feel that’s one thing at the
know how it feel that’s one thing at the same time we were schooled by an
same time we were schooled by an
same time we were schooled by an education system that with all of my
education system that with all of my
education system that with all of my respect for education it it instead of
respect for education it it instead of
respect for education it it instead of freeing our mind it put our mind in a
freeing our mind it put our mind in a
freeing our mind it put our mind in a box and instead of celebrating us far
box and instead of celebrating us far
box and instead of celebrating us far out for who we truly are punished us for
out for who we truly are punished us for
out for who we truly are punished us for who we truly are
who we truly are
who we truly are I still remember that slap of my music
I still remember that slap of my music
I still remember that slap of my music teacher when I was like in third grade
teacher when I was like in third grade
teacher when I was like in third grade and what this both do it gives us the
and what this both do it gives us the
and what this both do it gives us the very sapped and self-destructive
very sapped and self-destructive
very sapped and self-destructive individual story I am not enough
individual story I am not enough
individual story I am not enough I don’t deserve love now and I will be
I don’t deserve love now and I will be
I don’t deserve love now and I will be punished for doing for being Who I am
punished for doing for being Who I am
punished for doing for being Who I am very interesting and sad things happen
very interesting and sad things happen
very interesting and sad things happen when we bring this story unconscious
when we bring this story unconscious
when we bring this story unconscious in our relationship when women like a
in our relationship when women like a
in our relationship when women like a man and I started dating I have gone
man and I started dating I have gone
man and I started dating I have gone through years 10 years of being in this
through years 10 years of being in this
through years 10 years of being in this situation when the belief that I am not
situation when the belief that I am not
situation when the belief that I am not enough promy to seek men to find a
enough promy to seek men to find a
enough promy to seek men to find a relationship in order to fill me up but
relationship in order to fill me up but
relationship in order to fill me up but at the same time the belief that I I
at the same time the belief that I I
at the same time the belief that I I would be punished for being Who I am
would be punished for being Who I am
would be punished for being Who I am drawn me to men that actually punished
drawn me to men that actually punished
drawn me to men that actually punished for me for who I am and also the belief
for me for who I am and also the belief
for me for who I am and also the belief I don’t deserve love right now make me
I don’t deserve love right now make me
I don’t deserve love right now make me sabotage good relationship because for
sabotage good relationship because for
sabotage good relationship because for me it was in the back of my mind too
me it was in the back of my mind too
me it was in the back of my mind too good for me so and then this is that’s
good for me so and then this is that’s
good for me so and then this is that’s why relationship and things you know my
why relationship and things you know my
why relationship and things you know my past relationship was what it feels like
past relationship was what it feels like
past relationship was what it feels like it was emotional roller coaster I feel
it was emotional roller coaster I feel
it was emotional roller coaster I feel that I was trapped in this non-stop huge
that I was trapped in this non-stop huge
that I was trapped in this non-stop huge big roller coaster until I was so sick
big roller coaster until I was so sick
big roller coaster until I was so sick and tired I am strapped myself and I
and tired I am strapped myself and I
and tired I am strapped myself and I just jump off the top and I break my
just jump off the top and I break my
just jump off the top and I break my heart and it goes again in the game from
heart and it goes again in the game from
heart and it goes again in the game from unconscious avoidance to compulsive
unconscious avoidance to compulsive
unconscious avoidance to compulsive attachment you see unconscious avoiding
attachment you see unconscious avoiding
attachment you see unconscious avoiding to a compulsive attachment and then
to a compulsive attachment and then
to a compulsive attachment and then again sad story everybody’s face like
again sad story everybody’s face like
again sad story everybody’s face like let me tell you the third story it has a
let me tell you the third story it has a
let me tell you the third story it has a lot to do with this painting this is I
lot to do with this painting this is I
lot to do with this painting this is I hope you can see it a gorgeous painting
hope you can see it a gorgeous painting
hope you can see it a gorgeous painting of I think almost the finest scenes in
of I think almost the finest scenes in
of I think almost the finest scenes in Romeo and Juliet and with all my dear
Romeo and Juliet and with all my dear
Romeo and Juliet and with all my dear respect for Shakespeare’s in my respect
respect for Shakespeare’s in my respect
respect for Shakespeare’s in my respect for his craft Romeo and Juliet is a very
for his craft Romeo and Juliet is a very
for his craft Romeo and Juliet is a very bad role model for love what is this –
bad role model for love what is this –
bad role model for love what is this – teenager did not know each other at all
teenager did not know each other at all
teenager did not know each other at all decidedly gonna die together I mean but
decidedly gonna die together I mean but
decidedly gonna die together I mean but this is the first one of the first love
this is the first one of the first love
this is the first one of the first love story and one
story and one
story and one the most known love story one of the
the most known love story one of the
the most known love story one of the first love story that girls are told
first love story that girls are told
first love story that girls are told there was more one of them was known
there was more one of them was known
there was more one of them was known love story all over the world I want to
love story all over the world I want to
love story all over the world I want to invite you to look at culture and Korean
invite you to look at culture and Korean
invite you to look at culture and Korean soap opera and Hollywood movies to see
soap opera and Hollywood movies to see
soap opera and Hollywood movies to see how love is normally portrayed port
how love is normally portrayed port
how love is normally portrayed port rated right suffering drama fighting
rated right suffering drama fighting
rated right suffering drama fighting triangle love somebody died with cancer
triangle love somebody died with cancer
triangle love somebody died with cancer and I mean and and that is what and
and I mean and and that is what and
and I mean and and that is what and listen to the song on the radio because
listen to the song on the radio because
listen to the song on the radio because of you or because of you you know um and
of you or because of you you know um and
of you or because of you you know um and so what is this tell of that love is
so what is this tell of that love is
so what is this tell of that love is suffering
suffering
suffering look closer this is something that is
look closer this is something that is
look closer this is something that is sad but when we look closer inside our
sad but when we look closer inside our
sad but when we look closer inside our family it’s so rare to come across
family it’s so rare to come across
family it’s so rare to come across parents it’s so rare to to be raised up
parents it’s so rare to to be raised up
parents it’s so rare to to be raised up by parents who actually tell the right
by parents who actually tell the right
by parents who actually tell the right story of love a different kind of love
story of love a different kind of love
story of love a different kind of love from the love that we know you know most
from the love that we know you know most
from the love that we know you know most of us grow up in household when parents
of us grow up in household when parents
of us grow up in household when parents are two perfectly capable with person
are two perfectly capable with person
are two perfectly capable with person put into a room and in there throw knife
put into a room and in there throw knife
put into a room and in there throw knife at each other or don’t talk what did it
at each other or don’t talk what did it
at each other or don’t talk what did it say marriage is doomed and when we look
say marriage is doomed and when we look
say marriage is doomed and when we look a bit closer to our individual
a bit closer to our individual
a bit closer to our individual experience of love after times and times
experience of love after times and times
experience of love after times and times of rollercoaster and breaks our heart
of rollercoaster and breaks our heart
of rollercoaster and breaks our heart and everything Amanda and I decide to
and everything Amanda and I decide to
and everything Amanda and I decide to abandon hope abandon hope abandon effort
abandon hope abandon hope abandon effort
abandon hope abandon hope abandon effort because maybe that’s what life’s
because maybe that’s what life’s
because maybe that’s what life’s supposed to be that’s what love is
supposed to be that’s what love is
supposed to be that’s what love is supposed to meet and Randy a couple
supposed to meet and Randy a couple
supposed to meet and Randy a couple summarize attachment and avoidance
summarize attachment and avoidance
summarize attachment and avoidance multiplied by abandonment of hope and
multiplied by abandonment of hope and
multiplied by abandonment of hope and effort what you have I don’t know I’m
effort what you have I don’t know I’m
effort what you have I don’t know I’m very bad at math but it feels to me like
very bad at math but it feels to me like
very bad at math but it feels to me like a negative loop of suffering and a
a negative loop of suffering and a
a negative loop of suffering and a profound sense of lost I love asking my
profound sense of lost I love asking my
profound sense of lost I love asking my Amanda my women my young modern driven
Amanda my women my young modern driven
Amanda my women my young modern driven women what they where they see
women what they where they see
women what they where they see themselves in three years and I love
themselves in three years and I love
themselves in three years and I love seeing their eye shine and beams and
seeing their eye shine and beams and
seeing their eye shine and beams and when they tell me with great details
when they tell me with great details
when they tell me with great details where would they be in their career but
where would they be in their career but
where would they be in their career but it breaks my heart the moment I asked
it breaks my heart the moment I asked
it breaks my heart the moment I asked them what about your relationship and
them what about your relationship and
them what about your relationship and marriage and they start looking down I
marriage and they start looking down I
marriage and they start looking down I want them to know that fertility rate of
want them to know that fertility rate of
want them to know that fertility rate of Generation Y is lower than Generation X
Generation Y is lower than Generation X
Generation Y is lower than Generation X that after they’ve crossed their age of
that after they’ve crossed their age of
that after they’ve crossed their age of 30s the option of them to find the right
30s the option of them to find the right
30s the option of them to find the right partner and find the built a right
partner and find the built a right
partner and find the built a right relationship dramatically drop and
relationship dramatically drop and
relationship dramatically drop and that’s not their mother’s mid it is
that’s not their mother’s mid it is
that’s not their mother’s mid it is research but when I told them that they
research but when I told them that they
research but when I told them that they either want to kill me or they want to
either want to kill me or they want to
either want to kill me or they want to run away from me they feel like a
run away from me they feel like a
run away from me they feel like a cornered animal now don’t get me wrong I
cornered animal now don’t get me wrong I
cornered animal now don’t get me wrong I don’t want them they must not go back to
don’t want them they must not go back to
don’t want them they must not go back to the osteo type of the needy women and
the osteo type of the needy women and
the osteo type of the needy women and the desperate housewife but I need them
the desperate housewife but I need them
the desperate housewife but I need them to expand their power outside of their
to expand their power outside of their
to expand their power outside of their work to know that they can be as
work to know that they can be as
work to know that they can be as proactive and as deliberate in their
proactive and as deliberate in their
proactive and as deliberate in their love life as they are in their career
love life as they are in their career
love life as they are in their career and to know that there’s nothing wrong
and to know that there’s nothing wrong
and to know that there’s nothing wrong with them there’s nothing wrong with
with them there’s nothing wrong with
with them there’s nothing wrong with them and ashamed and the guilt and the
them and ashamed and the guilt and the
them and ashamed and the guilt and the secrecy will take them nowhere and so my
secrecy will take them nowhere and so my
secrecy will take them nowhere and so my invitation to the driven young women out
invitation to the driven young women out
invitation to the driven young women out there who are suffering with love I have
there who are suffering with love I have
there who are suffering with love I have love it’s a four-letter word and I have
love it’s a four-letter word and I have
love it’s a four-letter word and I have four letter A for my type-a women the
four letter A for my type-a women the
four letter A for my type-a women the first is awareness awareness of the
first is awareness awareness of the
first is awareness awareness of the story they tell themselves asked whether
story they tell themselves asked whether
story they tell themselves asked whether it is serving them and choose to believe
it is serving them and choose to believe
it is serving them and choose to believe in a better story a more powerful story
in a better story a more powerful story
in a better story a more powerful story I am enough love will give me supports
I am enough love will give me supports
I am enough love will give me supports and nurturing and joy that marriage will
and nurturing and joy that marriage will
and nurturing and joy that marriage will be a lifelong journey
be a lifelong journey
be a lifelong journey of companionship you know this story and
of companionship you know this story and
of companionship you know this story and then feel how empowered they would feel
then feel how empowered they would feel
then feel how empowered they would feel to attune the second light is to attune
to attune the second light is to attune
to attune the second light is to attune to what attuned to their true self is no
to what attuned to their true self is no
to what attuned to their true self is no longer enough to put themselves in the
longer enough to put themselves in the
longer enough to put themselves in the courier box or family box it’s time to
courier box or family box it’s time to
courier box or family box it’s time to break to break free from all these box
break to break free from all these box
break to break free from all these box and accept them and attune to their real
and accept them and attune to their real
and accept them and attune to their real dream and the person that they truly are
dream and the person that they truly are
dream and the person that they truly are it’s time for them not only to ask what
it’s time for them not only to ask what
it’s time for them not only to ask what I would do but what would I want if I
I would do but what would I want if I
I would do but what would I want if I will not afraid and also the third a
will not afraid and also the third a
will not afraid and also the third a acceptance accept themselves for who
acceptance accept themselves for who
acceptance accept themselves for who they are for their imperfection say to
they are for their imperfection say to
they are for their imperfection say to themselves that I am enough that I
themselves that I am enough that I
themselves that I am enough that I deserve love not because of what I do
deserve love not because of what I do
deserve love not because of what I do but because I am here and when they can
but because I am here and when they can
but because I am here and when they can feel that sense of self love and
feel that sense of self love and
feel that sense of self love and acceptance then allow themselves allow
acceptance then allow themselves allow
acceptance then allow themselves allow themselves to get their education that
themselves to get their education that
themselves to get their education that they deserve of relationship somehow
they deserve of relationship somehow
they deserve of relationship somehow everybody assumed that we should know
everybody assumed that we should know
everybody assumed that we should know how to be a good lover good girlfriend
how to be a good lover good girlfriend
how to be a good lover good girlfriend wives and mother that’s so not true
wives and mother that’s so not true
wives and mother that’s so not true there’s so many thing that they can
there’s so many thing that they can
there’s so many thing that they can learn how to practice self love how to
learn how to practice self love how to
learn how to practice self love how to learn to communicate that foster
learn to communicate that foster
learn to communicate that foster connection not conflict how to be
connection not conflict how to be
connection not conflict how to be together for the long haul amongst all
together for the long haul amongst all
together for the long haul amongst all my favorite definition of love this is
my favorite definition of love this is
my favorite definition of love this is what I love the most love is the
what I love the most love is the
what I love the most love is the collaborative work of art which means
collaborative work of art which means
collaborative work of art which means that we as lovers are artists which mean
that we as lovers are artists which mean
that we as lovers are artists which mean that we have to hold now craft as we
that we have to hold now craft as we
that we have to hold now craft as we make art which mean that it takes to to
make art which mean that it takes to to
make art which mean that it takes to to make it work and also the work is never
make it work and also the work is never
make it work and also the work is never done and the world needs our art at this
done and the world needs our art at this
done and the world needs our art at this love piece of art right because if you
love piece of art right because if you
love piece of art right because if you look around and you see teenage
look around and you see teenage
look around and you see teenage depression keep spending more time on
depression keep spending more time on
depression keep spending more time on iPads with their mother the increasing
iPads with their mother the increasing
iPads with their mother the increasing rate of divorce single mom and the state
rate of divorce single mom and the state
rate of divorce single mom and the state of disconnected needs that our world are
of disconnected needs that our world are
of disconnected needs that our world are going through I believe amongst the
going through I believe amongst the
going through I believe amongst the heroes of tomorrow needs to be
heroes of tomorrow needs to be
heroes of tomorrow needs to be great loving courageous wives and
great loving courageous wives and
great loving courageous wives and mothers and girlfriends I cannot not
mothers and girlfriends I cannot not
mothers and girlfriends I cannot not talk I cannot talk about a rift I
talk I cannot talk about a rift I
talk I cannot talk about a rift I mentioned in my husband who rehearsed
mentioned in my husband who rehearsed
mentioned in my husband who rehearsed this talk like ten thousand times and
this talk like ten thousand times and
this talk like ten thousand times and who put up with all of my stress and
who put up with all of my stress and
who put up with all of my stress and hormones I go through these who are also
hormones I go through these who are also
hormones I go through these who are also here with me today he proposed me it he
here with me today he proposed me it he
here with me today he proposed me it he proposed me when I was when I might get
proposed me when I was when I might get
proposed me when I was when I might get emotional but he proposed me before I
emotional but he proposed me before I
emotional but he proposed me before I turned 26 and in that moment under this
turned 26 and in that moment under this
turned 26 and in that moment under this victory when the feminists inside me
victory when the feminists inside me
victory when the feminists inside me this independent women inside me was
this independent women inside me was
this independent women inside me was like oh this is so early the wiser voice
like oh this is so early the wiser voice
like oh this is so early the wiser voice inside me tell me that yes yes you can
inside me tell me that yes yes you can
inside me tell me that yes yes you can because I’ve learned how to attune to my
because I’ve learned how to attune to my
because I’ve learned how to attune to my true self and not a single day go by
true self and not a single day go by
true self and not a single day go by when I’m not grateful for having him in
when I’m not grateful for having him in
when I’m not grateful for having him in my team we normally joke that together
my team we normally joke that together
my team we normally joke that together we can conquer the world and it really
we can conquer the world and it really
we can conquer the world and it really does feel like it so I want to ask you
does feel like it so I want to ask you
does feel like it so I want to ask you for a favor
for a favor
for a favor would you tell the Amanda that you know
would you tell the Amanda that you know
would you tell the Amanda that you know the driven women that you know it can be
the driven women that you know it can be
the driven women that you know it can be yourself your girlfriend’s your sister
yourself your girlfriend’s your sister
yourself your girlfriend’s your sister your daughter that they are enough that
your daughter that they are enough that
your daughter that they are enough that there’s nothing wrong with them that
there’s nothing wrong with them that
there’s nothing wrong with them that they can learn how to be a word of their
they can learn how to be a word of their
they can learn how to be a word of their thoughts or Tunes to their heart accept
thoughts or Tunes to their heart accept
thoughts or Tunes to their heart accept them for who they are and allow
them for who they are and allow
them for who they are and allow themselves to love and that so that they
themselves to love and that so that they
themselves to love and that so that they can be healing the world of tomorrow so
can be healing the world of tomorrow so
can be healing the world of tomorrow so that they can be the hero of tomorrow
that they can be the hero of tomorrow
that they can be the hero of tomorrow thank
thank
thank [Applause]
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