when they told me to speak about the the bridges and my business developer did
bridges and my business developer did
bridges and my business developer did the whole slides I said to him leave
the whole slides I said to him leave
the whole slides I said to him leave everything I’m just going to talk from
everything I’m just going to talk from
everything I’m just going to talk from my heart which I always do the best and
my heart which I always do the best and
my heart which I always do the best and the most difficult bridge is to build it
the most difficult bridge is to build it
the most difficult bridge is to build it within you to build and connect you to
within you to build and connect you to
within you to build and connect you to yourself to inner you to your heart your
yourself to inner you to your heart your
yourself to inner you to your heart your soul to your brain it’s so easy to bring
soul to your brain it’s so easy to bring
soul to your brain it’s so easy to bring cement some steel or whatever it takes
cement some steel or whatever it takes
cement some steel or whatever it takes I’m not an architect or engineer to
I’m not an architect or engineer to
I’m not an architect or engineer to build a bridge the most difficult is to
build a bridge the most difficult is to
build a bridge the most difficult is to bridge and to connect that bridge inside
bridge and to connect that bridge inside
bridge and to connect that bridge inside of you to go back to you the most
of you to go back to you the most
of you to go back to you the most difficult question is who are you who
difficult question is who are you who
difficult question is who are you who are you I think if you go today and ask
are you I think if you go today and ask
are you I think if you go today and ask yourself that’s the beginning of
yourself that’s the beginning of
yourself that’s the beginning of building bridge to yourself so how did I
building bridge to yourself so how did I
building bridge to yourself so how did I build my my bridge to holla because I
build my my bridge to holla because I
build my my bridge to holla because I was a time in my life that I was lost I
was a time in my life that I was lost I
was a time in my life that I was lost I was confused I was depressed the
was confused I was depressed the
was confused I was depressed the beginning was 22 years back 25 years
beginning was 22 years back 25 years
beginning was 22 years back 25 years back I am 54 do your calculation
back I am 54 do your calculation
back I am 54 do your calculation and then that was the point and the
and then that was the point and the
and then that was the point and the moment that I started to build my own
moment that I started to build my own
moment that I started to build my own bridge when I suffered and from the
bridge when I suffered and from the
bridge when I suffered and from the disease which is depression I went
disease which is depression I went
disease which is depression I went through so much in depression that I
through so much in depression that I
through so much in depression that I wanted to die and that was the best
wanted to die and that was the best
wanted to die and that was the best point of my life
point of my life
point of my life that’s where brought me to stand today
that’s where brought me to stand today
that’s where brought me to stand today in front of you guys and speak I had to
in front of you guys and speak I had to
in front of you guys and speak I had to think whether to give up to do just the
think whether to give up to do just the
think whether to give up to do just the bridge from here to the other people or
bridge from here to the other people or
bridge from here to the other people or decide to build a very difficult one
decide to build a very difficult one
decide to build a very difficult one they take it from me but I knew that I
they take it from me but I knew that I
they take it from me but I knew that I don’t deserve to be miserable that’s for
don’t deserve to be miserable that’s for
don’t deserve to be miserable that’s for sure so I started my journey and it was
sure so I started my journey and it was
sure so I started my journey and it was quite a tough one
quite a tough one
quite a tough one a very rewarding one but I did went
a very rewarding one but I did went
a very rewarding one but I did went through therapy went to the psychologist
through therapy went to the psychologist
through therapy went to the psychologist psychiatrist you can name it until I
psychiatrist you can name it until I
psychiatrist you can name it until I found my mentor which is psychotherapist
found my mentor which is psychotherapist
found my mentor which is psychotherapist and she’s the one who helped me to
and she’s the one who helped me to
and she’s the one who helped me to change my life she’s the one brought
change my life she’s the one brought
change my life she’s the one brought hollaback to me see when we start to
hollaback to me see when we start to
hollaback to me see when we start to build this bridge inside you have to
build this bridge inside you have to
build this bridge inside you have to understand you have to bring yourself
understand you have to bring yourself
understand you have to bring yourself back we get lost through life through
back we get lost through life through
back we get lost through life through work family connections with other
work family connections with other
work family connections with other people and we think yeah it’s fine I’m
people and we think yeah it’s fine I’m
people and we think yeah it’s fine I’m going to do this and when all this we
going to do this and when all this we
going to do this and when all this we forget you and you and you we all forget
forget you and you and you we all forget
forget you and you and you we all forget what we really want how to connect
what we really want how to connect
what we really want how to connect to ourselves do I connect 24/7 to myself
to ourselves do I connect 24/7 to myself
to ourselves do I connect 24/7 to myself of course not
of course not
of course not but do I connect most of the time yes so
but do I connect most of the time yes so
but do I connect most of the time yes so how that happened first of all I knew I
how that happened first of all I knew I
how that happened first of all I knew I have a problem right
have a problem right
have a problem right you can’t start building anything I want
you can’t start building anything I want
you can’t start building anything I want for you can’t start building anything
for you can’t start building anything
for you can’t start building anything before you admit that you have a problem
before you admit that you have a problem
before you admit that you have a problem right to address it so I knew I have
right to address it so I knew I have
right to address it so I knew I have depression I knew I was miserable I
depression I knew I was miserable I
depression I knew I was miserable I didn’t know why but I knew I had a
didn’t know why but I knew I had a
didn’t know why but I knew I had a problem
problem
problem I knocked doors back then of course we
I knocked doors back then of course we
I knocked doors back then of course we didn’t have this internet and Google
didn’t have this internet and Google
didn’t have this internet and Google what you’re doing now and it’s not chat
what you’re doing now and it’s not chat
what you’re doing now and it’s not chat on social media so it had to be
on social media so it had to be
on social media so it had to be physically to go to someone I did that
physically to go to someone I did that
physically to go to someone I did that the second thing I did what
the second thing I did what
the second thing I did what self-awareness
self-awareness
self-awareness we think we have self-awareness we don’t
we think we have self-awareness we don’t
we think we have self-awareness we don’t if you work on yourself of course you’re
if you work on yourself of course you’re
if you work on yourself of course you’re going to get there slowly slowly but
going to get there slowly slowly but
going to get there slowly slowly but then you really need to work on yourself
then you really need to work on yourself
then you really need to work on yourself self-awareness why where how my journey
self-awareness why where how my journey
self-awareness why where how my journey started I did a lot of big change and my
started I did a lot of big change and my
started I did a lot of big change and my my company’s name is journey through
my company’s name is journey through
my company’s name is journey through change the reason I named it is because
change the reason I named it is because
change the reason I named it is because I been through this journey I mean
I been through this journey I mean
I been through this journey I mean aren’t we all in this journey in
aren’t we all in this journey in
aren’t we all in this journey in different ways isn’t it amazing even
different ways isn’t it amazing even
different ways isn’t it amazing even when we have problems that we are all
when we have problems that we are all
when we have problems that we are all everybody in this room has some problems
everybody in this room has some problems
everybody in this room has some problems we all do so you’re not unique we all
we all do so you’re not unique we all
we all do so you’re not unique we all are unique we all have problems we all
are unique we all have problems we all
are unique we all have problems we all have but then to realize that you have a
have but then to realize that you have a
have but then to realize that you have a problem – you realize that you know what
problem – you realize that you know what
problem – you realize that you know what you can fix it you can go back to
you can fix it you can go back to
you can fix it you can go back to yourself
yourself
yourself what’s your name yes da
what’s your name yes da
what’s your name yes da and you yes yes yes
and you yes yes yes
and you yes yes yes Nadine so Dora can go back to herself
Nadine so Dora can go back to herself
Nadine so Dora can go back to herself Nadine do we have Fatima they have
Nadine do we have Fatima they have
Nadine do we have Fatima they have Miriam do you have Sarah anyone in this
Miriam do you have Sarah anyone in this
Miriam do you have Sarah anyone in this room anyone even in that in the end of
room anyone even in that in the end of
room anyone even in that in the end of the row if you go back to yourself and
the row if you go back to yourself and
the row if you go back to yourself and check how can you belt this bridge with
check how can you belt this bridge with
check how can you belt this bridge with me it was too many too many things I
me it was too many too many things I
me it was too many too many things I knew what I want I knew I was depressed
knew what I want I knew I was depressed
knew what I want I knew I was depressed I needed to fix it went through so many
I needed to fix it went through so many
I needed to fix it went through so many things I don’t want to go on and on but
things I don’t want to go on and on but
things I don’t want to go on and on but one of the main thing I went through is
one of the main thing I went through is
one of the main thing I went through is after I changed my life and I got
after I changed my life and I got
after I changed my life and I got separated I adopted a sign I had I have
separated I adopted a sign I had I have
separated I adopted a sign I had I have five sons so my three sons then I
five sons so my three sons then I
five sons so my three sons then I adopted then I got married I remarried
adopted then I got married I remarried
adopted then I got married I remarried again and I have another son so it
again and I have another son so it
again and I have another son so it didn’t work I had to have sons even
didn’t work I had to have sons even
didn’t work I had to have sons even changing your husband didn’t work that’s
changing your husband didn’t work that’s
changing your husband didn’t work that’s my destiny I’m two grandsons so it’s
my destiny I’m two grandsons so it’s
my destiny I’m two grandsons so it’s like I’m around men all the time I have
like I’m around men all the time I have
like I’m around men all the time I have to say you are very easy creatures
to say you are very easy creatures
to say you are very easy creatures really easy like they need two things
really easy like they need two things
really easy like they need two things I’m not going to name the second one
I’m not going to name the second one
I’m not going to name the second one food and that’s all man-made
food and that’s all man-made
food and that’s all man-made [Laughter]
[Laughter]
[Laughter] oh my god the list of the things we made
oh my god the list of the things we made
oh my god the list of the things we made how complicated are we
how complicated are we
how complicated are we that’s why we are detailed people we are
that’s why we are detailed people we are
that’s why we are detailed people we are detailed creatures so men are a lousy
detailed creatures so men are a lousy
detailed creatures so men are a lousy cheaters right they don’t look at the
cheaters right they don’t look at the
cheaters right they don’t look at the details don’t they
details don’t they
details don’t they a woman will sit and know what you’re
a woman will sit and know what you’re
a woman will sit and know what you’re right here what’s up while you’re in the
right here what’s up while you’re in the
right here what’s up while you’re in the end of the room believe me she knows it
end of the room believe me she knows it
end of the room believe me she knows it all she knows how do you put your phone
all she knows how do you put your phone
all she knows how do you put your phone where do you put your phone we are I
where do you put your phone we are I
where do you put your phone we are I mean I don’t want to go on and that’s it
mean I don’t want to go on and that’s it
mean I don’t want to go on and that’s it not end anyway so we have to get to know
not end anyway so we have to get to know
not end anyway so we have to get to know ourselves right we have to address
ourselves right we have to address
ourselves right we have to address ourselves and being a woman it’s not
ourselves and being a woman it’s not
ourselves and being a woman it’s not easy where we have a
easy where we have a
easy where we have a that’s why we’re mothers I’m sitting
that’s why we’re mothers I’m sitting
that’s why we’re mothers I’m sitting with I’m talking to you here I’m
with I’m talking to you here I’m
with I’m talking to you here I’m thinking of lunch today with a family
thinking of lunch today with a family
thinking of lunch today with a family lunch the kids are coming and they have
lunch the kids are coming and they have
lunch the kids are coming and they have to we have which hood everything we
to we have which hood everything we
to we have which hood everything we think about it in five seconds anyway so
think about it in five seconds anyway so
think about it in five seconds anyway so I did after my second marriage I had
I did after my second marriage I had
I did after my second marriage I had Hassan and hasn’t grew up and then what
Hassan and hasn’t grew up and then what
Hassan and hasn’t grew up and then what is there
is there
is there how can he build another bridge I’ve
how can he build another bridge I’ve
how can he build another bridge I’ve done with one bridge to get me out of
done with one bridge to get me out of
done with one bridge to get me out of depression and myself and this but then
depression and myself and this but then
depression and myself and this but then no there’s must be something more so I
no there’s must be something more so I
no there’s must be something more so I went to community on Tiago in Spain and
went to community on Tiago in Spain and
went to community on Tiago in Spain and did the Camino who knows Camino oh I
did the Camino who knows Camino oh I
did the Camino who knows Camino oh I love you girl amazing who’s done it
love you girl amazing who’s done it
love you girl amazing who’s done it who’s that it pleased you bet it good
who’s that it pleased you bet it good
who’s that it pleased you bet it good for you how many kilometer the last
for you how many kilometer the last
for you how many kilometer the last hundred yeah I’ve done it four times and
hundred yeah I’ve done it four times and
hundred yeah I’ve done it four times and I think I’m doing to you do hundred
I think I’m doing to you do hundred
I think I’m doing to you do hundred kilometer in five days and I went there
kilometer in five days and I went there
kilometer in five days and I went there because for three years I drove my
because for three years I drove my
because for three years I drove my husband and kids crazy because I could
husband and kids crazy because I could
husband and kids crazy because I could not connect what what I wanted I didn’t
not connect what what I wanted I didn’t
not connect what what I wanted I didn’t know what do I want
know what do I want
know what do I want I tried this and I failed I tried I love
I tried this and I failed I tried I love
I tried this and I failed I tried I love cooking so nothing worked literally I
cooking so nothing worked literally I
cooking so nothing worked literally I failed on on until I said you know to my
failed on on until I said you know to my
failed on on until I said you know to my husband I’m going I need to go with
husband I’m going I need to go with
husband I’m going I need to go with doing what I didn’t know even what is
doing what I didn’t know even what is
doing what I didn’t know even what is hiking I mean for God’s sake I’m an
hiking I mean for God’s sake I’m an
hiking I mean for God’s sake I’m an Emirati in a desert country
Emirati in a desert country
Emirati in a desert country what is hiking so I called them my
what is hiking so I called them my
what is hiking so I called them my mentor of like they told me there is
mentor of like they told me there is
mentor of like they told me there is something that they walk and they go to
something that they walk and they go to
something that they walk and they go to some she said yes hiking and I’m like
some she said yes hiking and I’m like
some she said yes hiking and I’m like what is it she said well you stay in a
what is it she said well you stay in a
what is it she said well you stay in a bed-and-breakfast what is better not be
bed-and-breakfast what is better not be
bed-and-breakfast what is better not be and be I’m like what is B&B like
and be I’m like what is B&B like
and be I’m like what is B&B like bed-and-breakfast holla okay fine
bed-and-breakfast holla okay fine
bed-and-breakfast holla okay fine so I got to know about it I went I
so I got to know about it I went I
so I got to know about it I went I googled it and I went and I started
googled it and I went and I started
googled it and I went and I started walking I didn’t know that that was my
walking I didn’t know that that was my
walking I didn’t know that that was my turning point that I really was the
turning point that I really was the
turning point that I really was the beginning of building the bridge between
beginning of building the bridge between
beginning of building the bridge between me and Hilah and me and others and I
me and Hilah and me and others and I
me and Hilah and me and others and I started walking
started walking
started walking and rocky of course as I said we don’t
and rocky of course as I said we don’t
and rocky of course as I said we don’t have hiking here so I started walking
have hiking here so I started walking
have hiking here so I started walking and working on you do 25 kilometres a
and working on you do 25 kilometres a
and working on you do 25 kilometres a day and then I thought my you know your
day and then I thought my you know your
day and then I thought my you know your feet kids and because I was ignorant in
feet kids and because I was ignorant in
feet kids and because I was ignorant in this area I will put my my feet in a hot
this area I will put my my feet in a hot
this area I will put my my feet in a hot water
water
water haha like what were you think I didn’t
haha like what were you think I didn’t
haha like what were you think I didn’t know I thought it would relieve me no
know I thought it would relieve me no
know I thought it would relieve me no you should put it in a cold water anyway
you should put it in a cold water anyway
you should put it in a cold water anyway I learned all these things and I started
I learned all these things and I started
I learned all these things and I started walking and talking and learning about
walking and talking and learning about
walking and talking and learning about things that I have never experienced
things that I have never experienced
things that I have never experienced touching the plants and feeling it and
touching the plants and feeling it and
touching the plants and feeling it and smelling even near the you know the the
smelling even near the you know the the
smelling even near the you know the the farms and you see the cow just now just
farms and you see the cow just now just
farms and you see the cow just now just delivered it was like crazy amazing for
delivered it was like crazy amazing for
delivered it was like crazy amazing for me to do and I was started I started
me to do and I was started I started
me to do and I was started I started walking with this teacher in America
walking with this teacher in America
walking with this teacher in America that she was working with me and started
that she was working with me and started
that she was working with me and started talking about things I realized it’s the
talking about things I realized it’s the
talking about things I realized it’s the best therapy to walk and talk then I
best therapy to walk and talk then I
best therapy to walk and talk then I started doing another trip I went to
started doing another trip I went to
started doing another trip I went to Austria who’s done hiking in Austria
Austria who’s done hiking in Austria
Austria who’s done hiking in Austria okay that’s great you should go to a
okay that’s great you should go to a
okay that’s great you should go to a Camino ok Austria I got excited like you
Camino ok Austria I got excited like you
Camino ok Austria I got excited like you know now now I thought um I have the
know now now I thought um I have the
know now now I thought um I have the experience and I’m good like okay really
experience and I’m good like okay really
experience and I’m good like okay really so I thought I’m going to go self-guided
so I thought I’m going to go self-guided
so I thought I’m going to go self-guided okay holla I was back then 47 48 years
okay holla I was back then 47 48 years
okay holla I was back then 47 48 years old and I thought okay you go and you
old and I thought okay you go and you
old and I thought okay you go and you will be like everybody else you’ll see
will be like everybody else you’ll see
will be like everybody else you’ll see everybody there working you reach there
everybody there working you reach there
everybody there working you reach there nobody’s there
nobody’s there
nobody’s there nobody and I’m like okay
nobody and I’m like okay
nobody and I’m like okay and it sounds self-guided so you have to
and it sounds self-guided so you have to
and it sounds self-guided so you have to look at the pictures and the direction
look at the pictures and the direction
look at the pictures and the direction and I’m Dyslexic so just imagine I’m
and I’m Dyslexic so just imagine I’m
and I’m Dyslexic so just imagine I’m like okay so the best part was that
like okay so the best part was that
like okay so the best part was that there was some pictures there anyway
there was some pictures there anyway
there was some pictures there anyway quickly I don’t want to take longer than
quickly I don’t want to take longer than
quickly I don’t want to take longer than I should
I should
I should I went and I walked and I hiked and I
I went and I walked and I hiked and I
I went and I walked and I hiked and I cried and I laughed all by myself
cried and I laughed all by myself
cried and I laughed all by myself I used to walk five hours alone in the
I used to walk five hours alone in the
I used to walk five hours alone in the forest
forest
forest and I used to say holla what the hell
and I used to say holla what the hell
and I used to say holla what the hell you’re doing why could it be the typical
you’re doing why could it be the typical
you’re doing why could it be the typical grandmother sitting home and just
grandmother sitting home and just
grandmother sitting home and just enjoying life which is nothing wrong
enjoying life which is nothing wrong
enjoying life which is nothing wrong with it I realize it’s not me I have to
with it I realize it’s not me I have to
with it I realize it’s not me I have to build connections again bridges after
build connections again bridges after
build connections again bridges after bridges after bridges and that’s what I
bridges after bridges and that’s what I
bridges after bridges and that’s what I did then I went and I took coaching and
did then I went and I took coaching and
did then I went and I took coaching and counseling in City University in London
counseling in City University in London
counseling in City University in London and I prepared myself to this amazing
and I prepared myself to this amazing
and I prepared myself to this amazing program that I have now journey through
program that I have now journey through
program that I have now journey through change which it helps women to take care
change which it helps women to take care
change which it helps women to take care of themselves so they can take care of
of themselves so they can take care of
of themselves so they can take care of others now when we think of bridges when
others now when we think of bridges when
others now when we think of bridges when we think of inside of us our soul our
we think of inside of us our soul our
we think of inside of us our soul our heart our mind does it belong to whom
heart our mind does it belong to whom
heart our mind does it belong to whom you can talk to everybody 24/7
you can talk to everybody 24/7
you can talk to everybody 24/7 you can laugh you can mix you can do
you can laugh you can mix you can do
you can laugh you can mix you can do anything in the end of the day you have
anything in the end of the day you have
anything in the end of the day you have to connect with whom yourself and if
to connect with whom yourself and if
to connect with whom yourself and if you’re not happy you cannot make anyone
you’re not happy you cannot make anyone
you’re not happy you cannot make anyone happy
happy
happy my basic my talk is today is try to
my basic my talk is today is try to
my basic my talk is today is try to build a small baby steps to your heart
build a small baby steps to your heart
build a small baby steps to your heart to you to the human inside of you by the
to you to the human inside of you by the
to you to the human inside of you by the way one of the amazing things I learned
way one of the amazing things I learned
way one of the amazing things I learned and a Maya Angelou says we are much more
and a Maya Angelou says we are much more
and a Maya Angelou says we are much more similar than different we are different
similar than different we are different
similar than different we are different maybe in skin color maybe a nationality
maybe in skin color maybe a nationality
maybe in skin color maybe a nationality maybe in your religion which is just a
maybe in your religion which is just a
maybe in your religion which is just a top service but you love and I love you
top service but you love and I love you
top service but you love and I love you want a safe country and I want a safe
want a safe country and I want a safe
want a safe country and I want a safe country you want a good doctor I want a
country you want a good doctor I want a
country you want a good doctor I want a good doctor
good doctor
good doctor you want healthy children I want healthy
you want healthy children I want healthy
you want healthy children I want healthy children you get angry I do the same you
children you get angry I do the same you
children you get angry I do the same you enjoy laughing I do the same look at how
enjoy laughing I do the same look at how
enjoy laughing I do the same look at how similar things we have together so if we
similar things we have together so if we
similar things we have together so if we focus on similarity and building bridges
focus on similarity and building bridges
focus on similarity and building bridges first yourself to believe in what this
first yourself to believe in what this
first yourself to believe in what this is it to believe that we are similar to
is it to believe that we are similar to
is it to believe that we are similar to believe that you know what it doesn’t
believe that you know what it doesn’t
believe that you know what it doesn’t matter what religion you are it doesn’t
matter what religion you are it doesn’t
matter what religion you are it doesn’t matter matter what you know nationality
matter matter what you know nationality
matter matter what you know nationality you are it doesn’t matter what you wear
you are it doesn’t matter what you wear
you are it doesn’t matter what you wear what matters is how you connect with me
what matters is how you connect with me
what matters is how you connect with me I always say your beliefs your religion
I always say your beliefs your religion
I always say your beliefs your religion your nationality belongs to you your
your nationality belongs to you your
your nationality belongs to you your manners belongs to me because that’s how
manners belongs to me because that’s how
manners belongs to me because that’s how you’re dealing with me if we learn to
you’re dealing with me if we learn to
you’re dealing with me if we learn to connect with ourselves in a healthy way
connect with ourselves in a healthy way
connect with ourselves in a healthy way I promise you you can connect to others
I promise you you can connect to others
I promise you you can connect to others in a healthy way thank you very much
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