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Breaking Out of Your Comfort Zone | Aileen Salgado & Leslie Hernandez | TEDxCarverMilitaryAcademy


hi my name is Leslie Hernandez and I’m

hi my name is Leslie Hernandez and I’m Eileen Salgado and the most typical

Eileen Salgado and the most typical

Eileen Salgado and the most typical situation a person might find themselves

situation a person might find themselves

situation a person might find themselves in nowadays is stay in a place where

in nowadays is stay in a place where

in nowadays is stay in a place where they feel comfortable in people make fun

they feel comfortable in people make fun

they feel comfortable in people make fun of others who have problems such as

of others who have problems such as

of others who have problems such as depression anxiety and other

depression anxiety and other

depression anxiety and other disabilities but those problems are

disabilities but those problems are

disabilities but those problems are often brought onto us because we’re too

often brought onto us because we’re too

often brought onto us because we’re too scared to go out there and live our

scared to go out there and live our

scared to go out there and live our lives this is a real problem in everyday

lives this is a real problem in everyday

lives this is a real problem in everyday lives and it is time to bring awareness

lives and it is time to bring awareness

lives and it is time to bring awareness to it we are here to introduce new ways

to it we are here to introduce new ways

to it we are here to introduce new ways for you to break out of those fears for

for you to break out of those fears for

for you to break out of those fears for example last year I participated in a

example last year I participated in a

example last year I participated in a summer program called JC LC and I

summer program called JC LC and I

summer program called JC LC and I remember being excited and offer it but

remember being excited and offer it but

remember being excited and offer it but I was also really nervous and scared I

I was also really nervous and scared I

I was also really nervous and scared I was afraid of being separated from my

was afraid of being separated from my

was afraid of being separated from my friends and I didn’t want to be stuck

friends and I didn’t want to be stuck

friends and I didn’t want to be stuck with a bunch of people I didn’t know

with a bunch of people I didn’t know

with a bunch of people I didn’t know with for four days

with for four days

with for four days I kept debating on whether or not I

I kept debating on whether or not I

I kept debating on whether or not I wanted to go but when the night is what

wanted to go but when the night is what

wanted to go but when the night is what camp came I named all of the reasons why

camp came I named all of the reasons why

camp came I named all of the reasons why I should do it one of those reasons was

I should do it one of those reasons was

I should do it one of those reasons was that it was something new and different

that it was something new and different

that it was something new and different so why not I ended up going and thanks

so why not I ended up going and thanks

so why not I ended up going and thanks to the next day or not I realized it

to the next day or not I realized it

to the next day or not I realized it wasn’t so bad because in the end I had

wasn’t so bad because in the end I had

wasn’t so bad because in the end I had fun I made new friends and it felt good

fun I made new friends and it felt good

fun I made new friends and it felt good to try something I never thought I would

to try something I never thought I would

to try something I never thought I would do now each day you probably experience

do now each day you probably experience

do now each day you probably experience something that is not of your comfort

something that is not of your comfort

something that is not of your comfort zone whether it’s from having to raise

zone whether it’s from having to raise

zone whether it’s from having to raise your head in class getting stuck in a

your head in class getting stuck in a

your head in class getting stuck in a routine or even having to stand in front

routine or even having to stand in front

routine or even having to stand in front of an audience to present an innovative

of an audience to present an innovative

of an audience to present an innovative idea we want to help you to help others

idea we want to help you to help others

idea we want to help you to help others spread this idea because breaking out of

spread this idea because breaking out of

spread this idea because breaking out of your comfort zone could mean the

your comfort zone could mean the

your comfort zone could mean the difference between having a job you love

difference between having a job you love

difference between having a job you love or having a job just to get by growing

or having a job just to get by growing

or having a job just to get by growing up for me it wasn’t always easiest I

up for me it wasn’t always easiest I

up for me it wasn’t always easiest I didn’t always go to a school where I

didn’t always go to a school where I

didn’t always go to a school where I felt like I was in a comfortable

felt like I was in a comfortable

felt like I was in a comfortable environment and as a result of that I

environment and as a result of that I

environment and as a result of that I began it was myself offering people

began it was myself offering people

began it was myself offering people things that I would normally jump

things that I would normally jump

things that I would normally jump straight to doing I would oftentimes end

straight to doing I would oftentimes end

straight to doing I would oftentimes end up second guessing on a 90 degree day I

up second guessing on a 90 degree day I

up second guessing on a 90 degree day I wore a sweater because only then did I

wore a sweater because only then did I

wore a sweater because only then did I begin to feel the slightest bit

begin to feel the slightest bit

begin to feel the slightest bit comfortable when I transferred a fourth

comfortable when I transferred a fourth

comfortable when I transferred a fourth grader I realized that nobody knew me I

grader I realized that nobody knew me I

grader I realized that nobody knew me I didn’t know my past

didn’t know my past

didn’t know my past or what I had done so I decided to keep

or what I had done so I decided to keep

or what I had done so I decided to keep it that way

it that way

it that way I didn’t like being touched talk to her

I didn’t like being touched talk to her

I didn’t like being touched talk to her looked at the summer before fifth grade

looked at the summer before fifth grade

looked at the summer before fifth grade I met a girl named Samantha she saw me

I met a girl named Samantha she saw me

I met a girl named Samantha she saw me for who I was and everything that I was

for who I was and everything that I was

for who I was and everything that I was scared of doing so one day she sent me

scared of doing so one day she sent me

scared of doing so one day she sent me and she told me look I think if you keep

and she told me look I think if you keep

and she told me look I think if you keep living in that box that you live in

living in that box that you live in

living in that box that you live in you’re never gonna be happy and you’re

you’re never gonna be happy and you’re

you’re never gonna be happy and you’re never gonna inspire the change you want

never gonna inspire the change you want

never gonna inspire the change you want to see this one look at it this way she

to see this one look at it this way she

to see this one look at it this way she said and she pointed down at the floor

said and she pointed down at the floor

said and she pointed down at the floor you are standing there in that Square

you are standing there in that Square

you are standing there in that Square and I am standing here in this one and

and I am standing here in this one and

and I am standing here in this one and you’re all ready to come over to give me

you’re all ready to come over to give me

you’re all ready to come over to give me a hug I will be waiting she waited for

a hug I will be waiting she waited for

a hug I will be waiting she waited for about two hours and as she began to

about two hours and as she began to

about two hours and as she began to think that I wouldn’t walk over and hug

think that I wouldn’t walk over and hug

think that I wouldn’t walk over and hug her I did I counted to three and so

her I did I counted to three and so

her I did I counted to three and so myself that I went back now whenever I

myself that I went back now whenever I

myself that I went back now whenever I faced a situation where I’m come where

faced a situation where I’m come where

faced a situation where I’m come where I’m in an uncomfortable environment I

I’m in an uncomfortable environment I

I’m in an uncomfortable environment I just count to three and go for it there

just count to three and go for it there

just count to three and go for it there are many ways to break out of your

are many ways to break out of your

are many ways to break out of your comfort zones but this is just one not

comfort zones but this is just one not

comfort zones but this is just one not everyone’s situation is the same though

everyone’s situation is the same though

everyone’s situation is the same though some situations have to do it school

some situations have to do it school

some situations have to do it school business socialize etc common situation

business socialize etc common situation

business socialize etc common situation some people have that caused them to

some people have that caused them to

some people have that caused them to stay in a comfort zone is when it comes

stay in a comfort zone is when it comes

stay in a comfort zone is when it comes to sports those who do not play sports

to sports those who do not play sports

to sports those who do not play sports might often think about joining one if

might often think about joining one if

might often think about joining one if they don’t it is probably because they

they don’t it is probably because they

they don’t it is probably because they they have never done that sport or

they have never done that sport or

they have never done that sport or because they feel like darn good enough

because they feel like darn good enough

because they feel like darn good enough this fear is not in people from focusing

this fear is not in people from focusing

this fear is not in people from focusing on the possible outcomes and we’re good

on the possible outcomes and we’re good

on the possible outcomes and we’re good to come out of it for those who do play

to come out of it for those who do play

to come out of it for those who do play sports might feel like they could do

sports might feel like they could do

sports might feel like they could do better but not everyone actually does

better but not everyone actually does

better but not everyone actually does something about it because they might be

something about it because they might be

something about it because they might be afraid of that big jump to possible

afraid of that big jump to possible

afraid of that big jump to possible success they’re going to make if you

success they’re going to make if you

success they’re going to make if you break out of your comfort zone to

break out of your comfort zone to

break out of your comfort zone to disappear you love it takes risks and

disappear you love it takes risks and

disappear you love it takes risks and challenges on the way all of the hard

challenges on the way all of the hard

challenges on the way all of the hard work you do will pay off in the end and

work you do will pay off in the end and

work you do will pay off in the end and eventually you’ll reach a goal when it

eventually you’ll reach a goal when it

eventually you’ll reach a goal when it comes to social life you might be

comes to social life you might be

comes to social life you might be thinking the positive and negative

thinking the positive and negative

thinking the positive and negative things that could possibly happen you

things that could possibly happen you

things that could possibly happen you could have that girl or guy in mind that

could have that girl or guy in mind that

could have that girl or guy in mind that you’ve been looking for months but

you’ve been looking for months but

you’ve been looking for months but something just will stop

something just will stop

something just will stop you back what’s holding you back it’s

you back what’s holding you back it’s

you back what’s holding you back it’s the fear and the rejection of the

the fear and the rejection of the

the fear and the rejection of the negative things that happen now you know

negative things that happen now you know

negative things that happen now you know the negatives you go to that person you

the negatives you go to that person you

the negatives you go to that person you say hi and they reject you or you go to

say hi and they reject you or you go to

say hi and they reject you or you go to that person he hits AI and they ignore

that person he hits AI and they ignore

that person he hits AI and they ignore you but you don’t know the positives

you but you don’t know the positives

you but you don’t know the positives let’s say you go to that person you say

let’s say you go to that person you say

let’s say you go to that person you say hi and you start a friendship the loss

hi and you start a friendship the loss

hi and you start a friendship the loss for a lot of years or you go to a person

for a lot of years or you go to a person

for a lot of years or you go to a person you say hi you start a relationship with

you say hi you start a relationship with

you say hi you start a relationship with them this all just starts with saying hi

them this all just starts with saying hi

them this all just starts with saying hi same when it comes to friendships you

same when it comes to friendships you

same when it comes to friendships you know you meet somebody and you don’t

know you meet somebody and you don’t

know you meet somebody and you don’t know what happens in five years or even

know what happens in five years or even

know what happens in five years or even two weeks instead of following somebody

two weeks instead of following somebody

two weeks instead of following somebody else’s shadow you shouldn’t be afraid to

else’s shadow you shouldn’t be afraid to

else’s shadow you shouldn’t be afraid to go out there and make your we can start

go out there and make your we can start

go out there and make your we can start to make a change in people’s lives by

to make a change in people’s lives by

to make a change in people’s lives by studying a community with people who are

studying a community with people who are

studying a community with people who are supportive and are willing to help

supportive and are willing to help

supportive and are willing to help others in need maybe we can add an app

others in need maybe we can add an app

others in need maybe we can add an app or Facebook page to start up and get

or Facebook page to start up and get

or Facebook page to start up and get people talking as individual as one

people talking as individual as one

people talking as individual as one spheres may seem in a real long for

spheres may seem in a real long for

spheres may seem in a real long for example a agoraphobia now everybody

example a agoraphobia now everybody

example a agoraphobia now everybody knows the fear claustrophobia which is

knows the fear claustrophobia which is

knows the fear claustrophobia which is the fear of heights basis but

the fear of heights basis but

the fear of heights basis but agoraphobia is the fear of open spaces

agoraphobia is the fear of open spaces

agoraphobia is the fear of open spaces an example of that is if this auditorium

an example of that is if this auditorium

an example of that is if this auditorium or empty an open space if I was walking

or empty an open space if I was walking

or empty an open space if I was walking home by myself an open space or even if

home by myself an open space or even if

home by myself an open space or even if I was home alone an open place 2.2

I was home alone an open place 2.2

I was home alone an open place 2.2 percent of people in the US are affected

percent of people in the US are affected

percent of people in the US are affected by this nationwide 2.2 doesn’t seem like

by this nationwide 2.2 doesn’t seem like

by this nationwide 2.2 doesn’t seem like a lot but when you calculated as of 2014

a lot but when you calculated as of 2014

a lot but when you calculated as of 2014 there were three hundred fifteen point

there were three hundred fifteen point

there were three hundred fifteen point nine million people in the u.s. at seven

nine million people in the u.s. at seven

nine million people in the u.s. at seven million 15 thousand eight hundred people

million 15 thousand eight hundred people

million 15 thousand eight hundred people affected by a agoraphobia how to point

affected by a agoraphobia how to point

affected by a agoraphobia how to point to doesn’t seem like a lot but seven

to doesn’t seem like a lot but seven

to doesn’t seem like a lot but seven million two thousand eight hundred is

million two thousand eight hundred is

million two thousand eight hundred is more than just one I know that maybe

more than just one I know that maybe

more than just one I know that maybe counting that they may not be the best

counting that they may not be the best

counting that they may not be the best method for everyone in there and their

method for everyone in there and their

method for everyone in there and their individual fears but there many other

individual fears but there many other

individual fears but there many other ways overcome them our goal in doing

ways overcome them our goal in doing

ways overcome them our goal in doing this is

this is

this is create a space where other people feel

create a space where other people feel

create a space where other people feel comfortable coming forward talking about

comfortable coming forward talking about

comfortable coming forward talking about their fears and other people come

their fears and other people come

their fears and other people come forward and express different ways in

forward and express different ways in

forward and express different ways in which they can come out of their comfort

which they can come out of their comfort

which they can come out of their comfort zones we want to create a safe space

zones we want to create a safe space

zones we want to create a safe space where people can come forward and talk

where people can come forward and talk

where people can come forward and talk there are many ways to break out of your

there are many ways to break out of your

there are many ways to break out of your comfort zone one way for example is if

comfort zone one way for example is if

comfort zone one way for example is if you are afraid of rejection you Kuantan

you are afraid of rejection you Kuantan

you are afraid of rejection you Kuantan get rejected 50 times faster than you

get rejected 50 times faster than you

get rejected 50 times faster than you normally would the concept behind doing

normally would the concept behind doing

normally would the concept behind doing this compress on challenges is that if

this compress on challenges is that if

this compress on challenges is that if you do something that you are afraid of

you do something that you are afraid of

you do something that you are afraid of or that is out of your comfort zone

or that is out of your comfort zone

or that is out of your comfort zone enough times and the thought of it will

enough times and the thought of it will

enough times and the thought of it will become less and less nerve wracking

become less and less nerve wracking

become less and less nerve wracking another example of this is the fear of

another example of this is the fear of

another example of this is the fear of public speaking if you’re afraid to

public speaking if you’re afraid to

public speaking if you’re afraid to speak in front of groups or even raise

speak in front of groups or even raise

speak in front of groups or even raise your hand in class you can slowly start

your hand in class you can slowly start

your hand in class you can slowly start by presenting your idea to a small group

by presenting your idea to a small group

by presenting your idea to a small group of friends and wake your way up to

of friends and wake your way up to

of friends and wake your way up to bigger groups until you’re comfortable

bigger groups until you’re comfortable

bigger groups until you’re comfortable enough to speak freely about what you’re

enough to speak freely about what you’re

enough to speak freely about what you’re thinking embarrassment is one thing that

thinking embarrassment is one thing that

thinking embarrassment is one thing that is holding people back from speaking out

is holding people back from speaking out

is holding people back from speaking out so to get out of the way you can do

so to get out of the way you can do

so to get out of the way you can do something really embarrassing out in

something really embarrassing out in

something really embarrassing out in public like singing out loud in the

public like singing out loud in the

public like singing out loud in the school hallways this is causing you to

school hallways this is causing you to

school hallways this is causing you to break out of your comfort zone doing

break out of your comfort zone doing

break out of your comfort zone doing this will help make a get used to people

this will help make a get used to people

this will help make a get used to people staying at you that way when it comes to

staying at you that way when it comes to

staying at you that way when it comes to actually breaking out of your comfort

actually breaking out of your comfort

actually breaking out of your comfort zone you already know how it feels to

zone you already know how it feels to

zone you already know how it feels to have everyone’s attention on you if

have everyone’s attention on you if

have everyone’s attention on you if rollercoasters aren’t part of your

rollercoasters aren’t part of your

rollercoasters aren’t part of your comfort zone because I know they’re not

comfort zone because I know they’re not

comfort zone because I know they’re not part of mine you can go to a theme park

part of mine you can go to a theme park

part of mine you can go to a theme park and work your way up start at the

and work your way up start at the

and work your way up start at the smallest roller coasters or you can

smallest roller coasters or you can

smallest roller coasters or you can simply go on the biggest one so that

simply go on the biggest one so that

simply go on the biggest one so that when you go on the smaller ones they

when you go on the smaller ones they

when you go on the smaller ones they will seem like nothing

will seem like nothing

will seem like nothing they say that fear is what stops you

they say that fear is what stops you

they say that fear is what stops you from advancing further in life but I

from advancing further in life but I

from advancing further in life but I think fear is what pushes you to try new

think fear is what pushes you to try new

think fear is what pushes you to try new experiences that you normally wouldn’t

experiences that you normally wouldn’t

experiences that you normally wouldn’t try don’t let the fear hold you back and

try don’t let the fear hold you back and

try don’t let the fear hold you back and keep you trapped inside that box if you

keep you trapped inside that box if you

keep you trapped inside that box if you are interested in more ways to break out

are interested in more ways to break out

are interested in more ways to break out of a comfort zone you can go on YouTube

of a comfort zone you can go on YouTube

of a comfort zone you can go on YouTube and look up til hell job where he

and look up til hell job where he

and look up til hell job where he discusses more about comfort zones and

discusses more about comfort zones and

discusses more about comfort zones and even more ways to break out of them

even more ways to break out of them

even more ways to break out of them thank you for your time

thank you for your time

thank you for your time [Applause]

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