I have a question by a show of hands how many of you feel good about yourself I
many of you feel good about yourself I
many of you feel good about yourself I have asked this question in front of
have asked this question in front of
have asked this question in front of thousands and less than 10% raised their
thousands and less than 10% raised their
thousands and less than 10% raised their hand
hand
hand welcome to being human we all struggle
welcome to being human we all struggle
welcome to being human we all struggle with insecurities and these insecurities
with insecurities and these insecurities
with insecurities and these insecurities can really hold us back from being
can really hold us back from being
can really hold us back from being engaged in our life and I’ve always
engaged in our life and I’ve always
engaged in our life and I’ve always believed that to feel really good about
believed that to feel really good about
believed that to feel really good about ourselves it’s important as I call it to
ourselves it’s important as I call it to
ourselves it’s important as I call it to be lit up in life it’s important to
be lit up in life it’s important to
be lit up in life it’s important to connect with our passion and our purpose
connect with our passion and our purpose
connect with our passion and our purpose for the past three decades I have been
for the past three decades I have been
for the past three decades I have been running a really successful staffing
running a really successful staffing
running a really successful staffing organization we get people jobs and this
organization we get people jobs and this
organization we get people jobs and this concept of being passionate of life is
concept of being passionate of life is
concept of being passionate of life is one that I have brought into the fabric
one that I have brought into the fabric
one that I have brought into the fabric of my organization I am really committed
of my organization I am really committed
of my organization I am really committed to my staff being lit up I want them
to my staff being lit up I want them
to my staff being lit up I want them feeling good about themselves and to
feeling good about themselves and to
feeling good about themselves and to feel as if they are contributing so at
feel as if they are contributing so at
feel as if they are contributing so at the core of my being I’m really shy and
the core of my being I’m really shy and
the core of my being I’m really shy and I’m an introvert more than an extrovert
I’m an introvert more than an extrovert
I’m an introvert more than an extrovert and I’m very familiar with these
and I’m very familiar with these
and I’m very familiar with these feelings of insecurity I want to share
feelings of insecurity I want to share
feelings of insecurity I want to share with you my story today and how I move
with you my story today and how I move
with you my story today and how I move through my insecurities and tapped into
through my insecurities and tapped into
through my insecurities and tapped into that passion and purpose so you can do
that passion and purpose so you can do
that passion and purpose so you can do the same I started to not feel good
the same I started to not feel good
the same I started to not feel good about myself when I was a kid I was four
about myself when I was a kid I was four
about myself when I was a kid I was four of five children and I one of my
of five children and I one of my
of five children and I one of my sister’s was 18 months older than me and
sister’s was 18 months older than me and
sister’s was 18 months older than me and I constantly was comparing myself to her
I constantly was comparing myself to her
I constantly was comparing myself to her I felt like she was prettier and more
I felt like she was prettier and more
I felt like she was prettier and more popular and thinner than me to make
popular and thinner than me to make
popular and thinner than me to make matters worse I in the fourth grade was
matters worse I in the fourth grade was
matters worse I in the fourth grade was put in the lowest level reading group
put in the lowest level reading group
put in the lowest level reading group though red fruit you can imagine what
though red fruit you can imagine what
though red fruit you can imagine what that made me feel that’s the first time
that made me feel that’s the first time
that made me feel that’s the first time that I heard this negative chatter going
that I heard this negative chatter going
that I heard this negative chatter going on in my head it was this judge it was
on in my head it was this judge it was
on in my head it was this judge it was this judge or this critique saying
this judge or this critique saying
this judge or this critique saying not work I’m not good enough I’m not
not work I’m not good enough I’m not
not work I’m not good enough I’m not smart enough we all hear that chatter
smart enough we all hear that chatter
smart enough we all hear that chatter right sometimes it’s louder than others
right sometimes it’s louder than others
right sometimes it’s louder than others in fact humor me and close your eyes for
in fact humor me and close your eyes for
in fact humor me and close your eyes for a minute and I just want to ask you how
a minute and I just want to ask you how
a minute and I just want to ask you how are you feeling about yourself
open your eyes so were you judging were
open your eyes so were you judging were you self-doubting were you criticizing
you self-doubting were you criticizing
you self-doubting were you criticizing did you feel awesome did you feel
did you feel awesome did you feel
did you feel awesome did you feel connected those are the thoughts
connected those are the thoughts
connected those are the thoughts constantly running through us and I
constantly running through us and I
constantly running through us and I learned that there are over 70,000
learned that there are over 70,000
learned that there are over 70,000 thoughts that run through our head on a
thoughts that run through our head on a
thoughts that run through our head on a daily basis and 80% of them are negative
daily basis and 80% of them are negative
daily basis and 80% of them are negative 80 percent think about it as a kid I
80 percent think about it as a kid I
80 percent think about it as a kid I really struggled and tried to figure out
really struggled and tried to figure out
really struggled and tried to figure out what to do with these thoughts as a
what to do with these thoughts as a
what to do with these thoughts as a Presbyterian ministers child I went to
Presbyterian ministers child I went to
Presbyterian ministers child I went to Hebrew school and catechism with my
Hebrew school and catechism with my
Hebrew school and catechism with my friends all to search for meaning I was
friends all to search for meaning I was
friends all to search for meaning I was lonely and then I was searching and
lonely and then I was searching and
lonely and then I was searching and moving through high school and college
moving through high school and college
moving through high school and college and still searching for this meaning of
and still searching for this meaning of
and still searching for this meaning of life really out not fitting in and my
life really out not fitting in and my
life really out not fitting in and my family thought for sure I would join a
family thought for sure I would join a
family thought for sure I would join a cult my first job in Boston I met a
cult my first job in Boston I met a
cult my first job in Boston I met a mentor who introduced me to this ancient
mentor who introduced me to this ancient
mentor who introduced me to this ancient tradition meditation and it was through
tradition meditation and it was through
tradition meditation and it was through this experience of meditation that I
this experience of meditation that I
this experience of meditation that I connected with my inner self and I had
connected with my inner self and I had
connected with my inner self and I had this huge Epiphany here’s what I learned
this huge Epiphany here’s what I learned
this huge Epiphany here’s what I learned I learned that oh my gosh this negative
I learned that oh my gosh this negative
I learned that oh my gosh this negative chatter going on in my mind is not real
chatter going on in my mind is not real
chatter going on in my mind is not real these limiting beliefs are not real it’s
these limiting beliefs are not real it’s
these limiting beliefs are not real it’s made up and all of the sudden I felt
made up and all of the sudden I felt
made up and all of the sudden I felt like that’s what had held me back in my
like that’s what had held me back in my
like that’s what had held me back in my life so far it’s as if I had a speed
life so far it’s as if I had a speed
life so far it’s as if I had a speed limit on my life who wants to go 45
limit on my life who wants to go 45
limit on my life who wants to go 45 miles an hour and once I discovered this
miles an hour and once I discovered this
miles an hour and once I discovered this I started to practice more and more and
I started to practice more and more and
I started to practice more and more and then I started to thrive in my job and I
then I started to thrive in my job and I
then I started to thrive in my job and I was in sales and I was on fire why
was in sales and I was on fire why
was in sales and I was on fire why because I started feel good about myself
because I started feel good about myself
because I started feel good about myself I had confidence and then when I was 26
I had confidence and then when I was 26
I had confidence and then when I was 26 I with this new sense of confidence in
I with this new sense of confidence in
I with this new sense of confidence in belief in myself somehow I had the
belief in myself somehow I had the
belief in myself somehow I had the courage to open up my own company and we
courage to open up my own company and we
courage to open up my own company and we started to thrive why because I was
started to thrive why because I was
started to thrive why because I was passionate about what I did and I was
passionate about what I did and I was
passionate about what I did and I was also committed
also committed
also committed to helping others be passionate about
to helping others be passionate about
to helping others be passionate about what they did so I wanted to find
what they did so I wanted to find
what they did so I wanted to find someone the dream job and I also want to
someone the dream job and I also want to
someone the dream job and I also want to have people come into my company that
have people come into my company that
have people come into my company that wanted to help create a culture that was
wanted to help create a culture that was
wanted to help create a culture that was lit up through two recessions I got
lit up through two recessions I got
lit up through two recessions I got through those two recessions practicing
through those two recessions practicing
through those two recessions practicing meditation I had this laser focus so I
meditation I had this laser focus so I
meditation I had this laser focus so I was able to let go of all of the
was able to let go of all of the
was able to let go of all of the external stimuli and circumstances and
external stimuli and circumstances and
external stimuli and circumstances and stay centered and this was a really
stay centered and this was a really
stay centered and this was a really great gift and this company grew over
great gift and this company grew over
great gift and this company grew over the next two decades and then the third
the next two decades and then the third
the next two decades and then the third recession hit and when the third
recession hit and when the third
recession hit and when the third recession hit for whatever reason I had
recession hit for whatever reason I had
recession hit for whatever reason I had trouble going inward and practicing what
trouble going inward and practicing what
trouble going inward and practicing what I knew worked and instead I panicked and
I knew worked and instead I panicked and
I knew worked and instead I panicked and I felt like I have to fix things and I
I felt like I have to fix things and I
I felt like I have to fix things and I was living on four and five hours of
was living on four and five hours of
was living on four and five hours of sleep my cell phone was on 24/7 and I
sleep my cell phone was on 24/7 and I
sleep my cell phone was on 24/7 and I was on it and I was absolutely exhausted
was on it and I was absolutely exhausted
was on it and I was absolutely exhausted and in this time there was no meditation
and in this time there was no meditation
and in this time there was no meditation experience other than what I call that
experience other than what I call that
experience other than what I call that drive by experience introspection on the
drive by experience introspection on the
drive by experience introspection on the go so I was totally submerged in being a
go so I was totally submerged in being a
go so I was totally submerged in being a CEO a wife and a mother to four
CEO a wife and a mother to four
CEO a wife and a mother to four wonderful children and I imploded and I
wonderful children and I imploded and I
wonderful children and I imploded and I knew I said things have to change what
knew I said things have to change what
knew I said things have to change what do I do and so it was one day when I was
do I do and so it was one day when I was
do I do and so it was one day when I was driving home 45-minute drive home from
driving home 45-minute drive home from
driving home 45-minute drive home from work and I realized I didn’t know what
work and I realized I didn’t know what
work and I realized I didn’t know what route I had taken I had no clue and this
route I had taken I had no clue and this
route I had taken I had no clue and this is when I said to myself you got to
is when I said to myself you got to
is when I said to myself you got to change things have to change
change things have to change
change things have to change I was not passionate I was lonely and I
I was not passionate I was lonely and I
I was not passionate I was lonely and I was lost so what I did is I said I have
was lost so what I did is I said I have
was lost so what I did is I said I have to I have to do something I started to
to I have to do something I started to
to I have to do something I started to go inside and this another thing that
go inside and this another thing that
go inside and this another thing that happened in this time is that these
happened in this time is that these
happened in this time is that these limiting beliefs kicked in and I started
limiting beliefs kicked in and I started
limiting beliefs kicked in and I started to say to myself I’m not a good leader
to say to myself I’m not a good leader
to say to myself I’m not a good leader I’m not good enough I am not worthy and
I’m not good enough I am not worthy and
I’m not good enough I am not worthy and then I knew that I had
then I knew that I had
then I knew that I had turn inward for self-reflection it was
turn inward for self-reflection it was
turn inward for self-reflection it was not an easy process and I had to get
not an easy process and I had to get
not an easy process and I had to get quiet again
quiet again
quiet again because I remembered that this is what
because I remembered that this is what
because I remembered that this is what had gotten me to this point so far so I
had gotten me to this point so far so I
had gotten me to this point so far so I took time and here’s what quiet looks
took time and here’s what quiet looks
took time and here’s what quiet looks like quiet is sitting with no cell phone
like quiet is sitting with no cell phone
like quiet is sitting with no cell phone even in the room no TV no papers no
even in the room no TV no papers no
even in the room no TV no papers no people no distractions and I started to
people no distractions and I started to
people no distractions and I started to meditate again and in meditation I
meditate again and in meditation I
meditate again and in meditation I discovered wow when we’re so stressed
discovered wow when we’re so stressed
discovered wow when we’re so stressed out why do we give up on taking care of
out why do we give up on taking care of
out why do we give up on taking care of ourselves what why does that happen
ourselves what why does that happen
ourselves what why does that happen and I became centered again I can’t
and I became centered again I can’t
and I became centered again I can’t became focused again and this experience
became focused again and this experience
became focused again and this experience was so enriching for me so I wanted to
was so enriching for me so I wanted to
was so enriching for me so I wanted to make this experience permanent I wanted
make this experience permanent I wanted
make this experience permanent I wanted this change to be permanent in me so I
this change to be permanent in me so I
this change to be permanent in me so I knew what to do I said I have to just
knew what to do I said I have to just
knew what to do I said I have to just set this vision and commit to it and
set this vision and commit to it and
set this vision and commit to it and stick to it and take action now this
stick to it and take action now this
stick to it and take action now this realization was both exhilarating and
realization was both exhilarating and
realization was both exhilarating and terrifying first step I went into my VP
terrifying first step I went into my VP
terrifying first step I went into my VP of Finance and I said we will be
of Finance and I said we will be
of Finance and I said we will be building a huge meditation room can you
building a huge meditation room can you
building a huge meditation room can you imagine his look oh boy I said
imagine his look oh boy I said
imagine his look oh boy I said uncommitted I want my staff to be able
uncommitted I want my staff to be able
uncommitted I want my staff to be able to have a space where they can self
to have a space where they can self
to have a space where they can self reflect so that they don’t spiral down
reflect so that they don’t spiral down
reflect so that they don’t spiral down the way I did and furthermore I want to
the way I did and furthermore I want to
the way I did and furthermore I want to teach them I want to teach them how to
teach them I want to teach them how to
teach them I want to teach them how to recognize those limiting thoughts and
recognize those limiting thoughts and
recognize those limiting thoughts and limiting beliefs so that they can learn
limiting beliefs so that they can learn
limiting beliefs so that they can learn self-awareness and be more productive
self-awareness and be more productive
self-awareness and be more productive successful and happy in life and then I
successful and happy in life and then I
successful and happy in life and then I thought what if I took this a step
thought what if I took this a step
thought what if I took this a step further what if I went out into the
further what if I went out into the
further what if I went out into the community with this so I got really
community with this so I got really
community with this so I got really excited about this I had the vision of
excited about this I had the vision of
excited about this I had the vision of opening up and release our limiting
opening up and release our limiting
opening up and release our limiting beliefs and I shared this with my
beliefs and I shared this with my
beliefs and I shared this with my leadership team my board of advisers and
leadership team my board of advisers and
leadership team my board of advisers and my friends and family and things didn’t
my friends and family and things didn’t
my friends and family and things didn’t go as I planned
go as I planned
go as I planned I got shut down it isn’t the time for
I got shut down it isn’t the time for
I got shut down it isn’t the time for this Boston is not ready for this you’ll
this Boston is not ready for this you’ll
this Boston is not ready for this you’ll jeopardize your brand
jeopardize your brand
jeopardize your brand you will ruin your company I was
you will ruin your company I was
you will ruin your company I was devastated I could not imagine how
devastated I could not imagine how
devastated I could not imagine how connected I was with my passion and
connected I was with my passion and
connected I was with my passion and purpose and I felt so shut down and I
purpose and I felt so shut down and I
purpose and I felt so shut down and I knew I could make an impact on the
knew I could make an impact on the
knew I could make an impact on the community so I had to go inside again
community so I had to go inside again
community so I had to go inside again and I self reflected and here’s what I
and I self reflected and here’s what I
and I self reflected and here’s what I did I said to myself you know what these
did I said to myself you know what these
did I said to myself you know what these voices that I’m hearing have clicked in
voices that I’m hearing have clicked in
voices that I’m hearing have clicked in again because that you know the the
again because that you know the the
again because that you know the the roaring lion lion of my limiting beliefs
roaring lion lion of my limiting beliefs
roaring lion lion of my limiting beliefs just love what those people were saying
just love what those people were saying
just love what those people were saying to me and I had to assure that to the
to me and I had to assure that to the
to me and I had to assure that to the side and stay focused and listen to my
side and stay focused and listen to my
side and stay focused and listen to my intuition because my intuition always
intuition because my intuition always
intuition because my intuition always tells me the truth and so the Institute
tells me the truth and so the Institute
tells me the truth and so the Institute would become a reality so I went back to
would become a reality so I went back to
would become a reality so I went back to my leadership team and I said we’re
my leadership team and I said we’re
my leadership team and I said we’re making this a go we’re moving forward
making this a go we’re moving forward
making this a go we’re moving forward because if I don’t move forward I will
because if I don’t move forward I will
because if I don’t move forward I will live to regret it
live to regret it
live to regret it to which they said they were on board
to which they said they were on board
to which they said they were on board and that was three years ago since that
and that was three years ago since that
and that was three years ago since that time we’ve trained over 500 people and
time we’ve trained over 500 people and
time we’ve trained over 500 people and we have connected people through
we have connected people through
we have connected people through mindfulness and teaching emotional
mindfulness and teaching emotional
mindfulness and teaching emotional intelligence so that they are released
intelligence so that they are released
intelligence so that they are released they are released and they can live more
they are released and they can live more
they are released and they can live more limitless lives so I asked you what are
limitless lives so I asked you what are
limitless lives so I asked you what are you passionate about and is there
you passionate about and is there
you passionate about and is there anything that’s holding you back and if
anything that’s holding you back and if
anything that’s holding you back and if so what price are you paying emotionally
so what price are you paying emotionally
so what price are you paying emotionally physically spiritually these are
physically spiritually these are
physically spiritually these are challenging times for many I wonder what
challenging times for many I wonder what
challenging times for many I wonder what it would be like if you were able to
it would be like if you were able to
it would be like if you were able to acknowledge those negative thoughts and
acknowledge those negative thoughts and
acknowledge those negative thoughts and let them go and then turn the volume and
let them go and then turn the volume and
let them go and then turn the volume and the noise down on your limiting beliefs
the noise down on your limiting beliefs
the noise down on your limiting beliefs what would open up for you and what
what would open up for you and what
what would open up for you and what would be possible unlimited
would be possible unlimited
would be possible unlimited possibilities no speed limit I encourage
possibilities no speed limit I encourage
possibilities no speed limit I encourage you to take time out every day for
you to take time out every day for
you to take time out every day for self-reflection even if it’s 10 minutes
self-reflection even if it’s 10 minutes
self-reflection even if it’s 10 minutes a day it can make a world of difference
a day it can make a world of difference
a day it can make a world of difference and this is where you can connect with
and this is where you can connect with
and this is where you can connect with your inner your inner self so that you
your inner your inner self so that you
your inner your inner self so that you can define
can define
can define and understand your passion so that
and understand your passion so that
and understand your passion so that you’re able to make the right decision
you’re able to make the right decision
you’re able to make the right decision for whatever you want in your life I am
for whatever you want in your life I am
for whatever you want in your life I am living the most lit of life I have ever
living the most lit of life I have ever
living the most lit of life I have ever had in years and I’d like the same for
had in years and I’d like the same for
had in years and I’d like the same for you
”
Be First to Comment