I’m sky and so during New York trip we went to the MoMA and if you haven’t been
went to the MoMA and if you haven’t been
went to the MoMA and if you haven’t been there it’s either a place of great
there it’s either a place of great
there it’s either a place of great beauty or you see like a painted square
beauty or you see like a painted square
beauty or you see like a painted square on the wall and you’re questioning how
on the wall and you’re questioning how
on the wall and you’re questioning how this is art and so what I saw was
this is art and so what I saw was
this is art and so what I saw was there’s just a room where there’s a
there’s just a room where there’s a
there’s just a room where there’s a string hanging from the ceiling to the
string hanging from the ceiling to the
string hanging from the ceiling to the ground and somebody next to it and I
ground and somebody next to it and I
ground and somebody next to it and I stare at this for like 10 minutes I’m
stare at this for like 10 minutes I’m
stare at this for like 10 minutes I’m like this can’t be art it’s holding
like this can’t be art it’s holding
like this can’t be art it’s holding something underneath the like a
something underneath the like a
something underneath the like a chandelier or something and so
chandelier or something and so
chandelier or something and so eventually I go up to the woman I’m said
eventually I go up to the woman I’m said
eventually I go up to the woman I’m said is is this art I’m sorry I can’t tell
is is this art I’m sorry I can’t tell
is is this art I’m sorry I can’t tell and she just slowly takes off her
and she just slowly takes off her
and she just slowly takes off her glasses and looks at me and she’s like
glasses and looks at me and she’s like
glasses and looks at me and she’s like we’re in an art museum of course it’s
we’re in an art museum of course it’s
we’re in an art museum of course it’s art and so after I finished running away
art and so after I finished running away
art and so after I finished running away because if you’ve never seen an angry
because if you’ve never seen an angry
because if you’ve never seen an angry New Yorker you have an experienced fear
New Yorker you have an experienced fear
New Yorker you have an experienced fear so I’m over shoot I can’t remember I
so I’m over shoot I can’t remember I
so I’m over shoot I can’t remember I think was Andy Warhol which is also
think was Andy Warhol which is also
think was Andy Warhol which is also debatably not art but I’m standing there
debatably not art but I’m standing there
debatably not art but I’m standing there I’m just we’re in an art museum so
I’m just we’re in an art museum so
I’m just we’re in an art museum so everything and there I’m trying to I’m
everything and there I’m trying to I’m
everything and there I’m trying to I’m trying to work it out and it’s like one
trying to work it out and it’s like one
trying to work it out and it’s like one of those puzzles that you’re given in
of those puzzles that you’re given in
of those puzzles that you’re given in like the middle or lower school where
like the middle or lower school where
like the middle or lower school where it’s like an apples of fruit and oranges
it’s like an apples of fruit and oranges
it’s like an apples of fruit and oranges of fruit button Apple is not an orange
of fruit button Apple is not an orange
of fruit button Apple is not an orange and I’m trying to I’m applying it to
and I’m trying to I’m applying it to
and I’m trying to I’m applying it to this it’s like this is so much like
this it’s like this is so much like
this it’s like this is so much like everyday things you know in we always do
everyday things you know in we always do
everyday things you know in we always do that because we were people we like
that because we were people we like
that because we were people we like organized things we we want to see
organized things we we want to see
organized things we we want to see something fit into the slot neatly like
something fit into the slot neatly like
something fit into the slot neatly like Legos are wonderful because you can make
Legos are wonderful because you can make
Legos are wonderful because you can make them all like a yellow thing over here
them all like a yellow thing over here
them all like a yellow thing over here red thing over here and they never have
red thing over here and they never have
red thing over here and they never have to mix but the issue is that we’re going
to mix but the issue is that we’re going
to mix but the issue is that we’re going around in a world of things that aren’t
around in a world of things that aren’t
around in a world of things that aren’t like two categories it’s not not yes or
like two categories it’s not not yes or
like two categories it’s not not yes or no it’s more of a spectrum we’re going
no it’s more of a spectrum we’re going
no it’s more of a spectrum we’re going looking at things and we’re trying to
looking at things and we’re trying to
looking at things and we’re trying to get to the common denominator but we’re
get to the common denominator but we’re
get to the common denominator but we’re not looking at what the things actually
not looking at what the things actually
not looking at what the things actually are and nothing’s more apparent with
are and nothing’s more apparent with
are and nothing’s more apparent with this than gender and if you haven’t had
this than gender and if you haven’t had
this than gender and if you haven’t had the chance there’s an absolutely
the chance there’s an absolutely
the chance there’s an absolutely brilliant
brilliant
brilliant special on National Geographic called
special on National Geographic called
special on National Geographic called the gender revolution and it goes into
the gender revolution and it goes into
the gender revolution and it goes into this and it’s beautiful if you haven’t
this and it’s beautiful if you haven’t
this and it’s beautiful if you haven’t had the chance watch it I can’t remember
had the chance watch it I can’t remember
had the chance watch it I can’t remember it’s free but if it’s not it’s well
it’s free but if it’s not it’s well
it’s free but if it’s not it’s well worth your money but the issue is that
worth your money but the issue is that
worth your money but the issue is that to society
to society
to society specifically Western society there’s
specifically Western society there’s
specifically Western society there’s always been male/female there’s nothing
always been male/female there’s nothing
always been male/female there’s nothing else the issue is that what we’re
else the issue is that what we’re
else the issue is that what we’re finding is that it’s not just these two
finding is that it’s not just these two
finding is that it’s not just these two things it’s so much more complicated but
things it’s so much more complicated but
things it’s so much more complicated but we’re trying to just convince it as much
we’re trying to just convince it as much
we’re trying to just convince it as much as we can so that it’s never
as we can so that it’s never
as we can so that it’s never everything’s in this place
everything’s in this place
everything’s in this place anything that steps out of its place is
anything that steps out of its place is
anything that steps out of its place is just wrong and you try to ignore that
just wrong and you try to ignore that
just wrong and you try to ignore that and we’re finding that it’s nowhere near
and we’re finding that it’s nowhere near
and we’re finding that it’s nowhere near that simple
that simple
that simple it’s so much more there’s nothing that’s
it’s so much more there’s nothing that’s
it’s so much more there’s nothing that’s that simple in the world and you find
that simple in the world and you find
that simple in the world and you find that we’re giving arbitrary slots to
that we’re giving arbitrary slots to
that we’re giving arbitrary slots to represent complex things like if you
represent complex things like if you
represent complex things like if you think about it men are supposed to be
think about it men are supposed to be
think about it men are supposed to be like manly and tough and you know rugged
like manly and tough and you know rugged
like manly and tough and you know rugged and lumber Jackson
but then you get down to stuff like boys
but then you get down to stuff like boys or blue pink as girls and there’s
or blue pink as girls and there’s
or blue pink as girls and there’s absolutely no logic to that it’s people
absolutely no logic to that it’s people
absolutely no logic to that it’s people decided long ago that boy masculine blue
decided long ago that boy masculine blue
decided long ago that boy masculine blue girl feminine pink and it doesn’t make
girl feminine pink and it doesn’t make
girl feminine pink and it doesn’t make any sense there’s no reason why it
any sense there’s no reason why it
any sense there’s no reason why it should be like that but when you see a
should be like that but when you see a
should be like that but when you see a newborn child if they’re a boy they’re
newborn child if they’re a boy they’re
newborn child if they’re a boy they’re in blue and if they’re in pink they’re
in blue and if they’re in pink they’re
in blue and if they’re in pink they’re if they’re big they’re a girl and even a
if they’re big they’re a girl and even a
if they’re big they’re a girl and even a show like The Office has this point
show like The Office has this point
show like The Office has this point where there’s a lady holding a baby and
where there’s a lady holding a baby and
where there’s a lady holding a baby and Pam comes up to her and she says oh I
Pam comes up to her and she says oh I
Pam comes up to her and she says oh I like your girl because it’s in pink and
like your girl because it’s in pink and
like your girl because it’s in pink and the woman says no it’s a boy his
the woman says no it’s a boy his
the woman says no it’s a boy his favorite color is pink and that’s
favorite color is pink and that’s
favorite color is pink and that’s supposed to be this weird and confusing
supposed to be this weird and confusing
supposed to be this weird and confusing moment but when you look back at it now
moment but when you look back at it now
moment but when you look back at it now it doesn’t make any sense because why
it doesn’t make any sense because why
it doesn’t make any sense because why can’t a boy’s favorite color be pink and
can’t a boy’s favorite color be pink and
can’t a boy’s favorite color be pink and another thing is with makeup and visuals
another thing is with makeup and visuals
another thing is with makeup and visuals and you’re looking at it and it’s men
and you’re looking at it and it’s men
and you’re looking at it and it’s men never supposed to wear makeup women all
never supposed to wear makeup women all
never supposed to wear makeup women all the time and you hardly ever with like
the time and you hardly ever with like
the time and you hardly ever with like big movie stars when they go out to like
big movie stars when they go out to like
big movie stars when they go out to like on the red carpet or whatever they’re
on the red carpet or whatever they’re
on the red carpet or whatever they’re always wearing makeup and when it’s why
always wearing makeup and when it’s why
always wearing makeup and when it’s why not is that why is that just for women
not is that why is that just for women
not is that why is that just for women why what dictates that that’s not for
why what dictates that that’s not for
why what dictates that that’s not for men and I’ve had people come up to me
men and I’ve had people come up to me
men and I’ve had people come up to me when I’m wearing makeup or clothes like
when I’m wearing makeup or clothes like
when I’m wearing makeup or clothes like this and they’ll say you should be
this and they’ll say you should be
this and they’ll say you should be ashamed to be out today because that is
ashamed to be out today because that is
ashamed to be out today because that is not what men should wear and it happens
not what men should wear and it happens
not what men should wear and it happens almost all the time
almost all the time
almost all the time you’re going around and you’re either
you’re going around and you’re either
you’re going around and you’re either seeing people judging you and moving out
seeing people judging you and moving out
seeing people judging you and moving out of the way so they don’t have to be near
of the way so they don’t have to be near
of the way so they don’t have to be near you or they’re coming up to you and
you or they’re coming up to you and
you or they’re coming up to you and saying that and luckily I’ve had so many
saying that and luckily I’ve had so many
saying that and luckily I’ve had so many wonderful people and my brother is this
wonderful people and my brother is this
wonderful people and my brother is this wonderful guy I dare you to find someone
wonderful guy I dare you to find someone
wonderful guy I dare you to find someone to hate him he is ridiculous
to hate him he is ridiculous
to hate him he is ridiculous but he’s wonderful and he came up to me
but he’s wonderful and he came up to me
but he’s wonderful and he came up to me and he said look I don’t care if you’re
and he said look I don’t care if you’re
and he said look I don’t care if you’re a brother or sister your sibling and I’m
a brother or sister your sibling and I’m
a brother or sister your sibling and I’m always going to mess with you and then
always going to mess with you and then
always going to mess with you and then he cheated in Mario Kart and that’s the
he cheated in Mario Kart and that’s the
he cheated in Mario Kart and that’s the that’s the only conversation we’ve ever
that’s the only conversation we’ve ever
that’s the only conversation we’ve ever had about it it
had about it it
had about it it he just it’s not a big deal
he just it’s not a big deal
he just it’s not a big deal and he exemplifies it shouldn’t be a big
and he exemplifies it shouldn’t be a big
and he exemplifies it shouldn’t be a big deal but we’re trying to make it a big
deal but we’re trying to make it a big
deal but we’re trying to make it a big deal because it doesn’t fit with our
deal because it doesn’t fit with our
deal because it doesn’t fit with our little boxes and that’s what I want to
little boxes and that’s what I want to
little boxes and that’s what I want to try to impart into you is that like
try to impart into you is that like
try to impart into you is that like don’t when you see an issue or when you
don’t when you see an issue or when you
don’t when you see an issue or when you just see anything in your daily life
just see anything in your daily life
just see anything in your daily life don’t go oh this is blank or put it
don’t go oh this is blank or put it
don’t go oh this is blank or put it wherever and your mind you shouldn’t do
wherever and your mind you shouldn’t do
wherever and your mind you shouldn’t do that because we’re looking at things out
that because we’re looking at things out
that because we’re looking at things out of face value as a 2d value what we need
of face value as a 2d value what we need
of face value as a 2d value what we need to be doing is we need to be looking at
to be doing is we need to be looking at
to be doing is we need to be looking at it and trying to figure out what this is
it and trying to figure out what this is
it and trying to figure out what this is and why this is so next time that you
and why this is so next time that you
and why this is so next time that you see a string hanging from a ceiling
see a string hanging from a ceiling
see a string hanging from a ceiling don’t assume it’s art because it’s not
don’t assume it’s art because it’s not
don’t assume it’s art because it’s not it’s something more
it’s something more
it’s something more [Applause]
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