[Applause] so are you happy it should be an easy
so are you happy it should be an easy
so are you happy it should be an easy question to answer right it should be
question to answer right it should be
question to answer right it should be black or white yes or no happy or not
black or white yes or no happy or not
black or white yes or no happy or not but many factors go into her happiness
but many factors go into her happiness
but many factors go into her happiness and those factors vary from person to
and those factors vary from person to
and those factors vary from person to person place to place
person place to place
person place to place moment to moment and from generation to
moment to moment and from generation to
moment to moment and from generation to generation our society now can these
generation our society now can these
generation our society now can these elements that weren’t important to or
elements that weren’t important to or
elements that weren’t important to or even experienced by the people of the
even experienced by the people of the
even experienced by the people of the past but do those extra elements make it
past but do those extra elements make it
past but do those extra elements make it harder for Gen Z to be happy and if so
harder for Gen Z to be happy and if so
harder for Gen Z to be happy and if so how can we cheer up to really understand
how can we cheer up to really understand
how can we cheer up to really understand happiness we first have to ask how do we
happiness we first have to ask how do we
happiness we first have to ask how do we know that we’re happy for me my
know that we’re happy for me my
know that we’re happy for me my happiness stems from being a people I
happiness stems from being a people I
happiness stems from being a people I love doing something I love so right now
love doing something I love so right now
love doing something I love so right now in this moment I’m happy I’m happy when
in this moment I’m happy I’m happy when
in this moment I’m happy I’m happy when I’m running when I’m with my friends and
I’m running when I’m with my friends and
I’m running when I’m with my friends and family when I’m listening to music and
family when I’m listening to music and
family when I’m listening to music and when I’m eating mac and cheese we don’t
when I’m eating mac and cheese we don’t
when I’m eating mac and cheese we don’t really have any control over when we
really have any control over when we
really have any control over when we feel happy or what makes us happy you
feel happy or what makes us happy you
feel happy or what makes us happy you can’t make yourself feel anything it’s
can’t make yourself feel anything it’s
can’t make yourself feel anything it’s just what you feel happiness exists in
just what you feel happiness exists in
just what you feel happiness exists in details and those details are different
details and those details are different
details and those details are different for every single person and can vary
for every single person and can vary
for every single person and can vary from moment to moment for example I
from moment to moment for example I
from moment to moment for example I could be eating mac and cheese or
could be eating mac and cheese or
could be eating mac and cheese or feeling happy because the noodles are
feeling happy because the noodles are
feeling happy because the noodles are just too soggy I could be running but
just too soggy I could be running but
just too soggy I could be running but feeling happy because wow my knee eggs
feeling happy because wow my knee eggs
feeling happy because wow my knee eggs and it’s a Friday and I’d so much rather
and it’s a Friday and I’d so much rather
and it’s a Friday and I’d so much rather be inside with my friends instead we
be inside with my friends instead we
be inside with my friends instead we can’t control the weather outside or
can’t control the weather outside or
can’t control the weather outside or they saw over the sagginess of our
they saw over the sagginess of our
they saw over the sagginess of our noodles and those little curveballs that
noodles and those little curveballs that
noodles and those little curveballs that life throws at us can snatch weight a
life throws at us can snatch weight a
life throws at us can snatch weight a happiness to be feeling otherwise and
happiness to be feeling otherwise and
happiness to be feeling otherwise and unfortunately our generation gets thrown
unfortunately our generation gets thrown
unfortunately our generation gets thrown a lot of interesting curveballs today
a lot of interesting curveballs today
a lot of interesting curveballs today especially for many of us in the Silicon
especially for many of us in the Silicon
especially for many of us in the Silicon Valley life is simpler we no longer have
Valley life is simpler we no longer have
Valley life is simpler we no longer have to grab a bow and arrow and hunt down
to grab a bow and arrow and hunt down
to grab a bow and arrow and hunt down our next meal or worry for crops you’re
our next meal or worry for crops you’re
our next meal or worry for crops you’re gonna get us to the winter we in Gen Z
gonna get us to the winter we in Gen Z
gonna get us to the winter we in Gen Z you don’t have to fabricate our own
you don’t have to fabricate our own
you don’t have to fabricate our own houses or cup chopped firewood to keep
houses or cup chopped firewood to keep
houses or cup chopped firewood to keep ourselves warm nope all it takes for us
ourselves warm nope all it takes for us
ourselves warm nope all it takes for us just to drive through in and out on the
just to drive through in and out on the
just to drive through in and out on the way back to our three bedroom three in a
way back to our three bedroom three in a
way back to our three bedroom three in a bath house the bath bath homes and ask
bath house the bath bath homes and ask
bath house the bath bath homes and ask Alexa to turn on the heat so if our
Alexa to turn on the heat so if our
Alexa to turn on the heat so if our basics are all taken care of by our
basics are all taken care of by our
basics are all taken care of by our advanced society why aren’t we all happy
advanced society why aren’t we all happy
advanced society why aren’t we all happy as I mentioned earlier happiness exists
as I mentioned earlier happiness exists
as I mentioned earlier happiness exists in the details there are two way to
in the details there are two way to
in the details there are two way to derive happiness intrinsically
derive happiness intrinsically
derive happiness intrinsically extrinsically according to the wily
extrinsically according to the wily
extrinsically according to the wily encyclopedia of management intrinsic
encyclopedia of management intrinsic
encyclopedia of management intrinsic motivation is the motivation to do
motivation is the motivation to do
motivation is the motivation to do something for the sake of the task for
something for the sake of the task for
something for the sake of the task for the sheer enjoyment of the task
the sheer enjoyment of the task
the sheer enjoyment of the task extrinsic motivation is the motivation
extrinsic motivation is the motivation
extrinsic motivation is the motivation to do something to mean an externally
to do something to mean an externally
to do something to mean an externally imposed constraint or fulfill some
imposed constraint or fulfill some
imposed constraint or fulfill some external goal simplify I have an
external goal simplify I have an
external goal simplify I have an intrinsic motivation to watch friends or
intrinsic motivation to watch friends or
intrinsic motivation to watch friends or make waffles because I love to but I
make waffles because I love to but I
make waffles because I love to but I have an extrinsic motivation to do the
have an extrinsic motivation to do the
have an extrinsic motivation to do the AP US history reading responses because
AP US history reading responses because
AP US history reading responses because I have to get them done for a grade and
I have to get them done for a grade and
I have to get them done for a grade and extremely composed constraint we do
extremely composed constraint we do
extremely composed constraint we do things we are intrinsically motivated to
things we are intrinsically motivated to
things we are intrinsically motivated to do because we love them because they
do because we love them because they
do because we love them because they make us happy on the flip side we do
make us happy on the flip side we do
make us happy on the flip side we do things where extrinsic motivated to do
things where extrinsic motivated to do
things where extrinsic motivated to do because we feel like we have to because
because we feel like we have to because
because we feel like we have to because they make other people happy not us my
they make other people happy not us my
they make other people happy not us my generation has more extrinsic
generation has more extrinsic
generation has more extrinsic motivations than any other we
motivations than any other we
motivations than any other we technically have things easier in terms
technically have things easier in terms
technically have things easier in terms of surviving and thriving in our more
of surviving and thriving in our more
of surviving and thriving in our more technologically advanced society as a
technologically advanced society as a
technologically advanced society as a result although generations have set
result although generations have set
result although generations have set higher expectations for us in the other
higher expectations for us in the other
higher expectations for us in the other areas of our lives
areas of our lives
areas of our lives such as education and inner life goals
such as education and inner life goals
such as education and inner life goals this is especially true in the southern
this is especially true in the southern
this is especially true in the southern Valley where at Mountain View high last
Valley where at Mountain View high last
Valley where at Mountain View high last spring semester thirteen point eight
spring semester thirteen point eight
spring semester thirteen point eight percent of students are an unweighted
percent of students are an unweighted
percent of students are an unweighted four-fight house probably one in a crazy
four-fight house probably one in a crazy
four-fight house probably one in a crazy amount of AP and honors classes students
amount of AP and honors classes students
amount of AP and honors classes students tear themselves apart in order to fit
tear themselves apart in order to fit
tear themselves apart in order to fit into the mold of success here we and Gen
into the mold of success here we and Gen
into the mold of success here we and Gen Z have to be well-rounded with high
Z have to be well-rounded with high
Z have to be well-rounded with high grades hours and hours of volunteer
grades hours and hours of volunteer
grades hours and hours of volunteer service thrown a couple varsity sports
service thrown a couple varsity sports
service thrown a couple varsity sports languished fluencies and master level
languished fluencies and master level
languished fluencies and master level instrument playing and maybe will get
instrument playing and maybe will get
instrument playing and maybe will get into the college of our dreams
into the college of our dreams
into the college of our dreams and once we’re there we continue to work
and once we’re there we continue to work
and once we’re there we continue to work hard pushing ourselves in a stressful
hard pushing ourselves in a stressful
hard pushing ourselves in a stressful robe that often does not even provide to
robe that often does not even provide to
robe that often does not even provide to us the easy perfect happy lives that
us the easy perfect happy lives that
us the easy perfect happy lives that older generations have envisioned for us
older generations have envisioned for us
older generations have envisioned for us we follow this route in professions that
we follow this route in professions that
we follow this route in professions that we are not passionate about with
we are not passionate about with
we are not passionate about with students who love and who live and
students who love and who live and
students who love and who live and breathe through the fine arts throwing
breathe through the fine arts throwing
breathe through the fine arts throwing away that passion to pursue a more
away that passion to pursue a more
away that passion to pursue a more marketable skill it feels like we are
marketable skill it feels like we are
marketable skill it feels like we are being forced down this path Society has
being forced down this path Society has
being forced down this path Society has provided for us our society as a whole
provided for us our society as a whole
provided for us our society as a whole is an extrinsic motivator for a
is an extrinsic motivator for a
is an extrinsic motivator for a predetermined definition of success and
predetermined definition of success and
predetermined definition of success and Happiness becomes an unattainable
Happiness becomes an unattainable
Happiness becomes an unattainable concept because we’re being forced to do
concept because we’re being forced to do
concept because we’re being forced to do something
something
something feels impossible to be happy now or in
feels impossible to be happy now or in
feels impossible to be happy now or in the future but gen Z also sets
the future but gen Z also sets
the future but gen Z also sets expectations for itself for example it’s
expectations for itself for example it’s
expectations for itself for example it’s expected for every team to have Facebook
expected for every team to have Facebook
expected for every team to have Facebook Instagram and snapchat for starters but
Instagram and snapchat for starters but
Instagram and snapchat for starters but also maybe Twitter reddit communication
also maybe Twitter reddit communication
also maybe Twitter reddit communication apps who we chat staying up-to-date on
apps who we chat staying up-to-date on
apps who we chat staying up-to-date on up-and-coming platforms YouTube channel
up-and-coming platforms YouTube channel
up-and-coming platforms YouTube channel a Google+ maybe even a LinkedIn if
a Google+ maybe even a LinkedIn if
a Google+ maybe even a LinkedIn if you’re ambitious but why are we even on
you’re ambitious but why are we even on
you’re ambitious but why are we even on social media I understand the
social media I understand the
social media I understand the connectivity aspect of it I have family
connectivity aspect of it I have family
connectivity aspect of it I have family in Paris Shanghai and Germany and I
in Paris Shanghai and Germany and I
in Paris Shanghai and Germany and I won’t have insight into the infant into
won’t have insight into the infant into
won’t have insight into the infant into their daily lives without it I also
their daily lives without it I also
their daily lives without it I also totally confessed tagging my friends in
totally confessed tagging my friends in
totally confessed tagging my friends in countless memes and videos of the
countless memes and videos of the
countless memes and videos of the horrible cats but at a certain point kin
horrible cats but at a certain point kin
horrible cats but at a certain point kin sharing become a negative thing our
sharing become a negative thing our
sharing become a negative thing our friends and the people at school can all
friends and the people at school can all
friends and the people at school can all see the pictures we post online and
see the pictures we post online and
see the pictures we post online and embarrassing snaps we send with the rise
embarrassing snaps we send with the rise
embarrassing snaps we send with the rise of filters in Photoshop social media has
of filters in Photoshop social media has
of filters in Photoshop social media has become sort of twisted in a perfect
become sort of twisted in a perfect
become sort of twisted in a perfect world we could take one picture of
world we could take one picture of
world we could take one picture of something we’re enjoying share with our
something we’re enjoying share with our
something we’re enjoying share with our supportive chums on the internet and
supportive chums on the internet and
supportive chums on the internet and receive loads of positive feedback
receive loads of positive feedback
receive loads of positive feedback without any fear of judgment but today
without any fear of judgment but today
without any fear of judgment but today multiple pics are taken to make sure
multiple pics are taken to make sure
multiple pics are taken to make sure everybody looks cute and got their good
everybody looks cute and got their good
everybody looks cute and got their good side the perfect pic is is chosen and
side the perfect pic is is chosen and
side the perfect pic is is chosen and probably in a group chat and is edited
probably in a group chat and is edited
probably in a group chat and is edited and cropped bits that all our friends on
and cropped bits that all our friends on
and cropped bits that all our friends on the internet can see the perfect people
the internet can see the perfect people
the internet can see the perfect people we want them to see the perfect you and
we want them to see the perfect you and
we want them to see the perfect you and they’re perfect me is this connectivity
they’re perfect me is this connectivity
they’re perfect me is this connectivity or is it just another detail for Gen Z
or is it just another detail for Gen Z
or is it just another detail for Gen Z to worry about another extrinsic
to worry about another extrinsic
to worry about another extrinsic motivator to show everyone that we can
motivator to show everyone that we can
motivator to show everyone that we can in fact lead the perfect lives lead
in fact lead the perfect lives lead
in fact lead the perfect lives lead perfect lives even if we’re not happy
perfect lives even if we’re not happy
perfect lives even if we’re not happy doing it and then we worry and stress
doing it and then we worry and stress
doing it and then we worry and stress over when we don’t reach our usual
over when we don’t reach our usual
over when we don’t reach our usual amount of likes do they think I’m ugly
amount of likes do they think I’m ugly
amount of likes do they think I’m ugly is this annoying do they think I’m not
is this annoying do they think I’m not
is this annoying do they think I’m not cool and so we post something even more
cool and so we post something even more
cool and so we post something even more impressive to earn back the love of our
impressive to earn back the love of our
impressive to earn back the love of our peers this vicious negative cycle cycle
peers this vicious negative cycle cycle
peers this vicious negative cycle cycle perpetuates itself and fails to fulfill
perpetuates itself and fails to fulfill
perpetuates itself and fails to fulfill the promise that those likes comments
the promise that those likes comments
the promise that those likes comments and retweets will make Gen Z more happy
and retweets will make Gen Z more happy
and retweets will make Gen Z more happy even worse things that we used to love
even worse things that we used to love
even worse things that we used to love and works really motivated to do because
and works really motivated to do because
and works really motivated to do because things become driven by our desire to
things become driven by our desire to
things become driven by our desire to appear perfect personally it’s hard for
appear perfect personally it’s hard for
appear perfect personally it’s hard for need to feel happy today because there
need to feel happy today because there
need to feel happy today because there always feels like there’s something else
always feels like there’s something else
always feels like there’s something else that I could be doing like right now I
that I could be doing like right now I
that I could be doing like right now I could be studying for the SAT or
could be studying for the SAT or
could be studying for the SAT or learning fluency backs or figuring out
learning fluency backs or figuring out
learning fluency backs or figuring out how to conjugate the conditional passe
how to conjugate the conditional passe
how to conjugate the conditional passe the sheer number of to do is we have now
the sheer number of to do is we have now
the sheer number of to do is we have now in order to guarantee our happiness in
in order to guarantee our happiness in
in order to guarantee our happiness in the future is crazy
the future is crazy
the future is crazy and because all the things we need to do
and because all the things we need to do
and because all the things we need to do now we can’t spend any of our valuable
now we can’t spend any of our valuable
now we can’t spend any of our valuable valuable time doing things that actually
valuable time doing things that actually
valuable time doing things that actually bring us happiness I used to love
bring us happiness I used to love
bring us happiness I used to love learning French and reading and I will
learning French and reading and I will
learning French and reading and I will take four years of French and Advanced
take four years of French and Advanced
take four years of French and Advanced honors courses in high school but I
honors courses in high school but I
honors courses in high school but I won’t be to further my knowledge of
won’t be to further my knowledge of
won’t be to further my knowledge of either subject it’ll be to make myself
either subject it’ll be to make myself
either subject it’ll be to make myself appear more attractive to universities
appear more attractive to universities
appear more attractive to universities how wrong is that by now I’ve lost most
how wrong is that by now I’ve lost most
how wrong is that by now I’ve lost most of the love I once had for from say or
of the love I once had for from say or
of the love I once had for from say or retired in what did you use to love
retired in what did you use to love
retired in what did you use to love although it feels impossible we can be
although it feels impossible we can be
although it feels impossible we can be happy but it’ll take a lot of mental
happy but it’ll take a lot of mental
happy but it’ll take a lot of mental work focus on what truly makes you happy
work focus on what truly makes you happy
work focus on what truly makes you happy what when you what brings you rod joy or
what when you what brings you rod joy or
what when you what brings you rod joy or you if you think about that place that
you if you think about that place that
you if you think about that place that activity that thing that person you
activity that thing that person you
activity that thing that person you cannot help but smile recognize those
cannot help but smile recognize those
cannot help but smile recognize those things but also recognize the things
things but also recognize the things
things but also recognize the things that bring you dread I’m not saying that
that bring you dread I’m not saying that
that bring you dread I’m not saying that if high school makes you unhappy drop
if high school makes you unhappy drop
if high school makes you unhappy drop out maybe try to find a way to actually
out maybe try to find a way to actually
out maybe try to find a way to actually enjoy school focused more uncompromising
enjoy school focused more uncompromising
enjoy school focused more uncompromising instead of achieving a 5.0 GPA balance
instead of achieving a 5.0 GPA balance
instead of achieving a 5.0 GPA balance the advanced courses you have to take to
the advanced courses you have to take to
the advanced courses you have to take to fulfill whatever your goal in life is
fulfill whatever your goal in life is
fulfill whatever your goal in life is with a couple classes that you really
with a couple classes that you really
with a couple classes that you really truly love take those courses so you
truly love take those courses so you
truly love take those courses so you still have enough time to be happy to
still have enough time to be happy to
still have enough time to be happy to have fun to be a team according to a
have fun to be a team according to a
have fun to be a team according to a poll conducted by brownie we’re a nurse
poll conducted by brownie we’re a nurse
poll conducted by brownie we’re a nurse in a terminal palliative care unit one
in a terminal palliative care unit one
in a terminal palliative care unit one of the largest regrets of the dying was
of the largest regrets of the dying was
of the largest regrets of the dying was that they did not think that happiness
that they did not think that happiness
that they did not think that happiness was a choice you pretend to be content
was a choice you pretend to be content
was a choice you pretend to be content because you’re too afraid to explore
because you’re too afraid to explore
because you’re too afraid to explore where is poll tells us to seize the
where is poll tells us to seize the
where is poll tells us to seize the moment to toss aside the judgments of
moment to toss aside the judgments of
moment to toss aside the judgments of others we should focus on the small good
others we should focus on the small good
others we should focus on the small good things and the big great things in our
things and the big great things in our
things and the big great things in our lives and live and live to pursue those
lives and live and live to pursue those
lives and live and live to pursue those moments that lift us up and make a smile
moments that lift us up and make a smile
moments that lift us up and make a smile do we want to look back on
do we want to look back on
do we want to look back on five ten fifty years from now and wish
five ten fifty years from now and wish
five ten fifty years from now and wish we’d lived differently maybe taking a
we’d lived differently maybe taking a
we’d lived differently maybe taking a regular course and a time to for a day
regular course and a time to for a day
regular course and a time to for a day trip with our parents maybe turned off
trip with our parents maybe turned off
trip with our parents maybe turned off for Instagram notification so that we
for Instagram notification so that we
for Instagram notification so that we could truly live in the moment I know
could truly live in the moment I know
could truly live in the moment I know it’s hard but ignore the societal
it’s hard but ignore the societal
it’s hard but ignore the societal pressure to do more do more do more
pressure to do more do more do more
pressure to do more do more do more ignore the stream of reactions to your
ignore the stream of reactions to your
ignore the stream of reactions to your Facebook post ignore always trying to
Facebook post ignore always trying to
Facebook post ignore always trying to look act and be perfect
look act and be perfect
look act and be perfect better yet ignore snapchat let the
better yet ignore snapchat let the
better yet ignore snapchat let the streak die a well-known way to keep
streak die a well-known way to keep
streak die a well-known way to keep practicing this do it makes you happy
practicing this do it makes you happy
practicing this do it makes you happy mindset is to imagine all the time in
mindset is to imagine all the time in
mindset is to imagine all the time in your life as an empty jar now put self
your life as an empty jar now put self
your life as an empty jar now put self Oh big big rocks in your jar so that
Oh big big rocks in your jar so that
Oh big big rocks in your jar so that four or five fill up all the space
four or five fill up all the space
four or five fill up all the space these rocks represent the most important
these rocks represent the most important
these rocks represent the most important things in your life to represent your
things in your life to represent your
things in your life to represent your structure the things that you should
structure the things that you should
structure the things that you should always keep near you for example your
always keep near you for example your
always keep near you for example your your parents your family and your health
your parents your family and your health
your parents your family and your health are rough now add pebbles to your jar
are rough now add pebbles to your jar
are rough now add pebbles to your jar pebbles are the smaller things that are
pebbles are the smaller things that are
pebbles are the smaller things that are still really relatively important to us
still really relatively important to us
still really relatively important to us like our friendships and our grades in
like our friendships and our grades in
like our friendships and our grades in school
school
school pebbles make our life even fuller but
pebbles make our life even fuller but
pebbles make our life even fuller but sands completely fills our jar sand is
sands completely fills our jar sand is
sands completely fills our jar sand is our the tiny tiny details in our lives
our the tiny tiny details in our lives
our the tiny tiny details in our lives things like social media which honestly
things like social media which honestly
things like social media which honestly are mostly filler and really aren’t that
are mostly filler and really aren’t that
are mostly filler and really aren’t that important room again your rocks and your
important room again your rocks and your
important room again your rocks and your pebbles are smaller things in life so
pebbles are smaller things in life so
pebbles are smaller things in life so losing one of them wouldn’t destroy you
losing one of them wouldn’t destroy you
losing one of them wouldn’t destroy you like losing a rock way so when you kind
like losing a rock way so when you kind
like losing a rock way so when you kind of sort of fail a physics test or bomb
of sort of fail a physics test or bomb
of sort of fail a physics test or bomb Spanish quiz or don’t get over 200 likes
Spanish quiz or don’t get over 200 likes
Spanish quiz or don’t get over 200 likes in your Instagram post hold onto the
in your Instagram post hold onto the
in your Instagram post hold onto the fact that you still have your friends
fact that you still have your friends
fact that you still have your friends your family your rocks and your pebbles
your family your rocks and your pebbles
your family your rocks and your pebbles your solid sources of happiness to stay
your solid sources of happiness to stay
your solid sources of happiness to stay happy on a daily basis remember the
happy on a daily basis remember the
happy on a daily basis remember the bigger picture in your life and that’ll
bigger picture in your life and that’ll
bigger picture in your life and that’ll help you get over the loss of a grain of
help you get over the loss of a grain of
help you get over the loss of a grain of sand thank you
sand thank you
sand thank you [Applause]
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