I’m to share with you the story of a teenager a young girl who stayed with
teenager a young girl who stayed with
teenager a young girl who stayed with her parents in a small Indian town
her parents in a small Indian town
her parents in a small Indian town she had just appeared for her 10th grade
she had just appeared for her 10th grade
she had just appeared for her 10th grade exams the first board exam of her life
exams the first board exam of her life
exams the first board exam of her life she was a fairly good student who topped
she was a fairly good student who topped
she was a fairly good student who topped her class till the 9th grade and so she
her class till the 9th grade and so she
her class till the 9th grade and so she expected to get a good result but to her
expected to get a good result but to her
expected to get a good result but to her surprise and shock what she found out
surprise and shock what she found out
surprise and shock what she found out was that she failed her 10th board exam
was that she failed her 10th board exam
was that she failed her 10th board exam you could well imagine how she must have
you could well imagine how she must have
you could well imagine how she must have felt it’s like you’re the smartest
felt it’s like you’re the smartest
felt it’s like you’re the smartest player on your school ticket team you
player on your school ticket team you
player on your school ticket team you get to play for the state team and you
get to play for the state team and you
get to play for the state team and you get out on the first ball see it fail in
get out on the first ball see it fail in
get out on the first ball see it fail in a subject called Hindi a national
a subject called Hindi a national
a subject called Hindi a national language and what Sheikh scored was a ap
language and what Sheikh scored was a ap
language and what Sheikh scored was a ap 100 you could well imagine how she must
100 you could well imagine how she must
100 you could well imagine how she must have felt you go out to play you get out
have felt you go out to play you get out
have felt you go out to play you get out on the first ball and that two in the
on the first ball and that two in the
on the first ball and that two in the front of your home crowd
front of your home crowd
front of your home crowd not only this what happened was she
not only this what happened was she
not only this what happened was she became a but of all family grapevine and
became a but of all family grapevine and
became a but of all family grapevine and all school jokes it was brutal
all school jokes it was brutal
all school jokes it was brutal it was devastating for a 15 year old her
it was devastating for a 15 year old her
it was devastating for a 15 year old her parents are sternly if she had actually
parents are sternly if she had actually
parents are sternly if she had actually messed up her paper with all her
messed up her paper with all her
messed up her paper with all her confidence she said no when they were
confidence she said no when they were
confidence she said no when they were sure that the girl had not done anything
sure that the girl had not done anything
sure that the girl had not done anything wrong they took her to the board
wrong they took her to the board
wrong they took her to the board headquarters at New Delhi when they
headquarters at New Delhi when they
headquarters at New Delhi when they reached there they found out long
reached there they found out long
reached there they found out long serpentine queues outside the board
serpentine queues outside the board
serpentine queues outside the board headquarters there were a lot of
headquarters there were a lot of
headquarters there were a lot of students who faced the same faith when
students who faced the same faith when
students who faced the same faith when they tried speaking to them they met a
they tried speaking to them they met a
they tried speaking to them they met a boy who had scored a zero on his math
boy who had scored a zero on his math
boy who had scored a zero on his math paper when he expected a full hundred
paper when he expected a full hundred
paper when he expected a full hundred they met another girl who expected more
they met another girl who expected more
they met another girl who expected more than 90% in the chemistry paper but what
than 90% in the chemistry paper but what
than 90% in the chemistry paper but what she had scored was a meager 47 but then
she had scored was a meager 47 but then
she had scored was a meager 47 but then it’s a board exam and the mark sheet is
it’s a board exam and the mark sheet is
it’s a board exam and the mark sheet is the universal truth the only allowed
the universal truth the only allowed
the universal truth the only allowed measure to all of them was to apply for
measure to all of them was to apply for
measure to all of them was to apply for evaluation that is what all of them did
evaluation that is what all of them did
evaluation that is what all of them did and came back to a long wait as expected
and came back to a long wait as expected
and came back to a long wait as expected the revaluation result then come in time
the revaluation result then come in time
the revaluation result then come in time and the teenager had to go for the
and the teenager had to go for the
and the teenager had to go for the supplementary exam guess what at the
supplementary exam guess what at the
supplementary exam guess what at the supplementary exam center she was the
supplementary exam center she was the
supplementary exam center she was the only candidate who had gotten a
only candidate who had gotten a
only candidate who had gotten a supplementary in Hindi the invigilator
supplementary in Hindi the invigilator
supplementary in Hindi the invigilator looked at her critically she felt really
looked at her critically she felt really
looked at her critically she felt really humiliated you could imagine how she
humiliated you could imagine how she
humiliated you could imagine how she must have felt it’s like you go out in
must have felt it’s like you go out in
must have felt it’s like you go out in the cricket arena and you are about to
the cricket arena and you are about to
the cricket arena and you are about to catch a ball and suddenly there’s
catch a ball and suddenly there’s
catch a ball and suddenly there’s another fielder who comes rams into you
another fielder who comes rams into you
another fielder who comes rams into you and you miss out on the catch for no
and you miss out on the catch for no
and you miss out on the catch for no fault of yours anyways the supplementary
fault of yours anyways the supplementary
fault of yours anyways the supplementary result came out and she scored a 75 in
result came out and she scored a 75 in
result came out and she scored a 75 in the supplementary exam and as a result
the supplementary exam and as a result
the supplementary exam and as a result what happened was that she cleared her
what happened was that she cleared her
what happened was that she cleared her tenth board exam but with the
tenth board exam but with the
tenth board exam but with the supplementary marksheet
supplementary marksheet
supplementary marksheet attached to her original mark sheet the
attached to her original mark sheet the
attached to her original mark sheet the story isn’t over yet after four and a
story isn’t over yet after four and a
story isn’t over yet after four and a half grueling months she received an
half grueling months she received an
half grueling months she received an envelope from the Board of Secondary
envelope from the Board of Secondary
envelope from the Board of Secondary Education and the envelope contained a
Education and the envelope contained a
Education and the envelope contained a marriage certificate with a new mark
marriage certificate with a new mark
marriage certificate with a new mark sheet the marriage certificate declared
sheet the marriage certificate declared
sheet the marriage certificate declared that she was among the point zero zero
that she was among the point zero zero
that she was among the point zero zero one percent of the meritorious students
one percent of the meritorious students
one percent of the meritorious students in the whole country that year and the
in the whole country that year and the
in the whole country that year and the new mark sheet stated that her original
new mark sheet stated that her original
new mark sheet stated that her original marks were 91 100 when she saw that mark
marks were 91 100 when she saw that mark
marks were 91 100 when she saw that mark sheet she was reminded of all that
sheet she was reminded of all that
sheet she was reminded of all that happened to her in the last four and a
happened to her in the last four and a
happened to her in the last four and a half months she had changed a school she
half months she had changed a school she
half months she had changed a school she had lost some friends she had lost some
had lost some friends she had lost some
had lost some friends she had lost some confidence and some weight – but what
confidence and some weight – but what
confidence and some weight – but what she had gained was a big lesson to face
she had gained was a big lesson to face
she had gained was a big lesson to face the failure without fail the story isn’t
the failure without fail the story isn’t
the failure without fail the story isn’t over yet either
over yet either
over yet either do you remember the boy who it’s called
do you remember the boy who it’s called
do you remember the boy who it’s called a zero on his math paper and he was
a zero on his math paper and he was
a zero on his math paper and he was completely grief-stricken when the girl
completely grief-stricken when the girl
completely grief-stricken when the girl met him on the board headquarters when
met him on the board headquarters when
met him on the board headquarters when she went there she was curious to find
she went there she was curious to find
she went there she was curious to find out if the boy also brought his results
out if the boy also brought his results
out if the boy also brought his results changed or something would happen for
changed or something would happen for
changed or something would happen for him so she tried to get in touch with
him so she tried to get in touch with
him so she tried to get in touch with the boy and she found out that the
the boy and she found out that the
the boy and she found out that the result had changed but the boy was not
result had changed but the boy was not
result had changed but the boy was not there to receive the news he took his
there to receive the news he took his
there to receive the news he took his life and gave in to the external
life and gave in to the external
life and gave in to the external pressures he didn’t believe in himself
pressures he didn’t believe in himself
pressures he didn’t believe in himself but believed in those who didn’t believe
but believed in those who didn’t believe
but believed in those who didn’t believe in him
in him
in him I know this story very well because I’ve
I know this story very well because I’ve
I know this story very well because I’ve lived this story I am
lived this story I am
lived this story I am teenager whose perspective about life
teenager whose perspective about life
teenager whose perspective about life and about herself changed when she was a
and about herself changed when she was a
and about herself changed when she was a fifteen-year-old
fifteen-year-old
fifteen-year-old I didn’t know the word authenticity then
I didn’t know the word authenticity then
I didn’t know the word authenticity then but I have lived in the spirit of this
but I have lived in the spirit of this
but I have lived in the spirit of this world since then this whole incident got
world since then this whole incident got
world since then this whole incident got me in touch with myself I learned about
me in touch with myself I learned about
me in touch with myself I learned about myself more than what I would have
myself more than what I would have
myself more than what I would have otherwise known when I got a 18100 there
otherwise known when I got a 18100 there
otherwise known when I got a 18100 there were a lot of people who wanted me to
were a lot of people who wanted me to
were a lot of people who wanted me to feel sad and guilty when I obtained a
feel sad and guilty when I obtained a
feel sad and guilty when I obtained a 9100 the same group of people wanted me
9100 the same group of people wanted me
9100 the same group of people wanted me to feel super excited but when I thought
to feel super excited but when I thought
to feel super excited but when I thought about it when I dived deep into myself I
about it when I dived deep into myself I
about it when I dived deep into myself I realized that I neither felt guilty nor
realized that I neither felt guilty nor
realized that I neither felt guilty nor I felt super excited and that held me to
I felt super excited and that held me to
I felt super excited and that held me to know and discover myself better when I
know and discover myself better when I
know and discover myself better when I tried to find out I realized that I
tried to find out I realized that I
tried to find out I realized that I loved new experiences I loved myself for
loved new experiences I loved myself for
loved new experiences I loved myself for loving journeys more than destination
loving journeys more than destination
loving journeys more than destination and most importantly I found out that I
and most importantly I found out that I
and most importantly I found out that I can laugh at myself whenever people
can laugh at myself whenever people
can laugh at myself whenever people started talking about this failure of
started talking about this failure of
started talking about this failure of mine I would start talking about it
mine I would start talking about it
mine I would start talking about it first and started to laugh about it and
first and started to laugh about it and
first and started to laugh about it and as I laughed when I spoke about my
as I laughed when I spoke about my
as I laughed when I spoke about my failure
failure
failure it made me comfortable with the concept
it made me comfortable with the concept
it made me comfortable with the concept of failure and that made me confident
of failure and that made me confident
of failure and that made me confident whenever I think about that boy I always
whenever I think about that boy I always
whenever I think about that boy I always feel that I would have never done what
feel that I would have never done what
feel that I would have never done what he did had he faced it with a little
he did had he faced it with a little
he did had he faced it with a little confidence and a little humor he would
confidence and a little humor he would
confidence and a little humor he would be giving a TED talk somewhere today if
be giving a TED talk somewhere today if
be giving a TED talk somewhere today if you want to grow in life discover
you want to grow in life discover
you want to grow in life discover yourself love yourself for who you are
yourself love yourself for who you are
yourself love yourself for who you are and try to learn to laugh at yourself
and try to learn to laugh at yourself
and try to learn to laugh at yourself because self-awareness makes you your
because self-awareness makes you your
because self-awareness makes you your own friend philosopher and guide when I
own friend philosopher and guide when I
own friend philosopher and guide when I discovered and befriended self-awareness
discovered and befriended self-awareness
discovered and befriended self-awareness I realized that I loved being an
I realized that I loved being an
I realized that I loved being an entrepreneur I’m a startup enthusiast
entrepreneur I’m a startup enthusiast
entrepreneur I’m a startup enthusiast and I’m a serial entrepreneur I consider
and I’m a serial entrepreneur I consider
and I’m a serial entrepreneur I consider my marriage to be my first startup
my marriage to be my first startup
my marriage to be my first startup because at an age of 20 I
because at an age of 20 I
because at an age of 20 I decided to marry someone whom everyone
decided to marry someone whom everyone
decided to marry someone whom everyone opposed and after 21 years today the
opposed and after 21 years today the
opposed and after 21 years today the venture is successful and is fairly
venture is successful and is fairly
venture is successful and is fairly evaluated – apart from my two other
evaluated – apart from my two other
evaluated – apart from my two other business ventures that I’m running
business ventures that I’m running
business ventures that I’m running successfully at the moment another
successfully at the moment another
successfully at the moment another learning that I had from this experience
learning that I had from this experience
learning that I had from this experience of my 10th grade was in human behavior
of my 10th grade was in human behavior
of my 10th grade was in human behavior during those four and a half months lot
during those four and a half months lot
during those four and a half months lot of my family and friends intentionally
of my family and friends intentionally
of my family and friends intentionally or unintentionally said things to me
or unintentionally said things to me
or unintentionally said things to me which hurt me which humiliated me I
which hurt me which humiliated me I
which hurt me which humiliated me I wanted to give it back to them I wanted
wanted to give it back to them I wanted
wanted to give it back to them I wanted to fight it back but I controlled my
to fight it back but I controlled my
to fight it back but I controlled my urge of anger spitting I controlled my
urge of anger spitting I controlled my
urge of anger spitting I controlled my impulse to mirror their own behavior I
impulse to mirror their own behavior I
impulse to mirror their own behavior I learned to self-regulate authenticity is
learned to self-regulate authenticity is
learned to self-regulate authenticity is not about saying out loud whatever your
not about saying out loud whatever your
not about saying out loud whatever your head says or whatever your heart feels
head says or whatever your heart feels
head says or whatever your heart feels authenticity is about being open being
authenticity is about being open being
authenticity is about being open being comfortable with criticism and being
comfortable with criticism and being
comfortable with criticism and being sensitive to others during my MBA days
sensitive to others during my MBA days
sensitive to others during my MBA days one of our professors gave us a small
one of our professors gave us a small
one of our professors gave us a small experiment to do all the students were
experiment to do all the students were
experiment to do all the students were given different sentences and they were
given different sentences and they were
given different sentences and they were told to try and speak those sentences to
told to try and speak those sentences to
told to try and speak those sentences to different people and report record their
different people and report record their
different people and report record their responses the sentence given to me was I
responses the sentence given to me was I
responses the sentence given to me was I don’t like you I was expected to go and
don’t like you I was expected to go and
don’t like you I was expected to go and try this sentence on different people so
try this sentence on different people so
try this sentence on different people so I went to one of my friends and told her
I went to one of my friends and told her
I went to one of my friends and told her I don’t like you immediately came the
I don’t like you immediately came the
I don’t like you immediately came the response even I don’t like you fine
response even I don’t like you fine
response even I don’t like you fine I went to my another friend and said the
I went to my another friend and said the
I went to my another friend and said the same thing to her listen I don’t like
same thing to her listen I don’t like
same thing to her listen I don’t like you
you
you and she got concerned she said why what
and she got concerned she said why what
and she got concerned she said why what happened did I do something wrong did I
happened did I do something wrong did I
happened did I do something wrong did I hurt you
hurt you
hurt you I didn’t know how to respond to that so
I didn’t know how to respond to that so
I didn’t know how to respond to that so I said I genuinely do not know so she
I said I genuinely do not know so she
I said I genuinely do not know so she said find out and let me know okay I
said find out and let me know okay I
said find out and let me know okay I went to this amazing friend of mine the
went to this amazing friend of mine the
went to this amazing friend of mine the third friend and I repeated the same
third friend and I repeated the same
third friend and I repeated the same sentence I said I don’t like you she
sentence I said I don’t like you she
sentence I said I don’t like you she looked at me and she said that’s your
looked at me and she said that’s your
looked at me and she said that’s your problem I like you
problem I like you
problem I like you that’s what authentic people do openly
that’s what authentic people do openly
that’s what authentic people do openly confidently comfortably and sensitively
confidently comfortably and sensitively
confidently comfortably and sensitively what you are seeing there is a doughnut
what you are seeing there is a doughnut
what you are seeing there is a doughnut it’s only a symbolic representation of
it’s only a symbolic representation of
it’s only a symbolic representation of self-regulation please do not try and
self-regulation please do not try and
self-regulation please do not try and eat one bite at a time for six days my
eat one bite at a time for six days my
eat one bite at a time for six days my lot allows donuts and that’s why she has
lot allows donuts and that’s why she has
lot allows donuts and that’s why she has put in this slide here so don’t try this
put in this slide here so don’t try this
put in this slide here so don’t try this there was a math teacher and he went to
there was a math teacher and he went to
there was a math teacher and he went to his class to teach arithmetic and he
his class to teach arithmetic and he
his class to teach arithmetic and he showed a pen to his students and asked
showed a pen to his students and asked
showed a pen to his students and asked them there are five sheep in this pen
them there are five sheep in this pen
them there are five sheep in this pen if one sheep comes out how many will
if one sheep comes out how many will
if one sheep comes out how many will remain all the class answered correctly
remain all the class answered correctly
remain all the class answered correctly there was only one child who wrote none
there was only one child who wrote none
there was only one child who wrote none of the sheep will remain the teacher got
of the sheep will remain the teacher got
of the sheep will remain the teacher got angry and told the child you do not know
angry and told the child you do not know
angry and told the child you do not know eres Matic the child smiled and told the
eres Matic the child smiled and told the
eres Matic the child smiled and told the teacher so you do not know sheep
teacher so you do not know sheep
teacher so you do not know sheep authenticity is all about not behaving
authenticity is all about not behaving
authenticity is all about not behaving like sheep whenever someone tells you to
like sheep whenever someone tells you to
like sheep whenever someone tells you to do something because everyone else is
do something because everyone else is
do something because everyone else is doing it please pause and ponder
doing it please pause and ponder
doing it please pause and ponder whenever someone tells you that you do
whenever someone tells you that you do
whenever someone tells you that you do it because everyone else is doing it
it because everyone else is doing it
it because everyone else is doing it here and there
here and there
here and there learn to say no to negativity as well as
learn to say no to negativity as well as
learn to say no to negativity as well as learn to say no to any kind of peer
learn to say no to any kind of peer
learn to say no to any kind of peer pressure
pressure
pressure my daughter has never been able to get
my daughter has never been able to get
my daughter has never been able to get anything by saying that everyone else
anything by saying that everyone else
anything by saying that everyone else has it she got a phone also when she was
has it she got a phone also when she was
has it she got a phone also when she was in 11th grade only because unfortunately
in 11th grade only because unfortunately
in 11th grade only because unfortunately I believe in authenticity too much
I believe in authenticity too much
I believe in authenticity too much whenever I go and talk about
whenever I go and talk about
whenever I go and talk about authenticity anywhere there’s a question
authenticity anywhere there’s a question
authenticity anywhere there’s a question which is asked often how do you stay
which is asked often how do you stay
which is asked often how do you stay motivated to stay authentic all the time
motivated to stay authentic all the time
motivated to stay authentic all the time and I always say that in order to stay
and I always say that in order to stay
and I always say that in order to stay authentic our self-awareness propels us
authentic our self-awareness propels us
authentic our self-awareness propels us to stay authentic all the time whenever
to stay authentic all the time whenever
to stay authentic all the time whenever we dive deep into inside of us we get
we dive deep into inside of us we get
we dive deep into inside of us we get the pearl of positivity and the pearl of
the pearl of positivity and the pearl of
the pearl of positivity and the pearl of purpose that helps us to stay motivated
purpose that helps us to stay motivated
purpose that helps us to stay motivated the bigger the purpose you have in life
the bigger the purpose you have in life
the bigger the purpose you have in life the more motivated you feel if you wish
the more motivated you feel if you wish
the more motivated you feel if you wish to score well and if you wish to get
to score well and if you wish to get
to score well and if you wish to get admission in a good college you will be
admission in a good college you will be
admission in a good college you will be working towards studying hard and also
working towards studying hard and also
working towards studying hard and also writing your applications well but if
writing your applications well but if
writing your applications well but if your purpose is to know more if your
your purpose is to know more if your
your purpose is to know more if your purpose is to help more to serve more to
purpose is to help more to serve more to
purpose is to help more to serve more to learn more to experience more to
learn more to experience more to
learn more to experience more to experiment more you will be motivated to
experiment more you will be motivated to
experiment more you will be motivated to do more if you want that there should be
do more if you want that there should be
do more if you want that there should be a fire in your belly
a fire in your belly
a fire in your belly it will intrinsically motivate you and
it will intrinsically motivate you and
it will intrinsically motivate you and at the same time if you start thinking
at the same time if you start thinking
at the same time if you start thinking about some fuel to be added by extrinsic
about some fuel to be added by extrinsic
about some fuel to be added by extrinsic motivators it will keep you motivated
motivators it will keep you motivated
motivators it will keep you motivated for a longer time if you want to become
for a longer time if you want to become
for a longer time if you want to become a space scientist or a space explorer
a space scientist or a space explorer
a space scientist or a space explorer what you need to do is in order to keep
what you need to do is in order to keep
what you need to do is in order to keep you intrinsically motivated you could
you intrinsically motivated you could
you intrinsically motivated you could read about rocket science you could find
read about rocket science you could find
read about rocket science you could find out about space explorations but life
out about space explorations but life
out about space explorations but life stories of people like Richard Branson
stories of people like Richard Branson
stories of people like Richard Branson or Jeff Bezos or Elon Musk would act as
or Jeff Bezos or Elon Musk would act as
or Jeff Bezos or Elon Musk would act as external motivators for all of you what
external motivators for all of you what
external motivators for all of you what you need to do is to balance out your
you need to do is to balance out your
you need to do is to balance out your intrinsic and extrinsic motivation if
intrinsic and extrinsic motivation if
intrinsic and extrinsic motivation if you want to glow forever dive deep
you want to glow forever dive deep
you want to glow forever dive deep inside discover yourself love yourself
inside discover yourself love yourself
inside discover yourself love yourself and don’t forget to laugh at yourself
and don’t forget to laugh at yourself
and don’t forget to laugh at yourself if you want to glow forever
if you want to glow forever
if you want to glow forever self-regulate your behavior especially
self-regulate your behavior especially
self-regulate your behavior especially when you want to say no if you want to
when you want to say no if you want to
when you want to say no if you want to grow forever find out your purpose
grow forever find out your purpose
grow forever find out your purpose beyond yourself success is getting what
beyond yourself success is getting what
beyond yourself success is getting what you want and happiness is wanting what
you want and happiness is wanting what
you want and happiness is wanting what you get I failed in my 10th grade
you get I failed in my 10th grade
you get I failed in my 10th grade examination I failed to convince my
examination I failed to convince my
examination I failed to convince my parents when I wanted to marry I failed
parents when I wanted to marry I failed
parents when I wanted to marry I failed to scale up my first venture but in
to scale up my first venture but in
to scale up my first venture but in between these failures
between these failures
between these failures I discovered my authentic and happy self
I discovered my authentic and happy self
I discovered my authentic and happy self anyone can keep going thank you
anyone can keep going thank you
anyone can keep going thank you you
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