hi so I’m gonna essentially start my talk by asking all of y’all a few
talk by asking all of y’all a few
talk by asking all of y’all a few questions and I want you to answer by a
questions and I want you to answer by a
questions and I want you to answer by a simple show of hands so how many of
simple show of hands so how many of
simple show of hands so how many of y’all have ever lost the ability to
y’all have ever lost the ability to
y’all have ever lost the ability to think straight when you’ve been scared
think straight when you’ve been scared
think straight when you’ve been scared nervous or anxious okay that’s almost
nervous or anxious okay that’s almost
nervous or anxious okay that’s almost everyone and how many of you all have
everyone and how many of you all have
everyone and how many of you all have ever been sexually harassed and this
ever been sexually harassed and this
ever been sexually harassed and this includes being catcalled hooted at or
includes being catcalled hooted at or
includes being catcalled hooted at or even looked at inappropriately and
even looked at inappropriately and
even looked at inappropriately and lastly how many of you all have ever
lastly how many of you all have ever
lastly how many of you all have ever been scared nervous or anxious at the
been scared nervous or anxious at the
been scared nervous or anxious at the idea or the possibility of being
idea or the possibility of being
idea or the possibility of being sexually harassed in the future yeah and
sexually harassed in the future yeah and
sexually harassed in the future yeah and just as predicted that’s more than half
just as predicted that’s more than half
just as predicted that’s more than half this auditorium and that is essentially
this auditorium and that is essentially
this auditorium and that is essentially the problem with self-defense now in
the problem with self-defense now in
the problem with self-defense now in order for me to elucidate my point for
order for me to elucidate my point for
order for me to elucidate my point for though let me give you an example so
though let me give you an example so
though let me give you an example so imagine the scenario right
imagine the scenario right
imagine the scenario right a friend invites you over to his house
a friend invites you over to his house
a friend invites you over to his house and you go over you’re simply friends
and you go over you’re simply friends
and you go over you’re simply friends and you’re under the impression that
and you’re under the impression that
and you’re under the impression that absolutely nothing is going to happen
absolutely nothing is going to happen
absolutely nothing is going to happen because you trust this person you’ll
because you trust this person you’ll
because you trust this person you’ll have known each other for long and then
have known each other for long and then
have known each other for long and then suddenly this friend of yours starts
suddenly this friend of yours starts
suddenly this friend of yours starts forcing himself on you before you know
forcing himself on you before you know
forcing himself on you before you know it he’s kissing you he’s ripping out
it he’s kissing you he’s ripping out
it he’s kissing you he’s ripping out your clothes you’re vulnerable you’re
your clothes you’re vulnerable you’re
your clothes you’re vulnerable you’re scared you’re angry you’re hurting and
scared you’re angry you’re hurting and
scared you’re angry you’re hurting and your heart is beating out of your chest
your heart is beating out of your chest
your heart is beating out of your chest and amidst this entire emotional Inferno
and amidst this entire emotional Inferno
and amidst this entire emotional Inferno you are expected to fight back and if
you are expected to fight back and if
you are expected to fight back and if you can’t fight back you are expected to
you can’t fight back you are expected to
you can’t fight back you are expected to at least yell and scream and beg for
at least yell and scream and beg for
at least yell and scream and beg for help however this is easy to say but
help however this is easy to say but
help however this is easy to say but really difficult to implement how many
really difficult to implement how many
really difficult to implement how many times have we heard people say if it
times have we heard people say if it
times have we heard people say if it happened to me then I would do this or
happened to me then I would do this or
happened to me then I would do this or if he or she really didn’t want it to
if he or she really didn’t want it to
if he or she really didn’t want it to happen he or she would have found a way
happen he or she would have found a way
happen he or she would have found a way to stop it
to stop it
to stop it however that argument is extremely
however that argument is extremely
however that argument is extremely baseless and flawed simply because every
baseless and flawed simply because every
baseless and flawed simply because every human beings brain reacts in a different
human beings brain reacts in a different
human beings brain reacts in a different way to such situations and it is
way to such situations and it is
way to such situations and it is imperative to understand the
imperative to understand the
imperative to understand the functionality of a brain
functionality of a brain
functionality of a brain and what happens to the brain during a
and what happens to the brain during a
and what happens to the brain during a sexual assault in order to delve for
sexual assault in order to delve for
sexual assault in order to delve for though into the idea and to deconstruct
though into the idea and to deconstruct
though into the idea and to deconstruct the idea of self-defense so what happens
the idea of self-defense so what happens
the idea of self-defense so what happens to the brain is basically a very complex
to the brain is basically a very complex
to the brain is basically a very complex mechanism and I’m going to try and
mechanism and I’m going to try and
mechanism and I’m going to try and simplify that for you today so what
simplify that for you today so what
simplify that for you today so what exactly does happen to a brain during a
exactly does happen to a brain during a
exactly does happen to a brain during a sexual assault when you are being
sexual assault when you are being
sexual assault when you are being sexually assaulted your brain tends to
sexually assaulted your brain tends to
sexually assaulted your brain tends to secrete certain hormones to the into the
secrete certain hormones to the into the
secrete certain hormones to the into the body because the Intel that your brain
body because the Intel that your brain
body because the Intel that your brain and body gets is that you’re
and body gets is that you’re
and body gets is that you’re experiencing something that’s
experiencing something that’s
experiencing something that’s threatening that’s traumatizing that’s
threatening that’s traumatizing that’s
threatening that’s traumatizing that’s horrifying
horrifying
horrifying and it’s a given that the body is going
and it’s a given that the body is going
and it’s a given that the body is going to secrete these hormones are a level
to secrete these hormones are a level
to secrete these hormones are a level that is relatively higher than your
that is relatively higher than your
that is relatively higher than your normal amounts and while these hormones
normal amounts and while these hormones
normal amounts and while these hormones are effective in helping the body or to
are effective in helping the body or to
are effective in helping the body or to improve its fight-or-flight response
improve its fight-or-flight response
improve its fight-or-flight response what it essentially does is damage the
what it essentially does is damage the
what it essentially does is damage the circuits in your brain that control
circuits in your brain that control
circuits in your brain that control rational thought
rational thought
rational thought so for instance the parts of your brain
so for instance the parts of your brain
so for instance the parts of your brain that essentially work and make decisions
that essentially work and make decisions
that essentially work and make decisions that go along the lines of if not this
that go along the lines of if not this
that go along the lines of if not this then that those essentially that aspect
then that those essentially that aspect
then that those essentially that aspect of the brain does not work to its
of the brain does not work to its
of the brain does not work to its optimal conditions and in such a
optimal conditions and in such a
optimal conditions and in such a scenario you cannot control your
scenario you cannot control your
scenario you cannot control your rational thought so if someone who had
rational thought so if someone who had
rational thought so if someone who had normal hormones would probably look at a
normal hormones would probably look at a
normal hormones would probably look at a situation and say hey you know well the
situation and say hey you know well the
situation and say hey you know well the rational and logical thing to do would
rational and logical thing to do would
rational and logical thing to do would be this however when you’re in that
be this however when you’re in that
be this however when you’re in that stressful scenario you do not have the
stressful scenario you do not have the
stressful scenario you do not have the ability to think like that and
ability to think like that and
ability to think like that and additionally what tends to happen to
additionally what tends to happen to
additionally what tends to happen to many victims of sexual assault is during
many victims of sexual assault is during
many victims of sexual assault is during the time that they are being assaulted
the time that they are being assaulted
the time that they are being assaulted um their body reduces the available
um their body reduces the available
um their body reduces the available energy for them so they actually lose
energy for them so they actually lose
energy for them so they actually lose the ability to fight to fight back or to
the ability to fight to fight back or to
the ability to fight to fight back or to flee the scene and what tends to happen
flee the scene and what tends to happen
flee the scene and what tends to happen is they freeze so the entire body
is they freeze so the entire body
is they freeze so the entire body essentially freezes and this happens due
essentially freezes and this happens due
essentially freezes and this happens due to that hormonal activation and what can
to that hormonal activation and what can
to that hormonal activation and what can also happen is during this period their
also happen is during this period their
also happen is during this period their body can also shut down completely
body can also shut down completely
body can also shut down completely because of this excessive dose of
because of this excessive dose of
because of this excessive dose of hormones this phenomenon is essentially
hormones this phenomenon is essentially
hormones this phenomenon is essentially called tonic immobility and it’s
called tonic immobility and it’s
called tonic immobility and it’s automatic it’s not something that you
automatic it’s not something that you
automatic it’s not something that you have control over but what happens
have control over but what happens
have control over but what happens during what happens during tonic
during what happens during tonic
during what happens during tonic immobility is that you are ashamed or
immobility is that you are ashamed or
immobility is that you are ashamed or scared of what has happened to them and
scared of what has happened to them and
scared of what has happened to them and they ashamed and guilty of the fact that
they ashamed and guilty of the fact that
they ashamed and guilty of the fact that they froze or they didn’t fight back it
they froze or they didn’t fight back it
they froze or they didn’t fight back it is because of tonic immobility and in
is because of tonic immobility and in
is because of tonic immobility and in fact statistics state that between 12 to
fact statistics state that between 12 to
fact statistics state that between 12 to 50% of the people who have been raped
50% of the people who have been raped
50% of the people who have been raped experienced tonic mobility when they
experienced tonic mobility when they
experienced tonic mobility when they were sexually assaulted and what’s more
were sexually assaulted and what’s more
were sexually assaulted and what’s more shocking is in majority of the cases
shocking is in majority of the cases
shocking is in majority of the cases this value was closer to 50% then to 12%
this value was closer to 50% then to 12%
this value was closer to 50% then to 12% so how we react when we are being
so how we react when we are being
so how we react when we are being sexually assaulted is dependent on the
sexually assaulted is dependent on the
sexually assaulted is dependent on the way our mind has been conditioned in the
way our mind has been conditioned in the
way our mind has been conditioned in the past to encounter fear and it is the
past to encounter fear and it is the
past to encounter fear and it is the lack of that mental conditioning and
lack of that mental conditioning and
lack of that mental conditioning and when that happens that’s when self
when that happens that’s when self
when that happens that’s when self defense fails and despite contrary
defense fails and despite contrary
defense fails and despite contrary belief self defense is actually
belief self defense is actually
belief self defense is actually dependent on your mental state when you
dependent on your mental state when you
dependent on your mental state when you are being attacked as opposed to your
are being attacked as opposed to your
are being attacked as opposed to your physical strength because only when you
physical strength because only when you
physical strength because only when you have the ability to think clearly when
have the ability to think clearly when
have the ability to think clearly when you have the ability when your mind is
you have the ability when your mind is
you have the ability when your mind is calm only then can you think of
calm only then can you think of
calm only then can you think of ingenious ways to protect yourself that
ingenious ways to protect yourself that
ingenious ways to protect yourself that is not that are not reliant simply on
is not that are not reliant simply on
is not that are not reliant simply on physical strength so for instance are
physical strength so for instance are
physical strength so for instance are thinking of like we used to spit in your
thinking of like we used to spit in your
thinking of like we used to spit in your opponent’s eyes at the right time to use
opponent’s eyes at the right time to use
opponent’s eyes at the right time to use the back of your your rings or breaking
the back of your your rings or breaking
the back of your your rings or breaking glass bangles and using those pointed
glass bangles and using those pointed
glass bangles and using those pointed using those pointed devices to pierce
using those pointed devices to pierce
using those pointed devices to pierce pressure points in your opponent or
pressure points in your opponent or
pressure points in your opponent or aggressors body or even using your de
aggressors body or even using your de
aggressors body or even using your de Potter’s and shawls and bag slings
Potter’s and shawls and bag slings
Potter’s and shawls and bag slings effectively to defend yourself are
effectively to defend yourself are
effectively to defend yourself are things that you will not think of if you
things that you will not think of if you
things that you will not think of if you don’t have the ability to think clearly
don’t have the ability to think clearly
don’t have the ability to think clearly and remain calm and this is not just
and remain calm and this is not just
and remain calm and this is not just limited to creative thinking this
limited to creative thinking this
limited to creative thinking this actually transcends beyond that even
actually transcends beyond that even
actually transcends beyond that even when it comes to your basics of
when it comes to your basics of
when it comes to your basics of self-defense which is your kicks your
self-defense which is your kicks your
self-defense which is your kicks your punches one kick that is well
punches one kick that is well
punches one kick that is well and well-positioned is far more
and well-positioned is far more
and well-positioned is far more effective than hundred such kicks which
effective than hundred such kicks which
effective than hundred such kicks which are badly timed and badly positioned but
are badly timed and badly positioned but
are badly timed and badly positioned but then the big question comes up is how do
then the big question comes up is how do
then the big question comes up is how do we train our mind to become calm during
we train our mind to become calm during
we train our mind to become calm during an instance of sexual assault and
an instance of sexual assault and
an instance of sexual assault and ironically that’s one of the easiest
ironically that’s one of the easiest
ironically that’s one of the easiest question easiest answers in fact the
question easiest answers in fact the
question easiest answers in fact the answer is just one single word
answer is just one single word
answer is just one single word manifestation if you have the ability to
manifestation if you have the ability to
manifestation if you have the ability to think and put yourself in that situation
think and put yourself in that situation
think and put yourself in that situation and visualize yourself being harassed
and visualize yourself being harassed
and visualize yourself being harassed and then you train your mind to try and
and then you train your mind to try and
and then you train your mind to try and think of alternatives think of ways
think of alternatives think of ways
think of alternatives think of ways where you can get out of such situations
where you can get out of such situations
where you can get out of such situations then that’s half the battle already won
then that’s half the battle already won
then that’s half the battle already won because if you manifest you can develop
because if you manifest you can develop
because if you manifest you can develop the ability to train your mind to become
the ability to train your mind to become
the ability to train your mind to become calm in stressful situations and the
calm in stressful situations and the
calm in stressful situations and the benefit of being calm is not just that
benefit of being calm is not just that
benefit of being calm is not just that it enables you to positively use the
it enables you to positively use the
it enables you to positively use the adrenaline rush and prepare your
adrenaline rush and prepare your
adrenaline rush and prepare your skeletal muscles for strain but what
skeletal muscles for strain but what
skeletal muscles for strain but what being can actually enables your mind to
being can actually enables your mind to
being can actually enables your mind to do is your you become more composed and
do is your you become more composed and
do is your you become more composed and automatically the moment your composed
automatically the moment your composed
automatically the moment your composed your confidence levels rise and when
your confidence levels rise and when
your confidence levels rise and when your confidence level rises that’s the
your confidence level rises that’s the
your confidence level rises that’s the time when you can negate or at least
time when you can negate or at least
time when you can negate or at least subside your photo great extent and if
subside your photo great extent and if
subside your photo great extent and if you have the ability to master that you
you have the ability to master that you
you have the ability to master that you have the ability to master self defense
have the ability to master self defense
have the ability to master self defense so I’d like to conclude by saying that
so I’d like to conclude by saying that
so I’d like to conclude by saying that self defense is not just about kicks and
self defense is not just about kicks and
self defense is not just about kicks and punches it’s far beyond that it’s all
punches it’s far beyond that it’s all
punches it’s far beyond that it’s all about the mind it is a mind game so I’d
about the mind it is a mind game so I’d
about the mind it is a mind game so I’d like to remind you of y’all that all of
like to remind you of y’all that all of
like to remind you of y’all that all of you are not victims
you are not victims
you are not victims all of you are opponents and as long as
all of you are opponents and as long as
all of you are opponents and as long as you think it you feel it and you believe
you think it you feel it and you believe
you think it you feel it and you believe it
it
it anyone can master the art of
anyone can master the art of
anyone can master the art of self-defense
self-defense
self-defense thank you
thank you
thank you you
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