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Appreciation vs. Appropriation | Megan Malone | TEDxVenetaWomen


oh hi everyone I’m Megan Milan I’m a

oh hi everyone I’m Megan Milan I’m a learning specialist at the University of

learning specialist at the University of

learning specialist at the University of Maryland for the Terrapins um sorry

Maryland for the Terrapins um sorry

Maryland for the Terrapins um sorry cannot be there today I just recently

cannot be there today I just recently

cannot be there today I just recently moved across the country in when the

moved across the country in when the

moved across the country in when the middle of midterms that’s really crazy

middle of midterms that’s really crazy

middle of midterms that’s really crazy I’m sad to miss this event and there’s

I’m sad to miss this event and there’s

I’m sad to miss this event and there’s some great people getting some talk to

some great people getting some talk to

some great people getting some talk to him with some very insight and hopefully

him with some very insight and hopefully

him with some very insight and hopefully there’s transcripts available of my talk

there’s transcripts available of my talk

there’s transcripts available of my talk it’s about appropriation and if you want

it’s about appropriation and if you want

it’s about appropriation and if you want one it’s not available please feel free

one it’s not available please feel free

one it’s not available please feel free to email me my email is on the website

to email me my email is on the website

to email me my email is on the website or if you have any questions or comments

or if you have any questions or comments

or if you have any questions or comments would love to talk about this stuff more

would love to talk about this stuff more

would love to talk about this stuff more um anyway I hope you enjoy thanks a few

um anyway I hope you enjoy thanks a few

um anyway I hope you enjoy thanks a few months ago i was perusing facebook and

months ago i was perusing facebook and

months ago i was perusing facebook and came across my friends status was stated

came across my friends status was stated

came across my friends status was stated appropriation is the thing move on to

appropriation is the thing move on to

appropriation is the thing move on to which an acquaintance of hers commented

which an acquaintance of hers commented

which an acquaintance of hers commented say it louder for the people in the back

say it louder for the people in the back

say it louder for the people in the back i SAT there looking at the status for

i SAT there looking at the status for

i SAT there looking at the status for about five minutes deciding whether or

about five minutes deciding whether or

about five minutes deciding whether or not to inside Facebook more it really

not to inside Facebook more it really

not to inside Facebook more it really wanted to since I a face before I didn’t

wanted to since I a face before I didn’t

wanted to since I a face before I didn’t with slight reluctant Smith’s with

with slight reluctant Smith’s with

with slight reluctant Smith’s with relief I left her facebook page and

relief I left her facebook page and

relief I left her facebook page and tried to move on however the comment

tried to move on however the comment

tried to move on however the comment haunted me and has stayed with me I was

haunted me and has stayed with me I was

haunted me and has stayed with me I was frustrated because I couldn’t come up

frustrated because I couldn’t come up

frustrated because I couldn’t come up with one sentence rebuttal and I was

with one sentence rebuttal and I was

with one sentence rebuttal and I was frustrated because I wanted people to

frustrated because I wanted people to

frustrated because I wanted people to get a question how can I sell a new

get a question how can I sell a new

get a question how can I sell a new believes in social justice isn’t a lie

believes in social justice isn’t a lie

believes in social justice isn’t a lie and advocate not easily defend such a

and advocate not easily defend such a

and advocate not easily defend such a statement hey I’m an educator inciting a

statement hey I’m an educator inciting a

statement hey I’m an educator inciting a Facebook war isn’t always healthy and my

Facebook war isn’t always healthy and my

Facebook war isn’t always healthy and my goals always thoughtful dialogue be

goals always thoughtful dialogue be

goals always thoughtful dialogue be sometimes you get it and sometimes you

sometimes you get it and sometimes you

sometimes you get it and sometimes you don’t see I don’t always have the

don’t see I don’t always have the

don’t see I don’t always have the patience to work with people on these

patience to work with people on these

patience to work with people on these ideas d this transformation comes from

ideas d this transformation comes from

ideas d this transformation comes from within an individual journey of

within an individual journey of

within an individual journey of understanding and finally II as a person

understanding and finally II as a person

understanding and finally II as a person whose translationally adopted my

whose translationally adopted my

whose translationally adopted my indigenous pneus and brown this is

indigenous pneus and brown this is

indigenous pneus and brown this is something I feel and constantly

something I feel and constantly

something I feel and constantly appropriate so today I come to you with

appropriate so today I come to you with

appropriate so today I come to you with one perspective and one answer to the

one perspective and one answer to the

one perspective and one answer to the multi-faceted question what is

multi-faceted question what is

multi-faceted question what is appropriation it isn’t simple it is

appropriation it isn’t simple it is

appropriation it isn’t simple it is complex and I believe appropriation is

complex and I believe appropriation is

complex and I believe appropriation is just one aspect of power privilege

just one aspect of power privilege

just one aspect of power privilege racism in history I don’t expect to

racism in history I don’t expect to

racism in history I don’t expect to answer all your questions in this time

answer all your questions in this time

answer all your questions in this time but just to plant seeds and the share an

but just to plant seeds and the share an

but just to plant seeds and the share an idea so how do we move past the non

idea so how do we move past the non

idea so how do we move past the non black community with locs the African

black community with locs the African

black community with locs the African statues the decorative prayer flags the

statues the decorative prayer flags the

statues the decorative prayer flags the dream catcher tattoos the headdresses at

dream catcher tattoos the headdresses at

dream catcher tattoos the headdresses at Burning Man

Burning Man

Burning Man the drug droid music that alienates a

the drug droid music that alienates a

the drug droid music that alienates a history there is a sense in our

history there is a sense in our

history there is a sense in our patriarchal dominant Americanist that we

patriarchal dominant Americanist that we

patriarchal dominant Americanist that we don’t question ownership and if we do

don’t question ownership and if we do

don’t question ownership and if we do question we’re overreacting and need to

question we’re overreacting and need to

question we’re overreacting and need to get over it today I’m questioning

get over it today I’m questioning

get over it today I’m questioning ownership I’m questioning how to find

ownership I’m questioning how to find

ownership I’m questioning how to find the balance food ownership and

the balance food ownership and

the balance food ownership and celebration back to my friend the need

celebration back to my friend the need

celebration back to my friend the need to be able to get the sugar skull tattoo

to be able to get the sugar skull tattoo

to be able to get the sugar skull tattoo and to justify wearing a t-shirt that

and to justify wearing a t-shirt that

and to justify wearing a t-shirt that has a lion wearing a headdress on what

has a lion wearing a headdress on what

has a lion wearing a headdress on what is appropriation the formal definition

is appropriation the formal definition

is appropriation the formal definition according to merriam-webster online is

according to merriam-webster online is

according to merriam-webster online is an action or instance of taking

an action or instance of taking

an action or instance of taking especially illegally or unfairly in

especially illegally or unfairly in

especially illegally or unfairly in colloquial terms stealing one’s ideas

colloquial terms stealing one’s ideas

colloquial terms stealing one’s ideas and using them as their own how does

and using them as their own how does

and using them as their own how does this play out in our culture we have

this play out in our culture we have

this play out in our culture we have American food the cheeseburger in the

American food the cheeseburger in the

American food the cheeseburger in the good old twice baked potato and on a

good old twice baked potato and on a

good old twice baked potato and on a larger scale or Society struggles with

larger scale or Society struggles with

larger scale or Society struggles with the idea of land ownership identity

the idea of land ownership identity

the idea of land ownership identity Native American African American history

Native American African American history

Native American African American history and trauma to name a few we take the

and trauma to name a few we take the

and trauma to name a few we take the cool pieces the pretty things but we

cool pieces the pretty things but we

cool pieces the pretty things but we don’t recognize the pain and the grief

don’t recognize the pain and the grief

don’t recognize the pain and the grief that the minorities are can you loosen

that the minorities are can you loosen

that the minorities are can you loosen dirt think about these examples of how

dirt think about these examples of how

dirt think about these examples of how we appropriate other cultures think

we appropriate other cultures think

we appropriate other cultures think about how generic our descriptions on

about how generic our descriptions on

about how generic our descriptions on the terms like tribal geometric or

the terms like tribal geometric or

the terms like tribal geometric or ethnic once speaking of clothing or

ethnic once speaking of clothing or

ethnic once speaking of clothing or jewelry instead we should be thinking

jewelry instead we should be thinking

jewelry instead we should be thinking I’ll take sue and dinnae think about

I’ll take sue and dinnae think about

I’ll take sue and dinnae think about symbolism and living the thoughts and

symbolism and living the thoughts and

symbolism and living the thoughts and connections behind the objects in lieu

connections behind the objects in lieu

connections behind the objects in lieu of exotic and unique people

of exotic and unique people

of exotic and unique people unceremoniously where the bindi and

unceremoniously where the bindi and

unceremoniously where the bindi and twerk without recognizing what cultures

twerk without recognizing what cultures

twerk without recognizing what cultures they come from and why the communities

they come from and why the communities

they come from and why the communities developed them it may be the larger

developed them it may be the larger

developed them it may be the larger issue here is the role art place in our

issue here is the role art place in our

issue here is the role art place in our society and the idea that we can share

society and the idea that we can share

society and the idea that we can share everything but by sharing everything we

everything but by sharing everything we

everything but by sharing everything we don’t take the time to honor and give

don’t take the time to honor and give

don’t take the time to honor and give respect to where language and religions

respect to where language and religions

respect to where language and religions objects and designs are created we tend

objects and designs are created we tend

objects and designs are created we tend to think once we visited the community

to think once we visited the community

to think once we visited the community or they’ve shared a piece of their

or they’ve shared a piece of their

or they’ve shared a piece of their culture with us it then is our own we

culture with us it then is our own we

culture with us it then is our own we tend to think that once we’ve read it or

tend to think that once we’ve read it or

tend to think that once we’ve read it or it is being sold in the store that we

it is being sold in the store that we

it is being sold in the store that we can use it companies like forever 21

can use it companies like forever 21

can use it companies like forever 21 Pottery Barn take these names and

Pottery Barn take these names and

Pottery Barn take these names and designs and ideas and make commodities

designs and ideas and make commodities

designs and ideas and make commodities to look different or exotic it goes from

to look different or exotic it goes from

to look different or exotic it goes from having meaning and symbolism to mass

having meaning and symbolism to mass

having meaning and symbolism to mass production and nothingness now that you

production and nothingness now that you

production and nothingness now that you have the images of prayer flags some

have the images of prayer flags some

have the images of prayer flags some brands the rapper Eminem rolling around

brands the rapper Eminem rolling around

brands the rapper Eminem rolling around your head as you move over the idea of

your head as you move over the idea of

your head as you move over the idea of appropriation let me go back to e as a

appropriation let me go back to e as a

appropriation let me go back to e as a person who’s trans

person who’s trans

person who’s trans actually adopted my indigenous and brown

actually adopted my indigenous and brown

actually adopted my indigenous and brown this is something I feel I’m constantly

this is something I feel I’m constantly

this is something I feel I’m constantly appropriating my family is very Italian

appropriating my family is very Italian

appropriating my family is very Italian and very white and I grew up in a very

and very white and I grew up in a very

and very white and I grew up in a very white community I’m not those things my

white community I’m not those things my

white community I’m not those things my mom was always good at normalizing my

mom was always good at normalizing my

mom was always good at normalizing my adoption by saying things like I love my

adoption by saying things like I love my

adoption by saying things like I love my doggy baby girl she never wanted my

doggy baby girl she never wanted my

doggy baby girl she never wanted my adoption to be a surprise or something

adoption to be a surprise or something

adoption to be a surprise or something people could make fun of but she also

people could make fun of but she also

people could make fun of but she also knew that raising a brown baby in a

knew that raising a brown baby in a

knew that raising a brown baby in a white family was nothing that could be

white family was nothing that could be

white family was nothing that could be hidden nor should it be how do you

hidden nor should it be how do you

hidden nor should it be how do you celebrate your child’s heritage and

celebrate your child’s heritage and

celebrate your child’s heritage and identity without marriage rising in I

identity without marriage rising in I

identity without marriage rising in I knew very early on that I was different

knew very early on that I was different

knew very early on that I was different it was really hard to hide dark skin and

it was really hard to hide dark skin and

it was really hard to hide dark skin and a white family my grandma would say I

a white family my grandma would say I

a white family my grandma would say I tried to stay 10 when you were younger

tried to stay 10 when you were younger

tried to stay 10 when you were younger so that you could feel like you fit into

so that you could feel like you fit into

so that you could feel like you fit into the family while the sentiment was love

the family while the sentiment was love

the family while the sentiment was love there was a lot of awareness in what she

there was a lot of awareness in what she

there was a lot of awareness in what she was saying my mom would take me two

was saying my mom would take me two

was saying my mom would take me two different malls to walk around and see

different malls to walk around and see

different malls to walk around and see the diversity around me when I was a

the diversity around me when I was a

the diversity around me when I was a toddler I once dated mom everyone around

toddler I once dated mom everyone around

toddler I once dated mom everyone around here looks like me and not like you it

here looks like me and not like you it

here looks like me and not like you it was obvious to me and being so young I

was obvious to me and being so young I

was obvious to me and being so young I never saw a problem at one point she

never saw a problem at one point she

never saw a problem at one point she also took me to a Native American Museum

also took me to a Native American Museum

also took me to a Native American Museum I stated I finally feel like I fit in

I stated I finally feel like I fit in

I stated I finally feel like I fit in growing up in a white family I know what

growing up in a white family I know what

growing up in a white family I know what it means to be of power and privilege to

it means to be of power and privilege to

it means to be of power and privilege to be able to do anything but while my

be able to do anything but while my

be able to do anything but while my family’s said I could do what I want I

family’s said I could do what I want I

family’s said I could do what I want I have the constant reminder of my

have the constant reminder of my

have the constant reminder of my community telling me hey Megan you’re

community telling me hey Megan you’re

community telling me hey Megan you’re one of us Brown isn’t a thing in my

one of us Brown isn’t a thing in my

one of us Brown isn’t a thing in my society around me saying hey Megan

society around me saying hey Megan

society around me saying hey Megan remember you are brown how do you

remember you are brown how do you

remember you are brown how do you balance the concert reminded of your

balance the concert reminded of your

balance the concert reminded of your skin color with the concert reminder

skin color with the concert reminder

skin color with the concert reminder that you should forget it and somehow it

that you should forget it and somehow it

that you should forget it and somehow it doesn’t matter what my looks alone

doesn’t matter what my looks alone

doesn’t matter what my looks alone people told me to learn Spanish I

people told me to learn Spanish I

people told me to learn Spanish I learned Arabic instead with my looks

learned Arabic instead with my looks

learned Arabic instead with my looks alone they assumed I was raised by a

alone they assumed I was raised by a

alone they assumed I was raised by a single parent with my looks alone they

single parent with my looks alone they

single parent with my looks alone they told me I spoke English well my adoption

told me I spoke English well my adoption

told me I spoke English well my adoption history is typical I have a birth mother

history is typical I have a birth mother

history is typical I have a birth mother who found she couldn’t take care of me

who found she couldn’t take care of me

who found she couldn’t take care of me so she decided to give me up for

so she decided to give me up for

so she decided to give me up for adoption instead of raising me in her

adoption instead of raising me in her

adoption instead of raising me in her third world but by doing so I don’t get

third world but by doing so I don’t get

third world but by doing so I don’t get the honor of the privilege of moving in

the honor of the privilege of moving in

the honor of the privilege of moving in my indigenous pneus I don’t get to

my indigenous pneus I don’t get to

my indigenous pneus I don’t get to breathe the music or traditions of my

breathe the music or traditions of my

breathe the music or traditions of my heritage I have been searching for a

heritage I have been searching for a

heritage I have been searching for a place to belong I sit in between two

place to belong I sit in between two

place to belong I sit in between two worlds the world of the privilege in the

worlds the world of the privilege in the

worlds the world of the privilege in the world of the oppressed

world of the oppressed

world of the oppressed I want the sugar skull tattoo I want to

I want the sugar skull tattoo I want to

I want the sugar skull tattoo I want to wear the poncho I want to embrace my

wear the poncho I want to embrace my

wear the poncho I want to embrace my indigenous I want to sit with my native

indigenous I want to sit with my native

indigenous I want to sit with my native ancestors to breed what they teach but

ancestors to breed what they teach but

ancestors to breed what they teach but my education I am upbringing says no

my education I am upbringing says no

my education I am upbringing says no Megan you aren’t one of them because you

Megan you aren’t one of them because you

Megan you aren’t one of them because you weren’t raised in your culture of

weren’t raised in your culture of

weren’t raised in your culture of heritage I constantly battle wanting to

heritage I constantly battle wanting to

heritage I constantly battle wanting to embrace my heritage but I feel like an

embrace my heritage but I feel like an

embrace my heritage but I feel like an imposter but I don’t look like an

imposter but I don’t look like an

imposter but I don’t look like an imposter but I talk like an imposter my

imposter but I talk like an imposter my

imposter but I talk like an imposter my education throws the under a bus because

education throws the under a bus because

education throws the under a bus because remember I speak English too well I

remember I speak English too well I

remember I speak English too well I respect to the space and now I can’t be

respect to the space and now I can’t be

respect to the space and now I can’t be part of it I know that sometimes I need

part of it I know that sometimes I need

part of it I know that sometimes I need to just be an observer not a toner

to just be an observer not a toner

to just be an observer not a toner American this is a melting pot of

American this is a melting pot of

American this is a melting pot of cultures and ideas and in that those

cultures and ideas and in that those

cultures and ideas and in that those with the power and privilege live in

with the power and privilege live in

with the power and privilege live in their culture and community without

their culture and community without

their culture and community without rubber band what stands out are those

rubber band what stands out are those

rubber band what stands out are those who are other those other become the hot

who are other those other become the hot

who are other those other become the hot commodity those others are the newest

commodity those others are the newest

commodity those others are the newest trend my answer to the question what is

trend my answer to the question what is

trend my answer to the question what is appropriation is appreciation back to my

appropriation is appreciation back to my

appropriation is appreciation back to my definitions appreciation is defined as

definitions appreciation is defined as

definitions appreciation is defined as an ability to understand the worth

an ability to understand the worth

an ability to understand the worth quality and importance of something a

quality and importance of something a

quality and importance of something a full awareness or understanding of

full awareness or understanding of

full awareness or understanding of something when I look at those prayer

something when I look at those prayer

something when I look at those prayer flags you hang on your porch when I look

flags you hang on your porch when I look

flags you hang on your porch when I look at that geisha halloween costume you

at that geisha halloween costume you

at that geisha halloween costume you wear a halloween party when I hear you

wear a halloween party when I hear you

wear a halloween party when I hear you wrapping a jay-z song I question did you

wrapping a jay-z song I question did you

wrapping a jay-z song I question did you understand me I question if you

understand me I question if you

understand me I question if you understand the importance I question if

understand the importance I question if

understand the importance I question if you have the years of reflection that

you have the years of reflection that

you have the years of reflection that those cookies live every day I question

those cookies live every day I question

those cookies live every day I question if you understand the pain they feel

if you understand the pain they feel

if you understand the pain they feel when their culture and customs are being

when their culture and customs are being

when their culture and customs are being distorted in this represented I think

distorted in this represented I think

distorted in this represented I think how can they when I can’t respect the

how can they when I can’t respect the

how can they when I can’t respect the space and no you can’t be a part of it

space and no you can’t be a part of it

space and no you can’t be a part of it be an observer not an old owner

be an observer not an old owner

be an observer not an old owner celebrate through appreciation thank you

celebrate through appreciation thank you

celebrate through appreciation thank you [Music]

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