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so when I was a wee lad I wanted to look
so when I was a wee lad I wanted to look like this and for those who don’t know
like this and for those who don’t know
like this and for those who don’t know that is mm boyband busted and they are
that is mm boyband busted and they are
that is mm boyband busted and they are the coolest things you could possibly
the coolest things you could possibly
the coolest things you could possibly ever be they were every girl’s teenage
ever be they were every girl’s teenage
ever be they were every girl’s teenage heartthrob and every boys envy they sang
heartthrob and every boys envy they sang
heartthrob and every boys envy they sang songs about crushing weddings and
songs about crushing weddings and
songs about crushing weddings and getting without her as their sees and
getting without her as their sees and
getting without her as their sees and they were amazing so I try my best and I
they were amazing so I try my best and I
they were amazing so I try my best and I did try my best and I ended up looking
did try my best and I ended up looking
did try my best and I ended up looking like this so the question is why did I
like this so the question is why did I
like this so the question is why did I care enough the ones who look like that
care enough the ones who look like that
care enough the ones who look like that why did I actually get bothered about
why did I actually get bothered about
why did I actually get bothered about wanting to look like busted and it’s
wanting to look like busted and it’s
wanting to look like busted and it’s because it is a society that I grew up
because it is a society that I grew up
because it is a society that I grew up in and it’s a society that repressed his
in and it’s a society that repressed his
in and it’s a society that repressed his creativity and a society that encourages
creativity and a society that encourages
creativity and a society that encourages apathy that tells is it’s not cool to
apathy that tells is it’s not cool to
apathy that tells is it’s not cool to know things and that it’s not cool to go
know things and that it’s not cool to go
know things and that it’s not cool to go to school and try hard it’s not cool to
to school and try hard it’s not cool to
to school and try hard it’s not cool to tell your family you love them open it’s
tell your family you love them open it’s
tell your family you love them open it’s not cool to be openly in love with
not cool to be openly in love with
not cool to be openly in love with yourself and it’s not cool to express
yourself and it’s not cool to express
yourself and it’s not cool to express anything that is an absolute mediocrity
anything that is an absolute mediocrity
anything that is an absolute mediocrity and you might be able to see this in a
and you might be able to see this in a
and you might be able to see this in a lot of your life it might be that you
lot of your life it might be that you
lot of your life it might be that you get a call early in the morning from one
get a call early in the morning from one
get a call early in the morning from one of your kids and they say hey can you
of your kids and they say hey can you
of your kids and they say hey can you pick me up from a party but can you park
pick me up from a party but can you park
pick me up from a party but can you park around the corner just so no one knows
around the corner just so no one knows
around the corner just so no one knows that I have parents that you know or you
that I have parents that you know or you
that I have parents that you know or you might drop your kids off at school and
might drop your kids off at school and
might drop your kids off at school and you might okay you might say Oh see you
you might okay you might say Oh see you
you might okay you might say Oh see you later I love you and they might go as if
later I love you and they might go as if
later I love you and they might go as if it’s some sort of state secret that
it’s some sort of state secret that
it’s some sort of state secret that parents like really love their children
parents like really love their children
parents like really love their children and I know it’s in relationships
and I know it’s in relationships
and I know it’s in relationships particularly in my generation where
particularly in my generation where
particularly in my generation where they’ve become a competition about who
they’ve become a competition about who
they’ve become a competition about who can love each other less it’s now become
can love each other less it’s now become
can love each other less it’s now become about who can play it cool whatever that
about who can play it cool whatever that
about who can play it cool whatever that actually means is beyond me but it’s
actually means is beyond me but it’s
actually means is beyond me but it’s about who can treat the mean to keep
about who can treat the mean to keep
about who can treat the mean to keep them keen which is the worst idea ever
them keen which is the worst idea ever
them keen which is the worst idea ever what happened to
what happened to
what happened to openly loving someone it’s like it’s
openly loving someone it’s like it’s
openly loving someone it’s like it’s been reserved for one day of the year
been reserved for one day of the year
been reserved for one day of the year but this is something that I was very
but this is something that I was very
but this is something that I was very much involved in so one time me and my
much involved in so one time me and my
much involved in so one time me and my friends were at the bar and we’re all
friends were at the bar and we’re all
friends were at the bar and we’re all having drinks it was a good time you
having drinks it was a good time you
having drinks it was a good time you know night out with the lads and my
know night out with the lads and my
know night out with the lads and my friend got a call from his girlfriend
friend got a call from his girlfriend
friend got a call from his girlfriend but she answered it she was crying she
but she answered it she was crying she
but she answered it she was crying she was upset you need to come and get him
was upset you need to come and get him
was upset you need to come and get him she needed him to come get her
she needed him to come get her
she needed him to come get her so he put the phone down next his pint
so he put the phone down next his pint
so he put the phone down next his pint obviously and he went and we all started
obviously and he went and we all started
obviously and he went and we all started giving him stick for it we were like oh
giving him stick for it we were like oh
giving him stick for it we were like oh man you’re so under the thumb you’re so
man you’re so under the thumb you’re so
man you’re so under the thumb you’re so whipped what are you doing this was a
whipped what are you doing this was a
whipped what are you doing this was a night out with the lads and you’re
night out with the lads and you’re
night out with the lads and you’re leaving us to go and help your
leaving us to go and help your
leaving us to go and help your girlfriend who you love Lots and she
girlfriend who you love Lots and she
girlfriend who you love Lots and she needs you and it was really weird but
needs you and it was really weird but
needs you and it was really weird but this is a culture that I was very much
this is a culture that I was very much
this is a culture that I was very much involved in and it is a culture that is
involved in and it is a culture that is
involved in and it is a culture that is primarily enforced by young men of my
primarily enforced by young men of my
primarily enforced by young men of my age and it’s this idea that if you have
age and it’s this idea that if you have
age and it’s this idea that if you have emotions that are mediocrity you’re not
emotions that are mediocrity you’re not
emotions that are mediocrity you’re not prepared to deal with them so when
prepared to deal with them so when
prepared to deal with them so when something comes to you you greet you
something comes to you you greet you
something comes to you you greet you with the stiff upper lip and you beat
with the stiff upper lip and you beat
with the stiff upper lip and you beat your chest when it comes at you and it
your chest when it comes at you and it
your chest when it comes at you and it can’t hurt you but this is stupid it
can’t hurt you but this is stupid it
can’t hurt you but this is stupid it doesn’t work it’s a terrible idea
doesn’t work it’s a terrible idea
doesn’t work it’s a terrible idea because I was one of the people that it
because I was one of the people that it
because I was one of the people that it failed so when I was 17 I am my head
failed so when I was 17 I am my head
failed so when I was 17 I am my head stopped working it I was a happy kid I
stopped working it I was a happy kid I
stopped working it I was a happy kid I had friends of someone he loved me I was
had friends of someone he loved me I was
had friends of someone he loved me I was doing very well in school
doing very well in school
doing very well in school Gomis but my head just stopped working
Gomis but my head just stopped working
Gomis but my head just stopped working and it’s terrified like it’s terrifying
and it’s terrified like it’s terrifying
and it’s terrified like it’s terrifying to wake up and notice that you are not
to wake up and notice that you are not
to wake up and notice that you are not your former self you are something of a
your former self you are something of a
your former self you are something of a lesser fraction and it terrified the
lesser fraction and it terrified the
lesser fraction and it terrified the crap out of me and it meant that I
crap out of me and it meant that I
crap out of me and it meant that I stopped eating I stopped sleeping I lost
stopped eating I stopped sleeping I lost
stopped eating I stopped sleeping I lost weight I became distant my friends and
weight I became distant my friends and
weight I became distant my friends and family I lost relationships that I have
family I lost relationships that I have
family I lost relationships that I have not got back to this day which is not a
not got back to this day which is not a
not got back to this day which is not a good thing so eventually I went to the
good thing so eventually I went to the
good thing so eventually I went to the doctors and the lovely lady there put me
doctors and the lovely lady there put me
doctors and the lovely lady there put me on a delightful concoction of various
on a delightful concoction of various
on a delightful concoction of various drugs which was fun and then I started
drugs which was fun and then I started
drugs which was fun and then I started getting therapy and it was in this
getting therapy and it was in this
getting therapy and it was in this therapy in which I was told to be more
therapy in which I was told to be more
therapy in which I was told to be more open about my emotions which is the most
open about my emotions which is the most
open about my emotions which is the most cliched so everything in the world but
cliched so everything in the world but
cliched so everything in the world but believe it or not actually works and it
believe it or not actually works and it
believe it or not actually works and it was where I was told to start enjoying
was where I was told to start enjoying
was where I was told to start enjoying things because I enjoy the things not
things because I enjoy the things not
things because I enjoy the things not because I’m brought up in this culture
because I’m brought up in this culture
because I’m brought up in this culture where I’m a man and I
where I’m a man and I
where I’m a man and I football I know our joy football because
football I know our joy football because
football I know our joy football because I like football and I now enjoy Abba and
I like football and I now enjoy Abba and
I like football and I now enjoy Abba and girly drinks because great bands and
girly drinks because great bands and
girly drinks because great bands and some really good drinks and this is the
some really good drinks and this is the
some really good drinks and this is the point where we’ve been stemmed into this
point where we’ve been stemmed into this
point where we’ve been stemmed into this one mold in which our apathy rules are
one mold in which our apathy rules are
one mold in which our apathy rules are and we don’t enjoy things for wanting to
and we don’t enjoy things for wanting to
and we don’t enjoy things for wanting to enjoy them which leaves us hollow it
enjoy them which leaves us hollow it
enjoy them which leaves us hollow it leaves us not enjoying the things we
leaves us not enjoying the things we
leaves us not enjoying the things we want to and then if we allow ourselves
want to and then if we allow ourselves
want to and then if we allow ourselves to enjoy things because we do enjoy them
to enjoy things because we do enjoy them
to enjoy things because we do enjoy them it means we can make emotional
it means we can make emotional
it means we can make emotional connections with our friends and with
connections with our friends and with
connections with our friends and with our family that are gonna be inseparable
our family that are gonna be inseparable
our family that are gonna be inseparable they’re gonna be stronger than before
they’re gonna be stronger than before
they’re gonna be stronger than before and it means that when bad things do
and it means that when bad things do
and it means that when bad things do happen and bad things that will happen
happen and bad things that will happen
happen and bad things that will happen in life you can be ready to help them
in life you can be ready to help them
in life you can be ready to help them you won’t need to ask your friends for
you won’t need to ask your friends for
you won’t need to ask your friends for help because they already know you need
help because they already know you need
help because they already know you need help they know you that well and you
help they know you that well and you
help they know you that well and you know them that well that they’re coming
know them that well that they’re coming
know them that well that they’re coming for you and they’ve got your back
for you and they’ve got your back
for you and they’ve got your back because things are gonna happen your
because things are gonna happen your
because things are gonna happen your house might get flooded you might lose a
house might get flooded you might lose a
house might get flooded you might lose a loved one you might lose your job you
loved one you might lose your job you
loved one you might lose your job you might get lost you might end up in
might get lost you might end up in
might get lost you might end up in hospital terrible things happen and we
hospital terrible things happen and we
hospital terrible things happen and we have this attitude that we can stop we
have this attitude that we can stop we
have this attitude that we can stop we can stand there and put our chest out
can stand there and put our chest out
can stand there and put our chest out and say no no that’s not gonna happen to
and say no no that’s not gonna happen to
and say no no that’s not gonna happen to me that’s not gonna happen to me at all
me that’s not gonna happen to me at all
me that’s not gonna happen to me at all I’m better than that I’m stronger than
I’m better than that I’m stronger than
I’m better than that I’m stronger than that I’m bigger than that but not one of
that I’m bigger than that but not one of
that I’m bigger than that but not one of you will be able to say that something
you will be able to say that something
you will be able to say that something bad doesn’t happen to you they’re gonna
bad doesn’t happen to you they’re gonna
bad doesn’t happen to you they’re gonna it’s gonna come and if you haven’t it’s
it’s gonna come and if you haven’t it’s
it’s gonna come and if you haven’t it’s gonna come eventually so it’s best
gonna come eventually so it’s best
gonna come eventually so it’s best instead of trying desperately to put
instead of trying desperately to put
instead of trying desperately to put your barriers up it’s best to make these
your barriers up it’s best to make these
your barriers up it’s best to make these emotional connections with your friends
emotional connections with your friends
emotional connections with your friends and get the help you need from your
and get the help you need from your
and get the help you need from your friends when it comes so when the
friends when it comes so when the
friends when it comes so when the situation does arise in which you do
situation does arise in which you do
situation does arise in which you do need help cause he welcome your friends
need help cause he welcome your friends
need help cause he welcome your friends are there for you and the consequences
are there for you and the consequences
are there for you and the consequences of failing to make these emotional
of failing to make these emotional
of failing to make these emotional connections are the most important thing
connections are the most important thing
connections are the most important thing to me because it is the consequences of
to me because it is the consequences of
to me because it is the consequences of men failing to express their emotions
men failing to express their emotions
men failing to express their emotions and failing to be in touch themselves
and failing to be in touch themselves
and failing to be in touch themselves and having too much in their head and
and having too much in their head and
and having too much in their head and not being able to say a single bit of it
not being able to say a single bit of it
not being able to say a single bit of it because suicide is the biggest killer of
because suicide is the biggest killer of
because suicide is the biggest killer of men between the ages of 20 and 49
men between the ages of 20 and 49
men between the ages of 20 and 49 in 2017 7,000 people in the United
in 2017 7,000 people in the United
in 2017 7,000 people in the United Kingdom will kill themselves they’ll
Kingdom will kill themselves they’ll
Kingdom will kill themselves they’ll take the decision to leave their friends
take the decision to leave their friends
take the decision to leave their friends their family their wife their husband
their family their wife their husband
their family their wife their husband their kids and their loved ones and now
their kids and their loved ones and now
their kids and their loved ones and now end their life 7,000 people
end their life 7,000 people
end their life 7,000 people this is wiping us out like an epidemic
this is wiping us out like an epidemic
this is wiping us out like an epidemic if it was any other threat to society it
if it was any other threat to society it
if it was any other threat to society it will be stopped if it was a disease it
will be stopped if it was a disease it
will be stopped if it was a disease it would be vaccinated if it was a war we
would be vaccinated if it was a war we
would be vaccinated if it was a war we would have already lost because we’re
would have already lost because we’re
would have already lost because we’re not addressing this this is a thing that
not addressing this this is a thing that
not addressing this this is a thing that we are sticking with a stiff upper lip
we are sticking with a stiff upper lip
we are sticking with a stiff upper lip which is beginning to quiver and we’re
which is beginning to quiver and we’re
which is beginning to quiver and we’re beating our chests which is beginning to
beating our chests which is beginning to
beating our chests which is beginning to cave in because we’re not prepared to
cave in because we’re not prepared to
cave in because we’re not prepared to deal with it and it’s getting to the
deal with it and it’s getting to the
deal with it and it’s getting to the point now where it’s ridiculous
point now where it’s ridiculous
point now where it’s ridiculous so I’m asking you guys today you came
so I’m asking you guys today you came
so I’m asking you guys today you came here with someone presumably are you mad
here with someone presumably are you mad
here with someone presumably are you mad on your own in this case you’ll get
on your own in this case you’ll get
on your own in this case you’ll get thrown out but when I’m done rambling
thrown out but when I’m done rambling
thrown out but when I’m done rambling you ask the person to your left or to
you ask the person to your left or to
you ask the person to your left or to your right how are you doing how they’re
your right how are you doing how they’re
your right how are you doing how they’re doing you tell them that you’re doing
doing you tell them that you’re doing
doing you tell them that you’re doing alright and I don’t mean like hey man
alright and I don’t mean like hey man
alright and I don’t mean like hey man yeah how’s it going them little fist
yeah how’s it going them little fist
yeah how’s it going them little fist bump things I mean like how are you are
bump things I mean like how are you are
bump things I mean like how are you are you okay how is how would you like how’s
you okay how is how would you like how’s
you okay how is how would you like how’s things going is your family okay
things going is your family okay
things going is your family okay how is your job going how is your head
how is your job going how is your head
how is your job going how is your head doing because these things are important
doing because these things are important
doing because these things are important and they get brushed over so much so
and they get brushed over so much so
and they get brushed over so much so smoothly that it becomes almost the norm
smoothly that it becomes almost the norm
smoothly that it becomes almost the norm to brush them over we just ask them how
to brush them over we just ask them how
to brush them over we just ask them how they are and when you walk out that door
they are and when you walk out that door
they are and when you walk out that door for your lunch break or whatever you
for your lunch break or whatever you
for your lunch break or whatever you tell your ma or tell your dar that you
tell your ma or tell your dar that you
tell your ma or tell your dar that you love them tell your brothers and your
love them tell your brothers and your
love them tell your brothers and your sisters and your kids tell your best
sisters and your kids tell your best
sisters and your kids tell your best friend because chances are you do okay
friend because chances are you do okay
friend because chances are you do okay because otherwise they wouldn’t be your
because otherwise they wouldn’t be your
because otherwise they wouldn’t be your best friend let them know you love them
best friend let them know you love them
best friend let them know you love them make these emotional connections with
make these emotional connections with
make these emotional connections with people get rid of this apathy because
people get rid of this apathy because
people get rid of this apathy because when something bad comes you’ll be able
when something bad comes you’ll be able
when something bad comes you’ll be able to deal with it and in a time where we
to deal with it and in a time where we
to deal with it and in a time where we are increasingly consumed by an
are increasingly consumed by an
are increasingly consumed by an overarching theme of hate this little
overarching theme of hate this little
overarching theme of hate this little bit of love is not going to hurt anyone
bit of love is not going to hurt anyone
bit of love is not going to hurt anyone Thanks
Thanks
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