An Army of Good Fathers | Elca Grobler | TEDxHyderabad

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[Music] just imagine my plight the first time I

just imagine my plight the first time I

just imagine my plight the first time I tried crossing a busy Indian road with

tried crossing a busy Indian road with

tried crossing a busy Indian road with my three young children in tow I was in

my three young children in tow I was in

my three young children in tow I was in the old city of Hyderabad just one week

the old city of Hyderabad just one week

the old city of Hyderabad just one week after we moved to India and it was my

after we moved to India and it was my

after we moved to India and it was my first time ever in the city I was still

first time ever in the city I was still

first time ever in the city I was still trying to get used to the sights and the

trying to get used to the sights and the

trying to get used to the sights and the smells and the sounds of India and there

smells and the sounds of India and there

smells and the sounds of India and there I was stuck on the side of the road and

I was stuck on the side of the road and

I was stuck on the side of the road and I could not get to the other side

I could not get to the other side

I could not get to the other side they were cars and carts neither were

they were cars and carts neither were

they were cars and carts neither were tuk tuks they were street sellers they

tuk tuks they were street sellers they

tuk tuks they were street sellers they were Biggers

were Biggers

were Biggers they were animals they were two wheelers

they were animals they were two wheelers

they were animals they were two wheelers three wheelers four wheelers and even

three wheelers four wheelers and even

three wheelers four wheelers and even water buffalo all going in both

water buffalo all going in both

water buffalo all going in both directions and amazingly they were also

directions and amazingly they were also

directions and amazingly they were also people crossing this road without

people crossing this road without

people crossing this road without bothering to look both ways everyone was

bothering to look both ways everyone was

bothering to look both ways everyone was able to dive into the chaos except us we

able to dive into the chaos except us we

able to dive into the chaos except us we were stuck on the side of the road I

were stuck on the side of the road I

were stuck on the side of the road I eventually had to ask a auto driver to

eventually had to ask a auto driver to

eventually had to ask a auto driver to pretty please

pretty please

pretty please just drop us on the other side of the

just drop us on the other side of the

just drop us on the other side of the road I’m happy to say I no longer have

road I’m happy to say I no longer have

road I’m happy to say I no longer have to stand on the side of the road and

to stand on the side of the road and

to stand on the side of the road and even my youngest daughter just puts out

even my youngest daughter just puts out

even my youngest daughter just puts out her hand confidently and stops the

her hand confidently and stops the

her hand confidently and stops the traffic

it has been seven years since that day

it has been seven years since that day and I have been forever changed India

and I have been forever changed India

and I have been forever changed India can overwhelm you with her love but she

can overwhelm you with her love but she

can overwhelm you with her love but she can also destroy you with her violence

can also destroy you with her violence

can also destroy you with her violence especially if you are women or a goal

especially if you are women or a goal

especially if you are women or a goal now you might wonder how does a South

now you might wonder how does a South

now you might wonder how does a South African who is not a cricketer ends up

African who is not a cricketer ends up

African who is not a cricketer ends up in Hyderabad working on Jaina boys

in Hyderabad working on Jaina boys

in Hyderabad working on Jaina boys violence well for the long story you’ll

violence well for the long story you’ll

violence well for the long story you’ll have to come and have try with me at my

have to come and have try with me at my

have to come and have try with me at my house for the short story they say a

house for the short story they say a

house for the short story they say a dream is something you want to do but a

dream is something you want to do but a

dream is something you want to do but a calling is something you have to do and

calling is something you have to do and

calling is something you have to do and out of that calling my choices

out of that calling my choices

out of that calling my choices foundation was founded six years ago my

foundation was founded six years ago my

foundation was founded six years ago my background is an investment banking and

background is an investment banking and

background is an investment banking and finance so when we moved to India I was

finance so when we moved to India I was

finance so when we moved to India I was hoping to use this finance background to

hoping to use this finance background to

hoping to use this finance background to help women and empower them to better

help women and empower them to better

help women and empower them to better understand the finance so in turn they

understand the finance so in turn they

understand the finance so in turn they can better support their families

can better support their families

can better support their families sounded so simple at the time but that

sounded so simple at the time but that

sounded so simple at the time but that is not how things panned out for my

is not how things panned out for my

is not how things panned out for my first six months in Hyderabad I have

first six months in Hyderabad I have

first six months in Hyderabad I have visited as many NGOs women’s groups

visited as many NGOs women’s groups

visited as many NGOs women’s groups self-help groups busty meetings

self-help groups busty meetings

self-help groups busty meetings community meetings as I could and time

community meetings as I could and time

community meetings as I could and time and time again after the first chai the

and time again after the first chai the

and time again after the first chai the women would slowly open up and start

women would slowly open up and start

women would slowly open up and start sharing the horror and brutality of

sharing the horror and brutality of

sharing the horror and brutality of their daily lives

their daily lives

their daily lives live sweet o mystic violence and abuse

live sweet o mystic violence and abuse

live sweet o mystic violence and abuse was the norm and I soon learned that

was the norm and I soon learned that

was the norm and I soon learned that these women and these stories were not

these women and these stories were not

these women and these stories were not the exception but let’s put the

the exception but let’s put the

the exception but let’s put the statistics into reality could each one

statistics into reality could each one

statistics into reality could each one of you who received an orange flag

of you who received an orange flag

of you who received an orange flag please wave it in the air now please

please wave it in the air now please

please wave it in the air now please have a look around you if India’s

have a look around you if India’s

have a look around you if India’s population of one and three billion was

population of one and three billion was

population of one and three billion was boiled down to the of this group then

boiled down to the of this group then

boiled down to the of this group then each one of you holding a flag

each one of you holding a flag

each one of you holding a flag represents women facing abuse at home

represents women facing abuse at home

represents women facing abuse at home this is what it looks like over 40% of

this is what it looks like over 40% of

this is what it looks like over 40% of Indian women face abuse in their home

Indian women face abuse in their home

Indian women face abuse in their home and it’s difficult to believe but

and it’s difficult to believe but

and it’s difficult to believe but research shows that over half of Indian

research shows that over half of Indian

research shows that over half of Indian men women boys and girls believe that a

men women boys and girls believe that a

men women boys and girls believe that a man heating his wife is a justifiable

man heating his wife is a justifiable

man heating his wife is a justifiable expression of his masculinity and

expression of his masculinity and

expression of his masculinity and globally fairness against women and

globally fairness against women and

globally fairness against women and girls are the most destructive pandemic

girls are the most destructive pandemic

girls are the most destructive pandemic on earth one out of three women have

on earth one out of three women have

on earth one out of three women have survived physical or sexual abuse it

survived physical or sexual abuse it

survived physical or sexual abuse it touches all of us

touches all of us

touches all of us it touches generations of families

it touches generations of families

it touches generations of families communities villages and cities and in

communities villages and cities and in

communities villages and cities and in economic terms violence against women

economic terms violence against women

economic terms violence against women and girls exacts a staggering price tag

and girls exacts a staggering price tag

and girls exacts a staggering price tag of seven trillion dollars a year in the

of seven trillion dollars a year in the

of seven trillion dollars a year in the time I’ve been on the stage one Indian

time I’ve been on the stage one Indian

time I’ve been on the stage one Indian goal around the age of 12 has been sold

goal around the age of 12 has been sold

goal around the age of 12 has been sold into sex slavery by the time I’ve

into sex slavery by the time I’ve

into sex slavery by the time I’ve finished ass talk another five will have

finished ass talk another five will have

finished ass talk another five will have been taken every three minutes

been taken every three minutes

been taken every three minutes that’s how often a goal around the age

that’s how often a goal around the age

that’s how often a goal around the age of 12 hits trafficked brutally beaten

of 12 hits trafficked brutally beaten

of 12 hits trafficked brutally beaten and raped by more than 30 min a day and

and raped by more than 30 min a day and

and raped by more than 30 min a day and only want the thing of them will ever

only want the thing of them will ever

only want the thing of them will ever get rescued

get rescued

get rescued that’s two issues domestic violence and

that’s two issues domestic violence and

that’s two issues domestic violence and the trafficking of young girls are very

the trafficking of young girls are very

the trafficking of young girls are very uncomfortable to talk about but if we

uncomfortable to talk about but if we

uncomfortable to talk about but if we don’t talk about it and if we don’t

don’t talk about it and if we don’t

don’t talk about it and if we don’t confront the issue how can we start to

confront the issue how can we start to

confront the issue how can we start to do something about reality it’s a common

do something about reality it’s a common

do something about reality it’s a common question we get asked why is he so much

question we get asked why is he so much

question we get asked why is he so much violence and discrimination against

violence and discrimination against

violence and discrimination against women and girls one of the root causes

women and girls one of the root causes

women and girls one of the root causes is patriarchy patriarchy is deeply

is patriarchy patriarchy is deeply

is patriarchy patriarchy is deeply entrenched in almost every society on

entrenched in almost every society on

entrenched in almost every society on earth it touches everything we see Ranas

earth it touches everything we see Ranas

earth it touches everything we see Ranas and what we read in our papers so we

and what we read in our papers so we

and what we read in our papers so we wake up in the morning to a piper that

wake up in the morning to a piper that

wake up in the morning to a piper that says go right after light night art and

says go right after light night art and

says go right after light night art and then we have some politicians responded

then we have some politicians responded

then we have some politicians responded by saying boys will be boys and then we

by saying boys will be boys and then we

by saying boys will be boys and then we have the parents of the daughters saying

have the parents of the daughters saying

have the parents of the daughters saying to them

to them

to them don’t stay out after dark don’t we

don’t stay out after dark don’t we

don’t stay out after dark don’t we address and the next morning we hear the

address and the next morning we hear the

address and the next morning we hear the whispers of the neighbors

whispers of the neighbors

whispers of the neighbors I hear she was wearing a skirt in a

I hear she was wearing a skirt in a

I hear she was wearing a skirt in a genie

genie

genie equal world this headline would have

equal world this headline would have

equal world this headline would have read innocent girl raped while returning

read innocent girl raped while returning

read innocent girl raped while returning home from work but there’s good news and

home from work but there’s good news and

home from work but there’s good news and it might not be what you think for way

it might not be what you think for way

it might not be what you think for way too long

too long

too long men have been seen as creating the

men have been seen as creating the

men have been seen as creating the problem now after all the mine

problem now after all the mine

problem now after all the mine perpetrators of domestic violence and

perpetrators of domestic violence and

perpetrators of domestic violence and trafficking of young girls and therefore

trafficking of young girls and therefore

trafficking of young girls and therefore we’ve excluded them from being part of

we’ve excluded them from being part of

we’ve excluded them from being part of the solution but this just perpetuates

the solution but this just perpetuates

the solution but this just perpetuates the problem because a boy growing up in

the problem because a boy growing up in

the problem because a boy growing up in abusive home is five times more likely

abusive home is five times more likely

abusive home is five times more likely to be abusive and a father who let his

to be abusive and a father who let his

to be abusive and a father who let his daughter go with a trafficker so because

daughter go with a trafficker so because

daughter go with a trafficker so because he doesn’t love her no he believes the

he doesn’t love her no he believes the

he doesn’t love her no he believes the false promises of the traffickers and

false promises of the traffickers and

false promises of the traffickers and not knowing better he believes it’s the

not knowing better he believes it’s the

not knowing better he believes it’s the right choice for her and for his family

right choice for her and for his family

right choice for her and for his family the father does not know that his

the father does not know that his

the father does not know that his daughter will be raped and beaten until

daughter will be raped and beaten until

daughter will be raped and beaten until she breaks down he doesn’t realize

he doesn’t realize that from the day she

he doesn’t realize that from the day she gets broken in which basically means

gets broken in which basically means

gets broken in which basically means he’ll get gang-raped – she surrenders

he’ll get gang-raped – she surrenders

he’ll get gang-raped – she surrenders you most like to not survive another

you most like to not survive another

you most like to not survive another seven years so how do we change this is

seven years so how do we change this is

seven years so how do we change this is change even possible how do we change

change even possible how do we change

change even possible how do we change behavior that’s been installed in our

behavior that’s been installed in our

behavior that’s been installed in our culture for generations how do we help

culture for generations how do we help

culture for generations how do we help these fathers to become the good

these fathers to become the good

these fathers to become the good father’s I want to be so our team wanted

father’s I want to be so our team wanted

father’s I want to be so our team wanted to find the answers to these questions

to find the answers to these questions

to find the answers to these questions we learned from each other we learned

we learned from each other we learned

we learned from each other we learned from other NGOs we learned from abused

from other NGOs we learned from abused

from other NGOs we learned from abused women and girls but most importantly we

women and girls but most importantly we

women and girls but most importantly we learned from boys men and fathers we

learned from boys men and fathers we

learned from boys men and fathers we commissioned research to better

commissioned research to better

commissioned research to better understand male behavior and better

understand male behavior and better

understand male behavior and better understand the behavior of fathers who

understand the behavior of fathers who

understand the behavior of fathers who let their daughters go our research

let their daughters go our research

let their daughters go our research paper last year won the award for the

paper last year won the award for the

paper last year won the award for the best market research globally and we

best market research globally and we

best market research globally and we parted with VR for good to create the

parted with VR for good to create the

parted with VR for good to create the world’s first virtual reality

world’s first virtual reality

world’s first virtual reality documentary on sex trafficking and you

documentary on sex trafficking and you

documentary on sex trafficking and you know what the key insight was from this

know what the key insight was from this

know what the key insight was from this research nine out of ten father’s want

research nine out of ten father’s want

research nine out of ten father’s want to be good fathers they want to do the

to be good fathers they want to do the

to be good fathers they want to do the right thing and I want to look after

right thing and I want to look after

right thing and I want to look after their daughters so these insights drove

their daughters so these insights drove

their daughters so these insights drove the design of all our programs if we

the design of all our programs if we

the design of all our programs if we want to see lasting change we have to

want to see lasting change we have to

want to see lasting change we have to fundamentally make all men and fathers

fundamentally make all men and fathers

fundamentally make all men and fathers part of the solution but first let’s

part of the solution but first let’s

part of the solution but first let’s just talk about access to help did you

just talk about access to help did you

just talk about access to help did you know that two out of three women facing

know that two out of three women facing

know that two out of three women facing a beautiful neighbor share a story I

a beautiful neighbor share a story I

a beautiful neighbor share a story I feel it’s a burden to be like too afraid

feel it’s a burden to be like too afraid

feel it’s a burden to be like too afraid to approach the police or what I fear

to approach the police or what I fear

to approach the police or what I fear the public humiliation and families who

the public humiliation and families who

the public humiliation and families who are victimized by trafficking I don’t

are victimized by trafficking I don’t

are victimized by trafficking I don’t even know it exists and when a daughter

even know it exists and when a daughter

even know it exists and when a daughter goes missing they don’t no way to find

goes missing they don’t no way to find

goes missing they don’t no way to find her or how to find help

her or how to find help

her or how to find help so awkward choices Foundation we help

so awkward choices Foundation we help

so awkward choices Foundation we help them by showing up showing up in a city

them by showing up showing up in a city

them by showing up showing up in a city they village the community and we

they village the community and we

they village the community and we providing with choices and most

providing with choices and most

providing with choices and most importantly we teach them how to stop

importantly we teach them how to stop

importantly we teach them how to stop the abuse

the abuse

the abuse and hard to prevent the trafficking so I

and hard to prevent the trafficking so I

and hard to prevent the trafficking so I want you to meet deep and ragga soon

want you to meet deep and ragga soon

want you to meet deep and ragga soon after they got married things went

after they got married things went

after they got married things went Daniel

Daniel

Daniel it started with jealousy but pretty soon

it started with jealousy but pretty soon

it started with jealousy but pretty soon escalated to Raghav bringing over other

escalated to Raghav bringing over other

escalated to Raghav bringing over other men to abuse his wife with him deeper

men to abuse his wife with him deeper

men to abuse his wife with him deeper felt there was no one to talk to and no

felt there was no one to talk to and no

felt there was no one to talk to and no one to trust

one to trust

one to trust she faced 14 years of daily abuse and

she faced 14 years of daily abuse and

she faced 14 years of daily abuse and beatings and her life only changed the

beatings and her life only changed the

beatings and her life only changed the day she made one of our peacemakers in

day she made one of our peacemakers in

day she made one of our peacemakers in her community the peacemaker is just a

her community the peacemaker is just a

her community the peacemaker is just a local women who we trying to be a change

local women who we trying to be a change

local women who we trying to be a change agent in the community we trained him

agent in the community we trained him

agent in the community we trained him how to spot the abuse and how to bring

how to spot the abuse and how to bring

how to spot the abuse and how to bring the families to the center she brought

the families to the center she brought

the families to the center she brought de-puff and Raghav to our center and it

de-puff and Raghav to our center and it

de-puff and Raghav to our center and it was they that Raghav realized he doesn’t

was they that Raghav realized he doesn’t

was they that Raghav realized he doesn’t even really know why is abusing deeper

even really know why is abusing deeper

even really know why is abusing deeper he can just remember this is the way his

he can just remember this is the way his

he can just remember this is the way his father treated his mother and in the

father treated his mother and in the

father treated his mother and in the absence of a good role model he felt

absence of a good role model he felt

absence of a good role model he felt that’s the example he has to follow in

that’s the example he has to follow in

that’s the example he has to follow in the absence of a good role model

the absence of a good role model

the absence of a good role model deepa was abused by Raghav so what we do

deepa was abused by Raghav so what we do

deepa was abused by Raghav so what we do is we set for them we try name.we

is we set for them we try name.we

is we set for them we try name.we counseling but most importantly we teach

counseling but most importantly we teach

counseling but most importantly we teach them and show them what the impact is of

them and show them what the impact is of

them and show them what the impact is of this abuse on their family and we show

this abuse on their family and we show

this abuse on their family and we show you

you

you raghav hard to stop the abuse Raghav has

raghav hard to stop the abuse Raghav has

raghav hard to stop the abuse Raghav has committed to stop the abuse and set an

committed to stop the abuse and set an

committed to stop the abuse and set an example to his children because we

example to his children because we

example to his children because we believe the biggest gift a father can

believe the biggest gift a father can

believe the biggest gift a father can give his children is to love and respect

give his children is to love and respect

give his children is to love and respect a mother but dig up deep and raghav

a mother but dig up deep and raghav

a mother but dig up deep and raghav stories are not the exception we have

stories are not the exception we have

stories are not the exception we have worked with over 3,500 families just

worked with over 3,500 families just

worked with over 3,500 families just like they were

like they were

like they were our counselors I’ve invested 150

our counselors I’ve invested 150

our counselors I’ve invested 150 thousand hours of counseling into these

thousand hours of counseling into these

thousand hours of counseling into these families life before put twenty four

families life before put twenty four

families life before put twenty four thousand school girls to keep keep

thousand school girls to keep keep

thousand school girls to keep keep himself safe and we have a 78% success

himself safe and we have a 78% success

himself safe and we have a 78% success rate what does it mean in 78% of the

rate what does it mean in 78% of the

rate what does it mean in 78% of the cases and families we are able to stop

cases and families we are able to stop

cases and families we are able to stop the abuse and bring about change and

the abuse and bring about change and

the abuse and bring about change and peace into these families lives

so the way we as an organization show up

so the way we as an organization show up in these abusive homes or through our

in these abusive homes or through our

in these abusive homes or through our peacemakers but how do we show up in the

peacemakers but how do we show up in the

peacemakers but how do we show up in the remote village from where a young girl

remote village from where a young girl

remote village from where a young girl is trafficked we do not have the time or

is trafficked we do not have the time or

is trafficked we do not have the time or the resources to conduct our site

the resources to conduct our site

the resources to conduct our site village program in each of these

village program in each of these

village program in each of these villages yet every minute counts and

villages yet every minute counts and

villages yet every minute counts and every goal counts at my voices

every goal counts at my voices

every goal counts at my voices foundation we are firm believers in

foundation we are firm believers in

foundation we are firm believers in technology so we partnered with Quantium

technology so we partnered with Quantium

technology so we partnered with Quantium a big data analytics company to help us

a big data analytics company to help us

a big data analytics company to help us to design a village mapping algorithm to

to design a village mapping algorithm to

to design a village mapping algorithm to identify the act villages and once we

identify the act villages and once we

identify the act villages and once we know which villages are at risk we can

know which villages are at risk we can

know which villages are at risk we can conduct our psychology programs at one

conduct our psychology programs at one

conduct our psychology programs at one of our recent programs in which finger

of our recent programs in which finger

of our recent programs in which finger our team leader was approached to pass

our team leader was approached to pass

our team leader was approached to pass Yale goal and with tears in our eyes she

Yale goal and with tears in our eyes she

Yale goal and with tears in our eyes she cried out why did you not come to my

cried out why did you not come to my

cried out why did you not come to my village earlier why did you not come and

village earlier why did you not come and

village earlier why did you not come and show me what is happening if you had

show me what is happening if you had

show me what is happening if you had come to my village this would not have

come to my village this would not have

come to my village this would not have happened to me if you had come to my

happened to me if you had come to my

happened to me if you had come to my village my parents would not have let me

village my parents would not have let me

village my parents would not have let me go she was one of the 1% that dead get

go she was one of the 1% that dead get

go she was one of the 1% that dead get rescued

rescued

rescued but in the process had a child brutally

but in the process had a child brutally

but in the process had a child brutally stolen from her and this could have been

stolen from her and this could have been

stolen from her and this could have been prevented

prevented

prevented so in our silage program this is what we

so in our silage program this is what we

so in our silage program this is what we do we meet for the fathers we read me

do we meet for the fathers we read me

do we meet for the fathers we read me the mothers we really we meet with the

the mothers we really we meet with the

the mothers we really we meet with the boys and the girls the teachers the

boys and the girls the teachers the

boys and the girls the teachers the principal’s and the sarpanch we try we

principal’s and the sarpanch we try we

principal’s and the sarpanch we try we have try we meet we have try and we try

have try we meet we have try and we try

have try we meet we have try and we try and we show them through educational

and we show them through educational

and we show them through educational movies and we equip them through our

movies and we equip them through our

movies and we equip them through our comic book drama skits on how to keep

comic book drama skits on how to keep

comic book drama skits on how to keep the village safe and hard to keep the

the village safe and hard to keep the

the village safe and hard to keep the goal safe we spend a lot of time with

goal safe we spend a lot of time with

goal safe we spend a lot of time with the mothers to make them informed

the mothers to make them informed

the mothers to make them informed mother’s knowledge is the most powerful

mother’s knowledge is the most powerful

mother’s knowledge is the most powerful weapon we can give these mothers to

weapon we can give these mothers to

weapon we can give these mothers to protect their goals but most importantly

protect their goals but most importantly

protect their goals but most importantly we spend a lot of time with the fathers

we spend a lot of time with the fathers

we spend a lot of time with the fathers to help them to become good fathers and

to help them to become good fathers and

to help them to become good fathers and the goals to become Guardian goals for

the goals to become Guardian goals for

the goals to become Guardian goals for each other in a language and a message

each other in a language and a message

each other in a language and a message that the father understands we talk to

that the father understands we talk to

that the father understands we talk to Maurice

Maurice

Maurice drop and how he will never harvested

drop and how he will never harvested

drop and how he will never harvested early how he will protect it and give it

early how he will protect it and give it

early how he will protect it and give it enough water and in the same way he

enough water and in the same way he

enough water and in the same way he needs to protect his goal down later

needs to protect his goal down later

needs to protect his goal down later into into child marriage hard to spot

into into child marriage hard to spot

into into child marriage hard to spot the traffickers hard to spot the method

the traffickers hard to spot the method

the traffickers hard to spot the method of the traffickers and hard to keep his

of the traffickers and hard to keep his

of the traffickers and hard to keep his goal safe I want you to meet silo he’s a

goal safe I want you to meet silo he’s a

goal safe I want you to meet silo he’s a father of five three daughters and two

father of five three daughters and two

father of five three daughters and two boys he was approached by a neighbor who

boys he was approached by a neighbor who

boys he was approached by a neighbor who wanted him to let his daughter Rukhsana

wanted him to let his daughter Rukhsana

wanted him to let his daughter Rukhsana go to daily to marry by businessman

go to daily to marry by businessman

go to daily to marry by businessman sidle thought it’s a good opportunity I

sidle thought it’s a good opportunity I

sidle thought it’s a good opportunity I thought she would be safe I thought she

thought she would be safe I thought she

thought she would be safe I thought she would have at least two meals a day I

would have at least two meals a day I

would have at least two meals a day I thought this was a good opportunity the

thought this was a good opportunity the

thought this was a good opportunity the neighbor who approached Idol turned out

neighbor who approached Idol turned out

neighbor who approached Idol turned out to be a trafficker and unfortunately

to be a trafficker and unfortunately

to be a trafficker and unfortunately Rukhsana no story is not an isolated

Rukhsana no story is not an isolated

Rukhsana no story is not an isolated incident

incident

incident they are currently five million girls

they are currently five million girls

they are currently five million girls enslaved in India and 99% of them will

enslaved in India and 99% of them will

enslaved in India and 99% of them will never get rescued so I can’t tell you

never get rescued so I can’t tell you

never get rescued so I can’t tell you how that work Shauna did not end up as a

how that work Shauna did not end up as a

how that work Shauna did not end up as a child’s life her father seidel attainted

child’s life her father seidel attainted

child’s life her father seidel attainted one of our silage programs and they he

one of our silage programs and they he

one of our silage programs and they he was stored on how to keep his daughter

was stored on how to keep his daughter

was stored on how to keep his daughter safe and given the rise and the

safe and given the rise and the

safe and given the rise and the opportunity he wanted to protect his

opportunity he wanted to protect his

opportunity he wanted to protect his family he wanted to be a good father

family he wanted to be a good father

family he wanted to be a good father Brook Shauna’s father is one of over

Brook Shauna’s father is one of over

Brook Shauna’s father is one of over 50,000 fathers we’ve already trained in

50,000 fathers we’ve already trained in

50,000 fathers we’ve already trained in our good father Army and we’ve reached

our good father Army and we’ve reached

our good father Army and we’ve reached over seven hundred and fifteen thousand

we’ve reached over seven hundred and

we’ve reached over seven hundred and fifteen thousand individuals through our

fifteen thousand individuals through our

fifteen thousand individuals through our cyber leach program equipping all of

cyber leach program equipping all of

cyber leach program equipping all of them to keep the village and keep the

them to keep the village and keep the

them to keep the village and keep the daughter safe

daughter safe

daughter safe so showing up this because change is

so showing up this because change is

so showing up this because change is possible in India our engineering

possible in India our engineering

possible in India our engineering colleges tried one and a half million

colleges tried one and a half million

colleges tried one and a half million engineers every year if we can do that

engineers every year if we can do that

engineers every year if we can do that surely we can train an army of good

surely we can train an army of good

surely we can train an army of good fathers we will not allow we cannot

fathers we will not allow we cannot

fathers we will not allow we cannot allow that on our watch a

allow that on our watch a

allow that on our watch a twelve-year-old girl goes missing every

twelve-year-old girl goes missing every

twelve-year-old girl goes missing every three minutes brutally beaten and raped

three minutes brutally beaten and raped

three minutes brutally beaten and raped 30 times a day I have to admit the work

30 times a day I have to admit the work

30 times a day I have to admit the work we do is not easy we deal with immense

we do is not easy we deal with immense

we do is not easy we deal with immense pain and suffering and in the process

pain and suffering and in the process

pain and suffering and in the process our hearts are repeatedly broken and is

our hearts are repeatedly broken and is

our hearts are repeatedly broken and is a there’s a grief that sits deep on your

a there’s a grief that sits deep on your

a there’s a grief that sits deep on your soul but doing what we do every day

soul but doing what we do every day

soul but doing what we do every day gives us courage and courage does not

gives us courage and courage does not

gives us courage and courage does not just transform us it also transformed

just transform us it also transformed

just transform us it also transformed those around us and you know it’s a good

those around us and you know it’s a good

those around us and you know it’s a good thing about courage it’s contagious so

thing about courage it’s contagious so

thing about courage it’s contagious so courage can transform families and

courage can transform families and

courage can transform families and villages and communities and cities

my team and I have been given the

my team and I have been given the privilege to step into thousands of

privilege to step into thousands of

privilege to step into thousands of families lives and help them slowly

families lives and help them slowly

families lives and help them slowly repeat the broken pieces and help them

repeat the broken pieces and help them

repeat the broken pieces and help them replace peace violence with peace we’ve

replace peace violence with peace we’ve

replace peace violence with peace we’ve been given a privilege to guide

been given a privilege to guide

been given a privilege to guide thousands of goals of what it means to

thousands of goals of what it means to

thousands of goals of what it means to be a Guardian goal not just for yourself

be a Guardian goal not just for yourself

be a Guardian goal not just for yourself but also the girl next to you and in the

but also the girl next to you and in the

but also the girl next to you and in the process help prevent them from having a

process help prevent them from having a

process help prevent them from having a brutal life with a will most likely not

brutal life with a will most likely not

brutal life with a will most likely not survive the 19th birthday we’ve been

survive the 19th birthday we’ve been

survive the 19th birthday we’ve been given a privilege to guide thousands of

given a privilege to guide thousands of

given a privilege to guide thousands of fathers on what it means to be a good

fathers on what it means to be a good

fathers on what it means to be a good father a father that protects his

father a father that protects his

father a father that protects his daughter and keep his village safe Ted

daughter and keep his village safe Ted

daughter and keep his village safe Ted is about ideas worth spreading bringing

is about ideas worth spreading bringing

is about ideas worth spreading bringing an end to Jaina boys violence is one of

an end to Jaina boys violence is one of

an end to Jaina boys violence is one of the most important ideas in the world

the most important ideas in the world

the most important ideas in the world worth spreading this TEDx is about do so

worth spreading this TEDx is about do so

worth spreading this TEDx is about do so what are we doing about this I know what

what are we doing about this I know what

what are we doing about this I know what I’m doing about this I know what our

I’m doing about this I know what our

I’m doing about this I know what our foundation is doing about this but what

foundation is doing about this but what

foundation is doing about this but what are you doing about this in this

are you doing about this in this

are you doing about this in this audience today we have some of the

audience today we have some of the

audience today we have some of the world’s most progressive minds do you

world’s most progressive minds do you

world’s most progressive minds do you see this as your solution or your

see this as your solution or your

see this as your solution or your problem to solve you should especially

problem to solve you should especially

problem to solve you should especially if you are a male we need you to step up

if you are a male we need you to step up

if you are a male we need you to step up and stop Jaina boys violence you hold

and stop Jaina boys violence you hold

and stop Jaina boys violence you hold the solution in your hands just imagine

the solution in your hands just imagine

the solution in your hands just imagine an army of good fathers an army of

an army of good fathers an army of

an army of good fathers an army of fathers who will value respect and

fathers who will value respect and

fathers who will value respect and protect one of our most precious assets

protect one of our most precious assets

protect one of our most precious assets our goals if those of us who can act

our goals if those of us who can act

our goals if those of us who can act remain inactive if those of us who

remain inactive if those of us who

remain inactive if those of us who should know better

should know better

should know better remaining different and of the voice of

remaining different and of the voice of

remaining different and of the voice of justice is kept silent when it should be

justice is kept silent when it should be

justice is kept silent when it should be speaking up then evil will triumph as a

speaking up then evil will triumph as a

speaking up then evil will triumph as a human race we might falter and we my

human race we might falter and we my

human race we might falter and we my foul and we sometimes take too long to

foul and we sometimes take too long to

foul and we sometimes take too long to do it as the obvious but ultimately

do it as the obvious but ultimately

do it as the obvious but ultimately deep down we do know what is right and

deep down we do know what is right and

deep down we do know what is right and what is wrong let’s start doing what is

what is wrong let’s start doing what is

what is wrong let’s start doing what is right thank you

right thank you

right thank you [Applause]