the big audience I’m here to talk with you about being a maverick about not
you about being a maverick about not
you about being a maverick about not following the crowd if you were a
following the crowd if you were a
following the crowd if you were a maverick you would love to be recruited
maverick you would love to be recruited
maverick you would love to be recruited to do a TED talk like this because by
to do a TED talk like this because by
to do a TED talk like this because by definition a maverick expects to get
definition a maverick expects to get
definition a maverick expects to get left out over the years I’ve become a
left out over the years I’ve become a
left out over the years I’ve become a passionate maverick today I hope to
passionate maverick today I hope to
passionate maverick today I hope to invite you to become a maverick who
invite you to become a maverick who
invite you to become a maverick who loves yourself and the Maverick and
loves yourself and the Maverick and
loves yourself and the Maverick and others and you’ll want to know some
others and you’ll want to know some
others and you’ll want to know some serious mistakes to avoid but first do
serious mistakes to avoid but first do
serious mistakes to avoid but first do you think being a maverick is a good
you think being a maverick is a good
you think being a maverick is a good thing or a bad thing
thing or a bad thing
thing or a bad thing so can you put your hands up if you
so can you put your hands up if you
so can you put your hands up if you think it’s a good thing and put your
think it’s a good thing and put your
think it’s a good thing and put your hands up if you think it’s a bad thing
hands up if you think it’s a bad thing
hands up if you think it’s a bad thing mmm I think I’ve got you already
mmm I think I’ve got you already
mmm I think I’ve got you already converted that’s good
converted that’s good
converted that’s good and put your hands up if you’re not sure
and put your hands up if you’re not sure
and put your hands up if you’re not sure okay
well one thing’s for sure you’ve all got
well one thing’s for sure you’ve all got hands and minds of your own and that is
hands and minds of your own and that is
hands and minds of your own and that is all you need to be a maverick so what
all you need to be a maverick so what
all you need to be a maverick so what makes a maverick I think we all do
makes a maverick I think we all do
makes a maverick I think we all do maverick things but we may not call it
maverick things but we may not call it
maverick things but we may not call it that a really memorable maverick is
that a really memorable maverick is
that a really memorable maverick is unrepeatable a one-off many famous
unrepeatable a one-off many famous
unrepeatable a one-off many famous people have been maverick when you think
people have been maverick when you think
people have been maverick when you think about it
about it
about it Jesus Joan of Arc Gandhi Rosa Parks
Jesus Joan of Arc Gandhi Rosa Parks
Jesus Joan of Arc Gandhi Rosa Parks Dyson and many other entrepreneurs and
Dyson and many other entrepreneurs and
Dyson and many other entrepreneurs and artists rarely do women fancy being
artists rarely do women fancy being
artists rarely do women fancy being called maverick but why shouldn’t they
called maverick but why shouldn’t they
called maverick but why shouldn’t they make a noise about themselves like men
make a noise about themselves like men
make a noise about themselves like men do the original Samuel maverick was a an
do the original Samuel maverick was a an
do the original Samuel maverick was a an energetic lawyer and a land baron
energetic lawyer and a land baron
energetic lawyer and a land baron they said he was too lazy a rancher to
they said he was too lazy a rancher to
they said he was too lazy a rancher to brand his cattle which became known as
brand his cattle which became known as
brand his cattle which became known as Mavericks so maverick refers to the
Mavericks so maverick refers to the
Mavericks so maverick refers to the cattle and it means independent minded
cattle and it means independent minded
cattle and it means independent minded and unbranded cattle they don’t belong
and unbranded cattle they don’t belong
and unbranded cattle they don’t belong to any club like the cattle Groucho Marx
to any club like the cattle Groucho Marx
to any club like the cattle Groucho Marx famously declared I refused to join any
famously declared I refused to join any
famously declared I refused to join any club that would have me as a member so
club that would have me as a member so
club that would have me as a member so it’s a paradox the Maverick needs the
it’s a paradox the Maverick needs the
it’s a paradox the Maverick needs the club to refuse to join it and the club
club to refuse to join it and the club
club to refuse to join it and the club prevents the maverick from spinning off
prevents the maverick from spinning off
prevents the maverick from spinning off into outer space at its best
into outer space at its best
into outer space at its best the refusal to join is constructive you
the refusal to join is constructive you
the refusal to join is constructive you want to think outside the club’s box to
want to think outside the club’s box to
want to think outside the club’s box to improve the club’s established ways so
improve the club’s established ways so
improve the club’s established ways so let’s explore some more examples even if
let’s explore some more examples even if
let’s explore some more examples even if we stick to constructive Mavericks
we stick to constructive Mavericks
we stick to constructive Mavericks remember that they may be seen as
remember that they may be seen as
remember that they may be seen as terrorist or heretic and be burnt at the
terrorist or heretic and be burnt at the
terrorist or heretic and be burnt at the stake if they’re not careful Galileo was
stake if they’re not careful Galileo was
stake if they’re not careful Galileo was a heretic who survived
a heretic who survived
a heretic who survived Copernicus before him he did the maths
Copernicus before him he did the maths
Copernicus before him he did the maths that showed the Sun was at the center of
that showed the Sun was at the center of
that showed the Sun was at the center of the solar system but he didn’t make a
the solar system but he didn’t make a
the solar system but he didn’t make a noise about it is Galileo’s telescopic
noise about it is Galileo’s telescopic
noise about it is Galileo’s telescopic proof and his strategic sustained
proof and his strategic sustained
proof and his strategic sustained campaigning that made him a great
campaigning that made him a great
campaigning that made him a great maverick child psychiatrist John Bowlby
maverick child psychiatrist John Bowlby
maverick child psychiatrist John Bowlby was a bit of a maverick he broke ranks
was a bit of a maverick he broke ranks
was a bit of a maverick he broke ranks with psychoanalysis to invent both
with psychoanalysis to invent both
with psychoanalysis to invent both attachment theory and family therapy but
attachment theory and family therapy but
attachment theory and family therapy but he couldn’t build both fields so he
he couldn’t build both fields so he
he couldn’t build both fields so he chose one and dropped the other like
chose one and dropped the other like
chose one and dropped the other like Bowlby mavericks may discover something
Bowlby mavericks may discover something
Bowlby mavericks may discover something new and settle down in their new shop
new and settle down in their new shop
new and settle down in their new shop others keep moving on the good work
others keep moving on the good work
others keep moving on the good work disappears in the dust
John McMurray
John McMurray he had revolutionary ideas but he was
he had revolutionary ideas but he was
he had revolutionary ideas but he was not a maverick a Scots philosopher he
not a maverick a Scots philosopher he
not a maverick a Scots philosopher he redid the whole of philosophy from a new
redid the whole of philosophy from a new
redid the whole of philosophy from a new starting point instead of man the
starting point instead of man the
starting point instead of man the thinker looking out on the world around
thinker looking out on the world around
thinker looking out on the world around McMurray says we are all primarily
McMurray says we are all primarily
McMurray says we are all primarily engaged in doing things in the world
engaged in doing things in the world
engaged in doing things in the world starting with personal relationships
starting with personal relationships
starting with personal relationships thinking is essential but secondary to
thinking is essential but secondary to
thinking is essential but secondary to their doing now McMurray was a senior
their doing now McMurray was a senior
their doing now McMurray was a senior professor a fully paid-up member of his
professor a fully paid-up member of his
professor a fully paid-up member of his club yet they have rejected his ideas if
club yet they have rejected his ideas if
club yet they have rejected his ideas if he was right he or somebody else needed
he was right he or somebody else needed
he was right he or somebody else needed to do some much better public relations
to do some much better public relations
to do some much better public relations for him most Mavericks are not good at
for him most Mavericks are not good at
for him most Mavericks are not good at public relations they can’t do it all
public relations they can’t do it all
public relations they can’t do it all themselves and no institution will do it
themselves and no institution will do it
themselves and no institution will do it for them
for them
for them so Mavericks are not lazy a dedicated
so Mavericks are not lazy a dedicated
so Mavericks are not lazy a dedicated maverick always has work to do if you’re
maverick always has work to do if you’re
maverick always has work to do if you’re going to go out on a limb you’ve got to
going to go out on a limb you’ve got to
going to go out on a limb you’ve got to think a lot harder Mavericks can set out
think a lot harder Mavericks can set out
think a lot harder Mavericks can set out on their own right away but most of you
on their own right away but most of you
on their own right away but most of you are going to prefer to work your way up
are going to prefer to work your way up
are going to prefer to work your way up inside a professional organization as
inside a professional organization as
inside a professional organization as far as you can bear – before you jump
far as you can bear – before you jump
far as you can bear – before you jump out that way you get a whole range of
out that way you get a whole range of
out that way you get a whole range of advantages and skills to really free up
advantages and skills to really free up
advantages and skills to really free up your Mavericks powers a maverick goes it
your Mavericks powers a maverick goes it
your Mavericks powers a maverick goes it alone but Arlo Guthrie in his song
alone but Arlo Guthrie in his song
alone but Arlo Guthrie in his song Alice’s Restaurant tells of how just a
Alice’s Restaurant tells of how just a
Alice’s Restaurant tells of how just a few people singing the song go a lot
few people singing the song go a lot
few people singing the song go a lot further than the lone wolf does I’m I’m
further than the lone wolf does I’m I’m
further than the lone wolf does I’m I’m a cowardly maverick I prefer a small
a cowardly maverick I prefer a small
a cowardly maverick I prefer a small team to help me shape up my best ideas
team to help me shape up my best ideas
team to help me shape up my best ideas but we will see how that teaming up can
but we will see how that teaming up can
but we will see how that teaming up can be a problem – so would you like to hear
be a problem – so would you like to hear
be a problem – so would you like to hear how I got started actually with me it
how I got started actually with me it
how I got started actually with me it didn’t start with passion it started
didn’t start with passion it started
didn’t start with passion it started with being puzzled and confused okay you
with being puzzled and confused okay you
with being puzzled and confused okay you say we’ve all been confused but for me
say we’ve all been confused but for me
say we’ve all been confused but for me mystification led to a path
mystification led to a path
mystification led to a path for demystification if you are driven to
for demystification if you are driven to
for demystification if you are driven to demystify things you are bound to be a
demystify things you are bound to be a
demystify things you are bound to be a maverick my original confusion was the
maverick my original confusion was the
maverick my original confusion was the confusion of being in a fog not seeing
confusion of being in a fog not seeing
confusion of being in a fog not seeing what
what
what but knowing something was their home
but knowing something was their home
but knowing something was their home from boarding school I remember puzzling
from boarding school I remember puzzling
from boarding school I remember puzzling about why I couldn’t get into the
about why I couldn’t get into the
about why I couldn’t get into the Christmas spirit being shushed
Christmas spirit being shushed
Christmas spirit being shushed going round a Cathedral I didn’t see why
going round a Cathedral I didn’t see why
going round a Cathedral I didn’t see why I should shush with little career
I should shush with little career
I should shush with little career guidance doing medicine seemed a good
guidance doing medicine seemed a good
guidance doing medicine seemed a good way to help others and to learn about
way to help others and to learn about
way to help others and to learn about being human
being human
being human not very Marek I don’t know about
not very Marek I don’t know about
not very Marek I don’t know about medicine now but in my day it was about
medicine now but in my day it was about
medicine now but in my day it was about bodies and careers not about people but
bodies and careers not about people but
bodies and careers not about people but I wasn’t brave enough then to break away
flowerpower medics like us headed for
flowerpower medics like us headed for psychiatry in child psychiatry but they
psychiatry in child psychiatry but they
psychiatry in child psychiatry but they weren’t about people either strange
weren’t about people either strange
weren’t about people either strange language and ideas kept adding to the
language and ideas kept adding to the
language and ideas kept adding to the fog so I kept demystifying though I did
fog so I kept demystifying though I did
fog so I kept demystifying though I did have the help of MacMurray’s philosophy
have the help of MacMurray’s philosophy
have the help of MacMurray’s philosophy then I was too unconventional to get a
then I was too unconventional to get a
then I was too unconventional to get a consultant post in the centers of
consultant post in the centers of
consultant post in the centers of excellence the peripheries of excellence
excellence the peripheries of excellence
excellence the peripheries of excellence turned out to be just the ticket for me
turned out to be just the ticket for me
turned out to be just the ticket for me I love that colleagues in the Centers
I love that colleagues in the Centers
I love that colleagues in the Centers ran the institution from the peripheries
ran the institution from the peripheries
ran the institution from the peripheries you could pick the bits you liked this
you could pick the bits you liked this
you could pick the bits you liked this maverick took off it was the 1980s now
maverick took off it was the 1980s now
maverick took off it was the 1980s now here’s what happens
here’s what happens
here’s what happens to American a group for example in the
to American a group for example in the
to American a group for example in the group teaching of Psychiatry Henry
group teaching of Psychiatry Henry
group teaching of Psychiatry Henry Walton would teach us the group process
Walton would teach us the group process
Walton would teach us the group process makes individual to conform all the
makes individual to conform all the
makes individual to conform all the other trainees were agreeing with him
other trainees were agreeing with him
other trainees were agreeing with him but I argued to the end I remember it
but I argued to the end I remember it
but I argued to the end I remember it well conforming a knot reminds us of
well conforming a knot reminds us of
well conforming a knot reminds us of Solomon Ash’s social compliance
Solomon Ash’s social compliance
Solomon Ash’s social compliance experiment ash set up a group of Stooges
experiment ash set up a group of Stooges
experiment ash set up a group of Stooges to influence a real subject away from
to influence a real subject away from
to influence a real subject away from the
the
the answer in a simple task everyone thinks
answer in a simple task everyone thinks
answer in a simple task everyone thinks they would tell the truth would you be
they would tell the truth would you be
they would tell the truth would you be maverick enough most subjects were not
maverick enough most subjects were not
maverick enough most subjects were not as a maverick you seek the truth
as a maverick you seek the truth
as a maverick you seek the truth whatever the social pressure unless like
whatever the social pressure unless like
whatever the social pressure unless like Galileo you have reason to be strategic
Galileo you have reason to be strategic
Galileo you have reason to be strategic about it but Ash’s experiment shows much
about it but Ash’s experiment shows much
about it but Ash’s experiment shows much more important stuff going on we’re so
more important stuff going on we’re so
more important stuff going on we’re so used to trickery that we think it’s
used to trickery that we think it’s
used to trickery that we think it’s normal what about trust and integrity
normal what about trust and integrity
normal what about trust and integrity constructive ethical influence instead
constructive ethical influence instead
constructive ethical influence instead of Ashes tricky undue influence a
of Ashes tricky undue influence a
of Ashes tricky undue influence a blueprint for all coercive relationships
blueprint for all coercive relationships
blueprint for all coercive relationships and Celtic groups all be McMurray Walton
and Celtic groups all be McMurray Walton
and Celtic groups all be McMurray Walton ash they all remind us that we first see
ash they all remind us that we first see
ash they all remind us that we first see the world through our personal
the world through our personal
the world through our personal relationships
through decades of good
through decades of good maverick work I was making a big
maverick work I was making a big
maverick work I was making a big maverick mistake since the 60s we and
maverick mistake since the 60s we and
maverick mistake since the 60s we and our hippy maverick ideas established
our hippy maverick ideas established
our hippy maverick ideas established ourselves alongside the actual
ourselves alongside the actual
ourselves alongside the actual establishment of course we never took
establishment of course we never took
establishment of course we never took over but we began to get our act
over but we began to get our act
over but we began to get our act together and to influence those who
together and to influence those who
together and to influence those who didn’t agree if we could get everyone to
didn’t agree if we could get everyone to
didn’t agree if we could get everyone to speak and behave properly then that
speak and behave properly then that
speak and behave properly then that might be a good way to get them to think
might be a good way to get them to think
might be a good way to get them to think and be like us we call this political
and be like us we call this political
and be like us we call this political correctness political correctness is our
correctness political correctness is our
correctness political correctness is our invisible kangaroo court to silence
invisible kangaroo court to silence
invisible kangaroo court to silence everyone else into conformity silencing
everyone else into conformity silencing
everyone else into conformity silencing people has always been a rotten
people has always been a rotten
people has always been a rotten substitute for proper conversation about
substitute for proper conversation about
substitute for proper conversation about different ideas and now we have tweeting
different ideas and now we have tweeting
different ideas and now we have tweeting and trolling which are nothing like
and trolling which are nothing like
and trolling which are nothing like talking silencing could be done with a
talking silencing could be done with a
talking silencing could be done with a click of a mouse a virtual version of
click of a mouse a virtual version of
click of a mouse a virtual version of burning the heretic to be clear the
burning the heretic to be clear the
burning the heretic to be clear the world certainly needs ways to be
world certainly needs ways to be
world certainly needs ways to be respectful and inclusive there are no
respectful and inclusive there are no
respectful and inclusive there are no easy ways it’s just that being PC has
easy ways it’s just that being PC has
easy ways it’s just that being PC has this serious flaw
this serious flaw
this serious flaw now I can see some of you are not
now I can see some of you are not
now I can see some of you are not convinced yet but that’s okay it took me
convinced yet but that’s okay it took me
convinced yet but that’s okay it took me years to get this and if I get back to
years to get this and if I get back to
years to get this and if I get back to my story it may help there I was then a
my story it may help there I was then a
my story it may help there I was then a maverick in a United team of fellow
maverick in a United team of fellow
maverick in a United team of fellow Mavericks we knew that our team service
Mavericks we knew that our team service
Mavericks we knew that our team service was highly rated our family systems
was highly rated our family systems
was highly rated our family systems approach helped children and families
approach helped children and families
approach helped children and families with their problems in living but we
with their problems in living but we
with their problems in living but we didn’t value the medical model and the
didn’t value the medical model and the
didn’t value the medical model and the diagnostic categories and labels so he
diagnostic categories and labels so he
diagnostic categories and labels so he must have failed to recognize some
must have failed to recognize some
must have failed to recognize some disorders and to do a proper job
and of course we completely dismissed a
and of course we completely dismissed a new import from across the Atlantic
new import from across the Atlantic
new import from across the Atlantic called parental alienation parental
called parental alienation parental
called parental alienation parental alienation is a family pattern usually
alienation is a family pattern usually
alienation is a family pattern usually after separation when one parent
after separation when one parent
after separation when one parent harmfully turns their child against the
harmfully turns their child against the
harmfully turns their child against the other parent for no good reason it’s
other parent for no good reason it’s
other parent for no good reason it’s real and it’s devastating and
real and it’s devastating and
real and it’s devastating and professional to still rubbish it just
professional to still rubbish it just
professional to still rubbish it just like we did in our team we didn’t need
like we did in our team we didn’t need
like we did in our team we didn’t need to read a single thing about it to know
to read a single thing about it to know
to read a single thing about it to know that it was a nonsense everyone around
that it was a nonsense everyone around
that it was a nonsense everyone around us said it was so alienation arrived and
us said it was so alienation arrived and
us said it was so alienation arrived and this ignorant prejudiced continued into
this ignorant prejudiced continued into
this ignorant prejudiced continued into my next job as a Family Therapist in a
my next job as a Family Therapist in a
my next job as a Family Therapist in a small but beautiful team in the
small but beautiful team in the
small but beautiful team in the voluntary sector again a highly valued
voluntary sector again a highly valued
voluntary sector again a highly valued service one-day client phoned up asking
service one-day client phoned up asking
service one-day client phoned up asking for help as an alienated parent I was to
for help as an alienated parent I was to
for help as an alienated parent I was to call him back and politely explained
call him back and politely explained
call him back and politely explained that we couldn’t really help him because
that we couldn’t really help him because
that we couldn’t really help him because we didn’t believe in this idea he gently
we didn’t believe in this idea he gently
we didn’t believe in this idea he gently got me to be more sensible and then he
got me to be more sensible and then he
got me to be more sensible and then he sent me a textbook through the post now
sent me a textbook through the post now
sent me a textbook through the post now ladies and gentlemen you know that
ladies and gentlemen you know that
ladies and gentlemen you know that something is wrong when a client sends a
something is wrong when a client sends a
something is wrong when a client sends a professional a textbook before they see
professional a textbook before they see
professional a textbook before they see you that client and I worked hard for
you that client and I worked hard for
you that client and I worked hard for many months learning together as we went
many months learning together as we went
many months learning together as we went ahead but of course everywhere we found
ahead but of course everywhere we found
ahead but of course everywhere we found the same ignorance as mine nothing
the same ignorance as mine nothing
the same ignorance as mine nothing changed his family alienation
so I wonder what you would have done if
so I wonder what you would have done if you had been me I think you’d get
you had been me I think you’d get
you had been me I think you’d get maverick again like I did you’d want to
maverick again like I did you’d want to
maverick again like I did you’d want to make up for those years of incompetence
make up for those years of incompetence
make up for those years of incompetence he would wouldn’t you six years later
he would wouldn’t you six years later
he would wouldn’t you six years later that client and I are now maverick
that client and I are now maverick
that client and I are now maverick colleagues in a dedicated campaign about
colleagues in a dedicated campaign about
colleagues in a dedicated campaign about alienation from local to global all done
alienation from local to global all done
alienation from local to global all done informally so far oh and we take care to
informally so far oh and we take care to
informally so far oh and we take care to disagree a lot by the way if you google
disagree a lot by the way if you google
disagree a lot by the way if you google any of this you’ll find it’s not as
any of this you’ll find it’s not as
any of this you’ll find it’s not as simple as us as a Ted sighs talk makes
simple as us as a Ted sighs talk makes
simple as us as a Ted sighs talk makes out let’s find that with some maverick
out let’s find that with some maverick
out let’s find that with some maverick points as a budding maverick you’ll want
points as a budding maverick you’ll want
points as a budding maverick you’ll want to remember this a maverick must keep
to remember this a maverick must keep
to remember this a maverick must keep being maverick
being maverick
being maverick even in the United group of fellow
even in the United group of fellow
even in the United group of fellow Mavericks you’ve got to keep thinking
Mavericks you’ve got to keep thinking
Mavericks you’ve got to keep thinking because in the real world the plot never
because in the real world the plot never
because in the real world the plot never ends to help you love being maverick
ends to help you love being maverick
ends to help you love being maverick remember it’s a quality like others that
remember it’s a quality like others that
remember it’s a quality like others that we aspire to heroism innovation
we aspire to heroism innovation
we aspire to heroism innovation integrity rationality and my story will
integrity rationality and my story will
integrity rationality and my story will help you remember the difference between
help you remember the difference between
help you remember the difference between being bold and the pride that comes
being bold and the pride that comes
being bold and the pride that comes before a fall and we do take risks when
before a fall and we do take risks when
before a fall and we do take risks when we refuse to be branded like
we refuse to be branded like
we refuse to be branded like whistleblowers you have to have courage
whistleblowers you have to have courage
whistleblowers you have to have courage and conviction and you’re at your most
and conviction and you’re at your most
and conviction and you’re at your most powerful when you have nothing to lose
powerful when you have nothing to lose
powerful when you have nothing to lose so let’s all celebrate both our
so let’s all celebrate both our
so let’s all celebrate both our established authorities and our
established authorities and our
established authorities and our Mavericks because we’re not good at
Mavericks because we’re not good at
Mavericks because we’re not good at self-promotion we need others to spot us
self-promotion we need others to spot us
self-promotion we need others to spot us and to make our work known today
and to make our work known today
and to make our work known today I hope you’re now really ready to love
I hope you’re now really ready to love
I hope you’re now really ready to love the Maverick in you and in others and to
the Maverick in you and in others and to
the Maverick in you and in others and to end here’s something we can all applaud
end here’s something we can all applaud
end here’s something we can all applaud every TED talk across the world puts a
every TED talk across the world puts a
every TED talk across the world puts a maverick on the stage and all of us
maverick on the stage and all of us
maverick on the stage and all of us today as well so a special thanks to Ted
today as well so a special thanks to Ted
today as well so a special thanks to Ted and TEDx for services to the Maverick
and TEDx for services to the Maverick
and TEDx for services to the Maverick cause thank you and thank Ted
cause thank you and thank Ted
cause thank you and thank Ted [Applause]
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