this is the weight that my son increased
from his birth until he finished
my paternity leave
I stayed a bit like saying
I know little but suddenly you give of
bruces not with this permission
paternity only 13 days it occurs to me
a great idea I said ‘I’m going to add 15
additional days of my vacation to
these 13 bright days neither does either
it convinces me to the thing but far from what
it may seem like it was a very
transgressor my work
people told me at coffee time
I said support when my son was born
I only took three days , nor
even a bridge with the theme of the 15
additional days also listen
phrases like is that a manager does not
can take vacations in March a
legal or powerful argument and already the
thing
the thing got complicated the thing was
complicated when with birth the
birth of my son when he was born
our second daughter
besides order the 13 days in addition to
ask for the 15 days of vacation in
March because he was born in the same month
I asked when breastfeeding and already
what do we want more my popularity went
a pique
I heard a woman at work
He said
I presumed already works many hours until
2 in the morning and she boasted
that an event had never been missed
important of your child at school
I understand that we are talking about the work
Christmas theater
the burial of the sardine and
eventually the end of course dance
truth that I did with my time of
lactation
Well, thanks to the breastfeeding time
our oldest son goes every day to
school at the hand of his dad and his
mom every day
for more inri I was the director of
human resources of the company with
which was not setting a good example with
those hints that were throwing me
truth came during a lot of
years many years in all
interviews I had with people who
We are going to hire him, he said, I do not want to
be you have a few hours you meet them and
you go because because the work is
organized that I think is the heel
of Achilles of companies that reconcile
wrong and of people who reconcile badly
the lack of organization is one of the
possible causes I do not say it’s the
unique but of course on the
possible causes and I example came in
at six in the morning to work
I left at approximately 2 meal in
house the afternoon free
the typical siesta play with the cat
be with my girl pay the gym and
no and the typical thing you can do in a
free afternoon
however those free afternoons is a
training because I think the
families are also when they do not
they have children and you had better go
training however this experience
it made me think he was a weirdo and
means to reflect and decide on
where does this come to me from going to
countercurrent
then it’s true he collaborated with daddy
reconciled seen that there are many people
stuck in this world of conciliation
the thing doing very interesting things
really that wanting to change the
background things but I in my environment
social was a weirdo when I was
this aspect as a possible explanation
because good people my age
the millennials do not but people give me
we already have an old professor who
we remember everything is true those who haunt
the 40 we have an old teacher
because I had a professor kittin or
captain my captain
you remember for being a teacher keating
what he did was wake up my
creativity
this teacher what he did was to reserve
two hours a week for him
let’s in class
what we had written at home
product of our imagination
I do not know how the system would fit now
educational in quito up philosophy
true
this kittin professor is no coincidence
never never never sent us homework
for home creativity and the fact that
I until 9 years old, the only thing I did
was going to school and playing I think they are
quite related in the times that
they run in which the duties and
After- school classes have become
in the new parents who also
extracurricular classes go in parallel
with the recycling courses of the
company to improve English or a
course of digital marketing or networks
socially lucky people parents
and the children are seen at dinner one
short version of the sleeping story
A kiss and until tomorrow
the other important milestone in my life was
the theme of making the bed myself with ten
years made my bed for the first time but
nobody asked me was an initiative
own that my mother did as soon as
I go to bed made with some wrinkles
true when I already camacho the first thing that
did it was that zealand that this is
fatal and I say to messi is that I’m
stuck in a macho matrix that I
I have to wake up and I think that there
the shots go
that was the beginning of this awakening of
This macho madrid that directed me
towards a conciliation that I do not think
you can improvise from night to
tomorrow is neither on a personal level nor
level of society what I learned
later
this is what comes very well is
expectant comes in handy for when
you live alone and I’m living for four years
only discover that the sock is not going
only from the washing machine to the drawer
that’s important but it also comes to you
good for when he later lives as a couple
I discovered that there are two pillars
fundamental for life as a couple
for coexistence
one is that the other person does not make two
things followed from the house as a way of
balance and he
the world is that there are always two ways
correct to do the homework
domestic was dedicated to my mother
I confess it
the point is that with this philosophy
of life we as a couple already
we were training is not for when
will reach our children the same happens
with free time
leisure time if your free time is
it looks like what you’re going to have or rather
when your children arrive, it is a
adaptation of you towards them and of them
towards you
you can share our free time
I think it’s not a matter of overturning with
completely in children’s activities
they do not have to be all ball pools
and they do not have to be all walk by
malaaña it is convenient that we train the
conciliation and that we understand that
we have finally the coexistence
before our children arrive
because a nor a child when it is born what
unsettles absolutely everything is
being a couple but we arrived we had a
conversation a few years ago my girl and
I had a conversation in which
She told me that she was already working in a
research agency
here in the great way that says is a
research agency in Spain in
the great way
why not put a franchise not to
his
they actually did an ere and they put
the franchise
then my girl in that vital moment
she told me that her maternal instinct was
he was good, he invited him to have a son
as a priority thing
He invited me to accompany her on that trip
but I think there is a difference
important because your maternal instinct
natural pushed him in that direction
it was the most important project that was going
address in his life and he will take
out yes or yes and invited me to
accompany her decided to accompany her to
axis but my thing was a wish that arrives
to be the one who was going to be a mother even
without me that ‘s the idea that I have in
the head did not I however had the
I want to be a father with her and I think
that that’s the starting point is in the
that an inequality appears that then the
society are channeled
of consolidation making life difficult
employment and making it difficult for women to
man’s personal life because it seems
that we are predestined to roles
different then when you pretend
do the 13 plus 15 then then the
Things start to squeal a little
question is what good
ay ay ay figures for hope for
example we have that 85 almost a
little more than 14 percent are the
they still do not get permission to
paternity
as I said before there are people who are
working on this very hard and only
it does not reach 2%
those who ask for paternity leave
shared when we decided to be
parents we saw ourselves in a situation in
the one that my girl had stopped
work was already asking for weird stuff
at work what I was about was
placed in the labor disparate and already
we only lacked fernando león or ken
loach so that social affairs
call a goal you’re doing
it was a bit strange situation
to alleviate this situation that could
have economic consequences in
our our domestic economy
we take three measurements that I see now
very clear but that at that time
we take them with total naturalness and without
think them as much as I’m going to expose here
the first measure that we take very
transgressor was to take care of us
of our children
We decided not to work more to stop
to pay someone to take care of
our children and we have not wanted either
convert the grandmothers of our
children in their mothers
the second measure we took was
buy a car for our son who
I did not have a wheel to do the
paris dakar with this measure we get
first they covered the elevator and
second that apply it do not occupy
too much space in our car the
year 2007
in this way we refuse to buy
the tank car that are bought all
new parents that car you have to
pay it
the third measure is that we do not
we change house
we continue living the same
because as I said before with time
free your children you adapt to your
children but it’s good that your children
also adapt to you
you have to be careful with the resignations
we live in a house that has two
bedrooms two adults and two children
little ones
the cat lacava
the cam has come has returned to our
children do not have 15 square meters to
each and neither do they have a quarter
games but it looks like they are
happy and us too
also living in the center of madrid
we have become a fan very fan of the
collaborative economy
this has to do with the good deed
with telling them that I in a couple of
Sometimes she called my girl the fact
they have stolen our car because I did not know
where it was parked for the
give an idea of what we use are
very fans of the collaborative economy of
the shared cars of the payment by
Minute cars cars
low cost rental
we love that we also have to
say that our oldest son’s chair
the one that goes the car is second- hand
nothing happens and we both have
fed with a bottle prepared with
Game faucet with tap water from
madrid that is a healthy water does not
nothing has happened and besides we are or not
we are contributing to have a
plan e is lined with plastic
We believe that the planet can not stand this
rhythm of consumption and we believe that these
economic measures that we have taken
they serve to have less bonds
economic to get rid of the
obligation or some pressure in the
work of having to do more hours of
have to put up with certain things because
you are more free is more free and you
you can give your children something that is not
can save that is the time
going back to the beginning I think that although
Dad state does not help you beyond
of the 13 days
I think that even if your family does not help you
too much with the subject of your
children if you want to have children is your
responsibility
and should be enough of your reasons and your
reasons to have them
I think it’s an act of responsibility
huge and for the record that since I ‘m
father
I perfectly understand people who do not
wants to be
I say this because I before being a father
I had a life that I considered full and
that fullness
It was as valid as the one I feel now
different but equally valid because
I do not want for anything in the world
put on my children something so harmful
as they are the only sense of my
existence
are children of a psychologist and a
monologuista thanks to the mother listen
thank you very much the father speaks for the
elbows
we have no interest in that
learn robotics with three years
three languages at 5 we refer kg bread
we prefer that they know how to manage their
emotions that are healthy at the
emotional and see the conciliation
as something normal
from the first day the equality at home
I do not have to wake up from any
matrix
we also want you to feel a lot of love
We believe that love is the most
important that they feel it and that what
see home to see her parents
They want us so much that we are educating them
to leave home as soon as possible
because if we get that we will have done
of them some free autonomous people
with the ability to decide and to
defend yourself in this world that I believe that
with them we can improve the time is
very important the time is very
important and when the time passes
I do not want to be the father of my
grandchildren
that’s why we’re educating them like that
I also feel in my deepest
heart that our children and is
important that it be in this order are not
the cause that we want
they are the consequence thank you very much
Behind bars
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