I believe that we all
come to this world
to something
learn but we do not
we always learn
life lessons for us
easier to live by
habit even if we
do something
wrong and then
life suits us
the exam is for sure
each of you have been
situations where life
suddenly went wrong according to plan
usually we call
it’s by chance
failure
misfortune I suggest
call it easier
examinations three years
back in my life
happened such
exam
which I found
not ready like you
know the normal
pregnancy lasts
average 40 weeks
my child
had to appear on
light at 28 weeks for three
months ahead of schedule
began with the fact that
I was just sent
to save but
doctors in the hospital
they told me that they
the child dies
suffocating
urgent
operation is so
the way I hit the floor
percent of mothers
which give birth
Extremely
Premature their children
weight less than one
kilogram odds
survive significantly
lower than in children
born term
visible reasons for that
my
pregnancy
developed precisely on
this scenario and
ended with
The outcome is not
managed
I was completely
healthy and on the question
why doctors answered
it’s so easy for you
no luck and only
after a while I realized
what actually became
For me this experience and
how do I really
lucky and today I would
wanted to share with
three questions
which I got
in my
examination
ticket and three
answers to me
I had to find a question
number one that
because if you are the worst
that summer when, after
long persuasion
doctors I still
had an operation
the child went to
in the intensive care unit, this is
a place
access that
material occurs
strictly by the hour at
small gap
time when you
you can feed
your child
change him
a diaper and somehow
chat at the same time
time I like everything
other mothers
had the opportunity
sometimes go out for
limits of the hospital and
this is the first time
I was back in
in the ordinary world I
with surprise
discovered very
strange thing
pregnant women in
Vladivostok was once
a hundred more than
they were usually
everywhere in a cafe in
buses on the streets in
pharmacies all over the city
pregnant except me
and each this large
round 9-month
my stomach told me you
loser in their place
there had to be me I
hated everyone
pregnant women
surprisingly but later
three years
quantities
I’m not pregnant
I meet strange
not at all we
see what we want
see and I saw
own
inferiority
but now imagine
ward that
there are 10 women
caught up in
about the same
life situations
child in hospital
nothing fun and
only
legal way
to deal with stress
talk but themes
conversations need
admit not very much
are diverse and you
how much from yesterday’s
of the day they gained 10 grams
but we are 30 or hooray we
today finally
ate the norm you are lucky
we are constantly
regurgitates and then
all these conversations
do not come from
that someone at the very
who is interested in who
how much it took in
that when you
very bad you
subconsciously looking for
someone worse
English is also there
such a proverb
misfortune does not endure
loneliness I every
times of hope
looked into my eyes
other mothers well
maybe at least you
we are overtaken today
but not many days
successively, I discovered
she is young in the very
the tail of achievement
newborns and
for a moment I
just decided for
everything is enough
more similar
issues surrounding
I do not ask mummies
not
traumatize
the next luncheon
opposite me on
the neighboring
on an adjacent chair
sits down
roommate in the ward I
all types remember my
vow of silence
showing that
I do not want to talk
intends but not here then
there was a girl getting out
phone
recruits mum and
tells her everything
as it is
dear mommy here
everything is wonderful only
he scored 60 grams and
in three days we
subscribes
inner voice in
my head in this
the moment is simply
laughed to me became
it’s funny how much
it’s stupid to try
keep oneself safe
on the achievement of
surrounding
it’s foolish to hate
people who have something
occurs or
is better than
by you
what was left for me
do at that time
the slogan of
my
child June was
there is no deterioration and glory
God and I had to
accept this
then that the daily
turtle checkers in 10
grams are also steps
and we are not worse than others
we are better than yesterday in
this moment
words are not
has not changed yet
as soon as I
has ceased to compare
we have with others
I was released
mass of energy
for example, I remembered
that the children’s room
still not ready
take baby and all
we threw on
repair and during
our short meetings
in resuscitation I
told her how
we are waiting for her at home question
number two how do you carry
burden of responsibility
for the life of a small
a person once
after another
visiting the young
resuscitation and not the most
hopeful
predictions of doctors I
came out and just
burst into tears from
impotence from awareness
the fact that I did not
I can influence
small
man rather
got into the normal
life to you
got out at all
and then I called
to her husband
which was the most
persistent and most
strong man
poured out another
a portion of experiences and
he told me very much
tough but very
correct words he
said
Listen, it’s hers.
life is now only
she has to decide what’s wrong with her
do you here
nothing more
stop taking
situation at one’s own expense
we talked about the baby
6 weeks old and he
was right, I literally
I felt with
I lost weight
excessive
responsibility is not
unrealizable
commitments at the
child 24 hours in
day is under
care of doctors
I give for my part
and everything is possible and everything
necessary and not
less I can not
take it for
important decision as
live or not live we
how should parents
give to your children
love
security
opportunity
fine
develop and all
rest
they choose themselves
question number 3 when
problems will end
even before I
first saw
of my child I
found out with what
number of
diagnoses and threats to us
to fight and
I did not panic
just because I
generally poorly understood
what’s going on but
gradually shared with
doctors, we learned that
the first main task
is to overcome
critical
state and go
for the second stage
grooming from
hospital to hospital
when it happens
whether this will happen
none at all
does not imply
dared
unbearably long
seven days is all the same
there was little
800 grams of lump
but the ambulance
assistance went from
hospital to hospital
our excitement at that
day is impossible
describe by any
words but joy
It was short-lived as the
Only we got
before the hospital we found out
that now the list
conditions almost in 2
times more
first need
was to move from
apparatus
artificial
ventilation
which are fully
breathes for a person on
staff
supporting
breathing is then needed
was cured of
pneumonia
get rid of
other infections
learn to breathe
fully
yourself
type a certain
weight to learn is from
they through
probe and this one
the stage promised
achievement of
the long-awaited
tranquility
but as soon as we
got to it
a dozen more popped up
The problem is not
ended in
vice versa
new no less important
and we do not have time
rejoice again
joined the struggle in
some time the charter
from this infinite
race I suddenly
drew attention to
how sometimes about their
children are told by their mother
outside the hospital
mums healthy
full-term children
sometimes they say
Lord, when are you
already you will begin to eat so at
but the whole kitchen in
your porridge or I’ll go
mad I do not know how to us
choose which
kindergarten go there
where the program is
such a wonderful
or
where friends are good
educators and this
became for me
revelation postoyte
The problem is not
end that is
even when we
everything will turn out well
we all will come
home
this whole
history with pots with
lure my with a choice
kindergarten
but in one beautiful
she will find my day
cosmetic bag and
decorate and everything
around
quietly no more
will be every day
it bears us difficulties and
only depends on us
how to treat them
as a problem or as
task as vital
stage
overcoming which
we become
more mature and wiser and
most often happier
I do not know what would
evaluation has put us
The universe on this
examination
but after it my
favorite quote became
phrase from sept
exupery
you’re looking for meaning in life
but after all the only
its meaning is that
you finally come true and
Absolutely not
the destroyed rest
what are you doing
show something to do
life only as already
can look in the mirror
beautiful on yes
Thank you
[applause]
[music]
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