fundamentally we suffer from procrastination or we have tendencies
procrastination or we have tendencies
procrastination or we have tendencies towards procrastination because as
towards procrastination because as
towards procrastination because as children we are treated as slaves
children we are treated as slaves
children we are treated as slaves because it’s children we are treated as
because it’s children we are treated as
because it’s children we are treated as slaves and let me explain sort of what I
slaves and let me explain sort of what I
slaves and let me explain sort of what I mean by that and we’ll see if we can’t
mean by that and we’ll see if we can’t
mean by that and we’ll see if we can’t make a little bit of sense out of it and
make a little bit of sense out of it and
make a little bit of sense out of it and when we’re children we are simply told
when we’re children we are simply told
when we’re children we are simply told what to do
what to do
what to do we are ordered around we are managed we
we are ordered around we are managed we
we are ordered around we are managed we are ordered to to perform certain chores
are ordered to to perform certain chores
are ordered to to perform certain chores to obey to sit still to do our homework
to obey to sit still to do our homework
to obey to sit still to do our homework that we just ordered what to do and
that we just ordered what to do and
that we just ordered what to do and we’re not consulted in any way shape or
we’re not consulted in any way shape or
we’re not consulted in any way shape or form and we get little sort of
form and we get little sort of
form and we get little sort of inconsequential consults like would you
inconsequential consults like would you
inconsequential consults like would you like hot dogs or hamburgers for dinner
like hot dogs or hamburgers for dinner
like hot dogs or hamburgers for dinner but our preferences are fine
but our preferences are fine
but our preferences are fine foundational fundamental preferences are
foundational fundamental preferences are
foundational fundamental preferences are not consulted when we’re children so so
not consulted when we’re children so so
not consulted when we’re children so so when I say that our preferences or our
when I say that our preferences or our
when I say that our preferences or our feelings were not consulted when we were
feelings were not consulted when we were
feelings were not consulted when we were children what I mean is that your local
children what I mean is that your local
children what I mean is that your local pizza parlor will sort of ask you from
pizza parlor will sort of ask you from
pizza parlor will sort of ask you from time to time if you’ve ever been part of
time to time if you’ve ever been part of
time to time if you’ve ever been part of one of these surveys you know what I
one of these surveys you know what I
one of these surveys you know what I mean I’ll ask you from time to time and
mean I’ll ask you from time to time and
mean I’ll ask you from time to time and say what kind of pizza do you like half
say what kind of pizza do you like half
say what kind of pizza do you like half you know how soon do you want it what
you know how soon do you want it what
you know how soon do you want it what kind of toppings do you want they all
kind of toppings do you want they all
kind of toppings do you want they all all of this kind of meat market research
all of this kind of meat market research
all of this kind of meat market research is done in order to try and tailor the
is done in order to try and tailor the
is done in order to try and tailor the pizza experience to your particular
pizza experience to your particular
pizza experience to your particular preferences or tastes and in that’s also
preferences or tastes and in that’s also
preferences or tastes and in that’s also occurs with children so if you are a toy
occurs with children so if you are a toy
occurs with children so if you are a toy manufacturer you do massive amounts of
manufacturer you do massive amounts of
manufacturer you do massive amounts of play testing with children you do
play testing with children you do
play testing with children you do massive amounts of research to figure
massive amounts of research to figure
massive amounts of research to figure out watch the children like what the
out watch the children like what the
out watch the children like what the children want so that you can tailor
children want so that you can tailor
children want so that you can tailor twice that will work for them you don’t
twice that will work for them you don’t
twice that will work for them you don’t just sit there to the children and say
just sit there to the children and say
just sit there to the children and say you will like and play with these toys
you will like and play with these toys
you will like and play with these toys damn it so we when we want to interact
damn it so we when we want to interact
damn it so we when we want to interact with people in a positive way we ask
with people in a positive way we ask
with people in a positive way we ask them what they want we negotiate with
them what they want we negotiate with
them what they want we negotiate with them and when the pizza parlor says what
them and when the pizza parlor says what
them and when the pizza parlor says what do you want and the recipients say have
do you want and the recipients say have
do you want and the recipients say have on all the pizza I could ever eat for
on all the pizza I could ever eat for
on all the pizza I could ever eat for free while they say what we can’t do
free while they say what we can’t do
free while they say what we can’t do we can’t do that it’s a negotiation
we can’t do that it’s a negotiation
we can’t do that it’s a negotiation based on reality is not just a top-down
based on reality is not just a top-down
based on reality is not just a top-down ordering but there’s mutual consultation
ordering but there’s mutual consultation
ordering but there’s mutual consultation that’s involved
so when we understand that that
so when we understand that that children’s needs wishes and desires are
children’s needs wishes and desires are
children’s needs wishes and desires are consulted by toy manufacturers and other
consulted by toy manufacturers and other
consulted by toy manufacturers and other people excuse me
people excuse me
people excuse me then we can understand that
then we can understand that
then we can understand that this is all possible so compared to your
this is all possible so compared to your
this is all possible so compared to your experience within your family and your
experience within your family and your
experience within your family and your experience within your school compare
experience within your school compare
experience within your school compare that to the time manufacturer of a pizza
that to the time manufacturer of a pizza
that to the time manufacturer of a pizza place or any a software vendor whoever
place or any a software vendor whoever
place or any a software vendor whoever it is that that asks you for your
it is that that asks you for your
it is that that asks you for your opinion about things and ties to tailor
opinion about things and ties to tailor
opinion about things and ties to tailor what they offer to your particular
what they offer to your particular
what they offer to your particular designers from a realistic standpoint
designers from a realistic standpoint
designers from a realistic standpoint from a what is possible standpoint
from a what is possible standpoint
from a what is possible standpoint imagine that your mom or your dad sits
imagine that your mom or your dad sits
imagine that your mom or your dad sits down with you and and asks the following
down with you and and asks the following
down with you and and asks the following and again this is from the up coming
and again this is from the up coming
and again this is from the up coming book real-time relationships sits down
book real-time relationships sits down
book real-time relationships sits down across with you and says listen I wanted
across with you and says listen I wanted
across with you and says listen I wanted to get your feedback on my parenting I
to get your feedback on my parenting I
to get your feedback on my parenting I wanted to know what is working for you
wanted to know what is working for you
wanted to know what is working for you in my parenting and what is not working
in my parenting and what is not working
in my parenting and what is not working for you what you like and what you don’t
for you what you like and what you don’t
for you what you like and what you don’t like and once you find productive what
like and once you find productive what
like and once you find productive what you find not productive what you find
you find not productive what you find
you find not productive what you find useful what you find frustrating or
useful what you find frustrating or
useful what you find frustrating or irritating so obviously I tell you not
irritating so obviously I tell you not
irritating so obviously I tell you not to eat the third candy bar do you
to eat the third candy bar do you
to eat the third candy bar do you generally understand even if you don’t
generally understand even if you don’t
generally understand even if you don’t like it in the moment do you generally
like it in the moment do you generally
like it in the moment do you generally understand later why I say that or are
understand later why I say that or are
understand later why I say that or are you just kind of obeying orders the the
you just kind of obeying orders the the
you just kind of obeying orders the the negative feedback that I give you or
negative feedback that I give you or
negative feedback that I give you or even the punishments the time asses did
even the punishments the time asses did
even the punishments the time asses did they work for you do they make sense or
they work for you do they make sense or
they work for you do they make sense or are you just doing it because I’m
are you just doing it because I’m
are you just doing it because I’m telling you to do it or or or does it
telling you to do it or or or does it
telling you to do it or or or does it make sense to you what it is that I’m
make sense to you what it is that I’m
make sense to you what it is that I’m asking you to do even if it doesn’t in
asking you to do even if it doesn’t in
asking you to do even if it doesn’t in the moment like later on does it make
the moment like later on does it make
the moment like later on does it make sense it’s there any way that I could
sense it’s there any way that I could
sense it’s there any way that I could improve your experience of being my
improve your experience of being my
improve your experience of being my child is there any way that I could
child is there any way that I could
child is there any way that I could become a better parent for you and what
become a better parent for you and what
become a better parent for you and what I mean by that is if you could imagine
I mean by that is if you could imagine
I mean by that is if you could imagine the best conceivable possible parent for
the best conceivable possible parent for
the best conceivable possible parent for you what would that look like if you
you what would that look like if you
you what would that look like if you could choose any parent in the world
could choose any parent in the world
could choose any parent in the world would you choose me or would you choose
would you choose me or would you choose
would you choose me or would you choose someone else if you would choose someone
someone else if you would choose someone
someone else if you would choose someone else why help me understand how I could
else why help me understand how I could
else why help me understand how I could improve my parenting and improve your
improve my parenting and improve your
improve my parenting and improve your experience of being my child
do you see that you’ve never been asked
do you see that you’ve never been asked that your parents never asked you that
that your parents never asked you that
that your parents never asked you that do you see how we consult our customers
do you see how we consult our customers
do you see how we consult our customers on toys and pizzas and software and
on toys and pizzas and software and
on toys and pizzas and software and airline flights and all these sorts of
airline flights and all these sorts of
airline flights and all these sorts of things we consult other adults children
things we consult other adults children
things we consult other adults children and so on on their preferences in this
and so on on their preferences in this
and so on on their preferences in this area but we do not consult our own
area but we do not consult our own
area but we do not consult our own children or as children we are not
children or as children we are not
children or as children we are not consulted by our parents on how the
consulted by our parents on how the
consulted by our parents on how the family experience can be improved this
family experience can be improved this
family experience can be improved this can happen with adult parents as well
can happen with adult parents as well
can happen with adult parents as well your adult parents can say to you how do
your adult parents can say to you how do
your adult parents can say to you how do you feel when I called you feel like
you feel when I called you feel like
you feel when I called you feel like we’re having a good relationship is
we’re having a good relationship is
we’re having a good relationship is there anything that I could do to
there anything that I could do to
there anything that I could do to improve the relationship is there
improve the relationship is there
improve the relationship is there anything that you want that I’m not
anything that you want that I’m not
anything that you want that I’m not providing or that I am providing that
providing or that I am providing that
providing or that I am providing that you don’t want and that kind of honest
you don’t want and that kind of honest
you don’t want and that kind of honest feedback we consult people on pizza we
feedback we consult people on pizza we
feedback we consult people on pizza we don’t consult people on parenting that’s
don’t consult people on parenting that’s
don’t consult people on parenting that’s very sad and this has a lot to do with
very sad and this has a lot to do with
very sad and this has a lot to do with procrastination as I’ll get to shortly
procrastination as I’ll get to shortly
procrastination as I’ll get to shortly if we look at something like in your
if we look at something like in your
if we look at something like in your education as well you went to school
education as well you went to school
education as well you went to school let’s say you went to public school like
let’s say you went to public school like
let’s say you went to public school like the majority of people didn’t when your
the majority of people didn’t when your
the majority of people didn’t when your teacher did your teacher ever sit down
teacher did your teacher ever sit down
teacher did your teacher ever sit down with you and say listen is there any way
with you and say listen is there any way
with you and say listen is there any way that my teaching could be improved for
that my teaching could be improved for
that my teaching could be improved for you when I teach you do you feel like
you when I teach you do you feel like
you when I teach you do you feel like I’m just asking you to do things and you
I’m just asking you to do things and you
I’m just asking you to do things and you don’t know why or does it make sense to
don’t know why or does it make sense to
don’t know why or does it make sense to you am i awakening and desire and joy a
you am i awakening and desire and joy a
you am i awakening and desire and joy a desire for enjoy of knowledge in you or
desire for enjoy of knowledge in you or
desire for enjoy of knowledge in you or are you just kind of going through the
are you just kind of going through the
are you just kind of going through the motions because you’ve got a you’ve got
motions because you’ve got a you’ve got
motions because you’ve got a you’ve got to do it right is there any way that my
to do it right is there any way that my
to do it right is there any way that my teaching that my class structure that
teaching that my class structure that
teaching that my class structure that the topics that the approaches could it
the topics that the approaches could it
the topics that the approaches could it be improved in any way shape or form to
be improved in any way shape or form to
be improved in any way shape or form to make your learning experience more
make your learning experience more
make your learning experience more enjoyable
enjoyable
enjoyable [Music]
[Music]
[Music] and think about that that’s what I’m
and think about that that’s what I’m
and think about that that’s what I’m talking about when I’m talking about
talking about when I’m talking about
talking about when I’m talking about that we are treated as slaves as
that we are treated as slaves as
that we are treated as slaves as children because our desires our
children because our desires our
children because our desires our feedback our preferences in a
feedback our preferences in a
feedback our preferences in a foundational in a fundamental way are
foundational in a fundamental way are
foundational in a fundamental way are never consulted a constantly rejected
never consulted a constantly rejected
never consulted a constantly rejected and if you understand that you never had
and if you understand that you never had
and if you understand that you never had that conversation with your parents and
that conversation with your parents and
that conversation with your parents and that you never had that conversation
that you never had that conversation
that you never had that conversation with your teacher you can understand
with your teacher you can understand
with your teacher you can understand just how little your needs your
just how little your needs your
just how little your needs your preferences your desires were taken into
preferences your desires were taken into
preferences your desires were taken into account and when you think about it and
account and when you think about it and
account and when you think about it and you really think about it that’s
you really think about it that’s
you really think about it that’s astounding that’s astounding that we
astounding that’s astounding that we
astounding that’s astounding that we would apply that kind of objective
would apply that kind of objective
would apply that kind of objective feedback and request for information for
feedback and request for information for
feedback and request for information for every conceivable service except for the
every conceivable service except for the
every conceivable service except for the most important ones which are parenting
most important ones which are parenting
most important ones which are parenting and education for children
so with that in mind let’s have a look
so with that in mind let’s have a look towards how this affects the question of
towards how this affects the question of
towards how this affects the question of the issue of the problem of
the issue of the problem of
the issue of the problem of procrastination when a slave master
procrastination when a slave master
procrastination when a slave master tells a slave what to do orders a slave
tells a slave what to do orders a slave
tells a slave what to do orders a slave to do something the slavers ends of
to do something the slavers ends of
to do something the slavers ends of course just as any of any human being
course just as any of any human being
course just as any of any human being resents being treated as an object being
resents being treated as an object being
resents being treated as an object being treated as a machine being too ordered
treated as a machine being too ordered
treated as a machine being too ordered what to do with no account of the slaves
what to do with no account of the slaves
what to do with no account of the slaves feelings or preferences or desires and
feelings or preferences or desires and
feelings or preferences or desires and the reason I have talked about this in
the reason I have talked about this in
the reason I have talked about this in the book on universally preferable
the book on universally preferable
the book on universally preferable behavior the reason of course is that
behavior the reason of course is that
behavior the reason of course is that the slave master is saying my feelings
the slave master is saying my feelings
the slave master is saying my feelings are really really important my desire to
are really really important my desire to
are really really important my desire to get you to do something is really
get you to do something is really
get you to do something is really important so feelings are really
important so feelings are really
important so feelings are really important ah but your feelings is a
important ah but your feelings is a
important ah but your feelings is a slave completely unimportant
slave completely unimportant
slave completely unimportant inconsequential negative I don’t want to
inconsequential negative I don’t want to
inconsequential negative I don’t want to hear about them I don’t want to know
hear about them I don’t want to know
hear about them I don’t want to know them just do it dammit
feelings are very important feelings are
feelings are very important feelings are completely unimportant feelings are very
completely unimportant feelings are very
completely unimportant feelings are very valuable and must be obeyed feelings are
valuable and must be obeyed feelings are
valuable and must be obeyed feelings are not at all important and must be
not at all important and must be
not at all important and must be suppressed ignored I don’t want to know
suppressed ignored I don’t want to know
suppressed ignored I don’t want to know this is the contradiction that’s
this is the contradiction that’s
this is the contradiction that’s involved of course in ordering people to
involved of course in ordering people to
involved of course in ordering people to do stuff my preference is my wants my
do stuff my preference is my wants my
do stuff my preference is my wants my desires are absolutes yours don’t exist
desires are absolutes yours don’t exist
desires are absolutes yours don’t exist don’t have any value I don’t want to
don’t have any value I don’t want to
don’t have any value I don’t want to know that’s the hypocrisy that’s
know that’s the hypocrisy that’s
know that’s the hypocrisy that’s involved in this kind of relationship
involved in this kind of relationship
involved in this kind of relationship and that’s why we feel resentment right
and that’s why we feel resentment right
and that’s why we feel resentment right so when the slave master orders a slave
so when the slave master orders a slave
so when the slave master orders a slave to do something the slave can’t say no
to do something the slave can’t say no
to do something the slave can’t say no because he’ll be punished right the
because he’ll be punished right the
because he’ll be punished right the slave can’t refuse the slave can’t
slave can’t refuse the slave can’t
slave can’t refuse the slave can’t negotiate the slave can’t fight back the
negotiate the slave can’t fight back the
negotiate the slave can’t fight back the slave can’t reject the order because the
slave can’t reject the order because the
slave can’t reject the order because the slave will be punished for doing that
slave will be punished for doing that
slave will be punished for doing that but that doesn’t mean that the
but that doesn’t mean that the
but that doesn’t mean that the resentment goes away in fact that just
resentment goes away in fact that just
resentment goes away in fact that just that makes the resentment worse actually
so what recourse what option does the
so what recourse what option does the slave have when the slave is ordered to
slave have when the slave is ordered to
slave have when the slave is ordered to do something to express the resentment
do something to express the resentment
do something to express the resentment everything we feel we get expressed and
everything we feel we get expressed and
everything we feel we get expressed and it gets expressed in one form or another
it gets expressed in one form or another
it gets expressed in one form or another everything we feel all of our
everything we feel all of our
everything we feel all of our experiences get expressed in one form or
experiences get expressed in one form or
experiences get expressed in one form or another whether we like it or not that’s
another whether we like it or not that’s
another whether we like it or not that’s why it’s so important to make these
why it’s so important to make these
why it’s so important to make these things conscious so we have some control
things conscious so we have some control
things conscious so we have some control over our reactions to manage them more
over our reactions to manage them more
over our reactions to manage them more productively well I’ll tell you that the
productively well I’ll tell you that the
productively well I’ll tell you that the slaves resentment at being ordered about
slaves resentment at being ordered about
slaves resentment at being ordered about manifests itself in passive aggression
manifests itself in passive aggression
manifests itself in passive aggression what I mean by that is if the slave
what I mean by that is if the slave
what I mean by that is if the slave master orders the slave to do something
master orders the slave to do something
master orders the slave to do something the slave who is not allowed to
the slave who is not allowed to
the slave who is not allowed to negotiate or to respond will simply do
negotiate or to respond will simply do
negotiate or to respond will simply do it badly the slave will make mistakes
it badly the slave will make mistakes
it badly the slave will make mistakes the slave will postpone the slave will
the slave will postpone the slave will
the slave will postpone the slave will act stupid the slave will break
act stupid the slave will break
act stupid the slave will break something the slave will do it in an
something the slave will do it in an
something the slave will do it in an unproductive way and that is how the
unproductive way and that is how the
unproductive way and that is how the slaves passive aggression goes back up
slaves passive aggression goes back up
slaves passive aggression goes back up against the slave owner because the
against the slave owner because the
against the slave owner because the slave feel feels frustrated of being
slave feel feels frustrated of being
slave feel feels frustrated of being ordered around and since that feeling is
ordered around and since that feeling is
ordered around and since that feeling is going to manifest itself the way that
going to manifest itself the way that
going to manifest itself the way that that feeling manifests itself is the
that feeling manifests itself is the
that feeling manifests itself is the slave then makes the slave master
slave then makes the slave master
slave then makes the slave master frustrated by doing a bad job right so
frustrated by doing a bad job right so
frustrated by doing a bad job right so the the slave master says you know move
the the slave master says you know move
the the slave master says you know move these rocks and so the slave moves them
these rocks and so the slave moves them
these rocks and so the slave moves them afoot and the slave master comes back
afoot and the slave master comes back
afoot and the slave master comes back and says now we’ve moved the rocks over
and says now we’ve moved the rocks over
and says now we’ve moved the rocks over there right and then the slave will move
there right and then the slave will move
there right and then the slave will move the rocks over there and then we’ll do
the rocks over there and then we’ll do
the rocks over there and then we’ll do nothing more no initiative no
nothing more no initiative no
nothing more no initiative no entrepreneurship no thinking no feedback
entrepreneurship no thinking no feedback
entrepreneurship no thinking no feedback just becomes a passive empty bag of
just becomes a passive empty bag of
just becomes a passive empty bag of muscle and bone that it will accept
muscle and bone that it will accept
muscle and bone that it will accept orders but do nothing more what this
orders but do nothing more what this
orders but do nothing more what this means of course is that the slave master
means of course is that the slave master
means of course is that the slave master actually becomes a kind of slave
actually becomes a kind of slave
actually becomes a kind of slave the slave master becomes a kind of slave
the slave master becomes a kind of slave
the slave master becomes a kind of slave and because he’s got to order the slaves
and because he’s got to order the slaves
and because he’s got to order the slaves to do every little thing and has got to
to do every little thing and has got to
to do every little thing and has got to constantly check up on what the slave is
constantly check up on what the slave is
constantly check up on what the slave is doing because the only way that the
doing because the only way that the
doing because the only way that the slave one that can can express a desire
slave one that can can express a desire
slave one that can can express a desire for freedom or can express his
for freedom or can express his
for freedom or can express his resentment is to be inefficient the
resentment is to be inefficient the
resentment is to be inefficient the slaves are always inefficient that’s why
slaves are always inefficient that’s why
slaves are always inefficient that’s why it doesn’t work economic disorder people
it doesn’t work economic disorder people
it doesn’t work economic disorder people want to do and they really express their
want to do and they really express their
want to do and they really express their resentment and frustration by making you
resentment and frustration by making you
resentment and frustration by making you resentful and frustrated by driving you
resentful and frustrated by driving you
resentful and frustrated by driving you crazy so to translate this into a
crazy so to translate this into a
crazy so to translate this into a typical teenage scenario let’s say
typical teenage scenario let’s say
typical teenage scenario let’s say you’ve got a mom who just tells you to
you’ve got a mom who just tells you to
you’ve got a mom who just tells you to do stuff and then gets angry when you if
do stuff and then gets angry when you if
do stuff and then gets angry when you if and when you don’t do it and so you’re
and when you don’t do it and so you’re
and when you don’t do it and so you’re you’re sitting there on your xbox and
you’re sitting there on your xbox and
you’re sitting there on your xbox and playing Halo 9,000,000 or something and
playing Halo 9,000,000 or something and
playing Halo 9,000,000 or something and your mom comes in and says hey take out
your mom comes in and says hey take out
your mom comes in and says hey take out the garbage well what do you feel
the garbage well what do you feel
the garbage well what do you feel master/slave ping you feel resentment of
master/slave ping you feel resentment of
master/slave ping you feel resentment of course of course it would be mad to not
course of course it would be mad to not
course of course it would be mad to not feel resentment but very unhealthy it
feel resentment but very unhealthy it
feel resentment but very unhealthy it would mean that you’d be completely
would mean that you’d be completely
would mean that you’d be completely broken so you feel resentment and what
broken so you feel resentment and what
broken so you feel resentment and what do you do you say in a minute right and
do you do you say in a minute right and
do you do you say in a minute right and if your mom is particularly aggressive
if your mom is particularly aggressive
if your mom is particularly aggressive then you might roll your eyes yeah okay
then you might roll your eyes yeah okay
then you might roll your eyes yeah okay in a minute geez take a pill they could
in a minute geez take a pill they could
in a minute geez take a pill they could chill pill mom right you’re going to to
chill pill mom right you’re going to to
chill pill mom right you’re going to to respond to her aggression and order by
respond to her aggression and order by
respond to her aggression and order by putting things off by doing it badly by
putting things off by doing it badly by
putting things off by doing it badly by making it really frustrating for her to
making it really frustrating for her to
making it really frustrating for her to order you to do something right you are
order you to do something right you are
order you to do something right you are going to respond to the frustration and
going to respond to the frustration and
going to respond to the frustration and humiliation that you feel from this
humiliation that you feel from this
humiliation that you feel from this top-down hierarchy by flipping it and
top-down hierarchy by flipping it and
top-down hierarchy by flipping it and making it really frustrating and
making it really frustrating and
making it really frustrating and annoying for your mom to do this so
annoying for your mom to do this so
annoying for your mom to do this so you’re gonna say in a minute right he
you’re gonna say in a minute right he
you’re gonna say in a minute right he gonna keep playing your game maybe you
gonna keep playing your game maybe you
gonna keep playing your game maybe you start a new game or whatever your mom’s
start a new game or whatever your mom’s
start a new game or whatever your mom’s gonna have to come back hey take out the
gonna have to come back hey take out the
gonna have to come back hey take out the garbage yeah mom relax I’m just about to
garbage yeah mom relax I’m just about to
garbage yeah mom relax I’m just about to do it right this is the game that slaves
do it right this is the game that slaves
do it right this is the game that slaves and masters play and it’s an ugly
and masters play and it’s an ugly
and masters play and it’s an ugly vicious and ending game unless you make
vicious and ending game unless you make
vicious and ending game unless you make it conscious and and break the cycle
it conscious and and break the cycle
it conscious and and break the cycle so this resentment this balking this
so this resentment this balking this
so this resentment this balking this passive aggression there’s doing things
passive aggression there’s doing things
passive aggression there’s doing things badly this delay this faint stupidity
badly this delay this faint stupidity
badly this delay this faint stupidity that occurs from a slave perspective is
that occurs from a slave perspective is
that occurs from a slave perspective is foundational to the problem of
foundational to the problem of
foundational to the problem of procrastination
procrastination
procrastination because when you live in a master/slave
because when you live in a master/slave
because when you live in a master/slave relationship as we all did in schools
relationship as we all did in schools
relationship as we all did in schools and almost all of us did in families
and almost all of us did in families
and almost all of us did in families then what happens is anytime there’s a
then what happens is anytime there’s a
then what happens is anytime there’s a goal you resent it right any time
goal you resent it right any time
goal you resent it right any time because you have had your quote goals
because you have had your quote goals
because you have had your quote goals set by other people not generated
set by other people not generated
set by other people not generated organically and spontaneously from your
organically and spontaneously from your
organically and spontaneously from your preferences or pleasures now this is not
preferences or pleasures now this is not
preferences or pleasures now this is not the normal state of things at all at all
the normal state of things at all at all
the normal state of things at all at all even remotely even closely I know when I
even remotely even closely I know when I
even remotely even closely I know when I was a teenager I taught in a daycare for
was a teenager I taught in a daycare for
was a teenager I taught in a daycare for a couple of years and I had a class of
a couple of years and I had a class of
a couple of years and I had a class of like thirty five to ten year olds and I
like thirty five to ten year olds and I
like thirty five to ten year olds and I found invariably invariably when I
found invariably invariably when I
found invariably invariably when I treated them with respect and asked them
treated them with respect and asked them
treated them with respect and asked them to do something and told them why it was
to do something and told them why it was
to do something and told them why it was a forest volunteer hence they couldn’t
a forest volunteer hence they couldn’t
a forest volunteer hence they couldn’t tell these children what to do they just
tell these children what to do they just
tell these children what to do they just grudgingly do it if you force them and
grudgingly do it if you force them and
grudgingly do it if you force them and then resentfully passive-aggressively do
then resentfully passive-aggressively do
then resentfully passive-aggressively do it badly and you’d end up more
it badly and you’d end up more
it badly and you’d end up more frustrated I’ll do it myself right but
frustrated I’ll do it myself right but
frustrated I’ll do it myself right but when you treat children with respect and
when you treat children with respect and
when you treat children with respect and and you ask them you know tell them why
and you ask them you know tell them why
and you ask them you know tell them why it’s important and so on then they want
it’s important and so on then they want
it’s important and so on then they want to be you know the big person like the
to be you know the big person like the
to be you know the big person like the adult and do the right thing and help
adult and do the right thing and help
adult and do the right thing and help I’ve had children my nieces when I was
I’ve had children my nieces when I was
I’ve had children my nieces when I was very when they were very young and it
very when they were very young and it
very when they were very young and it three year or she wanted to help me fold
three year or she wanted to help me fold
three year or she wanted to help me fold my laundry and I took her hand to take
my laundry and I took her hand to take
my laundry and I took her hand to take it to do my laundry because I didn’t
it to do my laundry because I didn’t
it to do my laundry because I didn’t have laundry in the house she like
have laundry in the house she like
have laundry in the house she like wanted to she got irritated if I didn’t
wanted to she got irritated if I didn’t
wanted to she got irritated if I didn’t let her help our default position as
let her help our default position as
let her help our default position as children is to want to help to want to
children is to want to help to want to
children is to want to help to want to contribute to wanted
contribute to wanted
contribute to wanted into things are just coming back from
into things are just coming back from
into things are just coming back from the Miami symposium Kristina and I were
the Miami symposium Kristina and I were
the Miami symposium Kristina and I were at the airport and we saw a guy hauling
at the airport and we saw a guy hauling
at the airport and we saw a guy hauling off these suitcases from the carousel
off these suitcases from the carousel
off these suitcases from the carousel and his daughter was there and she was
and his daughter was there and she was
and his daughter was there and she was like four years old and she was like she
like four years old and she was like she
like four years old and she was like she wanted to help she wanted to carry one
wanted to help she wanted to carry one
wanted to help she wanted to carry one of these suitcases she wanted to
of these suitcases she wanted to
of these suitcases she wanted to contribute right she got irritated when
contribute right she got irritated when
contribute right she got irritated when he sort of tried to say look they’re too
he sort of tried to say look they’re too
he sort of tried to say look they’re too heavy this and that right so I ended up
heavy this and that right so I ended up
heavy this and that right so I ended up having to let her try and then oh can I
having to let her try and then oh can I
having to let her try and then oh can I help and you notice they the children
help and you notice they the children
help and you notice they the children want to help they want to contribute so
want to help they want to contribute so
want to help they want to contribute so how is it that we get turned from people
how is it that we get turned from people
how is it that we get turned from people with that kind of ended children from
with that kind of ended children from
with that kind of ended children from that kind of initiative who want to help
that kind of initiative who want to help
that kind of initiative who want to help who want to contribute who want to
who want to contribute who want to
who want to contribute who want to participate who want to be part of the
participate who want to be part of the
participate who want to be part of the running of the household how do we turn
running of the household how do we turn
running of the household how do we turn from that to being these valkee
from that to being these valkee
from that to being these valkee passive-aggressive don’t want to put it
passive-aggressive don’t want to put it
passive-aggressive don’t want to put it off do a bad job kind of people well the
off do a bad job kind of people well the
off do a bad job kind of people well the way that we end up like that is that
way that we end up like that is that
way that we end up like that is that we’re ordered around all the time and
we’re ordered around all the time and
we’re ordered around all the time and our needs are not consulted and we
our needs are not consulted and we
our needs are not consulted and we resent being treated like you’re animals
resent being treated like you’re animals
resent being treated like you’re animals like robots like machines like objects
like robots like machines like objects
like robots like machines like objects and we don’t like being dominated
and we don’t like being dominated
and we don’t like being dominated mistrusted and bullied and dictated to
mistrusted and bullied and dictated to
mistrusted and bullied and dictated to who would who with any shred of self
who would who with any shred of self
who would who with any shred of self esteem would want that or enjoy that so
esteem would want that or enjoy that so
esteem would want that or enjoy that so the reason that we end up with
the reason that we end up with
the reason that we end up with procrastination is that every to do
procrastination is that every to do
procrastination is that every to do feels like an order that we want to put
feels like an order that we want to put
feels like an order that we want to put off that we want to passive-aggressively
off that we want to passive-aggressively
off that we want to passive-aggressively resist
resist
resist so everything going to school getting an
so everything going to school getting an
so everything going to school getting an education going to college getting a job
education going to college getting a job
education going to college getting a job filling out form any anything that we
filling out form any anything that we
filling out form any anything that we have to do that is even remotely
have to do that is even remotely
have to do that is even remotely unpleasant
unpleasant
unpleasant it makes us puts us back in that phase
it makes us puts us back in that phase
it makes us puts us back in that phase of just being banging ordered around
of just being banging ordered around
of just being banging ordered around which we then resent and put up in
which we then resent and put up in
which we then resent and put up in postponed and and we evade and we
postponed and and we evade and we
postponed and and we evade and we distract ourselves by playing video
distract ourselves by playing video
distract ourselves by playing video games or watching movies or doing
games or watching movies or doing
games or watching movies or doing anything other than the things which are
anything other than the things which are
anything other than the things which are kind of piling up that need to be done
kind of piling up that need to be done
kind of piling up that need to be done because we never were able to maintain
because we never were able to maintain
because we never were able to maintain and sustain that desire to participate
and sustain that desire to participate
and sustain that desire to participate into working to get things done because
into working to get things done because
into working to get things done because we were BAM just bullied around and
we were BAM just bullied around and
we were BAM just bullied around and ordered around when we were children now
ordered around when we were children now
ordered around when we were children now this doesn’t just occur in the
this doesn’t just occur in the
this doesn’t just occur in the parent-child relationship of course or
parent-child relationship of course or
parent-child relationship of course or in the teacher-student relationship but
in the teacher-student relationship but
in the teacher-student relationship but it occurs very strongly of course in
it occurs very strongly of course in
it occurs very strongly of course in marital relations and/or a
marital relations and/or a
marital relations and/or a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship we see
boyfriend/girlfriend relationship we see
boyfriend/girlfriend relationship we see this kind of stuff all the time where
this kind of stuff all the time where
this kind of stuff all the time where them has been sitting there wanting to
them has been sitting there wanting to
them has been sitting there wanting to relax or something and the wife comes in
relax or something and the wife comes in
relax or something and the wife comes in it could be the reverse and just going
it could be the reverse and just going
it could be the reverse and just going with the stereotype other wife comes in
with the stereotype other wife comes in
with the stereotype other wife comes in and says I thought I told you to do the
and says I thought I told you to do the
and says I thought I told you to do the dishes and is aggressive or hostile and
dishes and is aggressive or hostile and
dishes and is aggressive or hostile and the husband is like yeah in a sack right
the husband is like yeah in a sack right
the husband is like yeah in a sack right and then the wife is you know feels
and then the wife is you know feels
and then the wife is you know feels stymied paralyzed frustrated once the
stymied paralyzed frustrated once the
stymied paralyzed frustrated once the dishes to get done doesn’t want to do
dishes to get done doesn’t want to do
dishes to get done doesn’t want to do them herself because she doesn’t want to
them herself because she doesn’t want to
them herself because she doesn’t want to reinforce him not doing the dishes but
reinforce him not doing the dishes but
reinforce him not doing the dishes but at the same time she doesn’t want to
at the same time she doesn’t want to
at the same time she doesn’t want to push it because it’ll end up in a fight
push it because it’ll end up in a fight
push it because it’ll end up in a fight right so he feels attacked and
right so he feels attacked and
right so he feels attacked and diminished so by saying in a minute and
diminished so by saying in a minute and
diminished so by saying in a minute and then mocking or attacking her for if she
then mocking or attacking her for if she
then mocking or attacking her for if she raises the stakes and becomes more
raises the stakes and becomes more
raises the stakes and becomes more stress he’s simply reinfecting her with
stress he’s simply reinfecting her with
stress he’s simply reinfecting her with what he feels infected by through her
what he feels infected by through her
what he feels infected by through her diminishment of him through her attack
diminishment of him through her attack
diminishment of him through her attack and through her negativity
and through her negativity
and through her negativity because the moment we own somebody
because the moment we own somebody
because the moment we own somebody else’s initiative we turn them into a
else’s initiative we turn them into a
else’s initiative we turn them into a slave the moment we say hey you should
slave the moment we say hey you should
slave the moment we say hey you should want to do this you better do that you
want to do this you better do that you
want to do this you better do that you got to do this you got to do that then
got to do this you got to do that then
got to do this you got to do that then we’re substituting our bully with the
we’re substituting our bully with the
we’re substituting our bully with the implicit punishment that that involved
implicit punishment that that involved
implicit punishment that that involved our bullying to their initiative just
our bullying to their initiative just
our bullying to their initiative just turns them into a slave it means that
turns them into a slave it means that
turns them into a slave it means that they will do it badly they won’t want to
they will do it badly they won’t want to
they will do it badly they won’t want to do it will constantly have to remind
do it will constantly have to remind
do it will constantly have to remind them we will get ever escalating
them we will get ever escalating
them we will get ever escalating frustration with controlling other human
frustration with controlling other human
frustration with controlling other human beings disgust it just doesn’t work it
beings disgust it just doesn’t work it
beings disgust it just doesn’t work it just doesn’t work I mean let’s you got a
just doesn’t work I mean let’s you got a
just doesn’t work I mean let’s you got a gun right here the government’s right so
gun right here the government’s right so
gun right here the government’s right so so the husband will eventually get up Oh
so the husband will eventually get up Oh
so the husband will eventually get up Oh fine you know and I’ll go and do the
fine you know and I’ll go and do the
fine you know and I’ll go and do the dishes and he’ll do with loud sighs and
dishes and he’ll do with loud sighs and
dishes and he’ll do with loud sighs and unpleasant noises and maybe he’ll drop a
unpleasant noises and maybe he’ll drop a
unpleasant noises and maybe he’ll drop a dish or maybe he’ll just do it badly so
dish or maybe he’ll just do it badly so
dish or maybe he’ll just do it badly so she’s got to come and check the dishes
she’s got to come and check the dishes
she’s got to come and check the dishes to make sure that they’re clean and
to make sure that they’re clean and
to make sure that they’re clean and she’ll hand them back to him and he’ll
she’ll hand them back to him and he’ll
she’ll hand them back to him and he’ll write this is just doing the goddamn
write this is just doing the goddamn
write this is just doing the goddamn dishes people and this is the kind of
dishes people and this is the kind of
dishes people and this is the kind of fight and control and humiliation and
fight and control and humiliation and
fight and control and humiliation and passive aggression and resentment that
passive aggression and resentment that
passive aggression and resentment that these simple actions can generate why
these simple actions can generate why
these simple actions can generate why because we raised a slaves because our
because we raised a slaves because our
because we raised a slaves because our initial desire to participate and
initial desire to participate and
initial desire to participate and contribute to the family is crushed and
contribute to the family is crushed and
contribute to the family is crushed and snuffed out by being bullied and ordered
snuffed out by being bullied and ordered
snuffed out by being bullied and ordered around without any requests or
around without any requests or
around without any requests or preferences right or those false
preferences right or those false
preferences right or those false preferences you know like would you like
preferences you know like would you like
preferences you know like would you like to do the dishes or taking out the
to do the dishes or taking out the
to do the dishes or taking out the garbage not that’s a whenever you order
garbage not that’s a whenever you order
garbage not that’s a whenever you order people to do something you’re
people to do something you’re
people to do something you’re automatically assuming that they’re lazy
automatically assuming that they’re lazy
automatically assuming that they’re lazy and dishonest and and that they won’t
and dishonest and and that they won’t
and dishonest and and that they won’t want to do it and you say well I have to
want to do it and you say well I have to
want to do it and you say well I have to order him to do the dishes because he
order him to do the dishes because he
order him to do the dishes because he won’t get up and do the dishes right
won’t get up and do the dishes right
won’t get up and do the dishes right it’s like I would say that he doesn’t
it’s like I would say that he doesn’t
it’s like I would say that he doesn’t want to get up and do the dishes because
want to get up and do the dishes because
want to get up and do the dishes because he was ordered round by his parents and
he was ordered round by his parents and
he was ordered round by his parents and now you’re ordering him around we
now you’re ordering him around we
now you’re ordering him around we haven’t solved anything and does not
haven’t solved anything and does not
haven’t solved anything and does not produce a happy and harmonious and
produce a happy and harmonious and
produce a happy and harmonious and contented relationship so that having
contented relationship so that having
contented relationship so that having been said we’ll sort of get that
been said we’ll sort of get that
been said we’ll sort of get that master/slave thing that we end up with
master/slave thing that we end up with
master/slave thing that we end up with procrastination tendencies towards
procrastination tendencies towards
procrastination tendencies towards procrastination because we just ordered
procrastination because we just ordered
procrastination because we just ordered around when we’re children and told what
around when we’re children and told what
around when we’re children and told what to do how do we how do we break that
to do how do we how do we break that
to do how do we how do we break that cycle well I’ll just spend a few minutes
cycle well I’ll just spend a few minutes
cycle well I’ll just spend a few minutes on it I’m gonna make this too long I did
on it I’m gonna make this too long I did
on it I’m gonna make this too long I did spend a few minutes on it and if you’re
spend a few minutes on it and if you’re
spend a few minutes on it and if you’re really curious just let me know and I’ll
really curious just let me know and I’ll
really curious just let me know and I’ll I’ll go into it in more detail
I’ll go into it in more detail
I’ll go into it in more detail but there’s a great secret of course to
but there’s a great secret of course to
but there’s a great secret of course to life which completely deflates the
life which completely deflates the
life which completely deflates the tensions that we have around
tensions that we have around
tensions that we have around procrastination which language Italian
procrastination which language Italian
procrastination which language Italian sigh whisper to you
sigh whisper to you
sigh whisper to you it’s a great secret it’s a wonderful
it’s a great secret it’s a wonderful
it’s a great secret it’s a wonderful secret about life and when you get the
secret about life and when you get the
secret about life and when you get the secret you will absolutely start
secret you will absolutely start
secret you will absolutely start unraveling the whole Gordian knot of
unraveling the whole Gordian knot of
unraveling the whole Gordian knot of procrastination and other difficulties
procrastination and other difficulties
procrastination and other difficulties that you have within your life okay it’s
that you have within your life okay it’s
that you have within your life okay it’s coming a little close for this one
coming a little close for this one
coming a little close for this one that’s very important
that’s very important
that’s very important the great secret the great secret of
the great secret the great secret of
the great secret the great secret of life the way to unravel and undo
life the way to unravel and undo
life the way to unravel and undo procrastination my friends is this very
procrastination my friends is this very
procrastination my friends is this very simple the great secret is you don’t you
simple the great secret is you don’t you
simple the great secret is you don’t you don’t got to do squat you don’t have to
don’t got to do squat you don’t have to
don’t got to do squat you don’t have to do anything you don’t have to do
do anything you don’t have to do
do anything you don’t have to do anything at all
anything at all
anything at all you don’t have to get out of bed in the
you don’t have to get out of bed in the
you don’t have to get out of bed in the morning you don’t have to eat you don’t
morning you don’t have to eat you don’t
morning you don’t have to eat you don’t have to go to bed at night you don’t
have to go to bed at night you don’t
have to go to bed at night you don’t have to wear clothing you don’t have to
have to wear clothing you don’t have to
have to wear clothing you don’t have to shower you don’t have to get an
shower you don’t have to get an
shower you don’t have to get an education you don’t have to get a job
education you don’t have to get a job
education you don’t have to get a job you don’t have to do anything
I mean you’re bound by gravity that’s
I mean you’re bound by gravity that’s not much of a choice and if you don’t do
not much of a choice and if you don’t do
not much of a choice and if you don’t do things negative consequences may occur
things negative consequences may occur
things negative consequences may occur but so what you don’t have to go to the
but so what you don’t have to go to the
but so what you don’t have to go to the dentist maybe you’ll get gingivitis and
dentist maybe you’ll get gingivitis and
dentist maybe you’ll get gingivitis and maybe you lose some teeth and maybe but
maybe you lose some teeth and maybe but
maybe you lose some teeth and maybe but you don’t have to go to the dentist you
you don’t have to go to the dentist you
you don’t have to go to the dentist you don’t have to fill out forms you don’t
don’t have to fill out forms you don’t
don’t have to fill out forms you don’t have to get into driver’s license you
have to get into driver’s license you
have to get into driver’s license you don’t have to do your dishes you don’t
don’t have to do your dishes you don’t
don’t have to do your dishes you don’t have to pay your rent you don’t have to
have to pay your rent you don’t have to
have to pay your rent you don’t have to go to school you don’t have to do any of
go to school you don’t have to do any of
go to school you don’t have to do any of it any of it there’s no half do anywhere
it any of it there’s no half do anywhere
it any of it there’s no half do anywhere in the universe of any kind not a single
in the universe of any kind not a single
in the universe of any kind not a single shred of a must or have to anywhere you
shred of a must or have to anywhere you
shred of a must or have to anywhere you don’t have to be nice to your wife you
don’t have to be nice to your wife you
don’t have to be nice to your wife you don’t have to be married you don’t have
don’t have to be married you don’t have
don’t have to be married you don’t have to take care of your children you don’t
to take care of your children you don’t
to take care of your children you don’t have to do anything
isn’t that nice there is no master after
isn’t that nice there is no master after you leave home
you leave home
you leave home there’s no I mean even with this you
there’s no I mean even with this you
there’s no I mean even with this you don’t have to do what your parents say
don’t have to do what your parents say
don’t have to do what your parents say it’s just that they’ll get mad that
it’s just that they’ll get mad that
it’s just that they’ll get mad that punished you won’t want it right but you
punished you won’t want it right but you
punished you won’t want it right but you don’t have to do anything you don’t have
don’t have to do anything you don’t have
don’t have to do anything you don’t have to do anything I get up every morning
to do anything I get up every morning
to do anything I get up every morning and I say what what do I want to do I
and I say what what do I want to do I
and I say what what do I want to do I won’t do a video I wanna write an
won’t do a video I wanna write an
won’t do a video I wanna write an article want to pick my nose and watch
article want to pick my nose and watch
article want to pick my nose and watch soap operas want to eat bonbons but what
soap operas want to eat bonbons but what
soap operas want to eat bonbons but what do I want to do I don’t have to do
do I want to do I don’t have to do
do I want to do I don’t have to do anything even when I was getting up and
anything even when I was getting up and
anything even when I was getting up and going to work I would wake up and say do
going to work I would wake up and say do
going to work I would wake up and say do I want to go to work today
I want to go to work today
I want to go to work today I don’t have to I don’t have to do it
I don’t have to I don’t have to do it
I don’t have to I don’t have to do it all I don’t have to get out of bed I can
all I don’t have to get out of bed I can
all I don’t have to get out of bed I can sleep until noon if I want that may be
sleep until noon if I want that may be
sleep until noon if I want that may be consequences to that I’ll lose my job
consequences to that I’ll lose my job
consequences to that I’ll lose my job but I don’t have to because the moment
but I don’t have to because the moment
but I don’t have to because the moment that we externalise these have two’s we
that we externalise these have two’s we
that we externalise these have two’s we set up enslavement for ourselves which
set up enslavement for ourselves which
set up enslavement for ourselves which then becomes resentment and
then becomes resentment and
then becomes resentment and procrastination the moment we set up the
procrastination the moment we set up the
procrastination the moment we set up the half Jews gotta finish this education I
half Jews gotta finish this education I
half Jews gotta finish this education I gotta write that exam no you don’t you
gotta write that exam no you don’t you
gotta write that exam no you don’t you really truly seriously and genuinely
really truly seriously and genuinely
really truly seriously and genuinely don’t you don’t there’s no half toots
don’t you don’t there’s no half toots
don’t you don’t there’s no half toots there’s no Gatos there’s no compulsions
there’s no Gatos there’s no compulsions
there’s no Gatos there’s no compulsions anywhere in your life you don’t have to
anywhere in your life you don’t have to
anywhere in your life you don’t have to pay your taxes there’ll be consequences
pay your taxes there’ll be consequences
pay your taxes there’ll be consequences but so what you don’t have to pay your
but so what you don’t have to pay your
but so what you don’t have to pay your taxes you don’t have to eat the
taxes you don’t have to eat the
taxes you don’t have to eat the consequence you’ll get hungry enough to
consequence you’ll get hungry enough to
consequence you’ll get hungry enough to drink consequence you get thirsty but
drink consequence you get thirsty but
drink consequence you get thirsty but you have to do anything you’re in school
you have to do anything you’re in school
you have to do anything you’re in school you can walk out tomorrow you can go and
you can walk out tomorrow you can go and
you can walk out tomorrow you can go and hitchhike to New Orleans and live as a
hitchhike to New Orleans and live as a
hitchhike to New Orleans and live as a panhandler you can do anything that you
panhandler you can do anything that you
panhandler you can do anything that you want anything the next five minutes the
want anything the next five minutes the
want anything the next five minutes the next day the next year the next decade
next day the next year the next decade
next day the next year the next decade the rest of your life is a completely
the rest of your life is a completely
the rest of your life is a completely blank canvas and you can write in it
blank canvas and you can write in it
blank canvas and you can write in it anything anything anything anything that
anything anything anything anything that
anything anything anything anything that you want anything you don’t have to do
you want anything you don’t have to do
you want anything you don’t have to do anything and once you get that then
anything and once you get that then
anything and once you get that then procrastination just dries up and blows
procrastination just dries up and blows
procrastination just dries up and blows away just dries up
away just dries up
away just dries up and blows away not tomorrow not the
and blows away not tomorrow not the
and blows away not tomorrow not the habit that takes them unraveling but
habit that takes them unraveling but
habit that takes them unraveling but through that act of saying my future is
through that act of saying my future is
through that act of saying my future is a blank canvas I can write anything do
a blank canvas I can write anything do
a blank canvas I can write anything do anything that I want I can become a
anything that I want I can become a
anything that I want I can become a clown I can become an astronaut I can do
clown I can become an astronaut I can do
clown I can become an astronaut I can do nothing I can find some kind friend and
nothing I can find some kind friend and
nothing I can find some kind friend and live on his couch or whatever anything
live on his couch or whatever anything
live on his couch or whatever anything you don’t have to do anything once you
you don’t have to do anything once you
you don’t have to do anything once you recognize that life is a blank canvas
recognize that life is a blank canvas
recognize that life is a blank canvas and you can write whatever you want into
and you can write whatever you want into
and you can write whatever you want into the next five minutes five years or five
the next five minutes five years or five
the next five minutes five years or five years or 50 years once you get and
years or 50 years once you get and
years or 50 years once you get and understand that then there’s nothing to
understand that then there’s nothing to
understand that then there’s nothing to put off because everything that you do
put off because everything that you do
put off because everything that you do then becomes your choice your preference
then becomes your choice your preference
then becomes your choice your preference I go to the dentist because I don’t want
I go to the dentist because I don’t want
I go to the dentist because I don’t want to youth problems it’s my choice
to youth problems it’s my choice
to youth problems it’s my choice nobody’s saying go to the dentist or
nobody’s saying go to the dentist or
nobody’s saying go to the dentist or else or I’ll punish you
else or I’ll punish you
else or I’ll punish you no it’s my choice it’s my choice once
no it’s my choice it’s my choice once
no it’s my choice it’s my choice once things become your choice once you
things become your choice once you
things become your choice once you really can and re own your capacity to
really can and re own your capacity to
really can and re own your capacity to choose based on your own preferences
choose based on your own preferences
choose based on your own preferences without have to s coming clouding in
without have to s coming clouding in
without have to s coming clouding in from everywhere else once you get that
from everywhere else once you get that
from everywhere else once you get that process underway there’s nothing to put
process underway there’s nothing to put
process underway there’s nothing to put off because you’re actually choosing
off because you’re actually choosing
off because you’re actually choosing things you’re actually making those
things you’re actually making those
things you’re actually making those decisions you’re not just letting other
decisions you’re not just letting other
decisions you’re not just letting other people’s expectations and desires and
people’s expectations and desires and
people’s expectations and desires and once and anxieties bully you into X Y &
once and anxieties bully you into X Y &
once and anxieties bully you into X Y & Z which then the moment that you force
Z which then the moment that you force
Z which then the moment that you force yourself to do something you immediately
yourself to do something you immediately
yourself to do something you immediately generate the slave resentment
generate the slave resentment
generate the slave resentment immediately and irrevocably it’s
immediately and irrevocably it’s
immediately and irrevocably it’s unstoppable the moment you force
unstoppable the moment you force
unstoppable the moment you force yourself to do something the moment you
yourself to do something the moment you
yourself to do something the moment you make yourself gotta do something because
make yourself gotta do something because
make yourself gotta do something because because because the moment you’ve got to
because because the moment you’ve got to
because because the moment you’ve got to do something boom slave resentment
do something boom slave resentment
do something boom slave resentment procrastination annoyance frustration
procrastination annoyance frustration
procrastination annoyance frustration self-castigation self abuse inevitable
self-castigation self abuse inevitable
self-castigation self abuse inevitable can’t be stopped can throw yourself off
can’t be stopped can throw yourself off
can’t be stopped can throw yourself off a cliff you can’t avoid gravity you can
a cliff you can’t avoid gravity you can
a cliff you can’t avoid gravity you can choose to bully yourself to do things or
choose to bully yourself to do things or
choose to bully yourself to do things or to internalize other people’s and
to internalize other people’s and
to internalize other people’s and expectations but you just get slave
expectations but you just get slave
expectations but you just get slave resentment immediately irrevocably can’t
resentment immediately irrevocably can’t
resentment immediately irrevocably can’t be stopped that is the inevitable course
be stopped that is the inevitable course
be stopped that is the inevitable course and effect relationship
and effect relationship
and effect relationship so if you want to deal with the problem
so if you want to deal with the problem
so if you want to deal with the problem of procrastination first of all you need
of procrastination first of all you need
of procrastination first of all you need to recognize that it’s not natural it’s
to recognize that it’s not natural it’s
to recognize that it’s not natural it’s not natural to procrastinate it is an
not natural to procrastinate it is an
not natural to procrastinate it is an artificial scar tissue that results from
artificial scar tissue that results from
artificial scar tissue that results from being controlled and bullied when you
being controlled and bullied when you
being controlled and bullied when you were a child in in school in church at
were a child in in school in church at
were a child in in school in church at home in your extended family from not
home in your extended family from not
home in your extended family from not being consulted from not being treated
being consulted from not being treated
being consulted from not being treated with respect it’s it’s a sad sad
with respect it’s it’s a sad sad
with respect it’s it’s a sad sad situation that results from this kind of
situation that results from this kind of
situation that results from this kind of control and bullying so if you
control and bullying so if you
control and bullying so if you understand the procrastination is a
understand the procrastination is a
understand the procrastination is a slave passive-aggressive response to
slave passive-aggressive response to
slave passive-aggressive response to being ordered around and you’re an adult
being ordered around and you’re an adult
being ordered around and you’re an adult then it’s very simple
then it’s very simple
then it’s very simple since procrastination is a slave
since procrastination is a slave
since procrastination is a slave response if you want to stop
response if you want to stop
response if you want to stop procrastinating stop being a slave and
procrastinating stop being a slave and
procrastinating stop being a slave and if you want to stop being a slave that
if you want to stop being a slave that
if you want to stop being a slave that means stop ordering yourself around and
means stop ordering yourself around and
means stop ordering yourself around and recognize there’s nothing you have to do
recognize there’s nothing you have to do
recognize there’s nothing you have to do anything that you do is your choice
anything that you do is your choice
anything that you do is your choice there’s no order there’s no one ordering
there’s no order there’s no one ordering
there’s no order there’s no one ordering you around there’s nothing you have to
you around there’s nothing you have to
you around there’s nothing you have to do make your own choices when you own
do make your own choices when you own
do make your own choices when you own and make your own choices based on what
and make your own choices based on what
and make your own choices based on what you actually want
you actually want
you actually want and then you are free and you don’t have
and then you are free and you don’t have
and then you are free and you don’t have to postpone anything because what you’re
to postpone anything because what you’re
to postpone anything because what you’re choosing is your life and your
choosing is your life and your
choosing is your life and your preference and we don’t postpone
preference and we don’t postpone
preference and we don’t postpone pleasure we may defer it for a short
pleasure we may defer it for a short
pleasure we may defer it for a short time for the sake of greater pleasure
time for the sake of greater pleasure
time for the sake of greater pleasure later on like going to the dentist but
later on like going to the dentist but
later on like going to the dentist but you won’t procrastinate because you are
you won’t procrastinate because you are
you won’t procrastinate because you are loving what you are doing you are living
loving what you are doing you are living
loving what you are doing you are living in your preferences your desires not
in your preferences your desires not
in your preferences your desires not taking orders from other people from the
taking orders from other people from the
taking orders from other people from the past from history from ghosts from
past from history from ghosts from
past from history from ghosts from ancestors or family from parents from
ancestors or family from parents from
ancestors or family from parents from schools from governments from churches
schools from governments from churches
schools from governments from churches from popes at your choices your choices
from popes at your choices your choices
from popes at your choices your choices and when you own your choices you won’t
and when you own your choices you won’t
and when you own your choices you won’t procrastinate because it’s your life and
procrastinate because it’s your life and
procrastinate because it’s your life and we don’t put off that which is
we don’t put off that which is
we don’t put off that which is pleasurable to us which we live richly
pleasurable to us which we live richly
pleasurable to us which we live richly in the moment
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