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When speaking it is impossible not to listen.
My name is Simon Senik, and
I have a clear vision of what I want to build in this world.
Imagine a world in which the vast majority of people wake up every morning
Inspiring to go to work,
They feel safe when they are there,
They return home and are satisfied at the end of the day
I promise you
Our guest will help you acquire behaviors,
And the types of thinking you need to be successful in anything you are trying to achieve.
I have not yet made a speech, or a meeting where someone does not ask me a Millennial question.
What is the question of the two thousand?
It seems that the millennia generation
– which is a group of people who were born nearly 1984 and after –
They are tough anchors.
They are accused of arrogance
Narcissistic
And interested in themselves
And the two focus groups
Lazy
But arrogance is the greatest
Because they confuse too much leadership,
What is happening is that the leaders are asking the thousands
“what do you want?”
The Alvians say
“We want to work in a place with a goal.” I love that.
“We want to have an impact,” he said. You know, whatever that means.
“We want free food, comfortable chairs
And then …
Someone is checking, some sort of goal
There is plenty of free eating, and there are comfortable chairs
But for some reason
They are still unhappy
This is because
There is a missing piece.
What I learned is
I can divide it into four parts
There are four things, four characteristics.
One is father and mother,
The other is technology,
The third is lack of patience,
The fourth is the environment.
Generation, which we call the Millennium Generation,
Many of them grew up
Exposed to, not my words
Educational strategies failed by father and mother
you know?
Where, for example,
They were told they were special … all the time.
They were told they could have anything they wanted in life,
Just because they want it.
They were told …
Some of them have arrived
Honors at school and not because they deserve, but because their parents are complaining
Some of them received excellent ratings in all subjects, not their efforts
But because teachers do not want to deal with their parents
Some kids got the medals. It is a medal given to the one who finally comes. is not it?
Who taught, we know very clear,
Which is degrade metal and reward for those who actually work hard,
This fact makes the person who comes finally feel embarrassed
Because they know they do not deserve it so it actually makes them feel worse, do not they?
If you take this category of people,
And graduate from the study, and get a job,
And immerse them in the real world.
At a moment they discover: they are not special.
Their mothers can not raise them
You will not get anything to attend in the last
By the way, you can not get them just because you want them
At a moment, the self-image shatters
Your entire generation will grow with a lower self-esteem than previous generations.
The other problem that increases the mud:
We grow up in the world of Facebook, Instagram.
In other words, we know how to put filters on things.
We know how to imagine for people that life is wonderful, even though I am depressed. is not it?
All people seem strong and all people seem to understand everything
Indeed, there are those who have the power to understand everything around them
Even when people say older
“Well, what should we do?”
They’ll say “That’s what you should do!”
They have no idea.
Therefore you have to grow a whole generation with a lower self-esteem than previous generations. is not it?
Of mistakes they did not commit
Of mistakes they did not commit, right?
They were put in the face of circumstances and data they can not change
Now let’s add technology.
We know that dealing with social media means
Our mobile phones,
It releases a chemical called dopamine.
That’s why when we get a message we feel comfortable. is not it?
You know it happens with us all: when you feel a little sad or alone
So you send ten texts to ten friends, you know,
Hello. Hello. Hello. Hello. Hello.
Because it makes you feel good when you get a response, right?
is not it? That’s why we promise the likes
That’s why we come back ten times to see if …
If it does not happen …
Instagramme started to become slower
I would … I did not do something wrong? Do not they love me anymore? is not it?
Shock for young children when you remove friendship, right?
Because we know when you get it you get paid by dopamine which makes you feel good
That is why we love these things
That is why we have continued to return to it.
Dopamine is the same chemical substance
Which makes us feel good when we smoke, when we drink, and when we gamble
In other words:
It’s very addictive
is not it?
We have age restrictions on smoking, gambling and alcohol.
We have no age restrictions on social media and mobile phones.
It is equivalent to opening a liquor cabinet and tell teenagers
“By the way, if a teenager wears you prefer …”
But that’s basically what happens.
This basically is what happens, right?
This is basically what happened.
You have an entire generation that can reach something addictive
From chemical anesthesia, called dopamine, through social media and mobile phones
They also pass through high-pressure adolescence.
Why is this important? Almost all alcohol addicts
They discovered alcohol when they were teenagers.
When they are too young the only approval we need is consent of our parents.
As we go through the end of our adolescence, we are making this transition as we now need the approval of our peers.
Very frustrated for our parents,
It is very important to us.
Allow us to cultivate outside our families immediately into a wider tribe.
is not it? It is a very stressful and stressful period of our lives.
We are supposed to learn to rely on our friends.
Some people by chance discover the alcohol and drug effects of dopamine
To help them cope with stress and anxiety during adolescence.
Unfortunately they become fixed in their minds
And for the rest of their lives
When you are suffering from severe stress you will not be looking for someone who will be looking for a bottle
Social stress, financial stress, and job stress.
This is pretty much the main reason why an alcoholic is back to drinking, right?
What happens is,
Because we allow unrestricted access to these devices and dopamine-producing media
In principle, it has become fixed. What we see is when they grow older.
For many children, they do not know how to form meaningful relationships.
Their words are not my words.
They will admit that many of their friendships are superficial
They will admit that their friends …
They do not trust their friends, they do not depend on their friends. They only enjoy with their friends.
But they also know that their friends will cancel them as soon as they find something better
Deeply meaningful relationships they do not have because they have not exercised a skill set,
Worse still, they do not have coping mechanisms to deal with stress and stress.
So when tension appears dramatically in their lives
They do not resort to someone. They resort to a device, they resort to means of social communication,
They resort to these things that provide temporary rest.
We know, the science is clear, we know
That people who spend more time on Facebook
Suffer from higher depression rates than people who spend less time on Facebook.
is not it? These things are balanced.
Alcohol is not bad, lots of bad alcohol.
Gambling is fun, and a lot of gambling is dangerous.
is not it? There is nothing wrong with social media and mobile phones.
It’s a lack of balance. is not it ? If you are sitting at dinner with your friends,
And you correspond to someone who is not with you
it’s a problem,
This is addiction.
If you are sitting in a meeting,
With people who are supposed to be listening to them and talking to them
And you put the phone on the table – oriented up or down, I do not care –
This sends a message to anyone in the room that you are not that important to me now
is not it? That’s what happens.
The fact that you can not put it away, this is because you are addicted.
is not it? If you wake up and check your phone before you say good morning to your friend or friend,
You are addicted
Like every addiction with time this will destroy relationships,
It will cost time, cost money, and will make your life worse.
is not it?
So that your generation will grow up with low self-esteem,
They do not have coping mechanisms.
is not it?
Now we add lack of patience. is not it? They grew up in a world of instant gratification.
When you want to buy something? Go for Amazon. And arrive the next day.
When would you like to watch a movie? Log in and watch the movie.
Do not check movie times
Want to watch your TV show?
dive
You no longer need to wait a week for a week. is not it?
I know people who neglect seasons just so they can indulge at the end of the season. is not it?
Instant gratification.
Want to go on a date? No longer need to know how to be like:
“Hey …”
No longer need to learn and practice that skill.
She is no longer content to be the uncomfortable person who says
“Yes” when you mean “no” and say “no” when you mean “no”, when “yes” when …
She is no longer exposed to any of this. Drag to the right. Pank, I’m a lover!
is not it? You no longer have to learn the mechanisms of social adjustment.
is not it?
Whatever you want you can get it right away.
Everything you want, instant gratification,
Except
Job satisfaction, and strong relationships
There is no application for that.
They are slow,
Meandering, uncomfortable, chaotic processes
And so I keep meeting these wonderful young men who are idealistic and hardworking
They just graduated from the study. They work at entry level. I sit with them when I go. “How is it going?” They say
“I think I will resign.”
I tell them why?
They say “I do not make the impact.”
I tell them I’ve been here for eight months. “
As if they were standing at the foot of a mountain,
They have this abstract concept called influence, and they want to achieve it in the real world,
The summit.
But what they see is the mountain?
I do not care if you go to the top of the mountain quickly or slowly.
But there is still a mountain.
So what this generation of young people need to learn is patience,
Some things are very important too
Like love,
Or job satisfaction at work
enjoying life,
Love life, self-confidence, skill set, any of these things.
All these things take time.
Sometimes you can speed up parts of it.
But the overall trip …
Strenuous, long and difficult.
If you do not ask for help and learn basic skills
You will fall from the mountain.
Or … in the worst case scenario.
Worst scenario.
We are already witnessing it.
The worst scenario is that we are seeing an increase in suicide rates.
We are seeing an increase in this generation.
We are seeing an increase in accidental deaths due to overdose of drugs.
We see more and more children drop out of school or take absence papers because of depression
You have not heard of these and this is this really bad but the best scenario
Those are all really bad situations the best scenario is you will have an entire people
They grow up and go through life and have not really found the fun of life
They will not really find deep satisfaction at work or in life. They will only
Just crossing through life,. Just plain it
how is your work? Is not it the same yesterday?
How is your relationship? Nothing wrong with this kind of thing is that this is the best scenario
Which leads me to the fourth point of the environment, which we took this
An amazing group of wonderful young men who have been exposed to a dime without any control or influence
And put them in corporate environments that are more concerned with numbers
Which is of interest to these wonderful young people who are more interested in making short-term gains from the long life of these
The young people who care for them care more about the age than the life of the person
is not it? And put them in corporate environments that do not help them build their trust
Which do not help to learn cooperation skills that do not help overcome the challenges facing the digital world and create more balance
This does not help them
Overcome the need for instant gratification and teach them to enjoy life and influence
The next satisfaction of working on something difficult for a long time can not be accomplished within a month or even a year
And
We are inculcating them in corporate environments and the worst part of it is that they think they are wrong. They blame themselves
They think it’s their fault they can not handle and that makes everything worse
It’s not so I’m here to tell them. It’s not their problem. They are companies. It’s corporate environments
It is the total absence of good leadership in our world today. Which made them feel the way they feel now
Their beds were bad, and I hate to say so
But it is the responsibility of the company that is bad because you do not have another choice, do not you
That’s what we got and I wish the community and their parents did a better job. But they did not and we will make them
They work in our companies, and now we have to help those who fail
We have to work extra hard to figure out how we can build their trust. We have to work extra hard
To find ways to teach them the social and social skills they lack
There should be no mobile phones in the conference rooms nothing scratch
I do not mean this kind of like sitting, waiting and sending messages
I mean like when you are sitting waiting for a meeting to start no one is doing
This is what we all do and we all sit here and wait for a meeting to begin
The meeting started well, we start the meeting. This is not the way relations are formed. We talked about it as small things
Relationships form this way: we are waiting for a meeting to begin to go
How did your father hear that he was in hospital? Yup. he is fine . Thank you for your question. He actually I hope not
I was really glad it was really amazing. I know it’s really scary but that’s how relationships form
Hey, did you get this report on my God? No, I was not oh yeah
I totally oh can I help you with that really?
This is how trust forms do not form confidence in one event in a day until the difficult times. Do not constitute trust immediately
It’s slow
And stability
Continuity We create mechanisms whereby we allow those small benign interactions to occur
But when we allow mobile phones in the meeting rooms we only
Well, the meeting was then my favorite time is like when there is a phone, he winks and checks it
He will ring and look at him. The creatures you know
When you’re out for dinner with your friends like II I do it with my friends when we’re going to dinner
We are leaving together
We will leave mobile phones at home
Maybe one of us will bring the phone in case we need to call Uber or take a picture of the meal.
you are crazy. Come on.
I. I’m not
I’m perfect, but I’m not crazy
I mean it looks really good
We will take one phone and
For example an alcoholic does not leave his bottle at home … because we can not trust our willpower
We just are not strong enough, but when you remove the temptation
It actually makes it much easier
And even when you say do not check out your phones, folks will literally go like this person going to the bathroom and what is it
The first thing we do
Because I do not want to see around in the bathroom for a minute and a half you know, but if you do not have a phone
Somewhat you will enjoy the world and here where the ideas are
Continually, and continuously, continuous participation is not where you have innovation and ideas
Ideas occur when we wonder our minds go and see things I bet they can do it and this is called innovation
is not it? But we took all those small moments
is not it? No one of us should be carrying his phone beside his bed
We should charge phones in living rooms
The right to remove the temptation that you will wake up in the middle of the night because you can not sleep but you will not verify your phone
Which makes it worse, but if it is in the living room?
I have relaxed it, but the phone is an alarm clock. Buy an alarm clock
It cost $ 8
I will buy you an alarm clock
But the point is the point is that we are now in the industry
Whether we like it or not. We did not get a choice for
We now have a responsibility to make up for the shortfall and to help these amazing ideal people
A wonderful generation building their confidence learning patience learning social skills
Finding a better balance between life and technology because frankly it is the right thing to do
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