if you want to know how people like Mark Zuckerberg Will Smith and Bruno Mars
Zuckerberg Will Smith and Bruno Mars
Zuckerberg Will Smith and Bruno Mars take their shot then this video is for
take their shot then this video is for
take their shot then this video is for you taking a shot take a shot what’s
you taking a shot take a shot what’s
you taking a shot take a shot what’s that believe nation it’s Evan my one
that believe nation it’s Evan my one
that believe nation it’s Evan my one word is believe and I believe in you I
word is believe and I believe in you I
word is believe and I believe in you I believe you have an amazing gift inside
believe you have an amazing gift inside
believe you have an amazing gift inside you that I want to see explode out onto
you that I want to see explode out onto
you that I want to see explode out onto the world now I started the one rule
the world now I started the one rule
the world now I started the one rule series to try to look at all the top 10
series to try to look at all the top 10
series to try to look at all the top 10 videos that I do and pull together the
videos that I do and pull together the
videos that I do and pull together the rules that come up over and over and
rules that come up over and over and
rules that come up over and over and over again and smoosh them together into
over again and smoosh them together into
over again and smoosh them together into one video for you so today we’re gonna
one video for you so today we’re gonna
one video for you so today we’re gonna learn how you can take a shot enjoy in a
learn how you can take a shot enjoy in a
learn how you can take a shot enjoy in a world that’s changing so quickly the
world that’s changing so quickly the
world that’s changing so quickly the biggest risk you can take is not taking
biggest risk you can take is not taking
biggest risk you can take is not taking any risk and I really think that that’s
any risk and I really think that that’s
any risk and I really think that that’s true right a lot of people I think think
true right a lot of people I think think
true right a lot of people I think think that you know whatever it comes to
that you know whatever it comes to
that you know whatever it comes to whatever you get yourself into a
whatever you get yourself into a
whatever you get yourself into a position where you have to make some
position where you have to make some
position where you have to make some some big shift and direction or do
some big shift and direction or do
some big shift and direction or do something you know there are always
something you know there are always
something you know there are always people are going to point to the
people are going to point to the
people are going to point to the downside risks of that decision and
downside risks of that decision and
downside risks of that decision and locally there may be right right I mean
locally there may be right right I mean
locally there may be right right I mean if for any given decision that you’re
if for any given decision that you’re
if for any given decision that you’re gonna make there’s upside and downside
gonna make there’s upside and downside
gonna make there’s upside and downside but in aggregate if you are stagnant and
but in aggregate if you are stagnant and
but in aggregate if you are stagnant and you don’t make those changes then then I
you don’t make those changes then then I
you don’t make those changes then then I think you’re guaranteed to fail right
think you’re guaranteed to fail right
think you’re guaranteed to fail right and not not catch up so to some degree I
and not not catch up so to some degree I
and not not catch up so to some degree I think it’s really right that over time
think it’s really right that over time
think it’s really right that over time the biggest risk that you can take is to
the biggest risk that you can take is to
the biggest risk that you can take is to not take any risks don’t get me Stan I
not take any risks don’t get me Stan I
not take any risks don’t get me Stan I avoid always gotta be the bad guys well
avoid always gotta be the bad guys well
avoid always gotta be the bad guys well when you were on Conan you would ask to
when you were on Conan you would ask to
when you were on Conan you would ask to give your best description of Brite and
give your best description of Brite and
give your best description of Brite and you said think of it is the energy of
you said think of it is the energy of
you said think of it is the energy of training day meets lured rings yes
training day meets lured rings yes
training day meets lured rings yes which is a little bit baffling but is
which is a little bit baffling but is
which is a little bit baffling but is surprisingly accurate
you confident that you could pull off
you confident that you could pull off this odd cocktail no I wasn’t confident
this odd cocktail no I wasn’t confident
this odd cocktail no I wasn’t confident at all but that’s what was exciting to
at all but that’s what was exciting to
at all but that’s what was exciting to me it’s is so wonderfully weird I was
me it’s is so wonderfully weird I was
me it’s is so wonderfully weird I was excited about taking a shot the fact
excited about taking a shot the fact
excited about taking a shot the fact that it was so strange you know as an
that it was so strange you know as an
that it was so strange you know as an artist it was it was a fun to get out on
artist it was it was a fun to get out on
artist it was it was a fun to get out on that on that limb and hoping it doesn’t
that on that limb and hoping it doesn’t
that on that limb and hoping it doesn’t break under your feet the last straight
break under your feet the last straight
break under your feet the last straight job I had was 1981 head manager of a
job I had was 1981 head manager of a
job I had was 1981 head manager of a haagen-dazs in Georgetown in Washington
haagen-dazs in Georgetown in Washington
haagen-dazs in Georgetown in Washington DC on Wisconsin Avenue at the
DC on Wisconsin Avenue at the
DC on Wisconsin Avenue at the intersection of Wisconsin and o’the
intersection of Wisconsin and o’the
intersection of Wisconsin and o’the Street making three seventy five an hour
Street making three seventy five an hour
Street making three seventy five an hour $4 an hour or something like that
$4 an hour or something like that
$4 an hour or something like that working 40 to 60 hours a week I had a
working 40 to 60 hours a week I had a
working 40 to 60 hours a week I had a small apartment which I shared with an
small apartment which I shared with an
small apartment which I shared with an old pal of mine
old pal of mine
old pal of mine I had a small record collection an
I had a small record collection an
I had a small record collection an ailing VW automobile and a little tiny
ailing VW automobile and a little tiny
ailing VW automobile and a little tiny life with my minimum wage job which I
life with my minimum wage job which I
life with my minimum wage job which I rear I liked and I looked at my life and
rear I liked and I looked at my life and
rear I liked and I looked at my life and realized this is probably as about as
realized this is probably as about as
realized this is probably as about as good as it’s gonna get for me I might
good as it’s gonna get for me I might
good as it’s gonna get for me I might quit this place and go work at my
quit this place and go work at my
quit this place and go work at my friend’s record store cuz I like to
friend’s record store cuz I like to
friend’s record store cuz I like to being around records that I could
being around records that I could
being around records that I could probably run his store very well knowing
probably run his store very well knowing
probably run his store very well knowing what I knew about retail at that point
what I knew about retail at that point
what I knew about retail at that point and then I got a very lucky break
and then I got a very lucky break
and then I got a very lucky break because at that same time I was very
because at that same time I was very
because at that same time I was very frustrated I said well this is gonna be
frustrated I said well this is gonna be
frustrated I said well this is gonna be a very tough life it’s gonna be a life
a very tough life it’s gonna be a life
a very tough life it’s gonna be a life of a lot of standing on my feet a lot of
of a lot of standing on my feet a lot of
of a lot of standing on my feet a lot of work taking it from other people and
work taking it from other people and
work taking it from other people and having very little to show for it by
having very little to show for it by
having very little to show for it by Friday you know Friday evening and then
Friday you know Friday evening and then
Friday you know Friday evening and then Black Flag the famous band whose friends
Black Flag the famous band whose friends
Black Flag the famous band whose friends of mine they played in New York I was in
of mine they played in New York I was in
of mine they played in New York I was in Washington I took a ride up to go see
Washington I took a ride up to go see
Washington I took a ride up to go see him because they weren’t coming down in
him because they weren’t coming down in
him because they weren’t coming down in my town I jumped on stage and sang with
my town I jumped on stage and sang with
my town I jumped on stage and sang with him that night a song because I had to
him that night a song because I had to
him that night a song because I had to go back down to DC and go work like some
go back down to DC and go work like some
go back down to DC and go work like some awful shift they called me a few days
awful shift they called me a few days
awful shift they called me a few days later at the ice cream store and said
later at the ice cream store and said
later at the ice cream store and said you know we’re looking for a singer
you know we’re looking for a singer
you know we’re looking for a singer because the rhythm guitar player wants
because the rhythm guitar player wants
because the rhythm guitar player wants to I’m sorry the vocalist wants to move
to I’m sorry the vocalist wants to move
to I’m sorry the vocalist wants to move down to rhythm guitar til I told the
down to rhythm guitar til I told the
down to rhythm guitar til I told the story before and we’re holding auditions
story before and we’re holding auditions
story before and we’re holding auditions you want to crack at this because we saw
you want to crack at this because we saw
you want to crack at this because we saw you on stage the other night you’re
you on stage the other night you’re
you on stage the other night you’re pretty wild I looked at the ice cream
pretty wild I looked at the ice cream
pretty wild I looked at the ice cream scoop in my hand my chocolate
scoop in my hand my chocolate
scoop in my hand my chocolate bespattered
bespattered
bespattered apron and my future in the world of
apron and my future in the world of
apron and my future in the world of minimum wage work or I could go up to
minimum wage work or I could go up to
minimum wage work or I could go up to New York and audition for this crazy
New York and audition for this crazy
New York and audition for this crazy band who is my favorite what’s the worst
band who is my favorite what’s the worst
band who is my favorite what’s the worst is going to happen to me I miss a day of
is going to happen to me I miss a day of
is going to happen to me I miss a day of work ooh there goes 21 bucks and I get
work ooh there goes 21 bucks and I get
work ooh there goes 21 bucks and I get humiliated in front of my favorite band
humiliated in front of my favorite band
humiliated in front of my favorite band yeah humiliation and young people kind
yeah humiliation and young people kind
yeah humiliation and young people kind of go together I was used to it and so I
of go together I was used to it and so I
of go together I was used to it and so I I took a train up there I walked into
I took a train up there I walked into
I took a train up there I walked into this practice place in the East Village
this practice place in the East Village
this practice place in the East Village I’m standing there with the band with a
I’m standing there with the band with a
I’m standing there with the band with a microphone in my hand they said pick the
microphone in my hand they said pick the
microphone in my hand they said pick the tune and I sang every song they had you
tune and I sang every song they had you
tune and I sang every song they had you know improvising most of it two times
know improvising most of it two times
know improvising most of it two times through we did the set they said okay
through we did the set they said okay
through we did the set they said okay you have a seat we’re gonna go have a
you have a seat we’re gonna go have a
you have a seat we’re gonna go have a band meeting whatever that means and
band meeting whatever that means and
band meeting whatever that means and they came back like 10 minutes later
they came back like 10 minutes later
they came back like 10 minutes later said okay you’re in I said what do you
said okay you’re in I said what do you
said okay you’re in I said what do you mean they said you’re the singer in
mean they said you’re the singer in
mean they said you’re the singer in Black Flag I said so what do I do they
Black Flag I said so what do I do they
Black Flag I said so what do I do they go he’ll quit your job you pack your
go he’ll quit your job you pack your
go he’ll quit your job you pack your gear you meet us on the road here’s
gear you meet us on the road here’s
gear you meet us on the road here’s here’s the tour itinerary here’s the
here’s the tour itinerary here’s the
here’s the tour itinerary here’s the lyrics we’ll see you soon so fairly numb
lyrics we’ll see you soon so fairly numb
lyrics we’ll see you soon so fairly numb I went back down to Washington with this
I went back down to Washington with this
I went back down to Washington with this passel of lyrics in my hand went to my
passel of lyrics in my hand went to my
passel of lyrics in my hand went to my boss and said I’m not exactly quitting
boss and said I’m not exactly quitting
boss and said I’m not exactly quitting but here’s this thing that happened and
but here’s this thing that happened and
but here’s this thing that happened and he said it’s your shot I said yeah he
he said it’s your shot I said yeah he
he said it’s your shot I said yeah he said take it when I was 20 years old I
said take it when I was 20 years old I
said take it when I was 20 years old I missed my shot because I was scared and
missed my shot because I was scared and
missed my shot because I was scared and I vowed never to do it again I was in
I vowed never to do it again I was in
I vowed never to do it again I was in Paris I was on vacation I was in
Paris I was on vacation I was in
Paris I was on vacation I was in University and I’m sitting here with my
University and I’m sitting here with my
University and I’m sitting here with my map outside the Notre Dame Cathedral in
map outside the Notre Dame Cathedral in
map outside the Notre Dame Cathedral in Paris and a girl comes up and asked me
Paris and a girl comes up and asked me
Paris and a girl comes up and asked me for directions but she was a French girl
for directions but she was a French girl
for directions but she was a French girl and it didn’t twig until later that why
and it didn’t twig until later that why
and it didn’t twig until later that why would a French girl be asking me for
would a French girl be asking me for
would a French girl be asking me for directions in English didn’t really make
directions in English didn’t really make
directions in English didn’t really make sense right and then I thought you know
sense right and then I thought you know
sense right and then I thought you know what I should ask her out if you see
what I should ask her out if you see
what I should ask her out if you see what she’s doing tonight should take her
what she’s doing tonight should take her
what she’s doing tonight should take her to you know ask her out for coffee or
to you know ask her out for coffee or
to you know ask her out for coffee or dinner or something see what she’s up to
dinner or something see what she’s up to
dinner or something see what she’s up to but I was afraid I was afraid to do it I
but I was afraid I was afraid to do it I
but I was afraid I was afraid to do it I was afraid to do it and I let her walk
was afraid to do it and I let her walk
was afraid to do it and I let her walk away because really it was I was afraid
away because really it was I was afraid
away because really it was I was afraid of rejection and as she’s walking away
of rejection and as she’s walking away
of rejection and as she’s walking away the note Radames on a river and I’m on
the note Radames on a river and I’m on
the note Radames on a river and I’m on one side of the river and she crosses
one side of the river and she crosses
one side of the river and she crosses over t other side of the river
over t other side of the river
over t other side of the river and I was so upset at myself I was so
and I was so upset at myself I was so
and I was so upset at myself I was so upset that I didn’t take my shot I was
upset that I didn’t take my shot I was
upset that I didn’t take my shot I was so upset that I didn’t try at least try
so upset that I didn’t try at least try
so upset that I didn’t try at least try and what I did was end up taking a
and what I did was end up taking a
and what I did was end up taking a picture and has I took the picture she
picture and has I took the picture she
picture and has I took the picture she actually walked behind one of the market
actually walked behind one of the market
actually walked behind one of the market stalls and I didn’t actually get her
stalls and I didn’t actually get her
stalls and I didn’t actually get her picture it’s fine so I had this
picture it’s fine so I had this
picture it’s fine so I had this beautiful picture of this French you
beautiful picture of this French you
beautiful picture of this French you know Riverside and when I did when I got
know Riverside and when I did when I got
know Riverside and when I did when I got home I was still upset about it so I
home I was still upset about it so I
home I was still upset about it so I blew the picture up and I put it on my
blew the picture up and I put it on my
blew the picture up and I put it on my wall I was actually trying to find the
wall I was actually trying to find the
wall I was actually trying to find the picture to show you guys but I couldn’t
picture to show you guys but I couldn’t
picture to show you guys but I couldn’t find anywhere in my files I blew it up
find anywhere in my files I blew it up
find anywhere in my files I blew it up there when I put in my wall so I’m in
there when I put in my wall so I’m in
there when I put in my wall so I’m in University I blow it up and put on my
University I blow it up and put on my
University I blow it up and put on my wall everybody who walks in asked me
wall everybody who walks in asked me
wall everybody who walks in asked me what the picture and it just looks like
what the picture and it just looks like
what the picture and it just looks like a nice beautiful French scene but I
a nice beautiful French scene but I
a nice beautiful French scene but I didn’t tell anybody what they’ve really
didn’t tell anybody what they’ve really
didn’t tell anybody what they’ve really represented to me why I was really so
represented to me why I was really so
represented to me why I was really so important and I looked at that picture
important and I looked at that picture
important and I looked at that picture every day because the next time that I
every day because the next time that I
every day because the next time that I had to take my shot I wanted to go out
had to take my shot I wanted to go out
had to take my shot I wanted to go out and do it I didn’t want to be afraid I
and do it I didn’t want to be afraid I
and do it I didn’t want to be afraid I wanted to conquer my fear and say yes
wanted to conquer my fear and say yes
wanted to conquer my fear and say yes and this served me really well a year or
and this served me really well a year or
and this served me really well a year or so later when I had to make the really
so later when I had to make the really
so later when I had to make the really tough decision do I take this job that I
tough decision do I take this job that I
tough decision do I take this job that I always wanted I had these high-paying
always wanted I had these high-paying
always wanted I had these high-paying job opportunities and $100,000 started
job opportunities and $100,000 started
job opportunities and $100,000 started shower with the companies that I really
shower with the companies that I really
shower with the companies that I really wanted to go out or continue with my
wanted to go out or continue with my
wanted to go out or continue with my startup that was failing that was making
startup that was failing that was making
startup that was failing that was making $300 a month the logical practical safe
$300 a month the logical practical safe
$300 a month the logical practical safe easy thing to do would have been to take
easy thing to do would have been to take
easy thing to do would have been to take the job it’s what I thought I always
the job it’s what I thought I always
the job it’s what I thought I always wanted so my friends want it’s what
wanted so my friends want it’s what
wanted so my friends want it’s what you’re supposed to do coming out of
you’re supposed to do coming out of
you’re supposed to do coming out of university I didn’t want to live with
university I didn’t want to live with
university I didn’t want to live with the regret of not knowing what happened
the regret of not knowing what happened
the regret of not knowing what happened with my business and looking at that
with my business and looking at that
with my business and looking at that picture daily reminded me to take my
picture daily reminded me to take my
picture daily reminded me to take my shot the next time it comes around and
shot the next time it comes around and
shot the next time it comes around and so I gave myself a year to say I’m gonna
so I gave myself a year to say I’m gonna
so I gave myself a year to say I’m gonna push off those jobs they’ll still be
push off those jobs they’ll still be
push off those jobs they’ll still be there in a year you know it’s not those
there in a year you know it’s not those
there in a year you know it’s not those jobs at some other job I’m gonna give
jobs at some other job I’m gonna give
jobs at some other job I’m gonna give this a shot I can deal with the failure
this a shot I can deal with the failure
this a shot I can deal with the failure I can deal with the rejection I can deal
I can deal with the rejection I can deal
I can deal with the rejection I can deal with that not working out even though
with that not working out even though
with that not working out even though that’s a really kind of short term
that’s a really kind of short term
that’s a really kind of short term intense pain what I can’t deal with is
intense pain what I can’t deal with is
intense pain what I can’t deal with is the regret
the regret
the regret no because that’s not some short-term
no because that’s not some short-term
no because that’s not some short-term minimal pain that’s forever if I chose
minimal pain that’s forever if I chose
minimal pain that’s forever if I chose not to focus on my business and I took
not to focus on my business and I took
not to focus on my business and I took that job I would forever look back on
that job I would forever look back on
that job I would forever look back on that moment and think what if what if I
that moment and think what if what if I
that moment and think what if what if I just tried a little bit harder what if I
just tried a little bit harder what if I
just tried a little bit harder what if I gave it a little bit more yeah you know
gave it a little bit more yeah you know
gave it a little bit more yeah you know but I wasn’t working I wasn’t getting
but I wasn’t working I wasn’t getting
but I wasn’t working I wasn’t getting results but what if I gave it a little
results but what if I gave it a little
results but what if I gave it a little bit more I did not want to live with
bit more I did not want to live with
bit more I did not want to live with that regret and I’m sure you’ve had
that regret and I’m sure you’ve had
that regret and I’m sure you’ve had moments in your life to what you didn’t
moments in your life to what you didn’t
moments in your life to what you didn’t take the shot
take the shot
take the shot when you had an opportunity right in
when you had an opportunity right in
when you had an opportunity right in front of you and you didn’t go for it
front of you and you didn’t go for it
front of you and you didn’t go for it like Eminem says if you had one shot one
like Eminem says if you had one shot one
like Eminem says if you had one shot one opportunity to seize everything you ever
opportunity to seize everything you ever
opportunity to seize everything you ever wanted would you take it and that
wanted would you take it and that
wanted would you take it and that picture on the wall help me take my shot
picture on the wall help me take my shot
picture on the wall help me take my shot and I hope sincerely that the next time
and I hope sincerely that the next time
and I hope sincerely that the next time you get your chance at something that
you get your chance at something that
you get your chance at something that you don’t shrink down that you don’t say
you don’t shrink down that you don’t say
you don’t shrink down that you don’t say no out of fear that you don’t say no
no out of fear that you don’t say no
no out of fear that you don’t say no because you find some practical reason
because you find some practical reason
because you find some practical reason why you can’t do it that you take your
why you can’t do it that you take your
why you can’t do it that you take your shot and if you’ve had those moments
shot and if you’ve had those moments
shot and if you’ve had those moments that you regret where you wanted to take
that you regret where you wanted to take
that you regret where you wanted to take your shot and you didn’t give yourself a
your shot and you didn’t give yourself a
your shot and you didn’t give yourself a visual reminder like I did in my room to
visual reminder like I did in my room to
visual reminder like I did in my room to say this is not happening again next
say this is not happening again next
say this is not happening again next time I’m going to take my shot I hope
time I’m going to take my shot I hope
time I’m going to take my shot I hope you take yours what’s the biggest risk
you take yours what’s the biggest risk
you take yours what’s the biggest risk you’ve taken that you feel is paid off
you’ve taken that you feel is paid off
you’ve taken that you feel is paid off the biggest risk I’ve taken that is paid
the biggest risk I’ve taken that is paid
the biggest risk I’ve taken that is paid I want to say cookie I mean I was very
I want to say cookie I mean I was very
I want to say cookie I mean I was very nervous when I received the script she
nervous when I received the script she
nervous when I received the script she wasn’t the most likable character I’ve
wasn’t the most likable character I’ve
wasn’t the most likable character I’ve played some pretty edgy characters but
played some pretty edgy characters but
played some pretty edgy characters but this one was particularly a challenge
this one was particularly a challenge
this one was particularly a challenge because it was primetime Network
because it was primetime Network
because it was primetime Network television and I wasn’t sure how people
television and I wasn’t sure how people
television and I wasn’t sure how people would receive her I mean she beat her
would receive her I mean she beat her
would receive her I mean she beat her son with a broom even though he deserved
son with a broom even though he deserved
son with a broom even though he deserved it um she called once on a faggot I mean
it um she called once on a faggot I mean
it um she called once on a faggot I mean it was it was scary but
it was it was scary but
it was it was scary but I’m the type of artist that if the role
I’m the type of artist that if the role
I’m the type of artist that if the role doesn’t scare me I don’t want it because
doesn’t scare me I don’t want it because
doesn’t scare me I don’t want it because it’s not gonna change me as a person so
it’s not gonna change me as a person so
it’s not gonna change me as a person so I took a risk and that’s what you do as
I took a risk and that’s what you do as
I took a risk and that’s what you do as artists you jump in feet first and you
artists you jump in feet first and you
artists you jump in feet first and you see where it goes and I knew that we had
see where it goes and I knew that we had
see where it goes and I knew that we had something special
something special
something special I don’t just jump feet first for any
I don’t just jump feet first for any
I don’t just jump feet first for any project I knew this was something
project I knew this was something
project I knew this was something special I knew that what Fox was trying
special I knew that what Fox was trying
special I knew that what Fox was trying to do with Lee Daniels and tani strong
to do with Lee Daniels and tani strong
to do with Lee Daniels and tani strong we’re trying to do and what I was trying
we’re trying to do and what I was trying
we’re trying to do and what I was trying to do was shake up television it’s too
to do was shake up television it’s too
to do was shake up television it’s too safe you know life is not safe and I
safe you know life is not safe and I
safe you know life is not safe and I think we did that with this show so I’m
think we did that with this show so I’m
think we did that with this show so I’m so proud to be a part of this project
so proud to be a part of this project
so proud to be a part of this project and I’m so proud that Fox believed in us
and I’m so proud that Fox believed in us
and I’m so proud that Fox believed in us and took a chance because that’s what
and took a chance because that’s what
and took a chance because that’s what art is about isn’t it taking chances
art is about isn’t it taking chances
art is about isn’t it taking chances taking risks people told me that Black
taking risks people told me that Black
taking risks people told me that Black Swan was an artistic risk a scary
Swan was an artistic risk a scary
Swan was an artistic risk a scary challenge to try to portray a
challenge to try to portray a
challenge to try to portray a professional ballet dancer but it didn’t
professional ballet dancer but it didn’t
professional ballet dancer but it didn’t feel like courage or daring that drew me
feel like courage or daring that drew me
feel like courage or daring that drew me to it
to it
to it I was so oblivious to my own limits that
I was so oblivious to my own limits that
I was so oblivious to my own limits that I did things I was woefully unprepared
I did things I was woefully unprepared
I did things I was woefully unprepared to do and so the very inexperience that
to do and so the very inexperience that
to do and so the very inexperience that in college had made me feel insecure and
in college had made me feel insecure and
in college had made me feel insecure and made me want to play by other’s rules
made me want to play by other’s rules
made me want to play by other’s rules now was making me actually take risks I
now was making me actually take risks I
now was making me actually take risks I didn’t even realize were risks when
didn’t even realize were risks when
didn’t even realize were risks when Darren asked me if I could do ballet I
Darren asked me if I could do ballet I
Darren asked me if I could do ballet I told him that I was basically a
told him that I was basically a
told him that I was basically a ballerina which by the way I
ballerina which by the way I
ballerina which by the way I wholeheartedly believed when it quickly
wholeheartedly believed when it quickly
wholeheartedly believed when it quickly became clear and preparing for the film
became clear and preparing for the film
became clear and preparing for the film that I was maybe 15 years away from
that I was maybe 15 years away from
that I was maybe 15 years away from being a ballerina it made me work a
being a ballerina it made me work a
being a ballerina it made me work a million times harder and of course the
million times harder and of course the
million times harder and of course the magic of cinema and body doubles helped
magic of cinema and body doubles helped
magic of cinema and body doubles helped the final effect but the point is if I
the final effect but the point is if I
the final effect but the point is if I had known my own limitations I never
had known my own limitations I never
had known my own limitations I never would have taken the risk and the risk
would have taken the risk and the risk
would have taken the risk and the risk led to one of my greatest artistic and
led to one of my greatest artistic and
led to one of my greatest artistic and personal experiences and that I not only
personal experiences and that I not only
personal experiences and that I not only felt completely free I also met my
felt completely free I also met my
felt completely free I also met my husband during filming I encouraged the
husband during filming I encouraged the
husband during filming I encouraged the view if you are sitting on an idea
view if you are sitting on an idea
view if you are sitting on an idea whether it’s on your laptop whether it’s
whether it’s on your laptop whether it’s
whether it’s on your laptop whether it’s in your garage whether it’s in your
in your garage whether it’s in your
in your garage whether it’s in your basement whether it’s in the back of
basement whether it’s in the back of
basement whether it’s in the back of your car give it a shot right and the
your car give it a shot right and the
your car give it a shot right and the best advice I ever received find out if
best advice I ever received find out if
best advice I ever received find out if your product and sell don’t let anybody
your product and sell don’t let anybody
your product and sell don’t let anybody talk you out of it give it a chance try
talk you out of it give it a chance try
talk you out of it give it a chance try make it happen this is our greatest
make it happen this is our greatest
make it happen this is our greatest asset as a nation and one that we have
asset as a nation and one that we have
asset as a nation and one that we have to continue to encourage
to continue to encourage
to continue to encourage you don’t have to go broke you don’t
you don’t have to go broke you don’t
you don’t have to go broke you don’t have to bet everything on it but you can
have to bet everything on it but you can
have to bet everything on it but you can start one day at a time taking a chance
start one day at a time taking a chance
start one day at a time taking a chance and seeing if you two can build a great
and seeing if you two can build a great
and seeing if you two can build a great company after you moved to LA from
company after you moved to LA from
company after you moved to LA from Hawaii you got there and what’s the
Hawaii you got there and what’s the
Hawaii you got there and what’s the reason to leave Hawaii in the first
reason to leave Hawaii in the first
reason to leave Hawaii in the first place
place
place I think I needed to take a shot at the
I think I needed to take a shot at the
I think I needed to take a shot at the big time I wanted to make my album and
big time I wanted to make my album and
big time I wanted to make my album and start writing my own music and I
start writing my own music and I
start writing my own music and I performed my whole life in Hawaii
performed my whole life in Hawaii
performed my whole life in Hawaii Waikiki of parties and weddings and
Waikiki of parties and weddings and
Waikiki of parties and weddings and shows and anything you could think of
shows and anything you could think of
shows and anything you could think of restaurants bars and clubs
restaurants bars and clubs
restaurants bars and clubs and you know I feel like I did a lot in
and you know I feel like I did a lot in
and you know I feel like I did a lot in my way and I wanted to as soon as I
my way and I wanted to as soon as I
my way and I wanted to as soon as I graduated high school wanted to take the
graduated high school wanted to take the
graduated high school wanted to take the next step and hopefully do it even
next step and hopefully do it even
next step and hopefully do it even bigger so you got that to LA apart with
bigger so you got that to LA apart with
bigger so you got that to LA apart with the trust your suitcase probably mm-hmm
the trust your suitcase probably mm-hmm
the trust your suitcase probably mm-hmm wasn’t even my suitcase any money
wasn’t even my suitcase any money
wasn’t even my suitcase any money absolutely that I probably had about six
absolutely that I probably had about six
absolutely that I probably had about six hundred bucks I saved up 700 maybe but
hundred bucks I saved up 700 maybe but
hundred bucks I saved up 700 maybe but what was the plan then I mean how do you
what was the plan then I mean how do you
what was the plan then I mean how do you how did you feel at this special moment
how did you feel at this special moment
how did you feel at this special moment getting there and having no clues about
getting there and having no clues about
getting there and having no clues about what’s going to happen next
what’s going to happen next
what’s going to happen next it was exciting I was I was young my
it was exciting I was I was young my
it was exciting I was I was young my sister helped me out you know she let me
sister helped me out you know she let me
sister helped me out you know she let me stay with her for a year and I got
stay with her for a year and I got
stay with her for a year and I got signed to Motown Records that didn’t
signed to Motown Records that didn’t
signed to Motown Records that didn’t really work out but I had to learn you
really work out but I had to learn you
really work out but I had to learn you know it’s such a it’s such a learning
know it’s such a it’s such a learning
know it’s such a it’s such a learning process and a lot of rejection
process and a lot of rejection
process and a lot of rejection I think me left understand that that’s
I think me left understand that that’s
I think me left understand that that’s just a part of the the you know what it
just a part of the the you know what it
just a part of the the you know what it takes to to kind of finally come up with
takes to to kind of finally come up with
takes to to kind of finally come up with your own album is that you need to be
your own album is that you need to be
your own album is that you need to be rejected over and over and everyone
rejected over and over and everyone
rejected over and over and everyone telling you
telling you
telling you good enough to kind of break through
good enough to kind of break through
good enough to kind of break through that that’s what it takes I think people
that that’s what it takes I think people
that that’s what it takes I think people have terrible risk calculus in general
have terrible risk calculus in general
have terrible risk calculus in general even people who try to be really good
even people who try to be really good
even people who try to be really good about this are bad at it um the answer I
about this are bad at it um the answer I
about this are bad at it um the answer I think is almost always a you’re wrong
think is almost always a you’re wrong
think is almost always a you’re wrong about what is risking what it’s not
about what is risking what it’s not
about what is risking what it’s not risky and B most people don’t take
risky and B most people don’t take
risky and B most people don’t take enough risk especially early in your
enough risk especially early in your
enough risk especially early in your career being on young and unknown and
career being on young and unknown and
career being on young and unknown and poor that is actually a great gift in
poor that is actually a great gift in
poor that is actually a great gift in terms of the amount of risk you can take
terms of the amount of risk you can take
terms of the amount of risk you can take and I think people don’t capitalize on
and I think people don’t capitalize on
and I think people don’t capitalize on that enough I think what risk actually
that enough I think what risk actually
that enough I think what risk actually looks like is not doing something that
looks like is not doing something that
looks like is not doing something that you will then spend the rest of your
you will then spend the rest of your
you will then spend the rest of your life regretting and there’s a quote you
life regretting and there’s a quote you
life regretting and there’s a quote you know people regret way more the things
know people regret way more the things
know people regret way more the things they didn’t do them things that they did
they didn’t do them things that they did
they didn’t do them things that they did do so if you really believe in something
do so if you really believe in something
do so if you really believe in something there’s an idea that you’re super
there’s an idea that you’re super
there’s an idea that you’re super passionate about you know and you take a
passionate about you know and you take a
passionate about you know and you take a calculated risk to start a company
calculated risk to start a company
calculated risk to start a company realizing you may forego a couple of
realizing you may forego a couple of
realizing you may forego a couple of years of studying come in and our job
years of studying come in and our job
years of studying come in and our job and whatever else and you know maybe
and whatever else and you know maybe
and whatever else and you know maybe people call you a failure or whatever
people call you a failure or whatever
people call you a failure or whatever that’s a great risk to take and if you
that’s a great risk to take and if you
that’s a great risk to take and if you don’t take that risk I think you have a
don’t take that risk I think you have a
don’t take that risk I think you have a very high chance that you end up
very high chance that you end up
very high chance that you end up regretting that I think the wrong kind
regretting that I think the wrong kind
regretting that I think the wrong kind of risk to take is where people don’t
of risk to take is where people don’t
of risk to take is where people don’t actually do things or don’t commit to
actually do things or don’t commit to
actually do things or don’t commit to something because they don’t want to
something because they don’t want to
something because they don’t want to fail and they over rate the risk of
fail and they over rate the risk of
fail and they over rate the risk of failure and their reputation damage or
failure and their reputation damage or
failure and their reputation damage or embarrassment or whatever I think one
embarrassment or whatever I think one
embarrassment or whatever I think one really important thing to strive for in
really important thing to strive for in
really important thing to strive for in your career is to be a doer not a talker
your career is to be a doer not a talker
your career is to be a doer not a talker and the reason that people don’t do
and the reason that people don’t do
and the reason that people don’t do stuff one is it’s hard and two is it’s
stuff one is it’s hard and two is it’s
stuff one is it’s hard and two is it’s risky and so you have these people that
risky and so you have these people that
risky and so you have these people that you know want to dabble on a bunch of
you know want to dabble on a bunch of
you know want to dabble on a bunch of different projects but never be all-in
different projects but never be all-in
different projects but never be all-in on one and I think it’s this combination
on one and I think it’s this combination
on one and I think it’s this combination of work and risk and it’s you know I
of work and risk and it’s you know I
of work and risk and it’s you know I think that’s really bad I think history
think that’s really bad I think history
think that’s really bad I think history belongs to the doers and I think you
belongs to the doers and I think you
belongs to the doers and I think you should take a risk actually do something
should take a risk actually do something
should take a risk actually do something don’t just sit around and talk and
don’t just sit around and talk and
don’t just sit around and talk and organize and bring together groups and
organize and bring together groups and
organize and bring together groups and go to thought leadership conferences and
go to thought leadership conferences and
go to thought leadership conferences and whatever it is these people spend their
whatever it is these people spend their
whatever it is these people spend their time on other than actually building
time on other than actually building
time on other than actually building something and just take the risk of
something and just take the risk of
something and just take the risk of committing to what you you have
committing to what you you have
committing to what you you have conviction
conviction
conviction I go into the emergency room and I was
I go into the emergency room and I was
I go into the emergency room and I was like Donald Smith and they’re like I’m
like Donald Smith and they’re like I’m
like Donald Smith and they’re like I’m sorry
sorry
sorry he passed and they took me into the room
he passed and they took me into the room
he passed and they took me into the room there’s my father laying on a gurney
there’s my father laying on a gurney
there’s my father laying on a gurney just dead
just dead
just dead it still has a tube sticking out of him
it still has a tube sticking out of him
it still has a tube sticking out of him and they’re trying to intubate him or
and they’re trying to intubate him or
and they’re trying to intubate him or something like that but just motionless
something like that but just motionless
something like that but just motionless quiet
quiet
quiet no breathing whatsoever and it was weird
no breathing whatsoever and it was weird
no breathing whatsoever and it was weird it was I mean to say the least you
it was I mean to say the least you
it was I mean to say the least you always know eventually your parents
always know eventually your parents
always know eventually your parents gonna go but I wasn’t ready I wasn’t
gonna go but I wasn’t ready I wasn’t
gonna go but I wasn’t ready I wasn’t ready for that moment and then I walked
ready for that moment and then I walked
ready for that moment and then I walked out and I went outside and had a
out and I went outside and had a
out and I went outside and had a cigarette I still cigarette smoker in
cigarette I still cigarette smoker in
cigarette I still cigarette smoker in those days and I was just thinking about
those days and I was just thinking about
those days and I was just thinking about being half an orphan or halfway to being
being half an orphan or halfway to being
being half an orphan or halfway to being an orphan or something like that my
an orphan or something like that my
an orphan or something like that my brother comes out and I was like I can’t
brother comes out and I was like I can’t
brother comes out and I was like I can’t believe it right he goes yeah it’s
believe it right he goes yeah it’s
believe it right he goes yeah it’s pretty tough and I said how was it
pretty tough and I said how was it
pretty tough and I said how was it because my brother was there he was
because my brother was there he was
because my brother was there he was staying with my parents
staying with my parents
staying with my parents and Donald without missing a beat my
and Donald without missing a beat my
and Donald without missing a beat my brother goes dad died screaming and I
brother goes dad died screaming and I
brother goes dad died screaming and I was like what and he goes dad died
was like what and he goes dad died
was like what and he goes dad died screaming I said what do you mean it’s
screaming I said what do you mean it’s
screaming I said what do you mean it’s like well he woke up and he was kicking
like well he woke up and he was kicking
like well he woke up and he was kicking the sheets off and screaming about being
the sheets off and screaming about being
the sheets off and screaming about being on fire and he was so hot and so hot and
on fire and he was so hot and so hot and
on fire and he was so hot and so hot and get him water and screaming the
get him water and screaming the
get him water and screaming the screaming got louder and louder and it
screaming got louder and louder and it
screaming got louder and louder and it reached a fever pitch and he died and I
reached a fever pitch and he died and I
reached a fever pitch and he died and I don’t know how else to say it but dad
don’t know how else to say it but dad
don’t know how else to say it but dad died screaming and that hit me like a
died screaming and that hit me like a
died screaming and that hit me like a Mack truck and I remember thinking oh my
Mack truck and I remember thinking oh my
Mack truck and I remember thinking oh my god in this world where even a good man
god in this world where even a good man
god in this world where even a good man like my old man is gonna die screaming
like my old man is gonna die screaming
like my old man is gonna die screaming there’s no point and not trying to
there’s no point and not trying to
there’s no point and not trying to achieve everything dream that I have
achieve everything dream that I have
achieve everything dream that I have this is my eventual end one day that’s
this is my eventual end one day that’s
this is my eventual end one day that’s it and and I really felt like man that’s
it and and I really felt like man that’s
it and and I really felt like man that’s like this I can’t this is my future
like this I can’t this is my future
like this I can’t this is my future we’re all probably gonna go out
we’re all probably gonna go out
we’re all probably gonna go out screaming so the best thing to do prior
screaming so the best thing to do prior
screaming so the best thing to do prior to that is to try to pack that life with
to that is to try to pack that life with
to that is to try to pack that life with as much wonderfulness fun productivity
as much wonderfulness fun productivity
as much wonderfulness fun productivity surround yourself with people that are
surround yourself with people that are
surround yourself with people that are going to help you do that you know cuz
going to help you do that you know cuz
going to help you do that you know cuz in this world there’s not a lot of
in this world there’s not a lot of
in this world there’s not a lot of support a lot of negativity there’s a
support a lot of negativity there’s a
support a lot of negativity there’s a lot of cynicism even as I sit here and
lot of cynicism even as I sit here and
lot of cynicism even as I sit here and tell that story about my father dying I
tell that story about my father dying I
tell that story about my father dying I guarantee you there’s a cynical head in
guarantee you there’s a cynical head in
guarantee you there’s a cynical head in this house maybe more sitting there
this house maybe more sitting there
this house maybe more sitting there going who cares move on tell a joke the
going who cares move on tell a joke the
going who cares move on tell a joke the world is full of why man you tell people
world is full of why man you tell people
world is full of why man you tell people something they’ll tell you why throw a
something they’ll tell you why throw a
something they’ll tell you why throw a rock and you’ll hit somebody with Y like
rock and you’ll hit somebody with Y like
rock and you’ll hit somebody with Y like hey man I want to make a movie why why
hey man I want to make a movie why why
hey man I want to make a movie why why do you think you could do that
do you think you could do that
do you think you could do that why why nobody else is doing it why are
why why nobody else is doing it why are
why why nobody else is doing it why are you doing it there’s so much why you go
you doing it there’s so much why you go
you doing it there’s so much why you go out and you find why not you surround
out and you find why not you surround
out and you find why not you surround yourself with why not people are just
yourself with why not people are just
yourself with why not people are just like why not we’re you like hey man I’m
like why not we’re you like hey man I’m
like why not we’re you like hey man I’m gonna try something like why not let’s
gonna try something like why not let’s
gonna try something like why not let’s give it a shot people who try to help
give it a shot people who try to help
give it a shot people who try to help you do your dreams make your dreams come
you do your dreams make your dreams come
you do your dreams make your dreams come true and you do the same for them we’re
true and you do the same for them we’re
true and you do the same for them we’re all in this together and it costs
all in this together and it costs
all in this together and it costs nothing to encourage an artist that’s
nothing to encourage an artist that’s
nothing to encourage an artist that’s why I get up here for almost 20 years
why I get up here for almost 20 years
why I get up here for almost 20 years now after the movie man I mean a lot of
now after the movie man I mean a lot of
now after the movie man I mean a lot of filmmakers get up after the movie and
filmmakers get up after the movie and
filmmakers get up after the movie and spend more time than the movie itself
spend more time than the movie itself
spend more time than the movie itself talking but I’ve been trying to impart
talking but I’ve been trying to impart
talking but I’ve been trying to impart one simple lesson for nearly 25 years
one simple lesson for nearly 25 years
one simple lesson for nearly 25 years anybody can do this you know what I’m
anybody can do this you know what I’m
anybody can do this you know what I’m saying like I wasn’t born into a
saying like I wasn’t born into a
saying like I wasn’t born into a business or the film business or born
business or the film business or born
business or the film business or born with a mic in my hands I have no
with a mic in my hands I have no
with a mic in my hands I have no discernible talent whatsoever man I have
discernible talent whatsoever man I have
discernible talent whatsoever man I have no connections to the business we’re
no connections to the business we’re
no connections to the business we’re from New Jersey and stuff I got lucky
from New Jersey and stuff I got lucky
from New Jersey and stuff I got lucky somebody picked up the movie and boom I
somebody picked up the movie and boom I
somebody picked up the movie and boom I was off and running and part of that
was off and running and part of that
was off and running and part of that manifest when you’re in brought into the
manifest when you’re in brought into the
manifest when you’re in brought into the indie film community part of your your
indie film community part of your your
indie film community part of your your your job part of your honor part of your
your job part of your honor part of your
your job part of your honor part of your privilege is to make sure that keeps
privilege is to make sure that keeps
privilege is to make sure that keeps going to encourage other people you know
going to encourage other people you know
going to encourage other people you know to tell people it’s worth the shot just
to tell people it’s worth the shot just
to tell people it’s worth the shot just like Wayne Gretzky said like you miss a
like Wayne Gretzky said like you miss a
like Wayne Gretzky said like you miss a hundred percent of the shots you never
hundred percent of the shots you never
hundred percent of the shots you never take it’s always worth the shot now if
take it’s always worth the shot now if
take it’s always worth the shot now if you’re talking about leg if what your
you’re talking about leg if what your
you’re talking about leg if what your shot is usually like I’ve always wanted
shot is usually like I’ve always wanted
shot is usually like I’ve always wanted to kill 12 children Kevin don’t take
to kill 12 children Kevin don’t take
to kill 12 children Kevin don’t take that shot at all I’m not talking about
that shot at all I’m not talking about
that shot at all I’m not talking about that you know I’m talking about
that you know I’m talking about
that you know I’m talking about artsy you know writing a blog and making
artsy you know writing a blog and making
artsy you know writing a blog and making some music making a movie making a
some music making a movie making a
some music making a movie making a cupcake store in a knitting store
cupcake store in a knitting store
cupcake store in a knitting store putting together of a YouTube clip just
putting together of a YouTube clip just
putting together of a YouTube clip just anything that’s just not oh we must do
anything that’s just not oh we must do
anything that’s just not oh we must do this because it’s part of my job or this
this because it’s part of my job or this
this because it’s part of my job or this will get money some you just do just to
will get money some you just do just to
will get money some you just do just to see if it can get be done live a why not
see if it can get be done live a why not
see if it can get be done live a why not life man because we’re all gonna die
life man because we’re all gonna die
life man because we’re all gonna die screaming so make sure when you die
screaming so make sure when you die
screaming so make sure when you die screaming you’re totally fulfilled you
screaming you’re totally fulfilled you
screaming you’re totally fulfilled you like I took all the shots I did it I did
like I took all the shots I did it I did
like I took all the shots I did it I did I went after everything I wanted to or
I went after everything I wanted to or
I went after everything I wanted to or at least tried take the shot the shot is
at least tried take the shot the shot is
at least tried take the shot the shot is always worth taking whether it’s a dopey
always worth taking whether it’s a dopey
always worth taking whether it’s a dopey thing like podcasting or writing a book
thing like podcasting or writing a book
thing like podcasting or writing a book or writing a blog think about the
or writing a blog think about the
or writing a blog think about the encouragement you get when you encourage
encouragement you get when you encourage
encouragement you get when you encourage an artist think about the potential that
an artist think about the potential that
an artist think about the potential that comes out of it you tell a dude good job
comes out of it you tell a dude good job
comes out of it you tell a dude good job man that person maybe one day writes
man that person maybe one day writes
man that person maybe one day writes that blog
that blog
that blog that you mean out to the entire world
that you mean out to the entire world
that you mean out to the entire world because it says exactly what you always
because it says exactly what you always
because it says exactly what you always wanted to say but couldn’t yourself or
wanted to say but couldn’t yourself or
wanted to say but couldn’t yourself or they write that song that you play over
they write that song that you play over
they write that song that you play over and over after a loved one dies because
and over after a loved one dies because
and over after a loved one dies because it means the world to you they they make
it means the world to you they they make
it means the world to you they they make that movie that is the one you cling to
that movie that is the one you cling to
that movie that is the one you cling to when everything is going wrong in life
when everything is going wrong in life
when everything is going wrong in life all you pop that in and things aren’t
all you pop that in and things aren’t
all you pop that in and things aren’t bad for two hours all that comes from
bad for two hours all that comes from
bad for two hours all that comes from encouraging an artist nothing good comes
encouraging an artist nothing good comes
encouraging an artist nothing good comes from discouraging an artist so for 20
from discouraging an artist so for 20
from discouraging an artist so for 20 years I keep coming up here and going go
years I keep coming up here and going go
years I keep coming up here and going go out and do it why the fuck aren’t you
out and do it why the fuck aren’t you
out and do it why the fuck aren’t you doing this it’s so fun you should do it
doing this it’s so fun you should do it
doing this it’s so fun you should do it take your shot I took my shot and it’s
take your shot I took my shot and it’s
take your shot I took my shot and it’s nothing but pussy and donut’s you know
nothing but pussy and donut’s you know
nothing but pussy and donut’s you know just so I’m here to tell you man give it
just so I’m here to tell you man give it
just so I’m here to tell you man give it a shot go out and try thank you guys so
a shot go out and try thank you guys so
a shot go out and try thank you guys so much for watching I hope you enjoyed I’d
much for watching I hope you enjoyed I’d
much for watching I hope you enjoyed I’d love to know what do you think of this
love to know what do you think of this
love to know what do you think of this video whose point resonated the most
video whose point resonated the most
video whose point resonated the most with you and how are you now going to
with you and how are you now going to
with you and how are you now going to take your shot I’d love to hear from you
take your shot I’d love to hear from you
take your shot I’d love to hear from you please leave your comments down below I
please leave your comments down below I
please leave your comments down below I also want to give a quick shout out to
also want to give a quick shout out to
also want to give a quick shout out to Frankie dela Torre Frankie thank you so
Frankie dela Torre Frankie thank you so
Frankie dela Torre Frankie thank you so much for picking up a copy of both of my
much for picking up a copy of both of my
much for picking up a copy of both of my books and posting that awesome rockin
books and posting that awesome rockin
books and posting that awesome rockin picture on social I hate all the support
picture on social I hate all the support
picture on social I hate all the support men and enjoy the reads so thank you
men and enjoy the reads so thank you
men and enjoy the reads so thank you guys again for watching I believe in you
guys again for watching I believe in you
guys again for watching I believe in you I hope you continue to believe in
I hope you continue to believe in
I hope you continue to believe in yourself and whatever your one where it
yourself and whatever your one where it
yourself and whatever your one where it is much love I’ll see you soon if you
is much love I’ll see you soon if you
is much love I’ll see you soon if you had to think of one word that’s most
had to think of one word that’s most
had to think of one word that’s most important to you that sums you Apple
important to you that sums you Apple
important to you that sums you Apple that would be collect a little beacon
that would be collect a little beacon
that would be collect a little beacon pay believe nation if you want to know
pay believe nation if you want to know
pay believe nation if you want to know what the most important one word is for
what the most important one word is for
what the most important one word is for Tony Robbins Gary Vaynerchuk Oprah
Tony Robbins Gary Vaynerchuk Oprah
Tony Robbins Gary Vaynerchuk Oprah Winfrey will.i.am and Howard Schultz I
Winfrey will.i.am and Howard Schultz I
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