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SOLITUDE Matters – Susan Cain (@susancain) – #Entspresso


good morning guys I’m just thinking I’m

good morning guys I’m just thinking I’m trying to remember one state can we do

trying to remember one state can we do

trying to remember one state can we do that again sorry let’s see I wish it

that again sorry let’s see I wish it

that again sorry let’s see I wish it because I’m melding it as you’re seen

because I’m melding it as you’re seen

because I’m melding it as you’re seen yeah like I’m cheering you Jared morning

yeah like I’m cheering you Jared morning

yeah like I’m cheering you Jared morning believe nation today’s message is

believe nation today’s message is

believe nation today’s message is solitude matters over to you Susan Cain

Steve Wozniak invented the first Apple

Steve Wozniak invented the first Apple Computer sitting alone in his cubicle

Computer sitting alone in his cubicle

Computer sitting alone in his cubicle and hewlett-packard where he was working

and hewlett-packard where he was working

and hewlett-packard where he was working at the time and he says that he never

at the time and he says that he never

at the time and he says that he never would have become such an expert in the

would have become such an expert in the

would have become such an expert in the first place had he not been too

first place had he not been too

first place had he not been too introverted to leave the house when he

introverted to leave the house when he

introverted to leave the house when he was growing up now of course this does

was growing up now of course this does

was growing up now of course this does not mean that we should all stop

not mean that we should all stop

not mean that we should all stop collaborating and case in point is Steve

collaborating and case in point is Steve

collaborating and case in point is Steve Wozniak famously coming together with

Wozniak famously coming together with

Wozniak famously coming together with Steve Jobs to start Apple Computer but

Steve Jobs to start Apple Computer but

Steve Jobs to start Apple Computer but it does mean that solitude matters and

it does mean that solitude matters and

it does mean that solitude matters and that for some people it is the air that

that for some people it is the air that

that for some people it is the air that they breathe and in fact we have known

they breathe and in fact we have known

they breathe and in fact we have known for centuries about the transcendent

for centuries about the transcendent

for centuries about the transcendent power of solitude it’s only recently

power of solitude it’s only recently

power of solitude it’s only recently that we’ve strangely begun to forget it

that we’ve strangely begun to forget it

that we’ve strangely begun to forget it if you look at most of the world’s major

if you look at most of the world’s major

if you look at most of the world’s major religions you will find seekers Moses

religions you will find seekers Moses

religions you will find seekers Moses Jesus Buddha Muhammad seekers who are

Jesus Buddha Muhammad seekers who are

Jesus Buddha Muhammad seekers who are going off by themselves alone to the

going off by themselves alone to the

going off by themselves alone to the wilderness where they then have profound

wilderness where they then have profound

wilderness where they then have profound epiphanies and revelations that they

epiphanies and revelations that they

epiphanies and revelations that they then bring back to the rest of the

then bring back to the rest of the

then bring back to the rest of the community

community

community so no wilderness no revelations what do

so no wilderness no revelations what do

so no wilderness no revelations what do you think my background in psychology

you think my background in psychology

you think my background in psychology are I mean at least I studied psychology

are I mean at least I studied psychology

are I mean at least I studied psychology and university I’m a strong believer and

and university I’m a strong believer and

and university I’m a strong believer and self-actualization being the best that

self-actualization being the best that

self-actualization being the best that you can be and I know for our

you can be and I know for our

you can be and I know for our entrepreneurs you know as you start to

entrepreneurs you know as you start to

entrepreneurs you know as you start to go to different people for opinions

go to different people for opinions

go to different people for opinions start to get information start to grow

start to get information start to grow

start to get information start to grow your business so much that sometimes

your business so much that sometimes

your business so much that sometimes there is too much white noise and you

there is too much white noise and you

there is too much white noise and you got to remove yourself and be able to

got to remove yourself and be able to

got to remove yourself and be able to digest it I think of it as almost like a

digest it I think of it as almost like a

digest it I think of it as almost like a computer you know when you start to

computer you know when you start to

computer you know when you start to Unwin with Windows computers you defrag

Unwin with Windows computers you defrag

Unwin with Windows computers you defrag a computer right to clean up the memory

a computer right to clean up the memory

a computer right to clean up the memory and organize things so this so even

and organize things so this so even

and organize things so this so even simple things like sleeping getting

simple things like sleeping getting

simple things like sleeping getting enough sleep it helps you just center

enough sleep it helps you just center

enough sleep it helps you just center yourself so

yourself so

yourself so solitude self-actualization growth is

solitude self-actualization growth is

solitude self-actualization growth is just as important as being out in the

just as important as being out in the

just as important as being out in the world and talking to people and working

world and talking to people and working

world and talking to people and working with people and collaborating is to find

with people and collaborating is to find

with people and collaborating is to find a good balance of that yeah I think

a good balance of that yeah I think

a good balance of that yeah I think everybody has to find their own cadence

everybody has to find their own cadence

everybody has to find their own cadence I think it really depends on how

I think it really depends on how

I think it really depends on how introverted extroverted you are I’m much

introverted extroverted you are I’m much

introverted extroverted you are I’m much more introverted I need solitude every

more introverted I need solitude every

more introverted I need solitude every day if I don’t get it I start to freak

day if I don’t get it I start to freak

day if I don’t get it I start to freak out if I’m in a really stressful

out if I’m in a really stressful

out if I’m in a really stressful situation I go inwards right like don’t

situation I go inwards right like don’t

situation I go inwards right like don’t talk to me don’t bother me like give me

talk to me don’t bother me like give me

talk to me don’t bother me like give me a room by myself and I’ll figure out an

a room by myself and I’ll figure out an

a room by myself and I’ll figure out an answer to whatever problem we’re facing

answer to whatever problem we’re facing

answer to whatever problem we’re facing some people who are more extroverted

some people who are more extroverted

some people who are more extroverted they go crazy when there’s too much time

they go crazy when there’s too much time

they go crazy when there’s too much time by themselves phrase like alright gotta

by themselves phrase like alright gotta

by themselves phrase like alright gotta get out and I gotta go to a coffee shop

get out and I gotta go to a coffee shop

get out and I gotta go to a coffee shop or something just to be around other

or something just to be around other

or something just to be around other people I think to the extreme if you’re

people I think to the extreme if you’re

people I think to the extreme if you’re always around other people then you need

always around other people then you need

always around other people then you need to everybody needs some amount of

to everybody needs some amount of

to everybody needs some amount of solitude I think just you have to figure

solitude I think just you have to figure

solitude I think just you have to figure out where you fit on the spectrum I

out where you fit on the spectrum I

out where you fit on the spectrum I would probably a lot more than Alex

would probably a lot more than Alex

would probably a lot more than Alex would just based on our personalities so

would just based on our personalities so

would just based on our personalities so just find your cadence this is something

just find your cadence this is something

just find your cadence this is something that I try to make I try to be really

that I try to make I try to be really

that I try to make I try to be really self aware of where in my life things

self aware of where in my life things

self aware of where in my life things get out of balance and you’ll find that

get out of balance and you’ll find that

get out of balance and you’ll find that as you grow and build and you build a

as you grow and build and you build a

as you grow and build and you build a family you build a business things get

family you build a business things get

family you build a business things get added to your schedule you will at some

added to your schedule you will at some

added to your schedule you will at some point find some things are out of

point find some things are out of

point find some things are out of balance like I’m not spending enough

balance like I’m not spending enough

balance like I’m not spending enough time with my wife or I’m not spending

time with my wife or I’m not spending

time with my wife or I’m not spending enough time by myself and and I do a

enough time by myself and and I do a

enough time by myself and and I do a regular audit to see where is my life

regular audit to see where is my life

regular audit to see where is my life out of balance and how can I inject more

out of balance and how can I inject more

out of balance and how can I inject more stability for me so I can run

stability for me so I can run

stability for me so I can run effectively in according to my cadence

effectively in according to my cadence

effectively in according to my cadence so I think it’s important for everybody

so I think it’s important for everybody

so I think it’s important for everybody just you got to gotta go with the flow

just you got to gotta go with the flow

just you got to gotta go with the flow and see which one like how much shelter

and see which one like how much shelter

and see which one like how much shelter you need for yourself you know what I’m

you need for yourself you know what I’m

you need for yourself you know what I’m actually gonna go a little bit on a

actually gonna go a little bit on a

actually gonna go a little bit on a different side of it there was a

different side of it there was a

different side of it there was a motivational speaker with an a previous

motivational speaker with an a previous

motivational speaker with an a previous job who came in when I was working and

job who came in when I was working and

job who came in when I was working and he said you know when they talk about

he said you know when they talk about

he said you know when they talk about work/life violence he doesn’t believe in

work/life violence he doesn’t believe in

work/life violence he doesn’t believe in work-life balance and he said it’s about

work-life balance and he said it’s about

work-life balance and he said it’s about harmony actually because the whole word

harmony actually because the whole word

harmony actually because the whole word of balance implies that there are these

of balance implies that there are these

of balance implies that there are these scales and you put enough here you put

scales and you put enough here you put

scales and you put enough here you put enough here and your personal life and

enough here and your personal life and

enough here and your personal life and your work life somehow balance out and

your work life somehow balance out and

your work life somehow balance out and it’s almost like you set yourself up to

it’s almost like you set yourself up to

it’s almost like you set yourself up to fail actually so harmony if you think of

fail actually so harmony if you think of

fail actually so harmony if you think of your life as sort of a symphony right

your life as sort of a symphony right

your life as sort of a symphony right you have certain you know you

you have certain you know you

you have certain you know you the oboe you have the violin they play

the oboe you have the violin they play

the oboe you have the violin they play at their own levels and what you want to

at their own levels and what you want to

at their own levels and what you want to find and what’s perfect that you’ve ever

find and what’s perfect that you’ve ever

find and what’s perfect that you’ve ever gone to listen to a symphony is when all

gone to listen to a symphony is when all

gone to listen to a symphony is when all the instruments play in harmony whether

the instruments play in harmony whether

the instruments play in harmony whether there are thirty violins and two drums

there are thirty violins and two drums

there are thirty violins and two drums or 20 drums and thirty violins right

or 20 drums and thirty violins right

or 20 drums and thirty violins right yeah that’s right

yeah that’s right

yeah that’s right there that’s what matters and I think

there that’s what matters and I think

there that’s what matters and I think this you know it’s all about

this you know it’s all about

this you know it’s all about visualization of in any kind of industry

visualization of in any kind of industry

visualization of in any kind of industry that you are in so if you visualize how

that you are in so if you visualize how

that you are in so if you visualize how do I find harmony with my friends with

do I find harmony with my friends with

do I find harmony with my friends with my lover with everything in your life

my lover with everything in your life

my lover with everything in your life that will have more value than saying

that will have more value than saying

that will have more value than saying that I need to balance these scales

that I need to balance these scales

that I need to balance these scales because then you tend to want to stress

because then you tend to want to stress

because then you tend to want to stress out and you know that bogs you doubt oh

out and you know that bogs you doubt oh

out and you know that bogs you doubt oh I’m not spending enough time with my

I’m not spending enough time with my

I’m not spending enough time with my family I’m not spending enough time this

family I’m not spending enough time this

family I’m not spending enough time this instead of you said you’d be coming from

instead of you said you’d be coming from

instead of you said you’d be coming from well how do I provide a little bit more

well how do I provide a little bit more

well how do I provide a little bit more time for my family to make sure that

time for my family to make sure that

time for my family to make sure that everything sounds nice

everything sounds nice

everything sounds nice I think to add to that I would say the

I think to add to that I would say the

I think to add to that I would say the song always changes yeah right so like

song always changes yeah right so like

song always changes yeah right so like you may get it right for this one song

you may get it right for this one song

you may get it right for this one song but then something new gets like you

but then something new gets like you

but then something new gets like you have a new job now or now you have a kid

have a new job now or now you have a kid

have a new job now or now you have a kid right to another song changes so you

right to another song changes so you

right to another song changes so you have to find harmony constantly right

have to find harmony constantly right

have to find harmony constantly right look it’s a it’s a you’re never you know

look it’s a it’s a you’re never you know

look it’s a it’s a you’re never you know you might be totally in balance now but

you might be totally in balance now but

you might be totally in balance now but then you got to continue to adjust as

then you got to continue to adjust as

then you got to continue to adjust as the song changes in your life yeah so

the song changes in your life yeah so

the song changes in your life yeah so the question of the day today is how do

the question of the day today is how do

the question of the day today is how do you find harmony in your life thank you

you find harmony in your life thank you

you find harmony in your life thank you so much for watching have an amazing day

so much for watching have an amazing day

so much for watching have an amazing day continue to believe and we’ll see you

continue to believe and we’ll see you

continue to believe and we’ll see you again tomorrow morning for another shot

again tomorrow morning for another shot

again tomorrow morning for another shot of espresso

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