get certain yet certain that you can handle anything like this in the future
handle anything like this in the future
handle anything like this in the future get certain not only can you deal with
get certain not only can you deal with
get certain not only can you deal with the emotion you have right now but what
the emotion you have right now but what
the emotion you have right now but what you should do is use this as an
you should do is use this as an
you should do is use this as an opportunity being certain for yourself
opportunity being certain for yourself
opportunity being certain for yourself get yourself certain the bitter happens
get yourself certain the bitter happens
get yourself certain the bitter happens the future I’ll handle this emotion
the future I’ll handle this emotion
the future I’ll handle this emotion quicker and easier get certain that you
quicker and easier get certain that you
quicker and easier get certain that you can handle anything like this in the
can handle anything like this in the
can handle anything like this in the future by rehearsing yourself dealing
future by rehearsing yourself dealing
future by rehearsing yourself dealing with it in the future in other words
with it in the future in other words
with it in the future in other words think of a time in the future where this
think of a time in the future where this
think of a time in the future where this depression could come out and see
depression could come out and see
depression could come out and see yourself feel yourself rehearsing again
yourself feel yourself rehearsing again
yourself feel yourself rehearsing again use this as a tool of empowerment all
use this as a tool of empowerment all
use this as a tool of empowerment all right so let’s get to it this morning
right so let’s get to it this morning
right so let’s get to it this morning first of all if you don’t have a
first of all if you don’t have a
first of all if you don’t have a notebook raise your hand if you don’t
notebook raise your hand if you don’t
notebook raise your hand if you don’t have something to write on great find a
have something to write on great find a
have something to write on great find a human nearby because today what we’re
human nearby because today what we’re
human nearby because today what we’re gonna share with you is probably worth
gonna share with you is probably worth
gonna share with you is probably worth writing down so you want to definitely
writing down so you want to definitely
writing down so you want to definitely capture it years ago I met a very very
capture it years ago I met a very very
capture it years ago I met a very very successful man he taught me something I
successful man he taught me something I
successful man he taught me something I never forgot for the rest of my life he
never forgot for the rest of my life he
never forgot for the rest of my life he said Tony whatever you do in your life
said Tony whatever you do in your life
said Tony whatever you do in your life whenever you find you’re gonna go
whenever you find you’re gonna go
whenever you find you’re gonna go someplace where there’s some great ideas
someplace where there’s some great ideas
someplace where there’s some great ideas some great resources he said always make
some great resources he said always make
some great resources he said always make sure you take a pen and paper you think
sure you take a pen and paper you think
sure you take a pen and paper you think is what you want to do is you want to be
is what you want to do is you want to be
is what you want to do is you want to be able to capture those ideas and cement
able to capture those ideas and cement
able to capture those ideas and cement them to paper so you’re gonna view them
them to paper so you’re gonna view them
them to paper so you’re gonna view them in the future
in the future
in the future in fact what he got me to do was to keep
in fact what he got me to do was to keep
in fact what he got me to do was to keep a journal and I would HIGHLY encourage
a journal and I would HIGHLY encourage
a journal and I would HIGHLY encourage you by the time you come to the next
you by the time you come to the next
you by the time you come to the next management session or maybe even during
management session or maybe even during
management session or maybe even during a break today if you wanted to to get
a break today if you wanted to to get
a break today if you wanted to to get yourself a hardbound journal hardbound
yourself a hardbound journal hardbound
yourself a hardbound journal hardbound journal meeting not a loose-leaf and you
journal meeting not a loose-leaf and you
journal meeting not a loose-leaf and you can get those in all kinds of stationery
can get those in all kinds of stationery
can get those in all kinds of stationery stores some religious bookstores the
stores some religious bookstores the
stores some religious bookstores the bottom line is if you keep a journal you
bottom line is if you keep a journal you
bottom line is if you keep a journal you don’t even write it every day but when
don’t even write it every day but when
don’t even write it every day but when you get thoughts or ideas you capture it
you get thoughts or ideas you capture it
you get thoughts or ideas you capture it there you can’t believe what will happen
there you can’t believe what will happen
there you can’t believe what will happen you’ll start to accumulate a wealth of
you’ll start to accumulate a wealth of
you’ll start to accumulate a wealth of knowledge and ability and skills and
knowledge and ability and skills and
knowledge and ability and skills and resources that not only will help you
resources that not only will help you
resources that not only will help you but you can help other people as well
but you can help other people as well
but you can help other people as well I’ve been keeping journals myself now
I’ve been keeping journals myself now
I’ve been keeping journals myself now for about a dozen years and I go back
for about a dozen years and I go back
for about a dozen years and I go back and review my life and ask to real
and review my life and ask to real
and review my life and ask to real values I think one is it gives you a
values I think one is it gives you a
values I think one is it gives you a chance to really see how much you’ve
chance to really see how much you’ve
chance to really see how much you’ve grown because how many of you have kids
grown because how many of you have kids
grown because how many of you have kids I’m curious how many of you have
I’m curious how many of you have
I’m curious how many of you have somebody compensate boy your kids really
somebody compensate boy your kids really
somebody compensate boy your kids really grow on you really because you’re so
grow on you really because you’re so
grow on you really because you’re so close to them you don’t notice it as
close to them you don’t notice it as
close to them you don’t notice it as much how many found it to be true
much how many found it to be true
much how many found it to be true guess what it’s even worse with yourself
guess what it’s even worse with yourself
guess what it’s even worse with yourself sometimes we don’t give ourselves credit
sometimes we don’t give ourselves credit
sometimes we don’t give ourselves credit for the amount that we’re growing but
for the amount that we’re growing but
for the amount that we’re growing but I’ll tell you one thing if you keep a
I’ll tell you one thing if you keep a
I’ll tell you one thing if you keep a journal it won’t be hard to see how much
journal it won’t be hard to see how much
journal it won’t be hard to see how much you’re growing because you’ll see the
you’re growing because you’ll see the
you’re growing because you’ll see the kind of goals you have back then the
kind of goals you have back then the
kind of goals you have back then the kind of things you thought back in those
kind of things you thought back in those
kind of things you thought back in those days and you’ll begin to see the
days and you’ll begin to see the
days and you’ll begin to see the evolution of the growth also I
evolution of the growth also I
evolution of the growth also I personally believe that life’s worth
personally believe that life’s worth
personally believe that life’s worth living it’s worth recording that’s an
living it’s worth recording that’s an
living it’s worth recording that’s an incredible gift to give to your children
incredible gift to give to your children
incredible gift to give to your children because some day they get to know
because some day they get to know
because some day they get to know exactly how you were at different times
exactly how you were at different times
exactly how you were at different times in your life and they get to learn your
in your life and they get to learn your
in your life and they get to learn your lessons without and go through it so I
lessons without and go through it so I
lessons without and go through it so I highly encourage you do that but it’s a
highly encourage you do that but it’s a
highly encourage you do that but it’s a very minimum let’s make sure we take
very minimum let’s make sure we take
very minimum let’s make sure we take notes
notes
notes you guys ready to crank Frank let’s do
you guys ready to crank Frank let’s do
you guys ready to crank Frank let’s do it so this whole weekend is about
it so this whole weekend is about
it so this whole weekend is about connecting and communication really it’s
connecting and communication really it’s
connecting and communication really it’s about communication relationship I make
about communication relationship I make
about communication relationship I make everything more worthwhile and the
everything more worthwhile and the
everything more worthwhile and the technology that we’re gonna share with
technology that we’re gonna share with
technology that we’re gonna share with you this weekend has a unique name we
you this weekend has a unique name we
you this weekend has a unique name we call it reality bridging reality
call it reality bridging reality
call it reality bridging reality bridging I’m gonna make you go into a
bridging I’m gonna make you go into a
bridging I’m gonna make you go into a deep trance trying to figure out what
deep trance trying to figure out what
deep trance trying to figure out what that means right we’re gonna clarify for
that means right we’re gonna clarify for
that means right we’re gonna clarify for you but reality bridging it’s the
you but reality bridging it’s the
you but reality bridging it’s the technology of vital communication and
technology of vital communication and
technology of vital communication and true freedom so what you’re gonna find
true freedom so what you’re gonna find
true freedom so what you’re gonna find is you’re gonna find there’s gonna be
is you’re gonna find there’s gonna be
is you’re gonna find there’s gonna be vitality in your communication when you
vitality in your communication when you
vitality in your communication when you start using the techniques we’re going
start using the techniques we’re going
start using the techniques we’re going to teach you and there’s gonna be a
to teach you and there’s gonna be a
to teach you and there’s gonna be a sense of absolute freedom well you can
sense of absolute freedom well you can
sense of absolute freedom well you can share with somebody what your real
share with somebody what your real
share with somebody what your real feelings are and never ever offend them
feelings are and never ever offend them
feelings are and never ever offend them they won’t have to hear you and cry and
they won’t have to hear you and cry and
they won’t have to hear you and cry and feel bad and you will feel so bad either
feel bad and you will feel so bad either
feel bad and you will feel so bad either we want to make sure the communication
we want to make sure the communication
we want to make sure the communication is vital that you’re always connecting
is vital that you’re always connecting
is vital that you’re always connecting that you feel good when you’re
that you feel good when you’re
that you feel good when you’re communicating so does the person you’re
communicating so does the person you’re
communicating so does the person you’re communicating with and it produces
communicating with and it produces
communicating with and it produces results that’s our outcome and to be
results that’s our outcome and to be
results that’s our outcome and to be able to do that without having to worry
able to do that without having to worry
able to do that without having to worry creates an unbelievable level freedom
creates an unbelievable level freedom
creates an unbelievable level freedom for people because how many of you be
for people because how many of you be
for people because how many of you be honest have felt feelings at times and
honest have felt feelings at times and
honest have felt feelings at times and you’re upset but you didn’t share it
you’re upset but you didn’t share it
you’re upset but you didn’t share it because you didn’t know how or you
because you didn’t know how or you
because you didn’t know how or you didn’t share it because well you thought
didn’t share it because well you thought
didn’t share it because well you thought well maybe it’s really about me or you
well maybe it’s really about me or you
well maybe it’s really about me or you didn’t share it because you didn’t want
didn’t share it because you didn’t want
didn’t share it because you didn’t want to offend somebody even though you were
to offend somebody even though you were
to offend somebody even though you were mad or upset I’m gonna have that
mad or upset I’m gonna have that
mad or upset I’m gonna have that experience in the past and when you
experience in the past and when you
experience in the past and when you don’t share something what happens when
don’t share something what happens when
don’t share something what happens when you just keep it inside and build it up
you just keep it inside and build it up
you just keep it inside and build it up yeah it festers does it get better or
yeah it festers does it get better or
yeah it festers does it get better or worse I guess a lot worse and eventually
worse I guess a lot worse and eventually
worse I guess a lot worse and eventually what happens in you blow up about
what happens in you blow up about
what happens in you blow up about something
something
something that could have been handled so much
that could have been handled so much
that could have been handled so much easier along the way but then there’s
easier along the way but then there’s
easier along the way but then there’s the other approach which is you’re
the other approach which is you’re
the other approach which is you’re looking for things on a regular basis to
looking for things on a regular basis to
looking for things on a regular basis to be able to give people feedback about
be able to give people feedback about
be able to give people feedback about and some people develop that habit or
and some people develop that habit or
and some people develop that habit or you communicate in the way where
you communicate in the way where
you communicate in the way where basically you’re communicating your
basically you’re communicating your
basically you’re communicating your feelings like you’re upset but do you
feelings like you’re upset but do you
feelings like you’re upset but do you always have all the information no and
always have all the information no and
always have all the information no and so you’re making a decision about how to
so you’re making a decision about how to
so you’re making a decision about how to feel based on false information how many
feel based on false information how many
feel based on false information how many you ever gotten upset and later on felt
you ever gotten upset and later on felt
you ever gotten upset and later on felt a little dumb did you find out you’re
a little dumb did you find out you’re
a little dumb did you find out you’re upset about something really should have
upset about something really should have
upset about something really should have been upset about
been upset about
been upset about so one philosophy says keep it inside a
so one philosophy says keep it inside a
so one philosophy says keep it inside a Lafosse he says we’ll get it out well
Lafosse he says we’ll get it out well
Lafosse he says we’ll get it out well what if you get it out and then you find
what if you get it out and then you find
what if you get it out and then you find out it you were wrong by the way do we
out it you were wrong by the way do we
out it you were wrong by the way do we like being wrong No so then what would
like being wrong No so then what would
like being wrong No so then what would he probably do justify the fan well
he probably do justify the fan well
he probably do justify the fan well that’s well yeah I didn’t know that but
that’s well yeah I didn’t know that but
that’s well yeah I didn’t know that but if you’ve done that before and that does
if you’ve done that before and that does
if you’ve done that before and that does not make a relation to work Plus that
not make a relation to work Plus that
not make a relation to work Plus that person gets upset it’s kind of like
person gets upset it’s kind of like
person gets upset it’s kind of like anybody ever come up to you and say you
anybody ever come up to you and say you
anybody ever come up to you and say you know why are you upset and you’re going
know why are you upset and you’re going
know why are you upset and you’re going to go no yeah you are you no I’m not yes
to go no yeah you are you no I’m not yes
to go no yeah you are you no I’m not yes you are well I’m getting upsets okay
you are well I’m getting upsets okay
you are well I’m getting upsets okay that also happens unless we’re really
that also happens unless we’re really
that also happens unless we’re really clear so what we’re really gonna do is
clear so what we’re really gonna do is
clear so what we’re really gonna do is we’re going to start a whole basis of
we’re going to start a whole basis of
we’re going to start a whole basis of studying of communication to remember
studying of communication to remember
studying of communication to remember one thing and write this in your notes
one thing and write this in your notes
one thing and write this in your notes if you would and that is the quality of
if you would and that is the quality of
if you would and that is the quality of your life is directly related to the
your life is directly related to the
your life is directly related to the quality of your communication the
quality of your communication the
quality of your communication the quality of your life
quality of your life
quality of your life is the quality of your communication
is the quality of your communication
is the quality of your communication period quality of your life is the
period quality of your life is the
period quality of your life is the quality of your communication now pretty
quality of your communication now pretty
quality of your communication now pretty basic idea nothing earth-shattering but
basic idea nothing earth-shattering but
basic idea nothing earth-shattering but I’m here to tell you that’s thing and
I’m here to tell you that’s thing and
I’m here to tell you that’s thing and taught your entire life comes down to
taught your entire life comes down to
taught your entire life comes down to this
this
this quality of your entire life comes down
quality of your entire life comes down
quality of your entire life comes down to the quality of how you communicate
to the quality of how you communicate
to the quality of how you communicate with whom no know with whom first do you
with whom no know with whom first do you
with whom no know with whom first do you think and determines how you that’s
think and determines how you that’s
think and determines how you that’s right quality of your life starts with
right quality of your life starts with
right quality of your life starts with the quality of how you communicate to
the quality of how you communicate to
the quality of how you communicate to yourself that’s where it all starts how
yourself that’s where it all starts how
yourself that’s where it all starts how you feel is not based on the environment
you feel is not based on the environment
you feel is not based on the environment is it based like how do you feel is that
is it based like how do you feel is that
is it based like how do you feel is that determine based on like whether or not
determine based on like whether or not
determine based on like whether or not you have lots of money yes or no little
you have lots of money yes or no little
you have lots of money yes or no little mixture reaction on that one no no no
mixture reaction on that one no no no
mixture reaction on that one no no no it’s not no absolutely not no how’s that
it’s not no absolutely not no how’s that
it’s not no absolutely not no how’s that for incongruent communication from a lot
for incongruent communication from a lot
for incongruent communication from a lot of here ok some of you have a little
of here ok some of you have a little
of here ok some of you have a little mixed feelings about this down ship let
mixed feelings about this down ship let
mixed feelings about this down ship let me ask you a question how many of you
me ask you a question how many of you
me ask you a question how many of you know somebody who has tons of money and
know somebody who has tons of money and
know somebody who has tons of money and is still not happy interesting how many
is still not happy interesting how many
is still not happy interesting how many of you know somebody who doesn’t have
of you know somebody who doesn’t have
of you know somebody who doesn’t have any money at all but seems like very
any money at all but seems like very
any money at all but seems like very happy so does money to jump in your
happy so does money to jump in your
happy so does money to jump in your happiness yes or no how many know if you
happiness yes or no how many know if you
happiness yes or no how many know if you had lots of money though you’d be happy
had lots of money though you’d be happy
had lots of money though you’d be happy you’re different
you’re different
you’re different I had your money I’d be happy no problem
I had your money I’d be happy no problem
I had your money I’d be happy no problem give me your money we’ll try okay people
give me your money we’ll try okay people
give me your money we’ll try okay people say money can’t buy happiness don’t know
say money can’t buy happiness don’t know
say money can’t buy happiness don’t know where to shop
now see that that’s not gonna do it is
now see that that’s not gonna do it is it it’s not the money it’s how you
it it’s not the money it’s how you
it it’s not the money it’s how you communicate yourself about money your
communicate yourself about money your
communicate yourself about money your lack of it or the abundance you think
lack of it or the abundance you think
lack of it or the abundance you think you have
you have
you have by the way can people have an abundance
by the way can people have an abundance
by the way can people have an abundance but communicate to themself that they’re
but communicate to themself that they’re
but communicate to themself that they’re still in scarcity yes or no absolutely
still in scarcity yes or no absolutely
still in scarcity yes or no absolutely so money doesn’t go it’s how you feel
so money doesn’t go it’s how you feel
so money doesn’t go it’s how you feel determined by whether or not the weather
determined by whether or not the weather
determined by whether or not the weather is good yes oh really
is good yes oh really
is good yes oh really are there people in freezing weather
are there people in freezing weather
are there people in freezing weather we’re very happy yes or no are there
we’re very happy yes or no are there
we’re very happy yes or no are there people in hot weather they’re very happy
people in hot weather they’re very happy
people in hot weather they’re very happy yes or no other people that are in
yes or no other people that are in
yes or no other people that are in either one those weathers in the
either one those weathers in the
either one those weathers in the opposite degree that have opposite
opposite degree that have opposite
opposite degree that have opposite feelings does that transfer out yet yes
feelings does that transfer out yet yes
feelings does that transfer out yet yes see the weather doesn’t determine it is
see the weather doesn’t determine it is
see the weather doesn’t determine it is it what are you happy not determined by
it what are you happy not determined by
it what are you happy not determined by whether or not other people say they
whether or not other people say they
whether or not other people say they love you you know yes but you but you
love you you know yes but you but you
love you you know yes but you but you shouldn’t
so you sit there and shit all over
so you sit there and shit all over yourself huh okay you’re right it
yourself huh okay you’re right it
yourself huh okay you’re right it probably shouldn’t but a lot of us
probably shouldn’t but a lot of us
probably shouldn’t but a lot of us connect that reel directly but I got a
connect that reel directly but I got a
connect that reel directly but I got a question for you somebody comes up to
question for you somebody comes up to
question for you somebody comes up to you and they tell you how they come up
you and they tell you how they come up
you and they tell you how they come up and they hug you or they look to that
and they hug you or they look to that
and they hug you or they look to that certain special way or they kiss you
certain special way or they kiss you
certain special way or they kiss you passionately again to come to attention
passionately again to come to attention
passionately again to come to attention gentlemen now when all that stuff
gentlemen now when all that stuff
gentlemen now when all that stuff happens
well all that stuff happens my question
well all that stuff happens my question for you is weight will mean all that
for you is weight will mean all that
for you is weight will mean all that happen once it really the kiss the did
happen once it really the kiss the did
happen once it really the kiss the did it no I don’t think so
it no I don’t think so
it no I don’t think so and that’s true kissing your dog will
and that’s true kissing your dog will
and that’s true kissing your dog will get you excited
get you excited
get you excited it wasn’t the kiss
it wasn’t the kiss
it wasn’t the kiss it was the meaning you associated to
it was the meaning you associated to
it was the meaning you associated to that particular moment when tissue touch
that particular moment when tissue touch
that particular moment when tissue touch tissue in that unique way that’s really
tissue in that unique way that’s really
tissue in that unique way that’s really it isn’t it it isn’t actually yes
it isn’t actually the event itself is it
it isn’t actually the event itself is it it is rather what we communicated to
it is rather what we communicated to
it is rather what we communicated to ourselves about that event somebody
ourselves about that event somebody
ourselves about that event somebody hugged you and you feel good do they
hugged you and you feel good do they
hugged you and you feel good do they make you feel good yes for now now what
make you feel good yes for now now what
make you feel good yes for now now what makes you feel good is you’ve got a set
makes you feel good is you’ve got a set
makes you feel good is you’ve got a set of rules inside your head and say if
of rules inside your head and say if
of rules inside your head and say if somebody touches me quite like this they
somebody touches me quite like this they
somebody touches me quite like this they look like that Sam smell feel like this
look like that Sam smell feel like this
look like that Sam smell feel like this then I get to say whew and so you say
then I get to say whew and so you say
then I get to say whew and so you say okay it’s time to feel good your brain
okay it’s time to feel good your brain
okay it’s time to feel good your brain goes and you start feeling good so the
goes and you start feeling good so the
goes and you start feeling good so the bottom line is we determine how we feel
bottom line is we determine how we feel
bottom line is we determine how we feel by the way we communicate to ourselves
by the way we communicate to ourselves
by the way we communicate to ourselves by the meaning that we communicate about
by the meaning that we communicate about
by the meaning that we communicate about a situation see it’s not the event
a situation see it’s not the event
a situation see it’s not the event determines how we feel it’s the meaning
determines how we feel it’s the meaning
determines how we feel it’s the meaning that we associate to the event the terms
that we associate to the event the terms
that we associate to the event the terms how we feel and that meaning is
how we feel and that meaning is
how we feel and that meaning is something we create and we communicate
something we create and we communicate
something we create and we communicate to ourselves if you’re upset about
to ourselves if you’re upset about
to ourselves if you’re upset about anything all upsets come down to the
anything all upsets come down to the
anything all upsets come down to the meaning you associate to something
meaning you associate to something
meaning you associate to something you’re upset about something is because
you’re upset about something is because
you’re upset about something is because you’re thinking well that’s because this
you’re thinking well that’s because this
you’re thinking well that’s because this means they don’t care about me or this
means they don’t care about me or this
means they don’t care about me or this means I’m no longer in control or this
means I’m no longer in control or this
means I’m no longer in control or this means I’m not respect or this means all
means I’m not respect or this means all
means I’m not respect or this means all upset is based on a meaning and how many
upset is based on a meaning and how many
upset is based on a meaning and how many times we’ve been wrong when you linked
times we’ve been wrong when you linked
times we’ve been wrong when you linked up the meaning anybody’s been wrong yes
up the meaning anybody’s been wrong yes
up the meaning anybody’s been wrong yes or now yes this means you ask I’ll guide
or now yes this means you ask I’ll guide
or now yes this means you ask I’ll guide you through this okay we’ve all been
you through this okay we’ve all been
you through this okay we’ve all been wrong so what we’ve got to really be
wrong so what we’ve got to really be
wrong so what we’ve got to really be able to do is to realize one thing and
able to do is to realize one thing and
able to do is to realize one thing and right at your notes nothing in life has
right at your notes nothing in life has
right at your notes nothing in life has any meaning except the meaning that I
any meaning except the meaning that I
any meaning except the meaning that I give it nothing in life has any meaning
give it nothing in life has any meaning
give it nothing in life has any meaning except the meaning that I give it
[Music]
[Music] nothing in life has any meaning except
nothing in life has any meaning except
nothing in life has any meaning except the meaning that I give it you’re the
the meaning that I give it you’re the
the meaning that I give it you’re the one that puts the label on what things
one that puts the label on what things
one that puts the label on what things mean and the last time you’re with me I
mean and the last time you’re with me I
mean and the last time you’re with me I gave you a phrase and we talked about
gave you a phrase and we talked about
gave you a phrase and we talked about transformational vocabulary if you
transformational vocabulary if you
transformational vocabulary if you recall transformational vocabulary is
recall transformational vocabulary is
recall transformational vocabulary is the idea that we get all these pictures
the idea that we get all these pictures
the idea that we get all these pictures and sounds and feelings and sensations
and sounds and feelings and sensations
and sounds and feelings and sensations start to come in our body but we don’t
start to come in our body but we don’t
start to come in our body but we don’t know what it means to we put a label on
know what it means to we put a label on
know what it means to we put a label on it so you’ve got all these things and
it so you’ve got all these things and
it so you’ve got all these things and they feel uncomfortable I feel kind of
they feel uncomfortable I feel kind of
they feel uncomfortable I feel kind of painful and you call that humiliation
painful and you call that humiliation
painful and you call that humiliation well that intensify the feeling more
well that intensify the feeling more
well that intensify the feeling more than if you say you know I’m all
than if you say you know I’m all
than if you say you know I’m all frustrated yes or no you better believe
frustrated yes or no you better believe
frustrated yes or no you better believe it the label we put on our experience
it the label we put on our experience
it the label we put on our experience becomes our experience and we are the
becomes our experience and we are the
becomes our experience and we are the person doing the labeling now granted
person doing the labeling now granted
person doing the labeling now granted I’ll agree that most of us are on
I’ll agree that most of us are on
I’ll agree that most of us are on automatic pilot we’re using a labeling
automatic pilot we’re using a labeling
automatic pilot we’re using a labeling and a communication process that we
and a communication process that we
and a communication process that we don’t even think about consciously and
don’t even think about consciously and
don’t even think about consciously and we can easily point to the people show
we can easily point to the people show
we can easily point to the people show how they created that feeling for us and
how they created that feeling for us and
how they created that feeling for us and certainly they helped us to get into
certainly they helped us to get into
certainly they helped us to get into state they helped us by giving us some
state they helped us by giving us some
state they helped us by giving us some feedback but we still determine the
feedback but we still determine the
feedback but we still determine the feeling hey give me an example I was in
feeling hey give me an example I was in
feeling hey give me an example I was in Hawaii recently I couldn’t believe it I
Hawaii recently I couldn’t believe it I
Hawaii recently I couldn’t believe it I read this article and I saw the thing on
read this article and I saw the thing on
read this article and I saw the thing on TV where they interviewed this guy he’s
TV where they interviewed this guy he’s
TV where they interviewed this guy he’s out swimming and the shark came in bit
out swimming and the shark came in bit
out swimming and the shark came in bit his leg off yeah you think he’s really
his leg off yeah you think he’s really
his leg off yeah you think he’s really upset why would you be upset a son if so
upset why would you be upset a son if so
upset why would you be upset a son if so you lost your leg after the initial pain
you lost your leg after the initial pain
you lost your leg after the initial pain why would you stay upset because of the
why would you stay upset because of the
why would you stay upset because of the meaning you’d link to that right what
meaning you’d link to that right what
meaning you’d link to that right what would be the meaning that would make you
would be the meaning that would make you
would be the meaning that would make you feel upset all the time that’s right the
feel upset all the time that’s right the
feel upset all the time that’s right the meaning of loss that you would lost
meaning of loss that you would lost
meaning of loss that you would lost something see almost all pain all pain
something see almost all pain all pain
something see almost all pain all pain you’re ever gonna feel in your life the
you’re ever gonna feel in your life the
you’re ever gonna feel in your life the pain that people have that makes them
pain that people have that makes them
pain that people have that makes them upset it all starts with theirs I call
upset it all starts with theirs I call
upset it all starts with theirs I call it an emotional anatomy it all starts in
it an emotional anatomy it all starts in
it an emotional anatomy it all starts in one place pain starts with number one
one place pain starts with number one
one place pain starts with number one I’ll put it down the bottom here a
I’ll put it down the bottom here a
I’ll put it down the bottom here a feeling of loss
feeling of loss
feeling of loss a feeling of loss now can you ever
a feeling of loss now can you ever
a feeling of loss now can you ever really lose anything
really lose anything
really lose anything only if you perceive that there’s a loss
only if you perceive that there’s a loss
only if you perceive that there’s a loss is that true are you following me on
is that true are you following me on
is that true are you following me on this now for a second you’d only feel a
this now for a second you’d only feel a
this now for a second you’d only feel a loss if you perceive it in other words
loss if you perceive it in other words
loss if you perceive it in other words you have to tell yourself there’s a loss
you have to tell yourself there’s a loss
you have to tell yourself there’s a loss you have to communicate that you lost
you have to communicate that you lost
you have to communicate that you lost something this man was not upset in fact
something this man was not upset in fact
something this man was not upset in fact he was concerned about the shark yeah he
he was concerned about the shark yeah he
he was concerned about the shark yeah he says guys are drugs no he was sincere
says guys are drugs no he was sincere
says guys are drugs no he was sincere because his belief was that number one
because his belief was that number one
because his belief was that number one he was responsible not the shark because
he was responsible not the shark because
he was responsible not the shark because he is he was a swimmer and he knew that
he is he was a swimmer and he knew that
he is he was a swimmer and he knew that in the area was were sharks and if he’s
in the area was were sharks and if he’s
in the area was were sharks and if he’s thrashing around on the top they think
thrashing around on the top they think
thrashing around on the top they think it’s a turtle oh come after him but his
it’s a turtle oh come after him but his
it’s a turtle oh come after him but his concern was that people are so upset
concern was that people are so upset
concern was that people are so upset about it the people are gonna go out and
about it the people are gonna go out and
about it the people are gonna go out and rage and kill the sharks in that area
rage and kill the sharks in that area
rage and kill the sharks in that area how’s that for sorting by others instead
how’s that for sorting by others instead
how’s that for sorting by others instead of sorting myself so the meaning for him
of sorting myself so the meaning for him
of sorting myself so the meaning for him was this was a learning experience
was this was a learning experience
was this was a learning experience that’s what it meant to him
that’s what it meant to him
that’s what it meant to him other people would mean I’m aimed for
other people would mean I’m aimed for
other people would mean I’m aimed for life with a different meaning that he
life with a different meaning that he
life with a different meaning that he communicated if he would have said I’m
communicated if he would have said I’m
communicated if he would have said I’m maimed for life I’ll never be the same
maimed for life I’ll never be the same
maimed for life I’ll never be the same you know I can never accomplish anything
you know I can never accomplish anything
you know I can never accomplish anything I’ll never a woman would never be
I’ll never a woman would never be
I’ll never a woman would never be attracted to me I’ll be a gimp for the
attracted to me I’ll be a gimp for the
attracted to me I’ll be a gimp for the rest of my life we would have linked
rest of my life we would have linked
rest of my life we would have linked those meanings do you think he would
those meanings do you think he would
those meanings do you think he would have been in the same state yes or no no
have been in the same state yes or no no
have been in the same state yes or no no way by the way maybe this is temporary
way by the way maybe this is temporary
way by the way maybe this is temporary right I don’t know I don’t know this guy
right I don’t know I don’t know this guy
right I don’t know I don’t know this guy I’m not gonna be around a long time to
I’m not gonna be around a long time to
I’m not gonna be around a long time to meet him but I can tell you for years
meet him but I can tell you for years
meet him but I can tell you for years when I’ve done his interview people who
when I’ve done his interview people who
when I’ve done his interview people who are absent what I think are spiritual
are absent what I think are spiritual
are absent what I think are spiritual masters what I mean my spiritual master
masters what I mean my spiritual master
masters what I mean my spiritual master is not flying the East to meeting
is not flying the East to meeting
is not flying the East to meeting somebody who sits and meditates I mean
somebody who sits and meditates I mean
somebody who sits and meditates I mean somebody who doesn’t have the lease of
somebody who doesn’t have the lease of
somebody who doesn’t have the lease of the legs or their arms and lives an
the legs or their arms and lives an
the legs or their arms and lives an absolute joy is totally loving it tries
absolute joy is totally loving it tries
absolute joy is totally loving it tries to figure how to contribute to other
to figure how to contribute to other
to figure how to contribute to other people to me that’s a spiritual master
people to me that’s a spiritual master
people to me that’s a spiritual master I’ll tell you what there’s tons of them
I’ll tell you what there’s tons of them
I’ll tell you what there’s tons of them and they’re my friends now cuz I gonna
and they’re my friends now cuz I gonna
and they’re my friends now cuz I gonna learn from them you know I find out they
learn from them you know I find out they
learn from them you know I find out they have developed belief systems that have
have developed belief systems that have
have developed belief systems that have helped them to interpret human behavior
helped them to interpret human behavior
helped them to interpret human behavior in a way that causes them not to be
in a way that causes them not to be
in a way that causes them not to be upset because no matter what happens
upset because no matter what happens
upset because no matter what happens they finally figured out something if
they finally figured out something if
they finally figured out something if you want to succeed in life figure out
you want to succeed in life figure out
you want to succeed in life figure out how it works and then do it that way not
how it works and then do it that way not
how it works and then do it that way not the way you think it should be see what
the way you think it should be see what
the way you think it should be see what most of us do is you run around life
most of us do is you run around life
most of us do is you run around life alone
alone
alone my wife’s in me about how you should be
my wife’s in me about how you should be
my wife’s in me about how you should be about he to be how doctors should be how
about he to be how doctors should be how
about he to be how doctors should be how style should be how patients should be
style should be how patients should be
style should be how patients should be be now they’re gonna be how they really
be now they’re gonna be how they really
be now they’re gonna be how they really are not how you want them to be and then
are not how you want them to be and then
are not how you want them to be and then every time they don’t meet your criteria
every time they don’t meet your criteria
every time they don’t meet your criteria you communicate yourself it’s time to be
you communicate yourself it’s time to be
you communicate yourself it’s time to be annoyed or maybe a more intense word
annoyed or maybe a more intense word
annoyed or maybe a more intense word it’s that true when you have an upset of
it’s that true when you have an upset of
it’s that true when you have an upset of any sort you’re feeling some negative
any sort you’re feeling some negative
any sort you’re feeling some negative emotion it always comes down to really
emotion it always comes down to really
emotion it always comes down to really you have a feeling of what was– but do
you have a feeling of what was– but do
you have a feeling of what was– but do you ever really lose now you never lose
you ever really lose now you never lose
you ever really lose now you never lose anything it just changes form ain’t
anything it just changes form ain’t
anything it just changes form ain’t nothing in the entire universe ever
nothing in the entire universe ever
nothing in the entire universe ever disappears nothing not your physical
disappears nothing not your physical
disappears nothing not your physical body not rocks not Stalin’s nothing
body not rocks not Stalin’s nothing
body not rocks not Stalin’s nothing everything in the uniform universe
everything in the uniform universe
everything in the uniform universe transforms from one form to another you
transforms from one form to another you
transforms from one form to another you take water you try to destroy it let’s
take water you try to destroy it let’s
take water you try to destroy it let’s say you boil it what does it become
say you boil it what does it become
say you boil it what does it become steam everything in the world transforms
steam everything in the world transforms
steam everything in the world transforms to a higher level it’s always
to a higher level it’s always
to a higher level it’s always transforming you got to realize you
transforming you got to realize you
transforming you got to realize you can’t lose anything you can transform
can’t lose anything you can transform
can’t lose anything you can transform things you can’t lose anything now you
things you can’t lose anything now you
things you can’t lose anything now you can try and pretend you’ve lost
can try and pretend you’ve lost
can try and pretend you’ve lost something you can maybe be upset with
something you can maybe be upset with
something you can maybe be upset with somebody in the goal my god I lost their
somebody in the goal my god I lost their
somebody in the goal my god I lost their love or or they lost mine or I’ve lost
love or or they lost mine or I’ve lost
love or or they lost mine or I’ve lost respect how did he lose respect you
respect how did he lose respect you
respect how did he lose respect you can’t lose something that’s already
can’t lose something that’s already
can’t lose something that’s already inside of you see the problem is people
inside of you see the problem is people
inside of you see the problem is people are you know looking for love in all the
are you know looking for love in all the
are you know looking for love in all the wrong places
love is not something you have to go
love is not something you have to go looking for when it’s where you come
looking for when it’s where you come
looking for when it’s where you come from
if anyone said that like loudly
if anyone said that like loudly Wow what a great thing deliver love is
Wow what a great thing deliver love is
Wow what a great thing deliver love is not something have to go looking for
not something have to go looking for
not something have to go looking for when it’s where you come from so you
when it’s where you come from so you
when it’s where you come from so you can’t lose something everything you
can’t lose something everything you
can’t lose something everything you thought you’d lose is already inside of
thought you’d lose is already inside of
thought you’d lose is already inside of you see if you won’t feel respect it’s
you see if you won’t feel respect it’s
you see if you won’t feel respect it’s cuz you aren’t choosing to focus on
cuz you aren’t choosing to focus on
cuz you aren’t choosing to focus on being respected you’re not communicating
being respected you’re not communicating
being respected you’re not communicating yourself you should be respected what if
yourself you should be respected what if
yourself you should be respected what if I said something to you I said it in a
I said something to you I said it in a
I said something to you I said it in a way that made you feel disrespected it
way that made you feel disrespected it
way that made you feel disrespected it made you feel disrespected or you took
made you feel disrespected or you took
made you feel disrespected or you took what I said managed to interpret it
what I said managed to interpret it
what I said managed to interpret it represent to yourself and communicate
represent to yourself and communicate
represent to yourself and communicate yourself that my saying and that kind of
yourself that my saying and that kind of
yourself that my saying and that kind of voice means I don’t respect you
voice means I don’t respect you
voice means I don’t respect you therefore you can’t have these feelings
therefore you can’t have these feelings
therefore you can’t have these feelings does that make any sense
does that make any sense
does that make any sense now do we do it all the time yes do we
now do we do it all the time yes do we
now do we do it all the time yes do we want to continue do it no we want to
want to continue do it no we want to
want to continue do it no we want to change that you can’t ever lose anything
change that you can’t ever lose anything
change that you can’t ever lose anything now you can perceive you lost something
now you can perceive you lost something
now you can perceive you lost something by the way do some people who’ve not
by the way do some people who’ve not
by the way do some people who’ve not lost the limb not lost their eyesight
lost the limb not lost their eyesight
lost the limb not lost their eyesight not lost anything feel like they’ve lost
not lost anything feel like they’ve lost
not lost anything feel like they’ve lost over little stupid things yes or no some
over little stupid things yes or no some
over little stupid things yes or no some people feel lost about something they
people feel lost about something they
people feel lost about something they never even had in the first place like
never even had in the first place like
never even had in the first place like their this goal that didn’t happen they
their this goal that didn’t happen they
their this goal that didn’t happen they lost Michael you never had it
lost Michael you never had it
lost Michael you never had it oh they had this expectation most upsets
oh they had this expectation most upsets
oh they had this expectation most upsets are about expectations that aren’t met
are about expectations that aren’t met
are about expectations that aren’t met isn’t that true
isn’t that true
isn’t that true you expect somebody do something he
you expect somebody do something he
you expect somebody do something he expected yourself to do something you
expected yourself to do something you
expected yourself to do something you expected life to do something you
expected life to do something you
expected life to do something you expected the weather be a certain way
expected the weather be a certain way
expected the weather be a certain way and it didn’t happen you go I lost now
and it didn’t happen you go I lost now
and it didn’t happen you go I lost now how could you lose out on something you
how could you lose out on something you
how could you lose out on something you never had you must have been very
never had you must have been very
never had you must have been very confused so you can’t lose but if you
confused so you can’t lose but if you
confused so you can’t lose but if you want to feel bad what you have to do is
want to feel bad what you have to do is
want to feel bad what you have to do is have the illusion of loss create the
have the illusion of loss create the
have the illusion of loss create the illusion of loss that’s all you have to
illusion of loss that’s all you have to
illusion of loss that’s all you have to do to feel bad so I’ll guide you how to
do to feel bad so I’ll guide you how to
do to feel bad so I’ll guide you how to feel bad step one feel bad create the
feel bad step one feel bad create the
feel bad step one feel bad create the illusion of loss
illusion of loss
illusion of loss I will make sure you take notes so next
I will make sure you take notes so next
I will make sure you take notes so next I want to feel bad you know what to do
I want to feel bad you know what to do
I want to feel bad you know what to do okay now after the illusion of loss what
okay now after the illusion of loss what
okay now after the illusion of loss what that usually does is that creates the
that usually does is that creates the
that usually does is that creates the second major emotion in the anatomy of
second major emotion in the anatomy of
second major emotion in the anatomy of human emotion and that is feeling of
human emotion and that is feeling of
human emotion and that is feeling of hurt feel hurt and usually what happens
hurt feel hurt and usually what happens
hurt feel hurt and usually what happens as people don’t notice for waas thing
as people don’t notice for waas thing
as people don’t notice for waas thing they notice they feel hurt if they’re
they notice they feel hurt if they’re
they notice they feel hurt if they’re sensitive cuz this stuff happens pretty
sensitive cuz this stuff happens pretty
sensitive cuz this stuff happens pretty fast doesn’t and we forgotten its loss
fast doesn’t and we forgotten its loss
fast doesn’t and we forgotten its loss all we know is we feel hurt anytime
all we know is we feel hurt anytime
all we know is we feel hurt anytime somebody feels hurt what it really is
somebody feels hurt what it really is
somebody feels hurt what it really is they have a sense of loss about
they have a sense of loss about
they have a sense of loss about something they lost out on their
something they lost out on their
something they lost out on their expectation they lost out on what they
expectation they lost out on what they
expectation they lost out on what they thought they had they think they’ve lost
thought they had they think they’ve lost
thought they had they think they’ve lost out on something else they think they’re
out on something else they think they’re
out on something else they think they’re missing out I think something has
missing out I think something has
missing out I think something has changed I think they’re losing something
changed I think they’re losing something
changed I think they’re losing something and they feel bad they feel hurt how
and they feel bad they feel hurt how
and they feel bad they feel hurt how many thought I felt hurt and a personal
many thought I felt hurt and a personal
many thought I felt hurt and a personal relationship great tell me raise you’re
relationship great tell me raise you’re
relationship great tell me raise you’re going to tell me what did you feel hurt
going to tell me what did you feel hurt
going to tell me what did you feel hurt about give me an exam yes sir
about give me an exam yes sir
about give me an exam yes sir you felt heard about dishonesty meaning
you felt heard about dishonesty meaning
you felt heard about dishonesty meaning you thought this person had been
you thought this person had been
you thought this person had been dishonest with you now are we absolutely
dishonest with you now are we absolutely
dishonest with you now are we absolutely certain that this person was dishonest
certain that this person was dishonest
certain that this person was dishonest that he would felt that was dishonest
that he would felt that was dishonest
that he would felt that was dishonest yes or no is it possible this person was
yes or no is it possible this person was
yes or no is it possible this person was not dishonest but rather he interpreted
not dishonest but rather he interpreted
not dishonest but rather he interpreted their behavior as dishonest yes or no
their behavior as dishonest yes or no
their behavior as dishonest yes or no yes or no I had a conversation with my
yes or no I had a conversation with my
yes or no I had a conversation with my mom not long ago I couldn’t even believe
mom not long ago I couldn’t even believe
mom not long ago I couldn’t even believe it she was like all hurt well she said
it she was like all hurt well she said
it she was like all hurt well she said I’m really in she was she went to the
I’m really in she was she went to the
I’m really in she was she went to the next level I might as well tell you what
next level I might as well tell you what
next level I might as well tell you what it is most people on the way don’t stay
it is most people on the way don’t stay
it is most people on the way don’t stay in hurt a man is immediately amp up into
in hurt a man is immediately amp up into
in hurt a man is immediately amp up into anger it’s that true that’s right and
anger it’s that true that’s right and
anger it’s that true that’s right and that’s the third emotion so if you’re
that’s the third emotion so if you’re
that’s the third emotion so if you’re angry what you really are is what
angry what you really are is what
angry what you really are is what hurt which means you really just have a
hurt which means you really just have a
hurt which means you really just have a sense of what that’s really it so my mom
sense of what that’s really it so my mom
sense of what that’s really it so my mom was upset I was like what you’ve settled
was upset I was like what you’ve settled
was upset I was like what you’ve settled me about me what I do she goes well she
me about me what I do she goes well she
me about me what I do she goes well she does flowers for seminars and she asked
does flowers for seminars and she asked
does flowers for seminars and she asked me if I would contact this hotel and
me if I would contact this hotel and
me if I would contact this hotel and have the hotel like used her services
have the hotel like used her services
have the hotel like used her services and I said I’d be willing to but I don’t
and I said I’d be willing to but I don’t
and I said I’d be willing to but I don’t think they do that when they never do it
think they do that when they never do it
think they do that when they never do it for us well she talks somebody else and
for us well she talks somebody else and
for us well she talks somebody else and that somebody else told her that the
that somebody else told her that the
that somebody else told her that the hotel does it all the time and they
hotel does it all the time and they
hotel does it all the time and they contract with somebody else your son
contract with somebody else your son
contract with somebody else your son must not really care about you now she
must not really care about you now she
must not really care about you now she was also in a very stressful state as a
was also in a very stressful state as a
was also in a very stressful state as a state we’re in and just our normal life
state we’re in and just our normal life
state we’re in and just our normal life affect the way we interpret meaning yeah
affect the way we interpret meaning yeah
affect the way we interpret meaning yeah she was stressed about a bunch of other
she was stressed about a bunch of other
she was stressed about a bunch of other things so while she’s in a stressful st.
things so while she’s in a stressful st.
things so while she’s in a stressful st. somebody said this to her into it oh my
somebody said this to her into it oh my
somebody said this to her into it oh my son he just thinks I’m a pain in the
son he just thinks I’m a pain in the
son he just thinks I’m a pain in the butt heinous fetus he just wants to get
butt heinous fetus he just wants to get
butt heinous fetus he just wants to get rid of me he must be ashamed of my work
rid of me he must be ashamed of my work
rid of me he must be ashamed of my work he must not like my flowers he would not
he must not like my flowers he would not
he must not like my flowers he would not create all this wonderful stuff can we
create all this wonderful stuff can we
create all this wonderful stuff can we create all kinds of shit in their head
create all kinds of shit in their head
create all kinds of shit in their head how many a good at creating shit in your
how many a good at creating shit in your
how many a good at creating shit in your head good I am – we all are I’m not
head good I am – we all are I’m not
head good I am – we all are I’m not picking on my mom trust me oh boy it’s
picking on my mom trust me oh boy it’s
picking on my mom trust me oh boy it’s on video now I’m really in deep shit
on video now I’m really in deep shit
on video now I’m really in deep shit she taught me everything I know he
she taught me everything I know he
she taught me everything I know he didn’t teach me a good deal of what I
didn’t teach me a good deal of what I
didn’t teach me a good deal of what I knew gave me a great foundation for my
knew gave me a great foundation for my
knew gave me a great foundation for my life point is though seriously she’s all
life point is though seriously she’s all
life point is though seriously she’s all upset and she thought that I have lied
upset and she thought that I have lied
upset and she thought that I have lied to her now for someone she said she want
to her now for someone she said she want
to her now for someone she said she want I lied to her what do you think happen
I lied to her what do you think happen
I lied to her what do you think happen to me like me honesty is one of my
to me like me honesty is one of my
to me like me honesty is one of my highest values I’m probably too honest I
highest values I’m probably too honest I
highest values I’m probably too honest I tell people everything by what right the
tell people everything by what right the
tell people everything by what right the fact that you question my honesty how
fact that you question my honesty how
fact that you question my honesty how many of you something question your
many of you something question your
many of you something question your honesty and you know you’re honest I
honesty and you know you’re honest I
honesty and you know you’re honest I mean that really upsets you what do you
mean that really upsets you what do you
mean that really upsets you what do you think I got when she said that angry how
think I got when she said that angry how
think I got when she said that angry how could you say that and plus I just did
could you say that and plus I just did
could you say that and plus I just did all these things for you and I started
all these things for you and I started
all these things for you and I started member and all the stuff I was doing for
member and all the stuff I was doing for
member and all the stuff I was doing for her and I said I have never lied you my
her and I said I have never lied you my
her and I said I have never lied you my like well maybe I was a little kid but
like well maybe I was a little kid but
like well maybe I was a little kid but not since then I said what are you
not since then I said what are you
not since then I said what are you talking I can’t even believe that why
talking I can’t even believe that why
talking I can’t even believe that why was i angry because I felt what by her
was i angry because I felt what by her
was i angry because I felt what by her statement and I felt hurt because I had
statement and I felt hurt because I had
statement and I felt hurt because I had a sense of what woloson my loss to us
a sense of what woloson my loss to us
a sense of what woloson my loss to us how could we lose that connection of
how could we lose that connection of
how could we lose that connection of knowing who each other are my my own mom
knowing who each other are my my own mom
knowing who each other are my my own mom I might do anything for I just got done
I might do anything for I just got done
I might do anything for I just got done doing this anything for her that I mean
doing this anything for her that I mean
doing this anything for her that I mean blew her out of her shorts she didn’t
blew her out of her shorts she didn’t
blew her out of her shorts she didn’t ever expect it I glue around the trophy
ever expect it I glue around the trophy
ever expect it I glue around the trophy interesting picture
and so you know what happened those I
and so you know what happened those I realized that if I respond to her in a
realized that if I respond to her in a
realized that if I respond to her in a state of anger well that probably work
state of anger well that probably work
state of anger well that probably work no it didn’t work so I realized I need
no it didn’t work so I realized I need
no it didn’t work so I realized I need to change my state and I asked myself a
to change my state and I asked myself a
to change my state and I asked myself a question that helped me a lot
question that helped me a lot
question that helped me a lot the question I asked is well it’s
the question I asked is well it’s
the question I asked is well it’s probably going on with her that makes
probably going on with her that makes
probably going on with her that makes her treat me this way or treat people
her treat me this way or treat people
her treat me this way or treat people this way or respond this way instead of
this way or respond this way instead of
this way or respond this way instead of how dare she what how could you treat me
how dare she what how could you treat me
how dare she what how could you treat me this way after I’ve done so much for her
this way after I’ve done so much for her
this way after I’ve done so much for her which would do what make you more what
which would do what make you more what
which would do what make you more what I’m sad different question I asked so
I’m sad different question I asked so
I’m sad different question I asked so what’s going on with her that’s making
what’s going on with her that’s making
what’s going on with her that’s making her respond this way what she stressed
her respond this way what she stressed
her respond this way what she stressed about I asked her and she told me she
about I asked her and she told me she
about I asked her and she told me she apologized and just dropped right away
apologized and just dropped right away
apologized and just dropped right away I’m here to tell you a belief I want you
I’m here to tell you a belief I want you
I’m here to tell you a belief I want you to remember for the rest of your life
to remember for the rest of your life
to remember for the rest of your life that if all you do is remember this out
that if all you do is remember this out
that if all you do is remember this out of a whole week and really remember at
of a whole week and really remember at
of a whole week and really remember at the right times it’ll change the way you
the right times it’ll change the way you
the right times it’ll change the way you communicate with other human beings and
communicate with other human beings and
communicate with other human beings and I believe is this then in any
I believe is this then in any
I believe is this then in any communication with another human being
communication with another human being
communication with another human being well you get a response from someone in
well you get a response from someone in
well you get a response from someone in any communication with another human
any communication with another human
any communication with another human being and you get a response from
being and you get a response from
being and you get a response from someone that response is either a loving
someone that response is either a loving
someone that response is either a loving response or cry for help in any
response or cry for help in any
response or cry for help in any communication that you have with another
communication that you have with another
communication that you have with another human being they give you some kind of
human being they give you some kind of
human being they give you some kind of response they respond you in some way
response they respond you in some way
response they respond you in some way and that communication is either a
and that communication is either a
and that communication is either a loving response or a cry for help that’s
loving response or a cry for help that’s
loving response or a cry for help that’s it those the only two kinds of responses
it those the only two kinds of responses
it those the only two kinds of responses so one more time in any communication
so one more time in any communication
so one more time in any communication with other human being and they respond
with other human being and they respond
with other human being and they respond do they communicate to you they react to
do they communicate to you they react to
do they communicate to you they react to you they respond to you that reaction
you they respond to you that reaction
you they respond to you that reaction that response I don’t care what it looks
that response I don’t care what it looks
that response I don’t care what it looks like on the outside and what it seems
like on the outside and what it seems
like on the outside and what it seems like it’s either a loving response or a
like it’s either a loving response or a
like it’s either a loving response or a cry for help which one do you think my
cry for help which one do you think my
cry for help which one do you think my mom was doing in this situation was that
mom was doing in this situation was that
mom was doing in this situation was that a loving response or a cry for help
a loving response or a cry for help
a loving response or a cry for help there’s a cry for help and help to say
there’s a cry for help and help to say
there’s a cry for help and help to say I’m feeling what hurt because I have a
I’m feeling what hurt because I have a
I’m feeling what hurt because I have a sense of what it may not be true but
sense of what it may not be true but
sense of what it may not be true but that’s what I feel that person the cry
that’s what I feel that person the cry
that’s what I feel that person the cry for help now how do most people respond
for help now how do most people respond
for help now how do most people respond to a cry for help
to a cry for help
to a cry for help with another cry for help is that true
with another cry for help is that true
with another cry for help is that true how do I first start to respond to my
how do I first start to respond to my
how do I first start to respond to my mom she’s angry with me she’s never
mom she’s angry with me she’s never
mom she’s angry with me she’s never right to be angry how could she do this
right to be angry how could she do this
right to be angry how could she do this to me what’s going on I can hang me back
to me what’s going on I can hang me back
to me what’s going on I can hang me back so I respond to crime Ralph how dare you
so I respond to crime Ralph how dare you
so I respond to crime Ralph how dare you I’ve been you cygnus we don’t pull this
I’ve been you cygnus we don’t pull this
I’ve been you cygnus we don’t pull this crap I mean look what I do free what
crap I mean look what I do free what
crap I mean look what I do free what kind of crap is this interesting so when
kind of crap is this interesting so when
kind of crap is this interesting so when two people are yelling at each other
two people are yelling at each other
two people are yelling at each other crying for our back-and-forth who gets
crying for our back-and-forth who gets
crying for our back-and-forth who gets help nobody so you know what happens the
help nobody so you know what happens the
help nobody so you know what happens the anger doesn’t stop what happens is the
anger doesn’t stop what happens is the
anger doesn’t stop what happens is the anger does one place either starts going
anger does one place either starts going
anger does one place either starts going out to other people and becomes
out to other people and becomes
out to other people and becomes resentment it’s built and that
resentment it’s built and that
resentment it’s built and that resentment may be expressed or not
resentment may be expressed or not
resentment may be expressed or not expressed usually resentment is
expressed usually resentment is
expressed usually resentment is expressed non-verbally to other people
expressed non-verbally to other people
expressed non-verbally to other people and some people do it by taking your
and some people do it by taking your
and some people do it by taking your example in resentment and they express
example in resentment and they express
example in resentment and they express it by what they call confrontation and
it by what they call confrontation and
it by what they call confrontation and they actually feel good about it they
they actually feel good about it they
they actually feel good about it they say I’m not one of those people keeps it
say I’m not one of those people keeps it
say I’m not one of those people keeps it inside I confront people little bastards
inside I confront people little bastards
inside I confront people little bastards I don’t really build a quality
I don’t really build a quality
I don’t really build a quality communication well-knit I confront I
communication well-knit I confront I
communication well-knit I confront I don’t keep it inside you I’ll tell you
don’t keep it inside you I’ll tell you
don’t keep it inside you I’ll tell you what’s wrong
what’s wrong
what’s wrong yesterday we listen is this they feel
yesterday we listen is this they feel
yesterday we listen is this they feel this way I would cross with you Jay you
this way I would cross with you Jay you
this way I would cross with you Jay you change hmm we try this
you know what that doesn’t work it can
you know what that doesn’t work it can work anything can work tone of voice she
work anything can work tone of voice she
work anything can work tone of voice she uses those gonna play a bigger role than
uses those gonna play a bigger role than
uses those gonna play a bigger role than what you say and we do it agree your
what you say and we do it agree your
what you say and we do it agree your facial expressions can play a bigger
facial expressions can play a bigger
facial expressions can play a bigger role of what you say how many agree
role of what you say how many agree
role of what you say how many agree somebody else can sit there listening to
somebody else can sit there listening to
somebody else can sit there listening to you and say yes I’ll abide by your
you and say yes I’ll abide by your
you and say yes I’ll abide by your request but inside they don’t know okay
request but inside they don’t know okay
request but inside they don’t know okay that’s not communication that’s not
that’s not communication that’s not
that’s not communication that’s not quality communication we want to change
quality communication we want to change
quality communication we want to change and enhance our format the other thing
and enhance our format the other thing
and enhance our format the other thing we can do is we feel anger instead of
we can do is we feel anger instead of
we can do is we feel anger instead of presenting and confronting we can just
presenting and confronting we can just
presenting and confronting we can just keep it inside if we keep it inside
keep it inside if we keep it inside
keep it inside if we keep it inside usually what it becomes is depression it
usually what it becomes is depression it
usually what it becomes is depression it would oppress they don’t even know why
would oppress they don’t even know why
would oppress they don’t even know why these people are depressed they felt
these people are depressed they felt
these people are depressed they felt like they’re not in control my things
like they’re not in control my things
like they’re not in control my things are happening not in on control of the
are happening not in on control of the
are happening not in on control of the night communicate and get control of
night communicate and get control of
night communicate and get control of their life a lot of times depression is
their life a lot of times depression is
their life a lot of times depression is directly Lading the fact that kept this
directly Lading the fact that kept this
directly Lading the fact that kept this anger inside these upsets and they
anger inside these upsets and they
anger inside these upsets and they haven’t expressed and they become
haven’t expressed and they become
haven’t expressed and they become depressed how they can relate to this
depressed how they can relate to this
depressed how they can relate to this not you but other people you’ve seen in
not you but other people you’ve seen in
not you but other people you’ve seen in your life I thought so so the bottom
your life I thought so so the bottom
your life I thought so so the bottom line is we’ve got to do when somebody
line is we’ve got to do when somebody
line is we’ve got to do when somebody responds to us with a cry for help
responds to us with a cry for help
responds to us with a cry for help is give them what kind of response which
is give them what kind of response which
is give them what kind of response which of the Jewish monsters should we give
of the Jewish monsters should we give
of the Jewish monsters should we give somebody when they give us a cry for
somebody when they give us a cry for
somebody when they give us a cry for help
help
help a loving response is that always easy to
a loving response is that always easy to
a loving response is that always easy to do now what it requires is you to
do now what it requires is you to
do now what it requires is you to remember that no matter what it looks
remember that no matter what it looks
remember that no matter what it looks like they’re just really crying for help
you should go you should pick you can go
you should go you should pick you can go hi I hear you I appreciate you I love
hi I hear you I appreciate you I love
hi I hear you I appreciate you I love you that’s not my intent how can make
you that’s not my intent how can make
you that’s not my intent how can make this work I’m going to make it work
this work I’m going to make it work
this work I’m going to make it work thanks for sharing your feelings with me
thanks for sharing your feelings with me
thanks for sharing your feelings with me let’s do it what we do to make it work
let’s do it what we do to make it work
let’s do it what we do to make it work how can make you feel better because I’m
how can make you feel better because I’m
how can make you feel better because I’m committed to that oh yeah I know I can
committed to that oh yeah I know I can
committed to that oh yeah I know I can make feel I can take you feel better I’m
make feel I can take you feel better I’m
make feel I can take you feel better I’m gonna do it what is it good thing I can
gonna do it what is it good thing I can
gonna do it what is it good thing I can feel the whole tank let’s do it right
get the idea you don’t want to smile no
get the idea you don’t want to smile no cry for help by crying yourself you want
cry for help by crying yourself you want
cry for help by crying yourself you want to be bigger nobody get bigger as you
to be bigger nobody get bigger as you
to be bigger nobody get bigger as you remember this you remember it you use it
remember this you remember it you use it
remember this you remember it you use it and make it work this will change your
and make it work this will change your
and make it work this will change your life if that one belief if you also
life if that one belief if you also
life if that one belief if you also execute it and you know what you learned
execute it and you know what you learned
execute it and you know what you learned today you learn some skills today that
today you learn some skills today that
today you learn some skills today that are so easy it’s so simple all you got
are so easy it’s so simple all you got
are so easy it’s so simple all you got to do is commit to making it my habit so
to do is commit to making it my habit so
to do is commit to making it my habit so you not to think about anymore your life
you not to think about anymore your life
you not to think about anymore your life will change forever
will change forever
will change forever your personal life the way you
your personal life the way you
your personal life the way you communicate to yourself your practice
communicate to yourself your practice
communicate to yourself your practice your team and most of you already so
your team and most of you already so
your team and most of you already so bonded you’re incredible but is there
bonded you’re incredible but is there
bonded you’re incredible but is there always a deeper level that we could
always a deeper level that we could
always a deeper level that we could pursue yes or no there’s always a deeper
pursue yes or no there’s always a deeper
pursue yes or no there’s always a deeper connection and if it’s possible should
connection and if it’s possible should
connection and if it’s possible should we pursue yeah why not have more X to
we pursue yeah why not have more X to
we pursue yeah why not have more X to say why not be closer why not be more
say why not be closer why not be more
say why not be closer why not be more loving
loving
loving well not be more connected why not do
well not be more connected why not do
well not be more connected why not do more why not create more why not make it
more why not create more why not make it
more why not create more why not make it happen why not why not us
so get the feeling for what it is all
so get the feeling for what it is all comes down to meaning you change the
comes down to meaning you change the
comes down to meaning you change the meaning we change it all things happen
meaning we change it all things happen
meaning we change it all things happen to us on my first book tour this woman
to us on my first book tour this woman
to us on my first book tour this woman calls me up on the phone right the radio
calls me up on the phone right the radio
calls me up on the phone right the radio and I love doing the radio responses so
and I love doing the radio responses so
and I love doing the radio responses so I’ve like real fast me I’ll help people
I’ve like real fast me I’ll help people
I’ve like real fast me I’ll help people tell us one we call seven she goes mr.
tell us one we call seven she goes mr.
tell us one we call seven she goes mr. Robbins I was all the time up in the
Robbins I was all the time up in the
Robbins I was all the time up in the president now for seven years I said
president now for seven years I said
president now for seven years I said gosh how do you accomplish that the way
gosh how do you accomplish that the way
gosh how do you accomplish that the way as have you accomplished that I mean
as have you accomplished that I mean
as have you accomplished that I mean that’s pretty amazing
that’s pretty amazing
that’s pretty amazing I saw you depressed II when you sleep
I saw you depressed II when you sleep
I saw you depressed II when you sleep you wanna sleep
you wanna sleep
you wanna sleep what I’m doing is breaking her or what
what I’m doing is breaking her or what
what I’m doing is breaking her or what and under hadn’t interrupting your
and under hadn’t interrupting your
and under hadn’t interrupting your pattern all you got to do okay if you
pattern all you got to do okay if you
pattern all you got to do okay if you respond people go all that I’m sorry you
respond people go all that I’m sorry you
respond people go all that I’m sorry you feel that way and that’s not enough
feel that way and that’s not enough
feel that way and that’s not enough sometimes you got to interrupt the
sometimes you got to interrupt the
sometimes you got to interrupt the pattern tease them and be loving but
pattern tease them and be loving but
pattern tease them and be loving but tease them because you just call it it’s
tease them because you just call it it’s
tease them because you just call it it’s okay it’s okay they’ll just they’re
okay it’s okay they’ll just they’re
okay it’s okay they’ll just they’re getting a lot of feedback they’re being
getting a lot of feedback they’re being
getting a lot of feedback they’re being rewarded for feeling bad is that true so
rewarded for feeling bad is that true so
rewarded for feeling bad is that true so you got to be careful you got to be
you got to be careful you got to be
you got to be careful you got to be loving but you got to be fun and loving
loving but you got to be fun and loving
loving but you got to be fun and loving that would be my response a loving
that would be my response a loving
that would be my response a loving fun-loving response and outrageously
fun-loving response and outrageously
fun-loving response and outrageously fun-loving in response that’ll break
fun-loving in response that’ll break
fun-loving in response that’ll break their pattern do something don’t expect
their pattern do something don’t expect
their pattern do something don’t expect so I said well what’s the challenge ago
so I said well what’s the challenge ago
so I said well what’s the challenge ago because my boyfriend left me seven years
because my boyfriend left me seven years
because my boyfriend left me seven years ago he loves me he loved me he took my
ago he loves me he loved me he took my
ago he loves me he loved me he took my whole life and said he took your whole
whole life and said he took your whole
whole life and said he took your whole life yeah I gave him everything I said
life yeah I gave him everything I said
life yeah I gave him everything I said everything you kept your voice I hear
everything you kept your voice I hear
everything you kept your voice I hear so well you know they gave me my little
so well you know they gave me my little
so well you know they gave me my little legs run forever why is she in pain
legs run forever why is she in pain
legs run forever why is she in pain that’s right she feels tremendous
that’s right she feels tremendous
that’s right she feels tremendous depression actually because she’s been
depression actually because she’s been
depression actually because she’s been angry because she really felt what hurts
angry because she really felt what hurts
angry because she really felt what hurts because she has a sense of what are
because she has a sense of what are
because she has a sense of what are there people who end a relationship and
there people who end a relationship and
there people who end a relationship and don’t feel sense of watts yes or no yes
don’t feel sense of watts yes or no yes
don’t feel sense of watts yes or no yes because you have to tell yourself
because you have to tell yourself
because you have to tell yourself applause you have to communicate it’s a
applause you have to communicate it’s a
applause you have to communicate it’s a loss how many has found that in the past
loss how many has found that in the past
loss how many has found that in the past what you thought was lost was actually
what you thought was lost was actually
what you thought was lost was actually your game but when you thought it was a
your game but when you thought it was a
your game but when you thought it was a loss how did you feel her and I mean
loss how did you feel her and I mean
loss how did you feel her and I mean I’ve been lots of in was a loss of your
I’ve been lots of in was a loss of your
I’ve been lots of in was a loss of your own self-esteem well they left me they
own self-esteem well they left me they
own self-esteem well they left me they must not love me and I wasn’t good
must not love me and I wasn’t good
must not love me and I wasn’t good enough you know I’m not good enough the
enough you know I’m not good enough the
enough you know I’m not good enough the loss of all your own self-esteem but you
loss of all your own self-esteem but you
loss of all your own self-esteem but you did that to yourself – it’s just not
did that to yourself – it’s just not
did that to yourself – it’s just not true the meaning you made up in your
true the meaning you made up in your
true the meaning you made up in your head we’re making this all this crap up
head we’re making this all this crap up
head we’re making this all this crap up in our head and it’s not true you’re
in our head and it’s not true you’re
in our head and it’s not true you’re gonna be careful about the meaning you
gonna be careful about the meaning you
gonna be careful about the meaning you label things you got to take control of
label things you got to take control of
label things you got to take control of that process so someone’s goal of the
that process so someone’s goal of the
that process so someone’s goal of the whole life is over the reason she’s
whole life is over the reason she’s
whole life is over the reason she’s upset the reason she’s this angry this
upset the reason she’s this angry this
upset the reason she’s this angry this is not that she feels a loss but she’s
is not that she feels a loss but she’s
is not that she feels a loss but she’s labeled that loss because of that my
labeled that loss because of that my
labeled that loss because of that my whole life is over how would you feel if
whole life is over how would you feel if
whole life is over how would you feel if your whole life was over a bit depressed
your whole life was over a bit depressed
your whole life was over a bit depressed you better believe it so I said look I
you better believe it so I said look I
you better believe it so I said look I said bottom line is I said ma’am you
said bottom line is I said ma’am you
said bottom line is I said ma’am you gotta change your state the way the
gotta change your state the way the
gotta change your state the way the state you’re in right now
state you’re in right now
state you’re in right now you’re gonna keep thinking your life so
you’re gonna keep thinking your life so
you’re gonna keep thinking your life so you gotta change your state because I
you gotta change your state because I
you gotta change your state because I want to try that drive so what are you
want to try that drive so what are you
want to try that drive so what are you Dungey goes why taking drugs as it well
Dungey goes why taking drugs as it well
Dungey goes why taking drugs as it well what does he know I seen my therapist
what does he know I seen my therapist
what does he know I seen my therapist for years now I’ve done this I said you
for years now I’ve done this I said you
for years now I’ve done this I said you know stop smash so yelling in the fall
know stop smash so yelling in the fall
know stop smash so yelling in the fall in the radio right imagine I managed to
in the radio right imagine I managed to
in the radio right imagine I managed to face a workload you crazy so what’s
face a workload you crazy so what’s
face a workload you crazy so what’s going on
going on
going on I said you listen to me right now you
I said you listen to me right now you
I said you listen to me right now you want to change this you do exactly what
want to change this you do exactly what
want to change this you do exactly what I say when I say now you
I say when I say now you
I say when I say now you down and you run outside and you just
down and you run outside and you just
down and you run outside and you just held two words at the top of your lungs
held two words at the top of your lungs
held two words at the top of your lungs over and over again next as you think
over and over again next as you think
over and over again next as you think about your old boyfriend that verse
about your old boyfriend that verse
about your old boyfriend that verse seems like in a deep trance with no
seems like in a deep trance with no
seems like in a deep trance with no reaction right and all this I heard this
reaction right and all this I heard this
reaction right and all this I heard this chuckling laughing hysterically it’s
chuckling laughing hysterically it’s
chuckling laughing hysterically it’s just the laughs I said just yell next go
just the laughs I said just yell next go
just the laughs I said just yell next go out there and look around see men go
out there and look around see men go
out there and look around see men go next but soon she started laughing I
next but soon she started laughing I
next but soon she started laughing I said think about your old boyfriend she
said think about your old boyfriend she
said think about your old boyfriend she starts laughing thinking your old
starts laughing thinking your old
starts laughing thinking your old boyfriend she’s laughing think your old
boyfriend she’s laughing think your old
boyfriend she’s laughing think your old boyfriend laughing think about old
boyfriend laughing think about old
boyfriend laughing think about old boyfriend pretty soon when she thought
boyfriend pretty soon when she thought
boyfriend pretty soon when she thought her old boyfriend guess what you began
her old boyfriend guess what you began
her old boyfriend guess what you began to do Wow now my belittling the
to do Wow now my belittling the
to do Wow now my belittling the relationship no but do you think she
relationship no but do you think she
relationship no but do you think she laughs when she thinks about it she’ll
laughs when she thinks about it she’ll
laughs when she thinks about it she’ll be able to deal with it better than if
be able to deal with it better than if
be able to deal with it better than if she cried you better believe it say our
she cried you better believe it say our
she cried you better believe it say our state affects a lot of the meaning we
state affects a lot of the meaning we
state affects a lot of the meaning we linked to things more stressed well we
linked to things more stressed well we
linked to things more stressed well we can make out the worst situation that
can make out the worst situation that
can make out the worst situation that virtually anything can’t wait
virtually anything can’t wait
virtually anything can’t wait so you gotta remember you’re the
so you gotta remember you’re the
so you gotta remember you’re the producer of this play you’re the one
producer of this play you’re the one
producer of this play you’re the one writing the script of this movie now
writing the script of this movie now
writing the script of this movie now some of you go have like one style of
some of you go have like one style of
some of you go have like one style of writing called drama maybe I’ll try
writing called drama maybe I’ll try
writing called drama maybe I’ll try writing a comedy instead it might be
writing a comedy instead it might be
writing a comedy instead it might be more enjoyable
more enjoyable
more enjoyable some of you written a love story my
some of you written a love story my
some of you written a love story my congratulations to some of you at the
congratulations to some of you at the
congratulations to some of you at the adventure story some of you’ve got one
adventure story some of you’ve got one
adventure story some of you’ve got one garbled story that doesn’t even make any
garbled story that doesn’t even make any
garbled story that doesn’t even make any sense
sense
sense maybe it’s time you cleaned up the
maybe it’s time you cleaned up the
maybe it’s time you cleaned up the script which doesn’t mean go back and
script which doesn’t mean go back and
script which doesn’t mean go back and rewrite at all
rewrite at all
rewrite at all it means tear up the old one definitely
it means tear up the old one definitely
it means tear up the old one definitely go back and rewrite those script nor did
go back and rewrite those script nor did
go back and rewrite those script nor did I make it work yes or no now what you
I make it work yes or no now what you
I make it work yes or no now what you can do is set aside and move on from
can do is set aside and move on from
can do is set aside and move on from here what a concept I said what do I
here what a concept I said what do I
here what a concept I said what do I want now what happened in my past
want now what happened in my past
want now what happened in my past doesn’t mean diddly well that this is
doesn’t mean diddly well that this is
doesn’t mean diddly well that this is what I’m going if you’re trying to drive
what I’m going if you’re trying to drive
what I’m going if you’re trying to drive in the future using the rearview mirror
in the future using the rearview mirror
in the future using the rearview mirror as your guidance tool you’re gonna crash
as your guidance tool you’re gonna crash
as your guidance tool you’re gonna crash but you know what your future is gonna
but you know what your future is gonna
but you know what your future is gonna look like your past pretty scary
look like your past pretty scary
look like your past pretty scary maybe I just let go of the past tear up
maybe I just let go of the past tear up
maybe I just let go of the past tear up that script you don’t have to keep
that script you don’t have to keep
that script you don’t have to keep playing that same play write a new one
playing that same play write a new one
playing that same play write a new one now don’t tell me you have a look at the
now don’t tell me you have a look at the
now don’t tell me you have a look at the script I’ve been you know my look who
script I’ve been you know my look who
script I’ve been you know my look who gives a shit
put it in the circular file and write a
put it in the circular file and write a new one you know be spontaneous maybe
new one you know be spontaneous maybe
new one you know be spontaneous maybe you want to write something along the
you want to write something along the
you want to write something along the way
way
way maybe wipe down the whole thing planned
maybe wipe down the whole thing planned
maybe wipe down the whole thing planned out every detail no exact was gonna
out every detail no exact was gonna
out every detail no exact was gonna happen it’s gonna happen then you won’t
happen it’s gonna happen then you won’t
happen it’s gonna happen then you won’t be so upset when it doesn’t go the way
be so upset when it doesn’t go the way
be so upset when it doesn’t go the way you wrote the first version of the
you wrote the first version of the
you wrote the first version of the script calls your expectations in your
script calls your expectations in your
script calls your expectations in your head maybe then you don’t go well this
head maybe then you don’t go well this
head maybe then you don’t go well this script is kind of a guideline
script is kind of a guideline
script is kind of a guideline it isn’t like my absolute monster I’m
it isn’t like my absolute monster I’m
it isn’t like my absolute monster I’m going to be peeved maybe that would help
going to be peeved maybe that would help
going to be peeved maybe that would help things a lot see whole key is the
things a lot see whole key is the
things a lot see whole key is the quality of life is the quality
quality of life is the quality
quality of life is the quality communication and one with yourself
communication and one with yourself
communication and one with yourself because nothing has a meaning except the
because nothing has a meaning except the
because nothing has a meaning except the meaning given the meaning give it’s kind
meaning given the meaning give it’s kind
meaning given the meaning give it’s kind of Turman how you feel any feels gonna
of Turman how you feel any feels gonna
of Turman how you feel any feels gonna Turman what you do what you do is gonna
Turman what you do what you do is gonna
Turman what you do what you do is gonna shape your destiny if I interpret this
shape your destiny if I interpret this
shape your destiny if I interpret this means this person doesn’t love me and
means this person doesn’t love me and
means this person doesn’t love me and now all of a sudden I’m gonna feel lousy
now all of a sudden I’m gonna feel lousy
now all of a sudden I’m gonna feel lousy about it and I’m gonna do things either
about it and I’m gonna do things either
about it and I’m gonna do things either verbally or non-verbally to get back
verbally or non-verbally to get back
verbally or non-verbally to get back maybe or at the very worst I’ll withhold
maybe or at the very worst I’ll withhold
maybe or at the very worst I’ll withhold my emotions because I don’t wanna be
my emotions because I don’t wanna be
my emotions because I don’t wanna be hurt again and is that withholding make
hurt again and is that withholding make
hurt again and is that withholding make more relations get better yes or no no
more relations get better yes or no no
more relations get better yes or no no now all of a sudden we start to drift
now all of a sudden we start to drift
now all of a sudden we start to drift apart and I start doing doing things
apart and I start doing doing things
apart and I start doing doing things that will change my destiny can separate
that will change my destiny can separate
that will change my destiny can separate me from somebody I really love somebody
me from somebody I really love somebody
me from somebody I really love somebody really loves me all because I made up a
really loves me all because I made up a
really loves me all because I made up a bunch of crap in my head nothing has any
bunch of crap in my head nothing has any
bunch of crap in my head nothing has any meaning except the meaning given so if
meaning except the meaning given so if
meaning except the meaning given so if we want to change our lives we really
we want to change our lives we really
we want to change our lives we really want to make things work
want to make things work
want to make things work make sure I remember this right you know
make sure I remember this right you know
make sure I remember this right you know it’s not the event it’s what we do with
it’s not the event it’s what we do with
it’s not the event it’s what we do with it that determines the quality of your
it that determines the quality of your
it that determines the quality of your life it’s not the event it’s what you do
life it’s not the event it’s what you do
life it’s not the event it’s what you do with it determines the quality of your
with it determines the quality of your
with it determines the quality of your life and what we do with it is what we
life and what we do with it is what we
life and what we do with it is what we do with it inside of our head it’s not
do with it inside of our head it’s not
do with it inside of our head it’s not the event it’s what we do with the event
the event it’s what we do with the event
the event it’s what we do with the event the determines the quality of our life
the determines the quality of our life
the determines the quality of our life what do we do with it inside of our head
what do we do with it inside of our head
what do we do with it inside of our head we can take things that destroy other
we can take things that destroy other
we can take things that destroy other people and cause them to make us better
people and cause them to make us better
people and cause them to make us better this whole seminar today you’re gonna go
this whole seminar today you’re gonna go
this whole seminar today you’re gonna go through as a result of me having an
through as a result of me having an
through as a result of me having an event that was not pleasurable last
event that was not pleasurable last
event that was not pleasurable last night especially since I was exhausted I
night especially since I was exhausted I
night especially since I was exhausted I had no sleep that also amplified my
had no sleep that also amplified my
had no sleep that also amplified my feelings about the situation and then
feelings about the situation and then
feelings about the situation and then what happened was I asked myself a
what happened was I asked myself a
what happened was I asked myself a question how can I use this what’s great
question how can I use this what’s great
question how can I use this what’s great about this I was not feeling as great
about this I was not feeling as great
about this I was not feeling as great how can I use this what’s great about
how can I use this what’s great about
how can I use this what’s great about this I made sure it was great about this
this I made sure it was great about this
this I made sure it was great about this as it means what we tried to do before
as it means what we tried to do before
as it means what we tried to do before this wasn’t making sense we’re not quite
this wasn’t making sense we’re not quite
this wasn’t making sense we’re not quite you almost had it but it wasn’t quite
you almost had it but it wasn’t quite
you almost had it but it wasn’t quite there so it’s great about this I found
there so it’s great about this I found
there so it’s great about this I found that out because I want to share with
that out because I want to share with
that out because I want to share with you the best what’s great about is I can
you the best what’s great about is I can
you the best what’s great about is I can use this intense emotion to see what
use this intense emotion to see what
use this intense emotion to see what really will work and the most intense
really will work and the most intense
really will work and the most intense feelings I’ve got wow what a great deal
feelings I’ve got wow what a great deal
feelings I’ve got wow what a great deal it’s not the event it’s what you do with
it’s not the event it’s what you do with
it’s not the event it’s what you do with it and remember the meaning you
it and remember the meaning you
it and remember the meaning you associate or assigned to something the
associate or assigned to something the
associate or assigned to something the meaning you associate I put parenthesis
meaning you associate I put parenthesis
meaning you associate I put parenthesis or assign to something determines how
or assign to something determines how
or assign to something determines how you feel and what you do
you feel and what you do
you feel and what you do so the mêlée meaning you associate or
so the mêlée meaning you associate or
so the mêlée meaning you associate or that you assign to something determines
that you assign to something determines
that you assign to something determines how you feel and what you do throughout
how you feel and what you do throughout
how you feel and what you do throughout your life determines how you feel and
your life determines how you feel and
your life determines how you feel and what you do throughout your life bless
what you do throughout your life bless
what you do throughout your life bless you
you
you the problem is are you communicating to
the problem is are you communicating to
the problem is are you communicating to yourself in a way that’s empowering or
yourself in a way that’s empowering or
yourself in a way that’s empowering or disempowering and what would you say
disempowering and what would you say
disempowering and what would you say would be all the time it is probably if
would be all the time it is probably if
would be all the time it is probably if you’re not totally happy disempowering
you’re not totally happy disempowering
you’re not totally happy disempowering so the problem is not the event the
so the problem is not the event the
so the problem is not the event the problem is the meaning that you’re
problem is the meaning that you’re
problem is the meaning that you’re associating the things that’s affecting
associating the things that’s affecting
associating the things that’s affecting your actions throughout your whole life
your actions throughout your whole life
your actions throughout your whole life determine your destiny is probably
determine your destiny is probably
determine your destiny is probably disempowering a good deal of the time if
disempowering a good deal of the time if
disempowering a good deal of the time if you’re not happy if you’re happy you’re
you’re not happy if you’re happy you’re
you’re not happy if you’re happy you’re probably assigning a lot of empowering
probably assigning a lot of empowering
probably assigning a lot of empowering meanings aren’t you you’ve come up with
meanings aren’t you you’ve come up with
meanings aren’t you you’ve come up with some core beliefs some ways of looking
some core beliefs some ways of looking
some core beliefs some ways of looking at the world that really help you help
at the world that really help you help
at the world that really help you help you to evaluate things in a way where
you to evaluate things in a way where
you to evaluate things in a way where you’re really in charge or you’re not in
you’re really in charge or you’re not in
you’re really in charge or you’re not in reaction so if we want to really take
reaction so if we want to really take
reaction so if we want to really take control then we got to remember what
control then we got to remember what
control then we got to remember what I’ve already said nothing life has any
I’ve already said nothing life has any
I’ve already said nothing life has any meaning you set the meaning that we give
meaning you set the meaning that we give
meaning you set the meaning that we give it so for example the DR staff the
it so for example the DR staff the
it so for example the DR staff the doctor raises voice says please give me
doctor raises voice says please give me
doctor raises voice says please give me this
this
this I’m a dozen please said give me this he
I’m a dozen please said give me this he
I’m a dozen please said give me this he doesn’t say the word please what does
doesn’t say the word please what does
doesn’t say the word please what does that mean scumbag doctor that’s what it
that mean scumbag doctor that’s what it
that mean scumbag doctor that’s what it means it means he doesn’t respect you
means it means he doesn’t respect you
means it means he doesn’t respect you right means he doesn’t care about you
right means he doesn’t care about you
right means he doesn’t care about you right no one means if you’re upset
right no one means if you’re upset
right no one means if you’re upset that’s what the meaning you’ve attached
that’s what the meaning you’ve attached
that’s what the meaning you’ve attached to it is how many would agree what else
to it is how many would agree what else
to it is how many would agree what else could it be he’s angry if he’s angry or
could it be he’s angry if he’s angry or
could it be he’s angry if he’s angry or he’s stressed or he’s frustrated does
he’s stressed or he’s frustrated does
he’s stressed or he’s frustrated does that give him a right to snap at you yes
that give him a right to snap at you yes
that give him a right to snap at you yes or no no way we’re not making him right
or no no way we’re not making him right
or no no way we’re not making him right we just want to know what it really
we just want to know what it really
we just want to know what it really means first does that make sense how
means first does that make sense how
means first does that make sense how many of you have ever screwed up can I
many of you have ever screwed up can I
many of you have ever screwed up can I see a show of hands how many of you have
see a show of hands how many of you have
see a show of hands how many of you have ever snapped at somebody it had nothing
ever snapped at somebody it had nothing
ever snapped at somebody it had nothing do with them it was just your state you
do with them it was just your state you
do with them it was just your state you were so stressed about something else
were so stressed about something else
were so stressed about something else how many done there’s even people you
how many done there’s even people you
how many done there’s even people you totally love like your children hmm I’ll
totally love like your children hmm I’ll
totally love like your children hmm I’ll try it again
try it again
try it again very nice just think about that now when
very nice just think about that now when
very nice just think about that now when the doctor does that instead of going
the doctor does that instead of going
the doctor does that instead of going here’s no right to do that you’re right
here’s no right to do that you’re right
here’s no right to do that you’re right he has no right to do it absolutely
he has no right to do it absolutely
he has no right to do it absolutely right and you need to help him so he
right and you need to help him so he
right and you need to help him so he doesn’t do that anymore you need to help
doesn’t do that anymore you need to help
doesn’t do that anymore you need to help him not make him wrong if you make him
him not make him wrong if you make him
him not make him wrong if you make him wrong is that going to roll him and not
wrong is that going to roll him and not
wrong is that going to roll him and not doing this again yes or no doctor when
doing this again yes or no doctor when
doing this again yes or no doctor when all of a sudden you keep asking your
all of a sudden you keep asking your
all of a sudden you keep asking your staff they don’t deliver something you
staff they don’t deliver something you
staff they don’t deliver something you need something incompetent you don’t
need something incompetent you don’t
need something incompetent you don’t care I mean they’re not as committed as
care I mean they’re not as committed as
care I mean they’re not as committed as you you’re working to the ball on the
you you’re working to the ball on the
you you’re working to the ball on the time you’re not even getting pay they’re
time you’re not even getting pay they’re
time you’re not even getting pay they’re getting paid much not care about you
getting paid much not care about you
getting paid much not care about you so what it means no what might it mean
so what it means no what might it mean
so what it means no what might it mean they’re overloaded they’re overworked
they’re overloaded they’re overworked
they’re overloaded they’re overworked you beat them to a pulp they don’t want
you beat them to a pulp they don’t want
you beat them to a pulp they don’t want to talk to you because you’ve been real
to talk to you because you’ve been real
to talk to you because you’ve been real mean and hard to be around they’re
mean and hard to be around they’re
mean and hard to be around they’re trying to void you daddy away because
trying to void you daddy away because
trying to void you daddy away because they’re afraid they’re gonna set you off
they’re afraid they’re gonna set you off
they’re afraid they’re gonna set you off I noticed that was a doctor that was
I noticed that was a doctor that was
I noticed that was a doctor that was laughing huh ma’am
laughing huh ma’am
laughing huh ma’am it’s that possible but see which meaning
it’s that possible but see which meaning
it’s that possible but see which meaning you assigned will determine how you feel
you assigned will determine how you feel
you assigned will determine how you feel and how you treat people isn’t that true
and how you treat people isn’t that true
and how you treat people isn’t that true and it doesn’t just stop there it
and it doesn’t just stop there it
and it doesn’t just stop there it continues because the truth is most of
continues because the truth is most of
continues because the truth is most of you don’t communicate all that you feel
you don’t communicate all that you feel
you don’t communicate all that you feel and it’s a good thing
cuz mo words spoken in a moment of anger
cuz mo words spoken in a moment of anger some words like that are never forgotten
now that’s not true
now that’s not true you can forget them the people they I’ll
you can forget them the people they I’ll
you can forget them the people they I’ll never forget that he’d tell him how
never forget that he’d tell him how
never forget that he’d tell him how never forget never I will not forget
never forget never I will not forget
never forget never I will not forget that they work real hard remember but
that they work real hard remember but
that they work real hard remember but how many of you forgotten your own home
how many of you forgotten your own home
how many of you forgotten your own home telephone number address a house call
telephone number address a house call
telephone number address a house call the word though so you can forget
the word though so you can forget
the word though so you can forget ketchup
ketchup
ketchup yes actually forgetting is a very useful
yes actually forgetting is a very useful
yes actually forgetting is a very useful tool I may want to teach you before the
tool I may want to teach you before the
tool I may want to teach you before the weekends up the power of forgetting not
weekends up the power of forgetting not
weekends up the power of forgetting not forgiving forgetting
this is sometimes useful to forget
this is sometimes useful to forget especially if what you’re forgetting is
especially if what you’re forgetting is
especially if what you’re forgetting is only your perception
especially since your memories are
especially since your memories are nothing but myths anyway because if you
nothing but myths anyway because if you
nothing but myths anyway because if you ask my mother I bet she’d have a
ask my mother I bet she’d have a
ask my mother I bet she’d have a different story
different story
different story true that’s right see the bottom line in
true that’s right see the bottom line in
true that’s right see the bottom line in life then is we’ve got to make sure that
life then is we’ve got to make sure that
life then is we’ve got to make sure that we assign a meaning that empowers and
we assign a meaning that empowers and
we assign a meaning that empowers and doesn’t doesn’t empower disempowered by
doesn’t doesn’t empower disempowered by
doesn’t doesn’t empower disempowered by the way we don’t really know for sure
the way we don’t really know for sure
the way we don’t really know for sure what the meaning is unless we ask by the
what the meaning is unless we ask by the
what the meaning is unless we ask by the way do we always have to ask now
way do we always have to ask now
way do we always have to ask now sometimes we can hallucinate that people
sometimes we can hallucinate that people
sometimes we can hallucinate that people are coming from the best place how often
are coming from the best place how often
are coming from the best place how often would it be useful to loosen eight that
would it be useful to loosen eight that
would it be useful to loosen eight that people are really coming from positive
people are really coming from positive
people are really coming from positive intention yes
intention yes
intention yes see if you question my behavior I can
see if you question my behavior I can
see if you question my behavior I can probably deal with that but if you
probably deal with that but if you
probably deal with that but if you question my intention that is gonna
question my intention that is gonna
question my intention that is gonna really hurt me because I’m gonna go
really hurt me because I’m gonna go
really hurt me because I’m gonna go don’t we have a relationship don’t you
don’t we have a relationship don’t you
don’t we have a relationship don’t you know who I am but that’s probably not
know who I am but that’s probably not
know who I am but that’s probably not I’m gonna spawn I probably just follow
I’m gonna spawn I probably just follow
I’m gonna spawn I probably just follow the cry for help I’m being pissed off
the cry for help I’m being pissed off
the cry for help I’m being pissed off you could ever question my integrity or
you could ever question my integrity or
you could ever question my integrity or my intent or whether I care about you
my intent or whether I care about you
my intent or whether I care about you how can you do that after all I’ve done
how can you do that after all I’ve done
how can you do that after all I’ve done for you and then people start justifying
for you and then people start justifying
for you and then people start justifying noticing all things they don’t phrase I
noticing all things they don’t phrase I
noticing all things they don’t phrase I think it really need more man amp down
think it really need more man amp down
think it really need more man amp down septum so we’ve got to really do is we
septum so we’ve got to really do is we
septum so we’ve got to really do is we gotta say okay I don’t know what the
gotta say okay I don’t know what the
gotta say okay I don’t know what the meaning is I’m not sure what the meaning
meaning is I’m not sure what the meaning
meaning is I’m not sure what the meaning is but I’m sure that the intent is
is but I’m sure that the intent is
is but I’m sure that the intent is positive the person’s either stressed or
positive the person’s either stressed or
positive the person’s either stressed or something else but I know who they are I
something else but I know who they are I
something else but I know who they are I remember who this person really is the
remember who this person really is the
remember who this person really is the moment doesn’t matter this too shall
moment doesn’t matter this too shall
moment doesn’t matter this too shall pass
pass
pass is that true unless I decide to try and
is that true unless I decide to try and
is that true unless I decide to try and hang on to it not let it pass have you
hang on to it not let it pass have you
hang on to it not let it pass have you ever tried not to let something pass
ever tried not to let something pass
ever tried not to let something pass it’s to be painful after a few days
you come home and your spouse is
you come home and your spouse is watching TV again the reason is safer
watching TV again the reason is safer
watching TV again the reason is safer again they didn’t say they love you
again they didn’t say they love you
again they didn’t say they love you again what does that mean scumbag that’s
again what does that mean scumbag that’s
again what does that mean scumbag that’s an advanced divorce they don’t care they
an advanced divorce they don’t care they
an advanced divorce they don’t care they don’t love me they’re not attracted to
don’t love me they’re not attracted to
don’t love me they’re not attracted to me anymore
me anymore
me anymore can imagine why they wouldn’t be
can imagine why they wouldn’t be
can imagine why they wouldn’t be attracted you when you in this
attracted you when you in this
attracted you when you in this personality
probably looks another minute look there
probably looks another minute look there the women can’t imagine why when they
the women can’t imagine why when they
the women can’t imagine why when they get to come home to seeing you in this
get to come home to seeing you in this
get to come home to seeing you in this unique state because they don’t have
unique state because they don’t have
unique state because they don’t have very good taste that’s why they’ve got
maybe they know what they’ve got maybe
maybe they know what they’ve got maybe that’s why they’re looking
the meaning we link to things determines
the meaning we link to things determines our actions therefore our destiny had
our actions therefore our destiny had
our actions therefore our destiny had already share that with you the key then
already share that with you the key then
already share that with you the key then is to choose empowering versus
is to choose empowering versus
is to choose empowering versus disempowering meanings the key for us
disempowering meanings the key for us
disempowering meanings the key for us from now on is when something happens
from now on is when something happens
from now on is when something happens we’re gonna probably have a reaction
we’re gonna probably have a reaction
we’re gonna probably have a reaction after we’re done with a little reaction
after we’re done with a little reaction
after we’re done with a little reaction we should sit back and say what’s a more
we should sit back and say what’s a more
we should sit back and say what’s a more empowering way of looking at this what
empowering way of looking at this what
empowering way of looking at this what might be a more empowering way of
might be a more empowering way of
might be a more empowering way of looking at this what else could this
looking at this what else could this
looking at this what else could this mean because I choose the empowering one
mean because I choose the empowering one
mean because I choose the empowering one I made me wrong is it possible the
I made me wrong is it possible the
I made me wrong is it possible the person really is this comeback I guess
person really is this comeback I guess
person really is this comeback I guess anything’s possible
anything’s possible
anything’s possible but if I won’t empower you looking in
but if I won’t empower you looking in
but if I won’t empower you looking in that way because people tend to be
that way because people tend to be
that way because people tend to be whatever you make them you know I want
whatever you make them you know I want
whatever you make them you know I want to write that now people tend to be
to write that now people tend to be
to write that now people tend to be whatever you make them pretty important
whatever you make them pretty important
whatever you make them pretty important Brent and I want you remember this right
Brent and I want you remember this right
Brent and I want you remember this right the cno’s whatever you look for you will
the cno’s whatever you look for you will
the cno’s whatever you look for you will find whatever you look for you will find
find whatever you look for you will find
find whatever you look for you will find whatever you look for you’re gonna get
whatever you look for you’re gonna get
whatever you look for you’re gonna get and by the way the way we look for
and by the way the way we look for
and by the way the way we look for things is we ask questions about people
things is we ask questions about people
things is we ask questions about people about our life about ourselves I’ll tell
about our life about ourselves I’ll tell
about our life about ourselves I’ll tell you look for things the way you direct
you look for things the way you direct
you look for things the way you direct what you focus on is ask a question very
what you focus on is ask a question very
what you focus on is ask a question very quickly look around this room as fast
quickly look around this room as fast
quickly look around this room as fast you can I want you notice everything in
you can I want you notice everything in
you can I want you notice everything in this room that’s brown quick everything
this room that’s brown quick everything
this room that’s brown quick everything it’s brown brown clothing people’s hair
it’s brown brown clothing people’s hair
it’s brown brown clothing people’s hair floors any brown brown brown only brown
floors any brown brown brown only brown
floors any brown brown brown only brown brown brown brown brown brown brown
brown brown brown brown brown brown
brown brown brown brown brown brown close your eyes with your eyes closed
close your eyes with your eyes closed
close your eyes with your eyes closed now tell me everything in this room
now tell me everything in this room
now tell me everything in this room that’s red hmm
that’s red hmm
that’s red hmm raise your hand if you see a lot more
raise your hand if you see a lot more
raise your hand if you see a lot more Brown than your head that you see red
Brown than your head that you see red
Brown than your head that you see red raise your hand open your eyes look for
raise your hand open your eyes look for
raise your hand open your eyes look for red now see everything you see in this
red now see everything you see in this
red now see everything you see in this room it’s red red red red anywhere you
room it’s red red red red anywhere you
room it’s red red red red anywhere you can see it clothing people anywhere you
can see it clothing people anywhere you
can see it clothing people anywhere you see red red red red red look around red
see red red red red red look around red
see red red red red red look around red red red
red red
red red let me see a lot more red now Rihan
let me see a lot more red now Rihan
let me see a lot more red now Rihan guess what you get what you look for and
guess what you get what you look for and
guess what you get what you look for and I got you look for it by asking a
I got you look for it by asking a
I got you look for it by asking a question that’s also how you get
question that’s also how you get
question that’s also how you get yourself to look for things by asking a
yourself to look for things by asking a
yourself to look for things by asking a question like what’s wrong with this
question like what’s wrong with this
question like what’s wrong with this person you know what you look you’ll
person you know what you look you’ll
person you know what you look you’ll find what’s wrong
find what’s wrong
find what’s wrong there’s wrong
there’s wrong
there’s wrong there’s what’s wrong with them why are
there’s what’s wrong with them why are
there’s what’s wrong with them why are they said just come back it’s okay why
they said just come back it’s okay why
they said just come back it’s okay why all right here’s one reason here’s
all right here’s one reason here’s
all right here’s one reason here’s another here’s another how come I can
another here’s another how come I can
another here’s another how come I can never succeed now let’s see here you
never succeed now let’s see here you
never succeed now let’s see here you look inside yourself in Durant’s right
look inside yourself in Durant’s right
look inside yourself in Durant’s right level yeah is here yeah I have my
level yeah is here yeah I have my
level yeah is here yeah I have my childhood like all the reasons we’ve
childhood like all the reasons we’ve
childhood like all the reasons we’ve kept before can you find some of these
kept before can you find some of these
kept before can you find some of these horrible and could you find something
horrible and could you find something
horrible and could you find something good in them if you look for it yes or
good in them if you look for it yes or
good in them if you look for it yes or no yeah because you’re the one that
no yeah because you’re the one that
no yeah because you’re the one that determines whether it’s good or not
determines whether it’s good or not
determines whether it’s good or not anyway the true could you find something
anyway the true could you find something
anyway the true could you find something good in Saddam the same if you want to
good in Saddam the same if you want to
good in Saddam the same if you want to do nothing we should if you wanted to
do nothing we should if you wanted to
do nothing we should if you wanted to could you do certain people think he’s
could you do certain people think he’s
could you do certain people think he’s good yeah people say hey he’s gotten
good yeah people say hey he’s gotten
good yeah people say hey he’s gotten back our land I don’t necessarily agree
back our land I don’t necessarily agree
back our land I don’t necessarily agree but you don’t agree to be able to
but you don’t agree to be able to
but you don’t agree to be able to appreciate is there a difference yeah
appreciate is there a difference yeah
appreciate is there a difference yeah you can appreciate somebody’s view even
you can appreciate somebody’s view even
you can appreciate somebody’s view even if you don’t agree with it you can
if you don’t agree with it you can
if you don’t agree with it you can appreciate that for them if that’s true
appreciate that for them if that’s true
appreciate that for them if that’s true you can appreciate that they have a
you can appreciate that they have a
you can appreciate that they have a different reality than you have about
different reality than you have about
different reality than you have about something most of us think we all have
something most of us think we all have
something most of us think we all have to share the same perceiving reality I’m
to share the same perceiving reality I’m
to share the same perceiving reality I’m sure we share the same physical reality
sure we share the same physical reality
sure we share the same physical reality but physical reality is not what most of
but physical reality is not what most of
but physical reality is not what most of us experience we experience a perceived
us experience we experience a perceived
us experience we experience a perceived reality we’ve made up in our hand it
reality we’ve made up in our hand it
reality we’ve made up in our hand it isn’t that true and so do you remember
isn’t that true and so do you remember
isn’t that true and so do you remember what the titleist technology is bridging
what the titleist technology is bridging
what the titleist technology is bridging realities what we don’t want to do is
realities what we don’t want to do is
realities what we don’t want to do is build a bridge between our reality and
build a bridge between our reality and
build a bridge between our reality and somebody else’s so that we can connect
somebody else’s so that we can connect
somebody else’s so that we can connect and have a relationship we don’t have to
and have a relationship we don’t have to
and have a relationship we don’t have to make them live in our reality we don’t
make them live in our reality we don’t
make them live in our reality we don’t have to hold our realities they’re
have to hold our realities they’re
have to hold our realities they’re absolute we can create a bridge by
absolute we can create a bridge by
absolute we can create a bridge by having that bridge we can exchange
having that bridge we can exchange
having that bridge we can exchange information between our two cities our
information between our two cities our
information between our two cities our two communities of emotion our two
two communities of emotion our two
two communities of emotion our two communities of understanding
communities of understanding
communities of understanding it create a connection well no longer
it create a connection well no longer
it create a connection well no longer separate we’re connected and we can
separate we’re connected and we can
separate we’re connected and we can share we can have our own identity and
share we can have our own identity and
share we can have our own identity and feeling you can also connect and share
feeling you can also connect and share
feeling you can also connect and share there’s no limit we can do it at any
there’s no limit we can do it at any
there’s no limit we can do it at any moment all we have to do is choose to
moment all we have to do is choose to
moment all we have to do is choose to cross the bridge
cross the bridge
cross the bridge all I gotta do Bridge the reality I’m
all I gotta do Bridge the reality I’m
all I gotta do Bridge the reality I’m going to show you how to do that with
going to show you how to do that with
going to show you how to do that with people for the rest your life it’ll
people for the rest your life it’ll
people for the rest your life it’ll change your life like if you think you
change your life like if you think you
change your life like if you think you never learn in your life it’ll be so
never learn in your life it’ll be so
never learn in your life it’ll be so simple
simple
simple but it starts with this basic
but it starts with this basic
but it starts with this basic philosophical understanding the way you
philosophical understanding the way you
philosophical understanding the way you feel is based on the meaning you give
feel is based on the meaning you give
feel is based on the meaning you give things you’re the one giving the meaning
things you’re the one giving the meaning
things you’re the one giving the meaning no matter what he feels like somebody
no matter what he feels like somebody
no matter what he feels like somebody else the question is a you an empowering
else the question is a you an empowering
else the question is a you an empowering meaning or disempowering meaning and if
meaning or disempowering meaning and if
meaning or disempowering meaning and if you say yeah look I got proof I’ve got
you say yeah look I got proof I’ve got
you say yeah look I got proof I’ve got proof that what I’m saying is true do
proof that what I’m saying is true do
proof that what I’m saying is true do you want to be in right or do you want
you want to be in right or do you want
you want to be in right or do you want to be in a relationship do you want to
to be in a relationship do you want to
to be in a relationship do you want to be right what do you want to be in love
be right what do you want to be in love
be right what do you want to be in love I don’t write that down ask you
I don’t write that down ask you
I don’t write that down ask you something so the question of the future
something so the question of the future
something so the question of the future expect an argument
expect an argument
expect an argument I’ll ask is up I want to be right or
I’ll ask is up I want to be right or
I’ll ask is up I want to be right or don’t want to be loved cuz that’s really
don’t want to be loved cuz that’s really
don’t want to be loved cuz that’s really a choice that’s really it see I think I
a choice that’s really it see I think I
a choice that’s really it see I think I told the last time I was here out of
told the last time I was here out of
told the last time I was here out of time two years back we’re at a unique
time two years back we’re at a unique
time two years back we’re at a unique partner who I really cared a lot about
partner who I really cared a lot about
partner who I really cared a lot about embezzled a quarter million dollars at
embezzled a quarter million dollars at
embezzled a quarter million dollars at me seven or fifty-eight thousand dollars
me seven or fifty-eight thousand dollars
me seven or fifty-eight thousand dollars in debt I got a bit peeved by this I got
in debt I got a bit peeved by this I got
in debt I got a bit peeved by this I got angrier than I ever remember because I
angrier than I ever remember because I
angrier than I ever remember because I felt so massively what hurt
felt so massively what hurt
felt so massively what hurt and it’s because I had a feeling of what
and it’s because I had a feeling of what
and it’s because I had a feeling of what loss the money was part of it the
loss the money was part of it the
loss the money was part of it the ability to not have to think about money
ability to not have to think about money
ability to not have to think about money was another part of it an equally big
was another part of it an equally big
was another part of it an equally big part of it was I cared about this person
part of it was I cared about this person
part of it was I cared about this person I took advantage of me I felt the loss
I took advantage of me I felt the loss
I took advantage of me I felt the loss the trust loss of love loss of
the trust loss of love loss of
the trust loss of love loss of connection all that got stacked into
connection all that got stacked into
connection all that got stacked into this anger nobody would hear that see
this anger nobody would hear that see
this anger nobody would hear that see the truth of the matter is do I have
the truth of the matter is do I have
the truth of the matter is do I have every right to be able to point and show
every right to be able to point and show
every right to be able to point and show that this guy’s wrong sure will that
that this guy’s wrong sure will that
that this guy’s wrong sure will that make my life better
make my life better
make my life better no I gonna do say how can I use this and
no I gonna do say how can I use this and
no I gonna do say how can I use this and move on not make him right not make him
move on not make him right not make him
move on not make him right not make him wrong just go okay I don’t what make a
wrong just go okay I don’t what make a
wrong just go okay I don’t what make a person do that
person do that
person do that you know when I finally started asking
you know when I finally started asking
you know when I finally started asking what would make a person do that I
what would make a person do that I
what would make a person do that I created my entire destiny technologies
created my entire destiny technologies
created my entire destiny technologies probably is the most powerful set of
probably is the most powerful set of
probably is the most powerful set of distinctions I made my lifetime because
distinctions I made my lifetime because
distinctions I made my lifetime because I figured out how I could use it what I
I figured out how I could use it what I
I figured out how I could use it what I could learn from it
could learn from it
could learn from it instead of how come this happened to me
instead of how come this happened to me
instead of how come this happened to me and I turned my finances around like a
and I turned my finances around like a
and I turned my finances around like a hundred volt my little company doing
hundred volt my little company doing
hundred volt my little company doing four million dollars a year 250 million
four million dollars a year 250 million
four million dollars a year 250 million dollars a year it’s a fairly large jump
dollars a year it’s a fairly large jump
dollars a year it’s a fairly large jump all because I chose to create a
all because I chose to create a
all because I chose to create a different meaning meaning is this is a
different meaning meaning is this is a
different meaning meaning is this is a chance for me to go to the next level
chance for me to go to the next level
chance for me to go to the next level meaning is this chance for me to learn
meaning is this chance for me to learn
meaning is this chance for me to learn and make something better than that’s
and make something better than that’s
and make something better than that’s ever been before
ever been before
ever been before once you link that meaning the world
once you link that meaning the world
once you link that meaning the world changes just remember if you don’t like
changes just remember if you don’t like
changes just remember if you don’t like the way you feel change the things
the way you feel change the things
the way you feel change the things change your perception of what something
change your perception of what something
change your perception of what something means or change your actions that’s what
means or change your actions that’s what
means or change your actions that’s what it takes and you’ll change the way you
it takes and you’ll change the way you
it takes and you’ll change the way you feel that heartbeat
I put a little metaphor here a couple
I put a little metaphor here a couple for you I just want to remind you that
for you I just want to remind you that
for you I just want to remind you that and you decide you can’t find something
and you decide you can’t find something
and you decide you can’t find something also never I said what you look for
also never I said what you look for
also never I said what you look for you’ll find when you decide you can’t
you’ll find when you decide you can’t
you’ll find when you decide you can’t find something you’ll also discover you
find something you’ll also discover you
find something you’ll also discover you won’t find it because when you believe
won’t find it because when you believe
won’t find it because when you believe something is true when you believe it’s
something is true when you believe it’s
something is true when you believe it’s not you’re right how many of the
not you’re right how many of the
not you’re right how many of the experience of having somebody say to you
experience of having somebody say to you
experience of having somebody say to you something like can you find me the salt
something like can you find me the salt
something like can you find me the salt you think yourself would you when the
you think yourself would you when the
you think yourself would you when the cabinet’s get me the salt as you’re
cabinet’s get me the salt as you’re
cabinet’s get me the salt as you’re walking you’re thinking I don’t know
walking you’re thinking I don’t know
walking you’re thinking I don’t know what the salt is you walk up there you
what the salt is you walk up there you
what the salt is you walk up there you open up I don’t know what is it you
open up I don’t know what is it you
open up I don’t know what is it you really do look don’t you you really look
really do look don’t you you really look
really do look don’t you you really look but you already have this belief that
but you already have this belief that
but you already have this belief that says I can’t find the salt so what
says I can’t find the salt so what
says I can’t find the salt so what happens you miss letting go it’s not in
happens you miss letting go it’s not in
happens you miss letting go it’s not in here the OOD thigh grabs right there on
here the OOD thigh grabs right there on
here the OOD thigh grabs right there on the Shelf you know it’s not that walking
the Shelf you know it’s not that walking
the Shelf you know it’s not that walking they walk right beside you be trying for
they walk right beside you be trying for
they walk right beside you be trying for you face you go what is this what is it
you face you go what is this what is it
you face you go what is this what is it how many vampers happened to you now the
how many vampers happened to you now the
how many vampers happened to you now the saw walls only there you said tell me
saw walls only there you said tell me
saw walls only there you said tell me what I look for all fine that’s what you
what I look for all fine that’s what you
what I look for all fine that’s what you look for an earnest you’ll find see what
look for an earnest you’ll find see what
look for an earnest you’ll find see what you really want the answer to
you really want the answer to
you really want the answer to you’ll get there you go why am I so
you’ll get there you go why am I so
you’ll get there you go why am I so happy but you really don’t want to know
happy but you really don’t want to know
happy but you really don’t want to know the answer you’re not gonna get the
the answer you’re not gonna get the
the answer you’re not gonna get the answer or what’s really great about this
answer or what’s really great about this
answer or what’s really great about this person you’ll get an answer tell me what
person you’ll get an answer tell me what
person you’ll get an answer tell me what you seek for and Ernest if you don’t
you seek for and Ernest if you don’t
you seek for and Ernest if you don’t look for something you won’t find it
look for something you won’t find it
look for something you won’t find it you’re right if you don’t commit
you’re right if you don’t commit
you’re right if you don’t commit yourself to finding it you won’t good
yourself to finding it you won’t good
yourself to finding it you won’t good thing for you remember what do you do
thing for you remember what do you do
thing for you remember what do you do when an upset happens let me give you an
when an upset happens let me give you an
when an upset happens let me give you an example what I learned from racing
example what I learned from racing
example what I learned from racing school changed my whole life I race car
school changed my whole life I race car
school changed my whole life I race car it’s formula cars and so I went to
it’s formula cars and so I went to
it’s formula cars and so I went to several different schools by the way to
several different schools by the way to
several different schools by the way to do this you’ll never forget in my first
do this you’ll never forget in my first
do this you’ll never forget in my first school the first thing they really
school the first thing they really
school the first thing they really taught us at this one school for racing
taught us at this one school for racing
taught us at this one school for racing as they said the first thing I to do is
as they said the first thing I to do is
as they said the first thing I to do is you’re gonna know how to recover
you’re gonna know how to recover
you’re gonna know how to recover given unrecovered before anything else
given unrecovered before anything else
given unrecovered before anything else how to drive a car you guys ought to do
how to drive a car you guys ought to do
how to drive a car you guys ought to do how to go forward you know how to do
how to go forward you know how to do
how to go forward you know how to do that what you got to do is learn how to
that what you got to do is learn how to
that what you got to do is learn how to recover when you hit the skids in the
recover when you hit the skids in the
recover when you hit the skids in the road because if you don’t do that your
road because if you don’t do that your
road because if you don’t do that your racing career is gonna be rather short
racing career is gonna be rather short
racing career is gonna be rather short or rather painful and most of you are
or rather painful and most of you are
or rather painful and most of you are trying to race through life and a lot of
trying to race through life and a lot of
trying to race through life and a lot of you are having a rather painful time
you are having a rather painful time
you are having a rather painful time because you don’t recover very well or
because you don’t recover very well or
because you don’t recover very well or you recover but in the process of
you recover but in the process of
you recover but in the process of recovering you smashing everybody else’s
recovering you smashing everybody else’s
recovering you smashing everybody else’s car along the way that makes the next
car along the way that makes the next
car along the way that makes the next trip around a little bit in full for
trip around a little bit in full for
trip around a little bit in full for those people they see you coming by they
those people they see you coming by they
those people they see you coming by they kind of avoid you a little bit going I’m
kind of avoid you a little bit going I’m
kind of avoid you a little bit going I’m not getting too close to this doctor
not getting too close to this doctor
not getting too close to this doctor this staff member this person this
this staff member this person this
this staff member this person this account the secretary this telephone
account the secretary this telephone
account the secretary this telephone person the person around the calendar
person the person around the calendar
person the person around the calendar I’m not doing it because if I do they’re
I’m not doing it because if I do they’re
I’m not doing it because if I do they’re gonna smash me up to the process of them
gonna smash me up to the process of them
gonna smash me up to the process of them trying to recover it so what they do is
trying to recover it so what they do is
trying to recover it so what they do is they put you in a skin car where they
they put you in a skin car where they
they put you in a skin car where they make you go through the process of about
make you go through the process of about
make you go through the process of about d2 crash where they knock you off track
d2 crash where they knock you off track
d2 crash where they knock you off track but it is the skin car they’ve got a
but it is the skin car they’ve got a
but it is the skin car they’ve got a little computer they fire off his
little computer they fire off his
little computer they fire off his computer and what it does it has a
computer and what it does it has a
computer and what it does it has a little left unless one of your wheels
little left unless one of your wheels
little left unless one of your wheels you never know which direction of it so
you never know which direction of it so
you never know which direction of it so you’re screaming around the track
you’re screaming around the track
you’re screaming around the track screaming screaming screaming screaming
screaming screaming screaming screaming
screaming screaming screaming screaming you’re not doing full speed like 140
you’re not doing full speed like 140
you’re not doing full speed like 140 miles an hour they start you a little
miles an hour they start you a little
miles an hour they start you a little slower like we’re doing this morning
slower like we’re doing this morning
slower like we’re doing this morning they’ll go about 60 70 miles an hour but
they’ll go about 60 70 miles an hour but
they’ll go about 60 70 miles an hour but 60 70 miles an hour on tracks pretty
60 70 miles an hour on tracks pretty
60 70 miles an hour on tracks pretty intense and do one write for a wall and
intense and do one write for a wall and
intense and do one write for a wall and all of a sudden you start to skid out of
all of a sudden you start to skid out of
all of a sudden you start to skid out of control
control
control and what they tell you in advance is
and what they tell you in advance is
and what they tell you in advance is well you’ve got to do is when you start
well you’ve got to do is when you start
well you’ve got to do is when you start the skin under control there’s only one
the skin under control there’s only one
the skin under control there’s only one key look where you want to go focus on
key look where you want to go focus on
key look where you want to go focus on where you want to go do not focus on
where you want to go do not focus on
where you want to go do not focus on what you’re afraid of
what you’re afraid of
what you’re afraid of now what do people do in life we focus
now what do people do in life we focus
now what do people do in life we focus on what we fear and we get more whatever
on what we fear and we get more whatever
on what we fear and we get more whatever we focus on absolutely tell you there
we focus on absolutely tell you there
we focus on absolutely tell you there they said look whatever you focus on
they said look whatever you focus on
they said look whatever you focus on that’s what you’re gonna go we have you
that’s what you’re gonna go we have you
that’s what you’re gonna go we have you focus on you’re gonna get more of you
focus on you’re gonna get more of you
focus on you’re gonna get more of you focus on the wall you’re gonna get a lot
focus on the wall you’re gonna get a lot
focus on the wall you’re gonna get a lot of wall real fast you’re gonna crash
of wall real fast you’re gonna crash
of wall real fast you’re gonna crash but you’re neither gonna just focus on
but you’re neither gonna just focus on
but you’re neither gonna just focus on what you want not where you think you’re
what you want not where you think you’re
what you want not where you think you’re going not where you think you are if
going not where you think you are if
going not where you think you are if you’re not where you want to be if
you’re not where you want to be if
you’re not where you want to be if you’re not really wanting to go focus on
you’re not really wanting to go focus on
you’re not really wanting to go focus on where you want to go immediately don’t
where you want to go immediately don’t
where you want to go immediately don’t hesitate they said now what you’re gonna
hesitate they said now what you’re gonna
hesitate they said now what you’re gonna have to do is
have to do is
have to do is you do this it won’t feel like it’s
you do this it won’t feel like it’s
you do this it won’t feel like it’s working at first cuz you’ll still feel
working at first cuz you’ll still feel
working at first cuz you’ll still feel like you’re going into the wall because
like you’re going into the wall because
like you’re going into the wall because what happens you have so much momentum
what happens you have so much momentum
what happens you have so much momentum in that direction the even when you
in that direction the even when you
in that direction the even when you focus on where you want to go they’ll
focus on where you want to go they’ll
focus on where you want to go they’ll still be a little bit of momentum in
still be a little bit of momentum in
still be a little bit of momentum in that direction and there’ll be a little
that direction and there’ll be a little
that direction and there’ll be a little bit of a lag time before the car turns
bit of a lag time before the car turns
bit of a lag time before the car turns so don’t because you don’t see the
so don’t because you don’t see the
so don’t because you don’t see the turning turn back and look as you do
turning turn back and look as you do
turning turn back and look as you do you’re gonna go right there and crash
you’re gonna go right there and crash
you’re gonna go right there and crash keep there you have to use that f-word
keep there you have to use that f-word
keep there you have to use that f-word what is it
what is it
what is it Hey so what happens is you turn you’re
Hey so what happens is you turn you’re
Hey so what happens is you turn you’re going in going in the one good for those
going in going in the one good for those
going in going in the one good for those people do it first of all most you don’t
people do it first of all most you don’t
people do it first of all most you don’t even turn what I do the first time I’m
even turn what I do the first time I’m
even turn what I do the first time I’m scheming launching model since I’ve got
scheming launching model since I’ve got
scheming launching model since I’ve got a control go I don’t look I’m at the
a control go I don’t look I’m at the
a control go I don’t look I’m at the wall my instructor last minute saved my
wall my instructor last minute saved my
wall my instructor last minute saved my life I grab my head and going and
life I grab my head and going and
life I grab my head and going and pulling my head physically in the
pulling my head physically in the
pulling my head physically in the direction I should be looking which is
direction I should be looking which is
direction I should be looking which is directly 90 degrees opposite of where I
directly 90 degrees opposite of where I
directly 90 degrees opposite of where I was going right I’m having for the wall
was going right I’m having for the wall
was going right I’m having for the wall that’s where I need to look so all about
that’s where I need to look so all about
that’s where I need to look so all about the grass he goes like this pulling my
the grass he goes like this pulling my
the grass he goes like this pulling my head over here and all the sudden I go
head over here and all the sudden I go
head over here and all the sudden I go when are we gonna go my second turn away
when are we gonna go my second turn away
when are we gonna go my second turn away I went oh my god heartbeat Anatomy I
I went oh my god heartbeat Anatomy I
I went oh my god heartbeat Anatomy I said maybe I should try a different
said maybe I should try a different
said maybe I should try a different sport
I thought now this is a good metaphor
I thought now this is a good metaphor for life let me do it again so I got
for life let me do it again so I got
for life let me do it again so I got there and you never know when they’re
there and you never know when they’re
there and you never know when they’re gonna do it you’re going you’re going
gonna do it you’re going you’re going
gonna do it you’re going you’re going you’re going I don’t sign I’m starting
you’re going I don’t sign I’m starting
you’re going I don’t sign I’m starting to love writes it again Racing racing
to love writes it again Racing racing
to love writes it again Racing racing awesome this isn’t I started going
awesome this isn’t I started going
awesome this isn’t I started going anywhere I did whoo I pulled my hand I’m
anywhere I did whoo I pulled my hand I’m
anywhere I did whoo I pulled my hand I’m like pulling my head in the strategy
like pulling my head in the strategy
like pulling my head in the strategy because I keep on going this way look
because I keep on going this way look
because I keep on going this way look what it is pulling and a way to win and
what it is pulling and a way to win and
what it is pulling and a way to win and sure enough car turns just in time after
sure enough car turns just in time after
sure enough car turns just in time after a while you know you do something
a while you know you do something
a while you know you do something happens you notice what it is you don’t
happens you notice what it is you don’t
happens you notice what it is you don’t scare it what it is you figure out what
scare it what it is you figure out what
scare it what it is you figure out what it is you go that’s a wall snacking that
it is you go that’s a wall snacking that
it is you go that’s a wall snacking that what would it be like to smack that move
what would it be like to smack that move
what would it be like to smack that move now what happens is you see the wall you
now what happens is you see the wall you
now what happens is you see the wall you know what it is you only acknowledge the
know what it is you only acknowledge the
know what it is you only acknowledge the problem long enough to know what it is
problem long enough to know what it is
problem long enough to know what it is and they move on no one it is who focus
and they move on no one it is who focus
and they move on no one it is who focus on where I want to go the minute I can
on where I want to go the minute I can
on where I want to go the minute I can identify what it is and that’s not where
identify what it is and that’s not where
identify what it is and that’s not where I want to go boom so I’m heading for the
I want to go boom so I’m heading for the
I want to go boom so I’m heading for the car and it’s like no no he just get off
car and it’s like no no he just get off
car and it’s like no no he just get off it so fast focus on what you want and
it so fast focus on what you want and
it so fast focus on what you want and you’ll get more of it focus on what you
you’ll get more of it focus on what you
you’ll get more of it focus on what you fear and you’ll get more of that focus
fear and you’ll get more of that focus
fear and you’ll get more of that focus on what you want and you’ll get more of
on what you want and you’ll get more of
on what you want and you’ll get more of it
it
it focus on what you fear you will get more
focus on what you fear you will get more
focus on what you fear you will get more of that
of that
bottom line is almost everybody in life
bottom line is almost everybody in life focuses on what they fear and that’s why
focuses on what they fear and that’s why
focuses on what they fear and that’s why they get more of what they don’t want
they get more of what they don’t want
they get more of what they don’t want well yeah but what if this happens what
well yeah but what if this happens what
well yeah but what if this happens what if that happens if you keep asking what
if that happens if you keep asking what
if that happens if you keep asking what if this happens what if that happens I
if this happens what if that happens I
if this happens what if that happens I guarantee you’re gonna crash it’s only a
guarantee you’re gonna crash it’s only a
guarantee you’re gonna crash it’s only a matter of time instead you gotta say
matter of time instead you gotta say
matter of time instead you gotta say well what if this happens what I want
well what if this happens what I want
well what if this happens what I want what will happen when I make this happen
what will happen when I make this happen
what will happen when I make this happen what I want and the more you focus on
what I want and the more you focus on
what I want and the more you focus on that the more of an experience you’ll
that the more of an experience you’ll
that the more of an experience you’ll have what it is that you want your life
have what it is that you want your life
have what it is that you want your life you’ll get it right away now here’s the
you’ll get it right away now here’s the
you’ll get it right away now here’s the problem you’ve got to still hang on to
problem you’ve got to still hang on to
problem you’ve got to still hang on to your F what is it faith you know what
your F what is it faith you know what
your F what is it faith you know what faith is faith is understanding the
faith is faith is understanding the
faith is faith is understanding the seasons of life life comes in seasons
seasons of life life comes in seasons
seasons of life life comes in seasons doesn’t it it’s not always the same but
doesn’t it it’s not always the same but
doesn’t it it’s not always the same but it’s still predictable as a whole how
it’s still predictable as a whole how
it’s still predictable as a whole how many of you are surprised when winter
many of you are surprised when winter
many of you are surprised when winter comes can I see something no you would
comes can I see something no you would
comes can I see something no you would be surprised you don’t be surprised when
be surprised you don’t be surprised when
be surprised you don’t be surprised when it comes and are their emotional winters
it comes and are their emotional winters
it comes and are their emotional winters yes or no you’ve got to believe there
yes or no you’ve got to believe there
yes or no you’ve got to believe there are other times you try to communicate
are other times you try to communicate
are other times you try to communicate well doesn’t work all the times in the
well doesn’t work all the times in the
well doesn’t work all the times in the office or it feels well frigid well cold
office or it feels well frigid well cold
office or it feels well frigid well cold that’s not just the air-conditioning
that’s not just the air-conditioning
that’s not just the air-conditioning what happens during the winter you break
what happens during the winter you break
what happens during the winter you break out of fire and warm each other up see
out of fire and warm each other up see
out of fire and warm each other up see some people freeze to death in the
some people freeze to death in the
some people freeze to death in the winter other people ski the meaning of
winter other people ski the meaning of
winter other people ski the meaning of winter is whatever you do with it isn’t
winter is whatever you do with it isn’t
winter is whatever you do with it isn’t that true
that true
that true wait there’s nothing wrong with winter
wait there’s nothing wrong with winter
wait there’s nothing wrong with winter what if it was always summer God be
what if it was always summer God be
what if it was always summer God be great oh yeah I think you’ve boarded
great oh yeah I think you’ve boarded
great oh yeah I think you’ve boarded some much probably get burned
some much probably get burned
some much probably get burned now some people get burned in the summer
now some people get burned in the summer
now some people get burned in the summer some people get tan some people swim
some people get tan some people swim
some people get tan some people swim some people go on vacation springtime is
some people go on vacation springtime is
some people go on vacation springtime is a great time to you get to plant follow
a great time to you get to plant follow
a great time to you get to plant follow you get to reap
you get to reap
you get to reap you don’t happen to some people life
you don’t happen to some people life
you don’t happen to some people life some people do is they say ok I know
some people do is they say ok I know
some people do is they say ok I know what you said Robbins I turn my focus
what you said Robbins I turn my focus
what you said Robbins I turn my focus but it’s not working
but it’s not working
but it’s not working you’re still lag time God’s delays are
you’re still lag time God’s delays are
you’re still lag time God’s delays are not God’s denials
not God’s denials
not God’s denials that’s the laser not God’s denials
that’s the laser not God’s denials
that’s the laser not God’s denials you’re in lag time it’ll catch up
you’re in lag time it’ll catch up
you’re in lag time it’ll catch up Hey look you think it’s fall we’re still
Hey look you think it’s fall we’re still
Hey look you think it’s fall we’re still in winter do you think it’s following
in winter do you think it’s following
in winter do you think it’s following you in spring or you’ve made it to
you in spring or you’ve made it to
you in spring or you’ve made it to summer but we’re not to fall yet don’t
summer but we’re not to fall yet don’t
summer but we’re not to fall yet don’t be so darn impatient take on a new
be so darn impatient take on a new
be so darn impatient take on a new prayer lord give me patience and give it
prayer lord give me patience and give it
prayer lord give me patience and give it to me right now be equally intelligent
to me right now be equally intelligent
to me right now be equally intelligent [Music]
[Music]
[Music] fight some people think ok I don’t know
fight some people think ok I don’t know
fight some people think ok I don’t know what I want I want this seed to be a
what I want I want this seed to be a
what I want I want this seed to be a plant they figure the soil they come out
plant they figure the soil they come out
plant they figure the soil they come out the next day and they go where’s my
the next day and they go where’s my
the next day and they go where’s my plant the soul goes are you new that’s
plant the soul goes are you new that’s
plant the soul goes are you new that’s not how it works
not how it works
not how it works you plant it here ok you come back every
you plant it here ok you come back every
you plant it here ok you come back every day and take care of it right you make
day and take care of it right you make
day and take care of it right you make it through the whole spring then doing
it through the whole spring then doing
it through the whole spring then doing summer when it’s hot you got to really
summer when it’s hot you got to really
summer when it’s hot you got to really really take care of it because it gets
really take care of it because it gets
really take care of it because it gets even worse during that time and you make
even worse during that time and you make
even worse during that time and you make it through all those seasons in the fall
it through all those seasons in the fall
it through all those seasons in the fall maybe more than likely not always but
maybe more than likely not always but
maybe more than likely not always but most of time you will have a plan to you
most of time you will have a plan to you
most of time you will have a plan to you that’s how it works that’s not fair
that’s how it works that’s not fair
that’s how it works that’s not fair that’s thought like this how it he
that’s thought like this how it he
that’s thought like this how it he doesn’t know how you think it should be
doesn’t know how you think it should be
doesn’t know how you think it should be you coming back each day the plant will
you coming back each day the plant will
you coming back each day the plant will see you come and start laughing you give
see you come and start laughing you give
see you come and start laughing you give look at this guy so Natomas why don’t I
look at this guy so Natomas why don’t I
look at this guy so Natomas why don’t I have it yet live time that’s why
have it yet live time that’s why
have it yet live time that’s why don’t make yourself wrong because you’re
don’t make yourself wrong because you’re
don’t make yourself wrong because you’re doing the right things and you don’t see
doing the right things and you don’t see
doing the right things and you don’t see the results yet takes time
the results yet takes time
the results yet takes time most people completely overestimate what
most people completely overestimate what
most people completely overestimate what can be done in a year an underestimate
can be done in a year an underestimate
can be done in a year an underestimate will can be done in a decade
I can tell you my old career my wife
I can tell you my old career my wife that doesn’t like heart and soul every
that doesn’t like heart and soul every
that doesn’t like heart and soul every day every day two hundred seventy six
day every day two hundred seventy six
day every day two hundred seventy six seven hours a year
seven hours a year
seven hours a year good morning and I giving my all anybody
good morning and I giving my all anybody
good morning and I giving my all anybody knows me will tell you all my all every
knows me will tell you all my all every
knows me will tell you all my all every day no matter what you know what I was
day no matter what you know what I was
day no matter what you know what I was broke I was frustrated outside in terms
broke I was frustrated outside in terms
broke I was frustrated outside in terms of the business business weren’t nothing
of the business business weren’t nothing
of the business business weren’t nothing was working huh and I kept you know
was working huh and I kept you know
was working huh and I kept you know asked myself great present like why am i
asked myself great present like why am i
asked myself great present like why am i screwing this up so much it wasn’t me
screwing this up so much it wasn’t me
screwing this up so much it wasn’t me screwing up its life Tom how to make
screwing up its life Tom how to make
screwing up its life Tom how to make distinction that I build something takes
distinction that I build something takes
distinction that I build something takes time
time
time but then the other day I got a little
but then the other day I got a little
but then the other day I got a little reality check which we’re gonna teach
reality check which we’re gonna teach
reality check which we’re gonna teach you today a reality check is I flying up
you today a reality check is I flying up
you today a reality check is I flying up to Los Angeles to do my seminar there in
to Los Angeles to do my seminar there in
to Los Angeles to do my seminar there in my helicopter my jet helicopter it’s a
my helicopter my jet helicopter it’s a
my helicopter my jet helicopter it’s a tough life but some of you have to live
tough life but some of you have to live
tough life but some of you have to live it
if I wanted to drive for three hours I
if I wanted to drive for three hours I jumped the helicopter I’m there in 35
jumped the helicopter I’m there in 35
jumped the helicopter I’m there in 35 minutes
minutes
minutes the plus I go down and dive down by the
the plus I go down and dive down by the
the plus I go down and dive down by the dolphins in the water let’s back up and
dolphins in the water let’s back up and
dolphins in the water let’s back up and play it’s like having your own roller
play it’s like having your own roller
play it’s like having your own roller coaster and I’m flying over this area
coaster and I’m flying over this area
coaster and I’m flying over this area where I used to work in Glendale
where I used to work in Glendale
where I used to work in Glendale California I worked there as a janitor I
California I worked there as a janitor I
California I worked there as a janitor I drove my 1960 Volkswagen that literally
drove my 1960 Volkswagen that literally
drove my 1960 Volkswagen that literally broke down on the freeway one day
broke down on the freeway one day
broke down on the freeway one day because the wheel fell off I worked in
because the wheel fell off I worked in
because the wheel fell off I worked in the middle of the night so I could still
the middle of the night so I could still
the middle of the night so I could still go to school then I got paid five
go to school then I got paid five
go to school then I got paid five dollars an hour but as a janitor they
dollars an hour but as a janitor they
dollars an hour but as a janitor they figured out how many hours it should
figured out how many hours it should
figured out how many hours it should take so I did in half the time did a
take so I did in half the time did a
take so I did in half the time did a better job and I learned if you give
better job and I learned if you give
better job and I learned if you give more value you could turn one good thing
more value you could turn one good thing
more value you could turn one good thing for me to remember all of a sudden I
for me to remember all of a sudden I
for me to remember all of a sudden I flew over the bank and they stopped see
flew over the bank and they stopped see
flew over the bank and they stopped see the helicopter unit stopped an elevated
the helicopter unit stopped an elevated
the helicopter unit stopped an elevated boom right there and I just hovered
boom right there and I just hovered
boom right there and I just hovered above I used to work I thought that was
above I used to work I thought that was
above I used to work I thought that was 12 years ago
I never for four or five years after
I never for four or five years after that I never thought I could ever had
that I never thought I could ever had
that I never thought I could ever had what I worked let’s see the world was
what I worked let’s see the world was
what I worked let’s see the world was for those who just never give up who
for those who just never give up who
for those who just never give up who will move for those who persist forever
will move for those who persist forever
will move for those who persist forever and it changed their approach they’re
and it changed their approach they’re
and it changed their approach they’re flexible and how they do it they don’t
flexible and how they do it they don’t
flexible and how they do it they don’t just do the same thing over and over
just do the same thing over and over
just do the same thing over and over again the world move for some of us
again the world move for some of us
again the world move for some of us faith world moves as somebody has trust
faith world moves as somebody has trust
faith world moves as somebody has trust and then acts on that trust
and then acts on that trust
and then acts on that trust that’s the world move
that’s the world move
that’s the world move and someday you get to look down and go
and someday you get to look down and go
and someday you get to look down and go Pat was near with tonight that’s very
Pat was near with tonight that’s very
Pat was near with tonight that’s very exciting
see just because you can get it when you
see just because you can get it when you want it you may have overestimated in
want it you may have overestimated in
want it you may have overestimated in the short term and underestimated your
the short term and underestimated your
the short term and underestimated your long term power potential
we mentioned something earlier but I
we mentioned something earlier but I want to make sure you put in your notes
want to make sure you put in your notes
want to make sure you put in your notes and that is the state we’re in in the
and that is the state we’re in in the
and that is the state we’re in in the moment the state rate at any moment
moment the state rate at any moment
moment the state rate at any moment powerfully in black impacts the meaning
powerfully in black impacts the meaning
powerfully in black impacts the meaning we associate to something the state were
we associate to something the state were
we associate to something the state were in in the moment
in in the moment
in in the moment powerfully impacts the meaning that we
powerfully impacts the meaning that we
powerfully impacts the meaning that we associate to something or that we assign
associate to something or that we assign
associate to something or that we assign to something so one way to change what
to something so one way to change what
to something so one way to change what things mean you just change a darn state
things mean you just change a darn state
things mean you just change a darn state it’s that true I mean if you’re feeling
it’s that true I mean if you’re feeling
it’s that true I mean if you’re feeling great new things just kind of bounce off
great new things just kind of bounce off
great new things just kind of bounce off you that normally if you’re feeling
you that normally if you’re feeling
you that normally if you’re feeling upset would you change the way you look
upset would you change the way you look
upset would you change the way you look at and probably change the way you feel
at and probably change the way you feel
at and probably change the way you feel about you bet so we need to really still
about you bet so we need to really still
about you bet so we need to really still manage our state we talked about that a
manage our state we talked about that a
manage our state we talked about that a great deal last session I want to make
great deal last session I want to make
great deal last session I want to make sure that that’s part of your life’s
sure that that’s part of your life’s
sure that that’s part of your life’s work your life’s work is really learning
work your life’s work is really learning
work your life’s work is really learning how to live in a way we just spend most
how to live in a way we just spend most
how to live in a way we just spend most of your time enjoying yourself very
of your time enjoying yourself very
of your time enjoying yourself very little time and paying most your time
little time and paying most your time
little time and paying most your time implies you’re very little pain and
implies you’re very little pain and
implies you’re very little pain and living your life hopefully in a way
living your life hopefully in a way
living your life hopefully in a way where not only do you feel good all the
where not only do you feel good all the
where not only do you feel good all the time but the people around you feel good
time but the people around you feel good
time but the people around you feel good just by being around you that because
just by being around you that because
just by being around you that because they’re around you they feel what Wes
they’re around you they feel what Wes
they’re around you they feel what Wes painted on a pleasure to have my idea
painted on a pleasure to have my idea
painted on a pleasure to have my idea success success is when you learn to
success success is when you learn to
success success is when you learn to live your life in a way where you
live your life in a way where you
live your life in a way where you experience tons of pleasure every day
experience tons of pleasure every day
experience tons of pleasure every day and almost no pain and simultaneously
and almost no pain and simultaneously
and almost no pain and simultaneously where the way you live also causes the
where the way you live also causes the
where the way you live also causes the people around you to experience very
people around you to experience very
people around you to experience very little pain and tons of pleasure then
little pain and tons of pleasure then
little pain and tons of pleasure then you know you’re really successful
you know you’re really successful
you know you’re really successful because if you feel good and nobody else
because if you feel good and nobody else
because if you feel good and nobody else does you’re a failure now that doesn’t
does you’re a failure now that doesn’t
does you’re a failure now that doesn’t mean you go around try make everybody
mean you go around try make everybody
mean you go around try make everybody feel good some people have an investment
feel good some people have an investment
feel good some people have an investment in feeling bad because they think
in feeling bad because they think
in feeling bad because they think feeling bad equals feeling good are the
feeling bad equals feeling good are the
feeling bad equals feeling good are the people to believe that yes or no because
people to believe that yes or no because
people to believe that yes or no because they think if I feel bad then people
they think if I feel bad then people
they think if I feel bad then people will notice me or they’ll love me more
will notice me or they’ll love me more
will notice me or they’ll love me more they’ll help me more I’ll get more
they’ll help me more I’ll get more
they’ll help me more I’ll get more attention which means feeling good
attention which means feeling good
attention which means feeling good people have weird crap they we were
people have weird crap they we were
people have weird crap they we were gonna come inside their head about how
gonna come inside their head about how
gonna come inside their head about how to get to feeling good somebody’ll think
to get to feeling good somebody’ll think
to get to feeling good somebody’ll think I’m gonna feel good when I make a
I’m gonna feel good when I make a
I’m gonna feel good when I make a billion dollars
billion dollars
billion dollars some people like when I have this this
some people like when I have this this
some people like when I have this this and this when I get married have these
and this when I get married have these
and this when I get married have these many children this one it’s then I feel
many children this one it’s then I feel
many children this one it’s then I feel good some people have well I’ll feel
good some people have well I’ll feel
good some people have well I’ll feel good if I feel bad because then people
good if I feel bad because then people
good if I feel bad because then people knows me and make me feel good or you
knows me and make me feel good or you
knows me and make me feel good or you could just like choose to feel good
could just like choose to feel good
could just like choose to feel good which one you think might be a more
which one you think might be a more
which one you think might be a more intelligent approach
intelligent approach
intelligent approach cuz who’s in control there you are you’d
cuz who’s in control there you are you’d
cuz who’s in control there you are you’d have to worry about the environment by
have to worry about the environment by
have to worry about the environment by the way when you’re feeling good
the way when you’re feeling good
the way when you’re feeling good tend to make you on the Phillies Mehta
tend to make you on the Phillies Mehta
tend to make you on the Phillies Mehta makes you share good feelings other
makes you share good feelings other
makes you share good feelings other people which makes them feel good which
people which makes them feel good which
people which makes them feel good which makes them reciprocate usually not
makes them reciprocate usually not
makes them reciprocate usually not always we usually kind of nice so the
always we usually kind of nice so the
always we usually kind of nice so the bottom line is we got to manage our
bottom line is we got to manage our
bottom line is we got to manage our state still and as a reminder as far as
state still and as a reminder as far as
state still and as a reminder as far as that’s concerned changing state means
that’s concerned changing state means
that’s concerned changing state means change meaning the way you can do it is
change meaning the way you can do it is
change meaning the way you can do it is either by changing your wet anybody
either by changing your wet anybody
either by changing your wet anybody remember who I session change your wife
remember who I session change your wife
remember who I session change your wife change your wet change your physiology
change your wet change your physiology
change your wet change your physiology physiology again means the way you move
physiology again means the way you move
physiology again means the way you move the way you breathe your facial
the way you breathe your facial
the way you breathe your facial expressions your gestures the way to use
expressions your gestures the way to use
expressions your gestures the way to use your body determines the way you feel
your body determines the way you feel
your body determines the way you feel you gotta remember that for the rest of
you gotta remember that for the rest of
you gotta remember that for the rest of your life if you’re not feeling the way
your life if you’re not feeling the way
your life if you’re not feeling the way you want to feel first thing you do is
you want to feel first thing you do is
you want to feel first thing you do is just came to what you’re moving emotion
just came to what you’re moving emotion
just came to what you’re moving emotion is created by what motion emotion is
is created by what motion emotion is
is created by what motion emotion is created by motion there are 50 muscles
created by motion there are 50 muscles
created by motion there are 50 muscles in your face a slight change in me these
in your face a slight change in me these
in your face a slight change in me these muscles will radically change the way
muscles will radically change the way
muscles will radically change the way you feel
you feel
you feel remember we did this last time I think
remember we did this last time I think
remember we did this last time I think what I like you do right now real quick
what I like you do right now real quick
what I like you do right now real quick let’s create some tension in your body
let’s create some tension in your body
let’s create some tension in your body some tension then put a big huge smile
some tension then put a big huge smile
some tension then put a big huge smile on your face while you’re doing it
on your face while you’re doing it
on your face while you’re doing it notice how filled how many feel somewhat
notice how filled how many feel somewhat
notice how filled how many feel somewhat excited when you feel this and he sees
excited when you feel this and he sees
excited when you feel this and he sees our hands
our hands
our hands you know why excitement has tension in
you know why excitement has tension in
you know why excitement has tension in it the only difference is you send a
it the only difference is you send a
it the only difference is you send a different biochemistry in your body to
different biochemistry in your body to
different biochemistry in your body to far-off different bio chemicals when you
far-off different bio chemicals when you
far-off different bio chemicals when you make a smile physically it changes you
make a smile physically it changes you
make a smile physically it changes you want to get depressed what do you do
want to get depressed what do you do
want to get depressed what do you do drop your shoulders look down breathe
drop your shoulders look down breathe
drop your shoulders look down breathe shallow drool I change what you move
shallow drool I change what you move
shallow drool I change what you move some people have limited emotions
some people have limited emotions
some people have limited emotions because they have limited motion they’re
because they have limited motion they’re
because they have limited motion they’re trying to express the feelings they go
trying to express the feelings they go
trying to express the feelings they go have something important you want to
have something important you want to
have something important you want to share with you
share with you
share with you hear me feel me I’m an illness versus
hear me feel me I’m an illness versus
hear me feel me I’m an illness versus listen to me let’s make this happen
listen to me let’s make this happen
listen to me let’s make this happen let’s do this do you understand what I’m
let’s do this do you understand what I’m
let’s do this do you understand what I’m talking about here more emotion you have
talking about here more emotion you have
talking about here more emotion you have the more emotion you have and the
the more emotion you have and the
the more emotion you have and the certain emotions you’re not feeling
certain emotions you’re not feeling
certain emotions you’re not feeling because you’re not making certain
because you’re not making certain
because you’re not making certain movements happen in your face you want
movements happen in your face you want
movements happen in your face you want to change it you want to go for more see
to change it you want to go for more see
to change it you want to go for more see did I mention you last time did we talk
did I mention you last time did we talk
did I mention you last time did we talk about how certain people live together
about how certain people live together
about how certain people live together for a long time to get to look like each
for a long time to get to look like each
for a long time to get to look like each other dimension remember why as an order
other dimension remember why as an order
other dimension remember why as an order be in rapport we like people like us so
be in rapport we like people like us so
be in rapport we like people like us so we mirror back similar facial
we mirror back similar facial
we mirror back similar facial expressions they do it enough when they
expressions they do it enough when they
expressions they do it enough when they literally mold our muscles to me in that
literally mold our muscles to me in that
literally mold our muscles to me in that way we use those kinds of emotions on a
way we use those kinds of emotions on a
way we use those kinds of emotions on a monthly basis a lot of people look like
monthly basis a lot of people look like
monthly basis a lot of people look like their dog I don’t have the explanation
their dog I don’t have the explanation
their dog I don’t have the explanation for the hand I don’t know if they’re
for the hand I don’t know if they’re
for the hand I don’t know if they’re mirroring in that case right there’s a
mirroring in that case right there’s a
mirroring in that case right there’s a big somebody like you’re right let’s see
big somebody like you’re right let’s see
big somebody like you’re right let’s see the thing we got to realize is we’ve got
the thing we got to realize is we’ve got
the thing we got to realize is we’ve got to control our physiology so throughout
to control our physiology so throughout
to control our physiology so throughout this day as last time I want you to
this day as last time I want you to
this day as last time I want you to remember to live at level 10 remember
remember to live at level 10 remember
remember to live at level 10 remember that means living level 10 means you got
that means living level 10 means you got
that means living level 10 means you got to do is ask yourself on a scale of zero
to do is ask yourself on a scale of zero
to do is ask yourself on a scale of zero to ten where’s my level of energy zero
to ten where’s my level of energy zero
to ten where’s my level of energy zero is dead ten is unstoppable which level
is dead ten is unstoppable which level
is dead ten is unstoppable which level is gonna allow you to get more of this
is gonna allow you to get more of this
is gonna allow you to get more of this weekend which 110 without a doubt if
weekend which 110 without a doubt if
weekend which 110 without a doubt if nothing else happens from you coming in
nothing else happens from you coming in
nothing else happens from you coming in these fortune programs but every time
these fortune programs but every time
these fortune programs but every time you get here you demand from yourself
you get here you demand from yourself
you get here you demand from yourself for four days a little level 10 you
for four days a little level 10 you
for four days a little level 10 you think you might develop a little
think you might develop a little
think you might develop a little stronger emotional muscle yes or no and
stronger emotional muscle yes or no and
stronger emotional muscle yes or no and what do you see what used to be hard to
what do you see what used to be hard to
what do you see what used to be hard to do like demanding 10 is the way you live
do like demanding 10 is the way you live
do like demanding 10 is the way you live it’s easy it’s like you can live that
it’s easy it’s like you can live that
it’s easy it’s like you can live that way easy no problem and now you go home
way easy no problem and now you go home
way easy no problem and now you go home you live at that level does that impact
you live at that level does that impact
you live at that level does that impact your patience yes or no does that impact
your patience yes or no does that impact
your patience yes or no does that impact each other and then I office yes or no
each other and then I office yes or no
each other and then I office yes or no does it impact your home life does that
does it impact your home life does that
does it impact your home life does that impact those ecstacy ideas we had about
impact those ecstacy ideas we had about
impact those ecstacy ideas we had about the relationship at home yes see if your
the relationship at home yes see if your
the relationship at home yes see if your level 10 every time with your personal
level 10 every time with your personal
level 10 every time with your personal relationship with that enhance it yes or
relationship with that enhance it yes or
relationship with that enhance it yes or no so how do you determine whether
no so how do you determine whether
no so how do you determine whether you’re at 10 or not you decide to go
you’re at 10 or not you decide to go
you’re at 10 or not you decide to go there and the way you decide to go there
there and the way you decide to go there
there and the way you decide to go there is you gotta ask yourself in regular
is you gotta ask yourself in regular
is you gotta ask yourself in regular basis where am I
basis where am I
basis where am I see I found the more you measure
see I found the more you measure
see I found the more you measure something the better it gets if you
something the better it gets if you
something the better it gets if you don’t measure it you’re not gonna do
don’t measure it you’re not gonna do
don’t measure it you’re not gonna do well you set a goal on New Year’s Eve
well you set a goal on New Year’s Eve
well you set a goal on New Year’s Eve and
and
and next New Year’s you’re in trouble
next New Year’s you’re in trouble
next New Year’s you’re in trouble because he had one correction it was at
because he had one correction it was at
because he had one correction it was at the end of year it’s too late once a
the end of year it’s too late once a
the end of year it’s too late once a month you got a better chance once a
month you got a better chance once a
month you got a better chance once a week you could really have once a day
week you could really have once a day
week you could really have once a day you won’t have a bad year you won’t have
you won’t have a bad year you won’t have
you won’t have a bad year you won’t have a bad month wish it was a bad day more
a bad month wish it was a bad day more
a bad month wish it was a bad day more we measure the better we get so we’ve
we measure the better we get so we’ve
we measure the better we get so we’ve got to do is ask yourself where are we
got to do is ask yourself where are we
got to do is ask yourself where are we on a scale from zero to ten where are
on a scale from zero to ten where are
on a scale from zero to ten where are you right now
you right now
you right now let’s go from zero to ten hmm sit right
let’s go from zero to ten hmm sit right
let’s go from zero to ten hmm sit right now like you would if you’re at level 10
now like you would if you’re at level 10
now like you would if you’re at level 10 yeah that’s clear you weren’t a 10 mm
yeah that’s clear you weren’t a 10 mm
yeah that’s clear you weren’t a 10 mm isn’t it come on so the way you’d be at
isn’t it come on so the way you’d be at
isn’t it come on so the way you’d be at level 10 I mean Ashley totally energized
level 10 I mean Ashley totally energized
level 10 I mean Ashley totally energized excited having fun being outrageous and
excited having fun being outrageous and
excited having fun being outrageous and playful super leave you’re sitting right
playful super leave you’re sitting right
playful super leave you’re sitting right now for your level 10 come on and most
now for your level 10 come on and most
now for your level 10 come on and most oh you’re not a 10 come on come on this
oh you’re not a 10 come on come on this
oh you’re not a 10 come on come on this is not 10 let me see 10 here come on
is not 10 let me see 10 here come on
is not 10 let me see 10 here come on even more energy come on most of you
even more energy come on most of you
even more energy come on most of you will probably have to make some noise or
will probably have to make some noise or
will probably have to make some noise or somebody body you to level 10 come on
somebody body you to level 10 come on
somebody body you to level 10 come on wake you back up come on come on come on
wake you back up come on come on come on
wake you back up come on come on come on come on come on come on
[Applause]
[Applause] now this is level 10 now go to level 2
and imagine trying to learn in this pace
and imagine trying to learn in this pace for the next three days go back to level
for the next three days go back to level
for the next three days go back to level [Applause]
[Applause]
[Applause] now I want you to commit you’re not
now I want you to commit you’re not
now I want you to commit you’re not going to drop below level 8 for the rest
going to drop below level 8 for the rest
going to drop below level 8 for the rest of weekend are you gonna do that yes or
of weekend are you gonna do that yes or
of weekend are you gonna do that yes or no yes or no
no yes or no
no yes or no great now if it’s tough to stay at level
great now if it’s tough to stay at level
great now if it’s tough to stay at level 10 you want to put yourself to level 20
10 you want to put yourself to level 20
10 you want to put yourself to level 20 so just as a reminder stand up remember
so just as a reminder stand up remember
so just as a reminder stand up remember we do this put ourselves in a yes state
we do this put ourselves in a yes state
we do this put ourselves in a yes state all remember what that means good then
all remember what that means good then
all remember what that means good then what I want you to do right now is take
what I want you to do right now is take
what I want you to do right now is take off your jacket you have that not your
off your jacket you have that not your
off your jacket you have that not your blouse ma’am just the jacket now we’re
blouse ma’am just the jacket now we’re
blouse ma’am just the jacket now we’re gonna put ourselves in that yes state
gonna put ourselves in that yes state
gonna put ourselves in that yes state we’re gonna put ourselves in that state
we’re gonna put ourselves in that state
we’re gonna put ourselves in that state I talked about last time number I gave
I talked about last time number I gave
I talked about last time number I gave you a metaphor the last time we were
you a metaphor the last time we were
you a metaphor the last time we were together a reminder I said there’s a
together a reminder I said there’s a
together a reminder I said there’s a puddle of water here in front of me and
puddle of water here in front of me and
puddle of water here in front of me and I’m an old person I got out of that
I’m an old person I got out of that
I’m an old person I got out of that water what will I do now and I just walk
water what will I do now and I just walk
water what will I do now and I just walk around it I’ll walk around it and bitch
around it I’ll walk around it and bitch
around it I’ll walk around it and bitch about it while I walk around it okay but
about it while I walk around it okay but
about it while I walk around it okay but if I’m a kid how do I deal with a puddle
if I’m a kid how do I deal with a puddle
if I’m a kid how do I deal with a puddle yes little mats the state we’re going in
yes little mats the state we’re going in
yes little mats the state we’re going in all those we’ll do that for the weekend
all those we’ll do that for the weekend
all those we’ll do that for the weekend say aye
say aye
say aye if you were in that state and somebody
if you were in that state and somebody
if you were in that state and somebody like team Long’s again how do kids feel
like team Long’s again how do kids feel
like team Long’s again how do kids feel with that you
with that you
with that you would that be a healthy response thing
would that be a healthy response thing
would that be a healthy response thing on this okay looking for new ways to
on this okay looking for new ways to
on this okay looking for new ways to hiss and get this worsen would that be
hiss and get this worsen would that be
hiss and get this worsen would that be more healthy yes or no sure it’s more
more healthy yes or no sure it’s more
more healthy yes or no sure it’s more playful tomorrow outrageous next time
playful tomorrow outrageous next time
playful tomorrow outrageous next time somebody is real bitchy just you real
somebody is real bitchy just you real
somebody is real bitchy just you real bitchy back we’ll do it funny well that
bitchy back we’ll do it funny well that
bitchy back we’ll do it funny well that break their bad yeah your mic gets them
break their bad yeah your mic gets them
break their bad yeah your mic gets them off even more well at least we’re moving
off even more well at least we’re moving
off even more well at least we’re moving them in some direction so when I say now
them in some direction so when I say now
them in some direction so when I say now what you’re gonna do is you’re gonna
what you’re gonna do is you’re gonna
what you’re gonna do is you’re gonna wake your body up like a little kid
wake your body up like a little kid
wake your body up like a little kid again you gonna scream wait wait wait
again you gonna scream wait wait wait
again you gonna scream wait wait wait yeah screaming yelling be totally
yeah screaming yelling be totally
yeah screaming yelling be totally outrageous like a kid if you want here
outrageous like a kid if you want here
outrageous like a kid if you want here before you’ll catch on quick then at the
before you’ll catch on quick then at the
before you’ll catch on quick then at the peak of our being totally bizarre weird
peak of our being totally bizarre weird
peak of our being totally bizarre weird outrageous playful seductive fun
outrageous playful seductive fun
outrageous playful seductive fun adventurous and outrageous again we’re
adventurous and outrageous again we’re
adventurous and outrageous again we’re gonna do at the peak and Adams are gonna
gonna do at the peak and Adams are gonna
gonna do at the peak and Adams are gonna go and rock my hands and say they will
go and rock my hands and say they will
go and rock my hands and say they will guess right at that moment and when you
guess right at that moment and when you
guess right at that moment and when you copy insane say yes at that moment your
copy insane say yes at that moment your
copy insane say yes at that moment your job is getting more energy more
job is getting more energy more
job is getting more energy more excitement more outrageous just in the
excitement more outrageous just in the
excitement more outrageous just in the moment before with a faster and faster
moment before with a faster and faster
moment before with a faster and faster the amble to the world clap what I want
the amble to the world clap what I want
the amble to the world clap what I want you to do is go to level 20 on this on a
you to do is go to level 20 on this on a
you to do is go to level 20 on this on a scale from zero to ten you’re gonna go
scale from zero to ten you’re gonna go
scale from zero to ten you’re gonna go to level 20 even that’s impossible
to level 20 even that’s impossible
to level 20 even that’s impossible that’s why we’re going to do it it’s
that’s why we’re going to do it it’s
that’s why we’re going to do it it’s also once you been to level 20 level 10
also once you been to level 20 level 10
also once you been to level 20 level 10 feels like you’re relaxing by contrast
feels like you’re relaxing by contrast
feels like you’re relaxing by contrast okay first let’s just try the word yes
okay first let’s just try the word yes
okay first let’s just try the word yes strongly no side feels again ready now
strongly no side feels again ready now
strongly no side feels again ready now let’s put it all together he won’t get
let’s put it all together he won’t get
let’s put it all together he won’t get again the outrageous traits an energy
again the outrageous traits an energy
again the outrageous traits an energy come on
[Applause]
[Applause] now how many of you how many learn at
now how many of you how many learn at
now how many of you how many learn at level three now some of you here for the
level three now some of you here for the
level three now some of you here for the first time know what have I got myself
first time know what have I got myself
first time know what have I got myself into it’s a cult
into it’s a cult
into it’s a cult if the yes cult now how do you get a
if the yes cult now how do you get a
if the yes cult now how do you get a mouthful you push yourself beyond what’s
mouthful you push yourself beyond what’s
mouthful you push yourself beyond what’s comfortable and you do it consistently
comfortable and you do it consistently
comfortable and you do it consistently and that creates growth so we’re gonna
and that creates growth so we’re gonna
and that creates growth so we’re gonna do it again I barely survived the first
do it again I barely survived the first
do it again I barely survived the first one let’s ride again ready waiting by
one let’s ride again ready waiting by
one let’s ride again ready waiting by the air be outrageous tomorrow
the air be outrageous tomorrow
the air be outrageous tomorrow [Applause]
[Applause]
[Applause] now in this state what some of you have
now in this state what some of you have
now in this state what some of you have some petty upset with you could you
some petty upset with you could you
some petty upset with you could you handle it gray didn’t get a bouncing
handle it gray didn’t get a bouncing
handle it gray didn’t get a bouncing hugs when the person next to you grab a
hugs when the person next to you grab a
hugs when the person next to you grab a seat
seat
seat [Applause]
and a seat hi we said there were two
and a seat hi we said there were two ways though that we could change our
ways though that we could change our
ways though that we could change our state one was to change our what now
state one was to change our what now
state one was to change our what now nice and loud or the other is to change
nice and loud or the other is to change
nice and loud or the other is to change our focus change the way we’re
our focus change the way we’re
our focus change the way we’re representing things to ourselves like
representing things to ourselves like
representing things to ourselves like picturing things that are had is one way
picturing things that are had is one way
picturing things that are had is one way we focus somebody have to show up on
we focus somebody have to show up on
we focus somebody have to show up on time we picture our head I’ll see why
time we picture our head I’ll see why
time we picture our head I’ll see why cuz they’re out there messing around
cuz they’re out there messing around
cuz they’re out there messing around does it don’t care about me cuz this and
does it don’t care about me cuz this and
does it don’t care about me cuz this and this and this another what we focus is
this and this another what we focus is
this and this another what we focus is by what we say to ourselves we represent
by what we say to ourselves we represent
by what we say to ourselves we represent oh well they’re not doing it probably
oh well they’re not doing it probably
oh well they’re not doing it probably cuz they don’t really love me we talk to
cuz they don’t really love me we talk to
cuz they don’t really love me we talk to ourselves in certain ways
ourselves in certain ways
ourselves in certain ways the kettle’s negative feelings but if we
the kettle’s negative feelings but if we
the kettle’s negative feelings but if we change what we focus on we change what
change what we focus on we change what
change what we focus on we change what we feel if you think of something you’re
we feel if you think of something you’re
we feel if you think of something you’re afraid of and you focus on it we feel it
afraid of and you focus on it we feel it
afraid of and you focus on it we feel it you bet if you wanted to feel depressed
you bet if you wanted to feel depressed
you bet if you wanted to feel depressed right now how many can pull it off no
right now how many can pull it off no
right now how many can pull it off no problem how would you do it you remember
problem how would you do it you remember
problem how would you do it you remember don’t you little reminder here just put
don’t you little reminder here just put
don’t you little reminder here just put yourself in a lousy physiology or easily
yourself in a lousy physiology or easily
yourself in a lousy physiology or easily by the way you could do the course mess
by the way you could do the course mess
by the way you could do the course mess up your biochemistry eat in a way that
up your biochemistry eat in a way that
up your biochemistry eat in a way that dropped your blood sugar do the floor or
dropped your blood sugar do the floor or
dropped your blood sugar do the floor or else good you pull it off all you have
else good you pull it off all you have
else good you pull it off all you have to do is think of something that once
to do is think of something that once
to do is think of something that once happened that made you feel bad
happened that made you feel bad
happened that made you feel bad something I’m gonna pass and remember it
something I’m gonna pass and remember it
something I’m gonna pass and remember it again that seems very intelligent
again that seems very intelligent
again that seems very intelligent doesn’t it feel bad about it once again
doesn’t it feel bad about it once again
doesn’t it feel bad about it once again how many of you would go to a movie that
how many of you would go to a movie that
how many of you would go to a movie that was terrible over and over and over and
was terrible over and over and over and
was terrible over and over and over and over again how many would think that
over again how many would think that
over again how many would think that would be real intelligent let me see
would be real intelligent let me see
would be real intelligent let me see your hands if you look what are your
your hands if you look what are your
your hands if you look what are your friend said yeah it was what I hate
friend said yeah it was what I hate
friend said yeah it was what I hate sucks I’m going back there again
sucks I’m going back there again
sucks I’m going back there again the Guam intention is not about
the Guam intention is not about
the Guam intention is not about 4-thousand what would you probably ask
4-thousand what would you probably ask
4-thousand what would you probably ask them why would you go back there well
them why would you go back there well
them why would you go back there well because I have to would you believe them
because I have to would you believe them
because I have to would you believe them I don’t believe you either
I don’t believe you either
I don’t believe you either when you tell me that but I always
when you tell me that but I always
when you tell me that but I always believe in you because I know you know
believe in you because I know you know
believe in you because I know you know better you don’t need to go those movies
better you don’t need to go those movies
better you don’t need to go those movies anymore don’t want to miss anyway made
anymore don’t want to miss anyway made
anymore don’t want to miss anyway made by poor directors lousy writers lousy
by poor directors lousy writers lousy
by poor directors lousy writers lousy producers you’re a better producer
producers you’re a better producer
producers you’re a better producer director and writer now you’re probably
director and writer now you’re probably
director and writer now you’re probably a better actor or actress so why not
a better actor or actress so why not
a better actor or actress so why not create it the way you want it it’s the
create it the way you want it it’s the
create it the way you want it it’s the scene the same old movies over and over
scene the same old movies over and over
scene the same old movies over and over again most producers I know don’t sit
again most producers I know don’t sit
again most producers I know don’t sit and watch their worst movies over and
and watch their worst movies over and
and watch their worst movies over and over and over again and feel bad about
over and over again and feel bad about
over and over again and feel bad about them again the most of those they go
them again the most of those they go
them again the most of those they go that was part of my learning experience
that was part of my learning experience
that was part of my learning experience time to move on how else could you feel
time to move on how else could you feel
time to move on how else could you feel bad by the way you can do it currently
bad by the way you can do it currently
bad by the way you can do it currently couldn’t you all you have to do is think
couldn’t you all you have to do is think
couldn’t you all you have to do is think of something you think you’ve lost that
of something you think you’ve lost that
of something you think you’ve lost that maybe hasn’t even happened well think of
maybe hasn’t even happened well think of
maybe hasn’t even happened well think of something that you want but you’re not
something that you want but you’re not
something that you want but you’re not getting right now feel bad about it or
getting right now feel bad about it or
getting right now feel bad about it or you could think of something it hasn’t
you could think of something it hasn’t
you could think of something it hasn’t even happened yet and feel bad about it
even happened yet and feel bad about it
even happened yet and feel bad about it in advance
in advance
can you do that like oh my god and focus
can you do that like oh my god and focus on what if this happens Oh Oh feels
on what if this happens Oh Oh feels
on what if this happens Oh Oh feels they’re low gosh remember a coward dies
they’re low gosh remember a coward dies
they’re low gosh remember a coward dies a thousand deaths a courageous man or
a thousand deaths a courageous man or
a thousand deaths a courageous man or woman only once
because a coward runs through the head
because a coward runs through the head of it eight million times it feels like
of it eight million times it feels like
of it eight million times it feels like they’re dying a million times you have
they’re dying a million times you have
they’re dying a million times you have any faith and he courage that if it
any faith and he courage that if it
any faith and he courage that if it really ever does happen you’ll just deal
really ever does happen you’ll just deal
really ever does happen you’ll just deal with it once you feel the pain only one
with it once you feel the pain only one
with it once you feel the pain only one time sort of stacked over and over and
time sort of stacked over and over and
time sort of stacked over and over and over and over again if you want to feel
over and over again if you want to feel
over and over again if you want to feel good could you do that sure would the
good could you do that sure would the
good could you do that sure would the producer go back to some of their best
producer go back to some of their best
producer go back to some of their best movies and see them again do you think
movies and see them again do you think
movies and see them again do you think yes or no will they even share some of
yes or no will they even share some of
yes or no will they even share some of those movies are their friends you know
those movies are their friends you know
those movies are their friends you know what some people do some people actually
what some people do some people actually
what some people do some people actually take the worst moves to the past and go
take the worst moves to the past and go
take the worst moves to the past and go share them with their friends their
share them with their friends their
share them with their friends their worst movies tell them all about all the
worst movies tell them all about all the
worst movies tell them all about all the gory details of it in franklin’s yeah
gory details of it in franklin’s yeah
gory details of it in franklin’s yeah that’s really great let’s see a real
that’s really great let’s see a real
that’s really great let’s see a real great producer director shows in their
great producer director shows in their
great producer director shows in their current films shows them some examples
current films shows them some examples
current films shows them some examples of films that about to come called
of films that about to come called
of films that about to come called previews previews are rather exciting
previews previews are rather exciting
previews previews are rather exciting usually or they show them about storms
usually or they show them about storms
usually or they show them about storms of the past and share those with so the
of the past and share those with so the
of the past and share those with so the people get to enjoy more of their life
you could member something once happened
you could member something once happened it was great feel good about it you can
it was great feel good about it you can
it was great feel good about it you can think something right now that you can
think something right now that you can
think something right now that you can feel great about or you can think of
feel great about or you can think of
feel great about or you can think of something hasn’t even happened yet and
something hasn’t even happened yet and
something hasn’t even happened yet and feel good about it in advance what
feel good about it in advance what
feel good about it in advance what determines what you focus on though is
determines what you focus on though is
determines what you focus on though is one thing the questions you ask yourself
one thing the questions you ask yourself
one thing the questions you ask yourself the questions you ask yourself determine
the questions you ask yourself determine
the questions you ask yourself determine what you focus on in that moment what
what you focus on in that moment what
what you focus on in that moment what questions you ask are usually controlled
questions you ask are usually controlled
questions you ask are usually controlled by your beliefs but you could ask any
by your beliefs but you could ask any
by your beliefs but you could ask any question but unless you do it
question but unless you do it
question but unless you do it consciously you’ll just ask the same
consciously you’ll just ask the same
consciously you’ll just ask the same questions that are in line with your old
questions that are in line with your old
questions that are in line with your old beliefs your old es belief systems so
beliefs your old es belief systems so
beliefs your old es belief systems so the bottom line is you gotta have better
the bottom line is you gotta have better
the bottom line is you gotta have better questions and I will tell you the
questions and I will tell you the
questions and I will tell you the question I want you to learn to ask the
question I want you to learn to ask the
question I want you to learn to ask the next time you get upset with someone
next time you get upset with someone
next time you get upset with someone this is the first question I would ask
this is the first question I would ask
this is the first question I would ask myself if I were you what else could
myself if I were you what else could
myself if I were you what else could this mean what else could this mean I
this mean what else could this mean I
this mean what else could this mean I will know a person is intelligent when
will know a person is intelligent when
will know a person is intelligent when they say this is this happened I sort of
they say this is this happened I sort of
they say this is this happened I sort of get upset then I thought to myself well
get upset then I thought to myself well
get upset then I thought to myself well what else could this mean you know maybe
what else could this mean you know maybe
what else could this mean you know maybe it doesn’t mean what I think it means
it doesn’t mean what I think it means
it doesn’t mean what I think it means maybe they weren’t really being harsh
maybe they weren’t really being harsh
maybe they weren’t really being harsh maybe what means is their stress maybe
maybe what means is their stress maybe
maybe what means is their stress maybe what I’m hearing from this person about
what I’m hearing from this person about
what I’m hearing from this person about what they said about me is not true
what they said about me is not true
what they said about me is not true maybe what it really is is a distortion
maybe what it really is is a distortion
maybe what it really is is a distortion not that they mean to distort but it’s a
not that they mean to distort but it’s a
not that they mean to distort but it’s a distortion maybe what I’ve heard this
distortion maybe what I’ve heard this
distortion maybe what I’ve heard this person said about me as a deletion maybe
person said about me as a deletion maybe
person said about me as a deletion maybe this person is generalizing maybe this
this person is generalizing maybe this
this person is generalizing maybe this person heard through somebody else maybe
person heard through somebody else maybe
person heard through somebody else maybe that person misinterpreted what I said
that person misinterpreted what I said
that person misinterpreted what I said maybe this whole thing isn’t accurate
maybe this whole thing isn’t accurate
maybe this whole thing isn’t accurate maybe it’s accurate but they’re stressed
maybe it’s accurate but they’re stressed
maybe it’s accurate but they’re stressed maybe I’m just stressed right now maybe
maybe I’m just stressed right now maybe
maybe I’m just stressed right now maybe what this really means is I’m stressed I
what this really means is I’m stressed I
what this really means is I’m stressed I need to get more resourceful and be more
need to get more resourceful and be more
need to get more resourceful and be more loving and I can handle maybe what this
loving and I can handle maybe what this
loving and I can handle maybe what this is what this means is this is a chance
is what this means is this is a chance
is what this means is this is a chance for me to go to the next level what else
for me to go to the next level what else
for me to go to the next level what else could this mean you’re only upset when
could this mean you’re only upset when
could this mean you’re only upset when you’ve decided on a meaning that creates
you’ve decided on a meaning that creates
you’ve decided on a meaning that creates of upset so if you’re feeling upset what
of upset so if you’re feeling upset what
of upset so if you’re feeling upset what else could this mean cuz again how many
else could this mean cuz again how many
else could this mean cuz again how many of you have ever thought something meant
of you have ever thought something meant
of you have ever thought something meant something I’ve been upset about it later
something I’ve been upset about it later
something I’ve been upset about it later I’m fine you were wrong how many have
I’m fine you were wrong how many have
I’m fine you were wrong how many have done this so wouldn’t be smart as a
done this so wouldn’t be smart as a
done this so wouldn’t be smart as a first step to always ask what else could
first step to always ask what else could
first step to always ask what else could this mean and search for other
this mean and search for other
this mean and search for other possibilities see with my friends I
possibilities see with my friends I
possibilities see with my friends I always do this if I care about somebody
always do this if I care about somebody
always do this if I care about somebody I always do this and what I learn to do
I always do this and what I learn to do
I always do this and what I learn to do is he would people I didn’t so much care
is he would people I didn’t so much care
is he would people I didn’t so much care about or didn’t even know
about or didn’t even know
about or didn’t even know what else goodness me see that makes
what else goodness me see that makes
what else goodness me see that makes your whole life open up and expand see
your whole life open up and expand see
your whole life open up and expand see once you think you know what everything
once you think you know what everything
once you think you know what everything means you’re in deep trouble cuz then
means you’re in deep trouble cuz then
means you’re in deep trouble cuz then you’re a kid you don’t happen you just
you’re a kid you don’t happen you just
you’re a kid you don’t happen you just have this big giant doorway but then you
have this big giant doorway but then you
have this big giant doorway but then you became an adult and you notice the door
became an adult and you notice the door
became an adult and you notice the door you started to say I know how this door
you started to say I know how this door
you started to say I know how this door works and you closed it a little bit he
works and you closed it a little bit he
works and you closed it a little bit he said I know in the world isn’t closed
said I know in the world isn’t closed
said I know in the world isn’t closed the more I know the world is and pretty
the more I know the world is and pretty
the more I know the world is and pretty soon now you know how the world is you
soon now you know how the world is you
soon now you know how the world is you absolutely know how the world would see
absolutely know how the world would see
absolutely know how the world would see when your kid you didn’t know how the
when your kid you didn’t know how the
when your kid you didn’t know how the world was it was just amazing how big
world was it was just amazing how big
world was it was just amazing how big the world was because amazing how much
the world was because amazing how much
the world was because amazing how much wonder that was in the world and what
wonder that was in the world and what
wonder that was in the world and what you could learn how much you grow
you could learn how much you grow
you could learn how much you grow stimulated you where you stimulate about
stimulated you where you stimulate about
stimulated you where you stimulate about all kinds of things because you didn’t
all kinds of things because you didn’t
all kinds of things because you didn’t know for sure what everything was you’re
know for sure what everything was you’re
know for sure what everything was you’re always curious about what things were
always curious about what things were
always curious about what things were good as an adult you now know what
good as an adult you now know what
good as an adult you now know what everything is and it doesn’t fit in
everything is and it doesn’t fit in
everything is and it doesn’t fit in there it’s wrong
we want to open a door back open by
we want to open a door back open by saying well yeah but what else could it
saying well yeah but what else could it
saying well yeah but what else could it mean what else could it mean what else
mean what else could it mean what else
mean what else could it mean what else could it mean what else could it mean
could it mean what else could it mean
could it mean what else could it mean what else could it mean a little freer
what else could it mean a little freer
what else could it mean a little freer [Music]
[Music]
[Music] got a question I tend to ask myself is
got a question I tend to ask myself is
got a question I tend to ask myself is do I know everything there is to know
do I know everything there is to know
do I know everything there is to know about this do I know everything there is
about this do I know everything there is
about this do I know everything there is to know about this somebody says
to know about this somebody says
to know about this somebody says something to you they’re really upset
something to you they’re really upset
something to you they’re really upset with you or somebody reads your voice
with you or somebody reads your voice
with you or somebody reads your voice I mean say me what else could it mean
I mean say me what else could it mean
I mean say me what else could it mean well I mean their stress could mean an
well I mean their stress could mean an
well I mean their stress could mean an understand could mean they don’t even
understand could mean they don’t even
understand could mean they don’t even realize they’re yelling could mean that
realize they’re yelling could mean that
realize they’re yelling could mean that they need some support could mean what I
they need some support could mean what I
they need some support could mean what I know it means it’s a cry for help could
know it means it’s a cry for help could
know it means it’s a cry for help could mean that I’m oversensitive right now
mean that I’m oversensitive right now
mean that I’m oversensitive right now could mean that I react to voice
could mean that I react to voice
could mean that I react to voice tonality instead of real feelings could
tonality instead of real feelings could
tonality instead of real feelings could mean that could mean nothing could just
mean that could mean nothing could just
mean that could mean nothing could just be something that came to win do I know
be something that came to win do I know
be something that came to win do I know everything there is to know about this
everything there is to know about this
everything there is to know about this no I don’t know everything guys know
no I don’t know everything guys know
no I don’t know everything guys know about this I mean there’s all kinds of
about this I mean there’s all kinds of
about this I mean there’s all kinds of things could be going on I don’t know
things could be going on I don’t know
things could be going on I don’t know open your world again we’re gonna teach
open your world again we’re gonna teach
open your world again we’re gonna teach you to do this in a format that makes
you to do this in a format that makes
you to do this in a format that makes sense now the thing that happens though
sense now the thing that happens though
sense now the thing that happens though if we want to be able to really take
if we want to be able to really take
if we want to be able to really take control of our meaning is we gotta pay
control of our meaning is we gotta pay
control of our meaning is we gotta pay attention to our emotion so in your
attention to our emotion so in your
attention to our emotion so in your notes write down emotions under emotions
notes write down emotions under emotions
notes write down emotions under emotions well in fact you might want to write the
well in fact you might want to write the
well in fact you might want to write the word negative emotions negative emotions
word negative emotions negative emotions
word negative emotions negative emotions negative emotions and then a seizure
negative emotions and then a seizure
negative emotions and then a seizure write it down cross it out the word
write it down cross it out the word
write it down cross it out the word negative anyway
negative anyway
negative anyway what are some of your negative emotions
what are some of your negative emotions
what are some of your negative emotions tell me what they are fear without Tommy
tell me what they are fear without Tommy
tell me what they are fear without Tommy hates what else anger what else
hates what else anger what else
hates what else anger what else guilt what else worry what else upset
guilt what else worry what else upset
guilt what else worry what else upset guilt
guilt
guilt what else frustration I got a question
what else frustration I got a question
what else frustration I got a question for you
for you
for you are they really negative I’m gonna tell
are they really negative I’m gonna tell
are they really negative I’m gonna tell you there’s no way they’re negative
you there’s no way they’re negative
you there’s no way they’re negative every emotion you’ve ever had in your
every emotion you’ve ever had in your
every emotion you’ve ever had in your life serves a purpose the problem the
life serves a purpose the problem the
life serves a purpose the problem the reason it’s negative is you’ve been
reason it’s negative is you’ve been
reason it’s negative is you’ve been calling it negative instead of getting
calling it negative instead of getting
calling it negative instead of getting the message that’s been trying to give
the message that’s been trying to give
the message that’s been trying to give you every emotion you have including
you every emotion you have including
you every emotion you have including those you think of as negative those are
those you think of as negative those are
those you think of as negative those are ones you call negative emotions I call
ones you call negative emotions I call
ones you call negative emotions I call them emotional messages I also call them
them emotional messages I also call them
them emotional messages I also call them calls to action all those negative
calls to action all those negative
calls to action all those negative emotions is used to label them I really
emotions is used to label them I really
emotions is used to label them I really call to action fear is a call to action
call to action fear is a call to action
call to action fear is a call to action by the way do you feel that call to
by the way do you feel that call to
by the way do you feel that call to action in your body when you’re afraid
action in your body when you’re afraid
action in your body when you’re afraid yes or no does your adrenaline start
yes or no does your adrenaline start
yes or no does your adrenaline start pumping your whole system start gearing
pumping your whole system start gearing
pumping your whole system start gearing up emotions are a call to action and the
up emotions are a call to action and the
up emotions are a call to action and the call to action says one of the two
call to action says one of the two
call to action says one of the two things has to happen that call am action
things has to happen that call am action
things has to happen that call am action it’s a message every emotion is a
it’s a message every emotion is a
it’s a message every emotion is a message a call to action and the action
message a call to action and the action
message a call to action and the action of the message is trying to give you is
of the message is trying to give you is
of the message is trying to give you is that you need to change either number
that you need to change either number
that you need to change either number one your perception of this or number
one your perception of this or number
one your perception of this or number two your current actions every negative
two your current actions every negative
two your current actions every negative emotion you’ve ever felt is not negative
emotion you’ve ever felt is not negative
emotion you’ve ever felt is not negative now you may be overusing them I’ll agree
now you may be overusing them I’ll agree
now you may be overusing them I’ll agree with you you may be indulging in them I
with you you may be indulging in them I
with you you may be indulging in them I agree with you you may not be getting
agree with you you may not be getting
agree with you you may not be getting the message from them what’s making it
the message from them what’s making it
the message from them what’s making it negative is you’re not getting the
negative is you’re not getting the
negative is you’re not getting the message it’s trying to give you but
message it’s trying to give you but
message it’s trying to give you but every emotion fear frustration hate
every emotion fear frustration hate
every emotion fear frustration hate anger guilt all of those emotions are
anger guilt all of those emotions are
anger guilt all of those emotions are here to serve you if you get quick the
here to serve you if you get quick the
here to serve you if you get quick the message what most of us do is we just
message what most of us do is we just
message what most of us do is we just indulge in the emotion so we never get
indulge in the emotion so we never get
indulge in the emotion so we never get the message and that’s why it’s a
the message and that’s why it’s a
the message and that’s why it’s a negative because it starts screwing up
negative because it starts screwing up
negative because it starts screwing up your body because what it is is a signal
your body because what it is is a signal
your body because what it is is a signal signal the act and you’re not acting
signal the act and you’re not acting
signal the act and you’re not acting that’s why you feel sick to your stomach
that’s why you feel sick to your stomach
that’s why you feel sick to your stomach you’re not acne just keep on indulging
you’re not acne just keep on indulging
you’re not acne just keep on indulging emotion not hearing the message so the
emotion not hearing the message so the
emotion not hearing the message so the message is always you must change
message is always you must change
message is always you must change something negative emotions are saying
something negative emotions are saying
something negative emotions are saying you got to change something either
you got to change something either
you got to change something either change the way you’re proceeding this
change the way you’re proceeding this
change the way you’re proceeding this change the meaning you linked to this
change the meaning you linked to this
change the meaning you linked to this change your perception change your focus
change your perception change your focus
change your perception change your focus or change your actions change what
or change your actions change what
or change your actions change what you’re doing because
you’re doing because
you’re doing because working that’s why you’re having that
working that’s why you’re having that
working that’s why you’re having that emotion
emotion
emotion don’t make your motions wrong I
don’t make your motions wrong I
don’t make your motions wrong I appreciate them be grateful for them but
appreciate them be grateful for them but
appreciate them be grateful for them but immediately then ask yourself hey what’s
immediately then ask yourself hey what’s
immediately then ask yourself hey what’s the message that my emotions trying to
the message that my emotions trying to
the message that my emotions trying to give me here what do I need to change
give me here what do I need to change
give me here what do I need to change I’m reception of my actions this makes
I’m reception of my actions this makes
I’m reception of my actions this makes sense yes ma’am so then how do we make
sense yes ma’am so then how do we make
sense yes ma’am so then how do we make use of it well first of all notice this
use of it well first of all notice this
use of it well first of all notice this how do most of us deal with our emotions
how do most of us deal with our emotions
how do most of us deal with our emotions most of us deal with our emotions by
most of us deal with our emotions by
most of us deal with our emotions by suppressing them fact before you write
suppressing them fact before you write
suppressing them fact before you write that down actually I put over here four
that down actually I put over here four
that down actually I put over here four ways to deal with emotions four ways to
ways to deal with emotions four ways to
ways to deal with emotions four ways to deal with emotions I think the number
deal with emotions I think the number
deal with emotions I think the number one way most people do with their
one way most people do with their
one way most people do with their emotions as they try to avoid them by
emotions as they try to avoid them by
emotions as they try to avoid them by the way how effective is that no you
the way how effective is that no you
the way how effective is that no you might do it for a moment or two but most
might do it for a moment or two but most
might do it for a moment or two but most people they just try to avoid feeling
people they just try to avoid feeling
people they just try to avoid feeling isn’t that true people like who don’t
isn’t that true people like who don’t
isn’t that true people like who don’t like the beaten egg if theirs is so
like the beaten egg if theirs is so
like the beaten egg if theirs is so afraid of maybe things I try not to feel
afraid of maybe things I try not to feel
afraid of maybe things I try not to feel any feelings now if you don’t feel any
any feelings now if you don’t feel any
any feelings now if you don’t feel any feelings you really gonna have some pain
feelings you really gonna have some pain
feelings you really gonna have some pain that’s what wife is for life is part of
that’s what wife is for life is part of
that’s what wife is for life is part of the juice of life is expressing and
the juice of life is expressing and
the juice of life is expressing and feeling but sometimes people have so
feeling but sometimes people have so
feeling but sometimes people have so much pain they say I don’t wanna feel
much pain they say I don’t wanna feel
much pain they say I don’t wanna feel anything it never works because
anything it never works because
anything it never works because eventually it comes out anyway and then
eventually it comes out anyway and then
eventually it comes out anyway and then you feel bad about never having felt bad
you feel bad about never having felt bad
you feel bad about never having felt bad you feel bad about the fact you didn’t
you feel bad about the fact you didn’t
you feel bad about the fact you didn’t feel good you have a sense of loss
feel good you have a sense of loss
feel good you have a sense of loss because you didn’t feel things second
because you didn’t feel things second
because you didn’t feel things second way people try and deal with emotions is
way people try and deal with emotions is
way people try and deal with emotions is they endure them they’re gonna grunt it
they endure them they’re gonna grunt it
they endure them they’re gonna grunt it out we render these I’m gonna make it
out we render these I’m gonna make it
out we render these I’m gonna make it through this I’ll hang on to this and
through this I’ll hang on to this and
through this I’ll hang on to this and again this doesn’t work now let me try
again this doesn’t work now let me try
again this doesn’t work now let me try and disassociate after a while here
and disassociate after a while here
and disassociate after a while here again or they may try and suppress the
again or they may try and suppress the
again or they may try and suppress the emotion I’ll just endure it I’ll just
emotion I’ll just endure it I’ll just
emotion I’ll just endure it I’ll just keep pushing it down and I’ll make it
keep pushing it down and I’ll make it
keep pushing it down and I’ll make it through it I’ll just endure it that
through it I’ll just endure it that
through it I’ll just endure it that doesn’t make it better either Third Way
doesn’t make it better either Third Way
doesn’t make it better either Third Way but some people do I don’t know if
but some people do I don’t know if
but some people do I don’t know if you’ve ever seen this happen I’m sure
you’ve ever seen this happen I’m sure
you’ve ever seen this happen I’m sure you’ve never done this
you’ve never done this
you’ve never done this people compete to see who feels the
people compete to see who feels the
people compete to see who feels the worst some people do they keep track of
worst some people do they keep track of
worst some people do they keep track of their emotions so they can share them
their emotions so they can share them
their emotions so they can share them with other people and compete so
with other people and compete so
with other people and compete so somebody’s out man I feel like hell oh
somebody’s out man I feel like hell oh
somebody’s out man I feel like hell oh you feel like hell let me tell you idea
you feel like hell let me tell you idea
you feel like hell let me tell you idea you think you got a problem let me tell
you think you got a problem let me tell
you think you got a problem let me tell you my problem you think you got the
you my problem you think you got the
you my problem you think you got the biggest problem check out my problem it
biggest problem check out my problem it
biggest problem check out my problem it stands out to here and people sit there
stands out to here and people sit there
stands out to here and people sit there and try and argue about who’s got the
and try and argue about who’s got the
and try and argue about who’s got the worst problem well the fourth thing they
worst problem well the fourth thing they
worst problem well the fourth thing they don’t have up there that say the fourth
don’t have up there that say the fourth
don’t have up there that say the fourth thing that people do is try and share
thing that people do is try and share
thing that people do is try and share their pain share their problem think oh
their pain share their problem think oh
their pain share their problem think oh I get rid of my motion by sharing with
I get rid of my motion by sharing with
I get rid of my motion by sharing with others they try and get other people to
others they try and get other people to
others they try and get other people to feel bad too that way we’ll be friends
feel bad too that way we’ll be friends
feel bad too that way we’ll be friends we can share in the pain together let us
we can share in the pain together let us
we can share in the pain together let us love each other now these very
love each other now these very
love each other now these very intelligent ways to deal to your
intelligent ways to deal to your
intelligent ways to deal to your emotions yes or no now you don’t want to
emotions yes or no now you don’t want to
emotions yes or no now you don’t want to avoid them you don’t want to endure them
avoid them you don’t want to endure them
avoid them you don’t want to endure them you don’t want to compete who’s got the
you don’t want to compete who’s got the
you don’t want to compete who’s got the biggest and worst emotion try make yours
biggest and worst emotion try make yours
biggest and worst emotion try make yours worse than somebody else’s you don’t
worse than somebody else’s you don’t
worse than somebody else’s you don’t want to share them make them feel bad to
want to share them make them feel bad to
want to share them make them feel bad to what a friend you are instead what you
what a friend you are instead what you
what a friend you are instead what you want to do is step 5
want to do is step 5
want to do is step 5 learn from them and utilize them you
learn from them and utilize them you
learn from them and utilize them you want to learn from them and utilize them
want to learn from them and utilize them
want to learn from them and utilize them now in order to learn something utilize
now in order to learn something utilize
now in order to learn something utilize the more a change in emotion we have to
the more a change in emotion we have to
the more a change in emotion we have to change what something what’s to us
change what something what’s to us
change what something what’s to us starts with an end we have to change
starts with an end we have to change
starts with an end we have to change what something whyatt means to us when
what something whyatt means to us when
what something whyatt means to us when we change what something means we
we change what something means we
we change what something means we transform our emotion we have a
transform our emotion we have a
transform our emotion we have a transformation does that make sense
transformation does that make sense
transformation does that make sense in other words if I’m feeling really
in other words if I’m feeling really
in other words if I’m feeling really upset about son I’m angry angry angry do
upset about son I’m angry angry angry do
upset about son I’m angry angry angry do I have to communicate that to get off my
I have to communicate that to get off my
I have to communicate that to get off my anger no not necessarily I’m angry
anger no not necessarily I’m angry
anger no not necessarily I’m angry because of the meaning I linked up what
because of the meaning I linked up what
because of the meaning I linked up what if I change what it means in my hand I
if I change what it means in my hand I
if I change what it means in my hand I realize that’s not what it means
realize that’s not what it means
realize that’s not what it means then what I feel angry yes or no yes or
then what I feel angry yes or no yes or
then what I feel angry yes or no yes or no if I’m really angry about something
no if I’m really angry about something
no if I’m really angry about something I’m angry because of what I’ve linked up
I’m angry because of what I’ve linked up
I’m angry because of what I’ve linked up to it I’m saying well I’m angry because
to it I’m saying well I’m angry because
to it I’m saying well I’m angry because they did that and that means this but if
they did that and that means this but if
they did that and that means this but if I really analyze it and I look at it for
I really analyze it and I look at it for
I really analyze it and I look at it for a while and I go that’s much a crowd it
a while and I go that’s much a crowd it
a while and I go that’s much a crowd it doesn’t really mean that
doesn’t really mean that
doesn’t really mean that then I’m transformed my feeling to I now
then I’m transformed my feeling to I now
then I’m transformed my feeling to I now have to go to that person and say what
have to go to that person and say what
have to go to that person and say what you did made me angry yes or no yes or
you did made me angry yes or no yes or
you did made me angry yes or no yes or no no because I don’t have that feeling
no no because I don’t have that feeling
no no because I don’t have that feeling I truly don’t have it I’m not
I truly don’t have it I’m not
I truly don’t have it I’m not suppressing it I transformed it
suppressing it I transformed it
suppressing it I transformed it suppression however is when you keep the
suppression however is when you keep the
suppression however is when you keep the same meaning that you keep the same
same meaning that you keep the same
same meaning that you keep the same meaning you’re upset about something and
meaning you’re upset about something and
meaning you’re upset about something and you keep the same meaning you don’t
you keep the same meaning you don’t
you keep the same meaning you don’t change the meaning all you try and do
change the meaning all you try and do
change the meaning all you try and do just stuff the emotion you try to
just stuff the emotion you try to
just stuff the emotion you try to pretend it’s not there
pretend it’s not there
pretend it’s not there that’s suppression so if you keep the
that’s suppression so if you keep the
that’s suppression so if you keep the same negative emotion you don’t change
same negative emotion you don’t change
same negative emotion you don’t change how you feel about it you just try and
how you feel about it you just try and
how you feel about it you just try and pretend it’s not there that’s
pretend it’s not there that’s
pretend it’s not there that’s suppression and that’s when you get in
suppression and that’s when you get in
suppression and that’s when you get in trouble so our goal is not just to take
trouble so our goal is not just to take
trouble so our goal is not just to take things and not suppress them and just
things and not suppress them and just
things and not suppress them and just express whatever we feel because if you
express whatever we feel because if you
express whatever we feel because if you just go express whatever you feel you
just go express whatever you feel you
just go express whatever you feel you don’t think it out are you gonna always
don’t think it out are you gonna always
don’t think it out are you gonna always communicate well yes or now now in fact
communicate well yes or now now in fact
communicate well yes or now now in fact you may say things later on you’ll
you may say things later on you’ll
you may say things later on you’ll regret in the heat of the moment because
regret in the heat of the moment because
regret in the heat of the moment because you’re in state so what you first want
you’re in state so what you first want
you’re in state so what you first want to do is see if you can transform it
to do is see if you can transform it
to do is see if you can transform it honestly and sincerely and if you can’t
honestly and sincerely and if you can’t
honestly and sincerely and if you can’t then your goal is to get someone to help
then your goal is to get someone to help
then your goal is to get someone to help you to transform it go to the source and
you to transform it go to the source and
you to transform it go to the source and get the source to help you to transform
get the source to help you to transform
get the source to help you to transform this so you know what I felt this way
this so you know what I felt this way
this so you know what I felt this way about this I made up this bizarre
about this I made up this bizarre
about this I made up this bizarre meaning I know it’s not true because I
meaning I know it’s not true because I
meaning I know it’s not true because I know who you really are but this is like
know who you really are but this is like
know who you really are but this is like a crap I did in my head can you help me
a crap I did in my head can you help me
a crap I did in my head can you help me today to change this can you give me
today to change this can you give me
today to change this can you give me some more information or some feedback
some more information or some feedback
some more information or some feedback or help me to clarify this thing I kind
or help me to clarify this thing I kind
or help me to clarify this thing I kind of screwed this up with my brain because
of screwed this up with my brain because
of screwed this up with my brain because I know that’s not what you meant that’s
I know that’s not what you meant that’s
I know that’s not what you meant that’s what I did inside my head you know it’s
what I did inside my head you know it’s
what I did inside my head you know it’s that different then you know something
that different then you know something
that different then you know something the other day when you do this I felt
the other day when you do this I felt
the other day when you do this I felt this which by the way implies what they
this which by the way implies what they
this which by the way implies what they did made you feel something is that true
did made you feel something is that true
did made you feel something is that true yes or no does anybody do anything and
yes or no does anybody do anything and
yes or no does anybody do anything and make you feel something yes or no yes or
make you feel something yes or no yes or
make you feel something yes or no yes or no absolutely not absolutely not now
no absolutely not absolutely not now
no absolutely not absolutely not now you’ve a right to feel the way you feel
you’ve a right to feel the way you feel
you’ve a right to feel the way you feel but that isn’t true that it’s actually
but that isn’t true that it’s actually
but that isn’t true that it’s actually what made you feel that what you chose
what made you feel that what you chose
what made you feel that what you chose to make yourself feel that way you
to make yourself feel that way you
to make yourself feel that way you communicated that to yourself
communicated that to yourself
communicated that to yourself so instead of saying when you do this
so instead of saying when you do this
so instead of saying when you do this that made me feel this
that made me feel this
that made me feel this that’s implying that somebody made you
that’s implying that somebody made you
that’s implying that somebody made you do something that takes responsibility
do something that takes responsibility
do something that takes responsibility away from the one person who can change
away from the one person who can change
away from the one person who can change your life meaning you so I request in
your life meaning you so I request in
your life meaning you so I request in the future this nothing wrong with any
the future this nothing wrong with any
the future this nothing wrong with any of that we’ll want to do is enhance it
of that we’ll want to do is enhance it
of that we’ll want to do is enhance it the way one dance it is come from the
the way one dance it is come from the
the way one dance it is come from the place of I’m communicating because I
place of I’m communicating because I
place of I’m communicating because I want to transform something and I’m
want to transform something and I’m
want to transform something and I’m responsible not them you know I need
responsible not them you know I need
responsible not them you know I need your help I need your help the other day
your help I need your help the other day
your help I need your help the other day when this thing I’ll happen I use that
when this thing I’ll happen I use that
when this thing I’ll happen I use that to interpret that to mean this and I
to interpret that to mean this and I
to interpret that to mean this and I know it’s not true because I know who
know it’s not true because I know who
know it’s not true because I know who you are
you are
you are I need some clarity can you help me out
I need some clarity can you help me out
I need some clarity can you help me out I gotta clean this up
who’s responsible by the way will they
who’s responsible by the way will they want to help you yes or no by the way
want to help you yes or no by the way
want to help you yes or no by the way what you’re really doing here is making
what you’re really doing here is making
what you’re really doing here is making clear what you’re really doing which is
clear what you’re really doing which is
clear what you’re really doing which is you’re doing a cry for help maybe not
you’re doing a cry for help maybe not
you’re doing a cry for help maybe not crying you’re making requests for help
crying you’re making requests for help
crying you’re making requests for help instead of crying make sense people here
instead of crying make sense people here
instead of crying make sense people here this is a request for help do we want to
this is a request for help do we want to
this is a request for help do we want to help other people yes or no especially
help other people yes or no especially
help other people yes or no especially as we’re all helping business that’s why
as we’re all helping business that’s why
as we’re all helping business that’s why we do what we do that’s the bottom line
we do what we do that’s the bottom line
we do what we do that’s the bottom line so we’re gonna develop a format like
so we’re gonna develop a format like
so we’re gonna develop a format like this where we don’t suppress but we
this where we don’t suppress but we
this where we don’t suppress but we don’t just express because you know what
don’t just express because you know what
don’t just express because you know what happens and you just go out there
happens and you just go out there
happens and you just go out there whatever you feel you express what you
whatever you feel you express what you
whatever you feel you express what you really do is you vent and then you make
really do is you vent and then you make
really do is you vent and then you make it right or you demand it see venting
it right or you demand it see venting
it right or you demand it see venting and demanding does not make
and demanding does not make
and demanding does not make communication better in the long term
communication better in the long term
communication better in the long term how many would agree with me on this I
how many would agree with me on this I
how many would agree with me on this I want to go to a different level we want
want to go to a different level we want
want to go to a different level we want to transform our communication when it
to transform our communication when it
to transform our communication when it fans school form what things mean to us
fans school form what things mean to us
fans school form what things mean to us now here’s what I want to be able to
now here’s what I want to be able to
now here’s what I want to be able to have you do I want you to be able to
have you do I want you to be able to
have you do I want you to be able to take the emotions that you’re
take the emotions that you’re
take the emotions that you’re experiencing and be able to deal with
experiencing and be able to deal with
experiencing and be able to deal with them quickly so I want to give you six
them quickly so I want to give you six
them quickly so I want to give you six steps to changing or dealing without
steps to changing or dealing without
steps to changing or dealing without dealing with it
dealing with it
dealing with it I guess utilizing is the right word six
I guess utilizing is the right word six
I guess utilizing is the right word six them to utilizing any emotions you feel
them to utilizing any emotions you feel
them to utilizing any emotions you feel that you used to call negative which now
that you used to call negative which now
that you used to call negative which now I call emotional messages or calls to
I call emotional messages or calls to
I call emotional messages or calls to what call to action whenever you’re
what call to action whenever you’re
what call to action whenever you’re feeling a negative emotion which we’re
feeling a negative emotion which we’re
feeling a negative emotion which we’re now going to call emotional messages
now going to call emotional messages
now going to call emotional messages it’s a call to action and a saying you
it’s a call to action and a saying you
it’s a call to action and a saying you need to change something what do you
need to change something what do you
need to change something what do you need to change one of two things repeat
need to change one of two things repeat
need to change one of two things repeat back what are they change either number
back what are they change either number
back what are they change either number one you’re wet no while you would change
one you’re wet no while you would change
one you’re wet no while you would change your physiology but if you are getting
your physiology but if you are getting
your physiology but if you are getting feedback right now you’re getting a
feedback right now you’re getting a
feedback right now you’re getting a negative emotion that negative motion is
negative emotion that negative motion is
negative emotion that negative motion is a message it’s saying you got to change
a message it’s saying you got to change
a message it’s saying you got to change either your perception or your actions
either your perception or your actions
either your perception or your actions and your actions could be the way using
and your actions could be the way using
and your actions could be the way using your body or your focus or whatever
your body or your focus or whatever
your body or your focus or whatever change your perception of your actions
change your perception of your actions
change your perception of your actions now here’s what happens when you get a
now here’s what happens when you get a
now here’s what happens when you get a negative emotion or now an emotional
negative emotion or now an emotional
negative emotion or now an emotional message number one you want to identify
message number one you want to identify
message number one you want to identify what the emotion is
what the emotion is
what the emotion is she started feel negative things wanted
she started feel negative things wanted
she started feel negative things wanted if I what is the emotion
if I what is the emotion
if I what is the emotion now when you identify the emotion what
now when you identify the emotion what
now when you identify the emotion what the emotion is like you’re feeling
the emotion is like you’re feeling
the emotion is like you’re feeling you’re really upset asked as level what
you’re really upset asked as level what
you’re really upset asked as level what am I really feeling underneath this you
am I really feeling underneath this you
am I really feeling underneath this you might like it on the question what am I
might like it on the question what am I
might like it on the question what am I really feeling what am I really feeling
so when you say I’m upset I mean so what
so when you say I’m upset I mean so what am I really feeling and what might your
am I really feeling and what might your
am I really feeling and what might your answer be when you say what am I really
answer be when you say what am I really
answer be when you say what am I really feeling I’m gonna set with this person
feeling I’m gonna set with this person
feeling I’m gonna set with this person what am I really feeling I might be
what am I really feeling I might be
what am I really feeling I might be feeling hurt does that change how you
feeling hurt does that change how you
feeling hurt does that change how you feel and that moment did you identify
feel and that moment did you identify
feel and that moment did you identify that yes or no yes and when you say what
that yes or no yes and when you say what
that yes or no yes and when you say what am I really feeling you might put a
am I really feeling you might put a
am I really feeling you might put a little note in your notes use some TV
little note in your notes use some TV
little note in your notes use some TV use some TV when you come up with your
use some TV when you come up with your
use some TV when you come up with your label transformational what vocabulary
label transformational what vocabulary
label transformational what vocabulary so instead of saying I’m destroyed I’m
so instead of saying I’m destroyed I’m
so instead of saying I’m destroyed I’m devastated I’m humiliated you would say
devastated I’m humiliated you would say
devastated I’m humiliated you would say I’m feeling a little bit hurt use TV and
I’m feeling a little bit hurt use TV and
I’m feeling a little bit hurt use TV and use what I call softeners softeners are
use what I call softeners softeners are
use what I call softeners softeners are the words like a little bit both
the words like a little bit both
the words like a little bit both softeners and TV here’s the second key
softeners and TV here’s the second key
softeners and TV here’s the second key once you’ve identified what it is and by
once you’ve identified what it is and by
once you’ve identified what it is and by the way usually it’s gonna be I have a
the way usually it’s gonna be I have a
the way usually it’s gonna be I have a sense of hurt or a sense of loss almost
sense of hurt or a sense of loss almost
sense of hurt or a sense of loss almost all emotions will probably come down
all emotions will probably come down
all emotions will probably come down that in most cases is that true in most
that in most cases is that true in most
that in most cases is that true in most cases not all second thing you do
cases not all second thing you do
cases not all second thing you do acknowledge and appreciate the message
acknowledge and appreciate the message
acknowledge and appreciate the message it asks for you don’t deny your emotions
it asks for you don’t deny your emotions
it asks for you don’t deny your emotions don’t avoid your emotions don’t suppress
don’t avoid your emotions don’t suppress
don’t avoid your emotions don’t suppress your emotions don’t make them wrong
your emotions don’t make them wrong
your emotions don’t make them wrong don’t share them start by identifying
don’t share them start by identifying
don’t share them start by identifying what they really are and then
what they really are and then
what they really are and then acknowledge and appreciate the message
acknowledge and appreciate the message
acknowledge and appreciate the message it has for you in other words
it has for you in other words
it has for you in other words acknowledge say this is a real emotion
acknowledge say this is a real emotion
acknowledge say this is a real emotion I’m glad I have you
I’m glad I have you
I’m glad I have you it’s gonna have a great message for me
it’s gonna have a great message for me
it’s gonna have a great message for me then go to step 3 get incredibly curious
then go to step 3 get incredibly curious
then go to step 3 get incredibly curious get incredibly curious as to what it has
get incredibly curious as to what it has
get incredibly curious as to what it has to offer you as to what the message is
to offer you as to what the message is
to offer you as to what the message is get incredibly curious as to what the
get incredibly curious as to what the
get incredibly curious as to what the message is underneath this one number
message is underneath this one number
message is underneath this one number three is you get incredibly curious as
three is you get incredibly curious as
three is you get incredibly curious as to what the message is write down the
to what the message is write down the
to what the message is write down the question what is the real message this
question what is the real message this
question what is the real message this emotion is giving me what is the real
emotion is giving me what is the real
emotion is giving me what is the real message this emotion is trying to give
message this emotion is trying to give
message this emotion is trying to give me what is the real message of some
me what is the real message of some
me what is the real message of some motion is trying to give me offer you
motion is trying to give me offer you
motion is trying to give me offer you some ways to do this
some ways to do this
some ways to do this let’s do the all 6,000 over going step 4
let’s do the all 6,000 over going step 4
let’s do the all 6,000 over going step 4 get a question on Therese and you’re
get a question on Therese and you’re
get a question on Therese and you’re still there question number three is
still there question number three is
still there question number three is what is the message this emotion is
what is the message this emotion is
what is the message this emotion is trying to give me what’s the real
trying to give me what’s the real
trying to give me what’s the real message number four get yourself to feel
message number four get yourself to feel
message number four get yourself to feel reassured that you can deal with this
reassured that you can deal with this
reassured that you can deal with this emotion get yourself to feel reassured
emotion get yourself to feel reassured
emotion get yourself to feel reassured that you can deal with this emotion see
that you can deal with this emotion see
that you can deal with this emotion see a lot of times the stress is oh my god
a lot of times the stress is oh my god
a lot of times the stress is oh my god how am I gonna deal with this so get
how am I gonna deal with this so get
how am I gonna deal with this so get yourself we assured you can deal with
yourself we assured you can deal with
yourself we assured you can deal with emotion the way you do that is remember
emotion the way you do that is remember
emotion the way you do that is remember a time when you dealt with this emotion
a time when you dealt with this emotion
a time when you dealt with this emotion successfully in the past remember a time
successfully in the past remember a time
successfully in the past remember a time when you’ve dealt with this emotion
when you’ve dealt with this emotion
when you’ve dealt with this emotion successfully in the past so if all of a
successfully in the past so if all of a
successfully in the past so if all of a sudden you start to feel depressed
sudden you start to feel depressed
sudden you start to feel depressed that’s pretty negative feeling I first
that’s pretty negative feeling I first
that’s pretty negative feeling I first of all wouldn’t call it depression I’d
of all wouldn’t call it depression I’d
of all wouldn’t call it depression I’d say a little bit down but first thing
say a little bit down but first thing
say a little bit down but first thing you do is you go all can feel this
you do is you go all can feel this
you do is you go all can feel this terrible feeling on start feel depressed
terrible feeling on start feel depressed
terrible feeling on start feel depressed well what am I really feeling well I’m
well what am I really feeling well I’m
well what am I really feeling well I’m really just feeling a little bit down
really just feeling a little bit down
really just feeling a little bit down okay grey you know what that’s great I
okay grey you know what that’s great I
okay grey you know what that’s great I appreciate that’s a message I need to
appreciate that’s a message I need to
appreciate that’s a message I need to get curious what is that message what’s
get curious what is that message what’s
get curious what is that message what’s the message of this thing’s trying to
the message of this thing’s trying to
the message of this thing’s trying to give me and what depressions message
give me and what depressions message
give me and what depressions message usually is by the way is you need to
usually is by the way is you need to
usually is by the way is you need to reset your priorities that you don’t
reset your priorities that you don’t
reset your priorities that you don’t feel like you’re in control you got too
feel like you’re in control you got too
feel like you’re in control you got too many things going at once you know you
many things going at once you know you
many things going at once you know you feel out of control when you’re
feel out of control when you’re
feel out of control when you’re depressed so what you do is set some
depressed so what you do is set some
depressed so what you do is set some priorities and go do the first one on
priorities and go do the first one on
priorities and go do the first one on your list that’s what the message is
your list that’s what the message is
your list that’s what the message is telling you you feel out of control the
telling you you feel out of control the
telling you you feel out of control the way to get in control reset your
way to get in control reset your
way to get in control reset your priorities and go do one thing and
priorities and go do one thing and
priorities and go do one thing and complete it the minute you do your
complete it the minute you do your
complete it the minute you do your self-esteem will go right back up so
self-esteem will go right back up so
self-esteem will go right back up so that’s the message so what’s the message
that’s the message so what’s the message
that’s the message so what’s the message it’s offering me by the way I’m gonna
it’s offering me by the way I’m gonna
it’s offering me by the way I’m gonna teach you the nine most powerful
teach you the nine most powerful
teach you the nine most powerful emotions that you probably experience
emotions that you probably experience
emotions that you probably experience what their messages are so you don’t
what their messages are so you don’t
what their messages are so you don’t have to wonder about this you’ll know
have to wonder about this you’ll know
have to wonder about this you’ll know what they are
what they are
what they are step 4 get yourself to feel reassured
step 4 get yourself to feel reassured
step 4 get yourself to feel reassured by remembering times we’ll be dealt with
by remembering times we’ll be dealt with
by remembering times we’ll be dealt with us in the past have you ever felt little
us in the past have you ever felt little
us in the past have you ever felt little bit down before what used to call
bit down before what used to call
bit down before what used to call depressed how many have ever felt that
depressed how many have ever felt that
depressed how many have ever felt that way in the past any seizure of hands how
way in the past any seizure of hands how
way in the past any seizure of hands how many have dealt with it let me see a
many have dealt with it let me see a
many have dealt with it let me see a show of hands
show of hands
show of hands great if you remember that two things
great if you remember that two things
great if you remember that two things happen you’re gonna feel reassured you
happen you’re gonna feel reassured you
happen you’re gonna feel reassured you can deal with it plus you’re gonna
can deal with it plus you’re gonna
can deal with it plus you’re gonna remember how you did it which means you
remember how you did it which means you
remember how you did it which means you can use will either in the past to
can use will either in the past to
can use will either in the past to change it right now
change it right now
change it right now why wait most of us forget the best
why wait most of us forget the best
why wait most of us forget the best parts of our past which is how we dealt
parts of our past which is how we dealt
parts of our past which is how we dealt with things and turn them around we just
with things and turn them around we just
with things and turn them around we just remember the negative feelings that’s
remember the negative feelings that’s
remember the negative feelings that’s kind of weird and we need to manage our
kind of weird and we need to manage our
kind of weird and we need to manage our memories better remember the things that
memories better remember the things that
memories better remember the things that have resources for us and forget the
have resources for us and forget the
have resources for us and forget the things that don’t number five get
things that don’t number five get
things that don’t number five get certain get certain that you can handle
certain get certain that you can handle
certain get certain that you can handle anything like this in the future get
anything like this in the future get
anything like this in the future get certain not only can you deal with the
certain not only can you deal with the
certain not only can you deal with the emotion you have right now but what you
emotion you have right now but what you
emotion you have right now but what you should do is use this as an opportunity
should do is use this as an opportunity
should do is use this as an opportunity being certain for yourself get yourself
being certain for yourself get yourself
being certain for yourself get yourself certain the bitter happens the future
certain the bitter happens the future
certain the bitter happens the future I’ll handle this emotion quicker and
I’ll handle this emotion quicker and
I’ll handle this emotion quicker and easier get certain that you can handle
easier get certain that you can handle
easier get certain that you can handle anything like this in the future by
anything like this in the future by
anything like this in the future by rehearsing yourself dealing with it in
rehearsing yourself dealing with it in
rehearsing yourself dealing with it in the future in other words think of a
the future in other words think of a
the future in other words think of a time in the future where this depression
time in the future where this depression
time in the future where this depression could come out and see yourself feel
could come out and see yourself feel
could come out and see yourself feel yourself rehearsing again use this as a
yourself rehearsing again use this as a
yourself rehearsing again use this as a tool of empowerment
tool of empowerment
tool of empowerment so you remember time when you were
so you remember time when you were
so you remember time when you were depressed before you a little bit down
depressed before you a little bit down
depressed before you a little bit down you turn around take your while we can
you turn around take your while we can
you turn around take your while we can feel right remember what you did I dealt
feel right remember what you did I dealt
feel right remember what you did I dealt with this before I can deal it again and
with this before I can deal it again and
with this before I can deal it again and then you say let me take this
then you say let me take this
then you say let me take this opportunity to get certain that I can
opportunity to get certain that I can
opportunity to get certain that I can handle this if it ever came up in the
handle this if it ever came up in the
handle this if it ever came up in the future the way I’m gonna do that I’m
future the way I’m gonna do that I’m
future the way I’m gonna do that I’m gonna sit down right now and I’m gonna
gonna sit down right now and I’m gonna
gonna sit down right now and I’m gonna think I’m okay what kind of things might
think I’m okay what kind of things might
think I’m okay what kind of things might happen the future I might get very well
happen the future I might get very well
happen the future I might get very well I might expect some didn’t work feel bad
I might expect some didn’t work feel bad
I might expect some didn’t work feel bad about it when we think of a time like
about it when we think of a time like
about it when we think of a time like that okay let me see myself hear myself
that okay let me see myself hear myself
that okay let me see myself hear myself feel myself deal with it you see hear
feel myself deal with it you see hear
feel myself deal with it you see hear and feel yourself dealing with it easily
and feel yourself dealing with it easily
and feel yourself dealing with it easily and you do this two or three or four
and you do this two or three or four
and you do this two or three or four times
times
times if you keep doing a two three or four
if you keep doing a two three or four
if you keep doing a two three or four times then in the future when it comes
times then in the future when it comes
times then in the future when it comes up guess what your brain will do you’re
up guess what your brain will do you’re
up guess what your brain will do you’re better than all I can handle this I’m
better than all I can handle this I’m
better than all I can handle this I’m already prepared how many you’re
already prepared how many you’re
already prepared how many you’re following logic with this let me see
following logic with this let me see
following logic with this let me see your hands okay so get certain you can
your hands okay so get certain you can
your hands okay so get certain you can deal with in future by rehearsing and by
deal with in future by rehearsing and by
deal with in future by rehearsing and by the way remember this you might want to
the way remember this you might want to
the way remember this you might want to put the same knows your brain cannot
put the same knows your brain cannot
put the same knows your brain cannot tell the difference between something
tell the difference between something
tell the difference between something you vividly imagine it’s something you
you vividly imagine it’s something you
you vividly imagine it’s something you actually experience your brain cannot
actually experience your brain cannot
actually experience your brain cannot tell the difference between something
tell the difference between something
tell the difference between something you vividly imagine when you see it here
you vividly imagine when you see it here
you vividly imagine when you see it here you feel and taste it you touch it you
you feel and taste it you touch it you
you feel and taste it you touch it you smell it and you’re looking your mind
smell it and you’re looking your mind
smell it and you’re looking your mind and something that actually occurs if
and something that actually occurs if
and something that actually occurs if you doubt this have you ever had a dream
you doubt this have you ever had a dream
you doubt this have you ever had a dream or was so real you had every physical
or was so real you had every physical
or was so real you had every physical response to it
response to it
response to it nobody had a dream like that okay you
nobody had a dream like that okay you
nobody had a dream like that okay you gonna have a dream anytime you want even
gonna have a dream anytime you want even
gonna have a dream anytime you want even while you’re awake all you have to do is
while you’re awake all you have to do is
while you’re awake all you have to do is reverse something your mind enough times
reverse something your mind enough times
reverse something your mind enough times vividly enough and it’s real if you over
vividly enough and it’s real if you over
vividly enough and it’s real if you over and over again rehearse yourself dealing
and over again rehearse yourself dealing
and over again rehearse yourself dealing with emotion easily then it’s real next
with emotion easily then it’s real next
with emotion easily then it’s real next time it comes up you’ve already got the
time it comes up you’ve already got the
time it comes up you’ve already got the programming you already have the
programming you already have the
programming you already have the resources to turn around in a heartbeat
resources to turn around in a heartbeat
resources to turn around in a heartbeat then this emotional message it’s dealt
then this emotional message it’s dealt
then this emotional message it’s dealt with for the future not just for today
with for the future not just for today
with for the future not just for today and the sixth step take action and
and the sixth step take action and
and the sixth step take action and change your life whatever the message is
change your life whatever the message is
change your life whatever the message is take the action that you need to take
take the action that you need to take
take the action that you need to take and change your life do something doing
and change your life do something doing
and change your life do something doing something always will change how you
something always will change how you
something always will change how you feel you feel bad because you’re not
feel you feel bad because you’re not
feel you feel bad because you’re not doing anything and by the way you’ll
doing anything and by the way you’ll
doing anything and by the way you’ll continue to feel bad until you do
continue to feel bad until you do
continue to feel bad until you do something to change so you do anything
something to change so you do anything
something to change so you do anything it’ll improve you and move you in the
it’ll improve you and move you in the
it’ll improve you and move you in the direction you want to go so let’s take
direction you want to go so let’s take
direction you want to go so let’s take another example
another example
another example what’s another a negative emotion you
what’s another a negative emotion you
what’s another a negative emotion you feel that’s you’re an example when you
feel that’s you’re an example when you
feel that’s you’re an example when you felt recently somebody raised your hand
felt recently somebody raised your hand
felt recently somebody raised your hand rejection so what’s the first step when
rejection so what’s the first step when
rejection so what’s the first step when you think you’re feeling rejection
you think you’re feeling rejection
you think you’re feeling rejection what’s step number one come on guys what
what’s step number one come on guys what
what’s step number one come on guys what is it identify it specifically identify
is it identify it specifically identify
is it identify it specifically identify what the motion really is let’s call it
what the motion really is let’s call it
what the motion really is let’s call it that identify what the emotion really is
that identify what the emotion really is
that identify what the emotion really is identify what the emotion really is
identify what the emotion really is
identify what the emotion really is so you ask yourself what am I really
so you ask yourself what am I really
so you ask yourself what am I really feeling so a person said rejection what
feeling so a person said rejection what
feeling so a person said rejection what were you really feeling Shh no let him
were you really feeling Shh no let him
were you really feeling Shh no let him answer that’s your answer his answer was
answer that’s your answer his answer was
answer that’s your answer his answer was disappointment is that different than
disappointment is that different than
disappointment is that different than rejection yes or no yes or no yes and by
rejection yes or no yes or no yes and by
rejection yes or no yes or no yes and by the way when he realizes he’s just
the way when he realizes he’s just
the way when he realizes he’s just disappointed it’s not as intense as
disappointed it’s not as intense as
disappointed it’s not as intense as rejection is it what happened with one
rejection is it what happened with one
rejection is it what happened with one question his pain just dropped still
question his pain just dropped still
question his pain just dropped still painful probably but not any one he was
painful probably but not any one he was
painful probably but not any one he was intense am i false or true of him okay
intense am i false or true of him okay
intense am i false or true of him okay great
great
great now so he’s disappointed great so now he
now so he’s disappointed great so now he
now so he’s disappointed great so now he knows what he really is disappointed he
knows what he really is disappointed he
knows what he really is disappointed he might even add some TV or a softener
might even add some TV or a softener
might even add some TV or a softener here and the softener might be he might
here and the softener might be he might
here and the softener might be he might say I was a what a little bit
say I was a what a little bit
say I was a what a little bit disappointed a little bit this point
disappointed a little bit this point
disappointed a little bit this point okay that makes it even less now what
okay that makes it even less now what
okay that makes it even less now what does he do number two does he make
does he do number two does he make
does he do number two does he make himself wrong for feeling that way yes
himself wrong for feeling that way yes
himself wrong for feeling that way yes or no yes or no what does he do he’s the
or no yes or no what does he do he’s the
or no yes or no what does he do he’s the acknowledged and what else appreciate
acknowledged and what else appreciate
acknowledged and what else appreciate the fact that he’s getting a very
the fact that he’s getting a very
the fact that he’s getting a very valuable message and the message he
valuable message and the message he
valuable message and the message he needs to change something easy to change
needs to change something easy to change
needs to change something easy to change his perception about it so he’s no
his perception about it so he’s no
his perception about it so he’s no longer disappointed we need to change
longer disappointed we need to change
longer disappointed we need to change his actions so he doesn’t be
his actions so he doesn’t be
his actions so he doesn’t be disappointed now or in the future
disappointed now or in the future
disappointed now or in the future step three wasn’t you do get incredibly
step three wasn’t you do get incredibly
step three wasn’t you do get incredibly what like a little kid what curious what
what like a little kid what curious what
what like a little kid what curious what we’re curious do we learn things more do
we’re curious do we learn things more do
we’re curious do we learn things more do we learn better world curious you bet
we learn better world curious you bet
we learn better world curious you bet she needs to get incredibly curious
she needs to get incredibly curious
she needs to get incredibly curious about what this message has to offer him
about what this message has to offer him
about what this message has to offer him if you were really curious what do you
if you were really curious what do you
if you were really curious what do you think that message really had to offer
think that message really had to offer
think that message really had to offer you
perhaps this was just an unmet
perhaps this was just an unmet expectation that was plaguing place up
expectation that was plaguing place up
expectation that was plaguing place up here and wasn’t even reality what’s
here and wasn’t even reality what’s
here and wasn’t even reality what’s happening to his level of emotional
happening to his level of emotional
happening to his level of emotional intensity right now how many CD that’s
intensity right now how many CD that’s
intensity right now how many CD that’s dropping you see that okay it’s dropping
dropping you see that okay it’s dropping
dropping you see that okay it’s dropping right now we’re great
right now we’re great
right now we’re great can you remember time next step is get
can you remember time next step is get
can you remember time next step is get himself free wet real a great and the
himself free wet real a great and the
himself free wet real a great and the way to do that is get him to what
way to do that is get him to what
way to do that is get him to what remember a time when he’s done with it
remember a time when he’s done with it
remember a time when he’s done with it have you ever been disappointed before
have you ever been disappointed before
have you ever been disappointed before and dealt with it can you remember a
and dealt with it can you remember a
and dealt with it can you remember a specific time and you turned it around
specific time and you turned it around
specific time and you turned it around made it good
made it good
made it good you remember specifically think for a
you remember specifically think for a
you remember specifically think for a moment of time when you turn around and
moment of time when you turn around and
moment of time when you turn around and you made great you actually took it
you made great you actually took it
you made great you actually took it minute to your advantage number time
minute to your advantage number time
minute to your advantage number time like that how’d that feel so you know
like that how’d that feel so you know
like that how’d that feel so you know how to deal with this don’t you I have a
how to deal with this don’t you I have a
how to deal with this don’t you I have a question for it what did you do back
question for it what did you do back
question for it what did you do back then they changed it he redefined the
then they changed it he redefined the
then they changed it he redefined the term who’s gonna is he changed his
term who’s gonna is he changed his
term who’s gonna is he changed his perception or his rules
perception or his rules
perception or his rules okay how about feel when you resolved it
okay how about feel when you resolved it
okay how about feel when you resolved it so great some when he goes to reassure
so great some when he goes to reassure
so great some when he goes to reassure this to things happen in the reassurance
this to things happen in the reassurance
this to things happen in the reassurance one is he sees he can deal with it he
one is he sees he can deal with it he
one is he sees he can deal with it he sees and feels he can deal with this
sees and feels he can deal with this
sees and feels he can deal with this easily and number two he sees how and
easily and number two he sees how and
easily and number two he sees how and number three he remembers how good it
number three he remembers how good it
number three he remembers how good it feels to relieve himself from the
feels to relieve himself from the
feels to relieve himself from the feeling so remembers how good it feels
feeling so remembers how good it feels
feeling so remembers how good it feels to get rid of it
which by the way it makes him want to
which by the way it makes him want to get rid of it right now what’s the last
get rid of it right now what’s the last
get rid of it right now what’s the last two steps step number five what do we
two steps step number five what do we
two steps step number five what do we want to make sure we make sure he
want to make sure we make sure he
want to make sure we make sure he doesn’t just not feel bad about anymore
doesn’t just not feel bad about anymore
doesn’t just not feel bad about anymore now but we want to make sure his future
now but we want to make sure his future
now but we want to make sure his future is better we want to get him what get
is better we want to get him what get
is better we want to get him what get way certain that he can handle this in
way certain that he can handle this in
way certain that he can handle this in the future so he probably feels pretty
the future so he probably feels pretty
the future so he probably feels pretty certain right now but you know what I’d
certain right now but you know what I’d
certain right now but you know what I’d like you to do I like to think some
like you to do I like to think some
like you to do I like to think some other area in life where it possibly in
other area in life where it possibly in
other area in life where it possibly in life you could have gotten disappointed
life you could have gotten disappointed
life you could have gotten disappointed in the future some kind of thing that
in the future some kind of thing that
in the future some kind of thing that might come up do you think it’s
might come up do you think it’s
might come up do you think it’s something that could come up and do that
something that could come up and do that
something that could come up and do that Lucky’s already knows close your eyes
Lucky’s already knows close your eyes
Lucky’s already knows close your eyes for a minute it’s just from all what I
for a minute it’s just from all what I
for a minute it’s just from all what I want you to do is I want you thinking
want you to do is I want you thinking
want you to do is I want you thinking that things starting to happen we start
that things starting to happen we start
that things starting to happen we start to get disappointed or feel rejected
to get disappointed or feel rejected
to get disappointed or feel rejected actually is what you did initially then
actually is what you did initially then
actually is what you did initially then you realize you’re just despondent then
you realize you’re just despondent then
you realize you’re just despondent then you just handle it see yourself handling
you just handle it see yourself handling
you just handle it see yourself handling in the future even better than gather in
in the future even better than gather in
in the future even better than gather in the past and notice a good and feel for
the past and notice a good and feel for
the past and notice a good and feel for many amyloid you feel that think of
many amyloid you feel that think of
many amyloid you feel that think of another time something else that could
another time something else that could
another time something else that could happen in the future where it might been
happen in the future where it might been
happen in the future where it might been a real a real major disappointment but
a real a real major disappointment but
a real a real major disappointment but see yourself handle it real quickly real
see yourself handle it real quickly real
see yourself handle it real quickly real easy getting off of making it work and
easy getting off of making it work and
easy getting off of making it work and notice how good you feel soon as you
notice how good you feel soon as you
notice how good you feel soon as you handle it and do it one more time do
handle it and do it one more time do
handle it and do it one more time do three the third one some other area life
three the third one some other area life
three the third one some other area life or you’re really disappointed
or you’re really disappointed
or you’re really disappointed see and feel yourself handling that real
see and feel yourself handling that real
see and feel yourself handling that real easily real quickly got it how do you
easily real quickly got it how do you
easily real quickly got it how do you feel about your ability to deal with us
feel about your ability to deal with us
feel about your ability to deal with us in the future more confident
in the future more confident
in the future more confident how many can hear it his voice you hear
how many can hear it his voice you hear
how many can hear it his voice you hear that either depth in his voice the last
that either depth in his voice the last
that either depth in his voice the last thing is go take action change it he may
thing is go take action change it he may
thing is go take action change it he may have already done that if it was
have already done that if it was
have already done that if it was changing a perception or you can go do
changing a perception or you can go do
changing a perception or you can go do it physically how many follow the system
it physically how many follow the system
it physically how many follow the system okay we’re gonna do one more I need a
okay we’re gonna do one more I need a
okay we’re gonna do one more I need a volunteer up here so everybody can see
volunteer up here so everybody can see
volunteer up here so everybody can see this person because if you would’ve saw
this person because if you would’ve saw
this person because if you would’ve saw a spacious now change somebody who’s had
a spacious now change somebody who’s had
a spacious now change somebody who’s had an emotion that you really you know
an emotion that you really you know
an emotion that you really you know recently had and it bugged you or create
recently had and it bugged you or create
recently had and it bugged you or create some negative feeling free somebody’s
some negative feeling free somebody’s
some negative feeling free somebody’s got one of those Oh nobody in the whole
got one of those Oh nobody in the whole
got one of those Oh nobody in the whole room I don’t want to be out there I
room I don’t want to be out there I
room I don’t want to be out there I don’t know what it’ll do
don’t know what it’ll do
don’t know what it’ll do oh boy all this all his people here
oh boy all this all his people here
oh boy all this all his people here appointing this guy here that your staff
appointing this guy here that your staff
appointing this guy here that your staff pointing at you dr. Bob dr. Bob give me
pointing at you dr. Bob dr. Bob give me
pointing at you dr. Bob dr. Bob give me a nice need great no sir he’s gonna
a nice need great no sir he’s gonna
a nice need great no sir he’s gonna reward you guys for this later
reward you guys for this later
reward you guys for this later you probably will actually that’s right
you probably will actually that’s right
you probably will actually that’s right dr. Bob what’s a negative amount
dr. Bob what’s a negative amount
dr. Bob what’s a negative amount negative message a negative feeling that
negative message a negative feeling that
negative message a negative feeling that you’ve had recently that you’d like to
you’ve had recently that you’d like to
you’ve had recently that you’d like to change
change
change you really are committed to changing
you really are committed to changing
you really are committed to changing that’s bugging you
[Music]
[Music] disappointment a rejection well it seems
disappointment a rejection well it seems
disappointment a rejection well it seems like that’s going around let’s be
like that’s going around let’s be
like that’s going around let’s be catching the rejection virus people are
catching the rejection virus people are
catching the rejection virus people are spreading it okay well which one would
spreading it okay well which one would
spreading it okay well which one would you like to deal with
you like to deal with
you like to deal with are they tied together well actually
are they tied together well actually
are they tied together well actually it’s a pony what question we just asked
it’s a pony what question we just asked
it’s a pony what question we just asked for him to say actually it’s uh he’s
for him to say actually it’s uh he’s
for him to say actually it’s uh he’s already done step one what’s the
already done step one what’s the
already done step one what’s the question he just asked friend already
question he just asked friend already
question he just asked friend already say actually it’s uh what did he ask he
say actually it’s uh what did he ask he
say actually it’s uh what did he ask he asked he first of all sir identify what
asked he first of all sir identify what
asked he first of all sir identify what the feeling really was then named the
the feeling really was then named the
the feeling really was then named the question he asked is what am I really
question he asked is what am I really
question he asked is what am I really what feeling what do you really feeling
what feeling what do you really feeling
what feeling what do you really feeling anger anger what what’s that really well
anger anger what what’s that really well
anger anger what what’s that really well what that really is is I was angry
what that really is is I was angry
what that really is is I was angry because I felt rejected mm-hmm and I was
because I felt rejected mm-hmm and I was
because I felt rejected mm-hmm and I was really disappointed about what happened
really disappointed about what happened
really disappointed about what happened the circumstance so what’s he done he’s
the circumstance so what’s he done he’s
the circumstance so what’s he done he’s managed to stack his negative emotions
managed to stack his negative emotions
managed to stack his negative emotions one on top of another and by the way
one on top of another and by the way
one on top of another and by the way this is unique to dr. Bob nobody else
this is unique to dr. Bob nobody else
this is unique to dr. Bob nobody else you know does this do they but what are
you know does this do they but what are
you know does this do they but what are you really feeling all that stuff what’s
you really feeling all that stuff what’s
you really feeling all that stuff what’s that what’s behind all that stuff you
that what’s behind all that stuff you
that what’s behind all that stuff you just really feel what to protect it
just really feel what to protect it
just really feel what to protect it rejected discipline I mean it’s just
rejected discipline I mean it’s just
rejected discipline I mean it’s just kind of discounted by you look like a
kind of discounted by you look like a
kind of discounted by you look like a computer that keeps running the same
computer that keeps running the same
computer that keeps running the same program over and over again
program over and over again
program over and over again hey reg egg this is a boy he’s running
hey reg egg this is a boy he’s running
hey reg egg this is a boy he’s running right back through the thing do you feel
right back through the thing do you feel
right back through the thing do you feel hurt yes yeah you feel rejected or do
hurt yes yeah you feel rejected or do
hurt yes yeah you feel rejected or do you feel hurt I feel hurt you know
you feel hurt I feel hurt you know
you feel hurt I feel hurt you know disappointed who do you feel her
disappointed who do you feel her
disappointed who do you feel her [Music]
since a loss you feel rejected if you
since a loss you feel rejected if you feel sense of loss
feel sense of loss
feel sense of loss [Music]
[Music]
[Music] since a loss do you feel angry you feel
since a loss do you feel angry you feel
since a loss do you feel angry you feel sense of loss sense of loves you feel
sense of loss sense of loves you feel
sense of loss sense of loves you feel her do you feel sense of loss
her do you feel sense of loss
her do you feel sense of loss what does it always come down to loss
what does it always come down to loss
what does it always come down to loss that we can go everyone
that we can go everyone
that we can go everyone so he’s identified so next question is
so he’s identified so next question is
so he’s identified so next question is what we wanted to do should he feel bad
what we wanted to do should he feel bad
what we wanted to do should he feel bad about having those feelings yes or no no
about having those feelings yes or no no
about having those feelings yes or no no you know what these are valuable
you know what these are valuable
you know what these are valuable messages that are coming to you they
messages that are coming to you they
messages that are coming to you they really truly are but they’re what you
really truly are but they’re what you
really truly are but they’re what you should feel bad about is indulging in
should feel bad about is indulging in
should feel bad about is indulging in them and not using them not learning you
them and not using them not learning you
them and not using them not learning you want to go bad feel bad if you don’t
want to go bad feel bad if you don’t
want to go bad feel bad if you don’t learn anything didn’t feel bad and then
learn anything didn’t feel bad and then
learn anything didn’t feel bad and then get tired of feeling bad and just decide
get tired of feeling bad and just decide
get tired of feeling bad and just decide to learn something because you learned
to learn something because you learned
to learn something because you learned something as soon as you ask what kind
something as soon as you ask what kind
something as soon as you ask what kind of learning for this right
of learning for this right
of learning for this right so right now instead of making wrong
so right now instead of making wrong
so right now instead of making wrong what we do for a moment is really
what we do for a moment is really
what we do for a moment is really appreciate those emotions acknowledge
appreciate those emotions acknowledge
appreciate those emotions acknowledge the fact those emotions have a valuable
the fact those emotions have a valuable
the fact those emotions have a valuable message and then immediately get what
message and then immediately get what
message and then immediately get what like a kid get what they’re curious for
like a kid get what they’re curious for
like a kid get what they’re curious for a second as what those messages really
a second as what those messages really
a second as what those messages really are what what can you really learn from
are what what can you really learn from
are what what can you really learn from that what does that message really
that what does that message really
that what does that message really offering you
in other words let’s go back up to the
in other words let’s go back up to the first one you said rejection hi being
first one you said rejection hi being
first one you said rejection hi being rejected or disappointed what do you
rejected or disappointed what do you
rejected or disappointed what do you really what is that motion of rejection
really what is that motion of rejection
really what is that motion of rejection trying to tell you
[Music]
[Music] the relationships important love’s
the relationships important love’s
the relationships important love’s important it’s telling him that
important it’s telling him that
important it’s telling him that relationship is important that love is
relationship is important that love is
relationship is important that love is really important him is that a valuable
really important him is that a valuable
really important him is that a valuable message yeah what was that disappointed
message yeah what was that disappointed
message yeah what was that disappointed and then telling him was the message he
and then telling him was the message he
and then telling him was the message he was trying to tell you
was trying to tell you
was trying to tell you [Music]
first thing they say I don’t know if you
first thing they say I don’t know if you did know and it had a positive message
did know and it had a positive message
did know and it had a positive message what it’s always telling you to change
what it’s always telling you to change
what it’s always telling you to change something I’m telling you to change your
something I’m telling you to change your
something I’m telling you to change your perception about something or it’s
perception about something or it’s
perception about something or it’s telling you to change your actions so
telling you to change your actions so
telling you to change your actions so what is that emotion disappointment
what is that emotion disappointment
what is that emotion disappointment telling you to change what what do you
telling you to change what what do you
telling you to change what what do you need to change how do I love how he
need to change how do I love how he
need to change how do I love how he loves and what way do you need to change
loves and what way do you need to change
loves and what way do you need to change how you love how its communicated shown
how you love how its communicated shown
how you love how its communicated shown it’s communicating so how would you need
it’s communicating so how would you need
it’s communicating so how would you need to communicate and show your love more
to communicate and show your love more
to communicate and show your love more effectively
I’m curious is that better than feeling
I’m curious is that better than feeling rejected disappointed loss yes or no is
rejected disappointed loss yes or no is
rejected disappointed loss yes or no is this a power tool transformation in this
this a power tool transformation in this
this a power tool transformation in this man yes or no okay
man yes or no okay
man yes or no okay so stay curious cuz that’s it instead of
so stay curious cuz that’s it instead of
so stay curious cuz that’s it instead of oh I don’t know the answer we don’t know
oh I don’t know the answer we don’t know
oh I don’t know the answer we don’t know the answer and you’re a little kid what
the answer and you’re a little kid what
the answer and you’re a little kid what do you do you get even more what if you
do you do you get even more what if you
do you do you get even more what if you don’t know the answer to mold got into
don’t know the answer to mold got into
don’t know the answer to mold got into the entropy that that I don’t like feels
the entropy that that I don’t like feels
the entropy that that I don’t like feels them they go I’m getting more curious
them they go I’m getting more curious
them they go I’m getting more curious you’re plenty of time it’s curiosities
confused means you’re about to make a
confused means you’re about to make a change is that true see when you know
change is that true see when you know
change is that true see when you know what things mean you’ll just keep doing
what things mean you’ll just keep doing
what things mean you’ll just keep doing it the way you’ve always done it he was
it the way you’ve always done it he was
it the way you’ve always done it he was not confusing we went I’m just blending
not confusing we went I’m just blending
not confusing we went I’m just blending I’m projecting russia-backed he kept
I’m projecting russia-backed he kept
I’m projecting russia-backed he kept doing it over and over he was not
doing it over and over he was not
doing it over and over he was not confused to know exactly how to do that
confused to know exactly how to do that
confused to know exactly how to do that now he’s confused his little brains
now he’s confused his little brains
now he’s confused his little brains going this little computer for them
going this little computer for them
going this little computer for them don’t work in the same way so no so I
don’t work in the same way so no so I
don’t work in the same way so no so I should always help them out with this
should always help them out with this
should always help them out with this what do you need to change in order to
what do you need to change in order to
what do you need to change in order to no longer feel this you can change your
no longer feel this you can change your
no longer feel this you can change your perception or your actions are both and
perception or your actions are both and
perception or your actions are both and what what do you need to change about
what what do you need to change about
what what do you need to change about your perceptions wouldnt you change
your perceptions wouldnt you change
your perceptions wouldnt you change about your actions you might want to
about your actions you might want to
about your actions you might want to write that down
write that down
write that down so my actions should be different look
so my actions should be different look
so my actions should be different look that worked if what I did didn’t work
that worked if what I did didn’t work
that worked if what I did didn’t work did try something else that’s right so I
did try something else that’s right so I
did try something else that’s right so I need to communicate that differently I
need to communicate that differently I
need to communicate that differently I behave differently okay how many hear
behave differently okay how many hear
behave differently okay how many hear what he just said do you understand what
what he just said do you understand what
what he just said do you understand what he said he said what it’s saying is the
he said he said what it’s saying is the
he said he said what it’s saying is the way I communicated in fact I got
way I communicated in fact I got
way I communicated in fact I got rejected is a message that was really
rejected is a message that was really
rejected is a message that was really important to me and then I need to
important to me and then I need to
important to me and then I need to change the way I’m communicating so I
change the way I’m communicating so I
change the way I’m communicating so I get what I want because obviously it
get what I want because obviously it
get what I want because obviously it didn’t work so I got to change my
didn’t work so I got to change my
didn’t work so I got to change my approach is that true that different
approach is that true that different
approach is that true that different than I’m not worthwhile as a meaning or
than I’m not worthwhile as a meaning or
than I’m not worthwhile as a meaning or they don’t love me as a meaning yes or
they don’t love me as a meaning yes or
they don’t love me as a meaning yes or no huge difference in how I feels have
no huge difference in how I feels have
no huge difference in how I feels have you ever felt rejected or disappointed
you ever felt rejected or disappointed
you ever felt rejected or disappointed in the past and dealt with it really
in the past and dealt with it really
in the past and dealt with it really powerfully or really effectively yes
powerfully or really effectively yes
powerfully or really effectively yes remember a specific time
yes okay go back to that time and
yes okay go back to that time and remember how you dealt with it and then
remember how you dealt with it and then
remember how you dealt with it and then you turned it around and made it
you turned it around and made it
you turned it around and made it something positive
okay how’d that feel first of all great
okay how’d that feel first of all great its sense of accomplishment yeah that’s
its sense of accomplishment yeah that’s
its sense of accomplishment yeah that’s right and how did you do it I took
right and how did you do it I took
right and how did you do it I took action what did you do take action how
action what did you do take action how
action what did you do take action how did you do that would you do I I start
did you do that would you do I I start
did you do that would you do I I start doing things differently
doing things differently
doing things differently expressing myself differently did it
expressing myself differently did it
expressing myself differently did it work yeah by the way what is this doing
work yeah by the way what is this doing
work yeah by the way what is this doing now it’s teaching this brain if you do
now it’s teaching this brain if you do
now it’s teaching this brain if you do this you’re gonna get pleasure what you
this you’re gonna get pleasure what you
this you’re gonna get pleasure what you used to do gave you what hey the brain
used to do gave you what hey the brain
used to do gave you what hey the brain is always trying to avoid what and move
is always trying to avoid what and move
is always trying to avoid what and move towards what he’s teaching his brain
towards what he’s teaching his brain
towards what he’s teaching his brain right now he’s rewiring his brain a
right now he’s rewiring his brain a
right now he’s rewiring his brain a little bit here how about a way I keep
little bit here how about a way I keep
little bit here how about a way I keep using these computer metaphors okay I
using these computer metaphors okay I
using these computer metaphors okay I see something you could paint when I do
see something you could paint when I do
see something you could paint when I do that I think it’s because you think oh
that I think it’s because you think oh
that I think it’s because you think oh do you think I’m just a computer no I
do you think I’m just a computer no I
do you think I’m just a computer no I didn’t see you as a spiritual being who
didn’t see you as a spiritual being who
didn’t see you as a spiritual being who also has a filtering system and that
also has a filtering system and that
also has a filtering system and that filtering system sometimes you allow to
filtering system sometimes you allow to
filtering system sometimes you allow to take control and keep you from doing
take control and keep you from doing
take control and keep you from doing what you didn’t absolute which is just
what you didn’t absolute which is just
what you didn’t absolute which is just love and appreciate other people
love and appreciate other people
love and appreciate other people including yourself so we got to deal
including yourself so we got to deal
including yourself so we got to deal with both sides how it is how we operate
with both sides how it is how we operate
with both sides how it is how we operate unconsciously as well as who we are we
unconsciously as well as who we are we
unconsciously as well as who we are we want to deal with how we operate so we
want to deal with how we operate so we
want to deal with how we operate so we can be more of who we are now I’d like
can be more of who we are now I’d like
can be more of who we are now I’d like you to think about this for the future
you to think about this for the future
you to think about this for the future first of all you feel pretty good about
first of all you feel pretty good about
first of all you feel pretty good about your male to deal with it right now yes
your male to deal with it right now yes
your male to deal with it right now yes yeah and by the way it doesn’t really
yeah and by the way it doesn’t really
yeah and by the way it doesn’t really look like any old it now yes or no so
look like any old it now yes or no so
look like any old it now yes or no so think about the future by giving us some
think about the future by giving us some
think about the future by giving us some place in the future where you could have
place in the future where you could have
place in the future where you could have felt rejected or disappointed something
felt rejected or disappointed something
felt rejected or disappointed something that could come up that could cause you
that could come up that could cause you
that could come up that could cause you to feel rejected at this point okay
to feel rejected at this point okay
to feel rejected at this point okay okay close your eyes if you would and
okay close your eyes if you would and
okay close your eyes if you would and see yourself using your skills and Lia
see yourself using your skills and Lia
see yourself using your skills and Lia ten times better quicker more easily
ten times better quicker more easily
ten times better quicker more easily turning around right away and feeling
turning around right away and feeling
turning around right away and feeling good it feels it turning it around okay
good it feels it turning it around okay
good it feels it turning it around okay how does that feel it was good
how does that feel it was good
how does that feel it was good can you do it yes easily your heart
can you do it yes easily your heart
can you do it yes easily your heart I can do it you can do it okay great so
I can do it you can do it okay great so
I can do it you can do it okay great so now I want you to do it that’s great so
now I want you to do it that’s great so
now I want you to do it that’s great so now we’re close your eyes don’t you
now we’re close your eyes don’t you
now we’re close your eyes don’t you think of another time we’ll come up
think of another time we’ll come up
think of another time we’ll come up well this nothing we have to do it
well this nothing we have to do it
well this nothing we have to do it easily I want you your resources inside
easily I want you your resources inside
easily I want you your resources inside of yourself you haven’t thought of
of yourself you haven’t thought of
of yourself you haven’t thought of before and I’m going to do it even enjoy
before and I’m going to do it even enjoy
before and I’m going to do it even enjoy it turn around make it happen easier and
it turn around make it happen easier and
it turn around make it happen easier and quicker okay okay looking I’m a vascular
quicker okay okay looking I’m a vascular
quicker okay okay looking I’m a vascular do it can you do that yes yes I’m asking
do it can you do that yes yes I’m asking
do it can you do that yes yes I’m asking a better question it gives me better
a better question it gives me better
a better question it gives me better resources you see yourself handle your
resources you see yourself handle your
resources you see yourself handle your quicker and easier than that one yes how
quicker and easier than that one yes how
quicker and easier than that one yes how does that feel great
does that feel great
does that feel great how many see the difference in hear it
how many see the difference in hear it
how many see the difference in hear it in his voice okay let’s do one more
in his voice okay let’s do one more
in his voice okay let’s do one more think of something else come on a
think of something else come on a
think of something else come on a teacher we could have felt rejected
teacher we could have felt rejected
teacher we could have felt rejected disappointed but now captain how you
disappointed but now captain how you
disappointed but now captain how you handle really as a real quickly just
handle really as a real quickly just
handle really as a real quickly just like this okay have you already done it
like this okay have you already done it
like this okay have you already done it mm-hmm son he’s going faster this isn’t
mm-hmm son he’s going faster this isn’t
mm-hmm son he’s going faster this isn’t he he’s got some experience how do you
he he’s got some experience how do you
he he’s got some experience how do you feel when you do that super super
look at his face now if someone were to
look at his face now if someone were to say I’m gonna reject you now thank you
say I’m gonna reject you now thank you
say I’m gonna reject you now thank you very much
very much
very much [Applause]
so I want you to try this let me help
so I want you to try this let me help you another step would it be useful so
you another step would it be useful so
you another step would it be useful so to be safe I’ll run you inside here turn
to be safe I’ll run you inside here turn
to be safe I’ll run you inside here turn the search around bow
the search around bow
the search around bow what is this emotion mean I don’t know
what is this emotion mean I don’t know
what is this emotion mean I don’t know what it means let me give you 9 emotions
what it means let me give you 9 emotions
what it means let me give you 9 emotions and what they usually mean ok would that
and what they usually mean ok would that
and what they usually mean ok would that be helpful right sit up in your chair of
be helpful right sit up in your chair of
be helpful right sit up in your chair of some remote energy then put yourself in
some remote energy then put yourself in
some remote energy then put yourself in a big state and let’s take a look at
a big state and let’s take a look at
a big state and let’s take a look at what 9 these emotions are eight or seven
what 9 these emotions are eight or seven
what 9 these emotions are eight or seven or whatever I put up here are number one
or whatever I put up here are number one
or whatever I put up here are number one fear so if you’re feeling fear what does
fear so if you’re feeling fear what does
fear so if you’re feeling fear what does that mean usually what’s the message the
that mean usually what’s the message the
that mean usually what’s the message the message always is that you need to
message always is that you need to
message always is that you need to change something is that true yes or no
change something is that true yes or no
change something is that true yes or no so every negative emotion means I’ve got
so every negative emotion means I’ve got
so every negative emotion means I’ve got a what I’ve got a wet change something
a what I’ve got a wet change something
a what I’ve got a wet change something either my perception or what I’m doing
either my perception or what I’m doing
either my perception or what I’m doing fear means that you got to prepare for
fear means that you got to prepare for
fear means that you got to prepare for something you’re afraid because your
something you’re afraid because your
something you’re afraid because your brain saying messages prepare change
brain saying messages prepare change
brain saying messages prepare change what you’re doing and get more prepared
what you’re doing and get more prepared
what you’re doing and get more prepared prepare for something that’s going to
prepare for something that’s going to
prepare for something that’s going to happen so you’re better prepared for it
happen so you’re better prepared for it
happen so you’re better prepared for it physically now sometimes we just indulge
physically now sometimes we just indulge
physically now sometimes we just indulge in the emotion and we stay in the fear
in the emotion and we stay in the fear
in the emotion and we stay in the fear we really aren’t prepared for example
we really aren’t prepared for example
we really aren’t prepared for example it’s say you’re gonna give to speak in
it’s say you’re gonna give to speak in
it’s say you’re gonna give to speak in front of a group and you’re prepared but
front of a group and you’re prepared but
front of a group and you’re prepared but you still out fear it’s because you got
you still out fear it’s because you got
you still out fear it’s because you got the message you did the work but you
the message you did the work but you
the message you did the work but you didn’t shut the emotion off and say you
didn’t shut the emotion off and say you
didn’t shut the emotion off and say you know I am prepared no reason to be
know I am prepared no reason to be
know I am prepared no reason to be afraid anymore I’m ready I’m ready
afraid anymore I’m ready I’m ready
afraid anymore I’m ready I’m ready you never told your brain it’s okay
you never told your brain it’s okay
you never told your brain it’s okay don’t think any message anywhere I’ve
don’t think any message anywhere I’ve
don’t think any message anywhere I’ve done my work
done my work
done my work so it’s saying you need to prepare for
so it’s saying you need to prepare for
so it’s saying you need to prepare for something maybe it’s a physical
something maybe it’s a physical
something maybe it’s a physical challenge maybe it’s preparing for some
challenge maybe it’s preparing for some
challenge maybe it’s preparing for some loss that may be coming up something’s
loss that may be coming up something’s
loss that may be coming up something’s about to come up you need to be prepared
about to come up you need to be prepared
about to come up you need to be prepared for it
for it
for it okay just get prepared but once you get
okay just get prepared but once you get
okay just get prepared but once you get prepared get off it let your buddy know
prepared get off it let your buddy know
prepared get off it let your buddy know okay I am prepared move on focus on what
okay I am prepared move on focus on what
okay I am prepared move on focus on what you want then what’s hurt hurt and
you want then what’s hurt hurt and
you want then what’s hurt hurt and usually is telling you an expectation
usually is telling you an expectation
usually is telling you an expectation yeah there’s nothing that just tell ya
yeah there’s nothing that just tell ya
yeah there’s nothing that just tell ya you have this expectation it’s not that
you have this expectation it’s not that
you have this expectation it’s not that so what should you do when you have an
so what should you do when you have an
so what should you do when you have an expectation that’s not met you should
expectation that’s not met you should
expectation that’s not met you should focus on what you do want now write down
focus on what you do want now write down
focus on what you do want now write down your notes focus on what you do want now
your notes focus on what you do want now
your notes focus on what you do want now don’t keep focusing on why you’re
don’t keep focusing on why you’re
don’t keep focusing on why you’re disappointed or how somebody
disappointed or how somebody
disappointed or how somebody disappointed you or how you feel so hurt
disappointed you or how you feel so hurt
disappointed you or how you feel so hurt by them
expectation wasn’t met and you need to
expectation wasn’t met and you need to change your approach focus on it or it
change your approach focus on it or it
change your approach focus on it or it means you need to change your
means you need to change your
means you need to change your communication hurt means you expected
communication hurt means you expected
communication hurt means you expected someone to treat you a certain way and
someone to treat you a certain way and
someone to treat you a certain way and they didn’t treat you that way so you
they didn’t treat you that way so you
they didn’t treat you that way so you need to change your communication you to
need to change your communication you to
need to change your communication you to come to them and say you know what I
come to them and say you know what I
come to them and say you know what I need your help
need your help
need your help you know when you communicate that way
you know when you communicate that way
you know when you communicate that way in the past I’ve interpreted that to
in the past I’ve interpreted that to
in the past I’ve interpreted that to mean you didn’t care I know you care
mean you didn’t care I know you care
mean you didn’t care I know you care because I know how much you love me and
because I know how much you love me and
because I know how much you love me and I love you but you know could you help
I love you but you know could you help
I love you but you know could you help me out this way what does it really mean
me out this way what does it really mean
me out this way what does it really mean to you when you do that then listen so
to you when you do that then listen so
to you when you do that then listen so you know in the future I really
you know in the future I really
you know in the future I really appreciate it if you do it this way
appreciate it if you do it this way
appreciate it if you do it this way instead would that work for you would
instead would that work for you would
instead would that work for you would you be won’t do that okay and that’s a
you be won’t do that okay and that’s a
you be won’t do that okay and that’s a message says you got to communicate your
message says you got to communicate your
message says you got to communicate your needs better if you’re feeling hurt
needs better if you’re feeling hurt
needs better if you’re feeling hurt current means I need to communicate my
current means I need to communicate my
current means I need to communicate my needs better or it also means I need to
needs better or it also means I need to
needs better or it also means I need to meet someone else’s needs so you feel
meet someone else’s needs so you feel
meet someone else’s needs so you feel hurt but didn’t meet their needs that’s
hurt but didn’t meet their needs that’s
hurt but didn’t meet their needs that’s why I didn’t meet yours either you’re
why I didn’t meet yours either you’re
why I didn’t meet yours either you’re not meeting their needs when you’re not
not meeting their needs when you’re not
not meeting their needs when you’re not communicating how do you need to be met
communicating how do you need to be met
communicating how do you need to be met or you have an expectation you need to
or you have an expectation you need to
or you have an expectation you need to move on this is not gonna work out so
move on this is not gonna work out so
move on this is not gonna work out so we’ll third anger aneurysm message says
we’ll third anger aneurysm message says
we’ll third anger aneurysm message says you have a major rule that’s been
you have a major rule that’s been
you have a major rule that’s been violated when you’re angry and you have
violated when you’re angry and you have
violated when you’re angry and you have a rule that’s violated you’ll have rules
a rule that’s violated you’ll have rules
a rule that’s violated you’ll have rules about how things must be and how they
about how things must be and how they
about how things must be and how they should be and boy some rules if somebody
should be and boy some rules if somebody
should be and boy some rules if somebody violated some of our rules man we really
violated some of our rules man we really
violated some of our rules man we really get angry no one by the way you may also
get angry no one by the way you may also
get angry no one by the way you may also be angry because you violated your own
be angry because you violated your own
be angry because you violated your own rules is that true yeah you’re not doing
rules is that true yeah you’re not doing
rules is that true yeah you’re not doing what you believe you must do and you get
what you believe you must do and you get
what you believe you must do and you get angry with yourself sometimes we get any
angry with yourself sometimes we get any
angry with yourself sometimes we get any with ourselves we spread that out toward
with ourselves we spread that out toward
with ourselves we spread that out toward somebody else find something lay blame
somebody else find something lay blame
somebody else find something lay blame Oh for frustration frustration as
Oh for frustration frustration as
Oh for frustration frustration as messages that what you’re doing isn’t
messages that what you’re doing isn’t
messages that what you’re doing isn’t working and that you need to what change
working and that you need to what change
working and that you need to what change you’re frustrated means you still can
you’re frustrated means you still can
you’re frustrated means you still can succeed but you got to change your
succeed but you got to change your
succeed but you got to change your frustrates a Scott something’s hearing
frustrates a Scott something’s hearing
frustrates a Scott something’s hearing you know you could succeed you’re
you know you could succeed you’re
you know you could succeed you’re frustrated because what you’re doing
frustrated because what you’re doing
frustrated because what you’re doing isn’t working change and you can still
isn’t working change and you can still
isn’t working change and you can still get what you want
get what you want
get what you want phlex disappointment disappointments of
phlex disappointment disappointments of
phlex disappointment disappointments of message again you expected something
message again you expected something
message again you expected something happen it’s not going to so immediately
happen it’s not going to so immediately
happen it’s not going to so immediately focus on what you want now focus on what
focus on what you want now focus on what
focus on what you want now focus on what you want now it’s a message that you
you want now it’s a message that you
you want now it’s a message that you have to get off it and you let go of
have to get off it and you let go of
have to get off it and you let go of something and move on and focus on what
something and move on and focus on what
something and move on and focus on what you want now guilt guilt is a powerful
you want now guilt guilt is a powerful
you want now guilt guilt is a powerful emotion if it’s not abused and overused
emotion if it’s not abused and overused
emotion if it’s not abused and overused an adult did any of these emotions are
an adult did any of these emotions are
an adult did any of these emotions are lousy if you indulge them would you
lousy if you indulge them would you
lousy if you indulge them would you agree with me on that sit there
agree with me on that sit there
agree with me on that sit there indulging your fear and your hurt your
indulging your fear and your hurt your
indulging your fear and your hurt your anger and don’t you need to keep
anger and don’t you need to keep
anger and don’t you need to keep focusing on the feeling instead of
focusing on the feeling instead of
focusing on the feeling instead of getting the message and moving on
getting the message and moving on
getting the message and moving on learning guilt can be valuable it’s
learning guilt can be valuable it’s
learning guilt can be valuable it’s telling you you have violated one of
telling you you have violated one of
telling you you have violated one of your own standards and you need to do
your own standards and you need to do
your own standards and you need to do something immediately to be certain you
something immediately to be certain you
something immediately to be certain you won’t do this again you’re having that
won’t do this again you’re having that
won’t do this again you’re having that pain of guilt because your brain is
pain of guilt because your brain is
pain of guilt because your brain is saying you just violated one of your
saying you just violated one of your
saying you just violated one of your most important standards of your life
most important standards of your life
most important standards of your life you violate with your own values and
you violate with your own values and
you violate with your own values and you’re gonna keep doing this pain until
you’re gonna keep doing this pain until
you’re gonna keep doing this pain until you make yourself certain you’re not
you make yourself certain you’re not
you make yourself certain you’re not going to do this again
going to do this again
going to do this again you know what some people do they just
you know what some people do they just
you know what some people do they just keep going back and feeling guilty about
keep going back and feeling guilty about
keep going back and feeling guilty about what they did in the past the message is
what they did in the past the message is
what they did in the past the message is saying get clear you broke your own
saying get clear you broke your own
saying get clear you broke your own rules and commit no matter what you’re
rules and commit no matter what you’re
rules and commit no matter what you’re not going to do it again they can clear
not going to do it again they can clear
not going to do it again they can clear be certain you’re not going to do it
be certain you’re not going to do it
be certain you’re not going to do it again and you’re will go away like that
again and you’re will go away like that
again and you’re will go away like that because that’s the purpose of guilt to
because that’s the purpose of guilt to
because that’s the purpose of guilt to make sure you don’t violate your
make sure you don’t violate your
make sure you don’t violate your standards and make sure you do it well
standards and make sure you do it well
standards and make sure you do it well in the future
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