I said to myself when I started a thousand often thanks calm I will never
thousand often thanks calm I will never
thousand often thanks calm I will never do it for money I never put an ad on the
do it for money I never put an ad on the
do it for money I never put an ad on the website ever fifty million hits it’s
website ever fifty million hits it’s
website ever fifty million hits it’s only cost me money through URL renewing
only cost me money through URL renewing
only cost me money through URL renewing there’s something among I call the 24
there’s something among I call the 24
there’s something among I call the 24 2002 vation doesn’t actually lead to
2002 vation doesn’t actually lead to
2002 vation doesn’t actually lead to action like we all think action leads to
action like we all think action leads to
action like we all think action leads to motivation there’s these three numbers
motivation there’s these three numbers
motivation there’s these three numbers that scare me every single morning I
that scare me every single morning I
that scare me every single morning I wake up I think about these numbers
wake up I think about these numbers
wake up I think about these numbers every day I’m a writer
every day I’m a writer
every day I’m a writer speaker an entrepreneur I’m best known
speaker an entrepreneur I’m best known
speaker an entrepreneur I’m best known for writing the book of awesome and my
for writing the book of awesome and my
for writing the book of awesome and my TED talk the three A’s of Awesome my new
TED talk the three A’s of Awesome my new
TED talk the three A’s of Awesome my new book is called the happiness equation it
book is called the happiness equation it
book is called the happiness equation it shares the nine simple secrets we can
shares the nine simple secrets we can
shares the nine simple secrets we can all do every day to live happier life
all do every day to live happier life
all do every day to live happier life I’m Neil Paz Rita I’m here with Evan
I’m Neil Paz Rita I’m here with Evan
I’m Neil Paz Rita I’m here with Evan Carmichael and here are my top ten rules
Carmichael and here are my top ten rules
Carmichael and here are my top ten rules for success
let’s go all the way back to 1932 when
let’s go all the way back to 1932 when on a peanut farm in Georgia a little
on a peanut farm in Georgia a little
on a peanut farm in Georgia a little baby bullying in Roosevelt Grier was
baby bullying in Roosevelt Grier was
baby bullying in Roosevelt Grier was born original career or rosey Grier’s
born original career or rosey Grier’s
born original career or rosey Grier’s people used to call him grew up and grew
people used to call him grew up and grew
people used to call him grew up and grew into 300 pounds 6 foot 5 linebacker in
into 300 pounds 6 foot 5 linebacker in
into 300 pounds 6 foot 5 linebacker in the NFL he’s number 76 in the picture
the NFL he’s number 76 in the picture
the NFL he’s number 76 in the picture here he is pictured with the fearsome
here he is pictured with the fearsome
here he is pictured with the fearsome foursome these are four guys in the LA
foursome these are four guys in the LA
foursome these are four guys in the LA Rams in the 1962 did not want to go up
Rams in the 1962 did not want to go up
Rams in the 1962 did not want to go up against they were tough football players
against they were tough football players
against they were tough football players doing what they loved which was you know
doing what they loved which was you know
doing what they loved which was you know crushing skulls and separating shoulders
crushing skulls and separating shoulders
crushing skulls and separating shoulders on the football field but rosey Grier
on the football field but rosey Grier
on the football field but rosey Grier also had another passion in his deep
also had another passion in his deep
also had another passion in his deep deeply offensive self he also loved
deeply offensive self he also loved
deeply offensive self he also loved needlepoint love he lifts knitting he
needlepoint love he lifts knitting he
needlepoint love he lifts knitting he said that it calmed him down it relaxed
said that it calmed him down it relaxed
said that it calmed him down it relaxed him it took away its fear of flying
him it took away its fear of flying
him it took away its fear of flying helped him eat chick
helped him eat chick
helped him eat chick [Music]
[Music]
[Music] I mean he loved it so much that after he
I mean he loved it so much that after he
I mean he loved it so much that after he retired from the NFL he started joining
retired from the NFL he started joining
retired from the NFL he started joining clubs and he even put out a book called
clubs and he even put out a book called
clubs and he even put out a book called rosey Grier’s needlepoint ferment and a
rosey Grier’s needlepoint ferment and a
rosey Grier’s needlepoint ferment and a great cover he’s actually if you know
great cover he’s actually if you know
great cover he’s actually if you know he’s actually needle pointing his own
he’s actually needle pointing his own
he’s actually needle pointing his own face and so what I love about this story
face and so what I love about this story
face and so what I love about this story is that rosey Grier is just such an
is that rosey Grier is just such an
is that rosey Grier is just such an authentic person and that’s what
authentic person and that’s what
authentic person and that’s what authenticity is all about it’s just
authenticity is all about it’s just
authenticity is all about it’s just about being you and being cool with that
about being you and being cool with that
about being you and being cool with that and I think when you’re authentic you
and I think when you’re authentic you
and I think when you’re authentic you end up following your heart and you put
end up following your heart and you put
end up following your heart and you put yourself in places in situations and in
yourself in places in situations and in
yourself in places in situations and in conversations that you love and that you
conversations that you love and that you
conversations that you love and that you enjoy you meet people that you like
enjoy you meet people that you like
enjoy you meet people that you like talking to you go places you’ve dreamt
talking to you go places you’ve dreamt
talking to you go places you’ve dreamt about and you end up following your
about and you end up following your
about and you end up following your heart and feeling very fulfilled my mom
heart and feeling very fulfilled my mom
heart and feeling very fulfilled my mom is from Nairobi Kenya my dad is from
is from Nairobi Kenya my dad is from
is from Nairobi Kenya my dad is from Amritsar India so they were immigrants
Amritsar India so they were immigrants
Amritsar India so they were immigrants Canada and when they grew up they said
Canada and when they grew up they said
Canada and when they grew up they said Neil it’s real simple you do great work
Neil it’s real simple you do great work
Neil it’s real simple you do great work then you have a big success and then you
then you have a big success and then you
then you have a big success and then you be happy it’s the kind of classic
be happy it’s the kind of classic
be happy it’s the kind of classic parenting advice sometimes I ask people
parenting advice sometimes I ask people
parenting advice sometimes I ask people you know have you heard this advice
you know have you heard this advice
you know have you heard this advice before you give it up for never once
before you give it up for never once
before you give it up for never once again oh that sounds normal
again oh that sounds normal
again oh that sounds normal you study hard then you get good grades
you study hard then you get good grades
you study hard then you get good grades and if you’re you soon you become a
and if you’re you soon you become a
and if you’re you soon you become a doctor right or you work really hard and
doctor right or you work really hard and
doctor right or you work really hard and in the corporate environment you get
in the corporate environment you get
in the corporate environment you get promoted and then you’re happy but the
promoted and then you’re happy but the
promoted and then you’re happy but the moment I truly like to put forward is a
moment I truly like to put forward is a
moment I truly like to put forward is a reverse of like a profit focused model
reverse of like a profit focused model
reverse of like a profit focused model and instead it’s happiness focused so
and instead it’s happiness focused so
and instead it’s happiness focused so like I said it’s not great work to big
like I said it’s not great work to big
like I said it’s not great work to big success to be happy it’s be happy
success to be happy it’s be happy
success to be happy it’s be happy leading to great work leading to a big
leading to great work leading to a big
leading to great work leading to a big success what do I mean by that I mean if
success what do I mean by that I mean if
success what do I mean by that I mean if you as a leader can invest in your
you as a leader can invest in your
you as a leader can invest in your employees happiness and well-being at
employees happiness and well-being at
employees happiness and well-being at the beginning then we know from all
the beginning then we know from all
the beginning then we know from all kinds of research Sonja Lyubomirsky did
kinds of research Sonja Lyubomirsky did
kinds of research Sonja Lyubomirsky did an incredible study based in the book
an incredible study based in the book
an incredible study based in the book the half the how of happiness this shows
the half the how of happiness this shows
the half the how of happiness this shows that your productivity goes up 31% if
that your productivity goes up 31% if
that your productivity goes up 31% if you’re in a sales base role and most
you’re in a sales base role and most
you’re in a sales base role and most people look what many people are they
people look what many people are they
people look what many people are they sales goes up 37% creativity goes up
sales goes up 37% creativity goes up
sales goes up 37% creativity goes up three times this is from just being
three times this is from just being
three times this is from just being happy and then what happens after is you
happy and then what happens after is you
happy and then what happens after is you have two big success at the end I’m
have two big success at the end I’m
have two big success at the end I’m talking about career success your morale
talking about career success your morale
talking about career success your morale he didn’t get promoted if you’re in a
he didn’t get promoted if you’re in a
he didn’t get promoted if you’re in a good place that working you have a
good place that working you have a
good place that working you have a positive mind also you live longer
positive mind also you live longer
positive mind also you live longer you live about 10 extra years so zooming
you live about 10 extra years so zooming
you live about 10 extra years so zooming out from profit like just ignore that
out from profit like just ignore that
out from profit like just ignore that for a second if you watch we want those
for a second if you watch we want those
for a second if you watch we want those variables productivity and creativity
variables productivity and creativity
variables productivity and creativity sales out of your employees the biggest
sales out of your employees the biggest
sales out of your employees the biggest investment you can make is on their
investment you can make is on their
investment you can make is on their happiness at the front side there’s
happiness at the front side there’s
happiness at the front side there’s something a model I call the 24 20 the
something a model I call the 24 20 the
something a model I call the 24 20 the 24 20 chalice well I’m trying to say is
24 20 chalice well I’m trying to say is
24 20 chalice well I’m trying to say is if you can commit for 20 minutes a day
if you can commit for 20 minutes a day
if you can commit for 20 minutes a day for 20 days in a row to do a small
for 20 days in a row to do a small
for 20 days in a row to do a small simple happiness exercise then you can
simple happiness exercise then you can
simple happiness exercise then you can invest in yourself at the beginning what
invest in yourself at the beginning what
invest in yourself at the beginning what are some examples not all these you just
are some examples not all these you just
are some examples not all these you just take one okay it’s a 20 minute brisk
take one okay it’s a 20 minute brisk
take one okay it’s a 20 minute brisk nature walk or it’s a 20 minute
nature walk or it’s a 20 minute
nature walk or it’s a 20 minute journaling exercise or it’s a 20 minute
journaling exercise or it’s a 20 minute
journaling exercise or it’s a 20 minute meditation or it’s committing a
meditation or it’s committing a
meditation or it’s committing a conscious act of kindness of 1902
conscious act of kindness of 1902
conscious act of kindness of 1902 somebody buying flowers or somebody rap
somebody buying flowers or somebody rap
somebody buying flowers or somebody rap or writing down five gratitudes any of
or writing down five gratitudes any of
or writing down five gratitudes any of those five remember the nature walk the
those five remember the nature walk the
those five remember the nature walk the journaling exercise the meditation the
journaling exercise the meditation the
journaling exercise the meditation the random act of kindness or the five
random act of kindness or the five
random act of kindness or the five gratitude will invest and convert your
gratitude will invest and convert your
gratitude will invest and convert your positive mindset for the remainder of
positive mindset for the remainder of
positive mindset for the remainder of the day so if you are a boss or you’re
the day so if you are a boss or you’re
the day so if you are a boss or you’re an employee where’s that 20 minutes
an employee where’s that 20 minutes
an employee where’s that 20 minutes I guarantee everyone’s saying yeah I got
I guarantee everyone’s saying yeah I got
I guarantee everyone’s saying yeah I got it like kind of do to this meeting at
it like kind of do to this meeting at
it like kind of do to this meeting at lunch or maybe maybe people say like you
lunch or maybe maybe people say like you
lunch or maybe maybe people say like you know I’ve got to go grab a sandwich or
know I’ve got to go grab a sandwich or
know I’ve got to go grab a sandwich or something but very few people say oh
something but very few people say oh
something but very few people say oh I’ve got to go meditate or I really need
I’ve got to go meditate or I really need
I’ve got to go meditate or I really need to like you know commit my random act of
to like you know commit my random act of
to like you know commit my random act of kindness are going to do my journaling
kindness are going to do my journaling
kindness are going to do my journaling exercise it’s not part of our
exercise it’s not part of our
exercise it’s not part of our conversation yet but yet if we can make
conversation yet but yet if we can make
conversation yet but yet if we can make 20 minutes of investment in our mental
20 minutes of investment in our mental
20 minutes of investment in our mental health and our happiness then we tip
health and our happiness then we tip
health and our happiness then we tip over our brains for the remainder of the
over our brains for the remainder of the
over our brains for the remainder of the day and everything else goes up like you
day and everything else goes up like you
day and everything else goes up like you said it’s the service profit chain not a
said it’s the service profit chain not a
said it’s the service profit chain not a lot of not a new concept but from 20
lot of not a new concept but from 20
lot of not a new concept but from 20 years ago we’ve always known that happy
years ago we’ve always known that happy
years ago we’ve always known that happy people at work perform better and as a
people at work perform better and as a
people at work perform better and as a result your sales your profit everything
result your sales your profit everything
result your sales your profit everything else list a meaningful work seems to be
else list a meaningful work seems to be
else list a meaningful work seems to be something that you seem to suggest is a
something that you seem to suggest is a
something that you seem to suggest is a very common way that people can find
very common way that people can find
very common way that people can find happiness yeah
happiness yeah
happiness yeah now I think I have a real passion of you
now I think I have a real passion of you
now I think I have a real passion of you on work so basically I went to high
on work so basically I went to high
on work so basically I went to high school with the Ontario thank you
school with the Ontario thank you
school with the Ontario thank you yeah with these math develop a lot there
yeah with these math develop a lot there
yeah with these math develop a lot there was lovely at first and then the whole
was lovely at first and then the whole
was lovely at first and then the whole would be school bus erected
would be school bus erected
would be school bus erected and I know we have a guidance counselor
and I know we have a guidance counselor
and I know we have a guidance counselor at my high school who everybody was in
at my high school who everybody was in
at my high school who everybody was in love with and he was often we high-five
love with and he was often we high-five
love with and he was often we high-five teenagers in the hallways and he was one
teenagers in the hallways and he was one
teenagers in the hallways and he was one of those guys everybody could approach
of those guys everybody could approach
of those guys everybody could approach was accessible to everybody you know and
was accessible to everybody you know and
was accessible to everybody you know and we had mandatory retirement age
we had mandatory retirement age
we had mandatory retirement age sixty-five vamoosh you were given the
sixty-five vamoosh you were given the
sixty-five vamoosh you were given the sort of like passage to pension and we
sort of like passage to pension and we
sort of like passage to pension and we have the ceremony at the school sounded
have the ceremony at the school sounded
have the ceremony at the school sounded it was like the mr. Holland’s Opus you
it was like the mr. Holland’s Opus you
it was like the mr. Holland’s Opus you know ending and the next week after that
know ending and the next week after that
know ending and the next week after that he had a heart attack and died and you
he had a heart attack and died and you
he had a heart attack and died and you know what when I tell that story you
know what when I tell that story you
know what when I tell that story you know the reaction I usually get it’s
know the reaction I usually get it’s
know the reaction I usually get it’s fast
fast
fast oh and then it’s also you know but happy
oh and then it’s also you know but happy
oh and then it’s also you know but happy to a brother-in-law of mine or I had a
to a brother-in-law of mine or I had a
to a brother-in-law of mine or I had a my grandfather also retired and then
my grandfather also retired and then
my grandfather also retired and then like he just wasn’t the same you hear
like he just wasn’t the same you hear
like he just wasn’t the same you hear that more often so I look into this
that more often so I look into this
that more often so I look into this concept of retirement here’s two things
concept of retirement here’s two things
concept of retirement here’s two things I find out that are interesting number
I find out that are interesting number
I find out that are interesting number one fortune magazine says the two most
one fortune magazine says the two most
one fortune magazine says the two most dangerous years of your life physically
dangerous years of your life physically
dangerous years of your life physically or the year you are born infant
or the year you are born infant
or the year you are born infant mortality over the entire lifespan of
mortality over the entire lifespan of
mortality over the entire lifespan of the human race it’s 40% okay that’s kind
the human race it’s 40% okay that’s kind
the human race it’s 40% okay that’s kind of a big number better now but 40% and
of a big number better now but 40% and
of a big number better now but 40% and number two the year you retire okay big
number two the year you retire okay big
number two the year you retire okay big deal and then New York Times reports
deal and then New York Times reports
deal and then New York Times reports that the incidences of depression spiked
that the incidences of depression spiked
that the incidences of depression spiked 40% in that year you retire so I start
40% in that year you retire so I start
40% in that year you retire so I start looking around the world at this
looking around the world at this
looking around the world at this conference of work and of leaving work
conference of work and of leaving work
conference of work and of leaving work and ceasing to work and here’s what I
and ceasing to work and here’s what I
and ceasing to work and here’s what I find Dan Buettner and National
find Dan Buettner and National
find Dan Buettner and National Geographic to study on the Blue Zone
Geographic to study on the Blue Zone
Geographic to study on the Blue Zone some of you may have heard of it it’s
some of you may have heard of it it’s
some of you may have heard of it it’s the people the places around the world
the people the places around the world
the people the places around the world where people live like way longer than
where people live like way longer than
where people live like way longer than we do he studied a place called Okinawa
we do he studied a place called Okinawa
we do he studied a place called Okinawa in Japan they live on average seven
in Japan they live on average seven
in Japan they live on average seven years longer than the North America and
years longer than the North America and
years longer than the North America and guess what they call retirement nothing
guess what they call retirement nothing
guess what they call retirement nothing they don’t even have a word for
they don’t even have a word for
they don’t even have a word for retirement literally nothing in their
retirement literally nothing in their
retirement literally nothing in their language describes the concept of
language describes the concept of
language describes the concept of stopping work instead they have a word
stopping work instead they have a word
stopping work instead they have a word which I love called a key guy i ki GA I
which I love called a key guy i ki GA I
which I love called a key guy i ki GA I a key guy which roughly translates as
a key guy which roughly translates as
a key guy which roughly translates as the reason you get out of bed in the
the reason you get out of bed in the
the reason you get out of bed in the morning okay what is your a key guy so I
morning okay what is your a key guy so I
morning okay what is your a key guy so I gave my wife do a little cards at
gave my wife do a little cards at
gave my wife do a little cards at Christmas last year we put them on on
Christmas last year we put them on on
Christmas last year we put them on on our bedside table she’s an elementary
our bedside table she’s an elementary
our bedside table she’s an elementary school teacher at the TDSB
school teacher at the TDSB
school teacher at the TDSB she writes to educate leaders who make a
she writes to educate leaders who make a
she writes to educate leaders who make a difference in the world okay
difference in the world okay
difference in the world okay I write finish write in this book or you
I write finish write in this book or you
I write finish write in this book or you know to increase happiness inside
know to increase happiness inside
know to increase happiness inside organizations or whatever I’m filming on
organizations or whatever I’m filming on
organizations or whatever I’m filming on but it gives you a bit of a direction
but it gives you a bit of a direction
but it gives you a bit of a direction right gives you a direction and so I
right gives you a direction and so I
right gives you a direction and so I advise and I recommend you never retire
advise and I recommend you never retire
advise and I recommend you never retire Plus just to throw in their retirement
Plus just to throw in their retirement
Plus just to throw in their retirement was invented okay it wasn’t like we used
was invented okay it wasn’t like we used
was invented okay it wasn’t like we used to do this we invented it in 1889 in
to do this we invented it in 1889 in
to do this we invented it in 1889 in Germany when Chancellor Otto von
Germany when Chancellor Otto von
Germany when Chancellor Otto von Bismarck just arbitrarily said hey guys
Bismarck just arbitrarily said hey guys
Bismarck just arbitrarily said hey guys retirement age 65 and lifespan was 67
retirement age 65 and lifespan was 67
retirement age 65 and lifespan was 67 now we all want to retire earlier and we
now we all want to retire earlier and we
now we all want to retire earlier and we live way longer and so those years can
live way longer and so those years can
live way longer and so those years can be vacuous and they can be troublesome
be vacuous and they can be troublesome
be vacuous and they can be troublesome for all the reasons I mentioned so I
for all the reasons I mentioned so I
for all the reasons I mentioned so I advise people to have a nikkie guy and
advise people to have a nikkie guy and
advise people to have a nikkie guy and to find work that includes the flores’s
to find work that includes the flores’s
to find work that includes the flores’s social fulfillment the structure of
social fulfillment the structure of
social fulfillment the structure of getting out of bed in the morning the
getting out of bed in the morning the
getting out of bed in the morning the stimulation of always learning anything
stimulation of always learning anything
stimulation of always learning anything and the story of being part of something
and the story of being part of something
and the story of being part of something bigger than yourself something you
bigger than yourself something you
bigger than yourself something you couldn’t do by yourself you have those 4
couldn’t do by yourself you have those 4
couldn’t do by yourself you have those 4 SS and you have what I call a meaningful
SS and you have what I call a meaningful
SS and you have what I call a meaningful work if you’re not doing the work that
work if you’re not doing the work that
work if you’re not doing the work that you love how can you tap in to that
you love how can you tap in to that
you love how can you tap in to that sense of purpose and meaning enjoy great
sense of purpose and meaning enjoy great
sense of purpose and meaning enjoy great question and I’m not advocating that
question and I’m not advocating that
question and I’m not advocating that someone about to punch out of 30 years
someone about to punch out of 30 years
someone about to punch out of 30 years in the meat packing plant sort of punch
in the meat packing plant sort of punch
in the meat packing plant sort of punch in for 30 more years I’m not saying that
in for 30 more years I’m not saying that
in for 30 more years I’m not saying that what I am saying is that we all have 168
what I am saying is that we all have 168
what I am saying is that we all have 168 hours in a week okay you have that many
hours in a week okay you have that many
hours in a week okay you have that many I have that many Justin Trudeau has that
I have that many Justin Trudeau has that
I have that many Justin Trudeau has that many marks dr. Bert Hanson and many more
many marks dr. Bert Hanson and many more
many marks dr. Bert Hanson and many more buffett is that many richest man in the
buffett is that many richest man in the
buffett is that many richest man in the world can’t buy more time it’s the one
world can’t buy more time it’s the one
world can’t buy more time it’s the one thing that’s not for sale so if you take
thing that’s not for sale so if you take
thing that’s not for sale so if you take 168 hours in a week and you divided by
168 hours in a week and you divided by
168 hours in a week and you divided by three you get three buckets of 56 56 56
three you get three buckets of 56 56 56
three you get three buckets of 56 56 56 and 56 if you are lucky enough to sleep
and 56 if you are lucky enough to sleep
and 56 if you are lucky enough to sleep eight hours a night and with two small
eight hours a night and with two small
eight hours a night and with two small children I am NOT if you are then that’s
children I am NOT if you are then that’s
children I am NOT if you are then that’s 56 hours a week okay if you work 46
56 hours a week okay if you work 46
56 hours a week okay if you work 46 hours a week as whatever job you don’t
hours a week as whatever job you don’t
hours a week as whatever job you don’t like okay that might be your middle
like okay that might be your middle
like okay that might be your middle bucket however I would still argue those
bucket however I would still argue those
bucket however I would still argue those two buckets justify create and pay for
two buckets justify create and pay for
two buckets justify create and pay for your third bucket the whatever you want
your third bucket the whatever you want
your third bucket the whatever you want to do bucket is that’s the where you
to do bucket is that’s the where you
to do bucket is that’s the where you volunteer is that where you’re in the
volunteer is that where you’re in the
volunteer is that where you’re in the church group is that where you’re doing
church group is that where you’re doing
church group is that where you’re doing something you love and even when the
something you love and even when the
something you love and even when the meatpacking plant is over or the gig
meatpacking plant is over or the gig
meatpacking plant is over or the gig it’s done then then your bucket can
it’s done then then your bucket can
it’s done then then your bucket can expand and you can keep doing work the
expand and you can keep doing work the
expand and you can keep doing work the definition of retirement I’m using is
definition of retirement I’m using is
definition of retirement I’m using is ceasing work
ceasing work
ceasing work becoming Idol okay yeah many people who
becoming Idol okay yeah many people who
becoming Idol okay yeah many people who are like on retirement they’re like I
are like on retirement they’re like I
are like on retirement they’re like I love retirement I volunteer at the
love retirement I volunteer at the
love retirement I volunteer at the hospital I’m always down at the library
hospital I’m always down at the library
hospital I’m always down at the library and I do and that you’re not retired
and I do and that you’re not retired
and I do and that you’re not retired you’re doing this hundred thing right
you’re doing this hundred thing right
you’re doing this hundred thing right okay so that’s one thing it’s like keep
okay so that’s one thing it’s like keep
okay so that’s one thing it’s like keep finding things you love how do you
finding things you love how do you
finding things you love how do you handle setbacks it’s a great question
handle setbacks it’s a great question
handle setbacks it’s a great question and sometimes people say like do you
and sometimes people say like do you
and sometimes people say like do you have setbacks like yeah lots I mentioned
have setbacks like yeah lots I mentioned
have setbacks like yeah lots I mentioned I kind of joked at the beginning I’m
I kind of joked at the beginning I’m
I kind of joked at the beginning I’m like there’s tons of failures in there
like there’s tons of failures in there
like there’s tons of failures in there Anita’s saying is you know if you ask a
Anita’s saying is you know if you ask a
Anita’s saying is you know if you ask a good photographer how do you take such
good photographer how do you take such
good photographer how do you take such good pictures you know what most of them
good pictures you know what most of them
good pictures you know what most of them say I just take a lot that’s what you’ve
say I just take a lot that’s what you’ve
say I just take a lot that’s what you’ve heard this before it’s like I just take
heard this before it’s like I just take
heard this before it’s like I just take thousands so that’s why I always get ten
thousands so that’s why I always get ten
thousands so that’s why I always get ten great ones because I take so many more
great ones because I take so many more
great ones because I take so many more and like I think it’s like a table with
and like I think it’s like a table with
and like I think it’s like a table with legs on it that’s your life if you have
legs on it that’s your life if you have
legs on it that’s your life if you have a table like this with one leg on it and
a table like this with one leg on it and
a table like this with one leg on it and I know because I was here before and I
I know because I was here before and I
I know because I was here before and I knocked it over it can fall over it can
knocked it over it can fall over it can
knocked it over it can fall over it can fall over pretty easily I call that one
fall over pretty easily I call that one
fall over pretty easily I call that one table you can think of it in terms of
table you can think of it in terms of
table you can think of it in terms of it’s up to you cash flow streams if you
it’s up to you cash flow streams if you
it’s up to you cash flow streams if you want relationships if you want but for
want relationships if you want but for
want relationships if you want but for me it’s like how many legs does your
me it’s like how many legs does your
me it’s like how many legs does your table have so how do I handle setbacks I
table have so how do I handle setbacks I
table have so how do I handle setbacks I try to have a multi leg table at all
try to have a multi leg table at all
try to have a multi leg table at all time like I said I Walmer I was doing my
time like I said I Walmer I was doing my
time like I said I Walmer I was doing my blogs on my books it made me more
blogs on my books it made me more
blogs on my books it made me more risk-taking in my writing to know I had
risk-taking in my writing to know I had
risk-taking in my writing to know I had a full-time job it made me more
a full-time job it made me more
a full-time job it made me more risk-taking in meetings I was Melfi and
risk-taking in meetings I was Melfi and
risk-taking in meetings I was Melfi and asking questions of the CEO because I’m
asking questions of the CEO because I’m
asking questions of the CEO because I’m like yeah fire me I got this other thing
like yeah fire me I got this other thing
like yeah fire me I got this other thing you know I mean that’s two legs on my
you know I mean that’s two legs on my
you know I mean that’s two legs on my table two legs right there and then if I
table two legs right there and then if I
table two legs right there and then if I had a third thing a passive income
had a third thing a passive income
had a third thing a passive income stream room doing something online I’m
stream room doing something online I’m
stream room doing something online I’m speaking now whatever this multi-legged
speaking now whatever this multi-legged
speaking now whatever this multi-legged how do I handle setbacks I look at the
how do I handle setbacks I look at the
how do I handle setbacks I look at the other legs I think about what else I got
other legs I think about what else I got
other legs I think about what else I got going on let that thing naturally come
going on let that thing naturally come
going on let that thing naturally come back it’s okay just be doing multiple
back it’s okay just be doing multiple
back it’s okay just be doing multiple things at once to me that’s how I think
things at once to me that’s how I think
things at once to me that’s how I think about it and it never makes a low feel
about it and it never makes a low feel
about it and it never makes a low feel super low so I’m not all-in on anything
super low so I’m not all-in on anything
super low so I’m not all-in on anything the secret to turning your biggest fear
the secret to turning your biggest fear
the secret to turning your biggest fear into your biggest success on parents to
into your biggest success on parents to
into your biggest success on parents to admit this especially because we’re
admit this especially because we’re
admit this especially because we’re filming it’s going to be on YouTube
filming it’s going to be on YouTube
filming it’s going to be on YouTube forever Paul say it right now for the
forever Paul say it right now for the
forever Paul say it right now for the first time I didn’t know how to swim at
first time I didn’t know how to swim at
first time I didn’t know how to swim at all in my early 33:6 out
all in my early 33:6 out
all in my early 33:6 out and while I know how to swim my sister
and while I know how to swim my sister
and while I know how to swim my sister can swim and everything it’s because I
can swim and everything it’s because I
can swim and everything it’s because I had ear infections my whole childhood so
had ear infections my whole childhood so
had ear infections my whole childhood so I had tubes and layers my whole
I had tubes and layers my whole
I had tubes and layers my whole childhood and I had a traumatic
childhood and I had a traumatic
childhood and I had a traumatic experience on top of all that when I
experience on top of all that when I
experience on top of all that when I found to the pool and I couldn’t swim so
found to the pool and I couldn’t swim so
found to the pool and I couldn’t swim so I can still I can almost still see it
I can still I can almost still see it
I can still I can almost still see it today until that’s fine because you know
today until that’s fine because you know
today until that’s fine because you know what who cares I don’t need to swim I
what who cares I don’t need to swim I
what who cares I don’t need to swim I live in Toronto there’s no ocean I’m
live in Toronto there’s no ocean I’m
live in Toronto there’s no ocean I’m good I wouldn’t even bring my bathing
good I wouldn’t even bring my bathing
good I wouldn’t even bring my bathing suits at the pool party my friends would
suits at the pool party my friends would
suits at the pool party my friends would want to go swimming at university I hang
want to go swimming at university I hang
want to go swimming at university I hang up with a treadmill no problem I
up with a treadmill no problem I
up with a treadmill no problem I eliminated swimming from my life you see
eliminated swimming from my life you see
eliminated swimming from my life you see I didn’t think I can do it I don’t think
I didn’t think I can do it I don’t think
I didn’t think I can do it I don’t think I had the capability to do it and I
I had the capability to do it and I
I had the capability to do it and I certainly didn’t want to do it you know
certainly didn’t want to do it you know
certainly didn’t want to do it you know I know motivation so I never did it and
I know motivation so I never did it and
I know motivation so I never did it and that’s how we think about anything right
that’s how we think about anything right
that’s how we think about anything right you got to have the capability then the
you got to have the capability then the
you got to have the capability then the motivation and then you have the action
motivation and then you have the action
motivation and then you have the action I never got to do because I these things
I never got to do because I these things
I never got to do because I these things were never going to happen all that
were never going to happen all that
were never going to happen all that changed on my second date with Leslie
changed on my second date with Leslie
changed on my second date with Leslie when she said to me over dinner one
when she said to me over dinner one
when she said to me over dinner one night
night
night so do you like swimming and I was
so do you like swimming and I was
so do you like swimming and I was thinking to myself Oh play it cool
thinking to myself Oh play it cool
thinking to myself Oh play it cool Pasricha you know you don’t want to you
Pasricha you know you don’t want to you
Pasricha you know you don’t want to you don’t want to scare off and I said to
don’t want to scare off and I said to
don’t want to scare off and I said to her yeah no I’m not really big bad just
her yeah no I’m not really big bad just
her yeah no I’m not really big bad just ah that’s too bad you see my family had
ah that’s too bad you see my family had
ah that’s too bad you see my family had a cottage on an island for generations
a cottage on an island for generations
a cottage on an island for generations and there’s 20 of us up there the whole
and there’s 20 of us up there the whole
and there’s 20 of us up there the whole summer my 80 year old grandparents my
summer my 80 year old grandparents my
summer my 80 year old grandparents my five-year-old cousins we get up every
five-year-old cousins we get up every
five-year-old cousins we get up every morning in the summer jump into the lake
morning in the summer jump into the lake
morning in the summer jump into the lake and swim around the island takes about
and swim around the island takes about
and swim around the island takes about half an hour now Jeff you can’t come
suddenly that night without thinking
suddenly that night without thinking about whether I can whether I want to do
about whether I can whether I want to do
about whether I can whether I want to do it I just did it i signing up for adults
it I just did it i signing up for adults
it I just did it i signing up for adults learn to swim classes at the city of
learn to swim classes at the city of
learn to swim classes at the city of Toronto’s downtown pool I don’t know how
Toronto’s downtown pool I don’t know how
Toronto’s downtown pool I don’t know how many people here I’ve seen the downtown
many people here I’ve seen the downtown
many people here I’ve seen the downtown city of Tron pool this isn’t a
city of Tron pool this isn’t a
city of Tron pool this isn’t a recommended thing to do it’s like you
recommended thing to do it’s like you
recommended thing to do it’s like you know right you know it’s right in the
know right you know it’s right in the
know right you know it’s right in the urban center of the city I’m like
urban center of the city I’m like
urban center of the city I’m like getting my life jacket the goggles whole
getting my life jacket the goggles whole
getting my life jacket the goggles whole thing I’m walking onto the pool tech
thing I’m walking onto the pool tech
thing I’m walking onto the pool tech that first Wednesday night my heart is
that first Wednesday night my heart is
that first Wednesday night my heart is beating louder than a head in years I
beating louder than a head in years I
beating louder than a head in years I was so nervous but you know what
was so nervous but you know what
was so nervous but you know what happened when I walked in on a full deck
happened when I walked in on a full deck
happened when I walked in on a full deck Rachel I get out there I get out there
Rachel I get out there I get out there
Rachel I get out there I get out there and you know who’s out there a bunch of
and you know who’s out there a bunch of
and you know who’s out there a bunch of people who suck at swimming for once I’m
people who suck at swimming for once I’m
people who suck at swimming for once I’m not the only one people from landlocked
not the only one people from landlocked
not the only one people from landlocked countries and more traumatic experiences
countries and more traumatic experiences
countries and more traumatic experiences the main thrust formed very quickly till
the main thrust formed very quickly till
the main thrust formed very quickly till we get to the shallow end with the with
we get to the shallow end with the with
we get to the shallow end with the with the flutter board the lifejacket the
the flutter board the lifejacket the
the flutter board the lifejacket the goggles and within five minutes doing
goggles and within five minutes doing
goggles and within five minutes doing that where I could touch the bottom I
that where I could touch the bottom I
that where I could touch the bottom I was like hey wait a minute
was like hey wait a minute
was like hey wait a minute I can do that like that that’s that’s
I can do that like that that’s that’s
I can do that like that that’s that’s not hard I can do that and then you know
not hard I can do that and then you know
not hard I can do that and then you know what the next week I wanted to do it I
what the next week I wanted to do it I
what the next week I wanted to do it I wanted to do it because I was like well
wanted to do it because I was like well
wanted to do it because I was like well I kind of thought I can do it now and so
I kind of thought I can do it now and so
I kind of thought I can do it now and so the next week I was like flutter kicking
the next week I was like flutter kicking
the next week I was like flutter kicking in the deep end the week after flutter
in the deep end the week after flutter
in the deep end the week after flutter kicking wouldn’t a lifejacket by the end
kicking wouldn’t a lifejacket by the end
kicking wouldn’t a lifejacket by the end of the eight weeks I was in the front
of the eight weeks I was in the front
of the eight weeks I was in the front crawl
thing I realized is that motivation
thing I realized is that motivation doesn’t actually lead to action like we
doesn’t actually lead to action like we
doesn’t actually lead to action like we all think action leads to motivation
all think action leads to motivation
all think action leads to motivation it’s completely flipped you want to
it’s completely flipped you want to
it’s completely flipped you want to write that novel you don’t need the
write that novel you don’t need the
write that novel you don’t need the perfect coffee shop the right idea and
perfect coffee shop the right idea and
perfect coffee shop the right idea and expensive moleskin just write one
expensive moleskin just write one
expensive moleskin just write one sentence with a pen from the hotel on a
sentence with a pen from the hotel on a
sentence with a pen from the hotel on a post-it note just doing that will tell
post-it note just doing that will tell
post-it note just doing that will tell you that you can do it and then you’ll
you that you can do it and then you’ll
you that you can do it and then you’ll want to do it you want to run a marathon
want to do it you want to run a marathon
want to do it you want to run a marathon forget the good shoes the right place
forget the good shoes the right place
forget the good shoes the right place for the running buddy
for the running buddy
for the running buddy forget it just run with a stoplight on
forget it just run with a stoplight on
forget it just run with a stoplight on your dress shoes by the time you do that
your dress shoes by the time you do that
your dress shoes by the time you do that you like I can do that and then you
you like I can do that and then you
you like I can do that and then you think you can do it and then you want to
think you can do it and then you want to
think you can do it and then you want to do it is the exact opposite it’s the
do it is the exact opposite it’s the
do it is the exact opposite it’s the exact opposite so just take it from me
exact opposite so just take it from me
exact opposite so just take it from me you guys are scientists you probably
you guys are scientists you probably
you guys are scientists you probably trust someone like Isaac Newton you know
trust someone like Isaac Newton you know
trust someone like Isaac Newton you know he’s the greatest of all time after all
he’s the greatest of all time after all
he’s the greatest of all time after all I mean up there with Einstein the guy
I mean up there with Einstein the guy
I mean up there with Einstein the guy discovered gravity invented calculus
discovered gravity invented calculus
discovered gravity invented calculus pretty good resident probably hired at
pretty good resident probably hired at
pretty good resident probably hired at Google these days and he actually said
Google these days and he actually said
Google these days and he actually said this first law of motion I can remember
this first law of motion I can remember
this first law of motion I can remember like great ten slides an object in
like great ten slides an object in
like great ten slides an object in motion will remain in motion and let’s
motion will remain in motion and let’s
motion will remain in motion and let’s acted upon by an equal or greater force
acted upon by an equal or greater force
acted upon by an equal or greater force put another way if you start doing it
put another way if you start doing it
put another way if you start doing it you please action first you’ll continue
you please action first you’ll continue
you please action first you’ll continue it’s harder to stop and that’s why at
it’s harder to stop and that’s why at
it’s harder to stop and that’s why at the end of my adult learn some passes I
the end of my adult learn some passes I
the end of my adult learn some passes I signed up again and I signed up again
signed up again and I signed up again
signed up again and I signed up again and I signed up again and it was the
and I signed up again and it was the
and I signed up again and it was the same exact class I didn’t go to learn
same exact class I didn’t go to learn
same exact class I didn’t go to learn some too I just did learn to swim one
some too I just did learn to swim one
some too I just did learn to swim one I’m like I love this it’s amazing I can
I’m like I love this it’s amazing I can
I’m like I love this it’s amazing I can do this bro scroll I loved it so much I
do this bro scroll I loved it so much I
do this bro scroll I loved it so much I just keep doing it over and over again
just keep doing it over and over again
just keep doing it over and over again it is easier it is easier to act
it is easier it is easier to act
it is easier it is easier to act yourself into a new way of thinking then
yourself into a new way of thinking then
yourself into a new way of thinking then to think yourself into a new way of
to think yourself into a new way of
to think yourself into a new way of acting
acting
acting our brains are often the enemy how do
our brains are often the enemy how do
our brains are often the enemy how do you do it how do you make your biggest
you do it how do you make your biggest
you do it how do you make your biggest fear and show your biggest success you
fear and show your biggest success you
fear and show your biggest success you just do it you put actions first we all
just do it you put actions first we all
just do it you put actions first we all know Nike slogans
know Nike slogans
know Nike slogans just do it what you probably don’t know
just do it what you probably don’t know
just do it what you probably don’t know is that Nike was an 800 million dollar
is that Nike was an 800 million dollar
is that Nike was an 800 million dollar company with low 20% market
company with low 20% market
company with low 20% market when they came up with this Logan then
when they came up with this Logan then
when they came up with this Logan then they struck a nerve deep inside of us
they struck a nerve deep inside of us
they struck a nerve deep inside of us someone we all believe is true you know
someone we all believe is true you know
someone we all believe is true you know what on the heels of the slogan ten
what on the heels of the slogan ten
what on the heels of the slogan ten billion dollar company 5060 percent
billion dollar company 5060 percent
billion dollar company 5060 percent market share that’s over the lifetime of
market share that’s over the lifetime of
market share that’s over the lifetime of youth in the slogan we can remember the
youth in the slogan we can remember the
youth in the slogan we can remember the ads it jazzed you up you’re like I can
ads it jazzed you up you’re like I can
ads it jazzed you up you’re like I can do that just get out there and do it and
do that just get out there and do it and
do that just get out there and do it and it works it works look we’re all going
it works it works look we’re all going
it works it works look we’re all going to get lumps and we’re all going to get
to get lumps and we’re all going to get
to get lumps and we’re all going to get bumped none of us can predict the future
bumped none of us can predict the future
bumped none of us can predict the future but we do know one thing about it and
but we do know one thing about it and
but we do know one thing about it and that sighted ain’t gonna go according to
that sighted ain’t gonna go according to
that sighted ain’t gonna go according to plan we will all have high highs and big
plan we will all have high highs and big
plan we will all have high highs and big days and proud moments of smiles on
days and proud moments of smiles on
days and proud moments of smiles on graduation stages father-daughter dances
graduation stages father-daughter dances
graduation stages father-daughter dances at weddings and healthy baby screeching
at weddings and healthy baby screeching
at weddings and healthy baby screeching in the delivery room but between those
in the delivery room but between those
in the delivery room but between those high highs we may also have some lumps
high highs we may also have some lumps
high highs we may also have some lumps and some bumps too it’s bad and you know
and some bumps too it’s bad and you know
and some bumps too it’s bad and you know it’s not pleasant to talk about but you
it’s not pleasant to talk about but you
it’s not pleasant to talk about but you know your husband might leave you your
know your husband might leave you your
know your husband might leave you your girlfriend could cheat your headaches
girlfriend could cheat your headaches
girlfriend could cheat your headaches might be more serious than you thought
might be more serious than you thought
might be more serious than you thought or your dog could get hit by a car on
or your dog could get hit by a car on
or your dog could get hit by a car on the street it’s not a happy thought but
the street it’s not a happy thought but
the street it’s not a happy thought but your kids could get mixed up in gangs or
your kids could get mixed up in gangs or
your kids could get mixed up in gangs or bad genes your mom could get cancer your
bad genes your mom could get cancer your
bad genes your mom could get cancer your dad could get mean and there are times
dad could get mean and there are times
dad could get mean and there are times in life when you will be tossed on the
in life when you will be tossed on the
in life when you will be tossed on the well – with twists in your stomach and
well – with twists in your stomach and
well – with twists in your stomach and with holes in your heart and when that
with holes in your heart and when that
with holes in your heart and when that bad news washes over you and when that
bad news washes over you and when that
bad news washes over you and when that pain sponges and soaks in
pain sponges and soaks in
pain sponges and soaks in I just really hope you feel like you’ve
I just really hope you feel like you’ve
I just really hope you feel like you’ve always got two choices one you can swirl
always got two choices one you can swirl
always got two choices one you can swirl and twirl in gloom and doom forever or
and twirl in gloom and doom forever or
and twirl in gloom and doom forever or two you can grieve and then face the
two you can grieve and then face the
two you can grieve and then face the future with newly sober eyes having a
future with newly sober eyes having a
future with newly sober eyes having a great attitude is about choosing option
great attitude is about choosing option
great attitude is about choosing option number two and choosing no matter how
number two and choosing no matter how
number two and choosing no matter how difficult it is no matter what pain hits
difficult it is no matter what pain hits
difficult it is no matter what pain hits you choosing to move forward and move on
you choosing to move forward and move on
you choosing to move forward and move on and take baby steps into the future I
and take baby steps into the future I
and take baby steps into the future I have a really strong viewpoint on advice
have a really strong viewpoint on advice
have a really strong viewpoint on advice and it’s a bit counterintuitive and
and it’s a bit counterintuitive and
and it’s a bit counterintuitive and here’s an amazing times controversial
here’s an amazing times controversial
here’s an amazing times controversial the thing is there’s a famous quote from
the thing is there’s a famous quote from
the thing is there’s a famous quote from 8,100 that says only are asking for
8,100 that says only are asking for
8,100 that says only are asking for advice we’re really looking for an
advice we’re really looking for an
advice we’re really looking for an accomplice okay we’re almost always
accomplice okay we’re almost always
accomplice okay we’re almost always looking for something to either agree
looking for something to either agree
looking for something to either agree with what we want or disagree with it so
with what we want or disagree with it so
with what we want or disagree with it so we can kind of
we can kind of
we can kind of stand firm in our view one you ask
stand firm in our view one you ask
stand firm in our view one you ask people what you should name your candle
people what you should name your candle
people what you should name your candle GUI you should go to you might already
GUI you should go to you might already
GUI you should go to you might already have an idea in your mind and so one day
have an idea in your mind and so one day
have an idea in your mind and so one day I was surfing through the newspaper I
I was surfing through the newspaper I
I was surfing through the newspaper I noticed the cover of the New York Times
noticed the cover of the New York Times
noticed the cover of the New York Times and the cover of the tallest are the
and the cover of the tallest are the
and the cover of the tallest are the biggest student papers in both countries
biggest student papers in both countries
biggest student papers in both countries has the exact opposite advice on them
has the exact opposite advice on them
has the exact opposite advice on them one said no need to get extra vitamin D
one said no need to get extra vitamin D
one said no need to get extra vitamin D because there’s a bit of study and a
because there’s a bit of study and a
because there’s a bit of study and a thousand people have been in the study
thousand people have been in the study
thousand people have been in the study and all the research says you don’t need
and all the research says you don’t need
and all the research says you don’t need more remedy the other newspaper said go
more remedy the other newspaper said go
more remedy the other newspaper said go on the office to get your remedy none of
on the office to get your remedy none of
on the office to get your remedy none of us are getting enough beers tilting away
us are getting enough beers tilting away
us are getting enough beers tilting away from the Sun like guys this is a big
from the Sun like guys this is a big
from the Sun like guys this is a big problem and I’m like it’s because it’s
problem and I’m like it’s because it’s
problem and I’m like it’s because it’s like huge credible new sources with
like huge credible new sources with
like huge credible new sources with studies backing both of them on the
studies backing both of them on the
studies backing both of them on the front page the same day showing the
front page the same day showing the
front page the same day showing the exact opposite advice let’s not think
exact opposite advice let’s not think
exact opposite advice let’s not think about advice the constant of advice
about advice the constant of advice
about advice the constant of advice realizing that the most common advice of
realizing that the most common advice of
realizing that the most common advice of all is actually cliches right so so true
all is actually cliches right so so true
all is actually cliches right so so true that you just have them memorized it’s
that you just have them memorized it’s
that you just have them memorized it’s like you know the early bird gets the
like you know the early bird gets the
like you know the early bird gets the worm right so thanks for thinking about
worm right so thanks for thinking about
worm right so thanks for thinking about your like or is it good things come to
your like or is it good things come to
your like or is it good things come to those who wait you know and you start
those who wait you know and you start
those who wait you know and you start saying okay well it’s actions speak
saying okay well it’s actions speak
saying okay well it’s actions speak louder than words right or is it the pen
louder than words right or is it the pen
louder than words right or is it the pen is mightier than the source and for
is mightier than the source and for
is mightier than the source and for every single cliche or piece of advice
every single cliche or piece of advice
every single cliche or piece of advice you’ve ever heard there is an equal
you’ve ever heard there is an equal
you’ve ever heard there is an equal opposing piece of advice so the biggest
opposing piece of advice so the biggest
opposing piece of advice so the biggest advice I leave anybody with it don’t
advice I leave anybody with it don’t
advice I leave anybody with it don’t take advice the answers are all inside
take advice the answers are all inside
take advice the answers are all inside you you already know what to do and
you you already know what to do and
you you already know what to do and anything you’re seeking is just trying
anything you’re seeking is just trying
anything you’re seeking is just trying to confirm something you already believe
to confirm something you already believe
to confirm something you already believe forget it
forget it
forget it you don’t need the book you don’t need
you don’t need the book you don’t need
you don’t need the book you don’t need the newspapers you don’t need any advice
the newspapers you don’t need any advice
the newspapers you don’t need any advice you already know what to do just do that
you already know what to do just do that
you already know what to do just do that so I was I’m 36 now I when I was 20
so I was I’m 36 now I when I was 20
so I was I’m 36 now I when I was 20 years old I was going to Queens
years old I was going to Queens
years old I was going to Queens University anyone want one go to Queens
University anyone want one go to Queens
University anyone want one go to Queens here shrim
here shrim
here shrim a lot of good Queens turnout today it
a lot of good Queens turnout today it
a lot of good Queens turnout today it was good and I was running for the
was good and I was running for the
was good and I was running for the campus humor newspaper golden word it
campus humor newspaper golden word it
campus humor newspaper golden word it was free like it wasn’t a paid job but I
was free like it wasn’t a paid job but I
was free like it wasn’t a paid job but I love doing and I love writing this
love doing and I love writing this
love doing and I love writing this comedy writing stuff and so I took up I
comedy writing stuff and so I took up I
comedy writing stuff and so I took up I took a little paid internship down in
took a little paid internship down in
took a little paid internship down in New York City writing for a comedy
New York City writing for a comedy
New York City writing for a comedy startup Simpsons writers starting I live
startup Simpsons writers starting I live
startup Simpsons writers starting I live writers living in the Lower East Side I
writers living in the Lower East Side I
writers living in the Lower East Side I like this is my dream but it turned into
like this is my dream but it turned into
like this is my dream but it turned into the worst shove that ever has why
the worst shove that ever has why
the worst shove that ever has why because once I got paid to do something
because once I got paid to do something
because once I got paid to do something I loved naturally suddenly I had
I loved naturally suddenly I had
I loved naturally suddenly I had constraints I had to write an article
constraints I had to write an article
constraints I had to write an article but this topic with this person by this
but this topic with this person by this
but this topic with this person by this time and it became so
time and it became so
time and it became so like limiting and I said to myself when
like limiting and I said to myself when
like limiting and I said to myself when I started a thousand often thanks calm I
I started a thousand often thanks calm I
I started a thousand often thanks calm I will never do it for money I never put
will never do it for money I never put
will never do it for money I never put an ad on the website ever fifty million
an ad on the website ever fifty million
an ad on the website ever fifty million hits it’s only cost me money through URL
hits it’s only cost me money through URL
hits it’s only cost me money through URL renewing you know I mean it’s never made
renewing you know I mean it’s never made
renewing you know I mean it’s never made a cent and so I’m smart about that I’m
a cent and so I’m smart about that I’m
a cent and so I’m smart about that I’m smart about focusing on the intrinsic
smart about focusing on the intrinsic
smart about focusing on the intrinsic motivators doing something you love but
motivators doing something you love but
motivators doing something you love but I was really dumb about starting to
I was really dumb about starting to
I was really dumb about starting to focus on stack counters bestseller lists
focus on stack counters bestseller lists
focus on stack counters bestseller lists how like those extrinsic motives kept
how like those extrinsic motives kept
how like those extrinsic motives kept creeping in and you know the problem is
creeping in and you know the problem is
creeping in and you know the problem is Rachel they creep in to our lives all
Rachel they creep in to our lives all
Rachel they creep in to our lives all the time right you can’t you can get a
the time right you can’t you can get a
the time right you can’t you can get a job for a place you love cool I’m
job for a place you love cool I’m
job for a place you love cool I’m working for a company I believe in
working for a company I believe in
working for a company I believe in pretty soon you have a job evaluation
pretty soon you have a job evaluation
pretty soon you have a job evaluation you have a salary
you have a salary
you have a salary these are extrinsic motivators you start
these are extrinsic motivators you start
these are extrinsic motivators you start targeting your behavior to hitting like
targeting your behavior to hitting like
targeting your behavior to hitting like I want to be a solid performer that
I want to be a solid performer that
I want to be a solid performer that lowers your performance because you’re
lowers your performance because you’re
lowers your performance because you’re like I just have to get somewhere in the
like I just have to get somewhere in the
like I just have to get somewhere in the middle and I get my crappy 2% raise like
middle and I get my crappy 2% raise like
middle and I get my crappy 2% raise like I don’t really get much from that and if
I don’t really get much from that and if
I don’t really get much from that and if they’re going to reward me on that then
they’re going to reward me on that then
they’re going to reward me on that then the studies all show that those
the studies all show that those
the studies all show that those extrinsic motivators actually block you
extrinsic motivators actually block you
extrinsic motivators actually block you from seeing your intrinsic motivators so
from seeing your intrinsic motivators so
from seeing your intrinsic motivators so dr. Theresa I’m Abby Lee at Brandis
dr. Theresa I’m Abby Lee at Brandis
dr. Theresa I’m Abby Lee at Brandis University showed that if you have girls
University showed that if you have girls
University showed that if you have girls teach piano to other girls and you say
teach piano to other girls and you say
teach piano to other girls and you say do it because you love it and you want
do it because you love it and you want
do it because you love it and you want peace in piano they do an awesome job
peace in piano they do an awesome job
peace in piano they do an awesome job and if you say we’ll give you a movie
and if you say we’ll give you a movie
and if you say we’ll give you a movie ticket if you teach piano for half an
ticket if you teach piano for half an
ticket if you teach piano for half an hour they stink at it they get
hour they stink at it they get
hour they stink at it they get frustrated they learn they leave after
frustrated they learn they leave after
frustrated they learn they leave after half an hour like they’re just not very
half an hour like they’re just not very
half an hour like they’re just not very good and so it could be that paying or
good and so it could be that paying or
good and so it could be that paying or communicating a numerical value for
communicating a numerical value for
communicating a numerical value for something actually reduces your own
something actually reduces your own
something actually reduces your own internal motivation so when the book of
internal motivation so when the book of
internal motivation so when the book of awesome took off I got hooked on all
awesome took off I got hooked on all
awesome took off I got hooked on all that stuff because it’s so visible so
that stuff because it’s so visible so
that stuff because it’s so visible so tangible so real and to answer that
tangible so real and to answer that
tangible so real and to answer that question for myself with the happiness
question for myself with the happiness
question for myself with the happiness equation I drew a new model called the
equation I drew a new model called the
equation I drew a new model called the success triangle okay and I say there’s
success triangle okay and I say there’s
success triangle okay and I say there’s three kinds of success there is sales
three kinds of success there is sales
three kinds of success there is sales success there is social success and
success there is social success and
success there is social success and there’s self success sales success how
there’s self success sales success how
there’s self success sales success how many books did you ship like how many
many books did you ship like how many
many books did you ship like how many products did you sell how much money did
products did you sell how much money did
products did you sell how much money did you make from something social success
you make from something social success
you make from something social success what other people think what’s the
what other people think what’s the
what other people think what’s the critical review is it nominated for an
critical review is it nominated for an
critical review is it nominated for an award right is there a prize it’s okay
award right is there a prize it’s okay
award right is there a prize it’s okay with if it’s a movie did it get in the
with if it’s a movie did it get in the
with if it’s a movie did it get in the Kami award and then self success how do
Kami award and then self success how do
Kami award and then self success how do you feel about it and they can
you feel about it and they can
you feel about it and they can contradict they contradict like Hotel
contradict they contradict like Hotel
contradict they contradict like Hotel Transylvania 2
Transylvania 2
Transylvania 2 one the ton of sales right and zero
one the ton of sales right and zero
one the ton of sales right and zero Academy Award nomination spotlight which
Academy Award nomination spotlight which
Academy Award nomination spotlight which won best picture had nineteen million
won best picture had nineteen million
won best picture had nineteen million dollars of box-office compares it over
dollars of box-office compares it over
dollars of box-office compares it over two hundred million for teletraan
two hundred million for teletraan
two hundred million for teletraan million to why do I know those numbers
million to why do I know those numbers
million to why do I know those numbers because they contradict all the time and
because they contradict all the time and
because they contradict all the time and so the only way to solve it is to answer
so the only way to solve it is to answer
so the only way to solve it is to answer it for yourself and focus on self
it for yourself and focus on self
it for yourself and focus on self success like I wrote a letter to my
success like I wrote a letter to my
success like I wrote a letter to my unborn child I hope he gets to read it
unborn child I hope he gets to read it
unborn child I hope he gets to read it one day and if I can try my best keep
one day and if I can try my best keep
one day and if I can try my best keep focusing on that mantra then it solves
focusing on that mantra then it solves
focusing on that mantra then it solves me from worrying about or at least
me from worrying about or at least
me from worrying about or at least stressing over things I can’t control I
stressing over things I can’t control I
stressing over things I can’t control I love hanging out with three-year-olds I
love hanging out with three-year-olds I
love hanging out with three-year-olds I love the way that they see the world
love the way that they see the world
love the way that they see the world because they’re seeing the world for the
because they’re seeing the world for the
because they’re seeing the world for the first time I love the way that they can
first time I love the way that they can
first time I love the way that they can stare at a bug crossing the sidewalk I
stare at a bug crossing the sidewalk I
stare at a bug crossing the sidewalk I love the way that they’ll stare
love the way that they’ll stare
love the way that they’ll stare slack-jawed at the first baseball game
slack-jawed at the first baseball game
slack-jawed at the first baseball game with wide eyes and admit on their hand
with wide eyes and admit on their hand
with wide eyes and admit on their hand soaking in the crack of the bat and the
soaking in the crack of the bat and the
soaking in the crack of the bat and the crunch of the peanuts and the smell of
crunch of the peanuts and the smell of
crunch of the peanuts and the smell of the hot dogs I love the way that looks
the hot dogs I love the way that looks
the hot dogs I love the way that looks spend hours picking dandelions in the
spend hours picking dandelions in the
spend hours picking dandelions in the backyard and putting them into a nice
backyard and putting them into a nice
backyard and putting them into a nice centerpiece for Thanksgiving dinner I
centerpiece for Thanksgiving dinner I
centerpiece for Thanksgiving dinner I love the way that they see the world
love the way that they see the world
love the way that they see the world because they’re seeing the world for the
because they’re seeing the world for the
because they’re seeing the world for the first time having a sense of awareness
first time having a sense of awareness
first time having a sense of awareness is just about embracing your inner
is just about embracing your inner
is just about embracing your inner three-year-old because you all used to
three-year-old because you all used to
three-year-old because you all used to be three years old
be three years old
be three years old that’s the real boy is still part of you
that’s the real boy is still part of you
that’s the real boy is still part of you that three year old girl is still part
that three year old girl is still part
that three year old girl is still part of you they’re in there and being aware
of you they’re in there and being aware
of you they’re in there and being aware it’s about remembering that you saw
it’s about remembering that you saw
it’s about remembering that you saw everything you’ve seen for the first
everything you’ve seen for the first
everything you’ve seen for the first time once too so there was a time when
time once too so there was a time when
time once too so there was a time when it was your first time ever hitting a
it was your first time ever hitting a
it was your first time ever hitting a string of green lights on the way home
string of green lights on the way home
string of green lights on the way home from work it was there was the first
from work it was there was the first
from work it was there was the first time you walked by the open door of a
time you walked by the open door of a
time you walked by the open door of a bakery in snow smelt the bakery air but
bakery in snow smelt the bakery air but
bakery in snow smelt the bakery air but the first time you pulled a $20 bill out
the first time you pulled a $20 bill out
the first time you pulled a $20 bill out of your old jacket pocket had sound
of your old jacket pocket had sound
of your old jacket pocket had sound money there’s these three numbers that
money there’s these three numbers that
money there’s these three numbers that scare me every single morning I wake up
scare me every single morning I wake up
scare me every single morning I wake up I think about these numbers every day
I think about these numbers every day
I think about these numbers every day okay number one a hundred and forty
okay number one a hundred and forty
okay number one a hundred and forty seven this is the average amount of
seven this is the average amount of
seven this is the average amount of emails people receive a day today 147
emails people receive a day today 147
emails people receive a day today 147 the average number of emails average
the average number of emails average
the average number of emails average person is currently receiving 150 this
person is currently receiving 150 this
person is currently receiving 150 this is the average number of times the
is the average number of times the
is the average number of times the private person checks their cell phone
private person checks their cell phone
private person checks their cell phone at bay a day which means three times you
at bay a day which means three times you
at bay a day which means three times you check yourself when there’s nothing
check yourself when there’s nothing
check yourself when there’s nothing there because there’s 147 times there’s
there because there’s 147 times there’s
there because there’s 147 times there’s the three times was like yeah I need to
the three times was like yeah I need to
the three times was like yeah I need to check that number three the average
check that number three the average
check that number three the average person is making 295 decisions a day 295
person is making 295 decisions a day 295
person is making 295 decisions a day 295 decisions today did you have lunch where
decisions today did you have lunch where
decisions today did you have lunch where I had lunch means I want the beef don’t
I had lunch means I want the beef don’t
I had lunch means I want the beef don’t want the chicken or want the fish they
want the chicken or want the fish they
want the chicken or want the fish they all look goose one do I choose where do
all look goose one do I choose where do
all look goose one do I choose where do I say Italy say with there’s so many
I say Italy say with there’s so many
I say Italy say with there’s so many decisions you’re making decisions all
decisions you’re making decisions all
decisions you’re making decisions all the time I mean I’m driving to work and
the time I mean I’m driving to work and
the time I mean I’m driving to work and I’m making decisions what street ones
I’m making decisions what street ones
I’m making decisions what street ones are left right here there you get on the
are left right here there you get on the
are left right here there you get on the treadmill Hill manual inclines what I
treadmill Hill manual inclines what I
treadmill Hill manual inclines what I want to watch from the TV you’re making
want to watch from the TV you’re making
want to watch from the TV you’re making too many decisions and this
too many decisions and this
too many decisions and this decision-making energy in our brains is
decision-making energy in our brains is
decision-making energy in our brains is a finite resource we only have a limited
a finite resource we only have a limited
a finite resource we only have a limited amount of it and when it’s gone it’s
amount of it and when it’s gone it’s
amount of it and when it’s gone it’s gone you don’t even notice you’re using
gone you don’t even notice you’re using
gone you don’t even notice you’re using it and there’s only two ways to
it and there’s only two ways to
it and there’s only two ways to replenish it number one is sleep and
replenish it number one is sleep and
replenish it number one is sleep and number two is glucose or anything that
number two is glucose or anything that
number two is glucose or anything that turns into glucose in your body which
turns into glucose in your body which
turns into glucose in your body which means at the front of the supermarket
means at the front of the supermarket
means at the front of the supermarket was just done choosing 30 different
was just done choosing 30 different
was just done choosing 30 different salsas and 20 different kind of eggs
salsas and 20 different kind of eggs
salsas and 20 different kind of eggs used to be that there was one kind of
used to be that there was one kind of
used to be that there was one kind of eggs and now there’s 20 when you’re done
eggs and now there’s 20 when you’re done
eggs and now there’s 20 when you’re done choosing your eggs and your salty get to
choosing your eggs and your salty get to
choosing your eggs and your salty get to the front what is their titles again the
the front what is their titles again the
the front what is their titles again the bars at the end of the trip when your
bars at the end of the trip when your
bars at the end of the trip when your decision-making energy is found they
decision-making energy is found they
decision-making energy is found they finally hit you with the thing you don’t
finally hit you with the thing you don’t
finally hit you with the thing you don’t even know you need but you need it
even know you need but you need it
even know you need but you need it because you just used all of your
because you just used all of your
because you just used all of your decision-making energy as anyone here
decision-making energy as anyone here
decision-making energy as anyone here ever had the experience of choosing the
ever had the experience of choosing the
ever had the experience of choosing the wedding registry in a big department
wedding registry in a big department
wedding registry in a big department store anyone ever had that you know
store anyone ever had that you know
store anyone ever had that you know where they give you the towels on gun
where they give you the towels on gun
where they give you the towels on gun you walk around yourself scanning
you walk around yourself scanning
you walk around yourself scanning everything it’s not in the morning isn’t
everything it’s not in the morning isn’t
everything it’s not in the morning isn’t it hey what kind of glasses do we want
it hey what kind of glasses do we want
it hey what kind of glasses do we want always always bright shiny how many do
always always bright shiny how many do
always always bright shiny how many do we need how many bowls how many plates
we need how many bowls how many plates
we need how many bowls how many plates how many four how many knives howdy boy
how many four how many knives howdy boy
how many four how many knives howdy boy do we need blankets yeah by the end of
do we need blankets yeah by the end of
do we need blankets yeah by the end of the day my wife that I did at the end of
the day my wife that I did at the end of
the day my wife that I did at the end of the day we’re adding like $300 ice
the day we’re adding like $300 ice
the day we’re adding like $300 ice buckets we never use an ice bucket we
buckets we never use an ice bucket we
buckets we never use an ice bucket we don’t need an ice bucket never mind a
don’t need an ice bucket never mind a
don’t need an ice bucket never mind a really fancy one our decision-making
really fancy one our decision-making
really fancy one our decision-making energy is gone we’re making 295
energy is gone we’re making 295
energy is gone we’re making 295 divisions a day so to research the
divisions a day so to research the
divisions a day so to research the happiness equation I interviewed a
happiness equation I interviewed a
happiness equation I interviewed a number of fortune 500 CEOs billionaires
number of fortune 500 CEOs billionaires
number of fortune 500 CEOs billionaires politicians world leaders selling
politicians world leaders selling
politicians world leaders selling authors and I asked them one question
authors and I asked them one question
authors and I asked them one question I said you’re a busy successful person
I said you’re a busy successful person
I said you’re a busy successful person how
how
how make all the decisions in your day how
make all the decisions in your day how
make all the decisions in your day how do you create space because I know your
do you create space because I know your
do you create space because I know your schedule is busy and I synthesize the
schedule is busy and I synthesize the
schedule is busy and I synthesize the result from all the surveys into one
result from all the surveys into one
result from all the surveys into one drawing I made for you today my drawings
drawing I made for you today my drawings
drawing I made for you today my drawings suggest that every decision you make
suggest that every decision you make
suggest that every decision you make takes a certain amount of time and it’s
takes a certain amount of time and it’s
takes a certain amount of time and it’s of a certain importance it’s either a
of a certain importance it’s either a
of a certain importance it’s either a lot of time or it’s a little something
lot of time or it’s a little something
lot of time or it’s a little something take very long and see they’re not very
take very long and see they’re not very
take very long and see they’re not very important or it’s the big deal every
important or it’s the big deal every
important or it’s the big deal every single decision we make is on this chart
single decision we make is on this chart
single decision we make is on this chart so what do we do with those decisions
so what do we do with those decisions
so what do we do with those decisions that are low time and low importance one
that are low time and low importance one
that are low time and low importance one of the successful people do low time a
of the successful people do low time a
of the successful people do low time a importance with those decisions your
importance with those decisions your
importance with those decisions your goal is to automate them to automate
goal is to automate them to automate
goal is to automate them to automate them remember I told you I was trying to
them remember I told you I was trying to
them remember I told you I was trying to saw which way to get to work every day
saw which way to get to work every day
saw which way to get to work every day now I follow the ways crowd-sourced
now I follow the ways crowd-sourced
now I follow the ways crowd-sourced traffic app I don’t think about how I
traffic app I don’t think about how I
traffic app I don’t think about how I get to work anymore ever again all those
get to work anymore ever again all those
get to work anymore ever again all those decisions which treat this treat left to
decisions which treat this treat left to
decisions which treat this treat left to right here I can try to beat the traffic
right here I can try to beat the traffic
right here I can try to beat the traffic here listen to the radio for this one
here listen to the radio for this one
here listen to the radio for this one I don’t think about I took 52 decisions
I don’t think about I took 52 decisions
I don’t think about I took 52 decisions out of my day with that one change alone
out of my day with that one change alone
out of my day with that one change alone came up to me after one of my speeches
came up to me after one of my speeches
came up to me after one of my speeches and said you know what that makes a lot
and said you know what that makes a lot
and said you know what that makes a lot of sense because for four years at work
of sense because for four years at work
of sense because for four years at work I was also struggling at lunch at my
I was also struggling at lunch at my
I was also struggling at lunch at my office it was always like where are you
office it was always like where are you
office it was always like where are you going to go for lunch today do you want
going to go for lunch today do you want
going to go for lunch today do you want to go here join Hayes who’s going to
to go here join Hayes who’s going to
to go here join Hayes who’s going to come it who’s going to drive what do you
come it who’s going to drive what do you
come it who’s going to drive what do you want your sandwich lettuce tomato
want your sandwich lettuce tomato
want your sandwich lettuce tomato pickles that we got to get back it’s
pickles that we got to get back it’s
pickles that we got to get back it’s like so many decisions about what she’s
like so many decisions about what she’s
like so many decisions about what she’s like now I just have a new policy it’s
like now I just have a new policy it’s
like now I just have a new policy it’s called double dinners every dinner I
called double dinners every dinner I
called double dinners every dinner I make I make double and the double amount
make I make double and the double amount
make I make double and the double amount is my lunch leftover the next day it’s
is my lunch leftover the next day it’s
is my lunch leftover the next day it’s not rocket science it takes 32 decisions
not rocket science it takes 32 decisions
not rocket science it takes 32 decisions out of the day for her my friend Chaz
out of the day for her my friend Chaz
out of the day for her my friend Chaz has Amazon automatic refills on every
has Amazon automatic refills on every
has Amazon automatic refills on every single consumable item in his entire
single consumable item in his entire
single consumable item in his entire house he never thinks about buying
house he never thinks about buying
house he never thinks about buying toilet paper again or paper towel or
toilet paper again or paper towel or
toilet paper again or paper towel or soap or anything even towel he’s like
soap or anything even towel he’s like
soap or anything even towel he’s like yeah I figured I’d use a towel like once
yeah I figured I’d use a towel like once
yeah I figured I’d use a towel like once every 1.5 years so it Auto replenishes
every 1.5 years so it Auto replenishes
every 1.5 years so it Auto replenishes every one point five years ago a new
every one point five years ago a new
every one point five years ago a new face towel which every single thing is
face towel which every single thing is
face towel which every single thing is automatic for him it’s a decision that’s
automatic for him it’s a decision that’s
automatic for him it’s a decision that’s for him is low time and low importance
for him is low time and low importance
for him is low time and low importance what can you automate in your life now
what can you automate in your life now
what can you automate in your life now one of those such as soon’s that don’t
one of those such as soon’s that don’t
one of those such as soon’s that don’t take very long but they’re really
take very long but they’re really
take very long but they’re really important I’m top
important I’m top
important I’m top about picking your kids up from daycare
about picking your kids up from daycare
about picking your kids up from daycare I’m talking about saying hi to your team
I’m talking about saying hi to your team
I’m talking about saying hi to your team in the morning this is important stuff
in the morning this is important stuff
in the morning this is important stuff people you can’t just not do it and
people you can’t just not do it and
people you can’t just not do it and that’s why my model suggests that you
that’s why my model suggests that you
that’s why my model suggests that you simply have to do it it’s a special way
simply have to do it it’s a special way
simply have to do it it’s a special way it’s a big word with a small meeting it
it’s a big word with a small meeting it
it’s a big word with a small meeting it just means get er done
just means get er done
just means get er done execute simply effectuate those
execute simply effectuate those
execute simply effectuate those decisions now what about the decisions
decisions now what about the decisions
decisions now what about the decisions that are low and important to take a lot
that are low and important to take a lot
that are low and important to take a lot of time these are the ones that bog is
of time these are the ones that bog is
of time these are the ones that bog is down right these are the checking a
down right these are the checking a
down right these are the checking a hundred and forty seven emails
hundred and forty seven emails
hundred and forty seven emails throughout the day it’s getting home
throughout the day it’s getting home
throughout the day it’s getting home every night doing a different chore or
every night doing a different chore or
every night doing a different chore or errand these are the ones that actually
errand these are the ones that actually
errand these are the ones that actually actually make us sweat and this is why I
actually make us sweat and this is why I
actually make us sweat and this is why I want to tell you that for decisions that
want to tell you that for decisions that
want to tell you that for decisions that are not very important that are taking a
are not very important that are taking a
are not very important that are taking a lot of time our goal is to regulate them
lot of time our goal is to regulate them
lot of time our goal is to regulate them find an invisible sense in your life and
find an invisible sense in your life and
find an invisible sense in your life and pull around those things so they still
pull around those things so they still
pull around those things so they still exist but they’re only fenced in an
exist but they’re only fenced in an
exist but they’re only fenced in an example of the person to mature every
example of the person to mature every
example of the person to mature every night after work
night after work
night after work chores bliss Sunday now I only do chores
chores bliss Sunday now I only do chores
chores bliss Sunday now I only do chores and chores put Sunday my wife and I’ve
and chores put Sunday my wife and I’ve
and chores put Sunday my wife and I’ve our address is 276 on our house we have
our address is 276 on our house we have
our address is 276 on our house we have some when we convention called 276 day
some when we convention called 276 day
some when we convention called 276 day anything I think should be improved in
anything I think should be improved in
anything I think should be improved in the house or anything she thinks should
the house or anything she thinks should
the house or anything she thinks should be in prison up this hinge is kind of
be in prison up this hinge is kind of
be in prison up this hinge is kind of broken that wall needs a bit more paint
broken that wall needs a bit more paint
broken that wall needs a bit more paint someone’s got to look at the toilet
someone’s got to look at the toilet
someone’s got to look at the toilet upstairs you know we just write on our
upstairs you know we just write on our
upstairs you know we just write on our 276 day chart now one Saturday morning a
276 day chart now one Saturday morning a
276 day chart now one Saturday morning a month from 9:00 to 12:00 we have on both
month from 9:00 to 12:00 we have on both
month from 9:00 to 12:00 we have on both of our calendars for the next twelve
of our calendars for the next twelve
of our calendars for the next twelve months we have 276 days all we’re doing
months we have 276 days all we’re doing
months we have 276 days all we’re doing is all those little things that built up
is all those little things that built up
is all those little things that built up we regulated it so we don’t worry about
we regulated it so we don’t worry about
we regulated it so we don’t worry about those things for the rest of the month
those things for the rest of the month
those things for the rest of the month it’s the same as people that have
it’s the same as people that have
it’s the same as people that have created an email window all we answer
created an email window all we answer
created an email window all we answer emails 9:00 to 10:00 a.m. 4:00 to 5:00
emails 9:00 to 10:00 a.m. 4:00 to 5:00
emails 9:00 to 10:00 a.m. 4:00 to 5:00 p.m. guess what from 10:00 to 4:00
p.m. guess what from 10:00 to 4:00
p.m. guess what from 10:00 to 4:00 I’m email free right you regulate it to
I’m email free right you regulate it to
I’m email free right you regulate it to a part of the day and guess what happens
a part of the day and guess what happens
a part of the day and guess what happens when you automate effectuate and
when you automate effectuate and
when you automate effectuate and regulate your decisions you actually
regulate your decisions you actually
regulate your decisions you actually have time to debate the ones that matter
have time to debate the ones that matter
have time to debate the ones that matter you actually have time to think about to
you actually have time to think about to
you actually have time to think about to chew on to wrestle with but where am I
chew on to wrestle with but where am I
chew on to wrestle with but where am I going to be Who am I going to be with
going to be Who am I going to be with
going to be Who am I going to be with where am I going to go all those things
where am I going to go all those things
where am I going to go all those things that matter
that matter
that matter affect their life more than anything
affect their life more than anything
affect their life more than anything else you can now give them the time and
else you can now give them the time and
else you can now give them the time and the energy they deserve to properly
the energy they deserve to properly
the energy they deserve to properly debate them so Neil thank you so much
debate them so Neil thank you so much
debate them so Neil thank you so much for sharing all these great 10 tips are
for sharing all these great 10 tips are
for sharing all these great 10 tips are really appreciated since I have you here
really appreciated since I have you here
really appreciated since I have you here live in person in studio I’m curious if
live in person in studio I’m curious if
live in person in studio I’m curious if you could share for my audience a bonus
you could share for my audience a bonus
you could share for my audience a bonus yeah lovin that rule that those 11
yeah lovin that rule that those 11
yeah lovin that rule that those 11 through here’s one for you is we want
through here’s one for you is we want
through here’s one for you is we want contracts for our work lives employment
contracts for our work lives employment
contracts for our work lives employment contracts performance contracts my bonus
contracts performance contracts my bonus
contracts performance contracts my bonus tip is you need a contract for your
tip is you need a contract for your
tip is you need a contract for your personal life so my wife Leslie and I
personal life so my wife Leslie and I
personal life so my wife Leslie and I have a personal contract it dictates
have a personal contract it dictates
have a personal contract it dictates that I’ll tell you the bullet point the
that I’ll tell you the bullet point the
that I’ll tell you the bullet point the number of nights I’m away per year the
number of nights I’m away per year the
number of nights I’m away per year the number of nights I’m away per month
number of nights I’m away per month
number of nights I’m away per month every week I have an MNO and Neal’s my
every week I have an MNO and Neal’s my
every week I have an MNO and Neal’s my dough and every week she said an Ellen a
dough and every week she said an Ellen a
dough and every week she said an Ellen a Leslie night out you laugh but you know
Leslie night out you laugh but you know
Leslie night out you laugh but you know what’s that dinner I have with a body or
what’s that dinner I have with a body or
what’s that dinner I have with a body or that squash game I’m playing with a
that squash game I’m playing with a
that squash game I’m playing with a friend with no worries about missing the
friend with no worries about missing the
friend with no worries about missing the time with the my wife and my kids makes
time with the my wife and my kids makes
time with the my wife and my kids makes me a matter matter dad it really does it
me a matter matter dad it really does it
me a matter matter dad it really does it makes me a better husband and I’m not
makes me a better husband and I’m not
makes me a better husband and I’m not guilty also because I know she’s God
guilty also because I know she’s God
guilty also because I know she’s God they do our fourth bullet point is it
they do our fourth bullet point is it
they do our fourth bullet point is it every weekend two days we have one day
every weekend two days we have one day
every weekend two days we have one day of the two that’s just our family just
of the two that’s just our family just
of the two that’s just our family just to kind of you know incubate have that
to kind of you know incubate have that
to kind of you know incubate have that family time and those four bullet points
family time and those four bullet points
family time and those four bullet points like the time I’m going to be away are
like the time I’m going to be away are
like the time I’m going to be away are nice out and the time together on a
nice out and the time together on a
nice out and the time together on a weekend helps me have a bit of a
weekend helps me have a bit of a
weekend helps me have a bit of a personal contract that if I break it as
personal contract that if I break it as
personal contract that if I break it as a tragedy some of the travels a lot then
a tragedy some of the travels a lot then
a tragedy some of the travels a lot then I know the next weekend or the next week
I know the next weekend or the next week
I know the next weekend or the next week I got to make it up again and I think
I got to make it up again and I think
I got to make it up again and I think having a personal contract is just as
having a personal contract is just as
having a personal contract is just as important as having an employment
important as having an employment
important as having an employment contract and it’s just covered in your
contract and it’s just covered in your
contract and it’s just covered in your book it’s not it’s bonus just for Evan
book it’s not it’s bonus just for Evan
book it’s not it’s bonus just for Evan Carmichael YouTube channel it’s
Carmichael YouTube channel it’s
Carmichael YouTube channel it’s something that you know what I’ve been
something that you know what I’ve been
something that you know what I’ve been talking a lot about recently and I’m
talking a lot about recently and I’m
talking a lot about recently and I’m getting a reaction to it and I’m
getting a reaction to it and I’m
getting a reaction to it and I’m thinking it’s something I need to write
thinking it’s something I need to write
thinking it’s something I need to write something new about on this topic cuz
something new about on this topic cuz
something new about on this topic cuz it’s something I’ve been doing for years
it’s something I’ve been doing for years
it’s something I’ve been doing for years I had a boss when I worked at Walmart
I had a boss when I worked at Walmart
I had a boss when I worked at Walmart for a decade he said every time you take
for a decade he said every time you take
for a decade he said every time you take a new job we give you a work contract
a new job we give you a work contract
a new job we give you a work contract you travel more you make more money you
you travel more you make more money you
you travel more you make more money you work more hours but you don’t go home
work more hours but you don’t go home
work more hours but you don’t go home and say hey what does this mean for a
and say hey what does this mean for a
and say hey what does this mean for a number of dinners at home what does this
number of dinners at home what does this
number of dinners at home what does this mean for number of weekends away right
mean for number of weekends away right
mean for number of weekends away right those things at a home too so that you
those things at a home too so that you
those things at a home too so that you don’t apply stress and pressure on one
don’t apply stress and pressure on one
don’t apply stress and pressure on one system and expense exchange for the
system and expense exchange for the
system and expense exchange for the other because I sort of do that for work
other because I sort of do that for work
other because I sort of do that for work that as I became an entrepreneur as I’m
that as I became an entrepreneur as I’m
that as I became an entrepreneur as I’m starting to write and speak full-time it
starting to write and speak full-time it
starting to write and speak full-time it became natural for me to
became natural for me to
became natural for me to this document out and my personal life
this document out and my personal life
this document out and my personal life still how do you decide how much of it
still how do you decide how much of it
still how do you decide how much of it you do yourself and then because some of
you do yourself and then because some of
you do yourself and then because some of them a personal yeah and then how much
them a personal yeah and then how much
them a personal yeah and then how much you’re bringing to you as a joint
you’re bringing to you as a joint
you’re bringing to you as a joint exercise with your wife yeah where I
exercise with your wife yeah where I
exercise with your wife yeah where I think about it yes I’m an entrepreneur
think about it yes I’m an entrepreneur
think about it yes I’m an entrepreneur right I am writing I am speaking I’m
right I am writing I am speaking I’m
right I am writing I am speaking I’m trying to share these messages about
trying to share these messages about
trying to share these messages about positivity around the world I believe
positivity around the world I believe
positivity around the world I believe that I am working to increase happiness
that I am working to increase happiness
that I am working to increase happiness an organization I’m passionate about but
an organization I’m passionate about but
an organization I’m passionate about but I am living inside a system
I am living inside a system
I am living inside a system that I love with my wife with my
that I love with my wife with my
that I love with my wife with my children that is as or more important to
children that is as or more important to
children that is as or more important to me and that system has to be healthy it
me and that system has to be healthy it
me and that system has to be healthy it has to be functional has to have great
has to be functional has to have great
has to be functional has to have great food great dinners great love great
food great dinners great love great
food great dinners great love great vacations and if I’m not if I’m being
vacations and if I’m not if I’m being
vacations and if I’m not if I’m being irresponsible at system what’s the point
irresponsible at system what’s the point
irresponsible at system what’s the point so it’s all through conversation it’s
so it’s all through conversation it’s
so it’s all through conversation it’s all for organic you write out what works
all for organic you write out what works
all for organic you write out what works for you I shared the travel the time
for you I shared the travel the time
for you I shared the travel the time together that the nights out for energy
together that the nights out for energy
together that the nights out for energy because that’s what works for us you
because that’s what works for us you
because that’s what works for us you could have your own thing it could be
could have your own thing it could be
could have your own thing it could be about exercise it can be a personal
about exercise it can be a personal
about exercise it can be a personal vacation it could be about you know
vacation it could be about you know
vacation it could be about you know whatever works for you I just think that
whatever works for you I just think that
whatever works for you I just think that having that personal contract it’s
having that personal contract it’s
having that personal contract it’s something that we don’t have enough as
something that we don’t have enough as
something that we don’t have enough as entrepreneurs in the back of our mind as
entrepreneurs in the back of our mind as
entrepreneurs in the back of our mind as we’re living these busy hectic lives
we’re living these busy hectic lives
we’re living these busy hectic lives we’re constantly trading off our
we’re constantly trading off our
we’re constantly trading off our personal for work when there should be
personal for work when there should be
personal for work when there should be two contracts and how often are you
two contracts and how often are you
two contracts and how often are you revisiting those contracts yeah but once
revisiting those contracts yeah but once
revisiting those contracts yeah but once a year okay I don’t want to be here and
a year okay I don’t want to be here and
a year okay I don’t want to be here and it’s because it exists on paper and you
it’s because it exists on paper and you
it’s because it exists on paper and you actually write let you sign it wow it
actually write let you sign it wow it
actually write let you sign it wow it smells so here’s a real pause okay
smells so here’s a real pause okay
smells so here’s a real pause okay that’s a that’s why it comes to life
that’s a that’s why it comes to life
that’s a that’s why it comes to life because I’m putting ink on paper here
because I’m putting ink on paper here
because I’m putting ink on paper here right not quite blood on paper but it’s
right not quite blood on paper but it’s
right not quite blood on paper but it’s like pretty serious that if you break it
like pretty serious that if you break it
like pretty serious that if you break it if you break it if I don’t have an end
if you break it if I don’t have an end
if you break it if I don’t have an end unknown and I’m going to kind of
unknown and I’m going to kind of
unknown and I’m going to kind of frustrate it I need to the next week to
frustrate it I need to the next week to
frustrate it I need to the next week to make up for it if we don’t have the day
make up for it if we don’t have the day
make up for it if we don’t have the day together on the weekend because it’s a
together on the weekend because it’s a
together on the weekend because it’s a birthday party and we’re seeing our
birthday party and we’re seeing our
birthday party and we’re seeing our parents and you know I’m traveling for
parents and you know I’m traveling for
parents and you know I’m traveling for in the days or we have stuff going on we
in the days or we have stuff going on we
in the days or we have stuff going on we know we need the whole weekend next week
know we need the whole weekend next week
know we need the whole weekend next week to kind of incubate so it create
to kind of incubate so it create
to kind of incubate so it create pressure on you in a way that I think is
pressure on you in a way that I think is
pressure on you in a way that I think is ultimately healthy I love it well thank
ultimately healthy I love it well thank
ultimately healthy I love it well thank you for sharing thank you for having me
so thank you guys so much for watching
so thank you guys so much for watching we made this video for Jason spawns DK
we made this video for Jason spawns DK
we made this video for Jason spawns DK Jason thank you so much hopefully get to
Jason thank you so much hopefully get to
Jason thank you so much hopefully get to meet in person one day I love to know
meet in person one day I love to know
meet in person one day I love to know which one of Neil’s rules you like the
which one of Neil’s rules you like the
which one of Neil’s rules you like the most and what was the biggest takeaway
most and what was the biggest takeaway
most and what was the biggest takeaway lesson that you learn from him in this
lesson that you learn from him in this
lesson that you learn from him in this video please leave it in the comments
video please leave it in the comments
video please leave it in the comments below and we’re going to join in the
below and we’re going to join in the
below and we’re going to join in the discussion so thank you guys so much for
discussion so thank you guys so much for
discussion so thank you guys so much for watching
watching
watching continue to believe and we’ll see you
continue to believe and we’ll see you
continue to believe and we’ll see you soon
[Applause]
[Applause] what is a good use of your time
could a conversation that was just
could a conversation that was just questions be a good use of your time
what is the only time everyone is
what is the only time everyone is thinking is when no one is talking
what if instead of a TED talk we did the
what if instead of a TED talk we did the first-ever Ted listen do we give
first-ever Ted listen do we give
first-ever Ted listen do we give ourselves enough time to just stop ask
ourselves enough time to just stop ask
ourselves enough time to just stop ask questions and think what do your best
questions and think what do your best
questions and think what do your best days look like
is time you enjoy wasting really wasted
is time you enjoy wasting really wasted time do you remember when summer felt
time do you remember when summer felt
time do you remember when summer felt like forever how do we live so that it
like forever how do we live so that it
like forever how do we live so that it always feels like forever
why do more of us live alone now
why do more of us live alone now compared to any other time in our
compared to any other time in our
compared to any other time in our species history
why have suicide rates globally recently
why have suicide rates globally recently passed murder rates could it be that the
passed murder rates could it be that the
passed murder rates could it be that the most dangerous person to you and the
most dangerous person to you and the
most dangerous person to you and the whole world is now you why do we fight
whole world is now you why do we fight
whole world is now you why do we fight more with people we love most
if you live with a partner does your
if you live with a partner does your partner meet all your social
partner meet all your social
partner meet all your social intellectual and physical needs what do
intellectual and physical needs what do
intellectual and physical needs what do you need how do we stop living in the
you need how do we stop living in the
you need how do we stop living in the past and in the future how do we make
past and in the future how do we make
past and in the future how do we make right now right now feel longer just
right now right now feel longer just
right now right now feel longer just right now why should we exist or is it
right now why should we exist or is it
right now why should we exist or is it just where the past and the future talk
just where the past and the future talk
just where the past and the future talk to each other like why does the year
to each other like why does the year
to each other like why does the year 2000 feel closer than the year 2032
2000 feel closer than the year 2032
2000 feel closer than the year 2032 [Music]
[Music]
[Music] do we get you what we remember
or would you choose to live forever if
or would you choose to live forever if you could
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Oh Oh
or is that like that tin foil backing
or is that like that tin foil backing than a mirror these we are able to see
than a mirror these we are able to see
than a mirror these we are able to see anything
how well do you know your grandparents
how well do you know your grandparents grandparents
grandparents
grandparents Oh
how well will your grandchildren
how well will your grandchildren grandchildren know or remember you
grandchildren know or remember you
grandchildren know or remember you [Music]
is there something you feel like you
is there something you feel like you just have to do
should you drop everything you’re doing
should you drop everything you’re doing except the biggest possible thing you
except the biggest possible thing you
except the biggest possible thing you can do
no one messenger shoes who invented your
no one messenger shoes who invented your glasses your books your food your
glasses your books your food your
glasses your books your food your religion who discovers your city your
religion who discovers your city your
religion who discovers your city your conquering your company do we know their
conquering your company do we know their
conquering your company do we know their name
[Music]
[Music] what story idea or child of yours might
what story idea or child of yours might
what story idea or child of yours might survive as a tiny flickering light deep
survive as a tiny flickering light deep
survive as a tiny flickering light deep in the pitch-black darkness of the
in the pitch-black darkness of the
in the pitch-black darkness of the millions and million year future we
millions and million year future we
millions and million year future we can’t possibly imagine
can’t possibly imagine
can’t possibly imagine [Music]
what is Rajas baton pastors desperately
what is Rajas baton pastors desperately frantically urgently and try to take the
frantically urgently and try to take the
frantically urgently and try to take the best of everything we’ve been given to
best of everything we’ve been given to
best of everything we’ve been given to give the future the best of what we got
how will you measure your life
how will you measure your life [Music]
how will you maximize your tiny short
how will you maximize your tiny short life
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