hello believe nation today I’m gonna share with you my seven step process to
share with you my seven step process to
share with you my seven step process to changing somebody’s limiting beliefs
this is a really important video for me
this is a really important video for me because the knowledge and I’m about to
because the knowledge and I’m about to
because the knowledge and I’m about to give you are the things that I train my
give you are the things that I train my
give you are the things that I train my team on that can be extremely powerful
team on that can be extremely powerful
team on that can be extremely powerful that can have a really big impact on the
that can have a really big impact on the
that can have a really big impact on the people around you friends family
people around you friends family
people around you friends family co-workers staff but if you do it
co-workers staff but if you do it
co-workers staff but if you do it incorrectly you could actually end up
incorrectly you could actually end up
incorrectly you could actually end up causing more harm than good
causing more harm than good
causing more harm than good and so I want to make sure I guide you
and so I want to make sure I guide you
and so I want to make sure I guide you through the steps individually in that
through the steps individually in that
through the steps individually in that you understand them before you start to
you understand them before you start to
you understand them before you start to apply this because if you can really
apply this because if you can really
apply this because if you can really figure this stuff out if you can really
figure this stuff out if you can really
figure this stuff out if you can really be that person go and have this huge
be that person go and have this huge
be that person go and have this huge impact on people’s lives to help them
impact on people’s lives to help them
impact on people’s lives to help them overcome their limiting beliefs man the
overcome their limiting beliefs man the
overcome their limiting beliefs man the impact that it will have and so before
impact that it will have and so before
impact that it will have and so before getting to the seven what I believe is a
getting to the seven what I believe is a
getting to the seven what I believe is a problem for a lot of people is people
problem for a lot of people is people
problem for a lot of people is people play small people play down here
play small people play down here
play small people play down here constant like most people play small
constant like most people play small
constant like most people play small most people play smaller than where they
most people play smaller than where they
most people play smaller than where they could be most of you are playing smaller
could be most of you are playing smaller
could be most of you are playing smaller than where you could be even me I’m
than where you could be even me I’m
than where you could be even me I’m playing smaller than where it could be
playing smaller than where it could be
playing smaller than where it could be and you want to be up here and the
and you want to be up here and the
and you want to be up here and the difference between being this small and
difference between being this small and
difference between being this small and playing the big game is not the
playing the big game is not the
playing the big game is not the strategies and not the tactics and not
strategies and not the tactics and not
strategies and not the tactics and not the ideas and not the execution usually
the ideas and not the execution usually
the ideas and not the execution usually it’s a limiting mindset and every time
it’s a limiting mindset and every time
it’s a limiting mindset and every time I’ve made a big breakthrough in my
I’ve made a big breakthrough in my
I’ve made a big breakthrough in my business and my career in my
business and my career in my
business and my career in my relationships it’s been by breaking a
relationships it’s been by breaking a
relationships it’s been by breaking a limiting belief that I had and so I’m
limiting belief that I had and so I’m
limiting belief that I had and so I’m going to share with you those seven ways
going to share with you those seven ways
going to share with you those seven ways to be able to help others through that
to be able to help others through that
to be able to help others through that process
number one is create a comfortable
number one is create a comfortable environment the conversation that you
environment the conversation that you
environment the conversation that you are about to have with somebody is about
are about to have with somebody is about
are about to have with somebody is about to get painful it’s about to get awkward
to get painful it’s about to get awkward
to get painful it’s about to get awkward it’s about to get real it’s about to get
it’s about to get real it’s about to get
it’s about to get real it’s about to get truthful and so you want to be able to
truthful and so you want to be able to
truthful and so you want to be able to create the environment at the start to
create the environment at the start to
create the environment at the start to be as receptive as possible and so
be as receptive as possible and so
be as receptive as possible and so understanding where this person is
understanding where this person is
understanding where this person is coming from did they just teach for a
coming from did they just teach for a
coming from did they just teach for a couple hours that they just come from
couple hours that they just come from
couple hours that they just come from work did they just have a hard
work did they just have a hard
work did they just have a hard conversation with the customer are they
conversation with the customer are they
conversation with the customer are they mentally set up to be able to have a
mentally set up to be able to have a
mentally set up to be able to have a hard conversation with you right now you
hard conversation with you right now you
hard conversation with you right now you know that they sleep two hours last
know that they sleep two hours last
know that they sleep two hours last night because they were up solving this
night because they were up solving this
night because they were up solving this big problem are they ready emotionally
big problem are they ready emotionally
big problem are they ready emotionally to do this and then creating the
to do this and then creating the
to do this and then creating the environment where is it better to do it
environment where is it better to do it
environment where is it better to do it at their house is it better to do it at
at their house is it better to do it at
at their house is it better to do it at a coffee shop where it’s a little more
a coffee shop where it’s a little more
a coffee shop where it’s a little more casual you know can you make sure that
casual you know can you make sure that
casual you know can you make sure that they have food this conversation might
they have food this conversation might
they have food this conversation might last for a couple hours right you don’t
last for a couple hours right you don’t
last for a couple hours right you don’t want to have interruptions that kill the
want to have interruptions that kill the
want to have interruptions that kill the momentum is there some meeting that’s
momentum is there some meeting that’s
momentum is there some meeting that’s happening afterwards right that you only
happening afterwards right that you only
happening afterwards right that you only have 45 minutes to get through this
have 45 minutes to get through this
have 45 minutes to get through this stuff probably not good to have it at
stuff probably not good to have it at
stuff probably not good to have it at that time right make sure they’ve gone
that time right make sure they’ve gone
that time right make sure they’ve gone to the washroom and have something in
to the washroom and have something in
to the washroom and have something in front of them right as comfortable as
front of them right as comfortable as
front of them right as comfortable as they can be as possible that they are
they can be as possible that they are
they can be as possible that they are open to really receive valuable feedback
open to really receive valuable feedback
open to really receive valuable feedback from you it’s super important and often
from you it’s super important and often
from you it’s super important and often overlooked
number two make them a hero
number two make them a hero this is so important because you are
this is so important because you are
this is so important because you are about to get really real with them
about to get really real with them
about to get really real with them you’re about to tell them a truth that
you’re about to tell them a truth that
you’re about to tell them a truth that is painful for them and that they know
is painful for them and that they know
is painful for them and that they know is painful for them and that they’ve
is painful for them and that they’ve
is painful for them and that they’ve been trying to hide and that they don’t
been trying to hide and that they don’t
been trying to hide and that they don’t want other people to recognize it in
want other people to recognize it in
want other people to recognize it in them think about what you you know hate
them think about what you you know hate
them think about what you you know hate about yourself or the beliefs that you
about yourself or the beliefs that you
about yourself or the beliefs that you have and you’re hoping nobody else sees
have and you’re hoping nobody else sees
have and you’re hoping nobody else sees it and what you’re about to do is now
it and what you’re about to do is now
it and what you’re about to do is now shine a light on and say this is a fact
shine a light on and say this is a fact
shine a light on and say this is a fact in your life and it’s holding you back
in your life and it’s holding you back
in your life and it’s holding you back and so before you can do that because
and so before you can do that because
and so before you can do that because that’s so painful and awkward you have
that’s so painful and awkward you have
that’s so painful and awkward you have to make them a hero you have to explain
to make them a hero you have to explain
to make them a hero you have to explain that they’re here right now they’ve
that they’re here right now they’ve
that they’re here right now they’ve already done a lot of work right to get
already done a lot of work right to get
already done a lot of work right to get to where they are and they may be ahead
to where they are and they may be ahead
to where they are and they may be ahead of most people and you know you know
of most people and you know you know
of most people and you know you know they’re living an okay life right now
they’re living an okay life right now
they’re living an okay life right now but you believe in them playing out here
but you believe in them playing out here
but you believe in them playing out here you think they could be way out here and
you think they could be way out here and
you think they could be way out here and they’re not living up to their potential
they’re not living up to their potential
they’re not living up to their potential they’re not playing as big a game as
they’re not playing as big a game as
they’re not playing as big a game as they could there’s this gap and in order
they could there’s this gap and in order
they could there’s this gap and in order to get through that gap you have to
to get through that gap you have to
to get through that gap you have to solve a couple of these things and
solve a couple of these things and
solve a couple of these things and that’s what we’re going to talk about
that’s what we’re going to talk about
that’s what we’re going to talk about today and that you believe so strongly
today and that you believe so strongly
today and that you believe so strongly and then being this better version of
and then being this better version of
and then being this better version of themselves you believe it more than they
themselves you believe it more than they
themselves you believe it more than they believe in themselves chances are nobody
believe in themselves chances are nobody
believe in themselves chances are nobody in their life has ever believed in them
in their life has ever believed in them
in their life has ever believed in them so much as you’re about to believe in
so much as you’re about to believe in
so much as you’re about to believe in them right now if you don’t have that
them right now if you don’t have that
them right now if you don’t have that you’re gonna lose if all you’re doing is
you’re gonna lose if all you’re doing is
you’re gonna lose if all you’re doing is creating pain I vote here’s something
creating pain I vote here’s something
creating pain I vote here’s something that’s wrong without giving them the
that’s wrong without giving them the
that’s wrong without giving them the vision of the future of where they could
vision of the future of where they could
vision of the future of where they could go then this whole thing is gonna fall
go then this whole thing is gonna fall
go then this whole thing is gonna fall apart so you have to make them a hero
apart so you have to make them a hero
apart so you have to make them a hero you have to show them what they could
you have to show them what they could
you have to show them what they could become
become
become and that you believe in their big
and that you believe in their big
and that you believe in their big potential more than anybody else does
potential more than anybody else does
potential more than anybody else does probably in the world
number three as we start asking genuine
number three as we start asking genuine questions what I’m trying to find here
questions what I’m trying to find here
questions what I’m trying to find here is a pattern to identify limiting
is a pattern to identify limiting
is a pattern to identify limiting beliefs and in the process of asking
beliefs and in the process of asking
beliefs and in the process of asking people questions you want to be
people questions you want to be
people questions you want to be genuinely curious because if you’re
genuinely curious because if you’re
genuinely curious because if you’re coming off as stiff or nervous or
coming off as stiff or nervous or
coming off as stiff or nervous or professional guess what you’re gonna get
professional guess what you’re gonna get
professional guess what you’re gonna get back you’re gonna get the wall back if
back you’re gonna get the wall back if
back you’re gonna get the wall back if you are professional and boring they’re
you are professional and boring they’re
you are professional and boring they’re gonna give you professional and boring
gonna give you professional and boring
gonna give you professional and boring back this is not a job interview this is
back this is not a job interview this is
back this is not a job interview this is somebody you care about who you’re
somebody you care about who you’re
somebody you care about who you’re trying to help get better and so you’re
trying to help get better and so you’re
trying to help get better and so you’re asking them specific questions the
asking them specific questions the
asking them specific questions the question almost doesn’t matter as long
question almost doesn’t matter as long
question almost doesn’t matter as long as it’s something that you are genuinely
as it’s something that you are genuinely
as it’s something that you are genuinely curious about because you want them to
curious about because you want them to
curious about because you want them to let their guard down and be who they
let their guard down and be who they
let their guard down and be who they truly are because when somebody has
truly are because when somebody has
truly are because when somebody has limiting beliefs it’s gonna come across
limiting beliefs it’s gonna come across
limiting beliefs it’s gonna come across and everything that they say and
and everything that they say and
and everything that they say and everything that they do so whether
everything that they do so whether
everything that they do so whether you’re asking about their day or whether
you’re asking about their day or whether
you’re asking about their day or whether you’re asking about a sports team that
you’re asking about a sports team that
you’re asking about a sports team that they love or asking about coffee that
they love or asking about coffee that
they love or asking about coffee that they like or why they went into a
they like or why they went into a
they like or why they went into a certain profession whatever it is the
certain profession whatever it is the
certain profession whatever it is the same limiting beliefs are gonna rear
same limiting beliefs are gonna rear
same limiting beliefs are gonna rear their head in every conversation and so
their head in every conversation and so
their head in every conversation and so much more important is that you have
much more important is that you have
much more important is that you have genuine interest in the conversation and
genuine interest in the conversation and
genuine interest in the conversation and you’re paying attention to what they’re
you’re paying attention to what they’re
you’re paying attention to what they’re saying to pick up on the cues where
saying to pick up on the cues where
saying to pick up on the cues where they’re holding themselves back so as an
they’re holding themselves back so as an
they’re holding themselves back so as an example you might set off something as
example you might set off something as
example you might set off something as simple as how’s your day going or how
simple as how’s your day going or how
simple as how’s your day going or how was your day yesterday right and they
was your day yesterday right and they
was your day yesterday right and they say is okay it could be that it’s just
say is okay it could be that it’s just
say is okay it could be that it’s just okay or it could be that this person is
okay or it could be that this person is
okay or it could be that this person is afraid to express themselves because
afraid to express themselves because
afraid to express themselves because they’re worried that you’re gonna judge
they’re worried that you’re gonna judge
they’re worried that you’re gonna judge them because you know they feel like
them because you know they feel like
them because you know they feel like they don’t have a lot of area they don’t
they don’t have a lot of area they don’t
they don’t have a lot of area they don’t have an important life right and you
have an important life right and you
have an important life right and you can’t just jump to a conclusion after
can’t just jump to a conclusion after
can’t just jump to a conclusion after one sentence but you can continue to ask
one sentence but you can continue to ask
one sentence but you can continue to ask other questions and see does that come
other questions and see does that come
other questions and see does that come back does that person hold themselves
back does that person hold themselves
back does that person hold themselves back from expressing themselves you can
back from expressing themselves you can
back from expressing themselves you can ask them about their work you can ask
ask them about their work you can ask
ask them about their work you can ask them about projects they’re working on
them about projects they’re working on
them about projects they’re working on and they may say something like yeah I
and they may say something like yeah I
and they may say something like yeah I had this idea but you know I didn’t
had this idea but you know I didn’t
had this idea but you know I didn’t really get support of the management or
really get support of the management or
really get support of the management or they really want to share it with people
they really want to share it with people
they really want to share it with people I still have more work to do like are
I still have more work to do like are
I still have more work to do like are they constantly beating themselves up
they constantly beating themselves up
they constantly beating themselves up are they constantly holding themselves
are they constantly holding themselves
are they constantly holding themselves back and so that’s what you’re looking
back and so that’s what you’re looking
back and so that’s what you’re looking for in every conversation an easy place
for in every conversation an easy place
for in every conversation an easy place to start is talking about what your
to start is talking about what your
to start is talking about what your point of reference is so how do you know
point of reference is so how do you know
point of reference is so how do you know them you know them through work you know
them you know them through work you know
them you know them through work you know them through a friend you know them
them through a friend you know them
them through a friend you know them through you know an activity that you’re
through you know an activity that you’re
through you know an activity that you’re doing why did you get interested in
doing why did you get interested in
doing why did you get interested in salsa dancing why did you get interested
salsa dancing why did you get interested
salsa dancing why did you get interested in accounting why did you get interested
in accounting why did you get interested
in accounting why did you get interested in the Toronto Blue Jays whatever it is
in the Toronto Blue Jays whatever it is
in the Toronto Blue Jays whatever it is there’s stories there and then keep
there’s stories there and then keep
there’s stories there and then keep asking questions after the story and
asking questions after the story and
asking questions after the story and you’re looking for
you’re looking for
you’re looking for these little parts in their conversation
these little parts in their conversation
these little parts in their conversation where they’re holding themselves back
where they’re holding themselves back
where they’re holding themselves back where they’re limiting their own life
where they’re limiting their own life
where they’re limiting their own life through their beliefs until you start to
through their beliefs until you start to
through their beliefs until you start to get a picture of this is a consistent
get a picture of this is a consistent
get a picture of this is a consistent pattern in this person’s life this thing
pattern in this person’s life this thing
pattern in this person’s life this thing happens and then this is their reaction
happens and then this is their reaction
happens and then this is their reaction and this is what holds them back so it
and this is what holds them back so it
and this is what holds them back so it could be that they don’t have a lot of
could be that they don’t have a lot of
could be that they don’t have a lot of confidence in themselves it could be
confidence in themselves it could be
confidence in themselves it could be that they care too much about what other
that they care too much about what other
that they care too much about what other people think about them it could be that
people think about them it could be that
people think about them it could be that they’re they’re super judgmental of
they’re they’re super judgmental of
they’re they’re super judgmental of other people it could be that they feel
other people it could be that they feel
other people it could be that they feel like they’re entitled to more than what
like they’re entitled to more than what
like they’re entitled to more than what they have it could be that you know they
they have it could be that you know they
they have it could be that you know they feel they don’t have enough resources or
feel they don’t have enough resources or
feel they don’t have enough resources or they’re always blaming or complaining
they’re always blaming or complaining
they’re always blaming or complaining right any number of these things that
right any number of these things that
right any number of these things that are holding them back we’re here is this
are holding them back we’re here is this
are holding them back we’re here is this great opportunity that you could have
great opportunity that you could have
great opportunity that you could have done but because of that story you’ll
done but because of that story you’ll
done but because of that story you’ll holding yourself back so you’re asking
holding yourself back so you’re asking
holding yourself back so you’re asking genuine questions to try to figure out
genuine questions to try to figure out
genuine questions to try to figure out what is a consistent story that this
what is a consistent story that this
what is a consistent story that this person has had in their life that is
person has had in their life that is
person has had in their life that is holding them back and preventing them
holding them back and preventing them
holding them back and preventing them from doing something much greater and
from doing something much greater and
from doing something much greater and this is all in a really casual really
this is all in a really casual really
this is all in a really casual really caring really curious way you’re not
caring really curious way you’re not
caring really curious way you’re not judging yet you’re not criticizing them
judging yet you’re not criticizing them
judging yet you’re not criticizing them yet because as soon as you jump on
yet because as soon as you jump on
yet because as soon as you jump on something and say do you think this
something and say do you think this
something and say do you think this holds you back wall is gonna come up
holds you back wall is gonna come up
holds you back wall is gonna come up right they’re gonna get massive
right they’re gonna get massive
right they’re gonna get massive defensive mode and so you need to be
defensive mode and so you need to be
defensive mode and so you need to be certain about what it is that’s holding
certain about what it is that’s holding
certain about what it is that’s holding them back before you jump in and start
them back before you jump in and start
them back before you jump in and start criticizing so in step three we’re just
criticizing so in step three we’re just
criticizing so in step three we’re just listening until you ask enough questions
listening until you ask enough questions
listening until you ask enough questions until you get to the point where you
until you get to the point where you
until you get to the point where you have that sense of I know what is
have that sense of I know what is
have that sense of I know what is holding this person back I know what
holding this person back I know what
holding this person back I know what they’re limiting belief is
set number four as you call out the
set number four as you call out the limiting belief step number four is now
limiting belief step number four is now
limiting belief step number four is now you have to get ready to put the person
you have to get ready to put the person
you have to get ready to put the person in that awkward uncomfortable position
in that awkward uncomfortable position
in that awkward uncomfortable position because everything until now has been
because everything until now has been
because everything until now has been okay it’s been nice it’s been friendly
okay it’s been nice it’s been friendly
okay it’s been nice it’s been friendly you want to help me grow amazing you see
you want to help me grow amazing you see
you want to help me grow amazing you see this big future vision for me I don’t
this big future vision for me I don’t
this big future vision for me I don’t quite believe that but okay you’re
quite believe that but okay you’re
quite believe that but okay you’re asking me questions I’m uncomfortable
asking me questions I’m uncomfortable
asking me questions I’m uncomfortable not answering about my day about my work
not answering about my day about my work
not answering about my day about my work but what I love okay great you know
but what I love okay great you know
but what I love okay great you know everything’s amazing now we’re gonna put
everything’s amazing now we’re gonna put
everything’s amazing now we’re gonna put them in a position where they’re
them in a position where they’re
them in a position where they’re uncomfortable
uncomfortable
uncomfortable now we’re gonna call out the truth the
now we’re gonna call out the truth the
now we’re gonna call out the truth the reason why you’re not able to be out
reason why you’re not able to be out
reason why you’re not able to be out here yet why you can’t be that super
here yet why you can’t be that super
here yet why you can’t be that super version of yourself is because you care
version of yourself is because you care
version of yourself is because you care too much what other people think is
too much what other people think is
too much what other people think is because you don’t believe enough in
because you don’t believe enough in
because you don’t believe enough in yourself is because you don’t have
yourself is because you don’t have
yourself is because you don’t have enough confidence is because you keep
enough confidence is because you keep
enough confidence is because you keep telling yourself that you don’t have
telling yourself that you don’t have
telling yourself that you don’t have enough resources whatever it is pick the
enough resources whatever it is pick the
enough resources whatever it is pick the one that fits best for that person
one that fits best for that person
one that fits best for that person that’s tough I need to say with
that’s tough I need to say with
that’s tough I need to say with confidence I need to stay with
confidence I need to stay with
confidence I need to stay with conviction and then two things are gonna
conviction and then two things are gonna
conviction and then two things are gonna happen one either they’re going to agree
happen one either they’re going to agree
happen one either they’re going to agree with you and then break down like you
with you and then break down like you
with you and then break down like you know you’re right you’re right this
know you’re right you’re right this
know you’re right you’re right this holds me back every time I know it
holds me back every time I know it
holds me back every time I know it you’re right or they’re gonna fight you
you’re right or they’re gonna fight you
you’re right or they’re gonna fight you and be defensive and say you’re wrong
and be defensive and say you’re wrong
and be defensive and say you’re wrong I’m not that person whether you’re crazy
I’m not that person whether you’re crazy
I’m not that person whether you’re crazy and so this moves us to the next point
and so this moves us to the next point
and so this moves us to the next point number five where you have to hold their
number five where you have to hold their
number five where you have to hold their hand
if we have our line they start here we
if we have our line they start here we want to get them to here they have to
want to get them to here they have to
want to get them to here they have to get past this mark first this is that
get past this mark first this is that
get past this mark first this is that limiting belief we I jump here I jump
limiting belief we I jump here I jump
limiting belief we I jump here I jump right here and they may not be ready for
right here and they may not be ready for
right here and they may not be ready for that biggest step and so we handhold we
that biggest step and so we handhold we
that biggest step and so we handhold we go back and I show them in their life
go back and I show them in their life
go back and I show them in their life how this is making an impact right how
how this is making an impact right how
how this is making an impact right how that belief is holding them back until I
that belief is holding them back until I
that belief is holding them back until I get them to the point where they believe
get them to the point where they believe
get them to the point where they believe it because they know they already know
it because they know they already know
it because they know they already know I’ve never had a case where people are
I’ve never had a case where people are
I’ve never had a case where people are so clueless that they don’t know they
so clueless that they don’t know they
so clueless that they don’t know they know they’re just not willing to admit
know they’re just not willing to admit
know they’re just not willing to admit it to you so you create that environment
it to you so you create that environment
it to you so you create that environment where they’re comfortable enough
where they’re comfortable enough
where they’re comfortable enough admitting it to you you’ve gotten now to
admitting it to you you’ve gotten now to
admitting it to you you’ve gotten now to that point where they agree with you
that point where they agree with you
that point where they agree with you that they understand that this thing is
that they understand that this thing is
that they understand that this thing is holding them back now you need to
holding them back now you need to
holding them back now you need to continue to create that compelling
continue to create that compelling
continue to create that compelling future for where they can go and telling
future for where they can go and telling
future for where they can go and telling a personal story from your own example
a personal story from your own example
a personal story from your own example of when you held yourself back of your
of when you held yourself back of your
of when you held yourself back of your limiting beliefs to help them overcome
limiting beliefs to help them overcome
limiting beliefs to help them overcome their to help them understand that you
their to help them understand that you
their to help them understand that you know what they’re going through so as an
know what they’re going through so as an
know what they’re going through so as an example for me I have a need to make
example for me I have a need to make
example for me I have a need to make people feel like I’m providing value the
people feel like I’m providing value the
people feel like I’m providing value the worst thing in the world for me is
worst thing in the world for me is
worst thing in the world for me is feeling like I’m wasting somebody’s time
feeling like I’m wasting somebody’s time
feeling like I’m wasting somebody’s time I would hate for something to come out
I would hate for something to come out
I would hate for something to come out of a meeting with me and feel like I got
of a meeting with me and feel like I got
of a meeting with me and feel like I got no value from this that destroys me it’s
no value from this that destroys me it’s
no value from this that destroys me it’s really good in that it means that I
really good in that it means that I
really good in that it means that I always am early I always over deliver I
always am early I always over deliver I
always am early I always over deliver I always over prepare I always provide
always over prepare I always provide
always over prepare I always provide insane value because I’m so worried
insane value because I’m so worried
insane value because I’m so worried about providing value but the negative
about providing value but the negative
about providing value but the negative part can be was I would not take on
part can be was I would not take on
part can be was I would not take on projects or owed secretly hope some
projects or owed secretly hope some
projects or owed secretly hope some projects would cancel because I was
projects would cancel because I was
projects would cancel because I was worried I couldn’t provide value and it
worried I couldn’t provide value and it
worried I couldn’t provide value and it might be a big project a member doing a
might be a big project a member doing a
might be a big project a member doing a speaking gig in Brunei and they wanted
speaking gig in Brunei and they wanted
speaking gig in Brunei and they wanted me to come speak and all the government
me to come speak and all the government
me to come speak and all the government officials are gonna be there it’s gonna
officials are gonna be there it’s gonna
officials are gonna be there it’s gonna be live on national television and a
be live on national television and a
be live on national television and a huge audience and I said yes months in
huge audience and I said yes months in
huge audience and I said yes months in advance and then the day came closer for
advance and then the day came closer for
advance and then the day came closer for me to go and and I’ve secretly hoped
me to go and and I’ve secretly hoped
me to go and and I’ve secretly hoped that they would cancel on me and I told
that they would cancel on me and I told
that they would cancel on me and I told myself I’m too busy I can’t go you know
myself I’m too busy I can’t go you know
myself I’m too busy I can’t go you know you’re always gonna get a BS answer
you’re always gonna get a BS answer
you’re always gonna get a BS answer coming back first right if you ask
coming back first right if you ask
coming back first right if you ask somebody why they don’t do something the
somebody why they don’t do something the
somebody why they don’t do something the the initial answer is always BS is
the initial answer is always BS is
the initial answer is always BS is always something deeper down and so I
always something deeper down and so I
always something deeper down and so I say I’m too busy I can’t go you know I
say I’m too busy I can’t go you know I
say I’m too busy I can’t go you know I got other stuff to do look how much time
got other stuff to do look how much time
got other stuff to do look how much time I’m gonna miss from all this stuff but
I’m gonna miss from all this stuff but
I’m gonna miss from all this stuff but really I was just afraid I was afraid I
really I was just afraid I was afraid I
really I was just afraid I was afraid I was afraid I wouldn’t be able to provide
was afraid I wouldn’t be able to provide
was afraid I wouldn’t be able to provide and that makes sense because of some big
and that makes sense because of some big
and that makes sense because of some big thing that I haven’t done before and
thing that I haven’t done before and
thing that I haven’t done before and it’s the biggest stage I’ve ever been on
it’s the biggest stage I’ve ever been on
it’s the biggest stage I’ve ever been on and so that makes sense but I would do
and so that makes sense but I would do
and so that makes sense but I would do it on the the smallest level and the
it on the the smallest level and the
it on the the smallest level and the turning point for me came when I was
turning point for me came when I was
turning point for me came when I was about to meet this woman who had a
about to meet this woman who had a
about to meet this woman who had a startup business pure startup hadn’t
startup business pure startup hadn’t
startup business pure startup hadn’t gone into you know they won yet and she
gone into you know they won yet and she
gone into you know they won yet and she went to me for coffee and I said yes to
went to me for coffee and I said yes to
went to me for coffee and I said yes to try to help her out and on the day of I
try to help her out and on the day of I
try to help her out and on the day of I remember thinking I hope she cancels
remember thinking I hope she cancels
remember thinking I hope she cancels like if she cancelled right now that’d
like if she cancelled right now that’d
like if she cancelled right now that’d be a Bri I could work on my other stuff
be a Bri I could work on my other stuff
be a Bri I could work on my other stuff to be pretty good and really deep down I
to be pretty good and really deep down I
to be pretty good and really deep down I was just afraid that I wouldn’t be able
was just afraid that I wouldn’t be able
was just afraid that I wouldn’t be able to provide her with value and here’s
to provide her with value and here’s
to provide her with value and here’s somebody who I’m you know I’ve helped
somebody who I’m you know I’ve helped
somebody who I’m you know I’ve helped tons of people like her in that position
tons of people like her in that position
tons of people like her in that position I’m way further along the path than she
I’m way further along the path than she
I’m way further along the path than she is there’s no logical reason why I won’t
is there’s no logical reason why I won’t
is there’s no logical reason why I won’t be able to help this woman out but I
be able to help this woman out but I
be able to help this woman out but I still was afraid that I wouldn’t be able
still was afraid that I wouldn’t be able
still was afraid that I wouldn’t be able to is just in my subconscious and that
to is just in my subconscious and that
to is just in my subconscious and that was something that was holding me back
was something that was holding me back
was something that was holding me back and that it held me back for years for
and that it held me back for years for
and that it held me back for years for decades my whole life I didn’t realize
decades my whole life I didn’t realize
decades my whole life I didn’t realize it just coasted through it just acted
it just coasted through it just acted
it just coasted through it just acted normally because it was so deep in my
normally because it was so deep in my
normally because it was so deep in my subconscious that I didn’t pay attention
subconscious that I didn’t pay attention
subconscious that I didn’t pay attention to it I didn’t know what existed I
to it I didn’t know what existed I
to it I didn’t know what existed I didn’t know was holding me back and so
didn’t know was holding me back and so
didn’t know was holding me back and so fixing that helped me grow my business
fixing that helped me grow my business
fixing that helped me grow my business helped me grow myself helped me get to
helped me grow myself helped me get to
helped me grow myself helped me get to the point where I’m earning a lot more
the point where I’m earning a lot more
the point where I’m earning a lot more learning a lot more and having a bigger
learning a lot more and having a bigger
learning a lot more and having a bigger impact that I wanted and so sharing that
impact that I wanted and so sharing that
impact that I wanted and so sharing that story helps put me in the same position
story helps put me in the same position
story helps put me in the same position that they’re in helps helps show that
that they’re in helps helps show that
that they’re in helps helps show that person that I understand what they’re
person that I understand what they’re
person that I understand what they’re going through helps break through the
going through helps break through the
going through helps break through the defensive ‘no sadness and despair cuz
defensive ‘no sadness and despair cuz
defensive ‘no sadness and despair cuz now you brought them down to a really
now you brought them down to a really
now you brought them down to a really really low point in their lives that is
really low point in their lives that is
really low point in their lives that is super uncomfortable that they didn’t
super uncomfortable that they didn’t
super uncomfortable that they didn’t want to be there so they built all this
want to be there so they built all this
want to be there so they built all this all these walls around and instead of
all these walls around and instead of
all these walls around and instead of fixing the problem they just build more
fixing the problem they just build more
fixing the problem they just build more and more and more walls around you can
and more and more walls around you can
and more and more walls around you can validate them but be careful what you
validate them but be careful what you
validate them but be careful what you validate because a typical reaction when
validate because a typical reaction when
validate because a typical reaction when somebody is in pain is you say oh I know
somebody is in pain is you say oh I know
somebody is in pain is you say oh I know it’s okay don’t worry about it like
it’s okay don’t worry about it like
it’s okay don’t worry about it like you’re gonna be fine you’re great at
you’re gonna be fine you’re great at
you’re gonna be fine you’re great at this right you want to make them feel
this right you want to make them feel
this right you want to make them feel better so you tell them that they’re
better so you tell them that they’re
better so you tell them that they’re great at something but if they’re not
great at something but if they’re not
great at something but if they’re not great at that if this is the behavior
great at that if this is the behavior
great at that if this is the behavior that we’re trying to fix you can’t
that we’re trying to fix you can’t
that we’re trying to fix you can’t validate them and say they’re great at
validate them and say they’re great at
validate them and say they’re great at that they can be great at other things
that they can be great at other things
that they can be great at other things they’re really good at other things and
they’re really good at other things and
they’re really good at other things and they’ve come this far along the line
they’ve come this far along the line
they’ve come this far along the line this isn’t if I show this line this
this isn’t if I show this line this
this isn’t if I show this line this isn’t just a starting point this is the
isn’t just a starting point this is the
isn’t just a starting point this is the endpoint they’ve come a long way already
endpoint they’ve come a long way already
endpoint they’ve come a long way already you can validate all the stuff that
you can validate all the stuff that
you can validate all the stuff that they’ve done but if you validate the
they’ve done but if you validate the
they’ve done but if you validate the wrong things
wrong things
wrong things if you validate them for
if you validate them for
if you validate them for or the thing that you’re trying to fix
or the thing that you’re trying to fix
or the thing that you’re trying to fix if they have an issue with confidence
if they have an issue with confidence
if they have an issue with confidence and you say that they’re confident like
and you say that they’re confident like
and you say that they’re confident like most of the time you’re pretty confident
most of the time you’re pretty confident
most of the time you’re pretty confident when they’re not you set yourself
when they’re not you set yourself
when they’re not you set yourself backwards you set the whole process
backwards you set the whole process
backwards you set the whole process backwards and so it’s on you to stay
backwards and so it’s on you to stay
backwards and so it’s on you to stay strong it’s on you to recognize that
strong it’s on you to recognize that
strong it’s on you to recognize that you’re gonna guide them through this
you’re gonna guide them through this
you’re gonna guide them through this process and part of its gonna be painful
process and part of its gonna be painful
process and part of its gonna be painful and so don’t validate the wrong things
and so don’t validate the wrong things
and so don’t validate the wrong things through that experience
number six is Monday Morning Quarterback
number six is Monday Morning Quarterback the Monday Morning Quarterback if you
the Monday Morning Quarterback if you
the Monday Morning Quarterback if you guys aren’t familiar with football is
guys aren’t familiar with football is
guys aren’t familiar with football is you know the quarterback makes most of
you know the quarterback makes most of
you know the quarterback makes most of decisions in football and the games are
decisions in football and the games are
decisions in football and the games are on Sunday and so the quarterback will
on Sunday and so the quarterback will
on Sunday and so the quarterback will look at the footage from Sunday the next
look at the footage from Sunday the next
look at the footage from Sunday the next day on Monday and say oh I should have
day on Monday and say oh I should have
day on Monday and say oh I should have done that I should have done that I
done that I should have done that I
done that I should have done that I should have done that this is the next
should have done that this is the next
should have done that this is the next step in the process to fixing your
step in the process to fixing your
step in the process to fixing your limiting personal beliefs it’s first
limiting personal beliefs it’s first
limiting personal beliefs it’s first awareness whether you discover them
awareness whether you discover them
awareness whether you discover them yourself this video is more about
yourself this video is more about
yourself this video is more about helping other people discover it and
helping other people discover it and
helping other people discover it and change it but if you discover it
change it but if you discover it
change it but if you discover it yourself say yes this is where I’m
yourself say yes this is where I’m
yourself say yes this is where I’m holding myself back this these are the
holding myself back this these are the
holding myself back this these are the beliefs that are limiting me and hurting
beliefs that are limiting me and hurting
beliefs that are limiting me and hurting me you recognize it the next day right
me you recognize it the next day right
me you recognize it the next day right like ah I’m so upset that I did it this
like ah I’m so upset that I did it this
like ah I’m so upset that I did it this way I should have done I like that I
way I should have done I like that I
way I should have done I like that I should have done I like that I should
should have done I like that I should
should have done I like that I should have done I like that you get frustrated
have done I like that you get frustrated
have done I like that you get frustrated that you didn’t fix it that you’re still
that you didn’t fix it that you’re still
that you didn’t fix it that you’re still living this small life that you still
living this small life that you still
living this small life that you still being the small person you’ve heard than
being the small person you’ve heard than
being the small person you’ve heard than what you could be and that’s okay
what you could be and that’s okay
what you could be and that’s okay because self-awareness is half of this
because self-awareness is half of this
because self-awareness is half of this process and if you catch you the next
process and if you catch you the next
process and if you catch you the next day that’s great now your goal is every
day that’s great now your goal is every
day that’s great now your goal is every time this happens every time you worry
time this happens every time you worry
time this happens every time you worry about what somebody else is thinking
about what somebody else is thinking
about what somebody else is thinking about you and you take the wrong action
about you and you take the wrong action
about you and you take the wrong action right I’m so worried about what what
right I’m so worried about what what
right I’m so worried about what what this person is gonna think I’m not gonna
this person is gonna think I’m not gonna
this person is gonna think I’m not gonna do that anymore because of what how they
do that anymore because of what how they
do that anymore because of what how they might judge me you may not catch it in
might judge me you may not catch it in
might judge me you may not catch it in the moment you’ll catch it the next day
the moment you’ll catch it the next day
the moment you’ll catch it the next day soon you’ll catch it that afternoon then
soon you’ll catch it that afternoon then
soon you’ll catch it that afternoon then you’ll catch it a couple hours later
you’ll catch it a couple hours later
you’ll catch it a couple hours later then you catch it an hour later then you
then you catch it an hour later then you
then you catch it an hour later then you catch it 30 minutes later and you’ll
catch it 30 minutes later and you’ll
catch it 30 minutes later and you’ll catch it right after it happens and then
catch it right after it happens and then
catch it right after it happens and then you’ll get to this really scary point
you’ll get to this really scary point
you’ll get to this really scary point then you’ll get to this point where you
then you’ll get to this point where you
then you’ll get to this point where you catch it in the moment where you catch
catch it in the moment where you catch
catch it in the moment where you catch yourself thinking that limiting thought
yourself thinking that limiting thought
yourself thinking that limiting thought in the moment and you want to do this
in the moment and you want to do this
in the moment and you want to do this you want to you want to take that action
you want to you want to take that action
you want to you want to take that action that small version of yourself that
that small version of yourself that
that small version of yourself that you’ve been your whole life the small
you’ve been your whole life the small
you’ve been your whole life the small way of thinking and you recognize that
way of thinking and you recognize that
way of thinking and you recognize that it’s the wrong thing to do if you want
it’s the wrong thing to do if you want
it’s the wrong thing to do if you want to play out here if you want to be the
to play out here if you want to be the
to play out here if you want to be the super
super
super of yourself it’s the wrong thing to do
of yourself it’s the wrong thing to do
of yourself it’s the wrong thing to do and you’re stuck with that decision and
and you’re stuck with that decision and
and you’re stuck with that decision and your heart starts being a little bit
your heart starts being a little bit
your heart starts being a little bit faster and you start sweating a little
faster and you start sweating a little
faster and you start sweating a little bit and that’s when you have to have the
bit and that’s when you have to have the
bit and that’s when you have to have the courage to do this action you have to
courage to do this action you have to
courage to do this action you have to courage to go here instead of here and
courage to go here instead of here and
courage to go here instead of here and that’s scary but the more that you do it
that’s scary but the more that you do it
that’s scary but the more that you do it that’s when things start to change you
that’s when things start to change you
that’s when things start to change you do Monday Morning Quarterback
do Monday Morning Quarterback
do Monday Morning Quarterback you start realizing later it gets closer
you start realizing later it gets closer
you start realizing later it gets closer and closer closer closer to the moment
and closer closer closer to the moment
and closer closer closer to the moment and the more you put yourself in that
and the more you put yourself in that
and the more you put yourself in that moment you’re you’re forced to make that
moment you’re you’re forced to make that
moment you’re you’re forced to make that important decision and you’re scared and
important decision and you’re scared and
important decision and you’re scared and nervous and freaking out and the more
nervous and freaking out and the more
nervous and freaking out and the more used to making the right decision you
used to making the right decision you
used to making the right decision you get the easier that becomes and then
get the easier that becomes and then
get the easier that becomes and then this becomes the new norm and the more
this becomes the new norm and the more
this becomes the new norm and the more you do that then you destroy that
you do that then you destroy that
you do that then you destroy that limiting person belief and you start
limiting person belief and you start
limiting person belief and you start moving closer to out here instead of
moving closer to out here instead of
moving closer to out here instead of playing here and so it’s helping people
playing here and so it’s helping people
playing here and so it’s helping people through that process and being there for
through that process and being there for
through that process and being there for them this is all potentially one
them this is all potentially one
them this is all potentially one conversation but there’s a lot of
conversation but there’s a lot of
conversation but there’s a lot of support that happens afterwards because
support that happens afterwards because
support that happens afterwards because they’re not going to change just from
they’re not going to change just from
they’re not going to change just from that one conversation at least I haven’t
that one conversation at least I haven’t
that one conversation at least I haven’t figured out how to do it yet
and so the last step becomes number
and so the last step becomes number seven create the right post environment
seven create the right post environment
seven create the right post environment for somebody that really change to
for somebody that really change to
for somebody that really change to somebody who really recognize that
somebody who really recognize that
somebody who really recognize that that’s their problem and to get to that
that’s their problem and to get to that
that’s their problem and to get to that point where they want to make that
point where they want to make that
point where they want to make that change I believe that it’s not just
change I believe that it’s not just
change I believe that it’s not just about the how to’s not just looking at
about the how to’s not just looking at
about the how to’s not just looking at hey here’s seven ways to do something
hey here’s seven ways to do something
hey here’s seven ways to do something right or ten ways to do something or
right or ten ways to do something or
right or ten ways to do something or three steps you need to take because a
three steps you need to take because a
three steps you need to take because a lot of that just hits you here because
lot of that just hits you here because
lot of that just hits you here because if you don’t have confidence if that’s
if you don’t have confidence if that’s
if you don’t have confidence if that’s your thing you lack self-confidence
your thing you lack self-confidence
your thing you lack self-confidence watching the video about five ways to
watching the video about five ways to
watching the video about five ways to gain more confidence can help you but it
gain more confidence can help you but it
gain more confidence can help you but it helps you up here where what you really
helps you up here where what you really
helps you up here where what you really need is something in here which is why
need is something in here which is why
need is something in here which is why the environment plays such a crucial
the environment plays such a crucial
the environment plays such a crucial role and so if I was trying to improve
role and so if I was trying to improve
role and so if I was trying to improve my confidence and I’ve seen my own
my confidence and I’ve seen my own
my confidence and I’ve seen my own confidence grow over the past couple
confidence grow over the past couple
confidence grow over the past couple years I would try to be creating an
years I would try to be creating an
years I would try to be creating an environment that makes me feel confident
environment that makes me feel confident
environment that makes me feel confident daily instead of just thinking confident
daily instead of just thinking confident
daily instead of just thinking confident thoughts does that make sense and so
thoughts does that make sense and so
thoughts does that make sense and so watching people be confident on a video
watching people be confident on a video
watching people be confident on a video is just as important as strategies to be
is just as important as strategies to be
is just as important as strategies to be confident so I’ll be looking up who are
confident so I’ll be looking up who are
confident so I’ll be looking up who are the people who embody this thing who
the people who embody this thing who
the people who embody this thing who embodied playing out here who embody the
embodied playing out here who embody the
embodied playing out here who embody the anti of that limiting person belief that
anti of that limiting person belief that
anti of that limiting person belief that you have you don’t need to like
you have you don’t need to like
you have you don’t need to like everything about them but you like that
everything about them but you like that
everything about them but you like that one thing and that’s what you want to
one thing and that’s what you want to
one thing and that’s what you want to model and that’s what you want to hang
model and that’s what you want to hang
model and that’s what you want to hang around you might want to be more
around you might want to be more
around you might want to be more visionary you might feel like you’re not
visionary you might feel like you’re not
visionary you might feel like you’re not a visionary you might feel like you know
a visionary you might feel like you know
a visionary you might feel like you know you don’t have a lot of great ideas you
you don’t have a lot of great ideas you
you don’t have a lot of great ideas you feel you’re limiting belief is I’m not
feel you’re limiting belief is I’m not
feel you’re limiting belief is I’m not I’m not creative I don’t have anything
I’m not creative I don’t have anything
I’m not creative I don’t have anything that’s creative what I would want to do
that’s creative what I would want to do
that’s creative what I would want to do is not just watch videos on seven ways
is not just watch videos on seven ways
is not just watch videos on seven ways to be more creative but start watching
to be more creative but start watching
to be more creative but start watching videos of creative people so I would
videos of creative people so I would
videos of creative people so I would watch Steve Jobs videos I would watch
watch Steve Jobs videos I would watch
watch Steve Jobs videos I would watch Elon Musk videos I would watch people
Elon Musk videos I would watch people
Elon Musk videos I would watch people who are doing really creative things and
who are doing really creative things and
who are doing really creative things and how they act and how they think and
how they act and how they think and
how they act and how they think and their mindset and their words starts to
their mindset and their words starts to
their mindset and their words starts to come in to you and now you start to be
come in to you and now you start to be
come in to you and now you start to be more creative you know Kanye West is on
more creative you know Kanye West is on
more creative you know Kanye West is on that wall
that wall
that wall he’s highly confident if coffee
he’s highly confident if coffee
he’s highly confident if coffee is a thing that you need to work on
is a thing that you need to work on
is a thing that you need to work on that’s a living and belief for you you
that’s a living and belief for you you
that’s a living and belief for you you don’t feel confident you don’t feel like
don’t feel confident you don’t feel like
don’t feel confident you don’t feel like you add value you could learn a lot by
you add value you could learn a lot by
you add value you could learn a lot by watching Kanye West’s videos his music
watching Kanye West’s videos his music
watching Kanye West’s videos his music videos his interviews his performances
videos his interviews his performances
videos his interviews his performances there may be nothing else that you like
there may be nothing else that you like
there may be nothing else that you like from Kanye West there may be a whole
from Kanye West there may be a whole
from Kanye West there may be a whole bunch of stuff that you totally
bunch of stuff that you totally
bunch of stuff that you totally disrespect about him but that one piece
disrespect about him but that one piece
disrespect about him but that one piece you could learn a lot from and so I
you could learn a lot from and so I
you could learn a lot from and so I would try to now create an environment
would try to now create an environment
would try to now create an environment for myself where I’m consistently
for myself where I’m consistently
for myself where I’m consistently surrounded by the things that I want to
surrounded by the things that I want to
surrounded by the things that I want to embody the anti of that limited belief
embody the anti of that limited belief
embody the anti of that limited belief that I have you know I can’t be
that I have you know I can’t be
that I have you know I can’t be successful because I’m black right if
successful because I’m black right if
successful because I’m black right if that’s my thing then all I would do is
that’s my thing then all I would do is
that’s my thing then all I would do is surround myself with successful black
surround myself with successful black
surround myself with successful black entrepreneurs or successful black people
entrepreneurs or successful black people
entrepreneurs or successful black people singers athletes entrepreneurs inventors
singers athletes entrepreneurs inventors
singers athletes entrepreneurs inventors creators until I start to lose it right
creators until I start to lose it right
creators until I start to lose it right that story starts to change and the next
that story starts to change and the next
that story starts to change and the next time I’m in a situation where I feel I
time I’m in a situation where I feel I
time I’m in a situation where I feel I can’t be successful because I’m black
can’t be successful because I’m black
can’t be successful because I’m black then you’ll be able to make a change and
then you’ll be able to make a change and
then you’ll be able to make a change and fill in the blank because I’m disabled
fill in the blank because I’m disabled
fill in the blank because I’m disabled because I don’t have enough resources
because I don’t have enough resources
because I don’t have enough resources because I’m from a different country
because I’m from a different country
because I’m from a different country because I have an accent
because I have an accent
because I have an accent you know because I’m not confident
you know because I’m not confident
you know because I’m not confident because whatever it is whatever that
because whatever it is whatever that
because whatever it is whatever that reason is surround yourself with an
reason is surround yourself with an
reason is surround yourself with an environment to help you break through
environment to help you break through
environment to help you break through that reason and honestly for me that’s
that reason and honestly for me that’s
that reason and honestly for me that’s been one of the biggest reasons why I’ve
been one of the biggest reasons why I’ve
been one of the biggest reasons why I’ve been able to turn up why I’ve been able
been able to turn up why I’ve been able
been able to turn up why I’ve been able to have a greater impact why I believe
to have a greater impact why I believe
to have a greater impact why I believe so confidently and myself and the people
so confidently and myself and the people
so confidently and myself and the people around me is because all I do is
around me is because all I do is
around me is because all I do is surround myself with with these videos
surround myself with with these videos
surround myself with with these videos of people who are doing great amazing
of people who are doing great amazing
of people who are doing great amazing things like you can’t help but feel
things like you can’t help but feel
things like you can’t help but feel greater and want to do greater things
greater and want to do greater things
greater and want to do greater things when you’re surrounded by so much
when you’re surrounded by so much
when you’re surrounded by so much greatness and most people’s environments
greatness and most people’s environments
greatness and most people’s environments keep them where they are instead of
keep them where they are instead of
keep them where they are instead of helping them become out here write that
helping them become out here write that
helping them become out here write that best version of themselves so those are
best version of themselves so those are
best version of themselves so those are my seven steps I want to share a couple
my seven steps I want to share a couple
my seven steps I want to share a couple caveats with you too that would really
caveats with you too that would really
caveats with you too that would really help the process go smoother the first
help the process go smoother the first
help the process go smoother the first is certainty you have to have certainty
is certainty you have to have certainty
is certainty you have to have certainty when you are having a discussion with
when you are having a discussion with
when you are having a discussion with somebody often the person who is more
somebody often the person who is more
somebody often the person who is more certain will win will carry the day if
certain will win will carry the day if
certain will win will carry the day if we’re having a discussion on something
we’re having a discussion on something
we’re having a discussion on something and I am just absolutely certain that
and I am just absolutely certain that
and I am just absolutely certain that is right even if you came in with a high
is right even if you came in with a high
is right even if you came in with a high degree of certainty you’re gonna doubt
degree of certainty you’re gonna doubt
degree of certainty you’re gonna doubt yourself a little bit you’re gonna doubt
yourself a little bit you’re gonna doubt
yourself a little bit you’re gonna doubt yourself because I have so much
yourself because I have so much
yourself because I have so much certainty and so this is important in
certainty and so this is important in
certainty and so this is important in this process that one you have certainty
this process that one you have certainty
this process that one you have certainty of what they could be you have to
of what they could be you have to
of what they could be you have to believe in what they could be more than
believe in what they could be more than
believe in what they could be more than they believe in themselves because they
they believe in themselves because they
they believe in themselves because they don’t believe they can be out here most
don’t believe they can be out here most
don’t believe they can be out here most people don’t believe they can play out
people don’t believe they can play out
people don’t believe they can play out here most people don’t believe they can
here most people don’t believe they can
here most people don’t believe they can be great most people don’t think they
be great most people don’t think they
be great most people don’t think they have a special gift most people don’t
have a special gift most people don’t
have a special gift most people don’t think they can have a big impact most
think they can have a big impact most
think they can have a big impact most people don’t think they’re amazing most
people don’t think they’re amazing most
people don’t think they’re amazing most people don’t think that way about
people don’t think that way about
people don’t think that way about themselves they may see in other people
themselves they may see in other people
themselves they may see in other people but they don’t think that way about
but they don’t think that way about
but they don’t think that way about themselves so you have to be absolutely
themselves so you have to be absolutely
themselves so you have to be absolutely certain in their ability to be out here
certain in their ability to be out here
certain in their ability to be out here that’s gonna be challenged multiple
that’s gonna be challenged multiple
that’s gonna be challenged multiple times and every time you have to cut it
times and every time you have to cut it
times and every time you have to cut it at the root and let them know that they
at the root and let them know that they
at the root and let them know that they could be out here if there’s any doubt
could be out here if there’s any doubt
could be out here if there’s any doubt for you then the whole thing blows up
for you then the whole thing blows up
for you then the whole thing blows up the whole process is destroyed because
the whole process is destroyed because
the whole process is destroyed because they have to trust in your confidence to
they have to trust in your confidence to
they have to trust in your confidence to get them here to help get them here they
get them here to help get them here they
get them here to help get them here they have to do work – they’re trusting in
have to do work – they’re trusting in
have to do work – they’re trusting in your certainty and so you have to be
your certainty and so you have to be
your certainty and so you have to be there and whatever you need to do like
there and whatever you need to do like
there and whatever you need to do like if you are not certain about that then
if you are not certain about that then
if you are not certain about that then don’t even have the conversation at the
don’t even have the conversation at the
don’t even have the conversation at the start this all has to be genuine right
start this all has to be genuine right
start this all has to be genuine right you’re working with somebody whom you
you’re working with somebody whom you
you’re working with somebody whom you feel could be doing so much more and
feel could be doing so much more and
feel could be doing so much more and they’re living small and you see them
they’re living small and you see them
they’re living small and you see them being able to do such amazing things
being able to do such amazing things
being able to do such amazing things that has to be on there and the second
that has to be on there and the second
that has to be on there and the second thing is patience this is a process that
thing is patience this is a process that
thing is patience this is a process that takes time at least for me to walk
takes time at least for me to walk
takes time at least for me to walk people through it and people react in
people through it and people react in
people through it and people react in different ways right some people will
different ways right some people will
different ways right some people will shut down like when you tell somebody a
shut down like when you tell somebody a
shut down like when you tell somebody a harsh truth some people just shut down
harsh truth some people just shut down
harsh truth some people just shut down they don’t and they take a lot to get
they don’t and they take a lot to get
they don’t and they take a lot to get now something out of they just go inside
now something out of they just go inside
now something out of they just go inside their head and think about it some
their head and think about it some
their head and think about it some people start crying and they’re just so
people start crying and they’re just so
people start crying and they’re just so overwhelmed with this truth that they
overwhelmed with this truth that they
overwhelmed with this truth that they lose control
lose control
lose control some people get defensive some people
some people get defensive some people
some people get defensive some people argue some people yell there’s often
argue some people yell there’s often
argue some people yell there’s often that initial sense of denial and then
that initial sense of denial and then
that initial sense of denial and then the spare that you need to walk them
the spare that you need to walk them
the spare that you need to walk them through and be with them for to get to
through and be with them for to get to
through and be with them for to get to the other side
the other side
the other side this is why it’s important that you
this is why it’s important that you
this is why it’s important that you don’t rush into this that if you only
don’t rush into this that if you only
don’t rush into this that if you only have 45 minutes for a conversation that
have 45 minutes for a conversation that
have 45 minutes for a conversation that you don’t try to fit all of this in
you don’t try to fit all of this in
you don’t try to fit all of this in because what’s going to happen is you’re
because what’s going to happen is you’re
because what’s going to happen is you’re going to create the environment you’re
going to create the environment you’re
going to create the environment you’re ask some questions you’re gonna you know
ask some questions you’re gonna you know
ask some questions you’re gonna you know come to an opinion
come to an opinion
come to an opinion you’re gonna hit them with the truth and
you’re gonna hit them with the truth and
you’re gonna hit them with the truth and you won’t have enough time to bring them
you won’t have enough time to bring them
you won’t have enough time to bring them out and if you leave them feeling
out and if you leave them feeling
out and if you leave them feeling despair feeling angry feeling hopeless
despair feeling angry feeling hopeless
despair feeling angry feeling hopeless that is so dangerous that’s a terrible
that is so dangerous that’s a terrible
that is so dangerous that’s a terrible spot to leave somebody in you’ve taken
spot to leave somebody in you’ve taken
spot to leave somebody in you’ve taken them to the bottom and you haven’t
them to the bottom and you haven’t
them to the bottom and you haven’t helped them get out you haven’t shown
helped them get out you haven’t shown
helped them get out you haven’t shown their had a Monday Morning Quarterback
their had a Monday Morning Quarterback
their had a Monday Morning Quarterback you haven’t showed them how to create a
you haven’t showed them how to create a
you haven’t showed them how to create a great environment you can show them any
great environment you can show them any
great environment you can show them any of this stuff so all they feel is
of this stuff so all they feel is
of this stuff so all they feel is despair and so you need to have the
despair and so you need to have the
despair and so you need to have the patience to not lose your cool to
patience to not lose your cool to
patience to not lose your cool to recognize that this is what’s gonna
recognize that this is what’s gonna
recognize that this is what’s gonna happen people are going to act
happen people are going to act
happen people are going to act emotionally and freaked out stay patient
emotionally and freaked out stay patient
emotionally and freaked out stay patient and if you’re calm and cool and patient
and if you’re calm and cool and patient
and if you’re calm and cool and patient and collect it and certain they’re gonna
and collect it and certain they’re gonna
and collect it and certain they’re gonna calm down you’re gonna bring them to the
calm down you’re gonna bring them to the
calm down you’re gonna bring them to the bottom they’re gonna calm down they’re
bottom they’re gonna calm down they’re
bottom they’re gonna calm down they’re gonna lose a lot of hope and then you
gonna lose a lot of hope and then you
gonna lose a lot of hope and then you start to rebuild them back up in a much
start to rebuild them back up in a much
start to rebuild them back up in a much more positive way and so you need to
more positive way and so you need to
more positive way and so you need to have the patience to do that and I’d
have the patience to do that and I’d
have the patience to do that and I’d love for the time to do it so this is a
love for the time to do it so this is a
love for the time to do it so this is a very powerful process that I’ve seen
very powerful process that I’ve seen
very powerful process that I’ve seen work that I’ve implemented on a number
work that I’ve implemented on a number
work that I’ve implemented on a number of people around me but it’s very
of people around me but it’s very
of people around me but it’s very dangerous to start to apply and I almost
dangerous to start to apply and I almost
dangerous to start to apply and I almost didn’t make this video I was hesitant to
didn’t make this video I was hesitant to
didn’t make this video I was hesitant to make the video because it’s so powerful
make the video because it’s so powerful
make the video because it’s so powerful you’re dealing with such important
you’re dealing with such important
you’re dealing with such important things for somebody’s life you’re
things for somebody’s life you’re
things for somebody’s life you’re touching a tack or somebody’s life it’s
touching a tack or somebody’s life it’s
touching a tack or somebody’s life it’s a gift of fire and if you use it wrong
a gift of fire and if you use it wrong
a gift of fire and if you use it wrong you’re gonna go over burning the
you’re gonna go over burning the
you’re gonna go over burning the villages all around you because you
villages all around you because you
villages all around you because you don’t know how to control it and so I
don’t know how to control it and so I
don’t know how to control it and so I would encourage you to think about each
would encourage you to think about each
would encourage you to think about each step in the process to even try it on
step in the process to even try it on
step in the process to even try it on yourself and then when going into with
yourself and then when going into with
yourself and then when going into with other people maybe not tackle the
other people maybe not tackle the
other people maybe not tackle the biggest things yet test it out try to
biggest things yet test it out try to
biggest things yet test it out try to have patience and try not to burn the
have patience and try not to burn the
have patience and try not to burn the villages too if you get it right though
villages too if you get it right though
villages too if you get it right though you could have a really big impact and
you could have a really big impact and
you could have a really big impact and the people around you insanely big
the people around you insanely big
the people around you insanely big impact and the people around you so
impact and the people around you so
impact and the people around you so that’s why I made this video a little
that’s why I made this video a little
that’s why I made this video a little bit different from what I usually make
bit different from what I usually make
bit different from what I usually make some curious what do you guys think do
some curious what do you guys think do
some curious what do you guys think do you have questions you need me to
you have questions you need me to
you have questions you need me to clarify any of the steps what do you
clarify any of the steps what do you
clarify any of the steps what do you think about it let me know leave a
think about it let me know leave a
think about it let me know leave a comment down below thank you guys so
comment down below thank you guys so
comment down below thank you guys so much for watching I believe in you I
much for watching I believe in you I
much for watching I believe in you I hope you continue to believe in yourself
hope you continue to believe in yourself
hope you continue to believe in yourself and whatever your one word is much love
and whatever your one word is much love
and whatever your one word is much love I’ll see you soon
I’ll see you soon
I’ll see you soon you
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