we’re gonna talk in the session about the exact formula for what creates long
the exact formula for what creates long
the exact formula for what creates long term happiness what creates unhappiness
term happiness what creates unhappiness
term happiness what creates unhappiness what creates suffering and what the
what creates suffering and what the
what creates suffering and what the antidotes are which there’s only three
antidotes are which there’s only three
antidotes are which there’s only three how do I know this I’ve had the
how do I know this I’ve had the
how do I know this I’ve had the privilege of being with four million
privilege of being with four million
privilege of being with four million people now from a hundred countries
people now from a hundred countries
people now from a hundred countries around the world live seminars and I’ve
around the world live seminars and I’ve
around the world live seminars and I’ve seen everything you can imagine I mean
seen everything you can imagine I mean
seen everything you can imagine I mean from the most successful people in the
from the most successful people in the
from the most successful people in the world to these singularly most
world to these singularly most
world to these singularly most challenged people you could possibly
challenged people you could possibly
challenged people you could possibly imagine
imagine
imagine I’ve dealt with people with multiple
I’ve dealt with people with multiple
I’ve dealt with people with multiple personality disorders 52 different
personality disorders 52 different
personality disorders 52 different personalities and how to put them back
personalities and how to put them back
personalities and how to put them back together and I dealt with people with no
together and I dealt with people with no
together and I dealt with people with no personality of a much bigger problem no
personality of a much bigger problem no
personality of a much bigger problem no matter what the diversity of people I’ve
matter what the diversity of people I’ve
matter what the diversity of people I’ve dealt with and the diversity you’ve seen
dealt with and the diversity you’ve seen
dealt with and the diversity you’ve seen in this show the ultimate question I’m
in this show the ultimate question I’m
in this show the ultimate question I’m always asking is how do I help people to
always asking is how do I help people to
always asking is how do I help people to break through the question is what are
break through the question is what are
break through the question is what are you breaking through to in essence all
you breaking through to in essence all
you breaking through to in essence all of us at some level to feel alive have
of us at some level to feel alive have
of us at some level to feel alive have to always feel like we’re growing when
to always feel like we’re growing when
to always feel like we’re growing when people ask me what does it take to be
people ask me what does it take to be
people ask me what does it take to be happy I always tell them one word
happy I always tell them one word
happy I always tell them one word progress progress equals happiness even
progress progress equals happiness even
progress progress equals happiness even if you’re not where you want to be yet
if you’re not where you want to be yet
if you’re not where you want to be yet if you’re on the road if you’re
if you’re on the road if you’re
if you’re on the road if you’re improving if you’re making progress
improving if you’re making progress
improving if you’re making progress you’re gonna love it
you’re gonna love it
you’re gonna love it you’re gonna feel alive on the other
you’re gonna feel alive on the other
you’re gonna feel alive on the other hand it doesn’t matter how successful
hand it doesn’t matter how successful
hand it doesn’t matter how successful you are if you stop growing
you are if you stop growing
you are if you stop growing you start dying inside now how does this
you start dying inside now how does this
you start dying inside now how does this relate to this session on breakthrough
relate to this session on breakthrough
relate to this session on breakthrough I’ll say it’s really simple if you and I
I’ll say it’s really simple if you and I
I’ll say it’s really simple if you and I want to know what it takes to be happy
want to know what it takes to be happy
want to know what it takes to be happy we have to understand what is our
we have to understand what is our
we have to understand what is our current blueprint of how our life’s
current blueprint of how our life’s
current blueprint of how our life’s supposed to be then what are we mean by
supposed to be then what are we mean by
supposed to be then what are we mean by a blueprint well we have a story in our
a blueprint well we have a story in our
a blueprint well we have a story in our head of how life’s supposed to be some
head of how life’s supposed to be some
head of how life’s supposed to be some people’s story is you work hard in
people’s story is you work hard in
people’s story is you work hard in school you become really great you’re a
school you become really great you’re a
school you become really great you’re a nice person you’re a good person and
nice person you’re a good person and
nice person you’re a good person and then you grow up and you take care of
then you grow up and you take care of
then you grow up and you take care of yourself and you find the ideal man and
yourself and you find the ideal man and
yourself and you find the ideal man and you follow love you have a white picket
you follow love you have a white picket
you follow love you have a white picket fence and you have three perfect
fence and you have three perfect
fence and you have three perfect children and you live happily ever after
children and you live happily ever after
children and you live happily ever after somebody else’s story the old story was
somebody else’s story the old story was
somebody else’s story the old story was you work really hard in school you excel
you work really hard in school you excel
you work really hard in school you excel in college you’re going to work for a
in college you’re going to work for a
in college you’re going to work for a big corporation and you move up through
big corporation and you move up through
big corporation and you move up through the ranks until you’re the President or
the ranks until you’re the President or
the ranks until you’re the President or chairman of the company and you become
chairman of the company and you become
chairman of the company and you become successful respected throughout life
successful respected throughout life
successful respected throughout life these are some old stories obviously the
these are some old stories obviously the
these are some old stories obviously the stories that we hear today of what
stories that we hear today of what
stories that we hear today of what people’s lives are supposed to be like
people’s lives are supposed to be like
people’s lives are supposed to be like are completely diverse they no longer
are completely diverse they no longer
are completely diverse they no longer have these little are
have these little are
have these little are types but when our type still seems to
types but when our type still seems to
types but when our type still seems to remain Matt archetype is in order for
remain Matt archetype is in order for
remain Matt archetype is in order for you to really feel like you’re enough
you to really feel like you’re enough
you to really feel like you’re enough many people believe they have to achieve
many people believe they have to achieve
many people believe they have to achieve an enormous amount they may do it in
an enormous amount they may do it in
an enormous amount they may do it in different ways they may do it by
different ways they may do it by
different ways they may do it by building a company and taking it public
building a company and taking it public
building a company and taking it public when they’re 27 or 25 years old or you
when they’re 27 or 25 years old or you
when they’re 27 or 25 years old or you know they find and create a new
know they find and create a new
know they find and create a new technology or they become a very special
technology or they become a very special
technology or they become a very special doctor but we live in a culture in the
doctor but we live in a culture in the
doctor but we live in a culture in the West that teaches people that you’re not
West that teaches people that you’re not
West that teaches people that you’re not enough unless you do something really
enough unless you do something really
enough unless you do something really special and unique and we define special
special and unique and we define special
special and unique and we define special and unique and interesting ways a
and unique and interesting ways a
and unique and interesting ways a schoolteacher is not special and unique
schoolteacher is not special and unique
schoolteacher is not special and unique a mother who stays home with her
a mother who stays home with her
a mother who stays home with her children
children
children day and night sculpting their minds
day and night sculpting their minds
day and night sculpting their minds their bodies their souls and their
their bodies their souls and their
their bodies their souls and their future is not special we live in a world
future is not special we live in a world
future is not special we live in a world today where we treat teachers like
today where we treat teachers like
today where we treat teachers like they’re nobody and pay them accordingly
they’re nobody and pay them accordingly
they’re nobody and pay them accordingly and we wonder why our children seem to
and we wonder why our children seem to
and we wonder why our children seem to have challenges of learning and growing
have challenges of learning and growing
have challenges of learning and growing or being engaged in school we spend
or being engaged in school we spend
or being engaged in school we spend thousands of dollars on some item like a
thousands of dollars on some item like a
thousands of dollars on some item like a computer but what we look at overall we
computer but what we look at overall we
computer but what we look at overall we invest in for the teacher and for that
invest in for the teacher and for that
invest in for the teacher and for that person who’s the personal connection
person who’s the personal connection
person who’s the personal connection with them is so small we live in a
with them is so small we live in a
with them is so small we live in a society where many women look down and
society where many women look down and
society where many women look down and say well you’re just a housewife you’re
say well you’re just a housewife you’re
say well you’re just a housewife you’re just a mother see some of the pain we
just a mother see some of the pain we
just a mother see some of the pain we have in our society is not because
have in our society is not because
have in our society is not because there’s one right or one wrong approach
there’s one right or one wrong approach
there’s one right or one wrong approach but because we try to make everybody fit
but because we try to make everybody fit
but because we try to make everybody fit into some particular approach to life
into some particular approach to life
into some particular approach to life here’s what’s gonna make you happy or
here’s what’s gonna make you happy or
here’s what’s gonna make you happy or make you unhappy in life it’s real
make you unhappy in life it’s real
make you unhappy in life it’s real simple let’s do a quick test if you’re
simple let’s do a quick test if you’re
simple let’s do a quick test if you’re in a situation right now where you look
in a situation right now where you look
in a situation right now where you look at your life I know there’s an area of
at your life I know there’s an area of
at your life I know there’s an area of your life that you probably feel pretty
your life that you probably feel pretty
your life that you probably feel pretty darn good about even if you’re not happy
darn good about even if you’re not happy
darn good about even if you’re not happy with your finances I bet you feel damn
with your finances I bet you feel damn
with your finances I bet you feel damn good close to your kids or if you’re not
good close to your kids or if you’re not
good close to your kids or if you’re not close to your kids maybe you don’t have
close to your kids maybe you don’t have
close to your kids maybe you don’t have any kids maybe you feel really good
any kids maybe you feel really good
any kids maybe you feel really good about your career if you’re doing not so
about your career if you’re doing not so
about your career if you’re doing not so good in your career maybe you got a
good in your career maybe you got a
good in your career maybe you got a really great body that you’ve trimmed
really great body that you’ve trimmed
really great body that you’ve trimmed down or strengthened up or you know you
down or strengthened up or you know you
down or strengthened up or you know you really shaped yourself the way you want
really shaped yourself the way you want
really shaped yourself the way you want muscularly or in the way you look or if
muscularly or in the way you look or if
muscularly or in the way you look or if that’s not happening maybe you feel a
that’s not happening maybe you feel a
that’s not happening maybe you feel a really special connection with God we’re
really special connection with God we’re
really special connection with God we’re really close to your mother or father
really close to your mother or father
really close to your mother or father your family whatever almost everybody
your family whatever almost everybody
your family whatever almost everybody has an area of their life
has an area of their life
has an area of their life they feel really good about if they’re
they feel really good about if they’re
they feel really good about if they’re honest if they’re fair to themselves
honest if they’re fair to themselves
honest if they’re fair to themselves what’s in your life you really feel
what’s in your life you really feel
what’s in your life you really feel happy about I want you think about it
happy about I want you think about it
happy about I want you think about it for a moment truthfully
for a moment truthfully
for a moment truthfully what’s an area in your life today that
what’s an area in your life today that
what’s an area in your life today that if you wanted to be happy about it you
if you wanted to be happy about it you
if you wanted to be happy about it you really could feel proud about it you
really could feel proud about it you
really could feel proud about it you could feel like so now you’re doing darn
could feel like so now you’re doing darn
could feel like so now you’re doing darn well in and if you’re really hard on
well in and if you’re really hard on
well in and if you’re really hard on yourself there’s still an area what’s an
yourself there’s still an area what’s an
yourself there’s still an area what’s an area I want you to think of it right now
area I want you to think of it right now
area I want you to think of it right now now once you think of that area whether
now once you think of that area whether
now once you think of that area whether it’s your body or your finances or your
it’s your body or your finances or your
it’s your body or your finances or your career or your intimate relationship or
career or your intimate relationship or
career or your intimate relationship or your relationship with your kids your
your relationship with your kids your
your relationship with your kids your relationship with your Creator whatever
relationship with your Creator whatever
relationship with your Creator whatever it is I want you to think about why are
it is I want you to think about why are
it is I want you to think about why are you happy with that air of your life
you happy with that air of your life
you happy with that air of your life right now today why are you happy with
right now today why are you happy with
right now today why are you happy with that area of your life right now today I
that area of your life right now today I
that area of your life right now today I really think about if you were in a
really think about if you were in a
really think about if you were in a seminar with me I’d have you write this
seminar with me I’d have you write this
seminar with me I’d have you write this down if you can you can put me on hold
down if you can you can put me on hold
down if you can you can put me on hold here for a second because I’d like to
here for a second because I’d like to
here for a second because I’d like to reveal to you what the formula is for
reveal to you what the formula is for
reveal to you what the formula is for happiness and if I say there’s a formula
happiness and if I say there’s a formula
happiness and if I say there’s a formula for happiness and here’s what it is
for happiness and here’s what it is
for happiness and here’s what it is you’re gonna go yeah yeah sure that’s
you’re gonna go yeah yeah sure that’s
you’re gonna go yeah yeah sure that’s what he says but if you put down the
what he says but if you put down the
what he says but if you put down the answer and we can see the formulas real
answer and we can see the formulas real
answer and we can see the formulas real without me telling you what it is you
without me telling you what it is you
without me telling you what it is you get to look at your own life and say it
get to look at your own life and say it
get to look at your own life and say it matches you’re gonna know this is right
matches you’re gonna know this is right
matches you’re gonna know this is right so you could stop this right now if you
so you could stop this right now if you
so you could stop this right now if you want put me on hold and just write down
want put me on hold and just write down
want put me on hold and just write down what’s an area of your life you’re
what’s an area of your life you’re
what’s an area of your life you’re really really happy about you’re really
really really happy about you’re really
really really happy about you’re really pleased with or you could be if you
pleased with or you could be if you
pleased with or you could be if you wanted to focus on it and why are you
wanted to focus on it and why are you
wanted to focus on it and why are you happy with that part of your life right
happy with that part of your life right
happy with that part of your life right now even if you’re not happy with
now even if you’re not happy with
now even if you’re not happy with everything what’s the year you’re happy
everything what’s the year you’re happy
everything what’s the year you’re happy with and why put me on hold right now or
with and why put me on hold right now or
with and why put me on hold right now or you’re not gonna do that just think for
you’re not gonna do that just think for
you’re not gonna do that just think for a moment why specifically be real why
a moment why specifically be real why
a moment why specifically be real why now when I asked this if you’ve turned
now when I asked this if you’ve turned
now when I asked this if you’ve turned me back on now if I ask this of an
me back on now if I ask this of an
me back on now if I ask this of an audience I’ll have people write this
audience I’ll have people write this
audience I’ll have people write this down for a few minutes and I’ll call on
down for a few minutes and I’ll call on
down for a few minutes and I’ll call on people I’ll say share with the person
people I’ll say share with the person
people I’ll say share with the person next to you first
next to you first
next to you first what do you happy about and why are you
what do you happy about and why are you
what do you happy about and why are you happy in that area and be specific
happy in that area and be specific
happy in that area and be specific enough to be share I’ll have people
enough to be share I’ll have people
enough to be share I’ll have people stand up I’ll call on a variety of
stand up I’ll call on a variety of
stand up I’ll call on a variety of people and I say ma’am tell me what are
people and I say ma’am tell me what are
people and I say ma’am tell me what are you happy about and she’ll say well
you happy about and she’ll say well
you happy about and she’ll say well honestly I’m really happy with my body
honestly I’m really happy with my body
honestly I’m really happy with my body she does I never thought I’d say that
she does I never thought I’d say that
she does I never thought I’d say that but I used to be so unhappy with it and
but I used to be so unhappy with it and
but I used to be so unhappy with it and you know I finally I did some things I
you know I finally I did some things I
you know I finally I did some things I push myself through and now I exercise
push myself through and now I exercise
push myself through and now I exercise regularly and eat I’m not perfect but I
regularly and eat I’m not perfect but I
regularly and eat I’m not perfect but I feel fit I feel strong I feel energetic
feel fit I feel strong I feel energetic
feel fit I feel strong I feel energetic and that’s really I don’t know it just
and that’s really I don’t know it just
and that’s really I don’t know it just feels good to me now I say everybody I’m
feels good to me now I say everybody I’m
feels good to me now I say everybody I’m not gonna
not gonna
not gonna with the formula frappe inna says it’s
with the formula frappe inna says it’s
with the formula frappe inna says it’s real simple I want to reveal it to you
real simple I want to reveal it to you
real simple I want to reveal it to you so you don’t ever forget it whenever
so you don’t ever forget it whenever
so you don’t ever forget it whenever you’re happy when the air of your life
you’re happy when the air of your life
you’re happy when the air of your life it’s because right now your current life
it’s because right now your current life
it’s because right now your current life experience I call it your LC your life
experience I call it your LC your life
experience I call it your LC your life conditions the conditions of your life
conditions the conditions of your life
conditions the conditions of your life your life conditions in that area match
your life conditions in that area match
your life conditions in that area match or equal to your blueprint your story
or equal to your blueprint your story
or equal to your blueprint your story your belief about how life should be in
your belief about how life should be in
your belief about how life should be in that area so this woman says to me I’m
that area so this woman says to me I’m
that area so this woman says to me I’m really happy in my body because it’s not
really happy in my body because it’s not
really happy in my body because it’s not perfect her blueprint is I don’t need to
perfect her blueprint is I don’t need to
perfect her blueprint is I don’t need to be perfect but it’s so much better than
be perfect but it’s so much better than
be perfect but it’s so much better than it was unfit and I’m strong and I have
it was unfit and I’m strong and I have
it was unfit and I’m strong and I have this energy her mental blueprint says I
this energy her mental blueprint says I
this energy her mental blueprint says I should be fit strong and have energy I
should be fit strong and have energy I
should be fit strong and have energy I don’t need to be perfect but I should be
don’t need to be perfect but I should be
don’t need to be perfect but I should be that way
that way
that way well in my life my body matches how I
well in my life my body matches how I
well in my life my body matches how I think it should be I feel good about my
think it should be I feel good about my
think it should be I feel good about my life well that’s somebody else I’ll say
life well that’s somebody else I’ll say
life well that’s somebody else I’ll say you know tell me they’re you’re happy
you know tell me they’re you’re happy
you know tell me they’re you’re happy with someone else to say well I’m really
with someone else to say well I’m really
with someone else to say well I’m really happy with my career and why well I’m
happy with my career and why well I’m
happy with my career and why well I’m doing better than I even thought I would
doing better than I even thought I would
doing better than I even thought I would be I mean I’m ahead of the schedule of
be I mean I’m ahead of the schedule of
be I mean I’m ahead of the schedule of where I hoped I’d be at this stage I’m
where I hoped I’d be at this stage I’m
where I hoped I’d be at this stage I’m working at this level in this company
working at this level in this company
working at this level in this company and I have these skills and this ability
and I have these skills and this ability
and I have these skills and this ability and it’s even better than I thought well
and it’s even better than I thought well
and it’s even better than I thought well once again listen this person is happy
once again listen this person is happy
once again listen this person is happy with this area of their life because
with this area of their life because
with this area of their life because their current life conditions in the
their current life conditions in the
their current life conditions in the area called their career are even better
area called their career are even better
area called their career are even better than they expect that they would be
than they expect that they would be
than they expect that they would be better than their blueprint better than
better than their blueprint better than
better than their blueprint better than their belief about how it should be if
their belief about how it should be if
their belief about how it should be if it’s really better you tend to be over
it’s really better you tend to be over
it’s really better you tend to be over the moon but one moment would say you
the moon but one moment would say you
the moon but one moment would say you know I can’t tell you I said I’m happy
know I can’t tell you I said I’m happy
know I can’t tell you I said I’m happy he’s ever been in my whole life how come
he’s ever been in my whole life how come
he’s ever been in my whole life how come she goes because I have this man in my
she goes because I have this man in my
she goes because I have this man in my life and I’m in love with him and he
life and I’m in love with him and he
life and I’m in love with him and he loves me and I can be myself with him
loves me and I can be myself with him
loves me and I can be myself with him and he we have this incredible intimacy
and he we have this incredible intimacy
and he we have this incredible intimacy and this passion and we want to be with
and this passion and we want to be with
and this passion and we want to be with each other all the time and I never get
each other all the time and I never get
each other all the time and I never get bored with him well what’s her blueprint
bored with him well what’s her blueprint
bored with him well what’s her blueprint do you want to be with somebody that you
do you want to be with somebody that you
do you want to be with somebody that you could have total intimacy with somebody
could have total intimacy with somebody
could have total intimacy with somebody you love and loves you those are part of
you love and loves you those are part of
you love and loves you those are part of her rules her beliefs um how it should
her rules her beliefs um how it should
her rules her beliefs um how it should be she said you know it’s needs to be I
be she said you know it’s needs to be I
be she said you know it’s needs to be I never want to be with anybody else I
never want to be with anybody else I
never want to be with anybody else I want to be with him every moment her
want to be with him every moment her
want to be with him every moment her blueprint about how life should be and
blueprint about how life should be and
blueprint about how life should be and the way she lives her relationships even
the way she lives her relationships even
the way she lives her relationships even better than she hoped when it’s better
better than she hoped when it’s better
better than she hoped when it’s better than you hope you’re gonna be totally
than you hope you’re gonna be totally
than you hope you’re gonna be totally excited so think about this then what’s
excited so think about this then what’s
excited so think about this then what’s an area you’re not happy with let’s see
an area you’re not happy with let’s see
an area you’re not happy with let’s see we can find the formula for unhappiness
we can find the formula for unhappiness
we can find the formula for unhappiness if the formula for happiness is to be
if the formula for happiness is to be
if the formula for happiness is to be able to meet your expectations or exceed
able to meet your expectations or exceed
able to meet your expectations or exceed them that we really make sure excited
them that we really make sure excited
them that we really make sure excited but to be happy at least Mita does not
but to be happy at least Mita does not
but to be happy at least Mita does not to be perfect
to be perfect
to be perfect but if you general your meaning what you
but if you general your meaning what you
but if you general your meaning what you expect you want from your life in that
expect you want from your life in that
expect you want from your life in that area feel good life conditions match
area feel good life conditions match
area feel good life conditions match blueprint feel good so what makes you
blueprint feel good so what makes you
blueprint feel good so what makes you feel bad or creates pain stress
feel bad or creates pain stress
feel bad or creates pain stress frustration little easy way to figure it
frustration little easy way to figure it
frustration little easy way to figure it out answer this question what’s an area
out answer this question what’s an area
out answer this question what’s an area of life you’re not happy with let me be
of life you’re not happy with let me be
of life you’re not happy with let me be honest with yourself and even if your
honest with yourself and even if your
honest with yourself and even if your life is great all kinds of ways I’m sure
life is great all kinds of ways I’m sure
life is great all kinds of ways I’m sure there’s an area you’d like to improve
there’s an area you’d like to improve
there’s an area you’d like to improve anybody is honest if they’re doing great
anybody is honest if they’re doing great
anybody is honest if they’re doing great in their career very often and don’t
in their career very often and don’t
in their career very often and don’t take care of their body so much if
take care of their body so much if
take care of their body so much if they’re really focused on their body you
they’re really focused on their body you
they’re really focused on their body you know very often they find themselves in
know very often they find themselves in
know very often they find themselves in a position where they’re not spending
a position where they’re not spending
a position where they’re not spending enough time with their kids or if
enough time with their kids or if
enough time with their kids or if they’re spending time with their kids
they’re spending time with their kids
they’re spending time with their kids their intimate relationships not doing
their intimate relationships not doing
their intimate relationships not doing so well because it’s the nature of human
so well because it’s the nature of human
so well because it’s the nature of human beings to focus on areas they feel
beings to focus on areas they feel
beings to focus on areas they feel comfortable with and strong in and give
comfortable with and strong in and give
comfortable with and strong in and give those time and the areas they don’t feel
those time and the areas they don’t feel
those time and the areas they don’t feel so strong and they go I don’t have time
so strong and they go I don’t have time
so strong and they go I don’t have time for it
for it
for it but you really say guys I don’t feel
but you really say guys I don’t feel
but you really say guys I don’t feel very competent that area so what’s an
very competent that area so what’s an
very competent that area so what’s an area of your life that you are not as
area of your life that you are not as
area of your life that you are not as happy with
happy with
happy with I mean it’s healthy honestly to look at
I mean it’s healthy honestly to look at
I mean it’s healthy honestly to look at areas and say I don’t like it I want
areas and say I don’t like it I want
areas and say I don’t like it I want more this whole concept of a
more this whole concept of a
more this whole concept of a breakthrough is about how do I close the
breakthrough is about how do I close the
breakthrough is about how do I close the gap between where I am right now and
gap between where I am right now and
gap between where I am right now and what I want to be that’s what we’re here
what I want to be that’s what we’re here
what I want to be that’s what we’re here to do is like here’s what I want to be
to do is like here’s what I want to be
to do is like here’s what I want to be here’s where I am it’s healthy to see
here’s where I am it’s healthy to see
here’s where I am it’s healthy to see there’s a gap that makes me have this
there’s a gap that makes me have this
there’s a gap that makes me have this hunger to strive to grow to feel alive
hunger to strive to grow to feel alive
hunger to strive to grow to feel alive to expand as a human being so what’s an
to expand as a human being so what’s an
to expand as a human being so what’s an area you’re not pleased with is it your
area you’re not pleased with is it your
area you’re not pleased with is it your body is it your finances is it your
body is it your finances is it your
body is it your finances is it your career is it your spiritual life or lack
career is it your spiritual life or lack
career is it your spiritual life or lack thereof in terms of feeling connected in
thereof in terms of feeling connected in
thereof in terms of feeling connected in that area is it your kids like what’s
that area is it your kids like what’s
that area is it your kids like what’s the area what’s the area that’s not
the area what’s the area that’s not
the area what’s the area that’s not where you want it to be
where you want it to be
where you want it to be and then answer for a moment why aren’t
and then answer for a moment why aren’t
and then answer for a moment why aren’t you happy with that area of your life
you happy with that area of your life
you happy with that area of your life right now
right now
right now why specifically today are you not happy
why specifically today are you not happy
why specifically today are you not happy with that area of your life at this
with that area of your life at this
with that area of your life at this stage of your time of your life
stage of your time of your life
stage of your time of your life again you can stop this and write it
again you can stop this and write it
again you can stop this and write it down might be useful for you or if
down might be useful for you or if
down might be useful for you or if you’re gonna keep it running can you
you’re gonna keep it running can you
you’re gonna keep it running can you stop it and you’ll turn it right back on
stop it and you’ll turn it right back on
stop it and you’ll turn it right back on I’ll kick into it do that now or if you
I’ll kick into it do that now or if you
I’ll kick into it do that now or if you kept it running then just I’ll give you
kept it running then just I’ll give you
kept it running then just I’ll give you what happens I have people write this
what happens I have people write this
what happens I have people write this down and they don’t like this exercise
down and they don’t like this exercise
down and they don’t like this exercise so much oh I don’t like my body or I
so much oh I don’t like my body or I
so much oh I don’t like my body or I don’t like my finances I don’t like my
don’t like my finances I don’t like my
don’t like my finances I don’t like my career I don’t like the person I’m in a
career I don’t like the person I’m in a
career I don’t like the person I’m in a relationship with I don’t like myself
relationship with I don’t like myself
relationship with I don’t like myself the way I’m in relationships why they
the way I’m in relationships why they
the way I’m in relationships why they write it all down how people share back
write it all down how people share back
write it all down how people share back and forth I call on people and the
and forth I call on people and the
and forth I call on people and the lessons pretty clear I tell people in
lessons pretty clear I tell people in
lessons pretty clear I tell people in advance here’s the formula for
advance here’s the formula for
advance here’s the formula for unhappiness
unhappiness
unhappiness I’ll show you before you do anything
I’ll show you before you do anything
I’ll show you before you do anything else when your life conditions when your
else when your life conditions when your
else when your life conditions when your life conditions the way you’re living
life conditions the way you’re living
life conditions the way you’re living your life today does not match it
your life today does not match it
your life today does not match it doesn’t equal your blueprint your story
doesn’t equal your blueprint your story
doesn’t equal your blueprint your story of how it’s supposed to be then you’re
of how it’s supposed to be then you’re
of how it’s supposed to be then you’re gonna have disappointment frustration or
gonna have disappointment frustration or
gonna have disappointment frustration or pain if your life is way different than
pain if your life is way different than
pain if your life is way different than the way you think it’s supposed to be
the way you think it’s supposed to be
the way you think it’s supposed to be you can have enormous pain if it’s a
you can have enormous pain if it’s a
you can have enormous pain if it’s a little different you might feel stressed
little different you might feel stressed
little different you might feel stressed make sense so people stand up and I said
make sense so people stand up and I said
make sense so people stand up and I said tell me you know what’s here you’re not
tell me you know what’s here you’re not
tell me you know what’s here you’re not happy with the person says well you know
happy with the person says well you know
happy with the person says well you know I’m really not happy with my finances
I’m really not happy with my finances
I’m really not happy with my finances and I go why and they say because I’m
and I go why and they say because I’m
and I go why and they say because I’m doing worse now than I was five years
doing worse now than I was five years
doing worse now than I was five years ago
ago
ago I made mistakes in the market and at
I made mistakes in the market and at
I made mistakes in the market and at this stage of my life I should have this
this stage of my life I should have this
this stage of my life I should have this much money and I don’t have it and I
much money and I don’t have it and I
much money and I don’t have it and I don’t know how to change it and it’s
don’t know how to change it and it’s
don’t know how to change it and it’s making me crazy
making me crazy
making me crazy and why are they crazy you say well
and why are they crazy you say well
and why are they crazy you say well because they don’t have their economic
because they don’t have their economic
because they don’t have their economic needs met no you can now have your
needs met no you can now have your
needs met no you can now have your economic needs met and you can still be
economic needs met and you can still be
economic needs met and you can still be okay but when you have an idea this is
okay but when you have an idea this is
okay but when you have an idea this is what my need is and I did the wrong
what my need is and I did the wrong
what my need is and I did the wrong thing my life doesn’t match how I’m
thing my life doesn’t match how I’m
thing my life doesn’t match how I’m supposed to be that’s when people get a
supposed to be that’s when people get a
supposed to be that’s when people get a little crazy so you think about it if
little crazy so you think about it if
little crazy so you think about it if you grew up taking care of folding your
you grew up taking care of folding your
you grew up taking care of folding your own clothes making your own meals going
own clothes making your own meals going
own clothes making your own meals going to the store doing the grocery shopping
to the store doing the grocery shopping
to the store doing the grocery shopping cleaning the bedroom cleaning the house
cleaning the bedroom cleaning the house
cleaning the bedroom cleaning the house vacuuming taking out the trash and you
vacuuming taking out the trash and you
vacuuming taking out the trash and you did that your whole life then if you
did that your whole life then if you
did that your whole life then if you have to do that later on you don’t feel
have to do that later on you don’t feel
have to do that later on you don’t feel like you have economic pain because you
like you have economic pain because you
like you have economic pain because you don’t have a maid but if you grew up an
don’t have a maid but if you grew up an
don’t have a maid but if you grew up an environment where everything was done
environment where everything was done
environment where everything was done for you you never have to work and now
for you you never have to work and now
for you you never have to work and now suddenly you have to work incredibly
suddenly you have to work incredibly
suddenly you have to work incredibly hard to just pay enough money to pay
hard to just pay enough money to pay
hard to just pay enough money to pay your bills and all of a sudden food is
your bills and all of a sudden food is
your bills and all of a sudden food is building up and house is dirty and your
building up and house is dirty and your
building up and house is dirty and your clothes aren’t folded and nothing
clothes aren’t folded and nothing
clothes aren’t folded and nothing matches you might find yourself really
matches you might find yourself really
matches you might find yourself really angry and frustrated because you have a
angry and frustrated because you have a
angry and frustrated because you have a different story about how life’s
different story about how life’s
different story about how life’s supposed to be than how it is someone
supposed to be than how it is someone
supposed to be than how it is someone else will say well I’ll tell you why
else will say well I’ll tell you why
else will say well I’ll tell you why because I’m in a situation now where you
because I’m in a situation now where you
because I’m in a situation now where you know I’m 30 pounds everything I should
know I’m 30 pounds everything I should
know I’m 30 pounds everything I should be should be the key word there are
be should be the key word there are
be should be the key word there are people there are people in all cultures
people there are people in all cultures
people there are people in all cultures who love being big there are people
who love being big there are people
who love being big there are people that’ll walk around and someone else
that’ll walk around and someone else
that’ll walk around and someone else might think they’re massively overweight
might think they’re massively overweight
might think they’re massively overweight but they’re gone I own this honey and
but they’re gone I own this honey and
but they’re gone I own this honey and they really truly they match their
they really truly they match their
they really truly they match their blueprint big is beautiful cuz their
blueprint big is beautiful cuz their
blueprint big is beautiful cuz their ideas big is beautiful I’m big
ideas big is beautiful I’m big
ideas big is beautiful I’m big that’s beautiful matches my blueprint
that’s beautiful matches my blueprint
that’s beautiful matches my blueprint rock and roll I’m happy as can be
rock and roll I’m happy as can be
rock and roll I’m happy as can be somebody else can look like a twig and
somebody else can look like a twig and
somebody else can look like a twig and be stressed out saying I hate my body
be stressed out saying I hate my body
be stressed out saying I hate my body because their blueprint says I should be
because their blueprint says I should be
because their blueprint says I should be the skinniest thing on earth and I’m not
the skinniest thing on earth and I’m not
the skinniest thing on earth and I’m not skinny enough am I making sense when
skinny enough am I making sense when
skinny enough am I making sense when your life conditions don’t match your
your life conditions don’t match your
your life conditions don’t match your blueprint you’re gonna have pain but
blueprint you’re gonna have pain but
blueprint you’re gonna have pain but here’s when you suffer when ask people
here’s when you suffer when ask people
here’s when you suffer when ask people who here has been through the dark night
who here has been through the dark night
who here has been through the dark night of the soul who’s been here in a
of the soul who’s been here in a
of the soul who’s been here in a situation where you feel like like like
situation where you feel like like like
situation where you feel like like like life life isn’t worth living or we feel
life life isn’t worth living or we feel
life life isn’t worth living or we feel like a pain that just will never go away
like a pain that just will never go away
like a pain that just will never go away and I’ll people write down those
and I’ll people write down those
and I’ll people write down those experiences like Joaquin
experiences like Joaquin
experiences like Joaquin so you’ll begin to understand what the
so you’ll begin to understand what the
so you’ll begin to understand what the issue is I’m talking about here while
issue is I’m talking about here while
issue is I’m talking about here while keen if you recall was in a situation
keen if you recall was in a situation
keen if you recall was in a situation where this man felt like there was no
where this man felt like there was no
where this man felt like there was no reason to live he couldn’t work he
reason to live he couldn’t work he
reason to live he couldn’t work he couldn’t do anything his life was
couldn’t do anything his life was
couldn’t do anything his life was worthless why did he think that because
worthless why did he think that because
worthless why did he think that because he had a blueprint and his blueprint
he had a blueprint and his blueprint
he had a blueprint and his blueprint said I need be an NBA basketball player
said I need be an NBA basketball player
said I need be an NBA basketball player at least a professional basketball
at least a professional basketball
at least a professional basketball player I need to be able to make money
player I need to be able to make money
player I need to be able to make money and have this great lifestyle because
and have this great lifestyle because
and have this great lifestyle because that’s what makes me worthwhile as a
that’s what makes me worthwhile as a
that’s what makes me worthwhile as a human being that’s what makes my family
human being that’s what makes my family
human being that’s what makes my family respect me my mother my uncle’s my aunts
respect me my mother my uncle’s my aunts
respect me my mother my uncle’s my aunts I am the successful one in the family
I am the successful one in the family
I am the successful one in the family and I make the money I support everybody
and I make the money I support everybody
and I make the money I support everybody he’s a good man he didn’t come just to
he’s a good man he didn’t come just to
he’s a good man he didn’t come just to be successful he took care of his mother
be successful he took care of his mother
be successful he took care of his mother his families he tried to be an
his families he tried to be an
his families he tried to be an inspiration for people
inspiration for people
inspiration for people Joaquin Hawkins is a man I was always
Joaquin Hawkins is a man I was always
Joaquin Hawkins is a man I was always going out on his free time and training
going out on his free time and training
going out on his free time and training kids and showing them the pathway to
kids and showing them the pathway to
kids and showing them the pathway to freedom how they could play basketball
freedom how they could play basketball
freedom how they could play basketball and get free like he did and get out of
and get free like he did and get out of
and get free like he did and get out of the inner city so this man is not a
the inner city so this man is not a
the inner city so this man is not a selfish man but he knew this is the way
selfish man but he knew this is the way
selfish man but he knew this is the way to be worthwhile this is the way to be
to be worthwhile this is the way to be
to be worthwhile this is the way to be able to give to people this is the way
able to give to people this is the way
able to give to people this is the way to take care of your family and all of a
to take care of your family and all of a
to take care of your family and all of a sudden one night what happened that way
sudden one night what happened that way
sudden one night what happened that way was taken from him he has a stroke in
was taken from him he has a stroke in
was taken from him he has a stroke in another night his life conditions make
another night his life conditions make
another night his life conditions make it impossible to be who he has to be or
it impossible to be who he has to be or
it impossible to be who he has to be or he feels like he’s worthless to get it
he feels like he’s worthless to get it
he feels like he’s worthless to get it we have an identity we have a story of
we have an identity we have a story of
we have an identity we have a story of how we’re supposed to be and if life
how we’re supposed to be and if life
how we’re supposed to be and if life somehow gets in the way of that story we
somehow gets in the way of that story we
somehow gets in the way of that story we feel pain but if we feel we have no
feel pain but if we feel we have no
feel pain but if we feel we have no control that’s when we go into suffering
control that’s when we go into suffering
control that’s when we go into suffering see it’s one thing to say my life
see it’s one thing to say my life
see it’s one thing to say my life doesn’t match my blueprint I got to lose
doesn’t match my blueprint I got to lose
doesn’t match my blueprint I got to lose weight that might stress you out or my
weight that might stress you out or my
weight that might stress you out or my wife doesn’t match my blueprint I’m not
wife doesn’t match my blueprint I’m not
wife doesn’t match my blueprint I’m not in a relationship
in a relationship
in a relationship I gotta get in one that might motivate
I gotta get in one that might motivate
I gotta get in one that might motivate you even you might not like it but
you even you might not like it but
you even you might not like it but you’re gonna find a way to get on with
you’re gonna find a way to get on with
you’re gonna find a way to get on with or my career doesn’t matter I should be
or my career doesn’t matter I should be
or my career doesn’t matter I should be you could change it but when you start
you could change it but when you start
you could change it but when you start believing that your life doesn’t match
believing that your life doesn’t match
believing that your life doesn’t match your blueprint
your blueprint
your blueprint and you have no control to change it
and you have no control to change it
and you have no control to change it you’re helpless that’s when people
you’re helpless that’s when people
you’re helpless that’s when people suffer and so this week for your
suffer and so this week for your
suffer and so this week for your breakthrough it’s a chance for you to
breakthrough it’s a chance for you to
breakthrough it’s a chance for you to start to take a look at your blueprint
start to take a look at your blueprint
start to take a look at your blueprint anywhere you’re really having pain Hey
anywhere you’re really having pain Hey
anywhere you’re really having pain Hey look if you’re doing great in some area
look if you’re doing great in some area
look if you’re doing great in some area of your life celebrate of course and I’m
of your life celebrate of course and I’m
of your life celebrate of course and I’m sure there are many areas you are but
sure there are many areas you are but
sure there are many areas you are but life is really a series of growth spurts
life is really a series of growth spurts
life is really a series of growth spurts I mean two things in life make you feel
I mean two things in life make you feel
I mean two things in life make you feel alive growing and giving and what’s
alive growing and giving and what’s
alive growing and giving and what’s really wonderful about this man Joaquin
really wonderful about this man Joaquin
really wonderful about this man Joaquin is he was constantly growing trying to
is he was constantly growing trying to
is he was constantly growing trying to get better trying to be a better team
get better trying to be a better team
get better trying to be a better team made a better basketball player think
made a better basketball player think
made a better basketball player think about it when he didn’t make the teams
about it when he didn’t make the teams
about it when he didn’t make the teams and didn’t make the NBA he didn’t give
and didn’t make the NBA he didn’t give
and didn’t make the NBA he didn’t give up he worked even harder the guy was
up he worked even harder the guy was
up he worked even harder the guy was always striving striving to become
always striving striving to become
always striving striving to become something and he became it and he
something and he became it and he
something and he became it and he achieved it and then life took it from
achieved it and then life took it from
achieved it and then life took it from him isn’t that the common denominator
him isn’t that the common denominator
him isn’t that the common denominator was so many of the people and the
was so many of the people and the
was so many of the people and the stories of this six-part series that you
stories of this six-part series that you
stories of this six-part series that you saw these six specials I mean Frank and
saw these six specials I mean Frank and
saw these six specials I mean Frank and Kristen had a blueprint of what life was
Kristen had a blueprint of what life was
Kristen had a blueprint of what life was supposed to be about we’re supposed to
supposed to be about we’re supposed to
supposed to be about we’re supposed to get married to have children and we’re
get married to have children and we’re
get married to have children and we’re gonna have our own business and all of a
gonna have our own business and all of a
gonna have our own business and all of a sudden life doesn’t match the blueprint
sudden life doesn’t match the blueprint
sudden life doesn’t match the blueprint and suddenly there’s depression because
and suddenly there’s depression because
and suddenly there’s depression because in their case they said there’s nothing
in their case they said there’s nothing
in their case they said there’s nothing we could do but they were wrong they
we could do but they were wrong they
we could do but they were wrong they were wrong because they discovered and
were wrong because they discovered and
were wrong because they discovered and Frank discovered I can make a difference
Frank discovered I can make a difference
Frank discovered I can make a difference in my wife the chair even though I
in my wife the chair even though I
in my wife the chair even though I didn’t create this and then ask for this
didn’t create this and then ask for this
didn’t create this and then ask for this chair does not define me I can become
chair does not define me I can become
chair does not define me I can become more than I was before I can have the
more than I was before I can have the
more than I was before I can have the impact on my wife I can have children we
impact on my wife I can have children we
impact on my wife I can have children we had to change his blueprint because we
had to change his blueprint because we
had to change his blueprint because we couldn’t change all the conditions of
couldn’t change all the conditions of
couldn’t change all the conditions of his life does that make sense I couldn’t
his life does that make sense I couldn’t
his life does that make sense I couldn’t get him to physically walk again maybe
get him to physically walk again maybe
get him to physically walk again maybe someday he will but we can’t count on
someday he will but we can’t count on
someday he will but we can’t count on that well we gotta count on is that he
that well we gotta count on is that he
that well we gotta count on is that he can be fulfilled by seeing he isn’t
can be fulfilled by seeing he isn’t
can be fulfilled by seeing he isn’t helpless that I did that to a series of
helpless that I did that to a series of
helpless that I did that to a series of experiences that violated what he
experiences that violated what he
experiences that violated what he thought he couldn’t do the same thing
thought he couldn’t do the same thing
thought he couldn’t do the same thing was true with almost every one of the
was true with almost every one of the
was true with almost every one of the people we worked with at some level and
people we worked with at some level and
people we worked with at some level and in Joaquin’s example it was also true
in Joaquin’s example it was also true
in Joaquin’s example it was also true our Keane said well I can’t ever have
our Keane said well I can’t ever have
our Keane said well I can’t ever have this quality of life again because I’m
this quality of life again because I’m
this quality of life again because I’m not a professional basketball
not a professional basketball
not a professional basketball player and he was locked into that
player and he was locked into that
player and he was locked into that mindset and all of us get locked at
mindset and all of us get locked at
mindset and all of us get locked at times but to his credit to his system of
times but to his credit to his system of
times but to his credit to his system of steps we were able to break him out of
steps we were able to break him out of
steps we were able to break him out of that we would get him to see that he
that we would get him to see that he
that we would get him to see that he isn’t helpless cuz here’s your choice
isn’t helpless cuz here’s your choice
isn’t helpless cuz here’s your choice watch this now if you’re suffering if
watch this now if you’re suffering if
watch this now if you’re suffering if you’re in pain your life doesn’t match
you’re in pain your life doesn’t match
you’re in pain your life doesn’t match how you think it should date and you
how you think it should date and you
how you think it should date and you think you’re helpless to change it now
think you’re helpless to change it now
think you’re helpless to change it now you have only three choices choice one
you have only three choices choice one
you have only three choices choice one blame something and that’s what
blame something and that’s what
blame something and that’s what did if you recall he blamed his coach he
did if you recall he blamed his coach he
did if you recall he blamed his coach he blamed what happened to him and of
blamed what happened to him and of
blamed what happened to him and of course these things were outside his
course these things were outside his
course these things were outside his control but he blamed his coach and a
control but he blamed his coach and a
control but he blamed his coach and a big part of the healing if you watch
big part of the healing if you watch
big part of the healing if you watch this session was bringing his coach in
this session was bringing his coach in
this session was bringing his coach in and getting him to see he you know when
and getting him to see he you know when
and getting him to see he you know when all that anger all that resentment
all that anger all that resentment
all that anger all that resentment inside of you Joaquin a it’s not based
inside of you Joaquin a it’s not based
inside of you Joaquin a it’s not based on the truth and be like Nelson Mandela
on the truth and be like Nelson Mandela
on the truth and be like Nelson Mandela said you know having resentment in your
said you know having resentment in your
said you know having resentment in your soul is like drinking poison and hoping
soul is like drinking poison and hoping
soul is like drinking poison and hoping that your enemy will die it doesn’t work
that your enemy will die it doesn’t work
that your enemy will die it doesn’t work that way
that way
that way and when Joaquin was able to break out
and when Joaquin was able to break out
and when Joaquin was able to break out his breakthrough was a change in
his breakthrough was a change in
his breakthrough was a change in perception to realize this coach wasn’t
perception to realize this coach wasn’t
perception to realize this coach wasn’t stopping me I just felt like I lost
stopping me I just felt like I lost
stopping me I just felt like I lost everything and so I don’t know how to
everything and so I don’t know how to
everything and so I don’t know how to change it so I’m looking for something
change it so I’m looking for something
change it so I’m looking for something to be mad about someone to blame so so I
to be mad about someone to blame so so I
to be mad about someone to blame so so I don’t have to blame myself or I don’t
don’t have to blame myself or I don’t
don’t have to blame myself or I don’t have to feel so helpless
have to feel so helpless
have to feel so helpless cuz when you’re angry you don’t feel so
cuz when you’re angry you don’t feel so
cuz when you’re angry you don’t feel so helpless you feel strong for the moment
helpless you feel strong for the moment
helpless you feel strong for the moment even though it’s a fake strength when he
even though it’s a fake strength when he
even though it’s a fake strength when he was able to make that breakthrough he
was able to make that breakthrough he
was able to make that breakthrough he could stop blaming cuz these are three
could stop blaming cuz these are three
could stop blaming cuz these are three choices when life doesn’t match how you
choices when life doesn’t match how you
choices when life doesn’t match how you think it should be blame something an
think it should be blame something an
think it should be blame something an event someone else or yourself as we
event someone else or yourself as we
event someone else or yourself as we talked about earlier in the series blame
talked about earlier in the series blame
talked about earlier in the series blame games just destroy you there’s no
games just destroy you there’s no
games just destroy you there’s no progress when you play for the moment
progress when you play for the moment
progress when you play for the moment you feel okay but nothing changes what
you feel okay but nothing changes what
you feel okay but nothing changes what are your real choices you only have two
are your real choices you only have two
are your real choices you only have two choices in life if life doesn’t match
choices in life if life doesn’t match
choices in life if life doesn’t match your blueprint you either have to change
your blueprint you either have to change
your blueprint you either have to change your life that is you gotta say you know
your life that is you gotta say you know
your life that is you gotta say you know what my body isn’t there I’m gonna go
what my body isn’t there I’m gonna go
what my body isn’t there I’m gonna go work out my relationship is in there I’m
work out my relationship is in there I’m
work out my relationship is in there I’m gonna change it you know I’m not making
gonna change it you know I’m not making
gonna change it you know I’m not making what I gotta make I’m gonna retool I’m
what I gotta make I’m gonna retool I’m
what I gotta make I’m gonna retool I’m gonna get a new skill I’m gonna go back
gonna get a new skill I’m gonna go back
gonna get a new skill I’m gonna go back to school I’m gonna start a business I’m
to school I’m gonna start a business I’m
to school I’m gonna start a business I’m gonna do something you have to do
gonna do something you have to do
gonna do something you have to do something to change your life or in
something to change your life or in
something to change your life or in order for you to be happy if you can’t
order for you to be happy if you can’t
order for you to be happy if you can’t change your life you’re gonna have to
change your life you’re gonna have to
change your life you’re gonna have to change your blueprint
change your blueprint
change your blueprint usually in life it requires a little bit
usually in life it requires a little bit
usually in life it requires a little bit of each does that make sense and if
of each does that make sense and if
of each does that make sense and if you’ve changed your take change your
you’ve changed your take change your
you’ve changed your take change your life and change your blueprint you can
life and change your blueprint you can
life and change your blueprint you can have an extraordinary life and what you
have an extraordinary life and what you
have an extraordinary life and what you witness this man do was once he let go
witness this man do was once he let go
witness this man do was once he let go of his anger and his denial once he
of his anger and his denial once he
of his anger and his denial once he started to look at things he began to
started to look at things he began to
started to look at things he began to find by spending time with his family
find by spending time with his family
find by spending time with his family that he was worthwhile being loved while
that he was worthwhile being loved while
that he was worthwhile being loved while he played basketball or not of course
he played basketball or not of course
he played basketball or not of course he’d love to play basketball but
he’d love to play basketball but
he’d love to play basketball but professional basketball is no longer a
professional basketball is no longer a
professional basketball is no longer a part of it and we had to get Joaquin to
part of it and we had to get Joaquin to
part of it and we had to get Joaquin to shift that and Joaquin is a metaphor for
shift that and Joaquin is a metaphor for
shift that and Joaquin is a metaphor for all of us because all of us are gonna
all of us because all of us are gonna
all of us because all of us are gonna have times in our life when what we want
have times in our life when what we want
have times in our life when what we want or think life should be like isn’t gonna
or think life should be like isn’t gonna
or think life should be like isn’t gonna match how life really is those moments
match how life really is those moments
match how life really is those moments if we blame our life goes into pain if
if we blame our life goes into pain if
if we blame our life goes into pain if we change we can change our life and
we change we can change our life and
we change we can change our life and match our blueprint but we have to also
match our blueprint but we have to also
match our blueprint but we have to also know when it’s not within our control
know when it’s not within our control
know when it’s not within our control and that’s how we’re able to make a
and that’s how we’re able to make a
and that’s how we’re able to make a shift to change what our story is for
shift to change what our story is for
shift to change what our story is for our life what our expectations are not
our life what our expectations are not
our life what our expectations are not by lowering them but by changing what
by lowering them but by changing what
by lowering them but by changing what that model really is helping this make
that model really is helping this make
that model really is helping this make sense to you I’ll give you a great
sense to you I’ll give you a great
sense to you I’ll give you a great example
example
example years ago I I do a lot of work with
years ago I I do a lot of work with
years ago I I do a lot of work with business people celebrities people of
business people celebrities people of
business people celebrities people of all kinds of walks of life and I was
all kinds of walks of life and I was
all kinds of walks of life and I was dealing with a group of people and they
dealing with a group of people and they
dealing with a group of people and they knew a very very powerful celebrity and
knew a very very powerful celebrity and
knew a very very powerful celebrity and without to give that person privacy I
without to give that person privacy I
without to give that person privacy I won’t tell you too many details we can’t
won’t tell you too many details we can’t
won’t tell you too many details we can’t figure out exactly who it is but it
figure out exactly who it is but it
figure out exactly who it is but it would be a person who was very
would be a person who was very
would be a person who was very successful as a woman who was extremely
successful as a woman who was extremely
successful as a woman who was extremely attracted by cultural standards a woman
attracted by cultural standards a woman
attracted by cultural standards a woman who’s had a lot of dear friends a lot of
who’s had a lot of dear friends a lot of
who’s had a lot of dear friends a lot of deep respect so great skill great
deep respect so great skill great
deep respect so great skill great ability extremely talented quite
ability extremely talented quite
ability extremely talented quite attractive quite wealthy in financial
attractive quite wealthy in financial
attractive quite wealthy in financial terms and lots of great friends this
terms and lots of great friends this
terms and lots of great friends this would be for most people’s idea the
would be for most people’s idea the
would be for most people’s idea the ultimate blueprint if your life matches
ultimate blueprint if your life matches
ultimate blueprint if your life matches that description you must have an
that description you must have an
that description you must have an incredible life but ironically this
incredible life but ironically this
incredible life but ironically this particular individuals famous as they
particular individuals famous as they
particular individuals famous as they were was depressed all the time
were was depressed all the time
were was depressed all the time they had seemingly everything and yet
they had seemingly everything and yet
they had seemingly everything and yet the person was depressed how do you get
the person was depressed how do you get
the person was depressed how do you get depressed when you’re smart and you’re
depressed when you’re smart and you’re
depressed when you’re smart and you’re strong and you’re beautiful and you got
strong and you’re beautiful and you got
strong and you’re beautiful and you got great friends and you’re rich and you’re
great friends and you’re rich and you’re
great friends and you’re rich and you’re famous well it’s real simple people said
famous well it’s real simple people said
famous well it’s real simple people said I don’t know what it is everyone’s tried
I don’t know what it is everyone’s tried
I don’t know what it is everyone’s tried to help her she’s been on them through
to help her she’s been on them through
to help her she’s been on them through counselling she’s got all these
counselling she’s got all these
counselling she’s got all these different drugs nothing’s working
different drugs nothing’s working
different drugs nothing’s working she’s taking antidepressants and she’s
she’s taking antidepressants and she’s
she’s taking antidepressants and she’s still depressed which is not uncommon by
still depressed which is not uncommon by
still depressed which is not uncommon by the way because if you change the way
the way because if you change the way
the way because if you change the way you feel physically but you still see
you feel physically but you still see
you feel physically but you still see your life doesn’t match how you think it
your life doesn’t match how you think it
your life doesn’t match how you think it should be at some level and you feel
should be at some level and you feel
should be at some level and you feel like you’re helpless to change it you’re
like you’re helpless to change it you’re
like you’re helpless to change it you’re gonna be depressed so I said bring her
gonna be depressed so I said bring her
gonna be depressed so I said bring her to me I said I can help her I know that
to me I said I can help her I know that
to me I said I can help her I know that sounds like hyperbole but I absolutely
sounds like hyperbole but I absolutely
sounds like hyperbole but I absolutely can help her well how do you know that
can help her well how do you know that
can help her well how do you know that Tony because I already know what the
Tony because I already know what the
Tony because I already know what the problem is I know if someone’s depressed
problem is I know if someone’s depressed
problem is I know if someone’s depressed it’s because they feel helpless because
it’s because they feel helpless because
it’s because they feel helpless because their life doesn’t matter they think it
their life doesn’t matter they think it
their life doesn’t matter they think it should be I just didn’t know what her
should be I just didn’t know what her
should be I just didn’t know what her blueprint is but we’ll find out what it
blueprint is but we’ll find out what it
blueprint is but we’ll find out what it is and we’ll either help her change your
is and we’ll either help her change your
is and we’ll either help her change your life or Whopper change your blueprint or
life or Whopper change your blueprint or
life or Whopper change your blueprint or both
both
both long story short very quickly I’ll tell
long story short very quickly I’ll tell
long story short very quickly I’ll tell you the core of it which came to me and
you the core of it which came to me and
you the core of it which came to me and she spent maybe the first half an hour
she spent maybe the first half an hour
she spent maybe the first half an hour telling me apologizing saying I know I
telling me apologizing saying I know I
telling me apologizing saying I know I should be happier I know it’s silly for
should be happier I know it’s silly for
should be happier I know it’s silly for me to be depressed I don’t know why I’m
me to be depressed I don’t know why I’m
me to be depressed I don’t know why I’m so depressed III know I should be
so depressed III know I should be
so depressed III know I should be grateful for what I have and I am
grateful for what I have and I am
grateful for what I have and I am grateful and it was all these reasons
grateful and it was all these reasons
grateful and it was all these reasons why she knows she should feel good but
why she knows she should feel good but
why she knows she should feel good but still didn’t I try to finally explain to
still didn’t I try to finally explain to
still didn’t I try to finally explain to her listen I don’t care about that I
her listen I don’t care about that I
her listen I don’t care about that I care about you the fact that you’re not
care about you the fact that you’re not
care about you the fact that you’re not happy has nothing to do with what you
happy has nothing to do with what you
happy has nothing to do with what you have or don’t have the fact that you’re
have or don’t have the fact that you’re
have or don’t have the fact that you’re not happy is that your life doesn’t
not happy is that your life doesn’t
not happy is that your life doesn’t match the way you think it should be and
match the way you think it should be and
match the way you think it should be and you have some idea of how you think it
you have some idea of how you think it
you have some idea of how you think it should be and worse if you’re this
should be and worse if you’re this
should be and worse if you’re this depressed after all this time you feel
depressed after all this time you feel
depressed after all this time you feel like you can’t do anything you have no
like you can’t do anything you have no
like you can’t do anything you have no power to change it you feel helpless and
power to change it you feel helpless and
power to change it you feel helpless and she looked at me in a certain way and I
she looked at me in a certain way and I
she looked at me in a certain way and I said so what is that what did you want
said so what is that what did you want
said so what is that what did you want your life to be like she goes well it
your life to be like she goes well it
your life to be like she goes well it sounds stupid
sounds stupid
sounds stupid I said like it sounds stupid to me she
I said like it sounds stupid to me she
I said like it sounds stupid to me she said well I don’t know I just always
said well I don’t know I just always
said well I don’t know I just always since I was a little girl dreamed that I
since I was a little girl dreamed that I
since I was a little girl dreamed that I would be married and I’ll have three
would be married and I’ll have three
would be married and I’ll have three basically perfect children and they
basically perfect children and they
basically perfect children and they would love me totally and my above my
would love me totally and my above my
would love me totally and my above my husband he loved me and I said okay so
husband he loved me and I said okay so
husband he loved me and I said okay so how’s that working for you so far and
how’s that working for you so far and
how’s that working for you so far and she said well I think you know cuz
she said well I think you know cuz
she said well I think you know cuz pretty famous person she said I’m
pretty famous person she said I’m
pretty famous person she said I’m divorced twice I have no children and
divorced twice I have no children and
divorced twice I have no children and now X age and to give you a clue that
now X age and to give you a clue that
now X age and to give you a clue that age would be an age where having a child
age would be an age where having a child
age would be an age where having a child your own natural child at least barring
your own natural child at least barring
your own natural child at least barring a medical miracle is not going to happen
a medical miracle is not going to happen
a medical miracle is not going to happen so I said to her well why don’t you just
so I said to her well why don’t you just
so I said to her well why don’t you just adopt says no no no no no that’s not it
adopt says no no no no no that’s not it
adopt says no no no no no that’s not it and so what I had to dig under is
and so what I had to dig under is
and so what I had to dig under is remember we talked and one of the
remember we talked and one of the
remember we talked and one of the earlier sessions about there’s the
earlier sessions about there’s the
earlier sessions about there’s the surface problem and then there’s the
surface problem and then there’s the
surface problem and then there’s the deeper desire or need so I said to her I
deeper desire or need so I said to her I
deeper desire or need so I said to her I said well what if you couldn’t have the
said well what if you couldn’t have the
said well what if you couldn’t have the husband but you could have the kids and
husband but you could have the kids and
husband but you could have the kids and she smiled she said I’d take that I said
she smiled she said I’d take that I said
she smiled she said I’d take that I said well why not adopted kid she goes now it
well why not adopted kid she goes now it
well why not adopted kid she goes now it has to be my own blood children so I
has to be my own blood children so I
has to be my own blood children so I kept digging to find out what was behind
kept digging to find out what was behind
kept digging to find out what was behind her blueprint because your blueprint is
her blueprint because your blueprint is
her blueprint because your blueprint is just a projection of what you think you
just a projection of what you think you
just a projection of what you think you need to be happy but as human beings
need to be happy but as human beings
need to be happy but as human beings were notoriously ineffective at knowing
were notoriously ineffective at knowing
were notoriously ineffective at knowing that’s gonna make us happy so much of we
that’s gonna make us happy so much of we
that’s gonna make us happy so much of we think we’re gonna make us happy we get
think we’re gonna make us happy we get
think we’re gonna make us happy we get there and we go is this all there is so
there and we go is this all there is so
there and we go is this all there is so many things that we think are gonna make
many things that we think are gonna make
many things that we think are gonna make us miserable and we can never deal with
us miserable and we can never deal with
us miserable and we can never deal with we go through it we can handle it we’re
we go through it we can handle it we’re
we go through it we can handle it we’re not good at projecting these things and
not good at projecting these things and
not good at projecting these things and all kinds of studies will show this so I
all kinds of studies will show this so I
all kinds of studies will show this so I said to her well what what are you
said to her well what what are you
said to her well what what are you hoping to get from these three children
hoping to get from these three children
hoping to get from these three children why do they have to be your blood
why do they have to be your blood
why do they have to be your blood children and she finally said well if
children and she finally said well if
children and she finally said well if they’re my blood children I know they’ll
they’re my blood children I know they’ll
they’re my blood children I know they’ll always love me they’ll never leave me
always love me they’ll never leave me
always love me they’ll never leave me what was she looking for unconditional
what was she looking for unconditional
what was she looking for unconditional love she had this big blueprint that
love she had this big blueprint that
love she had this big blueprint that said white house picket fence three
said white house picket fence three
said white house picket fence three children perfect husband you know all
children perfect husband you know all
children perfect husband you know all these different things but what was
these different things but what was
these different things but what was behind that was a need a need to feel
behind that was a need a need to feel
behind that was a need a need to feel like she could have love that would be
like she could have love that would be
like she could have love that would be certain and wouldn’t go away so I can
certain and wouldn’t go away so I can
certain and wouldn’t go away so I can help her meet that need so I said to her
help her meet that need so I said to her
help her meet that need so I said to her I said well maybe one reason you don’t
I said well maybe one reason you don’t
I said well maybe one reason you don’t have a husband is because every time you
have a husband is because every time you
have a husband is because every time you look at one you’re trying to figure out
look at one you’re trying to figure out
look at one you’re trying to figure out if he’s gonna get you those three kids
if he’s gonna get you those three kids
if he’s gonna get you those three kids in time and how that’s gonna happen and
in time and how that’s gonna happen and
in time and how that’s gonna happen and maybe he feels a little stressed when
maybe he feels a little stressed when
maybe he feels a little stressed when you slow you’re looking at in this way
you slow you’re looking at in this way
you slow you’re looking at in this way because he can feel what’s going on
because he can feel what’s going on
because he can feel what’s going on behind your bed even if he doesn’t know
behind your bed even if he doesn’t know
behind your bed even if he doesn’t know what the words are and she started to
what the words are and she started to
what the words are and she started to laugh because I guess I’ve probably been
laugh because I guess I’ve probably been
laugh because I guess I’ve probably been there a good portion of my life
there a good portion of my life
there a good portion of my life and she goes people wonder you know why
and she goes people wonder you know why
and she goes people wonder you know why I’m so uptight
I’m so uptight
I’m so uptight I said you’re uptight because you were
I said you’re uptight because you were
I said you’re uptight because you were felt like you’re running out of time
felt like you’re running out of time
felt like you’re running out of time trying to meet some picture but I said
trying to meet some picture but I said
trying to meet some picture but I said all you really want is love
all you really want is love
all you really want is love I said don’t Chapel I love a new life
I said don’t Chapel I love a new life
I said don’t Chapel I love a new life tell me about your friends and gradually
tell me about your friends and gradually
tell me about your friends and gradually I got her to start seeing this love that
I got her to start seeing this love that
I got her to start seeing this love that she was trying to get was already here
she was trying to get was already here
she was trying to get was already here it didn’t match the picture maybe maybe
it didn’t match the picture maybe maybe
it didn’t match the picture maybe maybe we could paint a new picture of what
we could paint a new picture of what
we could paint a new picture of what life could really be like and make sure
life could really be like and make sure
life could really be like and make sure that picture met her deepest needs
that picture met her deepest needs
that picture met her deepest needs that’s basically we did Joaquin Joaquin
that’s basically we did Joaquin Joaquin
that’s basically we did Joaquin Joaquin wanted to be professional basketball
wanted to be professional basketball
wanted to be professional basketball player cuz he loved basketball yes but
player cuz he loved basketball yes but
player cuz he loved basketball yes but also because he wanted to be that man
also because he wanted to be that man
also because he wanted to be that man who was a leader he wanted to be a man
who was a leader he wanted to be a man
who was a leader he wanted to be a man who was the good man he wanted to be the
who was the good man he wanted to be the
who was the good man he wanted to be the one who brought energy to people he want
one who brought energy to people he want
one who brought energy to people he want to be the man people would look up to
to be the man people would look up to
to be the man people would look up to you want to be the man who could take
you want to be the man who could take
you want to be the man who could take care of his family and style all of his
care of his family and style all of his
care of his family and style all of his family not just his daughters and his
family not just his daughters and his
family not just his daughters and his wife but other people as well underneath
wife but other people as well underneath
wife but other people as well underneath it all he wanted to know that he
it all he wanted to know that he
it all he wanted to know that he mattered and through the process that
mattered and through the process that
mattered and through the process that you saw in the show he began to find out
you saw in the show he began to find out
you saw in the show he began to find out that he didn’t need to be angry at the
that he didn’t need to be angry at the
that he didn’t need to be angry at the world that yes his blueprint was taken
world that yes his blueprint was taken
world that yes his blueprint was taken from him but his soul and his ability to
from him but his soul and his ability to
from him but his soul and his ability to be a special human being and I could
be a special human being and I could
be a special human being and I could touch other people was not taken from
touch other people was not taken from
touch other people was not taken from him that may be his real gift was his
him that may be his real gift was his
him that may be his real gift was his ability to inspire young kids his
ability to inspire young kids his
ability to inspire young kids his ability to get himself to do whatever it
ability to get himself to do whatever it
ability to get himself to do whatever it took how do you become a professional
took how do you become a professional
took how do you become a professional basketball player
basketball player
basketball player unbelievable discipline unbelievable
unbelievable discipline unbelievable
unbelievable discipline unbelievable Drive he started bringing that to
Drive he started bringing that to
Drive he started bringing that to picking up trash and the game started
picking up trash and the game started
picking up trash and the game started change it’s turned out by Mary could
change it’s turned out by Mary could
change it’s turned out by Mary could come home and take care of his kids and
come home and take care of his kids and
come home and take care of his kids and pay his bills that doesn’t solve
pay his bills that doesn’t solve
pay his bills that doesn’t solve everything but it gives him a way to
everything but it gives him a way to
everything but it gives him a way to suddenly regain himself when he sat
suddenly regain himself when he sat
suddenly regain himself when he sat around with all of his family you saw
around with all of his family you saw
around with all of his family you saw part of those scenes and if you watch
part of those scenes and if you watch
part of those scenes and if you watch little areas of browsing this week
little areas of browsing this week
little areas of browsing this week you’ll see some more scenes from his
you’ll see some more scenes from his
you’ll see some more scenes from his family where you see him begin you
family where you see him begin you
family where you see him begin you realize they love me whether I’m rich or
realize they love me whether I’m rich or
realize they love me whether I’m rich or poor they love me
poor they love me
poor they love me I’m a professional basketball player not
I’m a professional basketball player not
I’m a professional basketball player not they love me that’s what he was really
they love me that’s what he was really
they love me that’s what he was really after when he got that it allowed him to
after when he got that it allowed him to
after when he got that it allowed him to let go and say I can do other things
let go and say I can do other things
let go and say I can do other things that doesn’t mean he won’t have
that doesn’t mean he won’t have
that doesn’t mean he won’t have challenges we’re all gonna have
challenges we’re all gonna have
challenges we’re all gonna have challenges in our life he admit it
challenges in our life he admit it
challenges in our life he admit it doesn’t mean that at times he won’t wish
doesn’t mean that at times he won’t wish
doesn’t mean that at times he won’t wish he’s doing more but he’s no longer stuck
he’s doing more but he’s no longer stuck
he’s doing more but he’s no longer stuck he’s broken through because he now knows
he’s broken through because he now knows
he’s broken through because he now knows I have control I can change my life or I
I have control I can change my life or I
I have control I can change my life or I can change my blueprint and what I do I
can change my blueprint and what I do I
can change my blueprint and what I do I can fulfill it I can start to fail that
can fulfill it I can start to fail that
can fulfill it I can start to fail that aliveness now here’s the trap what do
aliveness now here’s the trap what do
aliveness now here’s the trap what do you think happens once you fulfill your
you think happens once you fulfill your
you think happens once you fulfill your blueprint regularly once you figure out
blueprint regularly once you figure out
blueprint regularly once you figure out how to do what you always dreamed of you
how to do what you always dreamed of you
how to do what you always dreamed of you always dream to live a certain way and
always dream to live a certain way and
always dream to live a certain way and now you’re living that way live in that
now you’re living that way live in that
now you’re living that way live in that way living that way everyday well the
way living that way everyday well the
way living that way everyday well the human nervous system human spirit needs
human nervous system human spirit needs
human nervous system human spirit needs to grow so pretty soon you’ll get bored
to grow so pretty soon you’ll get bored
to grow so pretty soon you’ll get bored with that and you’ll come up with a new
with that and you’ll come up with a new
with that and you’ll come up with a new blueprint that’s part of the part of
blueprint that’s part of the part of
blueprint that’s part of the part of life that’s exciting see if you and I
life that’s exciting see if you and I
life that’s exciting see if you and I are from this day forward are gonna be
are from this day forward are gonna be
are from this day forward are gonna be happy just remember we’ve said it takes
happy just remember we’ve said it takes
happy just remember we’ve said it takes two things grow and give a meaningful
two things grow and give a meaningful
two things grow and give a meaningful life comes from growing that sense of
life comes from growing that sense of
life comes from growing that sense of progress and it comes from having life
progress and it comes from having life
progress and it comes from having life not just be about me but about we doing
not just be about me but about we doing
not just be about me but about we doing something that makes me feel connected
something that makes me feel connected
something that makes me feel connected to other people besides myself that
to other people besides myself that
to other people besides myself that growth that sense of contribution fills
growth that sense of contribution fills
growth that sense of contribution fills a deep spiritual need that we all have
a deep spiritual need that we all have
a deep spiritual need that we all have if you are unhappy in your life you got
if you are unhappy in your life you got
if you are unhappy in your life you got three choices really to blame that’s not
three choices really to blame that’s not
three choices really to blame that’s not a choice it’s not gonna work don’t blame
a choice it’s not gonna work don’t blame
a choice it’s not gonna work don’t blame someone else don’t blame you that don’t
someone else don’t blame you that don’t
someone else don’t blame you that don’t blame yourself just figure out what
blame yourself just figure out what
blame yourself just figure out what you’re gonna do to change your life
you’re gonna do to change your life
you’re gonna do to change your life that’s my specialty if you like my
that’s my specialty if you like my
that’s my specialty if you like my coaching or my team’s coaching come
coaching or my team’s coaching come
coaching or my team’s coaching come visit with us come doing event come get
visit with us come doing event come get
visit with us come doing event come get a coach come to a program but we’ll
a coach come to a program but we’ll
a coach come to a program but we’ll guide you through it more than just a
guide you through it more than just a
guide you through it more than just a few minutes like this and we’ll do it
few minutes like this and we’ll do it
few minutes like this and we’ll do it directly an environment that will shift
directly an environment that will shift
directly an environment that will shift you or change your blueprint you’re
you or change your blueprint you’re
you or change your blueprint you’re gonna have to rewire what’s going on
gonna have to rewire what’s going on
gonna have to rewire what’s going on inside and that’s what we focus on as
inside and that’s what we focus on as
inside and that’s what we focus on as well so I hope this journey has been an
well so I hope this journey has been an
well so I hope this journey has been an interesting one for you I hope it’s
interesting one for you I hope it’s
interesting one for you I hope it’s opened up your eyes to what it takes to
opened up your eyes to what it takes to
opened up your eyes to what it takes to go from where you are to where you want
go from where you are to where you want
go from where you are to where you want to be it takes changing your emotional
to be it takes changing your emotional
to be it takes changing your emotional pattern to change bringing presents to
pattern to change bringing presents to
pattern to change bringing presents to your life it takes realizing you have no
your life it takes realizing you have no
your life it takes realizing you have no problems compared to somebody else and
problems compared to somebody else and
problems compared to somebody else and putting your life in perspective it
putting your life in perspective it
putting your life in perspective it takes the ability to deal with those
takes the ability to deal with those
takes the ability to deal with those extreme stresses that happen in your
extreme stresses that happen in your
extreme stresses that happen in your life by questioning your limiting
life by questioning your limiting
life by questioning your limiting beliefs and again if we’d love to coach
beliefs and again if we’d love to coach
beliefs and again if we’d love to coach you and show you how to change those in
you and show you how to change those in
you and show you how to change those in a permanent way where it happens
a permanent way where it happens
a permanent way where it happens automatically just like lifting weights
automatically just like lifting weights
automatically just like lifting weights so often till the muscle is always there
so often till the muscle is always there
so often till the muscle is always there and you find yourself able to follow
and you find yourself able to follow
and you find yourself able to follow through it takes for you to be able to
through it takes for you to be able to
through it takes for you to be able to figure out how to deal with crisis you
figure out how to deal with crisis you
figure out how to deal with crisis you have to turn
have to turn
have to turn it takes facing your fear it takes
it takes facing your fear it takes
it takes facing your fear it takes pushing yourself through what used to
pushing yourself through what used to
pushing yourself through what used to stop you
stop you
stop you it takes putting yourself in a position
it takes putting yourself in a position
it takes putting yourself in a position where you connect to what’s more
where you connect to what’s more
where you connect to what’s more important than just yourself what you
important than just yourself what you
important than just yourself what you value than just yourself and it takes I
value than just yourself and it takes I
value than just yourself and it takes I think in this case also the ability to
think in this case also the ability to
think in this case also the ability to realize that no matter what happens to
realize that no matter what happens to
realize that no matter what happens to you you’re more than that moment you’re
you you’re more than that moment you’re
you you’re more than that moment you’re more than the story you think you’re
more than the story you think you’re
more than the story you think you’re supposed to be and that even when you’re
supposed to be and that even when you’re
supposed to be and that even when you’re not matching what you think you need to
not matching what you think you need to
not matching what you think you need to be maybe there’s a reason for that maybe
be maybe there’s a reason for that maybe
be maybe there’s a reason for that maybe you’re having to find a different part
you’re having to find a different part
you’re having to find a different part of yourself that’s gonna fulfill you at
of yourself that’s gonna fulfill you at
of yourself that’s gonna fulfill you at a much deeper level sometimes failing to
a much deeper level sometimes failing to
a much deeper level sometimes failing to get your goal gives you your destiny I
get your goal gives you your destiny I
get your goal gives you your destiny I can’t tell you how many people I’ve
can’t tell you how many people I’ve
can’t tell you how many people I’ve known over the years who have an idea if
known over the years who have an idea if
known over the years who have an idea if what they thought their life was
what they thought their life was
what they thought their life was supposed to be like and they didn’t
supposed to be like and they didn’t
supposed to be like and they didn’t achieve it they felt miserable and upset
achieve it they felt miserable and upset
achieve it they felt miserable and upset and frustrated and one day an opening
and frustrated and one day an opening
and frustrated and one day an opening happened and they went oh my god thank
happened and they went oh my god thank
happened and they went oh my god thank God that didn’t happen
God that didn’t happen
God that didn’t happen I think it’s Garth Brooks had a great
I think it’s Garth Brooks had a great
I think it’s Garth Brooks had a great song and it’s a song about when he was
song and it’s a song about when he was
song and it’s a song about when he was in high school and he was in love with
in high school and he was in love with
in high school and he was in love with this girl infatuated with her and she
this girl infatuated with her and she
this girl infatuated with her and she didn’t even know that he existed and he
didn’t even know that he existed and he
didn’t even know that he existed and he prayed to God every day that she would
prayed to God every day that she would
prayed to God every day that she would notice him that she would fall in love
notice him that she would fall in love
notice him that she would fall in love with him and then sure enough if she
with him and then sure enough if she
with him and then sure enough if she never did he was so disappointed his
never did he was so disappointed his
never did he was so disappointed his blueprint didn’t match his life didn’t
blueprint didn’t match his life didn’t
blueprint didn’t match his life didn’t match it because she didn’t even know he
match it because she didn’t even know he
match it because she didn’t even know he existed and he felt this suffering he
existed and he felt this suffering he
existed and he felt this suffering he could do nothing to turn it around well
could do nothing to turn it around well
could do nothing to turn it around well 15 years later he became a guy named
15 years later he became a guy named
15 years later he became a guy named Garth Brooks somebody everybody knew and
Garth Brooks somebody everybody knew and
Garth Brooks somebody everybody knew and he could rock you know stadiums with his
he could rock you know stadiums with his
he could rock you know stadiums with his energy in a song at his music and he
energy in a song at his music and he
energy in a song at his music and he goes back to being this high school
goes back to being this high school
goes back to being this high school reunion it was his 15 year even if I
reunion it was his 15 year even if I
reunion it was his 15 year even if I remember correctly I remember the exact
remember correctly I remember the exact
remember correctly I remember the exact year but all I remember is he said he
year but all I remember is he said he
year but all I remember is he said he saw that woman that he was so obsessed
saw that woman that he was so obsessed
saw that woman that he was so obsessed by I was looking forward to seeing her
by I was looking forward to seeing her
by I was looking forward to seeing her and now I’m just Garth Brooks and he met
and now I’m just Garth Brooks and he met
and now I’m just Garth Brooks and he met her and after he met her and spent some
her and after he met her and spent some
her and after he met her and spent some time with her he wrote a song called
time with her he wrote a song called
time with her he wrote a song called thank God for unanswered prayers
thank God for unanswered prayers
thank God for unanswered prayers sometimes not getting your blueprints
sometimes not getting your blueprints
sometimes not getting your blueprints the best thing that ever happen because
the best thing that ever happen because
the best thing that ever happen because the disappointment drives you to find
the disappointment drives you to find
the disappointment drives you to find something more important inside of you
something more important inside of you
something more important inside of you or not getting it makes you look for
or not getting it makes you look for
or not getting it makes you look for another aspect of your life a spiritual
another aspect of your life a spiritual
another aspect of your life a spiritual aspect
aspect
aspect a family aspect a physical aspect if you
a family aspect a physical aspect if you
a family aspect a physical aspect if you can just trust that life doesn’t happen
can just trust that life doesn’t happen
can just trust that life doesn’t happen to you it happens for you then you can
to you it happens for you then you can
to you it happens for you then you can find in any situation a benefit that can
find in any situation a benefit that can
find in any situation a benefit that can take your life to the next level I don’t
take your life to the next level I don’t
take your life to the next level I don’t care if you’re Frank and Kristen I don’t
care if you’re Frank and Kristen I don’t
care if you’re Frank and Kristen I don’t care if you’re you know Mandy and Scott
care if you’re you know Mandy and Scott
care if you’re you know Mandy and Scott I don’t care if you’re Joaquin and Kim
I don’t care if you’re Joaquin and Kim
I don’t care if you’re Joaquin and Kim every one of us in our life is gonna
every one of us in our life is gonna
every one of us in our life is gonna feed faced situations where it feels
feed faced situations where it feels
feed faced situations where it feels like we have total trauma something
like we have total trauma something
like we have total trauma something that’s been taken from us the real
that’s been taken from us the real
that’s been taken from us the real question is what are you gonna do with
question is what are you gonna do with
question is what are you gonna do with it some people just live in the story of
it some people just live in the story of
it some people just live in the story of what they don’t have and they have the
what they don’t have and they have the
what they don’t have and they have the right to do that if Frank and Kristen
right to do that if Frank and Kristen
right to do that if Frank and Kristen lived in pain and felt bad we’d all say
lived in pain and felt bad we’d all say
lived in pain and felt bad we’d all say they have the right to do it it’s a
they have the right to do it it’s a
they have the right to do it it’s a different thing what you have the right
different thing what you have the right
different thing what you have the right to do and what you deserve to give
to do and what you deserve to give
to do and what you deserve to give yourself and others we have the ability
yourself and others we have the ability
yourself and others we have the ability to transcend whatever happens to us
to transcend whatever happens to us
to transcend whatever happens to us there’s something called post-traumatic
there’s something called post-traumatic
there’s something called post-traumatic growth very few people know about it two
growth very few people know about it two
growth very few people know about it two people go through the same stress ones
people go through the same stress ones
people go through the same stress ones destroyed the other grows what’s the
destroyed the other grows what’s the
destroyed the other grows what’s the difference the people that grow will not
difference the people that grow will not
difference the people that grow will not give up they don’t have any excuses they
give up they don’t have any excuses they
give up they don’t have any excuses they find the way to break through whatever
find the way to break through whatever
find the way to break through whatever it takes and when they do three things
it takes and when they do three things
it takes and when they do three things happen number one they realize who they
happen number one they realize who they
happen number one they realize who they really are and what they’re capable of
really are and what they’re capable of
really are and what they’re capable of they realize there’s so much stronger
they realize there’s so much stronger
they realize there’s so much stronger than they thought they were and number
than they thought they were and number
than they thought they were and number two they deepen all their relationships
two they deepen all their relationships
two they deepen all their relationships you want to know who really cares about
you want to know who really cares about
you want to know who really cares about to who you love and who loves you go
to who you love and who loves you go
to who you love and who loves you go through some tragedy go through some
through some tragedy go through some
through some tragedy go through some hard times all your Facebook friends go
hard times all your Facebook friends go
hard times all your Facebook friends go away
away
away your real friends your real family shows
your real friends your real family shows
your real friends your real family shows up for you and you show up for them and
up for you and you show up for them and
up for you and you show up for them and it deepens your relationships and the
it deepens your relationships and the
it deepens your relationships and the third thing happens if you can push
third thing happens if you can push
third thing happens if you can push yourself through and break through
yourself through and break through
yourself through and break through whatever challenges life gives you is
whatever challenges life gives you is
whatever challenges life gives you is each time you have a breakthrough you
each time you have a breakthrough you
each time you have a breakthrough you get stronger and it almost like builds a
get stronger and it almost like builds a
get stronger and it almost like builds a psychological immunity in you we’re
psychological immunity in you we’re
psychological immunity in you we’re suddenly all of a sudden it’s like stuff
suddenly all of a sudden it’s like stuff
suddenly all of a sudden it’s like stuff happens you know stuffs gonna happen and
happens you know stuffs gonna happen and
happens you know stuffs gonna happen and you’re not scared of it anymore
you’re not scared of it anymore
you’re not scared of it anymore cuz after you’ve been through a stroke
cuz after you’ve been through a stroke
cuz after you’ve been through a stroke after you’ve been through you know
after you’ve been through you know
after you’ve been through you know losing the use of some of your body or
losing the use of some of your body or
losing the use of some of your body or senses after you lose a family member
senses after you lose a family member
senses after you lose a family member and you break through to that you get to
and you break through to that you get to
and you break through to that you get to the other side it’s like give me your
the other side it’s like give me your
the other side it’s like give me your best shot life it’s almost like there’s
best shot life it’s almost like there’s
best shot life it’s almost like there’s this psychological immunity that says
this psychological immunity that says
this psychological immunity that says I’m ready for whatever life will give me
I’m ready for whatever life will give me
I’m ready for whatever life will give me I don’t want challenges but if they’re
I don’t want challenges but if they’re
I don’t want challenges but if they’re here I know I can
here I know I can
here I know I can that strength of spirit is what creates
that strength of spirit is what creates
that strength of spirit is what creates a sense of freedom and joy in life and
a sense of freedom and joy in life and
a sense of freedom and joy in life and that strength of spirit basically comes
that strength of spirit basically comes
that strength of spirit basically comes from living a life where you are
from living a life where you are
from living a life where you are constantly a never-ending thing you way
constantly a never-ending thing you way
constantly a never-ending thing you way to improve yourself and to help others
to improve yourself and to help others
to improve yourself and to help others that’s my mission and if we can serve
that’s my mission and if we can serve
that’s my mission and if we can serve you again in the future I hope you’ll
you again in the future I hope you’ll
you again in the future I hope you’ll check us out there’s three ways you can
check us out there’s three ways you can
check us out there’s three ways you can continue to participate with us you can
continue to participate with us you can
continue to participate with us you can come to an event come have an experience
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with us live in a weekend and are unleash the power within or our date
unleash the power within or our date
unleash the power within or our date with destinies I think you’ll find it’s
with destinies I think you’ll find it’s
with destinies I think you’ll find it’s very different than just sitting here
very different than just sitting here
very different than just sitting here talking to you quietly sitting in front
talking to you quietly sitting in front
talking to you quietly sitting in front of your computer screen it’s a
of your computer screen it’s a
of your computer screen it’s a rock’n’roll environment it’s like going
rock’n’roll environment it’s like going
rock’n’roll environment it’s like going to the ballpark and having one person
to the ballpark and having one person
to the ballpark and having one person sitting there talking to you versus
sitting there talking to you versus
sitting there talking to you versus being in the ball park or the rock and
being in the ball park or the rock and
being in the ball park or the rock and roll concert you know with 50,000
roll concert you know with 50,000
roll concert you know with 50,000 there’s an energy and a power that comes
there’s an energy and a power that comes
there’s an energy and a power that comes from it second is there’s immersion here
from it second is there’s immersion here
from it second is there’s immersion here we talked for an hour there’s
we talked for an hour there’s
we talked for an hour there’s distractions and emails there it’s total
distractions and emails there it’s total
distractions and emails there it’s total focus and we go for an immersion we’re
focus and we go for an immersion we’re
focus and we go for an immersion we’re literally what we did here over six
literally what we did here over six
literally what we did here over six weeks few little conversations all that
weeks few little conversations all that
weeks few little conversations all that happens over and over again multiple
happens over and over again multiple
happens over and over again multiple times a day and you get that shift so
times a day and you get that shift so
times a day and you get that shift so come to an event or call up and get a
come to an event or call up and get a
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coach we have people that you can work
coach we have people that you can work with and have a free coaching session
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and make sure it’s really valuable for
and make sure it’s really valuable for you but these are people that can check
you but these are people that can check
you but these are people that can check in with you to help make sure you break
in with you to help make sure you break
in with you to help make sure you break through you make the changes you want to
through you make the changes you want to
through you make the changes you want to make and your career your finances your
make and your career your finances your
make and your career your finances your body or your emotions or whatever area
body or your emotions or whatever area
body or your emotions or whatever area matters to you and finally lastly and
matters to you and finally lastly and
matters to you and finally lastly and probably most importantly every day you
probably most importantly every day you
probably most importantly every day you got to feed your mind cuz every day most
got to feed your mind cuz every day most
got to feed your mind cuz every day most of us are turning on you know some form
of us are turning on you know some form
of us are turning on you know some form of news it shows up in our pocket and
of news it shows up in our pocket and
of news it shows up in our pocket and our blackberries or I you know iPods or
our blackberries or I you know iPods or
our blackberries or I you know iPods or iPhones I should say it shows up you
iPhones I should say it shows up you
iPhones I should say it shows up you know on your computer constantly it
know on your computer constantly it
know on your computer constantly it chases us and it rarely does a good idea
chases us and it rarely does a good idea
chases us and it rarely does a good idea interrupt you really what you have to do
interrupt you really what you have to do
interrupt you really what you have to do is pursue the ideas pursue the
is pursue the ideas pursue the
is pursue the ideas pursue the experiences they’re gonna change your
experiences they’re gonna change your
experiences they’re gonna change your life and we have a way to do it called
life and we have a way to do it called
life and we have a way to do it called net time no extra time a wave where you
net time no extra time a wave where you
net time no extra time a wave where you can keep feeding your mind the stuff
can keep feeding your mind the stuff
can keep feeding your mind the stuff that really matters with some products
that really matters with some products
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having a free coaching session or maybe try one of our audio programs because
try one of our audio programs because
try one of our audio programs because the other challenge here is with video
the other challenge here is with video
the other challenge here is with video got to sit here potentially and watch me
got to sit here potentially and watch me
got to sit here potentially and watch me but with audio you can do it while
but with audio you can do it while
but with audio you can do it while you’re working out you can do it while
you’re working out you can do it while
you’re working out you can do it while you’re cleaning the house you can do it
you’re cleaning the house you can do it
you’re cleaning the house you can do it while you’re driving in the car
while you’re driving in the car
while you’re driving in the car why are you getting to work we’d love to
why are you getting to work we’d love to
why are you getting to work we’d love to continue serving you in any way we can I
continue serving you in any way we can I
continue serving you in any way we can I know I’ve gone long in this session but
know I’ve gone long in this session but
know I’ve gone long in this session but I really want you to think about how can
I really want you to think about how can
I really want you to think about how can I get my life the way I want it to be
I get my life the way I want it to be
I get my life the way I want it to be the way I do it is I figure out what my
the way I do it is I figure out what my
the way I do it is I figure out what my blueprint is and I update it for what
blueprint is and I update it for what
blueprint is and I update it for what life is I changed my life
life is I changed my life
life is I changed my life match my blueprint and suddenly my life
match my blueprint and suddenly my life
match my blueprint and suddenly my life feels full and a life thank you for the
feels full and a life thank you for the
feels full and a life thank you for the time that we spent together here I’ve
time that we spent together here I’ve
time that we spent together here I’ve really enjoyed our time and I hope that
really enjoyed our time and I hope that
really enjoyed our time and I hope that this breakthrough series remind you to
this breakthrough series remind you to
this breakthrough series remind you to never settle for less than you can be
never settle for less than you can be
never settle for less than you can be never settle for less than you can give
never settle for less than you can give
never settle for less than you can give or you can share LIVESTRONG loop of
or you can share LIVESTRONG loop of
or you can share LIVESTRONG loop of passion and god bless
passion and god bless
passion and god bless welcome back to your breakthrough we’re
welcome back to your breakthrough we’re
welcome back to your breakthrough we’re gonna talk in the session about the
gonna talk in the session about the
gonna talk in the session about the exact formula for what creates long-term
exact formula for what creates long-term
exact formula for what creates long-term happiness what creates unhappiness what
happiness what creates unhappiness what
happiness what creates unhappiness what creates suffering and what the antidotes
creates suffering and what the antidotes
creates suffering and what the antidotes are which there’s only three how do I
are which there’s only three how do I
are which there’s only three how do I know this I’ve had the privilege of
know this I’ve had the privilege of
know this I’ve had the privilege of being with four million people now from
being with four million people now from
being with four million people now from a hundred countries around the world
a hundred countries around the world
a hundred countries around the world live seminars and I’ve seen everything
live seminars and I’ve seen everything
live seminars and I’ve seen everything you can imagine I mean from the most
you can imagine I mean from the most
you can imagine I mean from the most successful people in the world to these
successful people in the world to these
successful people in the world to these single the most challenged people you
single the most challenged people you
single the most challenged people you could possibly imagine I’ve dealt with
could possibly imagine I’ve dealt with
could possibly imagine I’ve dealt with people with multiple personality
people with multiple personality
people with multiple personality disorders 52 different personalities and
disorders 52 different personalities and
disorders 52 different personalities and how to put them back together and I
how to put them back together and I
how to put them back together and I dealt with people with no personality of
dealt with people with no personality of
dealt with people with no personality of a much bigger problem no matter what the
a much bigger problem no matter what the
a much bigger problem no matter what the diversity of people I dealt with and the
diversity of people I dealt with and the
diversity of people I dealt with and the diversity you’ve seen in this show the
diversity you’ve seen in this show the
diversity you’ve seen in this show the ultimate question I’m always asking is
ultimate question I’m always asking is
ultimate question I’m always asking is how do I help people to break through
how do I help people to break through
how do I help people to break through the question is what are you breaking
the question is what are you breaking
the question is what are you breaking through to in essence all of us at some
through to in essence all of us at some
through to in essence all of us at some level to feel alive have to always feel
level to feel alive have to always feel
level to feel alive have to always feel like we’re growing when people ask me
like we’re growing when people ask me
like we’re growing when people ask me what does it take to be happy I always
what does it take to be happy I always
what does it take to be happy I always tell them one word progress progress
tell them one word progress progress
tell them one word progress progress equals happiness even if you’re not
equals happiness even if you’re not
equals happiness even if you’re not where you want to be yet if you’re on
where you want to be yet if you’re on
where you want to be yet if you’re on the road if you’re improving if you’re
the road if you’re improving if you’re
the road if you’re improving if you’re making progress you’re gonna love it
making progress you’re gonna love it
making progress you’re gonna love it you’re gonna feel alive on the other
you’re gonna feel alive on the other
you’re gonna feel alive on the other hand it doesn’t matter how successful
hand it doesn’t matter how successful
hand it doesn’t matter how successful you are if you stop growing
you are if you stop growing
you are if you stop growing you start dying inside now how does this
you start dying inside now how does this
you start dying inside now how does this relate to this session on breakthrough
relate to this session on breakthrough
relate to this session on breakthrough all I’ll say it’s really simple if you
all I’ll say it’s really simple if you
all I’ll say it’s really simple if you and I want to know what it takes to be
and I want to know what it takes to be
and I want to know what it takes to be happy we have to understand what is our
happy we have to understand what is our
happy we have to understand what is our current blueprint of how our life’s
current blueprint of how our life’s
current blueprint of how our life’s supposed to be then what are we mean by
supposed to be then what are we mean by
supposed to be then what are we mean by a blueprint well we have a story in our
a blueprint well we have a story in our
a blueprint well we have a story in our head of how life’s supposed to be some
head of how life’s supposed to be some
head of how life’s supposed to be some people’s story is
people’s story is
people’s story is you work hard in school you become
you work hard in school you become
you work hard in school you become really great you’re a nice person you’re
really great you’re a nice person you’re
really great you’re a nice person you’re a good person and then you grow up and
a good person and then you grow up and
a good person and then you grow up and you take care of yourself and you find
you take care of yourself and you find
you take care of yourself and you find the ideal man and you fall in love you
the ideal man and you fall in love you
the ideal man and you fall in love you have a white picket fence and you have
have a white picket fence and you have
have a white picket fence and you have three perfect children and you live
three perfect children and you live
three perfect children and you live happily ever after somebody else’s story
happily ever after somebody else’s story
happily ever after somebody else’s story the old story was you work really hard
the old story was you work really hard
the old story was you work really hard in school you excel in college you’re
in school you excel in college you’re
in school you excel in college you’re going to work for a big corporation and
going to work for a big corporation and
going to work for a big corporation and you move up through the ranks until
you move up through the ranks until
you move up through the ranks until you’re the President or chairman of the
you’re the President or chairman of the
you’re the President or chairman of the company and you become successful
company and you become successful
company and you become successful respected throughout life these are some
respected throughout life these are some
respected throughout life these are some old stories obviously the stories that
old stories obviously the stories that
old stories obviously the stories that we hear today of what people’s lives are
we hear today of what people’s lives are
we hear today of what people’s lives are supposed to be like are completely
supposed to be like are completely
supposed to be like are completely diverse we no longer have these little
diverse we no longer have these little
diverse we no longer have these little Ark types but when our type still seems
Ark types but when our type still seems
Ark types but when our type still seems to remain that archetype is in order for
to remain that archetype is in order for
to remain that archetype is in order for you to really feel like you’re enough
you to really feel like you’re enough
you to really feel like you’re enough many people believe they have to achieve
many people believe they have to achieve
many people believe they have to achieve an enormous amount they may do it in
an enormous amount they may do it in
an enormous amount they may do it in different ways they may do it by
different ways they may do it by
different ways they may do it by building a company and taking a public
building a company and taking a public
building a company and taking a public when they’re 27 or 25 years old or you
when they’re 27 or 25 years old or you
when they’re 27 or 25 years old or you know they find and create a new
know they find and create a new
know they find and create a new technology or they become a very special
technology or they become a very special
technology or they become a very special doctor but we live in a culture in the
doctor but we live in a culture in the
doctor but we live in a culture in the West that teaches people that you’re not
West that teaches people that you’re not
West that teaches people that you’re not enough unless you do something really
enough unless you do something really
enough unless you do something really special and unique and we define special
special and unique and we define special
special and unique and we define special and unique and interesting ways a
and unique and interesting ways a
and unique and interesting ways a schoolteacher is not special and unique
schoolteacher is not special and unique
schoolteacher is not special and unique a mother who stays home with her
a mother who stays home with her
a mother who stays home with her children day and night
children day and night
children day and night sculpting their minds their bodies their
sculpting their minds their bodies their
sculpting their minds their bodies their souls and their future is not special we
souls and their future is not special we
souls and their future is not special we live in a world today where we treat
live in a world today where we treat
live in a world today where we treat teachers like they’re nobody and pay
teachers like they’re nobody and pay
teachers like they’re nobody and pay them accordingly and we wonder why our
them accordingly and we wonder why our
them accordingly and we wonder why our children seem to have challenges of
children seem to have challenges of
children seem to have challenges of learning and growing or being engaged in
learning and growing or being engaged in
learning and growing or being engaged in school we spend thousands of dollars on
school we spend thousands of dollars on
school we spend thousands of dollars on some item like a computer but what we
some item like a computer but what we
some item like a computer but what we look at overall we invest in for the
look at overall we invest in for the
look at overall we invest in for the teacher and for that person is the
teacher and for that person is the
teacher and for that person is the personal connection with them is so
personal connection with them is so
personal connection with them is so small we live in a society where many
small we live in a society where many
small we live in a society where many women look down and say well you’re just
women look down and say well you’re just
women look down and say well you’re just a housewife you’re just a mother see
a housewife you’re just a mother see
a housewife you’re just a mother see some of the pain we have in our society
some of the pain we have in our society
some of the pain we have in our society is not because there’s one right or one
is not because there’s one right or one
is not because there’s one right or one wrong approach but because we try to
wrong approach but because we try to
wrong approach but because we try to make everybody fit into some particular
make everybody fit into some particular
make everybody fit into some particular approach to life here’s what’s gonna
approach to life here’s what’s gonna
approach to life here’s what’s gonna make you happy or make
make you happy or make
make you happy or make you unhappy in life it’s real simple
you unhappy in life it’s real simple
you unhappy in life it’s real simple let’s do a quick test if you’re in a
let’s do a quick test if you’re in a
let’s do a quick test if you’re in a situation right now where you look at
situation right now where you look at
situation right now where you look at your life I know there’s an area of your
your life I know there’s an area of your
your life I know there’s an area of your life that you probably feel pretty darn
life that you probably feel pretty darn
life that you probably feel pretty darn good about even if you’re not happy with
good about even if you’re not happy with
good about even if you’re not happy with your finances I bet you feel damn good
your finances I bet you feel damn good
your finances I bet you feel damn good close to your kids or if you’re not
close to your kids or if you’re not
close to your kids or if you’re not close to your kids maybe you don’t have
close to your kids maybe you don’t have
close to your kids maybe you don’t have any kids maybe you feel really good
any kids maybe you feel really good
any kids maybe you feel really good about your career if you’re doing not so
about your career if you’re doing not so
about your career if you’re doing not so good in your career maybe you got a
good in your career maybe you got a
good in your career maybe you got a really great body that you’ve trimmed
really great body that you’ve trimmed
really great body that you’ve trimmed down or strengthened up or you know you
down or strengthened up or you know you
down or strengthened up or you know you really shaped yourself the way you want
really shaped yourself the way you want
really shaped yourself the way you want muscularly or the way you look or if
muscularly or the way you look or if
muscularly or the way you look or if that’s not happening made me feel really
that’s not happening made me feel really
that’s not happening made me feel really special connection with God or really
special connection with God or really
special connection with God or really close to your mother or father your
close to your mother or father your
close to your mother or father your family whatever almost everybody has an
family whatever almost everybody has an
family whatever almost everybody has an area of their life they feel really good
area of their life they feel really good
area of their life they feel really good about if they’re honest and if they’re
about if they’re honest and if they’re
about if they’re honest and if they’re fair to themselves what’s in your life
fair to themselves what’s in your life
fair to themselves what’s in your life you really feel happy about how much you
you really feel happy about how much you
you really feel happy about how much you think about it for a moment truthfully
think about it for a moment truthfully
think about it for a moment truthfully what’s an area in your life today that
what’s an area in your life today that
what’s an area in your life today that if you wanted to be happy about it you
if you wanted to be happy about it you
if you wanted to be happy about it you really could feel proud about it you
really could feel proud about it you
really could feel proud about it you could feel like so no you’re doing darn
could feel like so no you’re doing darn
could feel like so no you’re doing darn well in and if you’re really hard on
well in and if you’re really hard on
well in and if you’re really hard on yourself there’s still an area what’s an
yourself there’s still an area what’s an
yourself there’s still an area what’s an area I want to think of it right now and
area I want to think of it right now and
area I want to think of it right now and once you think of that area whether it’s
once you think of that area whether it’s
once you think of that area whether it’s your body or your finances or your
your body or your finances or your
your body or your finances or your career or your intimate relationship or
career or your intimate relationship or
career or your intimate relationship or your relationship with your kids your
your relationship with your kids your
your relationship with your kids your relationship with your Creator whatever
relationship with your Creator whatever
relationship with your Creator whatever it is I want you to think about why are
it is I want you to think about why are
it is I want you to think about why are you happy with that air of your life
you happy with that air of your life
you happy with that air of your life right now today why are you happy with
right now today why are you happy with
right now today why are you happy with that area of your life right now today
that area of your life right now today
that area of your life right now today really think about
really think about
really think about if you were in a seminar with me I’d
if you were in a seminar with me I’d
if you were in a seminar with me I’d have you write this down if you can’t
have you write this down if you can’t
have you write this down if you can’t you can put me on hold here for a second
you can put me on hold here for a second
you can put me on hold here for a second because I’d like to reveal to you what
because I’d like to reveal to you what
because I’d like to reveal to you what the formula is for happiness and if I
the formula is for happiness and if I
the formula is for happiness and if I say there’s a formula for happiness and
say there’s a formula for happiness and
say there’s a formula for happiness and here’s what it is you’re gonna go yeah
here’s what it is you’re gonna go yeah
here’s what it is you’re gonna go yeah yeah sure that’s what he says but if you
yeah sure that’s what he says but if you
yeah sure that’s what he says but if you put down the answer and we can see the
put down the answer and we can see the
put down the answer and we can see the formulas real without me telling you
formulas real without me telling you
formulas real without me telling you what it is you get to look at your own
what it is you get to look at your own
what it is you get to look at your own life and say it matches you’re gonna
life and say it matches you’re gonna
life and say it matches you’re gonna know this is right so you could stop
know this is right so you could stop
know this is right so you could stop this right now if you want put me on
this right now if you want put me on
this right now if you want put me on hold and just write down what’s an area
hold and just write down what’s an area
hold and just write down what’s an area of your life you’re really really happy
of your life you’re really really happy
of your life you’re really really happy about
about
about you’re really pleased with or you could
you’re really pleased with or you could
you’re really pleased with or you could be if you wanted to focus on it and why
be if you wanted to focus on it and why
be if you wanted to focus on it and why are you happy with that part of your
are you happy with that part of your
are you happy with that part of your life right now we’re gonna happy with
life right now we’re gonna happy with
life right now we’re gonna happy with everything what’s your you’re happy with
everything what’s your you’re happy with
everything what’s your you’re happy with and why put me on hold right now or
and why put me on hold right now or
and why put me on hold right now or you’re not gonna do that just think for
you’re not gonna do that just think for
you’re not gonna do that just think for a moment why specifically be real why
a moment why specifically be real why
a moment why specifically be real why now when they ask this if you’ve turned
now when they ask this if you’ve turned
now when they ask this if you’ve turned me back on now if I ask this of an
me back on now if I ask this of an
me back on now if I ask this of an audience I’ll have people write this
audience I’ll have people write this
audience I’ll have people write this down for a few minutes and I’ll call in
down for a few minutes and I’ll call in
down for a few minutes and I’ll call in people I’ll say share with the person
people I’ll say share with the person
people I’ll say share with the person next to you first
next to you first
next to you first what do you happy about and why are you
what do you happy about and why are you
what do you happy about and why are you happy in that area and be specific and
happy in that area and be specific and
happy in that area and be specific and after they share I’ll have people stand
after they share I’ll have people stand
after they share I’ll have people stand up I’ll call in a variety people and I
up I’ll call in a variety people and I
up I’ll call in a variety people and I say ma’am tell me what are you happy
say ma’am tell me what are you happy
say ma’am tell me what are you happy about she’ll say well honestly I’m
about she’ll say well honestly I’m
about she’ll say well honestly I’m really happy with my body she does I
really happy with my body she does I
really happy with my body she does I never thought I’d say that but I used to
never thought I’d say that but I used to
never thought I’d say that but I used to be so unhappy with it and you know I
be so unhappy with it and you know I
be so unhappy with it and you know I finally I did some things I push myself
finally I did some things I push myself
finally I did some things I push myself through and now I exercise regularly and
through and now I exercise regularly and
through and now I exercise regularly and eat I’m not perfect but I feel fit I
eat I’m not perfect but I feel fit I
eat I’m not perfect but I feel fit I feel strong I feel energetic and that’s
feel strong I feel energetic and that’s
feel strong I feel energetic and that’s really I don’t know it just feels good
really I don’t know it just feels good
really I don’t know it just feels good to me now I say everybody I’m now gonna
to me now I say everybody I’m now gonna
to me now I say everybody I’m now gonna show you what the formula for happiness
show you what the formula for happiness
show you what the formula for happiness is and it’s real simple I want to reveal
is and it’s real simple I want to reveal
is and it’s real simple I want to reveal it to you so you don’t ever forget it
it to you so you don’t ever forget it
it to you so you don’t ever forget it whenever you’re happy with the air of
whenever you’re happy with the air of
whenever you’re happy with the air of your life it’s because right now your
your life it’s because right now your
your life it’s because right now your current life experience I call it your
current life experience I call it your
current life experience I call it your LC or life conditions the conditions of
LC or life conditions the conditions of
LC or life conditions the conditions of your life your life conditions in that
your life your life conditions in that
your life your life conditions in that area
area
area match or equal to your blueprint your
match or equal to your blueprint your
match or equal to your blueprint your story your belief about how life should
story your belief about how life should
story your belief about how life should be in that area so this woman says to me
be in that area so this woman says to me
be in that area so this woman says to me I’m really happily my body because it’s
I’m really happily my body because it’s
I’m really happily my body because it’s not perfect her blueprint is I don’t
not perfect her blueprint is I don’t
not perfect her blueprint is I don’t need to be perfect but it’s so much
need to be perfect but it’s so much
need to be perfect but it’s so much better than it was
better than it was
better than it was I’m fit and I’m strong and I have this
I’m fit and I’m strong and I have this
I’m fit and I’m strong and I have this energy her mental blueprint says I
energy her mental blueprint says I
energy her mental blueprint says I should be fit strong and have energy I
should be fit strong and have energy I
should be fit strong and have energy I don’t need to be perfect but I should be
don’t need to be perfect but I should be
don’t need to be perfect but I should be that way or my life my body matches how
that way or my life my body matches how
that way or my life my body matches how I think it should be
I think it should be
I think it should be I feel good about my life I’ll ask
I feel good about my life I’ll ask
I feel good about my life I’ll ask somebody else I’ll say you know tell me
somebody else I’ll say you know tell me
somebody else I’ll say you know tell me there you’re happy with someone else to
there you’re happy with someone else to
there you’re happy with someone else to say well I’m really happy with my career
say well I’m really happy with my career
say well I’m really happy with my career and why well I’m doing better than I
and why well I’m doing better than I
and why well I’m doing better than I even thought I would be I mean I I’m
even thought I would be I mean I I’m
even thought I would be I mean I I’m ahead of the schedule of where I hoped
ahead of the schedule of where I hoped
ahead of the schedule of where I hoped I’d be at this stage I’m working at this
I’d be at this stage I’m working at this
I’d be at this stage I’m working at this level in this company and I have these
level in this company and I have these
level in this company and I have these skills and this ability and it’s even
skills and this ability and it’s even
skills and this ability and it’s even better than I thought well once again
better than I thought well once again
better than I thought well once again listen this person is happy with this
listen this person is happy with this
listen this person is happy with this area of their life because their current
area of their life because their current
area of their life because their current life conditions in the area called their
life conditions in the area called their
life conditions in the area called their career are even better than they expect
career are even better than they expect
career are even better than they expect that they would be better than their
that they would be better than their
that they would be better than their blueprint better than their belief about
blueprint better than their belief about
blueprint better than their belief about how it should be it’s really better you
how it should be it’s really better you
how it should be it’s really better you tend to be over the moon but one would
tend to be over the moon but one would
tend to be over the moon but one would say you know I I kind of tell you I said
say you know I I kind of tell you I said
say you know I I kind of tell you I said I’m happy he’s ever been in my whole
I’m happy he’s ever been in my whole
I’m happy he’s ever been in my whole life how come she goes because I have
life how come she goes because I have
life how come she goes because I have this man in my life and I’m in love with
this man in my life and I’m in love with
this man in my life and I’m in love with him and he loves me and I can be myself
him and he loves me and I can be myself
him and he loves me and I can be myself with him and he we have this incredible
with him and he we have this incredible
with him and he we have this incredible intimacy and this passion and we want to
intimacy and this passion and we want to
intimacy and this passion and we want to be with each other all the time and I
be with each other all the time and I
be with each other all the time and I never get bored with him
never get bored with him
never get bored with him what’s her blueprint do you want to be
what’s her blueprint do you want to be
what’s her blueprint do you want to be with somebody that you can have total
with somebody that you can have total
with somebody that you can have total intimacy with somebody who you love and
intimacy with somebody who you love and
intimacy with somebody who you love and loves you those are part of her rules
loves you those are part of her rules
loves you those are part of her rules her beliefs um how it should be she said
her beliefs um how it should be she said
her beliefs um how it should be she said it you know it’s needs to be I never
it you know it’s needs to be I never
it you know it’s needs to be I never want to be with anybody else I want to
want to be with anybody else I want to
want to be with anybody else I want to be with him every moment her blueprint
be with him every moment her blueprint
be with him every moment her blueprint about how life should be and the way she
about how life should be and the way she
about how life should be and the way she lives her relationships even better than
lives her relationships even better than
lives her relationships even better than she hoped when it’s better than you hope
she hoped when it’s better than you hope
she hoped when it’s better than you hope you’re gonna be totally excited so think
you’re gonna be totally excited so think
you’re gonna be totally excited so think about this then what’s an area you’re
about this then what’s an area you’re
about this then what’s an area you’re not happy with let’s see we can find the
not happy with let’s see we can find the
not happy with let’s see we can find the formula for unhappiness
formula for unhappiness
formula for unhappiness if the formula for happiness is to be
if the formula for happiness is to be
if the formula for happiness is to be able to meet your expectations or exceed
able to meet your expectations or exceed
able to meet your expectations or exceed them how can we really make sure excited
them how can we really make sure excited
them how can we really make sure excited but to be happy at least Mita
but to be happy at least Mita
but to be happy at least Mita doesn’t have to be perfect but if you
doesn’t have to be perfect but if you
doesn’t have to be perfect but if you generally are meaning what you expect
generally are meaning what you expect
generally are meaning what you expect you want from your life in that area
you want from your life in that area
you want from your life in that area feel good right conditions match
feel good right conditions match
feel good right conditions match blueprint feel good so what makes you
blueprint feel good so what makes you
blueprint feel good so what makes you feel bad or creates pain stress
feel bad or creates pain stress
feel bad or creates pain stress frustration feel easy way to figure it
frustration feel easy way to figure it
frustration feel easy way to figure it out answer this question
out answer this question
out answer this question what’s an area your life you’re not
what’s an area your life you’re not
what’s an area your life you’re not happy with let me be honest with
happy with let me be honest with
happy with let me be honest with yourself and even if your life is great
yourself and even if your life is great
yourself and even if your life is great all kinds of ways I’m sure there’s an
all kinds of ways I’m sure there’s an
all kinds of ways I’m sure there’s an area you’d like to improve anybody is
area you’d like to improve anybody is
area you’d like to improve anybody is honest if they’re doing great in their
honest if they’re doing great in their
honest if they’re doing great in their career very often don’t take care of
career very often don’t take care of
career very often don’t take care of their body so much if they’re really
their body so much if they’re really
their body so much if they’re really focused on their body you know very
focused on their body you know very
focused on their body you know very often they find themselves in a position
often they find themselves in a position
often they find themselves in a position where they’re not spending enough time
where they’re not spending enough time
where they’re not spending enough time with their kids or if they’re spending
with their kids or if they’re spending
with their kids or if they’re spending time with their kids their intimate
time with their kids their intimate
time with their kids their intimate relationships not doing so well because
relationships not doing so well because
relationships not doing so well because it’s the nature of human beings to focus
it’s the nature of human beings to focus
it’s the nature of human beings to focus on areas they feel comfortable with and
on areas they feel comfortable with and
on areas they feel comfortable with and strong in and give those time and the
strong in and give those time and the
strong in and give those time and the areas they don’t feel so strong there
areas they don’t feel so strong there
areas they don’t feel so strong there they go I don’t have time for it what
they go I don’t have time for it what
they go I don’t have time for it what you’re really saying is I don’t feel
you’re really saying is I don’t feel
you’re really saying is I don’t feel very competent that area so what’s an
very competent that area so what’s an
very competent that area so what’s an area of your life that you are not as
area of your life that you are not as
area of your life that you are not as happy with
happy with
happy with I mean it’s healthy honestly to look at
I mean it’s healthy honestly to look at
I mean it’s healthy honestly to look at areas and say I don’t like it I want
areas and say I don’t like it I want
areas and say I don’t like it I want more this whole concept of a
more this whole concept of a
more this whole concept of a breakthrough is about how do I close the
breakthrough is about how do I close the
breakthrough is about how do I close the gap between where I am right now and
gap between where I am right now and
gap between where I am right now and wetherbee that’s what we’re here to do
wetherbee that’s what we’re here to do
wetherbee that’s what we’re here to do is like here’s what I want to be here’s
is like here’s what I want to be here’s
is like here’s what I want to be here’s where I am it’s healthy to see there’s a
where I am it’s healthy to see there’s a
where I am it’s healthy to see there’s a gap that makes me have this hunger this
gap that makes me have this hunger this
gap that makes me have this hunger this drive to grow to feel alive to expand as
drive to grow to feel alive to expand as
drive to grow to feel alive to expand as human being so what’s an area you’re not
human being so what’s an area you’re not
human being so what’s an area you’re not pleased with is it your body is it your
pleased with is it your body is it your
pleased with is it your body is it your finances is it your career is it your
finances is it your career is it your
finances is it your career is it your spiritual life or lack thereof in terms
spiritual life or lack thereof in terms
spiritual life or lack thereof in terms of feeling connected in that area is it
of feeling connected in that area is it
of feeling connected in that area is it your kids like what’s the area what’s
your kids like what’s the area what’s
your kids like what’s the area what’s the area that’s not where you want it to
the area that’s not where you want it to
the area that’s not where you want it to be and then answer for a moment why
be and then answer for a moment why
be and then answer for a moment why aren’t you happy with that area of your
aren’t you happy with that area of your
aren’t you happy with that area of your life right now why specifically today
life right now why specifically today
life right now why specifically today are you not happy with that area of your
are you not happy with that area of your
are you not happy with that area of your life at this stage of your time of your
life at this stage of your time of your
life at this stage of your time of your life again you can stop this and write
life again you can stop this and write
life again you can stop this and write it down might be useful for you or
it down might be useful for you or
it down might be useful for you or they’re gonna keep it running you can
they’re gonna keep it running you can
they’re gonna keep it running you can stop it and you’ll turn it right back on
stop it and you’ll turn it right back on
stop it and you’ll turn it right back on it I’ll kick into it do that now or if
it I’ll kick into it do that now or if
it I’ll kick into it do that now or if you kept it running then just I’ll give
you kept it running then just I’ll give
you kept it running then just I’ll give you what happens I have people write
you what happens I have people write
you what happens I have people write this down and they don’t like this
this down and they don’t like this
this down and they don’t like this exercise so much
exercise so much
exercise so much I don’t like my body or I don’t like my
I don’t like my body or I don’t like my
I don’t like my body or I don’t like my finances I don’t like my career I don’t
finances I don’t like my career I don’t
finances I don’t like my career I don’t like the person I’m in a relationship
like the person I’m in a relationship
like the person I’m in a relationship with I don’t like myself the way I’m in
with I don’t like myself the way I’m in
with I don’t like myself the way I’m in relationships why they write it all down
relationships why they write it all down
relationships why they write it all down how people share back and forth I call
how people share back and forth I call
how people share back and forth I call on people and the lessons pretty clear I
on people and the lessons pretty clear I
on people and the lessons pretty clear I tell people in advance here’s the
tell people in advance here’s the
tell people in advance here’s the formula for unhappiness
formula for unhappiness
formula for unhappiness I’ll show you before you do anything
I’ll show you before you do anything
I’ll show you before you do anything else when your life conditions when your
else when your life conditions when your
else when your life conditions when your life conditions the way you’re living a
life conditions the way you’re living a
life conditions the way you’re living a life today does not match it doesn’t
life today does not match it doesn’t
life today does not match it doesn’t equal your blueprint your story of how
equal your blueprint your story of how
equal your blueprint your story of how it’s supposed to be then you’re gonna
it’s supposed to be then you’re gonna
it’s supposed to be then you’re gonna have disappointment frustration or pain
have disappointment frustration or pain
have disappointment frustration or pain if your life is way different than the
if your life is way different than the
if your life is way different than the way you think it’s supposed to be you
way you think it’s supposed to be you
way you think it’s supposed to be you can have enormous pain if it’s a little
can have enormous pain if it’s a little
can have enormous pain if it’s a little different you might feel stressed make
different you might feel stressed make
different you might feel stressed make sense so people stand up and I said tell
sense so people stand up and I said tell
sense so people stand up and I said tell me you know what see oh you’re not happy
me you know what see oh you’re not happy
me you know what see oh you’re not happy when the person says well you know I’m
when the person says well you know I’m
when the person says well you know I’m really not happy with my finances and I
really not happy with my finances and I
really not happy with my finances and I go why and they say because I’m doing
go why and they say because I’m doing
go why and they say because I’m doing worse now than I was five years ago I
worse now than I was five years ago I
worse now than I was five years ago I made mistakes in the market and at this
made mistakes in the market and at this
made mistakes in the market and at this stage of my life I should have this much
stage of my life I should have this much
stage of my life I should have this much money and I don’t have it and I don’t
money and I don’t have it and I don’t
money and I don’t have it and I don’t know how to change it and it’s making me
know how to change it and it’s making me
know how to change it and it’s making me crazy and why are they crazy you say
crazy and why are they crazy you say
crazy and why are they crazy you say well because they don’t have their
well because they don’t have their
well because they don’t have their economic needs met no you cannot have
economic needs met no you cannot have
economic needs met no you cannot have your economic needs met and you could
your economic needs met and you could
your economic needs met and you could still be okay but when you have an idea
still be okay but when you have an idea
still be okay but when you have an idea this is what my need is and I did the
this is what my need is and I did the
this is what my need is and I did the wrong thing my life doesn’t match how
wrong thing my life doesn’t match how
wrong thing my life doesn’t match how I’m supposed to be that’s when people
I’m supposed to be that’s when people
I’m supposed to be that’s when people get a little crazy so you think about it
get a little crazy so you think about it
get a little crazy so you think about it if you grew up taking care of folding
if you grew up taking care of folding
if you grew up taking care of folding your own clothes making your own meals
your own clothes making your own meals
your own clothes making your own meals going to the store doing the grocery
going to the store doing the grocery
going to the store doing the grocery shopping cleaning the bedroom cleaning
shopping cleaning the bedroom cleaning
shopping cleaning the bedroom cleaning the house vacuuming taking out the trash
the house vacuuming taking out the trash
the house vacuuming taking out the trash and you did that your whole life then if
and you did that your whole life then if
and you did that your whole life then if you have to do that later on you don’t
you have to do that later on you don’t
you have to do that later on you don’t feel like you have economic pain because
feel like you have economic pain because
feel like you have economic pain because you don’t have a maid but if you grew up
you don’t have a maid but if you grew up
you don’t have a maid but if you grew up an environment where everything was done
an environment where everything was done
an environment where everything was done for you you never have to work and now
for you you never have to work and now
for you you never have to work and now suddenly you have to work incredibly
suddenly you have to work incredibly
suddenly you have to work incredibly hard to just pay enough money to pay
hard to just pay enough money to pay
hard to just pay enough money to pay your bills and all of a sudden food is
your bills and all of a sudden food is
your bills and all of a sudden food is building up and the house is dirty and
building up and the house is dirty and
building up and the house is dirty and your clothes aren’t folded and nothing
your clothes aren’t folded and nothing
your clothes aren’t folded and nothing matches you might find yourself really
matches you might find yourself really
matches you might find yourself really angry and frustrated because you have a
angry and frustrated because you have a
angry and frustrated because you have a different story about how life’s
different story about how life’s
different story about how life’s supposed to be than how it is
supposed to be than how it is
supposed to be than how it is someone also say well I’ll tell you why
someone also say well I’ll tell you why
someone also say well I’ll tell you why because I’m in a situation now where you
because I’m in a situation now where you
because I’m in a situation now where you know I’m 30 pounds everything I should
know I’m 30 pounds everything I should
know I’m 30 pounds everything I should be should be the keyword there are
be should be the keyword there are
be should be the keyword there are people there are people in all cultures
people there are people in all cultures
people there are people in all cultures who love being big there are people that
who love being big there are people that
who love being big there are people that walk around and someone else might think
walk around and someone else might think
walk around and someone else might think they’re massively overweight but they’re
they’re massively overweight but they’re
they’re massively overweight but they’re gone I own this honey and they really
gone I own this honey and they really
gone I own this honey and they really truly they match their blueprint big is
truly they match their blueprint big is
truly they match their blueprint big is beautiful cuz they’re ideas big is
beautiful cuz they’re ideas big is
beautiful cuz they’re ideas big is beautiful I’m big
beautiful I’m big
beautiful I’m big that’s beautiful matches my blueprint
that’s beautiful matches my blueprint
that’s beautiful matches my blueprint rock and roll I’m happy as can be
rock and roll I’m happy as can be
rock and roll I’m happy as can be somebody else can look like a twig and
somebody else can look like a twig and
somebody else can look like a twig and be stressed out saying I hate my body
be stressed out saying I hate my body
be stressed out saying I hate my body because their blueprint says I should be
because their blueprint says I should be
because their blueprint says I should be the skinniest thing on earth and I’m not
the skinniest thing on earth and I’m not
the skinniest thing on earth and I’m not skinny enough am I making sense when
skinny enough am I making sense when
skinny enough am I making sense when your life conditions don’t match your
your life conditions don’t match your
your life conditions don’t match your blueprint you’re gonna have pain but
blueprint you’re gonna have pain but
blueprint you’re gonna have pain but here’s when you suffer when I ask people
here’s when you suffer when I ask people
here’s when you suffer when I ask people who here has been through the dark night
who here has been through the dark night
who here has been through the dark night of the soul who’s been here in a
of the soul who’s been here in a
of the soul who’s been here in a situation where you feel like like like
situation where you feel like like like
situation where you feel like like like life your life isn’t worth living or we
life your life isn’t worth living or we
life your life isn’t worth living or we feel like a pain that just will never go
feel like a pain that just will never go
feel like a pain that just will never go away and I’ll people write down those
away and I’ll people write down those
away and I’ll people write down those experiences like Joaquin so you’ll begin
experiences like Joaquin so you’ll begin
experiences like Joaquin so you’ll begin to understand what the issue is I’m
to understand what the issue is I’m
to understand what the issue is I’m talking about here while Keane if you
talking about here while Keane if you
talking about here while Keane if you recall was in a situation where this man
recall was in a situation where this man
recall was in a situation where this man felt like there was no reason to live he
felt like there was no reason to live he
felt like there was no reason to live he couldn’t work he couldn’t do anything
couldn’t work he couldn’t do anything
couldn’t work he couldn’t do anything his life was worthless why did he think
his life was worthless why did he think
his life was worthless why did he think that because he had a blueprint and his
that because he had a blueprint and his
that because he had a blueprint and his blueprint said I need be an NBA
blueprint said I need be an NBA
blueprint said I need be an NBA basketball player at least a
basketball player at least a
basketball player at least a professional basketball player I need to
professional basketball player I need to
professional basketball player I need to be able to make money and have this
be able to make money and have this
be able to make money and have this great lifestyle because that’s what
great lifestyle because that’s what
great lifestyle because that’s what makes me worthwhile as a human being
makes me worthwhile as a human being
makes me worthwhile as a human being that’s what makes my family respect me
that’s what makes my family respect me
that’s what makes my family respect me my mother my
my mother my
my mother my uncle’s my aunts I am the successful one
uncle’s my aunts I am the successful one
uncle’s my aunts I am the successful one in the family and I make the money I
in the family and I make the money I
in the family and I make the money I support everybody he’s a good man he
support everybody he’s a good man he
support everybody he’s a good man he didn’t come just to be successful he
didn’t come just to be successful he
didn’t come just to be successful he took care of his mother his families he
took care of his mother his families he
took care of his mother his families he tried to be an inspiration for people
tried to be an inspiration for people
tried to be an inspiration for people Joaquin Hawkins is a man who was always
Joaquin Hawkins is a man who was always
Joaquin Hawkins is a man who was always going out on his free time and training
going out on his free time and training
going out on his free time and training kids and showing them the pathway to
kids and showing them the pathway to
kids and showing them the pathway to freedom how they could play basketball
freedom how they could play basketball
freedom how they could play basketball and get free like he did and get out of
and get free like he did and get out of
and get free like he did and get out of the inner city this man is not a selfish
the inner city this man is not a selfish
the inner city this man is not a selfish man but he knew this is the way to be
man but he knew this is the way to be
man but he knew this is the way to be worthwhile this is the way to be able to
worthwhile this is the way to be able to
worthwhile this is the way to be able to give to people this is the way to take
give to people this is the way to take
give to people this is the way to take care of your family
care of your family
care of your family and all of a sudden one night what
and all of a sudden one night what
and all of a sudden one night what happened that way was taken from him he
happened that way was taken from him he
happened that way was taken from him he has a stroke in another night his life
has a stroke in another night his life
has a stroke in another night his life conditions make it impossible to be who
conditions make it impossible to be who
conditions make it impossible to be who he has to be or he feels like he’s
he has to be or he feels like he’s
he has to be or he feels like he’s worthless to get it we have an identity
worthless to get it we have an identity
worthless to get it we have an identity we have a story of how we’re supposed to
we have a story of how we’re supposed to
we have a story of how we’re supposed to be and if life somehow gets in the way
be and if life somehow gets in the way
be and if life somehow gets in the way of that story we feel pain but if we
of that story we feel pain but if we
of that story we feel pain but if we feel we have no control that’s when we
feel we have no control that’s when we
feel we have no control that’s when we go into suffering see it’s one thing to
go into suffering see it’s one thing to
go into suffering see it’s one thing to say my life doesn’t match my blueprint I
say my life doesn’t match my blueprint I
say my life doesn’t match my blueprint I got to lose weight that might stress you
got to lose weight that might stress you
got to lose weight that might stress you out or my life doesn’t match my
out or my life doesn’t match my
out or my life doesn’t match my blueprint I’m not in a relationship I
blueprint I’m not in a relationship I
blueprint I’m not in a relationship I gotta get in one that might motivate you
gotta get in one that might motivate you
gotta get in one that might motivate you even you might not like it but you’re
even you might not like it but you’re
even you might not like it but you’re gonna find a way to get on with or my
gonna find a way to get on with or my
gonna find a way to get on with or my career doesn’t matter I should be you
career doesn’t matter I should be you
career doesn’t matter I should be you could change it but when you start
could change it but when you start
could change it but when you start believing that your life doesn’t match
believing that your life doesn’t match
believing that your life doesn’t match your blueprint and you have no control
your blueprint and you have no control
your blueprint and you have no control to change it you’re helpless that’s when
to change it you’re helpless that’s when
to change it you’re helpless that’s when people suffer and so this week for your
people suffer and so this week for your
people suffer and so this week for your breakthrough it’s a chance for you to
breakthrough it’s a chance for you to
breakthrough it’s a chance for you to start to take a look at your blueprint
start to take a look at your blueprint
start to take a look at your blueprint anywhere you’re really having pain Hey
anywhere you’re really having pain Hey
anywhere you’re really having pain Hey look if you’re doing great in some area
look if you’re doing great in some area
look if you’re doing great in some area of your life celebrate of course and I’m
of your life celebrate of course and I’m
of your life celebrate of course and I’m sure there are many areas you are but
sure there are many areas you are but
sure there are many areas you are but life is really a series of growth spurts
life is really a series of growth spurts
life is really a series of growth spurts I mean two things in life make you feel
I mean two things in life make you feel
I mean two things in life make you feel alive growing and giving and what’s
alive growing and giving and what’s
alive growing and giving and what’s really wonderful about this man Joaquin
really wonderful about this man Joaquin
really wonderful about this man Joaquin is he was constantly growing trying to
is he was constantly growing trying to
is he was constantly growing trying to get better trying to be a better team
get better trying to be a better team
get better trying to be a better team made a better basketball player think
made a better basketball player think
made a better basketball player think about it when he didn’t make the team’s
about it when he didn’t make the team’s
about it when he didn’t make the team’s I didn’t make the NBA he didn’t give up
I didn’t make the NBA he didn’t give up
I didn’t make the NBA he didn’t give up he worked even harder the guy was always
he worked even harder the guy was always
he worked even harder the guy was always striving striving to become something
striving striving to become something
striving striving to become something and he became it and he achieved it and
and he became it and he achieved it and
and he became it and he achieved it and then life took it from him
then life took it from him
then life took it from him isn’t that the common denominator with
isn’t that the common denominator with
isn’t that the common denominator with so many of the people and the stories of
so many of the people and the stories of
so many of the people and the stories of this six-part series that you saw these
this six-part series that you saw these
this six-part series that you saw these six specials I mean Frank and Kristen
six specials I mean Frank and Kristen
six specials I mean Frank and Kristen had a blueprint of what life was
had a blueprint of what life was
had a blueprint of what life was supposed to be about we’re supposed to
supposed to be about we’re supposed to
supposed to be about we’re supposed to get married and have children and we’re
get married and have children and we’re
get married and have children and we’re gonna have our own business and all of a
gonna have our own business and all of a
gonna have our own business and all of a sudden life doesn’t match the blueprint
sudden life doesn’t match the blueprint
sudden life doesn’t match the blueprint and suddenly there’s depression because
and suddenly there’s depression because
and suddenly there’s depression because in their case they said there’s nothing
in their case they said there’s nothing
in their case they said there’s nothing we could do but they were wrong they
we could do but they were wrong they
we could do but they were wrong they were wrong because they discovered and
were wrong because they discovered and
were wrong because they discovered and Frank discovered I can make a difference
Frank discovered I can make a difference
Frank discovered I can make a difference in my wife the chair even though I
in my wife the chair even though I
in my wife the chair even though I didn’t create this and didn’t ask for
didn’t create this and didn’t ask for
didn’t create this and didn’t ask for this chair does not define me I can
this chair does not define me I can
this chair does not define me I can become more than I was before I can have
become more than I was before I can have
become more than I was before I can have the impact on my wife I can have
the impact on my wife I can have
the impact on my wife I can have children we had to change his blueprint
children we had to change his blueprint
children we had to change his blueprint because we couldn’t change all the
because we couldn’t change all the
because we couldn’t change all the conditions of his life does that make
conditions of his life does that make
conditions of his life does that make sense I couldn’t get him to physically
sense I couldn’t get him to physically
sense I couldn’t get him to physically walk again maybe someday he will but we
walk again maybe someday he will but we
walk again maybe someday he will but we can’t count on that well we got a count
can’t count on that well we got a count
can’t count on that well we got a count on is that he can be fulfilled by seeing
on is that he can be fulfilled by seeing
on is that he can be fulfilled by seeing he isn’t helpless
he isn’t helpless
he isn’t helpless and I did that to a series of
and I did that to a series of
and I did that to a series of experiences that violated what he
experiences that violated what he
experiences that violated what he thought he couldn’t do the same thing
thought he couldn’t do the same thing
thought he couldn’t do the same thing was true with almost every one of the
was true with almost every one of the
was true with almost every one of the people we worked with at some level and
people we worked with at some level and
people we worked with at some level and in Joaquin’s example it was also true
in Joaquin’s example it was also true
in Joaquin’s example it was also true our Keane said while I I can’t ever have
our Keane said while I I can’t ever have
our Keane said while I I can’t ever have this quality of life again because I’m
this quality of life again because I’m
this quality of life again because I’m not a professional basketball player and
not a professional basketball player and
not a professional basketball player and he was locked into that mindset and all
he was locked into that mindset and all
he was locked into that mindset and all of us get locked at times but to his
of us get locked at times but to his
of us get locked at times but to his credit to a system of steps we were able
credit to a system of steps we were able
credit to a system of steps we were able to break him out of that we would get
to break him out of that we would get
to break him out of that we would get him to see that he isn’t helpless
him to see that he isn’t helpless
him to see that he isn’t helpless because here’s your choice watch this
because here’s your choice watch this
because here’s your choice watch this now if you’re suffering if you’re in
now if you’re suffering if you’re in
now if you’re suffering if you’re in pain your life doesn’t match how you
pain your life doesn’t match how you
pain your life doesn’t match how you think it should be and you think you’re
think it should be and you think you’re
think it should be and you think you’re helpless to change it now you have only
helpless to change it now you have only
helpless to change it now you have only three choices choice one blame something
three choices choice one blame something
three choices choice one blame something and that’s what Joaquin did if you
and that’s what Joaquin did if you
and that’s what Joaquin did if you recall he blamed his coach he blamed
recall he blamed his coach he blamed
recall he blamed his coach he blamed what happened to him and of course these
what happened to him and of course these
what happened to him and of course these things were outside his control but he
things were outside his control but he
things were outside his control but he blamed his coach and a big part of the
blamed his coach and a big part of the
blamed his coach and a big part of the healing if you watch this session was
healing if you watch this session was
healing if you watch this session was bringing his coach in and getting him to
bringing his coach in and getting him to
bringing his coach in and getting him to see Eddie you know when all that anger
see Eddie you know when all that anger
see Eddie you know when all that anger all that resentment inside of you Akeem
all that resentment inside of you Akeem
all that resentment inside of you Akeem a it’s not based on the truth and be
a it’s not based on the truth and be
a it’s not based on the truth and be like Nelson Mandela said you know having
like Nelson Mandela said you know having
like Nelson Mandela said you know having resentment in your soul is like drinking
resentment in your soul is like drinking
resentment in your soul is like drinking poison and hoping that your enemy will
poison and hoping that your enemy will
poison and hoping that your enemy will die it doesn’t work that way and when
die it doesn’t work that way and when
die it doesn’t work that way and when what Keane was able to break out his
what Keane was able to break out his
what Keane was able to break out his breakthrough was a change in perception
breakthrough was a change in perception
breakthrough was a change in perception to realize this coach wasn’t stopping me
to realize this coach wasn’t stopping me
to realize this coach wasn’t stopping me I just felt like I lost everything and
I just felt like I lost everything and
I just felt like I lost everything and so I don’t know how to change it so I’m
so I don’t know how to change it so I’m
so I don’t know how to change it so I’m looking for something to be mad about
looking for something to be mad about
looking for something to be mad about someone to blame so so I don’t have to
someone to blame so so I don’t have to
someone to blame so so I don’t have to blame myself or I don’t have to feel so
blame myself or I don’t have to feel so
blame myself or I don’t have to feel so helpless because when your
helpless because when your
helpless because when your you don’t feel so helpless you feel
you don’t feel so helpless you feel
you don’t feel so helpless you feel strong for the moment even though it’s a
strong for the moment even though it’s a
strong for the moment even though it’s a fake strength when he was able to make
fake strength when he was able to make
fake strength when he was able to make that breakthrough he could stop blaming
that breakthrough he could stop blaming
that breakthrough he could stop blaming because these are three choices when
because these are three choices when
because these are three choices when life doesn’t match how you think it
life doesn’t match how you think it
life doesn’t match how you think it should be blame something an event
should be blame something an event
should be blame something an event someone else or yourself as we talked
someone else or yourself as we talked
someone else or yourself as we talked about earlier in the series blame games
about earlier in the series blame games
about earlier in the series blame games just destroy you there’s no progress
just destroy you there’s no progress
just destroy you there’s no progress when you play for the moment you feel
when you play for the moment you feel
when you play for the moment you feel okay but nothing changes what are your
okay but nothing changes what are your
okay but nothing changes what are your real choices you only have two choices
real choices you only have two choices
real choices you only have two choices in life if life doesn’t match your
in life if life doesn’t match your
in life if life doesn’t match your blueprint you either have to change your
blueprint you either have to change your
blueprint you either have to change your life that is you gotta say you know what
life that is you gotta say you know what
life that is you gotta say you know what my body isn’t there I’m gonna go work
my body isn’t there I’m gonna go work
my body isn’t there I’m gonna go work out my relationship is in there I’m
out my relationship is in there I’m
out my relationship is in there I’m gonna change it you know I’m not making
gonna change it you know I’m not making
gonna change it you know I’m not making one I gotta make I’m gonna retool I’m
one I gotta make I’m gonna retool I’m
one I gotta make I’m gonna retool I’m gonna get a new skill I’m gonna go back
gonna get a new skill I’m gonna go back
gonna get a new skill I’m gonna go back to school I’m gonna start a business I’m
to school I’m gonna start a business I’m
to school I’m gonna start a business I’m gonna do something you have to do
gonna do something you have to do
gonna do something you have to do something to change your life or in
something to change your life or in
something to change your life or in order for you to be happy if you can’t
order for you to be happy if you can’t
order for you to be happy if you can’t change your life you’re gonna have to
change your life you’re gonna have to
change your life you’re gonna have to change your blueprint usually in life it
change your blueprint usually in life it
change your blueprint usually in life it requires a little bit of each does that
requires a little bit of each does that
requires a little bit of each does that make sense and if you’ve changed your
make sense and if you’ve changed your
make sense and if you’ve changed your take change your life and change your
take change your life and change your
take change your life and change your blueprint you can have an extraordinary
blueprint you can have an extraordinary
blueprint you can have an extraordinary life and what you witnessed this man do
life and what you witnessed this man do
life and what you witnessed this man do was once he let go of his anger and his
was once he let go of his anger and his
was once he let go of his anger and his denial once he started to look at things
denial once he started to look at things
denial once he started to look at things he began to find by spending time with
he began to find by spending time with
he began to find by spending time with his family that he was worthwhile being
his family that he was worthwhile being
his family that he was worthwhile being loved while he played basketball or not
loved while he played basketball or not
loved while he played basketball or not of course he’d love to play basketball
of course he’d love to play basketball
of course he’d love to play basketball but professional basketball is no longer
but professional basketball is no longer
but professional basketball is no longer a part of it and we had to get Joaquin
a part of it and we had to get Joaquin
a part of it and we had to get Joaquin to shift that and Joaquin is a metaphor
to shift that and Joaquin is a metaphor
to shift that and Joaquin is a metaphor for all of us because all of us are
for all of us because all of us are
for all of us because all of us are gonna have times in our life when what
gonna have times in our life when what
gonna have times in our life when what we want or think life should be like
we want or think life should be like
we want or think life should be like isn’t gonna match how life really is
isn’t gonna match how life really is
isn’t gonna match how life really is those moments if we blame our life goes
those moments if we blame our life goes
those moments if we blame our life goes into pain if we change we can change our
into pain if we change we can change our
into pain if we change we can change our life and match our blueprint but we have
life and match our blueprint but we have
life and match our blueprint but we have to also know when it’s not within our
to also know when it’s not within our
to also know when it’s not within our control and that’s how we’re able to
control and that’s how we’re able to
control and that’s how we’re able to make a shift and change what our story
make a shift and change what our story
make a shift and change what our story is for our life what our expectations
is for our life what our expectations
is for our life what our expectations are not by lowering them but by changing
are not by lowering them but by changing
are not by lowering them but by changing what that model really is helping us
what that model really is helping us
what that model really is helping us make sense to you I’ll give you a great
make sense to you I’ll give you a great
make sense to you I’ll give you a great example
example
example years ago I do a lot of work with
years ago I do a lot of work with
years ago I do a lot of work with business people celebrities people of
business people celebrities people of
business people celebrities people of all kinds of walks of life
all kinds of walks of life
all kinds of walks of life and I was dealing with a group of people
and I was dealing with a group of people
and I was dealing with a group of people and they knew a very very powerful
and they knew a very very powerful
and they knew a very very powerful celebrity and without to give that
celebrity and without to give that
celebrity and without to give that person privacy I won’t tell you too many
person privacy I won’t tell you too many
person privacy I won’t tell you too many details who can’t figure out exactly who
details who can’t figure out exactly who
details who can’t figure out exactly who it is but it would be a person who was
it is but it would be a person who was
it is but it would be a person who was very successful as a woman who was
very successful as a woman who was
very successful as a woman who was extremely attracted by cultural
extremely attracted by cultural
extremely attracted by cultural standards a woman who’s had a lot of
standards a woman who’s had a lot of
standards a woman who’s had a lot of dear friends a lot of deep respect so
dear friends a lot of deep respect so
dear friends a lot of deep respect so great skill great ability extremely
great skill great ability extremely
great skill great ability extremely talented quite attractive quite wealthy
talented quite attractive quite wealthy
talented quite attractive quite wealthy in financial terms and lots of great
in financial terms and lots of great
in financial terms and lots of great friends this would be for most people’s
friends this would be for most people’s
friends this would be for most people’s idea the ultimate blueprint if your life
idea the ultimate blueprint if your life
idea the ultimate blueprint if your life matches that description you must have
matches that description you must have
matches that description you must have an incredible life but ironically this
an incredible life but ironically this
an incredible life but ironically this particular individuals famous as they
particular individuals famous as they
particular individuals famous as they were was depressed all the time
were was depressed all the time
were was depressed all the time they had seemingly everything and yet
they had seemingly everything and yet
they had seemingly everything and yet the person was depressed how do you get
the person was depressed how do you get
the person was depressed how do you get depressed when you’re smart and you’re
depressed when you’re smart and you’re
depressed when you’re smart and you’re strong and you’re beautiful and you got
strong and you’re beautiful and you got
strong and you’re beautiful and you got great friends and you’re rich and you’re
great friends and you’re rich and you’re
great friends and you’re rich and you’re famous well it’s real simple people said
famous well it’s real simple people said
famous well it’s real simple people said I don’t know what it is everyone’s tried
I don’t know what it is everyone’s tried
I don’t know what it is everyone’s tried to help her she’s been on the through
to help her she’s been on the through
to help her she’s been on the through counselling she’s got all these
counselling she’s got all these
counselling she’s got all these different drugs nothing’s working she’s
different drugs nothing’s working she’s
different drugs nothing’s working she’s thinking and depressants and she’s still
thinking and depressants and she’s still
thinking and depressants and she’s still depressed which is not uncommon by the
depressed which is not uncommon by the
depressed which is not uncommon by the way because if you change the way you
way because if you change the way you
way because if you change the way you feel physically but you still see your
feel physically but you still see your
feel physically but you still see your life doesn’t match how you think it
life doesn’t match how you think it
life doesn’t match how you think it should be at some level and you feel
should be at some level and you feel
should be at some level and you feel like you’re helpless to change it you’re
like you’re helpless to change it you’re
like you’re helpless to change it you’re gonna be depressed so I said bring her
gonna be depressed so I said bring her
gonna be depressed so I said bring her to me I said I can help her I know that
to me I said I can help her I know that
to me I said I can help her I know that sounds like hyperbole but I absolutely
sounds like hyperbole but I absolutely
sounds like hyperbole but I absolutely can help her well how do you know that
can help her well how do you know that
can help her well how do you know that Tony because I already know what the
Tony because I already know what the
Tony because I already know what the problem is
problem is
problem is I know if someone’s depressed it’s
I know if someone’s depressed it’s
I know if someone’s depressed it’s because they feel helpless because their
because they feel helpless because their
because they feel helpless because their life doesn’t match what they think it
life doesn’t match what they think it
life doesn’t match what they think it should be
should be
should be [Music]
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