it’s fascinates me about human beings and it fascinates me about myself is
and it fascinates me about myself is
and it fascinates me about myself is that we have such a high tolerance for
that we have such a high tolerance for
that we have such a high tolerance for suckiness isn’t it crazy as long as the
suckiness isn’t it crazy as long as the
suckiness isn’t it crazy as long as the suckiness is a routine but the second
suckiness is a routine but the second
suckiness is a routine but the second you get thrown out of your routine or
you get thrown out of your routine or
you get thrown out of your routine or the second that whether it’s because you
the second that whether it’s because you
the second that whether it’s because you lose a job or somebody moves or somebody
lose a job or somebody moves or somebody
lose a job or somebody moves or somebody dies or somebody breaks up with you or
dies or somebody breaks up with you or
dies or somebody breaks up with you or you break like all of a sudden that
you break like all of a sudden that
you break like all of a sudden that awakens the courage in you to make a
awakens the courage in you to make a
awakens the courage in you to make a change because she you know either you
change because she you know either you
change because she you know either you have no choice or down you got a problem
have no choice or down you got a problem
have no choice or down you got a problem to solve
to solve
to solve you know but fighting that inertia of
you know but fighting that inertia of
you know but fighting that inertia of life is the most difficult thing in the
life is the most difficult thing in the
life is the most difficult thing in the world I ended up getting a job with a
world I ended up getting a job with a
world I ended up getting a job with a law firm because it was the path of
law firm because it was the path of
law firm because it was the path of least resistance in Boston in Boston I
least resistance in Boston in Boston I
least resistance in Boston in Boston I hated it because I went from being in
hated it because I went from being in
hated it because I went from being in the courtroom to writing briefs all day
the courtroom to writing briefs all day
the courtroom to writing briefs all day and luckily I got pregnant with our
and luckily I got pregnant with our
and luckily I got pregnant with our first daughter who just is starting
first daughter who just is starting
first daughter who just is starting college which makes me feel so ancient I
college which makes me feel so ancient I
college which makes me feel so ancient I just want to like punch myself in the
just want to like punch myself in the
just want to like punch myself in the face I have a 18 year old freshman in
face I have a 18 year old freshman in
face I have a 18 year old freshman in college um thank you but I got pregnant
college um thank you but I got pregnant
college um thank you but I got pregnant with her and when she was born I had
with her and when she was born I had
with her and when she was born I had horrific postpartum depression Wow I
horrific postpartum depression Wow I
horrific postpartum depression Wow I mean the really scary kind where you
mean the really scary kind where you
mean the really scary kind where you can’t be alone with the baby you’re on
can’t be alone with the baby you’re on
can’t be alone with the baby you’re on crazy meds that turn you at like not the
crazy meds that turn you at like not the
crazy meds that turn you at like not the kind of you take recreationally yeah
kind of you take recreationally yeah
kind of you take recreationally yeah these are the kind that like turn you
these are the kind that like turn you
these are the kind that like turn you into a zombie and it was a really scary
into a zombie and it was a really scary
into a zombie and it was a really scary thing and I when I kind of came out of
thing and I when I kind of came out of
thing and I when I kind of came out of the eight-week trance of that I looked
the eight-week trance of that I looked
the eight-week trance of that I looked up at Chris and said I’ve made a
up at Chris and said I’ve made a
up at Chris and said I’ve made a decision and he said okay what would
decision and he said okay what would
decision and he said okay what would that be and I said I don’t ever want to
that be and I said I don’t ever want to
that be and I said I don’t ever want to answer the question what do you do for a
answer the question what do you do for a
answer the question what do you do for a living with the response I’m a lawyer
living with the response I’m a lawyer
living with the response I’m a lawyer and he said
and he said
and he said okay you realize we’ve just bought this
okay you realize we’ve just bought this
okay you realize we’ve just bought this house and we have a kid and we have
house and we have a kid and we have
house and we have a kid and we have organs to pay and he said so here’s the
organs to pay and he said so here’s the
organs to pay and he said so here’s the deal you’ve got exactly four weeks
deal you’ve got exactly four weeks
deal you’ve got exactly four weeks before your maternity leave is over
before your maternity leave is over
before your maternity leave is over you need to make $60,000 I don’t care
you need to make $60,000 I don’t care
you need to make $60,000 I don’t care what you do for a living
what you do for a living
what you do for a living that’s your problem go solve it and the
that’s your problem go solve it and the
that’s your problem go solve it and the night before I was supposed to read so I
night before I was supposed to read so I
night before I was supposed to read so I networked like a crazy person cuz again
networked like a crazy person cuz again
networked like a crazy person cuz again if you’re a human being with the problem
if you’re a human being with the problem
if you’re a human being with the problem you’ll solve it yeah and so if it
you’ll solve it yeah and so if it
you’ll solve it yeah and so if it matters enough to you
matters enough to you
matters enough to you and so I I got a job and this was the
and so I I got a job and this was the
and so I I got a job and this was the first combo in Boston I got a job the
first combo in Boston I got a job the
first combo in Boston I got a job the night before I was supposed to go back
night before I was supposed to go back
night before I was supposed to go back the kind of person that believes you
the kind of person that believes you
the kind of person that believes you should always make decisions with your
should always make decisions with your
should always make decisions with your heart and soul you can use your brain
heart and soul you can use your brain
heart and soul you can use your brain for math you can use your brain to look
for math you can use your brain to look
for math you can use your brain to look at the fine print in a contract but when
at the fine print in a contract but when
at the fine print in a contract but when it comes to the actual feel of the
it comes to the actual feel of the
it comes to the actual feel of the decision you always want to go inward
decision you always want to go inward
decision you always want to go inward and check it against your heart and soul
and check it against your heart and soul
and check it against your heart and soul how do you do that here’s the simple
how do you do that here’s the simple
how do you do that here’s the simple test does the decision that you’re about
test does the decision that you’re about
test does the decision that you’re about to make expand you expand your future or
to make expand you expand your future or
to make expand you expand your future or expand the possibilities of your life if
expand the possibilities of your life if
expand the possibilities of your life if the answer is yes then the decision is
the answer is yes then the decision is
the answer is yes then the decision is yes no matter how terrifying it is if
yes no matter how terrifying it is if
yes no matter how terrifying it is if you conversely look at the choice that
you conversely look at the choice that
you conversely look at the choice that you have to make and the decision will
you have to make and the decision will
you have to make and the decision will shrink you will silence you will inhibit
shrink you will silence you will inhibit
shrink you will silence you will inhibit you in some way then the answer is no no
you in some way then the answer is no no
you in some way then the answer is no no matter how easy the decision is no
matter how easy the decision is no
matter how easy the decision is no matter how safe the decision is the
matter how safe the decision is the
matter how safe the decision is the answer is no now one of the things I
answer is no now one of the things I
answer is no now one of the things I want to point out that when you start to
want to point out that when you start to
want to point out that when you start to use this does it expand or does it
use this does it expand or does it
use this does it expand or does it shrink me does it open possibilities or
shrink me does it open possibilities or
shrink me does it open possibilities or does it keep things closed does it raise
does it keep things closed does it raise
does it keep things closed does it raise my voice or does it silence me right is
my voice or does it silence me right is
my voice or does it silence me right is that there’s always a short-term and a
that there’s always a short-term and a
that there’s always a short-term and a long-term impact to the decision the
long-term impact to the decision the
long-term impact to the decision the short-term impact to making an expansive
short-term impact to making an expansive
short-term impact to making an expansive decision a decision that’s based in your
decision a decision that’s based in your
decision a decision that’s based in your heart in your soul sometimes it’s
heart in your soul sometimes it’s
heart in your soul sometimes it’s terrifying because sometimes it means
terrifying because sometimes it means
terrifying because sometimes it means moving or it means changing a job or
moving or it means changing a job or
moving or it means changing a job or changing a relationship or having a
changing a relationship or having a
changing a relationship or having a difficult conversation or starting
difficult conversation or starting
difficult conversation or starting something new and those sorts of things
something new and those sorts of things
something new and those sorts of things are always uncomfortable so brace for
are always uncomfortable so brace for
are always uncomfortable so brace for impact
impact
impact put the force fields up but make the
put the force fields up but make the
put the force fields up but make the decision anyway because the long-term
decision anyway because the long-term
decision anyway because the long-term impact of making a decision from your
impact of making a decision from your
impact of making a decision from your heart and soul that is where the best
heart and soul that is where the best
heart and soul that is where the best life comes from because you’re living
life comes from because you’re living
life comes from because you’re living for what’s true for you not what’s safe
for what’s true for you not what’s safe
for what’s true for you not what’s safe in the moment I believe that passion is
in the moment I believe that passion is
in the moment I believe that passion is another word for energy that’s it what
another word for energy that’s it what
another word for energy that’s it what do you have energy for what energizes
do you have energy for what energizes
do you have energy for what energizes you and that we naturally have a
you and that we naturally have a
you and that we naturally have a tremendous amount of body wisdom about
tremendous amount of body wisdom about
tremendous amount of body wisdom about that and that every one of us has an
that and that every one of us has an
that and that every one of us has an internal fuel tank that is either empty
internal fuel tank that is either empty
internal fuel tank that is either empty or full and if you’re empty you feel
or full and if you’re empty you feel
or full and if you’re empty you feel depleted if you’re full you feel
depleted if you’re full you feel
depleted if you’re full you feel energized and so if you simply are in
energized and so if you simply are in
energized and so if you simply are in any situation I mean any situation and
any situation I mean any situation and
any situation I mean any situation and you pay attention within five seconds –
you pay attention within five seconds –
you pay attention within five seconds – does this person energize me they
does this person energize me they
does this person energize me they deplete me where are they in the scale
deplete me where are they in the scale
deplete me where are they in the scale you just gain some tremendous wisdom and
you just gain some tremendous wisdom and
you just gain some tremendous wisdom and you the simple way to start to figure
you the simple way to start to figure
you the simple way to start to figure out who you are and what you want is
out who you are and what you want is
out who you are and what you want is start aligning yourself with more things
start aligning yourself with more things
start aligning yourself with more things that energize you
that energize you
that energize you so situationally if you’re lying in bed
so situationally if you’re lying in bed
so situationally if you’re lying in bed and the snooze alarm goes or the alarm
and the snooze alarm goes or the alarm
and the snooze alarm goes or the alarm goes off and you feel depleted and you
goes off and you feel depleted and you
goes off and you feel depleted and you start reaching for the snooze button
start reaching for the snooze button
start reaching for the snooze button that’s a really big sign that you need
that’s a really big sign that you need
that’s a really big sign that you need to get out of bed now being depleted
to get out of bed now being depleted
to get out of bed now being depleted versus energized has nothing to do with
versus energized has nothing to do with
versus energized has nothing to do with whether or not things are hard or easy
whether or not things are hard or easy
whether or not things are hard or easy it has to do with what naturally
it has to do with what naturally
it has to do with what naturally actually either expands you or shrinks
actually either expands you or shrinks
actually either expands you or shrinks you and so if you look at your client
you and so if you look at your client
you and so if you look at your client list and measure it depleted versus
list and measure it depleted versus
list and measure it depleted versus energized what shrinks versus expands me
energized what shrinks versus expands me
energized what shrinks versus expands me you have the actual map and when you
you have the actual map and when you
you have the actual map and when you start to find the courage to make
start to find the courage to make
start to find the courage to make decisions
decisions
decisions that energizes you and that expand you
that energizes you and that expand you
that energizes you and that expand you whether they’re scariest or not that’s
whether they’re scariest or not that’s
whether they’re scariest or not that’s when everything changes and so that’s
when everything changes and so that’s
when everything changes and so that’s how I actually make business decisions
how I actually make business decisions
how I actually make business decisions is this I don’t even like the money
is this I don’t even like the money
is this I don’t even like the money conversation comes second
conversation comes second
conversation comes second it’s does this deplete or energize me
it’s does this deplete or energize me
it’s does this deplete or energize me and if it depletes me how do you move it
and if it depletes me how do you move it
and if it depletes me how do you move it in that direction or how do I stay sane
in that direction or how do I stay sane
in that direction or how do I stay sane oh if it energizes me how do I do more
oh if it energizes me how do I do more
oh if it energizes me how do I do more because if you are energized or expanded
because if you are energized or expanded
because if you are energized or expanded by something you will do it for no money
by something you will do it for no money
by something you will do it for no money you will do it happily and you will
you will do it happily and you will
you will do it happily and you will suddenly wake up and say oh my gosh like
suddenly wake up and say oh my gosh like
suddenly wake up and say oh my gosh like my heart I’m pursuing my passion I
my heart I’m pursuing my passion I
my heart I’m pursuing my passion I started to have these panic attacks and
started to have these panic attacks and
started to have these panic attacks and I didn’t know what was wrong and I went
I didn’t know what was wrong and I went
I didn’t know what was wrong and I went to see one of the like health people at
to see one of the like health people at
to see one of the like health people at campus and they referred me to somebody
campus and they referred me to somebody
campus and they referred me to somebody and the doctor said oh well you just
and the doctor said oh well you just
and the doctor said oh well you just have anxiety and you’re having panic and
have anxiety and you’re having panic and
have anxiety and you’re having panic and and then he said I think you should go
and then he said I think you should go
and then he said I think you should go on Zoloft and then I had anxiety about
on Zoloft and then I had anxiety about
on Zoloft and then I had anxiety about taking a drug because you know it might
taking a drug because you know it might
taking a drug because you know it might change me heaven forbid right yeah I’m
change me heaven forbid right yeah I’m
change me heaven forbid right yeah I’m so stable why would I want to be change
so stable why would I want to be change
so stable why would I want to be change just like and that’s the funny thing is
just like and that’s the funny thing is
just like and that’s the funny thing is that is that those of us that struggle
that is that those of us that struggle
that is that those of us that struggle with these kinds of things
with these kinds of things
with these kinds of things we’re terrified of taking any kind of
we’re terrified of taking any kind of
we’re terrified of taking any kind of medication because we’re afraid of not
medication because we’re afraid of not
medication because we’re afraid of not being ourselves and yet the anxiety or
being ourselves and yet the anxiety or
being ourselves and yet the anxiety or the depression or whatever you struggle
the depression or whatever you struggle
the depression or whatever you struggle with is actually keeping you from being
with is actually keeping you from being
with is actually keeping you from being yourself the things I hear that’s the
yourself the things I hear that’s the
yourself the things I hear that’s the inker yeah yeah
inker yeah yeah
inker yeah yeah and so I argued with him like a lawyer
and so I argued with him like a lawyer
and so I argued with him like a lawyer for six months and then finally I gave
for six months and then finally I gave
for six months and then finally I gave in and started taking Zoloft and it was
in and started taking Zoloft and it was
in and started taking Zoloft and it was like a miracle when I took it it was
like a miracle when I took it it was
like a miracle when I took it it was literally as if somebody had taken a
literally as if somebody had taken a
literally as if somebody had taken a volume dial and turned it to zero and
volume dial and turned it to zero and
volume dial and turned it to zero and that voice that would sound off in my
that voice that would sound off in my
that voice that would sound off in my head on a loop that triggered all the
head on a loop that triggered all the
head on a loop that triggered all the body sensations we’re going to talk a
body sensations we’re going to talk a
body sensations we’re going to talk a lot about this tomorrow like the
lot about this tomorrow like the
lot about this tomorrow like the difference between worry and how that
difference between worry and how that
difference between worry and how that triggers anxiety and then the difference
triggers anxiety and then the difference
triggers anxiety and then the difference between anxiety and panic and then how
between anxiety and panic and then how
between anxiety and panic and then how you can utilize the tools that I’m
you can utilize the tools that I’m
you can utilize the tools that I’m talking about to curb the worrying to
talking about to curb the worrying to
talking about to curb the worrying to control the anxiety to stabilize the
control the anxiety to stabilize the
control the anxiety to stabilize the panic and like really self monitor and
panic and like really self monitor and
panic and like really self monitor and see I think that is the single greatest
see I think that is the single greatest
see I think that is the single greatest skill that anybody could have the
skill that anybody could have the
skill that anybody could have the ability to self-monitor you could call
ability to self-monitor you could call
ability to self-monitor you could call it mindset you could call it
it mindset you could call it
it mindset you could call it self-awareness but truly to be so in
self-awareness but truly to be so in
self-awareness but truly to be so in tune with yourself that in a nanosecond
tune with yourself that in a nanosecond
tune with yourself that in a nanosecond you pick up when things are going south
you pick up when things are going south
you pick up when things are going south with your thoughts feel stuck because
with your thoughts feel stuck because
with your thoughts feel stuck because you’re waiting for some kind of external
you’re waiting for some kind of external
you’re waiting for some kind of external force to either push you and pressure
force to either push you and pressure
force to either push you and pressure you to change and to be great and to be
you to change and to be great and to be
you to change and to be great and to be amazing or you’re waiting for somebody
amazing or you’re waiting for somebody
amazing or you’re waiting for somebody to give you permission you’re either
to give you permission you’re either
to give you permission you’re either sitting back because you need some sort
sitting back because you need some sort
sitting back because you need some sort of external motivation from somebody
of external motivation from somebody
of external motivation from somebody that’s gonna push you or praise you or
that’s gonna push you or praise you or
that’s gonna push you or praise you or pressure you in order to change or some
pressure you in order to change or some
pressure you in order to change or some life circumstance like maybe in your
life circumstance like maybe in your
life circumstance like maybe in your past you’ve experienced trauma or you
past you’ve experienced trauma or you
past you’ve experienced trauma or you face something really scary and that was
face something really scary and that was
face something really scary and that was the thing that made you change and then
the thing that made you change and then
the thing that made you change and then the second thing that people wait around
the second thing that people wait around
the second thing that people wait around for is permission
for is permission
for is permission look those may or may not come in your
look those may or may not come in your
look those may or may not come in your life if you are somebody that is sitting
life if you are somebody that is sitting
life if you are somebody that is sitting around waiting for some external force
around waiting for some external force
around waiting for some external force to come and do the work for you that is
to come and do the work for you that is
to come and do the work for you that is such a losing bet it’s unbelievable
such a losing bet it’s unbelievable
such a losing bet it’s unbelievable maybe you’ll get lucky maybe somebody
maybe you’ll get lucky maybe somebody
maybe you’ll get lucky maybe somebody will come but more than likely no one is
will come but more than likely no one is
will come but more than likely no one is coming
coming
coming the only kind of force that will truly
the only kind of force that will truly
the only kind of force that will truly create change in your life is you the
create change in your life is you the
create change in your life is you the internal kind of force I hate to say it
internal kind of force I hate to say it
internal kind of force I hate to say it but for those of you that feel really
but for those of you that feel really
but for those of you that feel really really stuck and you keep thinking that
really stuck and you keep thinking that
really stuck and you keep thinking that somebody’s got to pick me or somebody’s
somebody’s got to pick me or somebody’s
somebody’s got to pick me or somebody’s gonna discover me or somebody’s got to
gonna discover me or somebody’s got to
gonna discover me or somebody’s got to give me permission to write this book
give me permission to write this book
give me permission to write this book it’s it’s ridiculous this is external
it’s it’s ridiculous this is external
it’s it’s ridiculous this is external versus internal force and what you have
versus internal force and what you have
versus internal force and what you have to figure out if you’re stuck is are you
to figure out if you’re stuck is are you
to figure out if you’re stuck is are you the kind of person that is guilty of
the kind of person that is guilty of
the kind of person that is guilty of needing wanting and waiting for external
needing wanting and waiting for external
needing wanting and waiting for external forces people out of
forces people out of
forces people out of some outside force to kick you in the
some outside force to kick you in the
some outside force to kick you in the ass they will finally do the stuff that
ass they will finally do the stuff that
ass they will finally do the stuff that you’ve been dreaming about doing I want
you’ve been dreaming about doing I want
you’ve been dreaming about doing I want to tell you something no one’s coming no
to tell you something no one’s coming no
to tell you something no one’s coming no one the people in life that get what
one the people in life that get what
one the people in life that get what they want are the ones that aren’t
they want are the ones that aren’t
they want are the ones that aren’t waiting for an external force to
waiting for an external force to
waiting for an external force to validate their dreams to inspire them to
validate their dreams to inspire them to
validate their dreams to inspire them to give them permission it’s the people
give them permission it’s the people
give them permission it’s the people that realize that success but happiness
that realize that success but happiness
that realize that success but happiness that control it comes from the internal
that control it comes from the internal
that control it comes from the internal force and what is the internal force
force and what is the internal force
force and what is the internal force it’s you it’s you it’s you being able to
it’s you it’s you it’s you being able to
it’s you it’s you it’s you being able to realize that no one’s going to do the
realize that no one’s going to do the
realize that no one’s going to do the work for you it’s you realizing that
work for you it’s you realizing that
work for you it’s you realizing that you’re never going to feel ready
you’re never going to feel ready
you’re never going to feel ready in fact even as you start working toward
in fact even as you start working toward
in fact even as you start working toward the things that you really want to do
the things that you really want to do
the things that you really want to do you’re definitely not going to feel
you’re definitely not going to feel
you’re definitely not going to feel ready and you’re going to feel outside
ready and you’re going to feel outside
ready and you’re going to feel outside your comfort zone and that’s normal when
your comfort zone and that’s normal when
your comfort zone and that’s normal when you start to feel like you’re stretching
you start to feel like you’re stretching
you start to feel like you’re stretching yourself and you’re sticking your
yourself and you’re sticking your
yourself and you’re sticking your scrawny neck out there and you’re taking
scrawny neck out there and you’re taking
scrawny neck out there and you’re taking some risks that’s amazing cuz you’re
some risks that’s amazing cuz you’re
some risks that’s amazing cuz you’re growing people have so many theories
growing people have so many theories
growing people have so many theories about fear they talk about oh I’m afraid
about fear they talk about oh I’m afraid
about fear they talk about oh I’m afraid of success know I’m afraid of failure
of success know I’m afraid of failure
of success know I’m afraid of failure I’m afraid of intimacy I’m afraid of
I’m afraid of intimacy I’m afraid of
I’m afraid of intimacy I’m afraid of heights I’m afraid of this I’m afraid of
heights I’m afraid of this I’m afraid of
heights I’m afraid of this I’m afraid of that I’m afraid of the other thing
that I’m afraid of the other thing
that I’m afraid of the other thing there’s actually only two fears only two
and if you’re in sales which you are or
and if you’re in sales which you are or even if you’re not
even if you’re not
even if you’re not life is about persuading people life is
life is about persuading people life is
life is about persuading people life is about influencing people and fear is the
about influencing people and fear is the
about influencing people and fear is the invisible force that will make you
invisible force that will make you
invisible force that will make you ineffective at that it will stop you now
ineffective at that it will stop you now
ineffective at that it will stop you now I love JK Rollins as an example I mean
I love JK Rollins as an example I mean
I love JK Rollins as an example I mean we all know the Harry Potter series but
we all know the Harry Potter series but
we all know the Harry Potter series but what a lot of people don’t know about
what a lot of people don’t know about
what a lot of people don’t know about her she talks a lot about fear she
her she talks a lot about fear she
her she talks a lot about fear she struggled with major depression do you
struggled with major depression do you
struggled with major depression do you know she was unemployed and she wrote
know she was unemployed and she wrote
know she was unemployed and she wrote the original idea for Harry Potter on a
the original idea for Harry Potter on a
the original idea for Harry Potter on a napkin while she was on state benefits
napkin while she was on state benefits
napkin while she was on state benefits she was then rejected by 12 publishing
she was then rejected by 12 publishing
she was then rejected by 12 publishing houses and this by the way was after she
houses and this by the way was after she
houses and this by the way was after she was divorced bankrupt and a single mom
was divorced bankrupt and a single mom
was divorced bankrupt and a single mom of a kid pushed herself pushed herself
of a kid pushed herself pushed herself
of a kid pushed herself pushed herself pushed herself she talks a lot about
pushed herself she talks a lot about
pushed herself she talks a lot about fear and about failure well you know we
fear and about failure well you know we
fear and about failure well you know we know the moral of the story she just
know the moral of the story she just
know the moral of the story she just kept going of course she was afraid but
kept going of course she was afraid but
kept going of course she was afraid but she had the good kind of fear not the
she had the good kind of fear not the
she had the good kind of fear not the bad kind of fear you don’t ever start
bad kind of fear you don’t ever start
bad kind of fear you don’t ever start you stay trapped in your head and if you
you stay trapped in your head and if you
you stay trapped in your head and if you feel paralyzed if you’ve been spinning
feel paralyzed if you’ve been spinning
feel paralyzed if you’ve been spinning the same ideas over and over and over
the same ideas over and over and over
the same ideas over and over and over again then you know what I’m talking
again then you know what I’m talking
again then you know what I’m talking about you see many of you are thinking
about you see many of you are thinking
about you see many of you are thinking way too Vic you’re attaching way too
way too Vic you’re attaching way too
way too Vic you’re attaching way too much pressure on the things that you’re
much pressure on the things that you’re
much pressure on the things that you’re interested in until you start blogging
interested in until you start blogging
interested in until you start blogging about fashion you won’t even know if you
about fashion you won’t even know if you
about fashion you won’t even know if you like it
like it
like it so thinking that you have a dream about
so thinking that you have a dream about
so thinking that you have a dream about doing it and thinking that you have this
doing it and thinking that you have this
doing it and thinking that you have this grand plan that you’re gonna do it
grand plan that you’re gonna do it
grand plan that you’re gonna do it full-time
full-time
full-time it is a complete and utter waste of your
it is a complete and utter waste of your
it is a complete and utter waste of your time to be dreaming that big and let me
time to be dreaming that big and let me
time to be dreaming that big and let me tell you why because oftentimes if
tell you why because oftentimes if
tell you why because oftentimes if you’re the kind of person like Vicky
you’re the kind of person like Vicky
you’re the kind of person like Vicky that’s getting trapped up here the
that’s getting trapped up here the
that’s getting trapped up here the bigness of what you’re thinking about is
bigness of what you’re thinking about is
bigness of what you’re thinking about is what’s stopping you what I want you to
what’s stopping you what I want you to
what’s stopping you what I want you to do if you’re in Vicki’s situation is I
do if you’re in Vicki’s situation is I
do if you’re in Vicki’s situation is I want you to stop dreaming and I want you
want you to stop dreaming and I want you
want you to stop dreaming and I want you to just start doing small things I want
to just start doing small things I want
to just start doing small things I want you to go back to curiosity and less
you to go back to curiosity and less
you to go back to curiosity and less into crushing your big goals the thing
into crushing your big goals the thing
into crushing your big goals the thing about life and business and success is
about life and business and success is
about life and business and success is that you have to be willing to start and
that you have to be willing to start and
that you have to be willing to start and for people that procrastinate starting
for people that procrastinate starting
for people that procrastinate starting is the hardest part for
is the hardest part for
is the hardest part for people that worry for people that think
people that worry for people that think
people that worry for people that think too big starting is the hardest part
too big starting is the hardest part
too big starting is the hardest part folks that study procrastination talk
folks that study procrastination talk
folks that study procrastination talk about the fact that the only way to beat
about the fact that the only way to beat
about the fact that the only way to beat procrastination is to create what they
procrastination is to create what they
procrastination is to create what they call a starting ritual which is a way to
call a starting ritual which is a way to
call a starting ritual which is a way to push yourself to get started because all
push yourself to get started because all
push yourself to get started because all the research shows that if we can push
the research shows that if we can push
the research shows that if we can push you to get started on something you’ll
you to get started on something you’ll
you to get started on something you’ll likely keep going we spend a lot of time
likely keep going we spend a lot of time
likely keep going we spend a lot of time talking about mindset from the
talking about mindset from the
talking about mindset from the standpoint of think positive so positive
standpoint of think positive so positive
standpoint of think positive so positive things happen and I do believe in having
things happen and I do believe in having
things happen and I do believe in having a positive mindset obviously I think
a positive mindset obviously I think
a positive mindset obviously I think that the actions that you take are way
that the actions that you take are way
that the actions that you take are way more important in terms of developing
more important in terms of developing
more important in terms of developing that mindset but we don’t spend enough
that mindset but we don’t spend enough
that mindset but we don’t spend enough time on what you were just talking about
time on what you were just talking about
time on what you were just talking about which is understanding how the automatic
which is understanding how the automatic
which is understanding how the automatic nature of worrying about stuff all day
nature of worrying about stuff all day
nature of worrying about stuff all day long how that is making you less money
long how that is making you less money
long how that is making you less money how it is making you less happy how it
how it is making you less happy how it
how it is making you less happy how it is disconnecting you from your spouse
is disconnecting you from your spouse
is disconnecting you from your spouse how it is keeping you unhealthy and how
how it is keeping you unhealthy and how
how it is keeping you unhealthy and how it is a habit that robs you of joy and
it is a habit that robs you of joy and
it is a habit that robs you of joy and opportunity and power and it is one of
opportunity and power and it is one of
opportunity and power and it is one of the easiest habits to break number one
the easiest habits to break number one
the easiest habits to break number one your life happens in five-second windows
your life happens in five-second windows
your life happens in five-second windows number two in five seconds you can
number two in five seconds you can
number two in five seconds you can control what you think you can decide
control what you think you can decide
control what you think you can decide what you’re going to do and you can
what you’re going to do and you can
what you’re going to do and you can change absolutely anything which changes
change absolutely anything which changes
change absolutely anything which changes absolutely everything and so the
absolutely everything and so the
absolutely everything and so the five-second rule is a mind trick that’s
five-second rule is a mind trick that’s
five-second rule is a mind trick that’s all that it is a fancy way to call it as
all that it is a fancy way to call it as
all that it is a fancy way to call it as a you know it’s a form of metacognition
a you know it’s a form of metacognition
a you know it’s a form of metacognition but it’s basically a hack it’s a cheat
but it’s basically a hack it’s a cheat
but it’s basically a hack it’s a cheat code okay and the way that it works and
code okay and the way that it works and
code okay and the way that it works and this is the challenge with getting it
this is the challenge with getting it
this is the challenge with getting it out there is that it sounds so
out there is that it sounds so
out there is that it sounds so profoundly stupid like a gimmick that it
profoundly stupid like a gimmick that it
profoundly stupid like a gimmick that it took a while for people to actually take
took a while for people to actually take
took a while for people to actually take it seriously
it seriously
it seriously good
good
good and to really stack up the science to
and to really stack up the science to
and to really stack up the science to make you know anybody that interacts
make you know anybody that interacts
make you know anybody that interacts with it go holy Sh like this actually
with it go holy Sh like this actually
with it go holy Sh like this actually works yeah so here’s what it is
works yeah so here’s what it is
works yeah so here’s what it is basically the moment you catch yourself
basically the moment you catch yourself
basically the moment you catch yourself hesitating or doubting or starting to
hesitating or doubting or starting to
hesitating or doubting or starting to worry or about to chicken out or shrink
worry or about to chicken out or shrink
worry or about to chicken out or shrink or shut up or whatever it is that you’re
or shut up or whatever it is that you’re
or shut up or whatever it is that you’re about to do that is shrinking your power
about to do that is shrinking your power
about to do that is shrinking your power you just go 5 4 3 2 1 you count
you just go 5 4 3 2 1 you count
you just go 5 4 3 2 1 you count backwards 5 4 3 2 1
backwards 5 4 3 2 1
backwards 5 4 3 2 1 what happens when you do that don’t do
what happens when you do that don’t do
what happens when you do that don’t do it out loud because it’ll scare somebody
it out loud because it’ll scare somebody
it out loud because it’ll scare somebody it’s like going although you know we say
it’s like going although you know we say
it’s like going although you know we say it’s it’s so simple that people live
it’s it’s so simple that people live
it’s it’s so simple that people live skit in the making because that means
skit in the making because that means
skit in the making because that means I’ve really made it through your kids
I’ve really made it through your kids
I’ve really made it through your kids will use it on you so my kids will use
will use it on you so my kids will use
will use it on you so my kids will use it on me so if I have a certain tone
it on me so if I have a certain tone
it on me so if I have a certain tone that comes out I’ll hear my child will
that comes out I’ll hear my child will
that comes out I’ll hear my child will go 5 4 through watch that tone mom you
go 5 4 through watch that tone mom you
go 5 4 through watch that tone mom you know just alright mom 5 4 3 2 and I
know just alright mom 5 4 3 2 and I
know just alright mom 5 4 3 2 and I thought you’re gonna go to the gym yes
thought you’re gonna go to the gym yes
thought you’re gonna go to the gym yes so by counting backwards the the kind of
so by counting backwards the the kind of
so by counting backwards the the kind of cheat code that you’re doing in your
cheat code that you’re doing in your
cheat code that you’re doing in your mind is you are interrupting what are
mind is you are interrupting what are
mind is you are interrupting what are called habit loops that get encoded in
called habit loops that get encoded in
called habit loops that get encoded in the central part of your brain and you
the central part of your brain and you
the central part of your brain and you are starting up the prefrontal cortex
are starting up the prefrontal cortex
are starting up the prefrontal cortex it’s a little trick that causes focus
it’s a little trick that causes focus
it’s a little trick that causes focus and it’s it’s a lot like having a mantra
and it’s it’s a lot like having a mantra
and it’s it’s a lot like having a mantra because you’re shifting gears but the
because you’re shifting gears but the
because you’re shifting gears but the thing about having a mantra is and I
thing about having a mantra is and I
thing about having a mantra is and I suppose that as you count backwards more
suppose that as you count backwards more
suppose that as you count backwards more and more and more you become used to it
and more and more you become used to it
and more and more you become used to it but it becomes a habit that triggers
but it becomes a habit that triggers
but it becomes a habit that triggers action so what you do is go 5 4 3 2 1
action so what you do is go 5 4 3 2 1
action so what you do is go 5 4 3 2 1 cut off this part of the brain awaken
cut off this part of the brain awaken
cut off this part of the brain awaken this part of the brain and then move and
this part of the brain and then move and
this part of the brain and then move and what happens with the counting backwards
what happens with the counting backwards
what happens with the counting backwards is there’s nowhere to go after one and
is there’s nowhere to go after one and
is there’s nowhere to go after one and your mind is socialized in a countdown
your mind is socialized in a countdown
your mind is socialized in a countdown situation to go and so counting up won’t
situation to go and so counting up won’t
situation to go and so counting up won’t work because you can keep going forever
work because you can keep going forever
work because you can keep going forever and you do it in many aspects of your
and you do it in many aspects of your
and you do it in many aspects of your life so it’s actually not something that
life so it’s actually not something that
life so it’s actually not something that requires any focus
requires any focus
requires any focus I said simple I didn’t say easy and the
I said simple I didn’t say easy and the
I said simple I didn’t say easy and the reason why it’s not easy is because you
reason why it’s not easy is because you
reason why it’s not easy is because you have to deal with you and now we know
have to deal with you and now we know
have to deal with you and now we know that you’re a control freak and you’re
that you’re a control freak and you’re
that you’re a control freak and you’re stubborn and you got all these excuses
stubborn and you got all these excuses
stubborn and you got all these excuses you’re a real pain and I’m gonna teach
you’re a real pain and I’m gonna teach
you’re a real pain and I’m gonna teach you though the very very simple way to
you though the very very simple way to
you though the very very simple way to get what you want there’s only one rule
get what you want there’s only one rule
get what you want there’s only one rule when it comes to productivity there’s
when it comes to productivity there’s
when it comes to productivity there’s only one rule when it comes to success
only one rule when it comes to success
only one rule when it comes to success there’s only run rule to getting
there’s only run rule to getting
there’s only run rule to getting everything you’ve ever wanted and here
everything you’ve ever wanted and here
everything you’ve ever wanted and here it is you’re never gonna feel like it
it is you’re never gonna feel like it
it is you’re never gonna feel like it ever in any area of your life that you
ever in any area of your life that you
ever in any area of your life that you don’t have what you want whether it’s
don’t have what you want whether it’s
don’t have what you want whether it’s the amount of money the amount of people
the amount of money the amount of people
the amount of money the amount of people on your team the amount of sales the
on your team the amount of sales the
on your team the amount of sales the amount of trips for your family the read
amount of trips for your family the read
amount of trips for your family the read if you only did the things that you
if you only did the things that you
if you only did the things that you don’t feel like doing you’d have
don’t feel like doing you’d have
don’t feel like doing you’d have everything you’ve ever wanted those
everything you’ve ever wanted those
everything you’ve ever wanted those areas where you’re happy you do the work
areas where you’re happy you do the work
areas where you’re happy you do the work those areas where you’re complaining you
those areas where you’re complaining you
those areas where you’re complaining you don’t feel like it you don’t do it so
don’t feel like it you don’t do it so
don’t feel like it you don’t do it so it’s a lot like kids if you think about
it’s a lot like kids if you think about
it’s a lot like kids if you think about it what’s your job as a parent it’s to
it what’s your job as a parent it’s to
it what’s your job as a parent it’s to make kids do the things they don’t feel
make kids do the things they don’t feel
make kids do the things they don’t feel like doing so they can grow up and move
like doing so they can grow up and move
like doing so they can grow up and move out and become independent adults my son
out and become independent adults my son
out and become independent adults my son never feels like getting off the Dia’s
never feels like getting off the Dia’s
never feels like getting off the Dia’s he never feels like putting his feet
he never feels like putting his feet
he never feels like putting his feet down when he’s caught in the car my
down when he’s caught in the car my
down when he’s caught in the car my daughter never feels like cleaning up
daughter never feels like cleaning up
daughter never feels like cleaning up the Barbies I have no idea why they’re
the Barbies I have no idea why they’re
the Barbies I have no idea why they’re always naked by the way always naked
and the funny thing is when you grew up
and the funny thing is when you grew up and moved out your parents never said to
and moved out your parents never said to
and moved out your parents never said to you guess what you are a total pain in
you guess what you are a total pain in
you guess what you are a total pain in the rear end you never feel like doing
the rear end you never feel like doing
the rear end you never feel like doing anything you don’t feel like doing your
anything you don’t feel like doing your
anything you don’t feel like doing your homework you don’t feel like going out
homework you don’t feel like going out
homework you don’t feel like going out you don’t feel like making your bed you
you don’t feel like making your bed you
you don’t feel like making your bed you don’t feel like saying hello to
don’t feel like saying hello to
don’t feel like saying hello to strangers you don’t feel like using your
strangers you don’t feel like using your
strangers you don’t feel like using your manners you don’t feel like cleaning
manners you don’t feel like cleaning
manners you don’t feel like cleaning your room good luck to you so the only
your room good luck to you so the only
your room good luck to you so the only way to get what you want is to parent
way to get what you want is to parent
way to get what you want is to parent yourself but I’m gonna make it easy for
yourself but I’m gonna make it easy for
yourself but I’m gonna make it easy for you we’re about to move you’ve learned a
you we’re about to move you’ve learned a
you we’re about to move you’ve learned a ton about the brain now the brain is
ton about the brain now the brain is
ton about the brain now the brain is going to screw you over the brain is
going to screw you over the brain is
going to screw you over the brain is gonna go into autopilot the brain is
gonna go into autopilot the brain is
gonna go into autopilot the brain is going to tell you it doesn’t feel like
going to tell you it doesn’t feel like
going to tell you it doesn’t feel like doing things it’s trickery you now know
doing things it’s trickery you now know
doing things it’s trickery you now know that so how do you be effective with
that so how do you be effective with
that so how do you be effective with yourself knowing that you’re never gonna
yourself knowing that you’re never gonna
yourself knowing that you’re never gonna feel like doing all the work that it
feel like doing all the work that it
feel like doing all the work that it takes to have this business be
takes to have this business be
takes to have this business be everything that it possibly could so
everything that it possibly could so
everything that it possibly could so you’re gonna use the five-second rule
you’re gonna use the five-second rule
you’re gonna use the five-second rule and what that means is this
from the moment that you have the idea I
from the moment that you have the idea I should email out the Fall collection I
should email out the Fall collection I
should email out the Fall collection I should go through the contact list for
should go through the contact list for
should go through the contact list for my college or university and reach out
my college or university and reach out
my college or university and reach out to people I should go through my contact
to people I should go through my contact
to people I should go through my contact lists and invite 23 people this week to
lists and invite 23 people this week to
lists and invite 23 people this week to just take the dogs for a walk I should
just take the dogs for a walk I should
just take the dogs for a walk I should make a request of a friend and ask if I
make a request of a friend and ask if I
make a request of a friend and ask if I can come to a presentation at lunch at
can come to a presentation at lunch at
can come to a presentation at lunch at his law firm from the second you have
his law firm from the second you have
his law firm from the second you have that idea you’ve only got five seconds
that idea you’ve only got five seconds
that idea you’ve only got five seconds to take action otherwise it’s gone your
to take action otherwise it’s gone your
to take action otherwise it’s gone your brain will swoop in so fast uh-oh
brain will swoop in so fast uh-oh
brain will swoop in so fast uh-oh there’s an idea whoa no way
there’s an idea whoa no way
there’s an idea whoa no way no wait you don’t feel like it you’re
no wait you don’t feel like it you’re
no wait you don’t feel like it you’re overwhelmed you you’ve got five seconds
overwhelmed you you’ve got five seconds
overwhelmed you you’ve got five seconds and that’s it today I want you to
and that’s it today I want you to
and that’s it today I want you to practice this because what you’re going
practice this because what you’re going
practice this because what you’re going to notice is you’re gonna notice a
to notice is you’re gonna notice a
to notice is you’re gonna notice a little bit later like in the networking
little bit later like in the networking
little bit later like in the networking section and you know afterwards and in
section and you know afterwards and in
section and you know afterwards and in some of these events after this
some of these events after this
some of these events after this particular speech you’re gonna notice
particular speech you’re gonna notice
particular speech you’re gonna notice that you have an impulse you have an
that you have an impulse you have an
that you have an impulse you have an impulse to walk towards somebody that’s
impulse to walk towards somebody that’s
impulse to walk towards somebody that’s really successful that’s built a team
really successful that’s built a team
really successful that’s built a team that could possibly help you and guess
that could possibly help you and guess
that could possibly help you and guess what you’re not gonna do it you’ve
what you’re not gonna do it you’ve
what you’re not gonna do it you’ve probably had them the entire time that
probably had them the entire time that
probably had them the entire time that you’ve been here oh I should go over and
you’ve been here oh I should go over and
you’ve been here oh I should go over and talk to this person hey I’ll catch them
talk to this person hey I’ll catch them
talk to this person hey I’ll catch them later oh that person looks really
later oh that person looks really
later oh that person looks really interesting I don’t know I should really
interesting I don’t know I should really
interesting I don’t know I should really take some photos of this fall line and
take some photos of this fall line and
take some photos of this fall line and start to eat that might be too pushy so
start to eat that might be too pushy so
start to eat that might be too pushy so what do you do how does it work you have
what do you do how does it work you have
what do you do how does it work you have the thought you’ve got five seconds
the thought you’ve got five seconds
the thought you’ve got five seconds that’s it and what do you need to do
that’s it and what do you need to do
that’s it and what do you need to do just say something out loud that’s one
just say something out loud that’s one
just say something out loud that’s one way you could start walking the second
way you could start walking the second
way you could start walking the second you feel like you should meet somebody
you feel like you should meet somebody
you feel like you should meet somebody because you’re drawn to them again it’s
because you’re drawn to them again it’s
because you’re drawn to them again it’s from here it’s not from here
from here it’s not from here
from here it’s not from here start walking because if you’re already
start walking because if you’re already
start walking because if you’re already walking the likelihood is you’ll
walking the likelihood is you’ll
walking the likelihood is you’ll actually make it to them and then you’re
actually make it to them and then you’re
actually make it to them and then you’re gonna say something write it down
gonna say something write it down
gonna say something write it down schedule it send an email to yourself or
schedule it send an email to yourself or
schedule it send an email to yourself or make the request one of the things that
make the request one of the things that
make the request one of the things that was so interesting about talking to Tara
was so interesting about talking to Tara
was so interesting about talking to Tara this morning is it was clear that a
this morning is it was clear that a
this morning is it was clear that a couple people had been in there sharing
couple people had been in there sharing
couple people had been in there sharing their brains out about Jay Hilbert and
their brains out about Jay Hilbert and
their brains out about Jay Hilbert and yet it never progressed into the side of
yet it never progressed into the side of
yet it never progressed into the side of the conversation of would you like
the conversation of would you like
the conversation of would you like information would you like to do it
information would you like to do it
information would you like to do it and I’m sure whoever it was it was lying
and I’m sure whoever it was it was lying
and I’m sure whoever it was it was lying on the table probably had that thought
on the table probably had that thought
on the table probably had that thought like you know I should I should say
like you know I should I should say
like you know I should I should say something should I
something should I
something should I getting facial is it weird to be talking
getting facial is it weird to be talking
getting facial is it weird to be talking about business at the same time five
about business at the same time five
about business at the same time five seconds gone talk yourself out of it I
am here for you and I’m here for you
am here for you and I’m here for you because I believe there is greatness in
because I believe there is greatness in
because I believe there is greatness in you and I know you feel it don’t you you
you and I know you feel it don’t you you
you and I know you feel it don’t you you feel that there is more you feel that
feel that there is more you feel that
feel that there is more you feel that there is there is something to do and
there is there is something to do and
there is there is something to do and there is and so I am here to teach you
there is and so I am here to teach you
there is and so I am here to teach you how to push that greatness to the
how to push that greatness to the
how to push that greatness to the surface how to use one simple tool one
surface how to use one simple tool one
surface how to use one simple tool one simple tool to find the clarity to
simple tool to find the clarity to
simple tool to find the clarity to listen to your inner wisdom and the
listen to your inner wisdom and the
listen to your inner wisdom and the courage to take action in the confidence
courage to take action in the confidence
courage to take action in the confidence to keep going to keep going despite what
to keep going to keep going despite what
to keep going to keep going despite what goes on because what I’m about to show
goes on because what I’m about to show
goes on because what I’m about to show you I’m going to prove it to you is that
you I’m going to prove it to you is that
you I’m going to prove it to you is that you can change anything in five seconds
you can change anything in five seconds
you can change anything in five seconds and that fact will change everything
and that fact will change everything
and that fact will change everything about your life everything now this what
about your life everything now this what
about your life everything now this what I’m about to talk about it this was my
I’m about to talk about it this was my
I’m about to talk about it this was my secret weapon for a long time and I
secret weapon for a long time and I
secret weapon for a long time and I never intended on sharing it with
never intended on sharing it with
never intended on sharing it with anybody because it sounds kind of stupid
anybody because it sounds kind of stupid
anybody because it sounds kind of stupid when you talk about it hey you can
when you talk about it hey you can
when you talk about it hey you can change your legs for five seconds you
change your legs for five seconds you
change your legs for five seconds you know just count the five yeah right now
know just count the five yeah right now
know just count the five yeah right now uh-huh you’re trying to sell a book I
uh-huh you’re trying to sell a book I
uh-huh you’re trying to sell a book I know seriously I don’t want you to
know seriously I don’t want you to
know seriously I don’t want you to dismiss the power in the ideas that I’m
dismiss the power in the ideas that I’m
dismiss the power in the ideas that I’m about to share with you because they’re
about to share with you because they’re
about to share with you because they’re so simple and what’s funny is I never
so simple and what’s funny is I never
so simple and what’s funny is I never intended on talking about this I never
intended on talking about this I never
intended on talking about this I never intended on talking about it because I
intended on talking about it because I
intended on talking about it because I discovered it by mistake seriously about
discovered it by mistake seriously about
discovered it by mistake seriously about eight years ago my life looked totally
eight years ago my life looked totally
eight years ago my life looked totally different than it does today I was
different than it does today I was
different than it does today I was unemployed
unemployed
unemployed my husband had a small business that was
my husband had a small business that was
my husband had a small business that was that was failing and failing miserably
that was failing and failing miserably
that was failing and failing miserably and it took our home equity line and the
and it took our home equity line and the
and it took our home equity line and the kids college savings and our 401k plans
kids college savings and our 401k plans
kids college savings and our 401k plans right down the drain with it
right down the drain with it
right down the drain with it and we have the liens hitting the house
and we have the liens hitting the house
and we have the liens hitting the house we of course were fighting like crazy
we of course were fighting like crazy
we of course were fighting like crazy because you know when life blows what do
because you know when life blows what do
because you know when life blows what do you do you point the finger you say oh
you do you point the finger you say oh
you do you point the finger you say oh it’s your fault oh it’s my boss’s fault
it’s your fault oh it’s my boss’s fault
it’s your fault oh it’s my boss’s fault it’s the economy’s fault
it’s the economy’s fault
it’s the economy’s fault oh this isn’t fair you know what’s
oh this isn’t fair you know what’s
oh this isn’t fair you know what’s interesting about the way that human
interesting about the way that human
interesting about the way that human beings are designed have you ever
beings are designed have you ever
beings are designed have you ever noticed that when you blame somebody
noticed that when you blame somebody
noticed that when you blame somebody else and you point the finger there’s
else and you point the finger there’s
else and you point the finger there’s three fingers pointing right back at you
three fingers pointing right back at you
three fingers pointing right back at you it’s a big reminder that the power is in
it’s a big reminder that the power is in
it’s a big reminder that the power is in you but waking up every morning
you but waking up every morning
you but waking up every morning unemployed I certainly didn’t feel
unemployed I certainly didn’t feel
unemployed I certainly didn’t feel powerful you know what I needed I needed
powerful you know what I needed I needed
powerful you know what I needed I needed confidence that was tapped out I needed
confidence that was tapped out I needed
confidence that was tapped out I needed courage move nope didn’t have any of
courage move nope didn’t have any of
courage move nope didn’t have any of that when the alarm rang this is what I
that when the alarm rang this is what I
that when the alarm rang this is what I felt like doing with the clock have you
felt like doing with the clock have you
felt like doing with the clock have you ever had one of those mornings right
ever had one of those mornings right
ever had one of those mornings right where you’re like not today no not today
where you’re like not today no not today
where you’re like not today no not today I do not want to get out of bed today I
I do not want to get out of bed today I
I do not want to get out of bed today I would lie in bed the alarm would go off
would lie in bed the alarm would go off
would lie in bed the alarm would go off and I would start thinking about the day
and I would start thinking about the day
and I would start thinking about the day ahead and I would start feeling
ahead and I would start feeling
ahead and I would start feeling overwhelmed and I would feel this sense
overwhelmed and I would feel this sense
overwhelmed and I would feel this sense of dread and I would feel like such a
of dread and I would feel like such a
of dread and I would feel like such a failure you know I remember this period
failure you know I remember this period
failure you know I remember this period of our life and I remember having those
of our life and I remember having those
of our life and I remember having those moments where I’d be at the grocery
moments where I’d be at the grocery
moments where I’d be at the grocery store and the items would be scanning
store and the items would be scanning
store and the items would be scanning and I would feel the fear rising up
and I would feel the fear rising up
and I would feel the fear rising up because I didn’t know if the check card
because I didn’t know if the check card
because I didn’t know if the check card was going to go through because I didn’t
was going to go through because I didn’t
was going to go through because I didn’t have the courage to look at the bank
have the courage to look at the bank
have the courage to look at the bank account
account
account and so as I would lie in bed in the
and so as I would lie in bed in the
and so as I would lie in bed in the morning and I would know by the way my
morning and I would know by the way my
morning and I would know by the way my inner wisdom was there and your inner
inner wisdom was there and your inner
inner wisdom was there and your inner wisdom is always there it’s always there
wisdom is always there it’s always there
wisdom is always there it’s always there kind of nudging you pushing you begging
kind of nudging you pushing you begging
kind of nudging you pushing you begging you to go forward my heroism was like
you to go forward my heroism was like
you to go forward my heroism was like mal you need to get up and I’d be like
mal you need to get up and I’d be like
mal you need to get up and I’d be like in the end I don’t feel like it I
in the end I don’t feel like it I
in the end I don’t feel like it I developed this habit of hitting the
developed this habit of hitting the
developed this habit of hitting the snooze button over and over and over
snooze button over and over and over
snooze button over and over and over again every morning I became one of
again every morning I became one of
again every morning I became one of those those parents where the kids were
those those parents where the kids were
those those parents where the kids were always late and and you know here’s the
always late and and you know here’s the
always late and and you know here’s the thing about life we don’t we don’t do
thing about life we don’t we don’t do
thing about life we don’t we don’t do this we don’t ever kind of go to wake up
this we don’t ever kind of go to wake up
this we don’t ever kind of go to wake up in the morning go go you know what I’m
in the morning go go you know what I’m
in the morning go go you know what I’m gonna do today today today I’m gonna
gonna do today today today I’m gonna
gonna do today today today I’m gonna screw up my life today I’m gonna hit the
screw up my life today I’m gonna hit the
screw up my life today I’m gonna hit the snooze button four times I’m gonna blow
snooze button four times I’m gonna blow
snooze button four times I’m gonna blow off exercise I’m gonna eat that whole
off exercise I’m gonna eat that whole
off exercise I’m gonna eat that whole tray of donuts then I’m gonna go to work
tray of donuts then I’m gonna go to work
tray of donuts then I’m gonna go to work and snap at people I’m gonna blow off
and snap at people I’m gonna blow off
and snap at people I’m gonna blow off working at my business I’m gonna come
working at my business I’m gonna come
working at my business I’m gonna come home and be mean to my spouse and
home and be mean to my spouse and
home and be mean to my spouse and patient with my kids then I’m gonna
patient with my kids then I’m gonna
patient with my kids then I’m gonna drink a ton it’s gonna be amazing
drink a ton it’s gonna be amazing
drink a ton it’s gonna be amazing right you know we don’t do that what
right you know we don’t do that what
right you know we don’t do that what happens is when you’re not paying
happens is when you’re not paying
happens is when you’re not paying attention when you’re not really focused
attention when you’re not really focused
attention when you’re not really focused on what you want when you’re not clear
on what you want when you’re not clear
on what you want when you’re not clear you make these small decisions all day
you make these small decisions all day
you make these small decisions all day long
long
long that slowly take you off course
that slowly take you off course
that slowly take you off course decisions based and self-doubt decisions
decisions based and self-doubt decisions
decisions based and self-doubt decisions based in fear decisions based in panic
based in fear decisions based in panic
based in fear decisions based in panic decisions based in resignation and
decisions based in resignation and
decisions based in resignation and suddenly you wake up one morning like I
suddenly you wake up one morning like I
suddenly you wake up one morning like I didn’t you’re like wait a minute wait
didn’t you’re like wait a minute wait
didn’t you’re like wait a minute wait how did I get over there and more
how did I get over there and more
how did I get over there and more importantly how do I get over here you
importantly how do I get over here you
importantly how do I get over here you know we all know we need to change but
know we all know we need to change but
know we all know we need to change but change is hard it’s hard when you don’t
change is hard it’s hard when you don’t
change is hard it’s hard when you don’t feel confident it’s hard when you don’t
feel confident it’s hard when you don’t
feel confident it’s hard when you don’t feel certain and that’s exactly how I
feel certain and that’s exactly how I
feel certain and that’s exactly how I felt and I struggled and I struggled and
felt and I struggled and I struggled and
felt and I struggled and I struggled and then one night it’s a really stupid
then one night it’s a really stupid
then one night it’s a really stupid story I saw this rocket launching and
story I saw this rocket launching and
story I saw this rocket launching and you know we’re gonna talk about this
you know we’re gonna talk about this
you know we’re gonna talk about this word courage now when you hear the word
word courage now when you hear the word
word courage now when you hear the word courage you think about the big stuff
courage you think about the big stuff
courage you think about the big stuff don’t you you think about a
don’t you you think about a
don’t you you think about a life-or-death moment you think about
life-or-death moment you think about
life-or-death moment you think about your heroes I want you to consider that
your heroes I want you to consider that
your heroes I want you to consider that courage is what you need every day that
courage is what you need every day that
courage is what you need every day that there are conversations you have to have
there are conversations you have to have
there are conversations you have to have that require courage
for me I need a courage to get out of
for me I need a courage to get out of bed because our problems they just felt
bed because our problems they just felt
bed because our problems they just felt so big so I struggled and struggled
so big so I struggled and struggled
so big so I struggled and struggled because I knew what to do but I couldn’t
because I knew what to do but I couldn’t
because I knew what to do but I couldn’t make myself do it if you ever felt that
make myself do it if you ever felt that
make myself do it if you ever felt that way like so frustrated with yourself you
way like so frustrated with yourself you
way like so frustrated with yourself you knew you need to exercise but you don’t
knew you need to exercise but you don’t
knew you need to exercise but you don’t do it you know you need to drink less
do it you know you need to drink less
do it you know you need to drink less but you don’t do it you know you need to
but you don’t do it you know you need to
but you don’t do it you know you need to stop procrastinating but you don’t do it
stop procrastinating but you don’t do it
stop procrastinating but you don’t do it you know you need to have the tough
you know you need to have the tough
you know you need to have the tough conversations but you don’t do it you’re
conversations but you don’t do it you’re
conversations but you don’t do it you’re stuck that’s how I was and then one
stuck that’s how I was and then one
stuck that’s how I was and then one night I see this rocket launch and I say
night I see this rocket launch and I say
night I see this rocket launch and I say oh my gosh that that’s it
oh my gosh that that’s it
oh my gosh that that’s it that’s it I’m gonna launch myself out of
that’s it I’m gonna launch myself out of
that’s it I’m gonna launch myself out of bed like a rocket ship tomorrow morning
bed like a rocket ship tomorrow morning
bed like a rocket ship tomorrow morning it is gonna be amazing I’m gonna move so
it is gonna be amazing I’m gonna move so
it is gonna be amazing I’m gonna move so fast that my mind cannot talk me out of
fast that my mind cannot talk me out of
fast that my mind cannot talk me out of this now it could have been the four
this now it could have been the four
this now it could have been the four manhattan’s talking you know that gave
manhattan’s talking you know that gave
manhattan’s talking you know that gave me that idea because I had a drinking
me that idea because I had a drinking
me that idea because I had a drinking problem that’s one of the things you do
problem that’s one of the things you do
problem that’s one of the things you do you get emotional you reach for the
you get emotional you reach for the
you get emotional you reach for the booze well for whatever reason the very
booze well for whatever reason the very
booze well for whatever reason the very next morning I woke up I still had all
next morning I woke up I still had all
next morning I woke up I still had all the same problems liens on the house
the same problems liens on the house
the same problems liens on the house talking divorce with my husband of now
talking divorce with my husband of now
talking divorce with my husband of now 20 years just felt like such a loser I
20 years just felt like such a loser I
20 years just felt like such a loser I did not feel like getting up I will
did not feel like getting up I will
did not feel like getting up I will never forget this morning it was a cold
never forget this morning it was a cold
never forget this morning it was a cold dark winter morning in February outside
dark winter morning in February outside
dark winter morning in February outside of Boston Massachusetts and I just did
of Boston Massachusetts and I just did
of Boston Massachusetts and I just did not feel like doing anything different
not feel like doing anything different
not feel like doing anything different but I did one thing one thing that
but I did one thing one thing that
but I did one thing one thing that changed everything I started counting
changed everything I started counting
changed everything I started counting backwards five four three two one and
backwards five four three two one and
backwards five four three two one and then all of a sudden I stood up and I
then all of a sudden I stood up and I
then all of a sudden I stood up and I was like what the hell just happened and
was like what the hell just happened and
was like what the hell just happened and the next morning five four three two one
the next morning five four three two one
the next morning five four three two one I did it again and it worked five four
I did it again and it worked five four
I did it again and it worked five four three two one I did it again and it
three two one I did it again and it
three two one I did it again and it worked I couldn’t believe it and now
worked I couldn’t believe it and now
worked I couldn’t believe it and now that I’m almost 50 I still use it at
that I’m almost 50 I still use it at
that I’m almost 50 I still use it at 2:30 in the morning when I wake up and I
2:30 in the morning when I wake up and I
2:30 in the morning when I wake up and I have to go the bathroom and you know
have to go the bathroom and you know
have to go the bathroom and you know like instead of like you know trying to
like instead of like you know trying to
like instead of like you know trying to go back to bed five four three two one
go back to bed five four three two one
go back to bed five four three two one and eat it here’s what I noticed I
and eat it here’s what I noticed I
and eat it here’s what I noticed I noticed something that when I say this
noticed something that when I say this
noticed something that when I say this to you you’re gonna be like oh my god
to you you’re gonna be like oh my god
to you you’re gonna be like oh my god she’s right there is a five-second
she’s right there is a five-second
she’s right there is a five-second window between the moment that your
window between the moment that your
window between the moment that your inner wisdom tells you you need to speak
inner wisdom tells you you need to speak
inner wisdom tells you you need to speak up you need to get to the gym you need
up you need to get to the gym you need
up you need to get to the gym you need to say something you need to get to work
to say something you need to get to work
to say something you need to get to work and your mind killing it
and your mind killing it
and your mind killing it and if you start counting backwards five
and if you start counting backwards five
and if you start counting backwards five four three two one you can close the gap
four three two one you can close the gap
four three two one you can close the gap between the greatness and you that’s
between the greatness and you that’s
between the greatness and you that’s dying to come to the surface and the
dying to come to the surface and the
dying to come to the surface and the excuses that keep snuffing it down now I
excuses that keep snuffing it down now I
excuses that keep snuffing it down now I never intended to tell anybody about
never intended to tell anybody about
never intended to tell anybody about this because I started use this to get
this because I started use this to get
this because I started use this to get up on time it started use it to
up on time it started use it to
up on time it started use it to self-monitor so I didn’t snap at Chris
self-monitor so I didn’t snap at Chris
self-monitor so I didn’t snap at Chris so I stopped drinking so much I started
so I stopped drinking so much I started
so I stopped drinking so much I started to use it to go on job interviews and it
to use it to go on job interviews and it
to use it to go on job interviews and it literally changed everything because I
literally changed everything because I
literally changed everything because I started to change I stopped being the
started to change I stopped being the
started to change I stopped being the kind of person that would think about
kind of person that would think about
kind of person that would think about everything and I five four three two one
everything and I five four three two one
everything and I five four three two one became the kind of person that started
became the kind of person that started
became the kind of person that started acting and every time I took action I
acting and every time I took action I
acting and every time I took action I started to build confidence now I gave
started to build confidence now I gave
started to build confidence now I gave this talk a couple years ago about how
this talk a couple years ago about how
this talk a couple years ago about how it changed my career so many times and
it changed my career so many times and
it changed my career so many times and again I wasn’t gonna talk about the
again I wasn’t gonna talk about the
again I wasn’t gonna talk about the five-second rule because it sounds
five-second rule because it sounds
five-second rule because it sounds stupid and in full disclosure I didn’t
stupid and in full disclosure I didn’t
stupid and in full disclosure I didn’t know why it worked and plus I didn’t
know why it worked and plus I didn’t
know why it worked and plus I didn’t want you to have it this was working for
want you to have it this was working for
want you to have it this was working for me
me
me so why would I want you to have it right
so why would I want you to have it right
so why would I want you to have it right so at the end of this talk this was the
so at the end of this talk this was the
so at the end of this talk this was the spurge first speech I had ever given so
spurge first speech I had ever given so
spurge first speech I had ever given so if you ever want to see somebody have a
if you ever want to see somebody have a
if you ever want to see somebody have a twenty-one minute long panic attack this
twenty-one minute long panic attack this
twenty-one minute long panic attack this is what it looks like I get off stage
is what it looks like I get off stage
is what it looks like I get off stage and I’m like I’m never doing that again
and I’m like I’m never doing that again
and I’m like I’m never doing that again and somebody puts the talk on line and
and somebody puts the talk on line and
and somebody puts the talk on line and something crazy started to happen people
something crazy started to happen people
something crazy started to happen people from around the world started to write
from around the world started to write
from around the world started to write and they were all writing about this
and they were all writing about this
and they were all writing about this stupid simple very powerful five-second
stupid simple very powerful five-second
stupid simple very powerful five-second rule they were using it to find the
rule they were using it to find the
rule they were using it to find the courage to reach out to people they were
courage to reach out to people they were
courage to reach out to people they were using it to become number one in sales
using it to become number one in sales
using it to become number one in sales they were sharing it with their teams we
they were sharing it with their teams we
they were sharing it with their teams we know of 13 people that have stopped
know of 13 people that have stopped
know of 13 people that have stopped themselves from committing suicide using
themselves from committing suicide using
themselves from committing suicide using this rule this gentleman was a veteran
this rule this gentleman was a veteran
this rule this gentleman was a veteran and he boarded the ferry with the
and he boarded the ferry with the
and he boarded the ferry with the intention of jumping over he gets to the
intention of jumping over he gets to the
intention of jumping over he gets to the railing and his inner wisdom kicks in I
railing and his inner wisdom kicks in I
railing and his inner wisdom kicks in I don’t care how low you get I don’t care
don’t care how low you get I don’t care
don’t care how low you get I don’t care how high you get your inner wisdom is
how high you get your inner wisdom is
how high you get your inner wisdom is always there and when you hear it it is
always there and when you hear it it is
always there and when you hear it it is magic when you listen to it it changes
magic when you listen to it it changes
magic when you listen to it it changes everything as inner wisdom said this is
everything as inner wisdom said this is
everything as inner wisdom said this is not the answer he went 5 4 3 2 1 and he
not the answer he went 5 4 3 2 1 and he
not the answer he went 5 4 3 2 1 and he turned and he walked away we hear from
turned and he walked away we hear from
turned and he walked away we hear from people all over the world people that
people all over the world people that
people all over the world people that are using it to be more productive to
are using it to be more productive to
are using it to be more productive to quit smoking after 23 years
quit smoking after 23 years
quit smoking after 23 years license plates tattoos for crying out
license plates tattoos for crying out
license plates tattoos for crying out loud look when people start tattooing
loud look when people start tattooing
loud look when people start tattooing this thing on their body like I started
this thing on their body like I started
this thing on their body like I started to feel a moral obligation to figure out
to feel a moral obligation to figure out
to feel a moral obligation to figure out why it worked so I’m gonna tell you some
why it worked so I’m gonna tell you some
why it worked so I’m gonna tell you some of the science behind this I’m gonna
of the science behind this I’m gonna
of the science behind this I’m gonna explain how you can use it and then I’m
explain how you can use it and then I’m
explain how you can use it and then I’m going to show you how five-second
going to show you how five-second
going to show you how five-second decisions change everything so we all
decisions change everything so we all
decisions change everything so we all hear this just do it right most famous
hear this just do it right most famous
hear this just do it right most famous tagline in the world what’s the
tagline in the world what’s the
tagline in the world what’s the difference between just do it and the
difference between just do it and the
difference between just do it and the five-second rule
five-second rule
five-second rule this is a concept concepts make you go
this is a concept concepts make you go
this is a concept concepts make you go upstairs I don’t want you upstairs
upstairs I don’t want you upstairs
upstairs I don’t want you upstairs this is behind enemy lines you’re not
this is behind enemy lines you’re not
this is behind enemy lines you’re not gonna grow your business grow yourself
gonna grow your business grow yourself
gonna grow your business grow yourself by thinking you got to take action right
by thinking you got to take action right
by thinking you got to take action right before you’re about to do anything even
before you’re about to do anything even
before you’re about to do anything even if you’re an Olympic athlete what do you
if you’re an Olympic athlete what do you
if you’re an Olympic athlete what do you do you stop and you think and that’s the
do you stop and you think and that’s the
do you stop and you think and that’s the kiss of death now stop and think if
kiss of death now stop and think if
kiss of death now stop and think if you’re gonna get tattoo or sign a
you’re gonna get tattoo or sign a
you’re gonna get tattoo or sign a contract but on the little stuff do not
contract but on the little stuff do not
contract but on the little stuff do not stop and think because what happens when
stop and think because what happens when
stop and think because what happens when your feelings of failure kick in and
your feelings of failure kick in and
your feelings of failure kick in and they will you start to think and that
they will you start to think and that
they will you start to think and that leads you to doubting yourself doesn’t
leads you to doubting yourself doesn’t
leads you to doubting yourself doesn’t it and the same thing happens when you
it and the same thing happens when you
it and the same thing happens when you feel nervous same thing happens when you
feel nervous same thing happens when you
feel nervous same thing happens when you feel unsure the same thing happens when
feel unsure the same thing happens when
feel unsure the same thing happens when you feel like you’re a fake the same
you feel like you’re a fake the same
you feel like you’re a fake the same thing happens when you feel overwhelmed
thing happens when you feel overwhelmed
thing happens when you feel overwhelmed look at all these feelings they’re
look at all these feelings they’re
look at all these feelings they’re triggering you to think that’s the last
triggering you to think that’s the last
triggering you to think that’s the last thing you should do this is what we call
thing you should do this is what we call
thing you should do this is what we call a habit loop any pattern that you repeat
a habit loop any pattern that you repeat
a habit loop any pattern that you repeat becomes a habit something you do without
becomes a habit something you do without
becomes a habit something you do without even thinking so how do you break it you
even thinking so how do you break it you
even thinking so how do you break it you train yourself to take action you train
train yourself to take action you train
train yourself to take action you train yourself at the moment you feel nervous
yourself at the moment you feel nervous
yourself at the moment you feel nervous you move why because when you take
you move why because when you take
you move why because when you take action you actually build confidence
action you actually build confidence
action you actually build confidence when you feel unsure and you move
when you feel unsure and you move
when you feel unsure and you move forward anyway 5 4 3 2 1 you are
forward anyway 5 4 3 2 1 you are
forward anyway 5 4 3 2 1 you are building the skill of confidence you are
building the skill of confidence you are
building the skill of confidence you are bringing that greatness to the surface
bringing that greatness to the surface
bringing that greatness to the surface now look south that’s normal feeling
now look south that’s normal feeling
now look south that’s normal feeling overwhelmed is normal the people we
overwhelmed is normal the people we
overwhelmed is normal the people we admire the most felt the same way you
admire the most felt the same way you
admire the most felt the same way you ever heard the story of Michelangelo so
ever heard the story of Michelangelo so
ever heard the story of Michelangelo so in the late and early 1500s he had never
in the late and early 1500s he had never
in the late and early 1500s he had never painted a thing the Pope goes over to
painted a thing the Pope goes over to
painted a thing the Pope goes over to see him and in his studio as he’s
see him and in his studio as he’s
see him and in his studio as he’s carving a statue in the Pope Julius the
carving a statue in the Pope Julius the
carving a statue in the Pope Julius the second turns to Michelangelo and says
second turns to Michelangelo and says
second turns to Michelangelo and says hey Michelangelo I got some frescoes I
hey Michelangelo I got some frescoes I
hey Michelangelo I got some frescoes I want you to paint in Vatican City
want you to paint in Vatican City
want you to paint in Vatican City you know what Michelangelo felt totally
you know what Michelangelo felt totally
you know what Michelangelo felt totally unsure do you know what he did he left
unsure do you know what he did he left
unsure do you know what he did he left town he hid from the Pope for two years
town he hid from the Pope for two years
town he hid from the Pope for two years that’s how unsure he was you know what
that’s how unsure he was you know what
that’s how unsure he was you know what the Pope that he stalked him for two
the Pope that he stalked him for two
the Pope that he stalked him for two years
years
years pushed him until he actually painted
pushed him until he actually painted
pushed him until he actually painted those frescoes how about a more recent
those frescoes how about a more recent
those frescoes how about a more recent one how many of you heard of Hamilton
one how many of you heard of Hamilton
one how many of you heard of Hamilton yeah Hamilton hit musical guess what
yeah Hamilton hit musical guess what
yeah Hamilton hit musical guess what three and a half years ago it wasn’t
three and a half years ago it wasn’t
three and a half years ago it wasn’t even finished
even finished
even finished lin-manuel the guy that wrote it was
lin-manuel the guy that wrote it was
lin-manuel the guy that wrote it was busy messaging with his wife Vanessa
busy messaging with his wife Vanessa
busy messaging with his wife Vanessa what was he saying he was saying
what was he saying he was saying
what was he saying he was saying something you and I can relate to when
something you and I can relate to when
something you and I can relate to when it doesn’t happen as fast as I’d like it
it doesn’t happen as fast as I’d like it
it doesn’t happen as fast as I’d like it to I have a hard time finding the
to I have a hard time finding the
to I have a hard time finding the balance between not beating myself up
balance between not beating myself up
balance between not beating myself up and not wasting time can’t you relate to
and not wasting time can’t you relate to
and not wasting time can’t you relate to that she’s like you’re not unique dude
that she’s like you’re not unique dude
that she’s like you’re not unique dude we all struggle with this we all all all
we all struggle with this we all all all
we all struggle with this we all all all need the encouragement and the push you
need the encouragement and the push you
need the encouragement and the push you know in this myth this photo makes me
know in this myth this photo makes me
know in this myth this photo makes me sad because when I think about this kid
sad because when I think about this kid
sad because when I think about this kid right and standing there the longer he
right and standing there the longer he
right and standing there the longer he looks the more he thinks about it the
looks the more he thinks about it the
looks the more he thinks about it the less likely he’s going imagine the
less likely he’s going imagine the
less likely he’s going imagine the difference that a push makes imagine a
difference that a push makes imagine a
difference that a push makes imagine a coach behind him right all right a coach
coach behind him right all right a coach
coach behind him right all right a coach a coach going come on Sammy you got this
a coach going come on Sammy you got this
a coach going come on Sammy you got this buddy you got this or an older brother
buddy you got this or an older brother
buddy you got this or an older brother the problem is in life usually there’s
the problem is in life usually there’s
the problem is in life usually there’s nobody there to push you it’s up to you
nobody there to push you it’s up to you
nobody there to push you it’s up to you that’s why the five-second rule is your
that’s why the five-second rule is your
that’s why the five-second rule is your new best friend this is what you’re
new best friend this is what you’re
new best friend this is what you’re gonna use to push yourself the moment
gonna use to push yourself the moment
gonna use to push yourself the moment you have an instinct to act on a goal
you have an instinct to act on a goal
you have an instinct to act on a goal you know you should do some but you
you know you should do some but you
you know you should do some but you don’t feel like getting out of bed I
don’t feel like getting out of bed I
don’t feel like getting out of bed I don’t care 5 4 3 2 1 you don’t feel like
don’t care 5 4 3 2 1 you don’t feel like
don’t care 5 4 3 2 1 you don’t feel like being nice to your spouse I don’t care 5
being nice to your spouse I don’t care 5
being nice to your spouse I don’t care 5 4 3 2 1 use this for behaviors that you
4 3 2 1 use this for behaviors that you
4 3 2 1 use this for behaviors that you need to do and for those things that are
need to do and for those things that are
need to do and for those things that are emotional that are killing you drinking
emotional that are killing you drinking
emotional that are killing you drinking too much eating a bunch of garbage
too much eating a bunch of garbage
too much eating a bunch of garbage smoking gambling addiction
smoking gambling addiction
smoking gambling addiction when you feel the emotion drawing you
when you feel the emotion drawing you
when you feel the emotion drawing you towards it 5 4 3 2 1 physically move
towards it 5 4 3 2 1 physically move
towards it 5 4 3 2 1 physically move away from it what is this actually doing
away from it what is this actually doing
away from it what is this actually doing in your mind when you count backwards
in your mind when you count backwards
in your mind when you count backwards it’s pretty remarkable how such a simple
it’s pretty remarkable how such a simple
it’s pretty remarkable how such a simple thing that’s something extraordinary
thing that’s something extraordinary
thing that’s something extraordinary when you start counting backwards it is
when you start counting backwards it is
when you start counting backwards it is an action when you start counting
an action when you start counting
an action when you start counting backwards it requires focus when you
backwards it requires focus when you
backwards it requires focus when you start counting backwards you are
start counting backwards you are
start counting backwards you are manually switching the part of the brain
manually switching the part of the brain
manually switching the part of the brain that you’re using you’re activating your
that you’re using you’re activating your
that you’re using you’re activating your prefrontal cortex you’re interrupting
prefrontal cortex you’re interrupting
prefrontal cortex you’re interrupting the habit loops of self-doubt of
the habit loops of self-doubt of
the habit loops of self-doubt of procrastination of fear of anxiety and
procrastination of fear of anxiety and
procrastination of fear of anxiety and you are taking control one five-second
you are taking control one five-second
you are taking control one five-second decision at a time it truly is that
decision at a time it truly is that
decision at a time it truly is that simple I didn’t say it was easy but it
simple I didn’t say it was easy but it
simple I didn’t say it was easy but it is this simple and it’s not gonna be
is this simple and it’s not gonna be
is this simple and it’s not gonna be easy because you’re gonna fight yourself
easy because you’re gonna fight yourself
easy because you’re gonna fight yourself now there are three ways that you can
now there are three ways that you can
now there are three ways that you can use this we’ve heard of literally
use this we’ve heard of literally
use this we’ve heard of literally hundreds of thousands of waves we’ve
hundreds of thousands of waves we’ve
hundreds of thousands of waves we’ve heard of from hundreds of thousands of
heard of from hundreds of thousands of
heard of from hundreds of thousands of people in 90 different countries that
people in 90 different countries that
people in 90 different countries that are using this rule and they fall into
are using this rule and they fall into
are using this rule and they fall into kind of three buckets you can use this
kind of three buckets you can use this
kind of three buckets you can use this rule to change any behavior five four
rule to change any behavior five four
rule to change any behavior five four three two one push yourself to do
three two one push yourself to do
three two one push yourself to do something that you know you need to do
something that you know you need to do
something that you know you need to do five four three two one pull yourself
five four three two one pull yourself
five four three two one pull yourself away from something that you know you
away from something that you know you
away from something that you know you should not be doing you can use it for
should not be doing you can use it for
should not be doing you can use it for courage five four three two one step
courage five four three two one step
courage five four three two one step into that risk five four three two one
into that risk five four three two one
into that risk five four three two one push yourself outside your comfort zone
push yourself outside your comfort zone
push yourself outside your comfort zone and the most important way you can use
and the most important way you can use
and the most important way you can use it is you can use it for mind control
it is you can use it for mind control
it is you can use it for mind control this one matters the most to me so let
this one matters the most to me so let
this one matters the most to me so let me explain to you how to use it so a lot
me explain to you how to use it so a lot
me explain to you how to use it so a lot of people see me on stage or on CNN and
of people see me on stage or on CNN and
of people see me on stage or on CNN and they’re like who that chick was just
they’re like who that chick was just
they’re like who that chick was just born very confident very annoying and I
born very confident very annoying and I
born very confident very annoying and I don’t you laugh because it’s true
don’t you laugh because it’s true
don’t you laugh because it’s true not true I suffered from panic attacks
not true I suffered from panic attacks
not true I suffered from panic attacks for over 20 years they started when I
for over 20 years they started when I
for over 20 years they started when I was 19 years old they got so bad that I
was 19 years old they got so bad that I
was 19 years old they got so bad that I was on Zoloft it was a miracle drug for
was on Zoloft it was a miracle drug for
was on Zoloft it was a miracle drug for me and as I started to use the
me and as I started to use the
me and as I started to use the five-second rule to literally I mean
five-second rule to literally I mean
five-second rule to literally I mean change everything to go from facing
change everything to go from facing
change everything to go from facing bankruptcy to running multi-million
bankruptcy to running multi-million
bankruptcy to running multi-million dollar companies joining the teams at
dollar companies joining the teams at
dollar companies joining the teams at CNN being a contributor to dr. oz and
CNN being a contributor to dr. oz and
CNN being a contributor to dr. oz and success changing my marriage and how I
success changing my marriage and how I
success changing my marriage and how I behaved
behaved
behaved changing my health habits changing
changing my health habits changing
changing my health habits changing everything because what the rule does is
everything because what the rule does is
everything because what the rule does is it gives you control over your decisions
it gives you control over your decisions
it gives you control over your decisions it gives you control over those
it gives you control over those
it gives you control over those five-second moments that change
five-second moments that change
five-second moments that change everything for you because in those
everything for you because in those
everything for you because in those five-second moments it’s where all the
five-second moments it’s where all the
five-second moments it’s where all the opportunity and the joy in your life is
opportunity and the joy in your life is
opportunity and the joy in your life is so I have wondered about five years ago
so I have wondered about five years ago
so I have wondered about five years ago I wonder if you could use this simple
I wonder if you could use this simple
I wonder if you could use this simple stupid
stupid
stupid brilliant rule to cure yourself of
brilliant rule to cure yourself of
brilliant rule to cure yourself of anxiety the answer is yes you can so
anxiety the answer is yes you can so
anxiety the answer is yes you can so I’ve been off meds for five years I
I’ve been off meds for five years I
I’ve been off meds for five years I haven’t had a panic attack since hell I
haven’t had a panic attack since hell I
haven’t had a panic attack since hell I don’t even worry about anything yes
don’t even worry about anything yes
don’t even worry about anything yes because I have used this rule to
because I have used this rule to
because I have used this rule to completely rewire how I think you’re
completely rewire how I think you’re
completely rewire how I think you’re gonna hear a lot about mindset today you
gonna hear a lot about mindset today you
gonna hear a lot about mindset today you want to adopt a growth mindset you want
want to adopt a growth mindset you want
want to adopt a growth mindset you want to change your habits
to change your habits
to change your habits this is a starting ritual that you can
this is a starting ritual that you can
this is a starting ritual that you can use for any of them let me explain how
use for any of them let me explain how
use for any of them let me explain how you do it in the mental game so if you
you do it in the mental game so if you
you do it in the mental game so if you ever noticed how your thoughts drift
ever noticed how your thoughts drift
ever noticed how your thoughts drift right you’re sitting in a meeting and
right you’re sitting in a meeting and
right you’re sitting in a meeting and suddenly your thoughts are like bla bla
suddenly your thoughts are like bla bla
suddenly your thoughts are like bla bla bla bla bla garbage garbage garbage
bla bla bla garbage garbage garbage
bla bla bla garbage garbage garbage you suck suck suck suck right you know
you suck suck suck suck right you know
you suck suck suck suck right you know whatever it is the second that you get
whatever it is the second that you get
whatever it is the second that you get your thoughts drifting you’re gonna go 5
your thoughts drifting you’re gonna go 5
your thoughts drifting you’re gonna go 5 4 3 2 1 and yang come back here now the
4 3 2 1 and yang come back here now the
4 3 2 1 and yang come back here now the counting backwards is essential it
counting backwards is essential it
counting backwards is essential it doesn’t work to just try to change your
doesn’t work to just try to change your
doesn’t work to just try to change your thoughts inserting the
thoughts inserting the
thoughts inserting the five-four-three-two-one interrupts the
five-four-three-two-one interrupts the
five-four-three-two-one interrupts the pattern of bad talk to yourself and self
pattern of bad talk to yourself and self
pattern of bad talk to yourself and self doubt and anxiety it awakens your
doubt and anxiety it awakens your
doubt and anxiety it awakens your prefrontal cortex so your brain is ready
prefrontal cortex so your brain is ready
prefrontal cortex so your brain is ready ready to receive a new thought you know
ready to receive a new thought you know
ready to receive a new thought you know I’m going to use an example that we can
I’m going to use an example that we can
I’m going to use an example that we can all relate to to explain specifically
all relate to to explain specifically
all relate to to explain specifically how to do this because I think this is
how to do this because I think this is
how to do this because I think this is so important I used to be a nutcase
so important I used to be a nutcase
so important I used to be a nutcase about flying I would get to the airport
about flying I would get to the airport
about flying I would get to the airport and I’d be in the boarding area and I’d
and I’d be in the boarding area and I’d
and I’d be in the boarding area and I’d be looking for Bishop TD jakes and I’d
be looking for Bishop TD jakes and I’d
be looking for Bishop TD jakes and I’d be looking for babies and men and women
be looking for babies and men and women
be looking for babies and men and women in uniform because I would say if
in uniform because I would say if
in uniform because I would say if they’re getting on my plane God is not
they’re getting on my plane God is not
they’re getting on my plane God is not letting this go down so then I I get on
letting this go down so then I I get on
letting this go down so then I I get on the plane and I would buckle up and then
the plane and I would buckle up and then
the plane and I would buckle up and then I’d start to feel the panic rising and
I’d start to feel the panic rising and
I’d start to feel the panic rising and as soon as we take off and the plane
as soon as we take off and the plane
as soon as we take off and the plane does that scary thing where you get up
does that scary thing where you get up
does that scary thing where you get up and then all of a sudden feels like it’s
and then all of a sudden feels like it’s
and then all of a sudden feels like it’s like turning off as it’s leveling off
like turning off as it’s leveling off
like turning off as it’s leveling off then I would start to panic and I would
then I would start to panic and I would
then I would start to panic and I would pull out my phone and I would start
pull out my phone and I would start
pull out my phone and I would start texting my children you know mommy loves
texting my children you know mommy loves
texting my children you know mommy loves you emoji emoji emoji because if I’m
you emoji emoji emoji because if I’m
you emoji emoji emoji because if I’m gonna die in a plane crash
gonna die in a plane crash
gonna die in a plane crash I want the
I want the
I want the to know that as my last act as a human
to know that as my last act as a human
to know that as my last act as a human being was to be the best mom on the
being was to be the best mom on the
being was to be the best mom on the planet and then plus they got it for the
planet and then plus they got it for the
planet and then plus they got it for the eulogy when they do the PowerPoint so
eulogy when they do the PowerPoint so
eulogy when they do the PowerPoint so they can prove it to everybody and you
they can prove it to everybody and you
they can prove it to everybody and you giggle you giggle because we’re sick
giggle you giggle because we’re sick
giggle you giggle because we’re sick human beings we’re all sick right if we
human beings we’re all sick right if we
human beings we’re all sick right if we were to put a speaker on your head and
were to put a speaker on your head and
were to put a speaker on your head and broadcast the garbage you say to
broadcast the garbage you say to
broadcast the garbage you say to yourself you wouldn’t be at success live
yourself you wouldn’t be at success live
yourself you wouldn’t be at success live you’ve been an insane asylum for crying
you’ve been an insane asylum for crying
you’ve been an insane asylum for crying out loud
out loud
out loud but here’s the problem we listen to it
but here’s the problem we listen to it
but here’s the problem we listen to it we listen to it you let it rob you of
we listen to it you let it rob you of
we listen to it you let it rob you of your precious lifetime you let it keep
your precious lifetime you let it keep
your precious lifetime you let it keep you
you
you from stepping into your greatness you
from stepping into your greatness you
from stepping into your greatness you let it stop you from saying what you
let it stop you from saying what you
let it stop you from saying what you really believe you don’t have to second
really believe you don’t have to second
really believe you don’t have to second you catch yourself thinking anything
you catch yourself thinking anything
you catch yourself thinking anything that doesn’t serve you five four three
that doesn’t serve you five four three
that doesn’t serve you five four three two one
two one
two one take control five four three two one
take control five four three two one
take control five four three two one insert a different thought every time I
insert a different thought every time I
insert a different thought every time I talk about this when I fly I step on the
talk about this when I fly I step on the
talk about this when I fly I step on the plane with an anchor thought I think
plane with an anchor thought I think
plane with an anchor thought I think about where I’m gonna go and I flew here
about where I’m gonna go and I flew here
about where I’m gonna go and I flew here you know what I thought about I thought
you know what I thought about I thought
you know what I thought about I thought about you so every time the turbulence
about you so every time the turbulence
about you so every time the turbulence happened I went 5 4 3 2 1 I thought
happened I went 5 4 3 2 1 I thought
happened I went 5 4 3 2 1 I thought about you and my brain went oh she’s not
about you and my brain went oh she’s not
about you and my brain went oh she’s not nervous about the plane she is so
nervous about the plane she is so
nervous about the plane she is so excited to see everybody at Success live
excited to see everybody at Success live
excited to see everybody at Success live this makes sense one of you many of you
this makes sense one of you many of you
this makes sense one of you many of you are gonna text me right after this and
are gonna text me right after this and
are gonna text me right after this and be like I can’t believe this mal use
be like I can’t believe this mal use
be like I can’t believe this mal use that stupid simple thing you just talked
that stupid simple thing you just talked
that stupid simple thing you just talked about and this is the first time I’ve
about and this is the first time I’ve
about and this is the first time I’ve ever been able to get on a plane you can
ever been able to get on a plane you can
ever been able to get on a plane you can change how you think five seconds at a
change how you think five seconds at a
change how you think five seconds at a time
time
time do not ever underestimate your power to
do not ever underestimate your power to
do not ever underestimate your power to change the things that matter most to
change the things that matter most to
change the things that matter most to you this is one of the most shared
you this is one of the most shared
you this is one of the most shared stories in the history of social media a
stories in the history of social media a
stories in the history of social media a lot of you are gonna recognize this this
lot of you are gonna recognize this this
lot of you are gonna recognize this this is Brittany and her dad Todd now what
is Brittany and her dad Todd now what
is Brittany and her dad Todd now what you can’t tell from this story is that
you can’t tell from this story is that
you can’t tell from this story is that it’s been a horrible decade for this
it’s been a horrible decade for this
it’s been a horrible decade for this family
family
family you see Brittany and Brittany’s dad and
you see Brittany and Brittany’s dad and
you see Brittany and Brittany’s dad and her mom got divorced and it’s been an
her mom got divorced and it’s been an
her mom got divorced and it’s been an ugly divorce you know a lot of fighting
ugly divorce you know a lot of fighting
ugly divorce you know a lot of fighting and the spouses can’t the new spouses
and the spouses can’t the new spouses
and the spouses can’t the new spouses can’t stand each other well today is
can’t stand each other well today is
can’t stand each other well today is Brittany’s wedding day and Todd is
Brittany’s wedding day and Todd is
Brittany’s wedding day and Todd is walking his new wife up the aisle and he
walking his new wife up the aisle and he
walking his new wife up the aisle and he has this inner wisdom kick in and he
has this inner wisdom kick in and he
has this inner wisdom kick in and he says to himself today I’m gonna heal
says to himself today I’m gonna heal
says to himself today I’m gonna heal this family doesn’t stop and think he
this family doesn’t stop and think he
this family doesn’t stop and think he turns he walks back down the aisle and
turns he walks back down the aisle and
turns he walks back down the aisle and instead of grabbing his daughter he
instead of grabbing his daughter he
instead of grabbing his daughter he grabs her stepfather a man he hates I
grabs her stepfather a man he hates I
grabs her stepfather a man he hates I mean look at the expression on the lady
mean look at the expression on the lady
mean look at the expression on the lady next to them for crying out loud
and he invites him to walk their
and he invites him to walk their daughter down the aisle five seconds
daughter down the aisle five seconds
daughter down the aisle five seconds changes everything but I can tell you
changes everything but I can tell you
changes everything but I can tell you firsthand because we interviewed this
firsthand because we interviewed this
firsthand because we interviewed this family for CNN it certainly changed this
family for CNN it certainly changed this
family for CNN it certainly changed this one so whether you are going to use the
one so whether you are going to use the
one so whether you are going to use the rule – five four three two one get out
rule – five four three two one get out
rule – five four three two one get out of your head and start that nonprofit
of your head and start that nonprofit
of your head and start that nonprofit you’ve been thinking about for two
you’ve been thinking about for two
you’ve been thinking about for two decades or you’re just going to five
decades or you’re just going to five
decades or you’re just going to five four three two one get yourself out of
four three two one get yourself out of
four three two one get yourself out of bed because you said you would or you
bed because you said you would or you
bed because you said you would or you find yourself in one of the darkest
find yourself in one of the darkest
find yourself in one of the darkest places of your life like Adam did so on
places of your life like Adam did so on
places of your life like Adam did so on March 1st Adam was over in London he’s a
March 1st Adam was over in London he’s a
March 1st Adam was over in London he’s a lawyer over there and he was sitting
lawyer over there and he was sitting
lawyer over there and he was sitting with a bottle of pills and he was three
with a bottle of pills and he was three
with a bottle of pills and he was three pills in and his inner wisdom kicked in
pills in and his inner wisdom kicked in
pills in and his inner wisdom kicked in he knew that this was not the answer and
he knew that this was not the answer and
he knew that this was not the answer and he also knew the five-second rule and he
he also knew the five-second rule and he
he also knew the five-second rule and he won five four three two one and he got
won five four three two one and he got
won five four three two one and he got up and he got in his car and he drove to
up and he got in his car and he drove to
up and he got in his car and he drove to his doctor’s office and he had the
his doctor’s office and he had the
his doctor’s office and he had the courage to listen he had the clarity to
courage to listen he had the clarity to
courage to listen he had the clarity to seek help and he’s been using it ever
seek help and he’s been using it ever
seek help and he’s been using it ever since and it’s like he has a friend with
since and it’s like he has a friend with
since and it’s like he has a friend with him and he uses it to not interrupt
him and he uses it to not interrupt
him and he uses it to not interrupt judges when he gets mad and as he writes
judges when he gets mad and as he writes
judges when he gets mad and as he writes to us he says it’s not only literally
to us he says it’s not only literally
to us he says it’s not only literally saved his life but he’s actually doing
saved his life but he’s actually doing
saved his life but he’s actually doing pretty good and I’d like to introduce
pretty good and I’d like to introduce
pretty good and I’d like to introduce you to because he’s flown here
you to because he’s flown here
you to because he’s flown here [Applause]
[Applause]
[Applause] I’m so proud of you don’t ever doubt
I’m so proud of you don’t ever doubt
I’m so proud of you don’t ever doubt your ability to change your life to
your ability to change your life to
your ability to change your life to change your life you know you have power
change your life you know you have power
change your life you know you have power in you and now you know thank you it is
in you and now you know thank you it is
in you and now you know thank you it is a privilege to share this with you thank
a privilege to share this with you thank
a privilege to share this with you thank you please please please use it and
you please please please use it and
you please please please use it and please let me know how you use it
please let me know how you use it
please let me know how you use it seriously I it is such a I feel like I’m
seriously I it is such a I feel like I’m
seriously I it is such a I feel like I’m just a messenger for something that’s
just a messenger for something that’s
just a messenger for something that’s making a difference for people
making a difference for people
making a difference for people everywhere so thank you for the
everywhere so thank you for the
everywhere so thank you for the opportunity to share this with you
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