Jordan Peterson – One Of The Greatest Speeches | Millennials, Depression And Success

you’ve got this four year period that

you’ve got this four year period that has been carved out of your lives by

has been carved out of your lives by

has been carved out of your lives by society they it’s given you an identity

society they it’s given you an identity

society they it’s given you an identity like a high quality identity and freedom

like a high quality identity and freedom

like a high quality identity and freedom at the same time and you’re not gonna

at the same time and you’re not gonna

at the same time and you’re not gonna get that again in your life

get that again in your life

get that again in your life you’ve got a you’ve got a respectable

you’ve got a you’ve got a respectable

you’ve got a you’ve got a respectable identity University student and complete

identity University student and complete

identity University student and complete freedom associated without or as near as

freedom associated without or as near as

freedom associated without or as near as you’re ever going to get and you’ve got

you’re ever going to get and you’ve got

you’re ever going to get and you’ve got these unbelievable libraries that are

these unbelievable libraries that are

these unbelievable libraries that are full of the writings of people who are

full of the writings of people who are

full of the writings of people who are who are intelligent and articulate

who are intelligent and articulate

who are intelligent and articulate beyond comprehension and you know and

beyond comprehension and you know and

beyond comprehension and you know and and you can go there and you can learn

and you can go there and you can learn

and you can go there and you can learn all this and you might think well why

all this and you might think well why

all this and you might think well why should you learn it well you’ve learned

should you learn it well you’ve learned

should you learn it well you’ve learned it to get a job or you learn it to get

it to get a job or you learn it to get

it to get a job or you learn it to get good grades or you learn it to get a

good grades or you learn it to get a

good grades or you learn it to get a degree and that’s all nonsense it’s

degree and that’s all nonsense it’s

degree and that’s all nonsense it’s nonsense

nonsense

nonsense the reason that you come to university

the reason that you come to university

the reason that you come to university to be educated is because there is

to be educated is because there is

to be educated is because there is nothing more powerful than someone who

nothing more powerful than someone who

nothing more powerful than someone who is articulate and who can think and

is articulate and who can think and

is articulate and who can think and speak its power and I mean power of the

speak its power and I mean power of the

speak its power and I mean power of the best sort and its authority and

best sort and its authority and

best sort and its authority and influence and respectability and

influence and respectability and

influence and respectability and competence and so you come to university

competence and so you come to university

competence and so you come to university to craft your highest skill and your

to craft your highest skill and your

to craft your highest skill and your highest skill is to be found in

highest skill is to be found in

highest skill is to be found in articulated speech and if you’re if

articulated speech and if you’re if

articulated speech and if you’re if you’re if you’re a master at formulating

you’re if you’re a master at formulating

you’re if you’re a master at formulating your arguments you win everything and

your arguments you win everything and

your arguments you win everything and better than that when you win everything

better than that when you win everything

better than that when you win everything everyone around you wins to because to

everyone around you wins to because to

everyone around you wins to because to transform yourself into let’s consider

transform yourself into let’s consider

transform yourself into let’s consider you consider your transformation to

you consider your transformation to

you consider your transformation to something approximating the logos it

something approximating the logos it

something approximating the logos it means you shine a light on the whole

means you shine a light on the whole

means you shine a light on the whole world well there’s nothing more exciting

world well there’s nothing more exciting

world well there’s nothing more exciting to do than that there’s nothing better

to do than that there’s nothing better

to do than that there’s nothing better you can possibly do and to think that

you can possibly do and to think that

you can possibly do and to think that you’re coming to university to be you

you’re coming to university to be you

you’re coming to university to be you know trained to have a job it’s like

know trained to have a job it’s like

know trained to have a job it’s like great that’s a hell of a lot better than

great that’s a hell of a lot better than

great that’s a hell of a lot better than being unemployed and covered with cheeto

being unemployed and covered with cheeto

being unemployed and covered with cheeto dust while you’re snacking away in front

dust while you’re snacking away in front

dust while you’re snacking away in front of your video game in the basement

of your video game in the basement

of your video game in the basement you’re spectacular you’ve you’re you’re

you’re spectacular you’ve you’re you’re

you’re spectacular you’ve you’re you’re all capable of being world beaters you

all capable of being world beaters you

all capable of being world beaters you transform yourself into something that’s

transform yourself into something that’s

transform yourself into something that’s articulated and sensible and grounded in

articulated and sensible and grounded in

articulated and sensible and grounded in history and knowledgeable and wise men

history and knowledgeable and wise men

history and knowledgeable and wise men you can do anything you want and

you can do anything you want and

you can do anything you want and hopefully anything you want for good

hopefully anything you want for good

hopefully anything you want for good because if you have any sense everything

because if you have any sense everything

because if you have any sense everything you want to do would be for the good

you want to do would be for the good

you want to do would be for the good because there’s nothing more compelling

because there’s nothing more compelling

because there’s nothing more compelling or meaningful or or useful in combating

or meaningful or or useful in combating

or meaningful or or useful in combating the tragedy of life than to than to

the tragedy of life than to than to

the tragedy of life than to than to struggle with all your soul on behalf of

struggle with all your soul on behalf of

struggle with all your soul on behalf of the good and the universities have

the good and the universities have

the good and the universities have forgotten that it’s why everyone’s

forgotten that it’s why everyone’s

forgotten that it’s why everyone’s bailing out of the humanities and they

bailing out of the humanities and they

bailing out of the humanities and they should the humanities are corrupt and

should the humanities are corrupt and

should the humanities are corrupt and they’re corrupt because they’re not

they’re corrupt because they’re not

they’re corrupt because they’re not telling students this it’s so bloody

telling students this it’s so bloody

telling students this it’s so bloody obvious it’s like learn to think learn

obvious it’s like learn to think learn

obvious it’s like learn to think learn to speak learn to read it makes you a

to speak learn to read it makes you a

to speak learn to read it makes you a superpower an individual superpower you

superpower an individual superpower you

superpower an individual superpower you have and I don’t understand why that

have and I don’t understand why that

have and I don’t understand why that isn’t just told to students it’s not

isn’t just told to students it’s not

isn’t just told to students it’s not that hard to understand and everyone

that hard to understand and everyone

that hard to understand and everyone wants to hear it’s like really I could

wants to hear it’s like really I could

wants to hear it’s like really I could do that I could do that like yeah really

do that I could do that like yeah really

do that I could do that like yeah really you could do that and the whole society

you could do that and the whole society

you could do that and the whole society around you is labored for really

around you is labored for really

around you is labored for really thousands of years to provide every

thousands of years to provide every

thousands of years to provide every single one of you with this spectacular

single one of you with this spectacular

single one of you with this spectacular opportunity that you have while you’re

opportunity that you have while you’re

opportunity that you have while you’re undergraduates and graduate students

undergraduates and graduate students

undergraduates and graduate students here man they’re just everyone’s just

here man they’re just everyone’s just

here man they’re just everyone’s just praying that you would come here and

praying that you would come here and

praying that you would come here and manifest everything that you could

manifest everything that you could

manifest everything that you could manifest and that’s what you should be

manifest and that’s what you should be

manifest and that’s what you should be doing instead of waving placards and

doing instead of waving placards and

doing instead of waving placards and complaining about how you’re oppressed

complaining about how you’re oppressed

complaining about how you’re oppressed for God’s sake the only reason you’re

for God’s sake the only reason you’re

for God’s sake the only reason you’re not rich is cuz you’re young you know

not rich is cuz you’re young you know

not rich is cuz you’re young you know that’s the best really that’s them if

that’s the best really that’s them if

that’s the best really that’s them if you look at the 1% even the dreaded 1%

you look at the 1% even the dreaded 1%

you look at the 1% even the dreaded 1% you know most of those people are all

you know most of those people are all

you know most of those people are all why well when you progress through life

why well when you progress through life

why well when you progress through life if you’re reasonably successful you

if you’re reasonably successful you

if you’re reasonably successful you trade in your promising youth for your

trade in your promising youth for your

trade in your promising youth for your wealthy old age but you’re still bloody

wealthy old age but you’re still bloody

wealthy old age but you’re still bloody old would you would you trade it would

old would you would you trade it would

old would you would you trade it would you trade your youth for that like if

you trade your youth for that like if

you trade your youth for that like if you factor age out of the economic

you factor age out of the economic

you factor age out of the economic equation things look a lot different

equation things look a lot different

equation things look a lot different well of course older people have more

well of course older people have more

well of course older people have more money if they have any sense they’ve

money if they have any sense they’ve

money if they have any sense they’ve been collecting it for their whole life

been collecting it for their whole life

been collecting it for their whole life is that somehow unfair it’s not unfair

is that somehow unfair it’s not unfair

is that somehow unfair it’s not unfair unless you want to want to be

unless you want to want to be

unless you want to want to be poverty-stricken when you’re 70 and you

poverty-stricken when you’re 70 and you

poverty-stricken when you’re 70 and you and you don’t want to be poverty or

and you don’t want to be poverty or

and you don’t want to be poverty or poverty stricken when you’re 70 so I

poverty stricken when you’re 70 so I

poverty stricken when you’re 70 so I just don’t understand what’s happened to

just don’t understand what’s happened to

just don’t understand what’s happened to the universities I can’t believe that

the universities I can’t believe that

the universities I can’t believe that you’re not told when you come the first

you’re not told when you come the first

you’re not told when you come the first day look man you are out you’re here on

day look man you are out you’re here on

day look man you are out you’re here on a heroic mission you’re going to take

a heroic mission you’re going to take

a heroic mission you’re going to take your capacity to articulate yourself to

your capacity to articulate yourself to

your capacity to articulate yourself to levels that are undreamed-of you’re

levels that are undreamed-of you’re

levels that are undreamed-of you’re gonna come out of here unstoppable

gonna come out of here unstoppable

gonna come out of here unstoppable you’re going to be able to do anything

you’re going to be able to do anything

you’re going to be able to do anything you want it’s like that’s what you’re

you want it’s like that’s what you’re

you want it’s like that’s what you’re here for instead you’re taught that well

here for instead you’re taught that well

here for instead you’re taught that well you know the world is a pretty

you know the world is a pretty

you know the world is a pretty oppressive place and you’re probably at

oppressive place and you’re probably at

oppressive place and you’re probably at the bottom of the victim pile and and

the bottom of the victim pile and and

the bottom of the victim pile and and and there’s and there’s there’s

and there’s and there’s there’s

and there’s and there’s there’s virtually nothing you could do about it

virtually nothing you could do about it

virtually nothing you could do about it except know deconstruct the patriarchy

except know deconstruct the patriarchy

except know deconstruct the patriarchy and it’s so we need and so pathetic

and it’s so we need and so pathetic

and it’s so we need and so pathetic that that university should be

that that university should be

that that university should be embarrassed that that’s what they’re

embarrassed that that’s what they’re

embarrassed that that’s what they’re peddling to students I’m embarrassed by

peddling to students I’m embarrassed by

peddling to students I’m embarrassed by it

it

it imagine someone that you treat well that

imagine someone that you treat well that

imagine someone that you treat well that you love then try to treat yourself that

you love then try to treat yourself that

you love then try to treat yourself that way you got to detach from yourself a

way you got to detach from yourself a

way you got to detach from yourself a bit you got to think okay well I’m a

bit you got to think okay well I’m a

bit you got to think okay well I’m a person among other people and I deserve

person among other people and I deserve

person among other people and I deserve at least as much respect as a person

at least as much respect as a person

at least as much respect as a person among other people and I should be

among other people and I should be

among other people and I should be trying to help myself across time and

trying to help myself across time and

trying to help myself across time and instead of being self contemptuous and

instead of being self contemptuous and

instead of being self contemptuous and self destructive I need to take care of

self destructive I need to take care of

self destructive I need to take care of myself as if I’m potentially valuable

myself as if I’m potentially valuable

myself as if I’m potentially valuable and to lay out my life that way and so

and to lay out my life that way and so

and to lay out my life that way and so that’s what that’s that chapter is about

that’s what that’s that chapter is about

that’s what that’s that chapter is about and it’s it’s hard for people you know

and it’s it’s hard for people you know

and it’s it’s hard for people you know they don’t take care of themselves as

they don’t take care of themselves as

they don’t take care of themselves as well as they should and I don’t mean you

well as they should and I don’t mean you

well as they should and I don’t mean you know take care of yourself I mean that

know take care of yourself I mean that

know take care of yourself I mean that is what I mean it’s like it’s not a

is what I mean it’s like it’s not a

is what I mean it’s like it’s not a moralistic attack it’s like it’s an

moralistic attack it’s like it’s an

moralistic attack it’s like it’s an encouragement to give yourself a bit of

encouragement to give yourself a bit of

encouragement to give yourself a bit of the benefit of the doubt and it means

the benefit of the doubt and it means

the benefit of the doubt and it means take care of your room take care of your

take care of your room take care of your

take care of your room take care of your things like have some respect for

things like have some respect for

things like have some respect for yourself as a as a well I would say in

yourself as a as a well I would say in

yourself as a as a well I would say in some sense as a miraculous being because

some sense as a miraculous being because

some sense as a miraculous being because that is actually what you are there is a

that is actually what you are there is a

that is actually what you are there is a lot of potential within you and there’s

lot of potential within you and there’s

lot of potential within you and there’s many things that you can do and you’re

many things that you can do and you’re

many things that you can do and you’re necessary you’re necessary more than you

necessary you’re necessary more than you

necessary you’re necessary more than you think to the unfolding of things like if

think to the unfolding of things like if

think to the unfolding of things like if you make a bunch of bad decisions things

you make a bunch of bad decisions things

you make a bunch of bad decisions things get worse not just for you like things

get worse not just for you like things

get worse not just for you like things get worse and maybe way worse like I

get worse and maybe way worse like I

get worse and maybe way worse like I don’t know what mistakes tell ins mother

don’t know what mistakes tell ins mother

don’t know what mistakes tell ins mother made you know and she probably didn’t

made you know and she probably didn’t

made you know and she probably didn’t necessarily think they were that

necessarily think they were that

necessarily think they were that important but it turned out they were

important but it turned out they were

important but it turned out they were pretty important hmm you don’t know how

pretty important hmm you don’t know how

pretty important hmm you don’t know how your actions echo and so it matters what

your actions echo and so it matters what

your actions echo and so it matters what you do and and so part of what you do is

you do and and so part of what you do is

you do and and so part of what you do is you want to treat yourself as if what

you want to treat yourself as if what

you want to treat yourself as if what you do matters okay so if you’re

you do matters okay so if you’re

you do matters okay so if you’re suffering you are obligated in a sense

suffering you are obligated in a sense

suffering you are obligated in a sense to hold on to whatever rope someone

to hold on to whatever rope someone

to hold on to whatever rope someone throws you and one of the things I do

throws you and one of the things I do

throws you and one of the things I do with my clients all the time especially

with my clients all the time especially

with my clients all the time especially if they’re really in trouble is to tell

if they’re really in trouble is to tell

if they’re really in trouble is to tell them look I don’t know exactly what’s

them look I don’t know exactly what’s

them look I don’t know exactly what’s gonna have helped you but don’t

gonna have helped you but don’t

gonna have helped you but don’t arbitrarily throw out any possibilities

arbitrarily throw out any possibilities

arbitrarily throw out any possibilities because you might not have that

because you might not have that

because you might not have that three antidepressants help a lot of

three antidepressants help a lot of

three antidepressants help a lot of people and there are technical reasons

people and there are technical reasons

people and there are technical reasons why that’s the case so that’s a simple

why that’s the case so that’s a simple

why that’s the case so that’s a simple answer it’s not relevant to what I

answer it’s not relevant to what I

answer it’s not relevant to what I already described except that if you’re

already described except that if you’re

already described except that if you’re offered a gift by your society and it

offered a gift by your society and it

offered a gift by your society and it works try it I don’t care what your

works try it I don’t care what your

works try it I don’t care what your presuppositions are apart from that lots

presuppositions are apart from that lots

presuppositions are apart from that lots of the lots of time lots of the time you

of the lots of time lots of the time you

of the lots of time lots of the time you see people who are suffering with

see people who are suffering with

see people who are suffering with depression for example there’s a

depression for example there’s a

depression for example there’s a multitude of reasons but I’ll take one

multitude of reasons but I’ll take one

multitude of reasons but I’ll take one common reason you can think about it as

common reason you can think about it as

common reason you can think about it as associated with the story of Peter Pan a

associated with the story of Peter Pan a

associated with the story of Peter Pan a Peter Pan is someone who won’t grow up

Peter Pan is someone who won’t grow up

Peter Pan is someone who won’t grow up right now the problem with Peter Pan is

right now the problem with Peter Pan is

right now the problem with Peter Pan is he gets to be king but it’s king of

he gets to be king but it’s king of

he gets to be king but it’s king of Neverland

Neverland

Neverland Neverland doesn’t exist so being king of

Neverland doesn’t exist so being king of

Neverland doesn’t exist so being king of nothing isn’t that helpful well one of

nothing isn’t that helpful well one of

nothing isn’t that helpful well one of the things that you often see with

the things that you often see with

the things that you often see with people who suffer from depression and

people who suffer from depression and

people who suffer from depression and and I’m not making a blanket statement

and I’m not making a blanket statement

and I’m not making a blanket statement about the cause of depression because

about the cause of depression because

about the cause of depression because there’s lots of them is that people who

there’s lots of them is that people who

there’s lots of them is that people who don’t have enough order in their life

don’t have enough order in their life

don’t have enough order in their life tend to get overwhelmed so for example

tend to get overwhelmed so for example

tend to get overwhelmed so for example if someone comes into me and sees to see

if someone comes into me and sees to see

if someone comes into me and sees to see me and they say they’re depressed I

me and they say they’re depressed I

me and they say they’re depressed I always ask them a very standard set of

always ask them a very standard set of

always ask them a very standard set of questions I do have a job if you don’t

questions I do have a job if you don’t

questions I do have a job if you don’t have a job you’re really in trouble in

have a job you’re really in trouble in

have a job you’re really in trouble in our society first of all you your

our society first of all you your

our society first of all you your biological rhythms tend to go off the

biological rhythms tend to go off the

biological rhythms tend to go off the rails right away because there’s no

rails right away because there’s no

rails right away because there’s no reason to go to bed at any particular

reason to go to bed at any particular

reason to go to bed at any particular time and there’s no reason to get up and

time and there’s no reason to get up and

time and there’s no reason to get up and for many people if they don’t get up at

for many people if they don’t get up at

for many people if they don’t get up at the same time they follow up the

the same time they follow up the

the same time they follow up the functioning of their circadian rhythms

functioning of their circadian rhythms

functioning of their circadian rhythms and that’s enough to make them depressed

and that’s enough to make them depressed

and that’s enough to make them depressed right off the bat especially if they

right off the bat especially if they

right off the bat especially if they start napping during the afternoon they

start napping during the afternoon they

start napping during the afternoon they don’t also don’t have a purpose people

don’t also don’t have a purpose people

don’t also don’t have a purpose people aren’t good without a purpose and this

aren’t good without a purpose and this

aren’t good without a purpose and this isn’t this isn’t hypothesizing we

isn’t this isn’t hypothesizing we

isn’t this isn’t hypothesizing we absolutely understand the circuitry that

absolutely understand the circuitry that

absolutely understand the circuitry that underlies positive emotion when you’re

underlies positive emotion when you’re

underlies positive emotion when you’re attending to something you’re interested

attending to something you’re interested

attending to something you’re interested in and you’re engaged it that’s when

in and you’re engaged it that’s when

in and you’re engaged it that’s when you’re alive that’s when life is

you’re alive that’s when life is

you’re alive that’s when life is worthwhile it’s so worthwhile that in

worthwhile it’s so worthwhile that in

worthwhile it’s so worthwhile that in those moments you don’t even ask the

those moments you don’t even ask the

those moments you don’t even ask the question about it the question itself

question about it the question itself

question about it the question itself goes away because the meaning that

goes away because the meaning that

goes away because the meaning that you’re Li United with is so powerful

you’re Li United with is so powerful

you’re Li United with is so powerful that it can push back the adversity that

that it can push back the adversity that

that it can push back the adversity that would otherwise characterize life

would otherwise characterize life

would otherwise characterize life Nietzsche said the person who has a Y

Nietzsche said the person who has a Y

Nietzsche said the person who has a Y can bear anyhow we know how it works

can bear anyhow we know how it works

can bear anyhow we know how it works almost all the positive emotion that any

almost all the positive emotion that any

almost all the positive emotion that any of you are likely to experience in your

of you are likely to experience in your

of you are likely to experience in your life will not be a consequence of

life will not be a consequence of

life will not be a consequence of attaining things

attaining things

attaining things it will be a consequence of seeing that

it will be a consequence of seeing that

it will be a consequence of seeing that things are working as you proceed

things are working as you proceed

things are working as you proceed towards a goal you value that’s

towards a goal you value that’s

towards a goal you value that’s completely different and you need to

completely different and you need to

completely different and you need to know this because people are often

know this because people are often

know this because people are often stunned for example they finish their

stunned for example they finish their

stunned for example they finish their PhD thesis and their presupposition is

PhD thesis and their presupposition is

PhD thesis and their presupposition is that they’re going to be elated for a

that they’re going to be elated for a

that they’re going to be elated for a month and often instead they’re actually

month and often instead they’re actually

month and often instead they’re actually depressed and they think what the hell

depressed and they think what the hell

depressed and they think what the hell I’ve been working on this for seven

I’ve been working on this for seven

I’ve been working on this for seven years and I handed it in and what do I

years and I handed it in and what do I

years and I handed it in and what do I do now and that’s what depresses them

do now and that’s what depresses them

do now and that’s what depresses them right it’s the what do I do now well

right it’s the what do I do now well

right it’s the what do I do now well they’re fine if they enjoyed it

they’re fine if they enjoyed it

they’re fine if they enjoyed it pursuing the thing as long as it was

pursuing the thing as long as it was

pursuing the thing as long as it was working out they get a lot of enthusiasm

working out they get a lot of enthusiasm

working out they get a lot of enthusiasm and excitement because that’s how our

and excitement because that’s how our

and excitement because that’s how our nervous systems work most your positive

nervous systems work most your positive

nervous systems work most your positive emotion is bold pursuit emotion if you

emotion is bold pursuit emotion if you

emotion is bold pursuit emotion if you take drugs like cocaine or amphetamine

take drugs like cocaine or amphetamine

take drugs like cocaine or amphetamine the reason they’re enjoyable is because

the reason they’re enjoyable is because

the reason they’re enjoyable is because they turn on the systems that help you

they turn on the systems that help you

they turn on the systems that help you pursue goals that’s why people like them

pursue goals that’s why people like them

pursue goals that’s why people like them so if you don’t have a job you got no

so if you don’t have a job you got no

so if you don’t have a job you got no structure that’s not good

structure that’s not good

structure that’s not good plus you tend not to have a point so

plus you tend not to have a point so

plus you tend not to have a point so you’re overwhelmed by chaotic lack of

you’re overwhelmed by chaotic lack of

you’re overwhelmed by chaotic lack of structure and you don’t have any

structure and you don’t have any

structure and you don’t have any positive emotion assuming you want to

positive emotion assuming you want to

positive emotion assuming you want to get better there’s usually something you

get better there’s usually something you

get better there’s usually something you can figure out that would constitute a

can figure out that would constitute a

can figure out that would constitute a step towards some sort of concrete goal

step towards some sort of concrete goal

step towards some sort of concrete goal and my presumption it’s a behavioral

and my presumption it’s a behavioral

and my presumption it’s a behavioral presumptions fundamentally is that small

presumptions fundamentally is that small

presumptions fundamentally is that small accruing gains that repeat unbelievably

accruing gains that repeat unbelievably

accruing gains that repeat unbelievably powerful

powerful

powerful you can Terran eyes yourself into doing

you can Terran eyes yourself into doing

you can Terran eyes yourself into doing things but I wouldn’t recommend it what

things but I wouldn’t recommend it what

things but I wouldn’t recommend it what I would recommend instead is that you

I would recommend instead is that you

I would recommend instead is that you ask yourself what you’re willing to do

ask yourself what you’re willing to do

ask yourself what you’re willing to do it’s a really effective technique it’s

it’s a really effective technique it’s

it’s a really effective technique it’s like a meditative technique so for

like a meditative technique so for

like a meditative technique so for example you can get up in the morning

example you can get up in the morning

example you can get up in the morning you can think well you know I’d like to

you can think well you know I’d like to

you can think well you know I’d like to have a good day today so I’d like to go

have a good day today so I’d like to go

have a good day today so I’d like to go to bed tonight without feeling guilty

to bed tonight without feeling guilty

to bed tonight without feeling guilty because I you know didn’t do some things

because I you know didn’t do some things

because I you know didn’t do some things I said I was gonna do and I you know I’d

I said I was gonna do and I you know I’d

I said I was gonna do and I you know I’d like to have kind of an interesting day

like to have kind of an interesting day

like to have kind of an interesting day so you gotta fulfill my responsibilities

so you gotta fulfill my responsibilities

so you gotta fulfill my responsibilities and I want to you know enjoy the day

and I want to you know enjoy the day

and I want to you know enjoy the day then you can ask yourself well okay what

then you can ask yourself well okay what

then you can ask yourself well okay what would I have to do in order for that to

would I have to do in order for that to

would I have to do in order for that to happen that I would do and the

happen that I would do and the

happen that I would do and the probability if you practice this for

probability if you practice this for

probability if you practice this for three or four days is your brain will

three or four days is your brain will

three or four days is your brain will just tell you say well you know there’s

just tell you say well you know there’s

just tell you say well you know there’s that piece of homework that yeah I’m

that piece of homework that yeah I’m

that piece of homework that yeah I’m done for like three weeks you should

done for like three weeks you should

done for like three weeks you should knock that sucker off because it would

knock that sucker off because it would

knock that sucker off because it would only take you ten minutes and you’ve

only take you ten minutes and you’ve

only take you ten minutes and you’ve been avoiding it and torturing yourself

been avoiding it and torturing yourself

been avoiding it and torturing yourself to death for you know like like 72 hours

to death for you know like like 72 hours

to death for you know like like 72 hours straight and say well let’s figure out

straight and say well let’s figure out

straight and say well let’s figure out what your aims are you got to have some

what your aims are you got to have some

what your aims are you got to have some aims whatever they are and they might

aims whatever they are and they might

aims whatever they are and they might say well I’m so depressed I don’t have

say well I’m so depressed I don’t have

say well I’m so depressed I don’t have any aims and then I say well pick the

any aims and then I say well pick the

any aims and then I say well pick the least objectionable of the aims and act

least objectionable of the aims and act

least objectionable of the aims and act it out for a while and see what happens

it out for a while and see what happens

it out for a while and see what happens because sometimes your emotions

because sometimes your emotions

because sometimes your emotions your emotional systems are so fouled up

your emotional systems are so fouled up

your emotional systems are so fouled up that you have to pretend you have to act

that you have to pretend you have to act

that you have to pretend you have to act the thing out before you can start to

the thing out before you can start to

the thing out before you can start to believe it you know there are remarkable

believe it you know there are remarkable

believe it you know there are remarkable people who come into the world from time

people who come into the world from time

people who come into the world from time to time and there are people who do find

to time and there are people who do find

to time and there are people who do find out over decades long periods what they

out over decades long periods what they

out over decades long periods what they could be like if they were who they were

could be like if they were who they were

could be like if they were who they were if they spoke their being forward and

if they spoke their being forward and

if they spoke their being forward and they be get stronger and stronger and

they be get stronger and stronger and

they be get stronger and stronger and stronger and we don’t know the limits to

stronger and we don’t know the limits to

stronger and we don’t know the limits to that we do not know the limits to that

that we do not know the limits to that

that we do not know the limits to that probably running at about 51 percent of

probably running at about 51 percent of

probably running at about 51 percent of our capacity something mean you can

our capacity something mean you can

our capacity something mean you can think about this yourselves I often ask

think about this yourselves I often ask

think about this yourselves I often ask undergraduates how many hours a day you

undergraduates how many hours a day you

undergraduates how many hours a day you waste or how many hours a week you waste

waste or how many hours a week you waste

waste or how many hours a week you waste and the classic answer is something like

and the classic answer is something like

and the classic answer is something like 4 to 6 hours a day you know in efficient

4 to 6 hours a day you know in efficient

4 to 6 hours a day you know in efficient studying watching things on YouTube that

studying watching things on YouTube that

studying watching things on YouTube that not only do you not want to watch that

not only do you not want to watch that

not only do you not want to watch that you don’t even care about that make you

you don’t even care about that make you

you don’t even care about that make you feel horrible about watching after

feel horrible about watching after

feel horrible about watching after you’re done that’s probably for hours

you’re done that’s probably for hours

you’re done that’s probably for hours right there know it you think well

right there know it you think well

right there know it you think well that’s 2025 hours a week it’s a hundred

that’s 2025 hours a week it’s a hundred

that’s 2025 hours a week it’s a hundred hours a month that’s two and a half full

hours a month that’s two and a half full

hours a month that’s two and a half full work weeks it’s half a year of work

work weeks it’s half a year of work

work weeks it’s half a year of work weeks per year and so if your life isn’t

weeks per year and so if your life isn’t

weeks per year and so if your life isn’t everything it could be you could ask

everything it could be you could ask

everything it could be you could ask yourself well what would happen if you

yourself well what would happen if you

yourself well what would happen if you just stopped wasting the opportunities

just stopped wasting the opportunities

just stopped wasting the opportunities that are in front of you you be who

that are in front of you you be who

that are in front of you you be who knows how much more efficient 10 times

knows how much more efficient 10 times

knows how much more efficient 10 times more efficient 20 times more efficient

more efficient 20 times more efficient

more efficient 20 times more efficient that’s the Pareto distribution you have

that’s the Pareto distribution you have

that’s the Pareto distribution you have no idea how efficient efficient people

no idea how efficient efficient people

no idea how efficient efficient people get it’s completely it’s off the charts

get it’s completely it’s off the charts

get it’s completely it’s off the charts it’s not so obvious to me that people

it’s not so obvious to me that people

it’s not so obvious to me that people would take the meaningful path now when

would take the meaningful path now when

would take the meaningful path now when you say well nihilist suffered

you say well nihilist suffered

you say well nihilist suffered dreadfully because there’s no meaning in

dreadfully because there’s no meaning in

dreadfully because there’s no meaning in their life and they still suffer yeah

their life and they still suffer yeah

their life and they still suffer yeah but the advantages they have no

but the advantages they have no

but the advantages they have no responsibility so that’s the payoff and

responsibility so that’s the payoff and

responsibility so that’s the payoff and I actually think that’s the motivation

I actually think that’s the motivation

I actually think that’s the motivation say well I can’t help being nihilistic

say well I can’t help being nihilistic

say well I can’t help being nihilistic all my belief systems have collapsed

all my belief systems have collapsed

all my belief systems have collapsed it’s like yeah maybe maybe you’ve just

it’s like yeah maybe maybe you’ve just

it’s like yeah maybe maybe you’ve just allowed them to collapse because it’s a

allowed them to collapse because it’s a

allowed them to collapse because it’s a hell of a lot easier than acting them

hell of a lot easier than acting them

hell of a lot easier than acting them out and the price you pay is some

out and the price you pay is some

out and the price you pay is some meaningless suffering but you can always

meaningless suffering but you can always

meaningless suffering but you can always whine about that and people will feel

whine about that and people will feel

whine about that and people will feel sorry for you if you live a pathological

sorry for you if you live a pathological

sorry for you if you live a pathological life you pathologize your society and if

life you pathologize your society and if

life you pathologize your society and if enough people do that then it’s hell

enough people do that then it’s hell

enough people do that then it’s hell you’re asked to outline the place you’d

you’re asked to outline the place you’d

you’re asked to outline the place you’d like to end up which is your desired

like to end up which is your desired

like to end up which is your desired future and also the place that you could

future and also the place that you could

future and also the place that you could end up if you let everything fall apart

end up if you let everything fall apart

end up if you let everything fall apart is so that your anxiety cases

is so that your anxiety cases

is so that your anxiety cases you and your approach systems pull you

you and your approach systems pull you

you and your approach systems pull you forward your maximally motivated debt

forward your maximally motivated debt

forward your maximally motivated debt and it’s important because otherwise you

and it’s important because otherwise you

and it’s important because otherwise you can be afraid of pursuing the things

can be afraid of pursuing the things

can be afraid of pursuing the things that you want to pursue right and that’s

that you want to pursue right and that’s

that you want to pursue right and that’s very common and so then the fear

very common and so then the fear

very common and so then the fear inhibits you as the promise pulls you

inhibits you as the promise pulls you

inhibits you as the promise pulls you forward but it makes you weak because

forward but it makes you weak because

forward but it makes you weak because you’re afraid you want to get your fear

you’re afraid you want to get your fear

you’re afraid you want to get your fear behind you pushing you and so what you

behind you pushing you and so what you

behind you pushing you and so what you want to be is afraid more afraid of not

want to be is afraid more afraid of not

want to be is afraid more afraid of not pursuing your goals then you are of

pursuing your goals then you are of

pursuing your goals then you are of pursuing them putting yourself in a

pursuing them putting yourself in a

pursuing them putting yourself in a challenging mind frame is much better

challenging mind frame is much better

challenging mind frame is much better much easier on you cycle physiologically

much easier on you cycle physiologically

much easier on you cycle physiologically because you don’t produce you don’t go

because you don’t produce you don’t go

because you don’t produce you don’t go into the generalized stress response to

into the generalized stress response to

into the generalized stress response to the same degree and you’re activating

the same degree and you’re activating

the same degree and you’re activating your exploratory and seeking systems

your exploratory and seeking systems

your exploratory and seeking systems which are dopaminergic Lee mediated and

which are dopaminergic Lee mediated and

which are dopaminergic Lee mediated and that involve positive emotion so if you

that involve positive emotion so if you

that involve positive emotion so if you can face something voluntarily rather

can face something voluntarily rather

can face something voluntarily rather than having to chase you it’s way better

than having to chase you it’s way better

than having to chase you it’s way better for you cycle physiologically so that’s

for you cycle physiologically so that’s

for you cycle physiologically so that’s partly why well it’s worthwhile to go

partly why well it’s worthwhile to go

partly why well it’s worthwhile to go find the dragon in its lair instead of

find the dragon in its lair instead of

find the dragon in its lair instead of waiting for it to come and eat you so

waiting for it to come and eat you so

waiting for it to come and eat you so and especially when you also add the

and especially when you also add the

and especially when you also add the idea that if you go find the dragon in

idea that if you go find the dragon in

idea that if you go find the dragon in its lair you might find it when it’s a

its lair you might find it when it’s a

its lair you might find it when it’s a baby instead of a full fledged bloody

baby instead of a full fledged bloody

baby instead of a full fledged bloody monster that is definitely gonna take

monster that is definitely gonna take

monster that is definitely gonna take you down don’t avoid small problems that

you down don’t avoid small problems that

you down don’t avoid small problems that you know are there face them because

you know are there face them because

you know are there face them because they’ll grow into big problems all by

they’ll grow into big problems all by

they’ll grow into big problems all by themselves and you can think about

themselves and you can think about

themselves and you can think about imagine the tax department sends you a

imagine the tax department sends you a

imagine the tax department sends you a notification you owe them like three

notification you owe them like three

notification you owe them like three hundred dollars well it’s you know

hundred dollars well it’s you know

hundred dollars well it’s you know that’s annoying maybe you don’t even

that’s annoying maybe you don’t even

that’s annoying maybe you don’t even want to open the letter or maybe if you

want to open the letter or maybe if you

want to open the letter or maybe if you do you just put it on the shelf but that

do you just put it on the shelf but that

do you just put it on the shelf but that damn thing doesn’t just sit there like a

damn thing doesn’t just sit there like a

damn thing doesn’t just sit there like a piece of paper on the Shelf right you

piece of paper on the Shelf right you

piece of paper on the Shelf right you ignore that for five or six years it’s

ignore that for five or six years it’s

ignore that for five or six years it’s gonna become attached to all sorts of

gonna become attached to all sorts of

gonna become attached to all sorts of horrible things and if you ignore it

horrible things and if you ignore it

horrible things and if you ignore it long enough you get the idea it’s gonna

long enough you get the idea it’s gonna

long enough you get the idea it’s gonna turn into something that is completely

turn into something that is completely

turn into something that is completely unlike the little piece of paper that

unlike the little piece of paper that

unlike the little piece of paper that it’s written on and and many many

it’s written on and and many many

it’s written on and and many many problems in life are like that you’ll

problems in life are like that you’ll

problems in life are like that you’ll see they’ll you’ll see that they pop

see they’ll you’ll see that they pop

see they’ll you’ll see that they pop their ugly little head up and you know

their ugly little head up and you know

their ugly little head up and you know and you might want to turn away might

and you might want to turn away might

and you might want to turn away might not to want not want to think about it

not to want not want to think about it

not to want not want to think about it which is the easiest way of turning away

which is the easiest way of turning away

which is the easiest way of turning away right you just don’t attend to it you

right you just don’t attend to it you

right you just don’t attend to it you know if you could have your life the way

know if you could have your life the way

know if you could have your life the way you wanted it in three to five years if

you wanted it in three to five years if

you wanted it in three to five years if you were taking care of yourself

you were taking care of yourself

you were taking care of yourself properly you know what would you want

properly you know what would you want

properly you know what would you want from your friendships what

from your friendships what

from your friendships what want from your intimate relationship how

want from your intimate relationship how

want from your intimate relationship how would you like to structure your family

would you like to structure your family

would you like to structure your family what do you want for your career well

what do you want for your career well

what do you want for your career well how are you going to use your time

how are you going to use your time

how are you going to use your time outside of your job and how are you

outside of your job and how are you

outside of your job and how are you gonna regulate your mental physical

gonna regulate your mental physical

gonna regulate your mental physical mental and physical health and maybe

mental and physical health and maybe

mental and physical health and maybe also your drug and alcohol use because

also your drug and alcohol use because

also your drug and alcohol use because that’s that’s a good place to auger down

that’s that’s a good place to auger down

that’s that’s a good place to auger down you know because alcoholism for example

you know because alcoholism for example

you know because alcoholism for example wipes out you know five to ten percent

wipes out you know five to ten percent

wipes out you know five to ten percent of people so you want to keep that under

of people so you want to keep that under

of people so you want to keep that under control and then and then so maybe you

control and then and then so maybe you

control and then and then so maybe you know you you you develop a vision of

know you you you develop a vision of

know you you you develop a vision of what your life what you would like your

what your life what you would like your

what your life what you would like your life to be and that associates the so

life to be and that associates the so

life to be and that associates the so the goal well once the goal is

the goal well once the goal is

the goal well once the goal is established and then you break down the

established and then you break down the

established and then you break down the goal into micro processes that you could

goal into micro processes that you could

goal into micro processes that you could implement the micro process has become

implement the micro process has become

implement the micro process has become rewarding in relation to their causal

rewarding in relation to their causal

rewarding in relation to their causal association with the goal and that

association with the goal and that

association with the goal and that tangles in your your incentive reward

tangles in your your incentive reward

tangles in your your incentive reward system and that’s the thing that keeps

system and that’s the thing that keeps

system and that’s the thing that keeps you moving forward and the way it works

you moving forward and the way it works

you moving forward and the way it works is that it works better if it produces

is that it works better if it produces

is that it works better if it produces positive emotion win it can see you

positive emotion win it can see you

positive emotion win it can see you moving towards a valued goal okay well

moving towards a valued goal okay well

moving towards a valued goal okay well what’s the implication of that better

what’s the implication of that better

what’s the implication of that better have a valued goal because otherwise you

have a valued goal because otherwise you

have a valued goal because otherwise you can’t get any positive motivation

can’t get any positive motivation

can’t get any positive motivation working out and so the more valuable the

working out and so the more valuable the

working out and so the more valuable the goal in principle the more the micro

goal in principle the more the micro

goal in principle the more the micro process is associated with that goal

process is associated with that goal

process is associated with that goal start to take on a positive charge and

start to take on a positive charge and

start to take on a positive charge and so what that means is well you get up in

so what that means is well you get up in

so what that means is well you get up in the morning and you’re excited about the

the morning and you’re excited about the

the morning and you’re excited about the day you’re ready to go and so as far as

day you’re ready to go and so as far as

day you’re ready to go and so as far as I can tell what you do is you specify

I can tell what you do is you specify

I can tell what you do is you specify your long term ideal maybe you also

your long term ideal maybe you also

your long term ideal maybe you also specify a place you want to stay the

specify a place you want to stay the

specify a place you want to stay the hell away from so that you’re terrified

hell away from so that you’re terrified

hell away from so that you’re terrified to fail as well as excited about

to fail as well as excited about

to fail as well as excited about succeeding because that’s also useful

succeeding because that’s also useful

succeeding because that’s also useful you specify your goal you do that you do

you specify your goal you do that you do

you specify your goal you do that you do that in some sense as a unique

that in some sense as a unique

that in some sense as a unique individual you want to you want to

individual you want to you want to

individual you want to you want to specify goals that make you say oh if

specify goals that make you say oh if

specify goals that make you say oh if that could happen as a consequence of my

that could happen as a consequence of my

that could happen as a consequence of my efforts it would clearly be worthwhile

efforts it would clearly be worthwhile

efforts it would clearly be worthwhile because the question always is why do

because the question always is why do

because the question always is why do something because doing nothing is easy

something because doing nothing is easy

something because doing nothing is easy you just sit there and you don’t do

you just sit there and you don’t do

you just sit there and you don’t do anything that’s real easy the question

anything that’s real easy the question

anything that’s real easy the question is why would you ever do anything and

is why would you ever do anything and

is why would you ever do anything and the answer that has to be because you’ve

the answer that has to be because you’ve

the answer that has to be because you’ve determined by some means that it’s

determined by some means that it’s

determined by some means that it’s worthwhile number one specify your damn

worthwhile number one specify your damn

worthwhile number one specify your damn goals because how are you going to hit

goals because how are you going to hit

goals because how are you going to hit something if you don’t know what it is

something if you don’t know what it is

something if you don’t know what it is that isn’t going to happen and often

that isn’t going to happen and often

that isn’t going to happen and often people won’t specify their goals too

people won’t specify their goals too

people won’t specify their goals too because they don’t like to specify

because they don’t like to specify

because they don’t like to specify conditions for failure so if you keep

conditions for failure so if you keep

conditions for failure so if you keep yourself

yourself

yourself vague and foggy which is real easy

vague and foggy which is real easy

vague and foggy which is real easy because that’s just a matter of not

because that’s just a matter of not

because that’s just a matter of not doing as well then you don’t know when

doing as well then you don’t know when

doing as well then you don’t know when you fail and people might say well I

you fail and people might say well I

you fail and people might say well I really don’t want to know when I fail

really don’t want to know when I fail

really don’t want to know when I fail because that’s painful so I’ll keep

because that’s painful so I’ll keep

because that’s painful so I’ll keep myself blind about when I fail that’s

myself blind about when I fail that’s

myself blind about when I fail that’s fine except you’ll fail all the time

fine except you’ll fail all the time

fine except you’ll fail all the time then you just won’t know it until you’ve

then you just won’t know it until you’ve

then you just won’t know it until you’ve failed so badly that you’re done okay so

failed so badly that you’re done okay so

failed so badly that you’re done okay so once you get your goal structure set up

once you get your goal structure set up

once you get your goal structure set up you think okay if I could have this life

you think okay if I could have this life

you think okay if I could have this life looks like that might be worth living

looks like that might be worth living

looks like that might be worth living despite the fact that it’s going to be

despite the fact that it’s going to be

despite the fact that it’s going to be you know anxiety provoking and

you know anxiety provoking and

you know anxiety provoking and threatening and there’s gonna be some

threatening and there’s gonna be some

threatening and there’s gonna be some suffering and loss involved in all of

suffering and loss involved in all of

suffering and loss involved in all of that obviously the goal is to have a

that obviously the goal is to have a

that obviously the goal is to have a vision for your life such that all

vision for your life such that all

vision for your life such that all things considered that justifies your

things considered that justifies your

things considered that justifies your effort okay so then what do you do well

effort okay so then what do you do well

effort okay so then what do you do well then then you turn down to the micro

then then you turn down to the micro

then then you turn down to the micro routines it’s like okay well this is

routines it’s like okay well this is

routines it’s like okay well this is what I’m aiming for how does that

what I’m aiming for how does that

what I’m aiming for how does that instantiate itself day to day week to

instantiate itself day to day week to

instantiate itself day to day week to week month to month and that’s where

week month to month and that’s where

week month to month and that’s where something like a schedule can be

something like a schedule can be

something like a schedule can be unbelievably useful Google Calendar it’s

unbelievably useful Google Calendar it’s

unbelievably useful Google Calendar it’s like naked am schedule and stick to it

like naked am schedule and stick to it

like naked am schedule and stick to it okay so what’s the rule with the

okay so what’s the rule with the

okay so what’s the rule with the schedule it’s not a bloody prison that’s

schedule it’s not a bloody prison that’s

schedule it’s not a bloody prison that’s the first thing that people do wrong is

the first thing that people do wrong is

the first thing that people do wrong is say well I don’t like to have follow a

say well I don’t like to have follow a

say well I don’t like to have follow a schedule it’s like well what kind of

schedule it’s like well what kind of

schedule it’s like well what kind of schedule are you setting up well I

schedule are you setting up well I

schedule are you setting up well I should I have to do this then I have to

should I have to do this then I have to

should I have to do this then I have to do this then I have to do this you know

do this then I have to do this you know

do this then I have to do this you know and then I just go play video games

and then I just go play video games

and then I just go play video games because who wants to do all these things

because who wants to do all these things

because who wants to do all these things that I have to do

that I have to do

that I have to do it’s like wrong set the damn schedule up

it’s like wrong set the damn schedule up

it’s like wrong set the damn schedule up so that you have the day you want what’s

so that you have the day you want what’s

so that you have the day you want what’s the right ratio of responsibility to

the right ratio of responsibility to

the right ratio of responsibility to reward and you can ask yourself that

reward and you can ask yourself that

reward and you can ask yourself that just like you’d negotiate with someone

just like you’d negotiate with someone

just like you’d negotiate with someone who is working for you it’s like okay

who is working for you it’s like okay

who is working for you it’s like okay guy work tomorrow okay so I want you to

guy work tomorrow okay so I want you to

guy work tomorrow okay so I want you to work tomorrow and you might say okay

work tomorrow and you might say okay

work tomorrow and you might say okay well what are you gonna do for me that

well what are you gonna do for me that

well what are you gonna do for me that makes it likely that I’ll work for you

makes it likely that I’ll work for you

makes it likely that I’ll work for you well you could ask yourself that you

well you could ask yourself that you

well you could ask yourself that you know maybe you do an hour of

know maybe you do an hour of

know maybe you do an hour of responsibility and then you play a video

responsibility and then you play a video

responsibility and then you play a video game for 15 minutes I don’t know

game for 15 minutes I don’t know

game for 15 minutes I don’t know whatever turns your crank man but you

whatever turns your crank man but you

whatever turns your crank man but you know you have to negotiate with yourself

know you have to negotiate with yourself

know you have to negotiate with yourself and not tyrannize yourself like you’re

and not tyrannize yourself like you’re

and not tyrannize yourself like you’re negotiating with someone that you care

negotiating with someone that you care

negotiating with someone that you care for that you would like to be productive

for that you would like to be productive

for that you would like to be productive and have a good life and and that’s how

and have a good life and and that’s how

and have a good life and and that’s how you make the schedule it’s like and then

you make the schedule it’s like and then

you make the schedule it’s like and then you look at the day and you think well

you look at the day and you think well

you look at the day and you think well if I had that day that would be good

if I had that day that would be good

if I had that day that would be good great you know and you you’re useless

great you know and you you’re useless

great you know and you you’re useless and horrible so you’ll probably only hit

and horrible so you’ll probably only hit

and horrible so you’ll probably only hit it with about 70% accuracy

it with about 70% accuracy

it with about 70% accuracy but that beats the hell out of zero

but that beats the hell out of zero

but that beats the hell out of zero right and if you hit it even with 50%

right and if you hit it even with 50%

right and if you hit it even with 50% accuracy another rule is well aim for

accuracy another rule is well aim for

accuracy another rule is well aim for 51% the next week or 50 and a half

51% the next week or 50 and a half

51% the next week or 50 and a half percent for God’s sake or because you’re

percent for God’s sake or because you’re

percent for God’s sake or because you’re gonna hit that position where things

gonna hit that position where things

gonna hit that position where things start to loop back positively and spiral

start to loop back positively and spiral

start to loop back positively and spiral you upward and so so that’s one way that

you upward and so so that’s one way that

you upward and so so that’s one way that you can work on your conscientiousness

you can work on your conscientiousness

you can work on your conscientiousness it’s a plan of life you’d like to have

it’s a plan of life you’d like to have

it’s a plan of life you’d like to have the other way you do that is by having a

the other way you do that is by having a

the other way you do that is by having a little conversation with yourself about

little conversation with yourself about

little conversation with yourself about as if you don’t really know who you are

as if you don’t really know who you are

as if you don’t really know who you are because you know what you like you won’t

because you know what you like you won’t

because you know what you like you won’t do what you’re told you won’t do what

do what you’re told you won’t do what

do what you’re told you won’t do what you tell yourself to do you must have

you tell yourself to do you must have

you tell yourself to do you must have noticed that it’s like you’re a bad

noticed that it’s like you’re a bad

noticed that it’s like you’re a bad employee and a worse boss and both of

employee and a worse boss and both of

employee and a worse boss and both of those work you know for you you don’t

those work you know for you you don’t

those work you know for you you don’t know what you want to do and then when

know what you want to do and then when

know what you want to do and then when you tell yourself what to do you don’t

you tell yourself what to do you don’t

you tell yourself what to do you don’t do it anyways you should fire yourself

do it anyways you should fire yourself

do it anyways you should fire yourself and find someone else to beat but but

and find someone else to beat but but

and find someone else to beat but but you know my point is is that you have to

you know my point is is that you have to

you know my point is is that you have to understand that you’re not your own

understand that you’re not your own

understand that you’re not your own servant so to speak you’re someone that

servant so to speak you’re someone that

servant so to speak you’re someone that you have to negotiate with and that’s

you have to negotiate with and that’s

you have to negotiate with and that’s and you’re someone that you want to

and you’re someone that you want to

and you’re someone that you want to present the opportunity of having a good

present the opportunity of having a good

present the opportunity of having a good life to and that’s hard for people

life to and that’s hard for people

life to and that’s hard for people because they don’t like themselves very

because they don’t like themselves very

because they don’t like themselves very much so you know they’re always like

much so you know they’re always like

much so you know they’re always like cracking the whip and then

cracking the whip and then

cracking the whip and then procrastinating and cracking the whip

procrastinating and cracking the whip

procrastinating and cracking the whip and then procrastinating and it’s like

and then procrastinating and it’s like

and then procrastinating and it’s like god it’s so boring and such a pathetic

god it’s so boring and such a pathetic

god it’s so boring and such a pathetic way of spending your time and you know

way of spending your time and you know

way of spending your time and you know what that’s like because you probably

what that’s like because you probably

what that’s like because you probably waste like six hours a day and I think

waste like six hours a day and I think

waste like six hours a day and I think we did an economic calculation about

we did an economic calculation about

we did an economic calculation about that a while back right your time is

that a while back right your time is

that a while back right your time is probably worth 50 bucks an hour

probably worth 50 bucks an hour

probably worth 50 bucks an hour something like that I mean you’re not

something like that I mean you’re not

something like that I mean you’re not getting paid that now but you’re young

getting paid that now but you’re young

getting paid that now but you’re young and so this is investment time and what

and so this is investment time and what

and so this is investment time and what you do now is going to multiply its

you do now is going to multiply its

you do now is going to multiply its effects in the future so so let’s say

effects in the future so so let’s say

effects in the future so so let’s say it’s 50 bucks an hour which is perfectly

it’s 50 bucks an hour which is perfectly

it’s 50 bucks an hour which is perfectly reasonable so if you waste six hours a

reasonable so if you waste six hours a

reasonable so if you waste six hours a day and you are then you’re wasting

day and you are then you’re wasting

day and you are then you’re wasting about two thousand dollars a week or

about two thousand dollars a week or

about two thousand dollars a week or about $100,000 a year so like go ahead

about $100,000 a year so like go ahead

about $100,000 a year so like go ahead but that’s what it’s costing you every

but that’s what it’s costing you every

but that’s what it’s costing you every hour and you need to know what your damn

hour and you need to know what your damn

hour and you need to know what your damn time is worth so let’s say it’s not 50

time is worth so let’s say it’s not 50

time is worth so let’s say it’s not 50 bucks it’s 30 whatever maybe it’s a

bucks it’s 30 whatever maybe it’s a

bucks it’s 30 whatever maybe it’s a hundred it’s somewhere in that range

hundred it’s somewhere in that range

hundred it’s somewhere in that range one of the things you should be asking

one of the things you should be asking

one of the things you should be asking yourself is when you spend an hour was

yourself is when you spend an hour was

yourself is when you spend an hour was that well what have I paid someone 50

that well what have I paid someone 50

that well what have I paid someone 50 bucks to have had that hour and if the

bucks to have had that hour and if the

bucks to have had that hour and if the answer is no it’s like well maybe you

answer is no it’s like well maybe you

answer is no it’s like well maybe you should do something else with your time

should do something else with your time

should do something else with your time and it depends on whether or not you

and it depends on whether or not you

and it depends on whether or not you think that your time is worthwhile

think that your time is worthwhile

think that your time is worthwhile but the funny thing about not assuming

but the funny thing about not assuming

but the funny thing about not assuming that is if you assume your time isn’t

that is if you assume your time isn’t

that is if you assume your time isn’t worthwhile what happens is you don’t

worthwhile what happens is you don’t

worthwhile what happens is you don’t just sit around sort of randomly in a

just sit around sort of randomly in a

just sit around sort of randomly in a state of responsibility list bliss what

state of responsibility list bliss what

state of responsibility list bliss what you do is you suffer existentially and

you do is you suffer existentially and

you do is you suffer existentially and so that seems like a stupid solution

good damned schedule and stick to it

good damned schedule and stick to it okay so what’s the rule with the

okay so what’s the rule with the

okay so what’s the rule with the schedule it’s not a bloody prison that’s

schedule it’s not a bloody prison that’s

schedule it’s not a bloody prison that’s the first thing that people do wrong is

the first thing that people do wrong is

the first thing that people do wrong is say well I don’t like to have to follow

say well I don’t like to have to follow

say well I don’t like to have to follow a schedule it’s like well what kind of

a schedule it’s like well what kind of

a schedule it’s like well what kind of schedule are you setting up well I

schedule are you setting up well I

schedule are you setting up well I should I have to do this then I have to

should I have to do this then I have to

should I have to do this then I have to do this then I have to do this you know

do this then I have to do this you know

do this then I have to do this you know and then I just go play video games

and then I just go play video games

and then I just go play video games because who wants to do all these things

because who wants to do all these things

because who wants to do all these things that I have to do

that I have to do

that I have to do it’s like wrong set the damn schedule up

it’s like wrong set the damn schedule up

it’s like wrong set the damn schedule up so that you have the day you want that’s

so that you have the day you want that’s

so that you have the day you want that’s the trick it’s like okay I’ve got

the trick it’s like okay I’ve got

the trick it’s like okay I’ve got tomorrow if I was gonna set it up so it

tomorrow if I was gonna set it up so it

tomorrow if I was gonna set it up so it was the best possible day I could have

was the best possible day I could have

was the best possible day I could have practically speaking what would it look

practically speaking what would it look

practically speaking what would it look like well then you schedule that and

like well then you schedule that and

like well then you schedule that and obviously there’s a bit of

obviously there’s a bit of

obviously there’s a bit of responsibility that’s gonna go along

responsibility that’s gonna go along

responsibility that’s gonna go along with that because if you have any sense

with that because if you have any sense

with that because if you have any sense one of the things that you’re gonna

one of the things that you’re gonna

one of the things that you’re gonna insist upon is that at the end of the

insist upon is that at the end of the

insist upon is that at the end of the day you’re not in worse shape than you

day you’re not in worse shape than you

day you’re not in worse shape than you were then then at the beginning of the

were then then at the beginning of the

were then then at the beginning of the day right that’s a stupid day if you

day right that’s a stupid day if you

day right that’s a stupid day if you have a bunch of those in a row you just

have a bunch of those in a row you just

have a bunch of those in a row you just dig you know you dig yourself a hole and

dig you know you dig yourself a hole and

dig you know you dig yourself a hole and then you bury yourself in it’s like

then you bury yourself in it’s like

then you bury yourself in it’s like sorry that’s just not a good strategy

sorry that’s just not a good strategy

sorry that’s just not a good strategy it’s a bad strategy

it’s a bad strategy

it’s a bad strategy so maybe 20% of your day has to be

so maybe 20% of your day has to be

so maybe 20% of your day has to be responsibility and obligation or maybe

responsibility and obligation or maybe

responsibility and obligation or maybe it’s more than that depending on how far

it’s more than that depending on how far

it’s more than that depending on how far behind you are but even that you can you

behind you are but even that you can you

behind you are but even that you can you can ask yourself okay well I’ve got

can ask yourself okay well I’ve got

can ask yourself okay well I’ve got these responsibilities I have to

these responsibilities I have to

these responsibilities I have to schedule the damn things in what’s the

schedule the damn things in what’s the

schedule the damn things in what’s the right ratio of responsibility to reward

right ratio of responsibility to reward

right ratio of responsibility to reward and you can ask yourself that just like

and you can ask yourself that just like

and you can ask yourself that just like you’d negotiate with someone who is

you’d negotiate with someone who is

you’d negotiate with someone who is working for you it’s like okay you gotta

working for you it’s like okay you gotta

working for you it’s like okay you gotta work tomorrow okay so I want you to work

work tomorrow okay so I want you to work

work tomorrow okay so I want you to work tomorrow and you might say okay well

tomorrow and you might say okay well

tomorrow and you might say okay well what are you gonna do for me that makes

what are you gonna do for me that makes

what are you gonna do for me that makes it likely that I’ll work for you well

it likely that I’ll work for you well

it likely that I’ll work for you well you could ask yourself that you know

you could ask yourself that you know

you could ask yourself that you know maybe you do an hour of responsibility

maybe you do an hour of responsibility

maybe you do an hour of responsibility and then you play a video game for 15

and then you play a video game for 15

and then you play a video game for 15 minutes I don’t know whatever turns your

minutes I don’t know whatever turns your

minutes I don’t know whatever turns your crank man but you know you have to

crank man but you know you have to

crank man but you know you have to negotiate with yourself and not

negotiate with yourself and not

negotiate with yourself and not tyrannize yourself like you’re

tyrannize yourself like you’re

tyrannize yourself like you’re negotiating with someone that you care

negotiating with someone that you care

negotiating with someone that you care for that

for that

for that would like to be productive and have a

would like to be productive and have a

would like to be productive and have a good life and and that’s how you make

good life and and that’s how you make

good life and and that’s how you make the schedule it’s like and then you look

the schedule it’s like and then you look

the schedule it’s like and then you look at the day and you think well if I had

at the day and you think well if I had

at the day and you think well if I had that day that’d be good great you know

that day that’d be good great you know

that day that’d be good great you know and you you’re useless and horrible so

and you you’re useless and horrible so

and you you’re useless and horrible so you’ll probably only hit it with about

you’ll probably only hit it with about

you’ll probably only hit it with about 70% accuracy but that beats the hell out

70% accuracy but that beats the hell out

70% accuracy but that beats the hell out of zero right and if you hit it even

of zero right and if you hit it even

of zero right and if you hit it even with 50% accuracy another rule is well

with 50% accuracy another rule is well

with 50% accuracy another rule is well aim for 51% the next week or 50 and a

aim for 51% the next week or 50 and a

aim for 51% the next week or 50 and a half percent for God’s sake or because

half percent for God’s sake or because

half percent for God’s sake or because you’re gonna hit that position where

you’re gonna hit that position where

you’re gonna hit that position where things start to loop back positively and

things start to loop back positively and

things start to loop back positively and spiral you up stop doing the things that

spiral you up stop doing the things that

spiral you up stop doing the things that you know are wrong that you could stop

you know are wrong that you could stop

you know are wrong that you could stop doing right so it’s it’s a fairly it’s a

doing right so it’s it’s a fairly it’s a

doing right so it’s it’s a fairly it’s a fairly limited attempt first of all

fairly limited attempt first of all

fairly limited attempt first of all we’re not going to say that you know

we’re not going to say that you know

we’re not going to say that you know what the good is or what the truth is in

what the good is or what the truth is in

what the good is or what the truth is in any ultimate sense but we will presume

any ultimate sense but we will presume

any ultimate sense but we will presume that there are things that you’re doing

that there are things that you’re doing

that there are things that you’re doing that for one reason another you know are

that for one reason another you know are

that for one reason another you know are not in your best interests there’s

not in your best interests there’s

not in your best interests there’s something about them that you just know

something about them that you just know

something about them that you just know you should stop there are kind of

you should stop there are kind of

you should stop there are kind of self-evident to you other things you’re

self-evident to you other things you’re

self-evident to you other things you’re gonna be doubtful about you’re not gonna

gonna be doubtful about you’re not gonna

gonna be doubtful about you’re not gonna know which way is up and which way is

know which way is up and which way is

know which way is up and which way is down but there are things that you’re

down but there are things that you’re

down but there are things that you’re doing that you know you shouldn’t do now

doing that you know you shouldn’t do now

doing that you know you shouldn’t do now some of those you won’t stop doing for

some of those you won’t stop doing for

some of those you won’t stop doing for whatever reason you don’t have the

whatever reason you don’t have the

whatever reason you don’t have the discipline or maybe there’s a secondary

discipline or maybe there’s a secondary

discipline or maybe there’s a secondary payoff or you don’t believe it’s

payoff or you don’t believe it’s

payoff or you don’t believe it’s necessary or it’s too much of a

necessary or it’s too much of a

necessary or it’s too much of a sacrifice or you’re angry or resentful

sacrifice or you’re angry or resentful

sacrifice or you’re angry or resentful or or afraid who knows

or or afraid who knows

or or afraid who knows so forget about those for now but

so forget about those for now but

so forget about those for now but there’s another subset that you could

there’s another subset that you could

there’s another subset that you could stop doing it might be little thing well

stop doing it might be little thing well

stop doing it might be little thing well that’s fine stop doing it and see what

that’s fine stop doing it and see what

that’s fine stop doing it and see what happens and what will happen is your

happens and what will happen is your

happens and what will happen is your vision will clear a little bit and then

vision will clear a little bit and then

vision will clear a little bit and then something else will pop up in your field

something else will pop up in your field

something else will pop up in your field of apprehension that you will also know

of apprehension that you will also know

of apprehension that you will also know you should stop doing and that you could

you should stop doing and that you could

you should stop doing and that you could stop doing because you’ve strengthened

stop doing because you’ve strengthened

stop doing because you’ve strengthened yourself a bit by stopping doing the

yourself a bit by stopping doing the

yourself a bit by stopping doing the particular stupid thing that you were

particular stupid thing that you were

particular stupid thing that you were doing before that just puts you together

doing before that just puts you together

doing before that just puts you together a little bit more and you could do that

a little bit more and you could do that

a little bit more and you could do that repeatedly for for an indefinite period

repeatedly for for an indefinite period

repeatedly for for an indefinite period of time and and you know that doesn’t

of time and and you know that doesn’t

of time and and you know that doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re going to

necessarily mean that you’re going to

necessarily mean that you’re going to ever be able to formulate a clear and

ever be able to formulate a clear and

ever be able to formulate a clear and final picture of what constitutes the

final picture of what constitutes the

final picture of what constitutes the truth and the good but it does mean that

truth and the good but it does mean that

truth and the good but it does mean that you’ll be able to continually move away

you’ll be able to continually move away

you’ll be able to continually move away from what’s untruth and what’s bad and

from what’s untruth and what’s bad and

from what’s untruth and what’s bad and you know well that’s not a bad start

you know well that’s not a bad start

you know well that’s not a bad start you know I can’t sleep at night because

you know I can’t sleep at night because

you know I can’t sleep at night because I’m thinking about something and usually

I’m thinking about something and usually

I’m thinking about something and usually what I’ll do is go write it down I have

what I’ll do is go write it down I have

what I’ll do is go write it down I have some writing to do so I get up and I go

some writing to do so I get up and I go

some writing to do so I get up and I go write down what I’m thinking and that

write down what I’m thinking and that

write down what I’m thinking and that usually does the trick but because I had

usually does the trick but because I had

usually does the trick but because I had been playing with YouTube I thought well

been playing with YouTube I thought well

been playing with YouTube I thought well I’ll try making YouTube video and

I’ll try making YouTube video and

I’ll try making YouTube video and telling people what I’m thinking about

telling people what I’m thinking about

telling people what I’m thinking about and see if that performs the same

and see if that performs the same

and see if that performs the same function as writing and to me the

function as writing and to me the

function as writing and to me the function of writing while it’s twofold

function of writing while it’s twofold

function of writing while it’s twofold one is conceivably to communicate with

one is conceivably to communicate with

one is conceivably to communicate with people

people

people although the fundamental purpose for me

although the fundamental purpose for me

although the fundamental purpose for me is to clarify my thoughts so that I know

is to clarify my thoughts so that I know

is to clarify my thoughts so that I know do you know because if you’re if

do you know because if you’re if

do you know because if you’re if something is disturbing you what that

something is disturbing you what that

something is disturbing you what that means is that it needs to be articulated

means is that it needs to be articulated

means is that it needs to be articulated it what it’s the emergence of unexplored

it what it’s the emergence of unexplored

it what it’s the emergence of unexplored territory something that disturbs you

territory something that disturbs you

territory something that disturbs you that that’s the right way to think about

that that’s the right way to think about

that that’s the right way to think about it

it

it it’s unmapped territory that’s

it’s unmapped territory that’s

it’s unmapped territory that’s manifesting itself it’s like a Vista of

manifesting itself it’s like a Vista of

manifesting itself it’s like a Vista of threat and possibility and you need to

threat and possibility and you need to

threat and possibility and you need to articulate a path through it and so

articulate a path through it and so

articulate a path through it and so that’s what I was doing it’s like I was

that’s what I was doing it’s like I was

that’s what I was doing it’s like I was thinking well this is bothering me and

thinking well this is bothering me and

thinking well this is bothering me and this seems to be why and here’s what I

this seems to be why and here’s what I

this seems to be why and here’s what I think is going on and and so I made the

think is going on and and so I made the

think is going on and and so I made the videos and in some sense I I didn’t

videos and in some sense I I didn’t

videos and in some sense I I didn’t think anything more of it will have to

think anything more of it will have to

think anything more of it will have to necessarily have done anything wrong for

necessarily have done anything wrong for

necessarily have done anything wrong for things to get completely out of control

things to get completely out of control

things to get completely out of control it’s a terrifying doctrine but it’s not

it’s a terrifying doctrine but it’s not

it’s a terrifying doctrine but it’s not a hopeless doctrine because it still

a hopeless doctrine because it still

a hopeless doctrine because it still says that there’s a way forward there’s

says that there’s a way forward there’s

says that there’s a way forward there’s a pathway forward and the pathway

a pathway forward and the pathway

a pathway forward and the pathway forward is to adopt a mode of being that

forward is to adopt a mode of being that

forward is to adopt a mode of being that has some nobility so that you can

has some nobility so that you can

has some nobility so that you can tolerate yourself and perhaps even have

tolerate yourself and perhaps even have

tolerate yourself and perhaps even have some respect for yourself as someone

some respect for yourself as someone

some respect for yourself as someone who’s capable of standing up in the face

who’s capable of standing up in the face

who’s capable of standing up in the face of that terrible vulnerability and

of that terrible vulnerability and

of that terrible vulnerability and suffering and that the pathway forward

suffering and that the pathway forward

suffering and that the pathway forward as far as the existentialists are

as far as the existentialists are

as far as the existentialists are concerned is by well certainly by the

concerned is by well certainly by the

concerned is by well certainly by the avoidance of deceit particularly in

avoidance of deceit particularly in

avoidance of deceit particularly in language but also by the adoption of

language but also by the adoption of

language but also by the adoption of responsibility for the conditions of

responsibility for the conditions of

responsibility for the conditions of existence and some attempt on your part

existence and some attempt on your part

existence and some attempt on your part to actually rectify them and the thing

to actually rectify them and the thing

to actually rectify them and the thing that’s so interesting about that is no

that’s so interesting about that is no

that’s so interesting about that is no up to as far as I’m concerned and some

up to as far as I’m concerned and some

up to as far as I’m concerned and some of this is from clinical experience you

of this is from clinical experience you

of this is from clinical experience you know if you take people and I’ve told

know if you take people and I’ve told

know if you take people and I’ve told you this and you expose them voluntarily

you this and you expose them voluntarily

you this and you expose them voluntarily to things that they are avoiding and are

to things that they are avoiding and are

to things that they are avoiding and are afraid of you know

afraid of you know

afraid of you know they know they need to overcome in order

they know they need to overcome in order

they know they need to overcome in order to meet their goals their self defined

to meet their goals their self defined

to meet their goals their self defined goals if you can teach people to stand

goals if you can teach people to stand

goals if you can teach people to stand up in the face of the things they’re

up in the face of the things they’re

up in the face of the things they’re afraid of they get stronger and you

afraid of they get stronger and you

afraid of they get stronger and you don’t know what the upper limits to that

don’t know what the upper limits to that

don’t know what the upper limits to that are because you might ask yourself like

are because you might ask yourself like

are because you might ask yourself like if for 10 years if you didn’t avoid

if for 10 years if you didn’t avoid

if for 10 years if you didn’t avoid doing what you knew you needed to do by

doing what you knew you needed to do by

doing what you knew you needed to do by the depth by your own definitions right

the depth by your own definitions right

the depth by your own definitions right within the value structure that you’ve

within the value structure that you’ve

within the value structure that you’ve created to the degree that you’ve done

created to the degree that you’ve done

created to the degree that you’ve done that what would you be like well you

that what would you be like well you

that what would you be like well you know there are remarkable people who

know there are remarkable people who

know there are remarkable people who come into the world from time to time

come into the world from time to time

come into the world from time to time and there are people who do find out

and there are people who do find out

and there are people who do find out over decades long periods what they

over decades long periods what they

over decades long periods what they could be like if they were who they were

could be like if they were who they were

could be like if they were who they were if they said if they spoke their being

if they said if they spoke their being

if they said if they spoke their being forward and they’d get stronger and

forward and they’d get stronger and

forward and they’d get stronger and stronger and stronger and we don’t know

stronger and stronger and we don’t know

stronger and stronger and we don’t know the limits to that we do not know the

the limits to that we do not know the

the limits to that we do not know the limits to that and so you could say well

limits to that and so you could say well

limits to that and so you could say well in part perhaps the reason that you’re

in part perhaps the reason that you’re

in part perhaps the reason that you’re suffering unbearably can be left at your

suffering unbearably can be left at your

suffering unbearably can be left at your feet because you’re not everything you

feet because you’re not everything you

feet because you’re not everything you could be and you know it and of course

could be and you know it and of course

could be and you know it and of course that’s a terrible thing to admit and

that’s a terrible thing to admit and

that’s a terrible thing to admit and it’s a terrible thing to consider but

it’s a terrible thing to consider but

it’s a terrible thing to consider but there’s real promise in it right because

there’s real promise in it right because

there’s real promise in it right because it means that perhaps there’s another

it means that perhaps there’s another

it means that perhaps there’s another way that you could look at the world and

way that you could look at the world and

way that you could look at the world and the number another way that you could

the number another way that you could

the number another way that you could act in the world so what it would

act in the world so what it would

act in the world so what it would reflect back to you would be much better

reflect back to you would be much better

reflect back to you would be much better than what it reflects back to you now my

than what it reflects back to you now my

than what it reflects back to you now my experience is with people that were

experience is with people that were

experience is with people that were probably running at about 51% of our

probably running at about 51% of our

probably running at about 51% of our capacity something mean you can think

capacity something mean you can think

capacity something mean you can think about this yourselves I often ask

about this yourselves I often ask

about this yourselves I often ask undergraduates how many hours a day you

undergraduates how many hours a day you

undergraduates how many hours a day you waste or how many hours a week you waste

waste or how many hours a week you waste

waste or how many hours a week you waste and the classic answer is something like

and the classic answer is something like

and the classic answer is something like 4 to 6 hours a day

4 to 6 hours a day

4 to 6 hours a day you know inefficient studying watching

you know inefficient studying watching

you know inefficient studying watching things on YouTube that not only do you

things on YouTube that not only do you

things on YouTube that not only do you not want to watch that you don’t even

not want to watch that you don’t even

not want to watch that you don’t even care about that make you feel horrible

care about that make you feel horrible

care about that make you feel horrible about watching after you’re done that’s

about watching after you’re done that’s

about watching after you’re done that’s probably 4 hours right there know what

probably 4 hours right there know what

probably 4 hours right there know what do you think well that’s 2025 hours a

do you think well that’s 2025 hours a

do you think well that’s 2025 hours a week it’s a hundred hours a month that’s

week it’s a hundred hours a month that’s

week it’s a hundred hours a month that’s two and a half full work weeks it’s half

two and a half full work weeks it’s half

two and a half full work weeks it’s half a year of work weeks per year and if

a year of work weeks per year and if

a year of work weeks per year and if your time is worth 20 dollars an hour

your time is worth 20 dollars an hour

your time is worth 20 dollars an hour which is a radical under estimate it’s

which is a radical under estimate it’s

which is a radical under estimate it’s probably more like 50 if you think about

probably more like 50 if you think about

probably more like 50 if you think about it in terms of deferred wages if you’re

it in terms of deferred wages if you’re

it in terms of deferred wages if you’re wasting 20 hours a week

wasting 20 hours a week

wasting 20 hours a week you’re wasting fifty thousand dollars a

you’re wasting fifty thousand dollars a

you’re wasting fifty thousand dollars a year and you are doing that right now

year and you are doing that right now

year and you are doing that right now and it’s because

and it’s because

and it’s because young wasting $50,000 a year is a way

young wasting $50,000 a year is a way

young wasting $50,000 a year is a way bigger catastrophe than it would be for

bigger catastrophe than it would be for

bigger catastrophe than it would be for me to waste it because I’m not gonna

me to waste it because I’m not gonna

me to waste it because I’m not gonna last nearly as long and so if your life

last nearly as long and so if your life

last nearly as long and so if your life isn’t everything it could be you could

isn’t everything it could be you could

isn’t everything it could be you could ask yourself well what would happen if

ask yourself well what would happen if

ask yourself well what would happen if you just stopped wasting the

you just stopped wasting the

you just stopped wasting the opportunities that are in front of you

opportunities that are in front of you

opportunities that are in front of you you be who knows how much more efficient

you be who knows how much more efficient

you be who knows how much more efficient ten times more efficient twenty times

ten times more efficient twenty times

ten times more efficient twenty times more efficient that’s the Pareto

more efficient that’s the Pareto

more efficient that’s the Pareto distribution you have no idea how

distribution you have no idea how

distribution you have no idea how efficient efficient people get it’s

efficient efficient people get it’s

efficient efficient people get it’s completely off its off the charts

completely off its off the charts

completely off its off the charts well and if we all got our act together

well and if we all got our act together

well and if we all got our act together collectively and stop making things

collectively and stop making things

collectively and stop making things worse because that’s another thing

worse because that’s another thing

worse because that’s another thing people do all the time not only do they

people do all the time not only do they

people do all the time not only do they not do what they should to make things

not do what they should to make things

not do what they should to make things better they actively attempt to make

better they actively attempt to make

better they actively attempt to make things worse because they’re spiteful or

things worse because they’re spiteful or

things worse because they’re spiteful or resentful or arrogant or deceitful or or

resentful or arrogant or deceitful or or

resentful or arrogant or deceitful or or homicidal or genocide alors all of those

homicidal or genocide alors all of those

homicidal or genocide alors all of those things all bundled together in an

things all bundled together in an

things all bundled together in an absolutely pathological package if

absolutely pathological package if

absolutely pathological package if people start really really trying just

people start really really trying just

people start really really trying just to make things worse we have no idea how

to make things worse we have no idea how

to make things worse we have no idea how much better they would get just because

much better they would get just because

much better they would get just because of that so there’s this weird dynamic

of that so there’s this weird dynamic

of that so there’s this weird dynamic that’s part of the existential system of

that’s part of the existential system of

that’s part of the existential system of ideas between human vulnerability social

ideas between human vulnerability social

ideas between human vulnerability social judgment both of which are major causes

judgment both of which are major causes

judgment both of which are major causes of suffering and the failure of

of suffering and the failure of

of suffering and the failure of individuals to adopt the responsibility

individuals to adopt the responsibility

individuals to adopt the responsibility that they know they should adopt it

that they know they should adopt it

that they know they should adopt it isn’t merely that your fate depends on

isn’t merely that your fate depends on

isn’t merely that your fate depends on whether or not you get your act together

whether or not you get your act together

whether or not you get your act together and to what degree you decide that

and to what degree you decide that

and to what degree you decide that you’re going to live out your own

you’re going to live out your own

you’re going to live out your own genuine being it isn’t only your fate

genuine being it isn’t only your fate

genuine being it isn’t only your fate it’s the fate of everyone that you’re

it’s the fate of everyone that you’re

it’s the fate of everyone that you’re networked with and so you know you think

networked with and so you know you think

networked with and so you know you think well there’s nine billion seven billion

well there’s nine billion seven billion

well there’s nine billion seven billion people in the world we’re going to peak

people in the world we’re going to peak

people in the world we’re going to peak at about 9 billion by the way and then

at about 9 billion by the way and then

at about 9 billion by the way and then it’ll decline rapidly but 7 billion

it’ll decline rapidly but 7 billion

it’ll decline rapidly but 7 billion people in the world and who are you

people in the world and who are you

people in the world and who are you you’re just one little dust mote among

you’re just one little dust mote among

you’re just one little dust mote among that 7 billion and so it really doesn’t

that 7 billion and so it really doesn’t

that 7 billion and so it really doesn’t matter what you do or don’t do but

matter what you do or don’t do but

matter what you do or don’t do but that’s simply not the case it’s the

that’s simply not the case it’s the

that’s simply not the case it’s the wrong model because you’re at the center

wrong model because you’re at the center

wrong model because you’re at the center of a network you’re a node in a network

of a network you’re a node in a network

of a network you’re a node in a network of course that’s even more true now that

of course that’s even more true now that

of course that’s even more true now that we have social media you’ll you know

we have social media you’ll you know

we have social media you’ll you know you’ll know a thousand people at least

you’ll know a thousand people at least

you’ll know a thousand people at least over the course of your life and they’ll

over the course of your life and they’ll

over the course of your life and they’ll know a thousand people each and that

know a thousand people each and that

know a thousand people each and that puts you one person away from a million

puts you one person away from a million

puts you one person away from a million and two persons away from a billion and

and two persons away from a billion and

and two persons away from a billion and so that’s how you’re connected and the

so that’s how you’re connected and the

so that’s how you’re connected and the things you do there like dropping a

things you do there like dropping a

things you do there like dropping a stone in a pond the ripples move outward

stone in a pond the ripples move outward

stone in a pond the ripples move outward and they affect things in ways that you

and they affect things in ways that you

and they affect things in ways that you can’t fully comprehend and it means that

can’t fully comprehend and it means that

can’t fully comprehend and it means that the things that you do and that you

the things that you do and that you

the things that you do and that you don’t do are far more important than you

don’t do are far more important than you

don’t do are far more important than you think

think

think and so if you act that way of course the

and so if you act that way of course the

and so if you act that way of course the terror of realizing that is that it

terror of realizing that is that it

terror of realizing that is that it actually starts to matter what you do

actually starts to matter what you do

actually starts to matter what you do and you might say well that’s better

and you might say well that’s better

and you might say well that’s better than living a meaningless existence it’s

than living a meaningless existence it’s

than living a meaningless existence it’s better for it to matter

better for it to matter

better for it to matter I mean if you really ask yourself would

I mean if you really ask yourself would

I mean if you really ask yourself would you be so sure if you had the choice I

you be so sure if you had the choice I

you be so sure if you had the choice I can live with no responsibility

can live with no responsibility

can live with no responsibility whatsoever the price I pay is that

whatsoever the price I pay is that

whatsoever the price I pay is that nothing matters

nothing matters

nothing matters or I can reverse it and everything

or I can reverse it and everything

or I can reverse it and everything matters but I have to take the

matters but I have to take the

matters but I have to take the responsibility that’s associated with

responsibility that’s associated with

responsibility that’s associated with that it’s not so obvious to me that

that it’s not so obvious to me that

that it’s not so obvious to me that people would take the meaningful path

people would take the meaningful path

people would take the meaningful path now when you say well denialists

now when you say well denialists

now when you say well denialists suffered dreadfully because there’s no

suffered dreadfully because there’s no

suffered dreadfully because there’s no meaning in their life and they still

meaning in their life and they still

meaning in their life and they still suffer yeah but the advantages they have

suffer yeah but the advantages they have

suffer yeah but the advantages they have no responsibility so that’s the payoff

no responsibility so that’s the payoff

no responsibility so that’s the payoff and I actually think that’s the

and I actually think that’s the

and I actually think that’s the motivation say well I can’t help being

motivation say well I can’t help being

motivation say well I can’t help being nihilistic all my belief systems have

nihilistic all my belief systems have

nihilistic all my belief systems have collapsed it’s like yeah maybe maybe

collapsed it’s like yeah maybe maybe

collapsed it’s like yeah maybe maybe you’ve just allowed them to collapse

you’ve just allowed them to collapse

you’ve just allowed them to collapse because it’s a hell of a lot easier than

because it’s a hell of a lot easier than

because it’s a hell of a lot easier than acting them out and the price you pay is

acting them out and the price you pay is

acting them out and the price you pay is some meaningless suffering but you can

some meaningless suffering but you can

some meaningless suffering but you can always whine about that and people will

always whine about that and people will

always whine about that and people will feel sorry for you and you have the

feel sorry for you and you have the

feel sorry for you and you have the option of taking the pathway of the

option of taking the pathway of the

option of taking the pathway of the martyr so that’s a pretty good deal all

martyr so that’s a pretty good deal all

martyr so that’s a pretty good deal all things considered especially when the

things considered especially when the

things considered especially when the art part when the alternative is to bear

art part when the alternative is to bear

art part when the alternative is to bear your burden properly and to live

your burden properly and to live

your burden properly and to live forthrightly in the world well what

forthrightly in the world well what

forthrightly in the world well what Solzhenitsyn figured out and so many

Solzhenitsyn figured out and so many

Solzhenitsyn figured out and so many people in the 20th century it’s not just

people in the 20th century it’s not just

people in the 20th century it’s not just him even though he’s the best example is

him even though he’s the best example is

him even though he’s the best example is that if you live a pathological life you

that if you live a pathological life you

that if you live a pathological life you pathologize your society and if enough

pathologize your society and if enough

pathologize your society and if enough people do that then it’s hell really

people do that then it’s hell really

people do that then it’s hell really really and you can read the Gulag

really and you can read the Gulag

really and you can read the Gulag Archipelago if you have the four tit

Archipelago if you have the four tit

Archipelago if you have the four tit fortitude to do that and you’ll see

fortitude to do that and you’ll see

fortitude to do that and you’ll see exactly what hell is like and then you

exactly what hell is like and then you

exactly what hell is like and then you can decide if that’s a place you’d like

can decide if that’s a place you’d like

can decide if that’s a place you’d like to visit or even more importantly if

to visit or even more importantly if

to visit or even more importantly if it’s a light if it’s a place you’d like

it’s a light if it’s a place you’d like

it’s a light if it’s a place you’d like to visit and take all your family and

to visit and take all your family and

to visit and take all your family and friends because that’s what happened in

friends because that’s what happened in

friends because that’s what happened in the 20th century I started to pay very

the 20th century I started to pay very

the 20th century I started to pay very careful attention to what I was saying I

careful attention to what I was saying I

careful attention to what I was saying I don’t know if that happened voluntarily

don’t know if that happened voluntarily

don’t know if that happened voluntarily or involuntarily but I could feel a sort

or involuntarily but I could feel a sort

or involuntarily but I could feel a sort of split developing in my psyche and the

of split developing in my psyche and the

of split developing in my psyche and the split and I’ve actually had students

split and I’ve actually had students

split and I’ve actually had students tell me the same thing that has happened

tell me the same thing that has happened

tell me the same thing that has happened to them after they’ve listened to some

to them after they’ve listened to some

to them after they’ve listened to some of the material that that I’ve been

of the material that that I’ve been

of the material that that I’ve been describing to all of you but split into

describing to all of you but split into

describing to all of you but split into two

two

two let’s say and one part was the let’s say

let’s say and one part was the let’s say

let’s say and one part was the let’s say the old me that was talking a lot and

the old me that was talking a lot and

the old me that was talking a lot and that liked to argue and that liked ideas

that liked to argue and that liked ideas

that liked to argue and that liked ideas and there was another part that was

and there was another part that was

and there was another part that was watching that part like just with its

watching that part like just with its

watching that part like just with its eyes open and neutrally judging and the

eyes open and neutrally judging and the

eyes open and neutrally judging and the part that was neutrally judging was

part that was neutrally judging was

part that was neutrally judging was watching the part that was talking and

watching the part that was talking and

watching the part that was talking and going that isn’t your idea you don’t

going that isn’t your idea you don’t

going that isn’t your idea you don’t really believe that you don’t really

really believe that you don’t really

really believe that you don’t really know what you’re talking about that

know what you’re talking about that

know what you’re talking about that isn’t true and I thought that’s really

isn’t true and I thought that’s really

isn’t true and I thought that’s really interesting so now I’ve and that was

interesting so now I’ve and that was

interesting so now I’ve and that was happening to like 95% of what I was

happening to like 95% of what I was

happening to like 95% of what I was saying and so then I didn’t really know

saying and so then I didn’t really know

saying and so then I didn’t really know what to do I thought okay this is

what to do I thought okay this is

what to do I thought okay this is strange so maybe I’ve fragmented and

strange so maybe I’ve fragmented and

strange so maybe I’ve fragmented and that’s just not a good thing at all I

that’s just not a good thing at all I

that’s just not a good thing at all I mean it wasn’t like I was hearing voices

mean it wasn’t like I was hearing voices

mean it wasn’t like I was hearing voices or anything like that I mean it wasn’t

or anything like that I mean it wasn’t

or anything like that I mean it wasn’t like that it was it was well people have

like that it was it was well people have

like that it was it was well people have multiple parts so then I had this weird

multiple parts so then I had this weird

multiple parts so then I had this weird conundrum it’s like well which of those

conundrum it’s like well which of those

conundrum it’s like well which of those two things are me is it the part that’s

two things are me is it the part that’s

two things are me is it the part that’s listening and saying no that’s rubbish

listening and saying no that’s rubbish

listening and saying no that’s rubbish that’s a lie that’s you’re doing that to

that’s a lie that’s you’re doing that to

that’s a lie that’s you’re doing that to impress people you’re just trying to win

impress people you’re just trying to win

impress people you’re just trying to win the argument you know was that me or was

the argument you know was that me or was

the argument you know was that me or was the part that was going about my normal

the part that was going about my normal

the part that was going about my normal verbal business me and I didn’t know but

verbal business me and I didn’t know but

verbal business me and I didn’t know but I decided I would go with the critic and

I decided I would go with the critic and

I decided I would go with the critic and then what I’d tried to do what I learned

then what I’d tried to do what I learned

then what I’d tried to do what I learned to do I think was to stop saying things

to do I think was to stop saying things

to do I think was to stop saying things that made me weak and now that I mean

that made me weak and now that I mean

that made me weak and now that I mean I’m still trying to do that because I’m

I’m still trying to do that because I’m

I’m still trying to do that because I’m always feeling when I talk whether or

always feeling when I talk whether or

always feeling when I talk whether or not the words that I’m saying are either

not the words that I’m saying are either

not the words that I’m saying are either making me a line or making me come apart

making me a line or making me come apart

making me a line or making me come apart and I think the alignment I really do

and I think the alignment I really do

and I think the alignment I really do think the alignment is I think alignment

think the alignment is I think alignment

think the alignment is I think alignment is the right way of conceptualizing it

is the right way of conceptualizing it

is the right way of conceptualizing it because I think if you say things that

because I think if you say things that

because I think if you say things that are as true as you can say them let’s

are as true as you can say them let’s

are as true as you can say them let’s say then they come up

say then they come up

say then they come up they come out of the depths inside of

they come out of the depths inside of

they come out of the depths inside of you because we don’t know where thoughts

you because we don’t know where thoughts

you because we don’t know where thoughts come from we don’t know how far down

come from we don’t know how far down

come from we don’t know how far down into your sub structure the thoughts

into your sub structure the thoughts

into your sub structure the thoughts emerge we don’t know what processes of

emerge we don’t know what processes of

emerge we don’t know what processes of physiological alignment are necessary

physiological alignment are necessary

physiological alignment are necessary for you to speak from the core of your

for you to speak from the core of your

for you to speak from the core of your being we don’t understand any of that we

being we don’t understand any of that we

being we don’t understand any of that we don’t even conceptualize that but I

don’t even conceptualize that but I

don’t even conceptualize that but I believe that you can feel that and I

believe that you can feel that and I

believe that you can feel that and I learned some of that from reading Carl

learned some of that from reading Carl

learned some of that from reading Carl Rogers by the way who’s a great

Rogers by the way who’s a great

Rogers by the way who’s a great clinician because he talked about mental

clinician because he talked about mental

clinician because he talked about mental health in part as the coherence between

health in part as the coherence between

health in part as the coherence between the the the spiritual or the or the

the the the spiritual or the or the

the the the spiritual or the or the abstract and the physical that the two

abstract and the physical that the two

abstract and the physical that the two things were aligned and and there’s a

things were aligned and and there’s a

things were aligned and and there’s a lot of idea of alignment in

lot of idea of alignment in

lot of idea of alignment in psychoanalytic and clinical thinking but

psychoanalytic and clinical thinking but

psychoanalytic and clinical thinking but anyways I decided that I would start

anyways I decided that I would start

anyways I decided that I would start practicing not saying things that would

practicing not saying things that would

practicing not saying things that would make me weak and what happened was that

make me weak and what happened was that

make me weak and what happened was that I had to stop saying almost everything

I had to stop saying almost everything

I had to stop saying almost everything that I was saying I would say 95% of it

that I was saying I would say 95% of it

that I was saying I would say 95% of it as a hell of a shark to wake up and I

as a hell of a shark to wake up and I

as a hell of a shark to wake up and I mean this was over a few months but it’s

mean this was over a few months but it’s

mean this was over a few months but it’s a hell of a shark to wake up and realize

a hell of a shark to wake up and realize

a hell of a shark to wake up and realize that you’re mostly dead wood it’s a

that you’re mostly dead wood it’s a

that you’re mostly dead wood it’s a shark

shark

shark you know and you might think well do you

you know and you might think well do you

you know and you might think well do you really want all of that to burn off it’s

really want all of that to burn off it’s

really want all of that to burn off it’s like well there’s nothing left but a

like well there’s nothing left but a

like well there’s nothing left but a little ha spite of you it’s like well if

little ha spite of you it’s like well if

little ha spite of you it’s like well if that 5% is solid then maybe that’s

that 5% is solid then maybe that’s

that 5% is solid then maybe that’s exactly what you want to have happen