good morning believe nation today’s message is find who you are over to you
message is find who you are over to you
message is find who you are over to you Gwen Stefani what did I do consistently
Gwen Stefani what did I do consistently
Gwen Stefani what did I do consistently to get to this point and I think that
to get to this point and I think that
to get to this point and I think that would be to be really clear about Who I
would be to be really clear about Who I
would be to be really clear about Who I am and to go with that and not try to be
am and to go with that and not try to be
am and to go with that and not try to be something that you’re not you’ll stick
something that you’re not you’ll stick
something that you’re not you’ll stick out because we’re all very very
out because we’re all very very
out because we’re all very very different but yet all the same I think
different but yet all the same I think
different but yet all the same I think that you know it’s weird because in the
that you know it’s weird because in the
that you know it’s weird because in the early days like everything was so
early days like everything was so
early days like everything was so homemade there was nobody telling us
homemade there was nobody telling us
homemade there was nobody telling us what to do or how to do things nobody
what to do or how to do things nobody
what to do or how to do things nobody telling me how to put my makeup on or
telling me how to put my makeup on or
telling me how to put my makeup on or how skinny to be or what costume to wear
how skinny to be or what costume to wear
how skinny to be or what costume to wear what song to write and I think that was
what song to write and I think that was
what song to write and I think that was a really important thing because it
a really important thing because it
a really important thing because it means that we were really our selves I
means that we were really our selves I
means that we were really our selves I think the inspiration just came from
think the inspiration just came from
think the inspiration just came from like the creation you know like to be
like the creation you know like to be
like the creation you know like to be able to create and express yourself I
able to create and express yourself I
able to create and express yourself I truly think people need to like just go
truly think people need to like just go
truly think people need to like just go inward and go what what do I like Who am
inward and go what what do I like Who am
inward and go what what do I like Who am I you know there’s been people that have
I you know there’s been people that have
I you know there’s been people that have been fans of like Julie Andrews or
been fans of like Julie Andrews or
been fans of like Julie Andrews or Emmylou Harris there’s a band called
Emmylou Harris there’s a band called
Emmylou Harris there’s a band called fishbowl and that we used to go to all
fishbowl and that we used to go to all
fishbowl and that we used to go to all their shows and of course but I honestly
their shows and of course but I honestly
their shows and of course but I honestly say that like you know really it’s all
say that like you know really it’s all
say that like you know really it’s all about like finding who you are I think a
about like finding who you are I think a
about like finding who you are I think a lot of people don’t invest enough time
lot of people don’t invest enough time
lot of people don’t invest enough time in finding out who they are it is so
in finding out who they are it is so
in finding out who they are it is so hard to set your goals when you don’t
hard to set your goals when you don’t
hard to set your goals when you don’t know what it is that you want it’s also
know what it is that you want it’s also
know what it is that you want it’s also really challenging to live a life that
really challenging to live a life that
really challenging to live a life that is fulfilling when you don’t know what
is fulfilling when you don’t know what
is fulfilling when you don’t know what truly makes you happy you see the reason
truly makes you happy you see the reason
truly makes you happy you see the reason why I notice because I went through it
why I notice because I went through it
why I notice because I went through it myself
myself
myself I spent a large chunk of my life being
I spent a large chunk of my life being
I spent a large chunk of my life being very miserable and I never invested the
very miserable and I never invested the
very miserable and I never invested the time to find out why and on top of all
time to find out why and on top of all
time to find out why and on top of all that I was so embarrassed because I
that I was so embarrassed because I
that I was so embarrassed because I because I had a good life I was ashamed
because I had a good life I was ashamed
because I had a good life I was ashamed to tell anybody that I was
to tell anybody that I was
to tell anybody that I was instead I put on a seat front and I
instead I put on a seat front and I
instead I put on a seat front and I continue to on with my day until one day
continue to on with my day until one day
continue to on with my day until one day something devastating happened to me my
something devastating happened to me my
something devastating happened to me my grandmother passed away
grandmother passed away
grandmother passed away and I remember finding out in abacus and
and I remember finding out in abacus and
and I remember finding out in abacus and uber and I spelled a pain so strong that
uber and I spelled a pain so strong that
uber and I spelled a pain so strong that I would never forget that night and half
I would never forget that night and half
I would never forget that night and half of that pain was the fact that I loved
of that pain was the fact that I loved
of that pain was the fact that I loved her and I cared about her and I want and
her and I cared about her and I want and
her and I cared about her and I want and I wanted to see her again but I knew I
I wanted to see her again but I knew I
I wanted to see her again but I knew I wouldn’t be able to but the other half
wouldn’t be able to but the other half
wouldn’t be able to but the other half was the absolute poison of regret and
was the absolute poison of regret and
was the absolute poison of regret and not living my life in the happiest
not living my life in the happiest
not living my life in the happiest possible way that I can so the next day
possible way that I can so the next day
possible way that I can so the next day I decided to do something really really
I decided to do something really really
I decided to do something really really drastic I started asking myself really
drastic I started asking myself really
drastic I started asking myself really difficult question I asked myself what
difficult question I asked myself what
difficult question I asked myself what is it that was making me so miserable
is it that was making me so miserable
is it that was making me so miserable and it was my job the jobs that I’ve
and it was my job the jobs that I’ve
and it was my job the jobs that I’ve been working at for 10 years with making
been working at for 10 years with making
been working at for 10 years with making me absolutely miserable then I asked
me absolutely miserable then I asked
me absolutely miserable then I asked myself a question why did you choose
myself a question why did you choose
myself a question why did you choose this job I had to honestly ask answer it
this job I had to honestly ask answer it
this job I had to honestly ask answer it by saying I chose a job because I
by saying I chose a job because I
by saying I chose a job because I thought it would make me a lot of money
thought it would make me a lot of money
thought it would make me a lot of money why is it so important to make a lot of
why is it so important to make a lot of
why is it so important to make a lot of money well I thought I could buy things
money well I thought I could buy things
money well I thought I could buy things and having things means I have a higher
and having things means I have a higher
and having things means I have a higher social status well why is it so
social status well why is it so
social status well why is it so important to have a high social status
important to have a high social status
important to have a high social status then I would be accepted and loved
then I would be accepted and loved
then I would be accepted and loved [Music]
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[Applause] so really I wasn’t after the money I
so really I wasn’t after the money I
so really I wasn’t after the money I wasn’t after the job I wanted to be
wasn’t after the job I wanted to be
wasn’t after the job I wanted to be loved and accepted that’s all I cared
loved and accepted that’s all I cared
loved and accepted that’s all I cared about and it was such a liberating
about and it was such a liberating
about and it was such a liberating experience because I had that in my life
experience because I had that in my life
experience because I had that in my life I had that in my husband my husband
I had that in my husband my husband
I had that in my husband my husband helped me accepted me for who I was in
helped me accepted me for who I was in
helped me accepted me for who I was in everything that I was I have friends who
everything that I was I have friends who
everything that I was I have friends who accepted me and loved me unconditionally
accepted me and loved me unconditionally
accepted me and loved me unconditionally so I didn’t need this job you see and I
so I didn’t need this job you see and I
so I didn’t need this job you see and I didn’t need the money so I decided to
didn’t need the money so I decided to
didn’t need the money so I decided to quit my job shortly after and I took on
quit my job shortly after and I took on
quit my job shortly after and I took on another job that was a lot less stress
another job that was a lot less stress
another job that was a lot less stress and it opened up a lot of time for me to
and it opened up a lot of time for me to
and it opened up a lot of time for me to do the things I cared about and loved
do the things I cared about and loved
do the things I cared about and loved and one of the things that I absolutely
and one of the things that I absolutely
and one of the things that I absolutely love is being a dance teacher I love
love is being a dance teacher I love
love is being a dance teacher I love going into my classes and teaching
going into my classes and teaching
going into my classes and teaching people dance and seeing everyone have a
people dance and seeing everyone have a
people dance and seeing everyone have a great time but I have to even dig a
great time but I have to even dig a
great time but I have to even dig a little bit deeper than that what is it
little bit deeper than that what is it
little bit deeper than that what is it about dance classes that may be so happy
about dance classes that may be so happy
about dance classes that may be so happy what may be really happy with seeing the
what may be really happy with seeing the
what may be really happy with seeing the transformation in people seeing them
transformation in people seeing them
transformation in people seeing them walk in not very confident in their
walk in not very confident in their
walk in not very confident in their dance moves and then eventually being
dance moves and then eventually being
dance moves and then eventually being these beautiful you know butterflies
these beautiful you know butterflies
these beautiful you know butterflies dancing and seeing them discover who
dancing and seeing them discover who
dancing and seeing them discover who they are and knowing that they could do
they are and knowing that they could do
they are and knowing that they could do anything if they just work hard enough
anything if they just work hard enough
anything if they just work hard enough that’s what made me really happy
that’s what made me really happy
that’s what made me really happy about being a dance teacher so knowing
about being a dance teacher so knowing
about being a dance teacher so knowing all of that I decided to teach as many
all of that I decided to teach as many
all of that I decided to teach as many dance classes as possible
dance classes as possible
dance classes as possible and I did and it brought me so much joy
and I did and it brought me so much joy
and I did and it brought me so much joy and happiness and at the end of the
and happiness and at the end of the
and happiness and at the end of the semester when my students come up to me
semester when my students come up to me
semester when my students come up to me and hug me I mean like really hug me to
and hug me I mean like really hug me to
and hug me I mean like really hug me to a point that they’re cutting off my
a point that they’re cutting off my
a point that they’re cutting off my circulation it is all the accolades that
circulation it is all the accolades that
circulation it is all the accolades that I would ever need in my life now you see
I would ever need in my life now you see
I would ever need in my life now you see getting to that point in my life
getting to that point in my life
getting to that point in my life required me to really ask myself tough
required me to really ask myself tough
required me to really ask myself tough questions and also really answer them
questions and also really answer them
questions and also really answer them honestly and that is what I would want
honestly and that is what I would want
honestly and that is what I would want to challenge you to do you know ask
to challenge you to do you know ask
to challenge you to do you know ask yourself the questions am I really
yourself the questions am I really
yourself the questions am I really living my life according to my values
living my life according to my values
living my life according to my values what are my values what makes me truly
what are my values what makes me truly
what are my values what makes me truly happy why am i doing this and maybe you
happy why am i doing this and maybe you
happy why am i doing this and maybe you have all the answers to it and you
have all the answers to it and you
have all the answers to it and you already are living a great life and if
already are living a great life and if
already are living a great life and if you are that’s wonderful and I want you
you are that’s wonderful and I want you
you are that’s wonderful and I want you to continue with that but if you’re not
to continue with that but if you’re not
to continue with that but if you’re not don’t be afraid to ask yourself those
don’t be afraid to ask yourself those
don’t be afraid to ask yourself those questions because the payout of that is
questions because the payout of that is
questions because the payout of that is absolutely wonderful and beautiful so
absolutely wonderful and beautiful so
absolutely wonderful and beautiful so the question of the day is what are the
the question of the day is what are the
the question of the day is what are the changes that you have made or are going
changes that you have made or are going
changes that you have made or are going to make to find out who you are I also
to make to find out who you are I also
to make to find out who you are I also have a special shout out for Heidi how
have a special shout out for Heidi how
have a special shout out for Heidi how do you thank you so much for picking up
do you thank you so much for picking up
do you thank you so much for picking up a copy of Evans book your one word your
a copy of Evans book your one word your
a copy of Evans book your one word your support means a lot to us and I really
support means a lot to us and I really
support means a lot to us and I really hope you’re enjoying it thank you guys
hope you’re enjoying it thank you guys
hope you’re enjoying it thank you guys so much for watching we believe in you
so much for watching we believe in you
so much for watching we believe in you and hope you continue to believe in
and hope you continue to believe in
and hope you continue to believe in yourself and whatever your one word is
yourself and whatever your one word is
yourself and whatever your one word is and we’ll see you again tomorrow morning
and we’ll see you again tomorrow morning
and we’ll see you again tomorrow morning for another shot of espresso
you look back and you see old Arianna –
you look back and you see old Arianna – new Arianna and you think about how much
new Arianna and you think about how much
new Arianna and you think about how much you’ve learned and how much you’ve grown
you’ve learned and how much you’ve grown
you’ve learned and how much you’ve grown it’s a shame yeah can you pinpoint one
it’s a shame yeah can you pinpoint one
it’s a shame yeah can you pinpoint one or two things like the biggest thing
or two things like the biggest thing
or two things like the biggest thing you’ve learned over the last maybe four
you’ve learned over the last maybe four
you’ve learned over the last maybe four years when I guess when you just like be
years when I guess when you just like be
years when I guess when you just like be yourself you know and in your most
yourself you know and in your most
yourself you know and in your most genuine possible way and are completely
genuine possible way and are completely
genuine possible way and are completely unafraid that’s when everything starts
unafraid that’s when everything starts
unafraid that’s when everything starts to fall into place and that takes a
to fall into place and that takes a
to fall into place and that takes a while see with so much public like you
while see with so much public like you
while see with so much public like you know rumors and opinions alone you know
know rumors and opinions alone you know
know rumors and opinions alone you know what I mean it’s like you get scared and
what I mean it’s like you get scared and
what I mean it’s like you get scared and you want to hold back a little but then
you want to hold back a little but then
you want to hold back a little but then I was like you know what like none of
I was like you know what like none of
I was like you know what like none of this would be happening if I just showed
this would be happening if I just showed
this would be happening if I just showed like just was like God and just was
like just was like God and just was
like just was like God and just was myself and I went out and I was my silly
myself and I went out and I was my silly
myself and I went out and I was my silly self and then you go and it all goes
self and then you go and it all goes
self and then you go and it all goes away and then they’re like that’s me and
away and then they’re like that’s me and
away and then they’re like that’s me and it’s like oh yeah when you let go and
it’s like oh yeah when you let go and
it’s like oh yeah when you let go and you’re like here you go they gonna leave
you’re like here you go they gonna leave
you’re like here you go they gonna leave it whether you like it or not unless it
it whether you like it or not unless it
it whether you like it or not unless it can be like why hold back you get you
can be like why hold back you get you
can be like why hold back you get you can own you one life just have fun and
can own you one life just have fun and
can own you one life just have fun and be yourself and don’t worry about the
be yourself and don’t worry about the
be yourself and don’t worry about the rest and all falls into place honestly I
rest and all falls into place honestly I
rest and all falls into place honestly I think everyone is different and unique
think everyone is different and unique
think everyone is different and unique and that’s a good thing it’s not mad
and that’s a good thing it’s not mad
and that’s a good thing it’s not mad it’s kind of the best thing in the world
it’s kind of the best thing in the world
it’s kind of the best thing in the world you don’t want to be like everyone else
you don’t want to be like everyone else
you don’t want to be like everyone else growing up in high school and just doing
growing up in high school and just doing
growing up in high school and just doing your hide your whole life really either
your hide your whole life really either
your hide your whole life really either you have been taught to feel like or you
you have been taught to feel like or you
you have been taught to feel like or you want to be like everyone else
want to be like everyone else
want to be like everyone else because conceptually you’ll you’ll be
because conceptually you’ll you’ll be
because conceptually you’ll you’ll be included and you’ll be like the crowd
included and you’ll be like the crowd
included and you’ll be like the crowd but when you think about it when you
but when you think about it when you
but when you think about it when you look at people like Lady Gaga who is so
look at people like Lady Gaga who is so
look at people like Lady Gaga who is so crazy it’s so different so unique and
crazy it’s so different so unique and
crazy it’s so different so unique and her whole message is about you know
her whole message is about you know
her whole message is about you know being yourself and being okay with it
being yourself and being okay with it
being yourself and being okay with it and she the reason she is so successful
and she the reason she is so successful
and she the reason she is so successful and so is because you talented because
and so is because you talented because
and so is because you talented because she’s different if she was just like
she’s different if she was just like
she’s different if she was just like Britney Spears or if she was just like
Britney Spears or if she was just like
Britney Spears or if she was just like Nina mean Nina Dobrev then there would
Nina mean Nina Dobrev then there would
Nina mean Nina Dobrev then there would be two of us so there be nothing special
be two of us so there be nothing special
be two of us so there be nothing special about that so I think what’s what’s
about that so I think what’s what’s
about that so I think what’s what’s special is the fact that you’re
special is the fact that you’re
special is the fact that you’re different and is the fact that you’re
different and is the fact that you’re
different and is the fact that you’re unique and that you can bring something
unique and that you can bring something
unique and that you can bring something to the table so if anything embrace that
to the table so if anything embrace that
to the table so if anything embrace that that that uniqueness and that
that that uniqueness and that
that that uniqueness and that that’s thing that you have that no one
that’s thing that you have that no one
that’s thing that you have that no one else does and expand upon it make it
else does and expand upon it make it
else does and expand upon it make it better and tell everyone about it and be
better and tell everyone about it and be
better and tell everyone about it and be confident because if you’re confident
confident because if you’re confident
confident because if you’re confident and happy and smiling you will attract
and happy and smiling you will attract
and happy and smiling you will attract confidence happiness and laughter I’m
confidence happiness and laughter I’m
confidence happiness and laughter I’m desperate for people to start defining
desperate for people to start defining
desperate for people to start defining their hopes and dreams and wants and
their hopes and dreams and wants and
their hopes and dreams and wants and needs on their terms not on what I say I
needs on their terms not on what I say I
needs on their terms not on what I say I don’t care if you want to hustle 18
don’t care if you want to hustle 18
don’t care if you want to hustle 18 hours a day I really don’t I really
hours a day I really don’t I really
hours a day I really don’t I really really don’t I don’t care if you want to
really don’t I don’t care if you want to
really don’t I don’t care if you want to buy the nails Jess I don’t care what you
buy the nails Jess I don’t care what you
buy the nails Jess I don’t care what you want or need you need to care about what
want or need you need to care about what
want or need you need to care about what you wanted you can’t worry about what
you wanted you can’t worry about what
you wanted you can’t worry about what I’m saying you can’t worry about whoever
I’m saying you can’t worry about whoever
I’m saying you can’t worry about whoever your flavor of the month is right maybe
your flavor of the month is right maybe
your flavor of the month is right maybe on your flavor of the month like maybe
on your flavor of the month like maybe
on your flavor of the month like maybe maybe maybe a consistent flavor of the
maybe maybe a consistent flavor of the
maybe maybe a consistent flavor of the life is your mom’s point of view is your
life is your mom’s point of view is your
life is your mom’s point of view is your older brother who’s guided you with
older brother who’s guided you with
older brother who’s guided you with symbolism but wants you to be a lawyer
symbolism but wants you to be a lawyer
symbolism but wants you to be a lawyer but you don’t want to be a blur you want
but you don’t want to be a blur you want
but you don’t want to be a blur you want to be a street artist you want to you
to be a street artist you want to you
to be a street artist you want to you want to take the chance of being an
want to take the chance of being an
want to take the chance of being an entrepreneur or the reverse or the
entrepreneur or the reverse or the
entrepreneur or the reverse or the reverse I know
reverse I know
reverse I know creatures and loves entrepreneurship
creatures and loves entrepreneurship
creatures and loves entrepreneurship more than me but I can see you all the
more than me but I can see you all the
more than me but I can see you all the time talking about like self-awareness
time talking about like self-awareness
time talking about like self-awareness are you want this is the golden era for
are you want this is the golden era for
are you want this is the golden era for entrepreneurship people ask me for
entrepreneurship people ask me for
entrepreneurship people ask me for selfies this will go away it may not
selfies this will go away it may not
selfies this will go away it may not always mean but it’s going to go away
always mean but it’s going to go away
always mean but it’s going to go away like you know it’s entrepreneurship like
like you know it’s entrepreneurship like
like you know it’s entrepreneurship like a rap artist like a baseball player like
a rap artist like a baseball player like
a rap artist like a baseball player like the heavyweight nobody cares who the
the heavyweight nobody cares who the
the heavyweight nobody cares who the heavyweight champion of the world is
heavyweight champion of the world is
heavyweight champion of the world is right now nobody cares that the
right now nobody cares that the
right now nobody cares that the astronaut
astronaut
astronaut they surely did in 1969 and 1954 for a
they surely did in 1969 and 1954 for a
they surely did in 1969 and 1954 for a heavyweight champ or you know they
heavyweight champ or you know they
heavyweight champ or you know they change they change and it will always
change they change and it will always
change they change and it will always change and it will continuously change
change and it will continuously change
change and it will continuously change and right now
and right now
and right now entrepreneurship is in this pedestal
entrepreneurship is in this pedestal
entrepreneurship is in this pedestal it’s having its moment and when I’m
it’s having its moment and when I’m
it’s having its moment and when I’m fearful of is that you watch my videos
fearful of is that you watch my videos
fearful of is that you watch my videos into my instagram quotes and what I want
into my instagram quotes and what I want
into my instagram quotes and what I want to clarify for everybody is I hope you
to clarify for everybody is I hope you
to clarify for everybody is I hope you understand I am NOT giving advice to
understand I am NOT giving advice to
understand I am NOT giving advice to everybody the only advice I’d like to
everybody the only advice I’d like to
everybody the only advice I’d like to give to everybody is to define what your
give to everybody is to define what your
give to everybody is to define what your North Star is to understand yourself to
North Star is to understand yourself to
North Star is to understand yourself to understand what your work-life balance
understand what your work-life balance
understand what your work-life balance ambitions are how much what your
ambitions are how much what your
ambitions are how much what your financial ambitions are where your
financial ambitions are where your
financial ambitions are where your flight challenges are the problems that
flight challenges are the problems that
flight challenges are the problems that you want to try to solve and cure as we
you want to try to solve and cure as we
you want to try to solve and cure as we all do as humans trying to climb those
all do as humans trying to climb those
all do as humans trying to climb those different mountains in our lives what
different mountains in our lives what
different mountains in our lives what makes you tick that is all that matters
makes you tick that is all that matters
makes you tick that is all that matters don’t do you know I don’t really be like
don’t do you know I don’t really be like
don’t do you know I don’t really be like all these videos from YouTube you like
all these videos from YouTube you like
all these videos from YouTube you like Emilia I don’t think anybody should be
Emilia I don’t think anybody should be
Emilia I don’t think anybody should be like maybe boy over there enormous
like maybe boy over there enormous
like maybe boy over there enormous amounts of pressures and sacrifices that
amounts of pressures and sacrifices that
amounts of pressures and sacrifices that I recognize you’re just not healthy or
I recognize you’re just not healthy or
I recognize you’re just not healthy or valuable to anybody else but it’s also
valuable to anybody else but it’s also
valuable to anybody else but it’s also not healthy or valuable to me to do some
not healthy or valuable to me to do some
not healthy or valuable to me to do some of the things that you want me to do
of the things that you want me to do
of the things that you want me to do like it’s not fun for me to work 9:00 to
like it’s not fun for me to work 9:00 to
like it’s not fun for me to work 9:00 to 5:00 like I will break I will be is
5:00 like I will break I will be is
5:00 like I will break I will be is equally devastated as you would be to
equally devastated as you would be to
equally devastated as you would be to work till midnight every day and so we
work till midnight every day and so we
work till midnight every day and so we just need a call to action for everybody
just need a call to action for everybody
just need a call to action for everybody recognize we have to stop judging
recognize we have to stop judging
recognize we have to stop judging everybody I’m not judging you
everybody I’m not judging you
everybody I’m not judging you I’m creating content for you to use as a
I’m creating content for you to use as a
I’m creating content for you to use as a barometer to try to figure out what you
barometer to try to figure out what you
barometer to try to figure out what you like and what you don’t like and I’m
like and what you don’t like and I’m
like and what you don’t like and I’m trying to like value my words my actions
trying to like value my words my actions
trying to like value my words my actions and my content to bring the people to
and my content to bring the people to
and my content to bring the people to ever buy their world and that’s really
ever buy their world and that’s really
ever buy their world and that’s really that’s the clarification like I I don’t
that’s the clarification like I I don’t
that’s the clarification like I I don’t want people to to be likely I don’t want
want people to to be likely I don’t want
want people to to be likely I don’t want people to do a pile of people to do
people to do a pile of people to do
people to do a pile of people to do themselves and they just have to start
themselves and they just have to start
themselves and they just have to start with understanding themselves and not
with understanding themselves and not
with understanding themselves and not trying to do like me of this moment or
trying to do like me of this moment or
trying to do like me of this moment or that person the next moment that person
that person the next moment that person
that person the next moment that person next moment the people that most will in
next moment the people that most will in
next moment the people that most will in tune with themselves and figure
tune with themselves and figure
tune with themselves and figure themselves
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