what’s that believe nation it’s Evan my one word is believe and I believe in you
one word is believe and I believe in you
one word is believe and I believe in you I believe that you’ve got some insane
I believe that you’ve got some insane
I believe that you’ve got some insane potential inside you that I want to see
potential inside you that I want to see
potential inside you that I want to see burst out into the world to have a big
burst out into the world to have a big
burst out into the world to have a big impact for you your family your
impact for you your family your
impact for you your family your community and everybody around you so to
community and everybody around you so to
community and everybody around you so to help you on your journey today I’m going
help you on your journey today I’m going
help you on your journey today I’m going to look at seven ways to forgive
to look at seven ways to forgive
to look at seven ways to forgive yourself and stop feeling guilty so one
yourself and stop feeling guilty so one
yourself and stop feeling guilty so one of the things that holds a lot of
of the things that holds a lot of
of the things that holds a lot of entrepreneurs back is they feel guilty
entrepreneurs back is they feel guilty
entrepreneurs back is they feel guilty they made a mistake they let somebody
they made a mistake they let somebody
they made a mistake they let somebody down they feel guilty they can’t forgive
down they feel guilty they can’t forgive
down they feel guilty they can’t forgive themselves and that prevents them from
themselves and that prevents them from
themselves and that prevents them from moving forward and doing other great
moving forward and doing other great
moving forward and doing other great things with their life and them getting
things with their life and them getting
things with their life and them getting stuck in that moment and so today I’m
stuck in that moment and so today I’m
stuck in that moment and so today I’m going to share with you my seven tips on
going to share with you my seven tips on
going to share with you my seven tips on how to forgive yourself and to keep
how to forgive yourself and to keep
how to forgive yourself and to keep yourself from feeling guilty tip number
yourself from feeling guilty tip number
yourself from feeling guilty tip number one is having honest conversation
one is having honest conversation
one is having honest conversation chances are whatever mistake you made
chances are whatever mistake you made
chances are whatever mistake you made there’s somebody else involved you’re
there’s somebody else involved you’re
there’s somebody else involved you’re feeling guilty because you didn’t just
feeling guilty because you didn’t just
feeling guilty because you didn’t just let yourself down you’re letting
let yourself down you’re letting
let yourself down you’re letting somebody else down maybe it was a
somebody else down maybe it was a
somebody else down maybe it was a customer maybe it was family member
customer maybe it was family member
customer maybe it was family member maybe it was your spouse maybe it was a
maybe it was your spouse maybe it was a
maybe it was your spouse maybe it was a friend there’s somebody else involved
friend there’s somebody else involved
friend there’s somebody else involved here and you feel guilty that you let
here and you feel guilty that you let
here and you feel guilty that you let them down that you failed that you
them down that you failed that you
them down that you failed that you weren’t able to accomplish a thing that
weren’t able to accomplish a thing that
weren’t able to accomplish a thing that you set out to accomplish and maybe you
you set out to accomplish and maybe you
you set out to accomplish and maybe you or the money or maybe you know you just
or the money or maybe you know you just
or the money or maybe you know you just really made a huge mistake with them
really made a huge mistake with them
really made a huge mistake with them having an honest conversation with them
having an honest conversation with them
having an honest conversation with them just to let them know how much it’s
just to let them know how much it’s
just to let them know how much it’s impacting you how much is preventing you
impacting you how much is preventing you
impacting you how much is preventing you from moving forward with your life how
from moving forward with your life how
from moving forward with your life how much you still think about it and how
much you still think about it and how
much you still think about it and how bad you feel about it one of two things
bad you feel about it one of two things
bad you feel about it one of two things is gonna happen
is gonna happen
is gonna happen one they’re gonna accept it they’re
one they’re gonna accept it they’re
one they’re gonna accept it they’re gonna say don’t worry so much about that
gonna say don’t worry so much about that
gonna say don’t worry so much about that you know I understand it was a risk it
you know I understand it was a risk it
you know I understand it was a risk it didn’t work out you tried your best
didn’t work out you tried your best
didn’t work out you tried your best don’t worry so much about it and they
don’t worry so much about it and they
don’t worry so much about it and they may feel bad that it’s still weighing on
may feel bad that it’s still weighing on
may feel bad that it’s still weighing on you and giving that permission to
you and giving that permission to
you and giving that permission to release it and don’t worry about it
release it and don’t worry about it
release it and don’t worry about it anymore
anymore
anymore can be really helpful through the honest
can be really helpful through the honest
can be really helpful through the honest conversation because a lot of times
conversation because a lot of times
conversation because a lot of times people don’t realize how much it’s
people don’t realize how much it’s
people don’t realize how much it’s actually weighing on you until you go up
actually weighing on you until you go up
actually weighing on you until you go up and actually have that conversation the
and actually have that conversation the
and actually have that conversation the other scenario is it doesn’t work out
other scenario is it doesn’t work out
other scenario is it doesn’t work out the other scenario is like they’re still
the other scenario is like they’re still
the other scenario is like they’re still upset at you they’re still pissed that
upset at you they’re still pissed that
upset at you they’re still pissed that you did this thing to them and they
you did this thing to them and they
you did this thing to them and they can’t forgive you for it that’s pop
can’t forgive you for it that’s pop
can’t forgive you for it that’s pop that’s difficult especially when it’s
that’s difficult especially when it’s
that’s difficult especially when it’s somebody close to you or somebody in
somebody close to you or somebody in
somebody close to you or somebody in your family or really
your family or really
your family or really friend my own mindset around that kind
friend my own mindset around that kind
friend my own mindset around that kind of stuff is like you did your best
of stuff is like you did your best
of stuff is like you did your best you had the honest conversation you
you had the honest conversation you
you had the honest conversation you apologized you let them know that you
apologized you let them know that you
apologized you let them know that you really try to make the situation right
really try to make the situation right
really try to make the situation right you’ve done everything in your control
you’ve done everything in your control
you’ve done everything in your control at that point like if people can’t
at that point like if people can’t
at that point like if people can’t forgive it becomes their problem like
forgive it becomes their problem like
forgive it becomes their problem like it’s on them you release it right you
it’s on them you release it right you
it’s on them you release it right you feel bad that that happened but you
feel bad that that happened but you
feel bad that that happened but you can’t keep living in that past moment
can’t keep living in that past moment
can’t keep living in that past moment and you can’t let that prevent you from
and you can’t let that prevent you from
and you can’t let that prevent you from moving forward with another project at
moving forward with another project at
moving forward with another project at some point it’s not your problem anymore
some point it’s not your problem anymore
some point it’s not your problem anymore it’s on them as long as you feel like
it’s on them as long as you feel like
it’s on them as long as you feel like you did everything you could in the
you did everything you could in the
you did everything you could in the moment to solve that problem and then
moment to solve that problem and then
moment to solve that problem and then afterwards to apologize to try to fix it
afterwards to apologize to try to fix it
afterwards to apologize to try to fix it you did your best or you’re working on
you did your best or you’re working on
you did your best or you’re working on it right as long as you feel like you
it right as long as you feel like you
it right as long as you feel like you tried your best at some point it’s their
tried your best at some point it’s their
tried your best at some point it’s their problem and you need to be able to
problem and you need to be able to
problem and you need to be able to release that from yourself you cannot
release that from yourself you cannot
release that from yourself you cannot continue to judge yourself based of how
continue to judge yourself based of how
continue to judge yourself based of how somebody else perceives you and I know
somebody else perceives you and I know
somebody else perceives you and I know that that can that can weigh really
that that can that can weigh really
that that can that can weigh really negatively on you to know that somebody
negatively on you to know that somebody
negatively on you to know that somebody hates you or has these really negative
hates you or has these really negative
hates you or has these really negative feelings towards you but you get to
feelings towards you but you get to
feelings towards you but you get to choose how to react to that and for me
choose how to react to that and for me
choose how to react to that and for me as long as I feel like I’ve really
as long as I feel like I’ve really
as long as I feel like I’ve really really really really done my best I
really really really done my best I
really really really done my best I can’t please everybody
can’t please everybody
can’t please everybody but some people will feel like they are
but some people will feel like they are
but some people will feel like they are let down and at some point it’s on them
let down and at some point it’s on them
let down and at some point it’s on them now it’s not on you anymore so having
now it’s not on you anymore so having
now it’s not on you anymore so having honest conversations will help open all
honest conversations will help open all
honest conversations will help open all of that up for you tip number two is
of that up for you tip number two is
of that up for you tip number two is recognize that you’re not alone one of
recognize that you’re not alone one of
recognize that you’re not alone one of the things that really helped me and my
the things that really helped me and my
the things that really helped me and my first business was realizing that I’m
first business was realizing that I’m
first business was realizing that I’m not the first to try to go through this
not the first to try to go through this
not the first to try to go through this before you know I thought
before you know I thought
before you know I thought entrepreneurship was easy I thought you
entrepreneurship was easy I thought you
entrepreneurship was easy I thought you have to you have a great idea you work
have to you have a great idea you work
have to you have a great idea you work hard and things work out like all the
hard and things work out like all the
hard and things work out like all the stories say and I realized that may not
stories say and I realized that may not
stories say and I realized that may not like why am i sucking why is this so
like why am i sucking why is this so
like why am i sucking why is this so hard well I’m putting in the effort it’s
hard well I’m putting in the effort it’s
hard well I’m putting in the effort it’s not for lack of effort I’m grind you in
not for lack of effort I’m grind you in
not for lack of effort I’m grind you in every single day and I’m not getting
every single day and I’m not getting
every single day and I’m not getting results what’s happening and I was too
results what’s happening and I was too
results what’s happening and I was too afraid to tell people about it too
afraid to tell people about it too
afraid to tell people about it too afraid to ask for help I felt weak I
afraid to ask for help I felt weak I
afraid to ask for help I felt weak I felt embarrassed I felt a shame that it
felt embarrassed I felt a shame that it
felt embarrassed I felt a shame that it wasn’t working out and so what helped me
wasn’t working out and so what helped me
wasn’t working out and so what helped me was just realizing that this is a lot of
was just realizing that this is a lot of
was just realizing that this is a lot of people’s stories by modeling success if
people’s stories by modeling success if
people’s stories by modeling success if you look at whoever you look up to
you look at whoever you look up to
you look at whoever you look up to whoever whichever famous entrepreneur or
whoever whichever famous entrepreneur or
whoever whichever famous entrepreneur or you know celebrity or whoever it is that
you know celebrity or whoever it is that
you know celebrity or whoever it is that you look up to look at their store
you look up to look at their store
you look up to look at their store you’ll see lots of these failures along
you’ll see lots of these failures along
you’ll see lots of these failures along the way and the key thing that all these
the way and the key thing that all these
the way and the key thing that all these people did was they forgave themselves
people did was they forgave themselves
people did was they forgave themselves for those mistakes
for those mistakes
for those mistakes they were allowed to move forward right
they were allowed to move forward right
they were allowed to move forward right as long as they’re staying in the past
as long as they’re staying in the past
as long as they’re staying in the past with this thing that happened that
with this thing that happened that
with this thing that happened that didn’t work out then it prevents you
didn’t work out then it prevents you
didn’t work out then it prevents you from moving forward and so just
from moving forward and so just
from moving forward and so just realizing at least for me that I was not
realizing at least for me that I was not
realizing at least for me that I was not alone that this is a common issue that
alone that this is a common issue that
alone that this is a common issue that everybody fails everybody makes mistakes
everybody fails everybody makes mistakes
everybody fails everybody makes mistakes and to get back up and go and try again
and to get back up and go and try again
and to get back up and go and try again is what the most successful people do
is what the most successful people do
is what the most successful people do and the people who don’t make it are the
and the people who don’t make it are the
and the people who don’t make it are the ones that continue to live in the past
ones that continue to live in the past
ones that continue to live in the past and get weighed down by this huge boat
and get weighed down by this huge boat
and get weighed down by this huge boat anchor on top of them malee not success
anchor on top of them malee not success
anchor on top of them malee not success and reading their stories really really
and reading their stories really really
and reading their stories really really really made a big difference for me tip
really made a big difference for me tip
really made a big difference for me tip number three is create an opposite
number three is create an opposite
number three is create an opposite environment you are what you repeatedly
environment you are what you repeatedly
environment you are what you repeatedly do you are the result of the people that
do you are the result of the people that
do you are the result of the people that you hang out with and the environment
you hang out with and the environment
you hang out with and the environment that’s around you if you are around
that’s around you if you are around
that’s around you if you are around people who always make you feel guilty
people who always make you feel guilty
people who always make you feel guilty then guess what you’re always gonna feel
then guess what you’re always gonna feel
then guess what you’re always gonna feel guilty if you’re around people who make
guilty if you’re around people who make
guilty if you’re around people who make you feel self-conscious and you’re
you feel self-conscious and you’re
you feel self-conscious and you’re always gonna feel self-conscious and so
always gonna feel self-conscious and so
always gonna feel self-conscious and so the way around it is you know you may
the way around it is you know you may
the way around it is you know you may need to eliminate some people from your
need to eliminate some people from your
need to eliminate some people from your life or at least limit your exposure to
life or at least limit your exposure to
life or at least limit your exposure to them and their thinking and that can be
them and their thinking and that can be
them and their thinking and that can be difficult I know if it’s friends close
difficult I know if it’s friends close
difficult I know if it’s friends close friends and family members but you can
friends and family members but you can
friends and family members but you can also supplement it and bring in goodness
also supplement it and bring in goodness
also supplement it and bring in goodness change your environment create an
change your environment create an
change your environment create an environment that is positive and
environment that is positive and
environment that is positive and uplifting for you and so as an example
uplifting for you and so as an example
uplifting for you and so as an example if you want to build confidence it’s not
if you want to build confidence it’s not
if you want to build confidence it’s not just about reading articles and how to
just about reading articles and how to
just about reading articles and how to be more confident it’s being around
be more confident it’s being around
be more confident it’s being around confident people you’re watching
confident people you’re watching
confident people you’re watching Illinois’s do an interview or Steve Jobs
Illinois’s do an interview or Steve Jobs
Illinois’s do an interview or Steve Jobs do an interview or snoop dog do an
do an interview or snoop dog do an
do an interview or snoop dog do an interview you know makes me more
interview you know makes me more
interview you know makes me more confident not because of what they’re
confident not because of what they’re
confident not because of what they’re saying you’ll never see a five steps to
saying you’ll never see a five steps to
saying you’ll never see a five steps to be more confident by Elon Musk
be more confident by Elon Musk
be more confident by Elon Musk but in watching how they respond the
but in watching how they respond the
but in watching how they respond the questions and how they carry themselves
questions and how they carry themselves
questions and how they carry themselves and how they act it’s just you can’t
and how they act it’s just you can’t
and how they act it’s just you can’t help it but rub off on you and so if you
help it but rub off on you and so if you
help it but rub off on you and so if you want to be more confident being around
want to be more confident being around
want to be more confident being around confident people you know either in life
confident people you know either in life
confident people you know either in life that you actually face and say hi to me
that you actually face and say hi to me
that you actually face and say hi to me shake hands and hang out with or or
shake hands and hang out with or or
shake hands and hang out with or or online or with with books and other
online or with with books and other
online or with with books and other videos right like consume the content
videos right like consume the content
videos right like consume the content that is the opposite of of what you’re
that is the opposite of of what you’re
that is the opposite of of what you’re currently feeling and so if you’re
currently feeling and so if you’re
currently feeling and so if you’re feeling guilt and you’re feeling shame
feeling guilt and you’re feeling shame
feeling guilt and you’re feeling shame and you’re feeling really low self value
and you’re feeling really low self value
and you’re feeling really low self value then consume content on a consistent
then consume content on a consistent
then consume content on a consistent basis in your environment
basis in your environment
basis in your environment from whoever resonates the most with you
from whoever resonates the most with you
from whoever resonates the most with you if it’s on a spiritual side and it’s a
if it’s on a spiritual side and it’s a
if it’s on a spiritual side and it’s a Dalai Lama if it’s more on the academic
Dalai Lama if it’s more on the academic
Dalai Lama if it’s more on the academic side and you really love Bernie Brown if
side and you really love Bernie Brown if
side and you really love Bernie Brown if you need somebody yelling at you and
you need somebody yelling at you and
you need somebody yelling at you and telling you
telling you
telling you to snap out of it and you go to Joe
to snap out of it and you go to Joe
to snap out of it and you go to Joe Rogan or Eric Thomas right like
Rogan or Eric Thomas right like
Rogan or Eric Thomas right like everybody’s pointing at the same message
everybody’s pointing at the same message
everybody’s pointing at the same message they just have different ways of doing
they just have different ways of doing
they just have different ways of doing it whichever one resonates the most with
it whichever one resonates the most with
it whichever one resonates the most with you consuming that on a regular basis
you consuming that on a regular basis
you consuming that on a regular basis will make you feel that emotion will
will make you feel that emotion will
will make you feel that emotion will help transfer that looming and belief
help transfer that looming and belief
help transfer that looming and belief and take it away from you and so if you
and take it away from you and so if you
and take it away from you and so if you want to get over a guilt and shame then
want to get over a guilt and shame then
want to get over a guilt and shame then I would start consuming content in my
I would start consuming content in my
I would start consuming content in my environment on a regular basis where
environment on a regular basis where
environment on a regular basis where people are talking about removing guilt
people are talking about removing guilt
people are talking about removing guilt and shame and where people are not
and shame and where people are not
and shame and where people are not feeling guilt and shame about themselves
feeling guilt and shame about themselves
feeling guilt and shame about themselves because you will start to pick those
because you will start to pick those
because you will start to pick those pieces and it’ll start to inject
pieces and it’ll start to inject
pieces and it’ll start to inject themselves into your brain as well and
themselves into your brain as well and
themselves into your brain as well and into your actions to change your
into your actions to change your
into your actions to change your environment tip number four is get
environment tip number four is get
environment tip number four is get started again it’s so incredible what
started again it’s so incredible what
started again it’s so incredible what momentum does to a human being right
momentum does to a human being right
momentum does to a human being right when you feel like a little bit of
when you feel like a little bit of
when you feel like a little bit of momentum you can start getting excited
momentum you can start getting excited
momentum you can start getting excited about something again you take one step
about something again you take one step
about something again you take one step and then another step in another step
and then another step in another step
and then another step in another step you know it’s not these giant steps
you know it’s not these giant steps
you know it’s not these giant steps forward just the fact that you’re doing
forward just the fact that you’re doing
forward just the fact that you’re doing something again can mean so much and I
something again can mean so much and I
something again can mean so much and I see all the time here at TBS where salsa
see all the time here at TBS where salsa
see all the time here at TBS where salsa students come in a lot of times people
students come in a lot of times people
students come in a lot of times people come in
come in
come in most people don’t come in trying to
most people don’t come in trying to
most people don’t come in trying to become the world’s greatest salsa dancer
become the world’s greatest salsa dancer
become the world’s greatest salsa dancer they come in because they’re lacking a
they come in because they’re lacking a
they come in because they’re lacking a human connection or they broke up in a
human connection or they broke up in a
human connection or they broke up in a relationship or you know they hate their
relationship or you know they hate their
relationship or you know they hate their their job and they want something fun to
their job and they want something fun to
their job and they want something fun to do or it’s on their bucket list of
do or it’s on their bucket list of
do or it’s on their bucket list of things to try a lot of people come in a
things to try a lot of people come in a
things to try a lot of people come in a place where they feel like life is just
place where they feel like life is just
place where they feel like life is just kind of stuck you know like life doesn’t
kind of stuck you know like life doesn’t
kind of stuck you know like life doesn’t suck it may suck for some but they just
suck it may suck for some but they just
suck it may suck for some but they just feel stuck and they come here is
feel stuck and they come here is
feel stuck and they come here is something new to try and by coming here
something new to try and by coming here
something new to try and by coming here and having a great experience and they
and having a great experience and they
and having a great experience and they come back the next time and in the next
come back the next time and in the next
come back the next time and in the next time and the next time and you start to
time and the next time and you start to
time and the next time and you start to see people come in now like all of a
see people come in now like all of a
see people come in now like all of a sudden they’re smiling
sudden they’re smiling
sudden they’re smiling don’t send they’re standing up more
don’t send they’re standing up more
don’t send they’re standing up more straight all of a sudden they have more
straight all of a sudden they have more
straight all of a sudden they have more confidence right I’m sitting there
confidence right I’m sitting there
confidence right I’m sitting there they’re more chatty they’re talking to
they’re more chatty they’re talking to
they’re more chatty they’re talking to people they’re making friends it’s
people they’re making friends it’s
people they’re making friends it’s amazing how much a little bit of
amazing how much a little bit of
amazing how much a little bit of momentum can do for you for your
momentum can do for you for your
momentum can do for you for your self-esteem for your mood for your
self-esteem for your mood for your
self-esteem for your mood for your ability to move forward and do things
ability to move forward and do things
ability to move forward and do things where if you’re feeling guilt and shame
where if you’re feeling guilt and shame
where if you’re feeling guilt and shame you’re just always living in that moment
you’re just always living in that moment
you’re just always living in that moment right you have to let go of that moment
right you have to let go of that moment
right you have to let go of that moment and the easiest way to do it for me at
and the easiest way to do it for me at
and the easiest way to do it for me at least doesn’t just forget about it I
least doesn’t just forget about it I
least doesn’t just forget about it I mean it may work for some people but for
mean it may work for some people but for
mean it may work for some people but for me it’s like to start building small
me it’s like to start building small
me it’s like to start building small steps like just I want to live now in
steps like just I want to live now in
steps like just I want to live now in the present and I want to move forward I
the present and I want to move forward I
the present and I want to move forward I want to stop living in the past
want to stop living in the past
want to stop living in the past so do something that is exciting for you
so do something that is exciting for you
so do something that is exciting for you whether it’s starting the business
whether it’s starting the business
whether it’s starting the business whether it’s going out and hanging it
whether it’s going out and hanging it
whether it’s going out and hanging it with friends whether it’s joining the
with friends whether it’s joining the
with friends whether it’s joining the dance class
dance class
dance class whether it’s starting your YouTube
whether it’s starting your YouTube
whether it’s starting your YouTube channel like whatever it is that can get
channel like whatever it is that can get
channel like whatever it is that can get a little bit of fire back into you you
a little bit of fire back into you you
a little bit of fire back into you you start to see if I have a ripple effect
start to see if I have a ripple effect
start to see if I have a ripple effect out on the rest of your life you know
out on the rest of your life you know
out on the rest of your life you know people who join these salsa classes who
people who join these salsa classes who
people who join these salsa classes who are stuck and then now they have a
are stuck and then now they have a
are stuck and then now they have a little bit more confidence and a little
little bit more confidence and a little
little bit more confidence and a little bit more jump a little bit more vibe
bit more jump a little bit more vibe
bit more jump a little bit more vibe that ripples effect out right like now
that ripples effect out right like now
that ripples effect out right like now they’re suddenly in a new relationship
they’re suddenly in a new relationship
they’re suddenly in a new relationship with somebody now they’re getting
with somebody now they’re getting
with somebody now they’re getting promoted at their job but now things are
promoted at their job but now things are
promoted at their job but now things are happy you’re at home right like that
happy you’re at home right like that
happy you’re at home right like that little bit of momentum can spark such a
little bit of momentum can spark such a
little bit of momentum can spark such a big change across your entire life that
big change across your entire life that
big change across your entire life that if you find something that you can get
if you find something that you can get
if you find something that you can get excited about and it doesn’t have to be
excited about and it doesn’t have to be
excited about and it doesn’t have to be the thing you do for us your life just
the thing you do for us your life just
the thing you do for us your life just one thing that you just start to build a
one thing that you just start to build a
one thing that you just start to build a little bit momentum so now we’re living
little bit momentum so now we’re living
little bit momentum so now we’re living in the present I’m moving forward
in the present I’m moving forward
in the present I’m moving forward instead of stuck in that past can make a
instead of stuck in that past can make a
instead of stuck in that past can make a huge huge huge huge huge difference to
huge huge huge huge huge difference to
huge huge huge huge huge difference to you not feeling guilty anymore
you not feeling guilty anymore
you not feeling guilty anymore [Music]
[Music]
[Music] tip number five is do the best you can
tip number five is do the best you can
tip number five is do the best you can and whenever you’re doing if it’s
and whenever you’re doing if it’s
and whenever you’re doing if it’s important to you you want to make sure
important to you you want to make sure
important to you you want to make sure that you’ve done the best that you could
that you’ve done the best that you could
that you’ve done the best that you could if you do your best and it doesn’t work
if you do your best and it doesn’t work
if you do your best and it doesn’t work out you can deal with the failure like
out you can deal with the failure like
out you can deal with the failure like the failure will staying it’ll hurt like
the failure will staying it’ll hurt like
the failure will staying it’ll hurt like you didn’t get your goal that sucks but
you didn’t get your goal that sucks but
you didn’t get your goal that sucks but you can move forward right you can stop
you can move forward right you can stop
you can move forward right you can stop living in the past and go off to the
living in the past and go off to the
living in the past and go off to the next thing but if you feel like you
next thing but if you feel like you
next thing but if you feel like you didn’t give it your best if you feel
didn’t give it your best if you feel
didn’t give it your best if you feel like you should have said a little bit
like you should have said a little bit
like you should have said a little bit more you should have worked a little bit
more you should have worked a little bit
more you should have worked a little bit harder you should have put in that extra
harder you should have put in that extra
harder you should have put in that extra day you should have should have should
day you should have should have should
day you should have should have should have should have a sum of you’re
have should have a sum of you’re
have should have a sum of you’re living in that world it’s really really
living in that world it’s really really
living in that world it’s really really really hard to forgive yourself
really hard to forgive yourself
really hard to forgive yourself those were Brits will eat you alive for
those were Brits will eat you alive for
those were Brits will eat you alive for the rest of your life and so there’s
the rest of your life and so there’s
the rest of your life and so there’s something that you’re really committed
something that you’re really committed
something that you’re really committed to you want to feel like you put in your
to you want to feel like you put in your
to you want to feel like you put in your best and I’ve tried – after an
best and I’ve tried – after an
best and I’ve tried – after an experience you know when I was 18 where
experience you know when I was 18 where
experience you know when I was 18 where I regretted not doing something I’ve
I regretted not doing something I’ve
I regretted not doing something I’ve used that as my filter for all future
used that as my filter for all future
used that as my filter for all future decisions where I can deal with
decisions where I can deal with
decisions where I can deal with something not working out but I can’t
something not working out but I can’t
something not working out but I can’t deal with not knowing so as an example
deal with not knowing so as an example
deal with not knowing so as an example earlier this year I took my team to go
earlier this year I took my team to go
earlier this year I took my team to go see Tony Robbins in LA and I didn’t know
see Tony Robbins in LA and I didn’t know
see Tony Robbins in LA and I didn’t know if he’d be good or not you know I know
if he’d be good or not you know I know
if he’d be good or not you know I know Tony I didn’t expect it to suck but I’ve
Tony I didn’t expect it to suck but I’ve
Tony I didn’t expect it to suck but I’ve consumed a lot of his content online and
consumed a lot of his content online and
consumed a lot of his content online and I thought I just want to know you know I
I thought I just want to know you know I
I thought I just want to know you know I didn’t want to wait like you wait till
didn’t want to wait like you wait till
didn’t want to wait like you wait till next year do we till next year you wait
next year do we till next year you wait
next year do we till next year you wait till five years of gum but like how if
till five years of gum but like how if
till five years of gum but like how if you keep waiting for something else to
you keep waiting for something else to
you keep waiting for something else to happen then you never do anything I
happen then you never do anything I
happen then you never do anything I could deal with spending them
could deal with spending them
could deal with spending them and it not working now like worst case
and it not working now like worst case
and it not working now like worst case scenario is nobody got anything from it
scenario is nobody got anything from it
scenario is nobody got anything from it it was a total waste of time
it was a total waste of time
it was a total waste of time and we’re back home right I could deal
and we’re back home right I could deal
and we’re back home right I could deal with that like the worst case scenario I
with that like the worst case scenario I
with that like the worst case scenario I could deal with I couldn’t deal with not
could deal with I couldn’t deal with not
could deal with I couldn’t deal with not knowing and if I’m being honest you know
knowing and if I’m being honest you know
knowing and if I’m being honest you know the money that I spent did it help did I
the money that I spent did it help did I
the money that I spent did it help did I get the ROI I don’t know
get the ROI I don’t know
get the ROI I don’t know it wasn’t zero was it the full value I
it wasn’t zero was it the full value I
it wasn’t zero was it the full value I don’t know maybe but I’m okay with it
don’t know maybe but I’m okay with it
don’t know maybe but I’m okay with it because I know right like I found out I
because I know right like I found out I
because I know right like I found out I know what it’s all about
know what it’s all about
know what it’s all about I know if we’re gonna send somebody else
I know if we’re gonna send somebody else
I know if we’re gonna send somebody else there I know what to expect and so
there I know what to expect and so
there I know what to expect and so taking that approach in that whatever
taking that approach in that whatever
taking that approach in that whatever mistakes you made in the past did you do
mistakes you made in the past did you do
mistakes you made in the past did you do your best maybe not in the moment
your best maybe not in the moment
your best maybe not in the moment because you can’t fix that now but did
because you can’t fix that now but did
because you can’t fix that now but did you do your best now right back to the
you do your best now right back to the
you do your best now right back to the point number one honest conversation did
point number one honest conversation did
point number one honest conversation did you do your best to try to fix it did
you do your best to try to fix it did
you do your best to try to fix it did you try to do your best to solve the
you try to do your best to solve the
you try to do your best to solve the problems to anybody else who is affected
problems to anybody else who is affected
problems to anybody else who is affected that you do your best to help them and
that you do your best to help them and
that you do your best to help them and at some point where you say yes I’ve
at some point where you say yes I’ve
at some point where you say yes I’ve done my best and you have to let it go
done my best and you have to let it go
done my best and you have to let it go and move on or if you tried a project
and move on or if you tried a project
and move on or if you tried a project and it didn’t work and you spent your
and it didn’t work and you spent your
and it didn’t work and you spent your life savings working on it like what can
life savings working on it like what can
life savings working on it like what can you do right now that is your absolute
you do right now that is your absolute
you do right now that is your absolute best and if it doesn’t work the failure
best and if it doesn’t work the failure
best and if it doesn’t work the failure is okay it’s not great but it’s okay you
is okay it’s not great but it’s okay you
is okay it’s not great but it’s okay you did your best to be able to move on and
did your best to be able to move on and
did your best to be able to move on and then try to take that approach for
then try to take that approach for
then try to take that approach for everything that you do and so the next
everything that you do and so the next
everything that you do and so the next thing that you do back to the last point
thing that you do back to the last point
thing that you do back to the last point will build a momentum right the next
will build a momentum right the next
will build a momentum right the next thing you’re trying next thing you do
thing you’re trying next thing you do
thing you’re trying next thing you do and commit yourself to it do your best
and commit yourself to it do your best
and commit yourself to it do your best the next time you’re thinking about
the next time you’re thinking about
the next time you’re thinking about quitting something and you really want
quitting something and you really want
quitting something and you really want to do if you’re thinking about quitting
to do if you’re thinking about quitting
to do if you’re thinking about quitting and you feel like you haven’t done your
and you feel like you haven’t done your
and you feel like you haven’t done your best you feel like there’s still a
best you feel like there’s still a
best you feel like there’s still a little bit more gas in the tank you can
little bit more gas in the tank you can
little bit more gas in the tank you can still go a couple more days you can
still go a couple more days you can
still go a couple more days you can still push and prod it a couple other
still push and prod it a couple other
still push and prod it a couple other things exhaust all opportunities to know
things exhaust all opportunities to know
things exhaust all opportunities to know that if it doesn’t work out at least you
that if it doesn’t work out at least you
that if it doesn’t work out at least you gave it your best because if you don’t
gave it your best because if you don’t
gave it your best because if you don’t give it your best
give it your best
give it your best you’re never gonna forgive yourself
you’re never gonna forgive yourself
you’re never gonna forgive yourself [Music]
[Music]
[Music] tip number six is project to 100 what I
tip number six is project to 100 what I
tip number six is project to 100 what I try to do in these kinds of situations
try to do in these kinds of situations
try to do in these kinds of situations is project my life out to a hundred and
is project my life out to a hundred and
is project my life out to a hundred and think about if I continue to think this
think about if I continue to think this
think about if I continue to think this way
way
way what’s that collective experience gonna
what’s that collective experience gonna
what’s that collective experience gonna be for me so if I can’t forgive myself
be for me so if I can’t forgive myself
be for me so if I can’t forgive myself for what happened in the past and I feel
for what happened in the past and I feel
for what happened in the past and I feel guilty about what happened the past and
guilty about what happened the past and
guilty about what happened the past and it’s really impacting right now this
it’s really impacting right now this
it’s really impacting right now this feeling I have right now is preventing
feeling I have right now is preventing
feeling I have right now is preventing me from doing anything right it’s like
me from doing anything right it’s like
me from doing anything right it’s like you’re stuck imagine the next five
you’re stuck imagine the next five
you’re stuck imagine the next five decades of just still being here how
decades of just still being here how
decades of just still being here how much that sucks
much that sucks
much that sucks like do you want to be stuck for the
like do you want to be stuck for the
like do you want to be stuck for the rest of your life because you made one
rest of your life because you made one
rest of your life because you made one mistake and what I try to do is make the
mistake and what I try to do is make the
mistake and what I try to do is make the future pain so big that whatever
future pain so big that whatever
future pain so big that whatever immediate pain I have to solve the
immediate pain I have to solve the
immediate pain I have to solve the problem feels tiny so having that honest
problem feels tiny so having that honest
problem feels tiny so having that honest conversation maybe that’s your next step
conversation maybe that’s your next step
conversation maybe that’s your next step but that’s scary
but that’s scary
but that’s scary right like you got to go up and having
right like you got to go up and having
right like you got to go up and having all this conversation with somebody and
all this conversation with somebody and
all this conversation with somebody and talk about what happened and that that’s
talk about what happened and that that’s
talk about what happened and that that’s gonna get your heart beating and you’re
gonna get your heart beating and you’re
gonna get your heart beating and you’re nervous and you don’t want to do that
nervous and you don’t want to do that
nervous and you don’t want to do that but the alternative is you live the rest
but the alternative is you live the rest
but the alternative is you live the rest of your life with the guilt and the
of your life with the guilt and the
of your life with the guilt and the shame and the feeling like you can’t
shame and the feeling like you can’t
shame and the feeling like you can’t forgive yourself it’s easy on a
forgive yourself it’s easy on a
forgive yourself it’s easy on a day-to-day basis to not feel that
day-to-day basis to not feel that
day-to-day basis to not feel that strongly but if you try to accumulate
strongly but if you try to accumulate
strongly but if you try to accumulate that out to age 100 every single day
that out to age 100 every single day
that out to age 100 every single day feeling like the way you feel right now
feeling like the way you feel right now
feeling like the way you feel right now I make that just so painful but then
I make that just so painful but then
I make that just so painful but then whatever immediate thing I have to do
whatever immediate thing I have to do
whatever immediate thing I have to do isn’t as scary it’s like if you’re if
isn’t as scary it’s like if you’re if
isn’t as scary it’s like if you’re if you’re you know fingers hurting it
you’re you know fingers hurting it
you’re you know fingers hurting it really hurts and then like somebody
really hurts and then like somebody
really hurts and then like somebody punches you in the arm you don’t feel
punches you in the arm you don’t feel
punches you in the arm you don’t feel the finger anymore because your arm
the finger anymore because your arm
the finger anymore because your arm hurts so much that’s what you do to
hurts so much that’s what you do to
hurts so much that’s what you do to yourself like I’ll do that to myself to
yourself like I’ll do that to myself to
yourself like I’ll do that to myself to get me over whatever short term you need
get me over whatever short term you need
get me over whatever short term you need to get pain or fear that I have and it
to get pain or fear that I have and it
to get pain or fear that I have and it will allow me to have that honest
will allow me to have that honest
will allow me to have that honest conversation so predict your life out to
conversation so predict your life out to
conversation so predict your life out to 100 like the rest of your life you’re
100 like the rest of your life you’re
100 like the rest of your life you’re gonna be feeling like this do you want
gonna be feeling like this do you want
gonna be feeling like this do you want that to happen no so fix it right
that to happen no so fix it right
that to happen no so fix it right hopefully gives you enough of a drag the
hopefully gives you enough of a drag the
hopefully gives you enough of a drag the more painful that experience is for you
more painful that experience is for you
more painful that experience is for you the more you’ll motivate yourself to
the more you’ll motivate yourself to
the more you’ll motivate yourself to actually make a change right now which
actually make a change right now which
actually make a change right now which is what’s important
is what’s important
is what’s important [Music]
[Music]
[Music] and tip number seven is be a model for
and tip number seven is be a model for
and tip number seven is be a model for your kids and this is for the parents
your kids and this is for the parents
your kids and this is for the parents out there but also for the future
out there but also for the future
out there but also for the future parents and future grandparents thinking
parents and future grandparents thinking
parents and future grandparents thinking about what is the example you want to
about what is the example you want to
about what is the example you want to set for the next generation like
set for the next generation like
set for the next generation like whatever you did whatever big mistake
whatever you did whatever big mistake
whatever you did whatever big mistake that you made that you can’t forgive
that you made that you can’t forgive
that you made that you can’t forgive yourself for imagine if your kid did it
yourself for imagine if your kid did it
yourself for imagine if your kid did it what message would you give them would
what message would you give them would
what message would you give them would you want them to live the rest of their
you want them to live the rest of their
you want them to live the rest of their life in this guilt and in the shame and
life in this guilt and in the shame and
life in this guilt and in the shame and unable to forgive themselves what do you
unable to forgive themselves what do you
unable to forgive themselves what do you think they’re gonna do if this is what
think they’re gonna do if this is what
think they’re gonna do if this is what you do if this is how you react to
you do if this is how you react to
you do if this is how you react to making those mistakes you live in guilt
making those mistakes you live in guilt
making those mistakes you live in guilt and shame and can’t forgive yourself no
and shame and can’t forgive yourself no
and shame and can’t forgive yourself no matter what you tell your kids they’re
matter what you tell your kids they’re
matter what you tell your kids they’re gonna model your behavior they’re gonna
gonna model your behavior they’re gonna
gonna model your behavior they’re gonna do the same thing that you did and so
do the same thing that you did and so
do the same thing that you did and so until you can forgive yourself and get
until you can forgive yourself and get
until you can forgive yourself and get over that then your kids won’t be able
over that then your kids won’t be able
over that then your kids won’t be able to do it either so no matter what you
to do it either so no matter what you
to do it either so no matter what you say to them say it’s okay don’t worry
say to them say it’s okay don’t worry
say to them say it’s okay don’t worry about it forgive yourself if they see
about it forgive yourself if they see
about it forgive yourself if they see you not able to forgive yourself then
you not able to forgive yourself then
you not able to forgive yourself then they won’t have the courage to do it too
they won’t have the courage to do it too
they won’t have the courage to do it too and so this one hits home particularly
and so this one hits home particularly
and so this one hits home particularly me maybe because I have you know an
me maybe because I have you know an
me maybe because I have you know an eight-year-old son and I want to be a
eight-year-old son and I want to be a
eight-year-old son and I want to be a model for him and you know parents make
model for him and you know parents make
model for him and you know parents make mistakes and there’s a ton of guilt that
mistakes and there’s a ton of guilt that
mistakes and there’s a ton of guilt that happens and you’re always worried if
happens and you’re always worried if
happens and you’re always worried if you’re doing the right thing or not but
you’re doing the right thing or not but
you’re doing the right thing or not but any of the major things that I’m going
any of the major things that I’m going
any of the major things that I’m going through I try to think about like what’s
through I try to think about like what’s
through I try to think about like what’s the model I want to be for my son and
the model I want to be for my son and
the model I want to be for my son and what’s the model I want to be for for my
what’s the model I want to be for for my
what’s the model I want to be for for my grandkids as they come through because
grandkids as they come through because
grandkids as they come through because no matter what I say they’re gonna pay
no matter what I say they’re gonna pay
no matter what I say they’re gonna pay attention to what I do and how I act and
attention to what I do and how I act and
attention to what I do and how I act and so if they see me being bold and
so if they see me being bold and
so if they see me being bold and courageous then they will want to be
courageous then they will want to be
courageous then they will want to be bold and courageous if they see me
bold and courageous if they see me
bold and courageous if they see me shrinking down on being afraid and
shrinking down on being afraid and
shrinking down on being afraid and worrying about judgments and fears and
worrying about judgments and fears and
worrying about judgments and fears and guilt then they’re gonna do the same
guilt then they’re gonna do the same
guilt then they’re gonna do the same thing they’re gonna feel like that’s
thing they’re gonna feel like that’s
thing they’re gonna feel like that’s what they should be doing right we are a
what they should be doing right we are a
what they should be doing right we are a product of our environment and so
product of our environment and so
product of our environment and so thinking about how you can be a presence
thinking about how you can be a presence
thinking about how you can be a presence in somebody else’s environment kids are
in somebody else’s environment kids are
in somebody else’s environment kids are have the most like pulling the
have the most like pulling the
have the most like pulling the heartstrings but it could also be your
heartstrings but it could also be your
heartstrings but it could also be your friends and the people around you that
friends and the people around you that
friends and the people around you that you want to pull people up you want to
you want to pull people up you want to
you want to pull people up you want to be a model of success you want to be a
be a model of success you want to be a
be a model of success you want to be a model of how to do things the right way
model of how to do things the right way
model of how to do things the right way and I find at least for me that helps
and I find at least for me that helps
and I find at least for me that helps pull me through to do the thing that
pull me through to do the thing that
pull me through to do the thing that sometimes I’m afraid of I’m scared of
sometimes I’m afraid of I’m scared of
sometimes I’m afraid of I’m scared of because if I was given advice to my son
because if I was given advice to my son
because if I was given advice to my son on how to do it I would tell him to do
on how to do it I would tell him to do
on how to do it I would tell him to do the right thing and so I need to model
the right thing and so I need to model
the right thing and so I need to model that I need to actually do the right
that I need to actually do the right
that I need to actually do the right thing instead of just talking about it
thing instead of just talking about it
thing instead of just talking about it so those are my seven suggestions on how
so those are my seven suggestions on how
so those are my seven suggestions on how to forgive yourself and overcome the
to forgive yourself and overcome the
to forgive yourself and overcome the feeling of guilt I made this video
feeling of guilt I made this video
feeling of guilt I made this video because Mauricio asked me to if there’s
because Mauricio asked me to if there’s
because Mauricio asked me to if there’s a topic you’d like me to cover in a
a topic you’d like me to cover in a
a topic you’d like me to cover in a you’re seven ways video check out the
you’re seven ways video check out the
you’re seven ways video check out the link in the description go to that video
link in the description go to that video
link in the description go to that video and cast your vote in the comments I’d
and cast your vote in the comments I’d
and cast your vote in the comments I’d love to know which of the seven had the
love to know which of the seven had the
love to know which of the seven had the biggest impact on you what change you’re
biggest impact on you what change you’re
biggest impact on you what change you’re gonna make and immediately apply somehow
gonna make and immediately apply somehow
gonna make and immediately apply somehow to your life for business and did I miss
to your life for business and did I miss
to your life for business and did I miss an eight nine ten that you want to add
an eight nine ten that you want to add
an eight nine ten that you want to add to the list please share your thoughts
to the list please share your thoughts
to the list please share your thoughts leaving the comments below I’m really
leaving the comments below I’m really
leaving the comments below I’m really looking forward to hearing what you have
looking forward to hearing what you have
looking forward to hearing what you have to say I also want to give a quick chat
to say I also want to give a quick chat
to say I also want to give a quick chat a to Tanya Tanya thank you so much for
a to Tanya Tanya thank you so much for
a to Tanya Tanya thank you so much for picking up a copy of my book your one
picking up a copy of my book your one
picking up a copy of my book your one word taking that awesome picture in your
word taking that awesome picture in your
word taking that awesome picture in your kitchen and posting it to your online
kitchen and posting it to your online
kitchen and posting it to your online accounts I really really really
accounts I really really really
accounts I really really really appreciate the support and I’m so glad
appreciate the support and I’m so glad
appreciate the support and I’m so glad that you enjoyed the book thank you guys
that you enjoyed the book thank you guys
that you enjoyed the book thank you guys again for watching I believe in you I
again for watching I believe in you I
again for watching I believe in you I hope you continue to believe in yourself
hope you continue to believe in yourself
hope you continue to believe in yourself and whatever you’re one where it is much
and whatever you’re one where it is much
and whatever you’re one where it is much love I’ll see you soon
love I’ll see you soon
love I’ll see you soon [Music]
if you had to think of one word that’s
if you had to think of one word that’s most important to you or that sums you
most important to you or that sums you
most important to you or that sums you up or so it would be like a little
up or so it would be like a little
up or so it would be like a little beacon pay believe nation if you want to
beacon pay believe nation if you want to
beacon pay believe nation if you want to know what the most important one word is
know what the most important one word is
know what the most important one word is for Tony Robbins Gary Vaynerchuk Oprah
for Tony Robbins Gary Vaynerchuk Oprah
for Tony Robbins Gary Vaynerchuk Oprah Winfrey will.i.am and Howard Schultz I
Winfrey will.i.am and Howard Schultz I
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