good morning believe nation today we’re going to talk about five ways that you
going to talk about five ways that you
going to talk about five ways that you can overcome shyness the third way is my
can overcome shyness the third way is my
can overcome shyness the third way is my personal favorite and make sure to stick
personal favorite and make sure to stick
personal favorite and make sure to stick around all the way to the end for my
around all the way to the end for my
around all the way to the end for my thoughts in a subject to when that
thoughts in a subject to when that
thoughts in a subject to when that moment of shyness hits and the hands
moment of shyness hits and the hands
moment of shyness hits and the hands don’t know where to go you feel like
don’t know where to go you feel like
don’t know where to go you feel like you’ve got nothing worthwhile to say
you’ve got nothing worthwhile to say
you’ve got nothing worthwhile to say instantly recognize this and stop trying
instantly recognize this and stop trying
instantly recognize this and stop trying to do anything and just exist in fact
to do anything and just exist in fact
to do anything and just exist in fact let yourself suck what I mean by this is
let yourself suck what I mean by this is
let yourself suck what I mean by this is you can be boring when I feel this
you can be boring when I feel this
you can be boring when I feel this happen to me it happens sometimes when
happen to me it happens sometimes when
happen to me it happens sometimes when I’m out at a bar a club and I’ve been
I’m out at a bar a club and I’ve been
I’m out at a bar a club and I’ve been separated for my friends and I find
separated for my friends and I find
separated for my friends and I find myself alone and feeling like I don’t
myself alone and feeling like I don’t
myself alone and feeling like I don’t really want to jump back into
really want to jump back into
really want to jump back into conversation with anyone but what I used
conversation with anyone but what I used
conversation with anyone but what I used to do was go okay you’ve got to you got
to do was go okay you’ve got to you got
to do was go okay you’ve got to you got to be fun this is your YouTube channel
to be fun this is your YouTube channel
to be fun this is your YouTube channel your Chrismon command you got to do it
your Chrismon command you got to do it
your Chrismon command you got to do it and I’d force myself in that moment
and I’d force myself in that moment
and I’d force myself in that moment giving yourself 20 to 30 seconds just
giving yourself 20 to 30 seconds just
giving yourself 20 to 30 seconds just stand there and go you know what I’m
stand there and go you know what I’m
stand there and go you know what I’m gonna suck I don’t feel like doing this
gonna suck I don’t feel like doing this
gonna suck I don’t feel like doing this right now it’s such an amazing reboot so
right now it’s such an amazing reboot so
right now it’s such an amazing reboot so what it looks like is I’ll be out and I
what it looks like is I’ll be out and I
what it looks like is I’ll be out and I will literally my hands will drop to my
will literally my hands will drop to my
will literally my hands will drop to my side I’m not gonna smile not gonna make
side I’m not gonna smile not gonna make
side I’m not gonna smile not gonna make great eye contact I might wander a
great eye contact I might wander a
great eye contact I might wander a little bit but I’m gonna do as little as
little bit but I’m gonna do as little as
little bit but I’m gonna do as little as possible and what this does is it frees
possible and what this does is it frees
possible and what this does is it frees me because what shyness is is it’s when
me because what shyness is is it’s when
me because what shyness is is it’s when you don’t feel like the things you have
you don’t feel like the things you have
you don’t feel like the things you have to say are enough when you don’t feel
to say are enough when you don’t feel
to say are enough when you don’t feel like the way that you feel is enough or
like the way that you feel is enough or
like the way that you feel is enough or good enough to engage with other people
good enough to engage with other people
good enough to engage with other people what happens when you allow yourself to
what happens when you allow yourself to
what happens when you allow yourself to be boring is you just you give yourself
be boring is you just you give yourself
be boring is you just you give yourself that worst-case scenario right that’s
that worst-case scenario right that’s
that worst-case scenario right that’s gonna be much worse than this out of the
gonna be much worse than this out of the
gonna be much worse than this out of the bar or a club or a networking event
bar or a club or a networking event
bar or a club or a networking event right and what that does is it
right and what that does is it
right and what that does is it eliminates the need to perform anything
eliminates the need to perform anything
eliminates the need to perform anything and for me this normally takes 20 to 30
and for me this normally takes 20 to 30
and for me this normally takes 20 to 30 seconds before I feel myself reset and
seconds before I feel myself reset and
seconds before I feel myself reset and all of a sudden I don’t feel like I
all of a sudden I don’t feel like I
all of a sudden I don’t feel like I should do anything after about 20 30
should do anything after about 20 30
should do anything after about 20 30 seconds I kind of feel like I want to
seconds I kind of feel like I want to
seconds I kind of feel like I want to because now I’m boring myself or I’ll
because now I’m boring myself or I’ll
because now I’m boring myself or I’ll just go home but at this point you know
just go home but at this point you know
just go home but at this point you know you fully reset when you feel it switch
you fully reset when you feel it switch
you fully reset when you feel it switch from I’ve got to I need to do this too I
from I’ve got to I need to do this too I
from I’ve got to I need to do this too I kind of want to now caveat here this
kind of want to now caveat here this
kind of want to now caveat here this doesn’t mean that you pull out your
doesn’t mean that you pull out your
doesn’t mean that you pull out your phone and you text on your phone for 30
phone and you text on your phone for 30
phone and you text on your phone for 30 seconds that’s the opposite that’s you
seconds that’s the opposite that’s you
seconds that’s the opposite that’s you trying to look busy right that’s the
trying to look busy right that’s the
trying to look busy right that’s the opposite doesn’t mean that you go up
opposite doesn’t mean that you go up
opposite doesn’t mean that you go up against the bar or you stand there and
against the bar or you stand there and
against the bar or you stand there and try to
try to
try to or you try to look powerful you actually
or you try to look powerful you actually
or you try to look powerful you actually release the judgments of everybody else
release the judgments of everybody else
release the judgments of everybody else if they’re gonna think you’re boring
if they’re gonna think you’re boring
if they’re gonna think you’re boring totally fine but you don’t try to look
totally fine but you don’t try to look
totally fine but you don’t try to look like anything you let yourself just go
like anything you let yourself just go
like anything you let yourself just go slack breathe deep thirty seconds later
slack breathe deep thirty seconds later
slack breathe deep thirty seconds later you’re gonna feel a massive difference
you’re gonna feel a massive difference
you’re gonna feel a massive difference I’m very shy so it’s hard for me to make
I’m very shy so it’s hard for me to make
I’m very shy so it’s hard for me to make friends and get noticed at work how can
friends and get noticed at work how can
friends and get noticed at work how can I change that oh I’m naked to work I
I change that oh I’m naked to work I
I change that oh I’m naked to work I would say first of all all of us have
would say first of all all of us have
would say first of all all of us have kind of an identity for ourselves a way
kind of an identity for ourselves a way
kind of an identity for ourselves a way of defining ourselves and human beings
of defining ourselves and human beings
of defining ourselves and human beings don’t usually stray from that so if you
don’t usually stray from that so if you
don’t usually stray from that so if you consider yourself to be a conservative
consider yourself to be a conservative
consider yourself to be a conservative person or a shy person I know the way
person or a shy person I know the way
person or a shy person I know the way you move to some extent I know the
you move to some extent I know the
you move to some extent I know the facial expressions the gestures I use
facial expressions the gestures I use
facial expressions the gestures I use your body and it’s all consistent with
your body and it’s all consistent with
your body and it’s all consistent with the fact that human beings our strongest
the fact that human beings our strongest
the fact that human beings our strongest Drive is the need to stay consistent
Drive is the need to stay consistent
Drive is the need to stay consistent with how we define ourselves if your
with how we define ourselves if your
with how we define ourselves if your self definition is I’m a situation where
self definition is I’m a situation where
self definition is I’m a situation where I’m kind of what was the word he used a
I’m kind of what was the word he used a
I’m kind of what was the word he used a shy shy then you’re gonna find a way to
shy shy then you’re gonna find a way to
shy shy then you’re gonna find a way to get to a place where you kind of cower
get to a place where you kind of cower
get to a place where you kind of cower back right that’s this thing you can do
back right that’s this thing you can do
back right that’s this thing you can do to change your experience would be to
to change your experience would be to
to change your experience would be to create a new little thing of simple
create a new little thing of simple
create a new little thing of simple thing like erase the video I’m shy go
thing like erase the video I’m shy go
thing like erase the video I’m shy go erase that’s a BS story bs meeting
erase that’s a BS story bs meeting
erase that’s a BS story bs meeting belief system that’s just a story and if
belief system that’s just a story and if
belief system that’s just a story and if you tell yourself a story long enough
you tell yourself a story long enough
you tell yourself a story long enough you start to believe it don’t you
you start to believe it don’t you
you start to believe it don’t you believe it you act like it when you cook
believe it you act like it when you cook
believe it you act like it when you cook calling yourself shy you believe you
calling yourself shy you believe you
calling yourself shy you believe you have always been shot up until this
have always been shot up until this
have always been shot up until this moment do something that’s completely
moment do something that’s completely
moment do something that’s completely outside what you would normally do
outside what you would normally do
outside what you would normally do something become somebody else decide
something become somebody else decide
something become somebody else decide who’s the most playful passionate
who’s the most playful passionate
who’s the most playful passionate outrageous fun pursing it now and behave
outrageous fun pursing it now and behave
outrageous fun pursing it now and behave like them for two or three days just
like them for two or three days just
like them for two or three days just push yourself to behave like that here’s
push yourself to behave like that here’s
push yourself to behave like that here’s what’s happened it’ll be shocking you’ll
what’s happened it’ll be shocking you’ll
what’s happened it’ll be shocking you’ll be weird do be different you’ll feel
be weird do be different you’ll feel
be weird do be different you’ll feel uncomfortable but after a while you’ll
uncomfortable but after a while you’ll
uncomfortable but after a while you’ll get reinforced it’s like if you get a
get reinforced it’s like if you get a
get reinforced it’s like if you get a nice haircut you make a change in way
nice haircut you make a change in way
nice haircut you make a change in way you look people compliment you you’ll
you look people compliment you you’ll
you look people compliment you you’ll get some compliments and those
get some compliments and those
get some compliments and those compliments will make you want to use
compliments will make you want to use
compliments will make you want to use those other parts yourself well to
those other parts yourself well to
those other parts yourself well to really overcome shyness you have to
really overcome shyness you have to
really overcome shyness you have to start to overcome your self-image and
start to overcome your self-image and
start to overcome your self-image and you have to start to overcome this idea
you have to start to overcome this idea
you have to start to overcome this idea that people are looking at you and
that people are looking at you and
that people are looking at you and people are really caring about what
people are really caring about what
people are really caring about what you’re doing the problem the fundamental
you’re doing the problem the fundamental
you’re doing the problem the fundamental problem is that you care too much about
problem is that you care too much about
problem is that you care too much about what other people think of you
what other people think of you
what other people think of you and that is something that you’re gonna
and that is something that you’re gonna
and that is something that you’re gonna have to numb down through a process of
have to numb down through a process of
have to numb down through a process of progressive desensitization is that
progressive desensitization is that
progressive desensitization is that you’re gonna go through and you’re gonna
you’re gonna go through and you’re gonna
you’re gonna go through and you’re gonna whatever technique you use that I’m
whatever technique you use that I’m
whatever technique you use that I’m going to give you here is you’re gonna
going to give you here is you’re gonna
going to give you here is you’re gonna numb yourself down to this idea that
numb yourself down to this idea that
numb yourself down to this idea that it’s important what people think of you
it’s important what people think of you
it’s important what people think of you because right now you care too much and
because right now you care too much and
because right now you care too much and maybe because you care so much about how
maybe because you care so much about how
maybe because you care so much about how people think of you you stutter or you
people think of you you stutter or you
people think of you you stutter or you don’t make eye contact or you don’t go
don’t make eye contact or you don’t go
don’t make eye contact or you don’t go up and you introduce yourself or you’re
up and you introduce yourself or you’re
up and you introduce yourself or you’re afraid of approaching someone and
afraid of approaching someone and
afraid of approaching someone and putting yourself out on the line because
putting yourself out on the line because
putting yourself out on the line because you either fear rejection you fear
you either fear rejection you fear
you either fear rejection you fear embarrassment you feel that people will
embarrassment you feel that people will
embarrassment you feel that people will laugh at you you fear that people think
laugh at you you fear that people think
laugh at you you fear that people think that you’re weird or any number of these
that you’re weird or any number of these
that you’re weird or any number of these kind of doom and gloom scenarios the
kind of doom and gloom scenarios the
kind of doom and gloom scenarios the fact is that that’s something that
fact is that that’s something that
fact is that that’s something that you’ve constructed in your mind and I
you’ve constructed in your mind and I
you’ve constructed in your mind and I know because I have this I’ve had it
know because I have this I’ve had it
know because I have this I’ve had it really bad in the past and I still have
really bad in the past and I still have
really bad in the past and I still have it to some degree now it’s still hard
it to some degree now it’s still hard
it to some degree now it’s still hard for me to sometimes go up to a stranger
for me to sometimes go up to a stranger
for me to sometimes go up to a stranger and introduce myself or to go on the
and introduce myself or to go on the
and introduce myself or to go on the line and and go you know like hit on a
line and and go you know like hit on a
line and and go you know like hit on a girl in a club or in a bar that’s still
girl in a club or in a bar that’s still
girl in a club or in a bar that’s still challenging it can be so first of all
challenging it can be so first of all
challenging it can be so first of all realize that you’re totally normal and
realize that you’re totally normal and
realize that you’re totally normal and that there are a lot a lot of people in
that there are a lot a lot of people in
that there are a lot a lot of people in the world millions of people that are
the world millions of people that are
the world millions of people that are caught in this situation and the reason
caught in this situation and the reason
caught in this situation and the reason is that they haven’t gone in there and
is that they haven’t gone in there and
is that they haven’t gone in there and they haven’t done themselves down to it
they haven’t done themselves down to it
they haven’t done themselves down to it so the only way that you’re really gonna
so the only way that you’re really gonna
so the only way that you’re really gonna overcome shyness is by actually going
overcome shyness is by actually going
overcome shyness is by actually going out and interacting with people you
out and interacting with people you
out and interacting with people you can’t really avoid that what you can do
can’t really avoid that what you can do
can’t really avoid that what you can do is kind of build up gradually so that
is kind of build up gradually so that
is kind of build up gradually so that it’s not as painful or scary as it would
it’s not as painful or scary as it would
it’s not as painful or scary as it would be if you just for example went up and
be if you just for example went up and
be if you just for example went up and you had to give a speech in front of a
you had to give a speech in front of a
you had to give a speech in front of a thousand people in auditorium that would
thousand people in auditorium that would
thousand people in auditorium that would be so scary that you probably throw up
be so scary that you probably throw up
be so scary that you probably throw up and you would never do it whereas if you
and you would never do it whereas if you
and you would never do it whereas if you start yourself small and baby step your
start yourself small and baby step your
start yourself small and baby step your way up over a long period of time
way up over a long period of time
way up over a long period of time then you can get this problem handled so
then you can get this problem handled so
then you can get this problem handled so for example if you are shy in the
for example if you are shy in the
for example if you are shy in the context of work like you’re not
context of work like you’re not
context of work like you’re not asserting yourself at work and you know
asserting yourself at work and you know
asserting yourself at work and you know that you’re that other people are more
that you’re that other people are more
that you’re that other people are more more involved they’re their voices being
more involved they’re their voices being
more involved they’re their voices being heard more and in group meetings it’s
heard more and in group meetings it’s
heard more and in group meetings it’s that true
that true
that true what you gotta do is you gotta start
what you gotta do is you gotta start
what you gotta do is you gotta start opening yourself up start very small so
opening yourself up start very small so
opening yourself up start very small so what can you do what’s one thing you can
what can you do what’s one thing you can
what can you do what’s one thing you can do well you could maybe find one
do well you could maybe find one
do well you could maybe find one League or two colleagues and just make
League or two colleagues and just make
League or two colleagues and just make friends with them and start building up
friends with them and start building up
friends with them and start building up relationships with them and maybe you
relationships with them and maybe you
relationships with them and maybe you could start going to lunch or meeting up
could start going to lunch or meeting up
could start going to lunch or meeting up with them during coffee breaks or at the
with them during coffee breaks or at the
with them during coffee breaks or at the water cooler and just start chatting
water cooler and just start chatting
water cooler and just start chatting them up this is something that you’re
them up this is something that you’re
them up this is something that you’re gonna have to you’re gonna have to train
gonna have to you’re gonna have to train
gonna have to you’re gonna have to train yourself to do right is you have to put
yourself to do right is you have to put
yourself to do right is you have to put your covers a little bit cuz naturally
your covers a little bit cuz naturally
your covers a little bit cuz naturally you’re not gonna want to go and just
you’re not gonna want to go and just
you’re not gonna want to go and just have some idle chitchat with somebody at
have some idle chitchat with somebody at
have some idle chitchat with somebody at the water cooler or maybe ask them to
the water cooler or maybe ask them to
the water cooler or maybe ask them to lunch maybe what if they reject you you
lunch maybe what if they reject you you
lunch maybe what if they reject you you have to put yourself out on a limb it’s
have to put yourself out on a limb it’s
have to put yourself out on a limb it’s a it’s a small limb the fact is that
a it’s a small limb the fact is that
a it’s a small limb the fact is that most people will not reject you you’ll
most people will not reject you you’ll
most people will not reject you you’ll be surprised at how good they they
be surprised at how good they they
be surprised at how good they they respond to you and even if you’re
respond to you and even if you’re
respond to you and even if you’re socially uncalibrated they’ll still
socially uncalibrated they’ll still
socially uncalibrated they’ll still respond well to you in most cases and
respond well to you in most cases and
respond well to you in most cases and even if they don’t again this goes back
even if they don’t again this goes back
even if they don’t again this goes back to the problem of why do you care so
to the problem of why do you care so
to the problem of why do you care so much why do you care so much that
much why do you care so much that
much why do you care so much that someone doesn’t want to go to lunch with
someone doesn’t want to go to lunch with
someone doesn’t want to go to lunch with you or snubs you at the water cooler
you or snubs you at the water cooler
you or snubs you at the water cooler it’s not that big of a deal
it’s not that big of a deal
it’s not that big of a deal and you have to get yourself accustomed
and you have to get yourself accustomed
and you have to get yourself accustomed to that because right now if you’re very
to that because right now if you’re very
to that because right now if you’re very sensitive to it if you have got thin
sensitive to it if you have got thin
sensitive to it if you have got thin skin then that’s gonna be painful but
skin then that’s gonna be painful but
skin then that’s gonna be painful but you got to put yourself out there and
you got to put yourself out there and
you got to put yourself out there and try it so start small and then once for
try it so start small and then once for
try it so start small and then once for example you’ve got some lunch
example you’ve got some lunch
example you’ve got some lunch relationships built you’re going out
relationships built you’re going out
relationships built you’re going out with people at lunch
with people at lunch
with people at lunch maybe then you’re going out first with
maybe then you’re going out first with
maybe then you’re going out first with with one other person so it’s just the
with one other person so it’s just the
with one other person so it’s just the two of you then maybe you invite a third
two of you then maybe you invite a third
two of you then maybe you invite a third person then maybe you hold a a weekly
person then maybe you hold a a weekly
person then maybe you hold a a weekly lunch with you know with your team of
lunch with you know with your team of
lunch with you know with your team of ten people or five people and all of a
ten people or five people and all of a
ten people or five people and all of a sudden you start kind of hobnobbing with
sudden you start kind of hobnobbing with
sudden you start kind of hobnobbing with them interacting with them in kind of a
them interacting with them in kind of a
them interacting with them in kind of a more casual lunch environment then all
more casual lunch environment then all
more casual lunch environment then all the sudden when you’re at work in a
the sudden when you’re at work in a
the sudden when you’re at work in a group meeting then you can be more
group meeting then you can be more
group meeting then you can be more assertive there and it’ll just it’ll
assertive there and it’ll just it’ll
assertive there and it’ll just it’ll just transfer over and you’ll get better
just transfer over and you’ll get better
just transfer over and you’ll get better and better and better at it that’s
and better and better at it that’s
and better and better at it that’s something you have to practice you know
something you have to practice you know
something you have to practice you know the biggest problem that a shy person
the biggest problem that a shy person
the biggest problem that a shy person has is that they label themselves as shy
has is that they label themselves as shy
has is that they label themselves as shy and when we label ourselves as shy we
and when we label ourselves as shy we
and when we label ourselves as shy we act like a shy person would and people
act like a shy person would and people
act like a shy person would and people don’t naturally gravitate towards a shy
don’t naturally gravitate towards a shy
don’t naturally gravitate towards a shy person because we could feel their
person because we could feel their
person because we could feel their discomfort so the best thing that you
discomfort so the best thing that you
discomfort so the best thing that you could do is to challenge yourself by
could do is to challenge yourself by
could do is to challenge yourself by going into social situations that you
going into social situations that you
going into social situations that you either know somebody that you trust the
either know somebody that you trust the
either know somebody that you trust the you can really rely on to help you
you can really rely on to help you
you can really rely on to help you overcome that initial first step which
overcome that initial first step which
overcome that initial first step which is always the most difficult or you can
is always the most difficult or you can
is always the most difficult or you can really put the focus on to somebody else
really put the focus on to somebody else
really put the focus on to somebody else the great news for a shy person is that
the great news for a shy person is that
the great news for a shy person is that people are so self-absorbed they love to
people are so self-absorbed they love to
people are so self-absorbed they love to talk about themselves so all you need to
talk about themselves so all you need to
talk about themselves so all you need to do is ask a question as simple or easy
do is ask a question as simple or easy
do is ask a question as simple or easy as how was your day and the other person
as how was your day and the other person
as how was your day and the other person will start talking and you could be more
will start talking and you could be more
will start talking and you could be more focused on them than you and sooner or
focused on them than you and sooner or
focused on them than you and sooner or later you will find that the only reason
later you will find that the only reason
later you will find that the only reason why you are shy is because you thought
why you are shy is because you thought
why you are shy is because you thought that you were lastly a lot of guys are
that you were lastly a lot of guys are
that you were lastly a lot of guys are nervous to talk to girls
nervous to talk to girls
nervous to talk to girls because they don’t believe they have
because they don’t believe they have
because they don’t believe they have something to bring to the table so what
something to bring to the table so what
something to bring to the table so what you can do to combat this is to bring
you can do to combat this is to bring
you can do to combat this is to bring value to Congress
value to Congress
value to Congress what you can do is make a list or think
what you can do is make a list or think
what you can do is make a list or think about all the things that you could do
about all the things that you could do
about all the things that you could do to bring value to a conversation is it
to bring value to a conversation is it
to bring value to a conversation is it an interesting story a funny joke but
an interesting story a funny joke but
an interesting story a funny joke but you’re just offering unique information
you’re just offering unique information
you’re just offering unique information about yourself that might inspire
about yourself that might inspire
about yourself that might inspire someone can you teach someone something
someone can you teach someone something
someone can you teach someone something can you make someone feel good about
can you make someone feel good about
can you make someone feel good about themselves those are some of the
themselves those are some of the
themselves those are some of the examples of ways that you can bring
examples of ways that you can bring
examples of ways that you can bring value to a conversation and once you’re
value to a conversation and once you’re
value to a conversation and once you’re bringing value then you will know for
bringing value then you will know for
bringing value then you will know for sure that people want to talk to you and
sure that people want to talk to you and
sure that people want to talk to you and therefore get rid of your so-called
therefore get rid of your so-called
therefore get rid of your so-called shyness so my quick thoughts on shyness
shyness so my quick thoughts on shyness
shyness so my quick thoughts on shyness I have two the first is one maybe you
I have two the first is one maybe you
I have two the first is one maybe you don’t need to change it if you are not a
don’t need to change it if you are not a
don’t need to change it if you are not a naturally extroverted person you don’t
naturally extroverted person you don’t
naturally extroverted person you don’t have to look at those people who are
have to look at those people who are
have to look at those people who are massively Oxenberg and say I want to be
massively Oxenberg and say I want to be
massively Oxenberg and say I want to be like them recognizing that you have
like them recognizing that you have
like them recognizing that you have strengths you’re good at things being
strengths you’re good at things being
strengths you’re good at things being introverted is not a problem it’s not
introverted is not a problem it’s not
introverted is not a problem it’s not something that necessarily needs to be
something that necessarily needs to be
something that necessarily needs to be fixed and to be comfortable and happy
fixed and to be comfortable and happy
fixed and to be comfortable and happy with who you are and recognize the
with who you are and recognize the
with who you are and recognize the strengths that you do have and and go
strengths that you do have and and go
strengths that you do have and and go all in on your strengths I’m a big
all in on your strengths I’m a big
all in on your strengths I’m a big believer in what you are really good at
believer in what you are really good at
believer in what you are really good at you should go and try to accentuate and
you should go and try to accentuate and
you should go and try to accentuate and try to be one of the best in the world
try to be one of the best in the world
try to be one of the best in the world that and forget about the weaknesses
that and forget about the weaknesses
that and forget about the weaknesses stop trying to fix the weaknesses
stop trying to fix the weaknesses
stop trying to fix the weaknesses because you’ll let best be mediocre at
because you’ll let best be mediocre at
because you’ll let best be mediocre at them and then you never actually get to
them and then you never actually get to
them and then you never actually get to do the thing that you can change the
do the thing that you can change the
do the thing that you can change the world with where instead go all-in on
world with where instead go all-in on
world with where instead go all-in on what you’re really amazing at and that
what you’re really amazing at and that
what you’re really amazing at and that can allow you to have that big impact
can allow you to have that big impact
can allow you to have that big impact that you’re looking for the second part
that you’re looking for the second part
that you’re looking for the second part though is if you feel like this is
though is if you feel like this is
though is if you feel like this is something that’s holding you back or you
something that’s holding you back or you
something that’s holding you back or you have some big goal that you want to
have some big goal that you want to
have some big goal that you want to reach and you’re afraid to do it or
reach and you’re afraid to do it or
reach and you’re afraid to do it or you’re afraid to talk to somebody you
you’re afraid to talk to somebody you
you’re afraid to talk to somebody you feel like that’s really limiting you
feel like that’s really limiting you
feel like that’s really limiting you practice really helps in small steps
practice really helps in small steps
practice really helps in small steps really help so for me you know speaking
really help so for me you know speaking
really help so for me you know speaking on stage was something that what used to
on stage was something that what used to
on stage was something that what used to be super nervous about so talking to a
be super nervous about so talking to a
be super nervous about so talking to a small group really helped practicing by
small group really helped practicing by
small group really helped practicing by getting in front of the camera and just
getting in front of the camera and just
getting in front of the camera and just doing some YouTube videos really helped
doing some YouTube videos really helped
doing some YouTube videos really helped me and so pushing yourself to like that
me and so pushing yourself to like that
me and so pushing yourself to like that one big step may seem insanely huge
one big step may seem insanely huge
one big step may seem insanely huge break that down into a smaller step and
break that down into a smaller step and
break that down into a smaller step and do that one little step that is still
do that one little step that is still
do that one little step that is still scary but not super scary something you
scary but not super scary something you
scary but not super scary something you can do and then you take another small
can do and then you take another small
can do and then you take another small step in another small step in another
step in another small step in another
step in another small step in another small step each time push you a comfort
small step each time push you a comfort
small step each time push you a comfort zone just a little bit and when you look
zone just a little bit and when you look
zone just a little bit and when you look back you’ll notice that you took that
back you’ll notice that you took that
back you’ll notice that you took that giant leap but it wasn’t all at once it
giant leap but it wasn’t all at once it
giant leap but it wasn’t all at once it was in steps and I found that that
was in steps and I found that that
was in steps and I found that that really helped me as well so thank you
really helped me as well so thank you
really helped me as well so thank you guys so much for watching I’d love to
guys so much for watching I’d love to
guys so much for watching I’d love to know what you thought about this video I
know what you thought about this video I
know what you thought about this video I love to know if
love to know if
love to know if you are a shy person if you feel that it
you are a shy person if you feel that it
you are a shy person if you feel that it holds you back what you’ve learned from
holds you back what you’ve learned from
holds you back what you’ve learned from this video that maybe you’re gonna apply
this video that maybe you’re gonna apply
this video that maybe you’re gonna apply to your life in your business leaving it
to your life in your business leaving it
to your life in your business leaving it in the comments below really curious
in the comments below really curious
in the comments below really curious hear what you have to say and finally
hear what you have to say and finally
hear what you have to say and finally one thing give a quick shout out to
one thing give a quick shout out to
one thing give a quick shout out to Michael Ashe Michael thank you so much
Michael Ashe Michael thank you so much
Michael Ashe Michael thank you so much for purchasing the copy of my book it
for purchasing the copy of my book it
for purchasing the copy of my book it means a lot to me Michael is also one of
means a lot to me Michael is also one of
means a lot to me Michael is also one of my proofreaders or pre readers at the
my proofreaders or pre readers at the
my proofreaders or pre readers at the start where he had the book that was
start where he had the book that was
start where he had the book that was twice as long and so he gave some
twice as long and so he gave some
twice as long and so he gave some amazing feedback Michael really
amazing feedback Michael really
amazing feedback Michael really appreciated that for those of you who
appreciated that for those of you who
appreciated that for those of you who want your chance at a future shadow in
want your chance at a future shadow in
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watching have an amazing day continue to believe or whatever your one
continue to believe or whatever your one
continue to believe or whatever your one where it is and I’ll see you soon
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