I want to skip the flattery and the attaboys because I do know this the
attaboys because I do know this the
attaboys because I do know this the sooner that we become less impressed
sooner that we become less impressed
sooner that we become less impressed with our lives with our accomplishments
with our lives with our accomplishments
with our lives with our accomplishments with our career with whatever that
with our career with whatever that
with our career with whatever that prospect is in front of us the sooner we
prospect is in front of us the sooner we
prospect is in front of us the sooner we become less impressed and more involved
become less impressed and more involved
become less impressed and more involved with that and these things the sooner we
with that and these things the sooner we
with that and these things the sooner we get a whole lot better at doing them so
get a whole lot better at doing them so
get a whole lot better at doing them so I’m going to talk to you about some
I’m going to talk to you about some
I’m going to talk to you about some things I’ve learned in my journey most
things I’ve learned in my journey most
things I’ve learned in my journey most from experience some of them I heard in
from experience some of them I heard in
from experience some of them I heard in passing many of them I’m still
passing many of them I’m still
passing many of them I’m still practicing but all of them I do believe
practicing but all of them I do believe
practicing but all of them I do believe are true now they may be true to me but
are true now they may be true to me but
are true now they may be true to me but don’t think that that makes them mine
don’t think that that makes them mine
don’t think that that makes them mine because you cannot own a truth so please
because you cannot own a truth so please
because you cannot own a truth so please think of these as signposts approaches
think of these as signposts approaches
think of these as signposts approaches paradigms that give some science to
paradigms that give some science to
paradigms that give some science to satisfaction your steel yours to share
satisfaction your steel yours to share
satisfaction your steel yours to share like into your own lives to personally
like into your own lives to personally
like into your own lives to personally apply in your own lives in your own way
apply in your own lives in your own way
apply in your own lives in your own way should you choose to so here we go
should you choose to so here we go
should you choose to so here we go number one life’s not easy life is not
number one life’s not easy life is not
number one life’s not easy life is not easy it is not don’t try to make it that
easy it is not don’t try to make it that
easy it is not don’t try to make it that way
way
way life’s not fair it never was it is it
life’s not fair it never was it is it
life’s not fair it never was it is it now and it won’t ever be do not fall
now and it won’t ever be do not fall
now and it won’t ever be do not fall into the trap the entitlement trap a
into the trap the entitlement trap a
into the trap the entitlement trap a feeling like you’re a victim you are not
feeling like you’re a victim you are not
feeling like you’re a victim you are not get over it and get on with it and yes
get over it and get on with it and yes
get over it and get on with it and yes most things are more rewarding when you
most things are more rewarding when you
most things are more rewarding when you break a sweat to get them number two
unbelievable is the stupidest word the
unbelievable is the stupidest word the dictionary should never come out of our
dictionary should never come out of our
dictionary should never come out of our mouth think about it to say oh wow what
mouth think about it to say oh wow what
mouth think about it to say oh wow what an unbelievable play it was an
an unbelievable play it was an
an unbelievable play it was an unbelievable book an unbelievable film
unbelievable book an unbelievable film
unbelievable book an unbelievable film an unbelievable act of courage
an unbelievable act of courage
an unbelievable act of courage really it may be spectacular it may be
really it may be spectacular it may be
really it may be spectacular it may be phenomenal most excellent or outstanding
phenomenal most excellent or outstanding
phenomenal most excellent or outstanding it’s unbelievable give others and
it’s unbelievable give others and
it’s unbelievable give others and yourself more credit it just happened
yourself more credit it just happened
yourself more credit it just happened you witnessed it you just did it believe
you witnessed it you just did it believe
you witnessed it you just did it believe it what about the other side of
it what about the other side of
it what about the other side of unbelievable you know that that side
unbelievable you know that that side
unbelievable you know that that side when we humans underperform or act out
when we humans underperform or act out
when we humans underperform or act out of our best parrots for instance man
of our best parrots for instance man
of our best parrots for instance man flies a suicide
flies a suicide
flies a suicide the World Trade Center millions died
the World Trade Center millions died
the World Trade Center millions died from diseases every day that we have
from diseases every day that we have
from diseases every day that we have cures for Bob the Builder swears that
cures for Bob the Builder swears that
cures for Bob the Builder swears that he’s going to have your house built by
he’s going to have your house built by
he’s going to have your house built by Thanksgiving and you can’t move in until
Thanksgiving and you can’t move in until
Thanksgiving and you can’t move in until Christmas the next year our best friends
Christmas the next year our best friends
Christmas the next year our best friends lied to us and we lie to ourselves all
lied to us and we lie to ourselves all
lied to us and we lie to ourselves all the time
the time
the time unbelievable I don’t think so
unbelievable I don’t think so
unbelievable I don’t think so again it just happened and it happens
again it just happened and it happens
again it just happened and it happens every day nothing that we Homo Sapien
every day nothing that we Homo Sapien
every day nothing that we Homo Sapien Earthlings do is unbelievable and if
Earthlings do is unbelievable and if
Earthlings do is unbelievable and if there’s one thing you can depend on
there’s one thing you can depend on
there’s one thing you can depend on people being its people so we shouldn’t
people being its people so we shouldn’t
people being its people so we shouldn’t be surprised we us are the trickiest
be surprised we us are the trickiest
be surprised we us are the trickiest mammals walking the planet I’m not
mammals walking the planet I’m not
mammals walking the planet I’m not worried about the monkeys I’m worried
worried about the monkeys I’m worried
worried about the monkeys I’m worried about you and me so acknowledge the acts
about you and me so acknowledge the acts
about you and me so acknowledge the acts of greatness as real and do not be naive
of greatness as real and do not be naive
of greatness as real and do not be naive about mankind’s capacity for evil nor be
about mankind’s capacity for evil nor be
about mankind’s capacity for evil nor be in denial of our own shortcomings
in denial of our own shortcomings
in denial of our own shortcomings happiness is an emotional response to an
happiness is an emotional response to an
happiness is an emotional response to an outcome if I win I will be happy if I
outcome if I win I will be happy if I
outcome if I win I will be happy if I don’t I won’t
don’t I won’t
don’t I won’t it’s an if-then cause-and-effect quid
it’s an if-then cause-and-effect quid
it’s an if-then cause-and-effect quid pro quo standard that we cannot sustain
pro quo standard that we cannot sustain
pro quo standard that we cannot sustain because we immediately raise it every
because we immediately raise it every
because we immediately raise it every time we attain it see happiness
time we attain it see happiness
time we attain it see happiness happiness demands a certain outcome
happiness demands a certain outcome
happiness demands a certain outcome it is result reliant and I say if
it is result reliant and I say if
it is result reliant and I say if happiness is what you’re after then
happiness is what you’re after then
happiness is what you’re after then you’re gonna be let down frequently and
you’re gonna be let down frequently and
you’re gonna be let down frequently and you’re gonna be unhappy much of your
you’re gonna be unhappy much of your
you’re gonna be unhappy much of your time joy though Joy’s a different thing
time joy though Joy’s a different thing
time joy though Joy’s a different thing it’s something else Joey is not a choice
it’s something else Joey is not a choice
it’s something else Joey is not a choice it’s not a response to some result it’s
it’s not a response to some result it’s
it’s not a response to some result it’s a constant joy is the feeling that we
a constant joy is the feeling that we
a constant joy is the feeling that we have from doing what we are fashioned to
have from doing what we are fashioned to
have from doing what we are fashioned to do no matter the outcome now personally
do no matter the outcome now personally
do no matter the outcome now personally as an actor I started enjoying my work
as an actor I started enjoying my work
as an actor I started enjoying my work and literally being more happy when I
and literally being more happy when I
and literally being more happy when I stopped trying to make the daily labor a
stopped trying to make the daily labor a
stopped trying to make the daily labor a means to a certain in for example I need
means to a certain in for example I need
means to a certain in for example I need this film to be a box-office success
this film to be a box-office success
this film to be a box-office success I need my performance to be acknowledged
I need my performance to be acknowledged
I need my performance to be acknowledged I need the respect of my peers
I need the respect of my peers
I need the respect of my peers are all those are reasonable aspirations
are all those are reasonable aspirations
are all those are reasonable aspirations but the truth is as soon as the work the
but the truth is as soon as the work the
but the truth is as soon as the work the daily making of the movie the doing of
daily making of the movie the doing of
daily making of the movie the doing of the deed became the reward in itself for
the deed became the reward in itself for
the deed became the reward in itself for me I got more box office more accolades
me I got more box office more accolades
me I got more box office more accolades and respect than I ever had before
and respect than I ever had before
and respect than I ever had before see joy is always in process it’s under
see joy is always in process it’s under
see joy is always in process it’s under construction it is in constant approach
construction it is in constant approach
construction it is in constant approach alive and well in the doing of what
alive and well in the doing of what
alive and well in the doing of what we’re fashion to do and enjoying number
we’re fashion to do and enjoying number
we’re fashion to do and enjoying number four define success for yourself define
four define success for yourself define
four define success for yourself define success for yourself but check this out
success for yourself but check this out
success for yourself but check this out I’m in south of New Orleans a few years
I’m in south of New Orleans a few years
I’m in south of New Orleans a few years ago I went to a voodoo shop and they had
ago I went to a voodoo shop and they had
ago I went to a voodoo shop and they had this wooden partition against the wall
this wooden partition against the wall
this wooden partition against the wall of these columns and in these columns
of these columns and in these columns
of these columns and in these columns were all these vials of these magic
were all these vials of these magic
were all these vials of these magic potions
potions
potions right and the headings above each potion
right and the headings above each potion
right and the headings above each potion defining what they would give you were
defining what they would give you were
defining what they would give you were things like fertility health family
things like fertility health family
things like fertility health family legal health energy forgiveness money
legal health energy forgiveness money
legal health energy forgiveness money guess which column was empty my name
guess which column was empty my name
guess which column was empty my name let’s submit it money is king today it’s
let’s submit it money is king today it’s
let’s submit it money is king today it’s what make the work makes the world go
what make the work makes the world go
what make the work makes the world go round it is success the more we have the
round it is success the more we have the
round it is success the more we have the more successful we are right now I would
more successful we are right now I would
more successful we are right now I would argue that our cultural values have even
argue that our cultural values have even
argue that our cultural values have even been financialized financialized
been financialized financialized
been financialized financialized humility is not the vogue anymore two
humility is not the vogue anymore two
humility is not the vogue anymore two passes to get rich quick on the Internet
passes to get rich quick on the Internet
passes to get rich quick on the Internet riches 15 minutes of fame world that we
riches 15 minutes of fame world that we
riches 15 minutes of fame world that we live in and we see it every day but we
live in and we see it every day but we
live in and we see it every day but we all want to succeed right so the
all want to succeed right so the
all want to succeed right so the question that we got to ask ourselves is
question that we got to ask ourselves is
question that we got to ask ourselves is what success is to us what success is to
what success is to us what success is to
what success is to us what success is to you more money that’s fine I got nothing
you more money that’s fine I got nothing
you more money that’s fine I got nothing against money no maybe it’s a healthy
against money no maybe it’s a healthy
against money no maybe it’s a healthy family maybe it’s a happy marriage maybe
family maybe it’s a happy marriage maybe
family maybe it’s a happy marriage maybe it’s to help others to be famous be
it’s to help others to be famous be
it’s to help others to be famous be spiritually sound leave the world a
spiritually sound leave the world a
spiritually sound leave the world a little bit better place than you found
little bit better place than you found
little bit better place than you found it continue to ask yourself that
it continue to ask yourself that
it continue to ask yourself that question and your answer may change over
question and your answer may change over
question and your answer may change over time and that’s fine but do yourself
time and that’s fine but do yourself
time and that’s fine but do yourself this favor
this favor
this favor whatever your answer is don’t choose
whatever your answer is don’t choose
whatever your answer is don’t choose anything that will jeopardize your soul
anything that will jeopardize your soul
anything that will jeopardize your soul prioritize who you are who you want to
prioritize who you are who you want to
prioritize who you are who you want to be and don’t spend time with anything
be and don’t spend time with anything
be and don’t spend time with anything that antagonizes your character don’t
that antagonizes your character don’t
that antagonizes your character don’t drink the kool-aid and it tastes sweet
drink the kool-aid and it tastes sweet
drink the kool-aid and it tastes sweet but you will get cavities tomorrow
but you will get cavities tomorrow
but you will get cavities tomorrow all right life is not a popularity
all right life is not a popularity
all right life is not a popularity contest be brave take the hill but first
contest be brave take the hill but first
contest be brave take the hill but first answer that question what’s my hill so
answer that question what’s my hill so
answer that question what’s my hill so me how do i how do i define success for
me how do i how do i define success for
me how do i how do i define success for me myself well for me it’s a measurement
me myself well for me it’s a measurement
me myself well for me it’s a measurement of five things we got fatherhood we got
of five things we got fatherhood we got
of five things we got fatherhood we got being a good husband we got my health
being a good husband we got my health
being a good husband we got my health I’m body and spirit we’ve got career and
I’m body and spirit we’ve got career and
I’m body and spirit we’ve got career and we got friendships these are what’s
we got friendships these are what’s
we got friendships these are what’s important to me in my life right now so
important to me in my life right now so
important to me in my life right now so I try to measure these five things each
I try to measure these five things each
I try to measure these five things each day I check in with them I like to see
day I check in with them I like to see
day I check in with them I like to see whether or not I’m in the the debit
whether or not I’m in the the debit
whether or not I’m in the the debit section or the credit section with each
section or the credit section with each
section or the credit section with each one a man in the red or I’m in the black
one a man in the red or I’m in the black
one a man in the red or I’m in the black you follow for instance sometimes say my
you follow for instance sometimes say my
you follow for instance sometimes say my career’s rolling alright it’s way up
career’s rolling alright it’s way up
career’s rolling alright it’s way up here in the black but I see how my
here in the black but I see how my
here in the black but I see how my relationship with my wife maybe you
relationship with my wife maybe you
relationship with my wife maybe you could use a little bit more of my
could use a little bit more of my
could use a little bit more of my attention I got to pick up the slack on
attention I got to pick up the slack on
attention I got to pick up the slack on being a better husband get that one out
being a better husband get that one out
being a better husband get that one out of the red or say my spiritual health
of the red or say my spiritual health
of the red or say my spiritual health could use some maintenance it’s down
could use some maintenance it’s down
could use some maintenance it’s down here but a man my friendships in my
here but a man my friendships in my
here but a man my friendships in my social life they’re in high gear right I
social life they’re in high gear right I
social life they’re in high gear right I got to recalibrate checks and balances I
got to recalibrate checks and balances I
got to recalibrate checks and balances I got to go to church remember to say
got to go to church remember to say
got to go to church remember to say thank you more often something but I got
thank you more often something but I got
thank you more often something but I got to take the tally because I want to keep
to take the tally because I want to keep
to take the tally because I want to keep all five in healthy shape and I know
all five in healthy shape and I know
all five in healthy shape and I know that if I don’t take care of them if I
that if I don’t take care of them if I
that if I don’t take care of them if I don’t keep up maintenance on them one of
don’t keep up maintenance on them one of
don’t keep up maintenance on them one of them is going to get weak and
them is going to get weak and
them is going to get weak and it’s gonna dip too deep into the debit
it’s gonna dip too deep into the debit
it’s gonna dip too deep into the debit section it’s gonna go bankrupt it’s
section it’s gonna go bankrupt it’s
section it’s gonna go bankrupt it’s gonna get sick died so first we have to
gonna get sick died so first we have to
gonna get sick died so first we have to define success for ourselves and then we
define success for ourselves and then we
define success for ourselves and then we have to put in the work to maintain it
have to put in the work to maintain it
have to put in the work to maintain it take that daily tally tend our garden
take that daily tally tend our garden
take that daily tally tend our garden keep the things that are important to us
keep the things that are important to us
keep the things that are important to us in good shape I mean let’s admit it
in good shape I mean let’s admit it
in good shape I mean let’s admit it we’ve all got two wolves in there so
we’ve all got two wolves in there so
we’ve all got two wolves in there so good one and a bad and they both want to
good one and a bad and they both want to
good one and a bad and they both want to eat best I can tell we just got to feed
eat best I can tell we just got to feed
eat best I can tell we just got to feed that good here we go number five process
that good here we go number five process
that good here we go number five process of elimination
of elimination
of elimination hi is the first step to our identity aka
hi is the first step to our identity aka
hi is the first step to our identity aka where you are not is as important as
where you are not is as important as
where you are not is as important as where you are all right 1992 I got my
where you are all right 1992 I got my
where you are all right 1992 I got my first job as an actor three lines three
first job as an actor three lines three
first job as an actor three lines three days work in a film called Dazed and
days work in a film called Dazed and
days work in a film called Dazed and Confused all right all right all right
Confused all right all right all right
Confused all right all right all right all right there we go so this director
all right there we go so this director
all right there we go so this director of that film Richard Linklater he kept
of that film Richard Linklater he kept
of that film Richard Linklater he kept inviting me back to set each night
inviting me back to set each night
inviting me back to set each night putting me in more scenes which led to
putting me in more scenes which led to
putting me in more scenes which led to more lines all of which I happily said
more lines all of which I happily said
more lines all of which I happily said yes to I mean I’m having a blast people
yes to I mean I’m having a blast people
yes to I mean I’m having a blast people were telling me I’m good at what I’m
were telling me I’m good at what I’m
were telling me I’m good at what I’m doing and they’re writing me a check for
doing and they’re writing me a check for
doing and they’re writing me a check for $325 a day I mean hell yeah give me more
$325 a day I mean hell yeah give me more
$325 a day I mean hell yeah give me more scenes I love what I’m doing well by the
scenes I love what I’m doing well by the
scenes I love what I’m doing well by the end of the shoot I’ve been to the film
end of the shoot I’ve been to the film
end of the shoot I’ve been to the film those three lines had turned into over
those three lines had turned into over
those three lines had turned into over three weeks worth and it was mine it was
three weeks worth and it was mine it was
three weeks worth and it was mine it was wooderson’s 1970 Chevelle that we went
wooderson’s 1970 Chevelle that we went
wooderson’s 1970 Chevelle that we went to go get Aerosmith tickets in that yeah
to go get Aerosmith tickets in that yeah
to go get Aerosmith tickets in that yeah it was badass well a few years ago I’m
it was badass well a few years ago I’m
it was badass well a few years ago I’m watching this film again and I noticed
watching this film again and I noticed
watching this film again and I noticed two scenes that I really shouldn’t have
two scenes that I really shouldn’t have
two scenes that I really shouldn’t have been in and one of these scenes I
been in and one of these scenes I
been in and one of these scenes I character would Orson I exit screen left
character would Orson I exit screen left
character would Orson I exit screen left to head somewhere and then I reinter the
to head somewhere and then I reinter the
to head somewhere and then I reinter the screen and to double check if any of the
screen and to double check if any of the
screen and to double check if any of the other characters wanted to go with me
other characters wanted to go with me
other characters wanted to go with me now and re watching the film and you’ll
now and re watching the film and you’ll
now and re watching the film and you’ll agree if you know Watterson Watterson is
agree if you know Watterson Watterson is
agree if you know Watterson Watterson is not a guy who would ever say later and
not a guy who would ever say later and
not a guy who would ever say later and then come back to see if you were sure
then come back to see if you were sure
then come back to see if you were sure you didn’t want to go
you didn’t want to go
you didn’t want to go now when Wooderson leaves Wooderson is
now when Wooderson leaves Wooderson is
now when Wooderson leaves Wooderson is gone he does not stutter step flinch
gone he does not stutter step flinch
gone he does not stutter step flinch rewind ask twice or solicit do you know
rewind ask twice or solicit do you know
rewind ask twice or solicit do you know what I’m talking about
what I’m talking about
what I’m talking about Watterson it’s better things to do like
Watterson it’s better things to do like
Watterson it’s better things to do like liking those high school girls man cuz I
liking those high school girls man cuz I
liking those high school girls man cuz I get older and they say the same aid the
get older and they say the same aid the
get older and they say the same aid the point is I should not have been in that
point is I should not have been in that
point is I should not have been in that scene shouldn’t come back should have
scene shouldn’t come back should have
scene shouldn’t come back should have exited screen left and never come back
exited screen left and never come back
exited screen left and never come back but back then making my first film
but back then making my first film
but back then making my first film getting invited back to the set cashing
getting invited back to the set cashing
getting invited back to the set cashing that check and having a ball I wanted
that check and having a ball I wanted
that check and having a ball I wanted more screen time I wanted to be in the
more screen time I wanted to be in the
more screen time I wanted to be in the scene longer and more and come back into
scene longer and more and come back into
scene longer and more and come back into the scene right but I should have been
the scene right but I should have been
the scene right but I should have been there wood arson shouldn’t have been
there wood arson shouldn’t have been
there wood arson shouldn’t have been there it is just as important where we
there it is just as important where we
there it is just as important where we are not as it is where we are look the
are not as it is where we are look the
are not as it is where we are look the first step that leads to our identity
first step that leads to our identity
first step that leads to our identity life is usually not I Know Who I am
life is usually not I Know Who I am
life is usually not I Know Who I am I Know Who I am that’s not the first
I Know Who I am that’s not the first
I Know Who I am that’s not the first step the first steps usually I Know Who
step the first steps usually I Know Who
step the first steps usually I Know Who I am not process of elimination defining
I am not process of elimination defining
I am not process of elimination defining ourselves by what we are not is the
ourselves by what we are not is the
ourselves by what we are not is the first step that leads us to really
first step that leads us to really
first step that leads us to really knowing who we are you know that group
knowing who we are you know that group
knowing who we are you know that group of friends that you hang out with that
of friends that you hang out with that
of friends that you hang out with that really might not bring out the best in
really might not bring out the best in
really might not bring out the best in you
you
you you know they gossip too much or they
you know they gossip too much or they
you know they gossip too much or they kind of shady you really aren’t gonna be
kind of shady you really aren’t gonna be
kind of shady you really aren’t gonna be there for you in a pinch how about that
there for you in a pinch how about that
there for you in a pinch how about that bar we keep going to that we always seem
bar we keep going to that we always seem
bar we keep going to that we always seem to have the worst hangover or that
to have the worst hangover or that
to have the worst hangover or that computer screen like a pewter screen
computer screen like a pewter screen
computer screen like a pewter screen that keeps giving us an excuse not to
that keeps giving us an excuse not to
that keeps giving us an excuse not to get out of the house and engage with the
get out of the house and engage with the
get out of the house and engage with the world and get some real human
world and get some real human
world and get some real human interaction about that food that we keep
interaction about that food that we keep
interaction about that food that we keep eating stuff that tastes so good going
eating stuff that tastes so good going
eating stuff that tastes so good going down it makes us feel like crap the next
down it makes us feel like crap the next
down it makes us feel like crap the next week we feel lethargic and we keep
week we feel lethargic and we keep
week we feel lethargic and we keep putting on weight well those people
putting on weight well those people
putting on weight well those people those places those things stop giving
those places those things stop giving
those places those things stop giving them your time and energy just don’t go
them your time and energy just don’t go
them your time and energy just don’t go there I mean put them down and when you
there I mean put them down and when you
there I mean put them down and when you do this when you do put them down when
do this when you do put them down when
do this when you do put them down when you put go in there
you put go in there
you put go in there you quit givin them your time you
you quit givin them your time you
you quit givin them your time you inadvertently find yourself spending
inadvertently find yourself spending
inadvertently find yourself spending more time and in more places at our
more time and in more places at our
more time and in more places at our health before you that bring you more
health before you that bring you more
health before you that bring you more joy why because you just eliminated the
joy why because you just eliminated the
joy why because you just eliminated the who’s the where’s the what’s in the wind
who’s the where’s the what’s in the wind
who’s the where’s the what’s in the wind that we’re keeping you from your
that we’re keeping you from your
that we’re keeping you from your identity trust me too many options I
identity trust me too many options I
identity trust me too many options I promise you the too many options will
promise you the too many options will
promise you the too many options will make a tyrant of us all all right so get
make a tyrant of us all all right so get
make a tyrant of us all all right so get rid of the excess the wasted time
rid of the excess the wasted time
rid of the excess the wasted time decrease your options if you do this you
decrease your options if you do this you
decrease your options if you do this you will have accidentally almost innocent
will have accidentally almost innocent
will have accidentally almost innocent but in front of you what is important to
but in front of you what is important to
but in front of you what is important to you my process of elimination no one who
you my process of elimination no one who
you my process of elimination no one who we are is hard it’s hard give yourself a
we are is hard it’s hard give yourself a
we are is hard it’s hard give yourself a break
break
break eliminate who you are not first and
eliminate who you are not first and
eliminate who you are not first and you’re gonna find yourself where you
you’re gonna find yourself where you
you’re gonna find yourself where you need to be I’m a six
need to be I’m a six
need to be I’m a six [Music]
[Music]
[Music] don’t leave crumbs and the beauty of
don’t leave crumbs and the beauty of
don’t leave crumbs and the beauty of delayed gratification so what are crumbs
delayed gratification so what are crumbs
delayed gratification so what are crumbs or the crumbs I’m talking about are the
or the crumbs I’m talking about are the
or the crumbs I’m talking about are the choices that we make that make us have
choices that we make that make us have
choices that we make that make us have to look over our shoulder in the future
to look over our shoulder in the future
to look over our shoulder in the future you didn’t pay that guy back the money
you didn’t pay that guy back the money
you didn’t pay that guy back the money that you owed him and tonight you just
that you owed him and tonight you just
that you owed him and tonight you just saw him three rows behind you
saw him three rows behind you
saw him three rows behind you she ate you slept around on your spouse
she ate you slept around on your spouse
she ate you slept around on your spouse and you just found out that tomorrow she
and you just found out that tomorrow she
and you just found out that tomorrow she and the lady you’re having an affair
and the lady you’re having an affair
and the lady you’re having an affair with are gonna be at the same PTA
with are gonna be at the same PTA
with are gonna be at the same PTA meeting again you drank too much
meeting again you drank too much
meeting again you drank too much last night
last night
last night you’re too hungover to drive your son
you’re too hungover to drive your son
you’re too hungover to drive your son does 8:00 a.m. Saturday morning baseball
does 8:00 a.m. Saturday morning baseball
does 8:00 a.m. Saturday morning baseball practice these are the crumbs they come
practice these are the crumbs they come
practice these are the crumbs they come in the form of regret guilt and remorse
in the form of regret guilt and remorse
in the form of regret guilt and remorse you leave trumps today they will cause
you leave trumps today they will cause
you leave trumps today they will cause you more stress tomorrow and they
you more stress tomorrow and they
you more stress tomorrow and they disallow you from creating a customized
disallow you from creating a customized
disallow you from creating a customized future in which you do not have to look
future in which you do not have to look
future in which you do not have to look over your shoulder so let’s flip the
over your shoulder so let’s flip the
over your shoulder so let’s flip the script instead of creating outcomes that
script instead of creating outcomes that
script instead of creating outcomes that take from us let’s create more outcomes
take from us let’s create more outcomes
take from us let’s create more outcomes that pay us back fill us up keep your
that pay us back fill us up keep your
that pay us back fill us up keep your fire lit turn you on for the most amount
fire lit turn you on for the most amount
fire lit turn you on for the most amount of time in your future these are the
of time in your future these are the
of time in your future these are the choices I’m talking about and this is
choices I’m talking about and this is
choices I’m talking about and this is the beauty of delayed gratification I
the beauty of delayed gratification I
the beauty of delayed gratification I pee yourself up
pee yourself up
pee yourself up do yourself a favor make the choices the
do yourself a favor make the choices the
do yourself a favor make the choices the purchase is today that pay you back
purchase is today that pay you back
purchase is today that pay you back tomorrow residuals my business we call
tomorrow residuals my business we call
tomorrow residuals my business we call it mailbox money I do my job well today
it mailbox money I do my job well today
it mailbox money I do my job well today and that movie keeps rerunning on TV
and that movie keeps rerunning on TV
and that movie keeps rerunning on TV five years from now I’m getting checks
five years from now I’m getting checks
five years from now I’m getting checks in the mailbox it’s a heck of a deal so
in the mailbox it’s a heck of a deal so
in the mailbox it’s a heck of a deal so whether it’s prepping the coffeemaker
whether it’s prepping the coffeemaker
whether it’s prepping the coffeemaker the night before so all you got to do is
the night before so all you got to do is
the night before so all you got to do is press the button in the morning or
press the button in the morning or
press the button in the morning or getting ready for the job interview
getting ready for the job interview
getting ready for the job interview early so you don’t have to cram the
early so you don’t have to cram the
early so you don’t have to cram the night before or choose not to hook up
night before or choose not to hook up
night before or choose not to hook up with that married woman because you know
with that married woman because you know
with that married woman because you know you’re gonna feel horrible about it
you’re gonna feel horrible about it
you’re gonna feel horrible about it tomorrow and your husband carries a gun
tomorrow and your husband carries a gun
tomorrow and your husband carries a gun or paying your debts on time so that
or paying your debts on time so that
or paying your debts on time so that when you do see that guy three rows back
when you do see that guy three rows back
when you do see that guy three rows back tonight you don’t have to hunker down
tonight you don’t have to hunker down
tonight you don’t have to hunker down your seat hoping that he don’t see you
your seat hoping that he don’t see you
your seat hoping that he don’t see you get some ROI
get some ROI
get some ROI you know what that is return on
you know what that is return on
you know what that is return on investment your investment you customize
investment your investment you customize
investment your investment you customize your future
your future
your future don’t leave Trump’s number seven dissect
don’t leave Trump’s number seven dissect
don’t leave Trump’s number seven dissect your successes and the rest of prosity
your successes and the rest of prosity
your successes and the rest of prosity of gratitude we still often focus on
of gratitude we still often focus on
of gratitude we still often focus on failure you don’t we we studied failure
failure you don’t we we studied failure
failure you don’t we we studied failure obsessed failure we dissect failure in
obsessed failure we dissect failure in
obsessed failure we dissect failure in our failures that’s that them so much we
our failures that’s that them so much we
our failures that’s that them so much we end up in toxicated with them to the
end up in toxicated with them to the
end up in toxicated with them to the point of disillusion and when did we
point of disillusion and when did we
point of disillusion and when did we write in our diary usually when we’re
write in our diary usually when we’re
write in our diary usually when we’re depressed what do we gossip about other
depressed what do we gossip about other
depressed what do we gossip about other people’s flaws and limitations and we
people’s flaws and limitations and we
people’s flaws and limitations and we can dissect ourselves into self-loathing
can dissect ourselves into self-loathing
can dissect ourselves into self-loathing if we’re not careful I find that most of
if we’re not careful I find that most of
if we’re not careful I find that most of the times our obsession with what is
the times our obsession with what is
the times our obsession with what is wrong just ends up breeding more wrong
wrong just ends up breeding more wrong
wrong just ends up breeding more wrong more failure the easiest way to dissect
more failure the easiest way to dissect
more failure the easiest way to dissect success is through gratitude giving
success is through gratitude giving
success is through gratitude giving thanks for that which we do have for
thanks for that which we do have for
thanks for that which we do have for what is working appreciating the simple
what is working appreciating the simple
what is working appreciating the simple things we sometimes take for granted we
things we sometimes take for granted we
things we sometimes take for granted we give thanks for these things and that
give thanks for these things and that
give thanks for these things and that gratitude reciprocate creating more to
gratitude reciprocate creating more to
gratitude reciprocate creating more to be thankful for it’s really simple and
be thankful for it’s really simple and
be thankful for it’s really simple and it worked
it worked
it worked and I’m not saying being denial of your
and I’m not saying being denial of your
and I’m not saying being denial of your failures no we can learn from them too
failures no we can learn from them too
failures no we can learn from them too but only if we look at them
but only if we look at them
but only if we look at them constructively as a means to reveal what
constructively as a means to reveal what
constructively as a means to reveal what we are good at but we can get better at
we are good at but we can get better at
we are good at but we can get better at what we do succeed at now personally
what we do succeed at now personally
what we do succeed at now personally I’ve read a whole lot of my bad reviews
I’ve read a whole lot of my bad reviews
I’ve read a whole lot of my bad reviews i I’ve had quite a few written by the
i I’ve had quite a few written by the
i I’ve had quite a few written by the more talented critics they are the ones
more talented critics they are the ones
more talented critics they are the ones who give constructive
who give constructive
who give constructive they revealed to me what did translate
they revealed to me what did translate
they revealed to me what did translate in my work what came across what was
in my work what came across what was
in my work what came across what was seen or what wasn’t
seen or what wasn’t
seen or what wasn’t now I don’t obsess on the unfavorable
now I don’t obsess on the unfavorable
now I don’t obsess on the unfavorable aspect their youth review but I do see
aspect their youth review but I do see
aspect their youth review but I do see what I can learn from it because their
what I can learn from it because their
what I can learn from it because their displeasure actually uncovers and makes
displeasure actually uncovers and makes
displeasure actually uncovers and makes more apparent what I do do well what I
more apparent what I do do well what I
more apparent what I do do well what I am successful at and then I detect back
am successful at and then I detect back
am successful at and then I detect back my life suburb we try our best we don’t
my life suburb we try our best we don’t
my life suburb we try our best we don’t always do of this architecture is a verb
always do of this architecture is a verb
always do of this architecture is a verb as well yes it is and since we are the
as well yes it is and since we are the
as well yes it is and since we are the architects of our own lives let’s study
architects of our own lives let’s study
architects of our own lives let’s study the habits the practices the routines
the habits the practices the routines
the habits the practices the routines that we have that lead to and feed our
that we have that lead to and feed our
that we have that lead to and feed our success our joy our honest paint our
success our joy our honest paint our
success our joy our honest paint our laughter our own tears let’s dissect
laughter our own tears let’s dissect
laughter our own tears let’s dissect that and give thanks for those things
that and give thanks for those things
that and give thanks for those things and when we do that guess what happens
and when we do that guess what happens
and when we do that guess what happens we get better at them and we have more
we get better at them and we have more
we get better at them and we have more to dissect number eight make voluntary
to dissect number eight make voluntary
to dissect number eight make voluntary obligations
obligations
obligations my mom and dad since we were young they
my mom and dad since we were young they
my mom and dad since we were young they teach us things as children teachers
teach us things as children teachers
teach us things as children teachers mentors the government and on laws they
mentors the government and on laws they
mentors the government and on laws they all give us guidelines for which to
all give us guidelines for which to
all give us guidelines for which to navigate this life rules to abide by in
navigate this life rules to abide by in
navigate this life rules to abide by in the name of accountability I’m not
the name of accountability I’m not
the name of accountability I’m not talking about those obligations I’m
talking about those obligations I’m
talking about those obligations I’m talking about the ones that we make with
talking about the ones that we make with
talking about the ones that we make with ourselves with our God with our own
ourselves with our God with our own
ourselves with our God with our own consciousness I’m talking about the you
consciousness I’m talking about the you
consciousness I’m talking about the you versus you obligations we have to have
versus you obligations we have to have
versus you obligations we have to have it now again these are not societal laws
it now again these are not societal laws
it now again these are not societal laws and expectations that we acknowledge and
and expectations that we acknowledge and
and expectations that we acknowledge and endow for anyone other than ourselves
endow for anyone other than ourselves
endow for anyone other than ourselves these are faith-based obligations that
these are faith-based obligations that
these are faith-based obligations that we make on our own these are not the
we make on our own these are not the
we make on our own these are not the lowered insurance rates for a good
lowered insurance rates for a good
lowered insurance rates for a good driving record you will not be fine to
driving record you will not be fine to
driving record you will not be fine to put in jail if you do not gratify these
put in jail if you do not gratify these
put in jail if you do not gratify these obligations I speak of no one else
obligations I speak of no one else
obligations I speak of no one else covers these but you they are your
covers these but you they are your
covers these but you they are your secrets with yourself your own private
secrets with yourself your own private
secrets with yourself your own private counsel personal protocols and while
counsel personal protocols and while
counsel personal protocols and while nobody throws
nobody throws
nobody throws you a party when you abide by them no
you a party when you abide by them no
you a party when you abide by them no one’s going to arrest you when you break
one’s going to arrest you when you break
one’s going to arrest you when you break them either except yourself or some cops
them either except yourself or some cops
them either except yourself or some cops you got to disturbing the peace call at
you got to disturbing the peace call at
you got to disturbing the peace call at 2:30 in the morning because you were
2:30 in the morning because you were
2:30 in the morning because you were playing bongos your birthday suit yeah
playing bongos your birthday suit yeah
playing bongos your birthday suit yeah that was me an honest man’s pillow is
that was me an honest man’s pillow is
that was me an honest man’s pillow is his peace of mind and when you lay down
his peace of mind and when you lay down
his peace of mind and when you lay down on that pillow at night no matter who’s
on that pillow at night no matter who’s
on that pillow at night no matter who’s in your bed we all sleep alone these are
in your bed we all sleep alone these are
in your bed we all sleep alone these are your personal jiminy crickets and there
your personal jiminy crickets and there
your personal jiminy crickets and there are not enough cops in the entire world
are not enough cops in the entire world
are not enough cops in the entire world to police them it’s on you it’s on you
to police them it’s on you it’s on you
to police them it’s on you it’s on you number nine from can to want alright
number nine from can to want alright
number nine from can to want alright check this out in 1995 I got my first
check this out in 1995 I got my first
check this out in 1995 I got my first big paycheck the film ah was almost boys
big paycheck the film ah was almost boys
big paycheck the film ah was almost boys on the side we were shooting Tucson
on the side we were shooting Tucson
on the side we were shooting Tucson Arizona and I had two sweet little Adobe
Arizona and I had two sweet little Adobe
Arizona and I had two sweet little Adobe guest house on the edge of this world
guest house on the edge of this world
guest house on the edge of this world National Park the house came with a made
National Park the house came with a made
National Park the house came with a made my first made it was awesome so I got a
my first made it was awesome so I got a
my first made it was awesome so I got a friend over one Friday night and we’re
friend over one Friday night and we’re
friend over one Friday night and we’re having a good time and I’m telling her
having a good time and I’m telling her
having a good time and I’m telling her about how happy I am with my setup the
about how happy I am with my setup the
about how happy I am with my setup the house the maid especially the maid I’m
house the maid especially the maid I’m
house the maid especially the maid I’m Jenna look it’s a she cleans the place
Jenna look it’s a she cleans the place
Jenna look it’s a she cleans the place up after I go to work she washes when I
up after I go to work she washes when I
up after I go to work she washes when I closed the dishes put fresh water by my
closed the dishes put fresh water by my
closed the dishes put fresh water by my bed leads me to cooked meals sometimes
bed leads me to cooked meals sometimes
bed leads me to cooked meals sometimes she even presses my jeans and my friend
she even presses my jeans and my friend
she even presses my jeans and my friend she smiles having happy that I’m excited
she smiles having happy that I’m excited
she smiles having happy that I’m excited over this
over this
over this she says well that’s great Matthew uh if
she says well that’s great Matthew uh if
she says well that’s great Matthew uh if you like the jeans pressed I kind of
you like the jeans pressed I kind of
you like the jeans pressed I kind of looked up that or my jock caught hanging
looked up that or my jock caught hanging
looked up that or my jock caught hanging open I stuttered a moment had that
open I stuttered a moment had that
open I stuttered a moment had that dumbass look that you get when you just
dumbass look that you get when you just
dumbass look that you get when you just controlled the truth you didn’t think
controlled the truth you didn’t think
controlled the truth you didn’t think about it hit me I hate that line going
about it hit me I hate that line going
about it hit me I hate that line going down the front of my jeans I hate that
down the front of my jeans I hate that
down the front of my jeans I hate that line and it was then for the first time
line and it was then for the first time
line and it was then for the first time that I noticed it I’d never thought
that I noticed it I’d never thought
that I noticed it I’d never thought about not liking that starch line down
about not liking that starch line down
about not liking that starch line down the front of my jeans because I’ve never
the front of my jeans because I’ve never
the front of my jeans because I’ve never had a made Dharma jeans before and since
had a made Dharma jeans before and since
had a made Dharma jeans before and since she did now for the first time in my
she did now for the first time in my
she did now for the first time in my life I just liked it because I could get
life I just liked it because I could get
life I just liked it because I could get it I never thought about if I really
it I never thought about if I really
it I never thought about if I really wanted it well I didn’t want it there
wanted it well I didn’t want it there
wanted it well I didn’t want it there that line and that night I learned
that line and that night I learned
that line and that night I learned something I’m just because you can yeah
something I’m just because you can yeah
something I’m just because you can yeah come on it’s not a good enough reason to
come on it’s not a good enough reason to
come on it’s not a good enough reason to do something even when it means having
do something even when it means having
do something even when it means having more be discerning choose it because you
more be discerning choose it because you
more be discerning choose it because you want it do it because you want to never
want it do it because you want to never
want it do it because you want to never have my jeans pressed again number 10 a
have my jeans pressed again number 10 a
have my jeans pressed again number 10 a roof is a man-made thing this may cut a
roof is a man-made thing this may cut a
roof is a man-made thing this may cut a little close to the bone since the
little close to the bone since the
little close to the bone since the geography but I think we all were there
geography but I think we all were there
geography but I think we all were there and we will all remember where we were
and we will all remember where we were
and we will all remember where we were but in January the 3rd 1993 it was the
but in January the 3rd 1993 it was the
but in January the 3rd 1993 it was the NFL playoffs and you’re Houston Oilers
NFL playoffs and you’re Houston Oilers
NFL playoffs and you’re Houston Oilers for playing the Buffalo Bills the olders
for playing the Buffalo Bills the olders
for playing the Buffalo Bills the olders were up 28 to 3 at halftime 35 to 3
were up 28 to 3 at halftime 35 to 3
were up 28 to 3 at halftime 35 to 3 early in the third Frank Reich and the
early in the third Frank Reich and the
early in the third Frank Reich and the bills come back to win 41 to 38 and
bills come back to win 41 to 38 and
bills come back to win 41 to 38 and overtime for one of the greatest
overtime for one of the greatest
overtime for one of the greatest comebacks in NFL history
comebacks in NFL history
comebacks in NFL history you had the bills want but they didn’t
you had the bills want but they didn’t
you had the bills want but they didn’t really beat the others the others lost
really beat the others the others lost
really beat the others the others lost that game they beat themselves
that game they beat themselves
that game they beat themselves I’ll remember now huh why glad to beat
I’ll remember now huh why glad to beat
I’ll remember now huh why glad to beat themselves for how is it because at
themselves for how is it because at
themselves for how is it because at halftime they put a ceiling a roof a
halftime they put a ceiling a roof a
halftime they put a ceiling a roof a limit on their belief in themselves
limit on their belief in themselves
limit on their belief in themselves aka prevent defense maybe they started
aka prevent defense maybe they started
aka prevent defense maybe they started thinking about that the next opponent in
thinking about that the next opponent in
thinking about that the next opponent in the playoffs at halftime I mean they
the playoffs at halftime I mean they
the playoffs at halftime I mean they were off then they came out played on
were off then they came out played on
were off then they came out played on their heels lost the mental edge the
their heels lost the mental edge the
their heels lost the mental edge the entire second half and voila they lost
entire second half and voila they lost
entire second half and voila they lost in a mere two quarters defensive
in a mere two quarters defensive
in a mere two quarters defensive coordinator Jim Eddie went from being
coordinator Jim Eddie went from being
coordinator Jim Eddie went from being called the defensive coordinator of the
called the defensive coordinator of the
called the defensive coordinator of the year and the man first in line to be a
year and the man first in line to be a
year and the man first in line to be a high head coach next year to a man
high head coach next year to a man
high head coach next year to a man without a job in NFL give a joke
nobody’s ever joked I have huh you know
nobody’s ever joked I have huh you know talking about fumbling to go line second
talking about fumbling to go line second
talking about fumbling to go line second foot in your mouth once you got to the
foot in your mouth once you got to the
foot in your mouth once you got to the microphone had a brain freeze on the
microphone had a brain freeze on the
microphone had a brain freeze on the exam that you were totally prepared for
exam that you were totally prepared for
exam that you were totally prepared for forgot the punchline to a joke in front
forgot the punchline to a joke in front
forgot the punchline to a joke in front of 4,000 graduating students at the
of 4,000 graduating students at the
of 4,000 graduating students at the University of Houston commencement or
University of Houston commencement or
University of Houston commencement or maybe you’ve had that feeling of oh my
maybe you’ve had that feeling of oh my
maybe you’ve had that feeling of oh my god life just cannot get any better than
god life just cannot get any better than
god life just cannot get any better than this moment now what happens when we get
this moment now what happens when we get
this moment now what happens when we get that feeling tense up we have this sort
that feeling tense up we have this sort
that feeling tense up we have this sort of outer body experience where we are
of outer body experience where we are
of outer body experience where we are literally
literally
literally seeing ourselves in the third person and
seeing ourselves in the third person and
seeing ourselves in the third person and we realize that the moment just got
we realize that the moment just got
we realize that the moment just got bigger than us ever felt that way and
bigger than us ever felt that way and
bigger than us ever felt that way and it’s because we have created a
it’s because we have created a
it’s because we have created a fictitious ceiling a roof to our
fictitious ceiling a roof to our
fictitious ceiling a roof to our expectations of ourselves
expectations of ourselves
expectations of ourselves a limit where we think it’s all too good
a limit where we think it’s all too good
a limit where we think it’s all too good to be true but it’s not and it’s not our
to be true but it’s not and it’s not our
to be true but it’s not and it’s not our right to say or believe it is
right to say or believe it is
right to say or believe it is we shouldn’t create these restrictions
we shouldn’t create these restrictions
we shouldn’t create these restrictions on ourselves a blue ribbon a statue a
on ourselves a blue ribbon a statue a
on ourselves a blue ribbon a statue a score a great idea the love of our life
score a great idea the love of our life
score a great idea the love of our life our euphoric bliss who are we to think
our euphoric bliss who are we to think
our euphoric bliss who are we to think that we don’t deserve or haven’t earned
that we don’t deserve or haven’t earned
that we don’t deserve or haven’t earned these gifts when we get them it’s not
these gifts when we get them it’s not
these gifts when we get them it’s not alright but if we stay in process all
alright but if we stay in process all
alright but if we stay in process all right within ourselves in the joy of the
right within ourselves in the joy of the
right within ourselves in the joy of the doing we will never choke at the finish
doing we will never choke at the finish
doing we will never choke at the finish line why because we aren’t thinking of
line why because we aren’t thinking of
line why because we aren’t thinking of the finish line cuz we’re not looking at
the finish line cuz we’re not looking at
the finish line cuz we’re not looking at the clock we’re not watching ourselves
the clock we’re not watching ourselves
the clock we’re not watching ourselves on the jumbotron performing the very act
on the jumbotron performing the very act
on the jumbotron performing the very act that we’re in the middle of no we’re in
that we’re in the middle of no we’re in
that we’re in the middle of no we’re in process the approach is the destination
process the approach is the destination
process the approach is the destination and we are never finished bo Jackson
and we are never finished bo Jackson
and we are never finished bo Jackson what do you do used to run over the goal
what do you do used to run over the goal
what do you do used to run over the goal line through the endzone and up the
line through the endzone and up the
line through the endzone and up the tunnel the greatest snipers and marksmen
tunnel the greatest snipers and marksmen
tunnel the greatest snipers and marksmen in the world they don’t aim at the
in the world they don’t aim at the
in the world they don’t aim at the target they aim on the other side of the
target they aim on the other side of the
target they aim on the other side of the target
target
target we do our best when our destinations are
we do our best when our destinations are
we do our best when our destinations are beyond the measurement when our reach
beyond the measurement when our reach
beyond the measurement when our reach continually exceeds our grasp and when
continually exceeds our grasp and when
continually exceeds our grasp and when we have a more tool finish lines and
we have a more tool finish lines and
we have a more tool finish lines and when we do this the race is never over
when we do this the race is never over
when we do this the race is never over the journey has no port the adventure
the journey has no port the adventure
the journey has no port the adventure never ends because we are always on the
never ends because we are always on the
never ends because we are always on the way so do this do this and let them let
way so do this do this and let them let
way so do this do this and let them let somebody else come up and tap you on the
somebody else come up and tap you on the
somebody else come up and tap you on the shoulder and say hey you score it let
shoulder and say hey you score it let
shoulder and say hey you score it let them run up and tap you on the show and
them run up and tap you on the show and
them run up and tap you on the show and say mint you want
say mint you want
say mint you want let them come tell you you can go home
let them come tell you you can go home
let them come tell you you can go home now
now
now let them say I love you too let them say
let them say I love you too let them say
let them say I love you too let them say thank you take the lid off the man-made
thank you take the lid off the man-made
thank you take the lid off the man-made roofs that we put above ourselves and
roofs that we put above ourselves and
roofs that we put above ourselves and always play like an underdog number 11
always play like an underdog number 11
always play like an underdog number 11 turn the page
turn the page
turn the page the the late great University of Texas
the the late great University of Texas
the the late great University of Texas football coach Darrell royal y’all
football coach Darrell royal y’all
football coach Darrell royal y’all remember him one national champion in 69
remember him one national champion in 69
remember him one national champion in 69 he won a couple of national
he won a couple of national
he won a couple of national championships hello Darryl whoaaa he was
championships hello Darryl whoaaa he was
championships hello Darryl whoaaa he was a friend of mine a good friend of many
a friend of mine a good friend of many
a friend of mine a good friend of many people now a lot of people looked up to
people now a lot of people looked up to
people now a lot of people looked up to this man one of you who looked up to was
this man one of you who looked up to was
this man one of you who looked up to was a musician named Larry now at this time
a musician named Larry now at this time
a musician named Larry now at this time in his life Larry was in the prime of
in his life Larry was in the prime of
in his life Larry was in the prime of his country music career he had number
his country music career he had number
his country music career he had number one hits and his life was rolling get it
one hits and his life was rolling get it
one hits and his life was rolling get it picked up a bad habit of uh snorting the
picked up a bad habit of uh snorting the
picked up a bad habit of uh snorting the white stuff somewhere along the line and
white stuff somewhere along the line and
white stuff somewhere along the line and at one particular party after a bathroom
at one particular party after a bathroom
at one particular party after a bathroom break Larry went confidently up to his
break Larry went confidently up to his
break Larry went confidently up to his mentor their hall and he started telling
mentor their hall and he started telling
mentor their hall and he started telling historians coach royal listened and he
historians coach royal listened and he
historians coach royal listened and he always had
always had
always had and when Larry finished his story and
and when Larry finished his story and
and when Larry finished his story and was about to walk away coach royal put a
was about to walk away coach royal put a
was about to walk away coach royal put a gentle hand on his shoulder very
gentle hand on his shoulder very
gentle hand on his shoulder very discreetly said hey Larry you uh got
discreetly said hey Larry you uh got
discreetly said hey Larry you uh got something on your nose there buddy
something on your nose there buddy
something on your nose there buddy Larry immediately hurried to the
Larry immediately hurried to the
Larry immediately hurried to the bathroom near where he saw some of the
bathroom near where he saw some of the
bathroom near where he saw some of the white powder that he hadn’t another note
white powder that he hadn’t another note
white powder that he hadn’t another note he was ashamed he was embarrassed as
he was ashamed he was embarrassed as
he was ashamed he was embarrassed as much because he felt so disrespectful to
much because he felt so disrespectful to
much because he felt so disrespectful to coach royal and as much because he’d
coach royal and as much because he’d
coach royal and as much because he’d obviously gotten too comfortable with
obviously gotten too comfortable with
obviously gotten too comfortable with the drug to even hide it as well as he
the drug to even hide it as well as he
the drug to even hide it as well as he should
should
should well the next day Larry went to coach
well the next day Larry went to coach
well the next day Larry went to coach his house he rang the doorbell coach
his house he rang the doorbell coach
his house he rang the doorbell coach answered and he said coach I need to
answered and he said coach I need to
answered and he said coach I need to talk to you they all said sure come on
talk to you they all said sure come on
talk to you they all said sure come on in
in
in Larry confessed he purged his sins to
Larry confessed he purged his sins to
Larry confessed he purged his sins to coach he told him how embarrassed he was
coach he told him how embarrassed he was
coach he told him how embarrassed he was and how he had lost his way in the midst
and how he had lost his way in the midst
and how he had lost his way in the midst of all this fame and fortune and towards
of all this fame and fortune and towards
of all this fame and fortune and towards the end of an hour Larry who was in
the end of an hour Larry who was in
the end of an hour Larry who was in tears
tears
tears he asked coach he said coach what do you
he asked coach he said coach what do you
he asked coach he said coach what do you what do you think I should do my coach
what do you think I should do my coach
what do you think I should do my coach being a man of few words just looked at
being a man of few words just looked at
being a man of few words just looked at him and call me said Larry I have never
him and call me said Larry I have never
him and call me said Larry I have never had any trouble turning the page in the
had any trouble turning the page in the
had any trouble turning the page in the book of my life Larry got sober that day
book of my life Larry got sober that day
book of my life Larry got sober that day he’s been sober for the last 40 years
he’s been sober for the last 40 years
he’s been sober for the last 40 years you ever get in a rut you know I’m
you ever get in a rut you know I’m
you ever get in a rut you know I’m talking about get the funk it’s stuck on
talking about get the funk it’s stuck on
talking about get the funk it’s stuck on the merry-go-round of a bad habit I have
the merry-go-round of a bad habit I have
the merry-go-round of a bad habit I have look we’re gonna make mistakes you got
look we’re gonna make mistakes you got
look we’re gonna make mistakes you got to own them then you got to make amends
to own them then you got to make amends
to own them then you got to make amends and then you got to move on guilt and
and then you got to move on guilt and
and then you got to move on guilt and regret kills many a man before their
regret kills many a man before their
regret kills many a man before their time so turn the page get off the ride
time so turn the page get off the ride
time so turn the page get off the ride you are the author of the book of your
you are the author of the book of your
you are the author of the book of your life turn that page number 12
give your obstacles credit you know
give your obstacles credit you know those uh no fear t-shirts that were out
those uh no fear t-shirts that were out
those uh no fear t-shirts that were out I don’t know you used to wear them ten
I don’t know you used to wear them ten
I don’t know you used to wear them ten years ago no fear you may remember those
years ago no fear you may remember those
years ago no fear you may remember those are just me I saw him everywhere all
are just me I saw him everywhere all
are just me I saw him everywhere all right I don’t get them and I never did I
right I don’t get them and I never did I
right I don’t get them and I never did I mean well I try to scare myself at least
mean well I try to scare myself at least
mean well I try to scare myself at least once a day I mean I get butterflies
once a day I mean I get butterflies
once a day I mean I get butterflies every morning before I go to work I was
every morning before I go to work I was
every morning before I go to work I was nervous before I got here to speak
nervous before I got here to speak
nervous before I got here to speak tonight I I think fear is a good thing
tonight I I think fear is a good thing
tonight I I think fear is a good thing now why because it increases our need to
now why because it increases our need to
now why because it increases our need to overcome that fear all right say your
overcome that fear all right say your
overcome that fear all right say your obstacle is fear rejection all right you
obstacle is fear rejection all right you
obstacle is fear rejection all right you want to ask her out or you want to ask
want to ask her out or you want to ask
want to ask her out or you want to ask him out
him out
him out but you fear that he or she may say no
but you fear that he or she may say no
but you fear that he or she may say no all right you you you want to ask your
all right you you you want to ask your
all right you you you want to ask your boss for that promotion but you’re
boss for that promotion but you’re
boss for that promotion but you’re scared he’s gonna think you’re
scared he’s gonna think you’re
scared he’s gonna think you’re overstepping your bounds well instead of
overstepping your bounds well instead of
overstepping your bounds well instead of denying those fears declara save the
denying those fears declara save the
denying those fears declara save the fear out loud admit it give them the
fear out loud admit it give them the
fear out loud admit it give them the credit they deserve don’t get all macho
credit they deserve don’t get all macho
credit they deserve don’t get all macho and act like they’re no big deal
and act like they’re no big deal
and act like they’re no big deal and don’t get paralyzed by denying that
and don’t get paralyzed by denying that
and don’t get paralyzed by denying that they exist and therefore abandoning your
they exist and therefore abandoning your
they exist and therefore abandoning your need to overcome them
need to overcome them
need to overcome them I mean I’d even subscribe to belief that
I mean I’d even subscribe to belief that
I mean I’d even subscribe to belief that we’re all destined to have to do the
we’re all destined to have to do the
we’re all destined to have to do the thing that we fear the most anyway at
thing that we fear the most anyway at
thing that we fear the most anyway at some point so give your obstacles credit
some point so give your obstacles credit
some point so give your obstacles credit and you will one find the courage to
and you will one find the courage to
and you will one find the courage to overcome them or you will to see more
overcome them or you will to see more
overcome them or you will to see more clearly that they’re not really worth
clearly that they’re not really worth
clearly that they’re not really worth prevailing over so be brave have courage
prevailing over so be brave have courage
prevailing over so be brave have courage and when you do you get stronger you get
and when you do you get stronger you get
and when you do you get stronger you get more where you get more respectful of
more where you get more respectful of
more where you get more respectful of yourself and that which you fear
yourself and that which you fear
yourself and that which you fear number thirteen so how do we know when
number thirteen so how do we know when
number thirteen so how do we know when we cross the truth thirteen and was
we cross the truth thirteen and was
we cross the truth thirteen and was asking why did I pick thirteen that’s
asking why did I pick thirteen that’s
asking why did I pick thirteen that’s the amount of lucky number
the amount of lucky number
the amount of lucky number I don’t know when thirteen got the bad
I don’t know when thirteen got the bad
I don’t know when thirteen got the bad rap in the game of the mongrel of
rap in the game of the mongrel of
rap in the game of the mongrel of numerology has never had done me wrong
numerology has never had done me wrong
numerology has never had done me wrong thirteen in fact thirteen has been a
thirteen in fact thirteen has been a
thirteen in fact thirteen has been a pretty lucky number for me and I want to
pretty lucky number for me and I want to
pretty lucky number for me and I want to tell you how I’ve always taken these
tell you how I’ve always taken these
tell you how I’ve always taken these twenty one day trips by myself to
twenty one day trips by myself to
twenty one day trips by myself to far-off places where I usually don’t
far-off places where I usually don’t
far-off places where I usually don’t know the language and nobody knows my
know the language and nobody knows my
know the language and nobody knows my name their adventures one but they’re
name their adventures one but they’re
name their adventures one but they’re also a purge that there are cleanse for
also a purge that there are cleanse for
also a purge that there are cleanse for me they’re like a 21-day fast from
me they’re like a 21-day fast from
me they’re like a 21-day fast from attention from all the things I have in
attention from all the things I have in
attention from all the things I have in my well-appointed life there a check out
my well-appointed life there a check out
my well-appointed life there a check out so I can check in with me see how I’m
so I can check in with me see how I’m
so I can check in with me see how I’m doing be forced to be my own and my only
doing be forced to be my own and my only
doing be forced to be my own and my only company to have a look in my mirror we
company to have a look in my mirror we
company to have a look in my mirror we all know what can happen when we do that
all know what can happen when we do that
all know what can happen when we do that we see 1996
we see 1996
we see 1996 right after I got famous from the film I
right after I got famous from the film I
right after I got famous from the film I did call the time to kill I I headed out
did call the time to kill I I headed out
did call the time to kill I I headed out on one of these 21-day walkabout and
on one of these 21-day walkabout and
on one of these 21-day walkabout and this time to the jungles in the
this time to the jungles in the
this time to the jungles in the mountains of Peru the sudden fame that I
mountains of Peru the sudden fame that I
mountains of Peru the sudden fame that I just gotten was somewhat unbalancing my
just gotten was somewhat unbalancing my
just gotten was somewhat unbalancing my face was everywhere everyone wanted a
face was everywhere everyone wanted a
face was everywhere everyone wanted a piece of me people I’d never met were
piece of me people I’d never met were
piece of me people I’d never met were swearing that they loved me everywhere I
swearing that they loved me everywhere I
swearing that they loved me everywhere I went there I was on a billboard a
went there I was on a billboard a
went there I was on a billboard a magazine cover it was it was just weird
magazine cover it was it was just weird
magazine cover it was it was just weird over a hall you know as I was asked
over a hall you know as I was asked
over a hall you know as I was asked myself what’s the reality in this and
myself what’s the reality in this and
myself what’s the reality in this and what’s the did I deserve all
what’s the did I deserve all
what’s the did I deserve all this these are all questions I was
this these are all questions I was
this these are all questions I was asking myself who was I was another now
asking myself who was I was another now
asking myself who was I was another now there’s always an initiation period with
there’s always an initiation period with
there’s always an initiation period with these trips an amount of time that it
these trips an amount of time that it
these trips an amount of time that it takes for the place to initiate the
takes for the place to initiate the
takes for the place to initiate the traveler the time it takes to disconnect
traveler the time it takes to disconnect
traveler the time it takes to disconnect from the world we just left and become
from the world we just left and become
from the world we just left and become completely present and the one we’re
completely present and the one we’re
completely present and the one we’re traveling
traveling
traveling now for me that initiation period
now for me that initiation period
now for me that initiation period usually lasts about 13 days 13 hellish
usually lasts about 13 days 13 hellish
usually lasts about 13 days 13 hellish days until I am out of my own way well
days until I am out of my own way well
days until I am out of my own way well it was the night of the 12th day in my
it was the night of the 12th day in my
it was the night of the 12th day in my 21 day trip I’m settling into camp
21 day trip I’m settling into camp
21 day trip I’m settling into camp I’d already hiked 80 miles to this point
I’d already hiked 80 miles to this point
I’d already hiked 80 miles to this point and I had a 3 day trek ahead of me to
and I had a 3 day trek ahead of me to
and I had a 3 day trek ahead of me to Machu Picchu and I was full-on sick of
Machu Picchu and I was full-on sick of
Machu Picchu and I was full-on sick of myself wrestling with the loss of
myself wrestling with the loss of
myself wrestling with the loss of anonymity I was guilt ridden for sins of
anonymity I was guilt ridden for sins of
anonymity I was guilt ridden for sins of my past had a lot of curette I was
my past had a lot of curette I was
my past had a lot of curette I was lonely disgusted with my company mine
lonely disgusted with my company mine
lonely disgusted with my company mine grappling with these demons on this
grappling with these demons on this
grappling with these demons on this night I couldn’t sleep
night I couldn’t sleep
night I couldn’t sleep all of these badges and banners and
all of these badges and banners and
all of these badges and banners and expectations and anxieties that I was
expectations and anxieties that I was
expectations and anxieties that I was carrying with me I needing to free
carrying with me I needing to free
carrying with me I needing to free myself from them so I stripped down to
myself from them so I stripped down to
myself from them so I stripped down to nothing I I took every moniker that gave
nothing I I took every moniker that gave
nothing I I took every moniker that gave me pride and confidence all the window
me pride and confidence all the window
me pride and confidence all the window dressings the packaging around the
dressings the packaging around the
dressings the packaging around the product I discarded them all I got rid
product I discarded them all I got rid
product I discarded them all I got rid of my lucky and faithful American cap I
of my lucky and faithful American cap I
of my lucky and faithful American cap I stripped off all my talismans from
stripped off all my talismans from
stripped off all my talismans from adventures path I even discarded my late
adventures path I even discarded my late
adventures path I even discarded my late father’s gold ring with an M on it that
father’s gold ring with an M on it that
father’s gold ring with an M on it that he gave to me it was a meltdown of he
he gave to me it was a meltdown of he
he gave to me it was a meltdown of he and my mom’s class rings and gold for my
and my mom’s class rings and gold for my
and my mom’s class rings and gold for my mom’s teeth even got rid of that I was
mom’s teeth even got rid of that I was
mom’s teeth even got rid of that I was naked literally and figuratively and I
naked literally and figuratively and I
naked literally and figuratively and I got sick felt clean felt free light long
got sick felt clean felt free light long
got sick felt clean felt free light long a muddy path on this walk I turned a
a muddy path on this walk I turned a
a muddy path on this walk I turned a corner and there in the middle of the
corner and there in the middle of the
corner and there in the middle of the road was was its Mirage it’s magnificent
road was was its Mirage it’s magnificent
road was was its Mirage it’s magnificent pinks and blues and red colors that I’d
pinks and blues and red colors that I’d
pinks and blues and red colors that I’d ever seen it was electric glowing and
ever seen it was electric glowing and
ever seen it was electric glowing and vibrant just hovering just off the
vibrant just hovering just off the
vibrant just hovering just off the surface of the jungle floor as if it was
surface of the jungle floor as if it was
surface of the jungle floor as if it was plugged into some neon power plant I
plugged into some neon power plant I
plugged into some neon power plant I stopped I stared there’s no way around
stopped I stared there’s no way around
stopped I stared there’s no way around it the jungle floor in front of me was
it the jungle floor in front of me was
it the jungle floor in front of me was actually thousands of butterflies there
actually thousands of butterflies there
actually thousands of butterflies there in my path it was spectacular
in my path it was spectacular
in my path it was spectacular by state a lot and somewhere in my
by state a lot and somewhere in my
by state a lot and somewhere in my captivation I heard this little voice
captivation I heard this little voice
captivation I heard this little voice inside my head say these words all I
inside my head say these words all I
inside my head say these words all I want is what I can see and all I can see
want is what I can see and all I can see
want is what I can see and all I can see is what’s in front of me now if that
is what’s in front of me now if that
is what’s in front of me now if that moment trip I had stopped anticipating
moment trip I had stopped anticipating
moment trip I had stopped anticipating what was around the corner for the first
what was around the corner for the first
what was around the corner for the first time I stopped thinking about what was
time I stopped thinking about what was
time I stopped thinking about what was coming up next what was up ahead time
coming up next what was up ahead time
coming up next what was up ahead time slowed down I was no longer in a rush to
slowed down I was no longer in a rush to
slowed down I was no longer in a rush to get anywhere and my anxieties were
get anywhere and my anxieties were
get anywhere and my anxieties were greatly ease few hours later I returned
greatly ease few hours later I returned
greatly ease few hours later I returned to camp even the local Sherpas I was
to camp even the local Sherpas I was
to camp even the local Sherpas I was traveling that they they noticed calling
traveling that they they noticed calling
traveling that they they noticed calling out to me so he’s lose my tail so he’s
out to me so he’s lose my tail so he’s
out to me so he’s lose my tail so he’s losing which means you are light in
losing which means you are light in
losing which means you are light in Spanish see I forgave myself that
Spanish see I forgave myself that
Spanish see I forgave myself that morning I let go of the guilt the weight
morning I let go of the guilt the weight
morning I let go of the guilt the weight was on my shoulders lifted my penance
was on my shoulders lifted my penance
was on my shoulders lifted my penance was paid and I got back in good graces
was paid and I got back in good graces
was paid and I got back in good graces with my God and I shook hands with
with my God and I shook hands with
with my God and I shook hands with myself my best friend the one that we’re
myself my best friend the one that we’re
myself my best friend the one that we’re all stuck with anyway ourselves and from
all stuck with anyway ourselves and from
all stuck with anyway ourselves and from that morning on the adventure was
that morning on the adventure was
that morning on the adventure was awesome I was present I was out of my
awesome I was present I was out of my
awesome I was present I was out of my own way I was not anticipating next I
own way I was not anticipating next I
own way I was not anticipating next I was embracing only what was in front of
was embracing only what was in front of
was embracing only what was in front of my eyes and giving everything the
my eyes and giving everything the
my eyes and giving everything the justice to the desert
justice to the desert
justice to the desert you see I crossed the truth that morning
you see I crossed the truth that morning
you see I crossed the truth that morning now did I find it I don’t know I think
now did I find it I don’t know I think
now did I find it I don’t know I think it found me why because I put myself in
it found me why because I put myself in
it found me why because I put myself in a place to be found I put myself in a
a place to be found I put myself in a
a place to be found I put myself in a place to receive the truth so how do we
place to receive the truth so how do we
place to receive the truth so how do we know when we cross the truth well I
know when we cross the truth well I
know when we cross the truth well I think the truth all around us all the
think the truth all around us all the
think the truth all around us all the time I mean I think the answer you know
time I mean I think the answer you know
time I mean I think the answer you know it’s always right there right there I
it’s always right there right there I
it’s always right there right there I think it’s all around us we just don’t
think it’s all around us we just don’t
think it’s all around us we just don’t always see it we don’t always grasp it
always see it we don’t always grasp it
always see it we don’t always grasp it hear it access it usually because we’re
hear it access it usually because we’re
hear it access it usually because we’re not in the right place to do so so what
not in the right place to do so so what
not in the right place to do so so what do we do first I believe we’ve got to
do we do first I believe we’ve got to
do we do first I believe we’ve got to put ourselves in the place to receive
put ourselves in the place to receive
put ourselves in the place to receive the truth
the truth
the truth let’s the minute we live in an extremely
let’s the minute we live in an extremely
let’s the minute we live in an extremely noisy world with all kinds of
noisy world with all kinds of
noisy world with all kinds of frequencies coming at us
frequencies coming at us
frequencies coming at us we got commitments we got deadlines fix
we got commitments we got deadlines fix
we got commitments we got deadlines fix this do that plans expectations and they
this do that plans expectations and they
this do that plans expectations and they all make it hard to get clarity and
all make it hard to get clarity and
all make it hard to get clarity and peace of mind so we have to consciously
peace of mind so we have to consciously
peace of mind so we have to consciously put ourselves in places to receive that
put ourselves in places to receive that
put ourselves in places to receive that cleared and that may be prayer that may
cleared and that may be prayer that may
cleared and that may be prayer that may be meditation that may be a walkabout
be meditation that may be a walkabout
be meditation that may be a walkabout that may be being in the right company a
that may be being in the right company a
that may be being in the right company a road trip whatever it is for you
road trip whatever it is for you
road trip whatever it is for you schedule that time schedule it so we do
schedule that time schedule it so we do
schedule that time schedule it so we do that if we hear it we put ourself in a
that if we hear it we put ourself in a
that if we hear it we put ourself in a place to hear than we do and it’s become
place to hear than we do and it’s become
place to hear than we do and it’s become clear truth natural and infinite then
clear truth natural and infinite then
clear truth natural and infinite then the second part comes which is to
the second part comes which is to
the second part comes which is to personalize it ask yourself how it works
personalize it ask yourself how it works
personalize it ask yourself how it works for you how it applies to you personally
for you how it applies to you personally
for you how it applies to you personally why you need it in your life
why you need it in your life
why you need it in your life specifically and if you do that then
specifically and if you do that then
specifically and if you do that then comes the third part have the patience
comes the third part have the patience
comes the third part have the patience to internalize it and get it from our
to internalize it and get it from our
to internalize it and get it from our intellectual head thinking about it and
intellectual head thinking about it and
intellectual head thinking about it and into our bones and our soul in our
into our bones and our soul in our
into our bones and our soul in our instinct man we cannot rush this part it
instinct man we cannot rush this part it
instinct man we cannot rush this part it does take time so if we get that far
does take time so if we get that far
does take time so if we get that far we’ve received it we personalize it and
we’ve received it we personalize it and
we’ve received it we personalize it and we’ve internalized it I’ve got to have
we’ve internalized it I’ve got to have
we’ve internalized it I’ve got to have the courage to act on it to actually
the courage to act on it to actually
the courage to act on it to actually take it into our daily lives and
take it into our daily lives and
take it into our daily lives and practice it to make it an active part of
practice it to make it an active part of
practice it to make it an active part of who we are and live it and do that and
who we are and live it and do that and
who we are and live it and do that and if we do that then we have what I
if we do that then we have what I
if we do that then we have what I believe is heaven right here on earth
believe is heaven right here on earth
believe is heaven right here on earth and that’s the place where what we want
and that’s the place where what we want
and that’s the place where what we want is also just what we need I mean that’s
is also just what we need I mean that’s
is also just what we need I mean that’s the ticket in it think about it I know
the ticket in it think about it I know
the ticket in it think about it I know that’s where I want to live while we’re
that’s where I want to live while we’re
that’s where I want to live while we’re here and they’re gonna run across the
here and they’re gonna run across the
here and they’re gonna run across the jumbotron let’s make it a place where we
jumbotron let’s make it a place where we
jumbotron let’s make it a place where we break a sweat where we believe where we
break a sweat where we believe where we
break a sweat where we believe where we enjoy the process of succeeding in the
enjoy the process of succeeding in the
enjoy the process of succeeding in the places in ways that we are fashioned to
places in ways that we are fashioned to
places in ways that we are fashioned to where we don’t have to look over our
where we don’t have to look over our
where we don’t have to look over our shoulder because we’re too busy doing
shoulder because we’re too busy doing
shoulder because we’re too busy doing what we’re good at
what we’re good at
what we’re good at voluntarily keeping our own counsel
voluntarily keeping our own counsel
voluntarily keeping our own counsel because we want to traveling towards
because we want to traveling towards
because we want to traveling towards immortal finish lines we write our own
immortal finish lines we write our own
immortal finish lines we write our own book
book
book overcoming our fears we make friends
overcoming our fears we make friends
overcoming our fears we make friends with ourselves and that is the place
with ourselves and that is the place
with ourselves and that is the place that I’m talking about
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