hello everyone welcome to another YouTube hangout super excited to be here
YouTube hangout super excited to be here
YouTube hangout super excited to be here again with you today I have a special
again with you today I have a special
again with you today I have a special guest Michelle the fear girl polar who
guest Michelle the fear girl polar who
guest Michelle the fear girl polar who has an awesome YouTube channel where she
has an awesome YouTube channel where she
has an awesome YouTube channel where she is helping people overcome fear by
is helping people overcome fear by
is helping people overcome fear by showing her own experiences of
showing her own experiences of
showing her own experiences of overcoming fear and she’s doing a new
overcoming fear and she’s doing a new
overcoming fear and she’s doing a new challenge every day everything from
challenge every day everything from
challenge every day everything from getting her first Brazilian wax to
getting her first Brazilian wax to
getting her first Brazilian wax to skydiving to walking around in a bikini
skydiving to walking around in a bikini
skydiving to walking around in a bikini in New York City and a whole bunch of
in New York City and a whole bunch of
in New York City and a whole bunch of other fun things to get over fear and
other fun things to get over fear and
other fun things to get over fear and we’re gonna talk to you guys today about
we’re gonna talk to you guys today about
we’re gonna talk to you guys today about fear and what might be holding you back
fear and what might be holding you back
fear and what might be holding you back and maybe give you some idea suggestions
and maybe give you some idea suggestions
and maybe give you some idea suggestions to help you overcome your fear so
to help you overcome your fear so
to help you overcome your fear so Michelle welcome aboard I was just
Michelle welcome aboard I was just
Michelle welcome aboard I was just saying before I love the the believe in
saying before I love the the believe in
saying before I love the the believe in the background there fits it’s my thing
the background there fits it’s my thing
the background there fits it’s my thing I’m so glad you catch that I was never
it’s amazing what what your eye gets
it’s amazing what what your eye gets drawn to you know I just I believe
drawn to you know I just I believe
drawn to you know I just I believe instantly and then I said there’s a
instantly and then I said there’s a
instantly and then I said there’s a little YouTube icon thing behind you on
little YouTube icon thing behind you on
little YouTube icon thing behind you on the other side that’s what I noticed
the other side that’s what I noticed
the other side that’s what I noticed first except some people would see that
first except some people would see that
first except some people would see that home crazy drunk the yeah from MoMA I
home crazy drunk the yeah from MoMA I
home crazy drunk the yeah from MoMA I love it so so talk to us about theater
love it so so talk to us about theater
love it so so talk to us about theater why did you start this project why is it
why did you start this project why is it
why did you start this project why is it so important what are you hoping to
so important what are you hoping to
so important what are you hoping to accomplish through your your channel and
accomplish through your your channel and
accomplish through your your channel and what you’re doing and kind of lessons
what you’re doing and kind of lessons
what you’re doing and kind of lessons for entrepreneurs okay so it all started
for entrepreneurs okay so it all started
for entrepreneurs okay so it all started last year when I decided to face my
last year when I decided to face my
last year when I decided to face my fears in order to enjoy life to the
fears in order to enjoy life to the
fears in order to enjoy life to the fullest I realized that I had a pretty
fullest I realized that I had a pretty
fullest I realized that I had a pretty decent life it’s not like I had a bad
decent life it’s not like I had a bad
decent life it’s not like I had a bad life at all I had the job I thought I
life at all I had the job I thought I
life at all I had the job I thought I wanted
wanted
wanted the husband I dreamt about my still
the husband I dreamt about my still
the husband I dreamt about my still dream about I had everything in my life
dream about I had everything in my life
dream about I had everything in my life was in place I just never felt I was
was in place I just never felt I was
was in place I just never felt I was truly enjoying every second and living
truly enjoying every second and living
truly enjoying every second and living my life I was constantly thinking about
my life I was constantly thinking about
my life I was constantly thinking about the next thing and trying to control
the next thing and trying to control
the next thing and trying to control every situation our wounded plus my
every situation our wounded plus my
every situation our wounded plus my favorite answer was always no I
favorite answer was always no I
favorite answer was always no I I’d rather always be comfortable stay in
I’d rather always be comfortable stay in
I’d rather always be comfortable stay in my comfort zone and be surrounded by the
my comfort zone and be surrounded by the
my comfort zone and be surrounded by the familiar I would I didn’t like to be
familiar I would I didn’t like to be
familiar I would I didn’t like to be exposed to the unknown and that way I
exposed to the unknown and that way I
exposed to the unknown and that way I realized that when I moved to New York
realized that when I moved to New York
realized that when I moved to New York two years ago ready
two years ago ready
two years ago ready I was hot and during my life I was not
I was hot and during my life I was not
I was hot and during my life I was not enjoying New York and this was my dream
enjoying New York and this was my dream
enjoying New York and this was my dream to move here and that’s when I decided
to move here and that’s when I decided
to move here and that’s when I decided to start facing my fears as a way to
to start facing my fears as a way to
to start facing my fears as a way to really enjoy this city so the way you’re
really enjoy this city so the way you’re
really enjoy this city so the way you’re supposed to
supposed to
supposed to otherwise you’re closing yourself to
otherwise you’re closing yourself to
otherwise you’re closing yourself to experiences to opportunities to life
experiences to opportunities to life
experiences to opportunities to life differentiate and that’s when I decided
differentiate and that’s when I decided
differentiate and that’s when I decided to face 100 fears it was a class project
to face 100 fears it was a class project
to face 100 fears it was a class project actually we were all commissioned to do
actually we were all commissioned to do
actually we were all commissioned to do 100-day project whatever you want to do
100-day project whatever you want to do
100-day project whatever you want to do do it for 100 days and I took this
do it for 100 days and I took this
do it for 100 days and I took this opportunity to do something big that
opportunity to do something big that
opportunity to do something big that could potentially change my life and he
could potentially change my life and he
could potentially change my life and he did in every single way possible I
did in every single way possible I
did in every single way possible I changed my career I changed my way of
changed my career I changed my way of
changed my career I changed my way of even looking at myself looking at life
even looking at myself looking at life
even looking at myself looking at life through this project and what I did is I
through this project and what I did is I
through this project and what I did is I faced one fear a day for 100 days every
faced one fear a day for 100 days every
faced one fear a day for 100 days every day I would choose something that I’m
day I would choose something that I’m
day I would choose something that I’m scared about that I’ve never done before
scared about that I’ve never done before
scared about that I’ve never done before and something also that I’m curious
and something also that I’m curious
and something also that I’m curious about but it’s not just anything or I
about but it’s not just anything or I
about but it’s not just anything or I wouldn’t do something that is risky that
wouldn’t do something that is risky that
wouldn’t do something that is risky that would put my lives at risk for anything
would put my lives at risk for anything
would put my lives at risk for anything things that would truly help me enjoy
things that would truly help me enjoy
things that would truly help me enjoy life to the fullest and I would do this
life to the fullest and I would do this
life to the fullest and I would do this I would report myself and then edit a
I would report myself and then edit a
I would report myself and then edit a video and put it on YouTube so I faced
video and put it on YouTube so I faced
video and put it on YouTube so I faced 40 fears one after the other and then
40 fears one after the other and then
40 fears one after the other and then around the day 40 the project went viral
around the day 40 the project went viral
around the day 40 the project went viral and that’s when I realized the potential
and that’s when I realized the potential
and that’s when I realized the potential that I’ve had and how amazing it is that
that I’ve had and how amazing it is that
that I’ve had and how amazing it is that in the face of fear and you put yourself
in the face of fear and you put yourself
in the face of fear and you put yourself vulnerable out there you are allowing
vulnerable out there you are allowing
vulnerable out there you are allowing other people to feel like there
other people to feel like there
other people to feel like there the only ones who are scared of things
the only ones who are scared of things
the only ones who are scared of things and that they’re not alone in this
and that they’re not alone in this
and that they’re not alone in this we are all in the same thing it’s just
we are all in the same thing it’s just
we are all in the same thing it’s just that people don’t share as much this
that people don’t share as much this
that people don’t share as much this part of life
part of life
part of life they share their fears or the way they
they share their fears or the way they
they share their fears or the way they have approached or over here and I was
have approached or over here and I was
have approached or over here and I was doing that and that’s when it went viral
doing that and that’s when it went viral
doing that and that’s when it went viral and I started receiving messages from
and I started receiving messages from
and I started receiving messages from people saying that thanks to my project
people saying that thanks to my project
people saying that thanks to my project they change their life and we change the
they change their life and we change the
they change their life and we change the way of looking at the fear and I never
way of looking at the fear and I never
way of looking at the fear and I never thought like I started this project just
thought like I started this project just
thought like I started this project just to become a greater person myself so
to become a greater person myself so
to become a greater person myself so it’s not expecting any of this response
it’s not expecting any of this response
it’s not expecting any of this response and that’s what I realized that power
and that’s what I realized that power
and that’s what I realized that power that it had when you share your
that it had when you share your
that it had when you share your experiences and that’s what I’m doing
experiences and that’s what I’m doing
experiences and that’s what I’m doing now after I finished the 100 days and I
now after I finished the 100 days and I
now after I finished the 100 days and I did a TEDx as my 100th fear I realized
did a TEDx as my 100th fear I realized
did a TEDx as my 100th fear I realized that I wanted to keep encouraging more
that I wanted to keep encouraging more
that I wanted to keep encouraging more people to face their fears and my way of
people to face their fears and my way of
people to face their fears and my way of doing it is I speak conferences schools
doing it is I speak conferences schools
doing it is I speak conferences schools and events and companies and everything
and events and companies and everything
and events and companies and everything but also I keep promoted I keep doing my
but also I keep promoted I keep doing my
but also I keep promoted I keep doing my youtube channel where every week what a
youtube channel where every week what a
youtube channel where every week what a video where I’m talking about fear and
video where I’m talking about fear and
video where I’m talking about fear and it’s a different aspect of life and then
it’s a different aspect of life and then
it’s a different aspect of life and then I have the platform hello fierce calm
I have the platform hello fierce calm
I have the platform hello fierce calm where I’m encouraging people to send me
where I’m encouraging people to send me
where I’m encouraging people to send me their own stories overcoming fears to
their own stories overcoming fears to
their own stories overcoming fears to encourage others to face their own fears
encourage others to face their own fears
encourage others to face their own fears because what I realize is that I don’t
because what I realize is that I don’t
because what I realize is that I don’t have all the fears in the world and
have all the fears in the world and
have all the fears in the world and people who are asking me to face fears
people who are asking me to face fears
people who are asking me to face fears that I don’t have just that they could
that I don’t have just that they could
that I don’t have just that they could see how I approach those situations so
see how I approach those situations so
see how I approach those situations so for example they were asking me can you
for example they were asking me can you
for example they were asking me can you face a fear of heights and I don’t have
face a fear of heights and I don’t have
face a fear of heights and I don’t have fear of heights or it can you face fears
fear of heights or it can you face fears
fear of heights or it can you face fears of crowded spaces and I don’t have those
of crowded spaces and I don’t have those
of crowded spaces and I don’t have those fears but other people do so if other
fears but other people do so if other
fears but other people do so if other people start documenting and sharing the
people start documenting and sharing the
people start documenting and sharing the way they approach their own fears then
way they approach their own fears then
way they approach their own fears then maybe more people can benefit from those
maybe more people can benefit from those
maybe more people can benefit from those experiences and that’s what the platform
experiences and that’s what the platform
experiences and that’s what the platform it’s only ah I love it well you already
it’s only ah I love it well you already
it’s only ah I love it well you already have some fans who are watching live and
have some fans who are watching live and
have some fans who are watching live and chatting up Rishi Cup TV saying that
chatting up Rishi Cup TV saying that
chatting up Rishi Cup TV saying that Michelle did an amazing TED talk on fear
Michelle did an amazing TED talk on fear
Michelle did an amazing TED talk on fear so some fans and believe nation already
so some fans and believe nation already
so some fans and believe nation already and think about entrepreneurs like my
and think about entrepreneurs like my
and think about entrepreneurs like my honesty entrepreneurs want to be
honesty entrepreneurs want to be
honesty entrepreneurs want to be entrepreneurs a lot of them have huge
entrepreneurs a lot of them have huge
entrepreneurs a lot of them have huge fears in starting the business and
fears in starting the business and
fears in starting the business and taking that risk they may have this you
taking that risk they may have this you
taking that risk they may have this you know great idea that they want to chase
know great idea that they want to chase
know great idea that they want to chase but the people around them and telling
but the people around them and telling
but the people around them and telling them it’s stupid and they shouldn’t do
them it’s stupid and they shouldn’t do
them it’s stupid and they shouldn’t do it and the voice inside their head is
it and the voice inside their head is
it and the voice inside their head is telling them don’t do it you know who
telling them don’t do it you know who
telling them don’t do it you know who are you to do it and they have like
are you to do it and they have like
are you to do it and they have like moments of boldness we get all excited
moments of boldness we get all excited
moments of boldness we get all excited and then you shrink back down to your
and then you shrink back down to your
and then you shrink back down to your regular life what would you what would
regular life what would you what would
regular life what would you what would your advice be after kind of overcoming
your advice be after kind of overcoming
your advice be after kind of overcoming a hundred different figures who can
a hundred different figures who can
a hundred different figures who can advise me to these entrepreneurs who are
advise me to these entrepreneurs who are
advise me to these entrepreneurs who are afraid to get started or afraid to bet
afraid to get started or afraid to bet
afraid to get started or afraid to bet on themselves so many things it’s all
on themselves so many things it’s all
on themselves so many things it’s all definitely
definitely
definitely so for example the first one I always
so for example the first one I always
so for example the first one I always try to identify and when I’m making a
try to identify and when I’m making a
try to identify and when I’m making a decision each option I have moving
decision each option I have moving
decision each option I have moving forward is the option that is based on
forward is the option that is based on
forward is the option that is based on growth and which option is the one that
growth and which option is the one that
growth and which option is the one that is based on safety and I would not
is based on safety and I would not
is based on safety and I would not recommend people to choose the option
recommend people to choose the option
recommend people to choose the option that is based on safety if they want to
that is based on safety if they want to
that is based on safety if they want to move forward because that option will
move forward because that option will
move forward because that option will only make them happy for a little bit
only make them happy for a little bit
only make them happy for a little bit and it will always be like very slow the
and it will always be like very slow the
and it will always be like very slow the way you progressed in life if you always
way you progressed in life if you always
way you progressed in life if you always keep choosing the fears fear based
keep choosing the fears fear based
keep choosing the fears fear based option or safety based option so there’s
option or safety based option so there’s
option or safety based option so there’s a quote from Maslow that I love and it
a quote from Maslow that I love and it
a quote from Maslow that I love and it we will either steps forward into growth
we will either steps forward into growth
we will either steps forward into growth or step back into safety so we always
or step back into safety so we always
or step back into safety so we always have these two options in front of
have these two options in front of
have these two options in front of ourselves and we have to identify and
ourselves and we have to identify and
ourselves and we have to identify and it’s really important that you don’t
it’s really important that you don’t
it’s really important that you don’t convince yourself that you want to go
convince yourself that you want to go
convince yourself that you want to go after the safety option yes because it
after the safety option yes because it
after the safety option yes because it makes you feel safe and this applies for
makes you feel safe and this applies for
makes you feel safe and this applies for everything in life
everything in life
everything in life entrepreneurship but also when you’re
entrepreneurship but also when you’re
entrepreneurship but also when you’re with someone maybe you want something
with someone maybe you want something
with someone maybe you want something better out of life and that person is
better out of life and that person is
better out of life and that person is holding you back
holding you back
holding you back but that person gives a safety so it’s
but that person gives a safety so it’s
but that person gives a safety so it’s comfortable to stay there instead of you
comfortable to stay there instead of you
comfortable to stay there instead of you know going with a both option anything
know going with a both option anything
know going with a both option anything that the way to identify which is the
that the way to identify which is the
that the way to identify which is the growth phase option is always the scary
growth phase option is always the scary
growth phase option is always the scary one so you know but you’re scared about
one so you know but you’re scared about
one so you know but you’re scared about something then that’s the one and that’s
something then that’s the one and that’s
something then that’s the one and that’s that you should do it like soon as you
that you should do it like soon as you
that you should do it like soon as you identify that you are scared of
identify that you are scared of
identify that you are scared of something
something
something I think that that is a good sign I think
I think that that is a good sign I think
I think that that is a good sign I think that that is something that you want
that that is something that you want
that that is something that you want even more and that’s why you’re so
even more and that’s why you’re so
even more and that’s why you’re so scared about it and we the other thing I
scared about it and we the other thing I
scared about it and we the other thing I was going to say about overcoming that
was going to say about overcoming that
was going to say about overcoming that fear okay so I think that you always
fear okay so I think that you always
fear okay so I think that you always have to start and that is what you
have to start and that is what you
have to start and that is what you should be aiming for at least start if
should be aiming for at least start if
should be aiming for at least start if you don’t start and you keep these ideas
you don’t start and you keep these ideas
you don’t start and you keep these ideas in your mind and you keep older also
in your mind and you keep older also
in your mind and you keep older also asking other people are going to what
asking other people are going to what
asking other people are going to what they think people don’t know what they
they think people don’t know what they
they think people don’t know what they want right now Steve Jobs always said
want right now Steve Jobs always said
want right now Steve Jobs always said that people don’t know or know Henry
that people don’t know or know Henry
that people don’t know or know Henry Ford right they don’t know what they
Ford right they don’t know what they
Ford right they don’t know what they want they would say if you ask them what
want they would say if you ask them what
want they would say if you ask them what do you want they would say fastest plus
do you want they would say fastest plus
do you want they would say fastest plus their horse instead of a car cuz they
their horse instead of a car cuz they
their horse instead of a car cuz they don’t know so I think that asking people
don’t know so I think that asking people
don’t know so I think that asking people around you is not the answer I think
around you is not the answer I think
around you is not the answer I think that if you truly believe in what you’re
that if you truly believe in what you’re
that if you truly believe in what you’re doing and you know but there is a higher
doing and you know but there is a higher
doing and you know but there is a higher purpose to your intention then
purpose to your intention then
purpose to your intention then consulting with others is not going to
consulting with others is not going to
consulting with others is not going to help you go past what go past that for
help you go past what go past that for
help you go past what go past that for example my husband just quit his job two
example my husband just quit his job two
example my husband just quit his job two or three weeks ago to join me full time
or three weeks ago to join me full time
or three weeks ago to join me full time on what I’m doing on this mission that I
on what I’m doing on this mission that I
on what I’m doing on this mission that I have and now it’s that we have together
have and now it’s that we have together
have and now it’s that we have together and we were in this too situation in
and we were in this too situation in
and we were in this too situation in this to option situation where we we we
this to option situation where we we we
this to option situation where we we we needed the stability but stability is a
needed the stability but stability is a
needed the stability but stability is a safety based option if we go for the
safety based option if we go for the
safety based option if we go for the stability which is him standing his
stability which is him standing his
stability which is him standing his danger his regular job well I tried to
danger his regular job well I tried to
danger his regular job well I tried to do this on my own
do this on my own
do this on my own and who never really going to move
and who never really going to move
and who never really going to move forward but we also wanted independence
forward but we also wanted independence
forward but we also wanted independence so where we were in between independence
so where we were in between independence
so where we were in between independence and stability we identify stability else
and stability we identify stability else
and stability we identify stability else the safety option and independence as
the safety option and independence as
the safety option and independence as the growth option so we decided to move
the growth option so we decided to move
the growth option so we decided to move forward and if he would have listened to
forward and if he would have listened to
forward and if he would have listened to everyone around him everybody was saying
everyone around him everybody was saying
everyone around him everybody was saying you’re crazy Michelle can travel on her
you’re crazy Michelle can travel on her
you’re crazy Michelle can travel on her only Michelle can do the same on her own
only Michelle can do the same on her own
only Michelle can do the same on her own and yeah I can it’s not going to really
and yeah I can it’s not going to really
and yeah I can it’s not going to really take us where we want to think and not
take us where we want to think and not
take us where we want to think and not in the time frame that we want to get
in the time frame that we want to get
in the time frame that we want to get there so she’s time to be bold about it
there so she’s time to be bold about it
there so she’s time to be bold about it and quit and now we’ve been working on
and quit and now we’ve been working on
and quit and now we’ve been working on so I’m really building what we believe
so I’m really building what we believe
so I’m really building what we believe in and we know we’re on the right track
in and we know we’re on the right track
in and we know we’re on the right track just because we’re not doing this for a
just because we’re not doing this for a
just because we’re not doing this for a selfish purpose we’re doing this because
selfish purpose we’re doing this because
selfish purpose we’re doing this because I think that everything you do in life
I think that everything you do in life
I think that everything you do in life if you have a real purpose to help
if you have a real purpose to help
if you have a real purpose to help others then it should happen for you if
others then it should happen for you if
others then it should happen for you if you really work hard on it we have a
you really work hard on it we have a
you really work hard on it we have a mission here and the mission is to we
mission here and the mission is to we
mission here and the mission is to we say that facing fears is contagious – –
say that facing fears is contagious – –
say that facing fears is contagious – – the mission here is to want to gather
the mission here is to want to gather
the mission here is to want to gather message so more people can see it more
message so more people can see it more
message so more people can see it more people can benefit from this from the
people can benefit from this from the
people can benefit from this from the stories from the tasks from the videos
stories from the tasks from the videos
stories from the tasks from the videos who constantly try to inspire others to
who constantly try to inspire others to
who constantly try to inspire others to go after their fears and that’s the
go after their fears and that’s the
go after their fears and that’s the beauty of this project and what I
beauty of this project and what I
beauty of this project and what I believe is that everything that you want
believe is that everything that you want
believe is that everything that you want to do then is it’s that thing to benefit
to do then is it’s that thing to benefit
to do then is it’s that thing to benefit other people then you should totally do
other people then you should totally do
other people then you should totally do it and not think about this as a selfish
it and not think about this as a selfish
it and not think about this as a selfish act but as a thing that you’re providing
act but as a thing that you’re providing
act but as a thing that you’re providing to the world so for example if you want
to the world so for example if you want
to the world so for example if you want to read a book and you’re doubtful about
to read a book and you’re doubtful about
to read a book and you’re doubtful about it
it
it why would you keep from the world your
why would you keep from the world your
why would you keep from the world your knowledge or your three a TV that so I
knowledge or your three a TV that so I
knowledge or your three a TV that so I think when I look at things that way I
think when I look at things that way I
think when I look at things that way I feel more empowered to go after the
feel more empowered to go after the
feel more empowered to go after the things that I feel deep inside that I
things that I feel deep inside that I
things that I feel deep inside that I should fight for I love it I love that
should fight for I love it I love that
should fight for I love it I love that example if you have two options one a
example if you have two options one a
example if you have two options one a security one is a growth go for the
security one is a growth go for the
security one is a growth go for the growth one even though that may seem
growth one even though that may seem
growth one even though that may seem super scary to you so like getting there
super scary to you so like getting there
super scary to you so like getting there as a conscious decision like I’m
as a conscious decision like I’m
as a conscious decision like I’m thinking about which path should I take
thinking about which path should I take
thinking about which path should I take what do you tell the people who don’t
what do you tell the people who don’t
what do you tell the people who don’t have the conscious decision making yet
have the conscious decision making yet
have the conscious decision making yet whether they’re just defaulting without
whether they’re just defaulting without
whether they’re just defaulting without even thinking about it default to play
even thinking about it default to play
even thinking about it default to play the lesser game to play the safe path
the lesser game to play the safe path
the lesser game to play the safe path the secure path without sitting down to
the secure path without sitting down to
the secure path without sitting down to think about it – just naturally always
think about it – just naturally always
think about it – just naturally always say no like you were you don’t even
say no like you were you don’t even
say no like you were you don’t even realize that they’re always saying no
realize that they’re always saying no
realize that they’re always saying no they don’t realize they’re holding
they don’t realize they’re holding
they don’t realize they’re holding themselves back what kind of advice
themselves back what kind of advice
themselves back what kind of advice would you give them it’s hard because
would you give them it’s hard because
would you give them it’s hard because maybe they’re not even questioning what
maybe they’re not even questioning what
maybe they’re not even questioning what their purpose is in life
their purpose is in life
their purpose is in life and they’re not they don’t even know
and they’re not they don’t even know
and they’re not they don’t even know this other option exists so for I have
this other option exists so for I have
this other option exists so for I have that problem you get the people that
that problem you get the people that
that problem you get the people that watch my videos and let they come to my
watch my videos and let they come to my
watch my videos and let they come to my talks is because there is other
talks is because there is other
talks is because there is other nonconformist who want more out of life
nonconformist who want more out of life
nonconformist who want more out of life and they meet that extra push but people
and they meet that extra push but people
and they meet that extra push but people that they don’t know and they just
that they don’t know and they just
that they don’t know and they just settle with whatever life throws their
settle with whatever life throws their
settle with whatever life throws their way then they’re not even watching this
way then they’re not even watching this
way then they’re not even watching this video probably right they’re not even
video probably right they’re not even
video probably right they’re not even following you or neither you’re on their
following you or neither you’re on their
following you or neither you’re on their day job just getting things done and
day job just getting things done and
day job just getting things done and leaving on autopilot which is so sad but
leaving on autopilot which is so sad but
leaving on autopilot which is so sad but definitely would be amazing if other
definitely would be amazing if other
definitely would be amazing if other people around them would share these
people around them would share these
people around them would share these kind of things with them if other people
kind of things with them if other people
kind of things with them if other people running would identify you know what I
running would identify you know what I
running would identify you know what I have a friend that she’s leaving on
have a friend that she’s leaving on
have a friend that she’s leaving on autopilot and then if that person tries
autopilot and then if that person tries
autopilot and then if that person tries to talk to this other person and maybe
to talk to this other person and maybe
to talk to this other person and maybe shares
shares
shares inspirational leaders like what we’re
inspirational leaders like what we’re
inspirational leaders like what we’re doing here then they would be doing a
doing here then they would be doing a
doing here then they would be doing a much greater good and that’s what I
much greater good and that’s what I
much greater good and that’s what I tried to do with people close to me I
tried to do with people close to me I
tried to do with people close to me I try to identify my friends weren’t doing
try to identify my friends weren’t doing
try to identify my friends weren’t doing things and they’re not even conscious
things and they’re not even conscious
things and they’re not even conscious about what how they’re leaving their
about what how they’re leaving their
about what how they’re leaving their life and I try to approach them and I
life and I try to approach them and I
life and I try to approach them and I try to sell okay in my try to paint a
try to sell okay in my try to paint a
try to sell okay in my try to paint a picture for them how would your life be
picture for them how would your life be
picture for them how would your life be different if you weren’t afraid to
different if you weren’t afraid to
different if you weren’t afraid to disappoint others if you weren’t afraid
disappoint others if you weren’t afraid
disappoint others if you weren’t afraid of missing out if you want to pray of
of missing out if you want to pray of
of missing out if you want to pray of all these things all those links on the
all these things all those links on the
all these things all those links on the you know the Pyramid of Maslow so we
you know the Pyramid of Maslow so we
you know the Pyramid of Maslow so we have the basic needs like food shelter
have the basic needs like food shelter
have the basic needs like food shelter those are all the biological needs and
those are all the biological needs and
those are all the biological needs and then we have the belonging episode 15 me
then we have the belonging episode 15 me
then we have the belonging episode 15 me and so many people just live their life
and so many people just live their life
and so many people just live their life trying to fulfill those fulfill itself
trying to fulfill those fulfill itself
trying to fulfill those fulfill itself the self esteem of the belonging that
the self esteem of the belonging that
the self esteem of the belonging that they do anything to belong so I have
they do anything to belong so I have
they do anything to belong so I have friends that in order to belong and be
friends that in order to belong and be
friends that in order to belong and be part of what their breasts are doing
part of what their breasts are doing
part of what their breasts are doing they just go and have babies they just
they just go and have babies they just
they just go and have babies they just go ahead and get married and not because
go ahead and get married and not because
go ahead and get married and not because we’ve been passionate about that because
we’ve been passionate about that because
we’ve been passionate about that because they want to belong and do what
they want to belong and do what
they want to belong and do what everybody else is doing and the same
everybody else is doing and the same
everybody else is doing and the same thing with the job so for example I went
thing with the job so for example I went
thing with the job so for example I went to school to New York I went to grad
to school to New York I went to grad
to school to New York I went to grad school and we graduated and everybody
school and we graduated and everybody
school and we graduated and everybody started looking for jobs
started looking for jobs
started looking for jobs and I felt that huge pressure that oh my
and I felt that huge pressure that oh my
and I felt that huge pressure that oh my god everyone’s looking for job and I
god everyone’s looking for job and I
god everyone’s looking for job and I want to keep facing my fears keep
want to keep facing my fears keep
want to keep facing my fears keep building my channel and start this
building my channel and start this
building my channel and start this through the air that has not a specific
through the air that has not a specific
through the air that has not a specific path and is not defined and I have to
path and is not defined and I have to
path and is not defined and I have to make it from Hell so but I felt that
make it from Hell so but I felt that
make it from Hell so but I felt that pressure like everybody supplying maybe
pressure like everybody supplying maybe
pressure like everybody supplying maybe I should do the same and I think that
I should do the same and I think that
I should do the same and I think that someone that many people would allow
someone that many people would allow
someone that many people would allow that fear to coming away and dictate
that fear to coming away and dictate
that fear to coming away and dictate their decisions and that is sad because
their decisions and that is sad because
their decisions and that is sad because they’re acting out of fear and not out
they’re acting out of fear and not out
they’re acting out of fear and not out of passion in that sense I love it well
of passion in that sense I love it well
of passion in that sense I love it well after I’ve gone through all of these
after I’ve gone through all of these
after I’ve gone through all of these days of fear what do you still have as a
days of fear what do you still have as a
days of fear what do you still have as a fear like what’s still left what are you
fear like what’s still left what are you
fear like what’s still left what are you still afraid of now I’m still afraid of
still afraid of now I’m still afraid of
still afraid of now I’m still afraid of many many things that I need to face
many many things that I need to face
many many things that I need to face moving forward there are for example
moving forward there are for example
moving forward there are for example fear of motherhood is something that I
fear of motherhood is something that I
fear of motherhood is something that I constantly think about and I try to
constantly think about and I try to
constantly think about and I try to always define that if I really want this
always define that if I really want this
always define that if I really want this because everybody’s doing it and I feel
because everybody’s doing it and I feel
because everybody’s doing it and I feel incredible pressure to do it and my
incredible pressure to do it and my
incredible pressure to do it and my parents are asking for it and you know
parents are asking for it and you know
parents are asking for it and you know oh my friends are in that path right now
oh my friends are in that path right now
oh my friends are in that path right now or if I wanted because I just see myself
or if I wanted because I just see myself
or if I wanted because I just see myself as a leader in my house budget you know
as a leader in my house budget you know
as a leader in my house budget you know having kids that I can really teach them
having kids that I can really teach them
having kids that I can really teach them everything that I’m learning and I know
everything that I’m learning and I know
everything that I’m learning and I know that whenever that time comes I will be
that whenever that time comes I will be
that whenever that time comes I will be reaching out that is one of my biggest
reaching out that is one of my biggest
reaching out that is one of my biggest biggest fears motherhood for sure and
biggest fears motherhood for sure and
biggest fears motherhood for sure and also because I want to keep doing my
also because I want to keep doing my
also because I want to keep doing my career my career takes a lot of
career my career takes a lot of
career my career takes a lot of traveling how can I travel with kids and
traveling how can I travel with kids and
traveling how can I travel with kids and kids favorite Dean so that is the huge
kids favorite Dean so that is the huge
kids favorite Dean so that is the huge fear that I do have moving forward of
fear that I do have moving forward of
fear that I do have moving forward of course we have a fear of failure that is
course we have a fear of failure that is
course we have a fear of failure that is something that we have to face every
something that we have to face every
something that we have to face every single day every time I put a youtube
single day every time I put a youtube
single day every time I put a youtube video it’s funny because I call my
video it’s funny because I call my
video it’s funny because I call my Wednesday’s fearless Wednesdays because
Wednesday’s fearless Wednesdays because
Wednesday’s fearless Wednesdays because that’s they upload a video and I’m
that’s they upload a video and I’m
that’s they upload a video and I’m supposed to encourage people to be a
supposed to encourage people to be a
supposed to encourage people to be a little bit more fearless that day and
little bit more fearless that day and
little bit more fearless that day and every Wednesday I’m terrified that no
every Wednesday I’m terrified that no
every Wednesday I’m terrified that no one will like it that it will have no
one will like it that it will have no
one will like it that it will have no exposure no views no comments no
exposure no views no comments no
exposure no views no comments no engagement and my husband tells me you
engagement and my husband tells me you
engagement and my husband tells me you should call depression Wednesday’s not
should call depression Wednesday’s not
should call depression Wednesday’s not fearless
it’s a fear we have to face every day
it’s a fear we have to face every day but the important thing is that we don’t
but the important thing is that we don’t
but the important thing is that we don’t allow our fears to stop us to hold us
allow our fears to stop us to hold us
allow our fears to stop us to hold us back
back
back so everyone said even though I don’t get
so everyone said even though I don’t get
so everyone said even though I don’t get the results I wanted or the engagement
the results I wanted or the engagement
the results I wanted or the engagement or anything that’s not a reason for me
or anything that’s not a reason for me
or anything that’s not a reason for me to stop it’s like the other way around
to stop it’s like the other way around
to stop it’s like the other way around it’s a reason for me to improve and say
it’s a reason for me to improve and say
it’s a reason for me to improve and say how can I make this video a bit better
how can I make this video a bit better
how can I make this video a bit better how can I make it next week that more
how can I make it next week that more
how can I make it next week that more people engaged and that’s what I’ve been
people engaged and that’s what I’ve been
people engaged and that’s what I’ve been trying and I failure I’m seeing as the
trying and I failure I’m seeing as the
trying and I failure I’m seeing as the end point of my senses of my story I see
end point of my senses of my story I see
end point of my senses of my story I see it as a pivoting point so every time I’m
it as a pivoting point so every time I’m
it as a pivoting point so every time I’m feeling like okay what did I do wrong
feeling like okay what did I do wrong
feeling like okay what did I do wrong how can I make it better and then I call
how can I make it better and then I call
how can I make it better and then I call all my friends my friends that are
all my friends my friends that are
all my friends my friends that are honest not like the ones that are just
honest not like the ones that are just
honest not like the ones that are just there to just tell me you’re awesome but
there to just tell me you’re awesome but
there to just tell me you’re awesome but the ones that tell me yeah I was a good
the ones that tell me yeah I was a good
the ones that tell me yeah I was a good bu but maybe you can list assistances
bu but maybe you can list assistances
bu but maybe you can list assistances those were the friends that I like to
those were the friends that I like to
those were the friends that I like to call and ask them please be completely
call and ask them please be completely
call and ask them please be completely honest with me because that is the only
honest with me because that is the only
honest with me because that is the only way that we can grab failure and turn it
way that we can grab failure and turn it
way that we can grab failure and turn it into something greater like it both
into something greater like it both
into something greater like it both failure to so yeah something them bring
failure to so yeah something them bring
failure to so yeah something them bring better in furthest things in the future
better in furthest things in the future
better in furthest things in the future I love it well we’ve got a bunch of
I love it well we’ve got a bunch of
I love it well we’ve got a bunch of people watching live and filling up the
people watching live and filling up the
people watching live and filling up the chat stream and asking questions so low
chat stream and asking questions so low
chat stream and asking questions so low and I want to recognize some of them and
and I want to recognize some of them and
and I want to recognize some of them and let’s get to some reader questions first
let’s get to some reader questions first
let’s get to some reader questions first up is sue she’ll who’s saying how do I
up is sue she’ll who’s saying how do I
up is sue she’ll who’s saying how do I start anew after I’ve had a bad past Oh
start anew after I’ve had a bad past Oh
start anew after I’ve had a bad past Oh like change the past holding you back
like change the past holding you back
like change the past holding you back what do you recommend there so I think
what do you recommend there so I think
what do you recommend there so I think that well if you’ve had a backpack
that well if you’ve had a backpack
that well if you’ve had a backpack definitely it’s a great way to learn
definitely it’s a great way to learn
definitely it’s a great way to learn from that and really not just like close
from that and really not just like close
from that and really not just like close the door of it and close the book on
the door of it and close the book on
the door of it and close the book on what happened and try to start over but
what happened and try to start over but
what happened and try to start over but open that book again go back and really
open that book again go back and really
open that book again go back and really analyze everything have that happened
analyze everything have that happened
analyze everything have that happened there and why why it happened and learn
there and why why it happened and learn
there and why why it happened and learn as much as you can I think that you can
as much as you can I think that you can
as much as you can I think that you can be your best teacher and your failures
be your best teacher and your failures
be your best teacher and your failures can be like the best content that you
can be like the best content that you
can be like the best content that you can learn from do you forward and yeah
can learn from do you forward and yeah
can learn from do you forward and yeah so that’s what I keep questioning
so that’s what I keep questioning
so that’s what I keep questioning everything I do in my life like okay so
everything I do in my life like okay so
everything I do in my life like okay so this happened
this happened
this happened and I don’t think I did it because this
and I don’t think I did it because this
and I don’t think I did it because this is and it’s not like I do that exercise
is and it’s not like I do that exercise
is and it’s not like I do that exercise because I want to go back and fix what I
because I want to go back and fix what I
because I want to go back and fix what I did in the past but is how can I grab
did in the past but is how can I grab
did in the past but is how can I grab this knowledge that now I understand
this knowledge that now I understand
this knowledge that now I understand because I think also Steve Jobs says
because I think also Steve Jobs says
because I think also Steve Jobs says like you cannot connect the thoughts
like you cannot connect the thoughts
like you cannot connect the thoughts moving forward but you can always
moving forward but you can always
moving forward but you can always connect the moving backwards so now that
connect the moving backwards so now that
connect the moving backwards so now that you’re past that that path how can you
you’re past that that path how can you
you’re past that that path how can you connect the dots and say okay so this is
connect the dots and say okay so this is
connect the dots and say okay so this is what it did long and this how I can make
what it did long and this how I can make
what it did long and this how I can make it better at this I don’t know learn
it better at this I don’t know learn
it better at this I don’t know learn from your own experiences then and also
from your own experiences then and also
from your own experiences then and also if you can get some experts to share
if you can get some experts to share
if you can get some experts to share those experiences with them and see
those experiences with them and see
those experiences with them and see their point of view and what might long
their point of view and what might long
their point of view and what might long learn from other points of view and
learn from other points of view and
learn from other points of view and every time you do something I send it to
every time you do something I send it to
every time you do something I send it to all my professors I just finished a talk
all my professors I just finished a talk
all my professors I just finished a talk that I will be giving that world
that I will be giving that world
that I will be giving that world domination summit and I just send it to
domination summit and I just send it to
domination summit and I just send it to a professor that she’s really good at
a professor that she’s really good at
a professor that she’s really good at writing and thinking about audiences I
writing and thinking about audiences I
writing and thinking about audiences I also send it to a professor that he’s
also send it to a professor that he’s
also send it to a professor that he’s amazing in psychology and behavior human
amazing in psychology and behavior human
amazing in psychology and behavior human behavior so now I’m getting back all
behavior so now I’m getting back all
behavior so now I’m getting back all those points of views from different
those points of views from different
those points of views from different experts in their fields I love it the
experts in their fields I love it the
experts in their fields I love it the the audience is freaking out about the
the audience is freaking out about the
the audience is freaking out about the belief sign to get some some quick love
belief sign to get some some quick love
belief sign to get some some quick love with my channels to have belief
with my channels to have belief
with my channels to have belief somewhere in the backdrop by the scoring
somewhere in the backdrop by the scoring
somewhere in the backdrop by the scoring points is good okay so the next question
points is good okay so the next question
points is good okay so the next question from Rishi Cup TV she’s the one who saw
from Rishi Cup TV she’s the one who saw
from Rishi Cup TV she’s the one who saw your TED talk and it’s like super jazzed
your TED talk and it’s like super jazzed
your TED talk and it’s like super jazzed up and excited about you coming on the
up and excited about you coming on the
up and excited about you coming on the channel so her question is Michelle of
channel so her question is Michelle of
channel so her question is Michelle of all the fears that you face so far which
all the fears that you face so far which
all the fears that you face so far which one was the hardest for you and why well
one was the hardest for you and why well
one was the hardest for you and why well so it’s funny that question because I
so it’s funny that question because I
so it’s funny that question because I have a hard time answer anything because
have a hard time answer anything because
have a hard time answer anything because they all of the fears were the hardest
they all of the fears were the hardest
they all of the fears were the hardest one before I did them so every time I
one before I did them so every time I
one before I did them so every time I faced a fear was like okay that wasn’t
faced a fear was like okay that wasn’t
faced a fear was like okay that wasn’t that bad but tomorrow
that bad but tomorrow
that bad but tomorrow I have to do this and I’m going to freak
I have to do this and I’m going to freak
I have to do this and I’m going to freak out and I’m going to die and I make up
out and I’m going to die and I make up
out and I’m going to die and I make up this huge like dark cloud in my mind of
this huge like dark cloud in my mind of
this huge like dark cloud in my mind of things that could go wrong and I’m so
things that could go wrong and I’m so
things that could go wrong and I’m so terrified of what’s going to happen next
terrified of what’s going to happen next
terrified of what’s going to happen next and then I do it and then again the same
and then I do it and then again the same
and then I do it and then again the same feeling is like oh okay
feeling is like oh okay
feeling is like oh okay wasn’t that but but the next one so
wasn’t that but but the next one so
wasn’t that but but the next one so every challenge I think that it’s the
every challenge I think that it’s the
every challenge I think that it’s the worst before you do it so never think
worst before you do it so never think
worst before you do it so never think that facing a period is easy of course
that facing a period is easy of course
that facing a period is easy of course there are fears are easier than others
there are fears are easier than others
there are fears are easier than others but for example pussy nude in front of a
but for example pussy nude in front of a
but for example pussy nude in front of a during class I thought I was going to
during class I thought I was going to
during class I thought I was going to die I thought to do it from there what
die I thought to do it from there what
die I thought to do it from there what if I can’t just hit it up and I did it
if I can’t just hit it up and I did it
if I can’t just hit it up and I did it and I learned so much in those 15
and I learned so much in those 15
and I learned so much in those 15 minutes that I spent get posting that I
minutes that I spent get posting that I
minutes that I spent get posting that I don’t ever want to take that experience
don’t ever want to take that experience
don’t ever want to take that experience back I learned a lot it’s not like I
back I learned a lot it’s not like I
back I learned a lot it’s not like I wanna do it again but if I have to I
wanna do it again but if I have to I
wanna do it again but if I have to I would do it because it is hot as bad as
would do it because it is hot as bad as
would do it because it is hot as bad as we thought or skydiving I really thought
we thought or skydiving I really thought
we thought or skydiving I really thought I was going to pass out in the airplane
I was going to pass out in the airplane
I was going to pass out in the airplane going up and it didn’t happen I was just
going up and it didn’t happen I was just
going up and it didn’t happen I was just there I was experiencing and in that
there I was experiencing and in that
there I was experiencing and in that moment I try to be very mindful and
moment I try to be very mindful and
moment I try to be very mindful and understand the situation and say wow I’m
understand the situation and say wow I’m
understand the situation and say wow I’m experiencing life right now I’m
experiencing life right now I’m
experiencing life right now I’m experiencing sphere I’m experiencing
experiencing sphere I’m experiencing
experiencing sphere I’m experiencing adrenaline Oh try to understand all
adrenaline Oh try to understand all
adrenaline Oh try to understand all these feelings and emotions that you’re
these feelings and emotions that you’re
these feelings and emotions that you’re having and embrace that I now embrace
having and embrace that I now embrace
having and embrace that I now embrace fear as an emotion and I’d like to
fear as an emotion and I’d like to
fear as an emotion and I’d like to understand that every time a figure
understand that every time a figure
understand that every time a figure comes in my way that is a chance for me
comes in my way that is a chance for me
comes in my way that is a chance for me to grow that’s just for me to learn
to grow that’s just for me to learn
to grow that’s just for me to learn something new to maybe fold down get
something new to maybe fold down get
something new to maybe fold down get hurt
hurt
hurt but then have something to learn from so
but then have something to learn from so
but then have something to learn from so fears you are a good sign that’s a good
fears you are a good sign that’s a good
fears you are a good sign that’s a good sign I think yeah and the one way the
sign I think yeah and the one way the
sign I think yeah and the one way the one fear I was about to just leave
one fear I was about to just leave
one fear I was about to just leave before the fear was like I’m not doing
before the fear was like I’m not doing
before the fear was like I’m not doing this and I did it at the end was jumping
this and I did it at the end was jumping
this and I did it at the end was jumping from a cliff into the water that’s
from a cliff into the water that’s
from a cliff into the water that’s something that I’ve been terrified to do
something that I’ve been terrified to do
something that I’ve been terrified to do since I was very little all my friends
since I was very little all my friends
since I was very little all my friends would do and I would never even try and
would do and I would never even try and
would do and I would never even try and this time we drove two hours to go to a
this time we drove two hours to go to a
this time we drove two hours to go to a place and we were there and I couldn’t
place and we were there and I couldn’t
place and we were there and I couldn’t jump it was like it was beyond me I
jump it was like it was beyond me I
jump it was like it was beyond me I think it goes from being a fear to be la
think it goes from being a fear to be la
think it goes from being a fear to be la Sophia it becomes a little bit
Sophia it becomes a little bit
Sophia it becomes a little bit irrational of course nothing will happen
irrational of course nothing will happen
irrational of course nothing will happen you will fall you man in the water
you will fall you man in the water
you will fall you man in the water that’s it and it was in a you know water
that’s it and it was in a you know water
that’s it and it was in a you know water park there are no rocks or anything kids
park there are no rocks or anything kids
park there are no rocks or anything kids were doing it it was safe so the fear
were doing it it was safe so the fear
were doing it it was safe so the fear becomes irrational and I was
becomes irrational and I was
becomes irrational and I was about to just leave but that’s when I
about to just leave but that’s when I
about to just leave but that’s when I decided to start counting backwards at
decided to start counting backwards at
decided to start counting backwards at three two one and I had no choice so I
three two one and I had no choice so I
three two one and I had no choice so I don’t but that was I think one of the
don’t but that was I think one of the
don’t but that was I think one of the hardest ones for me interesting people
hardest ones for me interesting people
hardest ones for me interesting people are asking me now what my biggest fear
are asking me now what my biggest fear
are asking me now what my biggest fear is so they’re me they’re putting me on
is so they’re me they’re putting me on
is so they’re me they’re putting me on the spot here thank you thank you for
the spot here thank you thank you for
the spot here thank you thank you for that appreciated so I have some some
that appreciated so I have some some
that appreciated so I have some some ones that I don’t feel it hurt me too
ones that I don’t feel it hurt me too
ones that I don’t feel it hurt me too much like I’m afraid of heights so I
much like I’m afraid of heights so I
much like I’m afraid of heights so I don’t I haven’t gone skydiving you know
don’t I haven’t gone skydiving you know
don’t I haven’t gone skydiving you know I don’t go bungee jumping I’d be afraid
I don’t go bungee jumping I’d be afraid
I don’t go bungee jumping I’d be afraid of doing that jump off the water thing
of doing that jump off the water thing
of doing that jump off the water thing into the pool um I’m afraid of losing
into the pool um I’m afraid of losing
into the pool um I’m afraid of losing control I like to be in control of my
control I like to be in control of my
control I like to be in control of my body so like I don’t like roller
body so like I don’t like roller
body so like I don’t like roller coasters my roller coaster I don’t let
coasters my roller coaster I don’t let
coasters my roller coaster I don’t let go and just enjoy I mean good job I’m in
go and just enjoy I mean good job I’m in
go and just enjoy I mean good job I’m in control constantly fight it’s quite it
control constantly fight it’s quite it
control constantly fight it’s quite it sucked I wouldn’t do well on space
sucked I wouldn’t do well on space
sucked I wouldn’t do well on space travel or anything like that
travel or anything like that
travel or anything like that I don’t know I don’t know how much those
I don’t know I don’t know how much those
I don’t know I don’t know how much those hold me back though I like it’s not like
hold me back though I like it’s not like
hold me back though I like it’s not like I’ve massively want to fix those that’s
I’ve massively want to fix those that’s
I’ve massively want to fix those that’s the biggest one that that was crippling
the biggest one that that was crippling
the biggest one that that was crippling in my career was I I have a fear of
in my career was I I have a fear of
in my career was I I have a fear of letting people down and I fear that I
letting people down and I fear that I
letting people down and I fear that I won’t provide enough value to them and
won’t provide enough value to them and
won’t provide enough value to them and it would lead to me cancelling meetings
it would lead to me cancelling meetings
it would lead to me cancelling meetings or just hoping that somebody cancels on
or just hoping that somebody cancels on
or just hoping that somebody cancels on me or I get some big speaking gig and
me or I get some big speaking gig and
me or I get some big speaking gig and then hope that they would cancel on me
then hope that they would cancel on me
then hope that they would cancel on me the day off so I wouldn’t have to go
the day off so I wouldn’t have to go
the day off so I wouldn’t have to go because I’d be afraid of not not not
because I’d be afraid of not not not
because I’d be afraid of not not not giving people value and I’ve gotten way
giving people value and I’ve gotten way
giving people value and I’ve gotten way better at that I don’t know that I don’t
better at that I don’t know that I don’t
better at that I don’t know that I don’t know if that’s still in there somewhere
know if that’s still in there somewhere
know if that’s still in there somewhere it might be but I had to really do some
it might be but I had to really do some
it might be but I had to really do some work for a couple years to just
work for a couple years to just
work for a couple years to just recognize that and push through the fear
recognize that and push through the fear
recognize that and push through the fear and understand that hey every time I’ve
and understand that hey every time I’ve
and understand that hey every time I’ve done this it’s been great and I feel
done this it’s been great and I feel
done this it’s been great and I feel great at the end of it and the other
great at the end of it and the other
great at the end of it and the other people feel great too why am I so afraid
people feel great too why am I so afraid
people feel great too why am I so afraid of this every time I just doing that
of this every time I just doing that
of this every time I just doing that enough maybe I just condition myself
enough maybe I just condition myself
enough maybe I just condition myself that not be as afraid like even
that not be as afraid like even
that not be as afraid like even something like this I would be afraid of
something like this I would be afraid of
something like this I would be afraid of getting on the call with somebody and
getting on the call with somebody and
getting on the call with somebody and having them on my channel or having a
having them on my channel or having a
having them on my channel or having a conversation just worried that I
conversation just worried that I
conversation just worried that I wouldn’t bring you and I thought I
wouldn’t bring you and I thought I
wouldn’t bring you and I thought I wouldn’t bring my audience enough value
wouldn’t bring my audience enough value
wouldn’t bring my audience enough value so I don’t know at what point that
so I don’t know at what point that
so I don’t know at what point that really just disappeared or maybe it’s
really just disappeared or maybe it’s
really just disappeared or maybe it’s still lingering somewhere
still lingering somewhere
still lingering somewhere but that was a big las vegas type of
but that was a big las vegas type of
but that was a big las vegas type of crippling thing earlier in my career
crippling thing earlier in my career
crippling thing earlier in my career that prevented me from from being the
that prevented me from from being the
that prevented me from from being the person that i could be that’s really
person that i could be that’s really
person that i could be that’s really interesting and i think that when you
interesting and i think that when you
interesting and i think that when you mention it’s exactly what you have to do
mention it’s exactly what you have to do
mention it’s exactly what you have to do so identify the fears that can keep you
so identify the fears that can keep you
so identify the fears that can keep you from growing your career or from moving
from growing your career or from moving
from growing your career or from moving forward because we will always have
forward because we will always have
forward because we will always have fears and you don’t have to face them
fears and you don’t have to face them
fears and you don’t have to face them all because that would take a lot of
all because that would take a lot of
all because that would take a lot of time and energy but if rollercoasters or
time and energy but if rollercoasters or
time and energy but if rollercoasters or Heights disappear that it’s not really
Heights disappear that it’s not really
Heights disappear that it’s not really preventing you from getting where you
preventing you from getting where you
preventing you from getting where you want to be then that nutrients focusing
want to be then that nutrients focusing
want to be then that nutrients focusing that much of that fear but it’s the fear
that much of that fear but it’s the fear
that much of that fear but it’s the fear of feeling letting people down it’s a
of feeling letting people down it’s a
of feeling letting people down it’s a little bit like the the imposter
little bit like the the imposter
little bit like the the imposter syndrome fear that you feel that right
syndrome fear that you feel that right
syndrome fear that you feel that right have you heard of all the imposter
have you heard of all the imposter
have you heard of all the imposter imposter syndrome no butBut I can I can
imposter syndrome no butBut I can I can
imposter syndrome no butBut I can I can guess by the name yeah it’s that feeling
guess by the name yeah it’s that feeling
guess by the name yeah it’s that feeling that yeah you’re on husband and I think
that yeah you’re on husband and I think
that yeah you’re on husband and I think that every person goes through a lot and
that every person goes through a lot and
that every person goes through a lot and one thing that I really like that I
one thing that I really like that I
one thing that I really like that I heard is we are in this earth to fulfill
heard is we are in this earth to fulfill
heard is we are in this earth to fulfill a purpose to do something and if you
a purpose to do something and if you
a purpose to do something and if you know what that isn’t I’m sure you do
know what that isn’t I’m sure you do
know what that isn’t I’m sure you do know your purpose I now know my purpose
know your purpose I now know my purpose
know your purpose I now know my purpose then you have to be comments I love that
then you have to be comments I love that
then you have to be comments I love that advice about becoming it it’s not taken
advice about becoming it it’s not taken
advice about becoming it it’s not taken for granted that you should be
for granted that you should be
for granted that you should be immediately that person and and if
immediately that person and and if
immediately that person and and if you’re not then go and find something
you’re not then go and find something
you’re not then go and find something else to do so for example I now have to
else to do so for example I now have to
else to do so for example I now have to become a speaker because that’s the
become a speaker because that’s the
become a speaker because that’s the route I decided to take as a way to
route I decided to take as a way to
route I decided to take as a way to inspire more people and I see that it
inspire more people and I see that it
inspire more people and I see that it brings results to me I feel great when I
brings results to me I feel great when I
brings results to me I feel great when I do it to the audience they feel amazing
do it to the audience they feel amazing
do it to the audience they feel amazing when they hear me speak that’s the
when they hear me speak that’s the
when they hear me speak that’s the feedback that I’ve been getting so I
feedback that I’ve been getting so I
feedback that I’ve been getting so I have to keep doing until I become that
have to keep doing until I become that
have to keep doing until I become that speaker and I have the confidence to say
speaker and I have the confidence to say
speaker and I have the confidence to say I on speaker and go and speak without
I on speaker and go and speak without
I on speaker and go and speak without having the fear inside of me that I will
having the fear inside of me that I will
having the fear inside of me that I will let down I love it Victoria is writing
let down I love it Victoria is writing
let down I love it Victoria is writing in saying why don’t they teach about why
in saying why don’t they teach about why
in saying why don’t they teach about why don’t they teach about fear in college
don’t they teach about fear in college
don’t they teach about fear in college yes I think they should definitely have
yes I think they should definitely have
yes I think they should definitely have maybe I should go to teaching college
maybe I should go to teaching college
maybe I should go to teaching college but definitely for me college is one of
but definitely for me college is one of
but definitely for me college is one of the markets that I really want to tap
the markets that I really want to tap
the markets that I really want to tap into because I see how when you’re about
into because I see how when you’re about
into because I see how when you’re about to graduate when you’re in college you
to graduate when you’re in college you
to graduate when you’re in college you start making some decisions to either
start making some decisions to either
start making some decisions to either please other people lie to your parents
please other people lie to your parents
please other people lie to your parents or a society and I mean other people’s
or a society and I mean other people’s
or a society and I mean other people’s expectations and you have so much
expectations and you have so much
expectations and you have so much pressure to succeed and be someone
pressure to succeed and be someone
pressure to succeed and be someone because we just graduated and it
because we just graduated and it
because we just graduated and it shouldn’t be that way we should have the
shouldn’t be that way we should have the
shouldn’t be that way we should have the time to find what you’re good at and
time to find what you’re good at and
time to find what you’re good at and what you love and try to combine those
what you love and try to combine those
what you love and try to combine those two and bring value to the world
two and bring value to the world
two and bring value to the world do whatever you would love to to enjoy
do whatever you would love to to enjoy
do whatever you would love to to enjoy without doing so definitely colleges is
without doing so definitely colleges is
without doing so definitely colleges is a market that really excites me to go to
a market that really excites me to go to
a market that really excites me to go to speak so I’ve been speaking at companies
speak so I’ve been speaking at companies
speak so I’ve been speaking at companies and organizations but last time I spoke
and organizations but last time I spoke
and organizations but last time I spoke I went to my high school not to my
I went to my high school not to my
I went to my high school not to my college where I graduated scared in
college where I graduated scared in
college where I graduated scared in Savannah and they brought me to speak at
Savannah and they brought me to speak at
Savannah and they brought me to speak at the graduation to all the graduating
the graduation to all the graduating
the graduation to all the graduating students it was like 5,000 people in
students it was like 5,000 people in
students it was like 5,000 people in there and I was freaking out I was so
there and I was freaking out I was so
there and I was freaking out I was so scared and when it was my turn
scared and when it was my turn
scared and when it was my turn they put all the lights on and I could
they put all the lights on and I could
they put all the lights on and I could see all the students and Wow
see all the students and Wow
see all the students and Wow just to have that feeling that now get
just to have that feeling that now get
just to have that feeling that now get to inspire people that are going to go
to inspire people that are going to go
to inspire people that are going to go into the world hopefully they will grab
into the world hopefully they will grab
into the world hopefully they will grab my advice and use it and it will stay
my advice and use it and it will stay
my advice and use it and it will stay with them so I instead of feeling
with them so I instead of feeling
with them so I instead of feeling anxious or nervous and felt so excited
anxious or nervous and felt so excited
anxious or nervous and felt so excited like I turned my fear into excitement
like I turned my fear into excitement
like I turned my fear into excitement and I was able to deliver a message in
and I was able to deliver a message in
and I was able to deliver a message in the best way possible
the best way possible
the best way possible and that’s when I realized I’m gonna
and that’s when I realized I’m gonna
and that’s when I realized I’m gonna keep speaking to students so in this
keep speaking to students so in this
keep speaking to students so in this month by the end of the month I’m
month by the end of the month I’m
month by the end of the month I’m actually going to California and I’m
actually going to California and I’m
actually going to California and I’m going to speak at all girls high school
going to speak at all girls high school
going to speak at all girls high school and I cannot tell you how excited I am
and I cannot tell you how excited I am
and I cannot tell you how excited I am about that opportunity all girls like
about that opportunity all girls like
about that opportunity all girls like 500 girls I will be opening their spoon
500 girls I will be opening their spoon
500 girls I will be opening their spoon here and I need to even write this book
here and I need to even write this book
here and I need to even write this book from scratch and I’m so excited about it
from scratch and I’m so excited about it
from scratch and I’m so excited about it that I don’t do it yeah I try to keep
that I don’t do it yeah I try to keep
that I don’t do it yeah I try to keep myself from doing it because I just
myself from doing it because I just
myself from doing it because I just found it looks so good I care so much
found it looks so good I care so much
found it looks so good I care so much about it I love it I think you need to
about it I love it I think you need to
about it I love it I think you need to teach more believed in in school too
question from mr. reader 324 this is
question from mr. reader 324 this is that me but I think you can rent rule 82
that me but I think you can rent rule 82
that me but I think you can rent rule 82 he says Evan
he says Evan
he says Evan naturally introvert if so hand you
naturally introvert if so hand you
naturally introvert if so hand you handle YouTube channel I am I’m a
handle YouTube channel I am I’m a
handle YouTube channel I am I’m a massive introvert I’m not the guy
massive introvert I’m not the guy
massive introvert I’m not the guy talking to people making connections at
talking to people making connections at
talking to people making connections at airports and you know networking events
airports and you know networking events
airports and you know networking events and going to conferences I don’t go to
and going to conferences I don’t go to
and going to conferences I don’t go to conferences unless I’m speaking I need a
conferences unless I’m speaking I need a
conferences unless I’m speaking I need a long time I need like decompress time
long time I need like decompress time
long time I need like decompress time where I’m not around people there’s just
where I’m not around people there’s just
where I’m not around people there’s just something about entrepreneurs has met
something about entrepreneurs has met
something about entrepreneurs has met connecting michelle’s what’s your why
connecting michelle’s what’s your why
connecting michelle’s what’s your why like I when I’m about entrepreneurs I
like I when I’m about entrepreneurs I
like I when I’m about entrepreneurs I just get excited I want to share I want
just get excited I want to share I want
just get excited I want to share I want to help them I can see the impact that I
to help them I can see the impact that I
to help them I can see the impact that I can have on somebody’s business and so
can have on somebody’s business and so
can have on somebody’s business and so that has led me to again to Michele’s
that has led me to again to Michele’s
that has led me to again to Michele’s more like what’s the path this led me
more like what’s the path this led me
more like what’s the path this led me down a youtube half and we have almost
down a youtube half and we have almost
down a youtube half and we have almost 400,000 subscribers but I filmed once a
400,000 subscribers but I filmed once a
400,000 subscribers but I filmed once a day I do these hangouts I film once a
day I do these hangouts I film once a
day I do these hangouts I film once a week and I do these hangouts once a week
week and I do these hangouts once a week
week and I do these hangouts once a week and the rest of the week I’m doing
and the rest of the week I’m doing
and the rest of the week I’m doing introvert stuff like I’m not taking
introvert stuff like I’m not taking
introvert stuff like I’m not taking calls or meetings or you know I need
calls or meetings or you know I need
calls or meetings or you know I need time by myself just totally by myself
time by myself just totally by myself
time by myself just totally by myself anytime with my wife and just the two of
anytime with my wife and just the two of
anytime with my wife and just the two of us and nobody else and and I don’t enjoy
us and nobody else and and I don’t enjoy
us and nobody else and and I don’t enjoy going to parties
going to parties
going to parties I need the limit social I keep like if
I need the limit social I keep like if
I need the limit social I keep like if it’s one of those days we have three
it’s one of those days we have three
it’s one of those days we have three parties to go to I need it I need the
parties to go to I need it I need the
parties to go to I need it I need the next day to be awesome
next day to be awesome
next day to be awesome I can’t like I just shut down so there
I can’t like I just shut down so there
I can’t like I just shut down so there was a big foodie we put up recently from
was a big foodie we put up recently from
was a big foodie we put up recently from Ellen Ellen DeGeneres top ten rules for
Ellen Ellen DeGeneres top ten rules for
Ellen Ellen DeGeneres top ten rules for success is she’s an introvert – she is
success is she’s an introvert – she is
success is she’s an introvert – she is she says she’s an introvert yeah which
she says she’s an introvert yeah which
she says she’s an introvert yeah which is a surprise and people are surprised
is a surprise and people are surprised
is a surprise and people are surprised honestly I’m an introvert but you
honestly I’m an introvert but you
honestly I’m an introvert but you learned that come out of your shell for
learned that come out of your shell for
learned that come out of your shell for the Y for the purpose of what you’re
the Y for the purpose of what you’re
the Y for the purpose of what you’re trying to get done and when it’s
trying to get done and when it’s
trying to get done and when it’s entrepreneurship I can go forever but
entrepreneurship I can go forever but
entrepreneurship I can go forever but anything else small talk and social
anything else small talk and social
anything else small talk and social settings and whatever I just go back in
settings and whatever I just go back in
settings and whatever I just go back in and just fine like I don’t I don’t I
and just fine like I don’t I don’t I
and just fine like I don’t I don’t I don’t I don’t want to be an extra I
don’t I don’t want to be an extra I
don’t I don’t want to be an extra I don’t want to enjoy that I’m happy with
don’t want to enjoy that I’m happy with
don’t want to enjoy that I’m happy with it I just need that time to decompress
it I just need that time to decompress
it I just need that time to decompress I don’t know Michelle if you’re
I don’t know Michelle if you’re
I don’t know Michelle if you’re introverted or not and how you got over
introverted or not and how you got over
introverted or not and how you got over that or maybe you just massively
that or maybe you just massively
that or maybe you just massively extroverted I actually never in my life
extroverted I actually never in my life
extroverted I actually never in my life thought about the concept of introvert
thought about the concept of introvert
thought about the concept of introvert versus extrovert and never question Who
versus extrovert and never question Who
versus extrovert and never question Who I am and so now I’ve been questioning
I am and so now I’ve been questioning
I am and so now I’ve been questioning myself this a lot because since I was
myself this a lot because since I was
myself this a lot because since I was little I always crave attention and that
little I always crave attention and that
little I always crave attention and that doesn’t seem like a characteristic from
doesn’t seem like a characteristic from
doesn’t seem like a characteristic from an introvert right craving attention
an introvert right craving attention
an introvert right craving attention and I’ve seen so it was very like this
and I’ve seen so it was very like this
and I’ve seen so it was very like this happened with my brother was born I
happened with my brother was born I
happened with my brother was born I stopped getting all the attention that I
stopped getting all the attention that I
stopped getting all the attention that I was getting and I’m like I want to be an
was getting and I’m like I want to be an
was getting and I’m like I want to be an engineer when in fact so I’ve always
engineer when in fact so I’ve always
engineer when in fact so I’ve always been thrilled about this idea of
been thrilled about this idea of
been thrilled about this idea of speaking in front of an audience
speaking in front of an audience
speaking in front of an audience doing my youtube channel of being in
doing my youtube channel of being in
doing my youtube channel of being in front of the camera and everything but
front of the camera and everything but
front of the camera and everything but at the same time I’m not this person
at the same time I’m not this person
at the same time I’m not this person that in a group you will see like
that in a group you will see like
that in a group you will see like screaming and talking loud and engaging
screaming and talking loud and engaging
screaming and talking loud and engaging I’m not I think I am an introvert when
I’m not I think I am an introvert when
I’m not I think I am an introvert when it comes to speaking to strangers to
it comes to speaking to strangers to
it comes to speaking to strangers to speaking but maybe if it’s my group of
speaking but maybe if it’s my group of
speaking but maybe if it’s my group of friends I feel very comfortable about I
friends I feel very comfortable about I
friends I feel very comfortable about I can there be the exterior I’d like to be
can there be the exterior I’d like to be
can there be the exterior I’d like to be but when I surround myself with
but when I surround myself with
but when I surround myself with strangers and it’s funny because now my
strangers and it’s funny because now my
strangers and it’s funny because now my husband and that keeps with me all the
husband and that keeps with me all the
husband and that keeps with me all the time and he comes with me to other
time and he comes with me to other
time and he comes with me to other speaking engagements it has to remind me
speaking engagements it has to remind me
speaking engagements it has to remind me to be nice which is weird is that
to be nice which is weird is that
to be nice which is weird is that please remember to be not you’re not
please remember to be not you’re not
please remember to be not you’re not nice be nice to the person that’s
nice be nice to the person that’s
nice be nice to the person that’s organizing media fans and everybody else
organizing media fans and everybody else
organizing media fans and everybody else there they need to like you they like
there they need to like you they like
there they need to like you they like you then you’re good and yeah normally I
you then you’re good and yeah normally I
you then you’re good and yeah normally I would just be very quiet and to the
would just be very quiet and to the
would just be very quiet and to the point this so I think I’m honest of both
point this so I think I’m honest of both
point this so I think I’m honest of both and I’ve been very I admire a lot of
and I’ve been very I admire a lot of
and I’ve been very I admire a lot of introverts that they know their
introverts that they know their
introverts that they know their insurance and they’re still making so
insurance and they’re still making so
insurance and they’re still making so big in the world and fighting with
big in the world and fighting with
big in the world and fighting with they’re in Traverse ok this is not a
they’re in Traverse ok this is not a
they’re in Traverse ok this is not a word like fighting their their system in
word like fighting their their system in
word like fighting their their system in order to to really bring to the world
order to to really bring to the world
order to to really bring to the world what I really need to bring so for
what I really need to bring so for
what I really need to bring so for example you for example I mean I don’t
example you for example I mean I don’t
example you for example I mean I don’t know if you know the designer Jessica
know if you know the designer Jessica
know if you know the designer Jessica Wallace she is a big introvert but still
Wallace she is a big introvert but still
Wallace she is a big introvert but still she’s an amazing designer so she travels
she’s an amazing designer so she travels
she’s an amazing designer so she travels the world speaking to people about
the world speaking to people about
the world speaking to people about design and that I even heard that simon
design and that I even heard that simon
design and that I even heard that simon Sinek was an introvert which I was
Sinek was an introvert which I was
Sinek was an introvert which I was surprised about it to hear that Ellen
surprised about it to hear that Ellen
surprised about it to hear that Ellen DeGeneres I think it’s even more at
DeGeneres I think it’s even more at
DeGeneres I think it’s even more at hireable if you are an introvert and
hireable if you are an introvert and
hireable if you are an introvert and you’re doing disparate impact in the
you’re doing disparate impact in the
you’re doing disparate impact in the world means that you are fighting things
world means that you are fighting things
world means that you are fighting things that certain people don’t have to buy it
that certain people don’t have to buy it
that certain people don’t have to buy it just becomes listen to them someone left
just becomes listen to them someone left
just becomes listen to them someone left in the comments Evan I can help you with
in the comments Evan I can help you with
in the comments Evan I can help you with your each of your problem
your each of your problem
your each of your problem I don’t see it as a problem I see it as
I don’t see it as a problem I see it as
I don’t see it as a problem I see it as a huge asset like if I was I tried to be
a huge asset like if I was I tried to be
a huge asset like if I was I tried to be an extrovert I wouldn’t win I love that
an extrovert I wouldn’t win I love that
an extrovert I wouldn’t win I love that I’m introvert and I just need to design
I’m introvert and I just need to design
I’m introvert and I just need to design a life around that right just like
a life around that right just like
a life around that right just like everybody needs to design a life around
everybody needs to design a life around
everybody needs to design a life around your strengths I don’t focus on
your strengths I don’t focus on
your strengths I don’t focus on improving my weaknesses because I’m not
improving my weaknesses because I’m not
improving my weaknesses because I’m not actually where do I see it as a huge
actually where do I see it as a huge
actually where do I see it as a huge problem I think thinking it’s a problem
problem I think thinking it’s a problem
problem I think thinking it’s a problem is a problem so I designed a schedule
is a problem so I designed a schedule
is a problem so I designed a schedule and the life around what what best suits
and the life around what what best suits
and the life around what what best suits me and my personally my lifestyle it’s
me and my personally my lifestyle it’s
me and my personally my lifestyle it’s amazing how quickly half an hour flies
amazing how quickly half an hour flies
amazing how quickly half an hour flies and we said a little early – Michelle
and we said a little early – Michelle
and we said a little early – Michelle you’re sharing insane wisdom I really
you’re sharing insane wisdom I really
you’re sharing insane wisdom I really enjoyed the chat and the vibe for people
enjoyed the chat and the vibe for people
enjoyed the chat and the vibe for people who are curious about you want to learn
who are curious about you want to learn
who are curious about you want to learn more about what you’re doing the
more about what you’re doing the
more about what you’re doing the projects you’re working on what’s coming
projects you’re working on what’s coming
projects you’re working on what’s coming up next how they can support you what’s
up next how they can support you what’s
up next how they can support you what’s the best way to to connect and keep
the best way to to connect and keep
the best way to to connect and keep getting more hits of Michelle so
getting more hits of Michelle so
getting more hits of Michelle so definitely follow my youtube channel I
definitely follow my youtube channel I
definitely follow my youtube channel I just uploaded a video today I normally
just uploaded a video today I normally
just uploaded a video today I normally upload on Wednesdays but my channel is
upload on Wednesdays but my channel is
upload on Wednesdays but my channel is hello fears you can find it there in
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YouTube and yeah so you keep getting
YouTube and yeah so you keep getting inspired by every week hopefully you’re
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inspired by every week hopefully you’re learning about fear and then if you can
learning about fear and then if you can
learning about fear and then if you can follow a little fierce calm which is the
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and if you want to see some of my speaking like demo reel and is nut you
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can’t go to Michelle Poehler calm where
can’t go to Michelle Poehler calm where I have all of it
I have all of it
I have all of it so thank you so much order for this Evan
so thank you so much order for this Evan
so thank you so much order for this Evan it’s awesome
it’s awesome
it’s awesome I loved it we’ve linked it up down in
I loved it we’ve linked it up down in
I loved it we’ve linked it up down in the description below so you guys can
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check that out and learn more about Michelle
Michelle
Michelle guys thank you so much for watching
guys thank you so much for watching
guys thank you so much for watching there’s been a ton of question that we
there’s been a ton of question that we
there’s been a ton of question that we weren’t able to get to but you know
weren’t able to get to but you know
weren’t able to get to but you know that’s what happens in half an hour
that’s what happens in half an hour
that’s what happens in half an hour Michelle thank you so much for your
Michelle thank you so much for your
Michelle thank you so much for your wisdom and your grace and your your
wisdom and your grace and your your
wisdom and your grace and your your sharing and your honesty I really
sharing and your honesty I really
sharing and your honesty I really appreciate guys watching continue to
appreciate guys watching continue to
appreciate guys watching continue to believe and we’ll see you soon my thank
believe and we’ll see you soon my thank
believe and we’ll see you soon my thank you so much it was great
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