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favorite YouTube channels called school to greatness has an amazing podcast I
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to greatness has an amazing podcast I don’t listen to the podcast I’m a
don’t listen to the podcast I’m a
don’t listen to the podcast I’m a youtube consumer but I watch all his
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stuff and he’s got two books out one
stuff and he’s got two books out one super recent one that we’re gonna be
super recent one that we’re gonna be
super recent one that we’re gonna be talking about today called the mask of
talking about today called the mask of
talking about today called the mask of masculinity Louis welcome back man
masculinity Louis welcome back man
masculinity Louis welcome back man thanks man I’ll put it here just for
thanks man I’ll put it here just for
thanks man I’ll put it here just for this short quick promo good to be back
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this short quick promo good to be back man I appreciate it and congratulations
man I appreciate it and congratulations
man I appreciate it and congratulations on a million subscribers that’s a huge
on a million subscribers that’s a huge
on a million subscribers that’s a huge accomplishment so I’m excited to get
accomplishment so I’m excited to get
accomplishment so I’m excited to get there maybe in ten years I’ll reach your
there maybe in ten years I’ll reach your
there maybe in ten years I’ll reach your level oh you’re you’re growing fast man
level oh you’re you’re growing fast man
level oh you’re you’re growing fast man I love you got the consistent content
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of great content tell us about the book
of great content tell us about the book that like what for people who I know
that like what for people who I know
that like what for people who I know you’ve been I mean you’ve been talking
you’ve been I mean you’ve been talking
you’ve been I mean you’ve been talking about it forever on your channel you’ve
about it forever on your channel you’ve
about it forever on your channel you’ve been writing the book you’ve been asking
been writing the book you’ve been asking
been writing the book you’ve been asking interview questions from people coming
interview questions from people coming
interview questions from people coming on now it’s out like what’s the premise
on now it’s out like what’s the premise
on now it’s out like what’s the premise so for people who aren’t super familiar
so for people who aren’t super familiar
so for people who aren’t super familiar with your content a book is no joke man
with your content a book is no joke man
with your content a book is no joke man it’s a lot of work I know you’re you’re
it’s a lot of work I know you’re you’re
it’s a lot of work I know you’re you’re working on one of you have one but so
working on one of you have one but so
working on one of you have one but so it’s been a journey and the premise is
it’s been a journey and the premise is
it’s been a journey and the premise is essentially there’s a lot of pain and
essentially there’s a lot of pain and
essentially there’s a lot of pain and suffering in the world when we look at
suffering in the world when we look at
suffering in the world when we look at the world today in the last six months
the world today in the last six months
the world today in the last six months alone we see a number of things that are
alone we see a number of things that are
alone we see a number of things that are happening in the media from racial
happening in the media from racial
happening in the media from racial marches when Charlottesville from
marches when Charlottesville from
marches when Charlottesville from bombings all these different venues all
bombings all these different venues all
bombings all these different venues all over the world to now killings and
over the world to now killings and
over the world to now killings and churches which is crazy shootings in
churches which is crazy shootings in
churches which is crazy shootings in Vegas to a ton of sexual abuse and
Vegas to a ton of sexual abuse and
Vegas to a ton of sexual abuse and sexual harassment that’s been coming out
sexual harassment that’s been coming out
sexual harassment that’s been coming out from a lot of these men to domestic
from a lot of these men to domestic
from a lot of these men to domestic violence to a lot of suicides addictions
violence to a lot of suicides addictions
violence to a lot of suicides addictions all these challenges in the common
all these challenges in the common
all these challenges in the common denominator with everything we’re
denominator with everything we’re
denominator with everything we’re hearing about in the media right now is
hearing about in the media right now is
hearing about in the media right now is it it’s men men who are involved in
it it’s men men who are involved in
it it’s men men who are involved in these harmful acts and I wanted to dive
these harmful acts and I wanted to dive
these harmful acts and I wanted to dive deeper into understanding why why are
deeper into understanding why why are
deeper into understanding why why are men so conditioned to not respond from
men so conditioned to not respond from
men so conditioned to not respond from love or why are men not conditioned to
love or why are men not conditioned to
love or why are men not conditioned to be vulnerable or open up or
be vulnerable or open up or
be vulnerable or open up or to share their feelings in certain ways
to share their feelings in certain ways
to share their feelings in certain ways and why I’ve made me conditioned to not
and why I’ve made me conditioned to not
and why I’ve made me conditioned to not share their feelings or to not
share their feelings or to not
share their feelings or to not communicate how they feel and what are
communicate how they feel and what are
communicate how they feel and what are the negative effects that happen when
the negative effects that happen when
the negative effects that happen when human beings in general don’t express
human beings in general don’t express
human beings in general don’t express how they feel in healthy forms it starts
how they feel in healthy forms it starts
how they feel in healthy forms it starts to manifest into cancer disease
to manifest into cancer disease
to manifest into cancer disease addiction lashing out in other harmful
addiction lashing out in other harmful
addiction lashing out in other harmful ways and at the end of the day we’re all
ways and at the end of the day we’re all
ways and at the end of the day we’re all trying to fit in we’re all trying to
trying to fit in we’re all trying to
trying to fit in we’re all trying to belong we’re all trying to be accepted
belong we’re all trying to be accepted
belong we’re all trying to be accepted to be loved and when we don’t feel that
to be loved and when we don’t feel that
to be loved and when we don’t feel that we put on masks to try to fit in
we put on masks to try to fit in
we put on masks to try to fit in we put on a persona to try to get other
we put on a persona to try to get other
we put on a persona to try to get other people to like us or to accept us in the
people to like us or to accept us in the
people to like us or to accept us in the group and those masks serve us on a
group and those masks serve us on a
group and those masks serve us on a surface level by getting us results
surface level by getting us results
surface level by getting us results getting us Awards getting us
getting us Awards getting us
getting us Awards getting us accomplishments getting us the
accomplishments getting us the
accomplishments getting us the girlfriend the guy friends getting us to
girlfriend the guy friends getting us to
girlfriend the guy friends getting us to whatever but underneath it when we are
whatever but underneath it when we are
whatever but underneath it when we are constantly being someone who were not
constantly being someone who were not
constantly being someone who were not we’re constantly putting on something
we’re constantly putting on something
we’re constantly putting on something that’s false
that’s false
that’s false we’re always resenting ourselves
we’re always resenting ourselves
we’re always resenting ourselves underneath that and it’s never enough
underneath that and it’s never enough
underneath that and it’s never enough and so I just wanted to kind of unpack
and so I just wanted to kind of unpack
and so I just wanted to kind of unpack it with research with psychologists and
it with research with psychologists and
it with research with psychologists and really understand why and then how can
really understand why and then how can
really understand why and then how can we address it once we are aware of the
we address it once we are aware of the
we address it once we are aware of the different things that we do as men and
different things that we do as men and
different things that we do as men and what are some tools that can help us
what are some tools that can help us
what are some tools that can help us move forward that’s what it is so the
move forward that’s what it is so the
move forward that’s what it is so the first thing that comes to mind is how do
first thing that comes to mind is how do
first thing that comes to mind is how do we even I think a lot of times we do it
we even I think a lot of times we do it
we even I think a lot of times we do it subconsciously you don’t even notice
subconsciously you don’t even notice
subconsciously you don’t even notice you’re doing it and you don’t want to
you’re doing it and you don’t want to
you’re doing it and you don’t want to admit it
admit it
admit it so how before you can fix a problem how
so how before you can fix a problem how
so how before you can fix a problem how do you even identify that you’re doing
do you even identify that you’re doing
do you even identify that you’re doing this very very challenging because I
this very very challenging because I
this very very challenging because I just thought like well this is just who
just thought like well this is just who
just thought like well this is just who I am so don’t try to like give me
I am so don’t try to like give me
I am so don’t try to like give me feedback on anything and don’t try to do
feedback on anything and don’t try to do
feedback on anything and don’t try to do this I think it’s you’ve got to be
this I think it’s you’ve got to be
this I think it’s you’ve got to be willing to be aware you’ve got to be
willing to be aware you’ve got to be
willing to be aware you’ve got to be willing to look within and usually that
willing to look within and usually that
willing to look within and usually that happens when something drastic happens
happens when something drastic happens
happens when something drastic happens in your life when you go through a
in your life when you go through a
in your life when you go through a divorce a breakup you get injured you
divorce a breakup you get injured you
divorce a breakup you get injured you have a near-death experience someone in
have a near-death experience someone in
have a near-death experience someone in your life has a near-death experience or
your life has a near-death experience or
your life has a near-death experience or passes away you know you’re addicted to
passes away you know you’re addicted to
passes away you know you’re addicted to things and you go to rehab you
things and you go to rehab you
things and you go to rehab you there’s something you get fired from
there’s something you get fired from
there’s something you get fired from your job these moments where we start to
your job these moments where we start to
your job these moments where we start to say okay something is not working I’m in
say okay something is not working I’m in
say okay something is not working I’m in a breakdown what do I need to reevaluate
a breakdown what do I need to reevaluate
a breakdown what do I need to reevaluate what’s what’s not working how can I look
what’s what’s not working how can I look
what’s what’s not working how can I look within and change you know maybe you get
within and change you know maybe you get
within and change you know maybe you get really sick you’re become overweight and
really sick you’re become overweight and
really sick you’re become overweight and you get sick and if you’re the hospital
you get sick and if you’re the hospital
you get sick and if you’re the hospital you say okay something’s off with my
you say okay something’s off with my
you say okay something’s off with my health let me check with within myself
health let me check with within myself
health let me check with within myself why am i addicted to eating why did I
why am i addicted to eating why did I
why am i addicted to eating why did I not take care of myself why did I not
not take care of myself why did I not
not take care of myself why did I not not do these things so unfortunately
not do these things so unfortunately
not do these things so unfortunately usually a lot of the time it’s hard to
usually a lot of the time it’s hard to
usually a lot of the time it’s hard to see unless something drastic happens and
see unless something drastic happens and
see unless something drastic happens and that’s a challenge because for many
that’s a challenge because for many
that’s a challenge because for many years I was getting big results in
years I was getting big results in
years I was getting big results in sports big results in business and so
sports big results in business and so
sports big results in business and so when people would give me feedback I was
when people would give me feedback I was
when people would give me feedback I was like don’t give me feedback I’m getting
like don’t give me feedback I’m getting
like don’t give me feedback I’m getting bigger results in you so what can you
bigger results in you so what can you
bigger results in you so what can you teach me you know I was leading with
teach me you know I was leading with
teach me you know I was leading with this mask in this ego nose like you know
this mask in this ego nose like you know
this mask in this ego nose like you know don’t try to change me what I’m doing is
don’t try to change me what I’m doing is
don’t try to change me what I’m doing is working so why would I ever change when
working so why would I ever change when
working so why would I ever change when I’m making the money and getting these
I’m making the money and getting these
I’m making the money and getting these results and getting these
results and getting these
results and getting these accomplishments so why change so it’s
accomplishments so why change so it’s
accomplishments so why change so it’s very challenging I think to look within
very challenging I think to look within
very challenging I think to look within and just ask yourself these questions
and just ask yourself these questions
and just ask yourself these questions when things seem to be going right on
when things seem to be going right on
when things seem to be going right on the outside but for me I was always
the outside but for me I was always
the outside but for me I was always suffering in my inner world I think we
suffering in my inner world I think we
suffering in my inner world I think we live in two worlds the outer world and
live in two worlds the outer world and
live in two worlds the outer world and the inner world in my inner world was
the inner world in my inner world was
the inner world in my inner world was suffering where everyone else in the
suffering where everyone else in the
suffering where everyone else in the outer world was like man you’re killing
outer world was like man you’re killing
outer world was like man you’re killing it Louis like you’re doing so many great
it Louis like you’re doing so many great
it Louis like you’re doing so many great things like how are you doing this but
things like how are you doing this but
things like how are you doing this but they didn’t feel and understand my inner
they didn’t feel and understand my inner
they didn’t feel and understand my inner world and and I didn’t really understand
world and and I didn’t really understand
world and and I didn’t really understand it either why I was constantly suffering
it either why I was constantly suffering
it either why I was constantly suffering so it wasn’t until I fully was able to
so it wasn’t until I fully was able to
so it wasn’t until I fully was able to unpack a lot of this stuff that I was
unpack a lot of this stuff that I was
unpack a lot of this stuff that I was holding on to the frustrations from you
holding on to the frustrations from you
holding on to the frustrations from you know the sexual abuse that I went
know the sexual abuse that I went
know the sexual abuse that I went through and holding on to that from
through and holding on to that from
through and holding on to that from frustrations with my parents when I was
frustrations with my parents when I was
frustrations with my parents when I was a kid frustrations with like bullying
a kid frustrations with like bullying
a kid frustrations with like bullying that I went through all the things that
that I went through all the things that
that I went through all the things that I went through and that is normal for a
I went through and that is normal for a
I went through and that is normal for a lot of kids you know a lot of things I
lot of kids you know a lot of things I
lot of kids you know a lot of things I went through a lot of other kids have
went through a lot of other kids have
went through a lot of other kids have been through as well so it’s not like I
been through as well so it’s not like I
been through as well so it’s not like I had some tragic different experiences
had some tragic different experiences
had some tragic different experiences that were so much more tragic than
that were so much more tragic than
that were so much more tragic than people but they affected me in a way
people but they affected me in a way
people but they affected me in a way where I didn’t know how to express them
where I didn’t know how to express them
where I didn’t know how to express them I didn’t know how to move through it I
I didn’t know how to move through it I
I didn’t know how to move through it I didn’t know how to communicate and there
didn’t know how to communicate and there
didn’t know how to communicate and there weren’t really tools available for me I
weren’t really tools available for me I
weren’t really tools available for me I a kid to be like oh when you’re feeling
a kid to be like oh when you’re feeling
a kid to be like oh when you’re feeling this way here’s what you do when someone
this way here’s what you do when someone
this way here’s what you do when someone sexually abused you here’s the number of
sexually abused you here’s the number of
sexually abused you here’s the number of call or here’s the group of people to
call or here’s the group of people to
call or here’s the group of people to talk to you know you don’t know what to
talk to you know you don’t know what to
talk to you know you don’t know what to do at 5 7 10 13 you’re just trying to
do at 5 7 10 13 you’re just trying to
do at 5 7 10 13 you’re just trying to fit in you know you’re just trying to
fit in you know you’re just trying to
fit in you know you’re just trying to like have a few friends like you and not
like have a few friends like you and not
like have a few friends like you and not get rejected by the girl that you like
get rejected by the girl that you like
get rejected by the girl that you like and whatever and make the sports team
and whatever and make the sports team
and whatever and make the sports team and so that conditioning over years and
and so that conditioning over years and
and so that conditioning over years and years and then as men in society in
years and then as men in society in
years and then as men in society in general I don’t want to miss a all men
general I don’t want to miss a all men
general I don’t want to miss a all men but in general my experience it’s not
but in general my experience it’s not
but in general my experience it’s not acceptable to express how you feel
acceptable to express how you feel
acceptable to express how you feel especially in sports growing up in
especially in sports growing up in
especially in sports growing up in America if I was ever sensitive or
America if I was ever sensitive or
America if I was ever sensitive or showed a vulnerability or pain in any
showed a vulnerability or pain in any
showed a vulnerability or pain in any way you know a coach a teammate would be
way you know a coach a teammate would be
way you know a coach a teammate would be like don’t be a little girl don’t be
like don’t be a little girl don’t be
like don’t be a little girl don’t be this don’t be that don’t be a wuss
this don’t be that don’t be a wuss
this don’t be that don’t be a wuss toughen up let’s go be a man don’t show
toughen up let’s go be a man don’t show
toughen up let’s go be a man don’t show weakness and so when you are rewarded
weakness and so when you are rewarded
weakness and so when you are rewarded for playing through the pain and
for playing through the pain and
for playing through the pain and greatjob way to be tough and not like
greatjob way to be tough and not like
greatjob way to be tough and not like show emotion and when you are not
show emotion and when you are not
show emotion and when you are not rewarded for opening up and being
rewarded for opening up and being
rewarded for opening up and being vulnerable and expressing yourself then
vulnerable and expressing yourself then
vulnerable and expressing yourself then you start to put on those masks and say
you start to put on those masks and say
you start to put on those masks and say okay well again I want to fit in I want
okay well again I want to fit in I want
okay well again I want to fit in I want to be accepted so I want people to like
to be accepted so I want people to like
to be accepted so I want people to like me and I want to do the things that are
me and I want to do the things that are
me and I want to do the things that are getting me the rewards so what led to
getting me the rewards so what led to
getting me the rewards so what led to that shift for you like why now you what
that shift for you like why now you what
that shift for you like why now you what what change like you had the success
what change like you had the success
what change like you had the success experiences growing up and for those of
experiences growing up and for those of
experiences growing up and for those of you guys who don’t know lewis was on the
you guys who don’t know lewis was on the
you guys who don’t know lewis was on the fast track to be a professional athlete
fast track to be a professional athlete
fast track to be a professional athlete and then had a major injury and
and then had a major injury and
and then had a major injury and depression and sleep on sister’s couch
depression and sleep on sister’s couch
depression and sleep on sister’s couch and you know like why now is the time
and you know like why now is the time
and you know like why now is the time what happened that made you go deep to
what happened that made you go deep to
what happened that made you go deep to figure this out yeah four years ago I I
figure this out yeah four years ago I I
figure this out yeah four years ago I I gotten I was starting to get into like
gotten I was starting to get into like
gotten I was starting to get into like just a lot more arguments with people
just a lot more arguments with people
just a lot more arguments with people with my my girlfriend and then I at the
with my my girlfriend and then I at the
with my my girlfriend and then I at the time we’re going through like a lot of
time we’re going through like a lot of
time we’re going through like a lot of ups and downs and I wasn’t necessarily
ups and downs and I wasn’t necessarily
ups and downs and I wasn’t necessarily arguing with her because I didn’t have
arguing with her because I didn’t have
arguing with her because I didn’t have the emotional courage to really express
the emotional courage to really express
the emotional courage to really express how I truly felt with her so I just kind
how I truly felt with her so I just kind
how I truly felt with her so I just kind of let her take advantage of me or just
of let her take advantage of me or just
of let her take advantage of me or just like say what she wanted I was just like
like say what she wanted I was just like
like say what she wanted I was just like okay I’ll do whatever you need but I
okay I’ll do whatever you need but I
okay I’ll do whatever you need but I would take that aggression out into the
would take that aggression out into the
would take that aggression out into the real world so I’d go play sports
real world so I’d go play sports
real world so I’d go play sports and then I’d get aggressive with like
and then I’d get aggressive with like
and then I’d get aggressive with like guys in the sports on a basketball court
guys in the sports on a basketball court
guys in the sports on a basketball court because that’s what I knew you know it’s
because that’s what I knew you know it’s
because that’s what I knew you know it’s like okay take all my energy and
like okay take all my energy and
like okay take all my energy and aggression out on the sports playing
aggression out on the sports playing
aggression out on the sports playing field because that’s a safe space for
field because that’s a safe space for
field because that’s a safe space for guys to be guys and to be rough and to
guys to be guys and to be rough and to
guys to be guys and to be rough and to be whatever and to express ourselves and
be whatever and to express ourselves and
be whatever and to express ourselves and I started to get more and more reactive
I started to get more and more reactive
I started to get more and more reactive to people when they would say things to
to people when they would say things to
to people when they would say things to me or talk trash or like elbow me a
me or talk trash or like elbow me a
me or talk trash or like elbow me a weird way I would it was like I was so
weird way I would it was like I was so
weird way I would it was like I was so quick to defend myself cuz I felt like
quick to defend myself cuz I felt like
quick to defend myself cuz I felt like everyone was out to get me everyone was
everyone was out to get me everyone was
everyone was out to get me everyone was attacking me my girlfriend
attacking me my girlfriend
attacking me my girlfriend these people here people in business I
these people here people in business I
these people here people in business I just felt like everyone was trying to
just felt like everyone was trying to
just felt like everyone was trying to attack me and I was like why why are
attack me and I was like why why are
attack me and I was like why why are people costly attacking me you know I’m
people costly attacking me you know I’m
people costly attacking me you know I’m just trying to be a good person and like
just trying to be a good person and like
just trying to be a good person and like make people happy and it was happening
make people happy and it was happening
make people happy and it was happening with my business partner as well I was
with my business partner as well I was
with my business partner as well I was reactive to him whenever I felt attacked
reactive to him whenever I felt attacked
reactive to him whenever I felt attacked by him I was reactive and I got in a
by him I was reactive and I got in a
by him I was reactive and I got in a really bad fight in a basketball court
really bad fight in a basketball court
really bad fight in a basketball court one guy hit me he head-butted me and so
one guy hit me he head-butted me and so
one guy hit me he head-butted me and so I said okay that gives me the
I said okay that gives me the
I said okay that gives me the justification to hit him back and to
justification to hit him back and to
justification to hit him back and to kind of go all out and I got in a fight
kind of go all out and I got in a fight
kind of go all out and I got in a fight with this guy who hit me
with this guy who hit me
with this guy who hit me and justified it by saying I was
and justified it by saying I was
and justified it by saying I was defending myself which I probably could
defending myself which I probably could
defending myself which I probably could have just walked away but I think it’s
have just walked away but I think it’s
have just walked away but I think it’s hard when you get hit in the face to
hard when you get hit in the face to
hard when you get hit in the face to just walk away and that’s how I
just walk away and that’s how I
just walk away and that’s how I justified it and after that fight I was
justified it and after that fight I was
justified it and after that fight I was just like why am I getting in this fight
just like why am I getting in this fight
just like why am I getting in this fight like why do I allow myself to even react
like why do I allow myself to even react
like why do I allow myself to even react in any way when someone says something
in any way when someone says something
in any way when someone says something to me like why do I give that person
to me like why do I give that person
to me like why do I give that person power over me to say oh I’m so hurt by
power over me to say oh I’m so hurt by
power over me to say oh I’m so hurt by your words that I’m going to put my
your words that I’m going to put my
your words that I’m going to put my attention on you and react in a way of
attention on you and react in a way of
attention on you and react in a way of fighting you and that’s when everything
fighting you and that’s when everything
fighting you and that’s when everything started there like wake up for me I was
started there like wake up for me I was
started there like wake up for me I was like okay things are not working this
like okay things are not working this
like okay things are not working this experience of being in this fight this
experience of being in this fight this
experience of being in this fight this constant like up and down with my
constant like up and down with my
constant like up and down with my girlfriend relationship this business
girlfriend relationship this business
girlfriend relationship this business partnership was like a lot of tension I
partnership was like a lot of tension I
partnership was like a lot of tension I was just like okay the fight was kind of
was just like okay the fight was kind of
was just like okay the fight was kind of like the break the break down that I
like the break the break down that I
like the break the break down that I needed to be like what’s going on how
needed to be like what’s going on how
needed to be like what’s going on how can I solve whatever is happening and so
can I solve whatever is happening and so
can I solve whatever is happening and so I started to reach out to friends who
I started to reach out to friends who
I started to reach out to friends who said you know you should talk to this
said you know you should talk to this
said you know you should talk to this therapist friend of mine check out this
therapist friend of mine check out this
therapist friend of mine check out this coach you should check out this workshop
coach you should check out this workshop
coach you should check out this workshop and I just did it all I was like okay
and I just did it all I was like okay
and I just did it all I was like okay I’ll talk to whoever and I did therapy
I’ll talk to whoever and I did therapy
I’ll talk to whoever and I did therapy sessions I did coaching sessions I went
sessions I did coaching sessions I went
sessions I did coaching sessions I went to different workshops and in one of the
to different workshops and in one of the
to different workshops and in one of the workshops I went to it really created a
workshops I went to it really created a
workshops I went to it really created a space in an experience experience for me
space in an experience experience for me
space in an experience experience for me to to address all the things that I was
to to address all the things that I was
to to address all the things that I was holding on to from my past that had hurt
holding on to from my past that had hurt
holding on to from my past that had hurt me and to talk about them in a safe
me and to talk about them in a safe
me and to talk about them in a safe space for the first time and it allowed
space for the first time and it allowed
space for the first time and it allowed me to open up and express all the things
me to open up and express all the things
me to open up and express all the things I was frustrated by or hurt by err
I was frustrated by or hurt by err
I was frustrated by or hurt by err holding on to from people that had done
holding on to from people that had done
holding on to from people that had done things to me or whatever in the past and
things to me or whatever in the past and
things to me or whatever in the past and it allowed me to open up for the first
it allowed me to open up for the first
it allowed me to open up for the first time about being sexually abused after
time about being sexually abused after
time about being sexually abused after 25 years of no one knowing because I was
25 years of no one knowing because I was
25 years of no one knowing because I was so ashamed of it and all that made me
so ashamed of it and all that made me
so ashamed of it and all that made me realize wow once I start talking about
realize wow once I start talking about
realize wow once I start talking about things saying these things and
things saying these things and
things saying these things and expressing these things I felt a sense
expressing these things I felt a sense
expressing these things I felt a sense of freedom of a sense of peace that I’d
of freedom of a sense of peace that I’d
of freedom of a sense of peace that I’d never felt in my life and the more I
never felt in my life and the more I
never felt in my life and the more I started talking about the sexual abuse
started talking about the sexual abuse
started talking about the sexual abuse I’ve been through other men came to me
I’ve been through other men came to me
I’ve been through other men came to me and said thank you for sharing and
and said thank you for sharing and
and said thank you for sharing and opening up I’ve been married for 20
opening up I’ve been married for 20
opening up I’ve been married for 20 years my wife doesn’t know that this
years my wife doesn’t know that this
years my wife doesn’t know that this happened to me it was a kid you know
happened to me it was a kid you know
happened to me it was a kid you know I’ve never been able to tell anyone like
I’ve never been able to tell anyone like
I’ve never been able to tell anyone like men just started emailing me and saying
men just started emailing me and saying
men just started emailing me and saying you’re my hero thank you for opening up
you’re my hero thank you for opening up
you’re my hero thank you for opening up and giving me permission to start
and giving me permission to start
and giving me permission to start talking about it with my friends and
talking about it with my friends and
talking about it with my friends and family I was like wow really like the
family I was like wow really like the
family I was like wow really like the thing I’m most afraid of people knowing
thing I’m most afraid of people knowing
thing I’m most afraid of people knowing about me gave them actually the most
about me gave them actually the most
about me gave them actually the most freedom in their life when they when we
freedom in their life when they when we
freedom in their life when they when we had that conversation and it gave me a
had that conversation and it gave me a
had that conversation and it gave me a sense of peace and it gave me a sense of
sense of peace and it gave me a sense of
sense of peace and it gave me a sense of like forgiveness and letting go that I’d
like forgiveness and letting go that I’d
like forgiveness and letting go that I’d never had before I was just like if all
never had before I was just like if all
never had before I was just like if all men and all human beings but I think men
men and all human beings but I think men
men and all human beings but I think men in general who traditionally aren’t as
in general who traditionally aren’t as
in general who traditionally aren’t as open to express themselves were able to
open to express themselves were able to
open to express themselves were able to let go of the things that make them hurt
let go of the things that make them hurt
let go of the things that make them hurt sad frustrated and angry or whatever
sad frustrated and angry or whatever
sad frustrated and angry or whatever maybe we can communicate them in
maybe we can communicate them in
maybe we can communicate them in healthier forms then I don’t think all
healthier forms then I don’t think all
healthier forms then I don’t think all this stuff would be happening that we’re
this stuff would be happening that we’re
this stuff would be happening that we’re seeing in the media and I feel like
seeing in the media and I feel like
seeing in the media and I feel like humanity would be elevated on on a
humanity would be elevated on on a
humanity would be elevated on on a higher level that’s an awesome story man
higher level that’s an awesome story man
higher level that’s an awesome story man thank you for sharing it and putting it
thank you for sharing it and putting it
thank you for sharing it and putting it out in the words I wonder I like how
out in the words I wonder I like how
out in the words I wonder I like how much of that is still an ongoing
much of that is still an ongoing
much of that is still an ongoing Jurnee like have you solved it like if
Jurnee like have you solved it like if
Jurnee like have you solved it like if that guy bless you if he punched you in
that guy bless you if he punched you in
that guy bless you if he punched you in the face how would you react now it’s a
the face how would you react now it’s a
the face how would you react now it’s a great question I think anytime I feel
great question I think anytime I feel
great question I think anytime I feel like if someone’s gonna physically harm
like if someone’s gonna physically harm
like if someone’s gonna physically harm me I would try to just more not put
me I would try to just more not put
me I would try to just more not put myself in that situation this time so if
myself in that situation this time so if
myself in that situation this time so if someone was yapping at me or something I
someone was yapping at me or something I
someone was yapping at me or something I would just be like okay I’m walking away
would just be like okay I’m walking away
would just be like okay I’m walking away but if someone actually hit me I don’t
but if someone actually hit me I don’t
but if someone actually hit me I don’t know if I’m like that you know risen to
know if I’m like that you know risen to
know if I’m like that you know risen to the mountaintops to be like I’m gonna
the mountaintops to be like I’m gonna
the mountaintops to be like I’m gonna turn the other cheek and just like
turn the other cheek and just like
turn the other cheek and just like pummel me to death I will defend myself
pummel me to death I will defend myself
pummel me to death I will defend myself someone hits me but I think I’m a much
someone hits me but I think I’m a much
someone hits me but I think I’m a much more wiser to defuse situations and to
more wiser to defuse situations and to
more wiser to defuse situations and to use my emotional intelligence to be like
use my emotional intelligence to be like
use my emotional intelligence to be like hey let’s come to a resolution of peace
hey let’s come to a resolution of peace
hey let’s come to a resolution of peace here and not me jump back at you and you
here and not me jump back at you and you
here and not me jump back at you and you come to me and then us escalated meat
come to me and then us escalated meat
come to me and then us escalated meat you know it’s like so I think I’ve
you know it’s like so I think I’ve
you know it’s like so I think I’ve learned to have tools of not reacting
learned to have tools of not reacting
learned to have tools of not reacting when things like that happen and listen
when things like that happen and listen
when things like that happen and listen I’m still not perfect I still react to
I’m still not perfect I still react to
I’m still not perfect I still react to people when I feel attacked you know
people when I feel attacked you know
people when I feel attacked you know there’s someone who’s been attacking me
there’s someone who’s been attacking me
there’s someone who’s been attacking me lately over email that I’m like I feel
lately over email that I’m like I feel
lately over email that I’m like I feel like there’s no reason with this person
like there’s no reason with this person
like there’s no reason with this person and I’ve just said okay I’m at peace
and I’ve just said okay I’m at peace
and I’ve just said okay I’m at peace with not having a resolution and you
with not having a resolution and you
with not having a resolution and you know you having this opinion about me
know you having this opinion about me
know you having this opinion about me and okay have a good time I wish you
and okay have a good time I wish you
and okay have a good time I wish you best so I think it’s challenging because
best so I think it’s challenging because
best so I think it’s challenging because it’s an ongoing journey and even though
it’s an ongoing journey and even though
it’s an ongoing journey and even though I’m aware of it I still make mistakes I
I’m aware of it I still make mistakes I
I’m aware of it I still make mistakes I still have challenges I still have
still have challenges I still have
still have challenges I still have things I’m working through but I’m able
things I’m working through but I’m able
things I’m working through but I’m able to breathe into it to meditate to think
to breathe into it to meditate to think
to breathe into it to meditate to think about it later reflect on it and say
about it later reflect on it and say
about it later reflect on it and say okay how can I do things better the next
okay how can I do things better the next
okay how can I do things better the next time if this comes up again how can I
time if this comes up again how can I
time if this comes up again how can I come from a different place and not
come from a different place and not
come from a different place and not react to people but come from a place of
react to people but come from a place of
react to people but come from a place of peace or love or just letting it go
peace or love or just letting it go
peace or love or just letting it go right so I noticed a number of different
right so I noticed a number of different
right so I noticed a number of different strategies in the book and how to deal
strategies in the book and how to deal
strategies in the book and how to deal with it
with it
with it what do you think has been either the
what do you think has been either the
what do you think has been either the most effective for you or just the most
most effective for you or just the most
most effective for you or just the most widely resonate with the audience as
widely resonate with the audience as
widely resonate with the audience as here’s a good strategy for the next guy
here’s a good strategy for the next guy
here’s a good strategy for the next guy who’s yapping at you and the basketball
who’s yapping at you and the basketball
who’s yapping at you and the basketball field they’re like corn or like giving
field they’re like corn or like giving
field they’re like corn or like giving you those emails well here’s the thing I
you those emails well here’s the thing I
you those emails well here’s the thing I think the best route
think the best route
think the best route before anything happens to practice in
before anything happens to practice in
before anything happens to practice in the beginning of the day running through
the beginning of the day running through
the beginning of the day running through different events that could happen that
different events that could happen that
different events that could happen that day huh so I am and I’m sure you’ve seen
day huh so I am and I’m sure you’ve seen
day huh so I am and I’m sure you’ve seen a lot of people that you’ve done your
a lot of people that you’ve done your
a lot of people that you’ve done your videos with on YouTube about the power
videos with on YouTube about the power
videos with on YouTube about the power of visualization and mindset I’m sure
of visualization and mindset I’m sure
of visualization and mindset I’m sure there’s a lot of the videos you have are
there’s a lot of the videos you have are
there’s a lot of the videos you have are about that are people talking about that
about that are people talking about that
about that are people talking about that I am all for the power of visualizing
I am all for the power of visualizing
I am all for the power of visualizing what you want and manifesting what she
what you want and manifesting what she
what you want and manifesting what she wants but I also learn this from sports
wants but I also learn this from sports
wants but I also learn this from sports to visualize when everything goes wrong
to visualize when everything goes wrong
to visualize when everything goes wrong how do you respond huh a lot of people
how do you respond huh a lot of people
how do you respond huh a lot of people don’t do this but I learned this in
don’t do this but I learned this in
don’t do this but I learned this in football well what if this happens and
football well what if this happens and
football well what if this happens and it’s muddy and things slip and I drop
it’s muddy and things slip and I drop
it’s muddy and things slip and I drop the ball and I’m slipping and what if
the ball and I’m slipping and what if
the ball and I’m slipping and what if someone tackles me and I’m injured and
someone tackles me and I’m injured and
someone tackles me and I’m injured and this how do I am I gonna respond when
this how do I am I gonna respond when
this how do I am I gonna respond when everything hits the fan and so in the
everything hits the fan and so in the
everything hits the fan and so in the mornings I prepare myself I’ll meditate
mornings I prepare myself I’ll meditate
mornings I prepare myself I’ll meditate and visualize and create and go through
and visualize and create and go through
and visualize and create and go through my process of what I want to create that
my process of what I want to create that
my process of what I want to create that day but then I also say okay life isn’t
day but then I also say okay life isn’t
day but then I also say okay life isn’t always perfect and it doesn’t always
always perfect and it doesn’t always
always perfect and it doesn’t always come the exact way I visualize it I wish
come the exact way I visualize it I wish
come the exact way I visualize it I wish it did but sometimes there’s detours so
it did but sometimes there’s detours so
it did but sometimes there’s detours so I’ll say okay I’m going to a meeting
I’ll say okay I’m going to a meeting
I’ll say okay I’m going to a meeting today and I have to get in my car where
today and I have to get in my car where
today and I have to get in my car where to get in an uber and LA traffic is
to get in an uber and LA traffic is
to get in an uber and LA traffic is always an interesting time interesting
always an interesting time interesting
always an interesting time interesting experience so if someone cuts me off
experience so if someone cuts me off
experience so if someone cuts me off if someone nudges me if someone flips me
if someone nudges me if someone flips me
if someone nudges me if someone flips me off if someone does this am I gonna be
off if someone does this am I gonna be
off if someone does this am I gonna be reactive am I gonna go up next to them
reactive am I gonna go up next to them
reactive am I gonna go up next to them in my car and flip them off back or am I
in my car and flip them off back or am I
in my car and flip them off back or am I gonna breathe smile and turn my music up
gonna breathe smile and turn my music up
gonna breathe smile and turn my music up and focus on my vision so I go through
and focus on my vision so I go through
and focus on my vision so I go through these experience what if someone tweets
these experience what if someone tweets
these experience what if someone tweets me a nasty tweet today or attacks me or
me a nasty tweet today or attacks me or
me a nasty tweet today or attacks me or leave me a one-star review and doesn’t
leave me a one-star review and doesn’t
leave me a one-star review and doesn’t leave their name because they’re a
leave their name because they’re a
leave their name because they’re a coward how do I want to feel how do I
coward how do I want to feel how do I
coward how do I want to feel how do I want to respond do I defend myself for
want to respond do I defend myself for
want to respond do I defend myself for three hours trying to talk about all the
three hours trying to talk about all the
three hours trying to talk about all the things that they’re wrong about and make
things that they’re wrong about and make
things that they’re wrong about and make myself right
myself right
myself right or do I say thank you for the feedback
or do I say thank you for the feedback
or do I say thank you for the feedback and have a great day do you pick like
and have a great day do you pick like
and have a great day do you pick like the things that have that that have
the things that have that that have
the things that have that that have happened that you’ve known you’ve kind
happened that you’ve known you’ve kind
happened that you’ve known you’ve kind of let yourself down maybe a little bit
of let yourself down maybe a little bit
of let yourself down maybe a little bit on like you get angry with tweets you
on like you get angry with tweets you
on like you get angry with tweets you get angry with once the review is like
get angry with once the review is like
get angry with once the review is like okay I know this has happened before I’m
okay I know this has happened before I’m
okay I know this has happened before I’m immensely preparing myself for the next
immensely preparing myself for the next
immensely preparing myself for the next time is that how you pick the ones to do
time is that how you pick the ones to do
time is that how you pick the ones to do um yeah I think once we understand our
um yeah I think once we understand our
um yeah I think once we understand our masks then we understand our triggers we
masks then we understand our triggers we
masks then we understand our triggers we understand what triggers us so some
understand what triggers us so some
understand what triggers us so some things may not trigger me the way other
things may not trigger me the way other
things may not trigger me the way other things will and I know from my past
things will and I know from my past
things will and I know from my past experience that you know I always felt
experience that you know I always felt
experience that you know I always felt like people were bullying me picking on
like people were bullying me picking on
like people were bullying me picking on me making fun of me and you know I was
me making fun of me and you know I was
me making fun of me and you know I was sexually abused so I feel this sense of
sexually abused so I feel this sense of
sexually abused so I feel this sense of like people are trying to attack me and
like people are trying to attack me and
like people are trying to attack me and and that’s my awareness it was like okay
and that’s my awareness it was like okay
and that’s my awareness it was like okay I’m aware that this is my tendency so I
I’m aware that this is my tendency so I
I’m aware that this is my tendency so I just need to be aware that it’s not
just need to be aware that it’s not
just need to be aware that it’s not about me it’s about them when someone’s
about me it’s about them when someone’s
about me it’s about them when someone’s attacking someone else it’s never about
attacking someone else it’s never about
attacking someone else it’s never about that person it’s always about the person
that person it’s always about the person
that person it’s always about the person attacking what they’re in pain with what
attacking what they’re in pain with what
attacking what they’re in pain with what they’re afraid of what they’re not doing
they’re afraid of what they’re not doing
they’re afraid of what they’re not doing things like that so it’s a it’s a deeper
things like that so it’s a it’s a deeper
things like that so it’s a it’s a deeper level of awareness that is hard
level of awareness that is hard
level of awareness that is hard sometimes when you’re so conditioned to
sometimes when you’re so conditioned to
sometimes when you’re so conditioned to be a different way to defend yourself
be a different way to defend yourself
be a different way to defend yourself and it’s just like a constant reminder
and it’s just like a constant reminder
and it’s just like a constant reminder like it’s a constant reminder and
like it’s a constant reminder and
like it’s a constant reminder and awareness that’s these are these
awareness that’s these are these
awareness that’s these are these triggers yeah that’s interesting so we
triggers yeah that’s interesting so we
triggers yeah that’s interesting so we have like a daily gratitude practice and
have like a daily gratitude practice and
have like a daily gratitude practice and I’m wondering and maybe adjusting it to
I’m wondering and maybe adjusting it to
I’m wondering and maybe adjusting it to also include like where did I maybe let
also include like where did I maybe let
also include like where did I maybe let myself down and how can i yes I think at
myself down and how can i yes I think at
myself down and how can i yes I think at the end of the night you know I do daily
the end of the night you know I do daily
the end of the night you know I do daily gratitude as well as you know and at the
gratitude as well as you know and at the
gratitude as well as you know and at the end of the night which I talk about
end of the night which I talk about
end of the night which I talk about three things I’m most grateful for was
three things I’m most grateful for was
three things I’m most grateful for was my girlfriend and we go back and forth
my girlfriend and we go back and forth
my girlfriend and we go back and forth and then personally I say where did I
and then personally I say where did I
and then personally I say where did I let myself down today you know on a
let myself down today you know on a
let myself down today you know on a scale of 1 to 10 did I live up to the
scale of 1 to 10 did I live up to the
scale of 1 to 10 did I live up to the standards that I wanted to from these
standards that I wanted to from these
standards that I wanted to from these experiences or did I stoop down to a
experiences or did I stoop down to a
experiences or did I stoop down to a level that I know wasn’t effective and
level that I know wasn’t effective and
level that I know wasn’t effective and is beneath me and whatever so scale one
is beneath me and whatever so scale one
is beneath me and whatever so scale one to 10 how did that show up today and
to 10 how did that show up today and
to 10 how did that show up today and okay I was a six today I was a three
okay I was a six today I was a three
okay I was a six today I was a three today okay what can I do tomorrow to be
today okay what can I do tomorrow to be
today okay what can I do tomorrow to be an 8 9 or 10 and again just being
an 8 9 or 10 and again just being
an 8 9 or 10 and again just being mindful every morning every night like
mindful every morning every night like
mindful every morning every night like just being mindful of how we show up
just being mindful of how we show up
just being mindful of how we show up it’s easier said than done
it’s easier said than done
it’s easier said than done when you feel like everything’s against
when you feel like everything’s against
when you feel like everything’s against you and nothing’s going right in your
you and nothing’s going right in your
you and nothing’s going right in your life and you’re going through a breakup
life and you’re going through a breakup
life and you’re going through a breakup and you’re struggling with something
and you’re struggling with something
and you’re struggling with something it’s like a lot easier said than done
it’s like a lot easier said than done
it’s like a lot easier said than done but um
but um
but um it’s helpful I like it well I’m gonna
it’s helpful I like it well I’m gonna
it’s helpful I like it well I’m gonna test it tonight you’ll try the Lewis huh
test it tonight you’ll try the Lewis huh
test it tonight you’ll try the Lewis huh don’t you think whatever goes we got a
don’t you think whatever goes we got a
don’t you think whatever goes we got a question from the live chat lily is
question from the live chat lily is
question from the live chat lily is writing Louis what can educators and
writing Louis what can educators and
writing Louis what can educators and parents do to make young boys or men
parents do to make young boys or men
parents do to make young boys or men feel safe so they don’t develop masks
feel safe so they don’t develop masks
feel safe so they don’t develop masks from a young age it’s a great question
from a young age it’s a great question
from a young age it’s a great question because a lot of moms are telling me
because a lot of moms are telling me
because a lot of moms are telling me that they’re reading this to understand
that they’re reading this to understand
that they’re reading this to understand their sons of why they might be
their sons of why they might be
their sons of why they might be disconnected why they don’t look them in
disconnected why they don’t look them in
disconnected why they don’t look them in the eyes why they’re not sharing things
the eyes why they’re not sharing things
the eyes why they’re not sharing things and I think constantly encouraging a
and I think constantly encouraging a
and I think constantly encouraging a safe space to talk with your son to
safe space to talk with your son to
safe space to talk with your son to allow him to open up maybe he doesn’t
allow him to open up maybe he doesn’t
allow him to open up maybe he doesn’t feel safe to open up in front of the
feel safe to open up in front of the
feel safe to open up in front of the whole family at the dinner table and
whole family at the dinner table and
whole family at the dinner table and maybe he’ll only feel safe to open up
maybe he’ll only feel safe to open up
maybe he’ll only feel safe to open up with you when it’s in private so really
with you when it’s in private so really
with you when it’s in private so really creating that safe space and letting him
creating that safe space and letting him
creating that safe space and letting him know that it’s okay to cry if he wants
know that it’s okay to cry if he wants
know that it’s okay to cry if he wants to cry around you or it’s okay to to
to cry around you or it’s okay to to
to cry around you or it’s okay to to talk about these things and I think for
talk about these things and I think for
talk about these things and I think for moms and parents to get their sons to
moms and parents to get their sons to
moms and parents to get their sons to fully open up and it doesn’t matter if
fully open up and it doesn’t matter if
fully open up and it doesn’t matter if you’re a mom to a son or husband to our
you’re a mom to a son or husband to our
you’re a mom to a son or husband to our wife I think to get anyone to open up we
wife I think to get anyone to open up we
wife I think to get anyone to open up we get to lead with things that are
get to lead with things that are
get to lead with things that are vulnerable from our experiences as well
vulnerable from our experiences as well
vulnerable from our experiences as well this was a mom saying you know when I
this was a mom saying you know when I
this was a mom saying you know when I was a kid I was really insecure about
was a kid I was really insecure about
was a kid I was really insecure about you know what to do when guys were
you know what to do when guys were
you know what to do when guys were attracted to me or what to do when I was
attracted to me or what to do when I was
attracted to me or what to do when I was hitting puberty and I had these weird
hitting puberty and I had these weird
hitting puberty and I had these weird insecurities and challenges and didn’t
insecurities and challenges and didn’t
insecurities and challenges and didn’t have anyone to talk to and I just want
have anyone to talk to and I just want
have anyone to talk to and I just want to let you know that I’m here to listen
to let you know that I’m here to listen
to let you know that I’m here to listen and have zero judgment and support you
and have zero judgment and support you
and have zero judgment and support you however I can as your mom and if you
however I can as your mom and if you
however I can as your mom and if you don’t feel comfortable with me then you
don’t feel comfortable with me then you
don’t feel comfortable with me then you should talk to your dad or someone but
should talk to your dad or someone but
should talk to your dad or someone but to encourage that and if they are
to encourage that and if they are
to encourage that and if they are resistant continue to lead with
resistant continue to lead with
resistant continue to lead with vulnerability and encouragement and
vulnerability and encouragement and
vulnerability and encouragement and create a context and container for a
create a context and container for a
create a context and container for a safe space for them because it may not
safe space for them because it may not
safe space for them because it may not happen in the first couple times it may
happen in the first couple times it may
happen in the first couple times it may take six months and then one day they
take six months and then one day they
take six months and then one day they finally say oh you know what I can trust
finally say oh you know what I can trust
finally say oh you know what I can trust my mom and I’m going to open up and when
my mom and I’m going to open up and when
my mom and I’m going to open up and when they need to they’ll come to you how do
they need to they’ll come to you how do
they need to they’ll come to you how do you how do you see this fit into your
you how do you see this fit into your
you how do you see this fit into your bigger mission for what you’re trying to
bigger mission for what you’re trying to
bigger mission for what you’re trying to do I know when you’ve had guests on it’s
do I know when you’ve had guests on it’s
do I know when you’ve had guests on it’s been a talking
been a talking
been a talking for some people who’ve also had abuse
for some people who’ve also had abuse
for some people who’ve also had abuse growing up a number of people have come
growing up a number of people have come
growing up a number of people have come out and said that they were sexually
out and said that they were sexually
out and said that they were sexually abused and you know elites a great
abused and you know elites a great
abused and you know elites a great conversation is it that you you know if
conversation is it that you you know if
conversation is it that you you know if it makes sense to bring it up in the
it makes sense to bring it up in the
it makes sense to bring it up in the conversations with the host that you
conversations with the host that you
conversations with the host that you bring it on do you want to get involved
bring it on do you want to get involved
bring it on do you want to get involved in with charities or create your own or
in with charities or create your own or
in with charities or create your own or like how do you see your actions around
like how do you see your actions around
like how do you see your actions around this cause building over the next few
this cause building over the next few
this cause building over the next few years you know I just want to bring
years you know I just want to bring
years you know I just want to bring awareness to it because one in six men
awareness to it because one in six men
awareness to it because one in six men have been sexually abused one in four
have been sexually abused one in four
have been sexually abused one in four women that’s been recorded so a lot of
women that’s been recorded so a lot of
women that’s been recorded so a lot of people you know a lot of people and
people you know a lot of people and
people you know a lot of people and there’s probably more and I feel like
there’s probably more and I feel like
there’s probably more and I feel like it’s just not talked about enough for
it’s just not talked about enough for
it’s just not talked about enough for those that have dealt with it and
those that have dealt with it and
those that have dealt with it and there’s a lot of shame and guilt and
there’s a lot of shame and guilt and
there’s a lot of shame and guilt and insecurity that leads to toxicity and
insecurity that leads to toxicity and
insecurity that leads to toxicity and other ways addictions poor communication
other ways addictions poor communication
other ways addictions poor communication in relationships things like that so I
in relationships things like that so I
in relationships things like that so I just want to be one voice of many voices
just want to be one voice of many voices
just want to be one voice of many voices that are talking about it and be an
that are talking about it and be an
that are talking about it and be an example as a white male athlete guy
example as a white male athlete guy
example as a white male athlete guy talking about it because there’s not
talking about it because there’s not
talking about it because there’s not many in my stereotype and
many in my stereotype and
many in my stereotype and characteristics who are opening up and I
characteristics who are opening up and I
characteristics who are opening up and I want to help the other men who could
want to help the other men who could
want to help the other men who could potentially relate to me to say you know
potentially relate to me to say you know
potentially relate to me to say you know what it’s okay for me to talk about this
what it’s okay for me to talk about this
what it’s okay for me to talk about this with a therapist or it’s okay to talk
with a therapist or it’s okay to talk
with a therapist or it’s okay to talk about this with my best friend or my
about this with my best friend or my
about this with my best friend or my family I’m not saying they need to open
family I’m not saying they need to open
family I’m not saying they need to open up and talk about to everyone but I know
up and talk about to everyone but I know
up and talk about to everyone but I know that there’s a lot of pain in the world
that there’s a lot of pain in the world
that there’s a lot of pain in the world and my mission is to help people live
and my mission is to help people live
and my mission is to help people live their best life live their dreams have
their best life live their dreams have
their best life live their dreams have good relationships be healthy and
good relationships be healthy and
good relationships be healthy and fulfilled and if we’re suffering because
fulfilled and if we’re suffering because
fulfilled and if we’re suffering because of this one issue or any issue then we
of this one issue or any issue then we
of this one issue or any issue then we just get to address it and be aware of
just get to address it and be aware of
just get to address it and be aware of it and try to improve so for people
it and try to improve so for people
it and try to improve so for people watching if they’re one of the six or
watching if they’re one of the six or
watching if they’re one of the six or one of the four and they’re listening to
one of the four and they’re listening to
one of the four and they’re listening to this and maybe they pick up the book and
this and maybe they pick up the book and
this and maybe they pick up the book and they read it and they get some like they
they read it and they get some like they
they read it and they get some like they build up the courage to say something
build up the courage to say something
build up the courage to say something what’s there what do you recommend is
what’s there what do you recommend is
what’s there what do you recommend is our first best step to have a
our first best step to have a
our first best step to have a conversation what should they do find if
conversation what should they do find if
conversation what should they do find if you’re not comfortable talking to a
you’re not comfortable talking to a
you’re not comfortable talking to a friend or family member
friend or family member
friend or family member find a therapist or a specialist who has
find a therapist or a specialist who has
find a therapist or a specialist who has confidentiality so
confidentiality so
confidentiality so that whatever you say or a priest or a
that whatever you say or a priest or a
that whatever you say or a priest or a someone in the church or wherever you
someone in the church or wherever you
someone in the church or wherever you believe in go to someone where you know
believe in go to someone where you know
believe in go to someone where you know there’s confidentiality so you can talk
there’s confidentiality so you can talk
there’s confidentiality so you can talk about it the second thing is when I was
about it the second thing is when I was
about it the second thing is when I was finally going to tell my family members
finally going to tell my family members
finally going to tell my family members one by one I had asked a lot of
one by one I had asked a lot of
one by one I had asked a lot of different people like these therapists
different people like these therapists
different people like these therapists and coaches that I was talking to I was
and coaches that I was talking to I was
and coaches that I was talking to I was like I don’t know how to do this I’m
like I don’t know how to do this I’m
like I don’t know how to do this I’m terrified they’re not gonna accept me
terrified they’re not gonna accept me
terrified they’re not gonna accept me I’m terrified they’re they’re gonna
I’m terrified they’re they’re gonna
I’m terrified they’re they’re gonna judge me whatever I was just terrified
judge me whatever I was just terrified
judge me whatever I was just terrified and one person one of the therapists I
and one person one of the therapists I
and one person one of the therapists I talked to said ask them this question
talked to said ask them this question
talked to said ask them this question before you tell them and the question
before you tell them and the question
before you tell them and the question was is there anything I could ever say
was is there anything I could ever say
was is there anything I could ever say or do that could make you not love me
or do that could make you not love me
or do that could make you not love me anything you could ever say or do that
anything you could ever say or do that
anything you could ever say or do that could make you not love me and then
could make you not love me and then
could make you not love me and then based on their reaction and response you
based on their reaction and response you
based on their reaction and response you can either say it afterwards or not and
can either say it afterwards or not and
can either say it afterwards or not and all of my family members said absolutely
all of my family members said absolutely
all of my family members said absolutely not there’s nothing that you could ever
not there’s nothing that you could ever
not there’s nothing that you could ever say or do that would make me not love
say or do that would make me not love
say or do that would make me not love you so to hear them say that I think
you so to hear them say that I think
you so to hear them say that I think that was my biggest fear like maybe they
that was my biggest fear like maybe they
that was my biggest fear like maybe they won’t love me or accept me if they knew
won’t love me or accept me if they knew
won’t love me or accept me if they knew this about me if they knew how what
this about me if they knew how what
this about me if they knew how what these things happen to me and once they
these things happen to me and once they
these things happen to me and once they said no there’s nothing you could ever
said no there’s nothing you could ever
said no there’s nothing you could ever say or do that make us not love you I
say or do that make us not love you I
say or do that make us not love you I said okay I feel safe to talk about it
said okay I feel safe to talk about it
said okay I feel safe to talk about it and it was still scary but the thing is
and it was still scary but the thing is
and it was still scary but the thing is it brought us so much closer together
it brought us so much closer together
it brought us so much closer together because when I opened up then they
because when I opened up then they
because when I opened up then they opened up about other stuff that
opened up about other stuff that
opened up about other stuff that happened to them not sexual abuse but
happened to them not sexual abuse but
happened to them not sexual abuse but just other things that they were going
just other things that they were going
just other things that they were going through emotionally or physically at the
through emotionally or physically at the
through emotionally or physically at the time and I feel like it brought us
time and I feel like it brought us
time and I feel like it brought us closer you know when one person opens up
closer you know when one person opens up
closer you know when one person opens up in a mall or a bit vulnerable way
in a mall or a bit vulnerable way
in a mall or a bit vulnerable way usually it tends to create an opening
usually it tends to create an opening
usually it tends to create an opening for the other person based on the
for the other person based on the
for the other person based on the context and container it doesn’t always
context and container it doesn’t always
context and container it doesn’t always happen sometimes people feel really
happen sometimes people feel really
happen sometimes people feel really uncomfortable but that’s why I think
uncomfortable but that’s why I think
uncomfortable but that’s why I think it’s like setting it up first with that
it’s like setting it up first with that
it’s like setting it up first with that question is a powerful thing
question is a powerful thing
question is a powerful thing I mean I can relate to that I didn’t
I mean I can relate to that I didn’t
I mean I can relate to that I didn’t have any abuse growing up but when I got
have any abuse growing up but when I got
have any abuse growing up but when I got when I was gonna get divorced with my
when I was gonna get divorced with my
when I was gonna get divorced with my first wife I wouldn’t told my parents
first wife I wouldn’t told my parents
first wife I wouldn’t told my parents and was scared about that and and they
and was scared about that and and they
and was scared about that and and they opened up and told me about the problems
opened up and told me about the problems
opened up and told me about the problems they had in their relationship which I
they had in their relationship which I
they had in their relationship which I never saw
never saw
never saw it was always like perfect mom and I
it was always like perfect mom and I
it was always like perfect mom and I didn’t realize they had problems right
didn’t realize they had problems right
didn’t realize they had problems right so ya can relate to that I mean what
so ya can relate to that I mean what
so ya can relate to that I mean what would you tell the person though who who
would you tell the person though who who
would you tell the person though who who their parents may not be supportive and
their parents may not be supportive and
their parents may not be supportive and they know like they might get kicked out
they know like they might get kicked out
they know like they might get kicked out of the house or they might be disowned
of the house or they might be disowned
of the house or they might be disowned and like you’re out of the family then
and like you’re out of the family then
and like you’re out of the family then what do it yeah I think it’s really
what do it yeah I think it’s really
what do it yeah I think it’s really challenging I mean it’s this is like a
challenging I mean it’s this is like a
challenging I mean it’s this is like a lot of my gay friends talk to me about
lot of my gay friends talk to me about
lot of my gay friends talk to me about this they’re like you know I had you
this they’re like you know I had you
this they’re like you know I had you know I knew that I needed to tell
know I knew that I needed to tell
know I knew that I needed to tell someone that I was gay or homosexual and
someone that I was gay or homosexual and
someone that I was gay or homosexual and but I was terrified because I knew how
but I was terrified because I knew how
but I was terrified because I knew how strict my parents are about this topic
strict my parents are about this topic
strict my parents are about this topic or the church or the religion or
or the church or the religion or
or the church or the religion or whatever and so do I you know just wear
whatever and so do I you know just wear
whatever and so do I you know just wear a mask my whole life and not let them
a mask my whole life and not let them
a mask my whole life and not let them know or do I live my truth and hope they
know or do I live my truth and hope they
know or do I live my truth and hope they still accept me but maybe they’ll kick
still accept me but maybe they’ll kick
still accept me but maybe they’ll kick me out of the house and like move my
me out of the house and like move my
me out of the house and like move my family I think that’s just like I don’t
family I think that’s just like I don’t
family I think that’s just like I don’t know if there’s a good answer I don’t
know if there’s a good answer I don’t
know if there’s a good answer I don’t know if I have the right answer for that
know if I have the right answer for that
know if I have the right answer for that because I think every situation is
because I think every situation is
because I think every situation is unique and you know it’s really
unique and you know it’s really
unique and you know it’s really challenging because we we don’t want to
challenging because we we don’t want to
challenging because we we don’t want to be separated from our family we don’t
be separated from our family we don’t
be separated from our family we don’t want our family to hate us or to not
want our family to hate us or to not
want our family to hate us or to not accept us so it’s terrifying so I think
accept us so it’s terrifying so I think
accept us so it’s terrifying so I think it’s really asking those questions and
it’s really asking those questions and
it’s really asking those questions and setting it up and at least talking about
setting it up and at least talking about
setting it up and at least talking about it with a therapist or someone in a safe
it with a therapist or someone in a safe
it with a therapist or someone in a safe context where you can release it and
context where you can release it and
context where you can release it and have healthy conversations around it and
have healthy conversations around it and
have healthy conversations around it and maybe there will be a time in a place
maybe there will be a time in a place
maybe there will be a time in a place where you feel the courage to tell your
where you feel the courage to tell your
where you feel the courage to tell your parents or family members and you you
parents or family members and you you
parents or family members and you you can’t live in my parent lives like
can’t live in my parent lives like
can’t live in my parent lives like worried about what everyone thinks about
worried about what everyone thinks about
worried about what everyone thinks about us even our family and unfortunately
us even our family and unfortunately
us even our family and unfortunately sometimes family is the ones that hold
sometimes family is the ones that hold
sometimes family is the ones that hold us back the most luckily my family has
us back the most luckily my family has
us back the most luckily my family has never been that way but sometimes that’s
never been that way but sometimes that’s
never been that way but sometimes that’s the case I hear from other people and
the case I hear from other people and
the case I hear from other people and that’s a really scary thing well I asked
that’s a really scary thing well I asked
that’s a really scary thing well I asked you because we’ve got Christmas coming
you because we’ve got Christmas coming
you because we’ve got Christmas coming up everybody’s going home
up everybody’s going home
up everybody’s going home big families getting together and a lot
big families getting together and a lot
big families getting together and a lot of people feel like they have to put
of people feel like they have to put
of people feel like they have to put their masks on they’re gonna go home and
their masks on they’re gonna go home and
their masks on they’re gonna go home and see mom and dad and brother and sister
see mom and dad and brother and sister
see mom and dad and brother and sister and they have to act a certain way for
and they have to act a certain way for
and they have to act a certain way for someone like that who may be living in a
someone like that who may be living in a
someone like that who may be living in a different state and once you they get
different state and once you they get
different state and once you they get together for family and they feel they
together for family and they feel they
together for family and they feel they have to be
have to be
have to be a fake person just once a year when they
a fake person just once a year when they
a fake person just once a year when they come over Christmas like weighing the
come over Christmas like weighing the
come over Christmas like weighing the cost benefit of do I do it’s just once a
cost benefit of do I do it’s just once a
cost benefit of do I do it’s just once a year I think if you’re like there once a
year I think if you’re like there once a
year I think if you’re like there once a year then do it you know I think listen
year then do it you know I think listen
year then do it you know I think listen if it’s holding you back in any way if
if it’s holding you back in any way if
if it’s holding you back in any way if you’re wearing this weight on your
you’re wearing this weight on your
you’re wearing this weight on your shoulders or on your chest by not
shoulders or on your chest by not
shoulders or on your chest by not talking about something whether your
talking about something whether your
talking about something whether your parents or whoever I think it’s
parents or whoever I think it’s
parents or whoever I think it’s important to talk about it then
important to talk about it then
important to talk about it then period because otherwise you’re living
period because otherwise you’re living
period because otherwise you’re living with tightness in your life and as you
with tightness in your life and as you
with tightness in your life and as you know in order to achieve our dreams or
know in order to achieve our dreams or
know in order to achieve our dreams or to get to where we want to be the only
to get to where we want to be the only
to get to where we want to be the only way to be a high performer in life is to
way to be a high performer in life is to
way to be a high performer in life is to be in flow you know and salsa if you’re
be in flow you know and salsa if you’re
be in flow you know and salsa if you’re tight the whole time and you’re gonna
tight the whole time and you’re gonna
tight the whole time and you’re gonna look and feel weird and your partner’s
look and feel weird and your partner’s
look and feel weird and your partner’s gonna be disconnected to you it’s when
gonna be disconnected to you it’s when
gonna be disconnected to you it’s when you’ve totally lost the awareness of
you’ve totally lost the awareness of
you’ve totally lost the awareness of anyone of how you look or how what’s
anyone of how you look or how what’s
anyone of how you look or how what’s happening where you’re fully in flow
happening where you’re fully in flow
happening where you’re fully in flow present and connected and that’s
present and connected and that’s
present and connected and that’s something to think about
something to think about
something to think about you know there’s a price to everything
you know there’s a price to everything
you know there’s a price to everything we do and there’s also the prices we pay
we do and there’s also the prices we pay
we do and there’s also the prices we pay and there’s big rewards to everything we
and there’s big rewards to everything we
and there’s big rewards to everything we do so it’s just being mindful of the
do so it’s just being mindful of the
do so it’s just being mindful of the life we want to live and making those
life we want to live and making those
life we want to live and making those decisions just a quick question – about
decisions just a quick question – about
decisions just a quick question – about about women so obviously the book is
about women so obviously the book is
about women so obviously the book is focused on guys your experience
focused on guys your experience
focused on guys your experience everything growing up but you know women
everything growing up but you know women
everything growing up but you know women wear masks – how much of the advice in
wear masks – how much of the advice in
wear masks – how much of the advice in the book are is relevant beyond just
the book are is relevant beyond just
the book are is relevant beyond just like hey this is good for my son or my
like hey this is good for my son or my
like hey this is good for my son or my dad and my brother for like how much can
dad and my brother for like how much can
dad and my brother for like how much can they use for themselves for women
they use for themselves for women
they use for themselves for women watching well it’s funny as I was
watching well it’s funny as I was
watching well it’s funny as I was writing this you know for men I was
writing this you know for men I was
writing this you know for men I was realizing like wow like this is the keys
realizing like wow like this is the keys
realizing like wow like this is the keys of the kingdom for women to like
of the kingdom for women to like
of the kingdom for women to like understand the men in their life on why
understand the men in their life on why
understand the men in their life on why they might be guarded in this situation
they might be guarded in this situation
they might be guarded in this situation or why they might always tell a joke in
or why they might always tell a joke in
or why they might always tell a joke in this situation or why they’re so driven
this situation or why they’re so driven
this situation or why they’re so driven to make money in this situation it’s
to make money in this situation it’s
to make money in this situation it’s gonna give you the the awareness of your
gonna give you the the awareness of your
gonna give you the the awareness of your father your husband your brother your
father your husband your brother your
father your husband your brother your sons why they react certain ways but
sons why they react certain ways but
sons why they react certain ways but then as I’ve been getting emails from
then as I’ve been getting emails from
then as I’ve been getting emails from women reading it they’re like wow I wear
women reading it they’re like wow I wear
women reading it they’re like wow I wear a lot of these masks as well and it’s
a lot of these masks as well and it’s
a lot of these masks as well and it’s helping me to understand you know how to
helping me to understand you know how to
helping me to understand you know how to just be more of myself as well you know
just be more of myself as well you know
just be more of myself as well you know I think women might wear different masks
I think women might wear different masks
I think women might wear different masks at different times and but I think we
at different times and but I think we
at different times and but I think we can all relate to – wearing masks and
can all relate to – wearing masks and
can all relate to – wearing masks and trying to like be somewhere
trying to like be somewhere
trying to like be somewhere not or not or trying to say things to
not or not or trying to say things to
not or not or trying to say things to fit in and so a lot of women are finding
fit in and so a lot of women are finding
fit in and so a lot of women are finding value as well do we need like an a a for
value as well do we need like an a a for
value as well do we need like an a a for masks is this like a group talk thing
masks is this like a group talk thing
masks is this like a group talk thing that can be worked out or is this a one
that can be worked out or is this a one
that can be worked out or is this a one on one thing I think it’d be group for
on one thing I think it’d be group for
on one thing I think it’d be group for sure yeah I think one it doesn’t matter
sure yeah I think one it doesn’t matter
sure yeah I think one it doesn’t matter it can be one I want it can be group I
it can be one I want it can be group I
it can be one I want it can be group I just think when we talk about you know
just think when we talk about you know
just think when we talk about you know as I’ve been going on this book tour
as I’ve been going on this book tour
as I’ve been going on this book tour I’ve been meeting a lot of men and women
I’ve been meeting a lot of men and women
I’ve been meeting a lot of men and women and it’s usually about 50/50 men and
and it’s usually about 50/50 men and
and it’s usually about 50/50 men and women who are coming and I’ll ask a
women who are coming and I’ll ask a
women who are coming and I’ll ask a question I say you know for all the
question I say you know for all the
question I say you know for all the ladies in your room
ladies in your room
ladies in your room raise your hand and for all the women
raise your hand and for all the women
raise your hand and for all the women watching right now I say raise your hand
watching right now I say raise your hand
watching right now I say raise your hand and type yes if this is you if you’re a
and type yes if this is you if you’re a
and type yes if this is you if you’re a woman raise your hand if you meet with
woman raise your hand if you meet with
woman raise your hand if you meet with your girlfriends once a week or at least
your girlfriends once a week or at least
your girlfriends once a week or at least one other girl once a week for lunch or
one other girl once a week for lunch or
one other girl once a week for lunch or coffee or over the phone and you talk
coffee or over the phone and you talk
coffee or over the phone and you talk about your fears your insecurities your
about your fears your insecurities your
about your fears your insecurities your relationship challenges your body image
relationship challenges your body image
relationship challenges your body image challenges your career challenges your
challenges your career challenges your
challenges your career challenges your issues and 99% of the women say yes we
issues and 99% of the women say yes we
issues and 99% of the women say yes we do this every day right they’re like yes
do this every day right they’re like yes
do this every day right they’re like yes every day we do this you know we’re
every day we do this you know we’re
every day we do this you know we’re getting together we’re talking in groups
getting together we’re talking in groups
getting together we’re talking in groups we’re sharing we’re expressing ourselves
we’re sharing we’re expressing ourselves
we’re sharing we’re expressing ourselves let’s say okay yeah now to the men in
let’s say okay yeah now to the men in
let’s say okay yeah now to the men in the room and again if you’re a woman
the room and again if you’re a woman
the room and again if you’re a woman watching type yes if you meet with a
watching type yes if you meet with a
watching type yes if you meet with a girlfriend or girlfriends once a week or
girlfriend or girlfriends once a week or
girlfriend or girlfriends once a week or over the phone and talk about these
over the phone and talk about these
over the phone and talk about these things and then I say okay for all the
things and then I say okay for all the
things and then I say okay for all the men in the room raise your hands if once
men in the room raise your hands if once
men in the room raise your hands if once a month you get together with one guy or
a month you get together with one guy or
a month you get together with one guy or a group of guys and you talk about your
a group of guys and you talk about your
a group of guys and you talk about your insecurities and your fears and your
insecurities and your fears and your
insecurities and your fears and your relationship challenges and your career
relationship challenges and your career
relationship challenges and your career challenges and your body image
challenges and your body image
challenges and your body image challenges two hands will show up right
challenges two hands will show up right
challenges two hands will show up right and I’m like are you guys in a men’s
and I’m like are you guys in a men’s
and I’m like are you guys in a men’s group or like a men’s church group where
group or like a men’s church group where
group or like a men’s church group where you meet once a month and they’re like
you meet once a month and they’re like
you meet once a month and they’re like yes so it’s like a scheduled event for
yes so it’s like a scheduled event for
yes so it’s like a scheduled event for men to go to once a month to be able to
men to go to once a month to be able to
men to go to once a month to be able to like listen to someone talk about this
like listen to someone talk about this
like listen to someone talk about this and like have conversation and dialogue
and like have conversation and dialogue
and like have conversation and dialogue and that’s like the safe space to do it
and that’s like the safe space to do it
and that’s like the safe space to do it in general guys are typically not doing
in general guys are typically not doing
in general guys are typically not doing that with other men you know when I grew
that with other men you know when I grew
that with other men you know when I grew up in in high school and I wanted to
up in in high school and I wanted to
up in in high school and I wanted to express myself or you know put my arm
express myself or you know put my arm
express myself or you know put my arm around a buddy of mine you know just on
around a buddy of mine you know just on
around a buddy of mine you know just on the side not even hug just like put my
the side not even hug just like put my
the side not even hug just like put my arm around it was like get off
arm around it was like get off
arm around it was like get off that’s not cool you know it’s like what
that’s not cool you know it’s like what
that’s not cool you know it’s like what are you a what are you a little girl
are you a what are you a little girl
are you a what are you a little girl what are you this were you that what are
what are you this were you that what are
what are you this were you that what are you weak it’s like don’t don’t tell me
you weak it’s like don’t don’t tell me
you weak it’s like don’t don’t tell me how you’re feeling you know it’s just
how you’re feeling you know it’s just
how you’re feeling you know it’s just like the conditioning over time maybe we
like the conditioning over time maybe we
like the conditioning over time maybe we only will hurt it once from one guy
only will hurt it once from one guy
only will hurt it once from one guy maybe we heard it multiple times maybe
maybe we heard it multiple times maybe
maybe we heard it multiple times maybe we saw it on TV
we saw it on TV
we saw it on TV maybe we saw it in politics maybe we saw
maybe we saw it in politics maybe we saw
maybe we saw it in politics maybe we saw these behaviors in other ways we said oh
these behaviors in other ways we said oh
these behaviors in other ways we said oh I can’t do that otherwise there’s
I can’t do that otherwise there’s
I can’t do that otherwise there’s consequences so I think there’s just
consequences so I think there’s just
consequences so I think there’s just this conditioning that it’s not okay for
this conditioning that it’s not okay for
this conditioning that it’s not okay for men to do that and I think it causes a
men to do that and I think it causes a
men to do that and I think it causes a lot of pain and heartache inside mmm is
lot of pain and heartache inside mmm is
lot of pain and heartache inside mmm is it better so if you’re doing a group
it better so if you’re doing a group
it better so if you’re doing a group would it be is it better if a group full
would it be is it better if a group full
would it be is it better if a group full of men are sharing or is it better to
of men are sharing or is it better to
of men are sharing or is it better to have a mikes I think it’s it’s good for
have a mikes I think it’s it’s good for
have a mikes I think it’s it’s good for a group because then you feel safer
a group because then you feel safer
a group because then you feel safer there’s there’s you’re not just isolated
there’s there’s you’re not just isolated
there’s there’s you’re not just isolated with one other person talking you you
with one other person talking you you
with one other person talking you you can you can learn from other people you
can you can learn from other people you
can you can learn from other people you can hear other people’s vulnerabilities
can hear other people’s vulnerabilities
can hear other people’s vulnerabilities or sharing and then it gives you more
or sharing and then it gives you more
or sharing and then it gives you more permission because it’s a bigger group
permission because it’s a bigger group
permission because it’s a bigger group would you do like summit of greatness
would you do like summit of greatness
would you do like summit of greatness before coming on and like breakout rooms
before coming on and like breakout rooms
before coming on and like breakout rooms or groups of ten people to share their
or groups of ten people to share their
or groups of ten people to share their masks like is that we’ll see I haven’t
masks like is that we’ll see I haven’t
masks like is that we’ll see I haven’t thought of it that far but yeah okay
thought of it that far but yeah okay
thought of it that far but yeah okay cool I think a a for mass it’s
cool I think a a for mass it’s
cool I think a a for mass it’s interesting yeah well like all I’m
interesting yeah well like all I’m
interesting yeah well like all I’m seeing is yes blowing up in the chat
seeing is yes blowing up in the chat
seeing is yes blowing up in the chat haven’t the people answering your
haven’t the people answering your
haven’t the people answering your question Louis thank you for your time
question Louis thank you for your time
question Louis thank you for your time and super appreciate it
and super appreciate it
and super appreciate it for people want to pick up the book
for people want to pick up the book
for people want to pick up the book where we going Amazon Barnes & Noble if
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Amazon or Barnes & Noble or wherever so
Amazon or Barnes & Noble or wherever so got it is there a final message you want
got it is there a final message you want
got it is there a final message you want to leave people with that kind of sums
to leave people with that kind of sums
to leave people with that kind of sums it all up for you I believe our health
it all up for you I believe our health
it all up for you I believe our health is the most important thing and
is the most important thing and
is the most important thing and emotional health has massive effects on
emotional health has massive effects on
emotional health has massive effects on the physical body and the brain the
the physical body and the brain the
the physical body and the brain the hearts the muscles everything I’ve
hearts the muscles everything I’ve
hearts the muscles everything I’ve talked to a lot of different doctors who
talked to a lot of different doctors who
talked to a lot of different doctors who say it doesn’t matter how perfect your
say it doesn’t matter how perfect your
say it doesn’t matter how perfect your eating regimen is your sleeping patterns
eating regimen is your sleeping patterns
eating regimen is your sleeping patterns your workout schedule if you’re not able
your workout schedule if you’re not able
your workout schedule if you’re not able to deal with the emotional side of
to deal with the emotional side of
to deal with the emotional side of things you’ll still have physical
things you’ll still have physical
things you’ll still have physical problems you’ll still manifest disease
problems you’ll still manifest disease
problems you’ll still manifest disease or
or
or or illness in the body and so the
or illness in the body and so the
or illness in the body and so the emotional side of things is something
emotional side of things is something
emotional side of things is something that we really get to address and think
that we really get to address and think
that we really get to address and think about and figure out a way that we can
about and figure out a way that we can
about and figure out a way that we can support our emotions our heart every
support our emotions our heart every
support our emotions our heart every single day so we can sleep at night
single day so we can sleep at night
single day so we can sleep at night peacefully very cool very well said
peacefully very cool very well said
peacefully very cool very well said well Louis thank you so much for joining
well Louis thank you so much for joining
well Louis thank you so much for joining in guys go pick up his book go check out
in guys go pick up his book go check out
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mask just just masks super easy yeah thank you guys for joining in
yeah thank you guys for joining in
yeah thank you guys for joining in continue to believe and we’ll see you
continue to believe and we’ll see you
continue to believe and we’ll see you soon thanks
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