we’ll use the back of this couch here your this is you get a filling head sure
your this is you get a filling head sure
your this is you get a filling head sure maybe I don’t even know this gonna be
maybe I don’t even know this gonna be
maybe I don’t even know this gonna be worth while but we’ll say this the best
worth while but we’ll say this the best
worth while but we’ll say this the best way to get about it get started anything
way to get about it get started anything
way to get about it get started anything is to be willing to work for free yeah
is to be willing to work for free yeah
is to be willing to work for free yeah internships like to me on the path to
internships like to me on the path to
internships like to me on the path to anything and a lot of people come just
anything and a lot of people come just
anything and a lot of people come just to hear what they already want to hear
to hear what they already want to hear
to hear what they already want to hear like codify this into five principle
like codify this into five principle
like codify this into five principle that can apply to my life I know so many
that can apply to my life I know so many
that can apply to my life I know so many people who think they can appeal to
people who think they can appeal to
people who think they can appeal to everyone by being generic and Universal
everyone by being generic and Universal
everyone by being generic and Universal and you appeal to nobody he’s an
and you appeal to nobody he’s an
and you appeal to nobody he’s an American author journalist and
American author journalist and
American author journalist and ghostwriter he’s best known for his
ghostwriter he’s best known for his
ghostwriter he’s best known for his best-selling book the game penetrating
best-selling book the game penetrating
best-selling book the game penetrating the secret society of pickup artists
the secret society of pickup artists
the secret society of pickup artists he’s a contributing editor for Rolling
he’s a contributing editor for Rolling
he’s a contributing editor for Rolling Stone and also writes regularly for the
Stone and also writes regularly for the
Stone and also writes regularly for the New York Times he’s Neil Strauss and
New York Times he’s Neil Strauss and
New York Times he’s Neil Strauss and here’s my take on his top ten rules of
here’s my take on his top ten rules of
here’s my take on his top ten rules of success rule number two is my personal
success rule number two is my personal
success rule number two is my personal favorite and make sure to stick around
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here’s my advice just choose anything it
here’s my advice just choose anything it doesn’t even matter just choose anything
doesn’t even matter just choose anything
doesn’t even matter just choose anything so here’s an example if you so I wish I
so here’s an example if you so I wish I
so here’s an example if you so I wish I could almost draw it but I’ll tell you
could almost draw it but I’ll tell you
could almost draw it but I’ll tell you what like let’s see what can I use is
what like let’s see what can I use is
what like let’s see what can I use is that we’ll use the back of this couch
that we’ll use the back of this couch
that we’ll use the back of this couch here your this is you get a filling head
here your this is you get a filling head
here your this is you get a filling head sure maybe I don’t even know this gonna
sure maybe I don’t even know this gonna
sure maybe I don’t even know this gonna be worth while but we’ll say this try it
be worth while but we’ll say this try it
be worth while but we’ll say this try it this is you right and you’re like I
this is you right and you’re like I
this is you right and you’re like I don’t know what to do I’m not sure what
don’t know what to do I’m not sure what
don’t know what to do I’m not sure what to do and you just you’re just sit or
to do and you just you’re just sit or
to do and you just you’re just sit or sitting here doing nothing right this
sitting here doing nothing right this
sitting here doing nothing right this little white stain I don’t know what it
little white stain I don’t know what it
little white stain I don’t know what it is this Lamar Burton’s back sweat okay
is this Lamar Burton’s back sweat okay
is this Lamar Burton’s back sweat okay that is a levar Wofford’s it could be
that is a levar Wofford’s it could be
that is a levar Wofford’s it could be anyone’s sweat right there so so that’s
anyone’s sweat right there so so that’s
anyone’s sweat right there so so that’s it a little piece of sweat toiling and
it a little piece of sweat toiling and
it a little piece of sweat toiling and trying to decide what to do but then
trying to decide what to do but then
trying to decide what to do but then just choose frigging anything let’s just
just choose frigging anything let’s just
just choose frigging anything let’s just say oh I want to be an actor just who
say oh I want to be an actor just who
say oh I want to be an actor just who cares maybe you don’t I don’t know just
cares maybe you don’t I don’t know just
cares maybe you don’t I don’t know just choose the one thing so you choose one
choose the one thing so you choose one
choose the one thing so you choose one thing and now you have a goal right just
thing and now you have a goal right just
thing and now you have a goal right just choose a goal doesn’t matter now maybe
choose a goal doesn’t matter now maybe
choose a goal doesn’t matter now maybe you’re gonna start going to auditions
you’re gonna start going to auditions
you’re gonna start going to auditions you’re going to auditions and then wait
you’re going to auditions and then wait
you’re going to auditions and then wait you got a job but it’s a voiceover work
you got a job but it’s a voiceover work
you got a job but it’s a voiceover work it’s or maybe it’s on radio you get a
it’s or maybe it’s on radio you get a
it’s or maybe it’s on radio you get a little radio gig right so now you’re
little radio gig right so now you’re
little radio gig right so now you’re like oh radio is fun I’m going to be a
like oh radio is fun I’m going to be a
like oh radio is fun I’m going to be a radio host and that’s your next goal and
radio host and that’s your next goal and
radio host and that’s your next goal and then then you get a call to do like a
then then you get a call to do like a
then then you get a call to do like a voiceover on a cartoon or something here
voiceover on a cartoon or something here
voiceover on a cartoon or something here you’re like okay I’ll be a cartoon voice
you’re like okay I’ll be a cartoon voice
you’re like okay I’ll be a cartoon voice and guess what now you’re actually
and guess what now you’re actually
and guess what now you’re actually moving and maybe you will end up being a
moving and maybe you will end up being a
moving and maybe you will end up being a you know the the voice of whatever you
you know the the voice of whatever you
you know the the voice of whatever you know on the next Pixar movie or
know on the next Pixar movie or
know on the next Pixar movie or something like that
something like that
something like that Eugene Mirman is the voice and Bob’s
Eugene Mirman is the voice and Bob’s
Eugene Mirman is the voice and Bob’s Burgers yeah yeah exactly along with a
Burgers yeah yeah exactly along with a
Burgers yeah yeah exactly along with a yeah there’s so many good at John H John
yeah there’s so many good at John H John
yeah there’s so many good at John H John Benjamin is a oh he was awesome home
Benjamin is a oh he was awesome home
Benjamin is a oh he was awesome home movies right anyway but the point is
movies right anyway but the point is
movies right anyway but the point is like just just choose one thing to move
like just just choose one thing to move
like just just choose one thing to move toward and then the path and then just
toward and then the path and then just
toward and then the path and then just go with the path and you’ll end up
go with the path and you’ll end up
go with the path and you’ll end up somewhere if you stand here trying to
somewhere if you stand here trying to
somewhere if you stand here trying to decide what to do you’ll still be here
decide what to do you’ll still be here
decide what to do you’ll still be here in a year two years three years four
in a year two years three years four
in a year two years three years four days just choose something you’re kind
days just choose something you’re kind
days just choose something you’re kind of like and don’t hate and then start
of like and don’t hate and then start
of like and don’t hate and then start moving toward it and you’ll find that
moving toward it and you’ll find that
moving toward it and you’ll find that the course and path of life will bring
the course and path of life will bring
the course and path of life will bring you exactly we were supposed to be so
you exactly we were supposed to be so
you exactly we were supposed to be so you’ve sort of arrived at these
you’ve sort of arrived at these
you’ve sort of arrived at these different approaches to writing what was
different approaches to writing what was
different approaches to writing what was the first to your mind like the first
the first to your mind like the first
the first to your mind like the first writing piece that you did they kind of
writing piece that you did they kind of
writing piece that you did they kind of put you on the map we’re not like I’ve
put you on the map we’re not like I’ve
put you on the map we’re not like I’ve arrived but you’re like okay I actually
arrived but you’re like okay I actually
arrived but you’re like okay I actually I actually could make this work I could
I actually could make this work I could
I actually could make this work I could actually really be good at this or wow I
actually really be good at this or wow I
actually really be good at this or wow I get I just got recognition for this
get I just got recognition for this
get I just got recognition for this piece I mean was were there any sort of
piece I mean was were there any sort of
piece I mean was were there any sort of defining moments and you’re in your
defining moments and you’re in your
defining moments and you’re in your career as a writer yeah I think I mean I
career as a writer yeah I think I mean I
career as a writer yeah I think I mean I don’t know I’m not yeah the other things
don’t know I’m not yeah the other things
don’t know I’m not yeah the other things that I remember I remember
that I remember I remember
that I remember I remember like I was like but by the way the best
like I was like but by the way the best
like I was like but by the way the best way to get about it get started anything
way to get about it get started anything
way to get about it get started anything is to be willing to work for free yeah
is to be willing to work for free yeah
is to be willing to work for free yeah internships like to me on the path to
internships like to me on the path to
internships like to me on the path to anything and I mean I really think being
anything and I mean I really think being
anything and I mean I really think being there’s definitely a lot of people who
there’s definitely a lot of people who
there’s definitely a lot of people who are entitled basically I have so much to
are entitled basically I have so much to
are entitled basically I have so much to say but anyway yeah if you want to if
say but anyway yeah if you want to if
say but anyway yeah if you want to if you want to live in your passion
you want to live in your passion
you want to live in your passion whatever your passion is you have to be
whatever your passion is you have to be
whatever your passion is you have to be willing to not make money at it and want
willing to not make money at it and want
willing to not make money at it and want to do what you love you got to do you
to do what you love you got to do you
to do what you love you got to do you have do you have a choice you can choose
have do you have a choice you can choose
have do you have a choice you can choose money or you can choose what you love
money or you can choose what you love
money or you can choose what you love that Joseph Campbell has a great quote
that Joseph Campbell has a great quote
that Joseph Campbell has a great quote that I always use I don’t know you guys
that I always use I don’t know you guys
that I always use I don’t know you guys know this the just just beautiful so the
know this the just just beautiful so the
know this the just just beautiful so the idea here what the thousand yeah the
idea here what the thousand yeah the
idea here what the thousand yeah the great kind of professor of mythology but
great kind of professor of mythology but
great kind of professor of mythology but he said the the insecure if you guys
he said the the insecure if you guys
he said the the insecure if you guys realistic insecure way is the secure way
realistic insecure way is the secure way
realistic insecure way is the secure way you guys have heard that quote and what
you guys have heard that quote and what
you guys have heard that quote and what it means basically is you know my
it means basically is you know my
it means basically is you know my parents and I’m sure like most people’s
parents and I’m sure like most people’s
parents and I’m sure like most people’s parents say get a good job try to make
parents say get a good job try to make
parents say get a good job try to make some money make a good living yeah and
some money make a good living yeah and
some money make a good living yeah and because I think that’s secure if you
because I think that’s secure if you
because I think that’s secure if you make go and make money but if you do a
make go and make money but if you do a
make go and make money but if you do a job you make money lose that job you
job you make money lose that job you
job you make money lose that job you know then you lose the money you have
know then you lose the money you have
know then you lose the money you have nothing right right where he says if you
nothing right right where he says if you
nothing right right where he says if you choose your passion yeah actually is
choose your passion yeah actually is
choose your passion yeah actually is matter when you make money to lose money
matter when you make money to lose money
matter when you make money to lose money because you’re always gonna have your
because you’re always gonna have your
because you’re always gonna have your passion be happy so it doesn’t actually
passion be happy so it doesn’t actually
passion be happy so it doesn’t actually matter not your safety net right and and
matter not your safety net right and and
matter not your safety net right and and but the challenge of that is that it
but the challenge of that is that it
but the challenge of that is that it might be eight years or four years
might be eight years or four years
might be eight years or four years before you’re actually making a living
before you’re actually making a living
before you’re actually making a living at it yeah versus versus something else
at it yeah versus versus something else
at it yeah versus versus something else there’s four things when someone gives
there’s four things when someone gives
there’s four things when someone gives you feedback or criticism however its
you feedback or criticism however its
you feedback or criticism however its intended whether ill or positive and so
intended whether ill or positive and so
intended whether ill or positive and so one is not to take it in but to kind of
one is not to take it in but to kind of
one is not to take it in but to kind of catch it I think of like a catcher’s
catch it I think of like a catcher’s
catch it I think of like a catcher’s mitt if you tell me something you come
mitt if you tell me something you come
mitt if you tell me something you come across this way I’ll grab it and then I
across this way I’ll grab it and then I
across this way I’ll grab it and then I look at it and I’ll think okay is it
look at it and I’ll think okay is it
look at it and I’ll think okay is it true if it’s true cool I’ll put it in
true if it’s true cool I’ll put it in
true if it’s true cool I’ll put it in and learn from it I think it’s not true
and learn from it I think it’s not true
and learn from it I think it’s not true cool I’ll throw it away no harm no foul
cool I’ll throw it away no harm no foul
cool I’ll throw it away no harm no foul I’m not going to dwell on it right and I
I’m not going to dwell on it right and I
I’m not going to dwell on it right and I think everybody needs this in this world
think everybody needs this in this world
think everybody needs this in this world because we’re all on most of us are in
because we’re all on most of us are in
because we’re all on most of us are in social media and we’re all getting like
social media and we’re all getting like
social media and we’re all getting like you know all our thoughts are getting
you know all our thoughts are getting
you know all our thoughts are getting picked apart you know all the times who
picked apart you know all the times who
picked apart you know all the times who really need this more than ever then the
really need this more than ever then the
really need this more than ever then the third one is you get it and it’s a maybe
third one is you get it and it’s a maybe
third one is you get it and it’s a maybe well I’m not sure you said this about me
well I’m not sure you said this about me
well I’m not sure you said this about me I’m not sure you know what do you guys
I’m not sure you know what do you guys
I’m not sure you know what do you guys think you know what do you think I lost
think you know what do you think I lost
think you know what do you think I lost my friends and asked other people and
my friends and asked other people and
my friends and asked other people and get some feedback and if it’s true well
get some feedback and if it’s true well
get some feedback and if it’s true well cool maybe I’ll learn from if everyone’s
cool maybe I’ll learn from if everyone’s
cool maybe I’ll learn from if everyone’s like this is total nonsense ignore that
like this is total nonsense ignore that
like this is total nonsense ignore that dude I throw it out but then there’s a
dude I throw it out but then there’s a
dude I throw it out but then there’s a fourth one and this is where the real
fourth one and this is where the real
fourth one and this is where the real growth is you know what the fourth one
growth is you know what the fourth one
growth is you know what the fourth one is I don’t the fourth one is you get it
is I don’t the fourth one is you get it
is I don’t the fourth one is you get it you throw it out
you throw it out
you throw it out I’m talking to you and I may be later
I’m talking to you and I may be later
I’m talking to you and I may be later I’m talking to you know you
I’m talking to you know you
I’m talking to you know you it and I’m like now it’s not sure I
it and I’m like now it’s not sure I
it and I’m like now it’s not sure I throw it out and then later I’m talking
throw it out and then later I’m talking
throw it out and then later I’m talking to someone else I get it it’s a third
to someone else I get it it’s a third
to someone else I get it it’s a third time it’s come back to me after that I’m
time it’s come back to me after that I’m
time it’s come back to me after that I’m like wait maybe I got to take this thing
like wait maybe I got to take this thing
like wait maybe I got to take this thing a little more seriously and it becomes
a little more seriously and it becomes
a little more seriously and it becomes it maybe and then it becomes a yes and
it maybe and then it becomes a yes and
it maybe and then it becomes a yes and that’s when the big real thing is
that’s when the big real thing is
that’s when the big real thing is because you kept ignoring this thing
because you kept ignoring this thing
because you kept ignoring this thing that was in your face so the best
that was in your face so the best
that was in your face so the best feedback like where you really grow is
feedback like where you really grow is
feedback like where you really grow is you keep getting the same feedback you
you keep getting the same feedback you
you keep getting the same feedback you keep dismissing it at some point you say
keep dismissing it at some point you say
keep dismissing it at some point you say wait maybe they have something so one
wait maybe they have something so one
wait maybe they have something so one way I do this is I get together a group
way I do this is I get together a group
way I do this is I get together a group of people and we sit together once a
of people and we sit together once a
of people and we sit together once a week and talk about the stuff going on
week and talk about the stuff going on
week and talk about the stuff going on our lives
our lives
our lives I find group therapy really powerful
I find group therapy really powerful
I find group therapy really powerful because it’s just one-on-one I think
because it’s just one-on-one I think
because it’s just one-on-one I think just say I disagree with you but when
just say I disagree with you but when
just say I disagree with you but when four or five people are saying hey dude
four or five people are saying hey dude
four or five people are saying hey dude no you’re really coming off like that or
no you’re really coming off like that or
no you’re really coming off like that or you’re really having this problem your
you’re really having this problem your
you’re really having this problem your relationship and maybe need to look at
relationship and maybe need to look at
relationship and maybe need to look at it and five people are saying it like
it and five people are saying it like
it and five people are saying it like it’s pretty hard to dismiss them I know
it’s pretty hard to dismiss them I know
it’s pretty hard to dismiss them I know a lot of my friends are written really
a lot of my friends are written really
a lot of my friends are written really really successful books and even I wrote
really successful books and even I wrote
really successful books and even I wrote a book called the game which has
a book called the game which has
a book called the game which has probably sold like million millions of
probably sold like million millions of
probably sold like million millions of copies and really when I wrote it I
copies and really when I wrote it I
copies and really when I wrote it I thought nobody would read it I thought
thought nobody would read it I thought
thought nobody would read it I thought nobody would read it but I thought this
nobody would read it but I thought this
nobody would read it but I thought this story is so crazy I just have to tell
story is so crazy I just have to tell
story is so crazy I just have to tell this story so these things that seem you
this story so these things that seem you
this story so these things that seem you can spend all your time trying to
can spend all your time trying to
can spend all your time trying to engineer the perfect thing and the truth
engineer the perfect thing and the truth
engineer the perfect thing and the truth is we have no control we just don’t know
is we have no control we just don’t know
is we have no control we just don’t know what’s going to work or what’s not going
what’s going to work or what’s not going
what’s going to work or what’s not going to work so so so for example a lot of
to work so so so for example a lot of
to work so so so for example a lot of marketers say to follow your audience
marketers say to follow your audience
marketers say to follow your audience see what your audience wants the problem
see what your audience wants the problem
see what your audience wants the problem with following your audience for those
with following your audience for those
with following your audience for those of you who even have audiences already
of you who even have audiences already
of you who even have audiences already I’m steaming it can become a trap
I’m steaming it can become a trap
I’m steaming it can become a trap because all your audience knows is what
because all your audience knows is what
because all your audience knows is what you’ve done in the past they don’t know
you’ve done in the past they don’t know
you’ve done in the past they don’t know what you were you’re going to do in the
what you were you’re going to do in the
what you were you’re going to do in the future so if you’re following your
future so if you’re following your
future so if you’re following your audience you’re already trapped you know
audience you’re already trapped you know
audience you’re already trapped you know your audience should be following you as
your audience should be following you as
your audience should be following you as you move forward through life and it
you move forward through life and it
you move forward through life and it gets harder and again because I talk to
gets harder and again because I talk to
gets harder and again because I talk to so many musicians you think okay is it
so many musicians you think okay is it
so many musicians you think okay is it true that as musicians artists get older
true that as musicians artists get older
true that as musicians artists get older they just don’t get as good because
they just don’t get as good because
they just don’t get as good because they’re not young and in touch anymore
they’re not young and in touch anymore
they’re not young and in touch anymore it’s not really true what happens is
it’s not really true what happens is
it’s not really true what happens is they get trapped in their own success
they get trapped in their own success
they get trapped in their own success they get trapped into what their
they get trapped into what their
they get trapped into what their audience wants of them and they get
audience wants of them and they get
audience wants of them and they get trapped in having responsibilities so
trapped in having responsibilities so
trapped in having responsibilities so sort of being in touch with you and
sort of being in touch with you and
sort of being in touch with you and going where you want to go and not being
going where you want to go and not being
going where you want to go and not being afraid of leave people behind is what’s
afraid of leave people behind is what’s
afraid of leave people behind is what’s going to actually make you a leader
going to actually make you a leader
going to actually make you a leader here’s the secret to life don’t take it
here’s the secret to life don’t take it
here’s the secret to life don’t take it personally not just for pickup but for
personally not just for pickup but for
personally not just for pickup but for life in general
life in general
life in general everyone’s a jerk to you someday and you
everyone’s a jerk to you someday and you
everyone’s a jerk to you someday and you and when someone’s an asshole and
and when someone’s an asshole and
and when someone’s an asshole and screwed and bumps into you and says
screwed and bumps into you and says
screwed and bumps into you and says stuff it’s not about you it’s you know
stuff it’s not about you it’s you know
stuff it’s not about you it’s you know he’s a jerk
he’s a jerk
he’s a jerk if you have a day and you lose your job
if you have a day and you lose your job
if you have a day and you lose your job and your girlfriend breaks up with you
and your girlfriend breaks up with you
and your girlfriend breaks up with you and you crash your car the world doesn’t
and you crash your car the world doesn’t
and you crash your car the world doesn’t hate you you just had a bad day so same
hate you you just had a bad day so same
hate you you just had a bad day so same thing it’ll make life so much easier if
thing it’ll make life so much easier if
thing it’ll make life so much easier if you don’t take it personally which means
you don’t take it personally which means
you don’t take it personally which means that as you go in this world your
that as you go in this world your
that as you go in this world your friends are not going to tell you the
friends are not going to tell you the
friends are not going to tell you the truth about the really things that are
truth about the really things that are
truth about the really things that are really wrong with yourself so as you
really wrong with yourself so as you
really wrong with yourself so as you enter this world and you talk to guys
enter this world and you talk to guys
enter this world and you talk to guys you’re going to find out what your
you’re going to find out what your
you’re going to find out what your problems are and what they aren’t when
problems are and what they aren’t when
problems are and what they aren’t when they tell it to you don’t take it
they tell it to you don’t take it
they tell it to you don’t take it personally you think about it and you
personally you think about it and you
personally you think about it and you got to have this filter inside I think
got to have this filter inside I think
got to have this filter inside I think this is what allowed me to excel you
this is what allowed me to excel you
this is what allowed me to excel you have to have this filter inside that
have to have this filter inside that
have to have this filter inside that takes in all criticism not personally
takes in all criticism not personally
takes in all criticism not personally and not judgmentally you take in the
and not judgmentally you take in the
and not judgmentally you take in the criticism you think is that true and you
criticism you think is that true and you
criticism you think is that true and you take a hard look at yourself and if it’s
take a hard look at yourself and if it’s
take a hard look at yourself and if it’s true you work to solve it and change it
true you work to solve it and change it
true you work to solve it and change it if it’s not true you just throw it out
if it’s not true you just throw it out
if it’s not true you just throw it out and move out because you go there we’re
and move out because you go there we’re
and move out because you go there we’re here because we’re admitting we need
here because we’re admitting we need
here because we’re admitting we need something better in our lives we’re here
something better in our lives we’re here
something better in our lives we’re here because we’re emitting we’re a little
because we’re emitting we’re a little
because we’re emitting we’re a little bit broken some we need to learn we
bit broken some we need to learn we
bit broken some we need to learn we haven’t so as you do it you want to take
haven’t so as you do it you want to take
haven’t so as you do it you want to take in all the criticism it comes in and
in all the criticism it comes in and
in all the criticism it comes in and work on what you need to work on so it
work on what you need to work on so it
work on what you need to work on so it don’t take it personally how do you
don’t take it personally how do you
don’t take it personally how do you think of yourself how do you describe
think of yourself how do you describe
think of yourself how do you describe yourself I think about this because
yourself I think about this because
yourself I think about this because words matter and and and I know that
words matter and and and I know that
words matter and and and I know that we’re all becoming a bunch of – Zico a
we’re all becoming a bunch of – Zico a
we’re all becoming a bunch of – Zico a photographer a director an entrepreneur
photographer a director an entrepreneur
photographer a director an entrepreneur I’m getting tired of it how do you
I’m getting tired of it how do you
I’m getting tired of it how do you describe yourself I mean I had to said
describe yourself I mean I had to said
describe yourself I mean I had to said like one thing maybe would be a
like one thing maybe would be a
like one thing maybe would be a storyteller I just like to tell really
storyteller I just like to tell really
storyteller I just like to tell really great compelling stories that if it’s a
great compelling stories that if it’s a
great compelling stories that if it’s a book you can’t put it down if it’s a
book you can’t put it down if it’s a
book you can’t put it down if it’s a movie or TV show you can’t turn it off
movie or TV show you can’t turn it off
movie or TV show you can’t turn it off so to me it’s the artist storytelling
so to me it’s the artist storytelling
so to me it’s the artist storytelling which i think is probably one of the
which i think is probably one of the
which i think is probably one of the oldest human art forms there is yeah
oldest human art forms there is yeah
oldest human art forms there is yeah caveman times I like sitting around the
caveman times I like sitting around the
caveman times I like sitting around the fire and even like that’s what cave
fire and even like that’s what cave
fire and even like that’s what cave paintings are right there’s scratching
paintings are right there’s scratching
paintings are right there’s scratching out a story and I always encourage
out a story and I always encourage
out a story and I always encourage people this is probably true for for
people this is probably true for for
people this is probably true for for people listening right now that people
people listening right now that people
people listening right now that people love to read nonfiction they want to get
love to read nonfiction they want to get
love to read nonfiction they want to get a book that’s going to tell them what to
a book that’s going to tell them what to
a book that’s going to tell them what to do and a bulleted list of what the
do and a bulleted list of what the
do and a bulleted list of what the shooters are supposed to do but I really
shooters are supposed to do but I really
shooters are supposed to do but I really believe that the mine were learns
believe that the mine were learns
believe that the mine were learns through metaphor right that story
through metaphor right that story
through metaphor right that story telling us to learn how do you learn the
telling us to learn how do you learn the
telling us to learn how do you learn the rules of your tribe or your culture or
rules of your tribe or your culture or
rules of your tribe or your culture or the world or about being a human being
the world or about being a human being
the world or about being a human being you learn
you learn
you learn through metaphor I really think we
through metaphor I really think we
through metaphor I really think we undervalue storytelling this like
undervalue storytelling this like
undervalue storytelling this like quick-fix culture ooh
quick-fix culture ooh
quick-fix culture ooh when Tim said I’m a you know I’m very
when Tim said I’m a you know I’m very
when Tim said I’m a you know I’m very methodical about time management because
methodical about time management because
methodical about time management because it’s so hard to do so the first thing I
it’s so hard to do so the first thing I
it’s so hard to do so the first thing I can I’ll give you a couple important
can I’ll give you a couple important
can I’ll give you a couple important life changing tips for anyone trying
life changing tips for anyone trying
life changing tips for anyone trying something creative on the computer so
something creative on the computer so
something creative on the computer so number one thing there’s it is a no
number one thing there’s it is a no
number one thing there’s it is a no email morning like number one thing is
email morning like number one thing is
email morning like number one thing is there’s a program called freedom that I
there’s a program called freedom that I
there’s a program called freedom that I downloaded then and it says you know I
downloaded then and it says you know I
downloaded then and it says you know I love the word freedom because that’s
love the word freedom because that’s
love the word freedom because that’s really what it is has how many minutes
really what it is has how many minutes
really what it is has how many minutes of freedom do you want you say whatever
of freedom do you want you say whatever
of freedom do you want you say whatever it is 90 minutes and then you cannot
it is 90 minutes and then you cannot
it is 90 minutes and then you cannot actually access the internet for 90
actually access the internet for 90
actually access the internet for 90 minutes there’s no unlock code people
minutes there’s no unlock code people
minutes there’s no unlock code people are gasping you’re all going to use it
are gasping you’re all going to use it
are gasping you’re all going to use it yeah there’s no unlock codes the first
yeah there’s no unlock codes the first
yeah there’s no unlock codes the first thing I do is a is foam I give to
thing I do is a is foam I give to
thing I do is a is foam I give to someone else or put it in a drawer
someone else or put it in a drawer
someone else or put it in a drawer somewhere it’s best if I give it to
somewhere it’s best if I give it to
somewhere it’s best if I give it to someone else
someone else
someone else internet goes off and I commit to that
internet goes off and I commit to that
internet goes off and I commit to that amount of a certain amount of time so so
amount of a certain amount of time so so
amount of a certain amount of time so so so so so so my thing is that is
so so so so my thing is that is
so so so so my thing is that is compartmentalizing they’re going to
compartmentalizing they’re going to
compartmentalizing they’re going to check your email check it from 4:00 to
check your email check it from 4:00 to
check your email check it from 4:00 to 5:00 I don’t have that there’s a someone
5:00 I don’t have that there’s a someone
5:00 I don’t have that there’s a someone wrote a book which I never read that’s
wrote a book which I never read that’s
wrote a book which I never read that’s called never check your email in the
called never check your email in the
called never check your email in the morning you don’t I don’t know if you
morning you don’t I don’t know if you
morning you don’t I don’t know if you agree or not but just know the title and
agree or not but just know the title and
agree or not but just know the title and its really great no it’s great but the
its really great no it’s great but the
its really great no it’s great but the thing is with time is to become
thing is with time is to become
thing is with time is to become proactive a lot of time instead of
proactive a lot of time instead of
proactive a lot of time instead of reactive because I know so many people
reactive because I know so many people
reactive because I know so many people you can’t do anything because you’re
you can’t do anything because you’re
you can’t do anything because you’re getting a you know message on Facebook
getting a you know message on Facebook
getting a you know message on Facebook and then you’re getting a you know an
and then you’re getting a you know an
and then you’re getting a you know an email and then you’re just reacting to
email and then you’re just reacting to
email and then you’re just reacting to that cuz it feels like you’re getting
that cuz it feels like you’re getting
that cuz it feels like you’re getting something done at the end of the day you
something done at the end of the day you
something done at the end of the day you got nothing done yeah so I what my thing
got nothing done yeah so I what my thing
got nothing done yeah so I what my thing is that really and everyone knows that
is that really and everyone knows that
is that really and everyone knows that I’m proactive about that two-degree that
I’m proactive about that two-degree that
I’m proactive about that two-degree that um by the way at have Facebook and
um by the way at have Facebook and
um by the way at have Facebook and Twitter block to my computer what I did
Twitter block to my computer what I did
Twitter block to my computer what I did is I downloaded in tango content but uh
is I downloaded in tango content but uh
is I downloaded in tango content but uh because it content barrier whatever it
because it content barrier whatever it
because it content barrier whatever it is there’s never any time can be used it
is there’s never any time can be used it
is there’s never any time can be used it yeah net net and I think you don’t like
yeah net net and I think you don’t like
yeah net net and I think you don’t like a block specific site yeah and I had
a block specific site yeah and I had
a block specific site yeah and I had someone else put in their password for
someone else put in their password for
someone else put in their password for those sites so I’d even know the
those sites so I’d even know the
those sites so I’d even know the password so I couldn’t get to Twitter or
password so I couldn’t get to Twitter or
password so I couldn’t get to Twitter or Facebook if I tried so finding those
Facebook if I tried so finding those
Facebook if I tried so finding those things that are those are those and
things that are those are those and
things that are those are those and putting walls between you and them or
putting walls between you and them or
putting walls between you and them or limiting them in certain ways there’s
limiting them in certain ways there’s
limiting them in certain ways there’s one other thing was going to say was um
one other thing was going to say was um
one other thing was going to say was um Oh which is friends can be a pain in the
Oh which is friends can be a pain in the
Oh which is friends can be a pain in the haps if you’re trying to be creative and
haps if you’re trying to be creative and
haps if you’re trying to be creative and if you have more than seven friends I
if you have more than seven friends I
if you have more than seven friends I never want to see one day a week what do
never want to see one day a week what do
never want to see one day a week what do you do yeah so another thing I want to
you do yeah so another thing I want to
you do yeah so another thing I want to say is that I do a Wednesday night
say is that I do a Wednesday night
say is that I do a Wednesday night dinner party yeah so if my friends want
dinner party yeah so if my friends want
dinner party yeah so if my friends want to see me I’m like right Wednesday
to see me I’m like right Wednesday
to see me I’m like right Wednesday someone wants a meeting I’m not sure
someone wants a meeting I’m not sure
someone wants a meeting I’m not sure about Wednesday night so Wednesday night
about Wednesday night so Wednesday night
about Wednesday night so Wednesday night we we all go to a restaurant
we we all go to a restaurant
we we all go to a restaurant and and basically whoever I want to see
and and basically whoever I want to see
and and basically whoever I want to see or catch up on I’ll see them there and
or catch up on I’ll see them there and
or catch up on I’ll see them there and then maybe afterward I’ll break off with
then maybe afterward I’ll break off with
then maybe afterward I’ll break off with my closer friends but that way I can see
my closer friends but that way I can see
my closer friends but that way I can see every one people who want to meet with I
every one people who want to meet with I
every one people who want to meet with I don’t want to really take the time for a
don’t want to really take the time for a
don’t want to really take the time for a lunch or meeting one-on-one I just bring
lunch or meeting one-on-one I just bring
lunch or meeting one-on-one I just bring them there if I like them I talk to a
them there if I like them I talk to a
them there if I like them I talk to a bunch I don’t go away humility is the
bunch I don’t go away humility is the
bunch I don’t go away humility is the most important thing you can have for
most important thing you can have for
most important thing you can have for change if you really want to have a big
change if you really want to have a big
change if you really want to have a big change like a lot of people come just
change like a lot of people come just
change like a lot of people come just hear what they already want to hear like
hear what they already want to hear like
hear what they already want to hear like codify this into five principles that
codify this into five principles that
codify this into five principles that can apply to my life but you know key or
can apply to my life but you know key or
can apply to my life but you know key or codify as the word and I’ll cut off I
codify as the word and I’ll cut off I
codify as the word and I’ll cut off I I’ll codify some self-awareness for you
I’ll codify some self-awareness for you
I’ll codify some self-awareness for you but um but humility to recognize you
but um but humility to recognize you
but um but humility to recognize you know what got you here won’t get you
know what got you here won’t get you
know what got you here won’t get you there as the saying goes right and to
there as the saying goes right and to
there as the saying goes right and to say to say at some point if you really
say to say at some point if you really
say to say at some point if you really want to change you’re really stuck I
want to change you’re really stuck I
want to change you’re really stuck I know nothing I’m letting go of
know nothing I’m letting go of
know nothing I’m letting go of everything
everything
everything and I’m sort of going to relearn as like
and I’m sort of going to relearn as like
and I’m sort of going to relearn as like a with a childlike mind we treat
a with a childlike mind we treat
a with a childlike mind we treat ourselves forward we talk to ourselves
ourselves forward we talk to ourselves
ourselves forward we talk to ourselves in ways that we would never ever allow a
in ways that we would never ever allow a
in ways that we would never ever allow a stranger to talk to us right we there’s
stranger to talk to us right we there’s
stranger to talk to us right we there’s some if you like dividing something here
some if you like dividing something here
some if you like dividing something here want up to you and sit you’re not eating
want up to you and sit you’re not eating
want up to you and sit you’re not eating you’ve got nothing good to say
so why do I allow ourself to talk to her
so why do I allow ourself to talk to her yourself right so there’s sort of a
yourself right so there’s sort of a
yourself right so there’s sort of a message I can give you guys today and
message I can give you guys today and
message I can give you guys today and sensor to help you get over approach
sensor to help you get over approach
sensor to help you get over approach anxiety is temper treating yourself the
anxiety is temper treating yourself the
anxiety is temper treating yourself the way you want that person or potion
way you want that person or potion
way you want that person or potion treatment right
treatment right
treatment right she says she’s had to say and it happens
she says she’s had to say and it happens
she says she’s had to say and it happens me and you’re telling yourself so you
me and you’re telling yourself so you
me and you’re telling yourself so you have nothing to fear anymore right
have nothing to fear anymore right
have nothing to fear anymore right because we’ve already give yourself the
because we’ve already give yourself the
because we’ve already give yourself the worst of it and I want to be like the
worst of it and I want to be like the
worst of it and I want to be like the one thing this whole begin would be to
one thing this whole begin would be to
one thing this whole begin would be to stop talking yourself this way sir
stop talking yourself this way sir
stop talking yourself this way sir promotion has its corresponding action
promotion has its corresponding action
promotion has its corresponding action you may be able to fear rejection right
you may be able to fear rejection right
you may be able to fear rejection right but where is that coming from if you
but where is that coming from if you
but where is that coming from if you person like you were saying earlier if
person like you were saying earlier if
person like you were saying earlier if you’re giving someone more worth in
you’re giving someone more worth in
you’re giving someone more worth in value higher status than yourself and
value higher status than yourself and
value higher status than yourself and you’re less than them
you’re less than them
you’re less than them what’s that saying that Shan Shan what
what’s that saying that Shan Shan what
what’s that saying that Shan Shan what who you are transy you’re not worthy to
who you are transy you’re not worthy to
who you are transy you’re not worthy to talk to us first change that this person
talk to us first change that this person
talk to us first change that this person saw us and have some power over you
saw us and have some power over you
saw us and have some power over you we’re going to hurt you that you’re not
we’re going to hurt you that you’re not
we’re going to hurt you that you’re not enough
enough
enough they’re not rich enough you’re not
they’re not rich enough you’re not
they’re not rich enough you’re not socially comfortable they’re too long
socially comfortable they’re too long
socially comfortable they’re too long whatever it is that Shanga love who you
whatever it is that Shanga love who you
whatever it is that Shanga love who you are and what happens right your shame
are and what happens right your shame
are and what happens right your shame when you walk it in turns to joy
when you walk it in turns to joy
when you walk it in turns to joy so the overall idea is if you can
so the overall idea is if you can
so the overall idea is if you can approach from a place of joy you also
approach from a place of joy you also
approach from a place of joy you also just enjoy the simple place of shame you
just enjoy the simple place of shame you
just enjoy the simple place of shame you will have to work inside that’s what we
will have to work inside that’s what we
will have to work inside that’s what we call what I call it a call back within
call what I call it a call back within
call what I call it a call back within Indian state you know being stained it’s
Indian state you know being stained it’s
Indian state you know being stained it’s just what really just having joy they
just what really just having joy they
just what really just having joy they were all things if you walk out you’re
were all things if you walk out you’re
were all things if you walk out you’re like okay all right there all these
like okay all right there all these
like okay all right there all these people and they’re going to approve of
people and they’re going to approve of
people and they’re going to approve of me they approve of me I feel good about
me they approve of me I feel good about
me they approve of me I feel good about myself but they don’t approve them have
myself but they don’t approve them have
myself but they don’t approve them have a vision about myself and I’m going to
a vision about myself and I’m going to
a vision about myself and I’m going to go out and put my self esteem in the
go out and put my self esteem in the
go out and put my self esteem in the hands very stranger I talk to you’re
hands very stranger I talk to you’re
hands very stranger I talk to you’re just setting yourself up for trouble
just setting yourself up for trouble
just setting yourself up for trouble you can push past it using a lot of
you can push past it using a lot of
you can push past it using a lot of stuff we’re going to talk about that
stuff we’re going to talk about that
stuff we’re going to talk about that you’re starting off with the judge I
you’re starting off with the judge I
you’re starting off with the judge I don’t hold anything back when someone
don’t hold anything back when someone
don’t hold anything back when someone asked Heidi earlier what what what had
asked Heidi earlier what what what had
asked Heidi earlier what what what had really worked for her she was like I
really worked for her she was like I
really worked for her she was like I think you said like show you sharing my
think you said like show you sharing my
think you said like show you sharing my feelings is that what you said and I
feelings is that what you said and I
feelings is that what you said and I find that so many good when they’re
find that so many good when they’re
find that so many good when they’re going to write they just want to show
going to write they just want to show
going to write they just want to show like a glorified side of themselves that
like a glorified side of themselves that
like a glorified side of themselves that everyone can relate to
everyone can relate to
everyone can relate to there’s a quote from Carl Rogers the
there’s a quote from Carl Rogers the
there’s a quote from Carl Rogers the psychologist who says the personal is
psychologist who says the personal is
psychologist who says the personal is the universal I know so many people
the universal I know so many people
the universal I know so many people think they can appeal to everyone by
think they can appeal to everyone by
think they can appeal to everyone by being generic and universal and you
being generic and universal and you
being generic and universal and you appeal to nobody but if you talk from
appeal to nobody but if you talk from
appeal to nobody but if you talk from your heart and you say the most personal
your heart and you say the most personal
your heart and you say the most personal stuff the stuff you’re scared by the way
stuff the stuff you’re scared by the way
stuff the stuff you’re scared by the way the only book reads my books I think are
the only book reads my books I think are
the only book reads my books I think are successful is cuz I say this that I’m
successful is cuz I say this that I’m
successful is cuz I say this that I’m too scared to tell my friends or tell
too scared to tell my friends or tell
too scared to tell my friends or tell people somehow I can write it and when
people somehow I can write it and when
people somehow I can write it and when you write it people help people read oh
you write it people help people read oh
you write it people help people read oh yeah I relate to that no one said that
yeah I relate to that no one said that
yeah I relate to that no one said that before but that’s exactly what I’m what
before but that’s exactly what I’m what
before but that’s exactly what I’m what I’m going through so don’t hold don’t
I’m going through so don’t hold don’t
I’m going through so don’t hold don’t don’t hold back there’s a difference
don’t hold back there’s a difference
don’t hold back there’s a difference between just vomiting emotionally all
between just vomiting emotionally all
between just vomiting emotionally all over the page you still has to be entry
over the page you still has to be entry
over the page you still has to be entry file the number one rule being
file the number one rule being
file the number one rule being interesting right but uh but the stuff
interesting right but uh but the stuff
interesting right but uh but the stuff you’re too scared to tell everyone
you’re too scared to tell everyone
you’re too scared to tell everyone that’s the stuff you should be writing
that’s the stuff you should be writing
that’s the stuff you should be writing about and ensuring and that thought you
about and ensuring and that thought you
about and ensuring and that thought you think maybe is going to get you unliked
think maybe is going to get you unliked
think maybe is going to get you unliked and it’s a scary time right now and they
and it’s a scary time right now and they
and it’s a scary time right now and they in the culture because everything we get
in the culture because everything we get
in the culture because everything we get instant feedback on everything right
instant feedback on everything right
instant feedback on everything right everything we write we get instant
everything we write we get instant
everything we write we get instant feedback we know everybody’s opinion
feedback we know everybody’s opinion
feedback we know everybody’s opinion which which if you don’t have a
which which if you don’t have a
which which if you don’t have a rock-solid sense of who you are and what
rock-solid sense of who you are and what
rock-solid sense of who you are and what you’re doing
you’re doing
you’re doing can lead to just trying to conform and
can lead to just trying to conform and
can lead to just trying to conform and be liked and I promise you I wrote a
be liked and I promise you I wrote a
be liked and I promise you I wrote a book called everyone loves you when
book called everyone loves you when
book called everyone loves you when you’re dead and the reason it was the
you’re dead and the reason it was the
you’re dead and the reason it was the interviews with celebrities because when
interviews with celebrities because when
interviews with celebrities because when you’re dead you’re no longer competition
you’re dead you’re no longer competition
you’re dead you’re no longer competition as long as you’re here right if no one
as long as you’re here right if no one
as long as you’re here right if no one if no one doesn’t like what you’re doing
if no one doesn’t like what you’re doing
if no one doesn’t like what you’re doing then you’re probably not doing anything
then you’re probably not doing anything
then you’re probably not doing anything interesting right if everything is it’s
interesting right if everything is it’s
interesting right if everything is it’s getting only positive feedback then
getting only positive feedback then
getting only positive feedback then you’re probably not doing anything new
you’re probably not doing anything new
you’re probably not doing anything new or interesting right so let let some
or interesting right so let let some
or interesting right so let let some negativity be a sign that’s okay good
negativity be a sign that’s okay good
negativity be a sign that’s okay good I’m actually saying something new and
I’m actually saying something new and
I’m actually saying something new and something something meaningful
thank you guys so much for watching I
thank you guys so much for watching I made this video because James Esler
made this video because James Esler
made this video because James Esler asked me to so if there’s a famous
asked me to so if there’s a famous
asked me to so if there’s a famous entrepreneur that you want me to profile
entrepreneur that you want me to profile
entrepreneur that you want me to profile next leave in the comments below and
next leave in the comments below and
next leave in the comments below and I’ll see what I can do I’d also love to
I’ll see what I can do I’d also love to
I’ll see what I can do I’d also love to know what it Neal say that had the
know what it Neal say that had the
know what it Neal say that had the biggest impact on you what lesson did
biggest impact on you what lesson did
biggest impact on you what lesson did you take from this video that you’re
you take from this video that you’re
you take from this video that you’re going to immediately apply to your life
going to immediately apply to your life
going to immediately apply to your life or business leave in the comments I’m
or business leave in the comments I’m
or business leave in the comments I’m going to join in the discussion finally
going to join in the discussion finally
going to join in the discussion finally wanna give a quick shout out to Fanta
wanna give a quick shout out to Fanta
wanna give a quick shout out to Fanta media thank you guys so much for picking
media thank you guys so much for picking
media thank you guys so much for picking up a copy of my book your one word and
up a copy of my book your one word and
up a copy of my book your one word and posting that great picture to Instagram
posting that great picture to Instagram
posting that great picture to Instagram I really really really appreciate it so
I really really really appreciate it so
I really really really appreciate it so thank you guys again for watching I
thank you guys again for watching I
thank you guys again for watching I believe in you I hope you continue to
believe in you I hope you continue to
believe in you I hope you continue to believe in yourself and whatever your
believe in yourself and whatever your
believe in yourself and whatever your one where it is much love I’ll see you
one where it is much love I’ll see you
one where it is much love I’ll see you soon
number one rule of writing is this
number one rule of writing is this nobody cares nobody cares about you they
nobody cares nobody cares about you they
nobody cares nobody cares about you they don’t care about your thoughts they
don’t care about your thoughts they
don’t care about your thoughts they don’t care about your ideas they don’t
don’t care about your ideas they don’t
don’t care about your ideas they don’t care about what you have to say what you
care about what you have to say what you
care about what you have to say what you did yesterday or anything they do not
did yesterday or anything they do not
did yesterday or anything they do not give a
give a
give a and from there can you make them care
and from there can you make them care
and from there can you make them care everything I write I assume that nobody
everything I write I assume that nobody
everything I write I assume that nobody cares that they have no interest if I
cares that they have no interest if I
cares that they have no interest if I start from that perspective and if I can
start from that perspective and if I can
start from that perspective and if I can draw you in through the writing that’s
draw you in through the writing that’s
draw you in through the writing that’s where the story begins so just assume
where the story begins so just assume
where the story begins so just assume start by sitting nobody cares and how
start by sitting nobody cares and how
start by sitting nobody cares and how can you draw them into your story or
can you draw them into your story or
can you draw them into your story or your point number two then one way to
your point number two then one way to
your point number two then one way to draw them in is something called open
draw them in is something called open
draw them in is something called open loops there’s who here knows what an
loops there’s who here knows what an
loops there’s who here knows what an open loop is closed end n1c the new
open loop is closed end n1c the new
open loop is closed end n1c the new Doctor Strange movie then one scene that
Doctor Strange movie then one scene that
Doctor Strange movie then one scene that cool Kelly you saw so is it good okay
cool Kelly you saw so is it good okay
cool Kelly you saw so is it good okay but that’s an open loop an open loop was
but that’s an open loop an open loop was
but that’s an open loop an open loop was iced ask you what open loop was and then
iced ask you what open loop was and then
iced ask you what open loop was and then rather than explaining it I went on to
rather than explaining it I went on to
rather than explaining it I went on to another subject and talked about dr.
another subject and talked about dr.
another subject and talked about dr. strange or something
strange or something
strange or something so an open loop is if I can start with
so an open loop is if I can start with
so an open loop is if I can start with something that captures your attention
something that captures your attention
something that captures your attention and ninety-eight percent he didn’t know
and ninety-eight percent he didn’t know
and ninety-eight percent he didn’t know what an open loop is you’re probably
what an open loop is you’re probably
what an open loop is you’re probably curious about it by now have been
curious about it by now have been
curious about it by now have been talking for two minutes and still
talking for two minutes and still
talking for two minutes and still haven’t explained it yet right an open
haven’t explained it yet right an open
haven’t explained it yet right an open loop is his is at the top can I tell you
loop is his is at the top can I tell you
loop is his is at the top can I tell you something that that you’re interested in
something that that you’re interested in
something that that you’re interested in you want to know the answer to and waits
you want to know the answer to and waits
you want to know the answer to and waits at the end how many times that we just
at the end how many times that we just
at the end how many times that we just stayed through a really she movie to see
stayed through a really she movie to see
stayed through a really she movie to see one of what happens at the end right you
one of what happens at the end right you
one of what happens at the end right you know it can be the worst movie ever but
know it can be the worst movie ever but
know it can be the worst movie ever but I want to know how that happened
I want to know how that happened
I want to know how that happened right so nope so one is to use the idea
right so nope so one is to use the idea
right so nope so one is to use the idea of open loops and and it’s true in
of open loops and and it’s true in
of open loops and and it’s true in relationships you meet someone you have
relationships you meet someone you have
relationships you meet someone you have a lot of common with you start telling
a lot of common with you start telling
a lot of common with you start telling all these stories you want it to
all these stories you want it to
all these stories you want it to continue so an open loop is a great way
continue so an open loop is a great way
continue so an open loop is a great way to create intrigue because we’re we’re
to create intrigue because we’re we’re
to create intrigue because we’re we’re creatures who love storytelling right
creatures who love storytelling right
creatures who love storytelling right early early it’s storytelling as part of
early early it’s storytelling as part of
early early it’s storytelling as part of our sort of our DNA so so creating open
our sort of our DNA so so creating open
our sort of our DNA so so creating open loops at the top of a post or or earn a
loops at the top of a post or or earn a
loops at the top of a post or or earn a book as it is really powerful so yeah
book as it is really powerful so yeah
book as it is really powerful so yeah the best I say the best advice for
the best I say the best advice for
the best I say the best advice for anyone wants to write a book is
anyone wants to write a book is
anyone wants to write a book is literally the best way to write a book
literally the best way to write a book
literally the best way to write a book is to have a looming impending deadline
is to have a looming impending deadline
is to have a looming impending deadline with hard real-world consequences for
with hard real-world consequences for
with hard real-world consequences for makes more mistakes guys all yeah
makes more mistakes guys all yeah
makes more mistakes guys all yeah just EG hoc mistakes yeah you need to
just EG hoc mistakes yeah you need to
just EG hoc mistakes yeah you need to fix like stakes I talked about I know
fix like stakes I talked about I know
fix like stakes I talked about I know diet or
diet or
diet or oh yes this is your my steaks steaks
oh yes this is your my steaks steaks
oh yes this is your my steaks steaks like vampire steaks but for a
like vampire steaks but for a
like vampire steaks but for a consequences yeah and I think that um
consequences yeah and I think that um
consequences yeah and I think that um that’s something that a media coach said
that’s something that a media coach said
that’s something that a media coach said to me recently they’re like you got it
to me recently they’re like you got it
to me recently they’re like you got it when you say steaks and you have a book
when you say steaks and you have a book
when you say steaks and you have a book called the 4-hour chef they’re gonna
called the 4-hour chef they’re gonna
called the 4-hour chef they’re gonna think you’re talking about steaks like
think you’re talking about steaks like
think you’re talking about steaks like AHA but up but I think if you if you
AHA but up but I think if you if you
AHA but up but I think if you if you can’t do you manufacture you talk about
can’t do you manufacture you talk about
can’t do you manufacture you talk about stick calm and yeah and things like that
stick calm and yeah and things like that
stick calm and yeah and things like that but I really know that that literally
but I really know that that literally
but I really know that that literally you know Tim’s always Tim will be
you know Tim’s always Tim will be
you know Tim’s always Tim will be calling and I’ll be calling Tim saying I
calling and I’ll be calling Tim saying I
calling and I’ll be calling Tim saying I gotta get this in I got like three
gotta get this in I got like three
gotta get this in I got like three months I can’t do but if literally if we
months I can’t do but if literally if we
months I can’t do but if literally if we didn’t have those deadlines you went to
didn’t have those deadlines you went to
didn’t have those deadlines you went to written people never come out of time it
written people never come out of time it
written people never come out of time it would never happen yeah so so you have
would never happen yeah so so you have
would never happen yeah so so you have to so I’ll do that if a friend of mine
to so I’ll do that if a friend of mine
to so I’ll do that if a friend of mine wants to write a book and they want me
wants to write a book and they want me
wants to write a book and they want me to proofread or take a look at I’ll say
to proofread or take a look at I’ll say
to proofread or take a look at I’ll say I’ll take a look at it but what date are
I’ll take a look at it but what date are
I’ll take a look at it but what date are gonna get it done by cuz I may hold you
gonna get it done by cuz I may hold you
gonna get it done by cuz I may hold you to and they’ll say January I said if
to and they’ll say January I said if
to and they’ll say January I said if it’s not done by the end of March you
it’s not done by the end of March you
it’s not done by the end of March you know I’m not gonna read your book at all
know I’m not gonna read your book at all
know I’m not gonna read your book at all no matter what yeah so I’ll give
no matter what yeah so I’ll give
no matter what yeah so I’ll give consequences and deadlines to my friends
consequences and deadlines to my friends
consequences and deadlines to my friends it’s a good way to write is to really if
it’s a good way to write is to really if
it’s a good way to write is to really if you don’t have a publisher or a deal or
you don’t have a publisher or a deal or
you don’t have a publisher or a deal or something like that find some real
something like that find some real
something like that find some real consequences that’s externally imposed
consequences that’s externally imposed
consequences that’s externally imposed you have to learn from your mistakes no
you have to learn from your mistakes no
you have to learn from your mistakes no see I have this attitude that no
see I have this attitude that no
see I have this attitude that no situation is impossible there is nothing
situation is impossible there is nothing
situation is impossible there is nothing impossible there just continued season
impossible there just continued season
impossible there just continued season and obstacles to get around so if I went
and obstacles to get around so if I went
and obstacles to get around so if I went out and I’m just trying to think of
out and I’m just trying to think of
out and I’m just trying to think of obstacles let’s just say you did an
obstacles let’s just say you did an
obstacles let’s just say you did an opener and she’d heard it already you
opener and she’d heard it already you
opener and she’d heard it already you did your line she heard her already
did your line she heard her already
did your line she heard her already because your friend just approached her
because your friend just approached her
because your friend just approached her with the ten minutes ago do you run
with the ten minutes ago do you run
with the ten minutes ago do you run screaming it may be that happens the
screaming it may be that happens the
screaming it may be that happens the first time the second time you say if
first time the second time you say if
first time the second time you say if that happens again what do I do you say
that happens again what do I do you say
that happens again what do I do you say oh my god you must have mind my friend
oh my god you must have mind my friend
oh my god you must have mind my friend that’s really funny we were just talking
that’s really funny we were just talking
that’s really funny we were just talking about that BAM problem solved whatever
about that BAM problem solved whatever
about that BAM problem solved whatever it may be
it may be
it may be say you any problem has a solution so I
say you any problem has a solution so I
say you any problem has a solution so I kind of had that attitude you know what
kind of had that attitude you know what
kind of had that attitude you know what if she’s with eight guys what if you
if she’s with eight guys what if you
if she’s with eight guys what if you know she is on her way out the door any
know she is on her way out the door any
know she is on her way out the door any problem is going to have a solution so
problem is going to have a solution so
problem is going to have a solution so you have to have that attitude and if
you have to have that attitude and if
you have to have that attitude and if something goes wrong and I’m saying this
something goes wrong and I’m saying this
something goes wrong and I’m saying this in a positive way not a negative
in a positive way not a negative
in a positive way not a negative self-esteem way just something goes
self-esteem way just something goes
self-esteem way just something goes wrong it’s always your fault that’s what
wrong it’s always your fault that’s what
wrong it’s always your fault that’s what I feel like without being hard of myself
I feel like without being hard of myself
I feel like without being hard of myself if something goes wrong it’s never her
if something goes wrong it’s never her
if something goes wrong it’s never her fault
fault
fault she’s not a bitch she is not mean she is
she’s not a bitch she is not mean she is
she’s not a bitch she is not mean she is not uptight I did something wrong to
not uptight I did something wrong to
not uptight I did something wrong to make her uncomfortable
make her uncomfortable
make her uncomfortable so for example with the openers I would
so for example with the openers I would
so for example with the openers I would start walking up and saying hey guys I
start walking up and saying hey guys I
start walking up and saying hey guys I want to get it opinion
want to get it opinion
want to get it opinion something I got this question I’m trying
something I got this question I’m trying
something I got this question I’m trying to ask and I start asking it by the
to ask and I start asking it by the
to ask and I start asking it by the notice they were they weren’t really
notice they were they weren’t really
notice they were they weren’t really listening they were tuning me out
listening they were tuning me out
listening they were tuning me out they’re kind of giving a bad lot body
they’re kind of giving a bad lot body
they’re kind of giving a bad lot body language so I realized what are they
language so I realized what are they
language so I realized what are they thinking why is that happening what’s
thinking why is that happening what’s
thinking why is that happening what’s happening because I’m standing around
happening because I’m standing around
happening because I’m standing around they don’t know what I’m going to leave
they don’t know what I’m going to leave
they don’t know what I’m going to leave so I added what’s called a time
so I added what’s called a time
so I added what’s called a time constraint I’d walk in I’d say hey guys
constraint I’d walk in I’d say hey guys
constraint I’d walk in I’d say hey guys want to get a quick opinion on something
want to get a quick opinion on something
want to get a quick opinion on something by the way it can only stay for a second
by the way it can only stay for a second
by the way it can only stay for a second because I got to rejoin my friends over
because I got to rejoin my friends over
because I got to rejoin my friends over there you know problem solved
there you know problem solved
there you know problem solved so every anytime something went wrong or
so every anytime something went wrong or
so every anytime something went wrong or was that coming up maybe I would do
was that coming up maybe I would do
was that coming up maybe I would do everything and I felt like I was doing
everything and I felt like I was doing
everything and I felt like I was doing it perfectly but people weren’t
it perfectly but people weren’t
it perfectly but people weren’t interested well I was doing it doing all
interested well I was doing it doing all
interested well I was doing it doing all the right things but I was doing it in a
the right things but I was doing it in a
the right things but I was doing it in a very needy way a lot of people read the
very needy way a lot of people read the
very needy way a lot of people read the material and they’ll say this doesn’t
material and they’ll say this doesn’t
material and they’ll say this doesn’t work everything works
work everything works
work everything works what I say is gonna be different than
what I say is gonna be different than
what I say is gonna be different than what what zan says and different than
what what zan says and different than
what what zan says and different than what someone else says it all works you
what someone else says it all works you
what someone else says it all works you just have to do it right so for example
just have to do it right so for example
just have to do it right so for example the opinion openers we’re talking about
the opinion openers we’re talking about
the opinion openers we’re talking about an opinion openers how you start a
an opinion openers how you start a
an opinion openers how you start a conversation if you go and say can I ask
conversation if you go and say can I ask
conversation if you go and say can I ask you a question on something and then
you a question on something and then
you a question on something and then they say no we’re talking get lost
they say no we’re talking get lost
they say no we’re talking get lost well the opinion opers don’t work you
well the opinion opers don’t work you
well the opinion opers don’t work you just did it wrong you walk in you say
just did it wrong you walk in you say
just did it wrong you walk in you say hey guys I want to ask a quick question
hey guys I want to ask a quick question
hey guys I want to ask a quick question on something now you haven’t asked them
on something now you haven’t asked them
on something now you haven’t asked them I guess no question and it’s going to
I guess no question and it’s going to
I guess no question and it’s going to work so there’s so many little
work so there’s so many little
work so there’s so many little subtleties did that make sense okay so
subtleties did that make sense okay so
subtleties did that make sense okay so there’s so many I saw someone looking at
there’s so many I saw someone looking at
there’s so many I saw someone looking at me strangely there’s something a little
me strangely there’s something a little
me strangely there’s something a little subtle as they get to work in and it’s
subtle as they get to work in and it’s
subtle as they get to work in and it’s always always gonna be your fault if
always always gonna be your fault if
always always gonna be your fault if it’s not working not in a negative way
it’s not working not in a negative way
it’s not working not in a negative way now and being a hard on yourself it’s
now and being a hard on yourself it’s
now and being a hard on yourself it’s it’s feedback so you can improve
it’s feedback so you can improve
it’s feedback so you can improve yourself that whole idea there’s no such
yourself that whole idea there’s no such
yourself that whole idea there’s no such thing as failure
thing as failure
thing as failure they’re only learning lessons that’s
they’re only learning lessons that’s
they’re only learning lessons that’s what I did but you know what I’m a guy
what I did but you know what I’m a guy
what I did but you know what I’m a guy who’s hard of myself but I’m hard on
who’s hard of myself but I’m hard on
who’s hard of myself but I’m hard on myself because it makes me excel usually
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