good morning believe nation its Evan my one word is believe I believe in you and
one word is believe I believe in you and
one word is believe I believe in you and I want to see that awesome thing that
I want to see that awesome thing that
I want to see that awesome thing that you have inside you explode out into the
you have inside you explode out into the
you have inside you explode out into the universe to have a major impact so to
universe to have a major impact so to
universe to have a major impact so to help you on your path today’s message is
help you on your path today’s message is
help you on your path today’s message is listen to your gut over the you Mel
listen to your gut over the you Mel
listen to your gut over the you Mel Robbins when I was twenty-two right
Robbins when I was twenty-two right
Robbins when I was twenty-two right after I graduated from Dartmouth I was
after I graduated from Dartmouth I was
after I graduated from Dartmouth I was so focused on making everyone happy that
so focused on making everyone happy that
so focused on making everyone happy that I almost chose the worst possible career
I almost chose the worst possible career
I almost chose the worst possible career for my personality it’s not a bad career
for my personality it’s not a bad career
for my personality it’s not a bad career it just would have been horrendous for
it just would have been horrendous for
it just would have been horrendous for me I was interested in the environment
me I was interested in the environment
me I was interested in the environment so I decided oh you know I’ll go get a
so I decided oh you know I’ll go get a
so I decided oh you know I’ll go get a law degree and then I’ll go work in
law degree and then I’ll go work in
law degree and then I’ll go work in Washington and I think maybe I’ll work
Washington and I think maybe I’ll work
Washington and I think maybe I’ll work on environmental policy and I’d probably
on environmental policy and I’d probably
on environmental policy and I’d probably end up in some cube farm and everyone
end up in some cube farm and everyone
end up in some cube farm and everyone was thrilled with the plan everyone it
was thrilled with the plan everyone it
was thrilled with the plan everyone it turns out but me so here I am I’m
turns out but me so here I am I’m
turns out but me so here I am I’m driving a u-haul across country to go to
driving a u-haul across country to go to
driving a u-haul across country to go to law school and to get a degree in
law school and to get a degree in
law school and to get a degree in environmental law and something started
environmental law and something started
environmental law and something started to gnaw at me and with every single mile
to gnaw at me and with every single mile
to gnaw at me and with every single mile that I drove my thoughts were getting
that I drove my thoughts were getting
that I drove my thoughts were getting louder and doubts were starting to pour
louder and doubts were starting to pour
louder and doubts were starting to pour in my gut was telling me Mel turn the
in my gut was telling me Mel turn the
in my gut was telling me Mel turn the damn u-haul around but the problem was
damn u-haul around but the problem was
damn u-haul around but the problem was that everything was already in place
that everything was already in place
that everything was already in place right I mean I’m already in the u-haul
right I mean I’m already in the u-haul
right I mean I’m already in the u-haul the thing is already packed I’m already
the thing is already packed I’m already
the thing is already packed I’m already 10 miles into my drive the tuition had
10 miles into my drive the tuition had
10 miles into my drive the tuition had been paid for the first semester I had
been paid for the first semester I had
been paid for the first semester I had signed a lease I mean I could not undo
signed a lease I mean I could not undo
signed a lease I mean I could not undo these things
these things
these things isn’t that why it’s so difficult for you
isn’t that why it’s so difficult for you
isn’t that why it’s so difficult for you to make changes in your life because you
to make changes in your life because you
to make changes in your life because you think that things can’t be undone the
think that things can’t be undone the
think that things can’t be undone the fact is any excuse that you come up with
fact is any excuse that you come up with
fact is any excuse that you come up with you can undo tuition can be reimbursed
you can undo tuition can be reimbursed
you can undo tuition can be reimbursed apartments can be leased Plan B can be
apartments can be leased Plan B can be
apartments can be leased Plan B can be invented so I got up I repack that
invented so I got up I repack that
invented so I got up I repack that u-haul and I drove out of town
u-haul and I drove out of town
u-haul and I drove out of town I let myself make a u-turn in life if
I let myself make a u-turn in life if
I let myself make a u-turn in life if you ever find your gut battling your
you ever find your gut battling your
you ever find your gut battling your head save yourself the drama I guarantee
head save yourself the drama I guarantee
head save yourself the drama I guarantee you your gut is right guarantee you your
you your gut is right guarantee you your
you your gut is right guarantee you your excuses can be an
excuses can be an
excuses can be an and I guarantee you you can make a
and I guarantee you you can make a
and I guarantee you you can make a u-turn in your life right now if you
u-turn in your life right now if you
u-turn in your life right now if you want to
want to
want to you should make big decisions with your
you should make big decisions with your
you should make big decisions with your heart or your gut and small decisions
heart or your gut and small decisions
heart or your gut and small decisions with your head here’s why your head only
with your head here’s why your head only
with your head here’s why your head only understands a world that currently
understands a world that currently
understands a world that currently exists it’s logical it’s practical and
exists it’s logical it’s practical and
exists it’s logical it’s practical and it’s also needed you don’t want to throw
it’s also needed you don’t want to throw
it’s also needed you don’t want to throw away all rationale throw away all logic
away all rationale throw away all logic
away all rationale throw away all logic like that keeps you alive – you need it
like that keeps you alive – you need it
like that keeps you alive – you need it but if you have a big decision that you
but if you have a big decision that you
but if you have a big decision that you need to make in your life the worst idea
need to make in your life the worst idea
need to make in your life the worst idea is to make a list of pros and cons and
is to make a list of pros and cons and
is to make a list of pros and cons and then try to evaluate them because you’re
then try to evaluate them because you’re
then try to evaluate them because you’re trying to make a decision with your head
trying to make a decision with your head
trying to make a decision with your head that really should be made with your
that really should be made with your
that really should be made with your heart because it doesn’t matter if you
heart because it doesn’t matter if you
heart because it doesn’t matter if you have 10 things on the pro list if
have 10 things on the pro list if
have 10 things on the pro list if there’s one thing on the con that goes
there’s one thing on the con that goes
there’s one thing on the con that goes against what you’re really feeling in
against what you’re really feeling in
against what you’re really feeling in your heart or your gut you can’t do it
your heart or your gut you can’t do it
your heart or your gut you can’t do it your head or your brain only understands
your head or your brain only understands
your head or your brain only understands a world that currently exists and that
a world that currently exists and that
a world that currently exists and that is a world that is made up by other
is a world that is made up by other
is a world that is made up by other people that world was created by others
people that world was created by others
people that world was created by others and is being forced upon you and so if
and is being forced upon you and so if
and is being forced upon you and so if you’re making decisions purely with your
you’re making decisions purely with your
you’re making decisions purely with your head then you’re living in somebody
head then you’re living in somebody
head then you’re living in somebody else’s world they went off and created
else’s world they went off and created
else’s world they went off and created all these amazing things and created all
all these amazing things and created all
all these amazing things and created all these rules for living and now you’re
these rules for living and now you’re
these rules for living and now you’re just following them where if you want to
just following them where if you want to
just following them where if you want to think about things with your heart the
think about things with your heart the
think about things with your heart the vision the big dream the things that
vision the big dream the things that
vision the big dream the things that don’t exist yet
don’t exist yet
don’t exist yet that’s the thing your brain doesn’t
that’s the thing your brain doesn’t
that’s the thing your brain doesn’t really understand that’s not logical
really understand that’s not logical
really understand that’s not logical that’s not practical it’s it doesn’t
that’s not practical it’s it doesn’t
that’s not practical it’s it doesn’t exist yet but that’s what you’re trying
exist yet but that’s what you’re trying
exist yet but that’s what you’re trying to create with your life if you want to
to create with your life if you want to
to create with your life if you want to create a life that has already been
create a life that has already been
create a life that has already been lived by somebody else then just follow
lived by somebody else then just follow
lived by somebody else then just follow that path listen to your head and that’s
that path listen to your head and that’s
that path listen to your head and that’s your safe logical practical thing to do
your safe logical practical thing to do
your safe logical practical thing to do if you want to create a path a life that
if you want to create a path a life that
if you want to create a path a life that is unique to you you’re going to have to
is unique to you you’re going to have to
is unique to you you’re going to have to break the mold somewhere you cannot just
break the mold somewhere you cannot just
break the mold somewhere you cannot just live your parents life
live your parents life
live your parents life your grandparents life the life that
your grandparents life the life that
your grandparents life the life that your guidance counselors want you to
your guidance counselors want you to
your guidance counselors want you to live or the rest your family or your
live or the rest your family or your
live or the rest your family or your culture all those lives have been lived
culture all those lives have been lived
culture all those lives have been lived before you want to live your life and
before you want to live your life and
before you want to live your life and that can only be done by doing something
that can only be done by doing something
that can only be done by doing something that is different and that’s something
that is different and that’s something
that is different and that’s something that is different is going to be the
that is different is going to be the
that is different is going to be the powerful thing that comes from here
powerful thing that comes from here
powerful thing that comes from here there has to be an emotional decision to
there has to be an emotional decision to
there has to be an emotional decision to break free of the rules break free of
break free of the rules break free of
break free of the rules break free of the norms break free of what your
the norms break free of what your
the norms break free of what your parents want you to do and say I’m gonna
parents want you to do and say I’m gonna
parents want you to do and say I’m gonna go down this scary path that hasn’t been
go down this scary path that hasn’t been
go down this scary path that hasn’t been done before and then what you do is you
done before and then what you do is you
done before and then what you do is you use your head to figure out the plan if
use your head to figure out the plan if
use your head to figure out the plan if you start with the head your heart will
you start with the head your heart will
you start with the head your heart will never catch up if you start with the
never catch up if you start with the
never catch up if you start with the heart the passion the excitement the
heart the passion the excitement the
heart the passion the excitement the love the interest then your brain can
love the interest then your brain can
love the interest then your brain can catch up you see I’m gonna go out I’m
catch up you see I’m gonna go out I’m
catch up you see I’m gonna go out I’m gonna go and create a billion
gonna go and create a billion
gonna go and create a billion entrepreneurs I want to help a billion
entrepreneurs I want to help a billion
entrepreneurs I want to help a billion entrepreneurs the head comes in and said
entrepreneurs the head comes in and said
entrepreneurs the head comes in and said well you know that’s not practical
well you know that’s not practical
well you know that’s not practical that’s not logical either even a billion
that’s not logical either even a billion
that’s not logical either even a billion entrepreneurs how you gonna track that
entrepreneurs how you gonna track that
entrepreneurs how you gonna track that how you gonna measure that you know bump
how you gonna measure that you know bump
how you gonna measure that you know bump up up up up up all the reasons why it’s
up up up up up all the reasons why it’s
up up up up up all the reasons why it’s not gonna work out which one do I listen
not gonna work out which one do I listen
not gonna work out which one do I listen to
to
to it’s the heart I’m gonna go out and do
it’s the heart I’m gonna go out and do
it’s the heart I’m gonna go out and do this head help me figure out how to do
this head help me figure out how to do
this head help me figure out how to do it the big goal the big actions have to
it the big goal the big actions have to
it the big goal the big actions have to come from the heart have to come from
come from the heart have to come from
come from the heart have to come from your place of passion and then your head
your place of passion and then your head
your place of passion and then your head will help you figure out how to go and
will help you figure out how to go and
will help you figure out how to go and accomplish it not the other way around
accomplish it not the other way around
accomplish it not the other way around so whenever you’re in a moment of crisis
so whenever you’re in a moment of crisis
so whenever you’re in a moment of crisis whenever you’re trying to make a big
whenever you’re trying to make a big
whenever you’re trying to make a big decision
decision
decision whenever you’re afraid whatever you’re
whenever you’re afraid whatever you’re
whenever you’re afraid whatever you’re thinking about some new big thing that
thinking about some new big thing that
thinking about some new big thing that you want to do to break out on your own
you want to do to break out on your own
you want to do to break out on your own path and it’s something that’s never
path and it’s something that’s never
path and it’s something that’s never been done before that’s gonna be
been done before that’s gonna be
been done before that’s gonna be uniquely yours I hope you will have the
uniquely yours I hope you will have the
uniquely yours I hope you will have the courage to listen to your heart and not
courage to listen to your heart and not
courage to listen to your heart and not your head so the question today today is
your head so the question today today is
your head so the question today today is I’m curious what is the biggest decision
I’m curious what is the biggest decision
I’m curious what is the biggest decision that you made with your heart when your
that you made with your heart when your
that you made with your heart when your head said no way that’s impossible let
head said no way that’s impossible let
head said no way that’s impossible let me know leaving the comments below I
me know leaving the comments below I
me know leaving the comments below I think sharing it will be great for you
think sharing it will be great for you
think sharing it will be great for you to release and feel the joy of sharing
to release and feel the joy of sharing
to release and feel the joy of sharing it but I think also can inspire a lot of
it but I think also can inspire a lot of
it but I think also can inspire a lot of people who are we’d in the comments and
people who are we’d in the comments and
people who are we’d in the comments and following along as well so leave it down
following along as well so leave it down
following along as well so leave it down the comments I also want to give a quick
the comments I also want to give a quick
the comments I also want to give a quick shout out to Michelle a bark doll
shout out to Michelle a bark doll
shout out to Michelle a bark doll Michelle thank you so much for picking
Michelle thank you so much for picking
Michelle thank you so much for picking up a copy of my book through one word it
up a copy of my book through one word it
up a copy of my book through one word it really really really means a lot to me
really really really means a lot to me
really really really means a lot to me and I hope you’re enjoying the read
and I hope you’re enjoying the read
and I hope you’re enjoying the read thank you guys again for watching I hope
thank you guys again for watching I hope
thank you guys again for watching I hope you have an amazing day I believe in you
you have an amazing day I believe in you
you have an amazing day I believe in you I hope we continue to believe in
I hope we continue to believe in
I hope we continue to believe in yourself and whatever your one where it
yourself and whatever your one where it
yourself and whatever your one where it is much love and I’ll see you again
is much love and I’ll see you again
is much love and I’ll see you again tomorrow morning for another shot of
tomorrow morning for another shot of
tomorrow morning for another shot of espresso
recently I was with a bunch of other
recently I was with a bunch of other investors who I respect and they brought
investors who I respect and they brought
investors who I respect and they brought me a deal and I wanted to be part of it
me a deal and I wanted to be part of it
me a deal and I wanted to be part of it but it didn’t feel right and I wrote
but it didn’t feel right and I wrote
but it didn’t feel right and I wrote millions of dollars on that one and it
millions of dollars on that one and it
millions of dollars on that one and it just didn’t feel right and I lost it all
just didn’t feel right and I lost it all
just didn’t feel right and I lost it all within two years
within two years
within two years so should investors Trust never got
so should investors Trust never got
so should investors Trust never got better absolutely and trust you well
better absolutely and trust you well
better absolutely and trust you well what about you said earlier don’t be
what about you said earlier don’t be
what about you said earlier don’t be emotional and sometimes the gut know
emotional and sometimes the gut know
emotional and sometimes the gut know this this is a barometer of risk it’s
this this is a barometer of risk it’s
this this is a barometer of risk it’s something an internalized for an
something an internalized for an
something an internalized for an investor that says I don’t feel
investor that says I don’t feel
investor that says I don’t feel comfortable
comfortable
comfortable it’s not about emotions just don’t write
it’s not about emotions just don’t write
it’s not about emotions just don’t write that check that was recently the first
that check that was recently the first
that check that was recently the first time I didn’t listen to that and I lost
time I didn’t listen to that and I lost
time I didn’t listen to that and I lost everything so now my radar is up I
everything so now my radar is up I
everything so now my radar is up I listen to my gut it’s not an emotion
listen to my gut it’s not an emotion
listen to my gut it’s not an emotion it’s an index of risk and you get it as
it’s an index of risk and you get it as
it’s an index of risk and you get it as you age you become a better investor
you age you become a better investor
you age you become a better investor every year if only I could live to 200
every year if only I could live to 200
every year if only I could live to 200 I’d be really good there was a lot of
I’d be really good there was a lot of
I’d be really good there was a lot of encouragement to trust my my instincts
encouragement to trust my my instincts
encouragement to trust my my instincts you know the instincts of use your
you know the instincts of use your
you know the instincts of use your presence you know I’m saying like in
presence you know I’m saying like in
presence you know I’m saying like in South Africa you know um you know
South Africa you know um you know
South Africa you know um you know obviously I’m not South African so I was
obviously I’m not South African so I was
obviously I’m not South African so I was really aware that are cut I don’t walk
really aware that are cut I don’t walk
really aware that are cut I don’t walk into rooms where people have been lived
into rooms where people have been lived
into rooms where people have been lived seen smell touched felt mr. Mandela in
seen smell touched felt mr. Mandela in
seen smell touched felt mr. Mandela in person on radio and television and here
person on radio and television and here
person on radio and television and here I come as an outsider doing this him you
I come as an outsider doing this him you
I come as an outsider doing this him you know portrayal of him I was really a
know portrayal of him I was really a
know portrayal of him I was really a ways to make me very nervous about you
ways to make me very nervous about you
ways to make me very nervous about you know if I’m gonna do it right or not and
Justin encouraged me to stay with what
Justin encouraged me to stay with what my gut was hmm is to stay with that
my gut was hmm is to stay with that
my gut was hmm is to stay with that don’t don’t waver from it don’t try to
don’t don’t waver from it don’t try to
don’t don’t waver from it don’t try to be there Mandela or Demand oh they think
be there Mandela or Demand oh they think
be there Mandela or Demand oh they think you should be be that guy we’ve
you should be be that guy we’ve
you should be be that guy we’ve discussed in all the rehearsals and all
discussed in all the rehearsals and all
discussed in all the rehearsals and all the script meetings you know be that guy
the script meetings you know be that guy
the script meetings you know be that guy go with that thing so that was great
go with that thing so that was great
go with that thing so that was great actually at Justin’s credit like he
actually at Justin’s credit like he
actually at Justin’s credit like he really helped me sculpt and measure out
really helped me sculpt and measure out
really helped me sculpt and measure out that that performance you know when I
that that performance you know when I
that that performance you know when I went to blowing deals for the buyer said
went to blowing deals for the buyer said
went to blowing deals for the buyer said we like your tires Ralph but would you
we like your tires Ralph but would you
we like your tires Ralph but would you make them narrower and would you we
make them narrower and would you we
make them narrower and would you we don’t want to use your label we want to
don’t want to use your label we want to
don’t want to use your label we want to use our own
use our own
use our own but we’ll give you a really good order
but we’ll give you a really good order
but we’ll give you a really good order now here I was no business and hungry
now here I was no business and hungry
now here I was no business and hungry and I said to the buyer I said my
and I said to the buyer I said my
and I said to the buyer I said my heart’s in my throat or whatever the
heart’s in my throat or whatever the
heart’s in my throat or whatever the expression is I I would love to sell
expression is I I would love to sell
expression is I I would love to sell Bloomingdale’s they were the hottest
Bloomingdale’s they were the hottest
Bloomingdale’s they were the hottest store and young hot store I said but I
store and young hot store I said but I
store and young hot store I said but I can’t tell you I’m closing my bag and
can’t tell you I’m closing my bag and
can’t tell you I’m closing my bag and I’m not going to sell you six months
I’m not going to sell you six months
I’m not going to sell you six months later they called me back Wow and they
later they called me back Wow and they
later they called me back Wow and they said Ralph we can’t find your tights
said Ralph we can’t find your tights
said Ralph we can’t find your tights anywhere and we want to buy him and we
anywhere and we want to buy him and we
anywhere and we want to buy him and we want to put a rack in rack up ties
want to put a rack in rack up ties
want to put a rack in rack up ties amongst the other ties and that was it
amongst the other ties and that was it
amongst the other ties and that was it the breakthrough was they bought it and
the breakthrough was they bought it and
the breakthrough was they bought it and the breakthrough for me is that I’ve
the breakthrough for me is that I’ve
the breakthrough for me is that I’ve learned to trust my instincts I learned
learned to trust my instincts I learned
learned to trust my instincts I learned to trust my own sense but normal thing
to trust my own sense but normal thing
to trust my own sense but normal thing to do is say I’ll make it with me what
to do is say I’ll make it with me what
to do is say I’ll make it with me what you want there I mean that’s how that’s
you want there I mean that’s how that’s
you want there I mean that’s how that’s how the world was you want to I want to
how the world was you want to I want to
how the world was you want to I want to sell the other ties you know maybe I’ll
sell the other ties you know maybe I’ll
sell the other ties you know maybe I’ll have a new fashion for you next year let
have a new fashion for you next year let
have a new fashion for you next year let me buy it my philosophy was that I love
me buy it my philosophy was that I love
me buy it my philosophy was that I love these times I made them they were not
these times I made them they were not
these times I made them they were not just a business to me they were they
just a business to me they were they
just a business to me they were they were my voice to myself if you had to
were my voice to myself if you had to
were my voice to myself if you had to think of one word that’s most important
think of one word that’s most important
think of one word that’s most important to you or that sums you up or that would
to you or that sums you up or that would
to you or that sums you up or that would be like a little beacon hey believe
be like a little beacon hey believe
be like a little beacon hey believe nation if you want to know what the most
nation if you want to know what the most
nation if you want to know what the most important one word is for Tony Robbins
important one word is for Tony Robbins
important one word is for Tony Robbins Gary Vaynerchuk Oprah Winfrey will.i.am
Gary Vaynerchuk Oprah Winfrey will.i.am
Gary Vaynerchuk Oprah Winfrey will.i.am and Howard Schultz I have a very special
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