it’s a cold and foggy winter morning and I’m standing on the world’s tallest
I’m standing on the world’s tallest
I’m standing on the world’s tallest bungy platform the platform standing on
bungy platform the platform standing on
bungy platform the platform standing on is so tiny that I have to stand on my
is so tiny that I have to stand on my
is so tiny that I have to stand on my toes and balance myself against the wind
toes and balance myself against the wind
toes and balance myself against the wind the operator ties one end of the bungee
the operator ties one end of the bungee
the operator ties one end of the bungee cord to my ankle and throws the slack in
cord to my ankle and throws the slack in
cord to my ankle and throws the slack in the air I can feel the weight of the
the air I can feel the weight of the
the air I can feel the weight of the Rope i’ma ankles slowly dragging me down
Rope i’ma ankles slowly dragging me down
Rope i’ma ankles slowly dragging me down I look down all the buildings and roads
I look down all the buildings and roads
I look down all the buildings and roads are buried in heavy fog there is only
are buried in heavy fog there is only
are buried in heavy fog there is only one voice in my head I can’t do this so
one voice in my head I can’t do this so
one voice in my head I can’t do this so I turn around and tell them that I want
I turn around and tell them that I want
I turn around and tell them that I want to quit and then I see a huge quote
to quit and then I see a huge quote
to quit and then I see a huge quote printed on the glass window right next
printed on the glass window right next
printed on the glass window right next to me life begins at the edge of your
to me life begins at the edge of your
to me life begins at the edge of your comfort zone I don’t know why but this
comfort zone I don’t know why but this
comfort zone I don’t know why but this short yet powerful sentence gives me the
short yet powerful sentence gives me the
short yet powerful sentence gives me the final potion before I realize it I walk
final potion before I realize it I walk
final potion before I realize it I walk straight back to the platform and jump
straight back to the platform and jump
straight back to the platform and jump off the world’s highest bungee platform
during the 5 seconds of free fall I
during the 5 seconds of free fall I remember thinking to myself it’s not as
remember thinking to myself it’s not as
remember thinking to myself it’s not as scary as it looks
scary as it looks
scary as it looks and that’s not led to a whole new world
and that’s not led to a whole new world
and that’s not led to a whole new world every time I hear the voice of fear in
every time I hear the voice of fear in
every time I hear the voice of fear in my head I can’t leave this job because
my head I can’t leave this job because
my head I can’t leave this job because I’m not going to find anything better
I’m not going to find anything better
I’m not going to find anything better I’m scared of entering a new
I’m scared of entering a new
I’m scared of entering a new relationship because I don’t want to be
relationship because I don’t want to be
relationship because I don’t want to be hurt again and even a minute ago before
hurt again and even a minute ago before
hurt again and even a minute ago before I walk onto the stage the voice was
I walk onto the stage the voice was
I walk onto the stage the voice was repeating in my head every time I hear
repeating in my head every time I hear
repeating in my head every time I hear that voice I take a deep breath and tell
that voice I take a deep breath and tell
that voice I take a deep breath and tell myself it’s never as scary as it looks
myself it’s never as scary as it looks
myself it’s never as scary as it looks let me take you back to the summer of
let me take you back to the summer of
let me take you back to the summer of 2007 a remote village in Cambodia a
2007 a remote village in Cambodia a
2007 a remote village in Cambodia a small room in a domestic violence victim
small room in a domestic violence victim
small room in a domestic violence victim center it’s my first day of work I
center it’s my first day of work I
center it’s my first day of work I walked into room and was introduced to
walked into room and was introduced to
walked into room and was introduced to an 18 year old girl her name was
an 18 year old girl her name was
an 18 year old girl her name was chia-chia was so emotionally physically
chia-chia was so emotionally physically
chia-chia was so emotionally physically abused that she was trembling all the
abused that she was trembling all the
abused that she was trembling all the time and she couldn’t even look at me in
time and she couldn’t even look at me in
time and she couldn’t even look at me in the eyes and on her face I saw a fear
the eyes and on her face I saw a fear
the eyes and on her face I saw a fear anxiety and shame and that day she
anxiety and shame and that day she
anxiety and shame and that day she refused to take our help and went back
refused to take our help and went back
refused to take our help and went back to her husband and in the course of next
to her husband and in the course of next
to her husband and in the course of next few months she would do that again and
few months she would do that again and
few months she would do that again and again only come back with more bruises
again only come back with more bruises
again only come back with more bruises and cuts xie knew that she should leave
and cuts xie knew that she should leave
and cuts xie knew that she should leave her husband but she was scared too
her husband but she was scared too
her husband but she was scared too because she had been married to her him
because she had been married to her him
because she had been married to her him since 14 depending on him for survival
since 14 depending on him for survival
since 14 depending on him for survival and did not know that she could live a
and did not know that she could live a
and did not know that she could live a life on her own to help cheer and
life on her own to help cheer and
life on her own to help cheer and thousands of other girls like Gia I
thousands of other girls like Gia I
thousands of other girls like Gia I started as vocational skill training
started as vocational skill training
started as vocational skill training program after 3 months of training magic
program after 3 months of training magic
program after 3 months of training magic happened Xie regained confidence and
happened Xie regained confidence and
happened Xie regained confidence and dignity step out of the fear of failure
dignity step out of the fear of failure
dignity step out of the fear of failure found a new job in a local hotel and
found a new job in a local hotel and
found a new job in a local hotel and separated with her husband she started a
separated with her husband she started a
separated with her husband she started a new chapter of life at the edge of her
new chapter of life at the edge of her
new chapter of life at the edge of her comfort zone
comfort zone
comfort zone Chea might be an extreme example but I
Chea might be an extreme example but I
Chea might be an extreme example but I can see myself in her and maybe you can
can see myself in her and maybe you can
can see myself in her and maybe you can too
too
too what is it that you’re not doing because
what is it that you’re not doing because
what is it that you’re not doing because of fear of failure finding a new job
of fear of failure finding a new job
of fear of failure finding a new job starting a new company or asking someone
starting a new company or asking someone
starting a new company or asking someone out for a date for me it was the fear of
out for a date for me it was the fear of
out for a date for me it was the fear of public speaking whatever it is I
public speaking whatever it is I
public speaking whatever it is I encourage you to try it because as Chia
encourage you to try it because as Chia
encourage you to try it because as Chia found and I found and I think you will
found and I found and I think you will
found and I found and I think you will find – it’s never as scary as he looks
find – it’s never as scary as he looks
find – it’s never as scary as he looks and you’re stronger and more capable
and you’re stronger and more capable
and you’re stronger and more capable than you thought the second story is
than you thought the second story is
than you thought the second story is about embracing uncertainty my friend
about embracing uncertainty my friend
about embracing uncertainty my friend Jean lives an extremely comfortable life
Jean lives an extremely comfortable life
Jean lives an extremely comfortable life in Hong Kong he works from 9:00 to 5:00
in Hong Kong he works from 9:00 to 5:00
in Hong Kong he works from 9:00 to 5:00 and receives a very good pay but he’s
and receives a very good pay but he’s
and receives a very good pay but he’s dispassionate about his job and life and
dispassionate about his job and life and
dispassionate about his job and life and he’s constantly complaining he has lived
he’s constantly complaining he has lived
he’s constantly complaining he has lived his whole life with certainty that the
his whole life with certainty that the
his whole life with certainty that the fear of losing what he had is stopping
fear of losing what he had is stopping
fear of losing what he had is stopping him from pursuing his passion until one
him from pursuing his passion until one
him from pursuing his passion until one morning I got a call from him – I went
morning I got a call from him – I went
morning I got a call from him – I went to a positive psychology class last
to a positive psychology class last
to a positive psychology class last quarter got so inspired I quit my job
quarter got so inspired I quit my job
quarter got so inspired I quit my job today and I’m moving to Australia you
today and I’m moving to Australia you
today and I’m moving to Australia you what what are you gonna do with your
what what are you gonna do with your
what what are you gonna do with your life I asked he said this is the first
life I asked he said this is the first
life I asked he said this is the first time in life that I don’t have a plan
time in life that I don’t have a plan
time in life that I don’t have a plan and I view every bit as scared as I’m
and I view every bit as scared as I’m
and I view every bit as scared as I’m excited the next time I saw him was six
excited the next time I saw him was six
excited the next time I saw him was six months later he just got back from
months later he just got back from
months later he just got back from Australia a licensed hypnotherapist from
Australia a licensed hypnotherapist from
Australia a licensed hypnotherapist from a trader to a hypnotherapist I was
a trader to a hypnotherapist I was
a trader to a hypnotherapist I was shocked when I saw him again his face
shocked when I saw him again his face
shocked when I saw him again his face was pink eyes glittering his whole body
was pink eyes glittering his whole body
was pink eyes glittering his whole body was just glowing he is living his dream
was just glowing he is living his dream
was just glowing he is living his dream right now traveling around the world
right now traveling around the world
right now traveling around the world giving workshops and therapy sessions
giving workshops and therapy sessions
giving workshops and therapy sessions for thousands of people to find
for thousands of people to find
for thousands of people to find happiness in life and as with Chia I
happiness in life and as with Chia I
happiness in life and as with Chia I could see myself in Jung and maybe you
could see myself in Jung and maybe you
could see myself in Jung and maybe you can too we’re all scared of uncertainty
can too we’re all scared of uncertainty
can too we’re all scared of uncertainty giving up all you have to pursue a dream
giving up all you have to pursue a dream
giving up all you have to pursue a dream that may or may not work out loving
that may or may not work out loving
that may or may not work out loving someone with whole heart without
someone with whole heart without
someone with whole heart without guarantee it’s incredibly hard but as
guarantee it’s incredibly hard but as
guarantee it’s incredibly hard but as John found and I found and I think you
John found and I found and I think you
John found and I found and I think you will find – it’s never as scary as it
will find – it’s never as scary as it
will find – it’s never as scary as it looks and it leads to more possibilities
looks and it leads to more possibilities
looks and it leads to more possibilities and happiness in life the last story is
and happiness in life the last story is
and happiness in life the last story is about vulnerability and the last story
about vulnerability and the last story
about vulnerability and the last story is about me my love for my parents is
is about me my love for my parents is
is about me my love for my parents is the strongest emotion my life but in
the strongest emotion my life but in
the strongest emotion my life but in Asian culture love is seldom expressed
Asian culture love is seldom expressed
Asian culture love is seldom expressed in words it makes me feel extremely
in words it makes me feel extremely
in words it makes me feel extremely uncomfortable to tell them I love you or
uncomfortable to tell them I love you or
uncomfortable to tell them I love you or to even share my feelings with them our
to even share my feelings with them our
to even share my feelings with them our daily conversation is a combination of
daily conversation is a combination of
daily conversation is a combination of what I had for lunch and what they had
what I had for lunch and what they had
what I had for lunch and what they had for dinner the word courage came from
for dinner the word courage came from
for dinner the word courage came from Latin root kur which means heart and the
Latin root kur which means heart and the
Latin root kur which means heart and the original meaning of courage is to tell
original meaning of courage is to tell
original meaning of courage is to tell the story of who you are with their
the story of who you are with their
the story of who you are with their whole heart I don’t know why I have the
whole heart I don’t know why I have the
whole heart I don’t know why I have the courage to stand here today and share my
courage to stand here today and share my
courage to stand here today and share my story with you but I don’t have the
story with you but I don’t have the
story with you but I don’t have the courage to tell my parents I love you
they raised me with love so much love
they raised me with love so much love they made me believe I’m worthy of love
they made me believe I’m worthy of love
they made me believe I’m worthy of love not because of what I achieve but
not because of what I achieve but
not because of what I achieve but because of who I am yet I so desperately
because of who I am yet I so desperately
because of who I am yet I so desperately want to be this perfect child for them
want to be this perfect child for them
want to be this perfect child for them and share my happiness and achievements
and share my happiness and achievements
and share my happiness and achievements and withhold my struggles and failures
and withhold my struggles and failures
and withhold my struggles and failures and as I’m proud of my achievements I
and as I’m proud of my achievements I
and as I’m proud of my achievements I didn’t know that this created a huge
didn’t know that this created a huge
didn’t know that this created a huge emotional gap between us and we no
emotional gap between us and we no
emotional gap between us and we no longer share the joy and pain of each
longer share the joy and pain of each
longer share the joy and pain of each other’s life journey I’ve been
other’s life journey I’ve been
other’s life journey I’ve been experiencing a tough time recently a
experiencing a tough time recently a
experiencing a tough time recently a heartbroken ending of three year
heartbroken ending of three year
heartbroken ending of three year relationship many questions about
relationship many questions about
relationship many questions about friendship and deep insecurity about
friendship and deep insecurity about
friendship and deep insecurity about future a cup of weeks ago I came back
future a cup of weeks ago I came back
future a cup of weeks ago I came back from the exhausting recruiting shoot
from the exhausting recruiting shoot
from the exhausting recruiting shoot from New York the moment I walked in my
from New York the moment I walked in my
from New York the moment I walked in my room in darkness I experienced an
room in darkness I experienced an
room in darkness I experienced an emotional breakdown
emotional breakdown
emotional breakdown I caught my mom I burst into tears the
I caught my mom I burst into tears the
I caught my mom I burst into tears the moment I heard her voice and for the
moment I heard her voice and for the
moment I heard her voice and for the next hour and first time in my life I
next hour and first time in my life I
next hour and first time in my life I shared my struggles with her and even
shared my struggles with her and even
shared my struggles with her and even though she hasn’t been with me in this
though she hasn’t been with me in this
though she hasn’t been with me in this journey for so long she understands
journey for so long she understands
journey for so long she understands exactly what I’ve been going through the
exactly what I’ve been going through the
exactly what I’ve been going through the feeling of reconnection after so many
feeling of reconnection after so many
feeling of reconnection after so many years is like magic in the end I told
years is like magic in the end I told
years is like magic in the end I told her I love you and she said I love you
her I love you and she said I love you
her I love you and she said I love you too it’s the first time remember either
too it’s the first time remember either
too it’s the first time remember either of us has said that I didn’t expect what
of us has said that I didn’t expect what
of us has said that I didn’t expect what felt so uncomfortable previously came so
felt so uncomfortable previously came so
felt so uncomfortable previously came so natural and peacefully in the end I see
natural and peacefully in the end I see
natural and peacefully in the end I see life as a constant fight against your
life as a constant fight against your
life as a constant fight against your comfort zone you push it it pushes back
comfort zone you push it it pushes back
comfort zone you push it it pushes back what’s the fear that’s holding you back
what’s the fear that’s holding you back
what’s the fear that’s holding you back what are you not saying or doing because
what are you not saying or doing because
what are you not saying or doing because it’s outside your comfort zone I
it’s outside your comfort zone I
it’s outside your comfort zone I challenge you to find that comfort zone
challenge you to find that comfort zone
challenge you to find that comfort zone today bravely step out of it and as you
today bravely step out of it and as you
today bravely step out of it and as you get comfortable again push it even
get comfortable again push it even
get comfortable again push it even further don’t try to get rid of fear
further don’t try to get rid of fear
further don’t try to get rid of fear accept that you will be afraid and then
accept that you will be afraid and then
accept that you will be afraid and then go do it anyway as the words that high
go do it anyway as the words that high
go do it anyway as the words that high on the boundary platform life begins at
on the boundary platform life begins at
on the boundary platform life begins at the edge of your comfort zone thank you
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