I try out my first no say no learn how to say no say no say no learning to say
to say no say no say no learning to say
to say no say no say no learning to say no say no to things
no say no to things
no say no to things what’s that belief nation it’s Evan my
what’s that belief nation it’s Evan my
what’s that belief nation it’s Evan my one word is believe and I believe in you
one word is believe and I believe in you
one word is believe and I believe in you I believe in your potential and I want
I believe in your potential and I want
I believe in your potential and I want to see that thing that you have inside
to see that thing that you have inside
to see that thing that you have inside here come out and explode into the world
here come out and explode into the world
here come out and explode into the world to make it a better place and so to help
to make it a better place and so to help
to make it a better place and so to help you on your journey today we’re gonna
you on your journey today we’re gonna
you on your journey today we’re gonna learn how to say no and as always guys
learn how to say no and as always guys
learn how to say no and as always guys as you watch it if you hear something
as you watch it if you hear something
as you watch it if you hear something that really resonates with you please
that really resonates with you please
that really resonates with you please leave it in the comments below and put
leave it in the comments below and put
leave it in the comments below and put quotes around and so other people can
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quotes around and so other people can learn and be inspired and when you write
learn and be inspired and when you write
learn and be inspired and when you write it down it’s much more likely to stick
it down it’s much more likely to stick
it down it’s much more likely to stick with yourself as well
with yourself as well
with yourself as well enjoy
enjoy
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I have a ritual where even if given my
I have a ritual where even if given my closest friend I have boundaries so just
closest friend I have boundaries so just
closest friend I have boundaries so just because it’s my company it doesn’t mean
because it’s my company it doesn’t mean
because it’s my company it doesn’t mean I can take calls all day right I have
I can take calls all day right I have
I can take calls all day right I have boundaries so you can’t call me in a
boundaries so you can’t call me in a
boundaries so you can’t call me in a certain time why I’m working so I’m on
certain time why I’m working so I’m on
certain time why I’m working so I’m on the phone all day and I’m saying this to
the phone all day and I’m saying this to
the phone all day and I’m saying this to entrepreneurs because one of the gaps
entrepreneurs because one of the gaps
entrepreneurs because one of the gaps and we’ll talk about this later in the
and we’ll talk about this later in the
and we’ll talk about this later in the show but you got to find a gap and one
show but you got to find a gap and one
show but you got to find a gap and one of the gaps that entrepreneurs is that
of the gaps that entrepreneurs is that
of the gaps that entrepreneurs is that they feel like because they own their
they feel like because they own their
they feel like because they own their day they can spend it like they want you
day they can spend it like they want you
day they can spend it like they want you cannot spend it like you want to so if
cannot spend it like you want to so if
cannot spend it like you want to so if you were working for IBM or you’re
you were working for IBM or you’re
you were working for IBM or you’re working for for where are you’re working
working for for where are you’re working
working for for where are you’re working for you could be on the phone all day at
for you could be on the phone all day at
for you could be on the phone all day at a major corporation talking on the phone
a major corporation talking on the phone
a major corporation talking on the phone so so why do you allow yourself to talk
so so why do you allow yourself to talk
so so why do you allow yourself to talk on the phone is your business my fact is
on the phone is your business my fact is
on the phone is your business my fact is your you should probably you should make
your you should probably you should make
your you should probably you should make sure there’s no phone calls board over
sure there’s no phone calls board over
sure there’s no phone calls board over your business so one of my rituals is
your business so one of my rituals is
your business so one of my rituals is when I get started there are no
when I get started there are no
when I get started there are no interruptions when I get started I don’t
interruptions when I get started I don’t
interruptions when I get started I don’t care if it’s my wife my children they
care if it’s my wife my children they
care if it’s my wife my children they know that from a certain time train I’m
know that from a certain time train I’m
know that from a certain time train I’m going all in and I can’t go all in ants
going all in and I can’t go all in ants
going all in and I can’t go all in ants on the phone I can’t go all in watching
on the phone I can’t go all in watching
on the phone I can’t go all in watching TV in the strike head I can’t go in with
TV in the strike head I can’t go in with
TV in the strike head I can’t go in with the distraction and so some
the distraction and so some
the distraction and so some entrepreneurs like why blown up because
entrepreneurs like why blown up because
entrepreneurs like why blown up because you don’t you’re not in abstraction you
you don’t you’re not in abstraction you
you don’t you’re not in abstraction you don’t have that that that moment of your
don’t have that that that moment of your
don’t have that that that moment of your day
day
day I don’t care there’s two hours four
I don’t care there’s two hours four
I don’t care there’s two hours four hours where you shut in try your world
hours where you shut in try your world
hours where you shut in try your world out no Twitter no Facebook no you know
out no Twitter no Facebook no you know
out no Twitter no Facebook no you know that no Instagram we love that in Sudama
that no Instagram we love that in Sudama
that no Instagram we love that in Sudama so with just the two hours I’m going in
so with just the two hours I’m going in
so with just the two hours I’m going in and once I come out then we can do
and once I come out then we can do
and once I come out then we can do Instagram not be honest your content
Instagram not be honest your content
Instagram not be honest your content probably would be stronger if you had
probably would be stronger if you had
probably would be stronger if you had that that time of isolation of solitude
that that time of isolation of solitude
that that time of isolation of solitude where you give yourself a chance to
where you give yourself a chance to
where you give yourself a chance to think you give yourself a chance to go
think you give yourself a chance to go
think you give yourself a chance to go in and when you go in you go 120 percent
in and when you go in you go 120 percent
in and when you go in you go 120 percent so yeah I like that you know cuz when I
so yeah I like that you know cuz when I
so yeah I like that you know cuz when I first started making money and it was
first started making money and it was
first started making money and it was you know my salary or my earnings were
you know my salary or my earnings were
you know my salary or my earnings were published all over the place I mean the
published all over the place I mean the
published all over the place I mean the first year I was like really
first year I was like really
first year I was like really I make that much money oh my god it was
I make that much money oh my god it was
I make that much money oh my god it was very difficult for me to figure out
very difficult for me to figure out
very difficult for me to figure out where my boundaries were because I’d
where my boundaries were because I’d
where my boundaries were because I’d grown up poor and didn’t have anything
grown up poor and didn’t have anything
grown up poor and didn’t have anything so it’s easy when you don’t have
so it’s easy when you don’t have
so it’s easy when you don’t have anything then people ask you for money
anything then people ask you for money
anything then people ask you for money and they say I need five hundred he’s
and they say I need five hundred he’s
and they say I need five hundred he’s and I don’t have it because I’m just
and I don’t have it because I’m just
and I don’t have it because I’m just trying to get my rent paid it’s harder
trying to get my rent paid it’s harder
trying to get my rent paid it’s harder when you’re multi billion dollar salary
when you’re multi billion dollar salary
when you’re multi billion dollar salary is now in the paper and you get a lot of
is now in the paper and you get a lot of
is now in the paper and you get a lot of friends and cousins you didn’t have
friends and cousins you didn’t have
friends and cousins you didn’t have before so how do you set boundaries for
before so how do you set boundaries for
before so how do you set boundaries for yourself I was having trouble setting
yourself I was having trouble setting
yourself I was having trouble setting boundaries myself for myself for even
boundaries myself for myself for even
boundaries myself for myself for even strangers people would just show up at
strangers people would just show up at
strangers people would just show up at my door in Chicago and say Oprah I left
my door in Chicago and say Oprah I left
my door in Chicago and say Oprah I left my husband please help me and I would
my husband please help me and I would
my husband please help me and I would because she knows I have it so don’t try
because she knows I have it so don’t try
because she knows I have it so don’t try that now though okay don’t try that now
that now though okay don’t try that now
that now though okay don’t try that now I figured it out so what I learned was
I figured it out so what I learned was
I figured it out so what I learned was is that oh the reason why people keep
is that oh the reason why people keep
is that oh the reason why people keep showing up is because my intention is to
showing up is because my intention is to
showing up is because my intention is to make them think that I’m such a nice
make them think that I’m such a nice
make them think that I’m such a nice person that you can ask me for anything
person that you can ask me for anything
person that you can ask me for anything you can get me to do anything I’m gonna
you can get me to do anything I’m gonna
you can get me to do anything I’m gonna say yes I’m gonna say yes so when Stevie
say yes I’m gonna say yes so when Stevie
say yes I’m gonna say yes so when Stevie called me this time I thought I’d try
called me this time I thought I’d try
called me this time I thought I’d try out my first no on Stevie let’s start
out my first no on Stevie let’s start
out my first no on Stevie let’s start big he wanted me to donate some money to
big he wanted me to donate some money to
big he wanted me to donate some money to a charity and I didn’t want to donate to
a charity and I didn’t want to donate to
a charity and I didn’t want to donate to the charity because I have my own
the charity because I have my own
the charity because I have my own charities and I care about a lot of
charities and I care about a lot of
charities and I care about a lot of people but the problem is when you you
people but the problem is when you you
people but the problem is when you you have money everybody thinks you just
have money everybody thinks you just
have money everybody thinks you just want to give to everything so every
want to give to everything so every
want to give to everything so every letter I ever get starts with we know
letter I ever get starts with we know
letter I ever get starts with we know you love the children
you love the children
you love the children yes I do love the children but somebody
yes I do love the children but somebody
yes I do love the children but somebody else is gonna have to help the children
else is gonna have to help the children
else is gonna have to help the children so I said to Stevie I said to Stevie no
so I said to Stevie I said to Stevie no
so I said to Stevie I said to Stevie no and as a person who has that disease to
and as a person who has that disease to
and as a person who has that disease to please I was waiting for him then just
please I was waiting for him then just
please I was waiting for him then just to say I will never speak to you again I
to say I will never speak to you again I
to say I will never speak to you again I will never call you I will never sing a
will never call you I will never sing a
will never call you I will never sing a song for you and he didn’t he just said
song for you and he didn’t he just said
song for you and he didn’t he just said okay okay okay it’s okay he said okay
okay okay okay it’s okay he said okay
okay okay okay it’s okay he said okay check you later and what I learned from
check you later and what I learned from
check you later and what I learned from that is many times you will have angst
that is many times you will have angst
that is many times you will have angst and worry about things and put yourself
and worry about things and put yourself
and worry about things and put yourself in a state like someone said this
in a state like someone said this
in a state like someone said this morning cuz her phone went off they were
morning cuz her phone went off they were
morning cuz her phone went off they were mortified over a phone I said really you
mortified over a phone I said really you
mortified over a phone I said really you will put yourself in a state when the
will put yourself in a state when the
will put yourself in a state when the other person really isn’t even thinking
other person really isn’t even thinking
other person really isn’t even thinking about you so learning that I could
about you so learning that I could
about you so learning that I could specifically determine for myself what
specifically determine for myself what
specifically determine for myself what the boundaries were for me what I wanted
the boundaries were for me what I wanted
the boundaries were for me what I wanted to do give my money give my time given
to do give my money give my time given
to do give my money give my time given of my service to who I wanted to give it
of my service to who I wanted to give it
of my service to who I wanted to give it to when I did that I get to make that
to when I did that I get to make that
to when I did that I get to make that decision and just because you get a
decision and just because you get a
decision and just because you get a hundred requests a week doesn’t mean you
hundred requests a week doesn’t mean you
hundred requests a week doesn’t mean you have to try to fulfill all of that just
have to try to fulfill all of that just
have to try to fulfill all of that just because you have all of these demands on
because you have all of these demands on
because you have all of these demands on your time and on you doesn’t mean that
your time and on you doesn’t mean that
your time and on you doesn’t mean that you have to say yes you get to decide
you have to say yes you get to decide
you have to say yes you get to decide because you’re the master of your fate
because you’re the master of your fate
because you’re the master of your fate the captain of your soul is William
the captain of your soul is William
the captain of your soul is William Ernest Henley said in Invictus an
Ernest Henley said in Invictus an
Ernest Henley said in Invictus an understanding that really change the
understanding that really change the
understanding that really change the meaning of my life and that I was not no
meaning of my life and that I was not no
meaning of my life and that I was not no longer driven by what other people
longer driven by what other people
longer driven by what other people wanted me to do but took charge of my
wanted me to do but took charge of my
wanted me to do but took charge of my own destiny making choices based upon
own destiny making choices based upon
own destiny making choices based upon what do I feel is the next right move
what do I feel is the next right move
what do I feel is the next right move for me it’s 8:00 a.m. like I got to get
for me it’s 8:00 a.m. like I got to get
for me it’s 8:00 a.m. like I got to get to the office and I was like why like
to the office and I was like why like
to the office and I was like why like why do I have to get like I I always
why do I have to get like I I always
why do I have to get like I I always wanted to be a writer I accomplished
wanted to be a writer I accomplished
wanted to be a writer I accomplished this thing
this thing
this thing I could make a living being a writer I
I could make a living being a writer I
I could make a living being a writer I have a home like I haven’t been there in
have a home like I haven’t been there in
have a home like I haven’t been there in weeks
weeks
weeks like why am I here and and I was like I
like why am I here and and I was like I
like why am I here and and I was like I was here because like I just said yes
was here because like I just said yes
was here because like I just said yes and I didn’t think about like I mean I
and I didn’t think about like I mean I
and I didn’t think about like I mean I didn’t actually weigh like the pros and
didn’t actually weigh like the pros and
didn’t actually weigh like the pros and cons of this scenario and again it’s
cons of this scenario and again it’s
cons of this scenario and again it’s like sometimes you got to do it you
like sometimes you got to do it you
like sometimes you got to do it you don’t want to do to figure out what you
don’t want to do to figure out what you
don’t want to do to figure out what you want to do but it was like I I’d sort of
want to do but it was like I I’d sort of
want to do but it was like I I’d sort of distance myself from a lot of things and
distance myself from a lot of things and
distance myself from a lot of things and I got it got my life in a good place and
I got it got my life in a good place and
I got it got my life in a good place and then someone called me and offered me
then someone called me and offered me
then someone called me and offered me money on the phone and I said yes
money on the phone and I said yes
money on the phone and I said yes because it’s so hard to say like it’s so
because it’s so hard to say like it’s so
because it’s so hard to say like it’s so hard to to say notice stuff like
hard to to say notice stuff like
hard to to say notice stuff like especially if you’re like a do it’s so
especially if you’re like a do it’s so
especially if you’re like a do it’s so hard to say like I want to do this but I
hard to say like I want to do this but I
hard to say like I want to do this but I also want to do that I have to choose
also want to do that I have to choose
also want to do that I have to choose that’s easy to say like I’m gonna try to
that’s easy to say like I’m gonna try to
that’s easy to say like I’m gonna try to do both at the same time and I said yes
do both at the same time and I said yes
do both at the same time and I said yes to both like I don’t I don’t think I’ve
to both like I don’t I don’t think I’ve
to both like I don’t I don’t think I’ve ever like quit anything like I’ve just
ever like quit anything like I’ve just
ever like quit anything like I’ve just added new stuff right and so for me that
added new stuff right and so for me that
added new stuff right and so for me that certainly has added up over time to an
certainly has added up over time to an
certainly has added up over time to an unsustainable load oh I’m great at
unsustainable load oh I’m great at
unsustainable load oh I’m great at boundaries I’m not great at boundaries
boundaries I’m not great at boundaries
boundaries I’m not great at boundaries I’m kidding I so thought that was gonna
I’m kidding I so thought that was gonna
I’m kidding I so thought that was gonna be a laugh line I thought you guys knew
be a laugh line I thought you guys knew
be a laugh line I thought you guys knew me I thought you knew me well enough to
me I thought you knew me well enough to
me I thought you knew me well enough to know that what no I I don’t have any
know that what no I I don’t have any
know that what no I I don’t have any better I’m the permeable membrane I
better I’m the permeable membrane I
better I’m the permeable membrane I don’t know I let I let the you know I am
don’t know I let I let the you know I am
don’t know I let I let the you know I am a little better at it but but I have I
a little better at it but but I have I
a little better at it but but I have I don’t know I have learned one important
don’t know I have learned one important
don’t know I have learned one important thing which is that I think you sort of
thing which is that I think you sort of
thing which is that I think you sort of get to a point in your life where you
get to a point in your life where you
get to a point in your life where you think I have to learn how to say no to
think I have to learn how to say no to
think I have to learn how to say no to things I don’t want to do and that’s a
things I don’t want to do and that’s a
things I don’t want to do and that’s a big mature moment when you start to
big mature moment when you start to
big mature moment when you start to begin to do that but the bigger mature
begin to do that but the bigger mature
begin to do that but the bigger mature moment is when you learn how to say no
moment is when you learn how to say no
moment is when you learn how to say no to things you do want to do because you
to things you do want to do because you
to things you do want to do because you know that you just don’t have time or
know that you just don’t have time or
know that you just don’t have time or you don’t have energy or there just
you don’t have energy or there just
you don’t have energy or there just isn’t you know you have to sort of
isn’t you know you have to sort of
isn’t you know you have to sort of triage your life and there just isn’t an
triage your life and there just isn’t an
triage your life and there just isn’t an opportunity and and that only came to me
opportunity and and that only came to me
opportunity and and that only came to me very recently that sometimes you you
very recently that sometimes you you
very recently that sometimes you you have to turn down even the wonderful
have to turn down even the wonderful
have to turn down even the wonderful things in order to take care of your
things in order to take care of your
things in order to take care of your health or to take care of what you truly
health or to take care of what you truly
health or to take care of what you truly truly truly care about not just what you
truly truly care about not just what you
truly truly care about not just what you truly
truly
truly care about in order to know when to say
care about in order to know when to say
care about in order to know when to say no you have to know what you stand for
no you have to know what you stand for
no you have to know what you stand for it’s why I wrote this book to figure out
it’s why I wrote this book to figure out
it’s why I wrote this book to figure out what your most important core value is
what your most important core value is
what your most important core value is your one word that’s what you stand for
your one word that’s what you stand for
your one word that’s what you stand for and therefore you know you stand against
and therefore you know you stand against
and therefore you know you stand against to know how to say no and when they say
to know how to say no and when they say
to know how to say no and when they say no you have to know this is not what I’m
no you have to know this is not what I’m
no you have to know this is not what I’m about I’m not willing to touch this I’m
about I’m not willing to touch this I’m
about I’m not willing to touch this I’m not willing to go there and if you don’t
not willing to go there and if you don’t
not willing to go there and if you don’t know what you stand for and you don’t
know what you stand for and you don’t
know what you stand for and you don’t know you stand against then you’re
know you stand against then you’re
know you stand against then you’re always gonna be subject to other
always gonna be subject to other
always gonna be subject to other people’s opinions other people’s plans
people’s opinions other people’s plans
people’s opinions other people’s plans are the people’s values and beliefs
are the people’s values and beliefs
are the people’s values and beliefs because if you have uncertainty if you
because if you have uncertainty if you
because if you have uncertainty if you don’t have clarity over what your values
don’t have clarity over what your values
don’t have clarity over what your values are then you’ll just follow somebody
are then you’ll just follow somebody
are then you’ll just follow somebody else’s values and that’s very rarely in
else’s values and that’s very rarely in
else’s values and that’s very rarely in your best interest and so getting really
your best interest and so getting really
your best interest and so getting really clear on what your values are whether
clear on what your values are whether
clear on what your values are whether you want to use the one word methodology
you want to use the one word methodology
you want to use the one word methodology or you have a different plan for
or you have a different plan for
or you have a different plan for yourself that’s fine but having a
yourself that’s fine but having a
yourself that’s fine but having a self-awareness to figure out this is
self-awareness to figure out this is
self-awareness to figure out this is what I stand for this is what I want out
what I stand for this is what I want out
what I stand for this is what I want out of life and this is also what I am no
of life and this is also what I am no
of life and this is also what I am no longer willing to accept when people
longer willing to accept when people
longer willing to accept when people cross these boundaries I’m not gonna
cross these boundaries I’m not gonna
cross these boundaries I’m not gonna play anymore I’m gonna say no until you
play anymore I’m gonna say no until you
play anymore I’m gonna say no until you understand what your values are then it
understand what your values are then it
understand what your values are then it can be really tricky to understand the
can be really tricky to understand the
can be really tricky to understand the difference between what is your value
difference between what is your value
difference between what is your value and what is a limited belief so as an
and what is a limited belief so as an
and what is a limited belief so as an example was on a call with an
example was on a call with an
example was on a call with an entrepreneur a couple days ago and he
entrepreneur a couple days ago and he
entrepreneur a couple days ago and he was struggling at his business and he
was struggling at his business and he
was struggling at his business and he was working for a client and the client
was working for a client and the client
was working for a client and the client was asking him to get more involved in
was asking him to get more involved in
was asking him to get more involved in their business to do more work with them
their business to do more work with them
their business to do more work with them and he was having a hard time figuring
and he was having a hard time figuring
and he was having a hard time figuring out whether he should do it or not and
out whether he should do it or not and
out whether he should do it or not and it’s two reasons why one is because they
it’s two reasons why one is because they
it’s two reasons why one is because they were kind of shady and he wasn’t sure
were kind of shady and he wasn’t sure
were kind of shady and he wasn’t sure how much you know in bed he wanted to
how much you know in bed he wanted to
how much you know in bed he wanted to get with them and two because they were
get with them and two because they were
get with them and two because they were asking him to take on more of a
asking him to take on more of a
asking him to take on more of a leadership role and to manage people and
leadership role and to manage people and
leadership role and to manage people and he wasn’t sure that he wanted to be a
he wasn’t sure that he wanted to be a
he wasn’t sure that he wanted to be a leader he didn’t know if he was good
leader he didn’t know if he was good
leader he didn’t know if he was good enough to be a leader those are two
enough to be a leader those are two
enough to be a leader those are two totally different processes that you
totally different processes that you
totally different processes that you need to break up right so if they are
need to break up right so if they are
need to break up right so if they are shady that’s against your core value
shady that’s against your core value
shady that’s against your core value like if you know what your core value is
like if you know what your core value is
like if you know what your core value is and then these people are against it
and then these people are against it
and then these people are against it then no matter how much they’re paying
then no matter how much they’re paying
then no matter how much they’re paying you or you know what they want to push
you or you know what they want to push
you or you know what they want to push you through or
you through or
you through or or even the good that they’re
or even the good that they’re
or even the good that they’re necessarily doing it’s not worth it
necessarily doing it’s not worth it
necessarily doing it’s not worth it because asking to cross the line that
because asking to cross the line that
because asking to cross the line that you’re not willing to cross you know my
you’re not willing to cross you know my
you’re not willing to cross you know my one word is believe if you want me to do
one word is believe if you want me to do
one word is believe if you want me to do something that’s gonna tear somebody
something that’s gonna tear somebody
something that’s gonna tear somebody else down and you’re gonna pay me a
else down and you’re gonna pay me a
else down and you’re gonna pay me a million dollars to do it I don’t want to
million dollars to do it I don’t want to
million dollars to do it I don’t want to do it because it’s against my core value
do it because it’s against my core value
do it because it’s against my core value it’s easier to say no it’s and it
it’s easier to say no it’s and it
it’s easier to say no it’s and it becomes hard to say no and there’s a lot
becomes hard to say no and there’s a lot
becomes hard to say no and there’s a lot of money being thrown at you right the
of money being thrown at you right the
of money being thrown at you right the devil always comes carrying a bag of
devil always comes carrying a bag of
devil always comes carrying a bag of cash so to know that this is where I’m
cash so to know that this is where I’m
cash so to know that this is where I’m gonna say Nolan draw the line because I
gonna say Nolan draw the line because I
gonna say Nolan draw the line because I know what I stand for so working with a
know what I stand for so working with a
know what I stand for so working with a shady company is a reason to say no
shady company is a reason to say no
shady company is a reason to say no potentially the other side is the
potentially the other side is the
potentially the other side is the leadership he hasn’t done leadership
leadership he hasn’t done leadership
leadership he hasn’t done leadership before he hasn’t managed a team before
before he hasn’t managed a team before
before he hasn’t managed a team before he hasn’t been involved in that process
he hasn’t been involved in that process
he hasn’t been involved in that process before and he’s scared that is a
before and he’s scared that is a
before and he’s scared that is a limiting belief that’s not necessarily a
limiting belief that’s not necessarily a
limiting belief that’s not necessarily a value thing it’s aluminum belief feeling
value thing it’s aluminum belief feeling
value thing it’s aluminum belief feeling like you’re not good enough pushing
like you’re not good enough pushing
like you’re not good enough pushing yourself to get on your comfort zone and
yourself to get on your comfort zone and
yourself to get on your comfort zone and try doing something new a car in a new
try doing something new a car in a new
try doing something new a car in a new skill that you’re afraid of potentially
skill that you’re afraid of potentially
skill that you’re afraid of potentially acquiring right jump into that next
acquiring right jump into that next
acquiring right jump into that next level so there’s a lot of different
level so there’s a lot of different
level so there’s a lot of different reasons to say no here and be able to
reasons to say no here and be able to
reasons to say no here and be able to separate them if you’re saying no
separate them if you’re saying no
separate them if you’re saying no because they’re a shady organization
because they’re a shady organization
because they’re a shady organization then great then say no because you’re
then great then say no because you’re
then great then say no because you’re staying firm when your values if you’re
staying firm when your values if you’re
staying firm when your values if you’re saying no because they want you to be a
saying no because they want you to be a
saying no because they want you to be a leader and you’re just afraid because
leader and you’re just afraid because
leader and you’re just afraid because you haven’t done that before and you
you haven’t done that before and you
you haven’t done that before and you feel like you’re not good enough that’s
feel like you’re not good enough that’s
feel like you’re not good enough that’s not a good reason to say no that’s a
not a good reason to say no that’s a
not a good reason to say no that’s a living to believe that is worth you
living to believe that is worth you
living to believe that is worth you testing out try it and see if you’re a
testing out try it and see if you’re a
testing out try it and see if you’re a good leader right and if you get into it
good leader right and if you get into it
good leader right and if you get into it and you really feel like this isn’t for
and you really feel like this isn’t for
and you really feel like this isn’t for you then you found that out but to make
you then you found that out but to make
you then you found that out but to make an assumption about something you
an assumption about something you
an assumption about something you haven’t tried before it’s gonna hold you
haven’t tried before it’s gonna hold you
haven’t tried before it’s gonna hold you back and so until you understand what it
back and so until you understand what it
back and so until you understand what it is that you stand for and then stand
is that you stand for and then stand
is that you stand for and then stand against it’s going to be hard to make
against it’s going to be hard to make
against it’s going to be hard to make the important decisions in your life
the important decisions in your life
the important decisions in your life it’s going to be hard to say no when you
it’s going to be hard to say no when you
it’s going to be hard to say no when you really should be saying no it’s gonna be
really should be saying no it’s gonna be
really should be saying no it’s gonna be hard to say yes to something when
hard to say yes to something when
hard to say yes to something when everything inside you is just afraid
everything inside you is just afraid
everything inside you is just afraid because it’s a limiting belief but you
because it’s a limiting belief but you
because it’s a limiting belief but you really should do it to push your comfort
really should do it to push your comfort
really should do it to push your comfort zone and get to that next place for
zone and get to that next place for
zone and get to that next place for yourself and so comes down to the
yourself and so comes down to the
yourself and so comes down to the self-awareness but you know what you’re
self-awareness but you know what you’re
self-awareness but you know what you’re staying for you know what you stand
staying for you know what you stand
staying for you know what you stand against you figure out your value system
against you figure out your value system
against you figure out your value system you figure out your one word the path
you figure out your one word the path
you figure out your one word the path forward becomes so much more clear the
forward becomes so much more clear the
forward becomes so much more clear the can go so much faster it’s so much more
can go so much faster it’s so much more
can go so much faster it’s so much more done because you’re following a path
done because you’re following a path
done because you’re following a path that you’re meant to follow
that you’re meant to follow
that you’re meant to follow be more explicit in communicating your
be more explicit in communicating your
be more explicit in communicating your boundaries be more explicit and
boundaries be more explicit and
boundaries be more explicit and communicating your time so if you’re
communicating your time so if you’re
communicating your time so if you’re gonna want a meeting sit down and say
gonna want a meeting sit down and say
gonna want a meeting sit down and say guys I have 45 minutes today for this
guys I have 45 minutes today for this
guys I have 45 minutes today for this meeting can’t go a second over and like
meeting can’t go a second over and like
meeting can’t go a second over and like oh okay and stop going over on your
oh okay and stop going over on your
oh okay and stop going over on your times if you said you were gonna work
times if you said you were gonna work
times if you said you were gonna work out for an hour work out for an hour
out for an hour work out for an hour
out for an hour work out for an hour stop go a lot of the what I call bleed
stop go a lot of the what I call bleed
stop go a lot of the what I call bleed time ends up taking away from our
time ends up taking away from our
time ends up taking away from our balance bleed time is those things where
balance bleed time is those things where
balance bleed time is those things where you’re you go over on things that you
you’re you go over on things that you
you’re you go over on things that you didn’t need to go over on you know that
didn’t need to go over on you know that
didn’t need to go over on you know that that one cocktail with your friend and
that one cocktail with your friend and
that one cocktail with your friend and it’ll be on in 16 No and you lost the
it’ll be on in 16 No and you lost the
it’ll be on in 16 No and you lost the entire night now or that one you know
entire night now or that one you know
entire night now or that one you know lunch meeting you’re gonna have turned
lunch meeting you’re gonna have turned
lunch meeting you’re gonna have turned into four hours and now you’ve lost the
into four hours and now you’ve lost the
into four hours and now you’ve lost the day of work or that one show you’re
day of work or that one show you’re
day of work or that one show you’re gonna watch before getting back to work
gonna watch before getting back to work
gonna watch before getting back to work turn into a whole season and you’re like
turn into a whole season and you’re like
turn into a whole season and you’re like oh no the day the night is gone that’s
oh no the day the night is gone that’s
oh no the day the night is gone that’s called bleed time it’s where so much
called bleed time it’s where so much
called bleed time it’s where so much time just dissipates because you didn’t
time just dissipates because you didn’t
time just dissipates because you didn’t stick to your mark so set your boundary
stick to your mark so set your boundary
stick to your mark so set your boundary communicate it clear with people and
communicate it clear with people and
communicate it clear with people and don’t go over on things anymore a lot of
don’t go over on things anymore a lot of
don’t go over on things anymore a lot of people if they just started with the
people if they just started with the
people if they just started with the intention said we’re only gonna do this
intention said we’re only gonna do this
intention said we’re only gonna do this for this much time and then we gotta go
for this much time and then we gotta go
for this much time and then we gotta go if they stuck to that they would get
if they stuck to that they would get
if they stuck to that they would get better balanced briga as an actor do you
better balanced briga as an actor do you
better balanced briga as an actor do you have any lines in your head in terms of
have any lines in your head in terms of
have any lines in your head in terms of what you will do when you want to yeah
what you will do when you want to yeah
what you will do when you want to yeah nudity for sure I would for sure
nudity for sure I would for sure
nudity for sure I would for sure like never also I’m I played bold paths
like never also I’m I played bold paths
like never also I’m I played bold paths but I don’t like a lot of skin show and
but I don’t like a lot of skin show and
but I don’t like a lot of skin show and not explain it like an answer I was
not explain it like an answer I was
not explain it like an answer I was always in pants suits but the intensity
always in pants suits but the intensity
always in pants suits but the intensity in the path was sexual I don’t have to
in the path was sexual I don’t have to
in the path was sexual I don’t have to dress it
dress it
dress it you don’t ever dress provocatively yeah
you don’t ever dress provocatively yeah
you don’t ever dress provocatively yeah I mean I do it for magazine cover here
I mean I do it for magazine cover here
I mean I do it for magazine cover here and there because it’s glamorous and
and there because it’s glamorous and
and there because it’s glamorous and it’s pretty but like the reason one of
it’s pretty but like the reason one of
it’s pretty but like the reason one of the big reasons I did the show with ABC
the big reasons I did the show with ABC
the big reasons I did the show with ABC was because they’re Disney so there’s
was because they’re Disney so there’s
was because they’re Disney so there’s only that much for American standards
only that much for American standards
only that much for American standards that we can do on the show which is
that we can do on the show which is
that we can do on the show which is pretty much as much as indie films it
pretty much as much as indie films it
pretty much as much as indie films it difference between wearing a bikini and
difference between wearing a bikini and
difference between wearing a bikini and a bra you know and I’m indeed enough I
a bra you know and I’m indeed enough I
a bra you know and I’m indeed enough I understand that so and I want to those
understand that so and I want to those
understand that so and I want to those lines are important to me there’s a
lines are important to me there’s a
lines are important to me there’s a place in you that you must keep
place in you that you must keep
place in you that you must keep inviolate you must keep it pristine
inviolate you must keep it pristine
inviolate you must keep it pristine clean so that nobody has a right to
clean so that nobody has a right to
clean so that nobody has a right to curse you up treat you badly nobody know
curse you up treat you badly nobody know
curse you up treat you badly nobody know mother father no wife no husband knows
mother father no wife no husband knows
mother father no wife no husband knows nobody because that may be the place you
nobody because that may be the place you
nobody because that may be the place you go to when you meet God you have to have
go to when you meet God you have to have
go to when you meet God you have to have a page but they just say stop it
a page but they just say stop it
a page but they just say stop it back up not even must not know no
back up not even must not know no
back up not even must not know no absolutely and that’s one I told you 25
absolutely and that’s one I told you 25
absolutely and that’s one I told you 25 years ago
years ago
years ago yes say no when it’s no yeah say so back
yes say no when it’s no yeah say so back
yes say no when it’s no yeah say so back it up because that piece has to remain
it up because that piece has to remain
it up because that piece has to remain clean and clear and that has to be a
clean and clear and that has to be a
clean and clear and that has to be a place within you yes ma’am yeah how can
place within you yes ma’am yeah how can
place within you yes ma’am yeah how can you find the time the energy the effort
you find the time the energy the effort
you find the time the energy the effort and the nerve to start to make that
and the nerve to start to make that
and the nerve to start to make that first call to put out that first bandit
first call to put out that first bandit
first call to put out that first bandit sign to put up a Craigslist they have to
sign to put up a Craigslist they have to
sign to put up a Craigslist they have to start to twenty five to one to call
start to twenty five to one to call
start to twenty five to one to call banks how do you do that well this one
banks how do you do that well this one
banks how do you do that well this one today is learning to say no now one
today is learning to say no now one
today is learning to say no now one thing I’ve learned from the most
thing I’ve learned from the most
thing I’ve learned from the most successful people on the planet if you
successful people on the planet if you
successful people on the planet if you want to say millionaires I’ve been lucky
want to say millionaires I’ve been lucky
want to say millionaires I’ve been lucky enough to meet billionaires the one
enough to meet billionaires the one
enough to meet billionaires the one thing I’ve learned the more they say no
thing I’ve learned the more they say no
thing I’ve learned the more they say no the wealthier they get now you may have
the wealthier they get now you may have
the wealthier they get now you may have heard me say this before but it’s that
heard me say this before but it’s that
heard me say this before but it’s that important of a success principle it took
important of a success principle it took
important of a success principle it took you a lot of yeses to get here yes the
you a lot of yeses to get here yes the
you a lot of yeses to get here yes the over time yes to missing your kids you
over time yes to missing your kids you
over time yes to missing your kids you know soccer or dance class yes to your
know soccer or dance class yes to your
know soccer or dance class yes to your wife your husband getting upset cuz
wife your husband getting upset cuz
wife your husband getting upset cuz you’re working later yes to getting my
you’re working later yes to getting my
you’re working later yes to getting my program yes to go into a live event yes
program yes to go into a live event yes
program yes to go into a live event yes to getting the education yes yes yes yes
to getting the education yes yes yes yes
to getting the education yes yes yes yes to your friends you know you if you’re
to your friends you know you if you’re
to your friends you know you if you’re watching this you are the busiest people
watching this you are the busiest people
watching this you are the busiest people other people know they say if you want
other people know they say if you want
other people know they say if you want something done ask somebody busy because
something done ask somebody busy because
something done ask somebody busy because they know how to get things done that’s
they know how to get things done that’s
they know how to get things done that’s you you’re the person in your family
you you’re the person in your family
you you’re the person in your family amongst your friends I know it or else
amongst your friends I know it or else
amongst your friends I know it or else you wouldn’t be watching me that get
you wouldn’t be watching me that get
you wouldn’t be watching me that get asked for emotional support financial
asked for emotional support financial
asked for emotional support financial support for a ride for help for advice
support for a ride for help for advice
support for a ride for help for advice so you are used to saying yes so this
so you are used to saying yes so this
so you are used to saying yes so this week I want you to say no I want you to
week I want you to say no I want you to
week I want you to say no I want you to make a list of the things that you must
make a list of the things that you must
make a list of the things that you must say no to so you can focus on you
say no to so you can focus on you
say no to so you can focus on you so you can make a massive impact for
so you can make a massive impact for
so you can make a massive impact for your family you want to help family
your family you want to help family
your family you want to help family members that need money say no to them
members that need money say no to them
members that need money say no to them for a year becoming an incredible real
for a year becoming an incredible real
for a year becoming an incredible real estate investor and then if you want to
estate investor and then if you want to
estate investor and then if you want to cut them checks you can if you want to
cut them checks you can if you want to
cut them checks you can if you want to give more to your church you want to
give more to your church you want to
give more to your church you want to give more to charity say no for a little
give more to charity say no for a little
give more to charity say no for a little while to so many things so your brains
while to so many things so your brains
while to so many things so your brains not all over the place we think we have
not all over the place we think we have
not all over the place we think we have a DD most of us don’t have a DD there’s
a DD most of us don’t have a DD there’s
a DD most of us don’t have a DD there’s just too much coming at us and we say
just too much coming at us and we say
just too much coming at us and we say yes to too many things so here’s the
yes to too many things so here’s the
yes to too many things so here’s the assignment what can you figure out to
assignment what can you figure out to
assignment what can you figure out to say no to this week because if you say
say no to this week because if you say
say no to this week because if you say no to things that don’t improve your
no to things that don’t improve your
no to things that don’t improve your life don’t improve your family’s life
life don’t improve your family’s life
life don’t improve your family’s life don’t possibly increase your future
don’t possibly increase your future
don’t possibly increase your future income or put you on a path to the goals
income or put you on a path to the goals
income or put you on a path to the goals that you have to spend more time with
that you have to spend more time with
that you have to spend more time with your family to get out of a job you hate
your family to get out of a job you hate
your family to get out of a job you hate to pay off bills I don’t know what they
to pay off bills I don’t know what they
to pay off bills I don’t know what they are but you have to make a not a to-do
are but you have to make a not a to-do
are but you have to make a not a to-do list but you have to make a list of what
list but you have to make a list of what
list but you have to make a list of what not to do who are you gonna say no to
not to do who are you gonna say no to
not to do who are you gonna say no to who are you gonna disappoint what are
who are you gonna disappoint what are
who are you gonna disappoint what are you gonna let go what habits are eating
you gonna let go what habits are eating
you gonna let go what habits are eating up your time we all have the same amount
up your time we all have the same amount
up your time we all have the same amount of time of the day but it’s just we have
of time of the day but it’s just we have
of time of the day but it’s just we have filled the day up with all these things
filled the day up with all these things
filled the day up with all these things that we think we need to do I go like
that we think we need to do I go like
that we think we need to do I go like commitments we’ve you know one thing I
commitments we’ve you know one thing I
commitments we’ve you know one thing I was coaching soccer because I thought
was coaching soccer because I thought
was coaching soccer because I thought that was important for him for my kids I
that was important for him for my kids I
that was important for him for my kids I was on the PTA the board of the PTO when
was on the PTA the board of the PTO when
was on the PTA the board of the PTO when my kids school because I thought that
my kids school because I thought that
my kids school because I thought that was important but I realized that I was
was important but I realized that I was
was important but I realized that I was spending time doing stuff with other
spending time doing stuff with other
spending time doing stuff with other people instead of the actual kids so I
people instead of the actual kids so I
people instead of the actual kids so I realized if I let go those commitments
realized if I let go those commitments
realized if I let go those commitments even though I thought they were
even though I thought they were
even though I thought they were important I have time then to actually
important I have time then to actually
important I have time then to actually spend with people who report to me so
spend with people who report to me so
spend with people who report to me so you learn to let go of commitments and
you learn to let go of commitments and
you learn to let go of commitments and say no to things
say no to things
say no to things so you can say yes to the things you
so you can say yes to the things you
so you can say yes to the things you really want that are really important to
really want that are really important to
really want that are really important to you so I had to
you so I had to
you so I had to I mean sometimes as simple as like just
I mean sometimes as simple as like just
I mean sometimes as simple as like just an email saying I can’t do this anymore
an email saying I can’t do this anymore
an email saying I can’t do this anymore I don’t have the time that you know and
I don’t have the time that you know and
I don’t have the time that you know and you feel like you’re gonna disappoint
you feel like you’re gonna disappoint
you feel like you’re gonna disappoint people so you don’t want to say no yeah
people so you don’t want to say no yeah
people so you don’t want to say no yeah but you know what I learned
but you know what I learned
but you know what I learned life goes on they figure they figure it
life goes on they figure they figure it
life goes on they figure they figure it out thank you guys so much for watching
out thank you guys so much for watching
out thank you guys so much for watching I hope you enjoyed I’d love to know what
I hope you enjoyed I’d love to know what
I hope you enjoyed I’d love to know what did you think of this video what was the
did you think of this video what was the
did you think of this video what was the message that stuck most true to you what
message that stuck most true to you what
message that stuck most true to you what are you going to immediately apply
are you going to immediately apply
are you going to immediately apply somehow to your life or to your business
somehow to your life or to your business
somehow to your life or to your business please leave it down in the comments
please leave it down in the comments
please leave it down in the comments below I look forward to hearing what you
below I look forward to hearing what you
below I look forward to hearing what you have to say I also want to give a quick
have to say I also want to give a quick
have to say I also want to give a quick shout out to Neil from the stream of
shout out to Neil from the stream of
shout out to Neil from the stream of thought podcast Neil thank you so much
thought podcast Neil thank you so much
thought podcast Neil thank you so much for picking up a copy of my book your
for picking up a copy of my book your
for picking up a copy of my book your one word and sharing it online I really
one word and sharing it online I really
one word and sharing it online I really appreciate the support and I hope you
appreciate the support and I hope you
appreciate the support and I hope you enjoyed the read our guest today is Evan
enjoyed the read our guest today is Evan
enjoyed the read our guest today is Evan Carmichael so thank you guys again for
Carmichael so thank you guys again for
Carmichael so thank you guys again for watching I believe in you I hope you
watching I believe in you I hope you
watching I believe in you I hope you continue to believe in yourself and
continue to believe in yourself and
continue to believe in yourself and whatever your one word is much love I’ll
whatever your one word is much love I’ll
whatever your one word is much love I’ll see you soon the most important word
see you soon the most important word
see you soon the most important word ever
ever
ever if you had to think of one word that’s
if you had to think of one word that’s
if you had to think of one word that’s most important to you that sums you
most important to you that sums you
most important to you that sums you Apple so it would be like a little
Apple so it would be like a little
Apple so it would be like a little beacon pay believe nation if you want to
beacon pay believe nation if you want to
beacon pay believe nation if you want to know what the most important one word is
know what the most important one word is
know what the most important one word is for Tony Robbins Gary Vaynerchuk Oprah
for Tony Robbins Gary Vaynerchuk Oprah
for Tony Robbins Gary Vaynerchuk Oprah Winfrey will.i.am and Howard Schultz I
Winfrey will.i.am and Howard Schultz I
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